invisibletraveler2 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
32	She said she was off limits to me	Field Report	invisibletraveler2	/r/seduction	24/06/25 12:46 PM
30	Flirting without be to sweet?	Outer Game	invisibletraveler2	/r/seduction	03/07/25 03:29 PM
2	Lack of Texting Advice	Conversation	invisibletraveler2	/r/seduction	10/03/25 03:41 PM
1	Team Input: Text to old fling.	Escalation & Calibration	invisibletraveler2	/r/seduction	17/05/25 08:29 PM

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1	Anybody here that started approaching in their 30s? At 32 I got sober. Until that point in my life i had been a angry, isolated introvert. I had some success with women. I took on the task of completely rebuilding myself. I worked on my behaviors, attitudes, physical condition and my social skills. It has taken a lot of work. It took a couple of just building basics. I used my "practice interview" approach. I would start chatting up girls is wasn't interested in, just to get comfortable. Once I started getting dates I didn't have goals of hooking…	/r/seduction	13/05/26 11:42 AM
1	Flirting via text I will part with almost everyone else here on this. It is a consensus here that you should never and connont flirt over text. While it is not ideal, I pick up the majority of my hookups by text. I have hooked up with four women in the last two weeks and all had the flirting and groundwork laid by txt. Two I met in public briefly and exchanged information. One on FB marketplace and one Instagram. They are all fit and attractive under 130lbs (for context, im swinging for the fences) With everyone …	/r/seduction	19/02/26 03:56 PM
1	What income needed to date the most attractive women? My point is that I think you are making a false correlation between money and attractiveness. But for your answer, I would assume any woman who is concerned about money, expects a million per year.	/r/seduction	14/02/26 08:28 PM
1	What income needed to date the most attractive women? The whole premises of this question seems really weird. I assume you are living in some sort of TV show where this is important. Also your assertion that Instagram Models are some sort of special species to be sought out is kind of weird or juvenile. I have known, met and seen "Pop Culture" women like you speak of and thought many of them are not very attractive in person. More so the personality of any woman who is focused on such things would have me eating glass, just as an excuse to bounce. …	/r/seduction	13/02/26 10:01 PM
8	Fck. I now have a gym crush. Gonna be wondering how to approach Gyms are a hot spot of attractive girls. But be careful, there is long standing etiquette about not hitting on girls at the gym. That does not mean you can never do it, but if its not a success its a Creep label. That can effect you for a long time. Girls at gyms love to gossip and you don't want to get added to their list of known creeps. Just be cool, take it easy and slow. No girl has ever refused a guy because he did not hit on her right away.	/r/seduction	06/02/26 02:45 AM
17	I'm tired of Women and their lower brain capacity This post is the perfect example of someone can't figure out how to find something to offer and be attractive and then blames everyone else for their failure. I this person has never had a single moment of true connection another person because they are self-consumed. If you can sympathize anyway with what op is saying, I urge you to take a deep person inventory. This is the inevitable result of a guy who follows the advice and aspires of proclaimed "Alpha Males". No woman is ever going to be se…	/r/seduction	22/11/25 10:31 PM
6	What were the dumbest "hints" you got from a woman? Exactly that yes. She felt like I was trying to woo her. But our thing was much more casual.	/r/seduction	21/10/25 10:12 PM
21	What were the dumbest "hints" you got from a woman? The dumbest ones I have missed- I had a casual thing with a younger but very confident and forward girl. Atleast two times she said in passing or joking "you are too nice to me" or "you are too sweet". In retrospect these were compliments. She was telling me that my gentleman or nice guy demeanor was putting her off. After the situation ended and I understand what she meant, I realized that several other women in the past meant the same thing.	/r/seduction	21/10/25 06:21 PM
16	Getting rejected after sex on first date? How do you know you gave them a great experience? Obviously there is something that makes them decide to disengage. You are the common factor. You need to clearly assess all the interactions and figure out what it was. Most likely your performance or interactions after.	/r/seduction	16/08/25 09:38 PM
2	How to overcome anxiety You can not manufacturer confidence. It is a byproduct of self care and personal improvement. Focus on taking care of yourself. Getting in shape, find clubs you are interested in. You will find your groove.	/r/seduction	05/08/25 11:22 AM
1	Gym open My advice is: if you are getting into the gym. That is great. Improve your physical appearance and value. This will pay huge dividends in your daily life and your value to women you see in other places. I am 44 and in the gym 6 times a week. I never pick up women here. I usually pick up a 8-9 20- 30 year old at the Farmers Market every week. Know your audience......	/r/seduction	05/08/25 10:56 AM
2	Gym open The hoties get that way by putting the work in at the gym. The gym is pretty sacred to them. They are in their mode focused on the work. You have to be THE prince charming to interrupt that and not irritate the. There is also the onslaught they have had of gym tourists hitting on them. Now once you spend some time at the gym and become part of the community you may form report with some and be safe to ask someone out. But no, the gym is a cold approach no go zone. Places like the gym have their …	/r/seduction	05/08/25 10:39 AM
8	Gym open Don't approach women at the gym. Its kind of a well known etiquette thing. If you are going for a while and strike up report with someone first, then its a bit different. Otherwise its not well received. You risk getting branded as s creep, really fast.	/r/seduction	05/08/25 09:59 AM
1	Club: Girl likes me but I like her friend A few weeks ago, I spotted a couple of sisters at a Farmers' Market. I struck up a conversation with them. I was very interested in the one. We exchanged numbers. An hour or so later, the other one hit me up. Not the one that I had my eye on, but still not bad. We met up, hung out, and hooked up. She was a blast and way better looking than I had estimated. I am really glad she was the one I ended up with. Her sister definitely would not have been as enjoyable. Don't get distracted by greener gra…	/r/seduction	21/07/25 09:30 PM
3	She's been replying less, she says she's busy, but is it worth holding on? I would leave it alone for now. If she comes back around, reassess then. If she does message you, ignore it and see if she follows up. Your attention is valuable, not available upon request. Your actions should be designed to let her know that. Let her work for you if she is interested.	/r/seduction	21/07/25 07:37 PM
3	She's been replying less, she says she's busy, but is it worth holding on? Scarcity is value..... have you noticed how she responds less, you become more obsessed with her not responding? The opposite is also true. As you are showing your acceptance and availability to her, your value is dropping in her perception. Your availability and tolerance of being dismissed or ignored a signs of neediness. The most appropriate thing to do is NOTHINING. Do not message her to check in. Do not try to patch or get her attention. If she does message you, don't respond. If she were r…	/r/seduction	21/07/25 07:25 PM
1	Other than a bar or club, where do I find women? The best answer to this question really requires better understanding what kind of women you're looking for. I don't drink so I never go to bars or clubs. Also I don't want women who hang out in bars or clubs. I look for climbing clubs and climbing gyms to hang out at. Take Muay Thai classes. Volunteer clubs and organizations that do the kind of things where the women I would like can be found. But ultimately the best I've ever found is farmers markets Those are the women I most interested in. T…	/r/seduction	16/07/25 05:08 PM
8	I never imagined reading a book could be so beneficial. I think the ideas and subject of the book are really good. But fck its dry. "The Nice guy wil.....". Shit stop qualifying the reader and get to the point.	/r/seduction	16/07/25 04:16 PM
8	Girl literally told me “ur ugly as f” The most important thing here is not what she said, or that anything is wrong with her. You need to work on why it bothered you. If you allow other people's words to effect you enough to blame, hate on her or rant, then you are way to invested on other people's opinion of you.	/r/seduction	11/07/25 08:15 PM
2	What’s the point of female friendships Besides the glaring issue of how you describe friendships as transactional. From a dating aspect they can be incredibly valuable. From getting insight and bouncing ideas off of to just having unique perspective. Personally I have a couple of female friends who love setting me up with every girl they think I would be into. Its great because they know my preferences and that im most likely only looking to hook up. One might call me and say "Im heading out with my friend Darcy, she just broke up. Y…	/r/seduction	10/07/25 06:56 PM
2	Should I focus on myself i.e. get better looking, before I chase women? Or both at once? It can be genuine. It can be about anything. That is the point. Getting good at finding genuine ways to strike up conversations and interactions. I personally really like to flatter and flirt with old ladies. Their faces light up, and they always play along. You become confident in all-around conversation. I try to give genuine compliments to several random people a day. "That is a nice truck, man.", "Those are really sharp shoes", "That is a unique handbag"..... Open doors, help people carry th…	/r/seduction	08/07/25 05:48 PM
65	Should I focus on myself i.e. get better looking, before I chase women? Or both at once? People think you can only get better by talking to women. You should be talking to everyone. Strike up conversations with little old ladies. Tell guys at the gas station they have nice trucks. Get the confidence to talk to anyone. Afterall if you are afraid of grandma, how do you think you will be able to approach the girl in the short dress?	/r/seduction	08/07/25 05:04 PM
1	Flirting without be to sweet? Honestly, I think these might be different things. On an approach, I would not take the comment as an articulate statement, but more of a canned response. This is feedback I have received from women I have had ongoing relationships (hooking up) with. Each time, their statements were in response to specific behaviors, and I believe to be direct signals that they did not like my sweet and flattering behavior.	/r/seduction	06/07/25 03:25 AM
1	Flirting without be to sweet? There is always space for improvement. Any lost or blown opportunity needs work done on it.	/r/seduction	04/07/25 03:32 AM
1	Flirting without be to sweet? No. No interest in long term with any of these girls. Im in my 40s they have all been in thier 20s. I think that i am unintentionally giving that vibe, by being to sweet.....	/r/seduction	04/07/25 03:31 AM
2	Think i fumbled badly. im very depressed Personally for me if someone responds witb low effort or emojis twice. I stop contacting them. She put herself out there and you did not reward her for it. You can try to look at some of the things she sent you. Find something she was really interested in, send her a message about it. Ex... Hey I have been listing to that band you sent me. I really like how they.... Thank you for introducing me to them.... Do you have any other bands similar? You can modify this for anything. Just acknowledge he…	/r/seduction	03/07/25 06:07 PM
1	Think i fumbled badly. im very depressed She was definitely prompting you. She was probably offended at not being acknowledged. Did you respond to her messages thoughtfully or just brief acknowledgements and emojis? Do you want to try to salvage the situation?	/r/seduction	03/07/25 05:24 PM
1	Flirting without be to sweet? Ok, how do you engage and flirt while building status dominance? Like if you want to hit up an old hookup, how do you engage them in a way to get attention and entice engagement?	/r/seduction	03/07/25 04:49 PM
1	Flirting without be to sweet? This is over simplified but I think you are touching on a valuable theme here. Especially for the partners who openly state or imply thier degrading kinks. They don't want praise of thier overall value. They want acknowledgement of thier personal and sexual use value. Thank you, this provides some valuable thought.	/r/seduction	03/07/25 04:40 PM
2	Flirting without be to sweet? Its not dating. Its just hookups. But i am absolutely confident its not bed performance. If you hook up with a girl and she messages about how good it was and asks to go again and record future sessions for her use. And refers her OF friends. Its not bad performance. When they slide in several comments about being to sweet to them. Im going to work off that for now. This is not dating. These are all casual hookups. They don't want dinner....	/r/seduction	03/07/25 04:20 PM
13	Flirting without be to sweet? That is definitely not the case. But thank you for a completely low value statement.	/r/seduction	03/07/25 03:42 PM
8	Flirting without be to sweet? Do you have a link?	/r/seduction	03/07/25 03:36 PM
3	Think i fumbled badly. im very depressed This is a learning experience. I would completely ignore any advice blaming or degrading her. That's how you become a Angry Incel. She was clearly interested in you or your attention. Look at how she was communicating and how you responded. There may have been something that did not click. Some clue missed. Its your job to know your audience and find what excites her. I know i have missed clues and still fumble on obvious things. Last week I had a girl tell me "I was sweet". Great!?. Nope it was…	/r/seduction	03/07/25 03:20 PM
8	First date ideas other than drinks? I would give them weed in exchange. In Retrospect that was probably not the most thoughtful arrangement. The school no longer allows the students to take others up.	/r/seduction	25/06/25 11:25 PM
37	First date ideas other than drinks? I don't drink, so this is every first date for me. I try to feel them out and figure out what they are excited about. Like the girl who was so busy with work and kids and talked about the lack of excitement in her life, I took to a local zip line. I try to lean towards unique adventure stuff myself. I figure the more excited they feel by the activity, they will be with me. Years ago, I could pay the local student pilots to take us up and fly around. I try to make it something they have never don…	/r/seduction	25/06/25 09:19 PM
2	She said she was off limits to me She is definitely concerned about the social implications with our exs. She is interested but wants to be talked into crossing the line.	/r/seduction	25/06/25 04:04 PM
3	She said she was off limits to me Good feedback. Like I said I have not been in that spot.	/r/seduction	24/06/25 06:26 PM
-16	She said she was off limits to me You think I sound like a robot? That's a first for me. However it is just a field report of events not a short story.	/r/seduction	24/06/25 06:24 PM
7	She said she was off limits to me I have never had the F word dropped on me. But if I heard it, I would bail. That is an emasculating statement. I would never want to be perceived as a hanger on. Also there are plenty of No's that are definitely No. As soon as that is dropped, it is really important to stop or you can quickly become needy or a creep.	/r/seduction	24/06/25 05:45 PM
0	Got a girl coming home Have you found any idea of what her level of sexuality is like? Does she have high libido? Does she want to get physical already? or does she want a romantic approach?	/r/seduction	24/06/25 12:58 PM
1	Why I am single This deserves much more expansion than this. But no one is ever going to see value in you if you don't see value in yourself. If you don't know why they would want to go out with you, why would they want to?	/r/seduction	24/06/25 12:21 PM
2	Encouragement needed for complimenting girls - so hard ! Anything you want to get better at needs practice. Make it a habit to compliment several people a day. Not just girls you are interested in. If you see some guy with a nice truck, tell him so. Tell the old lady at the grocery store she looks nice. Look for opportunities to compliment everyone. Then when it comes to complimenting someone your interested in, it comes easy and sounds natural and sincere. As a by product you will make a lot of ppls days and make other valuable connections.	/r/seduction	24/06/25 12:17 PM
1	All these three first dates asked EXACTLY the same questions Answering these questions is a great opportunity to demonstrate and establish a few perceptions. "Not often, only if I get a really good vibe or seems like to good to miss out on" - Make her feel special, she is not next in rotation, she is special. Be brief but be kind about your ex, don't be nasty or negative. Also be clear it's over, how glad you are she is doing now. Show you are gracious and not still caught up on your ex. By this point in time you should have picked up on how she sees hers…	/r/seduction	24/06/25 12:13 PM
1	Anyone ever experienced a random dude interrupt and hit on your date? I am curious what responses you have made. If you feel like your height makes you more likely to have this happen you should be prepared to fend off the approaches. Keep in mind it will only happen if the poacher perceives you as low value and they think they can make you subservient. It is unlikely they are prepared for any counter. So if you respond strongly and witty they will fold. The second they fluster, your date will probably get wet at your defense. I have only approached a couple girls…	/r/seduction	24/06/25 12:03 PM
14	Should i just get tinder? You need exposure. Increase your potential pool size. Put yourself in situations where you will meet more women. Join clubs or social groups. Get a job with a lot of social interaction. - lift your head up and pay attention. Start random conversations.	/r/seduction	13/05/25 11:41 AM