insidescoop84 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
89	Inner Game is The Most Important Thing To Work On		insidescoop84	/r/seduction	23/10/14 09:41 AM

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2	Need a Body language magic pill? Take latin dance class. Agreed, took tango, it's amazing.	/r/seduction	04/02/15 07:30 PM
1	Hooked up with a girl on New Years and I never felt so lonely I'm glad you wrote this, I almost scrolled past it after the comment's 1st two sentences. I agree.	/r/seduction	02/01/15 07:33 PM
2	Living in a gay neighborhood has taught me some things. I definitely do see many people who just do the brag brag brag on here, and it's offputting. And it's not so much that it upsets them, but that it detracts from whatever the intended message was, because it just reads as "aren't I great?" That said, I didn't get that vibe from your post at all personally. And I totally agree with your response, that people should concern themselves with their own happiness, and that some can incorrectly take a lack of self-deprecating content as "arrogant douche…	/r/seduction	02/01/15 07:12 PM
12	Comedian Michael Che Attacked for Suggesting That Maybe Getting Called Beautiful Isn't the Worst Act of Harassment - Handles it like a pro It's odd that the side that constantly calls for a "conversation" on these issues immediately tries to shut down anyone talking about it in a way they don't approve of. This. People say they want dialogue but what they often really mean is "do as I say, think as I think, or you're the enemy."	/r/TheRedPill	30/10/14 10:03 PM
1	Curse you Oneitis What were you doing those 2 months?	/r/seduction	28/10/14 08:41 PM
7	How far do you have to go in a relationship for sexual jokes to be acceptable. I made what was essentially a date rape joke at a table with 3 girls (i knew 1 of them, I met the other 2 that night) and everyone thought it was hilarious. It's not about time, it's about rapport. And whether or not the girl's a stick in the mud.	/r/seduction	28/10/14 07:05 AM
4	Using a break up as motivation as long as you're out for revenge, she's still the winner because all the new good things in your life aren't about you, they're about her. if she ever happens to feel like she lost out, let that be her own organic circumstance, not your goal. Given that you said the revenge idea subsides the further you go along, I'd say you're in a good place.	/r/seduction	27/10/14 12:12 AM
2	Went out with a guy from the local "lair" yesterday. It was the most pathetic experience of my life. I don't know if I can do game anymore. Guys like Mystery probably looked a lot like your wingman while they were developing themselves. Everyone's starting point is different. Take Stand Up comedy. The average well known comedian has been in the game 5+ years. Some of those comedians truly sucked at the beginning. Like, so bad you watched them perform and wondered what made them think they could be a comedian. And now they're doing late night, comedy central, HBO, etc. You think it matters how awful they were then, now? Even to peopl…	/r/seduction	26/10/14 11:39 PM
6	[FR] I hooked up 3 new girls last night - Long educational FR Her boobs were the best pair I've ever held in my hands. I won't go into detail, but they were absolutely amazing. I won't lie, when I read that particular line all I could think of was "bags of sand": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IlD08Rh6xa8	/r/seduction	25/10/14 09:32 PM
3	Trouble smiling? One approach I'll suggest, instead of telling yourself to smile, think of something that makes you happy, or something you find funny/amusing, a triggered memory of either might make you smile without you forcing yourself to smile.	/r/seduction	25/10/14 08:47 PM
1	Trouble smiling? a genuine smile wrinkles your eyes a bit, fake smile is all teeth.	/r/seduction	25/10/14 08:43 PM
1	[Infield Video] How To Date A Girl Without Speaking The Same Language I know of a married couple (a friend of a friend's parents) where one of them is Spanish the other is Italian, neither speaks the other's language (or English) and yet they've made it work. Spanish and Italian are similar so it helps, but still.	/r/seduction	25/10/14 06:03 AM
2	I look young for my age, good or bad? At 25 I was confused for a high schooler. I'm 30 next week, but people still tend to think I'm much younger. Cute will get you numbers, cute will get you dates, cute will get you laid, if you let it. I let myself be insecure about it for a long time too, because I felt like it meant people didn't take me seriously as an adult, but if you take yourself seriously they will too. Try not to overcompensate by taking yourself too seriously, because I've made that mistake in the past.	/r/seduction	25/10/14 01:14 AM
1	Inner Game is The Most Important Thing To Work On First... Ni! Second... I can see how it might seem like a contradiction. But it's sort of like, if you're overweight, you can convince yourself that when you lose the weight you'll be happy, or you can learn to be happy with yourself in the present and be happier as you progress along. And even when you've finally reached the desired weight and shape, whether you acknowledge it or not, that won't bring you permanent happiness.	/r/seduction	25/10/14 12:44 AM
1	Inner Game is The Most Important Thing To Work On It'd be easy to say, don't compare yourself to other guys, but it's much harder to actually stop. So instead, when you catch yourself thinking about the ways other people are better than you, consciously bring them down to size. Think first about the ways that you and these people are the same, and then think about what makes you better than them. Something about myself I noticed in high school, I was more confident approaching girls I didn't know when I was with some guy friends. Why? Because t…	/r/seduction	24/10/14 08:34 PM
1	Inner Game is The Most Important Thing To Work On Well what about yourself makes you feel like you're not good enough?	/r/seduction	24/10/14 01:04 AM
3	This pickup artist has dated about 500 women he met on the New York subway \| "I would always say, ‘Is this local or express?’ and then say, ‘I hear an accent: Where are you from?’ It’s an awesome door-opener." Numbers game baby. He's estimating 500 women dated over 15 years. That's an average of less than 1 girl per week. But still more than the guy that's never approaching at all.	/r/seduction	13/10/14 09:19 AM
1	How bad is going out alone considered? I literally lol'd at the 1st read of the quote, then realized what you were saying. Although how you said it and how much her question threw you off might've affected how it came across more than your choice of words.	/r/seduction	13/10/14 02:55 AM
1	How bad is going out alone considered? people go out in groups because they don't like to go out alone. they're uncomfortable in their own skin to be in public by themselves. movies alone, dinner alone, bar/club alone, it's not just the stigma of "people will see me by myself and think i'm a loser without friends" it's largely the fact that their friends are their security blankets. so point it out, and point out you're not one of those people. "have you ever noticed that a lot of people don't like to go out to certain places by them…	/r/seduction	13/10/14 02:45 AM
2	Being safe is the riskiest thing you can do. Being safe is the riskiest because there is a nonverbal push pull being communicated to the outside world which both shows you're not confident and makes interactions awkward and weird for everyone involved in the interaction.	/r/seduction	12/10/14 10:13 PM
1	It's not all about inner game Inner game is the ability to interact with the world and say "this is me, like it or leave it" and being ok with the fact that some will leave. I've told women I wasn't attracted to stuff I'd normally be embarassed to admit to women, and it usually backfired and made them like me more, simply because I wasn't seeking their approval. Your post shows you're still concerned with that approval. "how is a girl supposed to find out all this great stuff about me?"	/r/seduction	12/10/14 10:08 PM
3	How can a nice guy not finish last? You may be a nice guy, but being nice isn't your problem. You have sexual anxiety and you're masking it for us, and likely yourself as well, with this "i'm too nice" bit. Being nice and being sexually aggressive aren't mutually exclusive things. I don't say this to be rude or mean, I say this because you have to recognize the actual issue in order to confront it. Trust your instincts. You think she's giving you signs, act on those signs. The only way you're pushing boundaries is if she lets you …	/r/seduction	11/10/14 11:28 PM
1	Do you think it is easier to attract women in todays time, compared to in the 1970's/80's? People that exist today have always existed. There have always been fearless men who charm multitudes of women and fearful men who wished they could be more like those men. Today's men have access to more women and more information on the psychology behind creating and building attraction. At the same time, for some men, the men who have problems, technology now serves as a crutch. It's not that everyone's being less social on a severe level because of technology, it's the ones who are uncomfort…	/r/seduction	11/10/14 07:29 AM
2	Is Approach Anxiety natures way of telling me I shouldn't procreate? Why do some men have it and others don't? Because people are all made differently. Some people are extraverts, some people are introverts. Some people are neurotic, some people are not. You combine introversion and neuroticism and you're practically guaranteed to get approach anxiety. Our personality traits are genetic and environment based. And we're not slaves to our dispositions, we can change them with deliberate action.	/r/seduction	10/10/14 09:31 AM
1	Ballsy or Creepy? some will see it ballsy some will see it creepy, but the main thing is not to second guess yourself. follow through on your intentions.	/r/seduction	10/10/14 09:16 AM
1	Can't open your mouth to approach? Then don't. it worked for you and that's cool but the novelty of it'll wear off real quick if even a few guys adopted it as a tactic.	/r/seduction	09/10/14 07:54 AM
2	How do I come back from an "okay" date? this. I've had great 1st encounters with women that never materialize into anything, and what might be called mediocre encounters that become something major. just remain confident in yourself and ask her out on a 2nd date if you're that much into seeing where things can go with her.	/r/seduction	07/10/14 07:10 PM
5	Was opened at the mall by a cute 40ish lady, had no idea she was trying to pick me up until after I waved her off I may have only seen the episode once or twice, and the last time being at least 10+ years ago, but I remember on Full House when Jesse used baby Michelle to get dates, and for some reason that stuck with me.	/r/seduction	07/10/14 06:44 PM
1	My TEDx Talk on Comfort Zone Challenges and Becoming More Confident Socially! Questions or Feedback? so pick a sidewalk	/r/seduction	07/10/14 07:37 AM
1	I have no experience kissing kissing is a natural thing, like breathing. you don't need to think about how to breathe. you don't need to think about how to kiss. Just let it flow.	/r/seduction	02/10/14 08:09 PM
0	How can I try at a bar if I don't drink? I didn't start drinking until 25, hanging with drunk friends is usually entertaining, but drunk strangers tend to lead to uncomfortable interactions, not always but often enough.	/r/seduction	02/10/14 07:49 PM
3	if you have a crush on a girl, should you start off as friends and work your way up or make your intentions clear from the beginning? Same advice, you address those feelings ASAP. The longer you wait the harder it gets to address them and the harder a possible rejection will feel.	/r/seduction	02/10/14 06:41 AM
3	So how do i know if a girl find me attractive or is 'checking me out'? i'm assuming Attraction Indicator	/r/seduction	02/10/14 03:35 AM
35	if you have a crush on a girl, should you start off as friends and work your way up or make your intentions clear from the beginning? This is you putting yourself in the friend zone. It's one thing for you to develop feelings for a girl that's a friend, but if you have a crush on her, let her know from the get go. It will save you a lot of time. If she's not interested, you can choose to be her friend after that knowing that you're almost guaranteed nothing will come of it. Otherwise you can move on with your life. It's bad enough that we create ideas in our heads of who people are just from looking at them and admiring them, …	/r/seduction	02/10/14 02:09 AM
2	lowering standards for experience what makes a girl girlfriend material for you? or better yet, what was it about this girl that made her NOT gf material?	/r/seduction	29/09/14 07:23 AM
1	[FR] Went out to do the weekly shop, instead I instadate a blonde beauty and head back to her flat to watch a movie. A resisted attempt would have been fine as long as you honored her resistance if it was present, but you can't change the past and it still sounds like things can still escalate to that point, so don't sweat it.	/r/seduction	29/09/14 06:59 AM
1	How long does it usually take to build attraction? The same way if a guy seems too attracted too soon it'll turn a girl off, if a girl is too into you too fast it will turn you off from her.	/r/seduction	29/09/14 06:11 AM
3	Any men of color in large cities getting 0 luck on dating apps? I know an Indian guy who used a picture of himself in color and a picture of himself in black and white (where you can't really tell that he's Indian from his features) on Tinder and his matches were higher with the black and white photo.	/r/seduction	27/09/14 10:12 AM
3	3 Bizarre Tricks To Explode Your Confidence http://www.people.hbs.edu/acuddy/in%20press,%20carney,%20cuddy,%20&%20yap,%20psych%20science.pdf	/r/seduction	27/09/14 10:04 AM
1	How did YOU personally gain confidence in yourself? My advice is don't concern yourself with whether or not they're attracted to you. Personally most of my success with attractive women has come from the ones I thought didn't or wouldn't like me. How does that work? Well I know that sometimes I get caught in peacocking myself, trying to prove my worthiness, and also trying to not offend her, not wanting to say or do something that might upset her, which either results in censoring myself or half-assing/hesitating on my words/actions. But if I'm c…	/r/seduction	27/09/14 04:00 AM
2	Don't you feel dumb reading self-help/PUA books? People taught you words, people taught you numbers, people taught you how to socialize, everything we know how to do started with learning from others. Some things we learn from watching others do, some things we learn from being trained and instructed by others, some things we learn on our own through experimentation. Everyone learns in their own way but everyone learns. Even a lack of confidence or that you shouldn't need help talking to girls on your own are learned ideas.	/r/seduction	25/09/14 06:42 AM
1	Where do y'all meet the intelligent and intellectually curious women? lmao well as a new yorker there's plenty of modelesque fashionable well groomed female poets at the mics I attend. YMMV.	/r/seduction	23/09/14 07:27 PM
2	Where do y'all meet the intelligent and intellectually curious women? poetry open mics	/r/seduction	23/09/14 06:07 AM
1	I get nervous when I am under pressure or on the spotlight. What are some things I can do to get rid of that? Any activities or exercises? Power Poses: short explanation - 30 second video with enough detail long explanation - 20 minute detailed TED talk	/r/seduction	22/09/14 10:09 PM
2	Can't tell if I have impossibly high standards or if most women I meet aren't worth dating. Yea, that sounds bad. At the end of the day, your girlfriend is supposed to make you happy. But it's okay, most people are guilty of being in that mindset to different degrees. And now that you've become consciously aware of it, you can change it.	/r/seduction	22/09/14 07:10 AM
1	I get nervous when I am under pressure or on the spotlight. What are some things I can do to get rid of that? Any activities or exercises? That never fully goes away, just keep doing it and it'll matter less and less. Even celebrities get nervous. Edit: But you should do some power poses before any situation you know you'll be on the spotlight, it'll prepare you to handle the stress better.	/r/seduction	22/09/14 05:08 AM
1	Talking to Strangers? Anyone you decide to talk to, find a point of entrance, like the band tee, expand from there. Hey you like XYZ band, me too, did you go to their last concert in ABC town? What did you think of that last album? Did you know (random fact) about (band member)? By this point the other person should be asking you questions too if they're interested in the conversation. Conversations are best when they develop in an organic fashion, so find a commonality between you and the stranger, even something as…	/r/seduction	21/09/14 09:38 AM
2	Talking to Strangers? You don't need to have full fledged conversations with strangers, just talk to them when something comes up. The other day I was mini dancing to the song playing in the grocery store. A couple aisles later I saw some woman shaking to the music too, so I said "I'm glad to see I'm not the only one dancing here" gave her a good laugh. A group of college kids were on the train ride home last night when I got on the train, when one of the girls said to one of the guys "Guys mouths are so small" and I…	/r/seduction	21/09/14 08:47 AM
12	Can't tell if I have impossibly high standards or if most women I meet aren't worth dating. I feel like if I look long enough, I can find reasons to not go out with anyone. Therein lies your problem. Why are you looking for reasons to NOT go out with a woman before you've even gone out with her a 1st time? You're giving yourself excuses to not put yourself out there.	/r/seduction	21/09/14 08:33 AM
1	I'm terrible around women, I need some advice. thoughts on each situation 1: you were visually appealing, but lacked the personality she was hoping for, she walked away, her telling you she wasn't wearing lipstick might have thrown you off that your response lacked signs of confidence 2: "they ask me to leave" I have never been asked to leave a group of people, but I do know I have had moments when I lingered around longer than I should have. If the conversation gets stale and you're not sure how to revive it, that's your cue to leave them, …	/r/seduction	18/09/14 08:30 PM
2	The more I do pickup, the more I find "there are plenty of fish in the sea" is bullshit Great link. What I was trying to convey to him was that sometimes things just happen that way and not to take it personal. That's when it really does become a brick wall. If he's convinced himself that it's not going past date 1, his behavior unintentionally will turn his thoughts into a self fulfilling prophecy.	/r/seduction	18/09/14 07:49 PM
23	Why reading Seddit all day won't change anything and how to learn to love yourself Soon to be 30/M here, I think this is one of the best threads I've read on this sub in the 2 weeks that I've been on reddit. I recognize that for plenty guys that are on seddit it's not really PUA motivated and just wanting to be more successful on engaging and closing with the specific women they're interested in and what you say is the complete truth. A lot of the advice on seddit is accurate and DOES work, because it's based on human psychology and we're hardwired to respond and react to cert…	/r/seduction	18/09/14 07:33 PM
9	Live your life like a movie. While I like the intention of this message, I think it's important for people to get some perspective on an obvious but often overlooked reality of the movies. The average movie is 90 minutes long, some closer to 120 minutes, and the few that get in the 3 hour territory. And that 90 minutes is rarely real time. The timespan is usually days, weeks, months, or years. If you made a highlight reel of the great moments in the past year of your life, you could fill up 90 minutes. So yea, live your lif…	/r/seduction	18/09/14 06:21 PM
1	Rejection is not bad if you can laugh about it. Imagine catching a girl on the day that she just aced a test, got a promotion, heard some really good news, now imagine catching that same girl on that same day but instead she just failed a test, lost her job, heard some really bad news, how she reacts to you will be different. So many factors play into your success, so many factors play into her behavior/demeanor. Better to just write off the situation than to affix a label to the rejector.	/r/seduction	18/09/14 06:04 PM
2	Getting used to your skin and taking baby steps out of your comfort zone Baby steps are good, but I think sometimes you should also throw yourself in the deep end to realize you won't sink. I was a shy kid, I still like to think of myself as somewhat shy even though anyone who knows me would dispute that. I was so shy I didn't even like to dance in front of my immediate family. Long story short, I'm 12, it's my aunt's 50th birthday, dance floor's empty, I can tell my friend wants to go dance but he's just as scared as I am to go up there, so I say to him let's go tog…	/r/seduction	18/09/14 02:56 AM
3	The more I do pickup, the more I find "there are plenty of fish in the sea" is bullshit Whether you're trying to be a pick up artist or you're just a dude looking to find a girlfriend, it's always going to be hit or miss. You're getting dates, which is great and puts you ahead of a lot of people. And just because things go south doesn't mean you "messed" up, that's life. Sometimes you do everything right and you still lose. Sometimes an actor auditioning doesn't get a role for any number of reasons that have zero to do with their acting ability. And of course there are plenty of fi…	/r/seduction	18/09/14 01:38 AM
1	I realize a lot of people are turned off by RSD but it has changed my life. An important thing to note, if you're not comfortable with touching them, they're not going to be comfortable either. Might I suggest taking a partners-style dancing class, it will require you to touch, and on the plus side, women love a man that can dance.	/r/seduction	17/09/14 05:24 AM
1	I cant "connect" with anyone. I agree. When on dates with these girls, I suggest if they're seniors like yourself, ask them about their college plans, where they're applying (in state or out of state, what their motivations are for either choice), if they have a major lined up (what made them pick that major) or going in undeclared (what fields are they interested in exploring) Or you can go another route and just flat out say "These conversations are fun and all, but don't you want to talk about something real?"	/r/seduction	17/09/14 01:49 AM
1	Fucking hate myself human beings, we're all shy, we all have fears, we're all afraid of lots of things, this is why we speak of the things that people do in terms of bravery and courageousness and not fearlessness. To be brave, to have courage, is not to do something without fear but rather to do something in spite of fear. So be brave, have courage, you can overcome your shyness even if you can't get rid of it. And do power poses before you go out, and stand tall when you are out, because the same way that how you…	/r/seduction	16/09/14 04:49 AM
1	How do you become an interesting person in a conversation? People like to talk about themselves, so when you engage a woman in conversation, you give her free reign to talk about herself (like SinSlayer said, by being interested in them). When she's giving you nuggets about herself, you should find threads in there that are relatable to you, and in the flow of the conversation, you follow that thread by sharing your own nuggets and then reroute the conversation back to her until the next thread appears.	/r/seduction	16/09/14 04:25 AM
5	My first rejection I wanna make a sports analogy for you. Michael Jordan is one of the most famous basketball players. Even if you don't really know basketball, you know Michael Jordan. Michael Jordan's career shooting percentage is about 50%. A lot of other well known superstars in the league have similar percentages. The best of the best in the NBA have failed at around HALF of their attempts. You're going to fail, you're going to get rejected. It's a fact of life. Sometimes it's going to make you feel bad, but …	/r/seduction	16/09/14 04:10 AM
13	It's how you say it, not what you say. The Halo Effect This video is a fine example of how you say it not what you say carries a lot. As for your born naturals argument, of course there are some people who are just naturally gifted at these sorts of things. People whose personality type meshes well with those jobs tend to gravitate towards them because it's a good fit. And folks that want to be more like that gravitate toward those jobs because you're either going to figure out how to be more like that, or find another profession.	/r/seduction	15/09/14 02:08 AM
2	Why Do I Lose Interest When I Realize I Could "Get" The Girl? Getting a hot girl is driven by some parts sex drive, some parts ego. Sounds like your desire to attract a hot girl is more for your ego than horniness, so once you feel like you can get her, your ego's already satisfied, it's no longer worth it.	/r/seduction	13/09/14 08:46 PM
2	She gave her number but..? overanalyzing yes. there's nothing for her to do with your name. she has your number now too, great. go drinking tomorrow, and see where it leads.	/r/seduction	12/09/14 06:37 AM
6	I'm just... not funny. Stop trying to be funny. I tried to be funny in high school, and it rarely ever worked out. I used to get upset when one person would say/do something & it would get a roar yet when I did/said similar it got either a neutral or negative response. And then I gave up, I realized trying to be funny was a waste of my time. And that's when I became funny. The pressure I put on myself to be humorous caused the opposite effect. The less I tried, the more my natural humor came out and now most people kn…	/r/seduction	12/09/14 05:53 AM
1	Need help from guys who stutter I have a friend, he has a bit of a stutter. He's aware of it, he's not fond of it, but he's not heavily self-conscious of it, and as a result, it doesn't affect him much in any facet of his life. Women are attracted to him regardless, some have even told him they found his stutter cute. His stutter has actually made him more endearing to some of them. It doesn't have to be a weakness!	/r/seduction	11/09/14 11:33 PM
6	How do you get past being a virgin? Seddit will tell you when it comes to talking to women, do not put an attractive woman on a pedestal, do not assign her high value because of her high attractive level. In the same way, do not put your virginity on a pedestal. It's simply a matter of fact. It has no bearings on you as a person or your value and worth as a man. Absolve yourself of your virginity as a weight on your shoulder. Don't worry about the possibility of sex until you're alone in a room with a girl. And even then, don't wo…	/r/seduction	11/09/14 11:25 PM
2	Top Points Covered by All ‘Naturals’ Let them get away with it once, "it" being any number of things that shouldn't be allowed/you don't like, and they with invariably do it again.	/r/seduction	10/09/14 08:25 AM
1	Some very basic tips & observations for beginners, from my experience: I'm a firm believer that the question is irrelevant, she may say yes even tho it's no to get you to leave, and she may say no even tho it's yes to get you to stay	/r/seduction	10/09/14 04:17 AM