howdatingworks Archive

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1	where to begin ? trust me dude, when she likes you, it is this easy. The most difficulty you'll encounter is mustering the courage to risk rejection and then continuing to practice meeting and asking out women even when some of them don't want you. The negging and push/pull stuff comes from guys with a flawed understanding of attraction. I have all this in more detail on my website, but it basically boils down to this: women want men who are confident, ambitious, a little mysterious (80-20 rule, let her do most …	/r/seduction	20/03/22 12:01 AM
1	where to begin ? First of all good for you going to the gym regularly and catching the attention of a cute girl. Most people lack the resolve or even interest to care for their bodies and appearance and health, but here you are miles ahead of the average person. Clearly you've gone regularly enough for her to notice and try to get your attention in return. You say you hate your body, which is an issue concerning your mindset. Women see you how you perceive yourself, so when you actively take care of your body …	/r/seduction	19/03/22 02:34 AM
2	How to cold approach without getting antsy? the how to meet women article/video also goes over the best places to meet women. If you're out in a bar or club specifically, you can use these strategies too: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-meet-women-at-bars-and-clubs	/r/seduction	19/03/22 02:17 AM
2	How to cold approach without getting antsy? practice, practice, practice, but make sure you practice the right way. This means having the right body language, mindset, and smile, and asking fun personal questions that get her to do at least 80% of the talking while you ask more questions, joke around, and gauge your enjoyment of the conversation. Full details to maximize your success here: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-be-attractive (body language/mindset/appearance) https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-meet-women (appr…	/r/seduction	19/03/22 02:16 AM
1	What’s the right approach to being single in your mid twenties? also on the experience thing, there will be a learning curve, but when women like you, they like you regardless of how many other women you've been with. Just don't talk them out of it and it'll be smooth sailing to get some great learning experiences.	/r/seduction	19/03/22 01:14 AM
3	What’s the right approach to being single in your mid twenties? First of all great work you're doing on yourself. Gym, work, social life, all keys to being your happiest/healthiest/sexiest self. Some people learn later, so there's nothing wrong with your timing, and it's never too late to have the relationship and experiences you crave. I'm gonna suggest two things you need to focus on to get to where you want to be: 1) mindset and 2) practice You need to foster the internal belief and knowledge that you're a catch who any woman would be lucky to have. Carry…	/r/seduction	19/03/22 01:12 AM
2	Regular customer at work brought me chocolates idk what that means? Here are some tips on how to do that to give her the best chance of accepting and showing up to your date: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-ask-out-a-girl Key points: ask when she's free to get together, not if she wants to see you, make sure you have definite, specific plans for day/time/place to meet up in the evening (no maybe dates or call back to confirm), and don't be afraid to ask her out in front of others. Just say something like "hey it's always great chatting with you when y…	/r/seduction	19/03/22 01:02 AM
1	How do I attract a lady while I’m doing something I love doing without seeming to be unapproachable? Women will approach you first if you have the right vibe and body language. Make sure you're carrying yourself properly with a big smile, and you can approach and be approached in any setting with ease. Full details here: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-be-attractive	/r/seduction	08/03/22 02:41 AM
1	Should I give out business cards to women I connect with? You should be asking women you like to join you for a drink or to make a definite date later, or at a bare minimum getting their numbers and texting them yours, not wasting your time handing out your number. Especially on a business card that you have prepared for this, it communicates that she's one of many women you're casually throwing your info at. Instead, you want to make her feel special and show confidence by directly asking for her info. Ideally ask her for a date but if that's too bold…	/r/seduction	08/03/22 02:40 AM
2	Validation, compliments, and sex You're absolutely right about not laying it on thick in normal conversation, but during foreplay and sex, it's critical to make her feel like the sexiest woman on earth, or at least someone you find highly attractive. Tell her how much you love her gorgeous body, her soft skin, her beautiful hair or lips or ass or how amazing her tight pussy feels on your...you get the idea. She'll never throw it in your face or make fun of you for giving her a genuine compliment that comes straight from your he…	/r/seduction	08/03/22 02:35 AM
1	Do you think women are oblivious to the skill that guys need to be successful at dating? Exactly right my man, dating is a skill that requires practice, repetition, failure, and improvement to be successful. Women may not realize or agree with it, and many men may not for that matter either, but it's like anything else in life. You only get better if you do it repeatedly, and you do it the right way every time. I think some women are absolutely keyed into this, but others just don't have that experience or awareness themselves. Some even get upset at reality, as if you can be good a…	/r/seduction	08/03/22 02:30 AM
1	Mixed reads after second date - help! Major issue here: you asked her out in a sub-optimal way. Instead of first proposing a date when you don't know her schedule, ask When are you free? or When are you available to get together? to let her tell you any and all options. You're right that if she really wanted to see you she probably would've offered another day, but you didn't give her the best chance to do so. Now you need to stick to your word and wait for her to let you know like you asked. There is no other reason to contact her.…	/r/seduction	08/03/22 02:24 AM
2	Is it weird to ask a random girl for her number? Not weird at all, in fact a great thing to do. Women love confidence. It's more important than looks or money or anything else. Asking her directly and decisively for what you want gives her the easiest and best chance to say yes. Here's a more detailed article and video on how to succeed with this: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-ask-out-a-girl	/r/seduction	08/03/22 02:15 AM
6	Has anyone ever been absolutely destroyed by a relationship that only lasted a month or so and cannot bounce back? Tough pill to swallow my dude, I feel for you. But the good news is we can diagnose the problem, fix what you did wrong, and set you up to have someone even better. I'll link below to more detailed articles to read up on this but first let me go over the three main issues that led you to this point: 1) moving too fast, 2) counterproductive mindset, and 3) not doing anything to fix it. When a woman says things are moving too fast, it means you're calling, texting, and initiating too much contact.…	/r/seduction	08/03/22 02:10 AM
1	I need approaching advice You can start with a simple, low risk opener, something polite and friendly such as Hey how are you? What's up? What are you up to today? maybe something incorporating the environment if you're both shopping for the same thing or in line for the same food. But if you really want to find out quickly whether you have a shot with her then just say authentically how she makes you feel: "You look gorgeous. I want you. What's your name?" and get to talking and asking her for a date. Here's a detailed …	/r/seduction	07/02/22 03:12 AM
9	[deleted by user] Tell her what you're doing, what you're about to do, and what you just did. Simply describing where your penis going, what you're feeling, how exactly you want her to touch you, what you like about what she's doing, is hot. The more specific and graphic you can be, the hotter it is. Here's a detailed video/article to help you have great sex beyond even just dirty talk: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-be-good-in-bed	/r/seduction	07/02/22 03:08 AM
-1	Are cold approaches inevitably a bit awkward? 2-3% success rate is high for any cold approaching, whether meeting women, calling sales leads, sending cold emails, etc. If you like approaching cold then the best bet is to hone your skills to the point where you know from a woman's eye contact, body language, and attention to you that she's into you. Here's an article/video with more details on how to approach women and break the ice to minimize awkwardness: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-meet-women But at the end of the day 97% o…	/r/seduction	07/02/22 03:04 AM
3	How to approach girls at the gym? Always great to be the most ripped guy at the gym, especially if you have a lot of rapport with trainers or other patrons around you. That way you walk in with instant friends, so once you start saying hi and making conversation with people women will see you being liked and celebrated by the people around you. You need to sharpen your radar as to what women do when they like you so that you can focus on which ones to talk to. Girls who find you attractive will smile, make eye contact, and put t…	/r/seduction	07/02/22 02:58 AM
1	Girl said she wanted to bang on first date but we only ended up kissing - did she lose interest? When a woman comes on strong like that and then says something like "by the way, we're not sleeping together tonight," it usually means "we're definitely sleeping together as long as you don't talk me out of it." Sounds like you did a good job getting her back to your place but could've tightened your game to close the deal. Check out this detailed article/video on how to progress things and have a great time for both of you when it's getting hot and heavy: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/ho…	/r/seduction	04/02/22 07:44 AM
1	Girl flaked after second date Definitely should have gone for it man – she was on your couch making out with you, for crying out loud! You could do well to plan better dates and to make your move when the moment is right. Here's the process for you: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/first-date-ideas (dates that lead to sex) https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-kiss-a-girl (going for the kiss) https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-bring-a-date-home (escalating physically) https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-t…	/r/seduction	04/02/22 03:30 AM
1	I make girls THINK but not FEEL Most women just aren't going to click with you, nor will you with them. Finding someone with whom you share that chemistry is rare and special, so it requires wading through a lot of Nos and mediocre people. Women who like you and find you interesting already feel things when you talk, but they key is to let them do 80-90% of the talking while you ask fun, personal questions. This makes you more mysterious and shows that you have a sincere interest in who she is, which is key to her attraction g…	/r/seduction	04/02/22 03:28 AM
1	[deleted by user] Definitely could have gone for the kiss better. Here are some tips to help you with that: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-kiss-a-girl And when you ask her out, you don't want to plan something before she has class or another activity. Make an evening date where you both have the whole night open to spend together. This is your best bet to get sex and romance: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/first-date-ideas	/r/seduction	04/02/22 03:22 AM
1	What to do after eye contact Definitely hold eye contact! whoever looks away first is the less dominant person, and women want a dominant man. When she meets your eyes, give her a friendly smile, maintain eye contact, and throw out a simple, polite opener – "what's up?" "Hey, how are you?" "Damn, you have to show me your squat routine if you catch my drift ;)" I go into extensive detail on how to parlay eye contact into a conversation and then getting numbers and dates in this article/video: https://www.howdatingworks.com/b…	/r/seduction	04/02/22 03:17 AM
-1	How should you pull a girl aside to ask her out? No need to pull her aside. If she likes you, she'll like you even more when you confidently ask her out in front of her and/or your friends. Show some balls and use these strategies to get a date when you can feel mutual attraction: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-ask-out-a-girl	/r/seduction	04/02/22 03:12 AM
2	help me read her behavior Sounds like she had a really high level of interest, but your game is sloppy in the realm of actually asking her out. The more you ask her if she wants to go out with you (as opposed to asking "When are you free?") and the more you leave details of your date (day/time/place) up in the air, the less enthusiastic she gets seeing that you're too available and not sure of yourself. You can tighten up your game and get a better read of her interest using these strategies: https://www.howdatingworks.c…	/r/seduction	04/02/22 03:11 AM
-18	[deleted by user] If you're unsure about her interest, don't leave it up to chance – make your move so you can either progress things or find someone who does want you. I recommend these tips and tricks to have the best success asking women out: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-ask-out-a-girl You should be ready to ask out any (single) woman at any time, even if she's leading your swim class. If she likes you, she'll accept	/r/seduction	04/02/22 03:05 AM
-8	Self improving but still no results with women, now what? Hey man, totally used to feel that way myself. Great job approaching all those women. It sure takes some balls, and that puts you head and shoulders above most guys who could never do that. I think you'd benefit by checking out a couple blog posts/videos I did on being attractive and meeting women: https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-be-attractive https://www.howdatingworks.com/blog/how-to-meet-women Once you get those down you can follow the rest of the Dating Bootcamp to start getting t…	/r/seduction	04/02/22 02:59 AM