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Ok so obviously do not marry this man any time soon. It hasn’t even been a year. I’ll be straight up, him flying out to you and looking into the logistics of an American citizen living in his country vice versa (once married) is just weird and imo red flags considering how little you guys have even saw each other. There’s many questions that you need to ask yourself. How do you know for sure that he is actually 27 years old? Have you done any research on who this guy is? What’s his occupation, r…
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/23 04:39 PM
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Farting in front of each other thing is something that may not be avoided. It can be joked around about every once in a while as long as it’s not becoming disrespectful. I actually found a relationship killer for me and partner was me always walking around half naked when we were home. It unknowingly decreased the spark between us, since he saw my “goods” 24/7 lol. Now that I’m covered up more, the increase of sex and affection increased so much!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/23 11:02 AM
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She means you’re ignoring potential future husbands by having this idea that the only high value men are tall rich and intelligent.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 06:13 PM
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In your recent post on splendida you mentioned you have an apple shaped body and that even tho you work out you still have a belly and you mentioned having a lazy eye. I’m not trying to be rude, but that may be why other women are being chosen over you. Not just because they are promiscuous. You can obviously still get a high value men, but stop blaming other women.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 06:00 PM
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Lol. Men absolutely still go to strip clubs aka “whorehouses” more than you would like to think ESPECIALLY bc of the lack of female attention. Even when married.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/23 02:53 PM
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Yes of course it’s real but it doesn’t justify men who have a high body count wanting their partners to have low body counts, which is what majority of people here are trying to say. Ideally you should have similar values as your partner
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 04:19 PM
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Ummm, a guy can be wanted by my many women and not have a high body count. Myself and many women I know are more attracted to men that are wanted by many women but aren’t so easily influenced to sleep with any women they see is interested them. It shows strong values, and that he values woman.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/23 10:34 AM
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Agree with all of this except for the Fresh and Fit point. They purposefully have horrible guests to make the “other side” seem worse.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 05:37 PM
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Oh wow I never thought of it in that way. Never could put my finger on why it bothered me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 05:35 PM
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Honestly, if his preference is to be dating a virgin he should have upheld that ideal for himself as well. Just be honest
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 02:40 PM
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Okay so, you will probably drive yourself crazy if you continue to try and diagnose him if he’s not receptive to wanting to self reflect. Focus on yourself. Communicate clearly with him and ask what he needs from you as well. If you have very little in common, then what did you guys used to do for fun? What was it like when things were good?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/22 02:48 PM
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There’s also a thing called respect. So whether or not a partner has a “fetish” or “complex sexual needs” it needs to be communicated clearly to their partner. Instead, he went behind her back to send nudes to another women and is now specifically searching young girls on Instagram. This is not okay. Stop justifying perverted people by saying that sexuality is complex. Yes, sexuality IS complex but that doesn’t justify sending nudes and seeking specifically younger women in a monogamous relation…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/22 02:47 PM
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Um watching videos of a women in lingerie is sexually implicit 😂it’s about having integrity in a relationship and being forthcoming about seeking other women online for eye candy. Men can do it, but they should be the ones to be transparent about it
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 07:51 PM
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If she was insanely jealous she would have yelled at home for doing this. Instead she is debating on what she should do.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 07:47 PM
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He still clicks on them and watches them though lol
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 07:44 PM
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Yes the subscribing part would bother me too. I feel if he consistently watches stuff like this I would bring it up. But if it was one time I’d say it’s ok.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/22 04:45 PM
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You don’t need to be young or pretty to find love. You are not overweight and you are a hard worker. I know you said you know you won’t ever find love, but I think that’s a big lie. I suggest finding a man with kids as he will likely be open to your kids. I would also learn radical acceptance. You can google what it entails but overall it’s accepting your full self and past decisions that were made. Once you can fully accept yourself and understand that you are only human only then can you final…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 04:28 PM
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I mean I wouldn’t date anyone who paints their nails bc it’s not my thing but I really don’t care what others do. Sometimes it’s not attractive other times it’s okay
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 02:28 PM
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This guy seems toxic tbh. You can still have feminine energy while also strength training lol
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/22 06:52 PM
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Is there any part time or per diem positions that you could take while raising your kids? Or is that not really a thing in your career?
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 02:29 PM
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That’s not really what I’m addressing.. you listed your father who sexually assaulted you as a previous “sex” partner. That was not sex, it was rape aka not consensual therefore not apart of your body count. This theory of dating is not supposed to give advice after sexual assault, it’s a guideline. You heal by going to therapy and loving yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 04:09 PM
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It’s not manipulation. It’s called having boundaries. And a good man would wait.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 04:00 PM
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Girl what the fuck? Your father was not your partner. Either you’re a troll or very uh… brainwashed. I would seriously seek therapy if I were you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/22 03:58 PM
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Always choose therapy over a relationship coach, they have important and necessary training to help you improve the quality of your life.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 02:10 PM
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Girl this dude is treating you horrible, please leave him
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/22 05:21 PM
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I personally don’t relate but, I would 10 year should be your max. You may be attracted to much older men physically, but the age gap can make it difficult to relate to each other. And also think about your children- I would be a bit sad if my dad was 20 years older than my mom bc he would probably pass while I’m still relatively young. Just some things to consider.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 06:26 PM
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Go to therapy, they help with implementing coping strategies for the issues your describing.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/22 04:43 PM
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No you shouldn’t suck it up… you are pregnant with his child. Those things he isn’t doing like not watching porn/drinking/smoking is the least he can be doing to be a good partner for you. You need his support. Talk to him about reducing his hobby to once a week.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 06:30 PM
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I’m sorry but his healthy “hobby” sounds strange to me. Is he hiking 3 times a week? I don’t see why he’d need to be out from 4am-8pm. I also don’t understand why he is prioritizing this over work and his class when you guys have baby coming. He seems to not be the sole provider and lacks helping around the house. I would have a serious talk to him about this “hobby”. And I’m not sure if I understand this correctly but he reminded you that he doesn’t drink/smoke/watch porn… what is this in refer…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 04:48 PM
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I’m sorry but you feel like you trained him to be like this? You didn’t, he’s just taking advantage of you because he knows you’re reliable. I would give him specific jobs. For example, vacuum, clean the bathrooms, do the dishes after I cook. Never do these duties as they are for him. Also, if you need help reach out to him and ask for it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 04:24 PM
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I mean you don’t have to give a number but not being honest is not a good idea. You could say that you had issues back in the day and was very sexually active but have now worked through those issues and are now choosing to be more selective with who you give yourself too. If a man judges you for that then he isn’t for you
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/22 05:37 PM
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Helping him to become successful shouldn’t be a reason he stays with you. Idk how you’ve been dating this guy for 4 years and only talk on the phone 10 mins a day and only visit every other month. It’s also very manipulative of you to say to him that you can’t live without him in your life when he wanted to breakup. He’s now only staying with you because you’re making him feel bad. You say you need him but seem prioritize work more than anything - it’s even more important than your health (you r…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/22 01:45 PM
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A man who is best friends with an 18 year old girl is a huge concern in itself. This “man” clearly keeps this girl around to make him feel better about himself. He feels “needed” by her aka always driving her everywhere. Why can’t her boyfriend do that or idk her family ?? Definitely sketchy. You absolutely made the right decision, do not get back with him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/22 10:13 PM
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Simply at the end of the day it seems that you’re values don’t line up when it comes to friendships with the opposite sex. I would feel uncomfortable too. I mean it’s great that he stopped porn but holding his friendship with this girl that he used to have a crush on is what’s personally bothering me. It would be different if they only ever saw each other once in a blue moon during a group hangout by accident but hanging out one on one isn’t cool imo. At the end of the day you may have to be rea…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/22 12:44 PM
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To each their own, I’m just not willing to date a man at any age that’s not mature enough to educate themselves on yeast infections when they’re deciding to have sex with with women. If they find it gross and they “ghost” you, then they’re literally acting like a child. I totally get wanting to wait to be more open with your partner but don’t wait just bc you’re worried it will might make them ghost you. If they think it’s gross they’re not gonna change their mind just bc you decided to wait to …
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 02:43 PM
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That’s not true. Bc you’re way is lying which does not equal being true. Idc what you do but when you start advising others bad advice you should expect for someone to challenge it
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 11:25 AM
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It’s def not a red flag. He just seems very busy. 30-40 mins is a pretty long commute for a care package too.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 04:14 AM
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I really don’t understand how it’s cringey to let a partner know you have an infection. Just bc it’s in your vagina doesn’t make its “cringe”. Men should be aware of these “lady” problems when they happen as to better understand why they can’t have sex (also much better than our right lying). My bf never has a problem with me being honest about that type of stuff.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/22 04:11 AM
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The Bible is more nuanced than what you’re suggesting. Is it not difficult to stay Christian while married to someone in a different religion? Of course it is but it’s not impossible
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 05:55 PM
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Okay that’s a good point - you never know even if they do appear HV. Thanks for explaining
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 02:27 PM
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Okay that’s a good point - you never know even if they do appear HV. Thanks for explaining
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 02:27 PM
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How is a man high value if he cheats though? That’s not apart of being high value lol
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/22 11:03 AM
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Being open about it or “shameless” is not as bad as conservative men who hide what they do (and many MANY do). With openness there can at least be a conversation about it. My bf and I had many conversations about porn and he ended up agreeing with me that it’s not ethical. Many conservatives like i said previously will hide their porn usage bc of shame and their wives never find out and if they do a huge amount of trust is broken. My point being is maybe being “shameless” about it is not as bad …
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/22 03:08 AM
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Word of advice, only “squeak” if it comes naturally. Forcing it will be cringey and make you come off a bit strange. I’ve heard many guys thinking it’s strange when a girl does that. Men like to be complimented, ask him to walk you to your car/house for safety, tell him that he makes you feel safer
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 12:14 PM
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This isn’t a relationship and he is stringing you along. I would not entertain him anymore
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 02:30 AM
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Hope you are able to continue finding clarity!
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/22 04:02 PM
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This is weird and not what RPW is about. We aren’t preaching to submit to one man and then let them sleep with other women. Like I’m legit confused with your post. Did your dad sleep with others when married to your mom?? Ive personally never seen it work. Tbh this sounds more like you have a fetish for men who dominate you and have sex with others on the side
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/22 01:30 PM
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You are (fortunately) not correct! He asked you what your plans were for Valentine’s Day which was him trying to ask you out. I feel that you inviting him to a friend group hang out and then not texting him afterwards would send the message that you just want to be friends. Especially since you guys didn’t talk much during the party. Imo he wanted to take you on a date for Valentine’s Day. I would make plans with him again and during that date, let him know how you feel. I know you don’t want to…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/22 01:05 PM
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Girl, leave this man already. He’s been cheating on you for a loooong time. Literally no positive thing can come out of staying with him
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/22 04:25 PM
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I do too. Especially considering I grew up in a place where many young adults are against religion/conservativeness. I don’t mind living among different people but I feel like if I were to be honestly open I would be shamed for it. It’s hard. I would check out mrs Midwest on YouTube - she is openly Christian and talks about her conservative values
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 11:21 PM
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OP just sounds super jealous. I really just see this as OPs issue. If the husband doesn’t care then why should OP care so much? I hate how she’s thinks her sister being outgoing/loud is a bad thing many men do love that
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 02:42 PM
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Exactly. Casual sex in reality benefits men more than women although I think at the end of it’s not good for either sex
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 11:25 PM
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This is so true!!
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 04:27 PM
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It’s even crazier bc she’s married! I legit feel kinda bad for him
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 03:58 PM
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Agreed, but it does make the whole group like bad unfortunately
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 01:23 PM
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No a girl shared it who claims she’s feminist 🤷‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/22 01:23 PM
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just say “your upper body looks super muscular but your legs look a little thin!! You gotta do leg day!!” Don’t manipulate, would you be happy if he did that to you?
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/22 12:25 PM
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Um a lot of men (whether in high positions or not) browse insta thots for many reason other than insecurities. It’s a lack of respect, lack of motivation to have sex bc of all of the access to thots online to jerk off too, and much more. It’s a complete lie to say men with high positions don’t do that, it’s really only men who value themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 04:05 AM
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Very weird that he only follows you on social media. I would be suspicious of a 29 year old pursuing a 21 year old and being super bad at communicating. I also don’t see why you can’t just communicate with him first? Seems just very unnatural and weird.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/22 05:12 PM
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You did misunderstand something lol. He text another girl for pictures. Likely of herself. He did this while in committed relationship
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 04:28 PM
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You are young. He is 28 doing very immature things. I would personally leave him. It’s only been a few months of dating.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/22 04:26 PM
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Why were you calling these girls thots in the first place though? Bc I feel like if you were really trying to “stay in your lane” and “respect”, you wouldn’t be name calling women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 03:32 PM
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So would you want ugly women staring at your junk at the gym constantly? No one wants people who they are not attracted to stare at them. That’s like a pretty well known fact. If a girl finds you creepy for staring then she just doesn’t find your attractive and that’s life. Don’t be bitter about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 02:55 PM
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Glad you don’t stare at least haha! I’m a woman so I guess I don’t fully understand the struggle of single men at the gym but let me tell you, having strong will power and not being so easily tempted is definitely one of the best qualities to have as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 02:50 PM
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Oh my gosh you poor soul 🥺 it’s so hard not to stare!!!! 🥺 you act like these girls are purposefully trying to attract you. You know girls are allowed to look hot without being thots. Do you call every girl you can’t get with a thot? You should really consider the real reason these girls don’t notice you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 02:20 PM
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Would definitely not be staring at a dudes private area at the gym even if it was very visible. I would probably accidentally look at it once and feel uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/22 02:12 PM
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