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STRATEGYhonestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:18 AM
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#KickHimOut2020honestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 01:35 AM
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honestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:38 PM
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NAH, SIShonestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:01 PM
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LEVEL UPhonestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 12:55 AM
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honestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 05:05 AM
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honestgoing/r/ExRedPill25/12/19 03:11 PM
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DISCUSSIONhonestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:11 PM
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DISCUSSIONhonestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 03:31 AM
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DISCUSSIONhonestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 03:31 AM
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LEVEL UPhonestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:26 AM
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DISCUSSIONhonestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 07:04 PM
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honestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 05:33 AM
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honestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:56 PM
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honestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:31 AM
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DISCUSSIONhonestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:31 PM
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Question For Menhonestgoing/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 03:44 AM
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honestgoing/r/ExRedPill29/10/19 07:27 PM
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honestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 06:57 PM
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honestgoing/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/20 02:09 AM
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honestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 01:18 PM
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honestgoing/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:56 PM
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She already got it down to 300...
/r/PussyPassDenied24/04/21 07:37 PM
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Well it would make sense that there are more cases where diversity helps in a social context. Eg strip search by someone of your own sex. Outside of those specific cases, yeah I agree, I can't account for it either.
/r/PussyPassDenied02/03/20 02:42 PM
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With the hair thing though, I wouldn't want anything abnormal because it's unprofessional and I don't want that to affect my work life given that I work in a professional environment. If I ever don't have to work - my hairs going blue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 05:34 AM
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How do you get a documented STD test? Whenever I've done one it hasn't involved paper work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 04:00 PM
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That's so stupid. The show I loved as a child was sailor moon. Good expectations for me 🤣 I'll just hold out for a guy in a top hat who saves me from dangerous situations with roses. Also we were lovers in a different life time and he was literally a prince.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:46 PM
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What the
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/20 03:05 AM
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I've only used it twice. Definitely not an everyday term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 06:46 PM
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Not as well as I do, but yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:34 PM
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I've been on 3 first dates. Best one. He picked me up from home, we went to a steak house, saw a movie, then hung out at the mall and got over cream. We were 16, and the dates got better from there as he started earning his own money. We stayed together for a long time, well into adulthood, then we broke up because he was unwilling to move forward. I was spoiled during that relationship which is nice. 6"2, rich, decent shape, sense of humor, educated. But he wasn't willing to get married, move i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 04:29 PM
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What about creating an entirely separate subreddit for pics and making this text only?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 03:43 PM
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"I've had more good experiences with guys that pay and more bad experiences with guys that don't pay. After I noticed this, there's no going back for me." Realistically you can't explain all of FDS. But you can plant the idea in their mind that there's something fundamentally different between men who don't pay and the ones that do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:54 PM
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I would just say no thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 09:49 PM
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Doesn't speak til spoken to? Uhh I've never thought of that as ever being remotely qualifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 06:04 PM
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Eh. Things are fundamentally different for men and women. They see the world in a different way, so without truly trying to empathize, yes, things will sound ridiculous. If you don't create a high barrier for someone trying to fuck you, then anyone can fuck you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 04:43 PM
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I like how this one is topical - it's shows the modernity of losers in using fucking Corona virus to restrict their wives. "If I "suffer" taking care of our child, she has to suffer that evening as well"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:08 PM
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"not having the kinds of sex life I want" I almost cried for him 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:05 PM
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Sometimes the problem is honestly that women don't know they can say no. They might know it intellectually but they don't actually feel they can do it. It's fucking allowed Jesus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:01 PM
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That's so gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:00 PM
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Who the fuck takes reality TV shows seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:59 PM
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Only go if you want to go. You're not his girlfriend, you don't have to support him emotionally right now, you have 0 obligation. If it were me I'd be bored out of mind in a crowd of people I don't know watching an activity I don't like. I'd probably say no thanks and say I was busy that day. But of you were interested in whatever sport he played, sure, you might have fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:36 AM
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I've dated Asian men and they were just as emotionally available as other men. Just my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:33 AM
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I'm childfree also. While I agree with personal choice, any society that does not put pressure on women to have kids will probably die out. Look at japan. Most women can't have kids or partners. Their society isn't reproducing fast enough. Society should be structured in such a way that people who want kids are not deterred by cost or lack of social support. That means, IMO, having quality publicly funded education, access to child care, men contributing, maybe baby bonuses. I'm anti kid for me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:16 AM
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I won't date anyone who self identifies as a gamer because they are straight up telling me they won't have enough time for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:10 AM
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Is there a way to not get directs specifically?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 04:55 PM
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I blame the partner a million times more than the other woman though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 04:53 PM
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This is why living together before marriage is something I support. She didn't learn this until they lived together. Being engaged should be a test run to find out whether those annoying everyday quirks are acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 10:37 PM
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She says she's happy with what she's doing =\ she's not even making an attempt to change it, as far as I'm aware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:08 PM
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Exactly. It's nothing short or sexism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 03:06 PM
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6 months is super early to move in, whether or not you follow FDS. Frankly I don't feel like there's info enough here. I do think that you're rushing him. This isn't a forever girlfriend scenario, I probably have frozen meat that's older than your relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:56 PM
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When they explained cool girl it just clicked so well..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:33 PM
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I agree! Keep your frogs!! If he loved you enough he'd put up with a million frogs. Don't let him spoil your passion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:31 PM
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When your frogs are literally better companions than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:30 PM
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To minimize the ambiguity of where the relationship is headed; to show compatible values; to more clearly define who you are to each other and what you can be too others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:29 PM
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Just do what you feel like. You're not obligated to give him a shot. Only do it if you want to. Don't go for practice or a meal IMO. Go if you're interested in learning more about him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 08:00 PM
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That's just gross. I want someone to love me for being a couch potato. Let me be my worst self and contribute nothing, and that's how I want to live. That's actually gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:39 PM
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I need a hair cut -.-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:27 PM
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Being spoiled by a man is great. Sometimes it's financial and sometimes it's effort. It's not something you have to be ashamed of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:26 PM
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Can he purpose with a chicken nugget?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:24 PM
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One part about porn is that it teaches men that women don't say no. They don't actually internalize the choice that comes with having sex. That can come with so many effects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:23 PM
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Sure, for that particular STD that the majority of North America has. One example of where it doesn't work doesn't mean it can work for other STDs..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:45 PM
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I don't think it's possible to know where you got HPV from though. Most people have it and it's rather pointless to test for. Vaccine here is best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:31 PM
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Oh for sure. I wouldn't drive to a different city to meet a guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:27 PM
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Like what? I know HIV/AIDS is separate, and so is herpes I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:25 PM
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Bask in the satisfaction!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:24 PM
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I feel like this is like the "I was born this way" argument for gay rights. "I can't help that I'm a man who likes men, therefore it should be legal for me to marry men" Well no that's not where the right comes from. There are certain things certain people are attracted to that AREN'T okay to translate into being legal just because they were born to like it. Even if it's a choice, I support gay marriage. Even if your standards are a choice, I support women having standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:23 PM
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The only thing that I've found works even a little bit with friends with low standards is to tell them that they deserve better. No one dislikes hearing that - you can't argue against it without demeaning yourself. It's not guaranteed to work, but, yeah, it's the only thing I've found to penetrate the skulls of younger friends. I'm going to go ahead and suggest not pressing her too hard - you want to be there for her when it fails, and if she feels that your judgemental she might avoid talking t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 04:08 PM
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To be honest I disagree with that part. I don't trust men I'm just meeting enough to give them my home address. I'll drive and meet them at the location of the date until I feel they're not a crazy person. I suppose it's a little different in a country where transportation is more than the cost of a date though, that's crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:49 PM
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Clowns do make the night less boring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:46 PM
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I don't expect favors from my male friends unless we are in physical proximity. I wouldn't call a male friend for help, but if he was there I'd ask.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:38 PM
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Personally I like getting tested between each partner. If I get an STD I want to know who is at fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:33 PM
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<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:16 AM
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That dudes not fit lol look at his face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:06 AM
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I've had guys react with more interest when I told them there was a squirrel outside of the window.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 03:04 AM
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Aw
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:58 AM
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I broke up with an ex before joining FDS. He responded by saying "But I love you." What does that have to do with it?? I'M unhappy with YOU. How does "I love you" counter that in the slightest??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:56 AM
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Holy shit I love that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 02:49 AM
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Outside of family, I can't say I've loved many men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:14 AM
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I think I am straight up jaded. But I also don't think I'm wrong. I understand good men exist in the abstract, but the ratios... Idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:05 AM
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where I'm forced to hope they do the right thing. Oof, nail on the head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 01:00 AM
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I just want the peace of mind of owning a home. I think saving 5k per year for retirement when you're in your 20s is also just fine, it's not like I'm not doing it at all. Theoretically, you could compare the interest on your mortgage to the interest you accumulate on your investments and come to a perfect answer, but the answer is prone to change depending on how your investments are doing and on whether you've got a fixed or variable mortgage. I just really like the thought of not having to pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 12:39 AM
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I'm focusing on reading. I spent my undergrad feeling like reading was a waste of time because I could be studying. I have so much to catch up on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:41 PM
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Well at least you realize it's a problem. I think acknowledging that humans are built to seek love and companionship is the first step. It's not abnormal for you to feel how you do. But it is unhealthy. I think it's worth it to perhaps see a clinical psychologist. But if you're determined to do it by yourself, then I think you need to slowly start putting energy into different things. Your friends your family. Honestly treat it like an addiction. Because it is. If it supercedes everything else, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:29 PM
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Would I rather end up alone with cats, or divorced and alone with cats because I settled?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 11:11 PM
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Possibly - and I don't mean this offensively - because I feel valuable regardless of what men do. If you're basing your self esteem on men, you're going to be in a terrible place mentally. Men lie, cheat and abuse. And some are lovely. I'm not going to torture my psyche because someone else isn't good enough for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:54 PM
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This is worse than it seems. He'd filtering everyone out with a backbone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:51 PM
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It's made me realize I'm in no place to date. That's better than dating aimlessly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:49 PM
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Imo, if he identifies as a gamer it's a deal breaker. Playing a video game occasionally is fine imo but I can totally see where other women are careful because they are designed to be a time sink.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:48 PM
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Be there for her, show her that her value does don't depend on men liking her. Let her wallow a little, but then do something fun. Something she enjoys. Tell her she was exceptionally mature in creating a boundary and refusing to let him cross it. Grown women even have a hard time with this. Honestly it's just time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:46 PM
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Honestly I haven't dropped friends that give bad advice. I just don't listen to their advice or ask for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:43 PM
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I would say no, it's not apart of leveling up, even if on some occasions it can help you. I think the psychology of this is dangerous. If you are fixing one specific, obnoxious feature, then maybe it can help you. For example, a large scar, a broken nose, or something painfully obvious like a lazy eye (surgery, though not plastic surgery) then I think it's helpful. If it's something exceptionally vain, I think you need to reassess whether you are thinking it's a solution to your dating life or y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:41 PM
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I don't think I've been criticised in person over looks since the 3rd grade. I'm short? Like anyone I'm prone to getting something stuck in my teeth? I'm not Hera but I just don't think people are that rude. I've only ever been physically criticised online by people randomly calling me fat for an unpopular opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:32 PM
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What do you guys do to fight the temptation of getting in the sheets??????? Sex toys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:27 PM
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I think it's possible for a LMV to become a HMV. I wouldn't worry about whether someone "switches" for another woman because it can give you hope that you can change someone. Some men are HMV right now. That's what should matter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:25 PM
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What the hell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:21 PM
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I wouldn't say that I've lowered my standards, I just didn't think about what they were. I think that's okay if you're casually dating and figuring out what you want, but it's not good long term. Right now I don't even know what I want from men; there's not a single thing that could convince me to be with someone right now. I agree with all of your standards and if I were dating they would also be a minimum requirement for me. Idk. Still figuring this shit out myself while absorbing good feels f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:20 PM
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That's rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 10:11 PM
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Exactly. For me, it's especially relevant to porn. Everyone just thinks it's okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:27 PM
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Yeah definitely, but also don't waste your time on someone whose going to get pissy about having to wait. I'm not saying everyone at the gym is automatically a pick up artist, but it's an extra thing to look out for at the gym specifically. I agree with other people's suggestions about different active things like sports. There are probably very few men who join a soccer club to pick up women, but there are probably a lot of gym bros who are specifically there to be fuck boys and pick up women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:22 PM
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Please someone tell me that she's suing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:19 PM
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Pick up artists. Basically one of their strategies is to cold approach. They'll ask dozens of women out just to try. The gym is an easy place to do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:17 PM
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Omg lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:16 PM
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I snorted 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:16 PM
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OP you faked this picture for karma 🤣🤣🤣 I refuse to believe this is real. This is ridiculous!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:16 PM
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I have previously bought into the mistake of not wanting to be thought of as a goldfish. My previous ex offered to buy me a bike, buy me an extra phone, and buy me expensive make up I wanted to try. I said no because I wanted him to think I liked him for him instead of what he could give me. The lesson I've learned is that if I had said yes, he would have felt more invested in staying with me. I should have just let him spoil me because he wanted to express love and appreciation that way. He alr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:14 PM
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Gym bros who ask you out... Idk be cautious of puas who are trying to use you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:08 PM
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This makes me want to barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:06 PM
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The guy with the biggest dick I've slept with was horrible at oral. I think he felt that it was all about size and didn't realize the importance of clitoral stimulation. Like everyone KNOWS the clit is important, but idk I'd honestly be extra wary to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:05 PM
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Right now I'm concentrated on paying off my home and only adding 5k to retirement savings. I'm young so I still have time. I'm rather conservative with investing and stick to index funds for now. Once the economy is doing shittier I'll think about diversifying, but in the mean time all of my excess of income is being saved to put towards my mortgage when I renew it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 08:01 PM
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I genuinely don't believe poor men have space to love. They're either apathetic about money and the peace it brings to your life, or, they have to be guarded against people taking what little they have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:53 PM
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100%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:50 PM
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It's a great question. I'm a grown ass adult and I don't know the material to get the fuzziest sheets. I've tried googling but ordering hasn't worked. High thread count + cotton or Bamboo feels like the softest to me, but I know I've felt softer at hotels so I'm regretting not looking at the tag. I think I've spent $1300 on bedsheets so far and I'm still not 100% satisfied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:48 PM
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I've realized I can't take advice from one of my close friends. She just thinks anything is okay and makes excuses trying to be understand of everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:44 PM
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Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:42 PM
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It's shit like this that makes me think one day we should have internet police and that maybe it won't always be a bad idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:31 PM
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Ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:30 PM
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I mean, of course breaking your partner's things is wrong, but this looks like someone smashed their own concealer for retweets. Unless I'm missing the context.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 07:18 PM
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Can't you just sign up again though? There are text verifying services for like a dollar for confirmation codes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:11 AM
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Does that do anything?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 06:03 AM
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Go cold turkey. I've been cheated on and it sucks. If you want to PM me as a substitute, or even just reply here, whenever you feel the urge to text him, just do it. He's an asshole but you're above it. You are. You don't deserve to be cheated on - you deserve infinitely better than that. He doesn't deserve to hear from you. It's a GOOD thing you found out. Imagine how much more this would have hurt if you had stayed longer? It's hard to get over this and it will take a while. But it's the best …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:47 PM
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Easy sex, easier to leave, women tend to do more cooking and cleaning. I imagine some men feel like it's having a maid they can have sex with at will. What benefit do some get from having to clean up after someone? I really don't know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:41 PM
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I'm genuinely concerned people like this will try to rape women. I feel bad for anyone that's socially isolated. I'm sure it sucks to have something you want. But man this is so disgusting... "How can I have sex within 24 hours of meeting a girl by manipulating them, and please member I have no social skills and not enough money to afford a prostitute" Like shit this is why I carry pepper spray and a concealed knife. I'm not concerned about thuggish drug dealers - I'm concerned about some creepy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:25 PM
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That hurts to look at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:19 PM
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Reasonable perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:17 PM
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Cleaning, cooking. I'm never cooking for anyone unless they've done it for me and it was amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:16 PM
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I was in that situation and tried the "communication" route. My boyfriend was perfectly lovely and respectful otherwise. He gave me anything I wanted to be happy, so I told him I wanted marriage. I gave him a lot of time because we were young. But after university, I was more direct. This man loved me and spoiled me with anything I wanted and lots of things I did t ask for. I never thought it would be a problem. He ended up leaving me and gave me a 7 page note about how he loved me but we wanted…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:10 PM
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Are ex convict drug addicts considered alphas? Jesus
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 12:04 AM
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I think in general it's harder for anyone to stay physically attractive past age 50-60 regardless of gender. It's not impossible but it takes more time and effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 12:02 AM
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Half of the advice is to make yourself more attractive (work out, don't be lazy, become self sufficient, be more social, take chances, do interesting things and straighten out your life). That alone will make your dating prospects better whether you are a man or woman. The sexist manipulative stuff that follows? Idk. Sometimes being manipulative works. Sometimes it sours your perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 11:58 PM
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Victims if they were lied to or manipulated. If two consenting adults get together and they part ways happily, I call that a win for both parties. It's not what I want and I'm not sure it's healthy, but idk you do you. I don't think calling men or women losers is nice. Name calling in general I don't like.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 11:48 PM
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Yes but vibrators feel better than sex. For me, there's not much I get out of sex that a vibrator can't provide, EXCEPT an emotional connection and post sex cuddles. That's why I don't have sex outside a relationship. I'll link my post comparing having sex to using a vibrator. https://www.reddit.com/r/femaledatingstrategy/comments/et4m0v Please remember FDS is female only. Reply to this post here instead of the linked post.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 11:30 PM
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I think we should legalize and regulate because it's going to happen anyway. That involves: STD screening security for women protecting men from the parenthood issue. taxing hoping curbs the human trafficking issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 11:27 PM
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I am not a traditional woman, but I do like cooking. I like the results of cooking more than I like the act of cooking. I can make a healthy tasty meal for half the cost and calories than eating from a restaurant. But I don't like cooking more than say, watching a show in netflix. It's an enjoyable activity but falls somewhere between watching a Netflix show and watching paint dry. It's not something I'd for fun, but something I do for the benefit it brings I'd never be a stay at home mom becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 11:21 PM
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I have nothing against the good pua advice that's rather benign, like pay attention to their friend so they want your attention. I just don't like the thought of people being intentionally rude to try to get something out of you like negging. It tiptoes into abusive territory, even if it is not itself clear abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 11:17 PM
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I'm not sympathetic on dating standards since it's inherently discriminatory. I am sympathetic to men's issues politically. For example, homelessness; it's largely a men's issue. I don't care about it as a men's issue, I care about it because people, regardless of gender, are suffering and I don't believe that's okay when legislation or policy could fix that suffering. Another, most men don't like prostate exams because it's physically invasive and so their health deteriorates. I totally support…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 11:13 PM
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For me, I've decided to play Madonna in the Madonna whore thing. Why? Risk reward. I don't see a benefit to being honest, and I see a lot of risk to being honest. It's possibly the case that all men have an inherit bias against women who have slept with many men as a strategy to ensure children they invest time in are theirs. Even though I don't want kids and don't want someone who want kids, I think that inherit bias remains. I think it's just how men are as an evolutionary consequence and even…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 11:03 PM
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Men. I've been cheated on 3/3 times, and I've never cheated, so, I've got anecdotal experience, But also men have got more testosterone, which produces increased risk taking. I'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 10:54 PM
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As a woman who sympathizes but wants nothing to do with the solution personally, I think the best solution is low cost sex robots for men. That, or do relationship/dating etc
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 10:47 PM
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You can't censor ideas. Just provide reasonable explanations for why you think it's undesirable or wrong. If you do it in a non judgemental fashion, people are more likely to internalize what you say.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 10:44 PM
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I don't envy men's position in having to initiate, but that doesn't mean I'm going to initiate with people I'm not interested in.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/20 10:41 PM
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Woah that's high praise, I should try it then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 02:55 AM
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I have dildos and enjoy them, but they make up about 10% of my sex toy usage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 06:54 PM
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It's not just that, but there's a confusion between having sex fast and having a high libido. Obviously the two aren't the same. I don't think it's worth it to argue those kinds of replies.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:34 PM
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You do you then dude I'm not stopping you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 04:48 AM
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I'm sure it's possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:44 AM
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Is this real???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:33 AM
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Why is this female dating strategy instead of... Women? Idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:32 AM
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I don't want kids. Marriage would be nice but I'm not sure if trust men enough to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:31 AM
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I'm really glad it's as easy as not having sex to filter those guys out lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:29 AM
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If this ever happens to you, pull the emergency bar/coil at the side and hopefully security can detain them. While I think anyone would be in the right for hitting back, I would be concerned for your safety in escalating it physically. I'd rather give the guy a record than a slap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:21 AM
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Omg exactly. Literally all of my exes have tried to keep the option of getting back together open.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:06 AM
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This hurts to read because I had this and then he cheated. Every time I stayed at his place, I'd get breakfast and coffee in bed. He'd wake up an hour before me, let me sleep in. I'd wake up to coffee and breakfast right beside me, eat it while watching the morning News, then go say morning and we had this ritual where we'd share what we dreamt about that night. I'd tell him I felt spoiled and that was all he needed to smile from ear to ear. He was just happy to be appreciated, happy to make me …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:05 AM
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By that logic, women are even more likely to have a distorted grasp of reality, considering they’re heavily outnumbered on tinder. Women get more attention than men do because men outweigh women, so, it can give you a confidence boost. Many women go on for that reason. I signed up to confirm whether my ex was cheating and I got like 30 likes in half an hour with an incomplete profile. Definitely can mess with your confidence. But I absolutely agree that it may alter how you view relationships or…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 03:46 AM
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I wrote a whole post on my perspective and you can read it if you like. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/es64e6/level_up_my_journey_to_fds_why_im_here_and_what_i/ TLDR posts where I put myself first with respect to safety and fidelity as a woman literally get removed. What's left? FDS, where I can get memes that make fun of low effort, women to always advise me to put myself first, and tell me it's fine to be alone if I don't like what's out there. The thing I disagree with…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/20 01:06 AM
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I'm not saying I'm not. It's just not interesting to debate if you're already against it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 10:59 PM
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I found it last week, so there's been no specific opportunity. The main things I take away, like I said at the very top of this post: it's okay to have standards that involve time thresholds for sex. it's okay to no give guys a chance if they don't meet your standards it's okay to choose no one over someone you're dissatisfied with. So many, I find it very comforting to internalize that choosing not to date is a dating strategy. Beyond that, I feel certain raid flags are good to internalize, esp…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 10:41 PM
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I'm so confused about your music point. I guess I missed the memo where they say you're supposed to reject like 40% of men who claim to love music? That seems so needlessly discriminatory so I understand why you'd be butthurt, but it's something you volunteered into the conversation rather than anything I think it's useful regardless of connection to FDS lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:38 PM
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Exactly. It makes me look at past relationships with suspect as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:34 PM
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There are a variety of opinions on different salary requirements or professions. I don't speak for FDS, but my intuition says that the strategy would be to reject you not because you play music, but because you're a work in progress since you're a student, and students tend to not have their lives together enough and are prone to stringing women along since they have settled for you before you were the final product. I don't agree with everything onFDS and I feel like looking at people and men i…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:56 PM
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I heard in the US, half of the female profiles are bots but how does that affect you? That's actually a question with an interesting answer. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tinder_(app)#Concerns of June 2015, 62% of Tinder users were male and 38% were female.[75] According to University of Texas at Austin psychologist David Buss, "Apps like Tinder and OkCupid give people the impression that there are thousands or millions of potential mates out there. One dimension of this is the impact it has o…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:27 PM
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That sounds fine to say on paper but the reality is, that if conservatives had their way, many rights I have, and that others have, would be taken away. I'm glad I don't live in America anymore, there are always attempts to strip reproductive rights, health care programs, infrastructure spending, and cuts to education. I'm not going to concede any opinions because it's a fact that dictators existed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:04 PM
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I think gravitating towards centrism can be a mistake too. You can be biased towards the middle because it provides a way to feel above common opinions. But this is why I'm not suited for a conservative and they're not suited for me. It's a terrible match.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:12 PM
2

I've never seen panhandling on Reddit. Is that allowed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:08 PM
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Regarding phones, We would take long drives together and he would ask me to read any text messages or emails he received since they were usually time sensitive for his job. Usually I'd grab it when there was a notification, tell him who it was from, and then he'd either tell me whether he wanted me to read it out loud or not. Because of that I knew the password for his phone, until I tried to be helpful one day and his password didn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:46 PM
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No... Never
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:40 PM
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It's a reality on online dating for women. The best way to avoid it is to avoid online dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:35 PM
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That's the thing though. I don't think I want another relationship. I don't think I want anything from men to do with marriage/dating/sex. I just don't think it's worth it now. As much as I'm on here to figure out what I can do, I have 0 inclination to have men in my life who aren't family or friends. It just doesn't make you happy. Why bother.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:33 PM
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Conservatives are typically against taxation even when it supports social programs that improve the well being of others. I put conservatives into two categories: they care more about being greedy than improving people's lives, in which case they are selfish they haven't fully thought about it. I look at politics through the lens of how policies can improve well being, especially for those at the lowest rungs of society, or those at the hardest times in their lives. Frequently, injecting a littl…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:23 PM
2

You caught me. I'm a 2. And also I look like an owl.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:13 PM
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But friendly debate and banter is fun and challenging your views can be a great way to understand your own beliefs in a new light. But that's exactly what it was. A broad requirement of being left isn't so specific. My partners have had different opinions on religion, philosophy, and specifics of politics. My first ex, we literally spend a full 5 hour car ride yelling at each other about determinism. My last partner, we had in depth debates about whether 911 was a conspiracy theory. Like, that's…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 09:15 AM
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Good bot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:58 AM
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Towards the end of the first relationship, he changed his phone password when he had never done that before. When I asked why he made a big deal about how I should just trust him and respect his privacy. I did trust him at the time, because trust had been established over the course of a decade. But of course, a month later I discovered he was cheated. That's left me with an insecurity when partners are guarded about their phones :| My last partner was 10000% out of the blue. I had LITERALLY met…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:58 AM
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You caught me. I'm 52
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:53 AM
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I've only seen /r/Tinder and the popular ones involve girls offering sex after a guy writes a poem. I personally think meeting through dating apps will almost certainly attract people too lazy to try meeting people in real life. I'd suggest that to any man or woman to be honest. Something like 70 to 80% of the users are male. And like half the girls on there are bots, ads, r information gathering bots.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:47 AM
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Damn you caught me in a 180 pound horse. But I made a new years resolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:46 AM
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I can sympathize in that people aren't getting the life styles they hope for but if the conclusion is using women as incubators and literal sex objects to fulfill the desires of men, I just outside disagree with the conclusion regardless of the contents of the argument. It's an interesting thing to play devils advocate for bit a creepy thing to take seriously and envision. Feels very "keep them locked in the basement" like.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:45 AM
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I literally don't think I could. I don't want kids. I could couldn't be with someone who would judge me for an abortion. I couldn't actually understand the mind of someone against health care. That's where the standards kick in lol, at that point I'd rather be lonely than be with a conservative, it sounds rather self loathing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:37 AM
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I'd say that I'm an 8 with a moderate amount of effort and approaching a 9 if I go all out. but like a 6 when I wake up. I don't feel like I'm so attractive that it's a problem. I don't get approached often, but, I've also almost always had a known boyfriend, and I feel like that's been more of a reason men stay cordial. I don't go for underdogs... not that I wouldn't. I like men who I can talk to about politics, religion, and philosophy. I feel like that's what I bond over most with people, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:28 AM
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Do you realize that the entire cosmetic industry is geared towards making women more attractive lol? I don't have to go to FDS for make up advice, I could visit one of the 23 subreddits dedicated to it, in addition to dozens of magazines about fashion. Those questions are easily bing'able. Plus the fitness industry, the fashion industry. Like nine tenths of the products in every department store are geared towards keeping women healthy or beautiful lol, I don't think that FDS feels it also needs…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 08:08 AM
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it's always on the cheater not on the victim. We shouldn't internalize the blame for shitty people and psychopaths. =( Thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 08:03 AM
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It's an interesting argument, but there's a wide gap between having kids and having sex. Are men even owed children? Eh, I don't think anyone is necessarily entitled to children? I feel like the fact that women can have children somewhat easily is more of a reality of biology rather than an actual right. society owes any population that is facing such a massive barrier to quality of life There are so many things that should be prioritized above that though... Given that you're American I'm just …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:47 AM
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I keep getting cheated on. I've gravitated towards all these pill debates because I'm angry it happened and I want to prevent it from happening again if I ever decide to date again. I'm choosing guys that I feel are good people and want the same things I want. First guy - high school boyfriend. Lasted 8 years, left me on the day we were meant to go furniture shopping so we could move in together. Left me for a coworker he had known for two weeks. Met him at school. Second guy - painted the end o…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:32 AM
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You seem objective and not hostile lol. Can I ask your opinion on something different?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:11 AM
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Don't use online dating. It is full of incels and Chads. Totally agree, for that reason, and for others as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:06 AM
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You defend yourself and your happiness by not making it so easy for them to play this game. Okay, but what does that look like, step by step? I understand, wait several months to filter out guys who want sex on demand, so you filter out guys who use you for sex at the beginning. I'm not sure there's anything that can be done past that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:51 AM
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For whatever it's worth, I very much agree that anyone slipping through the cracks - men or women - is undesirable and unfortunate. If men aren't receiving the help they need in social areas where women are helped, I agree that's a problem that should be fixed.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:43 AM
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Further, they argue that not only do you not have to work hard Every woman on FDS that I've spoken to has spoken positively about education and careers. The reason behind this is to not be financially dependent on men, so you always have the option to leave. Red Pill challenges you. I think the red pill is useful for women too. It tells you to do things like work out, and focus on your career, and unabashedly filter people out (granted, by different criteria, but the principle is useful). Readin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:37 AM
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majority of homeless or socially excluded people are men That's the first thing I thought of - men are more likely to be homeless, and I'd assume a socially left country like Finland would have safety nets for homelessness, which benefits men. Does Finland not address the problem of homelessness well? And, another question, is your stance on this based more towards the inequity regarding how men vs women benefit, or just independently, you've got libertarian leanings? If programs were introduced…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 06:07 AM
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Yea, no. Wrong. Flair: contrarian. I love that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:59 AM
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=( I'm sorry. I'm sure there are good men out there. Hopefully we learn how to filter them out better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:57 AM
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That filters the guys who won't wait. What about the ones that play the long game, being a serial monogamist with sex being the objective?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:56 AM
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I mean, you realize men have access to the same services right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:54 AM
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This is probably my biggest fear in relationships, outside of cheating. Being fed a temporary relationship with someone who doesn't intend to actually stay in a relationship, but uses a relationship mainly for sex until they get bored. Whether a man is attractive or unattractive, he can have the same mentality - he gets more sex from pretending to be in long term relationship when he has no intention of that progressing to marriage, and when he's not genuinely in it. You can prevent yourself fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 05:47 AM
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Honestly, the more I look into these "pill" debates, the more I realize that it goes like this: People are temporarily frustrated with failed attempts to get what they want They get really frustrated when they read the transactional nature people view dating/sex/relationships with They either get stuck in viewing dating/sex/relationships that way and stay here indefinitely, or they take advice they want after hashing it out, and gradually return to what they were doing before, with a mostly unwa…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:20 AM
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The positive side of RP and FDS is that they deal in reality and not fairytales. The opposite sex doesn’t like them because they shut down the game playing. They give you what you want or you move on. Yeah in this way I feel like the two ideologies are very compatible; we are happy to next each other, and happy to do it early. There's sort of a happy irony in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:13 AM
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2 guys I had sex with were virgins, and the other had spent a few months on tinder and slept around, he told me his number was ~10 women. I don't feel like I've had anything to be jealous about to be honest. I don't feel like I would be though. One thing I was oddly obsessive over was my ex boyfriends ex girlfriend. This is when I was in high school. She was so pretty and smart. She basically looked like a human tinker bell, but her IQ was off the charts. I had a huge crush on her prior to datin…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 05:10 AM
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Yeah I don't think I could wholly commit to any ideology either, inside or outside of the "pill" debates. I don't think that's possible without being dogmatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:44 AM
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in the past she didn't have such high standards and she got dicked down by 20 different dudes over the course of 2 years. So... isn't changing standards learning in that scenario? If a woman realizes having sex with a lot of people doesn't work, and she changes how she does things, that's bad? So... real simple, if I woman is easy at one point in her life, she should be easy for the rest of her life, otherwise it's unfair and men (or you and men who share your opinion) will get upset? I'm just t…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:39 AM
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Yes. I'm asking about pendulum is swinging back to moral boundaries It implies there's previous context that I'm unfamiliar with or that's been said a lot. My response is, I'm not familiar with the context in which you're saying this is repetitive since I'm not wholly engaged in the "pill" debates.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:36 AM
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I'm quite out of touch with dating. I've never dated around, I've only been in LTRs one after another and now I'm not in one and curious and reluctant about dating. Recently I've binged subreddits like /r/niceguys or other subreddits that highlight shitty messages women get on online dating. Granted, it's biased, but something I would undoubtedly be exposed to if I were to participate in online dating... and it makes online dating look 0% worth it. So I'm asking questions on a subreddit that dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:31 AM
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I've consumed these dating "pill" debates as passive and infrequent entertainment at best rather than real advice until maybe last week. So I'm not sure what you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:23 AM
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So are you talking about different standards held by the same woman, or that different women have different standards? Two different pizza places charging different amounts from each other but consistently to customers is different than the same pizza place charging inconsistent prices. Because the latter sounds like you're talking about an individual person rather than the "dating scene" at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:21 AM
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to weaponize sex to manipulate commitment from me. What does weaponizing sex look like? When I think of "weaponized sex", I think of something malicious, like a man being tricked into having a kid, or, intentionally seducing someone to break up a relationship, or something like that. I don't see withholding sex to filter out men who just want sex as weaponizing it, so I wonder how you're relating that to commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:14 AM
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So men get upset when women change their standards?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:08 AM
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What I like about men is that, like people in general, they're fundamentally good. I've seen very few men in real life express genuinely sexist views. Interests may clash, which produces the debate we see online. I think it's good to be very cautious of manipulative men; but I don't think most men evil, I think they're good.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:03 AM
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That's something that I think is important to know. There is something to be said about trusting in some capacity that if a man is already with a woman, he is "vetted" in some capacity. It's not great logic, but perhaps there were evolutionary advantages to making the predisposition to lean this way beneficial. That said, it would be a naturalistic fallacy to argue that makes it okay. Just because that's the way it is, doesn't make it right. So, I don't like throwing around stats to blame indivi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 03:58 AM
2

What's the clear pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 03:52 AM
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It's selection bias. Women with higher standards, which they are willing to defend, will be the ones who engage in the debate. Women without standards, who sleep with men more easily, don't care for this debate, so they're not here, or they come by with a passing curiosity. Personally I have no issue with being call hypergamous, up until the point that I'm pre-emptively labeled a cheater. I'm proud that I have higher standards and I'm comfortable with the idea that I'd rather be alone than not h…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 03:25 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 11:18 PM
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You don't owe exclusivity unless it's been agreed to. When things are good in the beginning, it can cloud judgement. Maybe you know him. Maybe you don't. Does he "know" you? If he does, why hasn't he asked for exclusivity? Because it's .. too early? If it's too early for him to ask for exclusivity then it's too early for him to expect it. Don't rush it. If he's right, he'll ask for exclusivity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:26 PM
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Well that's reasonable. I think you should ask her what she means, specifically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:18 PM
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Yeah that's hard to know. If a friend said that I expect too much of them that would concern me. One of you is in the wrong if something like that is being said. Either she's being too sensitive or you're being too demanding. I mean it really depends on what you're expecting... Are you expecting friends to idk pay for meals? Always meet you instead of meeting half way? Maybe using them as a therapist? Expecting things like honesty, or dependability... Those should be expectations of all good fri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:16 PM
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FDS principles suggest you should drop people not worth your time. You probably can't fix someone to be what they aren't - and it's not your responsibility to play dating coach. I don't believe in fixing men or how they treat me or others. I believe in finding men who know how to treat you from the outset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:08 PM
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Because women are abused by men. Earning more money can be a way to escape Men feel bad they are outdone by their partners. Fragile egos. We are on the brink of women outclassing men professionally. I personally think men are too easily distracted by simulations - things like video games - that provide them a false sense of accomplishment. So they're less likely to compete in professional ways. As video games become cheaper and increasingly normal, more men get sucked into completing quests rath…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:05 PM
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Holy shit. That sounds dangerous. I'm all for reproductive rights but safety is so important. For anyone needs an abortion but can't access one: https://www.reddit.com/r/YouShouldKnow/comments/a1pdrd/ysk_that_if_you_cannot_access_abortion_services/ You Should Know... "that if you cannot access abortion services for any reason, AidAccess.org will mail you the abortion pills for a donation amount of your choice." After reading the article, I found out that the abortions are induced with the pill i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:20 PM
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My guess would be that she was an immigrant. I have friends in a sort global online gaming community and in many places of the world, especially Throughout Europe, there's racism toward Muslim immigrants. I've heard stories where men are discouraged from dating women who may be seeking an easy way to citizenship. It's often routed in racism. Could be a bunch of things though, who knows. Just a theory, but it sounds identical to a friend's story, his parents berated him with the same concerns
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 07:15 PM
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There a difference between being interested in debates and being a contrarian. I love political, philosophical and even to an extent religious discussions. I don't want to debate a f'ing chicken sandwich lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:03 PM
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I have decided I'm not having sex until I'm in an exclusive relationship. If we become exclusive, have sex, and the sex is bad, it would depend how bad and why. If it sucked because he's putting no effort and seeing sex as only for him, definitely break up. I could forgive inexperience though. Just tell him what you want and like and with at that. If it doesn't get better I'd honestly be fine introducing toys that I like and having him use those instead. For me, they're just add good as sex anyw…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:32 PM
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For me it's not a matter of power. I need to know he's not a coward, and I need to know he's not just reciprocating what I say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:23 PM
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The more I see men complain about having to wait, the more it reaffirms that decision.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:21 PM
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Well that's another thing I coincidentally have in common with FDS. I don't drink, unless I'm alone and enjoying some chocolate or a good dinner, or with trusted family members. I get a diet Coke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:15 PM
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My younger self had a decent boyfriend. I don't know whether I'd tell her that he cheats. Some of my happiest memories and experiences werev with him. We grew up together. And, I'd find out anyway. Maybe I'd say, wait longer before trying to date other men after him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 03:11 PM
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Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 02:59 PM
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It's definitely "cool girl" if you're not into the hobby or if you're not yourself. Of course, don't be a gamer girl of you don't like games. It's just an example I can use without identifying what I do, because it could easily reveal who I am. But there are plenty other hobbies you can immerse yourself in for you, and meet wealthy and competitive people at the top. I mean, no, you're probably not going to find competitive high status men in competitive knitting contents. Cooking, robotics, poli…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:55 AM
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Good to know about the relationships subs. But yeah. I do have kinks, and they happened to line up with my first partner perfectly. Not having that has sucked in subsequent relationships, but I've always felt uneasy about the thought of meeting up. If you post on the BDSM subreddit you absolutely get posts of thirsty guys. I just don't think it's safe. You're already surrounding yourself with people who self describe as being domineering. Then you hear of abuse. Then you're silenced when talking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 04:21 AM
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Yeah often it does, but not always. If you try really hard at something in a male dominated place, and you've got a little talent, you'll attract the attention of men. And when you have the attention of a lot of men because it's a male dominated hobby, you get a lot of interest and more options. A very obvious example is probably gaming. Yeah there are lots of angry apish guys when you sign onto a game, but once you get into it and show that you're better at the game than scrubbish angry dudes, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 02:38 AM
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insert barfing emoji <
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:58 AM
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I don't do social media much. I get really addicted and dependent on stuff like that, so I don't join anything where I can't be anonymous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 02:46 PM
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No not really. I'd feel emotionally neglected.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 01:23 AM
1

Eh. I don't imagine this applies universally anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 11:23 PM
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Take any hobby to the extreme and at the top there will be HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 09:35 PM
4

He needs a therapist not a date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 09:31 PM
4

This is something I never would have thought of before seeing this subreddit. So far I think the best responses I've seen are "Ew".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 09:28 PM
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Not no value. I mean, a dildo is like $7. That's something. Hard to resell tho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 09:25 PM
3

There are some MMOs I play, biking, reading sci Fi. I take on puzzles or games like Go or rubix cubes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 03:15 PM
8

True..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:43 AM
2

I'll give a different perspective. I had a 9 years long relationship that started when I was 16. Whenever the holidays came around after the break up, I'd think "huh. That's the first time I've done that without my ex". It was difficult and sad and I had to excuse myself to be alone often. I'd say he moved on too quickly. Either way, you know you're not satisfied as it is. Do you want a relationship with someone who is not ready for the relationship? If the answer is that you're okay to settle f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:27 AM
8

I mean at least he's hot and can joke around, but yeah not worth the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:19 AM
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Omg. I don't do OLD but the next time someone gets a message that is basically begging you to fuck them, please reply with this image and post the results here. I will die of laughter 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:17 AM
11

That's so disgusting and sad. I'm glad they're alive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:14 AM
7

What do you recommend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:05 AM
16

Legit question, how would you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:04 AM
1

I generally steer away of anything religious. Hierarchies may exist, sometimes for the better, but when they're not questioned it just leads to abuse of power. Generally, I feel that when power is spread out among many, rather than a few, things work out better for more people. This is why, for example, democracy works better than communism in practice. I don't think women realizing their "value" is necessarily inevitable. I think it becomes more common as women experience different relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 05:35 AM
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Yeah I think TRP has convinced some men that men want sex from women and women want time from men. Women only want time from men they like lol. My philosophy since joining this subreddit: If spending time with a man is less interesting than going home and rewatching something on Netflix, then I choose Netflix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:13 AM
1

Said perfectly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:05 AM
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I need to socialize with more women in my life. My current hobbies are either solo activities or male dominated. That's okay for putting myself in a situation to date, but I don't want to date right now. Where can I find new girl friends to befriend? My social groups usually disperse after a break up and I need women in my life that are independent of someone I'm dating. I don't know where to start. Age: late 20s. I have my mom and my roommate. Very few female friends outside of that. What do yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:59 AM
6

On FDS I cannot make comments when I am on my desktop, but I can make comments when I'm on my mobile device. What gives??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 04:56 AM
4

I think women encouraging other women to have higher standards results in, over time, improving the quality of what men have to offer. For example, imagine women are major telecom companies - we get together and say "This is the 'price' we cost; pay it or don't get cell service." If telecoms come together, price fixing occurs. This requires encouraging other women to demand a certain price; in my personal opinion, this "price" isn't a strict monetary value - you can't just will people to have mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 04:23 AM
1

I only know what I've read in headlines, but I think the reality is closer to #1 than #2. Isolation is a characteristic of abusive relationships, but not everyone who moves is in isolation. I'm open to my mind changing, I suppose, but this is not an issue I'd go out of my way to correct opinions over.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/20 03:11 AM
9

About 15% of men are over 6 feet tall. About 7% of people in the US make 100k or more per year. 0.0105% is 7% of 15%. So about one in 10,000 men fit that description. Of course, it's bad math, because there's likely an overlap between those traits compared to the converse. But of course, height and income aren't the only standards, right? Each of us has our own list of what it important. Each additional requirement narrows down that list substantially. Of those 0.01% of men, how many are willing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:49 PM
14

He's focusing on himself while trying to convince you. I really like you. So?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:33 PM
3

Totally agree with politics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 02:54 AM
5

Would you rather: A) Have to do sexual favours every time you want someone to clean up after themselves. B) Have to do no sexual favours and have a clean kitchen. ??????????????? I really don't see why that's even up for debate lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 08:18 PM
5

Magic wand. Very intense and works for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:42 PM
12

Not MAYBE a vibrator, definitely a vibrator. Dildo isn't even a close second. The clitoris is where most of your nerve endings are. I recommend the magic wand. A little pricey but worth it. The cuddling thing is hard though. I admit it's one of my favorite things in the world. If anyone has a solution let me know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:41 PM
3

Lmao. Maybe women just don't like sex with the OP. Dudes just angry he doesn't have easy access to sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:36 PM
9

He sounds too entitled to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 07:34 PM
20

You know how men get frustrated that their wives aren't interested in sex, and the common advice is, maybe she's too stressed out with work, the kids and responsibilities... just try lightening the load for her, contribute, do you share, and she'll have more time to feel relaxed and thus open to sex. The behavior above does the exact opposite. Completely sets that relationship up for him saying "Why isn't my GF giving me bjs anymore? How does she expect me to do the dishes?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 05:31 PM
11

I definitely binged the redpill for a bit, but when it was around the "raping women" subreddit was by far the scariest. It was gross and so scary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 03:03 AM
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In general I like school of Life videos too lmaaao, of the ones I've seen. They're not astounding but interesting. Really good list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 02:21 AM
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I don't really understand the context to be honest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 08:40 PM
2

Well, I'm not sure I'm okay having an endless string of men who won't commit either. FWB doesn't sound good to me either. So right now I want nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:10 PM
8

Gilmore girls for me XD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:17 AM
4

Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:44 AM
2

I'm into BDSM. This is one of the primary reasons I won't engage in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:27 AM
3

I've been thinking about this so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:19 AM
2

Bots do it for free though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 04:58 AM
5

Casual sex sucks for women. Don't have your first time with someone who doesn't care about satisfying you. Women are sexual beings and we love sex too. But do you want your first time to be mediocre because you chose someone who doesn't care? Especially your first time. <3 I have a huge sex drive. Vibrators and dildos have several advantages: No STDs or pregnancy They last as long as your batteries do. A lot of men can't even go more than 5 or 10 minutes. they get the exact spots you want. they …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 03:09 AM
3

I can see the point here. But that's for well established relationships, not for dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:55 AM
1

What's old?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:43 AM
3

I'm glad I'm not the only one lol!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:34 AM
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So, I don't know if this perspective of mine fits within this subreddit, but I hope it does. I'm not shy about politics when getting to know someone. I think your fundamental world view directly impacts your politics. And I want my world view to be compatible with a man I'm seeing. Specifically for me, I use politics as a measuring stick to determine a lot of things: how much tack do you have; how good are you at manipulating the conversation to avoid revealing specific views. But also, do you c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:31 AM
3

That's an interesting perspective. Upvote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:26 AM
4

Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:23 AM
12

Why does relationship remove shit like this? This is important to talk about!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:22 AM
10

Yeah... Maybe not unwise... I would choose the word risky. He can leave you any time. Then you're a single mom with no career.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:21 AM
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I agree. I don't feel I'm entitled to a man's attention or for a man to spoil me with little things. But what's my incentive in being with you if you're not going to do that? If you're not more interesting or more fun for me than a night home rewatching Netflix reruns then I choose Netflix reruns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 02:14 AM
24

My life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:52 AM
3

This is why I stay away from dating apps as well. I want a realistic picture of what people around me are interested by. I don't want my mind artificially skewed by social media in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:31 AM
2

Maybe it's not normal, or healthy for men to do it, but virginity is fetishized but some people, especially in religious communities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:28 PM
4

I guarantee it's happened billions of times. Men get sex. That's what they want. Then they can leave. That also has absolutely happened to virgins. "Doesn't matter, had sex."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:11 PM
9

To be fair, some stuff on here is very jaded. Some of it is misandry. A lot of it comes from being hurt. But fundamentally it offers useful perspective. I've been in love with relationships. I'm happiest in relationships. But only good ones. I have a tendency to want them immediately. But with all the dating advice on the internet, this is the first place I heard, "your education won't leave you like a man can." Like damn... No one's spelled it out for me like that. No one has been in your face,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:05 PM
2

I'm friends with men I dont consider me attractive. One of the is in a relationship. I semi hacked his Reddit accounted and I know he only likes big women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:54 PM
4

So say you're dating someone and they do this. What's the appropriate response? No...? I don't want to seem like I'm cheap or unwilling to reciprocate. Or that I'm using him for food. But I also don't want THAT lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:52 PM
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I totally agree about not saying guys that binge on social media. For me that includes dating apps. From Wiki Tinder page Apps like Tinder and OkCupid give people the impression that there are thousands or millions of potential mates out there. One dimension of this is the impact it has on men's psychology. When there is ... a perceived surplus of women, the whole mating system tends to shift towards short-term dating,"[25] and there is a feeling of disconnect when choosing future partners.[76] …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:40 PM
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Same. For me personally, I think what'll work best is no sex until we're officially and exclusively boyfriend and girlfriend. You're not a "prude" or a religious extremist, but you're setting a very reasonable standard that will immediately weed out people only interested in sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 08:31 PM
2

AMEN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 01:50 PM
1

I'm going to end this conversation, this isn't useful and you seem a bit odd.
/r/ExRedPill09/01/20 11:11 PM
1

I don't find your response helpful because you're approaching it from comparing my problem with problems you feel that the entire male population faces. "I have a problem" "Don't worry, people in Africa have it worse. Keep trucking along." Don't you hate it when people invalidate your concerns with a flippant unhelpful remark like that? You just did the same thing but with men instead of people in Africa. "Keep trying" is pretty empty advice. You can have your opinion or whatever but maybe your …
/r/ExRedPill09/01/20 09:00 PM
1

It wasn't for no reason, he cheated on me after 8 years to be with a coworker he has known for 2-3 months. They were a couple inside of a week. Then she got pregnant, got an abortion, and dumped him to be with her abusive ex. I just don't trust men will stick around. Everyone is floored when I reveal what happened. We were in the process of moving in together too. I mean, I could easily "replace". That's not how I look at it. I do have a boyfriend now, but I can feel that I have trust issues. I …
/r/ExRedPill09/01/20 07:07 PM
1

Yeah he up and left. The 4 year one was because of a move for work, neither of us wanted to compromise. The only common factor here for them leaving, is you and if you're 30 now,... So what aren't you telling us? I mean you could say the same thing about every person who was single... "you mean ALL your past relationships failed? The common factor is you." So I can't really weigh that response too heavily.
/r/ExRedPill09/01/20 05:51 PM
3

Okay so. I have some time now. I think women having been more "promiscuous" since birth control became available is a huge obstacle for women being able to even find a boyfriend, let alone a husband. Do you mean to say that withholding sex, or being less promiscuous, relates to making it easier to find a boyfriend or husband? I don't necessarily disagree, but it's an uncomfortable thought. Is a good strategy to withhold sex to get what you want? On the one hand, men clearly want sex, so it seems…
/r/ExRedPill02/01/20 09:00 PM
3

I mean obviously I've done that in every relationship, so that can't be the solution. Who stays with long term partners without asking about long term goals?
/r/ExRedPill26/12/19 05:59 AM
5

Do you only accept dying of old age side by side with your legally and lawfully, recognized by state, husband, to feel like you've created a successful relationship. Yeah I want a partner to share life with, happily, until one of us croaks. That's my idea of happiness in a relationship. Resuming the dating process every couple years sounds dreadful, to boot. I'd prefer to abstain my sexual life to sex toys and vibrators, while buying love from a Golden Retriever, rather than perpetually dating.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/19 08:57 PM
6

I only read about half of this well. I'm around family for Christmas. But so much of it made sense. And a lot are things I've thought of before. And some things were a punch in the gut, things I've been unable to put into words but still believe. Hopefully you'll be available later when I have a chance to give your response more attention.
/r/ExRedPill25/12/19 04:38 PM
7

There are plenty of committed, happy couples that are in love with eachother and do get married. Sure. But men can always cheat and leave. Something like 40% of marriages don't work out. And on top of that, how many of that 60% are happy? This is all considering you can get onto a marriage to begin with, which isn't the case for a lot of people my age. Not all women are whores and not all men are players and fuckboys. I'm not name calling. I don't think there's anything wrong with being a fuckbo…
/r/ExRedPill25/12/19 04:25 PM
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I really don't think my taste in men sucks. Even after the break up, I can say with honestly that these men are good people, or were at the time that I knew them. I don't think the men I'm seeing are intentionally deceiving me or plotting for easy sex. I think it just happens, and when I ask for more of a commitment, they nope out. They're allowed to do that but I don't understand how to simultaneously create a happy relationship for now, while also not making it so good that men say "why change…
/r/ExRedPill25/12/19 04:16 PM
1

I think that's super fair. I also think it's a bit of a personal attack that he uses to say if you can't clean your room then you can't organize an economy. Cleaning your room has nothing to do with really cleaning your room, it's really how you can improve yourself. And you don't have to "fix" everything that's wrong in your life before trying to change the external world. I think that advice might be useful to people who complain about injustice when they're actually uphappy about themselves f…
/r/ExRedPill30/10/19 04:36 PM
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Moreover, several other's have touched on some of the issues, you may have read on but failed to follow up in curiosity. Some were good points, and there's no need to follow up. Some IMO were points that show bias, and and I'm not super into subtle name calling and stuff like that. The fact that you need me to inform you that it exists in the ether already shows this is a bad faith inquiry. Well excuse me for asking questions and not having read everything on a controversial topic prior to engag…
/r/ExRedPill30/10/19 02:21 AM
2

Okay so I feel like this could be a good conversation. claims and edges people on without using any real normative claims. For those of you who can't speak philosophy, he'll say stuff like "women and men are biologically different"... then lead you on to think something like "hence women shouldn't be treated the same as men"... and then leads you on think "it's your role as the man to take care of society and women". See how he goes from a fact to an "ought to". It's really insidious how he fram…
/r/ExRedPill30/10/19 12:42 AM
1

It's very hard for me to make up my mind about this. Here are things I accept: Women care for and give birth to children more than men. That interferes with average salaries because women will work less and have less opportunity to earn more or progress their careers. Men tend to go after jobs that pay more than the jobs that women go after on aggregate. I want women and men to be paid the equal amount, if all things are equal (performance, experience, etc). There is some non-zero degree to whic…
/r/ExRedPill30/10/19 12:12 AM
1

trying to squeeze data into a preconceived idea Well in what way does he do that? Just for the sake of argument, if someone on the other side of this issue said "Peterson's opponents just squeeze data into preconceived ideas", it's just both people pointing fingers you know? Without specifics it's hard to make up my mind about which side I agree with more. Maybe it's not worth it to argue to Peterson himself, but, I'm trying to be open minded here. I'm almost looking for reasons to not take his …
/r/ExRedPill29/10/19 11:58 PM
1

yeah I meant sexism. It's a big assumption to say that it's only "because of factors like job choice and interest" I said "a lot" not "only". In what ways do you think the LGBT community takes things too far? Most of the complaints (including calling it something like the 'LGBTQ+AI..... community') are little more than right-wing inventions, from what I've seen. I've listened to a lot of on the topic, mainly podcasts, but I've also met people at university who have been ridiculous about it. Ther…
/r/ExRedPill29/10/19 09:24 PM
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