| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 371 | If she’s not showing enthusiasm…NEXT | Fundamentals | hiiigherself | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 09:33 PM |
| 79 | If you’re struggling with opening…. | Conversation | hiiigherself | /r/seduction | 25/05/25 11:43 PM |
| 19 | Most approaches you’ve done in one day? How did you feel afterwards? | Outer Game | hiiigherself | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 04:38 PM |
| 7 | 36M starting cold approach… | Fundamentals | hiiigherself | /r/seduction | 25/04/25 10:11 PM |
| 7 | How many approaches? | Fundamentals | hiiigherself | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 05:23 PM |
| 1 | When did you start cold approach? | Comprehensive | hiiigherself | /r/seduction | 10/04/25 03:07 AM |
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| 0 | Bad 2025, almost 40, missed opportunities, feeling lost, depressed and sexually frustratedIf you keep having the same issue, the problem is most likely you. You don’t want to hear this….but these are just growing pains. It’s always easier to learn things when you’re young, but you’re learning these skills at 40 so you just have to be patient. Keep going at it and eventually you’ll start to get the hang of it. The key for you is to constantly motivate yourself to try and try again. Not sure this is something you can speedrun my man. | /r/seduction | 27/01/26 11:46 PM |
| 4 | Finally approachedKeep talking to her. Boyfriends are irrelevant imo, she’s clearly interested in you. Just keep saying hi and making conversation with her every time you see her. Work out together and get her number | /r/seduction | 30/12/25 08:54 PM |
| 19 | It's all smoke and dust until she's in your bed. Don't get excited early.Don’t judge | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Newly single at 36One number per 10 approaches I would say. One of every 4 numbers ends up going somewhere | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 02:49 AM |
| 19 | Newly single at 36I was just in your exact shoes. 37 now and I approach pretty regularly. The key for me was to just rip off the band aid and approach the most beautiful women. I figured the fear of rejection was holding me back so I just forced it. Try to approach in transitive places like Target or the mall to start to avoid any embarrassment. I still get nerves but I just push through and once I’m talking the nerves go away. Also consistency is KEY! If you take a week off you’ll be back to square one again wal… | /r/seduction | 01/12/25 10:32 PM |
| 6 | Does she (37F) actually want something to happen at the Christmas Party, or am I (33M) delulu?As soon as you check in she’ll be ready bro. Can’t be more obvious. Enjoy. | /r/seduction | 27/11/25 07:06 PM |
| 1 | How to cold approach and get datesNumbers game is definitely a thing. But I agree you should not just randomly approach women just to approach. I only approach women I’m genuinely attracted to and only persist if they show at least some level of interest. | /r/seduction | 25/11/25 03:56 PM |
| 4 | Boxes you feel you may never be able to tick?All you need is the occasional fun weekend man. You don’t need to be a club promoter with most women. Rollercoaster only occasionally go full speed downhill. | /r/seduction | 18/11/25 10:27 PM |
| 1 | If she’s not showing enthusiasm…NEXTSeems pretty straightforward. No context needed. | /r/seduction | 16/11/25 03:17 AM |
| 14 | I feel my age is a -ve factorBro. Time is a flat circle. Yesterday doesn’t exist, tomorrow doesn’t exist. Change now. Everything is happening in the eternal NOW! | /r/seduction | 16/11/25 01:11 AM |
| 24 | Why is it that posts from women struggling with dating tend to receive supportive advice, while similar posts from men often receive more negative responses?Men are expected to do more. Just the way it is. It’s always gonna be on us to make things happen. | /r/seduction | 14/11/25 06:18 PM |
| 1 | If she’s not showing enthusiasm…NEXTNo one takes too long to respond. Everyone’s glued to their phones…..NEXT! | /r/seduction | 12/11/25 10:16 PM |
| 13 | If she’s not showing enthusiasm…NEXTIt’s not necessarily about sex. A woman may just want to text or talk on the phone on a regular basis. No need to ever push for sex in my opinion. It should happen naturally | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 11:57 PM |
| 63 | If she’s not showing enthusiasm…NEXTFacts. It’s not about sex, just showing interest. One daily text is enough to show she’s interested. | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 11:56 PM |
| 1 | How To Get Good At Sex (Aside From Having It)?Great advice. Also relaxes you which will make you last longer. | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 09:46 PM |
| 1 | How To Get Good At Sex (Aside From Having It)?Squeeze and hold 10 secs, push out 10 secs. I do glute raises with the barbell and bench. | /r/seduction | 10/11/25 09:44 PM |
| 7 | Approach anxietyFor sure. No porn, instagram or any sexual imagery. After one week you’ll feel compelled to talk to pretty women. It’s biology | /r/seduction | 06/11/25 03:41 PM |
| 6 | Approach anxietyActual practical tip: get in a good mood beforehand. Listen to music, comedy podcast, go to the gym. Being in a good mental state makes all the difference. Also get social as much as possible. Talk to anyone and everyone. Also don’t jerk off ever. Do those 3 things and approaching will be surprisingly easy. | /r/seduction | 06/11/25 03:38 PM |
| 3 | How To Get Good At Sex (Aside From Having It)?Kegels and glute bridges will go a long way. Go slow and pay attention to her reactions and try to actually enjoy yourself. | /r/seduction | 06/11/25 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Don’t be pushy, but let everyone know you’re aroundHonestly just being your self unapologetically. Sounds very woo woo, but people, especially women notice this and are drawn to it for some reason | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 05:01 PM |
| 3 | Been at this for 11 yearsHow often do you do approaches? If you’re not doing volume (at least 1 a day) consistently you’ll never truly get comfortable. It has to be a muscle that is constantly being used in my opinion. | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 03:23 PM |
| 21 | Learn from my mistakesshe would have liked you more also if you had just got her number and continued approaching. that being said, 5 approaches is good and you got the experience. thats what this is all about | /r/seduction | 05/11/25 03:34 AM |
| 8 | Girl at work is giving extremely mixed signalsbruh you cant be posting things this long if you want replies | /r/seduction | 04/11/25 04:36 AM |
| 38 | What’s the craziest in person approach that worked for you?was sitting in traffic and looked to the left and a woman was eyeing me so hard. without rolling down the window i made a phone to my ear signal to ask for her number. she then used her fingers to give me her number.....we went out a few times and it kinda fizzled away but i thought it was cool i got her number in traffic without exchanging any words. definitely a memorable one. | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 08:11 PM |
| 1 | while you wait, other men are sleeping with your dream girl37 here. started doing cold approach and will forever kick myself for not starting sooner. that being said, i still feel young and feel that theres lots ahead of me in the dating world. | /r/seduction | 03/11/25 06:04 PM |
| 1 | If you’re struggling with opening….lol you gotta pretend to buy it then put it back before you leave. Or buy and return | /r/seduction | 29/05/25 02:40 AM |
| 2 | Cold approach when they have a kid with themNo, and I’m not saying you’re wrong but you didn’t even address the question that was asked. | /r/seduction | 09/05/25 11:04 PM |
| 2 | Cold approach when they have a kid with themDid you read the post? | /r/seduction | 09/05/25 10:26 PM |
| 3 | Confessions of a retired man-whore turned intimacy dropoutlol it’s not that deep. Learn to talk to girls, build yourself, bang a ton a girls, then find a wife. Relax. | /r/seduction | 06/05/25 07:45 PM |
| 1 | 36M starting cold approach…I figured it would take a few months to get comfortable then up to a year to get good. | /r/seduction | 28/04/25 12:49 PM |
| 1 | 36M starting cold approach…4 years? Nah I’m way more confident in myself than that lol. | /r/seduction | 26/04/25 03:41 PM |
| 3 | Just go outside bro… its that simple.Don’t take a break. Just keep going. It sucks. It’s supposed to suck. That’s kinda the point. Eventually you stop caring that it sucks and…it doesn’t suck anymore. Done. | /r/seduction | 18/04/25 10:34 PM |
| 3 | Why not you?Great post. Really resonates with me | /r/seduction | 11/04/25 01:16 AM |
| 1 | When did you start cold approach?So you’re the same age as me. How was your journey? | /r/seduction | 10/04/25 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Tried my first approach need guidanceYou’ll only get better by doing it man. There are no shortcuts. Trust I tried everything and eventually realized that all that matters is approaching. Once you get comfortable approaching and having conversations then you seek advice on the finer details | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 04:15 AM |
| 3 | Weed for social skillsWeed helps keep you in the moment, that’s why you’re sociable. When you’re sober your mind is all over the place. You got to figure out a way to quiet your mind and just speak and act with no filter. Unfortunately the only way I know is just to rip the band aid off and suffer through enough awkward interactions until you stop caring. It’s the only way, there are no shortcuts. Just gotta do it buddy. | /r/seduction | 30/03/25 04:12 AM |
| 2 | Why do girls give strong, obvious indications of interest and then act rude/make you feel stupid when you approach, and how do you deal with this?Really? I hear/see women routinely say they don’t get approached in public. | /r/seduction | 29/03/25 03:34 PM |
| 19 | Why do girls give strong, obvious indications of interest and then act rude/make you feel stupid when you approach, and how do you deal with this?Happened to me too. Can’t explain it. My guess is some girls aren’t used to being approached in real life and truly don’t know how to react when it happens. | /r/seduction | 28/03/25 07:08 PM |
| 3 | Want to get the bank tellers numberFlirt with her a couple times first, if she looks excited to see you come in then ask her out in front of everyone. She’ll love it | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 01:13 AM |
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