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| 3 | Most shocking responses from r/seduction I've seenThat makes a lot of sense. I remember I was talking to this guy who pulled away, said his exes were crazy, and was just very distant. I was just starting to really embrace FDS and assumed he was wasting my time and not that into me and removed him from snapchat. He was so hurt and offended. It kinda makes sense now. It probably worked really well for him, but only landed him women with unhealthy standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 02:23 AM |
| 3 | Most shocking responses from r/seduction I've seenHow does this work? Even in peak pickmeisha days if a guy was barely texting me, I would get insecure and lose interest. I only ever chased guys that I was REALLY into (about 2 guys total). Even then, I felt so awkward forcing it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 02:07 AM |
| 7 | LVM putting down other women then complimenting? GrossAnd it is a PUA strategy too. Apparently, if you talk shit about other women, it makes the girl feel special /: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 03:16 PM |
| 8 | I’m trying my best not to lose my shitIt's usually not the other woman at fault but the man... Just gonna put that out there. He is capable, just not doing anything cause he either doesn't care enough and/or likes the attention | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:26 PM |
| 1 | The F*cking Audacity of Them to Use Me and My Sisters for Good PR. Duck them and Duck All Who See Me This Way!!Yup! Let's help with the dehumanization of black men and women by dehumanizing black women as sex objects some more! /: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 06:37 PM |
| 19 | Scrotes deny being predatory and encourage large age gaps!My thought exactly! I do not see droves of middle-aged women hitting on, stalking, manipulating, and sexting much younger men. It is just not the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 12:54 PM |
| 7 | Today on an accounting forum I frequent a guy said this to me when I said women only make up 20% of firm partners :Exactly! women work 40 hours but put in 30 hours in childcare and housework | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 09:18 PM |
| 12 | Since we're always discussing male depravity & misogyny on here...Yup! I have always noticed, the more colorist/racist a guy is towards black women (especially black men) the more sexist they are. I have never met a black guy who looks down on black women who was a good boyfriend/husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 09:12 PM |
| 17 | Since we're always discussing male depravity & misogyny on here...I am so tired of seeing black men shit on black women. The amount of beautiful, educated black women I have met that get mistreated by deadbeat fathers with rap sheets... I just can't A little anecdote, my bio dad is black, but he refused to date black women. Basically refused to date anyone who wasn't' white. This man who skipped out on me and my half brothers, has been jailed, and has no degree has the audacity to look down on black women. And don't even get me started on the colorism that bla… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 09:10 PM |
| 2 | Second disappointing man in one week. My major, apparently, is cute.I am ABSOLUTELY going to try this lolol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 03:20 PM |
| 1 | What’s the consensus here on prenuptials???Good point! I never realized that. Guess I had a distorted perception of prenups in my head | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 07:51 PM |
| 3 | Blocked him a few months ago after I broke it off with him but apparently I still receive msgs on my laptopThe same thing happened to me. Guy emotionally mainpulated and future faked me. I spent four hours one night counseling him about his ex (second date btw), he never took me on an actual date, and then I woke up to him banging the girl in the dorm room next to me. Then, he messages me to tell me he is getting back together with his ex (who of course was "crazy"). I wished him the best then blocked him, and every time I would walk past him, he would stare daggers at me lololol. Why do I have to ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 01:12 PM |
| 19 | The fundamental reason men will never get FDS is because they mistake patriarchal social conditioning with innate female desire.This is my big problem with the field of evolutionary biology. A lot of the men/figureheads assume cultural norms we have are natural. No, they have just been ingrained in us | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 12:56 PM |
| 3 | How do I say no to men without putting myself at risk?I was actually considering a gun. I never want to be in a position to use it, but I have just ran into and experienced some crazy things with guys | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 12:22 PM |
| 70 | Major makeup brand posts this on Facebook with the caption “hey, at least it’s the thought that counts??”. Chaos ensues in the comments.Yup. Quarantining with my parents right now. The only thing my dad knows how to cook is meat on the grill, and always makes a huge mess that me and my mom have to clean up afterwards. I like to try new dishes, and he ALWAYS critiques the shit out of them or looks at them nastily. Meanwhile, I have literally never seen him cook anything besides meat and my dishes are bomb af. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 12:53 PM |
| 3 | How do I say no to men without putting myself at risk?Yeah, I am thinking of applying for jobs on campus when schools open back up. Being a server, as shitty as it can be, does make decent money though (minimum wage is 10$ here, I average anywhere from 15$ to 30$ and hour). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 12:48 PM |
| 28 | I can’t believe how long it took me to realize that the “nagging wife” sitcom stereotype is literally just “useless husband is incapable of doing his share of the housework despite being repeatedly asked” framed to demonize the woman.Damn! That sucks, but just imagine how terrible your life would've been had you stayed together. Good on you for pulling yourself together again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 11:50 PM |
| 24 | We are staunchly Pro - Ghosting on this sub. Any comments guilt tripping women for dropping communication with men without explanation will be removed.YUP! It should also be remembered that when men ghost women, it is oftentimes after they are done using (what they perceive to be) their sex toy. When women ghost, it is oftentimes for safety (emotional/mental/physical). THAT is why male and female ghosting is not the same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 11:47 PM |
| 11 | My experience implementing the "3 month rule" on FDS has sold me on making sure it's going to be a Forever Dating Strategy. My experience implementing this has been nothing but positive and empowering!Not everyone's timeline has to be the same. The main idea to keep in mind is to wait 3 months for sex (at least), and make sure you are not the forever girlfriend (together for over 3+ years, but no ring). Also, engagements usually last 1-2 years, so hypothetically you would have been together for 2-3 years. If it is too fast, you can extend the boyfriend/girlfriend phase. If you are younger like me, or not wanting to get married anytime soon, then dating/being in an LTR longer is fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 12:54 AM |
| 2 | Men call women “gold diggers”, but no one ever calls men out for what they dig for.Yup. Cause apparently it's wrong to use someone for money but okay to treat someone like an animated blow-up doll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 12:06 AM |
| 4 | Ladies.. this “advice” 🚩Do guys like this ever think that maybe women don't jump in bed with them (besides their crappy personalities) is because we want an actual relationship? Being treated like a sex toy over and over is not ideal? And that is why a lot of women don't want to sleep with a dude right away? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 02:25 PM |
| 10 | Really felt for this woman. I just hope she keeps her standards high and knows her worth now.This happened to me too. Guy asked me out (to a party at his frat house ugh) and then got super wasted and passed out upstairs while I was downstairs alone. Luckily I knew a couple of people, and I am a social person. So the night wasn't too bad. But it was still SO RUDE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 06:22 PM |
| 8 | [Throwaway] hotness VS beauty and effective strategyI half agree half disagree with this clip. I do think that men have the madonna-whore complex, and will often times put you in the category of short term or longterm. I do think when you focus too much on the wrong type of sexuality (in your face, obviously for attention), it can attract predators because attention-seeking behavior generally does come from a place of inadequacy and is easy to manipulate (not at all saying if you show cleavage or if you wear short skirts/pants, you are automatica… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 01:56 PM |
| 15 | A humble list of ways following FDS improved my life.FDS helped me to find my passions and career goals. Not planning my life on a potential man, and putting myself first has really freed me, and has helped me realise just how much I want to accomplish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 07:40 PM |
| 5 | "Women are less attractive at 30+" Another proof of the misogyny of Reddit, commented on his thread where he is bashing his girlfriend, but he let the comment I quoted slip, got down voted and then that comment is just a cherry on top. I hate these men so much.Oh yeah. Because me, a 20-year-old who doesn't drink/smoke, has a great skincare routine with tons of SPF in it, who eats a shit ton of vegetables, and works out is going to age worse and hit the wall sooner than Mr. fratboy who binge drinks three nights a week and has no clue what Hyaluronic acid is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 07:37 PM |
| 16 | I cannot believe this 🤮 ladies, men doing ANYTHING to you in your sleep without consent is assault.Man, I would have deleted those videos, smashed the computer, smashed the camera, and then thrown all of his shit outside and kicked him the fuck out. Maybe even destroyed the phone in case there was something on there. This poor woman. My heart breaks when I hear stories like this. And the worst part is taking it to court might be useless, because there really is no way to prove she was actually sleeping or that these were taken against her will. The justice system is shit with things like this… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 05:44 PM |
| 1 | NVM live in an alternate universe where they do no wrong.I would keep him blocked, and maybe talk to friends/family/counseling instead. I get we have those days where we need to talk to someone about our feelings, but long term, talking to someone like an ex will cause more emotional damage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 03:22 PM |
| 4 | NVM live in an alternate universe where they do no wrong.You need to block him girl! Rip off the bandaid. Expecting yourself to show control when he does things to get your attention is a bad idea. For the sake of moving on, block him. If he has no way to access you/get into your headspace, he will no longer have a significant amount of space in your head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 10:36 PM |
| 9 | UPDATE: The scrotes got mad because I commented “men will slide that age of consent as low as possible if we let you” on a post full of men who were arguing why the age of consent should be lowered. Now I’m banned for “pushing a misandrist narrative” that was responding to men’s ACTUAL COMMENTS 😒This so much. I just cannot wrap my head around being in your 20's and wanting a highschooler. I am only 20, and 17-year-olds look like babies to me. It is weird, and definitely not misandrist to call it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 10:21 PM |
| 15 | What do you think, ladies?Couldn't have said it better. Many women sacrifice so much. Men can at least be gentlemen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 09:36 PM |
| 27 | Reminder on what men really areExactly! I especially get mad when you point out the astronomically large numbers of unreported rapes and sexual assaults, and jaw-dropping statistics about how many women have been assaulted. Men's first reaction is to always point to the studies being "faulty". When the vast majority of studies point to 1/2 to 3/4 women having had been assaulted, is this really faulty studies and statistics, or is it simply that we as a society underestimate how many dangerous men are out there? If at least ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 05:33 PM |
| 30 | LVM can't be changed. Please just stop having kids with them. Sincerely: an lvm's daughterThe more I look into it, the more I realize just how big of a red flag a man refusing to wear a condom is. I had THE WORST experience of my life on birth control, and refuse to try other forms. He can wear a condom or GTFO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 09:52 PM |
| 5 | One smart Grandma! I came across this post on LinkedIn, and the comments were full of PickMes and men saying that this is “misandrist and dishonest”. Ladies, looking out for yourself is in YOUR BEST INTEREST.Damn, what you said about trust being the hope another person doesn't screw you... I have always felt that, but never knew how to put it into words! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 03:31 PM |
| 4 | Desi pickmes are something elseUsing his name, power, reputation, credit cards, but he's using your body, heart, time, womb, energy. It reminds me how people will demonize a gold digger, but not the man using her. I am not taking it out on you, just calling out bad logic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 08:49 PM |
| 7 | Desi pickmes are something elseI am gonna assume your comment is satire, but I am so tired of this line of thinking. Like, expecting financial commitment/investment is wrong and unfeminist, but yet no one ever addresses how screwed over women usually are in relationships. Using HIS things is fine because if you are married, he is also using YOUR things. On top of that, oftentimes men use YOUR labor. When the risks women face are mitigated (rape, abuse, revenge porn, being used for sex, etc), and the status quo isn't unequal l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 06:41 PM |
| 17 | Desi pickmes are something elseSo, I cannot use half of his stuff, but I can spend the vast majority of my time birthing and taking care of his children, cleaning the home, doing the emotional labor for family, supporting and moving for his career, all the while having my own career? GTFO! Once the gender imbalance becomes more balanced, I will take arguments like this more seriously. But I am so tired of feminism meaning more work for women. I will gladly use half a man's shit because chances are, I am doing more than he is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 06:00 PM |
| 40 | Is sacrificing of time not love?Especially considering most women will sacrifice their careers for their SOs! Like, could you imagine putting in 10 years of your youth, not taking jobs across the country/raises/investing in your career, picking up after a man emotionally and physically, and then hearing this shit! I cannot even | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 04:03 PM |
| 10 | Anyone who's 20+ years old and never been in a relationship before due to fear of men? Or am i alone in this? Please help me :(You are literally in the same boat as me! I do not have any advice, but I just have to say, I feel you and am in the exact same situation. When you are ignored and see things from the outside, it is really easy to see things for what they are. I fear men, because when I was chubby and socially awkward, MEN were the ones that treated me the worst. MEN were the ones to make fun of my clothing/face/body and MEN were the ones to yell at and degrade me. With women, even though I have had some bad exp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 02:57 PM |
| 7 | Don’t feel bad about ghosting LVM. Cuz they don’t feel bad when they ghost you.This is an important reminder. I find that even if someone makes me cry, hat myself, feel bad, etc. I will feel guilty for sticking up for myself. Thanks for the reminder! This is currently the thing I am working on the most | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 02:33 PM |
| 5 | Sisters, what led you to realize you needed the knowledge from this subreddit instead of dating the conventional way. In other words, what made you woke to the game?Thanks! I am thankful for my pickmeisha days though in a way, because they have made me so much more aware of who I want to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 05:42 PM |
| 10 | Sisters, what led you to realize you needed the knowledge from this subreddit instead of dating the conventional way. In other words, what made you woke to the game?I spent my whole first year of college practically in love with a Catholic (I am not religious) guy who didn't talk about anything other than baseball. Even went as far as to try to memorize all of the players on his favorite team, learn how baseball was played, and almost even converted to Catholicism. We were not even DATING! Then, what really hammered the nail into the coffin was when months later after I thought I had some dignity, I saw a video of me bending over a couch, waving my hands sp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 09:08 PM |
| 49 | Came across a post about a 35 year old school teacher raping a 6th grader. Men: “no one cares about male rape victims!” Also men:MRA guys generally only care about male rape when it distracts from female rape/problems in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/05/20 11:43 PM |
| 10 | Was my ex a HVM? He was narcissistic and difficult with me, but has been with his new gf for well over a year in an apparently loving relationship... ?I remember hearing an analogy that eagles stay with eagles and pigeons stay with pigeons. Eagles do not sit around wondering why pigeons do not want to hang out with them, and why pigeons get along better with other pigeons. He is probably with a pickmeisha who value-wise doesn't realize her worth, or isn't as high value as you. That is why it works because she will deal with things that you will not. He most likely hasn't changed, he just found someone more willing to put up with his shit. Also… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 05:34 PM |
| 5 | A Word on Shallon LesterThose are good points. But I do feel like she is one of the closest dating gurus to FDS. All the others just make me cringe | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 08:55 PM |
| 26 | I’m crying y’allTrue. I wish guys would quit with all the toxic masculinity. Nice hair, good skin, and a good style are fiiiine as hell. Nothing hot about a hairy brute | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 08:45 PM |
| 33 | I’m crying y’allThis is why I like Asian dramas. The men are almost always fine as hell, sometimes even better looking than the women. I cannot stomach another romance with mismatched characters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/20 07:28 PM |
| 14 | Don't let LVM approach you or waste your time...ANY OF ITI thaught the same thing. How in hell did he think either of those women enjoyed it? I... I can't | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 10:37 PM |
| 9 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)This reminds me of a post where a guy threw out his girlfriend's shampoo without her permission because HE thought it was a waste of money. The audacity. Also, mason jars as cups if amazing. GTFO my dude! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 12:47 PM |
| 11 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)I think all lives are meaningful and do support accepting, understanding, and helping people with disabilities. But to deny the reality that certain disorders like autism, schizophrenia, depression, etc. make life harder for people and for their family members is ridiculous. Two of my cousins have autism, and it has made life very hard for them and for my family members. Same with depression (I do not know anyone with schizophrenia). Wanting healthy children with as few problems as possible is n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 12:44 PM |
| 18 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)Yeah, I could see them subsidizing men but charging women. But honestly, I feel like wanting children is more programmed into women, so women are more likely to think ahead. I highly doubt the average man would do that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 01:47 AM |
| 7 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)No problem! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 01:45 AM |
| 17 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)Ugh! That is so rough. There is genuinely no positives to dating men decades older (unless for money I guess. But why not focus on making money yourself?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 01:45 AM |
| 13 | Men and their biological clocks; why you shouldn't settle, listen to sexist rhetoric, and why older men are not better (With sources and links)No problem! I have been pretty bored with quarantine and wanted to get around to researching this topic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 01:44 AM |
| 3 | Encountered LVM behavior about my mixed ethnicity with my ex and now another man and I do not know how to approach it.I think by real she meant representing something other than the "sexy Latina" stereotype. I am not Latina myself, but I genuinely cannot think of more than two strong, non sexualised, well known Hispanic women in the US. I even somewhat get it being half black. I at least have some strong black figures to look up to and be represented by (certainly more than Latina women have), and yet the majority of black female representation is big overly sexualized booties and nails. This isn't real represe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 06:32 PM |
| 1 | My ex sent me an apology emailThis! You sound like a strong amazing woman, he blew his chance. Good on you for having the dignity to ignore and the strength to move past! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 03:28 PM |
| 2 | What are some signs he JUST WAS NOT THAT INTO YOU that you wish you would have seen as a Pickmeisha?Ugh! And I spent my whole freshman year of college fawning over a guy who literally TOLD me he liked someone else 🤦🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 06:05 PM |
| 2 | A pollI guess I meant until he was emotionally stable. Like, I wouldn't break up with him the same day. Good points though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 02:29 AM |
| 8 | A pollI think I would first look at our situation. Only together for a couple of weeks/months? No, not gonna happen. Gave me a shut up ring/I was a long term live in girlfriend knowing that I wanted more? No, not going to happen. Cheated on me/disrespected me/took advantage of me? No, not gonna happen. Most likely wouldn't do the same for me? No, not gonna happen. I would wait for him to get settled in and use to life, but if he left me as an option, never really committed, and did the bare minimum, w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 05:10 PM |
| 13 | this is what happens when you "give the ugly/fat guy a chance". attraction is important in a relationship, you can't be with someone you're not attracted to. don't let anyone shame you for that.I remember in my freshman year of college, there was this girl in my dorm who multiple guys fawned over. She liked one guy, (tall, muscular, same religion as her, etc.) but he wasn't into her at all. These other dudes (one really overweight, one who was 5'4 on a good day, and one who was so skinny it was icky) all liked her and fawned over her. She ended up settling for the 5'4 guy, even though she was pretty, tallish, and very popular. I think part of it was because he refused to give up. He wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 02:11 PM |
| 51 | What are some signs he JUST WAS NOT THAT INTO YOU that you wish you would have seen as a Pickmeisha?When he talks about another woman he thinks is attractive. He's not playin hard to get sis, he aint even playin | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 01:32 PM |
| 10 | Why are most men so terrible at consoling people?I just cut him off halfway through, but it didn't seem like my place. My friend loves him and was already emotional, so starting an argument with her (very) argumentative husband didn't seem like the best of ideas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 02:43 PM |
| 26 | Why are most men so terrible at consoling people?Please tell me you dumped in a brutal way! That is the most trashy thing I have heard of in a while | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 02:41 PM |
| 2 | I liked a guy, and then he said "Sometimes I am afraid to say what I think"That is a huge red flag for me! When straight, white, men say they are scared to express their opinions, I just assume they got a MAGA hat somewhere | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 01:57 AM |
| 38 | This sub makes me want to die a virginGood point. I do think guys are either trying to run through as many girls as possible, or are very religious and looking for the first girl to marry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 11:42 PM |
| 68 | This sub makes me want to die a virginExactly! This has definitely taken the pressure off of me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 06:55 PM |
| 7 | Especially #2. Stop giving people the benefit of the doubt. If they don’t reach out, put forth effort, or make you a priority, don’t keep hurting yourself by making excuses for their behavior.It is hard, but when you look back, you'll see it as respecting yourself. I have never chased after a guy and came back feeling good about myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 03:44 PM |
| 7 | Don’t write the paragraph sis, he don’t care. Unmatch, block, delete.I feel this! I am really interested in spiritual rituals, and there is something really cathartic about burning things with emotions attached to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 05:56 PM |
| 18 | Don’t write the paragraph sis, he don’t care. Unmatch, block, delete.What is a dating notepad? Like just keeping notes when dating someone about them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/20 05:54 PM |
| 14 | Never met a straight guy who wanted to be my friend without some intentionIt could be the level of friendship. I feel like when it is a more friendly acquaintance situation, you can be 'friends'. but messaging all day, sharing deep intimate stories, doing events/fun excursions together. etc can cause feelings. Or on the other hand, I have had situations where they definitely were not attracted to me, but then would be really mean and/or use me as a free therapist. I just avoid male friendships now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 11:09 PM |
| 48 | As requested: a medical professional explains why you should not be having anal sex.I am so sorry this happened. Reading this as a 19-year-old girl is really encouraging me to have stronger sexual boundaries. I am so sorry this had to happen to you. On the bright side, your story could save so many women. Keeping you in my thoughts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 04:16 PM |
| 7 | Create a life you would be happy to enjoy by yourself, and you won't feel the need to settle or compromise for someone else.You guys always post the most inspirational things! I really needed to hear this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 03:29 PM |
| 7 | For for the ladies who think taking him back after he apologizes is a good idea...YES! I just went through this with a friend of mine. Gave me the "I'm sorry, but..." multiple times about the same thing and yet continued the same bad behavior. I am starting to see this as a red flag in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 11:55 PM |
| 6 | Is Hollywood brainwashing us?EXACTLY! What is it with society always demonizing successful women? A movie about how Miranda came to be would have been so much more interesting. Why did she become so cutthroat? How did she develop? What did she learn from life? Whenever it is a male protagonist who is a workaholic, the message is always, "he just needs to find balance". But if it is a woman, "If only she had a man." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 06:31 PM |
| 3 | Just Called Out a Group of LVMI think that was the problem too. We are all 19-20, so I kept telling myself it was just them "being boys". It is kinda funny how young men who are jerks just "need to grow" and old men who are jerks have "just been through hard things and need love". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 04:12 PM |
| 6 | Just Called Out a Group of LVMI think that was the problem too. We are all 19-20, so I kept telling myself it was just them "being boys". It is kinda funny how young men who are jerks just "need to grow" and old men who are jerks have "just been through hard things and need love". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 04:12 PM |
| 30 | Just Called Out a Group of LVMSo true. I even threw in a little "Is this how men are supposed to act?" I swear you have to embarrass some men for them to just leave you alone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 06:04 AM |
| 42 | Just Called Out a Group of LVMThanks! Honestly reading about strong women from this sub has really helped me gain confidence | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 06:02 AM |
| 46 | Just Called Out a Group of LVMThanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 05:45 AM |
| 11 | Just Called Out a Group of LVMThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 05:45 AM |
| 45 | Just Called Out a Group of LVMI feel the patriarchy part. It's really hard because even though these guys have made me cry multiple times and feel so terrible about myself, I still felt bad for calling them out. God, sometimes I wish I had the self-absorption of an LVM. Guess we just have to keep fighting the patriarchy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 05:44 AM |
| 49 | Just Called Out a Group of LVMThat is a good idea! Know my college is strict about harassment and bullying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 05:42 AM |
| 2 | It seems like religious communities convince women to extremely lower their standards for menI used to be really religious and socially conservative. Let's just say, being an opinionated, talkative, ambitious, mixed-race girl didn't fit into the ideal. And then I would wonder why I was so sad and unhappy. Like, I was feeling so terrible about myself, because I was told left and right that the most important thing I could do was get a man, then when I was a pickme and still didn't get a man, I was depressed. So glad I left that school of thought and I can be who I want! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 04:36 AM |
| 24 | Are most older women suffering from internal misogyny?Mine is the opposite. She dropped out of high school and wasted over 60 years with a man who cheated on her and had another family. If I even try to bring up boys, she shuts that down and asks me about school and traveling. I think each person reacts to things differently. Some rebel, some enforce. Glad you could see through this bad advice. Just make sure not to internalize it and start feeling like you should settle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 03:23 PM |
| 4 | "don't reveal your sexual history to a man" - not even if you are in a commited relationship with a HVM?This makes sense, but wouldn't more appropriate questions be like, "have you ever cheated?", "What kinks are you into", "What is your std history and the last time you got checked?", "How do you view sex?", "Have you ever cheated on someone?", etc. A man or woman could have a really high number but that doesn't mean anything. I think that asking a body count is more of an ego thing than an information/safety thing (especially when guys ask it). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 09:34 PM |
| 4 | What was your biggest Pickmeisha moment?I changed religions for a guy, stopped doing clubs and activities he found "sinful", went to church 3 times a week to impress him, and changed my major so he would think I was intelligent enough for him. Then one day I had his roommate let me into his dorm room and slipped a note into his computer that basically told him that I really liked him and thought we should date. I even had a check yes/no (I thought it would make it more light-hearted). Mind you, I did all of this note stuff literally H… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 01:28 AM |
| 13 | Male "friends"Right! I am still on a weight loss journey but I am definitely starting to feel like I am coming out of the ugly duckling phase (I'm almost 20). On one hand, it feels good, on another, it's so sad that this is the reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 10:53 PM |
| 20 | Male "friends"Honestly though, I have turned down men I was not attracted to and still showed them respect (even the creepy ones). Men are just a different breed sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 09:06 PM |
| 6 | Male "friends"Thanks! This was really a really sweet reply! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 09:04 PM |
| 50 | Male "friends"Exactly! Thanks to this sub, I no longer see guys dumping their problems on me as "TRUSTING ME". No, they are just using me for emotional labor. I am waaay more willing to be that bitch who's like, "did I ask for your problems? No? Then don't waste my time." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 07:13 PM |
| 43 | Male "friends"I am so sorry you had to go through that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 06:18 PM |
| 28 | Male "friends"Preach dude! It is really hard not to get your feelings hurt too. Like, the only thing that affords me the ability to be treated well is if you want to fuck me? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 06:16 PM |
| 91 | Male "friends"Truth! You realize how much other women really have to offer! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 04:15 PM |
| 72 | Male "friends"Exactly! The funny thing is all of my "shallow" female friends are the ones who have been nicest to me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 04:15 PM |
| 3 | Dating hurdles specific to where you live? How do you get past that?I am in college in the midwest. Men fall into two groups; super Christian and trying to get hitched to a "traditional" woman (ie. white, docile, and love to cook and clean), or are party boys just trying to get their D wet. There are some guys in between, but it can be really hard to find. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 07:45 PM |
| 5 | Change the view.So true! I let myself chase a man that I had been friend zoned by for over a year. Almost did it again, but then found FDS and stopped that shit in its track. Honestly, when you love yourself and feel good about who you are, men just become so... secondary. 2020 has been so smoothe thankfully | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 03:18 AM |
| 4 | There's no such thing as a "looksmatch". Don't let ugly men make you feel bad about your high standards or shame you into dating them!Exactly! I actually do really wish it was more acceptable for men to wear makeup. Like, please cover that huge puss filled zit with some cream and makeup dude /: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 12:20 AM |
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