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It says that she's creative.
/r/askTRP09/11/18 10:04 PM
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agreed. I like domineering women, but ever since hitting the gym I like dominating more. It not only builds testosterone, but makes you feel stronger and more dominant.
/r/askTRP09/11/18 10:03 PM
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I would probably think of things that anger me about the girl, resentment, and use that to build my aggression with her in bed. Or maybe a resentment for women in general, take it out on her in bed. The first step to changing behavior is realizing it, and it looks like you realize it. I also like the idea of a woman dominating in men-- very sexy. But the fact is that most women like being dominated in bed. The bonus here, for us, is as the dominant one we can take what we want. Want a blowjob? P…
/r/askTRP09/11/18 10:00 PM
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Yes. She mentioned it.. she won't mention it again. The ball is in OPs court.
/r/askTRP22/10/18 08:54 PM
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Actually, she just text me back: "Sorry. Work is keeping me busy the last couple of days. Cramming as I am off Friday and taking a long weekend. Chance to relax. Lol. Will find a night for a drinks. Ready your long weekend. Going to be truly hot." Guys. You know what she's suggesting? How the hell do I respond do that lol? Jesus Christ. This girl..this girl. I'm clueless how to approach this text and the drink with her, and what happens next. I never went on a date before, and I'm a virgin Ahaha…
/r/seduction28/06/18 03:29 AM
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Yes, that tease text was a mistake for sure. I did good kino last time; when I approached her I placed my arm next to hers as I leaned on the bar next to her; I touched her back and laughed when she teased me; I ran my hand around her back when we kissed. For getting her back to my place could I say "Want to stop by my place for a glass of wine?" I'm not sure if asking her is the right move. Damn.. I don't even have a couch in my living room - probably should get one since I'm approaching women …
/r/seduction28/06/18 01:02 AM
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You may be right - this girl was different than the typical bar/club type. Maybe she wanted to feel more of a connection before going on a 'date'. BUT many people here mentioned to keep texting to a MINIMUM and just to close with getting her to see me again. It just goes to show that I should trust my gut instead of following advice here. Some advice is great, but some is situational and never applied to my situation. You're right. I should have set up the date. So my text was on Monday and it's…
/r/seduction28/06/18 12:51 AM
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Slow the fuck down my man. Will do! Thanks for the reassurance. If she doesn't reply by tomorrow I'm going to find another bar / music venue and approach someone else (keep the momentum going) just to put things in perspective. I get that she could be busy, but it takes 10 sec to text back and reassure the person. She told me she thought i was very handsome and then later that night she texted me back saying that she was glad that I approached her. Hopefully we end up making plans. In the mean t…
/r/seduction25/06/18 08:14 PM
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Lol fuck. Here's what I texted: Me: "So ___, where are you flying to today? Hong Kong? Dubai?" Her: "Shanghai" Her: "Actually, I'm in ____ (a nearby city)" Me: "Oh ___ (nearby city), how exotic!" (I don't ask her why she's there to keep texting to a minimum) Me: "I had fun talking to your the other night. When can I see you again?" I realize my mistake in the last line. I know you told me to ask her out indirectly, but I was anxious and over thinking so I just text that because I never had an ex…
/r/seduction25/06/18 06:14 PM
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What do you think of this message, it contains a light joke like you suggested: "So, where are you headed to today? Bangkok? Dubai?" (Her friend lied to me about their jobs, telling me they were stewardesses, and she later came clean to me before we kissed) If she doesn't understand my humor. I'll emphasize my joke with: "You know, I've always wanted to date a stewardess. ;D" (Now she should get my joke. I'm not sure if I should use the word 'date' here, might be inappropriate) "When can I see y…
/r/seduction25/06/18 03:53 AM
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Thanks for the insights. But why do you say it will likely crash and burn? You're the second person to say that. Fuck you. lol About the lie - it was a white lie, but if she asks about "my ex" then I'll be forced to lie more if I don't tell the truth. If she asks, i can say something like : "Well, when you asked me why I was there, it was easier to say it because I recently broke up with an ex, then to tell you the truth. The truth is I was there to unwind, but I was also there to meet someone i…
/r/seduction25/06/18 03:50 AM
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I don't know. A dinner date! I want to avoid that for now. It seems too much like a traditional date. I think its best to pick something funner.
/r/seduction25/06/18 03:20 AM
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Ok, so if she does ask about 'my ex' which I 100% believe she will, I should confess? I'll tell her: "Well, when you asked me why I was there, it was easier to say because I recently broke up with an ex, then to tell you the truth. The truth is I was there to unwind, and to meet someone if I could, because I'd like to avoid doing the online dating thing." (we expressed our negative opinion about online dating while talking) Think this is good?
/r/seduction25/06/18 03:16 AM
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Wow nice feedback! I would so buy you a drink if I could. Lastly I want to let you know this person isn’t going to work out. Damn, that hurts. My stomach took a punch when reading that line. I will definitely try to keep in mind that it may not work and I WILL have to try again with another girl. I know it's easy to self sabotage with my mentality - need to keep that in mind. I'll contact her tomorrow around noonish. People always seen happiest around noon. Script: -Hey ___ how are you? -Refer t…
/r/seduction25/06/18 01:28 AM
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ZBF, which date idea is best? Going to a beach area, where there's bars nearby. We can have a drink then walk to the beach and on the sand. There's some ice cream vendors there too. We would be talking a lot, and with little alcohol; so my anxiety might be bad. Inviting her to the same bar with live music, drinking and trying to talk - wait, who's gonna drive? But she may want to dance, and I don't have much experience dancing; and 0 experience dancing with another person. Also, should I be pick…
/r/seduction25/06/18 12:07 AM
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just text her tomorrow that it was nice to meet her that night and you'd like to see her again. Leave it at that and hopefully she replies the same. After that tell her you are going somewhere (could be a bar, a diner, for some coffee, doesn't matter) and that she should join you /keep you company. The point is you aren't asking her and putting the pressure on her. Thanks for the reply! So if I text her tomorrow (Monday), you want me to send a second text saying I'm going somewhere later and for…
/r/seduction24/06/18 11:19 PM
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that's pretty funny. May use that.
/r/seduction24/06/18 11:15 PM
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Ok, no 3 days of waiting! I'll text tonight or tomorrow noon-ish. Yeah I live in Canada and the weathers good. I could invite he to a port area during the day where there's bars and a beach. But the entire date would be grabbing a drink and talking, then walking and talking.. that's a lot of talking!! It would be nice if I could think of a fun activity we can do where there's less talking involved.
/r/seduction24/06/18 09:51 PM
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Ok, night time venue it is then. Drinks will help me anyways. So I assume I'm going to just be talking with her during while drinking? Not much else to do. Last night she asked me through text if I liked golfing, and I said I don't golf. SO I assume she would like to do something casual and fun with me. Maybe a night venue isn't best? Seems like she wants it to be very casual and no pressure, while doing something fun together, instead of just talking and drinking. What a fun date ideas? hmmm
/r/seduction24/06/18 09:45 PM
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But I don't want to go an entire week without making contact. She'll think I lost interest or that the night wasn't good for me. I know I would if I was her.
/r/seduction24/06/18 09:36 PM
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I could go to a live music bar during the night. Or to a beach area during the day, where we can grab a drink then walk the shore and talk. Which do you think is best? I don't have friends, since I moved to this city recently. Could I say: "Hey, I'm going to go to Port X for a drink and then going to the beach, want to come along?" But again, if she's not free, then I may have to wait another entire week before pulling the same trick over again. And with your suggestion, I can't exactly text her…
/r/seduction24/06/18 09:01 PM
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Thank you for the sincere advice and reality check.. really, thanks. Could I set up the next 'date' by text instead of calling? I'm less confident on the phone and I have a monotone voice. Enthusiasm isn't my strongest quality. Or is calling a big advantage when it comes to building connection? I can't draw blanks and be awkward while texting, but I can by calling. I'll contact her tomorrow.
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:55 PM
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Anxiety meds can help. Ativan, for instance. If not, then frustration, missed opportunities and anger will drive you to take the leap eventually!
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:39 PM
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hmmm... OK, I can text her tonight. But what should I tell her if I'm not setting up a date? I already texted her last night after seeing her, we told each other we enjoyed talking, she said i'm handsome, I said she's beautiful, and we said good night.
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:36 PM
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Yes, pray to jesus tonight. I'm not religious, but a friend told me to pray. I prayed for friendships, and a few days later someone called me to go out. I prayed for relationships, then this girl happens. lmao . I know, I know, jesus may not be real. But it's a funny coincidence that everything I prayed for happens. Not gonna jix it
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:34 PM
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no escort. I have my false pride to protect. If we keep seeing eachother I'll eventually tell her that it's been awhile for me.. and elude to the fact that I'm inexperienced.
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:32 PM
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How did the kiss feel like? It must have felt amazing after 30 years of no action... just wondering to hear about your experience if you don't mind. It felt natural. I knew what to do. I tilted my head a bit and went in for the kiss, pouted my limps a bit with hers while moving my hand up her back. The smell of her lipstick lingering on my limps.. It felt great. I had a smile on me all night. In hindsight .. I should have kissed more. It only lasted 5 seconds or so. I should have move my hand ac…
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:30 PM
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I know you know that this is a very very bad move. Curious, were you just looking to have sex that night? You're right, it was a terrible move!! I just thought that people go to those places for casual flings. I wasn't really looking for sex. I had no expectations going in. So what do you think my next move should be zbf? You seem knowledgeable. Should I text her tonight or wait until tomorrow? Phone call or text? I'm thinking about texting something playful and then asking her "When can I see y…
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:27 PM
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haha thanks :)
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:24 PM
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Do you think I should just text her 'When can I see you again?' so she gives me the days she's free? It doesn't seem like i'm leading by asking her that, but at least it's direct.
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:23 PM
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All it takes is enough frustration and regret building up to finally say "fuck it" and jump in without a plan! Also some alcohol. I missed so many opportunities that I regret so much before taking matters into my own hands.
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:21 PM
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Hmmm. Don't you think by texting "Hey I was going to so and so with my buddy but he bailed on me. Do you want to meet up?" that I'll make her feel like she was my 2nd choice? Also, I'd have to wait an entire week before texting her on that day AND hope she isn't busy. What about texting: "When can I see you again?" As for 'date' ideas. I can ask her out for drinks at a live music bar. Or I can ask her out to the beach, where we can grab a beer nearby then walk the shore and talk. What do you thi…
/r/seduction24/06/18 08:19 PM
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Yes I'll confess about the little lie.. err. Though I won't tell her I've never been in a relationship, no way. I imagine that's a red flag sign to her and maybe a turn off. It's Sunday now, 11am. Do you think I should ask her out today? Or should I ask her if she wants to go out next weekend? Should I text or call? Or should I wait a few days before making plans?
/r/seduction24/06/18 03:15 PM
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You're right. I can't cling on to this opportunity or else I'll self sabotage for sure. I'm ready to lose it. Hey so It's Sunday now, 11am. Do you think I should ask her out today? Or should I ask her if she wants to go out next weekend? Should I text or call? Or should I wait a few days before making plans?
/r/seduction24/06/18 03:13 PM
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Haha thanks for the advice man and for the words of encouragement! It's Sunday now, 11am. Do you think I should ask her out today? Or should I ask her if she wants to go out next weekend? Should I text or call? Or should I wait a few days before making plans?
/r/seduction24/06/18 03:12 PM
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True. But I wouldn't want to admit i'm a virgin, ever. I could however admit that it's been a long time and I'm a bit inexperienced. Anyways.. It's Sunday now, 11am. Do you think I should ask her out today? Or should I ask her if she wants to go out next weekend? Should I text or call? Or should I wait a few days before making plans?
/r/seduction24/06/18 03:12 PM
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Hey! It's Sunday now, 11am. Do you think I should ask her out today? Or should I ask her if she wants to go out next weekend? Should I text or call? Or should I wait a few days before making plans?
/r/seduction24/06/18 03:10 PM
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I don't know man. She's not the one night stand type - clearly. So If I get into a relationship with her than I don't want to carry this lie with me through out it. She's gonna ask about it a lot, ask about the girl and how long my relationship was etc..
/r/seduction24/06/18 03:08 PM
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Thanks for the play by play analysis! Haha. Shortly after asking her to dance she spoke about how much she disliked the band and the music. So we talked instead. And I don't think it was boring. I hope I never had a chance to bring her home. But you're right about the kiss, I should have phrased it as "I'd like to kiss you right now.". Anyways, what's the next step? It's Sunday 11AM. Should I ask her out today or ask her if she wants to go out next week? Do I call or text? Or do I contact her in…
/r/seduction24/06/18 03:07 PM
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Should I ask her out today? Or next weekend? Or in the middle of the week?
/r/seduction24/06/18 02:49 PM
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iit was joke
/r/seduction24/06/18 11:19 AM
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Hmm thanks, I could try that. I definitely don't want to go on a date tomorrow, considering it would be my FIRST. But next weekend is more than 2-3days away, it's 6 days away. I guess I could wait until then. I hope the spark doesn't fade by then. Maybe I'll text her tomorrow afternoon and ask her if she wants to go out next weekend. I definitely want the date to include DRINKS to help me loosen up, and hell.. it might lead to something. Should I ask her where she wants to go? I'm feeling a litt…
/r/seduction24/06/18 06:34 AM
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What should I text about during the week? Oh, what if she thinks that I should ask her out tomorrow (Sunday)? I don't really want to go out so soon, because too much would be happening too fast for me. I need time to recover. Next weekends sounds good, though I'm afraid our 'spark' might fade by then?
/r/seduction24/06/18 06:26 AM
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Haha thank you so much. Made me smile. I guess it just takes a certain boiling point to become so frustrated with the SA and to finally force yourself to try something. Tonight was that boiling point for me. I just got rejected by someone yesterday (I confessed my feelings to a friend and she denied me), so the bitterness from that helped me push myself tonight. I'm not sure if I'll survive the next steps, which include texting/calling her and setting a date, etc etc... And maybe even losing my …
/r/seduction24/06/18 06:03 AM
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Thanks. I actually called her a 'tease' by text for leaving me with only a kiss. It was a playful remark by me, but she text me back saying that she isn't the type of girl to do a one night stand, but is willing to be more than a temptress once she gets serious. Haha. I have no idea if I should text her tomorrow, or when I should ask her out. I'll also have no alcohol in me when we go out on a date, which will no doubt make things harder for me. Jesus. I'd appreciate any suggestions from you guy…
/r/seduction24/06/18 05:54 AM
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Example: The other week a girl gave me all the signals to initiate a move for sex, yet I did nothing, because the signals flew over my head. And even if I had known about what she wanted, I would have probably messed it up. Here's the story: https://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/8t56tj/apparently_i_misread_her_signals_shes_not_into_me/
/r/seduction24/06/18 12:40 AM
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So you've actually had girls approach you? high inhibition Volcel confirmed. But go ahead, keep saying how ugly with good skills is better than someone who's good looking with bad skills. Girls don't like ugly guys. So what. I've been approached. Nothing came out of it - which is just as good as not being approached in the first place. You can always improve skills, but you can't improve ugly looks much. Can't argue with that. But my looks will fade one day, and your skills will only get better.
/r/seduction24/06/18 12:37 AM
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I know a guy who's like 5'4, yet he's the most charming smooth talker I've ever met. He has so much confidence when talking to women and gets positive responses from them. Having good looks and little social skills is like having a closet full of AK-47s that you don't know how to use. My looks will fade on day, yet you will still have your skills. Hell, if I ever lose my hair I'm going to be fucked - truly fucked (not literally fucked, no, none of that will happen).
/r/seduction24/06/18 12:33 AM
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I'm talking about game, which includes: social skills like, confidence, flirting, and learning to approach women. I never approached a woman in my life because I lack confidence, flirting abilities, and I'm very awkward and anxious when talking to women I find attractive. I lack the whole spectrum of things that PUA teaches. I've been set up with women, women have approached me, women have given me opportunities for sex. Yet I couldn't make anything of those opportunities because I lack so so mu…
/r/seduction24/06/18 12:27 AM
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What kind of hints ? Playing with her hair, laughing at all my jokes, telling me I'm attractive. But the biggest hint was: she told me to wait in her sitting room while she changed (after doing house chores), and she came out wearing a red summer dress and told me "Good. The kids are gone. We're alone now". At the time, this signal flew right over my STUPID head and I never realized it until hours later. I could have gotten laid, but didn't! fuck fuck fuck I need to learn to make a move with her…
/r/seduction20/06/18 04:33 AM
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Wave at her when sitting across from each other? seems awkward. But I do use eye contact, and she even playfully winked at me before, but I never knew how to escalate from there. Maybe I should have played footsies or invited her to sit next to me. Hmmm
/r/seduction19/06/18 05:16 PM
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That's a good move! I can definitely do this. What should I do once she get's closer to look at my phone? Should I let my hand linger on her's a while and see how she reacts? If she reacts positively than maybe I could hold her hand and look her in the eye, and then go in for a kiss if I feel it? What do you think? haha. I like your plan so far.
/r/seduction19/06/18 05:13 PM
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I was friendzoned, but she's been dropping a lot of hints the past month and there's been a lot of sexual tension building between us, but it died down a bit because I've been too clueless as to how to make a move when alone with her.
/r/seduction19/06/18 05:06 PM
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then excuse yourself to go the toilet. When you come back hug her from behind and make your move. That's pretty smooth man.
/r/seduction19/06/18 05:04 PM
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Better tips: Set goals and achieve them. Practice in whatever you want to be confident in.
/r/seduction19/06/18 06:41 AM
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Watch porn and search for some with dirty talk
/r/seduction19/06/18 06:36 AM
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I'm dealing with the same thing - getting too emotionally attached to one girl with too much expectations. It's a recipe for disaster. What helped me was going out to a bar/club a few days ago and being around attractive women, seeing ones I like and making eye contact, practicing to get out of my comfort zone and realizing that there's a lot of women out there.
/r/seduction19/06/18 06:35 AM
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we don't sit directly across, we sit like this: https://imgur.com/a/DS31ClO She sits on a chair, and I sit at the corner of the patio couch that's near her. We're close enough that our legs can touch. We were actually sitting across from eachother before, but she moved to the chair (which is closer) last time.
/r/seduction19/06/18 06:18 AM
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But we usually like to chat for a while and it's hard to chat side by side, harder to make eye contact and gauge her body language and we'd have to turn our heads which would be uncomfortable after a awhile.
/r/seduction19/06/18 06:15 AM
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it's hard to talk to each other when side by side - hard to make eye contact - and we'd have to turn our heads which would be uncomfortable after a while. We usually sit in her backyard and chat. I just think it would be hard to chat side by side. She expects conversation when we hang out.. but i could tell she'd want more..
/r/seduction19/06/18 06:12 AM
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Yeah that's what I should have done! Gah.. I can never control my eyes or even my brain when attractive women look my way. How do I overcome this?? My eyes don't look where I want them to look, and my brain doesn't let me say things I want to say.. I'm getting too old for this cowardice
/r/seduction30/03/18 02:29 AM
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I noticed that attractive women hold gazes much better than anyone else. Do they hold it to test your confidence?
/r/seduction30/03/18 01:57 AM
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For myself never approaching a girl even once and jerking off to porn which is like proxy prostitution where someone is paying them while you watch would cause me to lose even more self respect than enjoying an actual woman. Ahh that's true. I never thought about it that way. Perhaps I'm trying to use shit logic to justify not facing my fear of intimacy. Although, I would be afraid of catching an STD. I live in Canada, and I've seen sites where escorts are advertised, but it's impossible to tell…
/r/askTRP05/03/18 03:20 AM
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confidence in myself.. There's more to confidence than banging chicks. Does all your confidence rely on something external like sex and women? I still like myself despite my lack of sex life and I would find it hard to respect myself if I had to resort to paying for sex. There has to be some connection with the girl.. otherwise I may as well continue jerking off It's not that I have failed for over a decade. It's that I never tried for over a decade. In a way that's failing i guess.. but I never…
/r/askTRP04/03/18 09:12 PM
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toronto
/r/askTRP04/03/18 05:12 PM
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I work in freelance web development. Hobbies: reading, movies, music, gym, yoga, running, porn, going to pubs alone. I don't have coworkers and friends. I lost my friends years ago when depression hit, and I spend nearly all my time alone. Not sure where to make friends..
/r/askTRP04/03/18 05:07 PM
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Liking the blunt advice. But do you guys not jerk off??
/r/askTRP04/03/18 06:57 AM
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Will the girls come to me if I get stronger?! Or is it a confidence booster thing? I lift once a week. Run once a week. Recently joined a yoga class once a week.. I guess I should lift more.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 06:55 AM
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Good advice, thank you!
/r/askTRP04/03/18 06:50 AM
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interesting.. though I wonder if losing your virginity to a girl who actually wanted you is what made the anxiety vanish? paying someone might have the opposite effect
/r/askTRP04/03/18 06:46 AM
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I think it'll do you a world if good if you take the time and patience to earn it and learn as you go. I think you're right. I actually flirted with a girl a few months ago for the first time, and she flirted back. It felt so great to get to the point where I could kind of, sort of flirt.. Hell, she even asked me if I wanted a kiss goodbye one day and kissed my cheek. And she greeted me by running her hand up and down my back. And she playfully called me her boyfriend in front of her coworkers a…
/r/askTRP04/03/18 06:37 AM
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How did seeing an escort help you? It didn't kill your confidence that you had to resort to that? I'm scared that it would make me feel more depressed. I pay a therapist to talk to me, now I'm suppose to pay someone to have sex with me? Did it atleast make you more comfortable touching women and escalating ? I'll try the no porn thing (easier said than done). Maybe it will help to motivate me to talk to women more.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 06:29 AM
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Also, probably best to get a male doctor so you don't accidentally fall for a girl who is the only one in your life and also happens to be listening to you really well. Aha wow, that's an amazing observation by you. I actually fell for my college counselor last year; I feel really hard for her. That experience changed the way I look at women and made me realize I want to start dating. My therapy ended with her when I finished college, so now I'm seeing someone else. And yes, I intentionally foun…
/r/askTRP04/03/18 06:13 AM
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So how do I get into the dating market then? I don't have to tell women I'm a virgin. If it ever comes to the point where I'm bringing someone home I could tell them it's been awhile.. not sure. I want a bit of a connection with someone and sex. It would kill my confidence to pay for sex and I don't think it would solve anything.. after it's done I would still be where I am now I think.
/r/askTRP04/03/18 05:35 AM
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Believe me, I thought about it. But it would kill my confidence and not fix the problem :/
/r/askTRP04/03/18 05:31 AM
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Why was my post removed? I provided you with the damn sources - 4 of them. Next time research it yourself, this isn't Psyc 101 or Wikipedia. I don't have to provide sources to anything. Was it because I thumbs downed your comment?
/r/seduction22/06/17 04:16 AM
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OK. But this is very well documented in psychology. There are so many studies that show this. here are a few: " As predicted, women accorded more weight than men to socioeconomic status (SES), ambitiousness, character, and intelligence, and the largest gender differences were observed for cues to resource acquisition (status, ambitiousness). " http://psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/1992-38948-001 "Physical attractiveness was a necessity to men, status and resources were necessities to women, and kindne…
/r/seduction22/06/17 03:31 AM
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