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hombrecito89/r/seduction08/04/16 12:26 PM
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Day 36: girl I'm meeting up with is nothing special when it comes to eye contact. Not much of note this day
/r/seduction14/05/16 06:30 PM
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Day 35: Many of my colleagues really stuck at eye contact. I need to accept that being at their social level isn't enough even if it is comfortable. I must accept being the confident one in group situations and no longer hide. Unfortunately I've found pushing on further difficult so far. I'm not really looking for another girl to date and I know this is justification as I could still practice and push myself harder. I've been sticking to practicing with colleagues and walking down the street. I …
/r/seduction13/05/16 11:59 AM
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Day 34: Noticing more glances from women. Not that they necessarily looking more, my head is just up and I'm noticing it. Few solid looks with girls and them breaking first again, so I'm really back on track. Read up a bit on congruencey. The idea being that my behaviour should be congruent with the life I want to live. The ability to good eye contact is definitely congruent with who I want to be. The eye contact thing is becoming natural enough right now, but I really want to keep pushing and m…
/r/seduction11/05/16 07:14 PM
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Day 33: Made great eye contact with a pretty hot woman in her mid thirties. She held very strong. I'm still hesitant and generally look away first with hot girls. Just giving them a glance until they look at me.
/r/seduction10/05/16 09:33 AM
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Day 32: In countryside with family. My whole family has a problem with looking eachother in the eye and communicating like humans. The whole thing is fucked up and always puts me in a bad mood.
/r/seduction08/05/16 04:22 PM
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Day 31: Got distracted
/r/seduction08/05/16 04:21 PM
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Day 30: Went to show with girl. Her study friend came too, weird as fuck that he came by himself when he was supposed to bring his girl too. Held good eye contact with him and talked to him and involved him a bit. As much as I didn't appreciate him joining us I didn't let it show really. In seduction terms I guess it's not showing that you feel threatened. I don't understand why anyone would put themselves in that position of being the third wheel.
/r/seduction08/05/16 04:21 PM
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Day 29: Back on course today somewhat. Still not 100% comfortable holding a pretty girls gaze. I feel like if I do that I would be invading their space and they might call me out. I think this is just insecurity and self imposed creepdom stemming back from the insecurities of my youth that I haven't quite dealt with. I know that I'm reasonably attractive, I have plenty of experience with girls. Nobody has called me out or reacted badly yet, in fact all I've received have been positive or neutral…
/r/seduction06/05/16 01:23 PM
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Day 28: Noticed a few girls, looking at me and I chickened out and didn't hold their gaze. Was feeling low. Did ok conversationaly though.
/r/seduction06/05/16 11:23 AM
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Day 27: Not my best day. Unfocused.
/r/seduction04/05/16 09:50 PM
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Day 26: Focusing on eye contact is becoming very natural. I feel less in my head, more human and more respected.
/r/seduction03/05/16 04:00 PM
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Day 25: Walked around town with my head up. Occasionally started reading my phone which is sloppy. It's definitely much better if you make strong open eye contact that they initiate. You initiating and staring is probably too intimidating for most girls.
/r/seduction02/05/16 08:05 PM
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Day 24: Met up with girl. Tried to use good eye contact skills. Not breaking eye contact by looking down etc.
/r/seduction02/05/16 08:03 PM
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The best groups to go for are 2/3 girls and share attention between them. They will end up competing for your attention if one of them is attracted to you.
/r/seduction01/05/16 12:49 PM
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Sounds like you're purely justifying your fear. "Let's go get a beer." "I'll meet you at the bar at 7 pm tomorrow" Then you meet them there. Everything after that is building and gauging attraction and escalation.
/r/seduction01/05/16 12:30 PM
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Well you need to understand I came from an abusive family. I worked hard in university and got a good job so I could escape. I was seriously depressed/anxious/fucked up. I went to counselling for a year to deal with my issues. I moved into a houseshare with other people in their 20/30s. (I also subsequently lived with 3 girls for 1 year). I started lifting (and reading r/gainit). I try and dress well. I say yes to almost every invitation to do something social and put my hand up to present at wo…
/r/seduction01/05/16 10:56 AM
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It is socially acceptable and even encouraged to shame masculinity. Femininity is embraced in almost all its forms in western society. Any girl using a dildo is finding herself (in fact I'm sure some people would label it art). Any man with a fleshlight is a creepy loser. Go to r/amiugly, look at how every guy is ignored and not given any advice that may help him (lift, dress better, new hair etc.). Then see how much attention is given to plain girls who are told "you are soooo cute" "8/10" "wou…
/r/seduction01/05/16 10:31 AM
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I only started at 24. In the past 3 years I've completely changed. I've gone from socially awkward, frail loser to chilled out attractive guy. It's going to take more time to earn the unquenchable confidence I want, but I coming from the very bottom I have always understood this.
/r/seduction01/05/16 09:44 AM
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Day 23: Hungover and didn't do much today
/r/seduction01/05/16 09:33 AM
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Day 22: Went out to the club. Was in a pretty bad mood (my favourite football team had just gotten robbed at an incredibly pivotal time of the season :( ; ( :( ). Took a couple of beers and a while for me to feel into the club vibe but it eventually came. I noticed the strong eye contact that guys sometimes say girls are capable of. I held it quite well. A Latin girl there took a big interest in me. We danced a lot (I notice my body language is more open now, which makes me feel more cool in clu…
/r/seduction30/04/16 09:39 PM
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Day 21: Locked eyes with a really hot girl walking down the street. Should have smiled slightly or something. Much more effective during conversations. Feel more assertive.
/r/seduction28/04/16 11:03 AM
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Day 20: Nothing special. Feck. Had a bad day in general.
/r/seduction28/04/16 10:59 AM
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Day19: Did good chatting with girl in work. Was with another guy whose eye contact is pathetic and I can see clearly how girls would be turned off. Caught some girls looking at me, I held there face well. I think I may be a little stony faced. Need to be willing to express a slight smile and see what happens. In general terms my eye contact was solid. Back on track.
/r/seduction26/04/16 05:45 PM
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Day 18: Nothing notable. Bit tired. Need to make up for this failed day.
/r/seduction26/04/16 09:40 AM
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Don't be so invested in one girl when you haven't even spoken, it doesn't matter if she does or doesn't like you, you will still live in either scenario.
/r/seduction25/04/16 03:36 PM
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Go on a trip where you will need a B&B. That way you do something exciting during the day, fuck at night and don't come across weird. Once you sleep with her, she'll want that connection again so it will open and easier to organise hey staying over.
/r/seduction25/04/16 01:55 PM
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Just accept it, smile and wish them well on their way. There is no point fighting it. Girls don't like guys who nonchalantly accept being rejected, they expect a reaction. A friend of mine dumped her boyfriend (he's an experienced guy), he accepted it and ended this calmly without giving her the emotional response she wanted. She was a wreck after dumping him and wants him back. Accepting it so easily makes her feel like he had other options and that age isn't special (which is true).
/r/seduction25/04/16 01:51 PM
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Dude you're better off just leaving it or just telling her it's over. It's pretty weak to be so passive aggressive.
/r/seduction25/04/16 01:48 PM
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You are clearly way too needy. You want the relationship more than them, this post shows that clearly. Not that you should completely disinterested. Generally it works out best if the girl is a little more needy than you. Why do you even care about being official. Why do you want it so early (3 months would even be early, nevermind 4 dates). The relationships I enjoyed most were relaxed and have even lasted beyond a year. Girls are repulsed but needy behaviour. And this is transmitted on a subco…
/r/seduction25/04/16 01:36 PM
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It's anonymity. There are no social consequences to failure there. This is why travelling girls are easier. Some much anxiety is just fear of peer judgement.
/r/seduction25/04/16 01:03 PM
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Day 17: Hung out with girl. Made decent eye contact with with service staff. Nothing special. Fucked up by watching porn until late.
/r/seduction25/04/16 12:39 PM
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Day 16: Went on a trip with a girl I'm meeting up with for the day. Kept my eyes up for the day and met her gaze strongly. Nothing too special, I think she'll give me positive feedback in her behaviour regardless of tweaks to my eye contact. Her eye contact is decent, about a similar level to my own. Part of eye contact is expression, even if it is a small expression you need to send something across rather than vacantly staring at someone
/r/seduction24/04/16 04:29 PM
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I'm well aware Turkish people are Caucasian. I am European. Not white like Scandinavians or Western Europeans but yes they somewhat similar to tanned Italians/Spaniards/Greeks. If it was just about being exotic they would be all over black guys and small eastern Asians. This is not the case and you know it. Women aren't consciously deciding this they are just naturally drawn to status. Unfortunately the world we live in has given western guys higher status and access to resources. I think this i…
/r/seduction24/04/16 01:12 PM
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Day 15: These 2 weeks so far have really opened my eyes (pun slightly intended). Before this I was hidden, it felt invasive and vulnerable to look people in the eye. Now I realised it is something very different and I had neglected an important skill. Others guys do this a lot more than me. In general terms I'm doing ok today, initiated a few times and some ok girls looked back. I have noticed a greater anxiety with prettier girls and I'm also hesitant to smile after locking eyes. Now I know wha…
/r/seduction22/04/16 12:47 PM
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Buddy I'm telling you, there's probably not even an 9 or 10 in the clubs your going to. I used to have a friend who would say this stuff. The girls he was with were pretty but nothing special. You are over valuing these girls, get that through your head.
/r/seduction21/04/16 09:43 PM
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9 or 10 are model level girls. I'm guessing you have ego problems and are trying to justify a long dry patch.
/r/seduction21/04/16 12:45 PM
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Day 14: I can see how important eye contact is in group situations. It makes you a participant rather than an observer. Not only do others see you as more involved you also feel more involved. I am no longer hiding. I had lunch with some colleagues now and without being forceful and simply employing good eye contact it felt like I was taking on social responsibility and being a leader of the group during social interaction rather than hiding. I still don't feel 100% comfortable like this but I j…
/r/seduction21/04/16 12:36 PM
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It's all about being confident in yourself rather than insecure. Holding yourself well.
/r/seduction21/04/16 10:13 AM
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This isn't just an American thing. I live in western Europe with a similar experience. I bet the Turkish guys don't think it's so "easy" there, though I'm sure it is easier for you and me. You need to understand that decently attractive western white guys are very highly valued by the majority of girls. It's not a conscious thing and many girls do like other ethnicities but in general it holds true. When you are the only white guy they will meet, your value skyrockets. It's a subconscious thing …
/r/seduction21/04/16 09:19 AM
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Were you sleeping with her?
/r/seduction21/04/16 09:05 AM
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It's just a learning process at the start. You learn best with mistakes and experience than pure theory. Now you know to be careful with your investment though not necessarily closed.
/r/seduction21/04/16 08:30 AM
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Yeah, definitely a troll
/r/seduction21/04/16 07:34 AM
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Day 13: Decent days effort today. Had one really good moment with a girl outside my apartment. A check out girl started blatantly flirting with me at a coffee shop. My colleagues were with me and joked about it in the office so it wasn't just me imagining it. Did my eye contact work help out with this, I don't know. I wasn't paying special attention at that moment but I do think my improvements are becoming more second nature as I'm focusing so much on that specific element. I'm still noting tha…
/r/seduction20/04/16 06:51 PM
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But why do you care if she is mediocre looking? I mean if girls looking for successful, strong and handsome means they are being entitled bitches aren't you being an entitled bitch too. Or alternatively part of life is people having sexual preferences... My advice for you is get any scrap you can and cling onto it forever.
/r/seduction20/04/16 07:48 AM
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You can early turn into your cherished casual relationship from there.
/r/seduction20/04/16 07:46 AM
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Day 12: Not much happened this morning, I didn't have my breakfast I guess. In work I held decent eye contact with the hottest girl I work with during group conversation. Also made good eye contact with someone who I had a big row with previously which felt good. Outside of work I caught a girl blatantly staring at me and made a few decent eye contacts. A lot of the tone on public areas it's never going to work as there are too many distractions but getting the minor successes feels good. I know…
/r/seduction19/04/16 09:40 PM
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Ask her some stupid shit. Don't be lame and cheesy asking something like "are you good at kissing???" If you want to get her to meet up just be chilled out and ask her.
/r/seduction19/04/16 03:39 PM
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Dude, you have to accept life not fight against it. Men have difficulties and responsibilities, women have other difficulties and responsibilities. That's just how it is. Life isn't about perfect equality we haven't evolved for that. I mean you could go for a bottom of the barrel girl if you wanted. If you truly don't care about these "societal constructs" you will not care about how she looks, her past, her physical condition etc. How you're talking I'd consider getting some help tbh.
/r/seduction19/04/16 09:46 AM
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You are too insecure to bring a girl to a bar. You are hiding behind some kind of bizarre justifications. Go to a bar with a girl. There is literally nothing to lose.
/r/seduction19/04/16 09:41 AM
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That's true. Having the balls to try something is a better start than most.
/r/seduction18/04/16 05:53 PM
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She reacted positively because you fed her ego. Girls love attention and she'll be able to tell her friends about a guy writing a poem for her. You put yourself in a position of being lower ("I'm ugly and short and she is beautiful") than her and chasing after her. That's not how this works. Why not think I'm cool, fun and confident and she hasn't shown me anything yet. Your initial thought and self flagellation is purely superficial. You simply have to value who you are. Her refusing to give he…
/r/seduction18/04/16 03:05 PM
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Day 11: Doing well today. Did some mirror self talk this morning and last night. I might post up my inspiration for this later it might encourage others. Have made some solid eyes with different girls this morning, sometimes failing mostly not thankfully. Held great eye contact throughout a work meeting. I felt like a more important member of the team. Got a great reaction waiting at a road crossing. A bus was passing by slowly held up by traffic. I noticed a very hot milf looking at me. I looke…
/r/seduction18/04/16 01:13 PM
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Day 10: This is a strange days report. This was the first day in about a month I visited my family Basically today's challenge was making solid eye contact with my family. To be honest today is the day where I have really realised where my issue stemmed from and it was certainly here. I have a terrible relationship with my family. This was quite uncomfortable but I put in the effort, so I'm counting it as a success. As per my last post I also did some studying and found out about comfort zone ch…
/r/seduction17/04/16 03:17 PM
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Day 9: Didn't have much human interaction so far today. Caught some girl looking at me and looked right back into her eyes on the way to the gym. I am finding myself feeling a bit creepy attempting to initiate eye contact. I guess that is just me being a bit anxious though. Made an effort with conversations and it does seem to help, have a spare couple of hours tomorrow where I'll do more research and come up with ideas of progressing the difficulty.
/r/seduction16/04/16 08:42 PM
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Day 8: In the morning I was slightly hungover. Had a chance of practicing during a group lunch but I was so fucking tired and I drifted into old habits. I'll update with how the evening goes. Better in the evening, held out eye contact well. I feel I need a strategy in place for progression.
/r/seduction15/04/16 01:26 PM
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Day 7: Have to be honest I only paid a bit of attention to the challenge today. Went out with a girl and we arrived back home drunk. I consider it a bit of a failed day for this challenge even if by typical seduction standards it was a success.
/r/seduction15/04/16 01:23 PM
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Day 6: Holding eye contact well and still noticing I'm more engaged with others. Nothing special today or out of the ordinary. I did chicken out with hot girls at times admittedly. I feel like I shouldn't be so stone faced when making eye contact with cute girls. I should smirk when I notice them looking at me but I haven't had the balls yet.
/r/seduction13/04/16 07:42 PM
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Your right it is so incredibly lame. Saying what you're doing kills any mystery. Not to mention most guys here are learning and will come across as mildly retarded while they stutter it out. Something a little bit on the cooler and normal side of things should be used. Maybe a simple "Hey, how's it going".
/r/seduction13/04/16 09:56 AM
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Day 5: During my walk into work I successfully held eye contact a couple of times until the other person looked away (they initiated). I've realised it has to be natural. It's not just a case of manically staring at everyone until they look at you. Also facial expression is important. You want to show that your cool and relaxed and not intimidated by anything. You don't want to intimidate others, which can easily happen. I do feel more confident and active walking around with my eyes up. In grou…
/r/seduction12/04/16 11:04 AM
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I agree it's the fundamental connection that initiates communication, it creates an environment where you can be social. I've been noticing more people are inclined to talk to me and I'm more inclined to talk to others. For example I get food in a certain shop a couple of times every week. Today was the first day I actually conversed outside of making my order with the checkout woman. I wish someone told me when I was young I was doing it wrong, but I guess everyone assumed that it was who I was…
/r/seduction11/04/16 08:43 PM
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Day 4. I'm going to keep this on for at least the month. Made good eye contact with a cute girl on the way to work, noticed she turned her head to see me when I went past. Felt more engaged during group situations even if I was still a bit quiet. Also held the gaze of my incredibly intimidating boss well. Nothing spectacular but a good day.
/r/seduction11/04/16 05:49 PM
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You are fine. You just need experience. Allow yourself to fail, this will allow you to succeed. I had social anxiety and depression and didn't have any experience until the age of 24. Now I'm 26 with plenty of experience, I'm not perfect but I do fine with girls now.
/r/seduction11/04/16 11:25 AM
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Could be a self esteem issue, that you don't value yourself that much Or that you feel your intentions are dishonest, ie. you do not care how they are and just want to get somewhere with them but feign interest.
/r/seduction11/04/16 10:28 AM
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Day 3: I have to admit I haven't been doing much today. Spent the morning/afternoon in bed with that girl. Did focus a little on extra eye contact but tbh I'm tired now and am not leaving the apartment. I am doing a self mirror talk thing, which is very motivational. I forget where I found it but it seems to give me more confidence in my expressions. Seems like a good feedback system so I can know how my eye contact is. I'll try and go into more detail on this another time. Tomorrow I will be re…
/r/seduction10/04/16 11:14 PM
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Yeah, I'd be freaked out if a guy was staring at my lips.
/r/seduction10/04/16 10:41 PM
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I hope so. Actually just had a good experience with a fairly hot shop assistant who started a general conversation with me. Not sure if eye contact really came into to play as I was really mostly focused on what I needed to find in the shop😂 In general though I'm feeling a little more tuned into life already, if you know what I mean. The phone must stay in the pocket and the eyes also up from the floor.
/r/seduction09/04/16 12:42 PM
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One thing I've realised is that we're not reinventing the wheel. What I mean by that is I know guys with good eye contact who are popular with women. Keeping their techniques in mind should help. I think the idea of this being an unknown skill leading to ridiculous attempted technique is what can create the creepiness. It's about employing good habits and in my case I'm aware of these habits but not particularly confident about using them.
/r/seduction09/04/16 11:16 AM
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Day 2: Just completed the morning and I've not been able to use the shower or sink, so I'm not my most presentable. This has given me a feeling of wanting to hide and avoid eye contact. Lesson is obviously feeling confident about appearance helps and I guess so does preparation. Meeting girl I've been sleeping with for a few months tonight. Going to see how more confident eye contact influences her.
/r/seduction09/04/16 11:10 AM
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I have actually done pornfree for 1.5 years. Yeah is great help. I prefer pornfree with controlled behaviours to nofap for a few reasons.
/r/seduction09/04/16 10:56 AM
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Day 1: This is hard, I didn't expect it to be easy but fuck. I felt nervous walking down the street making eye contact. Particularly with attractive women. Not sure what it stems from. At least I made a concerted effort and can see clearly I have an issue. In terms of conversation I'm reasonable comfortable making solid eye contact with men. However I'm not good with women. There was a new girl at our table during lunch who kept on making eye contact with me. I was very weak in this circumstance…
/r/seduction08/04/16 05:57 PM
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