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7

F*ck her. She's a liar and a cheat. Start thinking about life without her
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/26 12:41 AM
5

Don't look for anything serious. Just date, f*ck em and move on. Work on yourself for a bit and then seek something serious
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 02:51 PM
5

record and document ALL conversations with this mentally unstable ex wife of yours
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/26 02:49 PM
0

no
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 10:59 PM
5

A few things: Your happiness comes first She ruined the family when she wanted a divorce You don't get a medal for sticking around. Your child will be just fine. She wants out-2 options. a-you move out or b-she moves out. There is NO NEED to cohabitate-your marriage is over. Stay strong pal. You got this.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 10:48 PM
3

Bro, you have 38k friends in this sub to reach out to.....me included. Feel free to send me a DM when you want to chat. I am all ears
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/26 04:45 PM
4

Don’t. Nothing good will come from seeing her. I’d do a conversation on the phone at most
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 06:04 PM
11

Yah. Don’t do it. There is absolutely ZERO in it for us. ZERO
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/25 11:35 PM
8

She’s unhappy. She leaves. Under no circumstance do you leave
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 11:45 PM
3

Yup. You wanna fight when leaving her and fight for what she’s entitled to? Stay single and have a girlfriend.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 12:45 AM
4

Don’t remarry bro.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 12:06 AM
4

Why are you covering half of the bills? That’s my first question. Second-entertain as much women as you want. You two are over so you no longer answer to her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 08:59 PM
5

I second this
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/25 03:10 PM
10

Sorry you are going through this pal. Don’t try and change her mind. It’s made up already. Prepare for war. She’s your ex now. Not the woman you married
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/25 03:12 AM
-11

You shouldn’t be in a male sub
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/25 10:25 PM
5

Next girl? You’d get married again?
/r/Divorce_Men02/03/25 04:33 PM
3

It’s gonna get a lot worse before it gets better. Stay strong and use logical thinking
/r/Divorce_Men01/03/25 09:34 PM
3

Exactly. Keep the honeymoon phase as long as you can
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 03:02 PM
12

There’s no need to live with her. She can be the perfect girlfriend and still go home at the end of a great date. They change when they live with us. I would keep things as is if I were you
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 12:34 AM
3

Who said her life is better? Shes probably going out to mask her true feeling. Shes gonna be someone else’s problem now. Consider yourself lucky
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 12:23 AM
10

No She’s your enemy now. We don’t get a prize for being nice. Fuck her and her bday. It’s just another day on the calendar
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 01:58 PM
12

You are not her parent. Best believe if the tables were turned, she wouldn’t hesitate to leave you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/25 12:42 AM
3

Love it
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/25 02:15 AM
8

You’re doing yourself more harm than good by “protecting” her. She’s the enemy know. Govern yourself accordingly.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 10:27 PM
1

Stay. Don’t leave the home. If she’s unhappy let her leave.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/25 12:31 AM
6

Tell her to fuck off. What she thinks of you now is none of your business.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 10:42 PM
8

Your ex is your ex. No more favours for her. Put the house up for sale asap and split the proceeds. Mr. Nice Guy is over.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/25 04:19 PM
0

Punish
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 07:31 PM
2

Yup. Do all that you can to cover yourself. I don’t want to scare you but be prepared for her to call the police. Expect the unexpected
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/25 12:04 AM
2

Wow. Sorry you are going through this. Effective immediately record ALL communication with her. You need to cover your bases with the vindictive woman. Stay strong pal 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 11:59 PM
1

Yeah. Ask one of your female friends. This is a sub for men. Mods-please do something about this. This is supposed to be a safe space for us men. Women are invading at an all time high.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/25 06:41 PM
5

Been there. We all have. You will get through this. Any questions or support you need you have 28,000 brothers. You got this bro 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/25 11:24 PM
-2

Dumb move on her part. Not ok
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/25 02:14 PM
4

This is a male sub. Ask a female
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 07:08 PM
6

Perfectly normal pal. Take some time for yourself before you get back in the game.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 12:39 AM
2

Nope, but good luck 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 12:37 AM
1

You answered your own question bro.
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/24 09:52 PM
2

Congrats on staying sober for 2 years. Your kids will understand. They are not stupid.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 08:47 PM
13

Under no circumstance do you leave your house. If shes unhappy she can leave
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 06:58 PM
5

All good bro. We have all been where you are. If she’s texting you excessively why not be a step ahead of her? Tell her the only time she can get a reply outta you is from (state a time). This way you will know when to read her messages and you don’t gotta feel inclined to read or reply to every message she sends you. Also remind her you two are divorced and that she should be able to handle shit on her own. This was her idea to break up the family so she’s gotta deal with the consequences of he…
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 01:47 AM
10

I’m sure she’s a great girl and everything But They are all the same bro. There’s literally nothing different about these women. They all want the same thing. A man to take care of them. Fuck that shit. Heal. Build yourself back up and then date women. Date multiple at the same time. Just dont fall in love. Think wisely brother.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/24 12:41 AM
11

To be expected brother. None of us got married with the intent to be here, but here we are. Tell her when she’s ready you are willing to meet her new guy. Play it cool. Be friendly with buddy. You know she’s told him shit about you so you wanna make it seem like she’s the problem and not you. Always keep a cool head and be strong 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/24 09:28 PM
1

1000000%
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 03:54 PM
12

There is NO advantage for you as a man to get married 50% of marriages end in divorce. 70 odd percent of those marriages, the wife initiates the process. See number 1 Anything a woman claims to offer you we can either purchase or do for ourselves (love, cook, clean, support, have sex). It’s just not worth it my friend. You are only 22. Focus on yourself and building wealth. Hope that helps
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/24 07:38 AM
16

I can tell you how her mind works. Her-let me leave him because this new guy loves me. Shows me attention. He’s great in bed. Blah blah. Blah. Reality-my ex is talking to another woman? Someone else wants him? Maybe he wasn’t as bad as I thought. Lemme get him back Reality-I miss being a family and when I think about it, it wasn’t that bad. You-tell her to fuck herself and to only text you when it has to do with your kid. These women think they are slick but we need to be one step ahead of them …
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 07:33 PM
12

Lawyers and Insurance are the two biggest crooks on the planet. Do as much work on your own as possible
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 06:07 PM
10

Push through. Put your big boy pants on and get er done. If the tables were turned, you better believe she would have a team of women behind her pushing her to divorce you. Luckily for you, you have 26k members to fall back on. We got you. It's gonna be tough. You are gonna have second thoughts but your peace and happiness reigns everytime cheers
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 02:22 AM
3

Mission. Accomplished 😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 12:45 AM
11

It’s all good brother. We have all been there. You will be fine. This is part of your journey. Just remember these points: The woman you married is not the woman you are divorcing You have a brotherhood of about 26k men. You are not alone. You can leave the toilet seat up and nobody is gonna nag you 😂😂😂 Stay strong brother and we are here for you. Cheers 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 12:13 AM
19

Better this way pal. There's ZERO advantage for us men to get married. Stay strong mate
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 10:36 PM
10

My gut is telling me to divorce her on my own and file ASAP-follow your gut mate. When a woman says shes done, shes done. I dont believe any of that PPD shit. I think it's just an out that women use. Im happy to know you can manage on your own. For your own safety and wellbeing -serve her. Nothing good will come form you staying. You will constantly think her and her mother are speaking negatively behind your back. File and let your MIL see how crazy her daughter is. Cheers
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 07:42 PM
2

50/50 and don’t agree to giving her a penny more. Then focus on yourself. Build yourself back up and once fully healed then put yourself out there. I’m willing to bet the person she’s with is just a placeholder. It won’t last. Trust me. Stay strong pal 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 05:00 PM
6

Ok Just delete your post and put it in relationship advice. Thx.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 02:53 AM
8

It doesn’t matter what we think. You are gonna do what you wanna do You do realize you are in a divorced men sub right? The female audacity is at an all time high. I highly doubt any men here would invade your (female) space and ask for their opinion Why not post this in relationship advice? This is supposed to be a safe space for divorced men to talk about trials and tribulations of their marriage that is ending or has ended. We are not here to give advice/perspective. At the risk of sounding/r…
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 02:41 AM
2

We all felt like how you feel now. Its natural BUT its in YOUR best interest to chill. Women will ALWAYS be there. Take some time to HEAL. FOCUS on YOURSELF. Pick up a hobby to keep you occupied. I am no counsellor but after you have gotten her out of your head then I suggest dating and fucking. Until then, HEAL my friend. It will benefit you in the long run.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 11:41 PM
2

Good for you pal. Your peace of mind is most important now.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 11:50 PM
11

Do NOT take her back. You need to show your boys self respect and dignity and when a relationship is over, its over. She only wants you back because you have someone else. You and I know when a woman is done, shes done. She's your EX. She is not YOUR woman, so what and who you do is NONE of her business. Operate on a NEED TO KNOW BASIS. Stay strong pal 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 08:30 PM
1

If you are not happy and feel that you settled get out while you can bro.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 03:04 PM
21

I second this because if the tables were turned you better believe her best friend/s, sister, mother and any other female in her life would say you cheated and demand a divorce ASAP
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 07:44 PM
14

Pal, she IS cheating. I don't know what more information you need.
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/24 10:34 PM
8

Fuck that shit. Let her leave and when the door closes change the locks. Sooner she leaves is the sooner you can start healing.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/24 09:40 PM
7

Under no circumstance does she need to meet her. The ONLY time they need to meet is if you decide to make a mistake and get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/24 03:55 AM
8

Yup. Haul her ass back to court. She wouldn't stand for this BS if the tables were turned, so why should you?
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/24 12:02 AM
22

Bro, You’re joking right? She probably wanted the divorce cause some dude fed her some BS and now he backed out. Why would you even consider taking her back after she said she wanted out? What’s to say she won’t pull this same stunt 6 months from now? She fucked 4 guys while you were still technically married and you are asking us if you should take her back? Give your head a good shake. Show yourself and kids if you have any some self respect and self worth and tell her to fuck off. Nothing goo…
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 08:05 AM
2

Tell her to stay at her folks. I mean, if the tables were turned she wouldn’t allow you back in the house right? Tell her folks exactly what’s been going on so you can control the narrative. File for divorce. 50/50 on everything. Allow her to come back ONCE to retrieve things for the kids. She gets one visit so advise her to make use of that visit. If there’s any pushback-tell her you will keep the kids. Good luck pal
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 02:23 AM
6

Pal, there is NOTHING friendly about a divorce. Get yourself a lawyer ASAP.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 12:55 AM
2

You said you just want to be happy. You can’t be happy by staying unhappy bro.
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 08:25 PM
6

Take the advice of your lawyer bro. You never should have left in the first place. Leaving gave her the power to think she can control you.....which she cant
/r/Divorce_Men16/05/24 02:36 PM
4

Wow. Look into having the visits supervised. Last thing you want is your daughter resenting you
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 12:05 AM
3

Whats your question mate?
/r/Divorce_Men11/05/24 07:36 PM
10

Sorry you had to experience this pal. One thing I have noticed with my circle of friends and the community here is when we shoulder alot of the "chores" (house chores, finances, sex life) as men we end up getting screwed over. I am not sure what it is, maybe they see us as less than, or weak, I really don't know. Shit is supposed to be 50/50...not us doing more than them. If thats what they subscribe to then we need to peace out as quickly as possible b/c those situations rarely end well. Keep y…
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/24 01:03 AM
12

As in, I am not getting that great gut feeling I'd expect by now Pal, follow your gut. It NEVER lies. NEVER EVER.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 06:46 PM
28

If she wants a divorce she can leave the house. Do. Not. Leave. Your. House. Look up lawyers on your phone tonight and tomorrow and make a few appts to see them in the week. If she’s brought up the D word on multiple occasions I can promise you she’s got her ducks in a row. Get yourself together and prepare for war pal.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/24 01:43 AM
4

If you’re thinking about it then it’s probably time to file. People don’t file when they are in love. Whenever we are making a major decision there is always an element of doubt that passes through our minds. This is natural. File. Be prepared for backlash but also continue on your road to peacefulness. 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/24 08:52 PM
3

Ask for 100 over and don’t use a realtor. Private sale only
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/24 04:00 PM
3

Your ex does NOT need to know. All women are great in the beginning. If she’s so good why’s she single? Don’t fall in love bro. Just have sex with zero emotion. Last time you fell in love look at the end result 😐
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/24 07:54 PM
1

Idc how great of a woman she is. Do. Not. Marry her. They ALL start out great. Just keep her as a gf. I’d even go as far as saying have multiple gfs. Just date. No need to get wrapped up into one woman. I guarantee if you have options one won’t make you jealous
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/24 07:45 PM
2

I get it bro. If you want someone to talk to feel free to DM 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 10:44 PM
5

Nothing positive will come from this. There are 3.9 billion women on this planet. If you need a female friend, it shouldn't be too hard to find a replacement.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 06:12 PM
29

Do not talk to her mother. Do not talk to her father. Do not talk to her brother or sister. Do not talk to her best friend. It’s over pal. She gave you clarity by filing the restraining order. She wants zero to do with you. ZERO!!!!!! Talk to a lawyer and get ready for the fight of your life. Your “wife” is NOT the same woman you fell in love with. The faster you understand that is the faster you can prepare for war.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 08:55 AM
1

If she wants to work it out try. In the meantime get your shit in order. I don’t wanna sound like an asshole but you can always blame her. It’s what they do to us right. Dead bedroom Lack of attention I’ve suggested counselling numerous times and you shut it down. Those are legit reasons why you are here. She may get upset but oh well. At least you were honest. Good luck pal
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/24 02:15 AM
8

No. We care about being taken advantage of. BTW are you a woman in men’s sub?
/r/Divorce_Men23/04/24 03:33 PM
2

Yup. Pretty much……smh
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 05:26 AM
6

Do. Not. Accept. Anything. She. Suggests. She is your enemy. She does NOT have your best interest at hand. As for sleepovers with your stepson. Fuck that. Next thing you know she claims you sexually assaulted him. Follow the court’s order/s to a tee and nothing else.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/24 04:02 AM
3

You’ll be ok pal and what you are feeling is natural. We all felt the way you are feeling. Remember, you are NOT a failure. Keep your head on straight and don’t make any drastic decisions.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/24 10:07 PM
15

NOW. I trust you when you say you are a good husband and a good father, but unfortunately it doesnt matter what we think. It's all about them.....and how they "feel"......smh LAWYER UP NOW and prepare for war my friend.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 07:12 PM
7

I would tell my buddy this is a mans convo. There is NO need for his woman to be there. NONE. When women are there for other women we don't show up, so he needs to police his woman and tell her to sit this one out. She is very gossipy and is connected to our school community-Red Flag I don't mind her joining, but also am cautious since she can't keep a secret-Red Flag Still early in the divorce process, so I don't want the entire community knowing our business-Red Flag You have two options. Tell…
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 01:57 PM
17

Stay clear of SAHM’s. Too many stories in this sub about how they suck men dry for money. Get someone else pal
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/24 01:31 AM
12

Continue not caring. You are right. She wants a reaction outta you. Don’t give her one. Happy that your business is doing well. Great work pal.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/24 09:24 PM
2

It gets better pal. I suggest therapy if you are still in this state after 2 years.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/24 04:51 PM
3

Smh. Text her. Just so she knows you care. You can also save the text to show your daughter you care. You have no idea what bs she’s feeding the kid. As for books-No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover is a must read.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 11:01 PM
5

Wow. This shits so true
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 10:33 PM
2

This is bullshit and you know it. Kids before women bro.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 03:29 PM
3

and she still has a problem with this? The kids are not even "in the way" or "too loud." Pal, I am sure your new GF is smoking hot. She probably sucks your dick like no other. She even probably makes a mean lasagna, BUT she seems really unreasonable. She comes across as selfish.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 03:24 PM
3

You live with your current GF and new child. If the new GF can't stomach your kids from a previous marriage being around for a quarter of a day on a school night, I would get rid of her.......
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 02:55 PM
4

I get it pal. I get it. It's only 2 hours. Your current GF HAS to understand how important this is to you and your kids. She really has no say in this to be honest.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 02:50 PM
2

Why change the schedule? She is your EX. You no longer have to do anything to appease her. I suggest sticking to the Tuesdays. Current GF will HAVE to understand this. Especially if it's only for 2 or so hours. If she doesn't-re evaluate your relationship with her. As far as I know every other weekend is "normal" but that doesnt mean its right. Keep your head up bro
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 02:47 PM
7

I’m tired of reading stories like this. Kills me that a fellow man has to go through this. Sorry bro. Truly sorry you are experiencing this. It will get worse before it gets better. But Remember you have a community of brothers here that will support you every step of the way. Try and stay strong. Not for yourself but for your kiddos.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/24 01:25 AM
0

The one who broke the contract that we signed most likely initiated by her? That enemy.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/24 06:24 PM
9

There’s a reason why those type of women are single bro. Be glad you’ve found that out sooner, rather than later.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 12:07 PM
3

Fuck. Sorry pal. This is horrible. I am truly sorry you had to experience this. Praying for you brother
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 08:35 PM
8

I don’t suggest meeting with her. You two can agree to one thing and after she’s ran it by her cheerleaders she will decide to change the plan-waste of a meeting. She’s your enemy now. Why meet with your enemy? This is what lawyers are for. May cost you but at least everything is above board with legal documentation. You may wanna rethink this pal.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 03:52 PM
7

Look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are THE SHIT. What she does has no affect on who you are or how awesome you are.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 12:02 PM
3

Leave bro and continue to sleep well. No woman is worth losing your peace
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/24 03:51 AM
5

Do NOT agree to any of her terms. Clearly they benefit her. Get a lawyer and be ready for the fight of your life. Go 50/50 on the house and a reasonable amount for CS. $300/wk sounds steep. She is NOT your friend or the woman you fell in love with. She’s your enemy now. Act accordingly.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 07:30 PM
12

Congrats on being sober bro. Sounds like you’ve outgrown her. If that’s the case-move on. Your happiness comes first.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/24 06:37 PM
14

As men, there is absolutely NO benefit to getting married. NONE WHATSOEVER. Once married you will always be chasing behind her wants and needs. Thats NO way to live
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/24 09:21 PM
2

I get it. I’m just sick n tired of them (women) getting away with shit.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 02:59 AM
-2

Very reasonable. Don’t sign shit unless she pays up. If the tables were turned she would take you to court for contempt and not sell until you pay everything that is outstanding. So do the same to her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 01:43 AM
3

Theres only two things I miss about the misses and thats a not having to worry about dinner and having a fresh cooked meal daily.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 02:19 AM
2

Pull yourself together. You are a MAN. I get it. Shit happens, but sulking about it wont help. You gotta start with self confidence and believe you are handsome and worthy of ANY woman on the planet. You are NOT damaged goods. You are a KING and you will get through this. Stay strong pal.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 02:58 PM
16

shes no longer your responsibility bro. shes on her own now. when she pushes back-remind her this was her doing
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:17 AM
8

Not bitter just logical. I got off pretty good but I have a buddy that had a pre nup and she still fucked him over for spousal support for 3 years and the bitch didn’t work a day in her life.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 02:13 AM
14

I will NEVER get married again. There is absolutely NO BENEFIT for a man to get married.......NOT ONE
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/24 12:51 AM
8

There’s no need to rush back into the same house. Continue going to counselling and if you can stay at your folks house. Don’t make any drastic moves until you have finalized your decision.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 03:01 PM
3

Since you know who her lawyer is, talk to a few lawyers. Find out if any of them have gone against the lawyer representing her. If they have, hire that one. They take shit personal and will work in your favor to fuck her over.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 07:01 PM
5

Look at it like this. If you had put a thumb on her you’d be locked up, have to get someone to bail you out and have to organize a day and time when you can go back to your house to get your shit. Point I’m making is-don’t put up with her bs. What she did was wrong. She abused you and should be charged just like if you abused her. Don’t try and be a nice understanding man. That will get you nowhere in this cold world. Either you tell her to get out or you file for divorce and live uncomfortably …
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/24 02:04 PM
3

A woman. Plus mental issues isn’t good bro. You may love her but be thankful you two are separating.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/24 07:27 PM
7

No. It doesn’t. Unless I missed something. You said you have been the sole provider for basically the entire marriage She brought up the idea of her getting the house and you keeping your retirement. It would work out better for her and her son for many reasons. It’s a good location for them They’ll be paying more money in rent than the mortgage. She’s not gonna find anything comparable for the price we purchased it for back in 2019. You’ve listed quite a few things that make her life easier. Wh…
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 04:34 PM
1

Leave. Better for the kids to be in two happy homes than one toxic one.
/r/Divorce_Men29/02/24 03:25 AM
8

Wow. Happy for you bro.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 09:47 PM
1

Gotta do whats best for you brother......she did
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/24 07:50 PM
4

love this happy for you brother
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 06:20 PM
4

Leave mate. This isn’t cool. You can serve her papers and do it the “right way” or you can pack your shit and leave. Either way she’s gonna be pissed. If she harms herself that isn’t your concern. You need to care about you and you only.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 03:52 PM
3

I was the original one to say I wanted one, but I really just want us to move forward-you said this. You can't ask for a divorce. Take it back and expect the man to love you the same. I dont know what world you live in but it doesnt work like that. Based on your comment alone-looks like you started this and now that you are getting what you asked for you are having second thoughts? Next time think things through thoroughly cause a mans heart is NOT to be played with
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 02:14 PM
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You asked for it and now that you are getting what you want it’s an issue? You’re kidding right?
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/24 02:06 PM
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Do NOT marry this woman. I will even go as far as saying dont marry any woman period. There is NOT one single advantage in marriage for a man. My gut feeling is just telling me to run away-follow your gut pal
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/24 02:00 PM
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Do NOT leave your house. Once you let her know you are aware of her cheating it will be a hostile environment ....she can leave if she can't take the heat, but since you did nothing wrong, you don't have to leave. Once you have made it public knowledge she is cheating ensure you notify friends and family so you can control the narrative. You may also want to record your encounter with her and use that as proof. Be prepared for her to call the police to get you out of the house. She will probably…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 07:06 PM
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Comparison is the thief of joy......
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 05:28 PM
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Talk to a lawyer bro and don’t get a higher paying job until the divorce is final.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 03:18 AM
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why the fuck would you offer your place to live? I dont mean to sound harsh but what the fuck were you thinking? do you think she would offer her place if the tables were turned? if she never gave up hope on you she wouldn't have cheated-do NOT buy her bullshit whats the issue here? shes your ex. NOT your buddy. You owe her ZERO. Pal, you dont get a reward the day before you die for being a nice guy. Shes your ex-she is no longer your issue. Tell her to get out and figure it out. Thats exactly w…
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 10:14 PM
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Yah. Here is some advice. Ready? Fuck her. She cheated. Dump her quick. Move into the inherited house and split custody. She seems to think confessing her cheating ways will make it better. It won’t. It’s the nail in the coffin like you said. Move on from her as quickly as possible. You don’t need that bs in your life pal. Stay strong. P. S. Absolutely tell your mother. If the tables were turned she’d be on the horn telling any and everyone.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 01:39 PM
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think positive thoughts. get the negative shit outta your head if you are unsure about anything you have 22.4k brothers here that will help you. if we dont have the answer to your question, we will direct you on how to find the answer be prepared for the fight of your life. she will call you every name in the book. expect the unexpected. if you are cool with anyone in her family dont be surprised if that relationship fizzles you got this bro
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 08:35 PM
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Why do you care what the courts think? If you are unhappy file for divorce. If/when she pushes back remind her of what she said "it was hard to live with someone you used to love but now hated" Pal, your happiness comes first. Block out all the noicse, file for divorce and begin your journey back to happiness Good luck bro
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 08:24 PM
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You’ve done the right thing pal. She sounds like a lunatic.
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/24 09:48 AM
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Exactly. They are all strong and independent until it’s time to be strong and independent
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 11:08 PM
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Ok. Have her text you. Control the convos and make them short. You are no longer obligated to entertain her. If she wants someone to speak with give her a list of doctors in the area she lives. If she doesn’t like that suggestion…..oh well. She’s not your problem anymore
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 05:31 AM
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Why are you even speaking to her? You have teenage daughters so there really is no need to converse with her. Especially when the girls live with you. Block her number and never speak to her again
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 03:47 AM
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quick question-why would you want to be friends with someone who betrayed you?
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 09:26 PM
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No. You are NOT a backup plan. Enjoy the women at work that have crushes on you and continue on your journey to happiness. 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 07:56 PM
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yikes. remember, we don't get a reward for being a "good guy". treat her how she would treat you. good luck pal. hopefully there is no drama
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 07:14 PM
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If you haven’t already-change the locks on ALL the doors
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/24 06:42 PM
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My friend, get the idea of your best friend out of your mind. She is your enemy now. Dont expect her to be rational or loving. It’s over. Prepare for war. She may agree to 50/50 now but expect the unexpected. Stay strong brother and you have a family of supporters here.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 03:11 AM
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Why the fuck are you moving out? If she’s unhappy tell her to leave. Fuck what she wants. She doesn’t get to dictate what happens and who you tell. You better start telling people now so you can manage the narrative. I also hope you have screenshots of the messages to backup what you say. Your kiddo will be fine. It will be a struggle at first but you both will adjust fine.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 08:11 PM
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Under no circumstance do you go back to this woman. The people in her life that are closest to her showed and told you how they feel about you. There should be no coming back from that pal
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/24 04:53 PM
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This you pal? https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticmanproject_?igsh=MTByYjFvZTJ3aGVubQ==
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/24 12:46 PM
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I still, truly love her, and I don’t want to abandon her, she has no one. I know she adores me and loves me very very much. It’s her rages that have taken a toll on my mental health her being alone isn't your issue. she wouldn't care if the tables were turned if she truly loved you, you wouldn't be posting in this sub....think about it under no circumstance do you leave the house.
/r/Divorce_Men04/02/24 07:06 PM
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She wants you to give up. Don't give her what she wants.......
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 06:00 PM
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Because our interactions can be nice but when I try to text her something nice or have a conversation with her about something other than our son, I get minimal effort back. If any. But she texts me to see how I’m doing and things that are mundane She is your enemy. She is NOT your friend. ONLY speak to her about your kid. Fuck how her day went. Why do you want to have a conversation with your ex? Fuck anything social when it comes to her. Speak to her about pickup and drop off times. NOTHING el…
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 01:55 PM
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Sorry you are going through this bro. Lesson here is not to get too wrapped up in a woman. Thats the second one. Just date and have sex. No need for this love shit. As men, we end up getting burned cause clearly we love differently than them. Stay strong, you'll get through this
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 10:52 PM
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If you have really asked 12x and she has declined all 12x it's time to leave my friend. She has no regard for you, your feelings, your daughter or the family. Sorry to say but she's selfish. Either you put your feelings aside and "stay" or you put your foot down and leave. Think about yourself-she is.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 03:05 PM
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Fuck your emotions. She’s your ex now. Throw out all that nice guy shit out the window. It’s no longer needed. She’s someone else’s problem now. You give her an offer. She has two options. Take it or leave it. Dont give her anything she’s not entitled to. Set very clear boundaries and stand firm. She and her mother are. Think with your head. Not your heart. 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 11:39 PM
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Leave bro. This IS NOT "NORMAL".
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 10:27 PM
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It’s over pal. Move back in the house and stay in the basement. Dont make her life difficult but you need to go back home. I’m an advocate for NOT leaving the house. Start planning for life without her. Remove her name from any bank accounts you share. I hope you two went 50/50 on bills. If not, start. She wants to be single and separated then treat her as such. She doesn’t get the luxuries of a mortgage being paid while she lives for free. Start training her for life as a single woman. Dont be …
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/24 11:38 AM
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Bro, If the tables were turned she wouldn't be thinking about giving you a heads up, so why do you think you should give her one? Shes gonna freak regardless....oh well. Thats life. Read this book https://www.drglover.com/no-more-mr-nice-guy/the-book.html Start thinking about yourself, and yourself only. You dont get a reward or a medal for being a nice guy. Nice guys end up getting fucked over....dont be a nice guy
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/24 05:15 PM
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Why do you have to leave? I don’t know the specifics of your situation but I was always told NEVER to leave the home. If she wants you to leave because she’s unhappy-tell her to fuck off and she can leave. The minute you leave, you have transferred the power to her. Don’t do that.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 01:28 PM
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That’s not what you said pal. Scroll up. Enjoy the rest of your night 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 02:52 AM
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Aren't you the same person who said "maybe he loves her"? I will answer my own question-yes, you are. Now you are saying sometimes love isn't enough in relationships. So which one is it pal? As men-I think we would rather be respected and not loved...love is conditional.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 01:16 AM
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What does any of what you said have to with what the OP said? Did he say anything about wanting kids?
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 09:05 PM
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I think every man here loved their wives and here we are. And it's easier to avoid an accident when you see it coming vs being blindsided or rear ended.....
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 08:30 PM
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Respectfully, why are you thinking about getting married? You do realize there is ZERO advantage for you to get married right? Why not just keep her as a gf? It takes two people to want to get married, and only one to get a divorce. Are you willing to take that risk?
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/24 08:22 PM
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Leave bro. It makes more sense to leave and be happy than stay and be miserable. If you truly love your kid like you say you do (and I believe you) it’s best to have him grow up in two separate happy homes.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 08:21 PM
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Nope. I wouldn’t even have a live in gf. She has her place and I have mine. Come fuck me. Cook once in a while and leave. We can date like teenagers and have sleepovers at my place but I’d never have her share my space 24/7.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 02:36 AM
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Your daughter can be upset. Sad. Confused blah blah blah but she needs to respect you as her father. Clearly she has none. As for the car-since she has so much mouth, let her and your ex figure it out. Remember-as men, we are only loved when we can provide. If we can’t provide-the love is gone. She’s 21 and pregnant-let her man step up. Try and keep in contact as much as you can with the 9yr old. She may be young but she’s not stupid. Stay strong pal P. S. Go grab your stuff asap
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 12:15 AM
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100000000%
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 08:44 PM
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Hope it goes well for you pal. Try not to get too high. Remember, she’s a woman and they don’t think rationally. You could offer her the world and she’s still gonna go back and run it by someone who will counter you. Expect the unexpected but I’m hoping for a positive result for you tomorrow 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 02:15 AM
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You asked for an example. I gave you one and you come back with that comment?….sound like a woman…… In any event, people don’t die from not taking anti-depressants.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 08:33 PM
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I just told you. They fix one issue and compound another.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 08:22 PM
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My uncle. Took meds for glaucoma. Went blind and increased his blood pressure.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 08:07 PM
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Not the wrong place. We will all support you. I’ve seen this story far too often. My friend-prepare for war. Do NOT take her back. Nothing good will come from that. Show her, your kids and more importantly yourself self-respect. Stop having her come around. Tell her you feel unsafe in her presence. This isn’t a community centre where you come and go as you please. She wants out-and wants to “find herself” at 53-stay out. Get your shit together and get ready for the fight of your life. I think yo…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 11:34 AM
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Make her life difficult. If the tables were turned she would make yours challenging. Dont do her any favours. Remember her reasoning for being with you “for her papers”. File for divorce as quickly as possible. Split everything 50/50. Take your two kids and she keeps hers from her previous relationship and go your separate ways. Get a good lawyer that advocates for no spousal or child support. She can get a job and wake up early like the rest of us.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 02:18 AM
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Sorry you are going through this but you are gonna have to put your big boy pants on. Split the equity in the home 50/50. Don’t give her a dollar more. Don’t give her anything she wants. Why would you do that? You don’t get a reward for being Mr. Nice guy. 50/50 custody and nothing less.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 12:35 AM
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Do your thing bro. Just don’t get emotionally attached.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/24 08:21 PM
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Men. We gotta be smart. While I feel for you pal tbh this could have been avoided. Tell women you are broke. Never show your hand. Nothing positive ever comes from them k woke out worth. What you should have done is put your money into an account in a buddy’s name. Of course she’s gonna be after the 500k. Fuck her. Talk to a buddy and put his name on the account and only claim half of the 500k.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 07:50 PM
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Block her from using your cards. NOW Block her from all social media. Make it uncomfortable for her too Fuck her. She never loved you and I hope you learnt your lesson. ALWAYS follow your gut.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 09:24 AM
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I've been there bro. Questioned myself. My decisions. I hated her. Didnt think I would be wanted/desired by other woman. Wondered what my folks would say...etc etc. I think every man here experienced what you are feeling. I can guarantee 2 things. 1. you will question yourself and 2. you will be better off in the long run. You will be fine. I hope you have a buddy you can speak with who will truly listen to you. I did and that helped immensely. If you ever wanna chat-feel free to DM me
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/23 12:44 AM
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Bro. Do you think your wife will second guess breaking your heart if she wants out of the marriage? Fuck no. If you’re unhappy, leave. Fuck all that caring about her and her needs shit. You better believe if the tables were turned she’s sitting with her female friends telling them how unhappy she is or she “needs to find herself” or “she’s not fulfilled”….u know the shit they say….put yourself first…..they do.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 10:39 PM
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Check in on him maybe once a week. When he’s venting. Just listen. He doesn’t wanna hear “what you would do”. Just listen and remind him that he’s your buddy and that you will always support him
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 06:47 PM
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Much worse. But you WILL get through this. Every decision you make, please make it with a clear head. Dont use emotion. Try and resolve this without a lawyer. Those fuckers are the only people who win in these instances. Make sure you have a buddy you can confide in. You WILL need someone to talk to. It gets rough. You will feel anger. Regret. And maybe even resentment. It’s all normal pal. But stay strong and remember you have a community of brothers here that will support you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 03:53 PM
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Agreed but I heard someone say it’s bad to get involved with a woman that has a kid. Why? The kid gets used to us as men and if shit goes left as “father figures” we have ZERO say in that kids life. Sounds harsh but it’s true.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/23 02:42 PM
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Fuck that shit. When the wife was riding her AP was she thinking about her husband and daughter and how if he finds out how could that affect the kid? OP-you did the right thing. She cheated/cheating and you stood your ground and showed self worth.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 05:47 PM
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Bro, sorry you are going through this. Far too many of us have been down this road (including me) Expect the unexpected The woman you loved has now turned into an evil bitch. Always remain calm and be two steps ahead of her. It may be an uphill battle for you-but you seem to only want peace. Try and minimize lawyer fees as much as possible. She will have people in her ear. You may agree on one thing but her play caller will call a different play from the box above. Don’t get comfy. Hope this hel…
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/23 04:10 AM
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See. This right here is why you shouldn't be in this sub. You hear/read something you dont like and you revert to being abusive.....Can you read? I am not here to ask for advice, least of all legal advice Clearly you are looking for advice-or why else would you be here? No one has actually answered this question-you said this. Not me. You didnt post this in a woman's sub because you didnt know how it would be perceived so your entitlement brought you to a mens sub? a divorced mens sub.....smh Lo…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 08:19 PM
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Which is fine, but nobody forced you to reply to my post. I am not gonna engage in a back and forth with you bro. You have your opinion and I have mine. We can agree to disagree and move on Happy Holidays
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 07:53 PM
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I am perfectly fine. Let's not ask if I am ok because you didnt get the response from me you wanted/needed. Since you have a lawyer (someone with professional expertise)-it's confusing why you would come to Reddit and seek advice. Especially in a male only sub. Please tell me you see something wrong with that. I stand on what I said-take your queries to a lawyer or a female sub. This sub is for Divorced_Men. You are not divorced and you are not a man so..................
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 07:52 PM
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look bro, I am sure you are a nice guy and have great intentions and all that, but women aren't wanted here. This isn't a co-ed sub. Period. All of us men here were "gentlemanly" at some point towards a woman and look where that got us. I feel sorry for her. I hope it works out in her favour, but she can ask her fellow sister for advice. Not divorced men.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 07:44 PM
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One woman today.....two tomorrow. It never ends. I personally have spoke with the mods to have this stopped. It's too much. Far from angry towards women. Just want balance. Entitlement-SHE thinking SHE can come to A MALE sub and ask MALES for their opinions. Do you really think a WOMAN would allow this in a FEMALE sub? NOPE. So like I said...balance.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 07:23 PM
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SHE....shouldnt be in this sub. This is a safe space for divorced men. Not women seeking advice from men. SHE can take her entitlement to a lawyer or a female sub. SHE is NOT welcomed here
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 07:18 PM
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I’m not a guy but……then why are you here? Didn’t you read the title of the sub? Now you know how we feel. Ask your fellow women. Y’all seem to have all the answers
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 06:43 PM
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Short Answer? No Long answer? Fuck no Under no circumstance do you converse with her unless it has to do with the kids. If she needs help finding a dog sitter-ask Google.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:34 AM
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I echo this. We all want the best for you but ask yourself if she’s so good why is she single?
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 02:20 AM
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Thx bro. Like most of us, the woman I married wasn't the same woman I fell in love with. I learned my lesson-never fall in love with a woman again.....I've been divorced for 5 years and I am happy. You will get there-be patient
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 12:07 AM
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Peace of mind Peace of mind Peace of mind Peace of mind Peace of mind See # 5 See # 4 See # 3 See # 2 See #1
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/23 11:48 PM
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Yah bro-stop taking these calls. Nothing positive comes from them. If she can’t handle your daughter (which based on the examples you gave it’s clear she can’t) offer to have your daughter live with you. I reckon that won’t go over well with the ex but tell her it’s evident she needs help. As for you blasting her and telling her how you feel? 👏👏👏👏👏. She needs to hear that. Her telling you to stop-to me-sounds like she can’t take reality. Oh well. Too bad. Grow a pair. You sound like a nice guy w…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/23 03:37 PM
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It’s a sad reality bro. This community is great. Everyone here is real helpful so feel free to send a message if you have any questions or need to vent. We are one big family here. Everything will work itself out. Just don’t lose your cool and let her get under your skin
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 04:17 AM
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I hear you pal. Sometimes we gotta be selfish. As a fellow man I just want what’s best for you. It’s still fresh so take your time and think about this. Go for a drive tomorrow and weigh the pros and cons of this. I’m not in your position but I trust you will be make the best decision for yourself and your daughter. I just don’t want you to get screwed over like some men have in this community-where she claims abuse and he can’t go back home
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 04:09 AM
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Fuck sticking around for two years. What positive will come from that? You walking on egg shells? Give her the chance to scheme? Wait for her daughter to finish school? You watching her shave her legs and come back after getting fucked while away for work? Fuck that shit pal. Men- these women don’t care about us. They are selfish and want what’s best and most convenient for them. It’s time we stand like men and take charge. Go see a lawyer and get your shit in order. You better believe she is.
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/23 03:59 AM
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Yup. She fucked around and I had to get the police involved.They escorted me to my house. I grabbed my shit and I left. I suggest doing the same. Why? Because if the tables were turned they wouldn’t stand for our bullshit so why should we? Call the police. Set a day and time to get your shit and grab your stuff.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 09:57 PM
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Sounds good
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 07:59 PM
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u/Sn0wInSummer you may want to read the community you are in. This sub is called Divorce Men and is for "discussing the legal, financial and social issues men face in divorce". I think you are in the wrong community stepmom.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 06:08 PM
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I’m gonna be real, and if I offend anyone I apologize. I personally find women in those types of positions to be bitches. And when I say those type I mean doctors. Therapists. Lawyers. Judges. Management etc. I would suggest going to see a man. We are more understanding and tend to be easier to talk to and hopefully he can relate to what you are saying and experiencing. Good on you for considering therapy though pal
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/23 03:08 AM
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This is awesome bro. Hope everything works out for you. With the holidays approaching you better believe shes gonna keep an eye on you with the booze. STAY CLEAR FROM IT. If you are invited out-probably decline if you are not strong enough to say no to a drink. Sending positive vibes your way pal...
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/23 06:09 PM
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Axe throwing. Met some great people and imagined her face as the bullseye.....lol
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 10:32 PM
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Gut NEVER lies bro.....
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/23 07:18 PM
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Sorry in advance but I’ll copy and paste what I said in a previous post about SAHM These SAHM’s cause nothing but trouble. We can’t have that bullshit. Marriage is a huge risk in itself for us and allowing them to SAH is an even bigger risk. If any of us ever decide to get married again we gotta make it crystal clear-bitch go to work for at least 8 hours a day like us. Nothing positive comes from them staying at home She came back because he got rid of her. Don’t think for one instance she’s com…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 09:27 PM
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This is a sub for Divorced Men. You are not divorced and you are not a man. You may wanna take your entitlement elsewhere.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 02:53 PM
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Shouldn’t this post be in relationship advice?
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 02:11 PM
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This is how I see it: Wake up at 6:00am 6:30-7:00 breakfast time 7:00-7:30 get ready for school 7:45-8:15 take the kid/s to the bus stop or drive them to school 8:15-9:00 back home 9:00-9:30 clean up 9:30-3:00am IDLE TIME wtf is she doing from 9:30-3:00 DAILY? She ISNT grocery shopping. She ISNT doing laundry daily. She ISNT ironing daily. She ISNT cooking EVERYDAY from 9:30am-3:00pm. Sorry bro, but if shes doing groceries/errands daily she has a time management issue. This SAH shit is bullshit …
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 10:13 PM
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I agree. They can’t drag it out. Why? Cause they have no money cause they didn’t work 😂😂😂. I wasn’t married to a SAHM but like I said I’ve seen far too many stories where they suck us dry. Go to work like the rest of us.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 12:20 PM
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Sure. How much cooking and cleaning can be done per day? You don’t clean a house daily. Sorry. What else do they do when the kids (if any) are at school? You don’t do laundry daily.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 12:19 PM
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This reminds my issue. We had an agreement. She signed off on it. We had witnesses and all. I made the payments as per the agreement but for what ever reason she decided to take me to court. Np cool, cause I knew what I was paying her was more than what any court would allow. We go to court and the judge awards her less than our agreement. Dumb bitch 😂😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 01:36 AM
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Everyone is different bro. There is no formula for this. As long as you are thinking with your brain. You don’t move her in. Do NOT fall in love and you take things slow you’ll be ok. Hope it works out for you. 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 12:33 AM
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I’m seeing a common theme here men. These SAHM’s cause nothing but trouble. We can’t have that bullshit. Marriage is a huge risk in itself for us and allowing them to SAH is an even bigger risk. If any of us ever decide to get married again we gotta make it crystal clear-bitch go to work for at least 8 hours a day like us. Nothing positive comes from them stay at home
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 11:54 PM
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Be completely honest. Nothing negative comes from being honest.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/23 04:21 AM
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Take her car on your next date and leave an opened pack of condoms where she can see. If you are not that bold buy a females earring and leave it in centre console. That will get her blood boiling. It’s war time brother.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 03:00 AM
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I second this. I read that book and it’s me first since-and any woman needs to be on board with that or she can fuck off. Push her out. We gotta start treating them the way they treat us. Don’t think for one instance she’d say to you “it’s ok, stay here until June”. Absolutely fucking not. She’d say she’s not comfortable with you here. You’re invading her space. Probably even call the cops and have you removed. No. More. Mr. Nice Guy. Put yourself first. You don’t get a reward for thinking about…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 12:22 AM
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There’s alot to unpack here but first lemme tell you writing is therapeutic. You have a community of brothers here that will read whatever you share and offer assistance. So don’t worry about the novel. Why has your kid been sleeping elsewhere since May? I’m not clear why that’s happening especially since you got served in October. I’m an advocate for not leaving the home but your woman (stbx) seems crazy. You may explore that option-but talk to a lawyer first. As a compromise, if she wants to b…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/23 12:08 AM
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Get rid of her bro. We all need to find out quickly why a woman is single and I think you were given enough red flags to learn why she’s still on the market.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 02:34 PM
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Your plan is perfect bro. You want him to go back to her and say “he seems like a great guy”. Why? You wanna make it seem like she’s the problem and he’s questioning everything that she’s said about you.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 06:41 PM
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Fuck. She gets 72k a year……unreal
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 04:16 PM
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You pay 6k a month in spousal or child support bro? This is madness. These women get a fucking cash reward for failed marriages. This needs to stop
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 03:36 PM
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I could be wrong but if she took the kids and you don’t know where they are it’s called kidnapping. Ask yourself what she would call it if the tables were turned. I suggest calling the police. Don’t tell them the full story (women don’t). Tell them you had an argument and she left with the kids. You assumed it would be for a few nights to cool off. It’s been two weeks and you haven’t seen or heard from them. If needed-cry when telling the story. Since young kids are involved you should be able t…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 07:48 PM
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Ahhh man. This is awesome news. Truly happy for you pal. Congrats on the promotion as well. When it comes to your next woman-take your time. Woman aren’t going anywhere and I’m sure you can do without the headache. Congrats again bro. 🍻
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 03:19 AM
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Who. Fucking. Cares. If you have your son full time tell her to fuck off. She is no longer your responsibility bro.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:04 AM
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Leave her. You are not happy. Your kid will be fine. If the tables were turned she would have left you after you lost your first job. You’d be labelled as a loser. Not being able to hold down a job. Not man and all that other shit women come up with. Let her go. Congrats on the pay raise (when it comes) and focus on yourself bro.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 08:30 PM
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This is so true.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 07:13 PM
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What you are feeling is natural pal. I think we all missed a few special things about being married to her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 05:16 PM
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Excellent advice pal. She wouldn’t stand for this and neither should you.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 03:33 AM
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A woman waits her entire life to get married. Do you really think she’s gonna say “oh babe, when we argue we are gonna resolve the matter in x amount of time, and I swear we won’t go to bed angry, and I pinky swear when we have kids and if we decide to split we won’t get lawyers involved”? Let’s be real here. I think we all had those difficult convos before we watched her walk down the aisle in an overpriced dress. But look at us now……..
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 08:01 PM
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If you are honestly thinking about protecting yourself from divorce and you are not even married something should tell you “she’s not the one”. All that cultural stuff is just noise. Do what makes YOU happy. Your culture isn’t marrying her. You are.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 07:57 PM
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Look at my other comment. It’s pretty clear. 4 words.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 07:42 PM
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I don’t know who you are. I don’t know your woman. I went to school for business and not psychology. What I do know is this, if you are asking about asset protection BEFORE you even get married you are probably marrying the wrong woman. I saw a quote a while ago and I’m gonna share it with you. “It takes two people that want to get married and only one to get a divorce” Cheers mate
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 07:40 PM
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Yah. Dont get married
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 07:36 PM
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I’m not sure why you are posting this either but you are entitled to your opinion. I think I can speak for the vast majority of men by saying not all divorces go smoothly like yours. Good job. We have this space cause 9x outta 10 the woman fucked us over in one way or another. Whether it be by cheating. Taking our kids from us. Or the request for divorce that we didn’t want. But again. Happy for you but keep in mind your story is anomaly
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 06:05 PM
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Sorry to ruin your entitlement but this is a sub for divorced men. You are not divorced and you are not a man.
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/23 11:53 AM
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I’ll keep my thing short. Every man in this community trusted God…….
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 12:05 PM
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Don’t live with her. If you can cook. Clean. Wash. And dry your own shit. You don’t need to live with her. Trust me. Every man in this community-including me thought “she was an amazing woman”. Look at us now…..use us as an example my friend. She’s never gifted you anything? Is that the woman you wanna be with? If your buddies told you that about their woman what would you instruct them to do?……..Exactly. Get rid of her. She’s using you bro. The doubts you are having is your gut speaking to you.…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/23 01:49 AM
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That’s what I thought. An assumption. Just like a woman…..peace out bro
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 10:35 PM
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Were you there? Do you know how he said it? Describe his tone? Exactly. You can’t answer those so it’s dumb to assume.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 10:33 PM
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By telling her no isn’t childish. Shows maturity and strength. In any event. I’m not about to argue with a stranger on Reddit. You have your views and I have mine.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 10:31 PM
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Ever think maybe his divorce is fresh and he could still be healing? Ever think, maybe she hurt him and he’s crushed? I’m no doctor but the vast majority of us have been hurt by a woman that we thought we would spend the rest of our lives with only to be divorced. So maybe you shouldnt judge and keep your negative comments to yourself…….especially since you don’t know his situation.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 10:27 PM
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Or you could shut the fuck up and support a fellow man. I mean, all it takes is a simple upvote right? All that other shit you are talking about is just that……shit.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 09:47 PM
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Only stay if you’re gonna get a big payout. But like I said-start putting money away and planning your exit
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 07:55 PM
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She’s selfish. She has the capacity to work on things. She’s working on her business and school. She doesn’t wanna work on the marriage Do you have access to her social media? How do you know that shit stopped? She’s a woman bro-can’t be trusted. Don’t forget that. If the business is doing good and you see potential, I say scheme. That’s what she would do. Start putting money away. Suck up your pride. When you see the business at a point where u can get a decent amount of money-divorce her. At t…
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 04:11 PM
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Thattaboy!!!!!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 01:55 PM
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There’s no married woman bro
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 01:55 AM
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Turn off your emotions and feelings. Look what happened last time you let your emotions get involved. She hit you with a restraining order. I know it’s hard. I get it. That’s why it’s critical as divorced men we just fuck pussy. Don’t hold hands. Don’t wine n dine. Don’t take em shopping. Don’t look in their eyes. Don’t do anything that will cause you to get distracted. Just meet women. Lots of them and have fun.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 08:42 PM
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Fuck breaking her heart. Do you think she cares about yours? Bro. This doesn’t sound good. Ask yourself if your buddy voiced the same concerns you did if you would instruct him to move forward with her. Keep her as an option because it’s clear you are an option for her. Fuck her a few more times. Don’t fall in love and move on to the next. Do. Not. Proceed. With. Her. As. Your. Woman. You’ve been warned
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 08:19 PM
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I left her and I wasn’t cheated on. But carry on.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 10:18 AM
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So why are you in a divorced men’s sub? As men we need a safe space (like you) to talk amongst other men about our issues. This isn’t for you. Sorry. But get out. Mods-like enough now. You should make this sub private and have a vetting process. A woman isn’t allowed here. You don’t see us men going into your space. This entitlement is too much.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 10:01 AM
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I just checked my records and in 2018 I paid $3500 for a retainer. I also googled law society free 30 minute call. Looks like I took advantage of that to get the ball rolling. Feel free to dm me if you have any questions
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 09:36 AM
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Fellow Canadian here-sounds pricey. I’d get a second or third opinion. Where in Canada are you?
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 12:55 AM
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Nothing. It’s the world we live in pal. They have toooooooo many options to zero in on one man. It’s their loss though because as you know women make poor choices.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 05:36 AM
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There’s never a need to move her in. Minute you do that kiss your freedom goodbye. Have a few girlfriends and just have sex. Don’t get attached. Work on yourself and build wealth.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 05:08 AM
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always use a condom and don’t move her in. You follow those two rules and you’ll be ok.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 04:47 AM
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Very weird. If the tables were turned do you think she’d allow you to come inside her house? Nope. You’d have to call her and tell her you are outside. Change the locks, if you haven’t already, and tell her going forward when she’s coming to get the kids, to call you when she’s outside and you can do the exchange there. Gotta treat her the way she’d treat you bro.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 11:20 PM
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Do. Not. Sleep. With. Her. Under no circumstance do you or her pull down your pants. Never go back to her. The minute u enter her all common sense goes out the window. There are plenty of women out there that will fuck you. And I guarantee there are women (plural for a reason) that will fuck you better than her. If she found Jesus she should only want to fuck her husband so clearly she’s confused. Don’t do it bro.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 06:36 PM
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We are a family here bro. Anytime you need someone or people to talk to this sub is 24/7. As for not trusting and wanting to date again-you’ll change your tune. You are in the midst of war so it seems far fetched to think you’ll date again. Just take some time when this shit is over to be with yourself. When you do find a woman you now know what signs to look out for. The minute you see something questionable LEAVE. I will share with you one thing I keep in the back of my mind when I meet women.…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/23 12:27 PM
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A man isn’t gonna wake up one morning after being married for 10+ years to a woman and say he needs to “find himself” or “he’s not happy” and demand a divorce and expect the woman to move out leaving the kids fatherless. I dunno what world you live in but a man doesn’t do that. We try at all costs to work it out. A woman on the other hand will solely think of herself and they do that regularly. I stand on what I said-women are selfish Exhibit A-https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sjm7XtpE4Qc
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 09:02 PM
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Stating facts is not hating women. Where did anyone say they hate women?
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 02:49 PM
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As men we gotta stop feeding into this narrative that they “gave us kids”. It’s bullshit and gives them too much power. We gave them kids. Women are selfish. There’s no way around that. Read the book titled “no more Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover. Also watch Strong Successful Man on YouTube. He literally has daily clips of men getting fucked over by women. You are not alone bro. Focus on yourself and your children pal.
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 06:48 AM
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All good mate. We all understand. When they do break up make sure under no circumstance do you reconcile. I don’t care how well she sucks your dick. Swallows you and let’s u fuck her any way you want. You NEVER take her back. When she comes crawling back make sure you are the best version of yourself that you’ve ever been. Stay strong
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/23 03:28 AM
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She sounds like a bitch. Be prepared for the fight of your life. Forget being cordial and nice. It’s war time. Get yourself together and expect the unexpected. She’s made her decision and there’s no changing it. Be strong pal
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/23 04:32 AM
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It gets better bro. I promise you. Just stay strong and as much as you love her, remember she left you and your daughter high n dry. Don’t ever forgive her for that.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 03:13 AM
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If she wants out….open the door. Never try and change a woman’s mind. Once it’s made up it’s dunzo my friend. Divorce quickly. Make it as easy as possible and move on with your life.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/23 02:09 AM
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Too late. It’s ok. She’ll regret this in the end. For starters. Since you pay for 70% of shit and you are no longer living there due to her drastic decision, stop paying. Since her friends wanna gang up on you, have them chip in towards the upkeep of the house. Then she will see who’s really on her side. Next step-look into getting your stuff asap. Fuck her. You don’t live there anymore so get your stuff. Call the cops and organize a day that works for both of you. She’s gonna fuck you over and …
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 10:26 PM
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Bro, all women lie. The sooner you realize that is the sooner you will start to heal. Secondly-when she texted you, you should have replied with "so am I". Make that shit uncomfortable for both of you Third-always expect the unexpected. She is gonna do and say shit to get under your skin. Balance bro-u gotta be able to give it to her as well. This shit is like sports-anticipate her next move. If you only have one kid together and he lives with you and he has a phone you should have blocked her o…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 09:07 PM
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we get it bro. we are all here to help!!!!!
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 06:15 PM
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100000000%
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/23 01:10 PM
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Simple-the answer is NO. You gotta ask yourself if the tables were turned would she be willing to help you out. That answer is NO. So return the favour
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/23 12:52 AM
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Tell her to fuck herself and ask her if the tables were turned would she agree to a deal to that. If she says no, ask her if she would instruct her daughter or one of her kids to accept that deal. She doesn't get to call the shots pal. Get a lawyer and do this the right way.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/23 01:26 PM
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Nothing positive comes from "staying together for the kids"
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 01:52 AM
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Oh boy. It's about to get crazy bro-but we have all been there. You need to stay strong. If you don't have a hobby-find one. She's gonna be a cold bitch towards you. Don't expect her to be nice and cordial at all. Start putting money away. Like hiding that shit. Be prepared to pay support too. You have 4 kids so it may be expensive. Its war time, so make sure you are mentally strong cause clearly she (like all women) can switch their emotions quickly. I don't mean to scare you but its gonna be a…
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 05:09 PM
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Stop texting her morning and night. That won’t get you anywhere. A decision has been made and sorry bro-you need to accept it and start planning for life without her. I know she is.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 06:30 PM
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I got under someone else....
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/23 04:42 PM
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She's an ex for a reason bro....lol
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/23 07:48 PM
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You can't pal. Ask us this question when the divorce is final and you will see why I say you can't
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/23 04:48 PM
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Fuck what people in the church say....isnt this adultery? Your wife IS cheating on you You lost her when she thought it was ok to move this guy into a trailer outside your home Look up lawyers in your area and make a few appts with them this week. Nail down a lawyer you deem fit to handle your case and start the process. Whatever you contributed to savings, take it out and let her start her business with HER money. Makes no sense in having her have access to money if you are going to split
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 11:00 PM
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Fuck your ex. I get the depression part cause every man has been there. Time to put on your focused hat and never take it off. Expect the unexpected with her and any woman. Expect her to do and say fucked up shit. She’s trying to get you off your game and currently she’s winning. Don’t let her win. You need to stay laser focused on your kids. Money. And yourself. In that order. Don’t get derailed cause that puts you back two steps. Wake up every morning and tell yourself you got today and nothin…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/23 02:09 AM
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np pal. You didnt fail. Your wife did. I saw a quote the other day that im gonna share with you. It said " someday your children are going to figure out who you are as a person just like you figured out who your parents are. Make sure you are the person that they will be proud of when they figure you out"
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 10:06 PM
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Pal, my folks split when I was 20. It was 15 years too late. Mom thoughts staying together for the kids would do more good than bad.....boy was she wrong. I actually think the earlier the better. You will always be present, just not living under the same roof. Just ask yourself, do you wanna stay miserable for the next 10-13 years for the sake of your kid?
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 09:50 PM
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Keep it 50/50 pal, especially since she cheated.
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 07:09 PM
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She's a woman, and you know how that goes....whatever we suggest will be shot down.....smh
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/23 06:45 PM
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Yup. Tell her exactly what you told us bro. If she's a decent woman she will appreciate your honesty and that you can articulate your feelings. She should wanna stick around for those 2 reasons.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 07:32 PM
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She wants to make your life difficult…play fire with fire. Your reasons for the buyout make sense and I don’t see any logical person opposing you. Has she given you any reasons why she doesn’t want the buyout? Kindly remind her the buyout is in the best interest of the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/23 08:24 PM
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Go for it. Hopefully it helps. Better to try and say it didn’t work than to live with the regret of not trying at all. Hope it helps and you can salvage your marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/23 11:58 PM
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Lemme get this straight: You left YOUR house. You want to get some of YOUR stuff from YOUR matrimonial home 24 hours notice is needed-not too sure why When you set a day and time she backs out at the last minute (not literally). And you are worried about legalities and what the neighbours are gonna say? Pal, fuck your wife and anything to do with her. She's fucking you and you aren't even pulling your dick out. TELL her you are coming to get YOUR stuff and if she doesn't like it she can cause a …
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 07:05 PM
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Yup. I suggest waiting. Nothing bad happens when we take our time
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 12:40 PM
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Oh brother…..imma go easy on you. There was no need to get married the second time. Didnt you learn your lesson? Read this twice-all. Women. Are. The. Same. You talk about b having a gf and having her live with you. Why? So she can get comfortable. Claim common law and then fuck you over? You don’t sound happy and I am not here to judge but I suggest an amicable split. You don’t wanna go through the bs of court and lawyers and all that bs. Whatever she wants just give it to her. Your mental is w…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 04:21 AM
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Get rid of her ASAP bro. She sounds like a headcase. And forget her bday. As men, I find we are too nice. You think if it was your bday she would spare her feelings to make sure you have a celebratory bday? Absolutely not. Save yourself the embarrassment, neglect, sex and ridicule and do zero for her bday. Think wisely pal
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/23 01:14 AM
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What your feeling and thinking is natural. Every man that’s been divorced felt the way you. It’s normal Fuck her. Never talk about her ever again. Whats done is done. Move on pal. Focus on your kids and providing them the best life you can. Dude, you are only 40. Takes break from women for about 6 months and just plan out your life. At the 6 month mark meet broads and fuck them. Don’t fall in love. Don’t ask for a gf. Just fuck. U don’t wanna get too attached. Never. Ever. Ever think about marri…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 03:05 AM
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Bro. You dodged a bullet. Take this as a sign-NEVER get married. Your 23. You should be banging everything in sight.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 01:52 PM
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I approve this message.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 09:47 PM
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I hear yah. We can agree to disagree on this one. I think destroying the family over his views are extreme.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 11:10 PM
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If he did indeed say those things that’s horrible. With that said I have a few questions: Is this the first time he’s made racist comments in all the years you have known him? By divorcing him and granting him access to his kids (most likely on the weekends), don’t you think he would poison their minds when alone? Is the solution to him making this comments breaking up the family? I think this warrants a serious conversation with him. Maybe even counselling. The solution to him making racist com…
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 10:35 PM
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Give us some examples of his racism so we can further advise you
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 10:21 PM
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Clearly she kept this guy as an option. Forget her mate. There are 3.95 billion women on the planet. I reckon it shouldn't take you long to find her replacement. Good luck pal
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/23 11:14 PM
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STAY IN THE HOUSE. Unless there is physical abuse from her to you, under NO circumstance do you leave. NEVER leave your house pal. You do that. and she thinks she can control you-which she doesn't. Fuck her.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 05:22 PM
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Sorry you are going through this pal. The best thing to do is split up. It’s evident she doesn’t respect you and she seems hard headed. Let her go. Build yourself as you are only 27. You can still attain the upper class lifestyle you want. But. I wanna warn you. If she’s giving you a headache now wait till the papers have been served. She’s gonna turn into a bitch. She will become ruthless and have one thing on her mind. MONEY. She may tell you to keep the house now but when the lawyer gets in h…
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/23 03:33 AM
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The best thing to do is to keep it cordial. That will surprise the heck out of her and him. If you act out and say anything crazy she will say "thats why I left him". Don't give her that pleasure. Just act fake for 1-2 mins. Shake his hand, say glad to meet you and if she's pregnant and its brought up say congrats. You want HIM to think SHE is the problem, NOT YOU. Makes sense? Now when you get in the car, you can yell and curse at the top of your lungs.........hahahahaha Good luck bro.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 10:36 PM
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The question has zero to do with their sex life. It’s about whether or not he should tell his kids how the mother cheated.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 08:40 PM
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Ab. So. Fucking. Lutely, you tell them. Don't think for once instance, if the tables were turned she wouldn't tell everyone on gods green earth how you cheated on her and how she gave you the world and how she cooked all your meals, washed your clothes, how much she loved you, was the best wife to you, supported your business/career blah blah blah. You better tell them and teach them about loyalty. You tell them what cheating does and how it affects not only the family but the person who got che…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 08:38 PM
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All good pal. But I do think if it’s your therapist she shouldn’t be privy to what’s discussed-especially if a divorce is on the horizon. I suggest a mediator or for her to choose a therapist NOT yours.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/23 12:04 AM
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You posted in a divorce men sub bro. Any one reading this will assume you are getting or have been divorced. This post is probably suitable for relationship advice
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 11:59 PM
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Why does your therapist need to be there then?
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 11:54 PM
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None of her fucking business what you and your therapist discuss. Tell her no. Fuck her
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 11:47 PM
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Fight fire with fire. Move your mother or father in. Make it uncomfortable for her aswell.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 03:38 AM
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Lots of things physical abuse finding out the partner has an addiction issue infidelity You know....shit that happens in life....lol
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 02:40 AM
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Smh Nobody marries to get divorced.....shit happens
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 02:34 AM
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The best way to get over her is to get under someone else…….hurry up pal.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 03:33 AM
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Don't let it get to you. I realize its easier said than done as you are living it. If you were such a bad person, why did she stay so long? Why did she say yes to your hand in marriage? Those are questions anyone with logic should be asking her. Anyone with a brain will know there are 3 sides to every story. Brush it off and live your life. Guilty people always have the most to say
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/23 03:28 PM
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Sure. At first you will feel horrible and probably even blame yourself and question where you went wrong. Thats normal. Then you will feel happy. Maybe even miss her for a bit. Then angry and resentment. Its a roller coaster of emotions. When you start to feel content with the decision and understand this was best for YOU, is when your true happiness begins. You'll be fine pal.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 08:36 PM
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I'm competitive so I say fight her. If she's being unreasonable and won't take your advice (why am I not surprised) let someone else tell her she's being unreasonable and have her lose out on money. Make her life difficult. Don't think for one instance she would have your best interest in heart if the tables were turned. Fuck her at ALL costs.....even if it takes 2 years.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 02:17 PM
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Well said pal. Keep taking it one day at a time and you will get there.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 09:20 PM
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All good brother. We have ALL been there. The pain you are experiencing is building you to be a stronger man. You'll be fine. Feel free to DM me if you wanna vent/chat
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/23 01:22 AM
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Smh. Women in power I tell ya……never good
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 10:49 PM
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Praying for you pal
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 03:13 AM
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Depends. Get all your shit (money) together. I’m assuming you haven’t gone back home. If you’ve found a stable place to stay and you are ready for her wrath (cause it’s gonna happen) serve her. If you need a few days to gather yourself-do so. But once you serve her it’s war bro. Expect the unexpected bro
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 02:26 AM
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Welcome to happiness mate. This is where you can do what you want. Say what you want. Eat what you want. Wear what you want and you dont have some nagging bit(h giving you her unwanted opinion. Take some time for yourself (about 6 months) and just process what you've been through and then get yourself a sexy woman that respects you as a man and fills all the gaps your ex had. You deserve it pal.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 02:18 AM
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Bring a buddy with you if you can. Its gonna be a lot of information provided and maybe your buddy can ask questions you didnt think of. Also, under no circumstance do you tell you her, or anyone she knows that you saw a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 02:14 AM
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Pal, we have all been there. Its ok. Shit happens. I don't think she has the right to kick you out. You may wanna talk to a lawyer about that. As for the divorce-be prepared for a long road. She's a hurt woman and you know how that goes. She's gonna do everything in her power to make your life difficult. Don't be surprised. She most likely has someone in her ears calling the plays. Expect this. Get your finances in order ASAP and any joint accounts you have-take your money out before she does. S…
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 12:54 AM
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Hey, quit it bro. I ain't a mod but we dont need that negativity here. You could have said what you said in a nicer tone. If you have self esteem issues then so be it but don't speak to a fellow man like that.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/23 12:51 AM
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Sigh. Don’t take her back bro.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 11:42 PM
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Sorry for your loss pal. Just ask yourself “what could go wrong with me sharing this with her?” If nothing. Reach out.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 08:16 PM
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Yes, but not now. She has a point to prove-that she doesn't need you and she can be independent. I'd even bet she has a female friend or friends that are divorced and rave about how life for them is amazing. Bull. Fucking. Shit When your divorce is final and she has to pay for shit on her own and the kids are missing daddy in the house with them is when she will realize SHE made a big mistake. I've seen this far too often. When she comes back-DO NOT TAKE HER BACK. I pray at that point you are ba…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 05:33 PM
3

The categories should have been: Yes No Fuck No hahahahahah
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/23 06:48 PM
4

Sorry pal. I’m truly sorry you are going through this. I’m an advocate for NOT leaving the home but your ex seems to be a bit(h. My only advice to you is to take it one day at a time. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men30/09/23 09:03 PM
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Another female take that we don’t care about. It’s crazy to me the entitlement that you have. Why are you in a male community? Smh. Here’s another one mods.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 02:06 PM
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Are you a male or female? If you are a female this isn’t your space. This sub is for men and NOT women. Women have their own space and we don’t invade it. Please respect our space and exit if you are a woman. Politely, we don’t need your energy or opinions here. Mods-this is happening too much. I’ve said this before and i will say it again. This is a space for MEN. Too many women entering OUR space and giving their thoughts. We don’t care what women think. Please allow us to have a forum to VENT…
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 12:21 PM
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If the divorce is not final don’t bring the new woman. You don’t wanna do anything that could piss off the ex. Piss her off and she’ll try and screw you and I don’t mean in the bedroom. Good to know you have found a great woman and you are finally happy. We all deserve happiness bro.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 06:16 PM
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Bro, why would you want her back? She's shown you that you can't trust her. She's not only disrespected you, but the marriage as well. I mean, she brought your child around another dude. Let her be pal, get 50/50 custody of your daughter and move on. You are only 41 and there's a shitload of women out there that will treat you much better than her. You'll be ok and come out better than before. Trust me.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/23 09:52 PM
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Its over bro. We all have made mistakes but you know how it goes. Once they checkout it's a wrap. You'll never get her back to pre marriage. Stop asking her back and accept your marriage is over. The good thing is she has given you a heads up, so you can start planning accordingly. Good luck bro. Stay strong and don't say or do anything that will screw you over in the future
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 02:20 AM
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Sorry you are going through this pal. I’ve never been in your situation but I will say this: Don’t think for one instance if the tables were turned she’d put this much thinking into leaving you. Women are savages. They are selfish as you know. With that said if you are unhappy I’d suggest leaving her. Not for the other women but for your own sanity. You yourself mentioned the thrill. When single, it’s no longer a thrill. Why? Cause all women are the same. Good luck pal and do whatever you need t…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 10:25 PM
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Ummmm. I could be wrong but I believe this is a safe space for divorced men. You may wanna take this question to another sub. Mods. You may wanna look into this. This isn’t the first time a female has entered our space. As a man, we need a safe space to communicate with other men and this seems like a clear violation.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 05:00 PM
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Shit man. She's sounds like a piece of work. My advice to you is DONT SAY A WORD. Anything you say will and be misconstrued. If there's an emergency after 8pm she will call you. She won't send a text. Stay strong bro and buckle up. You've got a long road ahead of you
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 07:44 PM
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She could have spoke to a lawyer just to get advice while she plots. I don’t wanna scare you but I also don’t want you to be blindsided. Are you in an at fault state? Does she ask you or know how much you make? Please stop or don’t disclose any financial info to her. Also think about alimony cause you may have to pay that. U always gotta be a step ahead of her so please-get your ducks in a row……just in case bro. Watch a few of these videos. They are informative and lets you know you are not the …
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 02:43 AM
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I’m Canadian so the rules may be different. But my father told me to use logic. How will the ex or the courts know what financial institutions you deal with? That’s not public knowledge. I understand you wanting to work it out but you also need to use some common sense. The fact that the convo has started tells me she’s probably speaking or spoken to a lawyer. As for the cash-add a buddy’s name to the account/s. Therefore the cash can’t be split with anyone except you and the buddy. If you wanna…
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 02:27 AM
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There is absolutely NO benefit as a man to get married. It’s ok. We all learned the hard way pal. My advice to you is put the money away. Give it to a friend or buddy of yours. Any asset you have transfer it to someone you trust. Don’t tell her shit about this. You better believe she’s preparing herself so you MUST do the same. Stay strong bro.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 02:03 AM
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Pipe her down. Do you think your ex is second guessing opening her legs to someone else? Absolutely not. Bring a pack of condoms and make up for all the times your ex didn’t fuck you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/23 03:28 PM
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U spoke too soon bro. Always remember-move in silence. Don’t bring this up ever again. Have her think you won’t follow through with it. Strategize and make your move when the time is right. Good luck pal
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 11:58 PM
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Good question. I'd tell my son there is NO advantage to getting married as a male. When you really look at it there is no reason to get married. It's cheaper and more peaceful to have a gf. I would advise him to get his shit together and be a high value man. Have a gf but NEVER have her live with you. If she wants to live together, rent a place together. Never move in with her, or have her move in with you.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 03:25 PM
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What you are feeling is natural. Don’t sweat it. We have all been there. What he said is correct. You WILL come out stronger than before.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 02:57 AM
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Tell the job you are not ready for the promotion. If the boss is a male and cool be straight with him Don’t leave the house and follow the lawyers orders Play nice. Don’t piss her off. You are gonna have to live like her child until this is resolved. Once resolved (hopefully quickly) accept the new position and don’t tell a soul. Not even us on Reddit. Stay strong brother.
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/23 02:54 AM
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I wanna echo this. Under no circumstance do you get down on your knee and ask another woman for marriage. There is no advantage in marriage for us men. None. Whatsoever.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 06:59 PM
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Also document via email that you are willing to pay x amount for child support. This will show the courts you are a good man and that you are willing to do whats right It's gonna beg tough at the start but keep your head on straight and be strong.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 02:22 AM
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10000% right. I can tell you have experience.....lol
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 02:21 AM
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Sorry you are going through this brother. I will tell you a piece of advice my uncle told me years ago.....he said "as a man you never leave your house, if she's unhappy, she can leave" I dont know where you are located but I can imagine hotels are not cheap. I advise you to go back home (and save money). If you want out-then I think any man here will support you 100%. Go back-play nice-get your ducks in a row and divorce her. But I don't think you should be spending unnecessary money-especially…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 09:06 PM
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hahahahahaha
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 09:38 PM
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Play nice until everything is final and then you can tell her to go fuck herself
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/23 09:37 PM
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I said the same thing. When a woman doesn't have custody of her kids, thats a major red flag......
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 11:39 PM
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What you are feeling is natural. I promise you bro. We have ALL been there. Use this time to focus on yourself and make yourself a stronger man. You'll be ok. I promise you that
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/23 11:05 PM
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Exactly. Don’t say a word bro. Keep that between the men here 😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 07:42 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/23 09:03 PM
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Clearly he doesn’t love her. He’s cheated 13x
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:52 PM
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I don’t see the need to tell her. If you know it’s gonna crush her why tell? There’s a saying women recite “what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him”….I’d adapt that for your marriage unless you wanna get divorced. Pay excessive legal fees. Pay a ridiculous amount in child support and lose your house.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:50 PM
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As men we gotta stick together and help our fellow brother out when in need
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 08:52 PM
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As men we need to help each other out. Women have shelters and shit and wtf do we have? ZERO. There are 19k members in this sub. I propose each member put $1 a month into "a pot" or for those men that have extreme issues (like this one) we help our fellow brother out. As men, we have no where to turn and I hate that. Bro, stay strong. Put together a plan. Try and work odd jobs. Anything to get a cash flow I hope the moderators see this and offer how they can help.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 08:12 PM
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Stay strong bro. Don’t ask her anything about this man. Even if you still care-act like you don’t. You’ve gotta be strong during this time. Don’t let your emotions get the best of you. That’s what she wants. The guy was probably there before you. That’s ok. He’s her issue now. Not yours. You deserve better and will find better. Focus on yourself and be the best version of you possible.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 03:30 PM
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There are no pros 😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 04:01 AM
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Leave. Staying together for the kids will only cause resentment……….kids resenting parents.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 11:09 PM
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Wtf. Why can’t she work like the rest of us? Fuck her. Sorry for the cursing. I apologize if anyone was offended. I just hate reading these stories. She needs to get a job. If she can’t go into work then find a wfh job. If that doesn’t work she can try Ecom. The solution isn’t to squeeze more money out of you. I pray you find a solution that benefits you. Stay strong bro.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 07:58 PM
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Smh. Just count down the days bro 😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 01:04 PM
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She wants a reaction outta you. Don’t give her one. You’ve got this far. Don’t do anything silly.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 04:26 AM
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A month and a half left bro. Stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 04:03 AM
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I second this thought
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 02:14 AM
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1000000000000000000000000000%
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 05:45 PM
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Don’t offer it. You worked your ass off for those millions. Although the kids may live with her you can still provide a very nice life for them. I’m totally against giving women alimony. Child support of a reasonable amount-yes. But those millions are yours. Enjoy them-you and your kids. Praying for you bro
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 05:45 PM
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A few things Under no circumstance do you take her back. She cannot be trusted Any evidence you have of her cheating you make sure you send it to a trusted buddy or back it up to a cloud that she has NO access to. Get your affairs in order ASAP Sorry you are going through this. The positive here is that you are young and there are 4 billion woman in the world. When the dust settles you WILL find someone better suited for you. I know it seems like a stretch now but you’ll be ok. Feel free to dm m…
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 03:00 PM
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😂😂😂. It’s true though
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 12:20 PM
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As long as your happy that’s all that matters bro
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 04:15 AM
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Good for not leaving your house. Never leave bro. Smh at what she did. Can you report that and notify the judge? She needs to compensate you for cutting the cord for the ac unit. If she ever comes back make sure she’s present with a police officer or mediator so eliminate crap like this happening again. Stay strong bro
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 04:10 AM
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Stressed out. You’ll get the peace you deserve in 5 days 😊
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 12:56 AM
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I wanna say something here kinda unrelated. Men, when these women of ours ask us to leave the house. Don’t leave. I don’t think this has happened here. I hope not. But I’m tired of reading about “she asked me to leave so I packed a bag”. Stop doing that shit. I am sure we contributed to that home if not totally own it. Regardless. Never leave your house. We need to stop giving these women so much damn power. If she’s so unhappy and wants to split (that’s fine) but she can leave. We need to stop …
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 10:38 PM
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Whoever wants to break up should leave.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 10:34 PM
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Tell the truth. Nothing bad ever happens when the truth is told
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 02:01 PM
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You are clearly not happy. Based on what you shared neither is she. The resolution to this is either counselling or divorce. It doesn't seem like counselling is on the table so I suggest an amicable split. As for the compensation part-you may have to do it to keep your sanity. Good luck bro
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 01:49 PM
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Unless you will get back together with her I don't see anything positive coming from meeting with her.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 02:13 AM
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Love this for you bro.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/23 01:29 AM
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I never understood why two married people would consent to opening up their marriage to other people. 1. It never ends well and 2. Why get married if you one or both wanna sleep around? This is gonna read harsh but oh well-you never should have consented to this. You also never should have entertained when your wife asked you if you wanted to sleep with other women. Why the heck would you do this? Clearly you two don’t love or respect each other or your child. You two should have got a divorce b…
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 04:13 AM
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Sorry you gotta go through this bro. This is a her issue. Shes unhappy with herself ablnd as a result shes not only hurting herself, but you and more importantly the kids. Shes selfish bro. The divorce will be hard but i promise you, you will get through this
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/23 05:04 PM
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🙏
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 11:24 PM
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Damn. Sorry you are having to go through this bro. My advice to you would be to make this a fast process. Try to be fair so both sides are happy. You don’t wanna drag this out. Trust me. Her relationship with the new dude won’t last. Trust me. In actuality-I think it can be deemed as cheating. Talk to a lawyer about that. Stay strong and don’t do anything crazy. Hope this helps bro
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/23 09:48 PM
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Awesome news. Happy for you bro
/r/Divorce_Men15/07/23 04:25 PM
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This sucks bro. Sorry you gotta go through with this. If you truly want to do this wait......Just wait until everything is signed, sealed and delivered
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/23 03:58 PM
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Yup. As men, we are not allowed to set boundaries…..when we do this is what happens…..smh
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 04:26 PM
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Partially true. Not in its entirety but there are SOME truths here
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 02:38 PM
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This man told NO LIES. Thank you bro for being blunt and straight with it. Glad you said it cause it NEEDED to be said.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 12:56 AM
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Bro. Don’t get married if she doesn’t sign. It takes two people to get married and one to want a divorce. Let that sink in.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 12:06 AM
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Advise HR of the pending divorce so they are aware and continue with the proceedings
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 09:42 PM
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This won’t last. He’s a rebound. He’s 23. She’s ten years older. He will come to his senses soon enough Be patient
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 01:47 PM
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Nope. If it was Mother's Day I am sure she would want to ensure you did your part to ensure she's acknowledged. It goes both ways bro
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 08:34 PM
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Leave her. Thank God there are no kids. Leave before it gets worse
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 09:57 PM
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Well said
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 01:05 AM
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Wow. Don't stay. Pass go. Collect $200 Never speak to her again
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 12:52 AM
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First thing I thought
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 03:16 AM
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If no chance at reconciling I’d suggest keeping your kids as close as possible. They are young and you know they need you around
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 10:23 PM
1

Whats her reason for wanting to move to Cali? How old are your kids?
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 08:57 PM
2

Change the locks seems like the only logical remedy to this. I dont see why she needs to have a key to YOUR house. Do you have one for hers? I am going to assume you don't. ​ Change the locks bro
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 08:41 PM
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She's being silly. WTF is CPS gonna do? Whats her reasoning for calling CPS? You have done nothing wrong. Stand firm and dont get rattled bro
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 02:43 AM
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I dont think any of us can tell you if your reasons are valid. I mean, if the issues you mentioned bother you then they are 1000000% valid. I suggest bringing up your issues with her first before divorcing. If there is a change, then obviously stay. If no change, then ask for a divorce. I will tell you from experience that kids change things. Intimacy goes down and quality time decreases. I am not saying this to discourage you, but just want to tell you the reality of the situation. You sound li…
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 12:19 AM
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10 days is too. Get another lawyer. Remember, the lawyer works for you, not vice versa
/r/Divorce_Men05/06/23 01:49 PM
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hahahahahaha
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 04:29 PM
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I guarantee she is using it as a coping mechanism. Keep your mouth shut though. Nothing positive will come from you being logical with her. Let her realize this on her own. Good luck and stay strong bro
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 03:38 PM
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If this is true and it worked I'm happy for you. Good job bro
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/23 01:50 PM
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Don’t. Tell. Anyone. She will probably change her mind. When women are struggling in an area and they are married the first thing they think to do is divorce. As if that will solve their issues. Stay strong…but also prepare yourself for a divorce. If you do divorce it’s gonna be hard. I can guarantee that. Keep your head on straight and know that this is her issue. Not yours. Get your shi* in order just in case. I’ve been there. DM me if you wanna chat.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 08:57 PM
1

Wow. Time to leave bro. If not leaving for your own sanity, then you gotta leave for your kids. Pack em up and leave, or ask her to leave the house.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 01:49 PM
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Np
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 08:28 PM
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There’s your answer bro. Do what you gotta do. It’s gonna be hard but I promise you, you will feel better after. I’ve been where you are. DM me if you wanna have a private convo
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 08:23 PM
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Why she still living with you? Get rid of her. That will help with this issue
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/23 07:34 PM
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Good. Be careful though. Lawyer may charge for the consult. If they do charge-then meet at the police station.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 08:24 PM
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DO. NOT. PICKUP. THE. KIDS. FROM. HER. PLACE.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/23 08:20 PM
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The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 11:31 PM
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Deleted them. They served zero purpose in my phone but agony. Delete them and move on bro. Feel free to dm me if you wanna chat privately
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 02:45 PM
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Leave. Put YOUR happiness first
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 03:59 PM
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