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Generalhermitlesbian/r/MensRights13/08/22 08:57 PM
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it was a genuine question... i think you're reading something negative into it. i am not familiar with men's rights, so that's why i asked.
/r/MensRights20/08/22 12:23 AM
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seems to be a lot of projection here...
/r/MensRights20/08/22 12:22 AM
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do you have any in particular in mind?
/r/MensRights20/08/22 12:20 AM
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And there's a whole wide world outside of the good ol USA correct, that's why i asked about outside the US as well.
/r/MensRights20/08/22 12:11 AM
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It is. You dont need to assume it is. I have to wonder why you would make such an assumption. You did not cite your sources, so I do need to assume. The article you cited did not state any of these custody stats or include a recent census. You are also assuming that all fathers do want custody. How many want to give it up? How many are happier to give up visitation to give less child support in exchange in the mediation process? Which is more salient to them? Most state courts presume joint cust…
/r/MensRights20/08/22 12:02 AM
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i am not sure why you came to that conclusion. because i am interested in learning about peoples' personal experiences, that doesn't mean that i can't understand and value objective evidence or argumentation as well. it was a genuine question... being that skeptical after reading my responses and the wording of the original question seems like a personal issue.
/r/MensRights19/08/22 11:55 PM
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i'm assuming if that stat is accurate about custody, then men are voluntarily giving it up a lot of the time, since so many states do presume joint custody. and there can be reasons that they may give it up when they don't really want to, but they need to take responsibility for their decisions to agree to that and not use it as a bargaining chip.
/r/MensRights19/08/22 07:10 PM
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https://www.parents.com/news/more-states-need-laws-that-bolster-shared-parenting-according-to-a-new-report/#:~:text=Meanwhile%2C%20the%20number%20of%20states,states%20got%20Ds%20or%20Fs. most do
/r/MensRights19/08/22 07:07 PM
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it was a genuine question about all of your personal reasons. i find people commonly have personal experiences that lead them to any social justice movement.
/r/MensRights19/08/22 07:02 PM
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I’m not for a second denying that women are still facing huge challenges in certain areas of life (unpaid labour/domestic expectations/childcare burdens etc etc). yeah glad you support this... it's so fucked up that we haven't addressed this.
/r/MensRights19/08/22 07:01 PM
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yeah i believe that... ugh @ the common law
/r/MensRights19/08/22 07:00 PM
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feminists address male issues such as circumcision, men's mental health, etc. but i also was talking generally about how feminism addresses many issues, not only women's issues, not only men's issues. do you not like the Duluth Model b/c it does not focus on men who have been battered?
/r/MensRights19/08/22 06:58 PM
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more contraceptive options were you against stopping trials of the pill for men? b/c i thought several MRAs supported that b/c of the mental health issues men faced in the trials... and some of that may be inevitable at this stage anyway. women deal with that issue with hormonal birth control.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 10:25 PM
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to stop twisting statistics in a didadvantageous way towards men (e.g., rape is defined as forcefully penetrated, which makes men rapists and women victims, usually). change the definition of rape to a gender-neutral one there are a lot of jurisdictions that do have gender-neutral sexual assault laws... as in unwanted touching of genitals etc. it's more the conservative states that have outdated laws. and i think the move from rape stats to sexual assault stats is also something the DOJ has been…
/r/MensRights14/08/22 10:23 PM
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more positive male role models for young boys yes, very needed for sure!
/r/MensRights14/08/22 10:21 PM
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Boys face vastly more corporal punishment than girls. in the home? or outside the US in schools?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 10:20 PM
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i do agree there is a lot of violence toward men.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 10:19 PM
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One third of all fathers have lost custody of children; most are expected to pay for this. Men lose custody in 84% of divorces this seems unbelievable to me... source? b/c courts presume joint custody
/r/MensRights14/08/22 10:18 PM
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Men are 165% more likely to be convicted than women. Men get 63% longer sentences than women for the same crime. Court bias against men is at least 6 times bigger than racial bias. do you have sources for these? i am very interested, especially in the last point.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 10:17 PM
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so are you both a MRA and a feminist?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 10:09 PM
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i def agree with some of the concerns raised in the comments! i might have a slightly different perspective or experience with feminism, as in i have heard feminists talk about a lot of these things too, especially violence against men and mental health problems amongst men.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 10:08 PM
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i agree with all of that! i just dk if we will in the US b/c there are more technological forms of warfare, but yeah it should be abolished regardless and abolished in other countries.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 10:05 PM
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yeah... so do you think it's homophobia that gets in the way of intimacy between men? like fear of straight men being perceived as gay?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 10:00 PM
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so... that's not the same as a man being falsely accused or convicted. that's a different topic. that's about violence toward men.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 09:58 PM
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i think that makes a lot of sense! yeah humans can evolve beyond outdated roles for sure.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 08:09 PM
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A man is always guilty if a female skunk falsely acuses him of rape, harassing, or domestic violence. He goes to jail, he pays her, then his innocence is proven. He is simply released with no compensation of any kind, his family won´t talk to him anymore, his kids will be bullied in shcool, the money he paid to his scammer won´t be retrieved and nothing will happen to her. She will be free to do the same to someone else. this is just not true... it is very hard for anyone to secure a sexual viol…
/r/MensRights14/08/22 08:07 PM
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i mean they do... everyone does in the US anyway, not sure where you are from. is it more a social thing than a legal right you are concerned about?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 08:02 PM
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Men don't go around hugging dudes left and right because they had a bad day, I feel like we look to woman for that kind of support. yeah i def see that. i wish men would support each other more. why do you think they don't? also lol don't be too hard on yourself... no worries, just a casual discussion.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 06:29 PM
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so what rights do women have that men do not?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 06:27 PM
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Off the top of my head I'd like to not be arrested if my SO assaults me and I call the cops for help did that happen to you? i am sorry if it did. you did not deserve that. ​ i ask because i was asking for everyone's personal reasons, not just theory or articles or stats. also, there are many real issues feminism seeks to address. it doesn't have to be a war of the genders.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 06:24 PM
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i mean i think i am by definition. i disagree in practice with the women-bashing parts or the parts where men define manhood around how to get women or complain about how they can't get women... none of that seems productive or useful. and honestly, false accusations happen, but it is very hard to convict anyone of sexual violence, so idk how systemic of an issue it is. same thing with custody... courts presume joint custody, so again, idk how systemic of an issue custody is. i do antiviolence w…
/r/MensRights14/08/22 06:22 PM
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yeah that's very valid. lower class men (and women!) who go into the military to gain financial security have to face a lot of violence with subpar support afterwards. do you think the US will have a draft in the future? i think the draft should be abolished regardless, but i also kind of think we won't have one.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 06:16 PM
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so are you both a MRA and a feminist then?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 06:10 PM
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Marrying someone who didn’t touch me for 24 years curious... why did you stay married if there was no attraction? did you stay married because of the kids?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 06:10 PM
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And I know for a fact if I was a woman speaking about abusive men I wouldn't have been met with that that could be, but i am not sure. i think people tend to treat all victims pretty terribly. a lot of people prefer to stay in denial because it's easier. my friends and parents, both men and women, blamed me (and shamed and raged at me) for both of my abusive relationships b/c why didn't i leave. i am also saying all of this as someone who studies IPV and cares about violence against both genders…
/r/MensRights14/08/22 06:09 PM
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fair enough!
/r/MensRights14/08/22 06:01 PM
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yeah i hope so as well! ty for the heads-up
/r/MensRights14/08/22 05:39 AM
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yeah my original question was about your personal skin in the game! i think someone said misandry at work, someone said male violence, someone said circumcision. some didn't give their personal reasons, which is fine!
/r/MensRights14/08/22 05:37 AM
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seems like you are defining manhood around womanhood instead of as something in itself
/r/MensRights14/08/22 04:59 AM
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that's very valid. so MRAs do anti-violence work within male spaces?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 04:58 AM
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i'm always down to ask questions. further question though: do you think that people should not care about men's feelings b/c that would go against the social role of men? seems like there might be some contradictions here.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 04:57 AM
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yeah those are definitely all rights! i was responding to u/Ferbuggity
/r/MensRights14/08/22 04:52 AM
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but what support do you think men need that they aren't getting?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 03:26 AM
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so why is there less empathy toward men?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 03:25 AM
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discrimination against men in education as in how men are talked about in gender studies classes? or something else?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 03:24 AM
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i'm genuinely asking. i want to know your personal connection to these issues as opposed to looking at articles that are reposted here.
/r/MensRights14/08/22 03:23 AM
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so it's more about social dynamics? not any rights per se?
/r/MensRights14/08/22 03:21 AM
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i was asking for personal reasoning, not just sharing posts and articles
/r/MensRights14/08/22 03:20 AM
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i don't think that's a bad idea lol... and i'm not super sure what this analogy is achieving as well.
/r/MensRights04/08/22 02:14 AM
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supporting as much access to contraception as possible means supporting access to the greatest degree, including increasing access to contraception through law/funding etc. if you do not support that, then you do not support as much access to contraception as possible. to say so would be a contradiction. on a different note, i think you would also support some level of legal/financial/medical funding support for contraception, otherwise... i mean i guess women could go back to birth control meth…
/r/MensRights04/08/22 12:19 AM
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that seems like a contradiction and like you don't support as much access to contraception as possible.
/r/MensRights03/08/22 01:34 PM
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you could simply not do whatever you don't want to do when it comes to dating.
/r/MensRights24/07/22 04:07 AM
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would MRAs not support as much access to contraception as possible?? wouldn't that mean there was more potential for more sex? not really sure what the harm is here...
/r/MensRights24/07/22 04:04 AM
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