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| 14 | The MAIN thing women wantYou make some good points, but your attempt to “simplify” took like 20 pages of text I will attempt my own definition: “Women are attracted to a man when they feel like he is going where they want to go.” That’s really the crux of everything, and explains why MOST women find certain guys attractive (rich high status in shape dudes) but also explains outliers and why a dude with no “game” still can land women of a certain kind… but not ALL women. | /r/TheRedPill | 25/02/26 04:24 AM |
| 0 | I saw a Christian therapist for the first time yesterdayfor sure, im absolutely with u that biases do exist, and having someone who works with rather than against your beliefs can definitely be helpful… at the same time, my ex wife went to a christian “therapist” who was 90% spiro bible girl, 10% professional training… and it was absolutely the WORST. What she needed was professional, clinical help that didnt try to just solve things by prayer and prophecy, but who while not opposing those things, ALSO used what we know about how the body and mind wo… | /r/RPChristians | 15/02/24 06:45 AM |
| 0 | I saw a Christian therapist for the first time yesterdayonce again… could be im reading your words incorrectly, but what you are describing is not science science is the pursuit of truth based on evidence. there is no specific goal to explain something without (or with) god thats the point - it is meant to be impartial, and look at empirical facts and draw conclusions. if those conclusions are backed by what we understand about faith, awesome. if they arent, awesome - perhaps our understanding of the bible might be skewed, just like it was when they … | /r/RPChristians | 15/02/24 06:41 AM |
| -2 | I saw a Christian therapist for the first time yesterdaysorry dude, but this is ridiculous and NOT at all what science is about. Science is the study of the world while removing BIAS. The point of it isnt to explain away God, the point of science is to study the world and draw conclusions from data, rather than trying to fit facts into a pre conceived notion of the way things are For example… the church (small c) insisted the world was the center of the universe, because their “faith” (which in reality was not faith, but a dogmatic bias ) said that h… | /r/RPChristians | 14/02/24 11:33 PM |
| 1 | People who I'm friendly with at work support pride month while I don't. (I haven't told them.) What should I say if the topic ever comes up?you say nothing. sftu | /r/TheRedPill | 28/01/24 11:26 AM |
| 6 | how do you leverage social media as a grown man?this. use it as a CV… post then leave. or cut it altogether and be the guy with too much going on in his life to bother posting. DHV | /r/TheRedPill | 10/01/24 03:25 AM |
| 9 | How To Get Jacked - A Beginner To Advanced GuideGood straight forward workout explanation OP The one thing lacking here is the mentioned dieting. In my experience getting someone to actually track macros and eat right is 50% or more of gains Given you have experience working with a range of clients, would appreciate you going in depth for your rec approach for both skinny guys and fat ones | /r/MarriedRedPill | 10/01/24 03:22 AM |
| 1 | How Do You Practically Change Mental Models?Highly recommend reading psycho-cybernetics by maxwell maltz it is about resetting and rewriting these exact kinda of patterns and ego/self image over time oys do the work etc u will naturally grow in your self image, but this book will give u some strategies to start getting some more helpful models/patterns in place that and journaling / debriefing when u get triggered. identify what the trigger was, then the FACTS (non emotional) of what happened, and break apart the illogical stories and ass… | /r/askMRP | 06/01/24 08:58 AM |
| 1 | Highest ROI / Highest leverage tweaks to implement RIGHT AWAYyeah you are kinda full of shit my man. while yes, the stuff people brought up was basics, the answers of WHICH things worked most for guys were different, thats the point and you shut down both threads, making it impossible to say what would or wouldnt have come out if more guys had chatted i dont think there is a conspiracy. just a culture that shuts down discussion but w/e u do u. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 03/01/24 01:29 AM |
| 1 | Highest ROI / Highest leverage tweaks to implement RIGHT AWAYDude… its not a question about what to do first. Its just a question about RESULTS. Which is the fucking reason we are here. and now i see comments are turned off on the ask mrp thread as well… its like we are enforcing an echo chamber, where an honest attempt at discussion gets shut down immediately. Yes, steeles guide has a “start here” But he is one man. N=1 Why the hell isnt it legitimate to survey the veterans here and see if maybe, just maybe, things can be improved upon? The results can b… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 01/01/24 09:03 AM |
| 7 | In YOUR experience, what small, simple changes / mindset shifts created the quickest results in your marriage?Comparing notes. Identifying the core things that make the biggest difference. When you bring someone into the ICU, you don't run a full bill of health, worry about their diet or ask them how often they exercise. You figure out what is most urgent and you start there. We have a framework in MRP, but in any framework or system, following the pareto principle, 20% of what's inside of here is producing 80% of the results. So that's what I'm hoping comes out of a discussion. What is the 20% here tha… | /r/askMRP | 31/12/23 07:59 AM |
| 1 | Highest ROI / Highest leverage tweaks to implement RIGHT AWAYThe reason I posted here is because it is not clear at all.... Ask mrp description is "This the sub where you can ask basic questions, have a victim puke, find a NMMNG safe person, or otherwise ask questions too basic for MRP. The kinder antechamber to the locker room that is MRP." This doesn't fall into any of those categories. There is a LOT of content on MRP. There is a TON of reading, application, exercises etc, created by a ton of individual men. There is not really a lot of discussion that… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/12/23 07:53 AM |
| 3 | Highest ROI / Highest leverage tweaks to implement RIGHT AWAYIn my own marriage one of the QUICKEST short term wins was in the bedroom. Applying principals inside of Sex God Method, being more assertive / dominant and not asking for sex led to an IMMEDIATE increase in the quantity and quality of sex. It by no means fixed the long term and fundamentals, but it was a quick win RIGHT AWAY that encouraged me to keep going deeper | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/12/23 04:24 AM |
| 9 | In YOUR experience, what small, simple changes / mindset shifts created the quickest results in your marriage?In my own marriage one of the QUICKEST short term wins was in the bedroom. Applying principals inside of Sex God Method, being more assertive / dominant and not asking for sex led to an IMMEDIATE increase in the quantity and quality of sex. It by no means fixed the long term and fundamentals, but it was a quick win that encouraged me to keep going | /r/askMRP | 31/12/23 04:15 AM |
| 14 | Is it bad your (ex) wife started dating so soon?While I get that it’s easy to dwell on this stuff, the very fact you’re posting this to me shows your focus is on the wrong things. The correct answer about all this is that asking questions and dwelling is just going to tear yourself down, make you feel like shit and do nothing whatsoever to move you forward I get it, i have been EXACTLY where you are now with a wife who left. Feel for you brother, you WILL get through this and I promise you in the end you will be better for it. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 26/12/23 10:01 AM |
| 1 | I got cheated onThis. | /r/RPChristians | 20/12/23 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Advice on dealing with depressive wife who seems to want me to manage her emotionsDude my story is so similar to yours it’s unbelievable. I too married a depressed wife, BPD etc… Dont want to get into it too deep here but I know how hard and isolating it can be. TON of lessons learned the hard way Id love to share others from going through… lmk if you want to connect. Just send me a PM | /r/askMRP | 13/12/23 07:48 AM |
| 1 | 60 Days of Dread: FinancesThis. Especially because personally I think there is plenty of wiggle room for arguing credit cards are awesome if used right and not having them at all is unnecessary. I fly around the world for free every year using my points and it saves me thousands. If you dont have the cash, bloody well dont use a card. But if you DO, and you can manage your finances and pay the card off right away, why the hell not 👌🏻 | /r/MarriedRedPill | 08/12/23 02:40 PM |
| 1 | I unknowingly married a BPD... and I need advice.Woah. Are you still married or since divorced? | /r/RPChristians | 27/05/22 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Can I have a good life and maintain sexual relationships with TMAU? Feeling hopelessI wish I could give you a super simple answer, but that's tricky. A lot of the info I was originally given on EE was not helpful for me. For example, even understanding what Eosinophils are was never explained by my dr. In super ELI5... Eosinophils are released by the body to combat disease/infection/cancer/bad news. So essentially, your body thinks something is wrong, which is why they get sent to that area. The easy solution: Remove whatever is creating the "bad news" in the area, and the Eosi… | /r/askMRP | 20/01/22 12:50 AM |
| 1 | Wife's Sexual HistoryThank you for the additional context. Clearly I was off base on many assumptions. Now I do not feel like she is safe, So here is a question: Why is it important to you that she is safe? Could it be that the rest of your life is a hot mess and you're looking for her to be the shelter in your storm? If so, that's a dangerous road to go down. YOUR role is to be the oak. To be secure, confident and self satisfied. If you NEED your wife to fill up a hole inside of you or make you feel safe, perhaps t… | /r/RPChristians | 16/12/21 04:09 PM |
| 0 | Wife's Sexual HistoryBro these feelings are 100% legitimate. ALL of your feelings are always legitimate - You're a human being with feelings, and the right to feel however you feel. The problem is you've been taught that some emotions are right and some are wrong. How we respond is what matters. Honor your emotions, don't try to control them, because you can't anyways and they are trying to HELP you. Emotions = action signals. I would highly recommend you read the book Codependent No More. You don't specifically des… | /r/RPChristians | 16/12/21 02:40 AM |
| 3 | Wife's Sexual HistoryMy wife had slept with far more people than me when we got married. I waited until our wedding night, she became a Christian as an adult. So I can relate on some level. Just reading this post I think you're not being honest with yourself. I might be wrong here, but I'm reading this I am super reserved socially stunted (homeschool style upbringing) guy who had sex with 2 virgins (my first wife, and a serious relationships after my divorce,) then bought sex. She was social from an early age and do… | /r/RPChristians | 16/12/21 02:33 AM |
| 3 | Why you need to track what you consume.I would amend the title of this article to simply "Why you need to track" The truth is, this applies equally to every other area of your life. If you aren't tracking your progress, you're just guessing & winging it. You know what winging it gets you? Shit inconsistent results. You know what tracking gets you? Self accountability and consistent results. Track every area of your life that matters to you, and you'll be amazed at the progress you make seemingly magically, even if you're not changing… | /r/TheRedPill | 26/11/21 11:16 PM |
| 4 | Wanting to explode when STFU?You need to deal with this anger and resentment. From your post it is clear you go emotionally nuclear over things that shouldnt provoke such a strong response, simply because youve been suppressing this rage for a long time. I get it, I was there You need to find a way to release the rage and express these emotions that is NOT exploding all over your wife. For me, the gym and sports helped me physically release Journaling helped me emotionally. Not just writing how i feel, but going thru the pr… | /r/askMRP | 22/08/21 03:47 PM |
| 0 | I Need ValidationRealize that the reason ANYONE does anything in life is for a reward in some way shape or form. This might be validation from others (external) It might be to receive resources / money in exchange for your work (external) Or it might be to make you feel good but is destructive... Like jerking off or binging an extra large pepperoni pizza that you wash down with a 2L coke (internal) Finally, the golden prize: Doing something that is internally motivated, AND aligns with your values, goals and mis… | /r/askMRP | 12/08/21 11:09 PM |
| 5 | Why do I feel so empty inside?Happiness is complicated and multifaceted. Tony Robbins theory of happiness is that people are happy when their expectations for how life should be MATCH what they are actually experiencing life to be. You had a picture in your mind of what life would be like when you got your shit together, and that picture doesn't match your experience. Therefore, you don't feel happy. I think there is something to it. In my life, I've also noticed that I am happiest when a) I feel like I am making PROGRESS an… | /r/askMRP | 03/08/21 05:01 PM |
| 2 | How long does it take to vet a woman for marriage?this guy gets it. | /r/askMRP | 21/07/21 07:23 AM |
| 2 | I am 25 and divorced. I would appreciate prayers.You got divorced with no kids at 25. Your life is just beginning. Stop focusing on what you lost, take ownership and learn from your mistakes and take that transformation into a new better relationship. I’ve been in the exact same shoes - and though it hurt like hell, the divorce and pain of that relationship forced me to grow in ways i never ever would have otherwise. I am grateful for it. Good luck | /r/askRPC | 23/06/21 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Strategies for physical escalationYes. And no. I have my shit together. I have a good body. I have the girl in the room and she's given me all the indicators she is dtf. I just have literally no experience in actually escalating. My default mode in marriage was literally verbally asking "do you want to have sex" - You have to admit, even with the best body in the world, this approach isn't going to get optimal results. | /r/askMRP | 03/06/21 12:15 AM |
| 1 | Sexless in the 20sHere is a simple equation I have formulated after years of careful calculation & complicated RP algebra: X+Y=Z X: If your wife/ltr/gf doesn't have sex with you, it's because she's not turned on by you Y: If your wife isn't turned on by you, either your SMV or your behavior are not high enough to turn her on. Identify problems, take extreme ownership and fix. Z: Conclusion: Your wife is not the problem. YOU are the problem. Your wife doesn't want to have sex with you. You need to be and act desir… | /r/askMRP | 02/06/21 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Overheard my fiancé talking to her sister about our relationship; were LTR & engaged.You literally don't need to a big explanation here: Call the engagement off. Take control, tell her it's not working and you need to put the brakes on this before you guys move forward. Then you do your MAP, see if things turn around, and proceed in whatever direction that winds up being. Be the fucking man, have some self worth and value. Right now you're so hung up on this girl that you're okay with her marrying you even when she's not that into you. Question: Don't you think you deserve bette… | /r/askMRP | 02/06/21 09:13 PM |
| 2 | What is the correct way of dealing with wife/ltr thinking of other men?Can't remember where on here I read it, but someone once wrote a post addressing this exact situation. His response? Maintain frame & DHV "So in this fantasy, what would he do to you?" (her) "X..Y..X" "Oh yeah? Like this?" (her) ...moans softly "And what would happen next?" etc. Essentially, DNGAF and use it to fuel your own erotic experience. Give it a try and field report. | /r/askMRP | 02/06/21 09:07 PM |
| 3 | What is the correct way of dealing with wife/ltr thinking of other men?Op thinks this is spam, but it's legitimately good advice. | /r/askMRP | 02/06/21 09:03 PM |
| 14 | Is it medical or am I still a beta?The advice here covers pretty much everything. A couple observations I haven’t had sex in a year. Noticed the problem 4 months ago and have been working on fixing my shit since then It took you 8 months to notice you weren't having sex? Sounds like the ultimate drunk captain. Already in phase 3 of the MAP. You are absolutely full of shit. Wake up call: If you have properly executed phase 1 & phase 2, you should have seen significant changes already. If not, it is FAR more likely you're still dan… | /r/askMRP | 02/06/21 08:53 PM |
| 3 | Is it medical or am I still a beta?DrPsychGainz Great insight right here. My marriage had the same thing, different names. Instead of a physical illness as an excuse, it was a mental one. Even IF you've pull off a total transformation (unlikely), those patterns of thinking and feeling about you are neurologically linked up inside of her, and at least for my ex, were something she never got over BUT the stay plan is the go plan. Either way you should be doing the same shit. | /r/askMRP | 02/06/21 08:42 PM |
| 1 | You aren’t an incel, you are just a stereotype😂😂😂 Please, PLEASE write a RP for dummies book. I will buy for pure entertainment value | /r/TheRedPill | 15/05/21 10:42 PM |
| 1 | She doesn't matter and stop looking at her phone, right?No I got u. I did the same for years with the exact same results. Your post is like reading a page from what my own diary would have been a year ago haha. Good luck | /r/askMRP | 06/05/21 11:15 PM |
| 6 | She doesn't matter and stop looking at her phone, right?Too much for me to address but let me say one key thing: If you are asking if she feels like having sex, then you’ve already lost the battle Your wife wants to WANT to have sex - without you asking for it. She wants to be so turned on by you that she comes to YOU for sex, and thus the power dynamic of captain and first officer is preserved. By asking her for sex, you’re reversing the roles, demonstrating low value and basically subordinating yourself to her - you give her ALL the power. This tur… | /r/askMRP | 05/05/21 11:33 PM |
| 12 | Leaving my wonderfull GF without hurting her...You can’t control another persons feelings. Rejecting her will hurt her. Not here to comment on what you should do. Either do it or don’t, but don’t live your life sacrificing your values so you can tiptoe around someone else’s feelings, and then ask stupid questions about it on here. | /r/RedPillBooks | 30/04/21 03:52 AM |
| 4 | Thoughts on whether to have kidsThis guy gets it | /r/askMRP | 21/04/21 03:36 AM |
| 2 | Mythical Horned Creaturesnah brah. holes in your theory | /r/TheRedPill | 10/04/21 04:22 AM |
| 2 | 60 DoD Week 1: YOU MUST LIFTim in. lets do it | /r/MarriedRedPill | 31/03/21 04:19 PM |
| 2 | Do I (27F no kids) have to be indefinitely single after leaving an abusive, fraudulent marriage?You made a mistake - right or wrong, your marriage is over and done with. I personally believe that while God might not approve of our past decisions, that doesnt mean he wants us to forever be miserable or lonely for the rest of our lives and prevent us from moving forward. God forgives | /r/askRPC | 30/03/21 02:24 AM |
| 10 | What is going on?!Red Pill is about developing the man, not saving the marriage or relationship My advice - Fix YOU first, then see what happens. Your wife might totally change her obnoxious behaviour once you are worth something in her eyes again. If it is still bad, then look at other options Best for kids: Happy marriage second best: Happy divorced parents third: Unhappy married fourth: Unhappy single Once your objective value as a man has gone from say 6 to 8.5, then reevaluate. In the meantime, map, personal… | /r/askMRP | 27/03/21 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Headspace is a little confused right nowYou hit the nail on the head, and I'm pretty sure I know almost exactly how you're feeling and what you're going through. It sounds like you developed some codependent behaviors like many men here. I would highly recommend you read Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. It literally opened my eyes up and helped me process the anger & realize some blind spots about myself. The entire marriage I was trying to fix things and help her fix her issues, but unknowingly my codependent "helping" was actu… | /r/askMRP | 26/03/21 06:09 PM |
| 2 | Headspace is a little confused right nowThis is the golden question. Ops actions and words are contradictory. | /r/askMRP | 26/03/21 02:58 AM |
| 4 | Headspace is a little confused right nowechoing what these other guys are saying - i also got the past fiance alpha widow ilybinilwy - i clung on and tried to fix it for FOUR years - In the end i am grateful for my transformation during that time, but I also see how even though I read the sidebar and thought I got it, I really didnt get it. It is about more than tactics and head knowledge - and its not about saving your marriage. It takes transforming and healing your identity. Your marriage may or may not follow. I personally would s… | /r/askMRP | 26/03/21 02:02 AM |
| 3 | Holding frame and saying what you want is attractivecan confirm. this guy gets it | /r/TheRedPill | 19/03/21 05:05 AM |
| 3 | About Polarizingthis is fantastic advice, clear and helpful. thank you | /r/TheRedPill | 10/03/21 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Should Christian's take antidepressants?That's a reality. If you find a good doctor they should be able to work with you to find the right combination. Not all SSRIs are right for all people - You might need a stimulant in addition to the SSRI as part of your prescription that will balance the numbness. Again I'm no doctor, but consulting one and working with them until you find the right solution (medication as well as lifestyle changes) for your specific situation is key. | /r/askRPC | 21/02/21 03:42 AM |
| 1 | Should Christian's take antidepressants?Your argument is not logically sound. SSRI's are the mental equivalent of giving someone antibiotics in the presence of an infection. You should NEVER give antibiotics to a perfectly healthy person. On the other hand, antibiotics save lives when they are used to allow the body to clear the infection and heal. To be clear, depression is not an infection. But it DOES affect the body and the mind in much the same way... Once you're depressed, you quite literally might not have the capacity to do th… | /r/askRPC | 19/02/21 02:58 AM |
| 15 | BipolarYou wont fix her - this will be forever. Ask yourself if she doesnt change, is it still worth it to you? If not, move on for both your sakes | /r/askMRP | 10/02/21 02:28 AM |
| 14 | Help this guy ASAPWhen we got married we decided that my wife didn’t need to work if she didn’t want to, that she could just stay at home if she would like. Lol. You set this up yourself. We came to the agreement that she’d do 70-80% of the chores if she stayed at home. No you didn't. You talked about it casually once and she was open to the idea. You never defined what that would actually look like, and so she had one picture in her mind and you had another. I give her more to spend than I actually spend on myse… | /r/askMRP | 12/01/21 11:55 PM |
| 2 | SERIOUSLY considering leaving Christianity help! [Short]This is a good question and fortunately far smarter people have spent a lot of time figuring out how to deal with the implications. I suggest you look at a few bible commentaries on the passage to see all these possible theories | /r/RPChristians | 11/01/21 02:56 AM |
| 1 | Can I have a good life and maintain sexual relationships with TMAU? Feeling hopelessnot disagreeing. just saying if he is already doing that those are some next options! | /r/askMRP | 02/01/21 09:12 PM |
| 2 | Can I have a good life and maintain sexual relationships with TMAU? Feeling hopelessWell sure, that might work. The problem is it might not. Most people with these kinds of issues have already done the generic "eat healthy and cut out the garbage" method. If not, absolutely that's what he should do. But assuming this hasn't worked, to really address stubborn digestive problems effectively you need to isolate the cause of the problem and remove it. This can only be done with actual testing, and then a diet & treatment plan can be created to address specific bugs based around wha… | /r/askMRP | 02/01/21 05:34 PM |
| 18 | Can I have a good life and maintain sexual relationships with TMAU? Feeling hopelessFirst off, I feel for you. I have Eosinal Esophagitus & IBS which have caused chronic bad breath, leading to serious marriage issues and near total loss of intimacy. So while I can't totally relate, I get it - It sucks. Now on to the gut punch... Currently I don’t work, date, have friends or even go to the gym anymore because _______ This is called an excuse. Yours may be better than others, but it's still shitty and doing nothing but making your life worse. And lets call a spade a spade here: Y… | /r/askMRP | 02/01/21 06:45 AM |
| 1 | Found MRP? You do you - or why you don't have "frame".You're some shell of a man masquerading like a retard on the outside pretending to be a man. You don't even know who you are beyond that layer of bullshit. And you certainly don't know what you fucking like or dislike beyond it. So true. Nice post for the newbies & those of us who need some reminding. Cheers | /r/MarriedRedPill | 29/12/20 04:21 AM |
| 4 | I revealed to my wife I was molested, and she’s no longer attracted to me.I'm glad it was helpful. You are more than capable of resolving this and it sounds like your wife really WANTS to be on your team. I think there is a lot of hope here for a life way better than the one you've settled for. Cut those ties man. Keep us posted on the results for anyone in a similar situation to learn from. | /r/askMRP | 28/12/20 05:57 PM |
| 17 | I revealed to my wife I was molested, and she’s no longer attracted to me.1) Yes. 2) Maybe 3) Truth is... Her opinion is probably pretty accurate. She sees a weak man who let himself be raped and still goes and spends Christmases and holidays with his abuser... Sounds like she sees how f'd up it all is... And can't believe he doesn't. | /r/askMRP | 27/12/20 06:39 AM |
| 6 | I revealed to my wife I was molested, and she’s no longer attracted to me.Personally I disagree somewhat. Yes he needs to improve in other areas - But mainly it seems his lack of boundaries and self respect with his family is what has created most of these problems. He continues to allow abusive relationships to continue and his wife watches the whole family walk all over him. Then she finds out he even let step brother put his dick in his mouth... The ultimate sign of inability to stand up for and defend himself. The root of his problem is his boundaries and relation… | /r/askMRP | 27/12/20 06:37 AM |
| 16 | I revealed to my wife I was molested, and she’s no longer attracted to me.For some reason I read this... But dude... Word vomit. 1) That crap with your step brother is seriously f'd up 2) Here is what you need to do: Now that the story is out, you need to cut communication with him forever. Period. There are no second chances with this kind of bullshit. Your kid doesn't go over there "supervised" - He doesn't go over there PERIOD 3) You need to have a clear ultimatum conversation with your entire extended family - Any of the ones who treat you like crap, treat your wi… | /r/askMRP | 27/12/20 06:34 AM |
| 2 | Wife's note to herself last night.Lol. Except in this case he wasn't shooting - He was begging the goalie to let him put his puck in the net. Out of sympathy for his pathetic please the goalie played along for a little while, but the game soon lost it's appeal. | /r/askMRP | 31/10/20 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Wife's note to herself last night.Lol this week she did. Last week she played along. | /r/askMRP | 31/10/20 04:09 AM |
| 9 | Craft a vision and lay your balls on the tableI think the good advice in this post is to be clear and unapologetic about what you want. At the same time, I personally think a man should keep his MAP to himself, until such a point that he has got his shit together and is worthy of leading someone else. In the beginning I told my wife all about my goals and vision - And when I failed to make those promises happen, she saw a loser who didn't follow through. Contrast that to a man deciding what he wants, telling no one, and just taking action. … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 30/10/20 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Wife's note to herself last night.Best pickup line ever. | /r/askMRP | 30/10/20 01:51 AM |
| 4 | Wife's note to herself last night.I don't know about this... He literally shoved his penis in her face and she went along with it, even though he was probably behaving like an entitled dickhead. So... Overall this woman seems like she WANTS to behave, she just wants to do it for a man she respects and trusts. But I'm no expert, just a hunch. | /r/askMRP | 30/10/20 01:49 AM |
| 8 | Wife's note to herself last night.TLDR you went full rambo autist on this marriage. In the process you were thinking 100% about yourself and no one else. You did RP so you could manipulate your wife into having sex with you, and now she's hurt, distrustful and you lost her respect. A man is meant to be a leader. Leaders think of the entire team, protect them and always have their back - Especially your 2nd in command. Your 2nd has watched you drunkenly jerk the steering wheel away from her, endangering everybody on board, and th… | /r/askMRP | 30/10/20 01:46 AM |
| 4 | Wife's note to herself last night.This. Whether he realizes it or not, everything he is doing is just to get sex. His outcome & his mission = Sex from wife. Dancing monkey. | /r/askMRP | 30/10/20 01:34 AM |
| 2 | Wife's note to herself last night.Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. Begging your wife for sex 7 days a week = not attractive. And yes, this is how she sees it when you initiate now because you just won't lay off. She wants to WANT to have sex with you. And your unattractive needy behavior turns her off. Be more OI. If she doesn't want to jump on you 7 days a week and give you BJs every 15 minutes - You should have better things to do anyways. | /r/askMRP | 30/10/20 01:32 AM |
| 2 | New life Direction and rebuilding a life after total collapseFirst off... Shit dude... It frigging sucks you had to experience this, and no one blames you for feeling the way you do. I think it's important you make sure you realize that the way you are feeling is NORMAL. Your cunt of a wife betrayed your trust, you got divorced and your child died all within a few short months. This would knock even the strongest man black and blue - Let alone the fact that things have been shitty for you for years prior to this trying to hold together a broken marria… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 12/10/20 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Possible BPD FWB? Contingency Plan?Good luck! I hope it's a clean getaway. | /r/askTRP | 24/09/20 11:50 PM |
| 5 | Possible BPD FWB? Contingency Plan?BPD's tend to see things in extremes. You are either ALL good or ALL bad in their mind - You want to stay on the all good side, or control the all bad to your benefit. Easiest way to break up with a BPD? Mind game her to break up with you. The scary part is depending on how crazy she is, you can get into a lot of trouble if she decides to take revenge and lie about your actions towards her. Please update this thread with whatever happens for the benefit of anyone else caught in a similar situati… | /r/askTRP | 24/09/20 10:23 PM |
| 1 | At a crossroads. Need some guidance.Honestly at the time it was more of a feeling than specific things I was aware of. Looking back now it is more obvious because I know what I should have noticed. For instance, she was extremely overreactive whenever her way of seeing the world was challenged. Her parents were both divorced and her extended family had a pretty broken history in various ways as well. She had gone to counselling. The biggest one was in hard situations, her attitude wasnt good. She had never had a job or been truly … | /r/RPChristians | 15/09/20 01:35 PM |
| 1 | At a crossroads. Need some guidance.Oh boy. First off - I sympathize. I was at a crossroads of considering whether to marry or not and because of all the social pressure I went through with it when I should have backed out. Let me be very, VERY clear: The person you choose to marry is THE BIGGEST decision you will EVER make. Like, will determine the rest of your life big. If you're not 100% convinced that this is the right thing - GET OUT / HIT THE PAUSE BUTTON ON THE WEDDING PLANS. Anything else is truly stupid. Now in terms of y… | /r/RPChristians | 14/09/20 11:36 PM |
| 8 | QuestionYou did not find a unicorn. Tons of girls like that - additionally, its not what they SAY they believe, but what they actually DO. | /r/RPChristians | 13/09/20 05:02 AM |
| 1 | 27 year old virgin male. What are the chances of me finding a very good looking woman that's a Christian woman and a virgin outside of church? By virgin I mean, someone that has never done anything sexual with a man physically.Your chances are good - But you'll have better luck dating down than trying to find someone your age. Common sense says the amount of available attractive virgin girls will decrease as time goes on... So if you set your sights 3-4 years younger, you'll have a larger pool to draw from. | /r/RPChristians | 12/09/20 09:59 PM |
| 1 | "Ask out too many girls and you will be seen as desperate and they will talk about you as desperate."baha | /r/RPChristians | 12/09/20 09:56 PM |
| 12 | "Ask out too many girls and you will be seen as desperate and they will talk about you as desperate."This is the wrong question. The question isn't "how many girls can I ask out before I seem desperate." The better question is: Why do you need to ask out multiple girls just to get one of them to say yes? If you're asking out girls and they're consistently saying no, then you probably need to work on your SMV as a man. If an attractive, masculine man who makes 200k a year, leads the worship team and is ripped out of his mind starts asking out girls - Do you think he is going to ask out many befo… | /r/RPChristians | 12/09/20 04:40 PM |
| 1 | "Respect isn't earned in marriage. It's given freely." - I call BSlol why? because I said posts instead of comments? screw you. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/07/20 08:00 PM |
| 2 | "Respect isn't earned in marriage. It's given freely." - I call BSI think you didn't read the whole post my friend. Literally in the next sentence I go on to explain we MISTAKINGLY make that assumption, and in fact dancing monkey never works - Then I go on to give examples of how respect isn't earned, it is expected and enforced through self respect, relational boundaries and a clear understanding of what you will and won't tolerate. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/07/20 06:05 PM |
| 0 | "Respect isn't earned in marriage. It's given freely." - I call BSFair enough actually - I need to edit. What I should have said is "I've read a lot of COMMENTS" - Because this kind of thing gets said on here often by people (I've read it 3-4 times this week in the comments of various posts) | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/07/20 05:56 PM |
| 1 | "Respect isn't earned in marriage. It's given freely." - I call BSAgreed - There is a line here between respect and fear and tbh it seems to me that the two can be a little smudged together. On RP I'd say fear and dread are pretty similar. A lot of it depends on what you define as respect - I guess these observations are more about respectful behavior than anything else. At the end of the day, respect is looking up to someone. I think that can come from many different places... With women, I think it's more than just being an awesome SMV catch... You've also g… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/07/20 05:54 PM |
| 2 | "Respect isn't earned in marriage. It's given freely." - I call BSI think you misread... Did you catch the "we assume"? as in "we make the mistake of" assuming consciously or sub consciously that if we can only do X things good enough THEN our wife will respond / respect us. Same ideology as the dancing monkey. Apparently it wasn't clear enough. Did you read the entire post, or simply stop at the top there? Because literally the next sentence I explain... "The problem with this theory? Respect is not "given freely", it is expected & enforced." Then I go on to … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/07/20 05:50 PM |
| 2 | "Respect isn't earned in marriage. It's given freely." - I call BSAbsolutely - The definition of what respect means and what it looks like is going to vary from person to person. Figuring that out for yourself is an essential step. Great thoughts | /r/MarriedRedPill | 20/07/20 05:30 PM |
| 10 | A how to guide to owning your shitShould add this to MRP intro. Top knotch. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 28/06/20 03:41 AM |
| 2 | Need some advice, long post. And apologize for the scatter brainGood on you brother - Your desire to help is good - Just read that sidebar first. Good luck! | /r/RPChristians | 27/04/20 05:21 AM |
| 7 | Need some advice, long post. And apologize for the scatter brainHave you seen that movie where a couple is about to divorce but the guy starts doing a bunch of nice things and going above and beyond for her! I know this is well intentioned, but it's absolute garbage advice and totally the opposite of RP theory. RP theory is about making yourself MORE valuable. Become the man your wife would actually lust over and WANT to have sex with. No woman wants to have sex with a doormat, and "doing a bunch of nice things" is supplicating behavior that is viewed as low… | /r/RPChristians | 26/04/20 06:21 PM |
| 2 | I’d like to talk [20M].Read the sidebar. Lift. Apply the sidebar. Then come back and post. It's that simple. | /r/RPChristians | 22/03/20 09:35 PM |
| 4 | Are women allowed to post?Too much to say and it’s late so cliff notes 1) u can only change u . Your whole post is about what you can do to change HIM - it takes no personal responsibility and is the wrong question. Ask how you can improve as a wife, and either he responds to that and your marriage improves or it doesn’t and either way u are a better person because of it. That’s rpc 101 2) read my earlier reply to the other chick who posted here like 2 days ago. Send him to RPC in a supporting encouraging way 3) personal… | /r/RPChristians | 17/03/20 06:41 AM |
| 2 | When, if ever, is lying acceptable?First off, her outright lying to you about a pretty innocent question is certainly a red flag... The fact that she's done it in other areas too adds weight to that. Realize that the reason most of us here at RPC are here is because we've been burned by women in our past, and so you're going to get a harsher response here based on our experiences. With that in mind however, let our experience serve to warn you away from making mistakes we learned about the hard way. Your fiance is not yet your wi… | /r/askRPC | 15/03/20 04:56 AM |
| 1 | When, if ever, is lying acceptable?It never is Personally I'd disagree, BUT with the caveat that what proverbs is referring to as lying lips is not necessarily what we would classify as "lying" in all cases. "The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy. I'm not a scholar of ancient Hebrew so I might be completely wrong here, however given that proverbs are a collection of helpful sayings and truisms, and NOT verbatim commands, it's important to note the style of literature when we interpret this ver… | /r/askRPC | 15/03/20 04:40 AM |
| 6 | I am not sure if I should marry my fiancé - advice needed, new to RPCBased on my own experience getting married too soon, I would encourage you to wait until you feel totally confident before entering into marriage. Nothing wrong with extending the engagement while you figure this out. Next, I'd honestly just tell him you want to A) Make sure you're the most amazing wife possible for him B) Make sure you guys are on the same page about your roles and expectations of each other. Let him know that you found this thread and you really really want to take apply these… | /r/askRPC | 15/03/20 04:25 AM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.On mobile RN so cant reply in depth, but thank you so much for taking the time to share this really practical advice. Seriously appreciate it - ill be checking out those resources, and continuing to work on myself. Cheers! | /r/askRPC | 12/03/20 04:34 AM |
| 4 | How to game my fiance?Pre marriage counselling is generally not done with a counsellor, but in a group at church or with your pastor. My advice is dont take advice from anyone who does not exemplify the kind of marriage you are trying to emulate - There are also pre marriage programs on dvd etc u can do at home (but go with a real life advisor if u are lucky enough to have one you respect) My wife and I did the one by Alpha - it was “meh” but still beneficial | /r/RPChristians | 10/03/20 04:35 AM |
| 1 | IntroThanks for sharing! Honestly I'm personally encouraged when others like you share their own stories, as it's good to know I'm not alone. Anyhow, a couple thoughts I also started a bodyweight routine at home about the same time (5 mo ago), and can feel I've gotten stronger. I am seriously wrestling with the thought of a gym membership. Go get a membership. Like seriously - Do it now. I literally screwed around with a home gym for 2 years (And gained a decent amount) before I finally, FINALLY trie… | /r/RPChristians | 10/03/20 03:47 AM |
| 5 | How to game my fiance?Reasoning is good pre marriage will make you ask questions and think through things you wouldn't in normal conversation. Like how to handle arguments, what expectations you have of your in laws, who will control the finances, who will have the ultimate say in decision making etc. It's actually the PERFECT place to bring up RP principles and define your frame and your standards outright to make sure she agrees and submits to them. | /r/RPChristians | 10/03/20 03:37 AM |
| 2 | How to game my fiance?My first response is to read the sidebar, lift, and work on yourself. Game is cool and all, but contrived game is really, REALLY hard to sustain for the lifetime of a marriage. In fact, I'd almost encourage you to actively NOT game your fiance. See if she is into the real you, not the you who is trying his frigging hardest only to show off the best parts of him so she's super impressed. If you have to worry about gaming her at this early stage, when things are at their very most exciting and you… | /r/RPChristians | 10/03/20 03:34 AM |
| 1 | How to game my fiance?Could be OP and fiance haven't dated long, in which case a year long engagement would provide time to "make sure" That or they have to save up for the wedding... That's a real thing. | /r/RPChristians | 10/03/20 03:25 AM |
| 1 | Appreciation Post - For advice given 1.5 years ago and Question about how to identify Masculine ChurchesBible says children are a blessing. Bible says be fruitful and multiply. I agree it says those things, but you're also looking exclusively OT. By that rational perhaps we should still be offering sacrifices, observing levitical law & herding sheep. Simply because something was common and approved in the OT (Or even the NT) is not in itself a universal, eternal premise we should adhere to. Most divorces occur in the first two years of a marriage with no children, or the first two years that the c… | /r/RPChristians | 10/03/20 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Appreciation Post - For advice given 1.5 years ago and Question about how to identify Masculine ChurchesLol I don’t think big families with lots of kids is inherently RP, and theologically highly debatable. BUT some other great points and the Wizard robes comment made me crack up. That said, in and of itself there is nothing inherently not RP about wearing wizard robes either haha. After all, Voldemort was def dark triad ;) | /r/RPChristians | 09/03/20 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Seriously doubting my faith - Where do I turn?Thanks for your thoughts! What you do in your life naturally grows out of which side you choose. It's like the foundation you build on, the road that you go down. I'd suggest starting there. I think you're absolutely right. Bringing that foundation into question is literally the hardest thing a person can do - But Jesus himself said "build your life on the rock" - I want to make sure I'm not inadvertently building on some kind of grey sand mistakingly believing it to be rock. It seems to me that… | /r/askRPC | 07/03/20 08:43 PM |
| 1 | Seriously doubting my faith - Where do I turn?I'd say more of a "yellow flag" if anything. Paul makes it very clear that salvation is by faith alone by Christ alone - And yet flip your bible to the gospels and read just how much Jesus talked about being faithful, producing fruit, and living righteously. Not because this would gain us salvation, but because a righteous life should be the natural fruit of a reborn spirit. Yes, I'm absolutely blessed by God - Through salvation alone I have received more than I could ever deserve. But to write … | /r/askRPC | 06/03/20 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Seriously doubting my faith - Where do I turn?Thank you for elaborating and sharing your experience - Truly appreciate it. I will give it a shot and find some time and space to get away. | /r/askRPC | 04/03/20 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Seriously doubting my faith - Where do I turn?While I certainly don't pretend to know how God works, this answer seems to be summarized as "The reason you're not hearing God is because you're not righteous enough / not truly following him / not truly serving him for the right motivations" --> Basically it's a works theology that says God only speaks to those who deserve it, and if you don't hear God speaking, then clearly it's not because God doesn't exist or doesn't speak - It's because you must be doing something wrong. Similar advice to … | /r/askRPC | 04/03/20 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Seriously doubting my faith - Where do I turn?I appreciate you taking the time to respond. It's very possible you're right... There is nothing I can do other than just "shrug off my doubts" and move on believing in God anyways. My challenge is I feel like I genuinely HAVE spent most of my life doing exactly that. I've walked the walk and talked the talk. I've spent 6 days a week at church, I've gone to the prayer gatherings, I've genuinely spent time reading the bible and praying with God... I've felt comfort in those situations that could … | /r/askRPC | 04/03/20 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Seriously doubting my faith - Where do I turn?"Even if God spoke to you very clearly, you could easily dismiss it." I would disagree. The bible characters who heard directly from God sometimes disobeyed, but they never doubted it was God who spoke. This line of reasoning also seems to be counterintuitive... If God loves us so much he would send his only son to this earth to die, why is he then so cryptic and hard to hear? To which you might point to Mark 4:12 "so that, "'they may be ever seeing but never perceiving, and ever hearing but nev… | /r/askRPC | 04/03/20 01:55 AM |
| 1 | Seriously doubting my faith - Where do I turn?Thanks Deepstrength. Got + read your book by the way - Thanks for the mentorship you're bringing to Christian men around the world. Yeah, the Christian faith isn't based on feels but facts. Very true - The bible college I went to was Pentecostal based - After my Lutheran upbringing it at first seemed so much more free and full of life. In hindsight however there is certainly a tendency to focus on the feelz and give God credit for all sorts of things I'm not sure he necessarily was directly invo… | /r/askRPC | 02/03/20 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Seriously doubting my faith - Where do I turn?I'm really glad for you and your family :) One interesting side note: Hebrews 11 actually gives examples of what it means to have "faith" - If you read beyond V1, the author gives us these examples: 4 By faith Abel offered to God a more acceptable sacrifice than Cain, through which he was commended as righteous, God commending him by accepting his gifts".... The next example is Enoch taken by God before death, then Noah building the ark when warned by God, then Abraham having faith when God said… | /r/askRPC | 02/03/20 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Seriously doubting my faith - Where do I turn?I've been pushing to figure this out for a long time and just recently have made a decision. My mission is to shift the standard western diet towards a whole foods, predominantly plant based diet through the use of media & building a global brand. Achieving this would have massive impact on individual health, the environment & the way we steward the planet as humans. I'm just in the starting stages of making this happen - Currently narrowing down possible avenues and on the lookout for opportuni… | /r/askRPC | 02/03/20 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Should you ever continue dating someone if their values and beliefs and character are ideal, but you aren’t physically attracted to part of them?As a guy who has had this exact struggle but in reverse (wife has said since early on she was never physically attracted to me) I 100% think you should move on if the attraction isn't there. Not to say don't give it a chance to develop, but if you've already been with each other for a while and it's an ongoing issue, I would move on. Life is short - But marriage for life is long. As it's been said before on MRP, marry the woman you can't keep yourself from banging. And of course with the RPC cav… | /r/askRPC | 01/03/20 04:18 AM |
| 10 | Should I believe her?100% next her. If you stay you're A) setting yourself up as a low value doormat - subconsciously she'll always view you as the sad loser who was okay with his girl cheating on him. She will never 100% respect you B) This woman clearly is not in a strong relationship with Christ. Not LTR material. If she acts this way when dating (which is while on "best behaviour") you don't want to even THINK about marrying her. It sucks - I'm sorry it happened mate, but honestly you'll look back at this one da… | /r/askRPC | 01/03/20 04:13 AM |
| 2 | Complex situation: Our CEO using Biblical truths to make a point, my nephew with cancer, and my lie.On a phone so not going to bother with a long reply when a short one suffices 1) The bible has examples of when people lie and it’s alright - for instance rahab the prostitute 2) Your situation is not like that 3) Dont be a pussy. Your internal conflict sounds less like someone concerned about sin and righteousness, and more like someone who deep down is afraid of what people will think of him if they found out the truth. 4) Sit down with your boss like a man, explain the situation and how you m… | /r/RPChristians | 29/02/20 08:53 PM |
| 1 | Who can I talk to in person about my personal growth/struggles as a man?This deserves more upvotes. | /r/askMRP | 27/02/20 11:26 PM |
| 3 | Who can I talk to in person about my personal growth/struggles as a man?Can I get in on the secret handshake? I'm low on secret unicorn handshake buddies. | /r/askMRP | 27/02/20 11:22 PM |
| 3 | Who can I talk to in person about my personal growth/struggles as a man?this is the way. | /r/askMRP | 27/02/20 11:21 PM |
| 1 | More productive ways to “lift?”There is no way to get around lifting. If you want to get bigger & stronger over time, you need to continue to increase the resistance of your exercise in order to continue growing. Typical outdoor labour might help you make some gains early on, but because baling hay for example is always the same every time, once your body adapts from the initial strain, it will stop growing in any significant amount because the hay bales are the same weight every time. One thing I do on occasion to relax and … | /r/RPChristians | 24/02/20 05:12 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with Frustration about no Sex Before MarriageQuick thoughts: You are contradicting yourself a bit here... I’ve only had to turn down a sex (or the clear implication of sex) twice, but I’m sure more times will come..... ....Not having sex facilitates the internalized belief that deep down I’m still not worthy of being desired. If you've already turned it down twice, then logically you KNOW that you're desired. So if you're feeling unworthy, it really doesn't have anything to do with whether or not girls want to have sex with you. TBH I thin… | /r/askRPC | 20/02/20 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Worried about performance issues after marriageHard to give insight without stats. If you're not in great shape, that could be an easy fix. If it's the result of a past or current history with pornography, cutting that out immediately is the first thing to do. TBH unless you're already ripped, you should be making fitness, diet and the gym your main priority right now - No matter what you're going to see all sorts of positive benefits from this, and being overweight is one of the main causes of ED Last note: If you're having these issues and… | /r/askRPC | 19/02/20 09:42 PM |
| 2 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.All good points. Definitely need to make life happen right here right now, regardless of whether we're moving in the future. I'm certainly guilty of complaining - 100% of women are turned off by a dude who sits around feeling sorry for himself, so I best be turning that around. Thanks for the advice :) | /r/askRPC | 18/02/20 06:42 PM |
| 1 | FR: You're Not Hot - YetThis is a great post and excellent reminder. tbh I'm super surprised you. look so muscular at only 141lbs. I'm 5'7 and 150ish and look way smaller than you. | /r/RPChristians | 17/02/20 12:40 AM |
| 8 | Nofap and christian life.Then 2 months ago I started dating a girl very committed to the Lord, we know each other since we were 10years old, she is faithful, loyal, available and teachable. I live in U.S. but she is in brazil now finishing her studies on college, what I dont mind much, when my mind is not horny like crazy. We visit each other every 6 months and spend 2 weeks together, (we are virgins, no sex happening) and our families are Christians and support our relationship and our plans, we plan to marry when she … | /r/askRPC | 13/02/20 10:33 PM |
| 1 | How to stop being a people-pleaserSo you're angry at yourself for letting him control you. Okay... That doesn't change anything I wrote. You can't get angry at other people for trying to control you - Everybody in the entire world is trying to get other people to do what they want. But if you're just angry at yourself, good. You should be. Now take that anger and channel it into resolve to move forward and make some changes. Ask yourself what YOU want, then weigh the options, then take friggin action. Done. | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/20 07:44 PM |
| 2 | Someone Suggested I Crosspost This HereWhat the heck bro - If you found out your wife was nailing some other dude, then pretended his baby was yours, it would only LIKELY spell the end of your marriage? That is the most beta autist thing I've ever heard. Not trying to drag you down but just pointing it out in case you don't realize how absolutely pathetic that would be for you to even consider staying with a woman who cheated on you and raising another man's affair child. Now I know this is only hypothetical at this point - It's poss… | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/20 07:39 PM |
| 3 | Someone Suggested I Crosspost This HereSide note - If she has an iphone you can track / verify her location using icloud / findmyiphone. | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/20 07:30 PM |
| 4 | Someone Suggested I Crosspost This HereI think you really, REALLY need to read the book "No more mr nice guy" by Robert Glover. I've had a very similar experience with my wife when she was full time at our church working with the creative pastor and handled it mostly the same as you... Looking back - It was my fault for not taking ownership and leadership in the situation and in our marriage. I had (And still am working on) some issues of passive aggression, conflict avoidance and codependence. Anyways, strongly recommend you read th… | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/20 07:27 PM |
| 1 | How to stop being a people-pleaserBro... I don't have enough context in what you've written, but if all your Dad is doing is "wanting" you to stay there... He's allowed to want whatever he wants, nbd. Why would you get mad about your Dad wanting to have you near to family? He can want whatever he wants - That's his right as a human being. You can want whatever you want too. Make your decisions based on what you believe is the best decision, and then act on it and move forward with your life. Period - That's all there is to it. I… | /r/RPChristians | 13/02/20 12:52 AM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.no worries | /r/askRPC | 12/02/20 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.A great question to ask, and solid advice. Thank you | /r/askRPC | 12/02/20 01:41 AM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.Hey Chuck! As always thank you for the in depth response. You seem to have had some success from time to time, but it doesn't last. You're right - I've had some victories in the course of the RP journey. I'm further ahead than I was at the start. There just hasn't been any long term, lasting results or turnaround. I read through your post history and you seem to have had some success from time to time, but it doesn't last. This statement sticks out to me: "Found RPC about 2 years ago but a… | /r/askRPC | 12/02/20 01:38 AM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.Accurate predictions my friend - Thank you for this in depth response. You are an introvert. You are in the tech field. You married young. You are around 27. You are not a dominant person. Other men do not look to you with respect, admiration, or seek your counsel. You are not dangerous or capable of extreme violence, when necessary. You did not date much prior to her. You're likely right on all counts. I say likely because although I personally feel like I'm not some of these things, going by m… | /r/askRPC | 11/02/20 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.pt2 continued I've had trouble finding a lot of guys I have much in common with here since most are more city vibes, whereas I love to get outdoors / escape the city. But I have some mates from soccer and a few from church. Closer friends moved away recently. Haven't done much with long distance friendships other than when I'm back home I reconnect and we hang out. I don't have any older men in my life other than long distance, and I guess RPC if we want to count that. - Have you read sex books?… | /r/askRPC | 11/02/20 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.bahaha yeah the way the image preview shows up is unfortunate! | /r/askRPC | 11/02/20 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.Agreed. Definitely need to do SOMETHING - Last couple months I've been hit with this wall of burn out where I just don't feel the energy or motivation to keep trying... I know I've got to move forward, it's just been getting harder and harder to summon the resolve to do so. | /r/askRPC | 11/02/20 09:36 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.Thanks Alan - Not sure if you're referring to South Cali or not, because you definitely can't get a 2bdrm for $1500 here near LA! Try $2000-$3500. But that really just supports your point all the more. The wife's family frame is something I hadn't thought about until it's been pointed out here - I really appreciate the insight. I get along very well with her parents and from what I've experienced so far they actually seem to side with me over her the vast majority of the time when she is behavin… | /r/askRPC | 11/02/20 09:34 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.Thanks for the first impression. Moving but not in with her parents seems to be the most dominant theme / feeling of everyone in these comments. Appreciate it. | /r/askRPC | 11/02/20 09:30 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.Interesting - I'm actually from Canada, we just moved to the states to be closer to family and somewhere warmer / where there was a church we thought we'd get plugged into. I've definitely considered moving back home... Home however is a town of about 30k people so I'm not certain that is the best place to be in fulfilling my mission, which hopes to reach many more people at scale... Something that might be better done somewhere like California, which has the entire population of Canada in one s… | /r/askRPC | 11/02/20 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.Agreed. Something I hadn't considered. | /r/askRPC | 11/02/20 09:15 PM |
| 2 | Is this a good idea... ? Need outside perspective.Thanks Mark - The extended visit idea is actually something I've never considered... Worth thinking about for sure. Really appreciate your insight | /r/askRPC | 11/02/20 09:14 PM |
| 2 | “I have no purpose, no job, no friends, am a 25 y-o virgin, play videos games and masturbate compulsively. What should I do?”The way you wrote this makes me ask the question: Is this guy strong, or is this guy ripped? Clearly you go to the gym and have some strength, but a woman doesn't care one bit how many plates you can squat - She only really gives you points if you're ripped and shredded. While certainly a woman will give you more points for being a bigger dude than being a super skinny bean pole, most women aren't attracted to guys like this, even though they're strong as tanks. Read your comment history - If yo… | /r/TheRedPill | 11/02/20 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Seeking Godly Counsel 1/2Np I'm still very much on the journey myself. I think the answer is going to depend on your unique situation, upbringing etc... How blue pilled you were beforehand, and whether or not you actually start applying or just lurk on the forums and read. There are LOTS of people who learn everything there is but never take action so they never see results... This is true in every area of life, not just RP This is just speculating, but I think the transition shifts from "aware" to actually red pill onc… | /r/askRPC | 10/02/20 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Seeking Godly Counsel 1/2This is the truth. | /r/askRPC | 10/02/20 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Seeking Godly Counsel 1/2I think you've already figured out most of what you need to know. You put this girl on a pedestal, acted like a beta loser, and so you pushed her away. Now you know what to work on and what to do differently next time. Here's the deal though: You were in a short term relationship with this chick... 10 dates over the course of what... Like 2-3 months I'm assuming? And yet you're on here sobbing about how wrecked you are over losing her. I don't mean this to tear you down, but to point out somethi… | /r/askRPC | 10/02/20 09:22 PM |
| 1 | [Update] Wife adviceKeep it up Op. Rewards come with consistent progress over time | /r/RPChristians | 07/02/20 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 04, 2020Ironically a couple years ago I gained 25lbs in about 2.5 months by doing a dozen raw eggs a day in addition to my regular meal plan. It certainly worked, but my cholesterol went through the roof haha.. I also gained a LOT more chub than necessary. I agree there is a lot of nutrition concentrated inside of an egg. The downside is that eggs have the same detrimental effects as other animal fats (increase inflamation, plaque build up etc) so I've slowly switched to plant based sources for fats and… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/02/20 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 04, 2020Agree to disagree, but it's all good we're on the same team. Who knows, maybe in the long run I'll be proven wrong and you'll be 100% proven right. One clarification though - a varied diet of plant based whole foods gives your body all the essential amino acids you need. A study of supplementing with pea protein vs whey found no substantial difference in the muscle gains between either protein source. The one struggle I absolutely admit to on whole foods plant based is getting enough calories & … | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/02/20 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 04, 2020First, ANY diet works for weight loss, assuming your calorie intake is less than what you burn. You can lose weight eating nothing but gummy bears and icecream - But that doesn't make it healthy. I'm quite interested in where your sources are from. A high fat high animal based diet has been shown time and time again to raise blood pressure, insulin resistance and inflammation markers in the body On my side - literally hundreds of double blind published medical studies. This is a proven fact, not… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/02/20 05:44 PM |
| 2 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 04, 2020nice work. also, I envy your lifts. great bench for 5'8 | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/02/20 07:36 AM |
| 3 | Own Your Shit Weekly - February 04, 2020+1 to what others are saying - Good on you for OYS, and advise you to post weekly to keep yourself accountable and keep up the habit. Additionally, this will sound weird, but I envy your problems a bit... Sounds like being grossly overweight and out of shape is the root of 90% of your situation, and the solution to that kind of problem is pretty simple and you'll see results FAST. I'm not a medical professional but have dealt with some health stuff in the past. My 2 cents would disagree with the… | /r/MarriedRedPill | 05/02/20 07:29 AM |
| 2 | The red pill on insane difficulty : a marriage story with a progressively debilitating illness – taking suggestionsHaving dealt with undiagnosed digestion issues for years, I understand a little bit of what a chronic illness can do - Literally sapping your energy, time, money and willpower because EVERYTHING is consumed by it. You've no doubt done a ton of tests, tried different diets and treatments etc. So I know many of these suggestions may be moot, but here they are anyways: 1) Focus on identifying the root cause of your disease if you haven't already. The issue with modern medicine is doctors tend to tr… | /r/askMRP | 27/01/20 07:59 PM |
| 2 | The red pill on insane difficulty : a marriage story with a progressively debilitating illness – taking suggestionsTry checking out https://www.reddit.com/r/RPChristians/ Might reconcile some things for you. I know it was helpful for me. | /r/askMRP | 27/01/20 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Does AWALT hold for Christian women?Wow - I feel for you! | /r/RPChristians | 12/01/20 10:48 PM |
| 3 | When you're a homless man no one gives a FUCK about youFrom what people who know more than me say, you're right - a homeless woman would have had different options and more support available to her. That doesn't change the fact that your value to society is determined by the value you bring to the marketplace. Although yes, homeless people can "get away" with activities that other members of society cannot, I certainly wouldn't go as far to say being homeless is a benefit to anyone. Whether man or woman, being homeless is an extremely hard situation… | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/20 10:14 PM |
| 16 | When you're a homless man no one gives a FUCK about youWhile I don't disagree that there is an obvious gender bias, let's not get being a man mixed up with being homeless either. The reality is that society rejects homeless people period - As a homeless man you get rejected because you are homeless, not because you are a man. Your value to society is based on what you produce, and a homeless person is producing negative value, therefore they have no value to society and are treated as such. I don't think this is right or fair or good, but the truth … | /r/TheRedPill | 09/01/20 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Wife advice (first post)lol this sounds like an absolutely terrible idea. While perhaps a high value male could get away with this, OP is very beta + low SV in his wife's eyes. My guess would be this response would wind up backfiring. But if you decide to try it let me know how it goes... | /r/RPChristians | 29/12/19 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Wife advice (first post)Your entire post wants change in your wife. You need to change yourself. Be the best man you can be. This. | /r/RPChristians | 27/12/19 09:47 PM |
| 3 | Wife advice (first post)+1 to what Idunnowhy2 is saying. While I welcome you to the community, I think your post is premature. It sounds like you haven't yet gone through the entire sidebar and read through 101, 201, 301 foundations. This will give you 90% of the answers you are looking for. After you've done that, this group can provide insight into the additional 10% that is more specific to you and your situation. TLDR READ THE SIDEBAR. Then start working on yourself. Red Pill isn't about getting your wife to change… | /r/RPChristians | 27/12/19 09:46 PM |
| 1 | 18 Years Old. Fresh out of High School. Need Advice.Good on you for sharing - You're in a great community. Being 28, it feels like yesterday I was in your exact shoes. I'm not going to pretend I have the answers or a step by step roadmap, but I will share some of the things I've learned through my failures and experiences The biggest setup to win or fail in your life often comes down to your community. You need a group of solid guy friends to do life and the journey with (not just this reddit group) People who will push you to do better, be bette… | /r/RPChristians | 26/12/19 01:07 AM |
| 5 | 18 Years Old. Fresh out of High School. Need Advice.Good on you for sharing - You're in a great community. Being 28, it feels like yesterday I was in your exact shoes. I'm not going to pretend I have the answers or a step by step roadmap, but I will share some of the things I've learned through my failures and experiences 1) The biggest setup to win or fail in your life often comes down to your community. You need a group of solid guy friends to do life and the journey with (not just this reddit group) People who will push you to do better, be be… | /r/RPChristians | 26/12/19 01:05 AM |
| 2 | Stop Hamstering that your Wife is Nutshahaha the example was a great one, but the irony of "we all know the story" and not knowing the story is pretty funny. But I like the analogy - Interesting way to look at it! The dragon is never totally "slain" - You never get to stop gaming your wife. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 24/12/19 06:44 AM |
| 3 | How God Saved My MarriageGood on you, and well done. I would love it if you would revisit this post and update your progress 6 months from now - After all, wisdom is proved by her children, and so the long term results are much more significant (Although in your post you don't mention the timeline, so it's possible it has already been quite some time) Either way, keep it up and I'm very happy for you & your family :) | /r/RPChristians | 24/12/19 06:34 AM |
| 1 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?Thanks for the in depth writeup! Really encouraging to read someone elses experience and journey, and appreciate you taking the time to share so much. I think you're right on that I need to improve my game - We had a conversation turned fight the other day that wound up with her saying she felt like I was a boy, not a man. She talked about how she yells and says terrible things and I just sit there in silence and take it, and I never change etc etc. Some of it exaggeration, but I think the heart… | /r/RPChristians | 11/12/19 08:04 PM |
| 2 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?I think you're on to something here - Definitely new and exciting things always help, BUT at the same time if they're too new and too exciting they also totally backfire - Which is why I haven't spent a ton of time doing this because my attempts have been (mostly) absolute disasters. Need to reincorporate. | /r/RPChristians | 11/12/19 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?THIS. Thanks man - This example really connected with me. Wow what a low value display I've been putting on. Appreciate it | /r/RPChristians | 11/12/19 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?Thanks! I dabbled with the Fodmaps but didn't do a prolonged removal. Haven't heard of vitamin A detox at all - I'll do some reading. Okay, good to know with the squat - Will try it out | /r/RPChristians | 11/12/19 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?Haha I guess that's a possibility but seems unlikely. | /r/RPChristians | 11/12/19 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?hahaha yes you're correct - That said other than my height I've always attracted a reasonable amount of attention from girls, so I think if anything my face is in the above average zone... But valid points (Although not a lot I can do about either of them) | /r/RPChristians | 11/12/19 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?Issues with food - Doctors and tests have yielded no answers. I get indigestion and plugged up from seemingly random meals (and I’ve tried a LOT of different meal plans - GF; organic only, vegan, low oxalate, low histamine, no sugars, processed food or dairy etc) The issue seems to be causing malabsorption which means even on a 600 cal surplus I still struggle to maintain let alone gain. I gained it all back last year and then lost 20lbs in about 2 months when I caught a bad cold over the winter… | /r/RPChristians | 10/12/19 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?You might be right, but so far my experience with church counseling as well as outside marriage counseling has been pretty negative. I question whether they helped at all or actually just made things worse. That said, wife has gone to therapy and is taking medication for depression which has helped tremendously, but not fixed the underlying issues of attraction in our marriage. Thank you for the ideas and response! | /r/RPChristians | 10/12/19 04:20 PM |
| 1 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?Great breakdown - Thank you very much. I agree I've regressed in my perceived level of physical + social status + spiritual leadership from her perspective. Health issues have thus far kept me from gaining the weight back, but I'll figure it out eventually. "It would also be worth analyzing how you handled the relationship while dating as opposed to changes in behavior when married." - Right on here. I need to sit down and spend some time evaluating + making some changes. | /r/RPChristians | 10/12/19 04:17 PM |
| 2 | why wont drunkards inherit the kingdom of heaven?Good point - Important to define was "drunkard" is. I'm thinking probably this refers to someone we would consider a chronic alcoholic. | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/19 07:50 PM |
| 8 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?Thank you Stryker - Appreciate the evaluation. According to my wife, initially she struggled with attraction before we were ever married. She "said yes" because all her previous relationships were full of wish washy guys and I was ready and committed. Physically when we started dating I was 15lbs more muscle, I was also an actively leader in a significant sized church, and I guess I appeared to have a lot more $$ (although I actually had much less) because during the dating period we often went … | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/19 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?Interesting. Appreciate the response. That must have been a very hard decision for you - Good luck. "guess is that she is looking for leadership" - I think you're likely correct. I've been trying to figure this out for a long time - Leadership is hard to learn and harder to implement when your wife actively pushes against you in almost every area. Still have lots of work to do I don't care so much about where she spends Christmas - It's more the message that being apart for the holidays sends to… | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/19 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Wife (who actively tells me she wishes we could divorce) wants to spend Christmas with her family alone. Response?Lol not at all. I realize there is no permission, I'm in this and committed. But she isn't. So I need to know how to move forward in this specific area. Rather than criticism, I'd appreciate an actual response to my question. | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/19 07:17 PM |
| 1 | What to do....You should add your stats (height, weight, lifts, finances, faith etc) so that we can give more pertinent responses! I feel for you, but it's impossible to give accurate advice without knowing the details. For instance, if you were 350lbs, then you being a fat schmuck would probably be the main cause of this problem. Whereas if you have a body like Atlas, then the issue will be elsewhere. | /r/RPChristians | 09/12/19 07:04 PM |
| 11 | why wont drunkards inherit the kingdom of heaven?This is a great question that Id be interested in hearing others insight into. Im not an expert, but in bible college they taught us to ALWAYS read the passage in context - never to take a verse by itself, but see what the surrounding ideas are, the context of the book as. a whole, and in the context of ALL of scripture Thus I would start by expanding your question not just to why drunkards wont inherit the kingdom, but why for ALL the various behaviours Paul describes in that same list : 1 Cori… | /r/RPChristians | 03/12/19 01:57 AM |
| 1 | FR: You're Not Hot - YetThis is great and so true. I remember thinking my wife was crazy because I had abs and thought I was hot stuff. Then I got up one night and looked at myself in the mirror and REALLY saw myself for the first time in a long time. Fast forward +15lbs and I STILL need to gain prob another 20-30 before I'm actually in the truly beach body category! | /r/RPChristians | 09/11/19 03:44 AM |
| 1 | [FR] "Happy Life, Happy Wife" & Empathy TheoryI don't know if we can say that as a conclusive statement... after all, Jesus was 100% human and felt all that goes along with it, including the possibility he grappled with insecurities and identity... (yet didn't sin obv) - We don't know everything that Jesus felt - only what he actually shared publicly. Interestingly, you COULD say "Christ didn't have any insecurities that he allowed others to see or be aware of" - Which is somewhat similar to what op is saying he plans to do with his fiance … | /r/RPChristians | 23/10/19 09:19 PM |
| 1 | Resources or advise toward building an iron will when it comes to my fitness goals?As a guy who has struggled with these EXACT situations for years, let me tell you the pursuit of more motivation is total bull crap. No one is ever motivated ALL the time - The key is in setting yourself up so that its as easy as possible to do the RIGHT behavior, and as difficult as possible to do the behavior you're trying to avoid. #1 You HAVE to meal prep. Don't track your calories and make it up as you go: Prep your meals in advance. Then it doesn't matter whether or not you're in a rush at… | /r/RPChristians | 14/10/19 08:43 PM |
| 1 | OYS - Where Progress is Made (10/09/19)Good on you Chuck - Will keep your son's decision in my prayers. I'm curious about what this online bible study involves and how that looks! | /r/RPChristians | 13/10/19 04:30 PM |
| 2 | Using RPC principals as a last resort for my sex starved marriage.First off, welcome to RPC, and thanks for sharing. I'm no pro, but since getting married almost 3yrs ago RPC has been absolutely lifegiving and invaluable for me. Not for my marriage, but for ME - My mindset had to change from fixing my wife and fixing my marriage to focusing on fixing and improving the only thing I can actually control, which is me. Reading your story I strongly resonate with the crazy swing since getting married - This exact same thing happened to me. My wife went into crazy… | /r/RPChristians | 17/07/19 08:40 PM |
| 2 | I unknowingly married a BPD... and I need advice.That's fantastic Mateo - Good for you! Appreciate you sharing your progress as its encouraging to hear. “that a woman is in capable of loving a man in the way that he expects someone to love him.” --> This is gold. Still something I'm not truly living out. Always lots to work on. Anyways congrats Mateo - Hope you'll keep us posted on your future results! | /r/RPChristians | 18/05/19 04:00 PM |
| 1 | I unknowingly married a BPD... and I need advice.Hey Mateo - Just rereading all these comments and thought I'd see how things are going with you - How is your journey coming along? | /r/RPChristians | 17/05/19 06:11 PM |
| 2 | For Married Men: When Constantly Initiating is not Getting the Results You WantBest. Analogy. EVER | /r/RPChristians | 07/05/19 04:15 PM |
| 4 | sex... bwfore marriage?Amazing breakdown Chuck! THANK YOU! Loved the driftwood analogy - I've never thought about repentance from that perspective. | /r/RPChristians | 07/05/19 04:36 AM |
| 2 | I unknowingly married a BPD... and I need advice.This was unbelievably helpful Red - Thank you. You've got a serious teaching gift - Hope that book of yours comes out soon! Really appreciate you breaking things down and giving some practical and specific insight into my situation, and pointing out the things I still need to shift + change. If you ever find yourself with the time, I would LOVE that full write up on BPD, and or women with traumatic childhoods / abuse etc. My biggest challenge has been defining what is and isn't appropriate for m… | /r/RPChristians | 10/01/19 04:30 PM |
| 1 | I unknowingly married a BPD... and I need advice.Thanks Leon - Its helpful to hear about how others have dealt with similar. Every time I'm on RPC I go in thinking I'm doing alright and soon realize I've got a long way to go when it comes to frame and RP mindset! | /r/RPChristians | 10/01/19 04:16 PM |
| 1 | I unknowingly married a BPD... and I need advice.Thanks Lewis - Very helpful and practical advice. I really appreciate it! Can I ask a followup? I'm having a hard time defining what obligations or responsibilities I should be laying out for her as my wife... Given that her capacity is limited, I don't want to ask for things that in reality just aren't doable for her... Do you have any insight on this, or would you share the roles and responsibilities you've laid out in your own marriage? Thanks again!! | /r/RPChristians | 10/01/19 04:15 PM |
| 3 | If you could have only read 2 books to help with pickup, self improvement etc - what would they be?bahahaha | /r/seduction | 06/09/18 04:06 AM |
| 1 | RPC approved books and podcasts?Sounds good! | /r/RPChristians | 24/08/18 03:50 AM |
| 1 | RPC approved books and podcasts?Hey Joe - I have a video production bkgnrd + experience creating online courses & memberships. Not sure if this is a direction you think would be helpful, but just putting it out there. I've been wanting to help contribute what I can to RPC and especially work on something that provides a more comprehensive linear approach vs reddit, which can be a little fragmented trying to piece everything together | /r/RPChristians | 23/08/18 09:56 PM |
| 1 | RPC approved books and podcasts?I found one called “no more christian nice guy” no idea if it is written by a RP Pastor who knows about nmmng or not, but so far its been pretty good and along RP thinking... time shall tell | /r/RPChristians | 05/08/18 08:55 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?This was great man, thanks a lot! I'm in agreement I've still got some nice guy tendencies going on. The problem is I'm having trouble deciphering whether this is a sh** test, or whether she's just super depressed / unable to cope / crying for help and doesn't now how else to do it than to lose it. For instance, yesterday she took a bath. Afterwards I asked her with a cheeky smile on my face if she enjoyed her spa experience. She then told me that she started feeling scared and anxious in the tu… | /r/RPChristians | 20/07/18 04:10 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?Thanks Deep Strength, these are great places to start! | /r/RPChristians | 18/07/18 10:57 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?Thanks for sharing your experience and being willing to share about something I'm sure was extremely painful. I truly appreciate the insight 1) So true 2) I agree, there is an application gap between what she says she believes and the outworking. Her deepest priority and concern is in doing something significant for God and giving everything to him... But I think practically speaking this idea of what is "significant" is causing issues... 3) Totally... The never ending question is "how much of t… | /r/RPChristians | 18/07/18 10:51 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?this was great - extremely helpful seeing how u handled that situation! the fight scream craziness is something that ive experienced many times, but the way you maintained frame is what I need to start doing! | /r/RPChristians | 17/07/18 03:44 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?on mobile now so will respond in depth later, but THANK YOU - extremely helpful, insightful and on the nose. Clearly although ive read a decent amount of rp content, i still need to keep internalising / applying! | /r/RPChristians | 17/07/18 03:37 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?I think you're bang on... she as a woman projects a LOT about what my actions / words are saying "under the surface" - when truthfully there is no "under the surface" meaning, just what I literally say or do. | /r/RPChristians | 16/07/18 03:02 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?Good point - Heading them off is certainly the route to go. In hindsight its easy, in the moment its harder to anticipate. | /r/RPChristians | 16/07/18 02:57 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?Agreed x3. Short of encouragement I don't think I can do much about #2, but 1&3 are definitely being applied. Thanks! | /r/RPChristians | 15/07/18 04:01 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?Totally, that is actually an extremely helpful and effective analogy. Appreciate you taking the time to explain and help! | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/18 09:29 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?gotcha. | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/18 03:52 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?Thanks RPW. Your advice is helpful and encouraging. Question for the submitting to authority - Overall I would agree, submission is an issue - But where did you pick that up from the post? I don't think I mentioned it. | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/18 03:46 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?Appreciate the prayers, and thank you for your perspective. It seems to be shared by most of the comments so far that my playing along / trying to calm her down isn't the right approach. BUT in these situations I'm also in the wrong in one way or another too. Thoughts on that? | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/18 03:43 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?Yes, finding community has been a struggle. We're plugged into a church, volunteering weekly and attending, but haven't formed any really deep relationships... Feels like in California most people are so busy working they don't have a lot of time for hanging out / doing life with other people. Perhaps its because we haven't been here long enough, or perhaps we need to switch to a different church where we might connect with more people. Yes I agree, she needs more to do... I have LOTS that I nee… | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/18 03:37 PM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?Hey Deep_Strength! Added some context above per rule #2. Yes, she is a Christian. Yes agree that its not a Christian way to act or speak - She knows that and always apologizes afterwards. Backstory is a little long, a short version is in the context edit above. Lazing around, not having a job are partially because we moved immediately on getting married (had been in bible college prior to that) and because she didn't have a work visa, getting a job wasn't an option. Depression set in during the … | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/18 05:41 AM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?Thanks Tom - Yes there are some deep issues and truthfully part of the reason she's reacting so strongly is because I have failed to fix these issues in the past, and the reactions are amplified as a result. Truth is 1st thing I need to do is fix myself - But i also don't want to excuse intolerable behaviour either. | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/18 05:35 AM |
| 1 | How do you respond to threats from your wife?Done, forgot about that - thanks! | /r/RPChristians | 14/07/18 05:33 AM |
| 1 | Biblical textual analysis of why Adam had headship before the fallare you saying that in the military the leading officer SHOULD or SHOULD NOT be held responsible for those under him? I'm having trouble figuring out which you're trying to say... | /r/RPChristians | 13/07/18 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Biblical textual analysis of why Adam had headship before the fallThis is great - Thanks! | /r/RPChristians | 13/07/18 04:05 PM |
| 2 | TheRedPill is FeministInteresting breakdown, and overall I agree with most of your points! One thing I am wondering - Where do you arrive at the conclusion that God's intended marriage structure is arranged? Maybe a dumb question, but because the fall occurred BEFORE Adam & Eve had even procreated, do we really have a clear picture of exactly what God was intending for future generations? Whether he would have designated Abel to marry a specific woman, or had his Father select a bride etc... We don't really have a co… | /r/RPChristians | 12/07/18 01:52 PM |
| 1 | [NSFW] Sexual Techniques, Strategies, and GamesLook forward to it! | /r/RPChristians | 10/07/18 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Sex god method... RPC Perspective?Great points. Definitely the distinctions are important both in having clear discussions, AND in defining exactly WHAT it is that Paul is telling us to avoid in the various bible verses shared on this thread. Thanks for the breakdown! And super helpful explanation of higher level play. | /r/RPChristians | 09/07/18 10:00 PM |
| 1 | [NSFW] Sexual Techniques, Strategies, and GamesGiven your unreal results with getting her squirting... Am I the only one wondering how you achieved this enviable state?! Any insights would be awesome. | /r/RPChristians | 09/07/18 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Sex god method... RPC Perspective?hmm hard to tell if its all of one or some of both. | /r/RPChristians | 09/07/18 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Sex god method... RPC Perspective?Incredibly succinct and helpful. Maybe its obvious, but I've never thought of the dominant / submissive roles between a husband and wife being reflected / mirrored in roles during sex in quite that way before. Thanks! | /r/RPChristians | 09/07/18 09:20 PM |
| 2 | Sex god method... RPC Perspective?Great breakdown. Its very true - Its definitely a physical AND mind thing with a woman. The irony being that until RP (/the first 95% of my marriage) all the sex advice I'd received (ESPECIALLY within the church) was about how sex is all about the other person, make sure to finish your wife first, sex shouldn't be about you etc etc. The irony being that when I approach it from that submissive mindset, its actually LESS attractive and LESS fulfilling for my wife than if I own the situation, take … | /r/RPChristians | 09/07/18 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Sex god method... RPC Perspective?Interesting. I think thats more or less how she feels - It turns her on to be called a slut and be a dirty girl, BUT to her the word meaning is a girl who sleeps around... ie not pure. Whereas for me my interpretation would be more along the lines of what Red-Curious is thinking. But good points and overall I'd say I agree that if something is a potential for sin / harm... it might be wisest to avoid it rather than run the risk. | /r/RPChristians | 09/07/18 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Sex god method... RPC Perspective?Totally. Because its written from the perspective of a single guy spinning plates with women who are okay with that, not everything necessarily translates. Helpful breakdown and some great points. After trying it a couple times, she's told me that she feels like its wrong and is frustrated I've brought the world into our sex. So although it WAAAAY turns her on and makes it way better for us, she's feeling this conviction which I'm thinking I should honour... | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/18 07:28 PM |
| 1 | Sex god method... RPC Perspective?great breakdown, appreciate it! | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/18 06:21 AM |
| 1 | Apparently there's a sidebarSO TRUE. When I got here, the side bar was there.... Ever since I switched to the new view in reddit: No Sidebar! | /r/RPChristians | 08/07/18 03:24 AM |
| 1 | should I call it quits with this girlgood luck | /r/RPChristians | 07/07/18 08:33 PM |
| 2 | should I call it quits with this girlbaha truth. it was meant as an illustration of a concept (have fun, play, mess with her) NOT a "use this text verbatim" its definitely cheesy. | /r/RPChristians | 07/07/18 08:33 PM |
| 1 | should I call it quits with this girlA) Why would you wait for her to respond? I can picture her on the other end of the text (phone vibrates) "oh look, he texted.... oh he's ditching me... but he says he has a fun idea! ..." (Waiting... Waiting...) B) Book of Pook is a great start. One of the main points is take everything and turn it into a game for your own amusement. So her silence to your text could be your chance to mess with her. "I'm taking your silence means I've taken your breath away... Don't worry, it'll pass ;) Pick yo… | /r/RPChristians | 07/07/18 07:25 PM |
| 3 | Anyone in Irvine, CA want to form a weekly meet up group?Totally - I'm mid twenties. Yourself? | /r/RPChristians | 27/06/18 06:08 AM |
| 3 | Anyone in Irvine, CA want to form a weekly meet up group?**Note** Obviously the anonymity of reddit is something many of us may want to keep. Feel free to message me directly if you don't want to reveal your general location in this thread. If we wind up having enough interest for a meet up, you will be welcome to use an alias. Again, any questions feel free to comment OR dm | /r/RPChristians | 27/06/18 05:19 AM |
| 1 | Was hit hard with some realizations, need inputDon't be terrified of losing an "okay" solution to your singleness. Be terrified of making an unwise commitment and being stuck in it for life. Next and move on. When you find someone whole, healthy and who checks all the other boxes, by all means go for it - But don't let desperation or fear rule your thinking or your decisions - Thats BP and a recipe for disaster. Good luck! | /r/RPChristians | 27/06/18 02:46 AM |
| 1 | I need advice, good experienced Christian masculine advice.Good for you! That's awesome. | /r/RPChristians | 27/06/18 02:43 AM |
| 1 | 27/m virgin, want to lose itBro. Why are you letting YOUR standards determined by others (fallen) standards? First off - You're not saving it for your wife - You're saving it for God and for you. Saying "screw it, if my wife is probably a non-virgin, then I might as well be one too" is a blue pill move. You're lowering YOUR standards because of her - Whoever your future wife may be. Who is to say you won't meet the perfect girl a week after you make this terrible decision, and she's a VIRGIN who has been saving herself? Wo… | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/18 09:02 PM |
| 1 | 27/m virgin, want to lose itThat's up to you of course. But God will not honor it... If you wait, and ask God to bring you the right woman at the right time, HE WILL. God always blesses those who obey - ALWAYS...God will make your relationship with a virgin woman amazing if you choose to trust Him. Have to agree with GBP here. Yes, God blesses those who obey. But that doesn't mean he says YES to every prayer or desire. I don't think there is any reason to assume that God will bring him a woman... Other than Adam and Eve, I… | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/18 05:00 PM |
| 1 | 27/m virgin, want to lose itBro. Why are you letting YOUR standards determined by others (fallen) standards? First off - You're not saving it for your wife - You're saving it for God and for you. Saying "screw it, if my wife is probably a non-virgin, then I might as well be one too" is a blue pill move. You're lowering YOUR standards because of her - Whoever your future wife may be. Who is to say you won't meet the perfect girl a week after you make this terrible decision, and she's a VIRGIN who has been saving herself? Wo… | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/18 04:53 PM |
| 1 | I need advice, good experienced Christian masculine advice.The only context we have is what you've written, but assuming what you've written is enough - "She’s extremely shy In person and it’s just weird it’s almost like something is off about her." Your spidey sense is tingling ;) But seriously... If you have a gut feeling, combined with this other stuff - LISTEN TO IT. Best case scenario, you save yourself from a world of frustration and hurt. Worst case scenario, you were wrong and unwittingly pass up an "okay" (but probably not great) relationship..… | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/18 04:38 PM |
| 0 | Was hit hard with some realizations, need inputIf you were hit with a realization that there are big things that are not what you want - Listen to it. Don't continue on a path just because its easier or you want to avoid a hard decision / potentially painful change. That's what being a man and a leader is about - You've got to lead yourself first, OYS, and make a call. I love my wife, but when we were dating I experienced something similar... But I ignored the things I was noticing assuming they weren't that big of a deal, or that they'd cha… | /r/RPChristians | 23/06/18 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Expectations towards / tasks for a wifeGotcha - Sounds like you're going in a good direction. | /r/RPChristians | 17/05/18 04:39 PM |
| 7 | Expectations towards / tasks for a wifeI think you have some good stuff here. One big thing I see missing: Mission As the man we're called to lead our wives. Our wives are first and foremost called to support us in OUR mission. So if my wife asked me this question, rather than a goodiebag of things I'd like her to do, I'd first ask myself "What is MY mission?" is it big enough? Bold enough? Does it having a God Calling / eternal purpose? What are my priorities, values, and calling - Where am I headed in this life this year, in 5 year… | /r/RPChristians | 17/05/18 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Men are horny. Women are bored.bahahaha | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/05/18 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Men are horny. Women are bored.Simply. Genius. | /r/MarriedRedPill | 15/05/18 10:08 PM |
| 1 | I'd love some biblical feedback.Gotcha, thanks for the specifics. Totally different body type so the strategy is going to be different. Rather than trying to ADD mass, I'd say you'll see better results by continuing to cut with your diet, and working out to sculpt the muscle it sounds like you already have. That's epic you're down 30 - But TBH at 6'1 if you're still 220 in all likelihood you could still afford to continue in a calorie deficit and cut probably another 15-20 lbs of fat. Counterintuitive, but LOSING weight will a… | /r/RPChristians | 10/05/18 06:20 AM |
| 1 | I'd love some biblical feedback.Absolutely - Although I've switched it up several times. I'm a believer that the #1 key for gaining weight isn't the workout routine at all - Its the diet. Both matter, but NO workout plan will give you results if you aren't taking in enough calories. The biggest gains come when you eat like its your job, and at the same time work the biggest muscle groups - Strongs 5x5 works for this too. I started off doing Occams Protocol - Its focused on the Pareto Principle (80/20 rule) - Most of what you d… | /r/RPChristians | 09/05/18 04:53 PM |
| 1 | 32 years old and struggling with my faith. I feel like stepping away from Christianity would help me.Bro, first off thanks for sharing and being real and honest. I feel like there wasn't a lot of totally practical advice in the comments, so here's my 2 cents... 1) Cut yourself some slack! You're only 32. You've got a great job doing something you love. You're healthy and making progress - Keep going. Don't give up. I get that its discouraging when it feels like everyone else is married off, but seriously - Like HALF my friends are in their 30's and not married yet. And the other half almost all… | /r/RPChristians | 09/05/18 04:46 AM |
| 1 | I'd love some biblical feedback.I'm 100% new to RPC - Started the RP journey about 2-3 months ago. So disclaimer, its totally possible you've been here a lot longer and know a lot more than me. BUT I also, like its gunnabereal + you, have a wife who told me the same terrible crap "I'm not into you, I'm not attracted to you, I've never been attracted to you - I only married you because you were committed and the guy I wanted didn't want me" And then you're left floored and shattered and hopeless, because what the heck do you sa… | /r/RPChristians | 09/05/18 03:38 AM |
| 1 | What Do I Do? My Wife Is Openly Unattracted To Me + Interested In Other Men / Past RelationshipsThanks R. Question - She often has breakdowns hating her life and feeling suicidal and depressed, struggles to get out of bed in the morning - Pretty much just doesn't have the coping or life skills to handle much of anything before she's crying and a mess on the couch. How does a Christian husband who made a lifetime of marriage commitment handle this? Any insight appreciated - Let me know if any clarification or further details are needed. | /r/RPChristians | 12/04/18 12:00 AM |
| 1 | What Do I Do? My Wife Is Openly Unattracted To Me + Interested In Other Men / Past RelationshipsThanks Chuck - Will give those exercises a go, and truly appreciate the encouragement. | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/18 07:25 PM |
| 2 | What Do I Do? My Wife Is Openly Unattracted To Me + Interested In Other Men / Past RelationshipsThanks Mac. Sometimes a person just needs some tough love to wake up, and hearing it has been encouraging that I'm in the right place and know what to focus on. Haven't heard of J Peterson - Will check him out! | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/18 04:18 PM |
| 1 | What Do I Do? My Wife Is Openly Unattracted To Me + Interested In Other Men / Past RelationshipsYour definitions of serving, loving, and being Christ-like are all off. None of those involve "doing whatever she wants." Totally agree. In hindsight I see that. Back when it all started I wasn't able to. Time to change. I need to get out of my head with this stuff and just go out there and make the changes. Really appreciate the insight and tough love. Needed it | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/18 04:16 PM |
| 1 | What Do I Do? My Wife Is Openly Unattracted To Me + Interested In Other Men / Past RelationshipsShort, sweet and 100% agree. All these responses have been a wakeup call. I need to get out of my head with this stuff and just go out there and make the changes. Thanks! | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/18 04:13 PM |
| 2 | What Do I Do? My Wife Is Openly Unattracted To Me + Interested In Other Men / Past RelationshipsInteresting thought. Although I'm not sure if I believe her when she says these things... I think maybe its more of her inner hamster changing the story to make sense of how she feels and the situation she's in. | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/18 04:12 PM |
| 1 | What Do I Do? My Wife Is Openly Unattracted To Me + Interested In Other Men / Past RelationshipsHeight 5'6 Weight 135 BF% Not sure, but I'm a very lean 135 Stopped the gym around when we got married (Big mistake) Started again about 4 months ago Bench 140ish Leg press = 200x12 3 or 4 sets. No squat rack at the gym Deadlift - haven't been doing these yet! No kids. Not pregnant. Thanks for the reality check. The overwhelming encouragement is that I need to man up, become the kind of man that women are drawn to and respect, and that will either bring positive marriage or not, but either way I… | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/18 04:09 PM |
| 1 | What Do I Do? My Wife Is Openly Unattracted To Me + Interested In Other Men / Past RelationshipsSo true - RP and RPC has really shifted my perspective. The church context I grew up in definitely had their outward push being "more like Jesus" - But in reality the outworking for a man wound up being "Be a good Beta" instead. | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/18 04:06 PM |
| 1 | What Do I Do? My Wife Is Openly Unattracted To Me + Interested In Other Men / Past RelationshipsHeight 5'6 Weight 135 BF% Not sure, but I'm a very lean 135 Stopped the gym around when we got married (Big mistake) Started again about 4 months ago Bench 140ish Leg press = 200x12 3 or 4 sets. No squat rack at the gym Deadlift - haven't been doing these yet! | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/18 04:02 PM |
| 4 | What Do I Do? My Wife Is Openly Unattracted To Me + Interested In Other Men / Past RelationshipsThanks Red. This one hit the nail on right on the head. Truth is I've approached marriage with a partnership mentality rather than a leadership one, and so I've compromised my long term vision for her short term desires. Makes total sense then that she wouldn't have a lot of respect or pride in the man without a clear mission! | /r/RPChristians | 09/04/18 03:58 PM |
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