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1	How do you make conversations sexual and get the vibe across that you don't want to be friends? Yes, if you speak with a new/random girl in a bar for 10 minutes and there is no obvious interest (flirting, laughing, light touching) then eject and find a new girl. Don't be bitter - just wrap up the conversation, tell her it was cool to talk a bit, high five her and go out and find a new girl. (Remember, there are millions out there, literally. Never get hung up on any single interaction!) Then, no hard feelings, focus on a new girl. (In fact, everything is good practice, as long as you are u…	/r/askTRP	24/11/18 04:29 AM
6	How do you make conversations sexual and get the vibe across that you don't want to be friends? The simplest and best model for seduction is Attraction first > Comfort second > Seduction third. (Mystery Method). Basically you are skipping attraction and going to comfort. Step 1, get her attracted to you. When you first met a girl you are attracted to (or really any girl), you should project a cocky and funny attitude. Make her laugh. Show confidence (body language, tone of voice, eye contact). Be interesting (tell funny stories or engrossing stories). Be handsome (well-dressed, in-shape,…	/r/askTRP	24/11/18 03:40 AM
39	Revisiting absolute don't s of dating and relationships Agreed - many men confuse being outcome independent with being a brick wall with no emotion. Crucial distinction. You gotta give some back or she will walk. This is true with all human interactions, not just dating. I think the defense of this post is that it serves as a "paradigm shift" for red pill beginners. Guys who are used to "winning" over girls with approval-seeking behavior (taught by movies, beta dads, etc.) need to swallow the red pill of reality which is that both women and men prefe…	/r/TheRedPill	31/12/17 04:24 PM
7	Revisiting absolute don't s of dating and relationships Point taken, modern LTRs are borderline pointless compared to previous eras. They are a bad deal. However, this whole thread assumes that a man wants an LTR and is trying to keep it. In this context, it's best to be instinctively non-needy but give rewards occasionally.	/r/TheRedPill	31/12/17 04:21 PM
14	Revisiting absolute don't s of dating and relationships I agree that women need “substance” to be fulfilled but it’s all a question of how you communicate and frame your desire for a girl. Most men have a mindset that they keep a girl by supplication and accommodation - answering eagerly, giving gifts, doing what she wants. Women resent this “trying to please” mindset and it backfires. Men who have a consistently genuinely selfish and non-needy mindset can occasionally do something nice - take her out for a spontaneous dinner date, give her some smal…	/r/TheRedPill	31/12/17 02:33 PM
2	Help me decipher third date? Suggested action to take next: For the fourth date, take control and plan it all (where to go, when, how long you stay out, etc) and take her back to your own place after date (assuming you have one). Set a mood (music, lighting, appropriate movie, etc) that would make sex natural and comfortable. On the previous date, she set the mood, which was not entirely sexy.	/r/seduction	10/12/17 11:44 PM
4	Help me decipher third date? I wouldn't overthink it, it can only complicate your mindset and led to "over-analyzing." Simply put, the girl likes you (you have gone pretty far) but is taking it a bit slow. I assume you like her and want to see where this goes, so just keep getting into sexual situations, read her desires, and go for it when it is right. Don't be desperate but don't lose momentum. I think keep this simple inner framing: "This girl is into me. I'm doing well with her. I'll keep doing what I'm doing and it wil…	/r/seduction	10/12/17 09:56 PM
2	Where should I travel to that's near Texas? (Best city for gaming) Dallas is good (it's big and there are lot of Texan gals). Another option is Austin - it's a college town, very liberal, lots of bars and concert venues. If class is in session, streets are packed with girls.	/r/seduction	04/12/17 07:57 PM
1	I found this girl who I am into and don't know how to keep the conversation going. Nah, disagree. It is still very very early. She is not invested in him. Waiting another week might totally lose her small investment in him. If they were dating or had been a few dates it would be different then waiting would be fine. But she can easily forget him at this point. Given this Texting her after four days is not needy at all. If she is not into him, she won’t reply and he can move on and live his life and meet new girls. If she re-engaged then he can make forward progress. Be bold an…	/r/seduction	04/12/17 05:08 PM
2	I found this girl who I am into and don't know how to keep the conversation going. I assumed. Doesn’t matter. Tell her to meet for a “study break”. Again, if she blows you off, move on to new girls. Maybe she will say “when we get back”— not ideal but better than not even asking.	/r/seduction	04/12/17 04:04 PM
20	Overthinking is the bane of my life. You need 4 things in your life, basically: (1) Create new frames in your mind; (2) Work on yourself (get fit, upgrade wardrobe, improve haircut, etc); (3) Talk to 100 girls; (4) Assess your environment - how /where/when you are meeting girls. First, it doesn't really matter what reality is. What matters is your perception. Your negative thoughts are shaping your reality in a negative way. You have to create simple, clear, positive frames of mind and repeat them endlessly. "I am good enough", "Gi…	/r/seduction	04/12/17 03:19 PM
3	How to avoid overthinking early on in the dating process? Yeah, this is common. You feel safe until you have to make that big move. "Rejection" sucks if you take it personally. The key, really, is to not frame life as "rejection" versus "success". If the girl is feeling you, she will eventually let you kiss her. A flat out rejection is rare and usually comes from a guy totally misreading the situation. If you think a girl likes you, you find a way to go for it. Assume this girl likes you until she proves otherwise. Simple fix: ask her out again. Tell h…	/r/seduction	04/12/17 02:38 PM
5	How to avoid overthinking early on in the dating process? My definition of frame is "Knowing the answer before there is a question." Meaning, a strong frame is one that flows naturally from accumulating experience (trials and errors) and is not a thought pattern that comes from analysis and logic. A man that has dated 100 hot women will have very strong frame in early stages because he knows from experience how to maneuver past tests and to break down walls. A newbie will rely on theory and will proceed with hesitation, learning as he goes. For example…	/r/seduction	04/12/17 06:55 AM
11	How to avoid overthinking early on in the dating process? You need to differentiate between "WANT" and "NEED." A true player wants a girl (the fun, the joy, the sex) but never, ever needs a girl (would feel lonely without her, would feel worthless without her, etc.) So, you gotta wake up everyday and repeat the frame, "I want this girl. She is adorable. But I don't need her - if I screw this up, no big deal, on to the next girl." So, show your desire for her as a man (ask to meet, have long conversations, initiate kissing and sex). But, never show need…	/r/seduction	03/12/17 11:51 PM
4	Tinder Game Help- I get #s but don't know how to get them to meet up? I get the sense you are overthinking this and trying to shield yourself from rejection. Here is a simple set of rules: If (1) You match with a girl, on tinder (2) Start a genuine conversation, (3) The conversation is enjoyable for both of you (she is engaged, laughing, asking questions, etc), and (4) The conversation lasts more than a few hours, then ask for her phone number. It is totally normal and not desperate at all. Girls WANT to give their numbers to guys that they are connecting with. Gi…	/r/seduction	03/12/17 11:24 PM
10	Be a player or romantic? This touches on the paradox of being a true player - to project a fiery desire for a girl without giving a hint of needing her. (Maybe if you're in a fiery marriage with a soulmate you can project a bit of "need" after years of being together but NEVER let it define you). It's a hard balance. I think there are three keys here: Always differentiate between "WANT" and "NEED" - To want a girl (to be attracted to her, to trust her) is good - it motivates a player to spit game and make moves. To "nee…	/r/seduction	02/12/17 11:52 AM
1	Where did I mess up while talking to this girl in my class? It seems like you just made a normal approach but it didn't work out. Don't take it personally and don't over-analyze it. In fact, keep your interpretation simple and super positive (and cocky): You talked to a girl you noticed (because you are player and all girls are interested in you) but it turns out she was busy or distracted. No big deal - her loss (you'll just find 10 other girls). Always remember: Even the best players succeed maybe 30% of the time. That means 70% of the girls (or more) …	/r/seduction	28/11/17 09:21 PM
10	What do you do when you are broken? You're touching on some deeper "inner game" issues but, in general, my advice is don't frame your life as "over." Sure, your college years are winding down and you still have some unfulfilled goals, but life is only going to get better. You will mature, your game will improve, your goals will come true and your 20's and 30's will be a good time... As long as you don't give up and keep going. Two trends you will experience after college: 1 - Stronger sense of self: You're not at the finish line. …	/r/seduction	28/11/17 09:03 PM
1	How would you handle this shit test? I agree that a man shouldn't waste his time winning over some girl with questionable interest and motives. Abundance mentality means searching for a better options. If the above woman is not interested, find another girl. However, I don't think we have enough information to know... More broadly, the personal lesson that I have internalized over the years of PUA is: Women - especially high status, hot and classy women - will often make you work for it. They want to know you can hold your own. So,…	/r/seduction	25/11/17 06:13 PM
1	What is an appropriate response to a girl who seemed interested but then ignored a text asking for a date? She flaked on you. Happens to even the best players. She either lied about her interest before (wasn't interested but was too nice or too shy to turn you down) or she was conflicted about her interest (at first wanted to go but then reconsidered for any number of reasons that don't really matter). Either way, her attraction/interest level is not strong enough to deliver on the promise. Interested girls will make something happen. Your moves should be: Stop asking. Go have fun. When it comes up d…	/r/seduction	24/11/17 05:53 PM
1	How would you handle this shit test? Fair points - context matters to some degree... but I assume the context is BANTER. If you are bantering with a girl and she disqualifies you ("You're not boyfriend material" "I would never date you" etc), then she is testing your frame and confidence. So, re-frame or agree&amplify and keep flirting. The only bad outcome in this situation is you take the comment seriously and get upset. If the context of this conversation is an impersonal chat - like she is a coworker with no history of flirtine…	/r/seduction	24/11/17 03:25 PM
2	How would you handle this shit test? Getting out of shit tests is so fun when you know how to do it. Also, it's a good way to jokingly-but-seriously show off your massive ego. I have fun with it.	/r/seduction	24/11/17 12:57 PM
4	Meeting a girl in her town. Is it on her to find a good bar? I think there are two good frames for this situation: "Yo, excited to see your town. You gotta be my hostess and take me to the best bar in town. Show me a good time!" This frame puts pressure on her to show YOU a good time and gets her to invest in a fun night. The frame is that you are the special guest and she needs to impress you or... "Yo, I read about this bar in your hometown that I want to try out. I read online that its good. I'll meet you there at 7. Wear something nice." This one is r…	/r/seduction	24/11/17 12:52 PM
14	How would you handle this shit test? There are two ways to get out of shit tests: "re-frame" (i.e. confidently change her perception of the situation, regain frame) or "agree and amplify" (make her shit test look silly by exaggerating it to the point of absurdity). Re-frames: "Then why are you always looking at my Facebook profile alone at night?" (Say with a jokingly accusatory tone and a smirk as if its true) "Ah, well, you may have searched for the wrong name on Google. If you search, "most handsome man alive" then all my info c…	/r/seduction	24/11/17 12:41 PM
1	17M- Constantly being called cute. How do i change this? "Cute" is just a general term for "attractive" - it is usually is a good thing. You are only 17, you are not going to be some manly man. As you grow to 20, 25, 30, etc. you get manlier... The good news is that most 17-year-old girls are looking for just normal teenage guys like you. There are millions of teenage girls in the world looking for a "cute" guy at this very moment... (If you are too "cute" for 17 year olds who might want college-type uys (like 18, 19 year old guys) maybe search for sl…	/r/seduction	12/11/17 10:01 PM
6	How to be more charming? Read PUA theory - all kinds, as much as possible - and practice, practice, practice. Being charming is a mix of intuitive/obvious points (like, learning names, making eye contact, keeping a conversation going without awkward lulls) and counter-intuitive (teasing a girl, being irrationally cocky). Eventually, with enough practice it all becomes second nature. The simplest formula for getting a girl is from the Mystery Method - an absolute classic book. Step 1) Attract a girl - Be funny, engaging,…	/r/seduction	12/11/17 09:54 PM
3	Girls show obvious interest and then deny it. I don't know how to deal with that Ok, definitely mixed signals. Discussing marriage potential (even jokingly?) and then later claiming it was friendly and then, last of all, saying she isn't interested - whoa... A few points: (a) She definitely knew it was a date and, in fact, was really taking it seriously on some level (Facebook, friends, marriage, etc). (b) She was probably "protecting" herself from you for some reason... This could have been because: (b.i.) She freaked herself out by discussing marriage/serious relationship/…	/r/seduction	11/11/17 12:57 AM
3	Girls show obvious interest and then deny it. I don't know how to deal with that Sounds like some solid framing on you part; good instincts. 3 was in classic female denial (actions and words in total misalignment). The problem with the female "hamster" / i.e. constant rationalization of their own behavior is that it doesn't respond to reason/evidence (like citing examples of her behavior) or to pressure (like asking her for a clear answer). Female "denial" of reality (the reality of her attraction, in her case) can be overcome by giving her plausible deniability (i.e. some s…	/r/seduction	11/11/17 12:18 AM
3	Girls show obvious interest and then deny it. I don't know how to deal with that With the second girl, there was no investment on either side, so the girl dropped it when she got some heat from your friend. She was flirty, she touched you, that was it. There was probably some attraction but you skipped comfort with her and it never progressed. You made no effort to build off her attraction, your friend made it weird and so it fizzled. (An alternative reality would have been you kicking your friend out of the bar, staying back with the girl one-on-one, spending a couple hours…	/r/seduction	10/11/17 11:34 PM
7	Girls show obvious interest and then deny it. I don't know how to deal with that A few things: First, there seem to be some elements that don't quite add up. Girls that show real interest shouldn't be greatly shocked that you try to escalate. Either you misinterpreted their interest or you failed to build a strong enough connection that they wanted you to move forward physically. Attraction and connection are not the same thing, Many times in my life I have sensed attraction from a girl, gotten impatient or overestimated the attraction, made a move and realized it was premat…	/r/seduction	10/11/17 11:14 PM
2	40[M] going through a major dry spell - what can I do??? How much of your self-worth used to be based on your salary and financial security? It seems that your finances were a focal point of your worth as a human and so now you feel like less of a man. Options: Move your sense of self-worth away from an income fixation, i.e. don't measure your worth as a man based on your finances. Instead, move your value into other parts of your life: your personality, your intelligence, your humor, your skills, etc... This is probably not easy - losing a source of …	/r/seduction	09/11/17 09:41 PM
1	40[M] going through a major dry spell - what can I do??? It sounds like it sucks. No denying that. But if you goal is to get women, dwelling on this stuff won't help in any way at all. The sort of confidence that succeeds with women is irrational - it's not based on income, looks or retirement savings... It's just the irrational, exuberant, mercurial belief that you are awesome, no matter what happens. If you mindset is "I am a loser that is poor and failed" then, well, there is the problem. At the very least you should try to compartmentalize the fin…	/r/seduction	09/11/17 08:51 PM
8	40[M] going through a major dry spell - what can I do??? It seems you're caught in a vicious cycle: you have negative thoughts; you seek personal validation and increased self-worth (to become more whole, somehow) by snagging a woman; you fail to actually get a woman (likely due to negative mindset); you deal with failure by having more negative thoughts... And repeat infinitely. Recognize and fight the inner negativity - work on your inner game. The more you frame your life in simple, positive, actionable ways the better you feel. Rebuild your true i…	/r/seduction	09/11/17 08:30 PM
1	Quit Taking It Personally (QTIP) So crucial. Show me a man that has stopped taking women's actions personally and I will show you a man that does well with women.	/r/TheRedPill	29/12/16 05:18 AM
1	Let my failure be a lesson: If you don't escalate in the first couple of dates, she'll think you're not attracted to her. Escalation is a hurdle that can psyche out a dude, especially if he likes a girl and is thus fearful of rejection. I'd actually say the key sticking points for a guy is usually approach and kiss close- two high risks moves. Two key game concepts: It's always better to escalate boldly - but the girl's buying temperature needs to be factored in order to calibrate your moves. For example, I've met girls at bars, the vibe was awesome and fun and we made out within hour(s). If I had kissed her earlie…	/r/TheRedPill	29/12/16 05:15 AM