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| 6 | Brilliant!! Shared this with my sister who is back in the dating game for the first time since before cell phones and computers were even a thing. | STRATEGY | ihaveafunnyname71 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 10:20 PM |
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| 97 | Porn users will always be NVMI didn't meet a man who I knew didn't view porn until I was 45. And you can be sure I married him!!! Five years later, he still doesn't view porn, so it wasn't a front, but it was certainly a leap of faith for me initially. My ex was a porn sick, awful excuse for a human that I tried to prove I was worthy of being faithful to for 20 years too many. I'd rather be single that be with a man who used porn if it ever came to that again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 10:33 PM |
| 36 | The behavior exhibited on dating apps can be profoundly demoralising to women and it affects our lives offline. Yet another reason to get off the apps! Link to full article in comment.I’m so torn about dating apps. I met my HVH on one by some miracle. And the more I read FDS the more miraculous he seems to me tbh. I hated online dating, it felt like I would come home from a long, mentally taxing day at work, only to “work” online more to weed out guys and set up dates to meet. And then I’d have to mentally prepare so much for the “interview”... I was done, and my niece encouraged me to give it one more shot and the stars collided and whatever all that nonsense speak talks of.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 03:21 PM |
| 71 | 'Spiritual'/hippie menScrotacity. Love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 10:41 PM |
| 42 | Definitely a HVM from among many LVM fantasizing about being house husbandsI was just recently diagnosed with an auto-immune disease and my PTSD from my ex wasn’t helping for awhile. I was so worried about being a burden I was not allowing myself to heal. My husband has put a stop to that. Mine is nowhere this debilitating even, but he calls and checks up on me during the day, runs for meds or the right foods when I can’t go myself. I’m re-learning how to eat and how to cook and I know he’s going to miss some favorites as much as I do, he’s willing to change his diet t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 10:19 PM |
| 19 | Update: reining in the subAs someone who is really only here to comment when I feel my experience transitioning from a LVX (20 years married) to a HV husband is relevant... and some of the dating years in between, I appreciate this. There are good men out there and I think vetting may be a little more useful as a passive process in some cases. Let them show you who they are. And believe them right away. My ex told me EXACTLY how he was going to treat me, in hindsight I chose to believe he’d love me enough to change. That… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 10:24 PM |
| 153 | I can’t unsee this now…Too old to be your pedobait.. have a day you deserve. Bye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 07:42 PM |
| 67 | Billie Elish bf is 10 years older than her.I was 46 when I met my 43 yr old husband and we joke that I robbed the cradle. And 4 years later we’ll still joke about the “age gap”. Most people think HE is the older one which is somehow funnier to me. When I was dating, I did accept a date from a younger man, he was 9 years younger than my 45 years, he was a physicist, worked for NASA even, and at 36 yrs old... just didn’t have enough life experience (relationships especially) and I couldn’t see him as anything but a “kid”. There was no 2nd … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 03:17 PM |
| 2 | LVM with HV qualitiesConsidering you’re already dating, his bringing a bag with his necessaries wouldn’t be out of line. I did have to dump a guy who brought an overnight bag when I finally invited him over for a home cooked dinner (I love to cook). When he brought in his bag and I asked what was that? And he said he’d packed clothes... yeah, you’re not staying the night dude. AND there was never a next date. That being said, while my husband really doesn’t concern himself too much with clothes (unless we’re going o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 06:22 PM |
| 7 | A personal realization: why losers leave during cancer.I was just so flabbergasted, but I’m sure my face said everything as I walked away. He didn’t even speak up to try to stop me, or maybe the blood was rushing so loud I didn’t hear anything. He didn’t try to contact me again either, so I was spared that ridiculousness at least. It really made me sad though. Then angry for awhile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 04:26 PM |
| 19 | A personal realization: why losers leave during cancer.When I was still dating... found myself having lunch with a guy who not only lied about his age (he said he was 52... he was in his 60’s), he then informed me he was married but his wife was ill so he was looking for some side action. I walked out of the restaurant without another word.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 03:54 PM |
| 20 | Characteristics of my HV HusbandI was married to a LVM for 20 years. He was military and deployed for a lot of that time so was easier to hope it would “be better next time he came home” until I had a couple years of therapy and realized I deserved better. Now I’m married to most amazing man who hits every point on your list (except we fix things together as I grew up more hands on with my carpenter dad, he handles the electronics he learned from his dad)... When I find myself venting to him about things, he once said “am I li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 01:31 AM |
| 48 | I have no wordsI knew I’d be seeing this one here too. It boggles the mind how so many horrible men think they own that bit of skin we have cuz we let them access it occasionally. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to successfully boycott sex with LVMs around the world? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 08:55 PM |
| 8 | How FDS helped me recover from an abusive relationshipI’ve never been more grateful to have lived my teenage and early 20’s before the internet (and so very much depraved porn) existed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 07:50 PM |
| 75 | A picture is worth a thousand words...Uffda. That hits the mark. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 02:35 AM |
| 5 | Horror movies about the risks of letting LVMs into your lifeThe new Invisible Man was fantastic. It was triggering... but showed even rich, smart, handsome guys can be abusive LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 12:57 AM |
| 18 | I hate this argument exactly for this reason...I remember having an ah-ha moment when I got older about how I suddenly stopped scratching his back. Add that I was adopted and by my mom’s younger husband and my dad is only 15 years older than I am. He is definitely a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 02:36 PM |
| 124 | I hate this argument exactly for this reason...I remember overhearing a friend of my dad’s say something to him about a girl my age in the neighborhood (maybe 15-16 at the time and she was way more developed than me) and my dad called him out telling him he was out of line, “that girl is the same age as my daughter!!” I’ve always been proud of him for that cuz neither of them knew I was right around the corner of the house and heard everything. I don’t remember who the guy was, evidence that my dad stopped hanging around with him after that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 01:47 PM |
| 7 | I think this is supposed to be a joke, but I’m certain there are men who feel this way.As a single home owner when I met my now husband. Uh, nope nope nope nope nope nope nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 04:50 PM |
| 4 | We appeared in public again today. Mods did their job, thank you <3Can women even DO a circle jerk? Like is that even a thing? Sounds like a scrotes only pass time to me. Haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:44 PM |
| 1 | Hard factsYeah, the show has scenes that definitely made me uncomfortable. The books are not so graphic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 06:43 PM |
| 61 | Why do women get so much hate for simply NOT doing shit?!This sub opens the curtains and lets the light into the smelly dank basements some of these lurkers reside in. They know they can’t measure up to the standards women are starting to set, and try to convince you that no other men out there measure up either. And they’re the best you can get. WRONG! I commented about how my hubs isn’t a user of porn, and how lucky I feel finding that rare breed, and not one woman posted a contradiction, but the men... hahaha. They just can’t believe they’re not th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 03:02 PM |
| 44 | Men, Integrity, PornRare and valued beyond measure is the man not warped by porn these days. How I found one... I’ll never guess. But damn do I feel lucky!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 10:21 PM |
| 60 | Hard factsThat’s why so very many women LOVE Outlander! Claire is one of the best, strongest, female leads ever written. And Jamie, his adoration of his wife makes him the sexiest man in literature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 08:40 PM |
| 32 | Hard factsJamie Frasier. Every wanna be man hates Jamie Frasier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 08:39 PM |
| 98 | Don’t feed the trolls.My favorite new bedtime story!! This is awesome! Love the whole eye contact and laugh thing the best! Oooohhhh they hate when women ‘see’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:53 PM |
| 44 | wage gap isn't realWe relocated to a state with a much lower COL about 9 yrs ago... Part of it is I was promoted from within from an entry level position (have nearly tripled my wages since I started so I’m not mad) and he’d been hired with the education and previous work experience in his managerial role. Others (male and female) who’ve been promoted from within also seem to make less than a new hire into the same role would cost... so a little about gender and little about just being frugal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:11 PM |
| 74 | wage gap isn't realOh I do get paid well... and great bennies and riding it out until I can retire in a couple years. It’s just very obvious to someone who sees payroll the gender gap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:03 PM |
| 292 | wage gap isn't realI’ve been working in the same position for 10 years after my boss quit and I took over his responsibilities. To this day, 10 years later, I still earn $10k less a year than he did when he retired a decade ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:13 PM |
| 29 | New club name for those who say "Not All Men": The Sex Offenders Defence League (from the title of this article about the movie Promising Young Woman)Absolutely LOVED this movie. “No. Really, what are you DOING?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 03:27 PM |
| 12 | Honestly never though of it this way, I love it!Fabulous!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 01:33 AM |
| 81 | On the idea that being intimidating to men is a lie women tell to justify their failure to bag a manYou are not “intimidating” unless they’re INTIMIDATED! And they’re not of much value to anyone they don’t feel they can measure up to. One of my biggest brags is a guy telling me I was too intimidating to even meet on a blind date. The trash took itself out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 09:40 PM |
| 15 | Flashback to when my exes would ‘compliment’ my labia by saying they were ‘perfect porn star lips’ and I actually thanked them proudly 🤡That I look young for my age. That’s great now at 50. When I was 25 looking like a 14 yr old.... NOT married to that guy anymore. Found out recently his 50+ yr old fat bald gross smelly ass, married a 23 yr old.... barf. Poor girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 11:08 PM |
| 9 | Never go to therapy with your abuser. You're just getting more and "improved" abuse and they get more excuses and ammo to use against you.Chumplady is my hero! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 08:27 PM |
| 5 | 😂My favorite Cinderella movie is Ever After with Drew Barrymore. Angelica Houston is amazing as the evil stop mother!! She saves her damned self and then the prince shows up and is proud of her ‘grit’. I can watch that version over and over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 04:06 PM |
| 20 | Realizing I Was a PickmeI spent 20+ years failing to prove I was worthy of being faithful to. Finally left his cheating ass and miraculously met a man who truly knows how to love his partner. I was a total pickme... it was starting therapy while I was still married to ex and realizing I DO have value as a person on my own and not just as his “wife”... that was the beginning of the end for him. He “accused me” of growing a “ramrod instead of a backbone”. Translation, you value yourself suddenly and I can’t get you to su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 02:49 PM |
| 7 | This one goes out to the male lurkers who've told a woman she's "too much"Right before I met my husband OLD, I had a guy straight up tell my I was too intimidating to meet up with. (I’m former Marine, he was a civilian). While I found it a little depressing at the time... looking back I realized that I may have avoided a LOT of men with self confidence issues. I have to actually give credit that the guy knew he’d have issues with a confident, accomplished, secure woman and took himself out of the equation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 02:24 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildTHAT video used to make me blush!! Actually sexy and not pornography! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:50 AM |
| 48 | Anyone else find "kinky" people to be so boring at this point? BDSM, choking, "breath play", calling men daddy. Everyone magically developed the identical cookie cutter sexuality and it's so BORING, but they still think of themselves as wildI have stopped hanging out with one female friend of mine who just only wanted to talk about sex... she was single and as far as I know not dating, but kept talking about past sexual experiences and wanting me to contribute my stories. I told her straight up I like my sex only with a man who loves me and since I’d met my hubs, it’s been wonderful and that’s all I have to say about that. Like I didn’t want to hear about her visit from the gas meter reader and her fantasy “session” after he left. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 02:08 PM |
| 20 | Scrotes Are Mad 🗣😂Ex was bald by 25. Current hubs is 47 with a head of thick luxurious hair. Seems valid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 04:58 PM |
| 5 | PSA about hormones and hormonal birth control when dating and selectingI wonder if menopause has that same effect as going off hormonal contraceptives. Currently post menopausal, but divorced my cheating LVM ex probably as I was starting peri-menopause. Met my hubs now after that and 4 years into this relationship, sex life and attraction are still awesome even in menopause. I’ll admit I was a little nervous about that sexual energy disappearing when I went though that change, but turns out the right guy makes all the difference. LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:58 PM |
| 26 | Remember: The only men complaining about your standards are the men who know they cannot meet them. Pay them no mind.I remember the initial online date meetup where he showed up on a bicycle... ya know, cuz having your license taken away for a DUI isn’t any sort of red flag or anything. Then on my way home from said “date”, saw dude getting off his bike at the liquor store down the road... this was a breakfast/coffee ‘date’ on a Sunday morning. And he had the audacity to be offended when I responded for a 2nd date request with a no thanks, I don’t think we’re compatible. LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 03:43 PM |
| 18 | Creepy guy I ghosted, never dated, still mad months later 😂Gotta go, Signed “petulant gaslighting narcissist” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 05:54 PM |
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