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6	Hating cats... a red flag or the biggest red flag? Dog person here. Haven’t been able to have a cat for 15 years because of compatibility with my canine BFF. I really do love cats too though. So I ask if he likes cats or dogs. You usually hear variations on: “I can’t have cats because I always had dogs. Would be nice though and I can’t wait to have another in my life.” or, “I love cats. Dogs are fun, but I’ve just always been a cat person.” This isn’t a lack of red flag. Ask questions about why he’s a dog/cat person. See if he loves dogs because…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/06/21 01:37 AM
57	A treatise in favor of casual snooping Search his name on your local civil records search. You can google “(County/State) court records” and most places publish arrests, marriages, warrants, etc. Check sex offender registries. The FEC’s political donation individual contributions search. The no-fly list. State prison records. District courts. Professional licensing if applicable to his career. There is a lot of publicly available information that you can use to make sure that everything adds up, even if you can’t get access to his ph…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/05/21 02:10 AM
9	TAKE NOTE OF THE MEDIA A MAN CONSUMES: A LIST OF RED FLAGS TO WATCH OUT FOR IN 2021 This applies to nearly any school of thought, genre of book, or area of science. There’s a risk when an uneducated person encounters complex ideas. I still remember this guy years ago mansplaining The Prince to me, getting most of it wrong, but still describing in wide-eyed wonder the concept of a smart person writing down ideas so that others can learn from them. He was totally unable to process the content as anything other than an instruction manual. I was sitting there like, “Have…have you n…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/05/21 01:46 PM
67	TAKE NOTE OF THE MEDIA A MAN CONSUMES: A LIST OF RED FLAGS TO WATCH OUT FOR IN 2021 I love stoicism and found it through philosophy class. I was beyond shocked at what some men have turned it into. Instead of “how can I improve myself in the areas I control” they ask “how can I stop caring about other people.” The stoic philosophers would be so confused.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/05/21 03:09 AM
7	This website has been a lifesaver with pre-screening men. safety tip: remove your own info from these sites. I opted out from Family Tree Now and I’m pretty sure they’re the largest database, because I’ve never seen myself on any others since. https://www.familytreenow.com/optout[https://www.familytreenow.com/optout](https://www.familytreenow.com/optout) edit to add: just noticed they are affiliated with True People Search. but every time I see one of these sites, I search for myself to make sure my address/phone isn’t listed	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/05/21 12:27 AM
50	Sorry does not forgive disrespect, disloyalty, and betrayal - just go! some of them aren’t even sorry after they get caught... listen carefully to apologies and don’t accept any: “I’m sorry if you were upset” “Fine, I’m sorry, is that what you needed to hear?” “I’m a huge piece of shit, I don’t know how you put up with me. I don’t deserve you.” Because what they really mean is “I’m only as sorry as I need to be.” “you can either say the apology wasn’t needed, or you can accept it and we forget this happened.” and my favorite, “Stuff your own feelings and please bab…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/04/21 10:21 PM

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