idontseddit Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
516	Are white knights overwhelming Seddit?		idontseddit	/r/seduction	03/07/12 07:47 PM
5	How do I gracefully disengage after the one-night stand?		idontseddit	/r/seduction	23/05/12 08:12 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2	Botched it with a girl kinda badly. Any hope of salvage? I'm tempted to just go for broke, tell her I'm really into her, and ask if she thinks there's any potential. Don't do this! Assume attraction, and escalate.	/r/seduction	27/08/12 08:24 PM
11	Need some advice with sealing the deal... DiCarlo escalation ladder. There's a proper pdf version out there somewhere.	/r/seduction	27/08/12 04:00 AM
1	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? Good call, my wording there may have been sloppy. Existing as a normal, sexual being is not the same thing as being overly aggressive / acting like a horn-dog. But if you have the right level of confidence, light kino can start pretty much immediately, even better so with the right push-pull of not expecting or caring if things escalate further. Your last paragraph tells me a lot. I have truly been where you are, and frankly I'm not all that far ahead of you. A year ago I thought one-night stand…	/r/seduction	10/07/12 06:59 AM
1	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? Well good luck brother. You are awesome and you deserve the things you want!	/r/seduction	10/07/12 06:38 AM
1	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? Without more specifics I won't claim to know why 'interest always turns to fear', but I'm pretty sure thinking more isn't the answer, at least in the moment of these situations. [FR]s here are a great way to think through your situation and get feedback after the fact, but you're right, in the moment the most important thing is to act. Better to be remembered as a little crude than not remembered...	/r/seduction	10/07/12 06:21 AM
1	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? Usually I am pretty crazy for sex but I try not to let that ruin my game, though my body betrays me sometimes. I'm curious what you mean about your body betraying you. If you are being honest with yourself and others about your existence as a normal, sexual being from the get-go, then no one should feel surprised or betrayed when those tendencies manifest themselves. I think only one time I ever went into a relationship with closing the deal before I talked to the girl about feelings much, and i…	/r/seduction	10/07/12 06:16 AM
1	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? Your feelings are important, and they should be. To you. To anyone else, just because you can write them down is NOT enough reason to share them (Edit: Outside of a safe space like Seddit, of course). Write the same way you should be living the rest of your life: for yourself.	/r/seduction	10/07/12 05:12 AM
1	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? Goddamn dude, bro-fist and such. Was there a moment or incident that you feel helped you push through the previous debasement? Or was it just baby steps from there towards more confidence?	/r/seduction	10/07/12 04:59 AM
1	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? I'm guessing that you're talking about getting a suitable woman for a LTR, not just trying to get laid? For getting laid / general seduction, showing yourself as emotional or vulnerable is mostly a bad idea. If you're trying to qualify yourself as boyfriend material, though, it makes sense to show her a softer side. But if interest turns to fear when you show yourself to be a sexual being, there could be deeper issues about how you're doing it that are affecting your outcomes...	/r/seduction	10/07/12 04:47 AM
2	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? I, for one, would enjoy hearing this story in more detail. Elaborate?	/r/seduction	10/07/12 04:23 AM
1	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? I'm not sure I follow. Are you saying you're back together with her now but you don't feel needy like you used to? Or that you're still friends with her but no longer hung up on her and all is well?	/r/seduction	10/07/12 04:08 AM
3	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? Well past time to move on, brother. The next times she sees you out, you should be (genuinely) having the time of your life with completely different groups of people. She missed out on her chance with you, not the other way around.	/r/seduction	10/07/12 04:05 AM
1	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? Exactly! Feel free to write all your feelings down, but do NOT share them unless you really think it's going to improve your situation.	/r/seduction	10/07/12 04:01 AM
1	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? I'm gonna go ahead and respectfully disagree with you. Unless you are some kind of badass poet or your prose rivals Nabokov's, writing a woman a letter is a really bad way to make her into you. It could be a good way to demonstrate a softer more emotionally vulnerable side after you've already displayed plenty of alpha traits and piqued her interest, but it's unlikely to generate interest in of itself. Approach her first, then write her a ten page letter? How does that come off as anything other…	/r/seduction	10/07/12 04:00 AM
7	What was your worst "needy" moment in your lifetime, Seddit? I've been needy inside the context of a relationship several times (wisdom teeth taken out in a new city with no one to rely on for help but my then girlfriend etc), but I think OP is asking about times when being needy was overbearing or ended up being a DLV. For me, it was about a year ago now. At the time it had been several years since I'd dated a woman I was really into, and suddenly I met a girl for whom I knew I could care deeply. And what's more, the chemistry seemed mutual and we quickl…	/r/seduction	10/07/12 03:42 AM
32	Are white knights overwhelming Seddit? Very well said, sir. I totally agree that this line of thinking is a (perhaps unconscious) dehumanizing of the woman, which seems to assume she doesn't have the agency to decide for herself what she wants.	/r/seduction	03/07/12 09:18 PM
9	Are white knights overwhelming Seddit? Meh, that's just a moral judgement on your part. I live in a small town. I would probably never fuck a girl who's in a LTR, but largely that's because I wouldn't want any drama to come back to me as a result. But if I was in a big city and met some girl at a bar who was down to fuck, and who I'd almost certainly never see again, I might think about it differently. If you're both attracted to each other, and both of you want to get laid, what's the problem? It's not like she's being coerced / for…	/r/seduction	03/07/12 08:24 PM
12	3 girls at a table and 1 me, what to say? Both of your two proposed scenarios are, frankly, pretty bad. "Hi. You girls look nice tonight." Okay, but what's next? Maybe a 'thanks' from them but then silence fills the air immediately unless you fill it. You need to at least have some kind of question that requires a response from one (or preferably all) of them. "Hi. Can I buy you girls another drink?" Just... don't. I fully endorse never buying a woman a drink, unless she's getting the next round. If she's sitting in a bar, she should be…	/r/seduction	10/06/12 07:46 AM
9	Non-seduction applications of the alpha mindset Ummm.... if your roommate is paying your rent for you, I'd say you should probably be careful not to overplay your hand. You're already completely beholden to her. An alpha mindset in this context would be figuring your situation out and finding a way to get yourself paid as soon as possible.	/r/seduction	10/06/12 07:09 AM
2	Best ways to go for picking up while backpacking abroad? I'd highly recommend going solo. You'll have plenty of chances to meet people and you can even travel with them for a while if you leave yourself flexibility. This way you get to hand-pick your companions, and don't get stuck with a guided tour. Hostelling provides tons of opportunities (seek out hostels with a decent hang-out / lobby area, many even have bars in them). Although, when I did the backpack around Europe thing many years ago, I was far too much of an AFC to take advantage of those o…	/r/seduction	05/06/12 01:36 AM
2	Seduction: The Inner Game of Creating Attraction I've been having a lot of success lately with day game at bars. Specifically I'll go to one of several outdoor bars in my town between 5-6pm when people are getting off work. At that point I've found women are generally not there to get drunk or laid, and an indirect / just-trying-to-be-friendly approach works well. I usually talk to several other random people around me before opening a woman I'm interested in. Then I have a perfect excuse to get a number and exit quickly ("I'm just here for a …	/r/seduction	05/06/12 12:56 AM
10	Too far? I would probably read this if there were paragraphs.	/r/seduction	27/05/12 06:48 AM
2	How do you guys deal with dry spells? This right here. Use your dry spells to invest more time in yourself and inner game. Work out more, learn a new skill or invest time in a personal interest... anything that will increase your confidence, give you more things to talk about with women, and make it easier to DHV. EDIT: But yeah, don't stop going out and meeting new people when you can, either.	/r/seduction	27/05/12 06:32 AM
3	Invited to spend the weekend at a lake house by a group of girls. That term, 'get lucky', conveys all the wrong ideas. By getting invited to a private spot where the ladies outnumber you two-to-one, you've already 'gotten lucky'. Now it's time to pick one (or more) of them to make lucky... think of it in those terms and you should have no problem.	/r/seduction	26/05/12 04:31 PM
1	How do I gracefully disengage after the one-night stand? That is fair enough... but can I be that upfront / direct with a damn text message? That seems like a dick move. It seems like something more appropriately done in person, no?	/r/seduction	23/05/12 08:28 PM
68	5 cures for approach anxiety Damn it, you never told us what is wrong with the peas!	/r/seduction	20/05/12 01:04 PM
8	The Pass-By...how to do it? There's not really enough context here to give a single answer. First off, it depends on how well you know them or if you want to know them better. Second, on how long it's been since you last saw or interacted with them. If you saw them earlier that day and are just passing by between classes or something, a simple smile and a friendly "hey" (without stopping) works fine. But generally if it's been more than a day or two since you've interacted and neither of you is in a rush, you should stop, …	/r/seduction	18/05/12 05:44 AM