If she’s not showing enthusiasm…NEXT

TripleDigitNomad · 2025-11-10T23:27:38+00:00

Hard for a lot of guys who don't have abundance, but yes I agree with you. However it does also limit your potential ceiling if you're someone who cares about getting with the hottest women possible so that's also something to consider.

Ok-Orange7146 · 2025-11-10T21:56:11+00:00

EXACTLY..a lot of guys don’t understand because they’ve never met a woman who is crazy about them or they just hate themselves and value pussy above everything.

Thin_Protection5616 · 2025-11-11T03:58:12+00:00

This is good advice for *relationship management* but it doesn't apply well to cold approach. In the latter case, you'll pass over a lot of shy girls who either take time to warm up or don't readily express their feelings to people they recently met.

Some of the girls who've been the most obsessed with me started out as girls who were very lukewarm.

ElBajitoGordito · 2025-11-10T22:20:52+00:00

Highly recommend. I've burnt/gone nuclear on (i.e told them that this is a waste of time) women that don't progress things at a rate that I want or how I want. More often a better option has found its way to me.

On the contrary where I've been patient, dragged it out, or 'slowly applied pressure' it has lead nowhere.

Trust you can meet enough women in a week/month and you will be fine.

becomesharp · 2025-11-10T22:32:19+00:00

Be careful not to interpret this advice as "if you start a conversation and she doesnt immediately try to fuck you, run away because you cant handle anything other than an easy set"

Puzzleheaded_Back181 · 2025-11-11T09:42:01+00:00

This is like telling poor people to just buy a house and become a landlord, bro just buy million dollar house.

if I had a woman obsessed with me I wouldn’t be on this subreddit

barlowaplesand · 2025-11-11T08:26:44+00:00

i've learn this with cold approach

If you approach a girl and it feels a bit like pulling teeth. She's not asking you stuff. Not really engaging or talking back etc, then just move on!

You are wasting your time if you think you are gonna magically change her mind/attraction level with cold reads and pushpull etc (game)

it's a different game entirely when you approach a girl who is attracted to you. Concentrate on finding THEM girls!

Certain_Process_7657 · 2025-11-10T23:16:05+00:00

Agreed. Doesn't have to be from the very first moment of the initial date but if she's not enthusiastic and warm/receptive by the second date and asking you questions, giving you physical affection to some degree, you just need to move on.

justaregularguyearth · 2025-11-11T08:39:10+00:00

But what if no woman is ever obsessed with you then what?

Cactus2711 · 2025-11-11T07:56:21+00:00

Big facts

Women have ONE guy at the top of their depth chart at all times. If you’re that guy you’ll know it by her level of enthusiasm

ThatGworl_forever97 · 2025-11-11T09:38:19+00:00

This actually applies to ALL genders. If a man isn’t excited about you as a woman it’s because he’s simply using you as a place holder, stringing you along and not that invested

Dexter4439 · 2025-11-11T01:55:10+00:00

You can't negotiate genuine desire!

Sulla314 · 2025-11-11T00:21:52+00:00

Why is everyone’s answer to relationship advice on this fucking app to “move on?”

This post isn’t solving any problems.

habbo311 · 2025-11-11T00:27:37+00:00

I've never experienced enthusiasm out of a woman

spacemangoes · 2025-11-11T08:01:57+00:00

I hope young people here get drill this through their head.

geese_unite · 2025-11-11T19:55:47+00:00

Walk away. That’s your best negotiating position.

The best way to get someone else’s attention is by removing yours.

HugeInvestigator6131 · 2025-11-11T04:05:51+00:00

truth
enthusiasm ain’t a bonus
it’s the bare minimum

if you’re decoding dry texts and googling “mixed signals” you’re already negotiating against yourself
women don’t half-like the men they actually want

this got drilled into me hard after reading NoMixedSignals
they said: stop mistaking her politeness for potential
if you’re still guessing, you’re not chosen

her interest should feel obvious
or you’re forcing it

cs_throwawayyy · 2025-11-10T22:43:37+00:00

Yeah this is why I fk on the first date

hopelesslover_99 · 2025-11-12T20:16:58+00:00

What if the person does show a lot of interest in text and but takes hours to respond? It’s feels like an oxymoron if that’s the correct word.

NextLevelist · 2025-11-13T03:30:39+00:00

you mean after she's met you right? I've had girls with online dating not "show enthusiasm"...because I'm a complete stranger. def agree that if you've had a date and there's no enthusiasm, next

ToxicRocketry · 2025-11-15T04:59:49+00:00

Another day, another piece of useless, zero context advice on this sub.

pie-mart · 2025-11-17T04:11:13+00:00

To be fair women are also afraid of coming off as clingy or too needy

This is borderline too much of a stereotype

Women are people too who gradually fall in love and it doesn't always happen within the same time frame

Plus women feel like we have to hold back our feelings because we are taught we are bad for pursuing. Desperate for being the one to ask to hangout

Or like we are too needy or too clingy

There is always a balance. And always communication. Cuz like all people, someone may really like you but struggle with the societal pressures their gender has

Edit: as a woman, im not going to express my feelings for a guy unless I am fairly certain he reciprocates those feelings and I always match his energy

The more aloof and the less he talks, the less I talk to him. The more engaged he is with me the more open I am to him

I am never going to act "crazy" for dudes who barely really exist in my reality and are so nonchalant they are basically ants on the sidewalk on a summer day's walk

Title	If she’s not showing enthusiasm…NEXT
Author	hiiigherself
Upvotes	367
Comments	48
Date	November 10, 2025 9:33 PM UTC (9 months ago)
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