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Okay, my bad for missing the word often when I read your message.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 07:13 PM
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You think only manipulative, egotistical, and deceitful people have casual sex? So bizarre
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 05:34 PM
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Go to the gym with him and compare how much y'all can lift without being obvious about it. My curiosity would certainly get to me. I have decent muscle genetics too and used to hip thrust more than my husband but he quickly over took me after doing that lift for very brief period of time. My point is , it is unusual for any given female to be better than any given male when it comes to strength
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 09:27 PM
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In this case he sounds bigger than her, otherwise it would possibly make sense
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 08:56 PM
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I think he can beat you, he just doesn't feel able to exert force on you because of the fact you're a woman.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/25 07:50 PM
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True but you are on reddit which means people can see you and be like hmm should we say something.. I mean assuming you've been depressed for so long I bet you've tried it all but I don't believe in giving up on trying to find happiness
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 07:16 PM
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And you're choosing to comment on reddit while being depressed, which tells me you're potentially not aware of how it's seeping into your life and making you miserable and stuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 07:03 PM
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Skeleton isn't a good look
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 05:31 PM
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Ngl I'm a drive by commenter but you seem very depressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 05:30 PM
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Prolly will vary from person to person and depend on luck. I'd say it was easy for me because I got two LTRs in a row with guys who approached me and I reciprocated the feelings. My big sign that they're attracted to me for more than the surface level reasons is that they like to talk to me, they like my mind, and they don't push for sex right away.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 05:29 PM
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Huh, weird you call my actual life not real. The bigger issue I'm afraid is women are primed to take advantage of these caring loving men. Also, their respectful caring nature turns off a lot of women and jades the men through repeated rejection. If you're young you can be lucky like me and just happen to be picked by a man like this, because I think over time, they lose the ability to create the fairy tale life as they settle into resentment over why THEY were lied to. Because THEY did all the …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/25 12:46 PM
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I've seen that but 12/22 is different than 24/28. Typically , 18 is just starting college and 22 is just starting your career. The delta between 24 and 28 is much less by comparison since you're still just in your career, just with 4 more years of experience. I find the people with this perspective tend to be younger college students who find it weird or icky to date a man who is about to graduate or has graduated
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 03:58 PM
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Everyone life is different. Some people are starting their careers at 28 while others are getting massive promotions. You yourself admit to feeling younger than your age. 30 is not that old.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 03:55 PM
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Ok. That's fair. But I guess I still doubt very much that the average, not political, not journalistic person would not be extremely upset over this happening to men or women. Yeah, I can see the higher level society just does not. But I believe if you were to ask any random person on the street if they would care about those boys, im sure a lot would. I know media and government is highly corrupted , so it's not difficult for me to believe this happened , though you're right it's shocking and j…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:32 PM
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I get your point though. Like why talk about the tends if we're not gonna judge em? But I really value just being aware of the facts. People can form their own opinions, but make them aware of the facts. And people can and should express their own feelings about things. It's ok to say , for example, to a trusted friend in the context of this conversation how the facts make you feel (scared, nervous, angry, etc). You can talk about how you wish things were different or how you'd like things to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:25 PM
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Them, the people enslaved We, you and me, spending time discussing your grievance with the issue of people like us (first world people who are not enslaved) feeling more sad for the woman than the men / paying more attention to the woman than the men I apologize for the lack of clarity of my comment, I thought it was maybe ambiguous but I hoped it would be obvious. I just think the focus is weird compared to you know, being actually enslaved as a man, than just being kinda sidelined and emotiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:18 PM
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Well yeah but I specifically framed my question this way to be very clear that the verb was "observation". Not a judgement, opinion, conjecture, or conclusion stemming from such. I think we are totally aligned ideologically if you wanted to read my other comments in this thread (and I've debated with both sides already, obviously the nature of my argument will change based on which side I'm talking to).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:10 PM
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No, but the only other image of a slave I remember is this guy Peter (enslaved man) - Wikipedia https://search.app/YTrEK4fWQ2z5nCxd9 I've seen it posted and talked about , I never heard of these boko haram girls. Granted I know this is a old picture and all that, but the fact that it still gets attention to the extent I saw it and learned about it on Reddit, kind of tells me that there is real empathy for the man in that situation. I also remember when that female Korean lady murdered a random m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 12:08 PM
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Well, I don't know if I was 100% certain that my thinking was correct, it was just a postulation based on like, how human empathy works. I don't see how people aren't also upset about the men involved. Is there no compassion for other humans? Also, I can see your intent is to just complain about how people pay more attention to women, I guess . You don't even acknowledge how good we have it compared to them ... (The actual people enslaved) I just don't see how our current problems in the first w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 11:57 AM
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You might just be suffering from reddit syndrome or something. I mean, just because a woman was the catalyst for the story, doesn't mean no one cares about the men..obviously women and men have been trafficked in Libya for a long time by now. I know generally speaking people care more about the woman then men for the many many "reasons" explained in the thread. But I guarantee you people would still be outraged if this was a man in shackles. I think people just have burn out from all the tragedy…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 11:28 AM
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Yeah. Though the second most top comment on the thread appears to acknowledge that more than just this 1 woman are being affected. I think most people would find it outrageous and abhorrent that anyone would be trafficked. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 11:05 AM
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I certainly noticed the men in the background but I wonder why she's bound and tied and they not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 10:41 AM
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I agree with you, and I think that women do the same thing to men in that they see the risk of men to not be worth it in many cases. Like some men take offense to women crossing the street if there's a man approaching her at night and she's alone. Okay that's fine but if I interact with an individual man, I could never assume such horrible quality from him by default. I guess I don't disagree with men not approaching random women they don't know or connecting with women who show disdain for thei…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 09:20 AM
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OP I don't often bring up this issue and I don't care what you say because I want you to be authentic in your response no matter what. But thank you for being a rare poster to ask questions with the intent to listen rather than fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 09:06 AM
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But then are you saying it's impossible to speak about a general issue without targeting the individual you're speaking with? Like I don't really see how the phrase "men built the patriarchy" is objectionable because it's past tense and also true, and also clearly you went there when the patriarchy was made so not including you. The phrase "men are violent" is objectionable to me because it's present tense and implies an innate quality. I don't believe personally that men are violent. I do belie…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 08:53 AM
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I wonder what the world would look like if men held other men accountable and women held other women accountable. It seems like this cross gender shit ain't working.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 08:19 AM
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That's totally unacceptable imo. Too radical for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 08:17 AM
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Why can't women make observations about trends without it being nonsense ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 08:17 AM
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There's a step further to not being an asshole you can do, which is show consideration and genuine kindness to people , like really emotionally connecting with them and making them feel good or helping them in some way. I agree with everything in this post and think it's well written
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 08:16 AM
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Red pill isn't a political thing. Anyway your views seem very stereotypically red pilled which is why I asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 02:11 AM
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Why do you call yourself purple and not red ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 01:57 AM
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Clitoral stimulation is best accompanied by a nice d*cking
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 01:17 PM
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I'm sick and disabled and I improve myself every day, I agree with you people need to try. Especially because you generally get less attractive with age unless you don't . I love time because hard work comes with results but it takes time
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 02:57 PM
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I've been lifting for 4 years, so no, it's not newbie gains. I workout 2-3x a week for 40-60 mins, doing 4-6 strength building exercises per session as directed by my physical trainer (online, writes my programming and tweaks it based on my feedback).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 05:46 PM
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Yeah he made me lol when he said building muscle is hard. I can build muscle just by eating like 1600 calories, that's so easy!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:56 PM
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It's much easier to lose weight when you have 100s of lbs to lose, but yeah I just feel much happier on semaglutide because I was fasting a few days a week and not really seeing results because it would trigger a binge (a few days of eating 1600-1800 calories instead of 1400) My way of losing weight right now is killing that appetite, and for maintenance I'll come off the medication and go back to my maintenance habits which includes fasting 1-2 days a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:54 PM
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Fixing the issues that caused you to gain weight in the first place is learning to eat at maintenance. Eating at maintenance won't cause weight loss. Weight loss is extra effort on top of what's needed to not gain weight. It's a great idea to learn those habits but it may simply be not enough to lose weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:45 PM
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I disagree with this btw, I think building muscle is so easy compared to losing weight. Because I don't need to ignore hunger cues, it's the opposite when putting on muscle. When losing weight, I have to still work as hard as I am when I'm building muscle in the gym (without seeing gains) so that I don't lose muscle. Then all that extra work makes me hungry, so then ignoring the hunger is hard. I can't wait to be at my goal weight because the bulk is gonna be so easy. When you need to eat double…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:43 PM
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I just am on semaglutide now so naturally there are days where I just don't want or feel like eating so I'm basically in a fast. I don't take vitamins right now, I'm not really sure where to start or how to make them effective. The world of vitamins and supplements is foreign to me, I put all my efforts into learning how to EAT correctly just to throw it all out the window because I wasn't losing weight I was just maintaining and cycling between the same 5 lbs (which I guess is a good start..) b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:16 PM
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Okay but if you have to lose 30 lbs, and you need 60 days of that type of weight loss, you need to sustain that eating cycle for essentially 2 months at a minimum. Which feels impossible without something extra to help. Yes I want to lose weight fast..that's why I'm taking semaglutide. I'm happy for all the people who don't need help to lose weight but you're probably like 6 foot tall preaching to women a foot less tall than you about how easy it is to lose weight when thermodynamically you basi…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:13 PM
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I mean I definitely don't see this as a sustainable method for me without something to help suppress my appetite. It also seems like it could be bad for you to eat so little ?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:03 PM
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:/ yeah I've never lost 2-3 lbs in a week in my life. A 1200 calorie intake affords me a 150 calorie deficit on a non active day, and on an active day it affords me a 200-250 calorie deficit. Given that it's very hard for me to eat 1200 calories and lose even .5 lb in 1 week. Even eating over 1400 calories accidentally one day will put a huge block to that weight loss. I just don't understand how someone my height is supposed to lose fucking weight without becoming a fucking athlete level of act…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:59 PM
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Are you 4'11?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:56 PM
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1 egg has 70 calories and 6 g of protein. So you're suggesting I just eat 16 eggs in 1 day or something? The reason I started reaching for egg whites is the higher calorie content of eggs vs egg whites, like the calorie to protein ratio is really off. This also sounds like unsustainable. Id get sick of eating eggs after like 3 eggs. That's way too many eggs. This is what's in the protein drink I like the most: "Filtered Lowfat Grade A Milk, Contains Less Than 1% Of: Alkalized Cocoa, Natural Flav…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:55 PM
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I don't really want adequate nutrition if it puts me at less than 1 lb of weight loss a week, that's my issue. I do have a script for a blood test, so I'll have to get that sorted soon. I dont really know what to do with a random script or if it will be covered by insurance, but worse case I have HRA I can use towards it if it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:51 PM
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I did that stuff before semaglutide and it just wasn't enough. You understand for me to lose 1 lb of weight I need to not eat for 2+ days, so to lose 20 lbs or 30 lbs that's 40 to 60 days of not eating, then somehow eating at my very low maintenance of 1350-1400 on days where I did eat. I don't understand how what you're suggesting even works if all you can think about is food. Semaglutide just turns that bit off. So suddenly I can go without eating for a long time, suddenly I can eat less than …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:49 PM
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I do enjoy egg whites mixed in with regular, yes, they're very helpful. But lately I haven't been hungry before 12-2pm. I also drink protein drinks. I worry more about my micro nutrients since I focus so much on getting the protein, I don't eat tons of snacks like fruits or vegetables, like id rather snack on turkey than an apple, because I'm lifting and trying to build muscle which is rly hard when you're not eating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:41 PM
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I don't think I can physically do that, because even before I took this medication if I didn't eat for a few days I'd throw up and get really sick and feel mentally unwell. It would make working hard too. And for what?? 10 days total of fasting wouldn't even give me 5 lbs of weight loss. Maybe it would be a useful technique once I'm at the goal weight to help ne stay within it. I still need to lose 10, maybe 20 lbs. I'm really happy with the semaglutide and don't care about whether or not people…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:37 PM
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It's so weird to me, because I apologize for things that don't even need apologies heh
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:29 PM
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I worry about the nutritional issues as well . I was able to crack the weight loss code but as a 4'11 women I basically don't force myself to eat at all if I'm not hungry, which means I don't think im always getting 1200 calories. I need to start looking into getting my nutrients checked so I know if I'm causing damage to myself or not. But I don't even know what kind of doctors help w this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:24 PM
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I'm pretty incompetent at losing weight. I'm 4'11 and 1200 calories really only affords me 0.5 lbs of weight loss a week, which is slow enough that eventually I kinda break and gain it back, putting me in a 5 lb weight loss / gain cycle. I really don't give a fuck though, I'm loving the 13 lbs of weight loss I found so far on semaglutide (ozempic but for people who don't qualify for the brand name drugs because we're not fat enough). I love how I barely crave food, I love how I don't even want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 01:15 PM
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I've been with my husband for 12 years and I've been increasing my sex appeal by exercising, nutrition, muscle building, skincare, hair cair, fashion. I really want to look good for him. In contrast when I was young I didn't know how to do this stuff and didn't understand the importance of it. Even if most women do what you say, this isn't something built into the fabric of being a woman. Some of us really appreciate our partners and want them to feel proud to have us by their side. But looks ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 06:45 PM
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When you said "if you think there's a double standard here" I didn't think you meant you, individually. I thought you just meant generally speaking. You said the statistics support no double standard but people believe it anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:53 PM
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If there wasn't a double standard the master key broken lock analogy wouldn't exist
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:29 PM
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Though I hate admitting it, I think I am that 30% one lol. When I met my husband I had 1 ltr under my bet and short term relationships. I'm quite sexual but because of my experience with the STR and casual relationships, I have no desire for it. It's much nicer to have sex with someone who gives a shit about you and someone you're attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:24 PM
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Maybe she's differentiating slut (negative ) with promiscuity (neutral)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 11:20 AM
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Trump sign
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 11:17 AM
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A!!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 11:16 AM
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I read a long time ago the key to healthy relationships is reciprocity. So to me, if a man makes a woman happy, the women should make the man happy. Otherwise the man would likely grow resentful and detached from the marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 01:34 PM
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I think both spouses should be happy. Happy wife happy life reeks of entitlement
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 09:21 AM
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I disagree. I believe in having values, I believe in sticking to your values. I don't value narcissistic assholes. I don't think Adam is pathetic because he is considerate and conscientious of others. I married a man who is like that, but he's attractive. I don't want an ugly kid either obviously for their own sake , but if I was a parent I'd focus more on the character and personality of the person I made rather than their looks. I can't influence their looks (beyond helping them see the value …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 03:57 PM
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Yeah I agree ! Good point
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 03:51 PM
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Are you really that cynical that you think people can't or don't have morals?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 12:40 PM
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I don't think he's pure evil don't get me wrong , but like, maybe the person who used that term originally was trying to express the dichotomy between choosing between a "good" guy and a "not so good" guy. I don't think he's pure evil but I still wouldn't want a son like that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 12:39 PM
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Damn the bar really is in hell. Don't be a mass murderer and rapist, totally a ok. Maybe some people just want well adjusted children who are kind and not selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:23 AM
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Having morals means having low self esteem now?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/24 08:21 AM
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The point she's making is you're not an ally basically. You're just like "I can't help, so I won't" but even standing up for women's right to protect themselves and the validity of their fears and concerns would be better than nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 03:41 PM
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Ok 👌 This is not controversial or news Happy you figured it out tho We should all understand basic observable truths
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 05:17 PM
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I was implying that if you want a relationship the only value his advice applies is if you're insecure about your sexual desirability and hence despite wanting a relationship in the long term you'll fuck around in the short term to prove to yourself you're not a beta bux / safe option
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/24 05:34 AM
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You admit that you don't want a relationship and it seems like a drag..this behavior is explicitly anti relationship. If your ego is so insecure that you need dozens of women to validate your sexual desirability, that's one thing. But if you are not insecure and you want a relationship, your advice provides literally 0 value to men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/24 09:04 AM
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How did your dad leave your mom without being on the hook for child support or alimony if he was a millionaire?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/24 09:57 PM
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I am very successful in stem field and I had a good childhood, but there were several bad moments that I experienced , and chronic things occuring. It doesn't have to be the subject of a movie for it to be bad enough to change the course of your development
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 06:32 PM
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When someone says they deserve something, they don't mean they're entitled to it. Let's say you just found out your best mates wife is cheating on him. Wouldn't it be easy to say, he does not deserve that? So why isn't it easy to say , a person deserves a faithful partner ? The point is, deserve doesn't mean, "you should be given this automatically as it's your right", it means "this is something that you've earned, so I hope it happens to you /think it should happen to you"
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 09:26 PM
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That's noble of you, an ever decreasing virtue. Congrats for not being a selfish person , and empathizing / caring about people with experiences you've never had but you feel for. Thats pretty awesome and she's lucky to have you as a friend
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 06:01 PM
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Funny you mention it. Yes they were all mid / not conventionally attractive men. That's why I wouldn't have really been keen if I was sober. Because there's that pause of uh, I don't really like this person...but when you're drunk like that, you don't really have those thoughts. Or you just have no thoughts. I don't know, since I can't recall some of the leadup. But I always remember feeling like the whole situation made me feel odd. I also have some sexual trauma from younger years so even wors…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 05:53 PM
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Yes, if I'm blackout I expect myself to not be able to say no to people so yes, it happens pretty easily. (Drunk?) Men perceive anything but a very explicit no and removing yourself from the situation as a yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 05:40 PM
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I have never been pulled into an Uber but there have been a few occasions where I blacked out (was presenting as conscious though) and just followed along whomever pulled my hand and took me places. That sucked though, so I learned not to drink like that around stranger men
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 05:27 PM
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Replying to post bc I think your comment to my comment was deleted (about only Brokies being obsessed) I wasn't able to read your comment because the jannies took it away... Yeah,, if a hoe thinks you're her "meal ticket" she is an entitled brokie with a brokie mindset. I don't need a man to make more than me. I make over 200k. I have a man who makes slightly under 200k. Why would I need more If a woman who already makes enough to hold her own but demands more from you, she's probably selfish an…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 10:05 AM
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To the person to whom I wasn't able to read your comment because the jannies took it away... Yeah,, if a hoe thinks you're her "meal ticket" she is an entitled brokie with a brokie mindset. I don't need a man to make more than me. I make over 200k. I have a man who makes slightly under 200k. Why would I need more
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 09:57 AM
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Only the Brokies are obsessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 05:33 PM
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If you can't stay loyal to your partner while drunk, then don't drink in the presence of strang men
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 10:25 PM
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That's because that's where we have the most nerve endings. The penis, similarly, has the most nerve endings on the head. The clit is basically the head of the penis! <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 11:34 PM
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Is she attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 10:29 AM
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I am extremely fortunate to have a loving and wonderful husband. My husband is the best person I know. He's always there for me, he's competent, driven, kind, respectful, loving, great in bed, I could go on. I wish I could write a novel about how great he is. But you caught the drift, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 10:26 AM
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Oh is there a correlation between happy relationship and picking the man? Good bc my husband and I think this question and people who say bear are stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/24 08:26 PM
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You should have countered with another hypothetical. You weren't having a logical impartal debate, you attacked every aspect of her character. Surprise pikachu
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 02:33 PM
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Also, it's 2024. People aren't getting married to people they're not attracted to out of "obligation" or "social pressure" anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 06:17 PM
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You've never seen a woman appreciate a males body before?? Wha
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/24 06:16 PM
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That's simply untrue.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 02:20 PM
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No idea but I've been around ppd for years so there's no point really to participate anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 01:34 PM
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There are some young relationships but not all of them are
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 03:45 AM
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Out of curiosity have you been in a relationship or in love? If so, has this ever been relevant in your experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/24 03:35 PM
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I'm white
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 07:34 PM
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I can't tell if this is sarcasm or not, but 32 isn't yet where most people in my age are hitting the wall.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 07:09 PM
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I'm definitely not embarrassed to admit it. Older people don't look good to me. 40+ is a big decline in attractiveness in my eyes. I'm 32 but my husband and I still look late 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 05:12 PM
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Yeah I say that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/24 11:38 AM
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Also, you have been through quite a traumatic experience so far so I understand your hesitation to try more things. May God bless you with healing for this so that you can still find happiness in the present and the future.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 01:16 PM
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I get that you're tired and want to defend yourself that you've tried everything and nothing worked. I'm just recommending something to help. I don't want to make you feel bad. I want you to not have to experience violent tantrums to the degree where they cause harm to others which would undoubtedly hurt them. I'm sure at your age things are now much different than they were. You didn't speak for a long time. You are always changing and the brain is always changing. And, if you don't want to wor…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 12:52 PM
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Have you tried dbt for the meltdowns? The reason I ask is because I did dbt and it helped me with extreme emotional issues like this. I did this while with my husband..all of the men you listed sound...like unideal partners. Tbh they sound gross to me (32 years old, in a LTR of 12 years). I would, vet for a smart guy with a kind heart. They're hard to find, but they are out there and they would be someone to accept you and support you. But even kind, loving , smart people need to make sure the p…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 12:05 PM
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1,2,3,4 are all equally important to me and connected to one another. I think if I had to rank, it would be companionship, sex, emotional support, emotional intimacy After 4 id say stability, then finances, then chasing shared goals Second to last is social benefits and last is children. This might change if I become a parent later.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 11:27 AM
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Two years in the military before he can even start another career sounds rough. I wonder why he jumped to the military
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 07:27 PM
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You're young so if you're okay with waiting a few years or so to start having kids I think your man could get a career. Maybe give him this year to find an entry level position and if he doesn't find one this year please reconsider things. I would even have a conversation with him very non judgementally about your needs for financial security. I wouldn't spend money on a big wedding or anything.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 07:21 PM
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He's almost 30 and isn't even at the entry level of any career path. It's definitely concerning. Does he know you're not on board with the military ?
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 07:17 PM
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So does he agree with you being a sahm? Was this discussed ?
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 07:09 PM
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I haven't settled but I'm not single
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 02:34 AM
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whats unhealthy about having a bmi of 22-24?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 02:32 AM
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I mean I agree with the list except for physical and mental illness. Could you elaborate why those make it impossible to be blue pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 05:08 PM
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You said that your experience was X and I said I had the same experience 11 years ago, so not sure how you gathered that something changed drastically since then
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:54 PM
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This is the answer I was going to type but didn't have to, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:29 AM
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That was exactly my experience in college 11 years ago. I was one of those taken females..for every taken female there's a taken man. (Not the inverse though)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:13 AM
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I don't like other people paying for me, I like being with a man who is generous. The generosity should stem from all areas of life, but emotional generosity is the most important one for me. "I'll get this one", "are you sure? We can split." , "no it's okay, I got this", "well ok, but let me get (dessert / the next one)". I think the logic of why a man pays and why parents pay or family pay is very similar. I think it's the man trying to show his good will and generosity. If a man doesn't want …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:59 AM
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It doesn't tell people that. It just says that the man shouldn't give up the moment the women insists to pay. 99% of the time she's doing so to signal she's not a leech..is her letting him pay signaling to everyone that splitting the check, and being fair doesn't matter ? No. Also, my in laws NEVER let us pay for dinner. We protest and say no and they ignore us..does that tell me "women saying no doesn't matter" ,no lol, my in-laws respect every single decision we make it's only this. People fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:33 AM
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We can agree to disagree . I think it's very possible because men are stronger than women that we had an evolutionary advantage when men shielded women while they were vulnerable/ pregnant / recently having given birth and so on
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:29 AM
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I agree with you to an extent but my initial read was way more towards the former than the latter in my defence
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:42 AM
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It hasn't set any kind of precedent. It's a harmless social dance.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:41 AM
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Yeah I agree with that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:30 AM
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That's fine but that doesn't mean either of those things needs to be true for a man to want to pay the first date
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:15 AM
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Lol who cares if some redditor thinks you're a gold digger ? He is the one offering to pay, that was his decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:13 AM
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Like I mentioned another comment, if you didn't offer to pay it would look entitled so you do need to offer but the usual advice is to bow out if he rejects your rejection heh
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:33 AM
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Gonna agree w this. The amount of men willing to do something for a woman is going down over time , I think many men feel it's not worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:07 AM
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I guess so, I just wasn't aware the Spanish were so strict about that. Maybe I should know that by now, it's funny as the internet really sometimes makes you think most people do one specific thing when you only talk about that over and over
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:41 AM
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Role of women is subjective and relative, just explaining what 2012 dating ritual was which I've validated through years of debating the topic online and can tell it's roughly still the same in 2023. I'm explaining down to the root of root, why of why, do the societal constructs exist to begin with? I believe it falls upon societal and biological differences. The dating construct is societal, the impulse is biological, in my opinion. To be human is to exist in a body as well as a mind. And women…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:36 AM
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It's part of the "first date" societal runbook where I'm from to sort of insist to pay for the first date, and I as a woman try not to infringe on this too much, that's my perspective, so I don't think he's disregarding her opinion so much as he fumbled being asked why he felt the need to do it. I wouldn't look at one interaction in a vacuum necessarily either, I mean, it would be clear rather quickly if there are more red flags or not. And there probably will be, but I was focused on her questi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:25 AM
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All men are biologically stronger than women yes, this is factual. Why would men be stronger if they didn't have to do something with their strength setting them apart from women? Nature and nature can be connected, I think biological evidence that we are different exists, so what is the cause and effect of these differences? I always think it has to come down to an expression of masculinity or femininity however misguided or wrong as we translate impulse to logic and reason It's part of the soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:22 AM
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To be fair, my guy wouldn't have acted like your guy in this situation, but I don't know much about how Irish guys are. As a "man", my guy takes out the trash, does the yard work and pool work, handles the finances, and drives (I hate driving). As a woman, honestly I don't really do my job but he loves me and lets me do whatever I want quite honestly. We cook and split the cooking, sometimes he cooks when I work, but early in the relationship I did more of the cooking and took the lead on the co…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 02:14 AM
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He didn't express himself well, and I think that's an orange flag to be honest, but like this is just something that can be looked at cautiously as time goes on. I would think he might have just been a bit flustered because he had it in his head that he needs to pay for the first date. I think he probably only doubled down because she expressed that she didn't understand how being a man and paying for shit is connected, and he didn't know how to explain it to her. . That is my guess . So he just…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:54 AM
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It makes a lot of sense. Women have to bring children into the world and pregnancy is very difficult and makes you very vulnerable. Women are especially less able to function like a regular adult in the last few months of pregnancy, with mobility being hindered. From an evolutionary biology perspective, men have been stronger and more capable of picking up the slack when women are indisposed due to pregnancy. Biologically speaking men are stronger than women. Have you ever thought of why men are…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:50 AM
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It's worth it to have an adult to adult conversation about this if you feel there's sufficient chemistry and all that stuff. He might be putting too much on himself, he might expect more from you than you're willing to give; I think his "I'm a man so I must do a thing" is rather low on the emotionally intelligent scale, but I give him the benefit that he refuses to look "bad" on a first date and in his book not paying on first date == bad == chump. Try to see how he reacts to you reciprocating t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:42 AM
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Also, I wanted to add, if it helps, I am married to a man I've been with for 11 years and I have always been the higher earner, and I couldn't possibly even remember who paid for our first date though I'm pretty sure he paid, and I'm pretty sure I paid for the next one, and so on until I started making money, then I paid for everything for about a year, then he graduated and we went back to splitting and eventually he put all our money into joint finances and things are swell; what I'm saying is…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:36 AM
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Haha, you can always insist to split the check but saying "I don't see how balls have anything to do with it" instead of "thank you!" Is kinda rude. Like, if someone is going to do something nice for you, you should have the manners to show appreciation and avoid insulting that person, in my rulebook
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:29 AM
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Okay, some men have a biological instinct to protect and provide for women. Maybe you don't, but lots of men have personally told me they do! And lots of men have personally told me they felt it was something innate I think it's always a good thing for someone to embrace their own masculinity and femininity as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. Paying for someone else on a date can't possibly cause harm, so it's a positive expression of masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:27 AM
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There's another fair arrangement - you pick the tab up on second date! Alternating is also fair :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:24 AM
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Also I forgot to answer the last question. I think NAH, but you did probably come off as insulting by telling him you don't see how balls have anything to do with it rather than graciously accept and thank him for his generosity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:23 AM
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Men have a natural instinct to protect and provide for women and paying for the first date is a socially acceptable way for a man to signal what he's willing to do to be your mate. That doesn't mean he wants to pay for everything, just show he's a gentleman and show he has traditional values and wants to embrace that aspect of his masculinity . However I don't see how you don't know this already - you're older than me!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:22 AM
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I don't know a ton of rich millionaires but I work in tech and can afford to travel as well as most of my coworkers. I really love vacation sex lol. As for other people's sex lives idk but my husband and I have a healthy sex life. Having access to sex whenever you want can be less thrilling sure, but I'd rather be able to fuck than have to find someone to fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 12:39 PM
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So boring to get rich and travel the world and have lots of sex, while also growing individually.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:48 AM
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You always desire new people. That's a you thing. I tried that before I got into a LTR. It was not enjoyable. So, enjoy yourself. You can enjoy yourself without being a dick to other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 10:54 PM
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Lmao like this is some shocking revelation or lie. Who knew that building a life together and seeing one another grow can increase your love for someone??? Preposterous
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 03:18 PM
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Totally. What's your secret for your workout consistency? Having a hard time getting up from 2 to 5 lol 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 03:14 PM
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You don't seem into monogamy, you enjoy the chase and thrill of being desired and wanted which goes away with long term relationships..that's why you're telling random people online that you can spread their legs for them and get an ego boost from married men leering at you. Being hot and young isn't special at all. It won't last for you either. If you don't want to be in a monogamous relationship that's your decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 03:12 PM
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Hi OP my husband and I are turning 32 and have been together for 11 years, married for 4. I believe that I can't fathom how we will feel in our 40s and 50s, but attraction doesn't simply have an "expiration date", at least it doesn't based on time spent together . We are been practically cohabitating for the entire 11 years of being together. And we're still hot to each other. We still have the looks of our youth and I've personally even put work into looksmaxing with gym and skincare and hairca…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 03:06 PM
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Yes and I have him 💜💜
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:45 AM
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I don't think the reason women are largely snatched up when they're into self improvement is because there are more men into self improvement. To me, it implies that women have less demand for men in general especially if majority of men aren't meeting their standards. To me it also implies that women who work on themselves generally are looking for a partner and once they are committed sort of dissapear in the background, practically becoming invisible to all but the most depraved men (I e. Men…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 09:59 AM
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Okay, so there is the problem - the women who are working on themselves are already snatched up. That's the really unfortunate part of it that makes it seem so lopsided when you're a single dude. Also women don't necessarily need to go to the gym to improve themselves, you'll never see dudes in pilates , Zumba, spin class, pole dancing etc - body building / weight lifting will always be more of a male dominated venture. Edited to add: and yoga. Women love yoga. One more small edit: I have a home…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 03:34 AM
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Right I was not implying that there's a 50/50 ratio in the gym perse, not all women wanna or need to build muscle to be improving themselves, but whats going on with the women at the gym? No one seems single or interested in you?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 02:29 AM
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I wouldn't say it's the norm but it's gotta be like 50/50 either way. I guess there are no women in your gym?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 01:19 AM
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I always wonder if I live in a fantasy land when people act like it's "rare" for women to invest in self improvement, to make themselves better partners, amongst many other reasons to invest in self improvement. Looksmaxing and personalitymaxing may be memes on the internet but irl no one really wants to be seen as the person who puts in no effort or is low value. There's entire subreddits dedicated to female improvement. We spend tons of money on self care and hygiene products. We learn methods…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 04:05 PM
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I went on a bumble bff date the other day and the number one complaint from the girl was how when she uses the dating side of the app, men think their entire personality is their height and that's all they put there...she's like, I can't get to know your height..
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 04:38 PM
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Sometimes the women cheats, sometimes the man cheats, it can be complicated - but either way , I don't care because if she decides to do that he could do better than her anyway !
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 02:39 AM
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Lol if they're anything like I was it won't. I know I was a bit older when my husband and I started dating (I was 20, so not by very much) and we have grown with each other. Why would I assume such negativity on them? Esp. if they're at all desiring something like we have (strong marriage, dual income, very cute and sweet romantic connection, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 07:18 PM
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Right exactly, that attitude will never help. I think it works for both men and women. Bitter women don't get far either
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 03:31 PM
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Yeah I got this vibe too. I do agree social media and dating apps have created a new sense of distance while receiving validation, so people can get some but not all of their romantic / sexual needs met more easily and conveniently, at a moments notice, with zero prior connection and zero time to form an attachment. However my understanding is that people who seek these connections while resisting genuine relationships have a very deep insecurity. Social media and dating apps have created a cult…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 02:59 PM
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Actually I sort of realized, your entire premise is flawed because it places a superficial connection (looking for the "best of the best" regardless of other facets) over a deep connection and bond. Once a bond and attachment has formed, it's an entirely new story. Before then, what you're saying is true. You may argue that bonds are becoming rarer but to deny their existence when there's so much counter evidence reeks of denial
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 02:29 PM
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Thats kinda stupid. I've been with my husband for 11 years. She's got a traditional mindset. Her mom was in a situation of having a one night stand and her dad was never in the picture. I can just tell from afar, she doesn't value shopping around for the best boy. My mother even said to her something about the amount of men at the school and she just smiled and said "it's okay, I've got my own!". My husband and I have been together for 11 years. If their young love doesn't work out, he can find …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 02:18 PM
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Look, idk what it's really like in 2023 but I watched a relationship form in front of my eyes, my brother is 18 and met his gf this year and I can't imagine them getting wandering eyes anytime soon. They're so committed to one another my bro convinced my mother to let him go to the same school as her (though expensive, it's a great school, I went there too). I met my long lasting relationship in college despite being surrounded by men. Time will tell whether or they stay together, but right now …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 02:07 PM
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Hey, so I'm a 31 year old with my man for 11 years. That's a long ass time. Not gonna lie, we have had moments where things stagnated. But the realization post stagnation ignited an entire second coming. Now we are just as lovey dovey as we were 11 years ago. I'm here for it, and I'm told constantly by the married women in my family how incredibly lucky I am because my man's interpersonal qualities far exceeds the norm for men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 01:42 PM
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Love this. So well put and comprehensive
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 01:37 PM
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There's a saying I abide by - the grass is greener where you water it. If you nuture and maintain your own lawn until it's impeccable, you're not gonna care about other pastures because of pride and the work you put into it. You'll look at other pastures and delusionally think yours is much better...because it's yours
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 01:36 PM
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They're saying that love isn't entirely based on logic and rational decision making. If you were cold and unfeeling it would be easy to do as you say. But if you truly love a person, your feelings keep you in place regardless of how boredom and stagnated things might be. You might get a wandering eye or wandering mind, but if your LTR is going strong, you'll quickly realize the risk of leaving far out ways the risk of staying. There's no guarantee you'll have long lasting love with the new perso…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 01:34 PM
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Unless I have a way to know which men meet ALL my standards and then some why would I throw away the best man I've met to date ???
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 01:30 PM
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Because the grass isn't always greener on the other side and people recognize this
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 01:29 PM
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You don't know that actually. My husband started picking up dinner much more often than I did because I was working late. And I was always the person who cooks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 02:33 PM
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Hubby and I love to cuddle before bed and scroll through my TikTok feed before sleep.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 02:32 PM
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Exactly what I said about my parents in auto mod
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:45 PM
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If he's physically superior she can still submit in a sexual sense. My mom is clearly far more intelligent than my step dad. She makes more money, she runs the household, she makes most of the decisions. But she still is attracted to his dominant male energy. Clearly, because she was repulsed by my dad who was far more submissive in his nature. Dominance is a personality trait, leadership and dominance don't necessarily have to go hand in hand. Dominant men who recognize their wife runs the show…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:44 PM
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Desire is romantic, animalistic desire is exhilarating, but entitlement is repulsive. Consensual non consent might be a thing you'd enjoy , some women find it really hot. But that's not entitlement.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:39 PM
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Yeah I'm the cute one in the relationship. I'm the wife. Sometimes it's appropriate to share stories and have a good laugh. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes things that are just cute become draining, too. Ah the curse of femininity
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:25 PM
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Men who think this way don't seem to have mentally progressed beyond the toddler stage, unfortunately, so it would be unethical for a woman to take advantage of your mental state.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 01:24 PM
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I think it really depends on the perspective and individual. Guys who win according to female selection do not experience those feelings. They are usually happy because they get what they wanted, attractive partner, sex, companionship...etc. Women aren't going to give themselves to any guy. They are gonna maximize the best they can get. Men should do the same. Never opt for a woman who doesn't treat you right. I think it's important for relationship to be built on reciprocity. Both partners need…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 08:56 PM
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If you were benefiting from their strategy would you still call it selfish? Just curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 07:50 PM
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I don't even understand the point of this question. If you had a gf or wife you loved, would you be asking this question? Would it still be selfish if you were benefiting from it?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 07:18 PM
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That's smart!! I'll be sure to tell my brother the same thing, especially because he won't be bringing his car with him to campus. He's very responsible currently because he's always the one who is driving. It'll be a whole different ballgame when he's dorming!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 04:37 PM
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OMG I feel that last part so much. The line between responsible adult thing to say and sibling thing to say is so hard. Like, I know how I was at 17. Reckless, trying all kinds of drugs, horny out of my mind, LOL. I try to prepare him for college but I'm constantly confused between, do I tell him what I was like so he can be comfortable coming to me, or do I wait until he's actually in college ? I'm waiting because my mom doesn't know annnnyyything like that about me, though she has her suspicio…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 04:22 PM
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My brother has kinda an opposite feeling about my age, I think cuz when we grew up I tried to spend a lot of time with him, make him feel like he wasn't an only sibling though all of his siblings were 13 years older and out of the house (I have two step siblings, he's my half brother). He is gonna attend the same college I went to , so is his girlfriend. And they tell me I'm not old and I don't look 31. I'm so happy LMAO. They won't be embarrassed when I bribe them with food in the college town …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 03:45 PM
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Oh snap were the same age then..my brother is turning 18 in a month and I'm 13 years older
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 03:37 PM
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How olds your brother? I love large age gap siblings haha
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 03:27 PM
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Not a parent but I'm 13 years older than my 17 year old brother. He has a girlfriend. They're like your typical teenage love story - head over heels for eachother. It's adorable. Good for them!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 09:46 AM
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I just can't agree. Me myself as early twenty and now are nearly indistinguishable except I'm much healthier and have great muscle composition now. Idk, that makes a difference. Some people just have those "young genes" where they age super slowly if they just do the right things. As one gets older they can also afford to live better and may have the maturity to avoid things that make us not look and feel at our peaks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 12:48 AM
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Honestly, I didn't change myself significantly before I found my man. I changed myself to be on my mans level because I'm blessed and attracted an amazing man without me doing much of anything besides dressing a bit better, wearing my hair a bit nicer and occasionally putting on making before showing up to class. Over the last 11 years, these are the changes I've made in my life that have increased my value as a partner (even in his eyes, ahaha) I picked up some red pill women techniques to be m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:38 PM
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That's funny. Turns out if you workout and eat right you can look better in your 30s than you did in your 20s! Sure there's a decline eventually but it's not at 25 , that only happens if you put zero effort into yourself and attempt to coast on your youth
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:26 PM
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Hold on for dear life LOLL
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:17 PM
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This is gonna depend on your relationship. I make more money than my husband. We make nearly 400k together per year. We don't have kids. We have a cleaner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 03:30 PM
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Gotta be good at filtering who is genuine from who isnt. I've been with enough men to get a feel for this, though what you're saying is true, men will say anything to get you to sleep with them, the trick is...don't sleep with them. Get that commitment of exclusivity up front. If a man isn't willing to call you his gf (low amount of commitment anyway) before you have sex his interest in you is probably not genuine
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 04:27 PM
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Way prefer the cute compliment personally! Maybe it would be different but I have struggled with body dismorphia so validation that I look good off the bat certainly helps make me feel comfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 03:03 PM
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Yeah still I don't really know lol. But you didn't address the part where I said I liked being approached with a compliment
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 01:58 PM
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Lol, I DK if I'm average or attractive NGL, it varies depending on the person, but when someone opens with how they find me cute I love it. I married a guy who did that to me when I was single 11 years ago :)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 10:38 AM
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Yeah definitely a purple pilled woman here myself
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 06:21 PM
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They can be but it's better when they are the same thing Yeah definitely (not to a man I love) Yeah, mostly my dignity if the man doesn't respect me No, I just think they should avoid minors
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:17 PM
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I've heard of it haha 😅 I mean it happens
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:40 AM
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I am not active. But I started back in 2012/2013.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 10:38 AM
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Constructive confrontation actually isn't about being nice, it's about being flexible (I think) because instead of coming in with a demand, you're really looking more at the underlying reasons for the other person's behavior and hack it from that perspective. I think lower levels of emotional abuse, can actually be served better well with constructive confrontation than with regular arguments. Bc accusing the other person of abuse will put them on the defensive and they won't be willing to liste…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 04:30 PM
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Constructive confrontation is the key.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 03:29 PM
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I believe your ex trying to change you all the time forcibly counts as arguing against you. How would you feel about the advice if your ex read this and internalizes she was the aggressor
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 01:34 PM
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Yes I never have heated arguments with my husband, together, 10 years and I could count the numb r or times on one hand . I agree with this to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:28 PM
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Right. So that's the how. But it's the same thing as what I suggested in a way
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:27 PM
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Honestly not sure what's so funny but my husband is a peaceful guy and I grew up in an explosive household so I guess I have a bar for what an argument is that doesn't match most of others
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 03:28 AM
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Cuz for me the line for argument is above a productive confrontation. You would have a productive confrontation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:56 AM
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I did put thought into it, what I didn't realize is that most people don't have the same conception of what an argument as I do. I seriously label them as negative in nature and use other words to describe day to day disagreements. If you think about it if arguments get to the point where they escalate, and that starts having a negative impact on the relationship, I do believe whole heartedly that looking at that behavior and revising it is a great place to begin. That by itself might be tremend…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:47 AM
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Yeah , for me arguments distinctly occur while emotional, angry, or are heated
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:33 AM
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What's so funny? I don't have any reason to truly get mad at my husband nor does he get a reason to be mad at me. So we don't have heated or angry arguments. And when we disagree we do adult stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:32 AM
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Yes, exactly, a symptom of a worse issue - possibly being checked out, or disengaged
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:20 AM
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Both people need to be calm. This doesn't mean unemotional, or perfect, just in a calm state of mind. Each person talks about what they want, and is heard / understood by the other person Upon understanding fully the motives and perspectives of another, usually there is a clear and fair answer that is obvious or a negotiation occurs In the event of a negotiation, it's important to continue to address the emotions, not just the facts, of the situation
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:19 AM
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I just call those disagreements. I guess I just believe arguing means having a heated disagreement while angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:16 AM
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We banter, disagree, rumble, have minor conflicts here and there etc. But I don't think we straight up argue about anything really? Like , we are both really good at communicating what we want and need from each other and respecting others requests. So it's hard for me to fathom where people draw the line for arguing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:16 AM
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This is one of the definitions "exchange or express diverging or opposite views, typically in a heated or angry way." Yeah so even the dictionary likes to bundle the concept with aggression. That's what I'm nailing down on. I think it does matter what I mean because otherwise people aren't actually you know ..changing my view
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 01:47 AM
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I agree with this. I know some people who don't make peace and just forgive and forget. This is a friend of mine. Drives me insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 01:45 AM
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I could I could edit my post but I felt I already got some good push back about how the lack of argument alone cannot create a healthy relationship. There also needs to be productive conflicts and conversations over disagreement
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 01:44 AM
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100% bet you can address most disagreements without resorting to argument tactics
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 01:43 AM
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I'm married and my husband and I have been together for ten years...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 01:43 AM
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I think everyone is latching onto the word argue without realizing I'm referring to specifically the act of aggressive arguing tactics that don't work productively. I wouldn't call a disagreement and argument, or a conflict an argument. I guess that's just how I label things.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:05 AM
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I think you just misunderstood what I meant by stop arguing. If you read my other comments you would know this is a strawman of what I'm saying. I'm also 30 years old, I've been in a 10 year relationship as of now as well as others. Yeah, we have all those things we are humans. But we never argue or fight dirty. As far as I know, that isn't common
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:04 AM
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It's just normalized from what I can see
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:02 AM
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I like this alternative. Even if it happened last week it's already in the past so let it go
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 12:01 AM
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I mean in their stories about their relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:48 PM
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You two are just fine and don't argue, per my definition of argument, but rather, behave emotionally vulnerable and productive and loving rumbles. Good for you two! Even with communication mishaps, the less often we resort to ultimatums or manipulations the more smooth things go generally. I still feel like even minor ones can cause some egregious errors in communication, and intensify emotion. But as long as it's within reason and no one feels insulted or attacked it's fair game. My post is rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:44 PM
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Don't you get the vibe from most bitter people on the internet that they often can't help but cross those lines ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:41 PM
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Yes - hence my OP. See you not arguing is a good thing!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:18 PM
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And in all those cases did you argue with her or just sit back and watch?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:14 PM
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Irreparable damage would be like, instead of going off and stewing in a corner like you did, lash out at him with insults like "you're lazy" "you never x" "you suck at y" "how dare you do XYZ". Whatever your internal monologue was that you had to hold back, how would things have gone if you said those things to him, directly in the heat of the moment. And yeah, I read that wrong, I don't know how I missed the "without a plan" part. Perhaps he missed that part too which is why he felt compelled t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:12 PM
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Let's say you're attracted, have you never had an argument with your significant other before ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:05 PM
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Based on the common complaints from red pill men and fds women, yeah, no, I don't think they really get that. It's insult and disrespect city.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:04 PM
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How does these skills in your experience translate in your romantic relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 09:57 PM
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Then I guess you're not really arguing dirty. You're negotiating. But would you think insulting and manipulation are fair game? No, if you stick to the facts, you're just sticking to your facts, right ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 09:54 PM
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When you fight which of the tactics in my OP do you rely on the most? Which ones work?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 09:46 PM
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I would call that constructive conflict which draws a fine but tangible line between arguing / fighting and working from opposing ends to find a solution.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 09:45 PM
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Yes, agreed , I totally neglected to mention this as part of my V and a lot of folks raised this. 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 09:33 PM
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I love this. I agree with this. I think this is even more important in reality. Is if you lack respect to the point where you can allow yourself to give such petty insults to one another to get what you want. It's over. So you're saying as long as it doesn't cross certain lines, arguing is alright ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 09:12 PM
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What about negotiation?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 09:10 PM
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This is a great story - and honestly, it makes sense. I think the way you handle things works but I'm sure there have been times where you have been tempted to do irreparable damage but hold your tongue and keep things within boundaries. I think the issue with arguing in a relationship is very nuanced. Ive had plenty of disagreements in my time, but do I feel good about learning how to get my way via using manipulation, asserting myself more forcibly, or disregarding the other person? No, even i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 09:08 PM
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To be clear, state clear boundaries that block the other person from using those tactics in the OP on you. Use negotiation to enforce boundaries with pushers and get them to do something different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:56 PM
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Well, I've been trying to figure this out. I'd start with the tactics outlined in this book: https://steep-emmental-4e9.notion.site/Never-Split-the-Difference-af3cc2f52be64161a2e0498bbb585b12
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:53 PM
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I'm in a marriage where I don't argue. We have great compatible communication skills. Sure we tease and raise voices but it's play. It's not in an argument. When we disagree we have short and simple conversations and really get to win win solutions naturally and instinctually, no transactions involved. In relationships of mine - romantic and non - where there's this impulse to argue, defend, attack, etc - it never works out well. It never works out nearly as well as my relationship. It lead me t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:35 PM
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Never took a psychology class so , can't say I'd know
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:30 PM
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This doesn't address the hypothesis that argument and negotiation are different means to get what you want. I would say to leverage negotiation, which is different, to get what you want. This strawmans my argument, doesn't address root causes. We don't want to be complacent but arguing and fighting to get what we want doesn't work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:28 PM
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I'm saying do not willfully engage in argument as a tactic to get what you want. Use negotiation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:27 PM
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I think raising your voice as a last resort to re-establish a forceful boundary that came from a calm mind works. However if that's the only thing you take issue with, that raising ones voice is sometimes necessary, I'll go out on a limb and agree - as long as it actually works. I know some folks who shut down the moment I raise my voice and other people whose natural voice sits louder than mine so I have to raise mine to compensate. I haven't mastered the art of negotiation. That's what I'm lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:25 PM
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I don't see how punching someone in the face, metaphorically speaking, with their inadequacies works either - I guess we're assuming your target is weak willed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 08:18 PM
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Yeah , I guess I'm arguing that all common tactics people willfully use while disagreeing actually are counter productive and make these disagreements into arguments, not constructive conflicts. Arguments trend more towards lose lose solutions. Productive conflicts trend towards win wins.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 07:52 PM
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Right, in some cases if you can't argue or resolve conflict, it's best to either let it be or leave the relationship entirely
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 07:51 PM
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Yeah however I think if it's not trending positive / sexually charged in the right direction it's problematic. I agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 07:50 PM
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I would say don't argue with an abuser, leave them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 07:37 PM
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You'll fail bc women are hard wired for drama and excitement and not having these bitch out sessions means there's not enough drama and excitement to keep her interest and intrigue ? I want to make sure I understood correctly
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 07:37 PM
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Oh, no, I'm the aggressive one who confronts, insults, yells and shames etc. I learned it from my mother. My step dad was the one who slammed the doors shut and blocked her out. I don't do well with dismissive types. My husband and I don't have any issues in our relationship because we have no communication issues. Namely, he never triggers my aggression or defensiveness, so I rarely have the opportunity to engage it. However , I have communication issues with other other people , past, present,…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 07:33 PM
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Sadly the ironic thing is if they didn't do these things, they're much more likely to get what they wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:44 PM
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Are there thought leaders who've written books about this?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:43 PM
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Ah, interesting perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:43 PM
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Don't be rude, disagreeing is pretty much necessary. I think the wording I picked was a bit ambiguous
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:40 PM
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Sounds like non violent communication if you've ever heard of it I like self responsibility angle
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:40 PM
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Yeah, I would have to say my V has been Cd to "stop arguing start talking". If you aren't addressing things because you don't want to argue - who is the one who can't help but argue and escalate? One or both?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:39 PM
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This is an interesting take too because it shows willingness to compromise on personal comforts for others comforts which I think good relationships must have as well. And agreed that root causes don't address current problems directly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:37 PM
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Alright, that got me to laugh. But I think fundamentally if she's into that sexually but not logically it can be a problem .
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:36 PM
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This is an interesting take. The silent resentment has to blow up or otherwise have a toxic impact on the relationship? Maybe we should add "passive aggressiveness" to the list of unacceptable behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:35 PM
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Damn, mic drop haha That's so true it's kinda funny
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:33 PM
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Thanks I try
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:30 PM
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PPD sure seems like its matured since i last posted, people are not usually this emotionally intelligent and insightful in the comment section. haha
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:22 PM
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well, I think the issue is they avoid vulnerability as much as possible, so when something is wrong, they have no tools or basis to address it (arguing comes second)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:16 PM
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I'll read this - and yes, I'm always stressed out. Even taking a 3 month sabbatical barely helped now that I'm going back to "Real world". I wish i could hack my body/mind to instantly be calm - I have ADHD and it feels like all the meditation and mindfulness and breathing in the world cant solve this. I blame my habitual and instinctual responses at this point, but have little ability to change - everyone around me does these things as well. (New York / New Jersey anyone?) My romantic relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:14 PM
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I like your two step process. Be vulnerable and own the problem. I think this works. My confusion arises from why is this not common sense that we all collectively suck at this and why is there not a larger effort to teach these skills in education system? It works off authority and aggression - how to make that end?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:11 PM
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It's not new but the social and emotional contagion of everyone feeling righteous about their anger and resentment and spewing it outwardly rather than working inwardly is really exhausting and definitely more consequential than most of the things people complain about.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:07 PM
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I wouldn't know how to label that behavior in the context of this - it's not exactly arguing but its not positive either. I think the real issue is the person fears conflict, in general, or just does not want to deal with it. Conflict is not arguing, so they are walling themselves away from productive conflict. This is a toxic behavior, and it doesn't really boil down to one silver bullet like my post implies. I think one simple trick can be restated to - Stop arguing and start talking. If that …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:06 PM
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Well, one simple trick is to NOT use any of the aforementioned tools even if it doesn't provoke an argument due to the other person's submissiveness. These are all efforts of intimidation and aggression, which assholes/not good people do. The fundamental problem is these behaviors are toxic but normalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:02 PM
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I agree with this. It seems like the majority of problems kinda stem from this. One person is unhappy but cannot express it productively. Where do we supposedly pick up these communication skills in society? It's like, all of these things are completely normalized and accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 06:00 PM
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This is an excellent comment, but also with regards to people who partake in these behaviors serially in every relationship need to look inward with the effort to "stop" so they CAN be vetted / get into a relationship / stay in a relationship. In this climate, people get into relationships because of looks and hormones, not because of compatibility. So it can be a tough ride for folks and then they go and blame "feminism" or "women" or "men" or the "patriarchy" instead of fixing themselves and t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 05:51 PM
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I agree with this but my observation is the vast majority of people do not understand how to engage in a productive conflict when upset and resort to these tactics instinctively. I can't imagine a relationship without any arguing that does not contain resentment, but I highly doubt that the healthiest relationships truly have "arguments" and not "productive and vulnerable conflicts"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 05:47 PM
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I have a hard time understanding why so many people do these things, including myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 05:45 PM
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Yes, but one can work through disagreements without raising their voice using guilting or shaming manipulating not listening / understanding being single-minded about getting what you want (regardless of the other person) insults ​ I can think of many ways to work through disagreements that aren't "arguments". These are productive conflicts.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 05:40 PM
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This is a good response. It's not that what I'm saying is objectively untrue but rather people as a whole cannot be expected to actually do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 05:35 PM
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Negotiation is good. Arguing is not negotiation. You can't lump them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 05:33 PM
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I'm talking about romantic relationships. All the issues in every relationship stem down to people who don't know how to get what they want in life without resorting to these tactics.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 05:31 PM
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Lovely
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:42 PM
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I like ass smacking and some hair pulling while I pretend it's much more lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:36 PM
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My hubby is great, you should call up that dude
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 12:01 AM
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Aha okay so uh, modern society doesn't teach women to treat men like humans let alone like men. A red pilled or red pill leaning woman has far greater romantic value as a partner, assuming that they truly do make it their priority to treat men as well as they expect to be treated by them at a minimum. I've been in this community (though not a self proclaimed rpw, I'm more blue pill but I believe in a good deal of rp truth and advice as well) for ten years and with my now husband for slightly lon…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 02:30 AM
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Nothing wrong with being married 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 12:05 AM
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thats fair however rules of decorum don't stop existing just because you're on the internet. I'm willing to have a discussion but not really willing to just be targeted b hateful people to have their bitterness projected onto me as if i am the one personally responsible for their lack of success in dating. Generally trying to have good faith discussion here leads to negativity being spewed rather than points being discussed civilly ..so people who don't dwell in that space don't dwell here
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 09:32 PM
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You have to know your audience. I've gotten fired from jobs for being too honest about the uncomfortable truth..
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:56 PM
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I do, so the assumption I do not sours it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:23 PM
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I see myself as fairly open minded to men's struggles but like many have mentioned it's difficult when there is inherent disrespect. Ymmv
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 06:02 PM
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I don't know if I think my husband would be a loser from the description of a failure rate alone. I think that realistically, outside of very lucky few most men are going to encounter this issue. It's definitely a bit of an ick but not a huge one, hence why I make it very clear that in MY head it doesn't diminish his value as I don't see him as a person to BOTHER putting effort into that when he knows his value and zeroed in in me and not bother investing in other low value women. Haha. Mental g…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:04 PM
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No, but he's not a thirsty male and knows his value and what he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 03:25 PM
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I've thought about the idea that most people would reject my very handsome and sexy husband because he's short (5'5). But he had close to 100% success rate with approaching women, I mean, as far as I know I was his top pick in college, and he wasn't interested in other girls before I let him into my life. I think we were meant to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 11:14 AM
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For every hot girl there is a man tired of sleeping with her. I'm hot. My husband is not tired of sleeping with me. There, I just destroyed the well thought out logic in that generalization /s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 09:58 PM
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Yes, but we're discussing what the man could assume about the future based on present observation. If a man sees a woman and thinks "I would like to have sex with her" and also thinks "I'd like to be her boyfriend", he is going to not need any more information to further his opinion for the former, but would need to date them to have the information for the latter. So you know half the equation. If the man is smart, and if he also prioritizes relationships over casual sex or hookups, he will lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 11:53 PM
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You can see someone and decide that they meet your looks threshold for a relationship before ever determining anything about their personality. This is why it's a very well known affect that even attractive women can't get away with being trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 09:31 PM
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That's usually why you date the person to find out more about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 06:46 PM
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Even if not thinking about it in those terms when trying to communicate objectively the appearance of another human, it doesn't deter me to hear men speak their perspectives
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:57 PM
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Not true
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:54 PM
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That's presumptuous. Just like men, I as a woman don't select people based on their looks, but their looks are still an important factor in the decision I make as to whether or not I want to be with them sexually. It's not mutual exclusion, but rather, inclusion
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 04:50 PM
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Batman
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 10:01 PM
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How tall
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 09:58 PM
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I mean, I would consider a 20 year old to be a child when I'm 40 and I don't even need to be fucking them. There's a reason behind this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/22 02:08 PM
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Ah nah not really. I had casual things here and there but I didn't expect or want much
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:01 PM
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My experience doesn't corroborate this claim but sure
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:20 PM
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Sounds like it's time for him to up the intensity. Congrats!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 07:01 PM
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Usually it's the slowest.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 06:53 PM
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This isn't remotely even close to how the common folk thinks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 06:52 PM
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I have a few mental disorders so yeah this is pretty typical for me, especially in the morning. Get some vitamin d
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:31 AM
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Thanks , we are pretty cute together dare I say. :) Appreciate it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:20 AM
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He's pretty tall relative to me. He's not even my height match on a population basis. He's very attractive as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:17 AM
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He is 5'5.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:16 AM
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What if you do have an illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:13 AM
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Well I do have a genetic propensity to look like a teenager and I did get in shape in my late twenties so also I look much better than I did when I was younger. You'd be surprised how some of us have evolved reduced aging ability :3
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:10 AM
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I'm 30, tits/ass or gtfo doesn't work on me. Take my word for it that laws of physics apply to us near dwarves.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:05 AM
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I'm exceptionally small and my weight is higher. I'm either fat or thick depending on where the weight is going. Less height == less lbs for more buck on my small frame. My hands look like a child's hand. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 07:03 AM
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I'm a woman on the internet and I sincerely think you can use your brain to imagine 130 lbs on a 4'11 frame. I'm only taller than 3% of people and my measurements are 38/29/40. That 40 was a 38 two years ago and the 29 was around a 31. Losing 2 inches in my waist + gaining 2 inches in my ass == use your imagination where my weight is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 06:59 AM
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I mean I'm married so it would be uncouth to prove it but at least feedback I've received is that my booty is big.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 06:54 AM
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Anyone with decent personality doesn't / can't stay in ppd as a regular forever. They come in waves and ebbs and flows
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 06:53 AM
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Im 4'11 and 130 lbs. Most of that extra weight is muscle I built in my glutes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 06:51 AM
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Yeh ;(
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 09:45 AM
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Holy shit we just watched studio 666 and then saw the news, how awful I can't even 😞 we were going to see them in May. May he RIP
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/22 04:13 AM
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I've been wildly attracted to my fit muscular husband for the last decade and ive never seen a 6 pack. It's true
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:29 PM
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Practice makes perfect tho
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 02:28 PM
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My hubby and I are proud floofbebe parents
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 12:26 PM
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Mines a Chadlet/lite
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:12 AM
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It's not that old and this comment made my day. Thank you for sharing this. It encourages me to continue to speak about my marriage. Our relationship isn't perfect but it's damn close and that is rare. Thank you again.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 10:51 AM
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I guess she's implying because she's lesbian that she is also subject to those standards
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:22 PM
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Having would would be advantageous tho, science >> note taking
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:19 PM
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I mean, I believe that hereosexual selection criteria would be more skewed in a reproductively advantageous way; women cannot be impregnated by women so there is no evolutionary pressure for them to develop fitness selection criteria.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 06:18 PM
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Just tell her that biologicallly women need to be more selective towards men because biology
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 05:58 PM
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Why would women unexposed to pill sphere know how bad it is
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/22 05:55 PM
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It's a hotel room
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 05:21 AM
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Better to be a happy beta simp than a jaded bitter piller
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 04:47 AM
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Yes, and that makes virtually no difference. It's still a marriage just without the fancy paper
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 08:35 PM
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I mean, what would be the benefit of human companionship other than "fluff"? Also I think the sex is a real big benefit lol. I mean, imagine if every time you wanted to nut, this hot woman was ready and waiting for you and knew how to make your head spin the right way. This is many men's dream .
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 04:32 PM
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Fun!!! Sorry about the PMS I hard relate lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 04:30 PM
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The point I'm making is without money concerns or warped fucked up entitlement mindset, relationships are just nice. Sex is nice. Company is nice. Love is nice. I can't divorce rape him, but money is important. Just the fact that we both make the same levels our playing field so that you can truly see the benefit of companionship for men in a LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 04:28 PM
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My husband and I make the same amount of money (mid 100s) which affords us a financially stable and stress free lifestyle. I feed his ass (like I'm procrastinating on now) We have tons of sex Am I missing stuff? Probs. But I think men don't just need to bring money to the table. In a 50/50 relationship it IS the companionship that makes it. My husband is one of the most genuine and sweet, caring people in the world. He brings that to the table, not his cash.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/22 04:15 PM
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Just because you get married doesn't mean you are attracted or committed to your partner. People get married for stupid reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 10:23 PM
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If the attraction in the beginning is genuine and the person is committed, I find this unlikely
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 07:04 PM
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Jesus Christ
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 05:29 PM
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In a committed relationship you don't need to be attracted to your partner at all times. Attraction waxes and wanes to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 05:28 PM
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Am woman and think it's gross....
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 09:48 PM
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I am begrudgingly doing it lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:08 PM
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It's never too late to date
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:21 AM
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Did both, and they have different benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 03:19 AM
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Could just be cold weather
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:31 PM
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So I can afford to exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 09:28 PM
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He said that he wouldn't see me as a wife ,. But that I could be his mistress. This is when we were in college and he was talking about his future where he'd be rich. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:26 PM
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Odd reaction for sure... Anyways I had the same reaction as you when I found rpw 10 years ago, I was also 20! It is useful stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 04:36 AM
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What makes them have the standards in the first place? I feel like my standards would be contextual , and hence I would lower or raise them as appropriate in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/22 06:06 PM
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I don't wanna call myself red pill for the same reason I don't wanna call myself feminist. I don't want to associate myself with something that I find to be flawed in practice even if in theory it makes sense. The reason I bring up vulnerability is because I really am into a guy who has depth and that depth should include the ability to relate to and understand my emotional context. I have more attraction towards a guy who I can connect with on an emotional level. I have more attraction towards …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 12:21 AM
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I literally just said the same thing and linked illimetiablemen and you can't seem to grasp that I actually agree with you and still don't fucking wanna associate myself with "red pill" I, too, am AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 12:01 AM
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AWALT is a heuristic and not meant to be taken literally (if you do that's pretty cringe, I've had people argue me to the death that I am lying about things because AWALT 🙄) It's meant to be a rule of thumb. The purple pill thing to do would be to not believe your woman is an exception just because you are falling for her. She can have many attributes that make her less AWALTy but she is still AWALT. She still has female nature and she is still repelled by "weakness" (not to be mistaken for vuln…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 11:47 PM
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I didn't see the other comment of his but anyway. What does a blue piller do that red pillers don't do if you wanna make an argument
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 11:18 PM
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Im going on year 10 of being in these parts of Reddit and this comment is much appreciated. Keep doing you and I hope your self improvement journey goes well 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 06:16 PM
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His literal words is that red pill is cringe. That's completely true in our perspectives. You can agree with the red pill concepts and don't want to associate yourself with that at the same time. No offense if your a typical red piller I agree with some of what you say but most of it is bullshit to me. It's a warped perspective that devalues women. Red pill theory in it of itself isn't entirely flawed though some of its tenants are flawed due to variability in individual nature. The second bigge…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:19 PM
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Not everything is about you. I support male rights and issues because how my man / brother / family / future sons feel impacts me on an emotional level. If they're happy then I'm happy. If they're hurting I'm hurting. That kinda thing. Idk I haven't actually thought deeply about why one should care about something that doesn't directly benefit them , it just occurs to me to do so because it's part of my values. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:08 PM
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What are the benefits of the civil rights act for whites? Why should whites support the equality of blacks? Think of it this way. If you only care about other people to the extent of how caring about them benefits you, you're probably lacking some basic humanity and empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:03 PM
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Who said anyone disagrees with the red pill and not the way the red pill got morphed by the average red piller? Feminism used to be good too...lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 05:01 PM
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I have a home gym...hmnn lol I have pretty bad ADHD so the fact I can even work out was a miracle in it of itself but once I got to a place of where I see results and I'm beginning to get satisfied I don't have that self hate push to keep me going lol ...but in slowly SLOWLY becoming more tuned into the present moment and senses ...I like these ideas though! My issue is I need music to do the workout, but when I need a moment to catch my breathe is when I lose it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:59 PM
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To be fair you weren't really coming in with the most empathetic angle so I just responded in kind. Not the best of me but I'm all hyped up on endorphins today from this workout. I apologize for my ribbing. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:52 PM
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I don't agree with you that red and blue is a binary choice 🤷‍♀️ I wouldn't call myself a feminist because I also don't agree with how feminists talk or act but I also don't support the type of shit anti feminists do. Most things in life are a grey area
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:41 PM
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Lmfao I do have a home gym so I can take my sweet time.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:39 PM
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Maybe this is a good lesson for you to learn other people are allowed to think and behave differently than you. I'd never involve my closest friends in my private matters, this is typically regarded as a bad way of handling your relationship drama as it can cast a negative perception or paint a negative light on your SO by bringing your private relationship problems under public scrunity. If your struggling with your SO, you IMO you should never reveal that to your friends/family as they will al…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:38 PM
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I thought black and white thinking was a BPD thing ...looks at you suspiciously
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:34 PM
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Under what backwards logic do you even come to that conclusion
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:33 PM
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Yeah! Totally 😅😅 proceeds to get winded during a set and breaks to shitpost
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:33 PM
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Jfc this is her troll / anon acct. It's not like she posted on FB
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:31 PM
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It's hilarious how people get so possessive over the term red as if they own it. "If your not a misogynistic gym bro who can bench as many plates as he is spinning and grunts aggressively your blue pill"
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 04:30 PM
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Yeah I enjoy those ! I hate having ADHD and I start craving stimulation but I also can't focus on audiobooks so I just have to practice more mindfulness ig
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 03:55 PM
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Anyone got tips for how not to get distracted and bored during rests in a workout? Hehe
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 03:47 PM
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Was really trying to start the day without feeling disgusted by the absolute state of women, guess that won’t be happening. Lol then why on earth come to this dumpster fire forum? Surprise pikachu much? /Kidding
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 03:00 PM
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Google forms is also good
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/22 02:58 PM
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Yeah and I mean I don't like people solely because of their insecurities, but that could be one of the many facets of a person I enjoy because it gives them depth and it makes me feel empowered to "fix" them, though it can be emotionally draining to not be enough myself to fix them, and self harming. At least one person in the relationship should be a bit mentally healthy enough to weather those storms.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 07:46 PM
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Thanks! Ditto
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 07:37 PM
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It's absolutely admirable to love and want to be loved unconditionally but I'm just sharing my pov to reduce that visceral reaction to the word "transactional". My ideal relationship is not about these transactions, even though my consciousness is aware of them, it's about those intangibles that are hard to articulate in words. But things like someone character, they way they care about others, the world view, their values, their loyalty. The intangibles are far more important than the tangibles…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 07:31 PM
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Different perspectives maybe but it's definitely true that one cannot truly love unconditionally, limits and boundaries are healthy and for our own protection. You can be as close to unconditional as possible but every person should have limits of what behaviors to accept
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 07:24 PM
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No, I actually really like trauma bonding with people and find insecurities very relatable. I'll never be enough makes me swoon and makes we want to say but baby, you are enough. I hope I'm enough for you too 🥺🥺🥺 Like attract like.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 07:16 PM
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That's not really how it works, you're just unaware of your subconscious decision criteria. That's why you fall in love with some people and not others. Maybe after some reflection you might be able to determine it, but it's far from random and unconditional even if you're unaware of the specifics. When people say "relationships are transactional" they are actually referring to the subconscious traits that make us like others and want to be with them. Why we admire them, that is because of somet…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 07:15 PM
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So explain to me what conditions under which do you love someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 06:40 PM
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So do you instantly fall in love with everyone you meet because you love unconditionally?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 06:08 PM
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Do you think you can unconditionally love someone? Aren't there facets of a person you need to even fall in love with them to begin with?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:44 PM
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Oh got it! I saw a comment about a beach wedding somewhere w.r.t you so I misjudged. Enjoy the wine and reservations! What the scoop on the ex if you feel like sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:42 PM
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What is a non transactional relationship look/feel like to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:26 PM
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Being nuerotic and insecure aren't personality traits, they're maladaptive coping mechanisms. You can learn skills to overcome them. Vulnerability in it of itself isn't attractive but it's also not a complete turn off. In the right balance it's actually a turn on. Have you ever heard of the fantasy of a strong, stoic, or sarcastic man being broken open to show his inner soft side? Ugh, swoon.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:25 PM
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He back tracked on the 100 number. And I agree. I look entirely different at the same weight after weight lifting verses before it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:19 PM
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They're very good snow shovelers
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:17 PM
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I hope so! Did you get married recently? Long time no see
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:15 PM
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Someone's gotta love em ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:12 PM
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Chubby chaser ? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 05:07 PM
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Thanks for this. I like those examples. I might try them a little later today. This week we circled back to the beginning of DBT and are doing mindfulness techniques. I find mindfulness is a good skill to leverage to bring down emotional intensity. My psych said that it could take 3 years of dbt to be cured. And she wants to put me on Prozac. I'm already on a lot of meds so I'm nervous but maybe it will help? I wanted to do this with my own head but I feel overwhelmed by life. Some days the emot…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:49 PM
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Oh I don't , it was just surprising to me than some men have such bad ego issues that they couldn't handle the idea of a woman directing her own orgasm with a sex toy. That man's problems aren't mine. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:44 PM
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Most of the time women need to find out how they orgasm via trial and error , self driven, on their own then teach their men what they need to do to replicate it. I wasn't able to uncover that by having my man direct that he doesn't know what feels good or what doesn't in my body. The act of first trying, then figuring it out yourself, then teaching your guy, then having him figure it out too, Connect the dots for me how this communicates "it's my man's responsibility and I can only find pleasur…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:42 PM
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Yeah sounds about right
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:31 PM
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Yes agree which is why I like the visual anchor because I cant tell a person's weight by looking at them, (cuz they could be weight lifting and building out those glutes ;) ) but I can tell if I find them attractive or not (which I know as a woman is less meaningful but I've spent my life analyzing the attractiveness of women to men so I could achieve that....)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:30 PM
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Yeah even slightly before obese I'd say is too much for me but I can deal with a 26 BMI without self hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:28 PM
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I've been having suicidal ideation so often these days and I can't even stop it when my emotions are out of control. I feel like it'll take years of dbt to undo the decades of me beating myself up. It is white noise but some part of me really wants to believe I'm worthless and don't belong here. And part of me really wants to believe I'm not here for myself but to keep others who love me happy. I'm so sick of these thoughts and feelings but alas they just seem to be growing stronger. Even with D…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:27 PM
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Rebel is a bigger lady from a frame perspective to begin with. Good on ya for loving that body type. I myself am a very short woman so prefer to stay in the petite range but my body also loves to hold onto fat. As long as it's in the right places I am a ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:24 PM
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Fair enough. Your allowed to have your standards. 23 BMI might not be fat but as long as your not pushing skin and bone your cool in my book. My ideal BMI on myself is 20. I include my muscle in that. I can be healthy bmi and still want to lose weight. As long as I fluctuate within the range that doesn't give me body dismorphia and my man is happy I am happy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:22 PM
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As long as your ideal BMI range isn't like 15 then your fine lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:20 PM
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Your like older too right? I met my last sex partner at 20 (my husband) and I'm 30 now. The men I fumbled around with before him we're all pretty inexperienced and I myself was inexperienced. So I think once you get to know yourself it's much easier. I kinda started off at the assumption that many women don't know themselves well until their older.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:19 PM
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Yes, all relationships are founded in reciprocity. It's a good value to have on both sides. Thanks for sharing !
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:18 PM
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100lbs at that height is dramatically underweight and 150lbs is within healthy BMI. Your definitely one of those men driving standards that push women into eating disorders. And you probably don't care. Man, the amount of sociopaths on this subreddit never cease to amaze me
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:16 PM
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Did you read my post? I don't understand what's wrong about women figuring out their own orgasm and then teaching their men. I've been having orgasmic sex for years now with my husband. It's great! There's no pressure. I figured out what works for me, and then I figured out with him how to reproduce. I didn't need to pay money to see a "sex psychologist". You seem a bit ... Emotional? You didn't even read my post properly. Take a few deep breaths.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:12 PM
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Second this but I've met men online who think it's gross for women to rely on sex toys and would not want to be with such women. The answer is just to find a person your comfortable with and who is comfortable with you and cares about your pleasure
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:07 PM
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Is CBT like DBT? I'm in DBT but when I have overwhelming emotions those negative irrational thoughts seem like my real thoughts. Does everyone feel worthless on the inside ?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:05 PM
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I always wondered when men say this if they mean "fat" or overweight by BMI standards or something else. Got a visual ?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 04:03 PM
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With how many women? Every woman is different. I was sexually active for years before I cracked my own orgasm puzzle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:57 PM
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Men. And. Women. Are. Different. Did you forget what subreddit your on?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:55 PM
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Sounds meditative!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:53 PM
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No one is entitled to a sex act but in a mutually loving fulfilling relationship you're allowed to have expectations and needs and communicate them to eachother. Having the expectation of a fulfilling sex life with your romantic partner is not unreasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:50 PM
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It's not just the clit. It's the speed, the angle, not stopping. I can't have my guy rub my clit because if he slows down for any reason I lose all the build up. It's hella annoying but worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:49 PM
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That timeframe sounds correct. Oh and I love how im being downvoted by someone here, it's like on one hand they wanna act like evolutionary psychology is the reason for everything, but can't grasp why a male orgasm is so much easier to achieve than a female one 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:47 PM
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It really isn't! I love sex but I didn't realize why it was underwhelming until I figured this out lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:43 PM
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With a guy it's straight forward. It's like putting together a 4 piece puzzle. With a woman, it's more like a 40 piece puzzle and you need to go on a hunt a missing piece. It's actual effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:40 PM
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Most of the time women need to find out how they orgasm via trial and error , self driven, on their own, then teach their men what they need to do to replicate it. For me personally I need specific angles of penetration as well as clitoral stimulation. I wasn't able to uncover that by having my man direct that - he doesn't know what feels good or what doesn't in my body. The act of first trying, then figuring it out yourself, then teaching your guy, then having him figure it out too, it takes a …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:33 PM
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It happens to every woman I think who tries to do that. I also have said I'm a 6/10 and I get the same comments, but I think my overall point is I like being secure in myself much more than I did before when I cared about my "rating" and having an "objective" view. Like what purpose did that ever serve for me I wonder
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:23 PM
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At some point I just gave up on this lol. Being admired for my looks doesn't define me as a human being. I get the attention I want from my husband. I still try to "looksmax" and put effort into my body, hair, skin, teeth, and style. But does it really matter if I'm not some influencer getting paid to look good? Naw. Everyone on the internet can't see us anyway and irl we don't get to know what everyone thinks of us either
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:17 PM
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Many women never get to experience orgasm during intercourse every time because it's like finding a needle in a haystack at first. But once you know the recipe and it's easy to replicate it's eye opening - orgasms are great and everyone should know they too can have em
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/22 03:14 PM
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My glutes look amazing but a skinny bbl from what I've seen does look good. I prefer my ass with a little bit of fat on it and I think I'd rather cool sculpt but I am concerned at my ideal weight my ass just becomes like a rock .... What got me back on the bbl train was I saw this girl get a "skinny bbl". Google skinny bbl Edit: for context I do ton of lower body workouts and specifically glute focused workouts and the results I get are great. It takes months/years but it is great. My issue is w…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 01:01 PM
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Years yeah it takes years to build muscle but consistency is key I've been doing this for two years now
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:32 AM
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I'd have to lose all that weight and lose my tits in the process. No thanks , I don't want fake implants I'd rather have real tits and do the skinny BBL or cool sculpting to deal with the bit of extra fat I don't like
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 12:31 AM
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I don't know but I fluctuate and intentionally lose weight at the beginning of the year so I can enjoy the summer then I do it again till the holidays. I don't know my body fat lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:46 PM
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I do put on muscle easily tbh. Just compared to other women not men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 11:39 PM
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I have to eat like 1200 calories to lose weight but some people have better metabolisms and can do it with less :) And some people don't need to worry about it at all. I don't eat that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:57 PM
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Truth well just go take a look at a bunch of famous Italian women and tell me they don't store fat in their bust and upper arms :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:45 PM
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The one thing I do believe is this - Italians got them big boobies
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:35 PM
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The trend of Italy's fatness is changing as their diets are becoming more westernized , I believe obesity in children is going up. Remember "endomorph" doesn't mean "fat" it means "puts on fat easily and loses fat easily". Like just being in Italy I didn't see "fat" people but I noticed, with my eyes, that people weren't skinny and tall like the stereotype in other counties. Also I have some if that Sicilian nature. Also remember just because you live in Italy doesn't mean your fully Italian. My…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:31 PM
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I'm 99.7% Italian and Italians I think are more likely to be big breasted, shorter and stockier, hold onto fat easily and what not. It's definitely something I've noticed with both Italians back in Italy and my own family (though everyone in my family is obese or overweight, we all have these apple body shapes and store fat above the hips lol...) I know correlation isn't causation but even the article I linked was an Italian
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:19 PM
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An article explaining it better than me https://www.mind2bodyfit.com/blog/endomorph/
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:12 PM
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Have you not noticed that people of different genetic heritages have different body composition and fat storage tendencies? Assume the person eats healthy/doesn't overreat. I've done 23 and me and there is obviously a genetic component to where people store fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 09:09 PM
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I have "fabs" lol you can see I'm fit underneath the fat layer and I look slim/curvy and have an hour glass shape - but that's mostly thanks to consistent leg workouts
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 08:35 PM
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Eff that I have natural Ds I'd rather do a bbl/cool sculpt
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 08:17 PM
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And that makes sense but yeah the point overall is that BPD/sex addiction/sex for validation isn't really a "gendered" thing but you hear me I got over it once I realized it was not validating. The OP as other says coming from a scarcity mindset so he absolutely should and can feel validated. Just the same way it's validating for a woman to be chosen as a relationship for a Chad/alpha. I think basically my point is fairly moot but just that I relate in a way to wanting to be validated but once I…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:50 PM
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Well sure absolutely but. That kind of makes my point. It's not that men should not feel validated when a woman chooses them but just to be aware that sex for self validation purposes isn't really about the other person, and that's why after I realized men were using me, they didn't "like" me, I stopped feeling validation from the sex entirely. It's definitely different because of what your saying - just I guess my point is kind of useless but just relating to the OP because I do think I have BP…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:47 PM
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Truth but I think depending on the body type some people have better results when they add in weight lifting. I "regain" fat at a much slower rate and it looks a lot better on top of my more pronounced glute , quad, and hamstring muscles than it did when I was chicken leggy. The issue in my diet had more to do with emotional eating than anything else. Italian Americans use food as a love language lol. I have learned a lot and don't look anything like the rest of my family for the most part. I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:38 PM
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Yes I could see how it feels that way but you seem like a person who actually gets laid so ... I guess in my head what I'm trying to say is sex for validation isn't really validating the other person ... So if you don't know her intentions of course it feels validating ..but like this guy is saying he actually enjoys hurting the women he fucks, do you think those women should feel validated by the act? It's inherently degrading. Now that being a kink is a different thing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:35 PM
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We had a misunderstanding. I was making a generalized point about "validation" not specific to the person I was responding to. If many women sleep with him, it's likely that he is attractive because the number of women who are so insecure and mentally ill that they would sleep with anyone, is probably pretty low since women seem to know their value now. It only took me like 1.5 years of this for me to realize I could have standards and I stopped sleeping with men I didn't find attractive real qu…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:31 PM
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I'm 4'11 and I can't get slim easily. Like the only time I've been really skinny is due to malnourishment from crohns. My set point is right at the higher range of my healthy BMI. I also don't like how my tits look when I'm too skinny. With my body composition I needed to introduce weight lifting to be slim. I needed to lower my body fat percentage not just focus on the weight on the scale. I have the slimmest waist I've ever had but weigh higher than I ever had. Except once again when I was sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:21 PM
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As a person with mental illness I've been with more men I find utterly disgusting than men I found attractive. I literally would dissociate when I would sleep with these men because of how gross they were. I'm sorry but you just don't understand what it's like to have mental illness. I did not discriminate. If you liked me you were in. That's all it took.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:57 PM
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As a person who struggled with a lot of mental health and self image issues I chose a lot of guys to sleep with who I would also find disgusting, but as a teenager I found myself disgusting so it just made sense to give myself to men so I could be validated. You know how they say men just want a hole? I just wanted a dick. I didn't care if you were fat or gross and afterwards I never wanted to look at you or talk to you again because I was ashamed of sleeping with someone who was "gross" to me. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:54 PM
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I'm sorry but in order for me to be slim as an Italian American 4'11 woman it takes actual effort like in th gym and whatever. I put on muscle semi easily too so it's really hard to like increase my deadlift and squat weight to match what my legs are capable of because my upper body is behind but I can't put more muscle on it because I'm top heavy and kinda want my tits to look the way they do so I don't wanna get really skinny either , it doesn't fit my curves. Honestly, I think I need cosmetic…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:42 PM
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Just because a woman gives you access to her body doesn't mean she's validating you. She may be just as well using you for validation. If you have BPD there is no shame in it. I feel very similarly as you did and I think I just like sex because I like dopamine but a driving factor of the promiscuity of my adolescence was validation, rejection, and insecurity based. :/
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 05:36 PM
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Mmn they call this victim blaming
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:18 AM
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Except rape, when rape happens it's "She shouldn't have been out that late* "She shouldn't have shown so much skin" "She shouldn't have had too much to drink" "She shouldn't have been alone" "She shouldn't have trusted him" Men are blamed for everything, except things they actually do
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/22 11:55 PM
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Can you elaborate on how you lost high quality women being too red? It's so difficult to put into words but I spent many years on this subreddit telling people too much red would make women lose interest after the initial pull/push. Almost like there's too much push not enough pull to keep her emotionally invested while also being sexually attractive. It's almost as if women sense when you won't let them into their lives in a fuller way, seeing them as the enemy or an object to posses rather tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 06:47 PM
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Oh that would be assuming you yourself are attractive enough to actually be able to get a woman to be sexually interested in you. The more attractive you are the better chances you have. Its unfortunate but you have to want to fuck the other person for multiple decades and despite aging ... I think both parties prioritize the physical attractiveness of the other one. I mean I suppose I don't understand what it's like for most as my husband really didn't date a lot of people , he was interested i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:22 AM
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What in my response makes you say that ? I mean sure women who make a lot of money are rarer but someone has to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:14 AM
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Well yeah I mean , but you could get lucky. All relationships really kind of comes down to luck bc you pick people initially based on physical attraction and then everything else follows second
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:11 AM
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Well two things pick someone who can equally contribute and is above average. Helps if she barely ages
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 01:05 AM
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Unconditional can exist for a period of time certainly. This is where we fully embrace and accept one another for their good attributes and their flaws. We stop wanting to change them and accept them as they are. Ideally this would last indefinitely, and is certainly the goal of marriage..sadly either gender could suddenly decide to throw the relationship away, by that doesn't invalidate people who decide to keep it despite all the odds
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 12:55 AM
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Realizing this has been a driving force for my lack of participation on the sub as I realized I was wasting a lot of time fighting losing battles with both genders. Now I focus on a small circle of people and myself, but it is a shame that there's not an actual place to have gendered debates that aren't mostly shit flinging and thinly veiled resentment towards the other gender :/ Edit: thanks for the kind comments btw. It is equally rare to find someone that appreciates my thoughts and doesn't i…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 07:22 PM
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I agree that the way we approach issues can be problematic to the core. There's a sense of entitlement associated with being a privileged , attractive women and we get surprised when others have self respect, and don't immediately bend to our wills. In turn the solution is either to find people who already agree with your world view (like the fds echo chamber) OR invest in yourself to be more open, more humble, and better at communicating and seeing other perspectives besides your own. I think t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:54 PM
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I feel like I can gender flip this and it would be equally true (except instead of security and atms, it's sex, child rearing and domestic responsibility) Anyways relationships of all kinds are transactional to a degree but once a connection is established I feel there can be some unconditional aspects - for instance once you accept someone for who they are, and you stop trying to change them , anything they do that's wrong in your eyes is simply a discussion between two adults with a focus on f…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:34 PM
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I would have less expectations of "women on here" simply because most of them are fighting back against callousness shown to them by the men on here. I don't see men empathizing with women's problems here except for a few who come here to remind the other men that part of their problem is looking at the issue from a narrow perspective. Personally I've gotten some great strides in this department developing real connections and friendships of the opposite sex, and really being open to understandi…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:30 PM
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Yep. Honestly when I stopped coming here I was much better mentally because I stopped looking for validation in the wrong places and started to validate myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 06:27 PM
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Bc there's literally no point in wasting time here doing anything
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/22 02:29 AM
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Yeah some people are lazy and moochers
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 08:36 PM
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Why not apply this logic to people who can retire early with their financial investments from their hard earned career? I don't want to work (for someone else) either.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/21 05:53 PM
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Then you can only reinforce she has nothing to worry about and that you are who you are today because of your past experiences. Maybe just let her talk idk. It is a little weird that she's so attached that she can't understand you having prior relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 07:14 PM
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I mean he's not like wrong if the vast majority of ppl are like that, regardless of gender
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 06:39 PM
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This is delusional. Sexual selection won't crash and burn society. Catastrophizing isn't a sexually attractive or mentally healthy quality, so ..
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 06:37 PM
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She just wants to feel special.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 06:35 PM
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Yeah that one made me eyeroll. "I don't do dating apps" ok ... ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 06:32 PM
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Most people don't value intelligence. It's usually a minor percent of people who do (e.g. you, me, others who choose to participate in debate subreddits without shit posting etc). I can only offer my friendship as a way to show you that you are valued as a person with their own thoughts and ideas and theories, as I'm already in a relationship, but my recommendation is to make friends with women like this as they might know other women who have the same interests. We also have a few proclaimed sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 06:19 PM
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Yeah they can be happy alone but not all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 02:39 AM
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This isn't emotional, it's just my opinion. Sorry my opinion makes you feel unexpected things. I'm fine. Your the one getting frustrated and calling names. I like having my opinion, I didn't write this for you. Get over yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 01:13 AM
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You had no literal reason to interject an ad hominem into what I was saying , you choose to read between the lines, I choose not to make shit up where it doesn't exist. The user clearly to me does not make any concessions whatsoever. Given how common it is to live with either a physical or mental disability at some point in your life time I did not see how their post is relevant to humans who literally have to depend on one another to survive (no matter how independent we think we are, we live i…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:43 AM
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Your the one who started throwing emotionally charged language into the mix, Im calling you out on the very clear bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 12:30 AM
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What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:45 PM
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Sensitive ? And I read just fine. Your the one who is freaking out over someone else having an opinion. Get a grip.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:24 PM
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Yes but that doesn't mean it will make you love yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 11:23 PM
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I mean because he didn't make those concessions so how could I just assume ? You need to take a chill pill if someone noting something odd about someone's post sets you off this much Edit: An estimated 26% of Americans ages 18 and older -- about 1 in 4 adults -- suffers from a diagnosable mental disorder in a given year. Many people suffer from more than one mental disorder at a given time. These are not exceptions and outliers. We are all human beings.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 09:18 PM
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People with depression, bipolar, personality disorders etc can't be in relationships? What bout people whose partners are their caretakers (i.e. physical disability)? I just don't understand how you can pin it on self sufficiency. I believe it's much more than that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 08:57 PM
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This is kinda ableist in a way...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 08:43 PM
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Or you could be living in a third world country ravaged by war, poverty, and starvation...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 08:01 PM
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Every generation including my own comes up with these cringe phrases and thinks they're so cool. You will be an old head too before you know it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 05:12 PM
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Mental issues are on the rise for both genders and the same could be same about men being undesirable. There will always be pockets of people on both sides who actually put in effort to themselves for superficial reasons. But idk, I don't fit that description.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 04:38 PM
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I don't want to brag but at my job they literally use me as a bar for what a stellar employee looks like. Posts like this make me question the reality you live in because it's not the same as mine. Also, there is always going to be someone better than you, whether that person be female or male is more of a statistical correlation than what you seem to be implying
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/21 04:26 PM
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I'm in tech/moving
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/21 09:40 PM
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I have an ENFP mbti so I'm like naturally MPDG. The difference from a regular rpw is the "manic" part of it imo ... The part of it that loves and empathizes so hard it would go through at times almost desperate lengths to fix the other person's romantic woes. Sweeping them up in a fantasy world. But pure mpdg are not to be trusted as wives, is one risk. They're more flighty and whimsical, so probably are more likely to get attached than to be loyal and steadfast. I dunno I'm just riffing, it's i…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/21 04:15 AM
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I just like to be able to admire my partner and feel like we both snagged a catch, you know ? I've been with less attractive people and I would say it impacts me, though I can really adore people who have at least a redeeming quality (like overweight but a face I love). If you have neither body or face going for you, I'm probably not going to be as enamoured. My hubby has both going for him. (neither of us are like models by any means, but we're considered attractive)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 07:25 PM
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I want to be told im gorgeous and what not but I don't need to be on a pedestal. I want to be with a guy of similar attractiveness, usually
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 06:52 PM
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If you live in a HCOL area six figures is like a minimum to live. It's all about profession. "I want a man with 6 figures" equates to 'i want someone who is educated and picked a high paying profession'. I don't understand why people get so upset about salary requirements. I have been making 6 figures since I was 22/23 so it's hard to relate to people who get upset about salary requirements. It's pretty obvious to me that I want someone on or around my level, because ...why not? If I can achieve…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 04:39 PM
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As long as you've never paid for porn or caming etc, this is reasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 04:35 PM
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That's how I got all my bfs, and my husband. But to keep them happy you def try.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:31 AM
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Curtsy lunges and hip thrusts where it's at Edit: with heavy weight ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:15 AM
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Computer engineering
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 03:14 AM
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I'm not, im saying sometimes people need a reality check, not an echo chamber to their delusions and self inflicted helplessness. I said "Sometimes a little tough love is good though". Its weird you had the reaction you did to what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 12:36 AM
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Well just learn to love yourself and your accomplishments no matter what anyone says !!!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 07:08 PM
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I don't see the point of this
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 07:07 PM
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Sometimes a little tough love is good though. One time I had a very long debate with one of the users here who was the same height as me and lost the weight with discipline. She told me our height isn't the reason it's hard to lose weight but its our mindset or something. Shortly after I got a physical trainer and revamped my diet. I haven't really lost weight but I did initially and I gained some weight back but I did enough recomposition to feel good in my body now. If it wasn't for that user …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 05:06 PM
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No advice but I have condolences.hug
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 04:55 PM
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She needs to find someone she doesn't find "boring" whatever that means..what are her interests and hobbies ?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 04:54 PM
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I woke up after forgetting to take off my makeup last night and my hair looks like 10x more volume than normal, so I look like a literal hot mess and loving it 😅 I guess I could say my self esteem issues have mostly dissapated . Yay
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 04:53 PM
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If a person is self aware enough to know they're fucked up and can't provide for a kid appropriately it's actually the opposite of selfish not to have kids for that reason was my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 09:08 PM
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Um, how about not having a kid when you know you can't devote your time and energy to them is actually the opposite of selfish because kids don't consent to be born but sure as hell will resent their life if you brought them into the world just to fuck them up..
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:41 PM
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Your supposed to tell ppl in abusive relationships to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:40 PM
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I'm one of those people who due to reasons cares too much about others problems. Maybe it's healthier to stop demanding men to care and start letting everyone be self sufficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/21 08:39 PM
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I never wore it as a badge of pride, that's why they call the next morning the "walk of shame". People who take pride it in are either hypersexual, hedonistic lunatics, or in denial.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 06:04 PM
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It will vary on individual but I don't recommend doing this. It seems like it would only serve to hurt the other person and enable whatever covert narcissism you have that drives this desire. When people do this, it teaches men not to trust women and actively despise them for being evil.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 06:00 PM
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I actually kinda can come around to odd voices if I really like the person. Like I begin to like their unique voice.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 04:47 PM
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That's just deluded SJW stuff. In the real world ppl understand that other people don't like to date fatties, unless they personally enjoy the fat bodies. I mean, it's everywhere, undeniable reality. Some ppl can't handle they're not liked by the majority of ppl so yell into the void about how reality shouldn't be that way, All those people are evil monsters, and they're perfect just how they are. All bc they can't accept their body composition makes them undesirable to many
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 04:45 PM
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Or ppl just go back to their old eating habits bc eating healthy isn't sustainable for them (due to reasons) which is why they were fat in the first place. This is why I recommend weight lifting and muscle building. Having extra muscle helps!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 04:43 PM
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Yep. So true!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 04:41 PM
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What did you say to her in response ?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/21 04:40 PM
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I was thinking of writing a post in this thread today to watch yourself if you fall into an obsession with posting here, I was like this on and off over the course of years. it could mean something deeper is wrong if you continuously come back to this place or find yourself obsessed with winning arguments on here .. sigh
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 07:11 PM
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No, this guy I would argue isn't stupid, nor unambitious. Infact his story is heart breaking. I find this man to have a high level of compassion and unfortunate circumstances. I would actually not be unattracted to him. I find family orientation JUST as important as future orientation, actually. So this guy would be in the clear. In the back of my head, I'd know given I have better life circumstances, I could even help him financially and help his family, and then support him when he does eventu…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:31 PM
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Acceptance and non judgement do go hand and hand though. I think society strikes the wrong balance. Ultra compassionate that it's like fake and virtue signaling, and ultra judging (everyone has an opinion on what you should do and why you're wrong), but we add getting further and further from attainment of true inner peace. It's all about what other people think.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:27 PM
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Then he's probably stupid. If your ambitious and you just fuck it up, you probably don't meet the bar of intelligence and future orientation that would at least be at expectation. I used ambition as one characteristic, but I think future orientation and intellect are attributes I find attractive romantically, and the lack of them actually creates a sexual revulsion. Of course I'm not so intolerant, a person who is generally smart and makes good decisions can make some bad decisions and do stupid…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:22 PM
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Yeah but a guy with a good face can fuck it up if he gets fat!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:20 PM
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The reason I ask is because I want to definitely practice more gratitude and live more peacefully in general, I wonder if it's healthy to think of oneself as a "burden" though, I feel like that can create some maladaptive behavior, I think positive self-talk generally leads to better outcomes psychologically speaking. Like people who see themselves as a burden may be more prone to having attachment style issues which increase their emotional neediness.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:19 PM
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And what if neither are financial burdens on eachother? I think this is a freeing situation, allows you to focus more on individual compatibility than circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:14 PM
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Oh no I understood. The word "handsome" is well defined.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:13 PM
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Right, it's not the most ambitious but it's just I like a person who is like me. Who I can relate to. I was really ambitious. So I couldn't be into guys who either aspired to nothing or were unable to utilize their talents appropriately.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:11 PM
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Does this change if the woman makes more money ? Or is just as focused on attaining goals as a man? I feel like this falls down to individual circumstances. I can agree on women being more of an emotional burden than men are, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:09 PM
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We can disagree on this. I see for example my husband and myself as fairly normal folks status and power wise. We aren't obsessed with climbing for more status and power, but our ambition brought us to a nice spot where we can settle and be financially secure for life (provided we keep working). There's nothing glorious about being software engineers, but it takes a lot of ambition, perseverance, and intelligence to get to where we are - imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:07 PM
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A person's characteristic leads to these situations. Like I can say I like men with ambition, so even without status or power one can like a characteristic. You may argue ambition leads to status or power but it doesnt, ambition is a seperate metric from being someone obsessed with gaining status and power.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 06:00 PM
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I'm saying that genetics are half of the measure of handsomeness, and that the function takes in more variables.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:58 PM
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That sounds a little better. What makes women more of a burden to men than vice versa, though?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:57 PM
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How a person behaves is characteristics, but doesn't necessarily make them hot. A self sufficient guy might not be hot, but a guy who lives with his mom is, imo, not attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:55 PM
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I really can't agree with this. It has to do with how well the man takes care of himself on top of good genes. Exercise, get enough sleep, get hair cuts, shower. Etc. All of that rolls up to aesthetics
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:49 PM
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Okay, can you elaborate? I can't imagine anyone being based actually doing what you said..they sound like people pleasers and doormats.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:46 PM
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Wouldn't based women, like based men, simply not give a fuck what anyone thinks of them ?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:45 PM
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Uh, how could you possibly think that a person's characteristics don't contribute to sexual arousal?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:44 PM
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Yes that too, for me. Like I like a guy to take control in the bedroom and be responsible and self sufficient outside the bedroom, but I don't like the toxic masculinity stuff or red pill guys
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:35 PM
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Ok that's dumb. If I had a son and a daughter I'd treat them both equally. Being raped is traumatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:33 PM
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Personally when I replied I didn't give a hoot about genetic quality, I took it more literally as in aesthetically pleasing. I don't care about how your genes may pass down to my children, I care about enjoying staring at your face and body. (Yes, it's objectifying, but I like to be objectified so it's reciprocity)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:29 PM
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When I realized I can opt into not having periods i jumped on it. I need to maximize the window of opportunity for sex, because sex is amazing. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:14 PM
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Hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:13 PM
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Link to the original?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:12 PM
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All three is the ideal. But handsome/cute/hot in that order.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 05:11 PM
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Good job ,👏
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:21 PM
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Our current selves are comprised of our past experiences. Often times something traumatic like abuse/molestation finds a way of digging into people's psyche, especially because of the stigma and inability to talk about it. The world at large, folks like you, don't care, but it doesn't stop humans from seeking connections with others. Do you, no doubt, but it shouldn't be a surprise that this behavior exists in the wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:20 PM
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Relatable
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:17 PM
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Keep
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 04:17 PM
1

Or using any kind of meetup service lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 07:34 PM
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In the moment, it would destroy any sexual desire towards him but only in that moment. I don't want to fuck a guy who is crying. But if it's just an incident where he was crying, my sexual attraction to him would be restored very quickly once he was better. My theory is some women can't get over the sexual revulsion but it's super normal not to want to fuck someone who is crying. It's not a sexually attractive behavior. Never will be. Doesn't mean the person who does it isn't sexually attractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 07:20 PM
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Sounds like passive dread to me which is healthy in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 07:17 PM
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When I was 8 my mom married my step dad at city hall. Afterwards let me pick where we got go eat. I picked McDonald's 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/21 07:03 PM
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You should have said to her "no, it's weak to listen to your insufferable cunt request not to sneeze. Next time I'll sneeze in your face bitch."
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 08:21 PM
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My husband is an extroverted introvert and I'm an introverted extrovert. The Combo works.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/21 07:06 PM
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Who said it was hard for women to do all three ? Seems like something you haven't properly sourced.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:54 AM
1

Sounds deliciously fun for the both of you
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 04:52 PM
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Lol because of Reddit I would always be scaling my office kitchen to get my favorite cup. There was one guy who was super tall who noticed I'd be climbing the counters with my step stool to get the cup. They started grabbing it for me. It restored my faith in humanity at large and reminded me Reddit is just a pocket of angry people (self included of course :P) who have grievances about being expected to perform tasks for others when no one gives a shit about them. Ey. Not everyone in the real wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/21 04:29 PM
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I must be lucky then to have found that man at 20 and be like I ain't letting go
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 02:01 PM
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I think it is
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 12:40 PM
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Cuz humans are social creatures and crave being accepted by social peers. It is degrading to not have the self respect to be with someone who you like, but others have the projection tendency
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 09:28 AM
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They are able to cry into their wealth at least
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:30 PM
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He could look at my post history why does it matter
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 12:57 AM
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Well you ARE based and red pilled so I don't see why you would know who random women on ppd are. But also, there seems to be a correlation between people who say they're based and are definitely not based, so i don't really know either way
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:44 PM
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Mn, it's a double pun
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 09:43 PM
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I might try now lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 05:37 PM
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Honestly good for them, but I wouldn't personally want to make money off my body like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 03:03 PM
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Can confirm
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:32 PM
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The question is who is the hottest, aka best looking. There are 3 users from the sub listed
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:32 PM
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Yeah, it's hard but I dropped the habit almost entirely of wasting hours and caring about what happens here
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 11:48 AM
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Those are good points, just explaining why they would say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 01:13 AM
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I think the idea is if you have a negative attitude on here it might come out other ways
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:48 AM
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Dude lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:46 AM
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I can handle it in small doses but it does contribute to my mental issues to remain here
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:20 AM
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It does but it feels like it's not enough
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:12 AM
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I mean. I care still. I don't encounter ppl who are upset about it as much since I got off the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:09 AM
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The title is self explainatory
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:09 AM
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The best way not to be a pick me is not to put yourself close to ppl who call you one
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:07 AM
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This shouldnt require much elaboration
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:05 AM
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I'll take Or Your Boyfriends a Pussy for 300, Alex!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:05 AM
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😘
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:03 AM
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I cared and it's still practically meaningless
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 12:02 AM
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As she should
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:57 PM
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Sorry the random hot girl who worked at the super market has a bf. At least you know now.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:56 PM
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Maybe if you count inactives, but I would argue that anyone who spends an inordinate amount of time here definitely has a mental illness. Also, one can be well adjusted irl and mentally ill, they just hide their illness
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:25 PM
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No I voted for smurf she's super banging
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:13 PM
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Speaking from experience I can't even exist on this sub for a long period of time without it degrading my mental health. To each their own, but it's definitely a downer to be around here
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:12 PM
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The sub is a cesspool for the mentally ill..
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:09 PM
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I'll take , totally needs to have better things to do with their time for 500, Alex!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:05 PM
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My husband is 5'5
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 08:02 PM
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You are incorrect
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:03 PM
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I'm actually gonna swim in my mom's pool tomorrow since she's got it heated at like 90. My pool heater can't compete. That'll be the last swim of the season!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 07:02 PM
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I look hot today. No one gives a fuck
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 06:59 PM
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Usually when someone says you're an asshole, they don't mean it literally. It means they're acting like one. Idk about you but it's possible for people to go between both lol, don't act ignorant
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 06:51 PM
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Have you ever seen a person display multiple qualities or is everyone you interact with one dimensional? I've met people who can be assholes and also sweet - usually it's not at the same time
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 05:56 PM
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I'm curious if your over or under 5'4
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 05:55 PM
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How tall are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 05:30 PM
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Literally, a half a handful of nuts is like 120 calories , imagine being full with that as a snack.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 05:29 PM
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My tdee is 1450 if I'm not working out, and that's pretty minimal amount of food.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 05:28 PM
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That's so annoying , shipping isn't even a cost in this service, you only pay for the clothes which ime are only 20-30$ more per piece than similar items at places like target, which is worth the convenience to me. I HATE going to stores to shop. And on top of that you get 25% off if you keep the whole box, which means I easily get one item completely free each time. It's such a shame that I bet due to the reasons you stated services like this won't expand outside the US as the cost effectivenes…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 04:42 PM
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Sorry 😐
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 04:33 PM
2

Yes you can do it that infrequently
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 03:39 PM
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Every month I get a box with five items a stylist picked for me , and I send back what I don't like. She knows my style and I like having options so I always keep my box every week, and after a year my whole wardrobe is these items lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 03:02 PM
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Wish there was a stitch fix in Europe, it's the best thing ever
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 02:49 PM
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It's definitely surprising but if he's surrounded by dudes and isn't the biggest fan of dating apps I think I would buy his story, barring no other super weird red flags. Sharing that info is a greenflag to me , cuz I value that honesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 02:37 PM
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As a woman the amount of effort I would need to put into getting a date is very little. I've gotten most of my dates just existing and men come to me, ask to date and eventually we get together. Imagine that, I just needed to go outside and I can find opportunity. But as a guy, not only do they never get these opportunities, they have to put on all of the work to get the initial date. Driving all over the place, offering to pay for everything, having to think about all the things to say make gir…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 02:23 PM
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Yeah should be easy to do SF. If your TC isn't 300k then who even are you /s Damn I'm spoiled by my industry.. For context, I graduated in 2014
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 11:13 PM
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You said in your OP that it's "rare" for anyone under 30 to make over 40k, pick a side
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 10:27 PM
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That is a higher than average sex drive lol. My husband can fuck me multiple times a day every day, but he only COMES every other day or so, I think it probably is biological so nothing to fret about. Libido and sperm production are different. I meant refactory in terms of how much time it takes for his balls to be bursting, not how much time he needs to be erect Edit: I'm probably using the word wrong, all I'm trying to say is that mt husband is turned on enough to fuck me frequently, but comes…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 07:04 PM
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I'm not sure how well it helps with that, but not every guy needs to come every time. My man's refactory is like 2 days. If we had sex every day, he'd only come once every 2-3 days. The pill helps when the brain is like "why isn't it working the way I want" the pill forces all the blood to go down there and stay down there, so it helps with performance anxiety to a great degree. He shouldn't be hard on himself if he can't come every time if he comes consistently (now that's he's on the pill) bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:30 PM
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Okay then the mental block might be in the other direction. He likes her so much so there's Performance anxiety. I recommend Viagra so he can at least keep it up. Don't worry about coming. Then over time once his confidence is rebuild he can lay off the pill. He doesn't even need to tell her. Edit : or Cialis
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:26 PM
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Maybe he needs an emotional connection and no longer finds joy in mindless romping Edit: that or Viagra (Viagra can help with a mental block too)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:23 PM
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me, graduating with a 90k job out of college... Na xD
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:22 PM
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Money seems to trump these things irl. Having lots of money means we can do things people our age don't tend to be able to do. We became home owners at 26, with an in ground heated pool. We go in yearly vacations. We were able to budget our honeymoon out to be 10k. We can eat out whenever we want. We can dress however we want. We can afford a cleaning lady to make our lives easier. We can afford the best medical care. We have a home gym so we can keep in shape. With all those trade-offs , everyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 03:49 PM
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Duh just be attractive and rich, you won't have dating issues
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 03:44 PM
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I'm good with a blue pill / egalitarian type man. I'm not like traditional women and my husband and I mesh perfectly.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 03:01 PM
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Never said she didn't make mistakes, and I'm not making excuses. Telling her to be compassionate with herself is so that she could move on.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/21 10:06 PM
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Take the nonsense out of your head and be compassionate with yourself. You were a minor.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/21 06:40 PM
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I forgot the context was single moms, not just all women oops
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 11:06 PM
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Wait do you think kids need constant love and attention and that having a proper relationship with your spouse is NEGLECT for a child? Children who grow up with loving parents who have a strong relationship are the most well adjusted of all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 10:39 PM
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Well then , you have all the right to have distaste for that. Sure, being sexy a.f. feels like a commodity now, and everyone wants proof they are it, doesn't make it better haha
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 10:25 PM
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Ooooof
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 10:23 PM
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This is cute. Yay for the blue pilled hubs
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 07:07 PM
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I agree with you but I don't see a problem with her story. I'm sure she's just being tongue in cheek, she obviously doesn't want to parent alone. Seems like she's thinking about the kid first, I would assume she's had a hard time dating
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 07:05 PM
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I'm a software engineer making mid 100s and 29years old, 4'11 and got a good body and pretty face. My husband is a software engineer, making mid 100s, 29 years old, 5'5 and has a good body and a handsome face. We have different, but highly Compatible, personalities. I think most people should aim for people who are closely matched to them. This requires self awareness and empathy (the ability to see something from someone else's perspective). Seems like your two friends may make fine partners, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 06:14 PM
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I thought most people get married for companionship .
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 02:45 PM
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I think if you grew up expecting life to be handed to you on a platter , then yes you would be unhappy trying to make it irl
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 06:07 PM
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For sure. I agree. I look better than I did 10 years ago (I'm 29 and got FOMO from the rise of the fitness models on Instagram). Gym++
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 06:04 PM
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Most people aren't struggling to get dates and hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 06:02 PM
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Do you have a spouse or person in the household making as much or more than you? I think people sometimes forget dual income could mean you make as a unit 200% of what you make as an individual. And If the cost/saving ratio is significant, you can afford a better lifestyle than you can as a single. Most of the people who become house cleaners , I imagine, come from bad situations growing up too, as most seem to be immigrants. That's why I can get such a good "deal" in this case. I think that I n…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 09:23 PM
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Economy is tough for nearly everyone. If you have dual income 40 hours per week household you might have the leeway to give someone else a little bit of extra income to do the shit you don't want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 07:22 PM
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Oh, we also eventually got a house cleaner because he does mostly outside stuff. Don't diminish the work it takes to keep up a household. Grass mowing, pool/yard work, fixing shit, etc etc etc list goes on. For $200/month I can have my house look spotless every 2 weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 01:15 PM
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Welp, then I take back what I said !
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 02:14 AM
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Seems stupid. Should be based on whose the workaholic in the relationship vs who actually cares about the house standards. In my relationship it's flipped.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 01:36 AM
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I love this answer
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 04:46 PM
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Blue pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 04:45 PM
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Haha, well my guys a saint and enjoys the sex 😅
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 06:00 PM
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post traumatic mental illness induced hypersexuality enters the chat
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 05:55 PM
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I'm aware, you should always focus on proper strength training first. Strength training increases range of movement. However stretching isn't completely useless, at least for me, I get soreness and DOMs and foam rolling and stretching help relieve those pains. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6465761/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4637917/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4299735/ If you do not like to do it, then don't do it. But don't gaslight me. It can …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 07:12 PM
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The first screenshot I sent was from a reputable source and if you click the links on these they're all cited to sources. You linked me a study about stretching, but honestly I only am aware of the effectiveness of foam rolling, I just personally also benefit from stretching for flexibility. sauce https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3273886/ Your study is very narrow. Preventing injury isn't the same as increasing range of movement. Range of movement is flexibility. Over time joint pain…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 06:59 PM
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more sauce Increasing flexibility is a primary consideration imo for joint pain, as joint pain is often a result of inflexible muscles creating pressure on joints. connection to exercise
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 03:58 PM
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sauce Tbh, this is enough for me. I get joint pain from exercising, and the moment I layer in foam rolling into my routine that pain relieves. I get it in my ankles and knees, mostly. My understanding is, as the muscle fibers (fascia) tighten during exercise, creating a "pull" on your joints that may inflict pain and pressure on them. Foam rolling releases this pressure. Strengthening the muscles, overall, helps going health as those muscles can absorb the impact of life activities better. So it…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 03:54 PM
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Source? This sounds false.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 03:49 PM
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Not a boomer but regular exercise , stretching and foam rolling may be good
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 11:33 PM
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Out of curiosity what makes the PPD women unlikeable compared to your friends and coworkers?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 11:31 PM
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That sounds like it could barely be 1200 calories depending on portion sizes. Number of times you eat isn't relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:56 PM
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I'll never start loving doing chores and household duties.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:24 PM
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My observation is some men have very strict standards and some don't. Men aren't a monolith
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:22 PM
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Yes, absolutely. Real people might have cellulite and be perfectly normal weight, proportionate hourglass body etc
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:21 PM
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If your guy is bothered by cellulite he watches too much porn or too much Instagram ~ shit is normal especially in the day and age where big butts are loved and adored. "It all smooths out when you bend over"
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:20 PM
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If I were to guess you're not eating enough throughout the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:17 PM
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Agree to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 07:07 PM
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Also, it makes you look less credible when you stretch the facts of the story, it's a 2.5 hour commute total (same as mine when my company wasn't remote) which is livable but yeah, it's her fault to an extent that he isn't helping but he held some sort of unreasonable expectation of herself as leverage to get her to agree with him, he should have been smarter to. If he didn't cave to a stupid idea and stayed firm it could have been avoided. She should take responsibility not only for the fact th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 11:03 AM
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Well, mostly speaking from the pov of an outsider who trusts that you know yourself enough well enough to provide at least some level of insight into your own needs following basic introspection. Your right though. But it's a skill that can be honed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 10:53 AM
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Yes for sure the worst part is that he caved to her not that she miscommunicated though. Above all, hold your boundaries and not wanting an insane commute to be marginally closer to your in-laws I find reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 06:10 AM
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Just a general question around communicating your needs and not expecting your man to be a mind reader
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 05:15 AM
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What if she's effective at communicating her needs , and recognizes how he is taking charge in other ways? Is that sufficient?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 04:44 AM
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What makes LTRs difficult for women when men do exactly what women say they want ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 04:30 AM
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How would you say that operate
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 03:53 AM
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What do you attribute your success to when it comes to trp the most?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 03:21 AM
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Ah for sure, I agree but optimism is nice when you're prone to indecision or insecurity due to having an abundance of caution. Now I agree that doesn't mean throw all caution to the wind. The blue pill isn't the way imo, I just really do not think going all red works. Extremist views held by stupid people are extremely perceptible. You're clearly not stupid and understand nuance. Red pill doesn't teach nuance, I believe it's treated more like it's some assumed competency. (Which from what I've s…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 03:00 AM
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I do have solutions just not to the problem of preventing yourself from all risk of heartbreak or ruin. The blue pill comes with some optimism that it'll work out and if it doesn't work out, it'll still work out..it's kind of the premise of resiliency. The red pill solves some problems but not all of them. Don't be Dogmatic, you seem smart enough to know when not to be a dick to a woman..which is basically all purple is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 02:44 AM
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I hear you. I think you should go for slightly younger women who are, indeed, financially stable so ARE choosing to be with you for your companionship and family. Divorce really fucks over men, and women too, but men more often. I feel for you for sure. And I don't have the answers for everything, especially when you've already been through it. I do hope the best for you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 02:22 AM
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From a quick Google search that's gotta be above decently 400k so good for you bro. Your an exception. You could date women and not reveal your wealth/income, and don't get married, get a prenup, or be okay with the potentiality of asset division not being fair. Either way, you're making really good money for yourself so you should be proud of your hard work and wanting to guard it from gold diggers is natural. I myself would like to be making that much one day, I think I can achieve it pretty e…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 02:09 AM
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It's extremely presumptuous of you to call it the "male pov" when I'm fairly certain there's many men who know of red pill and still reject various premises that exist therein. I expect the "truth" to be genderless in so far as that it describes the utilitarian nature of human beings , and the biological constraints we are dealing with. But really, it's more about men having more of a false or fake ego, so they seem attractive to women. I get it. Having an ego is sexy, though sometimes it backfi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 01:54 AM
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No. Then it's not truth, it's literally just male solipsism, branded as truth
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 01:43 AM
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By that logic, the red pill is just a farce because it doesn't ground it's assertions on observable or provable truths, rather feelings of betrayal and hurt. I've learned much more about human nature reading actual studies on human behavior , and just existing and having lived experience with human,s than what is espoused on red pill. Using red pill as a proxy for truth just is a very successful propaganda effort to brand TRP beliefs as "truth" and "reality" so fundamentally seem more valid. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 01:26 AM
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I generally support this approach, and knowing where you are more inclined to be naturally (too red or too blue, across different axis) and counter act it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 12:55 AM
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Except the red pill itself is more than a metaphor for knowing the truth of reality. It prescribes specific views and approaches geared towards maximizing sexual strategy for men. I do not think it does a good job at helping men empathize with women. It infact treats feelings and emotions as unimportant and even trivializes their existence when emotions are certainly real, valid part of human experience. Instead of deriding the emotional aspect of human nature, I feel as though a tempered unders…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 12:53 AM
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This is my opinion about how it works when you're not "intentionally" doing anything. Good guys are the ones who don't push for sex right away and they're the ones I dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 03:54 PM
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This post gets it backwards. Women don't make good men wait, good men don't use women for sex so they're not gonna be pushing us for sex on the first date. As a female with a highly reactive and giving sexual nature I never intended on making good guys wait. They brought it upon themselves. And then I rewarded that by giving them better, more consistent, higher quality sex and a relationship to match
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 03:27 PM
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Men and women are both subject to mood swings lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 06:41 PM
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Apparently life long companionship doesn't count unless you met when she was in her twenties obv
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 06:37 PM
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It's a negative term for male behavior similar to the concept of awalt.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 06:34 PM
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Meh, it's only a gold digger if you see it that way. All relationships are to some degree transactional. If you're not attractive enough to attract the person of an attractiveness level you desire , then it comes down to other things like providership or status. One doesn't even need to divulge that they have wealth to that degree, just to know what women they desire want. He didn't mention a specific looks standard so I think he should try to look in religious communities because he simply want…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 03:41 PM
1

Go to church?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:54 PM
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And id argue the same applies to the concept of a scrote. Male degerency and selfishness didn't start in the year 2020.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:53 PM
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Not saying date a gold digger but having cash can make some women overlook your appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 01:52 PM
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What are your standards btw? I'm surprised there's literally no woman who would date a multi millionaire who wants to be a dad but can't meet your standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 03:18 AM
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"plates" and "awalt" isn't better, imo
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 02:48 AM
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ADHD is a mental disorder, which i suppose is different than a mental illness
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 02:34 AM
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I'm sure you're aware of this, but having children isn't exactly a walk in the park. From the risks involved in child birth, to post pardem issues, lack of sex life / libido, having to be responsible for another living breathing thing that is actually human and will one day grow up to have an impact on the world in some way (and that could be positive or negative and that falls upon your shoulders to raise the kids to be well adjusted and happy), and then you're also giving up your own freedoms …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 05:26 PM
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The main reason I don't post here anymore is because both sides suck
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 04:07 PM
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Lmao chubby. My husband is cut like Adonis
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/21 01:52 PM
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Well that's why Im grateful to have met an authentic individual when I was in college and naive myself
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:46 PM
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? How do you figure that. The advice seems sound to not react to someone else divulging massive amount of wealth.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:01 PM
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I'm not objective at rating myself , but I could be 6-7.5 is my thinking. I can't tell
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:48 AM
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It feels better than the reverse.i grew up in a female bread winner household and she financially supported my step dad. So I'm used to it. I prefer it equal like now, but if I got a get out of most chores free card while having a husband who didn't have to go to bed early so he could get to work early which means we have more energy at night and better matching schedules for sex. I prefer sex daily or close to it which is hard when we both work our butts off. I enjoy my career btw
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:41 AM
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If my husband cooked and cleaned I'd jump him every day lol my attraction to him has nothing to do with his job we do the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 07:19 AM
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Works for me if he cooks and cleans :)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 03:56 AM
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I just say find a relationship because it's companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 03:55 AM
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looks to attract personality/income to keep Men DO like not having to foot the bill for you, as long as they don't give up having you be hot to them ha
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 03:30 AM
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Attraction has always been important but cultural standards of today make it more important than ever. And the standards are more unrealistic than ever. I mean even the Romans didn't give their women 0.5 WHR and DDD tits in their art and statues. Also, there's entire industries making billions on their ability to manipulate us into not feeling good enough so that were spending money on looking better. I think ppl should gives themselves and others more kindness
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:22 PM
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Yes. Way too important. It's not necessary to me gigachad or gigastacy to have sex you enjoy with people you find attractive, and not to mention gives everyone a complex
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 12:16 PM
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Yeah! I'm enjoying it and I might even get a promotion this month (I'm super excited !) I'm leading a project we have a deliverable for the end of the month. So I'm trying to crush it. And hiring and onboarding like crazy. I'm happy you have a job too! I really need to book an appointment to see one myself when life's a lifees craZy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 02:17 AM
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...I've been going on extravagant vacations with hookers and coke!! Nah jk. I'm working a lot lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 02:09 AM
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This is absolutely crazy way of thinking. How do you view a date where the bill is split as her "subsidizing" him? If anything men subsidize women. And I've set up my life in a way that a man NOT subsidizing me wouldn't fuck me over. You expect to have your lifestyle subsidized by men because you're a woman and you feel owed on behalf of the suffering imparted to you or others besides the man currently courting you. I don't buy it. And how do you get off calling this man's story "nice idealism" …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 02:04 AM
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Hello perky tits
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 01:54 AM
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Oh I know :)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 01:14 PM
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I'm sorry. Some people just get the shit end of the stick , and it's not fair. I feel for you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 12:57 PM
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That's too bad. You're my husband's height
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 12:52 PM
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o_o some of us do! Short people unite!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 12:48 PM
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Yeah I agree. Do you blame young horny teenagers for being kinda dumb though and fumbling through their early sex life?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 12:42 PM
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Honest question, do you like sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 12:38 PM
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I'm pretty hot and awesome so nah
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 12:17 PM
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I couldn't imagine settling for a guy with such poor views on women. In reality I feel like a winner when I find a guy who treats me with love, respect, and consideration. I would never view myself as settling for such a guy. I would fall for him deeply especially if he's nice to look at too! And I did
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 11:56 AM
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Short of fucking them there is nothing. 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 11:50 AM
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Curtsy lunges
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 01:14 PM
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FDS is a toxic and hateful place, I don't hate it, I just don't think it's got the right mentality.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 11:11 AM
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Eh. I got lucky ._.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:48 PM
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It's better out irl I think, I hope
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 07:57 PM
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Imo it's just a toxic hell hole for both genders
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 06:29 PM
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I've admitted my female privilege many times and guess what it changes nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 04:37 PM
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I dig it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 12:01 AM
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Stitch fix all the way!
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/21 05:41 PM
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Fuck your girl silly as often as possible
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 12:21 PM
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MMM no in my life experience the people on Reddit who claim everyone is a harpy are the ones experiencing a minority of loud shitty people who are single and leftover in the dating market
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 01:59 PM
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Yes! I agree. This comment is motivating. Thank you for commenting, I'm gonna hit my run today with extra oomf.. !
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:42 PM
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It helps their narrative to insist that normal women with normal expectations are the exception
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:27 PM
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Honestly for me it's really about having the resolve to work through your differences and communicate well. That way you can determine if you've reached the base level of compatibilities. This is not a list of what makes you attractive but rather how to be a partner in a relationship. Which implies a level of communication, negotiation, and compromise. Imo, don't over think it. Be attractive to attract people and be a decent human being to keep them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:23 PM
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The girl is happily married and from her posts seems to posses both humility and self worth simultaneously. I think others are mad
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:19 PM
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Nothing in her post seems to place a high priority on being charming or a womanizer. Tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:15 PM
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Ugh I've been sooooo inconsistent with workouts, food (lots of eating out lately), and my skincare routine and it's upsetting. However I also have the most confidence about my appearance than ever before in my life. Even with my inconsistent routines I feel I'm in the best shape of my life. My body fat doesn't bother me so much anymore because I have been doing intense lower body workouts and I have a body built a booty that I like and feel balances out my figure nicely. So I don't wanna be too …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 11:36 AM
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Yes I did read the comment chain and you're just mostly spouting opinion from a single stat which in MY opinion IS close to 50/50
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 11:32 PM
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Maybe it's just me but 40% of women being breadwinners when my parents generation still was facing discrimination in the work place tells me women are more tenacious than you're giving credit for. I myself come from a household headed by mom, and that 40% stat is getting closer and closer to half way, every decade.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 06:28 PM
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If there is a God or reason for me to have the traits I have, this is why I believe I had a chronic illness since I was young. To create opportunities for resiliency
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/21 05:48 PM
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Agree to disagree. If you possess the sexuality tht let's you be poly but can't enact the lifestyle because of jealousy, then maybe there is something up
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/21 09:22 AM
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What's more important to you, on paper happiness or actual happiness?
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/21 03:28 PM
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Well, poly people who are happy with the lifestyle won't be jealous. I think it was stated as an absolute when meant to be a little more grey. I think my understanding is jealousy is rooted in insecurity, lack of communication if you're truly poly The poly lifestyle wouldn't work if jealousy was a factor that couldn't be worked around
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 11:58 AM
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I come every time with and without weed. Weed brings like earth shattering ones I will look into kegels a bit more I thjnk I just get to turned on sometimes haha Well I'm not really buying the whole statistical argument applied to myself given being an outlier in some other respects. I don't think previous partners have as much to do with it, frankly, it's causation vs correlation. People with multi partners more likely to not be as monogamous I bet, and just generally have less likely ability t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 01:04 AM
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I think you are discounting how history unfolded if you think 1-1 monogamy was the "norm" or how societies and humans evolved. I'm pretty sure straight forward google searches will corroborate as ive done this exploration before (actually, on the opposite foot - I was a HUGE proponent of monogamy and try to convince many men on here that some men do want it. They believe men are naturally polygamous on the red pill) I think it's interesting your theory , I will ponder it. All the best to you
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 12:09 AM
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Frankly, I only did it because of purplepilldebate. Part of me wishes I never got involved in this sub, it makes me revisit my past with agonizing detail, which really was more detrimental than necessary. "having to make sure" I didn't "really enjoy" my previous sex partners more was such a weird thing about this sub. But when I did come to look through the past, I saw a few correlation between sex and orgasms. feeling "full". This happens with wider dicks, not longer ones. So this is gonna be m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/21 12:05 AM
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I wouldn't change my hubby because I don't see anything wrong with his penis and there's no reason to be insecure about the size of it, it's very satisfying. For a long time, I couldn't even handle him (I was having some issues down there) so now that I'm healthy, I don't see the positions as a compensation. I just need pressure on one of the walls to come, and in order for it to hit that wall there's very specific positions we can use to stimulate that wall. I chalk the good times with that oth…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 11:40 PM
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Sorry, by "at odds with human sexuality" I meant on a macro scale - meaning that there is NOT evidence that our species as a whole prefers monogamy. There IS evidence that our species has BOTH. I see it as a sexuality. Like being attracted to women, or men. You'd think we are born with a sexuality were "supposed" to have, but as we can see with homosexual and bisexual sexuality, it's not what tradition would make you think. I think the people who are happy in monogamous marriages might just be d…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 11:17 PM
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It's not an immunity, jealousy might arise if communication is poor, boundaries are disrespected, etc. Maybe starting up a bunch of relationships at the same time is foolish and a lot to handle, but the concept of "one person for life" seems to be at odds with human sexuality. Religion was sort of designed to keep our sexualities in check, but I think as a society we can be smarter than that. Traditional people can still exist, marry, love each other, find and be with that One for life. But if I…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:35 PM
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My husband isn't one to enjoy having discomfort, I think I'd notice with enough time if that was truly disturbing to him. Actually he seemed quite authentic and pissed off on my behalf for listening to the "dumbasses" of the internet in the first place. I am hard headed and didn't listen to him for a long time but I realize not listening to him actually hurts us both, since it means I'm not trusting him over the people on the internet. I had a 3 year LTR between the bigger guy and my Husband and…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:26 PM
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Well, jealousy is an interesting concept. I find it's almost tightly coupled to insecurity, and possession. There's two reasons to be jealous, and neither of them apply in the mind of a polygamous person.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 10:01 PM
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I cannot respond to your message you sent me, I wasn't trying to "hurt your feelings" with the insult, i just am very blunt when I see bad logic.. I feel like you're missing the tone of the discussion I had with my husband some 8+ years ago. Basically I told him I had casual sex, and asked him if it was an issue. He said no. I asked him if he wanted to know number of sex partners, he said no. I asked him if he wanted to know any details, he said no. Every few years I'd check in again. "do you ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:54 PM
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People are happy and not stifled / free to live the life they please? The horror
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:48 PM
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I'm not sure, to be honest. But if you're fit and tall I think you shouldnt be too concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 09:45 PM
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Edited for civility.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:41 PM
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I did not tell him anyone had a bigger dick, that's pretty dumb to even think about doing. He can have that to his own imagination. For all he knows ive only been with pencil and short dicks because I clearly enjoy his. He also didn't want to know the precise N. He said that wasn't a factor for him, and not information he cared about knowing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 04:42 PM
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sexually free women give MORE in a committed relationship than casually, in my view of sexual freedom. Witholding from your partner just makes no sense to me. I'm not "trying to refute", I'm basing my understanding on my experience with men. And my understanding of those specific men. And the specific men in question don't have qualms about a woman's "history". I've spoken to my husband about sexual history, and I was only ever with one person with a larger penis than him. My husband has been ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 03:17 PM
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It's still pretty rude to assume someone is joking about that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 03:14 PM
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Laughing and saying is this a joke is pretty rude
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 02:27 PM
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I don't date men "because" of the money either.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 02:24 PM
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Curious what your standards are
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 02:23 PM
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Well, I would only find it to be emasculating if he was interesting in racking up an N count but wasn't able to
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 02:22 PM
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Just care about his venting session with a timebox. How would you feel if you had a stress you had to just stuff down and not talk about. I suggest to talk to him upfront. Babe, I want to help you with stress, but you're doing more than venting, you're ruminating. Can we try to put limits on how much you talk about work before you shut it off for the day to focus on us and our home life? This is important to, and you cannot neglect my needs. I promise I won't stop you from venting, but it needs …
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 12:45 PM
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Well, I'm speaking from a former perspective from when I believed I was consenting but looking back I realize that I wasn't comfortable, confident, and I was having sex for the wrong reasons. By that logic, what I am saying is I'm giving the man consent to use my body, but I'm not really making a lucid decision. Kind of like the state of compromise you're in when drunk, etc. I believed back then I was consenting, however now that I'm older I would go back in time and advise myself to go to thera…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:26 PM
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Well, that's what my psyche would have me believe but after self reflection, no. Also I don't see how giving men a good time and access to my body is "bad behavior" unless you are tradcon, and think N count matters. I don't see having sex, especially having casual sex, as bad. I actually think casual sex is great. My issues with having casual sex when I really didn't want to were a result of deeply ingrained issues. Not that you could ever understand something like this with the way you dismiss …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 09:18 PM
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Humans work off both emotions and logic. There could be emotional logic to give yourself to a person you're not into, like for instance the misconception that you dont own your body or are not entitled to witholding your own body.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 02:23 PM
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As a woman who suffered from sexual trauma in childhood/adolescence, I can tell you sometimes consensual sex isn't as consensual as you might think. My trauma instilled me with a problem with saying no, and standing for what I wanted from people sexually and physically. For a while, I always dissociated during casual sex. It wasn't till I was much older I understand the reality of my own sexual nature and what I would want from my significant other in order to be comfortable giving them sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 02:22 PM
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Maybe that's stupid then to expect that for a marriage to be successful it must not end in divorce. I think those are unrealistic expectations given human nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 08:55 PM
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Fundamental misunderstanding of female nature. The need for safety and security isn't the same as the need for attraction and arousal. I don't agree with "it's a losing situation!" Fallacy. This is a misunderstanding of how and when to apply behavior which creates comfort and behavior which creates arousal. This is also a misunderstanding of female perspective on the importance of comfort. Since so many red pill men struggle with understanding women at all, which is why they need a strategy to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:27 PM
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Why the fuck does bill need to care about Game. He wanted a family, he got a family. When you're that old and ugly I don't see why game still matters. Maybe if anything we need to stop the idea of an equitable split of assets if that's the cunundrum here.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:21 PM
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Demonstrating understanding would consist of many things. Firstly is sensitivity. Second is non judgement. Third is acceptance, and support. Fourth would be knowing that these issues don't detract from her value as a human. This would improve some men's relationships by allowing them to connect more closely with the woman in question, providing her with comfort and support and safety. In turn, she will be able to open up and trust him and fulfill him on a deeper level because of that trust. This…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 05:43 PM
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He's just salty he couldn't make the trade himself. Just world fallacy idiots
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 01:36 PM
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Hypergamy is the concept that women dont die when they meet the love of their life and are always evaluating opportunity costs. It's basically romanticized sunk cost fallacy to believe in loyalty above all else.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 01:26 PM
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To a red pill man, a woman enforcing her own boundaries and having self respect is a travesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 01:18 AM
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Don't shy away from me ... I can see you are very invested in RP as a ideology so of course, FDS is not gonna compare to it in your head. Asking you to take a step back and come look at it more objectively. . I'm not an FDS user. I just feel your argument is premised entirely on fallacy - especially confirmation bias. All your arguments against FDS I've seen get made against TRP. Both user bases like to believe the "toxic" aspects are the exception, that make it more of a community for bonding. …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 03:59 PM
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My point is that it's more nuanced than that. FDS teaches women to respect themselves. Red Pill teaches men, incidentally, to disrespect women. And only select for some women who are meek and pleasant and have no discernable needs of their own. So simply following RP rhetoric would deeply hurt me. I'm already not fat (closer to fit), I smile all the time. I'm a lovely person and men love me. The only issue I had in my life (once I put effort into who I was and what value I was giving to men) is …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 02:59 PM
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What would you do if you sound said woman, but she was struggling to enact her passion fully?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 12:08 PM
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As a woman who followed RP advice for close to a decade I can tell you this. No, not all men just want a loyal, sweet, submissive woman. Some don't mind a bit of fire or spice, whereas others actually don't see me as an extension of them but rather my own human being that can exist independently and have their own wants, needs and desires. RP make me feel ashamed in a sense of having needs and being an individual. As such, I over prioritize mens needs compared to my own. I thought this would lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 11:42 AM
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I definitely feel like it has both positive and negative influence especially in young people. As a young person, it made me question myself a lot. Now I'm almost 30. I found red pill when I was 20. I am beginning to see that I definitely was brainwashed by the RP narratives in positive and negative ways. I'm a woman. Pros Increased empathy for male humanity and issues faced More self awareness when my entitlement was showing Solid framework and ideas around how to build a life long happy relati…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/21 03:00 PM
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I'd say, I look sexiest doing things like overhead presses, back rows, planks, and all my lower body workouts for the most part. Maybe the tricep kick backs look alright. I don't really work my arms out as much as I work out my lower body, but I need to do things like overhead squat thrusts for instance to keep my back from hurting when I'm doing heavier cursty lunge lifts. I've taken a few form videos and when I'm keeping things flexed it looks good. I'm not like super lean, I value having femi…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 11:38 PM
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Yes, but they're not so impressive
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 10:02 PM
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If you're into that, absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 07:16 PM
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Just because I lift doesn't make my submissive kink any less intense
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 06:50 PM
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Public transport for everything verses driving Things open late verses things closing early Night life existing verses mostly families More focus on outdoor activities verses more focus on shows, shopping, drinking, food ?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 10:12 PM
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It is given value, just trad cons don't "care". The sub attracts a lot of trad cons that skew the perception of things here. Many men would love a wife to contribute to the income of the household, I'd argue even most.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 10:09 PM
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Idk man being fucked senseless like you're a rag doll because your mans dick is that umm, good, lol, or being fucked doggie/prone style while being pinned down :P The issue is going to be dependent on the relationship. Letting my husband know he can have his way with me has increased his performance in the bedroom from the sense that he feels more comfortable to not focus as much on my pleasure and focus on his. Having amazing sex takes work from both ends, so I'm sure in the cases where the wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/21 10:06 PM
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You retired?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 12:17 AM
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Lol @ hitting the 30 in 2020s if you have money and time you can work out, eat right, and get all the cosmetic things you need to get done. Who wants to hit the wall so early.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 10:50 PM
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Probs.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:10 AM
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Makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 11:27 PM
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I thought I hated cardio, but it's not too bad. Start with shorter ones and work your way up. Do you prefer weights/HIIT?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 11:03 PM
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We could also genetically engineer women to be less than 5'0 and hate heels.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 11:02 PM
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Maybe she's independent, but feels like she deserves 70% of his income because the value she provides essentially matches that monetary value. Funny tweet, but I think a woman could be financially independent AND also want most of the earnings of her husband/boyfriend, I think it's just uh... A little weird (like actual prostitution, but not explicit)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 11:00 PM
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Living my best life lol 😆 not really just realized I kind of have a problem with the addictiveness of this subreddit and the Discord so distanced myself a bit to focus on real life. That's worked out super well! Good to see ya
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 08:13 PM
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Really insightful view point. If the system prioritized people's health over productivity, 35 hour or 4 days a week workdays would be the norm, people would be able to take more personal days without it being a big stink, etc. But also remember all the fast food and smoking and personal decisions lead to this as well. Ultimately in the society we have to give medical care to people whether those afflictions were self imposed or avoidable, while also caring about personal choice, and Responsibili…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 06:54 PM
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Also, you're totally right in that it's kinda demotivating to regress especially when all you've done is return to maybe some of the old habits. But that's how we got here. Weight loss is a lifelong commitment, the fat cells are always there waiting to expand again lol. Introducing lifestyle changes like intermittent fasting (or calorie undulation) can allow you to turn to old habits now and then, maybe not every weekend though. Also don't forget to hit the gym 3+ times a week if you can. Consis…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 06:34 PM
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You're still down by over 25 lbs!!!! That's pretty awesome and you were looking great last time I saw. Keep it up. Edit: someone felt the need to downvote this lol wut
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 06:13 PM
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It's not uniform . I think guys in 5'5 range are sexy and perfect kissing hight for my near midget self.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/21 06:11 PM
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Same reason you men think you know our tastes. Eyes and brains.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 11:42 AM
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People follow their role models. My mom is the massive bread winner in my family so I follow suit. Women don't have as many career role models close to them so have to rely on their imagination of what it's like to have a career and need it to keep the family afloat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 12:20 PM
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Wanna tacoboutit?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/21 03:26 AM
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"Taking a break" doesn't actually stop the words from appearing in our heads. There is no concise version of "Beta Bux" or "Shit Test" which is divorced from RP Jargon. Hence, if trying to put those points across, it makes sense to use them. You would automatically translate to lay terms for lay people, i am sure. BTW - This shits so fun to sperg about that I doubt that you will be gone for long. But i always find breaks good because I do think that that people here generally have very different…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/21 11:32 PM
2

Agree with you as woman
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/21 05:27 PM
1

My husband prefers the arrangement we have with us both working.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/21 09:57 PM
2

Why do you think that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:22 AM
1

When your libido was higher, how did you handle it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:18 AM
2

Love feels really good. I know you're male. I'm not male.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:18 AM
2

I've been asked to be rated by many many many people. Why is this odd? Do you know what I look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:09 AM
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I do think women in general should be told to be open to their looks matches and to stop being so fucking conceited and entitled sorry sugar bear the world doesn't work that way, if you want to be loved you gotta find someone who can meet you not someone who is so hot it makes all your friends jealous, a man isn't a fucking purse
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:04 AM
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I'm told I'm attractive. I rate myself a 6, I've been rated as high as 8..
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:01 AM
1

How is your libido? Has your libido ever been higher than your husband's?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 01:00 AM
2

What about women whose standards are their legitimate looks match?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 12:58 AM
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It's not horrifying..most of the guys I slept with were virgins, betas, fat, uggo, or lonely. I'm happy that I was able to relieve them from it even if it was momentary. This was all before I developed standards and boundaries (16-17) and I am very extroverted and needed the esteem boost because I was bullied a lot and i didn't think I was an attractive woman. My "hoe phase" let me see that I was infact not undesirable as I thought I was but I learned also that I prefer sex with one person who l…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 05:17 PM
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Before I developed aesthetic standards, I went with 4s and maybe one is actually in the 3 range. But I do care about aesthetic standards now and want at least a 6 guy or my subjective 8 even if he's not an objective 8.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/20 03:58 PM
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We didn't wanna get married before 25 and it took me two years to plan the wedding since I prioritized buying a house and switching companies in the first year
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/20 04:59 PM
1

How do you get a guy whose naturally purple to integrate some of these tactics more consciously? Ideas ?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/20 04:45 PM
2

What's PF?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/20 04:11 PM
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Personal ancedote. I've been with my husband for 8.5 years married for 1. I had an N count of around 15 before him. I do not have any issues pair bonding with my husband at all. I love him very very much. I strive to give him the best possible life. I also love having sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/20 04:10 PM
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Maybe it's my trait but I was oblivious to my partners n counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/20 04:09 PM
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Post the study.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/20 04:08 PM
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I think guys should trust their partners if their partners are trustworthy people. Of course determining if someone deserves your trust is grueling, but once you've established trust and boundaries you also establish communication and forgiveness and acceptance. The ideal scenario is that any man friend, including gay men, would make a move on the girl she would immediately turn him down and return back to her SO to report the transgression. In the case of say emotional attachment or other benef…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/20 04:13 PM
1

Well, once a guy cried to me after he asked if he could kiss me and i said no and asked me if i found him unnattractive. it was the most unnattractive thing ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 07:18 PM
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Yes, but you're looking at the conclusion and drawing your premises from it in a backwards way. How do you know you don't have something that sets you apart from other guys being dumped for their weaknesses?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:54 PM
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NO omg I looked through your comments now i know ;_; im sorry! its my first time back on the sub in a while. Good to see you! hope youre doing fine...you sure look it. ALSO, yes, now that i know it was you, your comment was very humorous LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:40 PM
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Okay, so this is just a strange hypothetical. im sure many men have been rejected in the early stages of a relationship precisely because they didnt hide their weaknesss sufficiently and build a foundation of trust and attraction by which to anchor momentary weakness.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:39 PM
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So if he didn't fake it and she was repulsed from the start is it fair to say she was repulsed by his emotions?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:29 PM
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Wait gin?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:28 PM
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I don't know who you are because I am not good at recognizing new alts lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:28 PM
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the only things that women should grade men on regarding 'size' are these three things:
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:18 PM
1

Seems like a stretch to say that people are "repulsed" by dishonesty. What makes you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:12 PM
0

So women aren't allowed to have body type preference according to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:06 PM
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If a guy has bigger moobs than my boobs he would be severely obese or an extreme body builder jacked on steroids and both are unnattractive to me. And yes this is a humble brag
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/20 06:02 PM
2

You and I have the same measure of success. I'm married and winning
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 03:43 PM
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This is complete nonsense. Women can handle male emotions just fine so long as those women are sufficiently attracted to their men otherwise (besides the moments of weakness). The only women who can't or rare or have their own emotional baggage. Ancedotally, I've seen my husband cry plenty of times,and we fuck daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/20 08:15 AM
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It's more fun but more other things as well :3
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/20 02:18 AM
2

Women are hypergamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/20 04:46 PM
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I think if someone wants exclusivity they should define that. It's not unethical to not be a mind reader
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/20 02:20 AM
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Also I want to add I think you're really over reacting and complaining too much. Sure, it might be easy for you to scoff at women and say "they just want to eat too much!" Uh, I would like to be able to have a less restrictive diet by about 500 calories, that's it. I don't want to inhale junk food all day or eat until I'm about to pop. But going from a former food addiction (where I wasn't very over weight, but I was chubby) to where I am now and I still have stubborn weight and it's truly diffi…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/20 01:44 PM
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Not all woman, my body composition / fat distribution sucks so I need to put in years of effort into the gym to build the legs / booty I want to be hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/20 01:21 PM
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I love food and would love to be able to eat a greater volume of it without gaining weight. What people don't seem to get is that men have 600+ more calories to work with. What i would do with those calories is make more filling meals and eat more healthy snacks. I'm constantly fretting over 100 calories because I can't afford it. My diet feels restrictive, it's not about me needing to lose weight, it's about what it takes to not get fat and it's a lifetime of eating less than I'd like to becaus…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/20 01:20 PM
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Agree
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 02:00 PM
1

You shouldn't worry about how not being angry or bitter might make you less attractive. A man confident in himself despite not having much sexual experience to me is still a great prospect. Of course you'll need to find a more patient woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/20 02:00 PM
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I'm talking about kids in my family, my cousins
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 06:55 PM
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We have been together for 8+ years and married for 1 year since Sept 21
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/20 05:55 PM
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You're clearly trolling. A few things. You demonstrate RP philosophy by repeatedly reiterating your sexual value (and how it's higher and more in demand than a man's value) even at your current age. Second you also seem to have a very closed mind that is also very fragile and easily sent off kilter by a couple of triggering internet communities. Does none of that concern you? Women live life differently than men do. Sometimes our inability to perceive things from another perspective holds us bac…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 06:20 AM
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It's not a cult at all. I'm a very free thinker and I disagree with them on like over half of their overall messages. But one trend I do notice is there being some cluster b type women who generally don't get recognized for their abusive behavior, as well as the RP observations of inequality of sexual value (women have more inherent sexual value than men). Had I not understood these things, I wouldn't be able to understand a lot about human relationships that previously mystified me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 06:12 AM
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Well, I had an issue with my ex which made me realize stuff. They're right people are afraid to call women out on it. You sound exceptional but if you're so secure in yourself why are you so shaken? You seem like you need to defend yourself for being smart and successful. I felt the same way too when I found the red pill 8 years ago but I'm glad I still listened to the overall message. Its important to recognize trends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 06:08 AM
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What's wrong with you? You're acting deranged and illogical. You know men predict that about us right ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 06:02 AM
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I don't think that's correct ; just because they are angry doesn't mean their criticisms are completely invalid
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 05:46 AM
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Throwing a bunch of insults isn't exactly a debate. It just sounds like you don't like what they're saying. As if women don't say the same things about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 04:47 AM
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I know, cooking is both necessity and a fun skill, if you ever tried to be creative in the kitchen you might know what I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 04:45 AM
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Sure but that's basic cooking , and many of us know people who can do a lot more than that in the kitchen
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 03:29 AM
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Since when is cooking not hands on or skills based, also?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 02:48 AM
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I don't see how this actually disagrees. It seems like I agreed with a person saying there are flirtatious people who go out there and clearly could cheat but never do. I agree with that and I believe love and fidelity account for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 12:28 AM
0

Very agreeable
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 10:10 PM
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Sounds about right unless the woman maximized her options
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 09:08 PM
1

Ish except you can't tell a baby to become introspective
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 06:09 PM
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Maybe you're not the best person either in this hypothetical and it's a learning experience for both parties Edit: also assume the girl is hot enough that her behavior is offset by the sex lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 05:26 PM
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Yep, this is very important
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 04:39 PM
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Because they're uncomfortable with communicating their needs and expect to be catered to and have their minds read if others truly care. Its just entitlement. No one is entitled to anything, especially if you're not communicating it. I learned this at some point when I was 20-21 and it was crucial to my relationship working as well as it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 04:09 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 04:07 PM
1

Not a few years of life wasted if you're young in the first place and don't really feel like settling down at that moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 04:06 PM
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What makes her not suck
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 12:45 PM
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Actually I think they should simp and then 180 on the girl a few years in dropping the bomb of how awful she is. Otherwise women don't make the connection between their shitty behavior and relationship issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 12:44 PM
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The solution is to empower them not to be beggers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 12:43 PM
2

There are exceptions is all barely moral is saying .
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/20 12:41 PM
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I already have a marriage , my end goal is to looksmax so I could stop feeling insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/20 12:40 AM
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I have an online coach and it's mainly a combination of strength/resistance training and HIIT :)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 05:56 PM
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In 2020 I set out to lost weight and hit the gym daily, and given I have my home gym that didn't get impacted much, but not walking during my work commute daily did make it harder to achieve similar amounts of activity levels. Overall I've lost 10 lbs and put 5 back on, but the 5 I put back on seems to be distributed more as muscle than fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/20 02:05 PM
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5'3.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/20 12:13 PM
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No you make a good point. Even if men are more competitive than women, by nature, doesn't mean women can't accomplish the same things. I often hear male superiority being given as a reason to prevent women from pursuing education or careers. I think women have contributed a lot to society and to repeatedly rub it in our face that we aren't succeeding as much as men are in many respects is offensive because it ignores other things besides capabilities such as priorities or interest or discriminat…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/20 12:41 AM
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Yeah but objectively sticking to 400-500 calorie meals requires more effort in terms of weighing, portion control, and limiting yourself at restaurants and outings. I work out an hour every day and it's not about feeling worse or better. It's just about wanting to enjoy more food. I'm not saying men should eat less. I'm jealous of their biology. I can put in the same efforts and still have to eat much less.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/20 05:30 PM
1

completely sedentary my BMR is close to 1450, when moderately to vigorously active considering EPOC more like 1800-1900, allegedly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:45 PM
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That's a really good one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:03 PM
1

And purposefully pushing out my stomach and grabbing it in my hands and shaking it lolo
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:03 PM
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Yeah I've been really into style lately. I look amazing in clothes. Less pleased with naked self after eating lol. But it is what it is. I have to be confident and rock what I have because I know I work hard for it!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:22 PM
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Insecurities
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:04 PM
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Yeah I workout a vigorous 5-6x a week and lost 10 lbs initially then gained 5 lbs of muscle But I wanna eat more when I'm working out T_T
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:03 PM
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Well, I mean men and women are equal in terms of neither gender is inherently superior. It's called qualitative equality, but it once you know men and women aren't the same in many respects, I don't see why it's not good advice to encourage guys to change their outlook and look for bright spots and men who were able to turn their luck around. If you just give up and don't even try then you already are losing..
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:19 PM
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I think this "pressure" doesn't need to come from being afraid for your livelyhood. Infact havin the means to ensure your basic lifestyle can be sustained (food, shelter, water, electricity bills), can enable people take even more risks on the open market, like opening their own business. Will there be lazy leeches sure but most people are lazy leeches anyway working the bare minimum job to get by, having the "pressure" to work isn't going to make them competitive for more resources to expend. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:01 PM
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Yes,for me I have a very short torso and a pretty large ribcage, so it's hard for me to believe I can achieve a figure that I do not think im genetically destined to have. But thank you, I'll pay no mind to stupid boys :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:54 PM
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That all sounds correct. I just made a mistake in interpretation
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:33 PM
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It's not a platitude. A user here was very autistic and the first time I saw his picture, it was bad quality photo with his dead eyed stare. He seemed cute, not exceptionally so, and pretty skinny. A few years later after hanging around the red pill parts I think he eventually took women far less seriously. He lost the v card at some point and when that relationship fizzled out he was able to land another girl who is was a level up over the first. There are such things as this story, it's not a …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:31 PM
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Well that and they think any woman who has gripes about her biology just isn't working hard enough, which can be the case in many circumstances but I assure folks here it is not the case for me. I do believe if I keep working at it I'll see changes but I'm not so sure if I should be comparing myself to women with perfect ratios or compare myself to my former self...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:28 PM
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Thought you were agreeing with him and substantiating your claim.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:45 PM
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I know a lot of guys like that who were average to above average in looks who were able to change their luck when they changed their mindset and outlook. You seem pretty normal so I hope the same for you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:41 PM
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eh i even i barely post outside purge week. sub just isnt fun with all the rulez
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:27 PM
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And who said anything about abstract things? It's literally the title of the OP to which I thought you were responding to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:25 PM
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i am not dieting
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:55 PM
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on paper it all seems fine but realistically, my body isnt as "slim" as id prefer it to be, and its not perfectly shaped as my pelvis area barely hold fat, and my stomach does, i think id look better with a smaller torso. :) but i appreciate positive vibes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:44 PM
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There's some bored married men too 🤠
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:22 PM
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Thank you kind sir
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:17 PM
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Yes, my kind of people do (engineers), but if the output of what I build can make enough money to feed 5000 people I'd be happy to split the profits, it's not stealing to me, I mean, if I were unable to work due to disability or mental handicap or simply no demand for the skills that I have on the market, I don't feel that life should die. I believe the output of our workers is enough for everyone to survive, it's not stealing, if I were to have some kind of accident and find myself unable to wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:05 PM
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My diet was very meat heavy but it was balanced with plant food too :V
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:02 PM
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Robots can do the work humans do, so why can't robots work for the food and we eat it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:58 PM
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I mean yes being overweight was never my problem it's my body composition... Stress induced weight loss doesnt tend to look great
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:58 PM
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Well there are also studies that suggest plant based diets with no meat help crohn's disease so I'd say it's a toss up tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:50 PM
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Ugh yeah I am in a bad mental state today just trying to wrangle out of it. I will never stop fighting to achieve my goals but I wonder when I will be satisfied with myself and it feels like a battle every day to eat right and hit the gym and still be dissatisfied. I want to be satisfied with myself but then I come on here and get told I'm fat so, it creates this little spiral for me. But these spirals tend to kick start getting back on track with tracking and logging food and making ultra diale…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:39 PM
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In the time of scarcity yes but we live in a time of abundance where there isn't a need to have people work to give them the bare minimum
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:54 PM
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Yes but I just wish I naturally burned more calories than I do
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:37 PM
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How many times do I need to state my workout routine to get it through everyone's brains that I work out hard and often and that the changes still take a long ass time for me ...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:15 PM
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I feel fit, I don't feel beautiful, but thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:14 PM
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Well that's the theory my dietatian had but that means I just should give up on my ideal figure bc I am stressed out about it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:13 PM
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Except my trainer and multiple people say I'm not fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:12 PM
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My glutes are looking better just that everything takes a long time and it's tiring to constantly work your ass off and track everything you eat lol. I just wish the option of loving my normal body could be on the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:12 PM
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No, I lift heavy and slow, I have a physical trainer who pushes me to my limits, we vary sets / reps every month, I built a lot of muscle and strength.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:10 PM
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I never said it was impossible just that it's impossible to eat the way I want to eat (which isn't a 1400 calorie diet) and lose weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:09 PM
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I think once I get to the point where I'm happy with my body composision I still won't be happy with my figure is all, my skeleton isn't how I want it to be. Vacuums help sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:07 PM
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I'm not, I logged everything I ate and my physical trainer and a dietatian saw no issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:05 PM
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Yeah and that's not the look I want?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:04 PM
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I'm trying over here.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:04 PM
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My diet is very healthy and I do have an hourglass figure it just isn't snatched enough. I'm like at 36/29/38
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:03 PM
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I love veggies
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:02 PM
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I don't believe that to be the case but we can agree to disagree. I did try that and even with 60 days I was still dying from my disease so I finally switched doctors and got on a working medicine
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:28 AM
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I mean certain body fat ranges are healthy for women and necessary for bodily functions, especially if pregnant or breast feeding
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:27 AM
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I have results but I feel like I should be happy with where I am because everything looks good except for my stomach because it's so out of proportion with my body , I have small hips and a big ribcage, so I'm top heavy and my stomach even stuck out when I was 96 lbs. I'm even happy with my arms, my neck isn't going to get longer unless I workout my back more and resolve all the posture issues. I workout hard and long 5 days a week burning so many calories per session and watch my diet and I fee…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:08 AM
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I will look into those and thanks I'm on several medication, for crohbs and mood stabilizer
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:05 AM
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It's flat when I'm just standardly flexing but it is a bubble belly when I'm not and I don't get it, it makes me feel like shit, that it barely moves or changes wheresas the rest of me changes significantly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 09:00 AM
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I don't know if I'm distended from crohn's disease and just excessively short, I have no fat in my face and almost none in my legs
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:58 AM
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But I've been doing all of that for 10 months
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:56 AM
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I workout 5-6 times a week and I'm not overweight and my boobs are not bigger than my head but they're big and my legs are basically rock solid but thick with muscle , I do not have visible muscle definition in my arms and I do not have a flat stomach, my butt isn't big enough, my waist isn't snatched enough, my neck isn't long enough, my arms aren't small enough. I just feel unhappy with myself still even though I feel like I shouldn't ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:31 AM
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In any case I'd love to be a figure competitor one day. I'd really love to know what genetic potential I could push my body to if I could lean out and be super strict out for a few months. I'm unhappy with my normal looking non 10/10 body
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:25 AM
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My figure is healthy but not ideal. Only specific people can have like a 0.6 WHR and an hourglass figure and a flat stomach. Some of us are shaped differently and don't want to be like 18% body fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:23 AM
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What I mean is, I don't think I'd feel the need to be validated if there wasn't a lot of better looking women than me getting validated. It's like FOMO, look at everything these women get so easily that I can't get unless I were to whore myself out on social media. I postulate if I live in a bubble, the thought of that much attention being available to me if I was simply valuable enough to get it, wouldn't occur to me. Id still have a biological drive to be loved and attended to, but I wouldn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:06 AM
3

You know we have a longer lifespan because we're shorter , right ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:04 AM
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Water doesn't work for me to satisfy the weird feelings I get when I'm hungry (intense nausea, emotional stress and instability, inability to focus, irritation, inability to think rationalitlly, intense hunger pangs) and drinking straight up ACV sounds like torture The reason I torture myself is because I am predisposed to be heavier and as a 4'11 woman Idolize being petite so I have suffered my whole life with body dismorphia and taking things into my own hands to lose weight has been an uphill…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 08:02 AM
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There isn't a dexa scan within 2 hours from my location, do you know where else I could get a reliable scan? Based on picture metrics I'm probably at 23-24% Edit: I care more about inches and tone than I do about weight
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:57 AM
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We want the opposite of what we have, cheers with my poop colored eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:46 AM
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Are you sure? Because I feel like mine is sort of envy based of the attention beautiful women get, like models
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:42 AM
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I agree women's standards are too high and unrealistic. My husband and ex were perfectly normal guys who has some physical characteristic that stood out to me (steel blue eyes)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:40 AM
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Ohh my god I didn't even think of that, lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:32 AM
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And honesty. Tracking helps. If I pre track all the better. I'ma get back into it. Thanks for motivating me. Being called nice things is nice in the pic thread but there's more work for me to do
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:31 AM
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And COFFEE
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:30 AM
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Water water water 💦
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:30 AM
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I did this when I joined with my physical trainer who gave me a meal plan. Meal 2 4 and 6 are usually Nuts and fruit Cheese and whole wheat crackers Quick protien drink Veggies and hummus Halo top Hard boiled eggs with hot sauce Protein bar Those are the kind of meals I have as snacks and as you can see they are very convenient while also being relatively healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:25 AM
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Yeah when I'm intuitively eating I stick to 3 meals and 2 snacks but I've been feeling snack creep come up. but I feel way less likely to overeat when I satisfy my hunger cues throughout the day. My entire adulthood has been 2 big meals a day and the only thing that allowed me to cut those portions down was eating before those meals so I wasn't famished. I get weird emotional issues too when I'm hungry, like, really crazy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:23 AM
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Possibly. Except all the studies show that even accounting for same body composition males can eat more. But at the same time, it might feel miserable but it would be easier because I wouldn't have to stick to small portions which are easy to under estimate. Just feels like y'all have more breathing room Plus my husband eats the same diet as me and I'm always hungrier than him so that doesn't help
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:17 AM
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I'm a severe non morning person 😬 I think I can hit 1400 real easy with the following template: Meal 1: 200 Meal 2 (optional, can roll to meal 3): 100 Meal 3: 300 Meal 4: 100 (optional, can roll to meal 5) Meal 5: 400-500 Meal 6: 100-200 depending on meal 5 Very easy template, but the issue is when I'm "intuitively eating" I don't know how well I follow it..maybe track on small meal days and intuitively eat on IF days... I just gotta get back into tracking tbh intuitive eating is easier but less…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:14 AM
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Oof
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:01 AM
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I mean I simply disagree, a man who approaches me and tells me he thinks I'm cute, I better reciprocate the feeling. The issue is when most men are unnattractive to women. No ive never been with an insanely handsome guy, super tall chad type or any of that. But the men who fit my niche tend to have eyes that simply feel like I can stare into
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 07:00 AM
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Have you tried saying "I was talking."
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:56 AM
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I am not saying they have it easier. I'm saying they can objectively eat more than I can and maintain a good figure. Why do I need to chill when I'm focusing on simple facts? The truth is I find difficult to eat the way I eat, if I could eat like a man can, I would be happier. I'm not trading in my body composition for a males, I'm trading in my metabolism. It's a fun hypothetical thread and I hit the gym every day so I can eat above my BMR
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:54 AM
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That's true
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:49 AM
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Also I could not consistently eat 1k for dinner, but might consider it on the weekends maybe moving forward. I have crohn's and that much food at ones is a load on my digestive systems but otherwise a reasonable window like 10/14 or 8/16 would be fine if I spread calories out more
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:47 AM
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I skipped breakfast before my 2021 diet routine and introducing breakfast significantly helped with cravings and starvation that would make me overeat. My breakfast is very minimal at 200 calories and keeps me satiated until lunch. The issue is I work until 7 and hate working out after dinner , so it's hard to even do 10/14
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:46 AM
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All of them say they lose weight faster. Metabolism is the process by which your body converts what you eat and drink into energy. During this complex biochemical process, calories in food and beverages are combined with oxygen to release the energy your body needs to function. By that logic, if men are able to eat more then women and lose more weight or lose it faster, their bodies are more efficient at converting energy consumed to energy output , which is the definition of metabolism. Another…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:45 AM
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As long as I still get attention from my h I'd be happy. I don't like basing self worth off the opinions of other people but it feels hard wired into my brain (don't know if it's biological or societal though)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:41 AM
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What do you do when you're doing IF and you get really hangry and can't focus on work?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:28 AM
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I mean I agree with you but I think they will not listen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:27 AM
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I mean I agree but I guess I have no issue with normalizing healthy bodies at healthy weights , not glorifying figures that only a small percentage of the population can attain
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:25 AM
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I'm not stupid men have more muscle mass than woman, it's simply science, yes there are always women and men with good or bad metabolisms I'm just talking about on average. I thought that was a concept you people cling to and understand? How about some biotrufs https://www.webmd.com/diet/features/do-men-lose-weight-faster-than-women https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.livescience.com/amp/63324-men-women-weight-loss-difference.html https://dom-pubs.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/dom.13466 …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:21 AM
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Convenience for me usually entails something I could limit if I really wanted to but then cravings and desires pop up and I just really want Thai or really want Sushi and those are convenient as hell. Any food I need to prepare isn't convenient except maybe some like dump and go meals like the taco soup or the curry sweet potato chick pea soup, but I haven't yet tried to go like a whole week of soup or have soup when I'm craving hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:17 AM
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Seems like a win/win situation but I'm a low key attention whore so I'd be sad lol. But I'd be happy men felt good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:14 AM
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Oh yes I would say I'm very healthy from that perspective (except stress lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:14 AM
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It takes a lot of will power to have a half cup of rice lol, honestly I always serve myself 2/3-3/4 and as I'm securing leftovers probably a few extra bites T_T Yes and drinking is a usual no go for me unless it's one of those days where I let myself have an exception. I have to try to get back into it. I think I hit a slump with not seeing progress and getting obsessive about it, and I went in the opposite direction and stopped tracking, my weight hadn't changed but I felt I did look thinner, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:12 AM
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Not to be naive but couldn't you just chug like two really decked out delicious protien drinks a day? If I could afford to put PB in my protien shake it would be really leveled up, but I choose not to drink my calories for satiety reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:08 AM
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I don't have any of those diet restrictions. Why do you have them? Not asking in a dick way. I landed myself in the hospital once due to low sodium levels and it's rare to me to hear someone's on a low carb low fat low salt diet. I think my husband would divorce me if I started cooking that way. I had to deal with a lot of moaning to get him to consider tofu and he complains when I don't use oil in my cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:07 AM
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Yeah, I mean that sounds great. I appreciate the advice even though it's stuff I know already. I have a difficulty with social outings and events and getting tired of weighing and tracking calories. Like I feel like I lose motivation after a few months to track calories and then it's hard to get back into it. But when I track I can pay better mind to what foods give the most satiety for the least investment of calories. One thing I found is buddha bowls. Like a crap ton of romaine lettuce and ro…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 06:04 AM
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But I agree free strength would be awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:57 AM
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I mean sure I can eat one hamburger at 420 calories and be starving soon after. I did that in the summer sometimes. Really hard to keep the calories low on that. I couldn't indulge in it once a week, because it normally trips me up and makes it hard to stay in the "weight loss" range for the day if I'm not super careful about the timing of the meal and the sides. Also, if I'm gonna eat out of my range once a week I won't want to waste it on a burger. . Simply put, burgers are off plan except whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:56 AM
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Ain't no one that can do that male or female, lol, I just want to be able to eat like you but not swap anything else, that's the fun of the hypothetical
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:49 AM
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Right but what I'm saying is I'd be a lot happier if I could eat 2000 calories every day. Having to weigh every bit of food gets really tiring. And it depends on the season..in the summer, I never really have soup. But last week I've made two soups already but they were more on the caloric dense side since I'm trying to keep protien up for recomping
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:48 AM
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One often can't be given the opportunity to grow without the initial spark, a woman doesn't need to be floored but rather there needs to be something that draws her to a man, even if it's just one feature amongst his whole persona
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:45 AM
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I am not doing keto, my trainer specifically recommends against it. The problem is that keto is unsustainable. I'd simply gain the weight back when I adopt old routines. That's why I am focusing on building muscle. The idea being that since muscle is more efficient at burning calories. I don't know my body fat percentage though, but I look entirely different than I did at this exact weight 1 year ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:44 AM
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Why can't men accept gender equality when it benefits them? https://www.google.com/search?q=is+it+easier+for+men+to+lose+weight&oq=is+it+easier+for+me&aqs=chrome.1.69i57j0l2.3130j1j9&client=ms-android-hms-tmobile-us&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8 Is science or the facts wrong? Yes I linked a google search so you can see for yourself how many hits it gets
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:41 AM
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Idk why they loath it tbf. Better than being loathed right? I think this is a good one
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:39 AM
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I know, I'm such a heathen
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:39 AM
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Well I tracked my calories for 10 months and I was able to make a lot of delicious meals at 400-500 calories a meal (dinners) I think a lot of herbs and spices help, as well as cheating with things like vinegar , low sodium soy sauce, or olive oil spray and the air fryer or roasting veggies. Grilling also makes things delicious. I have to be careful with rice though as it's calorie dense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:38 AM
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I am, and I'm undulating calories which means I can eat a little closer to ideal on weekends (1600-2000) sometimes, but I feel like after 10 months I've reached equilibrium. I gained weight back in muscle which is good. Previously before exercise I was eating 1200 to lose weight and found it near impossible. I'm 4'11 and 125 lbs
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:35 AM
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Also I'm aware there are fat men but they must be eating like 4-5k , ive seen them eat (I dated an obese guy at one point and my family has plenty), I just want to be able to eat like a man with a good metabolism. Of course it's relative since they have more mass to afford them the extra BMR but even at the same height and weight men can eat 300 cals more on average and most men are bigger than me by a long shot. I don't want society to find fat women attractive. I want a magic metabolism that l…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:33 AM
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I just wish I could eat 2,000 calories a day and not be fat. 1400 just feels super restrictive to me and I feel hungry a lot and it's hard to stick to the small portions.. meanwhile guys at the gym literally reporting in 2500-3000 calories as their normal. I'm allowed to be jealous given that one of the things I derive joy from the most is delicious food.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:28 AM
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Lol I just spoke to a guy earlier who was eating 3000 calories a day and losing weight, sooo don't tell me men "can't eat" try eating 1400 calories every day and tell me how it feels
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:26 AM
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I mean, can't really be bleeding out in the open, that's unsanitary and most people don't want to deal with blood getting everywhere. But I do not think abortions should be free. And I spend a lot of money on tampons and pads, but I also am not destitute for it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:25 AM
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Well healthcare could give you access to a mental health professional who is trained to help you deal with your problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:12 AM
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No sex would not directly lead to loss of life. Hard to argue it is a need. Some of society's greatest thinkers like Newton were virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 05:08 AM
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People just don't want to tout their own horn. As a psychology major I'm surprised they don't discuss insecurities and imposter syndrome ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:56 AM
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Yes, I have had crushes/fantasies about guys when I realize they're really smart, but I'm usually taken so it's not something I can act upon..my two LTRs have been with very intelligent guys, and my ex was basically a genius. My husband is more attractive and less of a brainiac,. (still a very smart guy) but I think he's got more common sense than I do and is better than me at a lot of practical matters, but I've always been a fan of the visionaries
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:55 AM
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Well I'm certainly biased but 100% with you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:53 AM
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Can't speak for all women but I have been..
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:51 AM
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One needs money to provide basic life sustaining necessities..beyond that ppl need to work
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:49 AM
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Well no shit we stopped dressing like asexuals and actually stop primpimg up our hair like a pin-up model I can indeed cook
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:48 AM
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True. I just think that if the man puts up with her and he's happy with what he's getting out of it , it's a match. Not all men care to have deep connections like the one you seem to be seeking , but I do think it is more common in males than I thought, it just so happens that the women mainly prioritize other things before an intellectual and emotional connection, i.e. a raw sexual connection
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:43 AM
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I find intjs infuriating and attractive at the same time lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:42 AM
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I think I'm the sole remaining enfp
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:40 AM
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Do you mean all women or in general ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:39 AM
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Lollll
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:38 AM
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Aw sad the software engineers didn't represent :'(
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 04:13 AM
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How lovely all of this sounds
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:52 AM
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A cringe one, for sure, but guys tended to find it somewhat charming to laugh at me and not with me ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:50 AM
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I mean hollow as in meaningless, because of the dunning-kruger effect
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:49 AM
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Well then it's her fault for being forever single
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:48 AM
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Nah he reminds me of my H and I sit on my Hs dick whenever he wants
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:33 AM
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Yeah my parents are both obese and I'm dreadfully short, and I have a 23 and me report that says I genetically am prone to weigh more on average, but about 5 lbs more. I just took those lbs and converted them to muscle and that works for me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:29 AM
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Yes, but im inferring here. I'm hoping he isn't actually asking people point blank about things but rather hoping they dig into details. Of course I've never been on a date with the guy so I can't guess what he is asking or how I'd respond, but it would not take me very long to ramble into some quirky rant about something tangential to whatever I said originally
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:27 AM
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Far better worded than I :) good reply
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:25 AM
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But in fairness a lot of women do expect to be entertained and provide nothing in return.. especially the ones who cant stop looking at their phones
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:23 AM
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I'd probably ramble significantly and then you'd know I have adhd
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:22 AM
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Yeah I mean I have to workout 5-6x a week and was crying on this week's coaching call about my genetics being the reason why I have to work as hard as I do when other women can be thin and hot without the same work and diet restrictions. But I love food so I'll have to find joy in the balance between the two. I'm so grateful that I never had to lose too much weight. Not only does it take forever and is hard, but being seen as fat or obese is really mentally draining, and you can have a worse met…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:20 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:11 AM
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I mentioned it in my other comment but what utility is a statement of a fact? Are we trying to establish facts, or are we discussing something more abstract than a fact? Maybe someone who wants to dispute the fact cares more about why the fact matters than the fact being true. The reason is, because human capacity exists well beyond the willingness of most people. This means many people are capable of doing more than what they are currently doing. Do we want to act like all 70 year olds could ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:10 AM
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Things aren't always abstract and people arent always concrete. Is the discussion of psychology or philosophy as it pertains to life and humans, not abstract? Is the discussion of how one can change their car oil abstract? People and things don't simple map to non abstract and abstract, but it was a good try
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:06 AM
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I don't blame people for that at all, but at that point many people just choose to lower their standards for a romantic partner or make the change to attract people that fit their ideals better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:03 AM
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Awwww
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 03:00 AM
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Ooh the exact kind of post I was looking for (I might have made one of the ones from last year) but let's see He loves spending time with my family 😺 and is great with the kids I make him breakfast, lunch and dinner every day and make sure I fufill whatever he's been craving recently He picks up on stuff and does little favors for me without asking. Last time he grabbed me some apple cider donuts from a bakery because I was craving them lol I try to make him smile or laugh by being cute, silly, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:59 AM
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I'd probably just talk about my job. That's why I found someone who was doing the same major as me. We always have a topic go discuss. But it's possible those women are simply not super abstract. I would never call myself cerebral, I'd rather discuss a theory or a problem to solve and that's what I'm drawn to even when talking to anyone, but saying it sounds hollow, fake, even presumptuous. I'd expect the other person to make their judgement all on their own and for me to, if I want to be seen a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:42 AM
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Ain't nothing wrong with wanting to not self flaggelate about how awesome you are on a date and instead discuss shared interests so personality shines through that ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:29 AM
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Because they like food more than they like men
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:27 AM
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Yes, all women are like that, even me. But I don’t want to be like that so I try hard not to be so and fail sometimes when I am not being as self-aware as I should be. It's never occurred to me to use those exact words in the heat of an abstract argument, and maybe to an extent it also is implied, but that's exactly how I feel. I wouldn't be so open with the bipolar disorder and interest in DBT and I wouldn't have my story be that I found about TRP 8 years ago and felt like I was AWALT and sough…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:25 AM
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Which comedian said that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:12 AM
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Ah,well I'm unsure who is or isn't lying but I cannot relate
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 02:02 AM
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Yes true, but one could have some hope
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:44 AM
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For sure. That's one of the limitations of the platform is the inability to see into eachothers true lives
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:43 AM
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I'm sure most people if given the right guidance could choose to do so intentionally , but most people rather become jaded
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:31 AM
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I'm sure there is ways to lessen the gap ...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:24 AM
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I do not assume as such most of my arguments are with people who act as if that is the case, but that's neither here nor there. It's true that it's not a refutation of the general rule, but rather why the general rule matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:06 AM
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I mean. If it was like 5% of women that's also something to consider. If men would rather not give up on finding a person worthwhile to them they may first want to assess if it's really an impossibility to encounter one of the outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 01:01 AM
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Well it's a starting point. A place where we can both agree. "outliers exist". Now what percent of them is definitely for debate, I wonder at what percentage do we actually start caring to consider the fact that it's likely you'll meet them?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:59 AM
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You can also aknowledge that then, that most people who have the opposing viewpoint are outliers, but they exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:54 AM
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I shouldn't have to explain to you the relevance of my comment given how you just use geniuses and morons to substantiate your claims when they are on the odd ends of the bell curve...
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:48 AM
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Too bad. I love food pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:47 AM
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Let's see your creations then. And ime some middle aged mother's make a fucking delicious meal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:40 AM
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Most people of either gender are not abstract thinkers. You know what a bell curve is right
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:39 AM
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Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:38 AM
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Why do men struggle with the abstract concept of there being a sizable amount of outliers to their world view ?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:36 AM
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So you're saying you cook?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:25 AM
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Well, I think something that I often see in RP is that women can't "handle" TRP and would prefer to deny it than discuss it. I also see many claims that women are not rational, and so on. But it's fair to say women dont experience sexual dynamics the way men do, how could they? Sometimes I get the vibe that a lot of women here are being very defensive as if they have skin in the game. But the truth is, there are a lot of points RP makes which are fair and hard to refute, but there are so many la…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/20 12:09 AM
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At least 10 of those incels look perfectly fuckable, I hope they got their dicks wet
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 11:42 PM
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He's still a pussy who hides his opinions off of this idiotic idea that he would be banned for having standard red pill anti women viewpoints lolll. This is not the first time between us but it's the first time I can. Openly call him a bitch and a pussy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 11:14 PM
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I'm agreeing that women who struggle with dating are pathetic. Unless they're sub 5/10 then I get it, it's not as easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 11:08 PM
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Well I'm a woman who some may consider attractive, it is easy to attract men, it's luck to attract the right men, and I'm lucky that I didn't have these unrealistic standards lots of other women seem to have so that I was open to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 11:03 PM
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Im a JavaScript person myself
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 11:01 PM
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This is the meaning of tribal knowledge Tribal knowledge is information or knowledge that is known within a tribe but often unknown outside of it. A tribe, in this sense, may be a group or subgroup of people that share such a common knowledge. What I mean is, it's far from universal. It's not "men's experience" as there are a lot of men who refute RP, blue pilled men who argue against TRP on the sub for instance or those outside of RP like my husband. But regardless, I'd be happy to discuss a to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 10:50 PM
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Well, ya I mean. Most women want tall men. I wouldn't date a guy shorter than my H, even I want a significant height delta, it's just easier for me to achieve given I'm 4'11
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 10:36 PM
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I know you're too much of a bitch to come at me sooo go fuck yourself , you've done this to me MULTIPLE TIMES and it's not a good look that you're so afwaid of the mods even when it's fucking purge time. Give me a break you limp dick pos
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 10:32 PM
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You know it's purge right. You cant get banned for whatever you would say so just say it, unless you're too much of a pussy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 10:25 PM
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I don't think there are any 8s here tbh unless you remember specific folks from pic the thread you feel like calling out
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 10:24 PM
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I'm not an 8, but regardless for me face > height
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/20 10:22 PM
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