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| 827 | Old man advice, some observations and instruction. | Inner Game | hisgreatness64 | /r/seduction | 14/06/23 09:09 AM |
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| 2 | Worst friendzone ever or totally humiliated?Warning, harsh realty check. Any man who ends up in the friend zone puts himself there. Which is clearly what you're describing. There is ONLY one way to stay out of the friend zone, and that's to go as far as you can as fast as you can. This can not be over emphasized. As I have stated before in previous posts. Heterosexual women, when it comes to attraction, are attracted to all things masculine and repulsed by all things feminine. Being bold, taking risks is masculine. Being timid is feminine… | /r/seduction | 16/12/24 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Help a brethren “slide into the dm”How about; We've been following each other for a while now, and I've always wanted to say hi... so hi I really like that you're into xyz Say Quick question followed by xyz thing. For example, if she likes to travel. Quick question, If the travel channel paid for it, where would you most like to go first? | /r/seduction | 07/11/24 10:34 PM |
| 89 | Why do girls like being ignoredIt's about being important. Treat yourself like you're important, and people believe you. Important people do not seek your favor. | /r/seduction | 04/10/24 03:33 AM |
| 2 | What's the beat piece of advice you've ever gotten on this sub/ elsewhere?Your motivation should always be that you are just entertaining yourself. As such, you can say anything because results don't matter. | /r/seduction | 29/09/24 06:06 AM |
| 1 | I have this girl at work, pls help me with rational adviceWomen are passive by nature. An aggressive woman is viewed as masculine and, therefore, undesirable. You waiting for the other person to be assertive is thinking like a woman. Be a man and ask. Confidence doesn't mean expecting a positive result. It means being able to handle a negative one. I hate maybe's. Maybe if this happens or that. Fuck that. Remove the maybe and ask. Then you're done thinking about it. Trust me, attraction has a window, and it slams shut quickly. | /r/seduction | 03/08/24 05:36 AM |
| 3 | Good with OLD but bad IRL?A lot of hesitation comes from feeling insufficient and unworthy. To eradicate this, you have to feel that you're important. Not that others aren't important, You're just more important, including the girl you're approaching. Unpopular opinion; to be very successful in any endeavor, not just some success but super success requires 3 character traits. This goes for business, dating life, whatever. Be selfish. Your needs first, always. Want that promotion ...say so. Friends say you're an ass kisse… | /r/seduction | 12/07/24 04:21 AM |
| 4 | Good with OLD but bad IRL?My advice is to detach from outcomes. If you're anxious about rejection, people very commonly get tongue tied. This is from the belief that there is some magical phrase or way of being that will create instant attraction. There is not. Change your motivation from I hope she likes me or I hope I do well, to I'm only talking to her to entertain myself. This is why you dont get anxious talking to old ladies on a park bench. If you're only entertaining yourself, then outcomes don't matter. If outcom… | /r/seduction | 12/07/24 03:44 AM |
| 17 | What's exactly charisma?Charm is making people feel desired Charisma is making people feel important | /r/seduction | 12/07/24 03:30 AM |
| 7 | What actions make a man look like a creep? And what’s the difference between a guy checking out a hot girl vs a girl checking out a hot guy?The balance between pal vs. perv. Too timid, and you're just a pal. Too aggressive, and you're a perv. What you have to figure out is the goldilocks zone where you express attraction, but don't say something stupid. So when women talk about pervs, they mean asshats who say shit like I want you to sit on my face. Five minutes into a conversation. Where something like I dont usually hit on attractive women at the grocery store, so you'll have to forgive me if I stutter or start sweating works way … | /r/seduction | 10/07/24 04:53 AM |
| 2 | Do I DM this girl from uni when I lack social media presenceI'll just say this. About 3 years ago, after I got divorced, there was a hot woman I had been a longtime facebook (yes, I'm old) friend with. In fact, we went to Jr High together but I hadnt seen or spoken to her since. 35...years...ago. I just thought if I get divorced, I'm hitting her up. So I did. I sent her a belated happy birthday through messenger because I waited a week to do it. Happy birthday turned into an hour long conversation which turned into we should go out which turned into 2.5 … | /r/seduction | 11/05/24 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Do I DM this girl from uni when I lack social media presenceFinal thoughts. Whether sliding into dms,, online dating, or in person. You're only concern when interacting with an attractive woman should be entertaining yourself. You're not trying to seduce her or create attraction or any of that bullshit. You just want to entertain yourself for a few minutes. Therefore, outcomes don't matter. And if outcomes don't matter, then all that nervousness disappears. You're trying to think of the perfectly socially acceptable super witty thing to say . Which is pa… | /r/seduction | 11/05/24 03:04 AM |
| 2 | Do I DM this girl from uni when I lack social media presenceThe second option is to follow. Wait for a return follow. Assuming that happens. Just say since we follow each other, I thought I'd introduce myself. I'm Pablo. You seem fun and interesting. Followed by a stupid low involvement question. For example, if you see concert pics. Say I really like that you're into concerts. If you could see any artist, dead or alive, who would you most like to see? If she responds, you're off and going. Just don't ask boring questions. For example, don't say you like… | /r/seduction | 11/05/24 02:47 AM |
| 2 | Do I DM this girl from uni when I lack social media presenceYeah, or just say I don't usually approach attractive women and hit on them, so please forgive me for my cold sweat and stutter. She'll laugh. Making a joke about it can reduce the awkwardness. Because at the end of the day. You're owning it. Just like stating that your hitting on her is owning it. Comes across as shy, not insecure. | /r/seduction | 11/05/24 02:31 AM |
| 5 | My thoughts on rejection after 1000+ daygame cold approachesI kinda think you're both right to an extent. I do think some pua's got started because of their severe social ineptness and lack of success with women. Who one day they decided to change that. Pretty much kamikaze style and going for it in an unyielding fashion. It seems the rejection didn't sting so bad for them because they were used to it. So, in my opinion. They tend to be weirdos. Not because of the avalanche of approaches. But just in general. I think a good deal are psychopaths. Seeing p… | /r/seduction | 14/03/24 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Is there away to persevere through the mountain of rejectionsMost probably, you're spamming women with nonstop approaches. Most of which you're going to be meh about. As such, your approach is insincere. Women can sense this. It reeks of desperation. Your ego gets bruised because you're getting rejected by women you're not even all that attracted to. Conversely, when it comes to attraction heterosexual women are attracted to all things masculine and repulsed by all things feminine. Being timid is feminine. Most likely, you hesitate when you approach meh l… | /r/seduction | 20/02/24 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Is most of dating dynamics about who is the most “parent”? Who can appear as the most high status individual? Is there no equal relationship?No. Listen to what others have to say. Pay value to what is said. Just value your opinions more. It's a sign of self-assurance. Which is very attractive. | /r/seduction | 20/02/24 04:26 PM |
| 1 | Is there away to persevere through the mountain of rejectionsBe selective only approach the hottest one. The hottest ones are always the most feminine. Using masculine energy works on the hottest one because they are the most feminine. If you only approach the fat uggos. You only get rejected by fat ugly girls. A rejection by the hottest ones also doesn't feel as bad.because you acted like a man and were aggressive in your pursuit of what you desire. | /r/seduction | 20/02/24 07:07 AM |
| 1 | how do I seduce a girl when I meet up with her irl after months of online textingMake her know she is important by emphasizing that you don't just date anyone. Next be Charming which is nothing more than making her feel important. Use sincere compliments. Make her comfortable with you. Flirt let her know that you desire her. Last charisma, which is just make her feel good about dating you and what you have to offer. | /r/seduction | 20/02/24 07:02 AM |
| 3 | Is most of dating dynamics about who is the most “parent”? Who can appear as the most high status individual? Is there no equal relationship?There is no such thing as status. There is only feeling important and not feeling important. You don't have to earn your importance. Nor do you make others feel unimportant. You just feel your more important than others. This is masculine thinking. Women love it. So be important and put yourself first always. | /r/seduction | 20/02/24 06:53 AM |
| 25 | I finally stopped pedestalizing models after learning the truth.There's an inverse effect whenever you over scrutinize something. I.e. nothing makes you feel more out of shape than when you first go to the gym. Or poorer than when developing a financial plan. | /r/seduction | 14/02/24 09:52 PM |
| 1 | This shit is so addictiveI would say that most people are way too self-conscious and that feelings of embarrassment and shame are the biggest hindrances to approaching. But if you have true high self-esteem, being awkward won't stop you from talking to strangers, which is what approaching really is. After all, you are only embarrassed if you hold others' opinions of you in higher regard than your own opinion of you. | /r/seduction | 26/10/23 02:43 AM |
| 1 | This shit is so addictiveMost likely, unless you're a total social dipshit, you did nothing wrong. Rejection is just part of it. It's like in poker. You can do everything right and lose, but in the long term, it's a winning strategy. You also see maniac players hit big even though long term it's a losing strategy. Why? because their is an element of luck to it. So what can happen is you can do everything right and get rejected and then punish yourself as if you did something wrong. This is called a negative feedback loo… | /r/seduction | 25/10/23 03:27 AM |
| 12 | Seduction and tricks don't work on women who aren't interested. Women who are interested don't need Seduction.You're talking about women with histrionics. Quick shifting emotions that may be intense but shallow. Deep seated emotions resonate. They don't have that. They go from you're the best to you're shit in literal seconds. | /r/seduction | 02/08/23 08:04 PM |
| 46 | This girl set me up perfectlyEver notice how some of yall talk like you're a thief trying to crack the combination on the pussy vault. Talking like a 5'10" vulture swooped in and stole a meal from a pack of 6'4 hyenas. Let me make it easy for you. When you approach a woman. Any woman, anywhere, you are just checking two things. That she's open and friendly. That's it. If she's open and friendly, it should go well, unless you're a social dipshit. If she's talking to the whole room. She's open and friendly. | /r/seduction | 21/06/23 08:21 AM |
| 1 | Old man advice, some observations and instruction.I want to be clear that by repulsive, I mean the opposite of attraction. In other words, it invalidates attraction. I don't mean revolting or sickening. If the scars affect you to the point of shaking your self perception, you can do something about it. I personally think counseling would probably be the first step, though. | /r/seduction | 20/06/23 05:30 PM |
| 2 | Old man advice, some observations and instruction.I would have to know how insecure you are about the scars. Insecurity is weak (not masculine) and, as such, repulsive to women. The more insecure, the more repulsed they will be. What is your self talk like? What you project women can feel. If you tell yourself for whatever reason (like I ain't got no job , no money, got scars etc), I'm insufficient and unworthy, you will project that, and women will be repulsed. Btw guys with great jobs and have money with shitty self-image, they do no better t… | /r/seduction | 20/06/23 02:58 PM |
| 9 | Old man advice, some observations and instruction.I suppose I should have said, "Do you know what your something else is? Once you know it, you can figure out how to display it. Maybe that would help. | /r/seduction | 14/06/23 10:31 AM |
| 18 | Old man advice, some observations and instruction.You're welcome, and thank you | /r/seduction | 14/06/23 10:27 AM |
| 1 | Old man advice, some observations and instruction.I'm curious what your something else is | /r/seduction | 14/06/23 10:13 AM |
| 75 | Old man advice, some observations and instruction.I only answer that to Nigerian princes. | /r/seduction | 14/06/23 09:57 AM |
| 43 | Old man advice, some observations and instruction.With some women, the pass/fail can be stringent, but not with most. I mean, if that woman's pass/fail is 6'4, that's probably about 5% of the dating pool. | /r/seduction | 14/06/23 09:54 AM |
| 2 | Too afraid to ask this IRL: Over the last year I’ve gotten more better/confident with women, I still can’t figure this one part out…Women as a whole tend to be passive aggressive as being direct is considered unfeminine . Passive aggressive people ( male and female) will almost always fold when being direct with them. Just say to the friend, me and your friend seem to be hitting it off is that okay? She'll probably say yes and back off. | /r/seduction | 08/09/22 02:41 AM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular opinion about women? Something you truly believe based on lived experience, but would get down voted to all hell on Reddit?Replying to OP, the way you stay out of the friend zone is to go as far as you can as fast as you can. | /r/seduction | 05/08/22 11:39 PM |
| 2 | Went to try to go pick up at the mall yesterdayNext time when you approach based on a premise of oh I need help. Just confess your true intentions and say I'm not so much interested in a gift for mom but you and this is the best excuse I could think of to talk to you. Be honest, It'll feel better even if it turns to shit. People take you at face value and if you say I'm needing blah blah blah where they sell blah blah blah that's what she's gonna do. Sell you some shit. Pivot away from the original premise and remove the maybe. | /r/seduction | 25/07/22 05:40 AM |
| 79 | What’s the psychological reasoning behind this behavior?Women are hypersensitive about their reputation. As a result, they cannot own their sexual desire. It is a social construct that only " bad" women do that. To do so would in their mind mean they are a slut The worse thing a woman can be thought of is a slut. Therefore they put the responsibility of whatever happens on you. Consensually of course. Ultimately they want you to not think of them as skanky and certainly not spread that perception to others especially other women. The best thing in re… | /r/seduction | 11/07/22 05:48 PM |
| 6 | Do you actually get better results when you get fit (I got none)?Let me explain the fallacy of male thinking. Men are very visual so the thinking goes I'm into women with great bodies. (What that means varies from person to person). The better the body the more attracted I am to that person. So if I get a great body I will become a poon master. With women when it comes to looks it's pass or fail. After that she asks herself what else do you got. Are you funny, smart, talented, kind, patient etc. Give me that something else. If she likes slender guys and you a… | /r/seduction | 25/04/22 05:44 AM |
| 16 | Fickleness of Women: How little your approach would impact their livesWhen it comes to seduction there's a clock running. That window closes fast. The way you stay out of the friend zone is to go as far as you can as fast as you can. | /r/seduction | 15/02/22 03:26 PM |
| 17 | How would you define a "bad" boy?Because of indoctrination women are taught good girls do this, bad girls do that. What this results in (and this is not politically correct to say) next to no women own their sexual desires. It has to be your idea otherwise they are deemed a slut. Many women have also been burned bu supposedly progressive thinking men who supposedly are all for female empowering their sexuality only to be slut shamed. This results in women becoming hypervigilant about their reputation. Most women would love to g… | /r/seduction | 27/11/21 03:35 AM |
| 11 | A girls perspective on ‘nice guys’In every city in America there is a 35 year old waiter that drives a rust bucket who needs a life preserver because he is drowning in women. Why? Because he is assertive, confident and has swagger. He's also funny, smart and can play the guitar (talented). Everybody knows a guy like this. That waiter doesn't have the self limiting belief that he's not good enough. Look if a rust bucket dings your self worth and thereby your confidence then by all means buy that new car. The most expensive one yo… | /r/seduction | 05/11/21 02:59 PM |
| 6 | A girls perspective on ‘nice guys’No, confidence has nothing to do with being a bad boy. Women do not want a hooligan. The bad boy appeal comes from the fact that bad boys do their own thing with a reckless disregard for consequences. They are bold where doormats are timid. Good fortune favors the bold. In other words they live life according to their own rules (which may mean breaking the law). They are their own man, your opinion of them does not concern them. They have faith in themselves (frequently unmerited) and act like t… | /r/seduction | 05/11/21 11:48 AM |
| 72 | A girls perspective on ‘nice guys’Let me dispell the big mystery to you guys. First, as guys we use the one to ten scale. She's a two she's a five that one is fine as hell what a ten. They fall instantly in love like nature is saying let me put a baby in it. With women when it comes to the looks department it's pass or fail. In all my life I have never heard a woman do the one to ten scale.. After you pass the looks department, they ask what else do you got. Now I don't mean your bullshit. I'm not saying there's not gold diggers… | /r/seduction | 05/11/21 06:58 AM |
| 1 | How many of you are virgins?If you had a boyfriend why didn't you have sex with him? Just curious. | /r/seduction | 20/09/21 11:10 AM |
| 1 | How many of you are virgins?Bruh, trying to convert a friend who is a girl into a girlfriend is about as likely as catching Bigfoot riding a unicorn. Far easier is it to find a girlfriend who becomes a best friend. You see this much in this sub. What can only be called a commitment to failure. Good advice given to brick walls. Only for the person heeding advice to cling to and and become deeper entrenched in a failed philosophy. It's not your fault, after all you have to be able to write their biography and become bff's be… | /r/seduction | 20/09/21 09:42 AM |
| 1 | How many of you are virgins?One, you kinda proved my point. You acted in a masculine manner and it was a turn on at least to some degree. That's the way women are wired. Btw masculine does not mean macho. You don't have to hunt or go mudding or lift heavy shit to be masculine. Two, the meter is running when it comes to attraction. They only consider you an option for a short while and when you hesitate they assume disinterest and move on. Once they do, game over, no boom boxes over head will change that. Jon Cusack movie G… | /r/seduction | 19/09/21 11:23 PM |
| 3 | What are some things a guy can do or say to make sure he does not create too much of "platonic vibe" in a first date setting of drinks?The way you stay out of the friend zone is to.go as far as you can as fast as you can. When it comes to a person's mannerisms, Heterosexual women are attracted to all.things masculine and repulsed by all things feminine. Being timid is very feminine and men can't get away with that. I'm.not saying be forceful. If you've built connection and if you think maybe it would be okay to whatever and if you want to hold hands, kiss, hug etc. then go for it. Plus I hate maybe's. Maybe if I did this or tha… | /r/seduction | 15/09/21 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Help!!I assume you got the add by sending a friend request to a mutual friend. Ask how they know each other, how they met, how long they've known each other etc. | /r/seduction | 29/05/21 10:27 AM |
| 13 | Three Simple Rules to the ApproachYou're not being a new person. You're just showing a part of you that already exists. The bold part. The adventurous part. | /r/seduction | 28/05/21 12:54 PM |
| 2 | Often the last thing that a woman at a bar on a Friday night wants to experience is a complete stranger asking her a list of standard boring interview questions about her life.Or just express actual interest in them. | /r/seduction | 25/05/21 10:39 AM |
| 2 | Tip For Nerdy Intelligent GuysIf your average looking. Average face, average body and know women actually want connection and not diamonds and fast cars or Adonis bodies. You will do much better than any gym rat. | /r/seduction | 25/05/21 09:38 AM |
| 13 | Tip For Nerdy Intelligent GuysI will die on this hill. With women looks are a pass/fail thing. I've never seen a woman do the 1-10 scale. So if you pass the looks department they then say what else do you got. Are you funny? are you talented in some way? Are you smart? Are you kind ? Etc. Guys get stuck on looks and falsely assume women do too. Being more than passing (which varies from woman to woman) doesn't increase your odds any. | /r/seduction | 25/05/21 09:18 AM |
| 3 | Where did I mess upTo be honest "I want them" is ownership language. It speaks to your mindset. You're not buying a TV. Likewise, Initially, other than finding them attractive how do you even know that? Why would you think you want them when you don't know shit about them? Take the pressure off yourself by thinking the only point in initiating is to see if they are fun and interesting. If you think they might be, go find out. Actually learn something about them. Them, as a person, with thoughts and emotions. Trium… | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 05:06 PM |
| 2 | Where did I mess upI don't know. I just know that if you don't want to sound like you're interviewing them you gotta talk about how they feel and why they feel that way. Stirring the emotions is always best. Plus you're expressing a genuine interest in them. Isn't that the point? Sometimes on these posts I get the feeling that some guys do so badly because they like women the same way some guys like lifted pickup trucks. They want to be seen with one, they want to impress their buddies with one but they don't actu… | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 04:08 PM |
| 2 | Where did I mess upFirst of all kudos for approaching a group solo. Multiple layers occurred in this interaction What you experienced is called a shit test. Basicly by having the balls to approach them, many women will unconsciously think who does this guy think he is? You're representing as confident and alpha. They will test that by throwing a little shit you're way to see if you're for real or a poser. It's normal. Many women do it. Also, for all they know you chat up anything with two tits, a hole and a heartb… | /r/seduction | 22/05/21 07:57 AM |
| 3 | Why is this sub full of sexist men who act like all woman are, are something to be won or accomplished?I find it ironic that women wait passively for men to act then condemn anyone who wants to be successful at said action. | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 09:29 AM |
| 3 | An introvert seeks help!!!Read how to win friends and influence people. Life changer. | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 09:25 AM |
| 1 | How to talk to a girl I likeLunch date no pressure | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 09:22 AM |
| -1 | Am I not hot anymore?That sub is toxic. I'll save you the trouble of visiting there. You're a Queen and any guy not easily manipulated is not worth your time. | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 08:59 AM |
| 1 | Crush said I’m “Kinda cute” what does this mean?Assuming you don't know each other real well. It means you have passed the physical attraction bar but what else do ya got ? I also assume since you said crush you're going slow. Which is boyfriend mode not bang tonight mode. So after the attraction phase (alpha traits) comes beta traits. Contrary to popular belief, beta does not mean wimp, pussy etc. Beta (secondary attraction) traits are boyfriend/relationship qualities. I.e. are you patient, kind, funny can you juggle? What makes you tick. Ev… | /r/seduction | 11/04/20 08:41 AM |
| 1 | We all know we can't make a girl attracted to us. So if the girl is attracted to us, what's the point in gaming her?To use your analogy they still have to be in the car buying market. Also in car sales they come to you. You still have to have salesmanship but do some door knocking sales. That's cold approach. | /r/seduction | 06/03/20 11:07 PM |
| 2 | We all know we can't make a girl attracted to us. So if the girl is attracted to us, what's the point in gaming her?With men, being attractive to women is mostly attitude and not looks. Notice I said mostly. We assume because we are mostly attracted to the physical, so are women. Not true. Not entirely untrue but more pass/fail. Secondly, you are correct in saying if she finds you attractive it largely doesn't matter what you say. With that being said not recognizing indicators, being passive, acting too slowly, can really fuck it up. | /r/seduction | 06/03/20 10:50 PM |
| 1 | We all know we can't make a girl attracted to us. So if the girl is attracted to us, what's the point in gaming her?It's a philosophy of abundance and not scarcity that works best. If you don't like me someone else will. | /r/seduction | 06/03/20 10:42 PM |
| 1 | We all know we can't make a girl attracted to us. So if the girl is attracted to us, what's the point in gaming her?To me the game part is recognizing interest and then learning how to handle what comes next. Not creating attraction. That's like drawing blood from a stone. I frequently feel that some pua's are just playing numbers to an unnecessary extent. I saw some stats that went something like ; 700 approaches 150 numbers 50 dates 15 lays That's a 2% return I think the bulk of these were suicide approaches .i.e. 0 indicators of interest. To me that's insane and a waste of time I think approaching with lit… | /r/seduction | 06/03/20 10:31 PM |
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