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STRATEGYhezied/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 09:03 PM
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She's extra helpless and dependent on him so he feels less concern for the consequences of abusing her. And due to pregnancy she can't be catering to his needs as much as usual and has extra needs of her own. And he begins to think about the huge changes coming to his life, and blames and resents her for it since the baby is inside her body. All those things will cause a misogynist to ramp up the abuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:57 PM
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God, it should be illegal to fire a woman due to a man showing up to harass her. So many women get trapped in situations like this because the man knows he can get her fired in retaliation if she doesn't do what he wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 10:20 PM
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"Well I don't even want this thing but I guess if you really wanted me to I'd go along with it, for your sake" -Guy who really wants the thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:34 AM
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Because things are so bad that lots of women fantasize about amputating parts of their bodies to get some peace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:54 AM
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LVM are fully capable of turning a bad illness into a terminal one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 04:10 AM
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"I feel like I can tell you anything"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:58 AM
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There's a post on the childfree subreddit right now where a guy got his wife pregnant (in a state where she wouldn't have been allowed to get an abortion) and he's talking about how miserable he is, while she ended up seeing the baby as a miracle. The comments are incredibly misogynistic, claiming she must have sabotaged her birth control and ruined his life on purpose because she ended up liking the kid. Some people are saying she could've just flown somewhere to get an abortion and just becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:46 AM
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If only more men cared about "male inclusion" when it was actually relevant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 10:37 PM
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Specifically they hate us because they grew up seeing us as their birthright, and now they think that by not belonging to them, we are denying them one of the basic things all men are entitled to. I found a really interesting post on an incel subreddit before it got banned. It basically said "women claim our expectations are too high but all we actually want is this" over a picture of a big 2-story house with a wide lawn and several cars in the driveway, a man standing in front of it with a gorg…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:07 PM
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"Teach women how to not get raped" was the worst, "teach men not to rape" was a little better. "Prove to men that rapists will be severely punished, and prevent them from having power over women or access to vulnerable women" is an actual solution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 06:30 PM
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This is spot on omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:03 AM
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Yeah exactly! It's not "please tell me what you don't like so I can stop doing it," it's more like "please tell me what you don't like so I can claim you're crazy and unreasonable and attacking me for no reason"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 08:41 AM
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Ugh that's so creepy, I love how you handled it though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:55 PM
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Using your middle name on those registers is a good idea! They always made me nervous. Though I doubt they could penalize you even if you made up a fake name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:51 PM
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Yeah because they're not a monolith. Just because someone from a group is an asshole doesn't mean you stop supporting all of them, especially if that group is one of the most vulnerable and overwhelmingly made up of young, poor, and female people. You shouldn't support sex buyers or pimps or the porn industry. But the actual women are a completely different story. Men have always found it easier to exploit women if they can divide us into hoes and housewives and if the "respectable," traditional…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:11 PM
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That last part is so important! HVM has to be a super complex and nuanced concept, if you are rationalizing or bargaining in your head about whether he's good for you, chances are something is very wrong. If you try to make a checklist of all the things that make a HVM, there's always gonna be some LVM who figure out how to fake it. The starting point for determining the value of the man in your life has to be your own feelings of security and freedom and ease, or lack thereof, since meeting him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:41 AM
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God I love this subreddit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:04 AM
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Omg yeah this should be one of the first tests. I need to remember to do this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:27 AM
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Lmao they just start throwing up red flags left and right. This is awful but unfortunately pretty much what I expected
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:21 AM
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Just clarifying, would you even tell him you're pro-choice? I can see pros and cons either way
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:03 AM
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How did they react?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:00 AM
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Something I've thought about a lot is that men should be paying for abortions, but since they can weaponize that info against you if you get one, in many cases it's better for them not to know. Has anyone thought of a way to accomplish both those things, even in theory? Because as far as I know, our only options are ask for money and reveal that info, or cover the cost yourself. All the advice I have so far is that if he's helping to pay and if you have any reason to be concerned about that info…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:56 AM
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Ooh thank you! I didn't think of that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:40 AM
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I agree completely. Most men I've talked to are incredibly casual and entitled about the pill. "Eh if anything goes wrong you'll just pop a plan B, problem solved!" I've never met one who bothered to do any research on what taking plan B actually does, beyond that it lets him stop worrying about the risk of having to pay child support. Edit: someone else linked a post about having him give you cash so you can buy it but not letting him know that you have a stash of it, which I think is brilliant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 06:40 AM
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Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:59 AM
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Men who have never had a LTR will brag about the number of people they've slept with. But I've realized that if they had 12 sexual partners in the last year, they've probably had about 12 sexual encounters total because people aren't coming back for seconds. Meanwhile men in LTRs kept a woman satisfied for a long period of time (in theory), and likely had much more practice. I used to think "how do these guys who suck at sex get so many women to sleep with them?" and the answer is they have to k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:27 PM
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This is so real. Men wanna have sex without condoms and I say "you've had all your vaccines right?" and they just stare blankly. "Then you've at least taken precautions against HPV?" More blank stares. I was FWB with the sluttiest person I have ever met and had to guide him through getting his HPV shots and a vasectomy, because he was on track to be responsible for like 6 babies (despite being repulsed by the idea of fatherhood) and 10 cases of cervical cancer. I hope I prevented some lives from…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 08:16 PM
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My ex from high school started balding at 17 and became a hardcore libertarian. RIP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:45 PM
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Men age women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 05:44 PM
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Of all these, my fav by far was the narcissistic gym bro. I can't deal with another navel-gazing moping softboy who gets winded after 60 seconds of sex 😩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:55 AM
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This is so true unfortunately. There's a reason himbos are so popular right now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:53 AM
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the casual sex part doesn't indicate lack of self respect, but meeting with him after that message probably would
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:07 AM
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It's funny how men try to portray single women as desperate and miserable because we can't get a man, and simultaneously are angry at us for having impossibly high standards for the average guy. Which is it? Are we losers who can't keep a man interested, or are we stuck up bitches who won't give the poor men a chance? The answer of course is neither, we just think that for a relationship to be worthwhile it has to be equitable, and sexist men have to scramble to find ways to legitimize their out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 09:05 PM
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There's a long tradition of men saying sexist things to women and then going "HAH gotcha! You totally fell for it, the look on your face LOL" and this seems like more of the same. I thought it was gonna at least end with him saying "just kidding, men who say these things are idiots, we need to start listening to women!" but nope he doesnt even denounce sexism. Especially because white men tend to hold more racist views than white women, in addition to being sexist. So the most racist people are …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:42 AM
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Also saying a bunch of sexist things and then saying "thats how ridiculous racism is!" makes it seem like he is ignorant of how often we have to deal with genuinely misogynistic men who act like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 01:45 AM
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People love to cry eugenics whenever women get to control their own individual reproductive choices. Even though that's the exact opposite of eugenics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 08:56 PM
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My response to this is "anyone can use violence if necessary to escape a dangerous situation, especially against an adversary significantly larger and stronger than you." I'm female and I've never had to hit a woman. Women not that much smaller than me have hit me or tried to, and I've always been able to easily push them away or restrain their hands or otherwise neutralize the "threat" without violent retribution. So when men almost twice my size think they can't get through life without a lice…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:29 AM
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It's a desperate attempt to shift the conversation into a domain where they feel powerful - physical violence. They don't want to defend men's treatment of women in a rational and humane conversation because they know they will stand no chance, so they appeal to women's fears of male violence and try to pretend that we don't live in a society with laws and rights. Essentially, "we're bigger and we could destroy you with physical violence, still wanna tell me I can't sexually harass you?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:13 AM
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I think two women laughing while looking in your direction is this type of man's worst fear. Well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:02 AM
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I love the FDS mods I wish I could send you all flowers 💐🌼🌸🌺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:00 PM
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This is so interesting! thanks for sharing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 07:46 PM
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Some people have never read Letter from the Birmingham Jail, and it shows
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:57 AM
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Male perfectionism does not advance feminism, it just gives men an excuse to dismiss it. I want all men to write that on the chalkboard 100 times before they open their mouths to say literally anything about feminism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:53 AM
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That last paragraph especially is worded perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:22 AM
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I think a lot of them grew up feeling superior and disdainful of women's habit of caring about our appearances, so now if they actually tried to stop looking like trolls it would trigger ego death
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:33 AM
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The bar is on the ground and they're managing to stub their toes on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:11 AM
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Omg. Especially because so many of them could save everyone a painful interaction if they took this into account when trying to figure out why a girl doesn't like them back. They'll single out a girl based purely on her looks and decide they're in love with her and then start asking "why doesn't she like me back....why is she dating these other men instead of me even though I'm nice to her..." refusing to think that maybe she cares about looks just like he does. I wish I could have gone my entir…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:07 AM
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Any man who complains that women in his life keep getting "less fun" is a clown and a child who forces those around him into playing babysitter until they get sick of him. I've seen this enough times irl, the women accused of being insufficiently entertaining are always 1000% more likable than the fuckboy making the accusation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:32 AM
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I'm not sure what you think I'm saying but i dont think its getting across lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:30 AM
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I am just saying that I tried this same thing and a lot of men were like "omg you'd be down to peg me thats awesome" and I didn't actually want to peg them so. Be ready for the possibility
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:09 AM
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be careful with this tho. I keep ending up in situations where men expect me to peg them and I have to backpedal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 01:24 AM
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this doesnt seem like its describing bi women helping them exploit other women?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:11 PM
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"it's easier for short people to put on muscle" you're my hero
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:46 PM
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I respect and understand the rules against promoting casual sex, but I think we should talk about how sex on its own can and should be made equally enjoyable for women. The reason a lot of hookups feel like free prostitution is that the man put the woman at risk and he was the only one who enjoyed it. This isn't inevitable and I don't want to just accept that sex is always going to entail "giving something away" if you're female. I understand why, in the context of dating strategies, sleeping wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:45 PM
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thank you!! I've never heard of that but it's spot on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 10:12 PM
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especially if they idolize powerful, machiavellian men. my ex was the biggest fanboy for any man who achieved wealth and power, especially if they did it via manipulation and exploitation, but if a woman had any ounce of power he'd resent her for no apparent reason. He thought Kim Kardashian was the devil because everything she does is to make money..? Major red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:54 PM
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"not misogynistic enough to endorse my mistreatment of women" doesn't have the same ring to it as "simp" I guess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:24 PM
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Is there a name for the phenomenon where a group that normalizes cruelty and exploitation will punish its own members if they try not to participate? I see it in so many different contexts but I feel like I lack the vocabulary to describe it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 08:23 PM
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"You force yourself to get on with your day because you're powerless to retaliate against the person that hurt you? And occasionally you feel sad about it? You're so emotional lol I would've just made a huge scene and committed a felony immediately"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:30 AM
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*Playing devils advocate as a white male will always be central to reddit I think that's what they meant to say lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 05:22 AM
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People are more upset by talking about inequality than by the inequality itself. So if we can artificially inflate how bad women are, while silencing and covering up the endless accounts of males targeting females, we can construct an imaginary world where everything is already equal and therefore no action or self-examination is required on our part. Also, when you hate a group of people, you have an appetite for stories that justify that hatred. When you are fond of a group of people, you have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 03:12 AM
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"Pretty privilege" is a double edged sword, to the point where idk if it's even a privilege. Men harass and dehumanize stereotypically beautiful women in a special way. I've only ever been stalked or attacked by men who desired me. Yes they treat you like you don't exist if they find you unattractive, but they're more likely to treat you like prey if they are attracted to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 07:16 AM
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She's talking about misogynistic power imbalances. Yes "but anyone can be abused or abusive!" but gay men do not tend to have the level of bias and anger towards other gay men that straight men have toward women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:49 AM
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When they say "men know not to rape" they really think rape is like junk food - yeah technically its bad to indulge in it but sometimes you can't resist and every now and then its ok! Men know they're not supposed to, but they don't feel that it's a huge deal if they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 06:46 AM
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Good point, I should've said "men I'm not attracted to" and not "unattractive men" because it's subjective, there are attractive people that I'm not personally attracted to. But men who are widely seen as attractive will usually just shoot their shot and find someone else if I turn them down. There's usually not the same kind of resentment and bitterness coming from men who can get a lot of other female attention. And yeah omg it's the lying that bothers me the most. They think it's some sort of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:07 AM
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nah it's not an "attack for not being a jerk" to point out that hes using stale jokes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:35 AM
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Women are so fucking funny but sexist men don't want us to be, because they are too sensitive and we're supposed to be soft and ethereal and not say naughty words or do unexpected things. Thank god we have each other, any one of my female friends is funnier than most male comedians. My theory is that men who can't find women funny have issues with power. Making someone laugh gives you a measure of control over them, laughing at a joke boosts someone's ego. Well-adjusted people don't worry about …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:01 PM
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maybe it came off as insulting toward women who did find it funny, but I really do think the palpable relief when a guy is saying something vaguely feminist gets him way more laughter than the joke deserves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:39 PM
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I thought I had made a platonic male friend recently. I wasn't attracted to him, he told me he was fine with that and didn't expect anything and just wanted to hang out. Hanging out with men I'm not attracted to makes me nervous because it seem inevitable it'll end with the Nice Guy entitlement meltdown. But he seemed so genuinely nice, we both opened about things we'd never been able to talk about with anyone else, and since he explicitly assured me multiple times that he was fine with it being…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:24 PM
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It's not fresh and groundbreaking til a man repeats it a few years later :/ I bet you're easily funnier than this guy and it sucks that female comedians have to censor out so much good content because the audience would be upset
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:09 PM
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I don't think that restating a common feminist talking point, without giving any credit, is "the right thing." I think it's a low-effort easy way to get approval. Again, doesn't make him evil, but repeating very basic things as though they're revolutionary and raking in the praise does not make him some sort of ally either. We don't have to heap rewards on men for doing the bare minimum in the hopes that it'll encourage them to be nicer to us. It doesn't work, first off, but it's also not necess…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 09:04 PM
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I've just seen this exact joke so many times, and women saying the same thing and getting serious harassment for it. A man repeats the same lukewarm take as if he came up with it and gets showered with praise. I think that's significant. I'm not saying it makes him a bad person, it just seems like he's sort of unoriginal and tame and getting swooned over for it because he's a man and the bar is so low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:33 PM
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from the community rumored to be a den of ruthless misandrists with impossibly high standards, I confess I expected a little better. smh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:23 AM
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omg the fawning over this guy is making me doubt the usefulness of this sub. The average liberal arts college fuckboy can come up with this kind of material on the fly while drunk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 10:52 AM
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the bar for male comedians is so low lmao. these jokes are old af they're just laughing with relief that hes not telling rape jokes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 06:02 AM
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Women who claim men raped them are telling the truth the vast majority of the time; men who claim the accusations are false are lying the vast majority of the time. If we're gonna talk about false accusations, we also have to talk about false accusations of false accusations. Most women who are accused of lying about rape are actually telling the truth, most men who are accused of rape are actually rapists. If a woman tells you a man raped her, there's a very small chance she's lying. If a man t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:49 PM
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I never envied small girls or related to women who want to go on diets when they aren't having health issues, because I know how life-changing having physical power can be. My parents abused me until one day mid-high school when I caught my dad's foot as he kicked me, twisted it and used it to throw him into the table. He looked at me with absolute terror and never attacked me again. After almost two decades of physical threats and attacks, the moment he realized I'd gotten strong enough that he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 03:21 AM
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We're treated as a resource to be squabbled over rather than being seen as actual people. Men feel entitled to our bodies, our time and energy and emotional labor. And the idea of us just minding our own business and wanting to be left alone drives them crazy. Incels are particularly open about this belief: women living our lives without catering to men are wasting/hoarding resources that need to be distributed to males. And although most men will never say it quite as blatantly as incels, it's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:12 AM
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My best friend got diagnosed with BPD but I swear to god it's just because she started dating an asshole who gaslights her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 10:59 AM
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Crying "misandry" is just a man's way of coming out as a misogynist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 09:11 PM
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"I interviewed a man about a space designed to help women and he felt that they weren't pro-male enough - next up, here's an interview with a millionaire on why food stamps are useless and rich-hating"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:00 AM
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I swear these people think they're going to achieve "equality" by misrepresenting women to make it seem like we're as bad as men. Because plotting to gaslight, abuse and rape women is totally the same as trading advice on escaping those things. I guess some people find it comforting to convince themselves there are groups of equally evil "misandrist" women, because they could be ok with the way men treat us, to some extent, if they believed it was symmetrical. Which requires them to project men'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:55 AM
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Sometimes whole families gang up on any woman who deviates from their "traditional" values. I left my family because they were sexist and miserable, and I've always thought I dodged a bullet. But occasionally I hear about the way they talk about me, and I think I'm something of a cautionary tale to them. I'm happy with my choice, but it helps control other women if they can demonize the ones who don't put up with it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 04:36 PM
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