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what a f'kin boatload of crap. i did the chores, the cooking, held down a job for health benefits and car insurance. she just did, well, nothing for the family. i even let her mom live rent-free in the house. i gave her the house and half-of my 401K. this was pretty much for my boys benefit. some women should not have children. its like that sinatra song ... "regrets, i've had a few" ... got the balls to ask her for a divorce after 30 years of living hell.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/24 10:09 PM
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done.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 10:30 AM
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sorry folks, i will not harm anyone. it was just an exaggerated comment
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 10:08 AM
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not satire. just working life. i did not threaten my ex, because the police will drag my ass to the psych ward. its a strange world.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 06:48 AM
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no, you are not lost. you are you now. i understand the pain ... currently going thru that. my ex will NOT win this. it is so painful. everyone goes thru this. just be patient. don't take rash actions.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 06:26 AM
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they don't care about you. the best solution i've come up is my glock.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 06:20 AM
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sorry, imho you are being taking to the cleaners. if you want to see your kids just go see them. my ex has refused to bring my 6 yrs old son to see me. i have a court order which should be enforced. maybe i will just get him from middle school and take him out of the country. ex is all about $. i have stopped paying CS. there are ramifications there. when you think life is bad, other folks have it worst. CS for me is $3K. then i need to pay her an additional $1K per month per the divorce decree.…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 05:56 AM
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never leave the house.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 10:57 PM
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whoever makes money pays at least 1/3 of the lawyer fees.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 12:26 AM
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best bet is to move on. if she can do it once, it will happen again. sorry.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/23 12:24 AM
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msc = mandatory settlement conference. its like when both parties get together with a court appointed attorney to see what our differences are. and then meet with the judge at its conclusion. tia = thanks in advance. i was wondering if that was the end of the dissolution.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 08:33 PM
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take some comfort in knowing that no many how many men she hooks up with ... she will never have a 15 year long relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 11:42 PM
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i am emotional but i've got a plan. she will crash and burn without my guidance. i will have my kids. may sound mean, but gonna live thru this. just worried about the kids. she is mean. even to her mom who lives with me. i used to put it down to hormones, but no. but no, you reap what you sow.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 11:38 PM
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just so tired and am willing to do anything to never see her again. its just this dull ache. kinda like a tooth cavity. you can live with it, but its better to just pull the teeth out. she's got the house and the boys. didn't fight. i pretty much raised the 17 yr old by my self. put her thru med school. came out of that without any student debt. worked my ass off. helped her open her medical practice. just giving up and looking to build a new life. at some point in the future the boys may unders…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 12:11 AM
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fuck off and die bitch. use our own words.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 11:10 PM
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true colors.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 11:08 PM
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i got a sun conure. always wants to play and loud as ass. wakes the stbxw every day at 6:30am. :-)
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 11:05 PM
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walk out and go get a beer.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 11:01 PM
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yes. read the sticky.
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/23 10:59 PM
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just say no. that is a very mean request.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 04:58 AM
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if the relationship is going the way you think it is headed, get the finances separated. in CA she gets half of everything you own. experience.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 04:36 AM
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that is a fkin nightmare. you can't undo a broken heart and there will never be any trust that it won't happen again.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/23 04:25 AM
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not a stay at home dad. worked the 9-5. and then wfh until 11pm. came home every 2 hours to watch the kids ... change diapers, feedings, do laundry. make 2x than her even though she is a MD. i have a nanny. no attraction at all. divorce to be finalized in october. gave her the house and full custody. playing nice. hoping she will too.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/23 02:36 AM
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i took care of the kids. changed all diapers. woke up at 2am for feedings. i was so f'kin tired that romance was not on my plate. i'm a dad of 2.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 11:12 PM
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because they are sociopaths ... and have hidden it well. occams razor. simplest solution.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 02:46 PM
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you did the right thing. be proud of that. now its time to leave it all behind. she now see you as an atm.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 05:11 PM
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yep. the boys means more to me that stbx. same house, upstairs downstairs. got a lease on my condo so as soon as that is over i will be moving out (jan timeframe). its not easy ... staying out of each other way while parenting ... like bedtime stories etc.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 09:14 PM
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cheaters gonna cheat. its their nature. keep the kids close and kick her to the proverbial curb.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 08:49 PM
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kids 17yrs m/6yrs m only stayed to take care of the "accident" (6yrs old). finally found my balls to file.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 08:42 PM
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totally ok to cry in front of kids. they will learn its okay to show their emotions and not bottle them up. you are not fighting with your spouse, you are getting divorced. stop co-habitating and tell the psycho to shut tfu and call the lawyer if she has anything to say to you. ffs, the kid is starting preschool. its emotional on everyone.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 08:38 PM
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before filing, i was the daddy and the mommy. now that the divorce is in full swing she lies about my mommy part. she told the mediator that i rarely changed diapers. i've changed so many diapers (practically all ... the lying b) that co-workers joked about my cologne is eau de desitin. let her get a crack at mommy-hood. overall good for the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 08:24 PM
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apart from the dog, you have not lost anything. lots of fishes i the world wide oceans. go travel. don't ruminate. go conquer.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 10:14 PM
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in my case there is no "hatchet burying". we can be friends but i do not want to. it feels like i have a relationship of love with the kids and pure loathing for stbxw for how she broke up my life. ymmw.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/23 01:35 AM
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i would love to see my house repo'd. her mom lives here rent free and does not contribute to the household at all. if it it all fell apart i would be happy. mutual destruction. i'm ok with that.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/23 09:43 PM
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i kept mine. wear it to bars when i don't want to be bothered.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 11:16 PM
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the hurt takes a long time to go away ... and may never. hope the doctors are walking you through grief therapy. loss of a relationship is much like the loss of a child. the grief initially is never ending. you live. don't let the anger and grief become all you are. killing AP does no good. the hurt remains. AP will get what is coming to him. karma is a savage bitch and moves slowly at times, but eventually AP will get what is coming. i feel for you guy.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 10:19 PM
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i know it may be hard, but ignore it. she is trying to control your life via the neighbors. my stbxw has been having lunch with our friends just so the remain _her_ friends. guess i'll see who my true friends are. controlling behavior knows no bounds. stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 10:58 AM
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no you are not. and it goes both ways. my stbxw moved my stuff which i was packing to move out into a storage unit and billed me. came home to no pants/underwear/shirt/etc but she gave me a key to the storage unit.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 03:14 AM
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give yourself some space from her. 2/4/6 months of not seeing her will work wonders. and i mean no contact. like ghost her.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 03:11 AM
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this is the funniest thread i've seen all day long!
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 10:55 PM
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is the phone just a phone or is it the wife? all sorts of stuff in my mind when the bipolar stuff kicks in.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/23 01:32 AM
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thanks folks.
/r/Divorce_Men04/07/23 02:46 PM
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why don't ppl read this b4 they get hitched?
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 10:45 PM
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people change. situations change. its to be expected. what I put into and got out of the marriage was no longer good enough so I chose the divorce. you've got to ask yourself if you can roll with the changes. honestly. I would not recommend it and please do not bring kids in an uncertain situation. an opinion. ymmv.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 08:09 PM
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just play it like you said. that is a bluff. if cps reaches out, show them the apartment. don't let her in.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 02:03 PM
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why would you take her back? move on.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/23 06:41 PM
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i always tell the kids to go the garden and pick some flowers for her. never cared for fathers day gifts either. just seeking some reciprocality. the kids always make something from school for both of us. she just trashes them. i post mine on the kitchen board and keep them all in a little shoe box. some people care. some people don't. can't change that. don't try.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 10:27 PM
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mother's day gifts? why? do you get father's day gifts? askin.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 10:16 PM
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just some harsh stuff. it is not advice. leave. negotiate on custody. don't have another kid. just another anchor. get the divorce finalized and then get your inheritance. money makes people crazy. get out. while you still can. from experience.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 07:29 PM
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rentals worked for me after divorce. no commitments. no emotions. cum and go.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 05:37 PM
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i can understand. my boys are 17 & 5 yrs. i pay my support like clockwork. i just have the $2700 directly deposited out of my paycheck. i eat ramen just so i can make ends meet in my hovel. their mom is a much more stable person ... not the best care-giver but more stable. i am bi-polar. gave her full physical custody. just waiting for an opportunity to kms. big boy will understand. little one will be confused for a while.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/23 04:07 PM
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pay the lawyer for each task. he does not need to be there for each phone call. yea, you may need to rehash the history, but worth it. btw, divorce is not a task. it is your goal.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 06:23 PM
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pretty sure everyone will counsel you to wait until you secure the funds BEFORE signing anything.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 02:13 PM
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