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heartless_monk/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 02:06 AM
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that’s really motivating. congrats.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 10:00 PM
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I don’t believe a man and a woman can legitimately remain “friends” when the attraction is there, and prolonged amounts of time are spent connecting/learning one another. I feel bad for Brady.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 07:19 AM
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I felt this.. oh god
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 12:48 AM
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try and get the divorce process sped up brother. she’s a pile of shit.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/24 04:45 AM
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make it clear to her that you aren’t interested in speaking about anything that does not involve the kids. put your foot down man.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 07:20 PM
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sure, go back to her if you’d like to be her temporary crutch until she finds someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 06:14 PM
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thanks brother.. glad you’re getting well also.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 03:39 AM
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do you ever see yourself getting married again after going through two divorces?
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 12:05 AM
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I hope so.. i’m in the same boat as you.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 12:04 AM
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i’ve learned that women are only as loyal as their options.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 10:19 PM
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i’m with you man. best of luck..
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 04:54 PM
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you’re wrong. OP probably simply feels like a big weight has lifted off of him. i’m all for posts like these, they’re motivating for men like me who haven’t gotten to OP’s point yet.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 08:38 PM
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i’m so glad to hear this brother.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 05:48 PM
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I think a lot of us ultimately stay for the kids.. this never works though
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 05:02 AM
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great advice
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 04:40 AM
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this here. amen.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/24 04:38 AM
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the right woman will add a lot to your life. the wrong woman will detract from your life, and/or provide very little positive to your life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 04:07 AM
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how was the book? I’ve heard good things about it
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 01:57 AM
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yes, and she ended up pregnant. don’t do it. the sex will be really good due to it being awhile since y’all have done it, but the consequences aren’t worth it
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 01:54 AM
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I wouldn’t mess around until you’re legally divorced. should you and your wife decide to rekindle things, you’d have to live with the guilt of having cheated on her
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 11:02 PM
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there now. i’ve never dealt with anything more challenging in my life.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 08:03 PM
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good point. unless there’s an agreement filed and signed.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 12:44 PM
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it’s only a matter of time before she ends up pregnant with your child. i’d definitely suggest moving out of the home completely if divorcing is what you genuinely want.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/23 09:38 AM
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being a good husband to the wrong woman, certainly is the worst job in the world. the majority of women, aren’t worthy of it. the entitlement that comes alongside modern women nowadays, just isn’t worth the hassle. your thinking isn’t wrong here.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 08:02 AM
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I would just put her legal first name.. nothing more, nothing less.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 02:18 AM
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“a fourth chance” you can, but she’ll certainly continue to cheat on you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 01:14 AM
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this is absolutely insane. wow.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 10:13 AM
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“disney dad”, when you’re simply being a good parent to your kids. that’s a damn shame, and I too would be annoyed by the two statements received.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 10:07 AM
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it’s a horrible idea if any attraction is there
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 07:08 PM
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congrats, but your scenario is considered a rarity
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 06:31 AM
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Chad fucked her, and threw her to the side of the road like a sack of shit... news flash, you’re the fallback option. so yeah, now she see’s “real change happening”. you’d be out of your mind to take her back.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 02:29 AM
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this made me chuckle, lol. she should be absolutely locked up, and I’d hope custody has been modified by now.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 03:11 AM
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she wants to go play in the sand with Chad, and come back to you after he throws her to the wolves. best thing you can do is move on and never even consider taking her back in the future.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 07:08 PM
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sounds like she may be involved with someone else.. i’d tread carefully here brother.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 11:37 AM
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i’d award you if I had the coin. your sentiment, is exactly what i’ve felt regarding women.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 08:54 AM
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the longer you wait, the less likely it is that you’d ever have the chance to reconcile things.. if she hasn’t even gone on a date, it’s likely that she may not even be seeing anyone. what are you waiting on dude? ask her if she’d be open to a coffee/lunch date.. show up with a dozen of roses and your nicest blazer. let her know that you mean business; you’re ready to be the man that you should have been, you’re ready to have your soulmate (her) back in your life, you’re ready to cater to her ev…
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 04:23 AM
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even better, the marriage should be able to be annulled
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 02:44 AM
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you can probably get the marriage annulled. gotta act fast though.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/23 02:43 AM
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this is a lot bro; you’ve got all this shit on your plate, with no support it seems. for your spouse to ask for a “break” at such a critical time, is odd to me, which leads me to agree with your original sentiments, of her being involved with someone else. I think your main focus should be landing a job, if it isn’t already. she’s probably cheating, so it’ll be challenging to put those thoughts to the side, admittedly.. but, once you can resume putting food on the table for the kids, i’d go stra…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 05:38 AM
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take some time away from both of these women, and spend some time alone (weeks, months). think about what you really want for your future, and if/which one of them would genuinely fit that. it’s ok to be selfish, just be smart with your decision. keeping both will only cause you to lose both eventually, they’ll find out and both bail on you.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 01:04 AM
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thank you, that’s a good point
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 02:31 AM
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you’re overdoing it dude
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 01:47 AM
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you unmatch them, or block them..
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 05:36 AM
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why unfortunately? i’d say it’s fortunate that your kids aren’t endangered..
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 09:24 AM
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nothing you can really do mate. as long as the toys are age appropriate, and nothing else is going on, i’d just embrace it, and hope this is the last guy that your ex brings around the children.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 09:22 AM
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rightfully so, but that isn’t the case right now brother
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 09:20 AM
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i’m almost certain that while you’re at work, they’re doing the deed.. your wife is out of bounds for this, i’d leave her personally.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 05:06 AM
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you’d owe child support until someone else legally adopts the child, in my state at least.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/23 06:51 AM
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like another guy said, try to get into some new shit. new hobbies, a new job, a career switch if you’re unhappy in the current, a relocation to a new city/state/country. what’s most important: time, and trying new things.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 05:41 PM
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needed to hear this one. thanks bro.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 06:38 AM
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you two said your wedding vowels, and after that, she allowed another man to get between her legs. she has absolutely no respect for you. get the divorce, or stay and you’ll be the old and bitter type.
/r/Divorce_Men18/09/23 03:10 AM
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why aren’t you getting 50/50?
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/23 10:03 AM
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she’s definitely fucking someone else man. lawyer up and run her through the gutter.
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 12:37 PM
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OP stated that his wife makes double his income. It’s highly unlikely that she’d receive much in child support, if any, due to the income disparity. I’d say she’s doing this to OP due to her character itself.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 12:34 PM
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Can’t imagine someone genuinely loving someone, but not respecting them at the same time.. i’d say you made the right move.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 08:35 AM
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i’ll never understand why a mother, wouldn’t want her children to have just as good of a relationship with their biological father, who is obviously fit to be a great parent. women like her deserve to go to hell. hoping you can get the 50% man..
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 07:03 AM
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if you and the new chick are having an effortless connection, and you feel like the interactions are positively affecting your life, then there is no need to get her out of your system. just my take.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 06:10 AM
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1 more month brother, that’s it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 04:48 AM
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you are making up every excuse for her behavior and disrespect towards you, because you probably genuinely love this woman, and want to remain with her. the reality is, it’s time to realize that it’s time to close this chapter.. she is clearly cheating on you, and will continue to do so. as hard as it is, it’s time to file.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 08:58 PM
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well she should’ve appreciated what she had. that’s her loss.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/23 07:33 AM
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I started to think maybe you should work the marriage out... until I read the part about your ex’s want for an open relationship. look at it this way.. if you would have stayed, she would have certainly fucked around behind your back. you dodged a bullet, and you will realize that once you heal. for now, look into a solid therapist for your well-being.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 08:53 AM
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not what you want to hear, but unfortunately there is nothing that you can do.. especially with this guy set to marry your ex. continue to be a great father during your parenting time.. and with more time, things may be easier to come to terms with.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/23 08:35 AM
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what exactly would you gain out of acknowledging her birthday? nothing at all.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 10:22 AM
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she feels like she can do better than you, or/and she’s already involved with some other man/men. i’m more than positive that she will reach a point of life really humbling her, and she will regret her decision to leave you. i’d move forward with the process, and never look back. you don’t want someone like her in your corner.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 08:01 PM
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it’s a setup. she will spend the majority of the time with the kids, and file again at a later time.. this way, she ensures full custody of the kids. don’t do it.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 07:46 AM
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no man, regardless of wealth or looks, will ever be immune from the bullshit that comes with marriage. regardless.. what makes a marriage successful? loyalty, clear comprehension, and sexual compatibility.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/23 08:05 PM
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exactly. women who want to deal with you, make it easy for you. women who don’t, make it hard.. and they’re never worth it long term.
/r/seduction02/08/23 02:14 AM
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ladies and gentlemen, we have a winner.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/23 12:08 AM
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based off of this additional feedback, I’d be thankful that her weight will soon be released from your shoulders.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 10:32 AM
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as shitty as it is, this guy has more than likely been around for some time, quite longer than 2 months. it’s fine though, she’s his problem now. chin up. keep all focus on the kids, your stbx is for the birds.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 10:21 AM
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oh yeah, definitely.. 95% of the time, those women end up cheating. they’re sex addicts, who are usually only good for a fuck or two.. or three.. but they’re usually not monogamy relationship material.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 04:42 PM
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you don’t have to do that brother, just be smarter about it. can’t let good ass cause brain fog
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 04:40 PM
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you’ve got to respect yourself more. i’m glad you’re realizing it though.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 02:33 PM
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it may not be worth it brother. i’d at least look into personal therapy for yourself, it may help things, on your behalf at least.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 04:19 AM
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no problem buddy
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 04:18 AM
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take it from me, if she isn’t interested in couples therapy, she’s probably already checked out.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 08:33 PM
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I wouldn’t label “drinking all day” as self medicating. we aren’t talking about a healthy amount of weed here, we’re talking about alcohol, which is a depressant
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 08:00 PM
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you will need to bring this up to your lawyer, or to talk with the courthouse. whether she signs or not, the divorce can still be finalized after a specific period of time.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/23 07:43 PM
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good job mate, let her be someone else’s problem. happy for you dude!
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 11:26 PM
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whatever you do..... DO NOT have sex with your ex wife. absolutely, DO NOT... congrats.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 09:39 PM
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i don’t; there are close friends that i have, that i can have intellectual conversations with at times. i’ve come to terms that this isn’t really something of the norm, that i’d be able to experience with my partner though.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 11:32 AM
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your post pretty much screams that you want to stay with her. realistically though, it’d be hard to find a woman that checks every single box.. it’d be chasing perfection. so it’s up to you as far as staying or going, as you’d need to get a handle on what matters most to you.. for example, my wife and i hardly ever have intellectual conversations.. but mostly every other box is checked, so i remain.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 10:42 AM
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it’s obvious mate, she’s out there fucking already. let her be, as much better will come your way. handle things with cordiality.. don’t worry about making her feel pain, time will do that to her on it’s own. best of luck.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 01:31 AM
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it isn’t hard to avoid, unless things become serious. when asked if you’ve been married before, i’d just share that you have been. when asked if you’re single, just say that you’re single, don’t mention divorce. being divorced has never been a red flag for me, dating wise.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 07:00 AM
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you don’t have to share that you’re divorced with people, just share that you are “single”. there no crime in exposing it later if asked, should you become seriously involved with someone. you’re overthink this.
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/23 06:41 AM
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her opinion would hold no weight if i’ve already moved on
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 07:14 PM
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what actually sparked all of this into happening?
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 08:57 AM
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90% of the time, it is.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 06:46 AM
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looks like Chad threw her to the side.. so now she’s using you as a validation blanket.. now, as far as reconciliation.. it’s possible, in some cases. it all depends on why you all separated in the first place though.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 05:41 AM
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get this signed, and finalized asap. get a lawyer, and file for this divorce immediately. if she says she wants nothing, and you feel it’s not right, then you can voluntarily give her things for the sake of your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 08:18 PM
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it’s a red flag that she’s already dating, looking at new potential partners, instead of focusing on fixing the marriage.. and continuing to live together while she’s out doing who knows what with other men, will be extremely tough to withstand. you haven’t been clear on the “issues” y’all had, that caused this “separation” either... sounds like she’s choosing to entertain other options, instead of remaining in a committed relationship..
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/23 07:07 AM
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fake it til you make it. yup. just pretend that you’re this confident beast (even though you’re timid as fuck deep down), and soon enough, you will actually be that guy.
/r/seduction17/07/23 09:39 AM
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enjoy the moments, they grow fast, and these moments will never return mate. let your daughter in the bed if that’s where she’s comfortable, especially being that your time with her is shared.
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/23 06:38 AM
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the logical thing to do, would be to wait the month. not worth the risk, when you can literally wait one month.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 04:21 AM
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the Chad probably used her and threw her to the wolves. you’d be a fool to take her back
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 09:07 PM
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don’t be the guy that loads her up on alcohol just so she can go fuck the Chad in the club. never buy a girl a drink, unless it’s one that’s shown you clear interest well before the drink.
/r/seduction10/07/23 02:24 PM
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either she’s already moved on romantically, or she’s been mentally gone, and checked out years ago
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 05:04 AM
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ride on brother
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/23 03:40 AM
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your child won’t care how you’re doing financially, all they’ll care about and remember, is the love and guidance that you’ve provided to them. chin up, chest out. allow yourself to feel the whirlwind of emotions. allow yourself time to heal. take it day by day. we’re with you man.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/23 05:27 AM
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the best thing is, you two didn’t have kids together. getting divorced without kids, makes life so much easier.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 08:18 AM
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when you find a partner that you end up being on cloud 9 with, marriage will naturally be a thought of yours, at some point.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 10:46 AM
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more context is needed brother. is your daughter moving out of state with your stbx?
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 11:19 AM
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seems to me that you should be the one with full time custody, if what you’ve explained is accurate.
/r/Divorce_Men28/06/23 05:50 AM
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she’ll get hers man. sounds like she’s either enjoying new male attention, or she’s already fucking someone else. do y’all have kids? if not, be thankful that you’re getting this handled before kids are in the picture, and you’re attached to this dirt bag for the rest of your life.
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/23 02:31 AM
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you think watching porn is comparable (in the sense of infidelity) to her fucking around with multiple men on dating websites? seems like she’s already planning her exit, so focus on yours, and let her be for the streets.
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/23 06:39 PM
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I have much younger kids, but at 14, i’d assume that’s when the attitude kicks in. I think she’ll come around, just keep trying man.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/23 08:08 PM
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i’d vouch that the majority of 30+ men here, are, or have been married. not saying you shouldn’t try, i’m saying don’t rush it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 05:46 PM
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only a fucktard wouldn’t want a good father to see his kids. fuck her. get the 50/50.
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 03:04 AM
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the constant disrespect and lack of regard of my well-being, is when i’d checked out. the lack of peace when she’d been around me, and the abuse of drugs i’d turned to, is when I reached my breaking point.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/23 01:49 AM
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take the 7/7 split before you’re out 100k in lawyer fees, just to end up with the same 7/7. not worth all those lawyer fees over 1 day.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 07:01 PM
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you may have just picked up shitty games... the ps5 is a great escape for me, personally.. hence you’re playing games that you actually enjoy though. I wouldn’t make dating your hobby though, unless you’re looking to be a dating coach of some sort... otherwise, you’d be basing your life around women. instead of dating, why not men’s fashion? why not gym/bodybuilding? just to name a few.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/23 11:55 AM
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I’m in my 30s now, but 23 feels like yesterday. I’m married now. Marriage has provided on demand sex, which is great, but besides that it’s provided mainly the following experiences, for me personally: more entitlement from my “wife”, constant stress due to disagreements and not seeing eye to eye. points of myself relying heavily on alcohol and marijuana, in order to get through a peaceful day with my “wife”. I would not get married if I could go back, but you should make your own educated decis…
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 03:22 PM
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not to be negative or take away from your great story, but this won’t be the case for most of us. It sounds like you’re conventionally attractive, so you’re going to have it much easier than most men, even after a weight loss.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 10:04 AM
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or, both..
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 12:01 AM
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You sure your “dad” isn’t making moves on your ex wife? Seems odd that she’s going and spending the weekend at your “dad’s” home, with him also to hers, without you being present. Regardless, I’d definitely bring it to court.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 11:22 PM
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Sometimes the “easy way out” is what’s best. Some of us are killing ourselves attempting to fix, and remain in broken marriages.. I’d personally rather free the weight of a broken marriage from myself, and put all focus into my kids.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 11:15 PM
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Move fast. I don’t think she can move with the kids since their “home county” would be where you’ve been living at for some time now.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 08:14 PM
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Realize that the stuff you’re experiencing now, is more than worth it to go through, to get rid of her.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 08:43 AM
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Be glad you left that whore bro. Not your issue.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 07:07 PM
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You probably could have annulled the marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 03:37 PM
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Depends on your state. Regardless, I would suggest moving quickly, and getting each of these stipulations signed, and set and stoned.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/23 03:36 PM
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It’s going to be alright bro. Take it day by day.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 10:45 AM
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The kids will learn on their own, just keep doing your job as a father. Continue to speak positively of their mother, whenever they ask about her.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/23 10:45 AM
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Your situation will get better mate, keep going.
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 10:59 AM
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You should’ve allowed her to get you a gift, I’m sure it wouldn’t have been anything over the top. By your ex actually offering to buy you a gift, it shows her level of maturity.
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 09:55 PM
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Bro that’s a lot of fucking shit to deal with. I’m glad you got out of that marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 06:43 PM
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If you guys do hook up, make sure you put it down on her brother.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 01:13 PM
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I took care of everything financially, she paid no bills. Neither did she have a job for years, as my income allowed her to be a stay at home mom. I never once received any sort of appreciation.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 09:08 AM
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This woman cheated on you, twice.. Do what’s best for you, and your kids, and place no value on her thoughts/possible outcomes.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 09:06 AM
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I’d created a post 2 years ago when I was unhappily married to my wife, making good money, and there being no kids involved. Fast forward to now.. we have a 8 month old, the marriage is still a pile of shit, and we’re just now going through the divorce process... As you can imagine, a load of child support, and child custody battles are in place now. Young guys, listen to what OP is saying. Don’t be me.
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 02:48 AM
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It’s real, but men will also be men. Not hard for a below average woman to get out, and find new meat within a split second.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 03:27 AM
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In a world ruled by social media, it’s tough. I’ve had the best experience with women who aren’t heavily indulged in social media (tik tok, Instagram, etc).
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 03:25 AM
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Damn. She’s a piece of shit for that bro.. probably did it on purpose. You deserve so much better.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 01:55 AM
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This is a woman OP has been intimate with for a decade (according to his prior post).. it’ll take time man.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 01:54 AM
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It’s going to take time man. After time, it won’t even matter to you. Hang in there.
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 08:55 PM
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Do you specifically, actually want a divorce? Why exactly, have y’all only been intimate 3 times within a 2 year span? Would more intimacy perhaps make the both of you happier together? These are all questions I would run though. I think lack of intimacy is a very fixable thing. Anyways.. as far as the divorce, Unless she’s willing to go “no contest”, expect to lose about half of everything man.. I’d vouch for the two of you to attempt mediation, which will usually work out best in the end, as y…
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 10:18 AM
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I don’t leave Reddit feeling like I’m behind in life, and “not good enough”. I usually leave feeling more educated on a topic, or more connected to a random individual.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/23 01:20 AM
11

+1. Reddit is much better; No comparisons, and no need to showcase a false reality.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 08:08 PM
1

It’s worth a shot. If OP’s stbx is a slut, introducing the kids to new men every other month, that’d be a horrible example for them.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 12:42 AM
3

Your “wife” is probably out fucking other cock, let her be a thing of the past man, she’s gone. As far as your kids, that’s the tough part.. I hear it gets better with time though.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 10:36 AM
2

Be sure to get a divorce stipulation in place that restricts you both from allowing your children to meet new partners, until after a year of dating. If your stbx and this new guy don’t work out, it’s possible that it can become a pattern of your stbx involving your children with potentially multiple new partners, which is what I’m sure you want to avoid.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 05:57 AM
3

Don’t fall for the stigma, there are definitely women out there that are solid relationship material. Your best bet is meeting a partner in some sort of social setting, such as group fitness classes, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/23 07:31 AM
1

This here OP.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 06:28 AM
2

You need to go into detail. Did you hit your Ex when you went over for the girls?
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/23 10:41 AM
38

She’s sucking other cock while married to you, and neglecting your kids.... I’d vote to strike hard in this divorce, Tyson knockout level.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/23 09:39 AM
31

She got what she wanted.. now she’s getting humbled. Time for her to get her shit together. At last, she’ll learn to appreciate everything her ex husband (you) did to keep the house afloat.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 07:20 AM
15

So you’re “obsessed” over a woman that’s out looking for other cock to fuck? Chin up, chest out. Get it together man.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 12:47 PM
3

We’re all pulling for you brother; Chest out, chin up, you’ve got this shit under control. This is a rough patch in your life, but it will pass, trust me. Everything will be ok, I promise you. Hang with us, we’re all in this shit together mate.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/23 10:23 AM
3

Bullshit. You’re pretty much abandoning your children, to chase some ass man.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 03:10 PM
8

You’re a pile of shit buddy. Don’t change your story now.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 11:04 AM
2

Personally, I’d never move across the country, and leave my kids behind as a 2nd option. Do you, but don’t be upset when they’re viewing step dad, as more of a father to them, than you are. You’re also making excuses about work, to justify this move... no buddy, you’re simply choosing pussy over your children. I can’t respect you for this move, personally.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 11:03 AM
11

It sounds like you’re using the dating app to fill a void. Delete the app, and spend some time focusing solely on yourself.. your healing, your well being, your mental clarity. The last thing you want to do at this moment, is get into another relationship, or pointless fling. But, to answer your question: I’d set the preferred age range to 25-40.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 09:50 AM
1

Are you in agreement of child custody, and child support amounts?
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 07:34 AM
3

Why exactly is your ex wife (stb) filing for divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/23 12:32 PM
8

I’m glad you got out of that situation man... nothing worst than working your ass off to provide for a lazy, entitled, cunt of a woman that you’d dealt with. Take care of yourself, and keep you first. If love comes again, great... if not? So be it.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 08:45 AM
3

Things will turn out much better than you’re imagining. Keep at it buddy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 07:35 AM
4

Probably want to drop her man. Sounds like she’s definitely got a crazy side to her, and will look to fuck you over should you two not work.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 03:42 AM
26

You’d be silly to remain in this relationship. She either: Already met someone else, and hasn’t told you. Or She’s gotten bored in the marriage, to a point of no reconciliation.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 05:28 AM
1

I hope so. Thanks man
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 04:20 AM
3

The affair was more of an “escape” for me, a time of pure peace and effortless communication. I have no feelings for the woman that I’d had the affair with. But, Thank you.. will do
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 04:20 AM
2

We simply realized that we were incompatible after the marriage, which is when we began living together (due to her tradition).
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 03:44 AM
4

Will do; thanks for the detailed info.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 03:43 AM
1

Thank you for the info
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/23 03:42 AM
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