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RELATIONSHIPSidkwhoelsetoask/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 03:34 PM
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We didn’t have any particular conversations because it was implied that I was there for a short time but he did say you don’t decide these things, you don’t know till you know kinda thing. I just feel like we connected but maybe I’m realizing people do connect on deeper levels and still not pursue the person. It’s so strange how the dating scene is these days.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/24 04:27 PM
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I came on here to write exactly what you shared, except it was 5 years. I’ve been moving on, more successfully than I imagined, but not quite there yet. It’s been almost a year since I left. My issue is that the effects of it haven’t worn off. I feel used up, especially emotionally, and don’t have the capacity to love another person. I want a HVM, but I don’t know. It’s not that easy. I also want kids, but could see myself living out the rest of my life exactly where I am right now. I have a fwb…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/23 07:48 PM
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I did, just said “i’m not actually going but thank you” he hasn’t responded :( oh well
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 07:17 PM
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Hehehe okay I did it and then followed up with an apology and that it was an accident, then he replied telling me it’s okay and wished me luck because the document was about a work trip (that I’m not actually going to because I gave my spot to someone else). It seems he read it. Is there potential to respond or just leave it
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 04:59 PM
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How about I pretend to accidentally forward something to him, for now, cause I’ve had that happen before and that’s kind of how we got to speaking. I went looking for the guy I accidentally CC-ed (him) and apologized and asked him to ignore it. But that was like 3 months ago. Ok idk now that I’ve typed it out it feels a bit dumb. idk. Face to face is definitely better.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 03:24 PM
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We don’t use any messenger :( weirdly enough. sigh. you’re right
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 12:12 PM
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So I should just hold off until I see him around irl and maybe figure out something to do then? I mean it’s a lot less hasty and risk free but I’m growing so impatient and I don’t know when I’ll see him next. I think he does evening shifts now, and I do morning. But you’re right. It’s definitely the better thing to do
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/23 11:50 AM
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Not at all, I was just not really down to watch his reaction to it, because he’s been thinking we’re having a great time. Anyway, I’ve been reconsidering since because right after typing this up and posting it, him and I have had a few long important conversations that have been very comforting and left me feeling hopeful.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 08:39 AM
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I will. You’re right. We had a decent conversation yesterday that put my mind at ease regarding a few of my concerns. I needed it and now I’m reconsidering this whole thing.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 08:37 AM
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We had an important and long conversation last night that made me feel more comfortable and made me rethink breaking up as a solution. You’re right, sometimes we just need to talk it out. The awareness and receptivity is more than enough to make me want to give it a chance.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 08:36 AM
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fuck no i would never date a cousin lmao.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/22 08:40 AM
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Thank you so much for taking the time to write out such a thorough response. You have no idea how reassuring this was. You’re right, someone did betray my trust and instead of seeing it that way I’m somehow choosing to blame myself for it. I also appreciate what you said about giving someone a heads-up before diving into it. I’ve slowly learned to be careful, but sometimes when trusting people I lose track and just end up word-vomiting everything that’s on my mind. Keeping the information concis…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 10:56 AM
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I’m happy for you. And wish for the same level of commitment for myself. All I’m saying is I’m open to having us get back together. I will know when I know.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/22 08:32 PM
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I’ll know when I know. for now, I hope. maybe I’ll grow out of this hope, who knows!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/22 06:50 PM
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My ex partner told me to live my life until further notice. If we reconcile, I will definitely tell him. What I’m struggling with right now is the guilt of having made comparisons possible and I guess I’m trying to see if there’s a different way to view this situation.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/22 12:25 PM
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Thank you for this. I will think about this and proceed accordingly. I have decided to go back to nun-mode considering this did not work for me in the slightest. Solo pleasure, at the very least, leads to an orgasm, and a guilt-free one at that!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/22 12:24 PM
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Your reaction to birth control is highly dependent on the type of birth control you take. So if you’ve previously had undesirable side effects, such as feeling depressed and suicidal, I would look into whether it was estrogen based, progesterone based, or if it has a bit of both, and start from there. Some recommend progesterone BC, and claim it has less long term harm on your body, as it does not pump your body up with estrogen, which can be detrimental depending on your personal hormone levels…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 06:00 PM
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Thank you for your positive insight and comment :) I really appreciate it!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/21 07:39 PM
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you’re right. thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 06:19 PM
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you’re right. I like your outlook on it and I think we share the same values. I feel like I’ve gotten an opportunity to upgrade the quality of what I already have, and so far it hasn’t changed me one bit. I just always see hear about how others have changed as soon as they’ve landed a more lucrative opportunity, and would like to avoid that and not fall into it the wrong way. my SO has been nothing but supportive. and for sure, I would never bring it up in that way, as I don’t look down on him a…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 06:18 PM
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he never expressed resentment, I was just wondering if that would be a thing. if anything, thus far, he’s been nothing but proud and supportive. but you’re right about not overextending, that’s how I’m trying to be. thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 06:13 PM
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Thank you for sharing that you know what it feels like. I definitely do have social anxiety, and the fact that I overthink my interactions this way highlights the fact. You're right. This is a good general rule of thumb to follow, I'll keep it in mind next time I find myself in a position in which I would be prone to oversharing.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 10:00 AM
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That's true. I'm aware of the fact that they have their own things going on, but the perfectionist in me would rather I don't provide more context than I have to, because when/if they think of me, they'll think of what I had shared. I acknowledge that I need to work on that bit, cause I also know that there's truly nothing new under the sun and no amount of context is unusual.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 09:58 AM
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Thank you for sharing. You're right, this is a good rule of thumb. It helps to know that this is the most effective thing to do. I tend to do so, but as soon as the person I'm with starts sharing personal things (esp. at work), I join in regardless of the boundaries that I set up for myself beforehand.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 09:52 AM
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Thank you, I'll be sure to do so.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 09:49 AM
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Thank you for sharing! Exactly, you’d never be critical of anyone else the way you tend to be with yourself. I get that. Also, reminder that we’re three dimensional beings, and photos, even mirrors, don’t capture us the way the human eye does. I keep reminding myself that I’m not walking around as this flat image, but a whole person, and there’s texture, there’s depth, there’s an aura and energy accompanying me that a photo or a mirror or even the eye can’t exactly catch, but it’s felt, and that…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 10:14 AM
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Thank you for your thorough response and for taking the time to provide me with some reassurance on this.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 05:13 PM
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Thank you for sharing your personal experience and for your thought-out response. It’s reassuring to see how minuscule these things can be, but can feel so pronounced when you allow your brain to roam freely.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 05:03 PM
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I think it’s all down to your personal preference, and that should be the deciding factor. I was always the most sexual person I knew, privately of course. I learned about things and read about things and explored myself, all while still maintaining my virginity until the right person came along. I’ve been with this man for 4 years, and have been exploring my sexuality for almost 10 years prior to entering this relationship and losing my virginity to him. I don’t think I missed out on anything. …
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 09:52 PM
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thank you for making a point to check my previous posts.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 03:10 PM
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I know it’s why I reached out. I even said I’m thankful him and his family are okay. but I always fear that I might be altering the natural course of actions by doing something - which I guess is something I have to work on.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 02:55 PM
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Would you be interested in being added to a group chat here on reddit?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 07:02 AM
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Great! Would you be interested in being added to a group chat here on reddit?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 07:01 AM
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I’d like to learn how to cultivate inner peace and confidence, as well as work on things in a more physical sense, such as work towards getting fitter in some areas, and improve my overall appearance. I kind of have a goal and an image in mind of the kind of energy I want to exude and it would help to share it with someone or a few others, to see if I’m on the right track.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 07:00 AM
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Cool :) would you be interested in being added to a group chat here on reddit?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 06:57 AM
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I’m glad! Would you be interested in being added to a group chat here on reddit?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 06:56 AM
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Great!! Would you be interested in being added to a group chat here on reddit?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 06:56 AM
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Great :) check your dm!
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 06:55 AM
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I’m glad! Would you be interested in being added to a group chat here on reddit?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 06:55 AM
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I’m glad to hear!! Would you mind if I added you to a group chat here on reddit?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/20 06:54 AM
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I’m quite like you guys. I feel as though I can be such a tomboy in my day to day, but my SO used to say that I’m his definition of femininity. I’m feminine in my emotions, how I dress, how I carry myself (most of the time), etc. but I let myself go sometimes and just be human. My family thinks I’m a bit vulgar cause I practice comfort over manners, but even still, my SO would think it’s human yet still very feminine. So I guess what I’m trying to say is, there is definitely a universal image of…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 08:59 AM
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Just to hear her out and just be on “good terms.” The bare minimum. Trust me, I regret having encouraged him at all. That was ages ago, like around this time last year. He only chose to fix things with her earlier this year. I hit him up yesterday. I told him I’m ready to talk when he is, cause he was the last to message me saying we’ll talk about things soon.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 07:23 PM
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I thought of that, but equally I feel as though he really pities her. I’m not sure.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 06:14 PM
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I told him he should hear her out (cause she fucked up with him), but I told him I think it’s best that the nature of their rekindled friendship changes entirely. He agreed. Dunno what it’s like now.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 06:13 PM
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Wow. Dodged a bullet. Sorry you went through that. She does the same by the way. She’s always checking what he’s up to, it’s kind of creepy.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 04:28 PM
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He told me that when they attempted a relationship and she made sexual moves on him, he didn’t feel very comfortable. I got the sense that he felt like he was going to do it with a sister, cause that’s mostly how their friendship has been. Throughout our relationship, though, I think he got what he wanted and more from me. But right now we’re on a “break” until further notice. There is a chance we might separate... Other than that, a detail I forgot to mention was that she seemed to think he was…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 04:25 PM
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I’d say she’s a little closer than a wider circle. They do hang out one on one. Previously, they’d hang out in threes with this other guy, who’s also no longer in the picture.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 04:21 PM
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I think that if it’s something that he would include in a fantasy, then it would be a little out of reach for him. Fantasies usually involve some farfetched and interesting scenarios, equally some people have fantasies that involve things other people might consider absurd. So maybe for him it’s a little far off than normal. Another thing, and not to sound rude at all, we’re all women here (well, mostly) and we all know the issues that come with having a vagina, I’d suggest that before you look …
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 04:16 PM
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why do you think?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 04:06 PM
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you’re absolutely right, but rn I have no way of really knowing that until the next time we speak.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 04:06 PM
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you’re right.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 04:06 PM
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I think he just feels bad because they were friends for a decade. I previously told him she’s going to continue to try to pursue him, but he said she probably got over it and he doesn’t want to “wrongfully assume” that she’s not over it. Turns out she isn’t over shit.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 04:05 PM
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can you tell me more about your experience? also, he kind of revoked that best friend status since they fell out, so...I’m not sure what’s going on at this point.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 04:03 PM
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do you think it's reversible?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 01:07 PM
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Can I message you privately?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 12:59 PM
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I believe they talk. I can’t speak to him until we mutually decide it’s time to try to talk it out. But in the time being, I’m a little concerned. I feel like I might’ve planted a seed in his head.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 12:54 PM
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Do you think I gave her an advantage over me?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 12:53 PM
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We’re technically taking a break. But is it true that if he never desired her in the first place, there isn’t the chance for that to change?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/20 12:46 PM
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Thank you for your thorough response. You’re right
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/20 05:40 AM
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Thank you. You’re right.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 05:46 PM
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It’s less about the bumble prospect than the guy I was actually with. But thank you for your response.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 05:45 PM
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Thank you for taking the time and sharing your experience. I guess you’re right. This whole thing fell into my lap for a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 05:44 PM
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Thank you for your thorough response. You’re absolutely right. I needed to hear this. Thank you both so much.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 05:41 PM
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Thank you for your response. Why do you think so?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 04:37 PM
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He wasn’t a catfish, we spoke momentarily on video but the call was one sided - meaning only he had his video turned on. He was who he claimed he was. My question is, did I betray my “ex” or is that not something I should be feeling guilty about? I have the tendency to feel guilty about a lot of things that I shouldn’t feel guilty about. Idk if this is one of them.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/20 04:36 PM
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hi again, can I PM you? I have a few questions to ask you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/19 05:46 PM
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Hi again, I’ve been reading this a few times per day the past few days (anytime I get thoughts, I revisit this to center myself). I’ve also been working on myself a little more, just targeting thought patterns, learning new things, reading, doing yoga, etc. But I’d like to ask you a question, if that’s okay. Does absence make the heart grow fonder? This isn’t a reassurance thing, I think, but I’m feeling a lot fonder of him, and a part of me hopes he feels the same.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/19 09:28 PM
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Thank you for this.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 08:01 PM
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I’m very grateful that you wrote this. I read this quite a few times. You were able to see things I wasn’t able to see, because I was just feeding into the same idea over and over, and this was definitely another form of a wake-up call. Thank you for being brutally honest. I’ll probably still read this a few times over.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 07:59 PM
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Thank you for your response. I’m trying to see it this way too. I know for a fact my upbringing had something to do with it. I’m hoping he’s right about what this space will do for us, but I just can’t help but have some questions anyway...
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 10:18 AM
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Thank you for your perspective. I didn’t expect to hear this on here, but it really helps.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 09:00 AM
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Thank you for your response. I don’t believe I was a nightmare to be around, necessarily, but I do believe he was more patient with me than I realized at the time. To answer your questions, in a lot of the moments I seek reassurance, it would be by asking him if he’s sure, if i’m pretty enough, if I’m smart enough, if my lack of experience is off-putting, sometimes I’d even try to convince him that he’s making a mistake and that he can do better, find prettier. Sometimes when I feel jealous, I l…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 01:19 AM
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