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| 174 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearance | Debate | hhso476 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 06:35 PM |
| 93 | Why is there such a significant disconnect between what many women say they want in a man and what they actually pursue? | Question For Women | hhso476 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/24 08:58 PM |
| 28 | Barring disability, short straight men play the dating game on the hardest difficulty | Debate | hhso476 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/24 12:03 AM |
| 22 | When it comes to preferences and standards, men should handle them the way women do—by being subtle, selective, and unbothered by societal judgment. | Debate | hhso476 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/24 05:18 PM |
| 17 | Harmless Joke or Disrespect? | Discussion | hhso476 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/09/24 04:26 AM |
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| – | Redpill's agenda is all about rewiring nice guys to stop being the safety net for womenYes I disagree look at TL;DR:" Redpill's agenda is all about rewiring nice guys to stop being the safety net for women who chase bad boys/douches and then want to settle down. By toughening up the nice guys, RP is ensuring that women face the consequences of their choices—no more playing the hero after she’s burned herself out with Chad. It’s about turning nice guys into the ones who say, "You made your bed, now lie in it."" I'll give you an example that fits this situation. If I tell someone no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/24 01:47 AM |
| – | Redpill's agenda is all about rewiring nice guys to stop being the safety net for womenRefusing to be scammed is not the same as punishing someone. Good men are often gaslit into accepting a bad deal. OP is emphasizing how the RP philosophy protects these men by helping them to choose better, helping them recognize the value of a metric that society is trying to downplay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/24 01:17 AM |
| – | Redpill's agenda is all about rewiring nice guys to stop being the safety net for womenSomeone who frequently puts themselves at risk because they lack the discipline to separate pleasure from risk would generally not be considered responsible. Responsibility typically involves exercising self-control, understanding the consequences of one's actions, and making choices that prioritize safety and well-being. If someone consistently blurs the line between pleasure and risk, it suggests impulsive behavior, which can lead to negative outcomes and undermine their sense of responsibilit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/24 12:49 AM |
| – | Redpill's agenda is all about rewiring nice guys to stop being the safety net for womenHow does a man learning about how women manipulate and gaslight him to take advantage of his hard work, in order to avoid them, make him a bad person? Would you say that a woman who learns about manipulation tactics, like love bombing, to avoid choosing or being trapped by a bad partner is a bad person? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/24 10:31 PM |
| – | Redpill's agenda is all about rewiring nice guys to stop being the safety net for womenWhat part of my statement are you confused about, or are you intentionally being ignorant? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/24 08:42 PM |
| – | Redpill's agenda is all about rewiring nice guys to stop being the safety net for womenThey're not a bad person either. Everyone has the right to educate themselves to safeguard against abuse and exploitation. How does wanting to avoid being swindled affect one's morality to the point where you can make assumptions about it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/24 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Men should have a go bag or escape fund for emotional abuseGreat rebuttal, Mr. Cuck Pill | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/24 06:50 AM |
| 0 | Men should have a go bag or escape fund for emotional abuseNah, I’ve met and know feminists. I also know they wouldn’t give up women’s advantages, which sometimes come at the expense of men, to achieve real gender equality, yet they still claim feminism is an ‘egalitarian’ movement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/24 06:21 AM |
| 4 | Men should have a go bag or escape fund for emotional abuseIt’s truly insane that men are still required to pay child support even after discovering the child isn’t theirs. I wonder why the so called “egalitarian” feminist are so hesitant to classify this paternity fraud as a form of abuse 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/24 04:48 AM |
| – | Barring disability, short straight men play the dating game on the hardest difficultyI'm not going to quantify someone else's success by my criteria. People can feel successful in their own ways, even if others may not appreciate or recognize those achievements. For example here, a short man in the dating world who puts himself out there despite facing dehumanization can be considered successful in his own right, and I believe he should be proud of that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/24 12:37 AM |
| – | Barring disability, short straight men play the dating game on the hardest difficultyConsider the second point: height is one of the few standards that nearly all women prioritize without question. Other traits, such as being obese or having a high-pitched voice, do not carry the same weight in women's avg attraction preferences. The emphasis on height significantly influences attraction more than any other trait. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/24 12:30 AM |
| – | Women don't want 'better than them', they want 'better than other men' (especially with regards to height).Women often engage in virtue signaling and gaslighting, particularly when it comes to preferences. Most women hold strong, often unrealistic, preferences for height in men and expect men to accept these dehumanizing standards without question. However, they are less willing to grant men the same privilege and agency, especially when it comes to preferences rooted in biology, such as a preference for younger or more sexually pure women. Privilege can make one blind. It’s better to ignore women’s … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/24 08:13 PM |
| – | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceFitness is just one aspect of your attractiveness; it serves as a multiplier. Focus on improving your attire and grooming as well. Choosing clothes that accentuate your physique is essential. After all, how will a woman appreciate your hard work if she and her peers can’t see it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 08:55 PM |
| 14 | CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother.Whatever reinforces your confirmation bias. The fact is, repeated hedonistic activities lead to desensitization or normalcy, which, in turn, diminishes the seriousness of acts like infidelity. If a man chooses to make a fleshlight, instead of someone with character, his wife, he is free to do so, but he shouldn’t be surprised by the consequences. Similarly, when women choose low-morality, abusive men over good men, they shouldn’t be surprised by the outcomes. Promiscuous women are more like prac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 08:43 PM |
| 13 | CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother.Yup you're right. This is why a woman's past matters. Men should be more discerning when choosing a partner. Turning a promiscuous woman into a wife is extremely risky. Women who aren’t virgins are far from ideal for a long-term relationship if you want to avoid infidelity and build a secure, fulfilling partnership with someone committed to creating a stable home. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 07:28 PM |
| 8 | CMV: In the wake of finding out he’s not the father, anything a paternity fraud victim does (short of physical violence towards others) is the fault of the mother.Yes, I agree; this is why men should be mindful of factors that may indicate infidelity, such as a woman’s sexual history, when choosing a partner and should avoid having children with women who have had multiple past sexual partners. Furthermore, a man should consider leaving if the woman refuses to take a paternity test. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/24 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Women who keep sentimental gifts of their exes - could we call this an Alpha Widow?Yes, he is. If you truly respect your partner and see a future with them, you wouldn't hold onto mementos from past relationships. Just like for you, his exes should be a closed chapter. If not, don't be surprised if he goes MIA when one of them comes to town. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/10/24 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceI'm returning the same kindness and love that women have shown me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 11:14 PM |
| 5 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceNo they dont, but they are not owed my respect/empathy either | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 11:10 PM |
| 5 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceYeah exactly why I didn't reply. Some ppl have CR skills lower than the avg third grader. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 11:05 PM |
| 10 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceCucks have partners too. Bizzare. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceHence we are left with Alpha widows | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 10:57 PM |
| 5 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceI didn’t become attractive overnight; it took time. I became attractive before I changed as a person. It was the shift in how I was treated that led to my transformation, as I realized that women seemed to value looks far more than empathy, even though they often complain about not finding men with emotional depth. Being desired for my appearance rather than for my kind and genuine nature made me realize how shallow most women are. When it comes to dating women, I lost my rose-tinted glasses—and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 01:49 AM |
| 7 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceI never equated attracting women with height or being abusive. I said, “Many women gravitate toward the stereotypical ‘bad boy’—the tall, attractive, often abusive type who always seems to have an edge.” There’s a big difference. You can be a short “bad boy” as well. I don’t attract women because I’m a jerk; I attract women because I look good, dress even better. I can afford to be a jerk because I rarely face consequences for my actions due to me crossing a certain level of an attractiveness th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 12:46 AM |
| 2 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceI think empathy is attractive, and being abusive is very unattractive. If you evaluate people only on their looks you're by definition shallow. So I can infer women are shallow? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 12:21 AM |
| 9 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceFor me, there is no "average" in attraction because I don’t believe in a fixed scale for attractiveness—everyone is unique. No one is boring if you genuinely care about them. Everyone has different backgrounds, experiences, and ways of thinking. I used to prioritize empathy in women first. I’ve often chosen women who were considered empathetic conventionally unattractive over those deemed attractive but rude, and I’ve paid the price for it, being judged negatively by both men and women. But that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 12:17 AM |
| 10 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceIll copy and past what I said in a previous comment so it clears where Im coming from "However, from my personal experience, women tend to value looks exponentially more than empathy. I know plenty of good-looking men who treat women poorly, and plenty of below-average-looking men who treat women with respect and as individuals. Yet, the success rate is exponentially higher for the misogynistic, attractive men. Through my conversations with women friend groups, I’ve noticed a recurring theme: th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/24 12:03 AM |
| 2 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceYes, men can be all those things. However, from my personal experience, women tend to value looks exponentially more than empathy. I know plenty of good-looking men who treat women poorly, and plenty of below-average-looking men who treat women with respect and as individuals. Yet, the success rate is exponentially higher for the misogynistic, attractive men. Through my conversations with women friend groups, I’ve noticed a recurring theme: they often express frustration about the men they’re in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 11:53 PM |
| 5 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceThis digresses from what I was emphasizing. My main point is this: if women truly want men who treat them right, respect them, and support them, why don’t they prioritize those qualities when choosing a partner? Why complain later and blame all men for their choices? Where is the sense of agency in that? For example, if a man says he wants a faithful woman who respects him but consistently chooses highly promiscuous women or women with an adventurous past who take advantage of him, it’s obvious … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 09:15 PM |
| 8 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceIm not saying your generalizing is wrong, Im saying if take I take your statement without any objections, my position is still unaffected. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 08:48 PM |
| 3 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceYeah ik im just so tired of the virtue signaling. Men have EQ, women want it but dont seek it, then whine about it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 08:44 PM |
| 9 | Women ask men to improve emotionally, yet their dating preferences often incentivize men to focus on material success and physical appearanceEven if that were true, how does it weaken/affect my argument? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/24 08:40 PM |
| 4 | What conclusions should a guy make if he noticed women getting interested in him only after his major life milestones?I would consider other key indicators such as the woman's age, lifestyle, and financial independence. Generally, the higher her age and n- count, and lower her net worth, the more likely it is that Bob is being viewed as a 'provider' or backup option (BB). Age can be most reliable as it's common for women to be less transparent/lie about past relationships or motivations, especially if they’re grifters seeking stability. It's also crucial to apply 'shit tests' like discussing prenups, acting poo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 09:55 PM |
| 7 | Sam Bankman-Fried's girlfriend Caroline. Um, what?Many successful men tend to stay with their partners who were with them before they achieved their success. It's akin to investing in a stock when it's at a low value, appreciating the long-term growth. Take LeBron James, for example, widely regarded as one of the greatest basketball players and a billionaire—he's stayed with his high school sweetheart. The reason is simple: she believed in him when he had nothing, and in return, he reciprocates that loyalty now that he has everything. For a man… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/24 05:45 PM |
| 7 | LOOKS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADQ4W Why are most women offended by being judged on their N-count now, when they have been judging men based on their height for years? Is this not hypocritical? Judging women on their "N-count" (number of sexual partners) and men on their height are similar in the following ways: 1)Superficial Judgments Both judgments are based on physical or arbitrary traits, which are often unrelated to a person’s true character, abilities, or compatibility as a partner. For women, the number of past sexual pa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/09/24 09:17 PM |
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