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I would be upset if someone I were seeing was having sex with other people. So for me, it’s not okay
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 07:44 AM
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What kind of comparison is this lmao….
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:00 PM
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Both are power imbalances.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 02:00 PM
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There are female players, but it’s not normal or common because women don’t need to “play” men to get sex, money, or anything else. There’s a low possibility of being “played” by a woman in comparison to a man, so it should be a lot more obvious That’s what I’m saying
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 12:24 PM
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Because men need to fake interest to get sex, women don’t. We can walk into any bar on earth and take a guy home. It’s a lot harder for men, so they often need to perform mental gymnastics to get a woman to sleep with him (hence lies and leading on).
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:10 PM
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No offence, but a man isn’t very bright if he can’t tell whether or not a woman is trapping him lol If a man is genuinely sexually attracted to me, it’s incredibly obvious. You can easily tell the difference between a woman going through the motions and laying on her back like a dead fish versus being into you. If not, that’s your own fault
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:13 PM
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You’re cherry picking too lol How is your “study” more valid than mine? Fact is, young men are having less sex than any generation prior.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:29 PM
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https://www.asanet.org/wp-content/uploads/savvy/journals/ASR/Feb13ASRFeature.pdf https://www.washington.edu/news/2013/01/29/more-sex-for-married-couples-with-traditional-divisions-of-housework/ https://time.com/4378502/yes-couples-who-share-chores-have-more-sex/ https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/local/wp/2014/08/14/couples-who-share-housework-have-the-most-sex-and-best-sex-lives/ https://abcnews.go.com/amp/GMA/WaterCooler/story?id=124720&page=1 https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2015/11/151…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:23 PM
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Women are filing for divorce because men refuse to help around the house or raise their children. Have you not seen the hundreds of videos circulating of wives begging their husbands to wash one dish? Do one load of laundry? Take the children for a day so she can be alone? 80% of divorces are initiated by women because we’re sick and tired of being single within in a relationship. It has absolutely nothing to do with a “carousel of dicks”. Are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:59 PM
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52% of all marriages end in divorce. Which means YOU too are more likely to separate than stay together. Divorce can happen for a million reasons, the very last one on the list being a “low quality” woman lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:33 PM
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Getting married in her late 20’s.. so she still got married to a man relatively young. Again, an unmarried woman in her 20’s would be labeled a spinster. We have more choice and less social pressure now. With freedom comes options, so we aren’t settling for some random guy who shows interest and has a job (the bare minimum) anymore
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:39 AM
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Laws preventing women from having jobs, major social and family pressure to marry, the label of “spinster”, fewer educational opportunities, and fewer rights in general forced women to say yes. Think a little more deeply beyond the most basic argument. You don’t need to have a gun held to your head to be manipulated, threatened, or coerced into something.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:37 AM
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Then men don’t need to get married!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:18 AM
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In the 1950s and 60s, women had significantly less choice. Jobs for women were “female oriented” (nurse, teacher, nanny, secretary). Male employers often wouldn’t offer jobs to women at all. Having a job and being unmarried were also frowned upon. There’s a lot of social pressure to marry young and become a housewife when society calls you a “spinster” for being single after 20. My grandma was a wealthy housewife. She got a job as a speaker on a radio show, which her husband forced her to declin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:16 AM
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That’s because women had absolutely no choice but to marry at 19 and get pregnant with the first man who shows interest. Now that we have options in life aside from homelessness if we aren’t married, obviously our standards have risen.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:11 AM
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r/nothowgirlswork
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:09 AM
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The difference is there are actual laws regarding beating your wife today. It was considered normal 100 years ago and no legal protections against domestic violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:07 AM
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Marriage was still socially constructed as necessary, otherwise you were deemed a “spinster”. Women who weren’t married by 25 were often shunned from society or frowned upon. The stigma of being unmarried was enough for young women to settle for the first man who showed interest in fear of being judged. My grandma (a 1950s housewife) was offered a job as a radio show host, and her husband said he wouldn’t allow her to work- so she declined the offer. Just because women COULD have jobs, doesn’t m…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:06 AM
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I have a degree in psychology and have conducted self-reported research. “Happiness” is not something that can be accurately measured. It varies widely and is defined differently depending on the individual’s subjective idea of what being “happy” really means. If you want to bring up some frivolous articles, men are currently the most lonely and sexless they’ve ever been: https://www.happiness.com/magazine/health-body/male-loneliness-time-bomb-killing-men/ https://amp.cnn.com/cnn/2023/09/18/heal…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 11:03 AM
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And what about it…? People act like divorce is the worst thing that could happen in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:56 AM
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This is so hilarious. The reason men didn’t need to do anything aside from being employed was because women would quite literally be homeless on the streets without a man. Of course our grandmas got married at 20 years old to the first person who showed interest, they had no choice. We now have jobs, can open bank accounts without a husband’s signature, have our own properties, and can survive without being married. My grandma was a wealthy housewife and told me EVERYONE in her entire neighborho…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:55 AM
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Not a single soul said that. Way to LEAP to conclusions lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:09 PM
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Just because someone is romantically frustrated, doesn’t mean they want to settle for whoever is available or interested. If my friend wanted just any man, she could be married in 6 months. Your example of not enjoying dancing or CrossFit are absolutely valid for incompatibility. I personally work out 5X a week and was a competitive athlete until I was 20. I would never in a million years date a man who has never played a sport, and doesn’t exercise. He could be wonderful in every other category…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 09:04 PM
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You can also be jaded at 10 years old. A lot of children go through immense trauma and see the world with grey glasses on by middle school. Other people have led privileged lives with very little hardship and still aren’t jaded by 40. Everything is relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 04:24 PM
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I’m 25 and one of my closest friends is 32. She’s single and I have no idea why. She’s beautiful, 0 wrinkles, is an avid runner, incredibly mature and emotionally intelligent, owns her own photography business, and has her own apartment in the city. It’s baffling that she hasn’t settled down with someone yet. There’s not “always a reason” someone over 30 is single, lmao. Not to mention that 52% of marriages end in divorce. A lot of her friends who cuffed someone in their 20’s are now single once…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 04:21 PM
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That’s because paying for a dinner date and doing the majority of housework (which includes dishes, laundry, cleaning, and cooking) are not comparable or equal at all. One requires pressing four buttons on a machine, and the other requires countless hours of labour over years (if you’re in a committed relationship). On top of that, most women already work full time jobs the same as men, do most of the child-rearing, and experience painful birth. If you contrast the two, women are doing a lot mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 07:35 PM
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There’s no one exact definition of what makes a man sexually attractive, that’s why women say we’re “drawn to him”. I have female friends who are dating short guys, I have female friends who prefer black or Asian men specifically. I personally find Eastern Europeans are my type. However, I’ve dated men slightly shorter than me, ones who are bald, and have been sexually attracted to skinny, muscular, AND “dad bod” men. Basically you just need to be attractive to us, which can look like a million …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/24 01:49 PM
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They don’t take height or muscle into consideration at all. They think every woman is 5’1 LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:57 PM
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I’m on hundreds of sub Reddits…. I believe in going no contact and blocking anyone who has disrespected me in the past, as everyone should.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:56 PM
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I got made fun of from grades 7-12 for being “anorexic”. I don’t even need to prove anything to you, I’m thin and very in shape compared to most of the population lmao Anyway, I’ve never cared about penis size. No guy I’ve slept with is “small”. Most men are average and that’s completely fine
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:55 PM
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When a man is cheated on or realizes a woman no longer serves his needs, he will leave immediately (hence the millions of fathers who abandon their families). When a woman feels the same way, she always tries to “make it work” especially if kids are involved. I see wayyy more women trying to repair their relationships than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 05:36 PM
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I’ve been an athlete since I was 6 years old and ran D1 track and field in college. I have 14% body fat, there’s practically not an ounce of fat on my body it’s all muscle. Anyway, you don’t know much about weight and height distribution. Who said anything about big dicks? No one.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 04:43 PM
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I’ve dated and been with 6’4 athletic dudes who are very conventionally attractive. Definitely not delusional or beyond the realm of possibility at all
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:55 PM
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Can’t speak for her, but I’m very skinny and weigh 145 pounds (5’9). Weight alone says absolutely nothing about a woman’s body shape. “Tight” vaginas is a myth created to make us insecure. If you’re having sex with a woman and she’s insanely tight, she isn’t wet or aroused. Congratulations, you failed to turn her on and she’s dry.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:54 PM
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I’m 24❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 03:57 AM
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A lot of men apparently do. There is currently a male loneliness epidemic and men are ranting all over social media that we should just choose a “nice guy” and stop having such “high standards”.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 09:07 PM
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30 is literally your youth… the average lifespan is 80 years old. I’m so tired of people thinking 30-year-old women are supposed to be hideously ugly with grey hair and wrinkles. They’re still in the prime of their lives at that age.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 09:03 PM
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That’s not actually true, though. Men will claim they want to be showered with attention and then remain obsessed with their ex who left them/doesn’t care about them or continue to pursue the woman who completely ignores him for years to come. You guys say one thing and do another lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 08:51 PM
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It’s a universal experience that being sweet, kind, and nice to men makes them lose interest immediately. The second you become a bit mean and sarcastic, they love you. I’ve been both, and the first never works so I started doing the second and have been successful
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 06:50 PM
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Which unfortunately seems to be the vast majority of them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:28 PM
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Because the really nice, sweet girls who extend themselves to men are always walked on/treated like door mats. I used to go out of my way to cook, clean, and organize for men I liked. I would be available whenever they were, and respond quickly. Now, I ignore them for longer periods of time and say I’m busy. I’ve detached myself and treated relationships like they could end at any moment. Since I’ve started being nonchalant and colder, men have become obsessed.. So I would rather ask “why do guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 03:05 PM
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There is actually a direct correlation between husbands getting laid and them doing chores. No woman wants to have sex with a lazy man who she resents for doing nothing around the house. I was in a 3-year relationship where I did absolutely everything and started becoming his mother rather than his girlfriend. My sexual attraction was gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 11:39 PM
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So just choose from the 88-98% of women who don’t have one
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 02:40 PM
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You can say all of those exact things about the population of single men
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 11:45 PM
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Sorry, I don’t believe a random statistic stated without facts. Where is the source from? How reliable is it? How many women does this study include? You can’t just take anything from the internet and suddenly believe it as fact 1/8 is still 12%, which leaves you with 88% of the female population left to choose from.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 10:01 PM
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How did 2-6% suddenly turn into half…? I live in a city of 5 million and have lived in New York. Not one woman I am friends or acquainted with has an OF… Either you’re lying about actually approaching women, making that up, or looking in the worst places possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 07:50 PM
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No, they aren’t. Fewer than 1% of North American women have an OF statistically. They bring on the very tiny amount of sex workers to brainwash men into thinking all of us are prostitutes who sell our bodies online.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 07:45 PM
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Statistically, fewer than 1% of North American women actually post sexual content on OnlyFans. The other 99% have normal jobs. The internet has rotted the brains of men to the point where you see a video of a normal woman graduating HS, getting a degree, or discussing her career and the comments are all “she probably has an OF” It’s sad to see the brainwashing and delusional thinking these podcasts have spouted to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 07:42 PM
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I would much rather wait due to statistics on divorce and having children before the frontal lobe develops (around 25) Many of my friends and people I see on social media who married at 21/22 will be divorced by 30 according to studies. By the time I’m 30, the dating pool will open back up wide. The majority of those who rushed into huge commitments at a young age finally get it right the second time around, which I’m okay with. I don’t need to be their “first love”, I just need to be their last…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 09:37 PM
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I’ve never downloaded a dating app. Former employees of Tinder and Hinge have quite literally admitted after leaving the companies that they are designed specifically to have people fail to find a relationship so that users continue to return. Delete them. They don’t work.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 06:18 PM
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“I’m in good shape with my shit together” Your whole comment just suggested you think you’re a catch… in your 30’s… Why can’t women think the same? Make it make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 06:13 PM
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Have you ever left your house? Or met a couple? Who do you actually know in reality is married to a Calvin Klein model worth millions..? Please tell us
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 06:11 PM
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I feel so sorry for your girlfriend, can’t imagine dating a guy who calls women they’ve never seen before mid and uses chronically online terms like “femcel” Yikes, can’t wait for her to leave u❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 07:12 PM
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It’s because we don’t wander around seeking rich men to pay our bills. If I meet a guy I like, I simply date him. I’m not actively looking for a millionaire to pay all my bills and rejecting everyone else Not sure where the notion that every woman is paid for, but it’s actually quite rare. You need to leave social media platforms and look around at real life. Most of us are normal people with dual income households. I went to NYC and L.A. without buying a single alcoholic beverage, and men have …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 01:01 PM
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Rather be a 5 than an insecure, hateful man-child who can’t get laid! ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 04:13 AM
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Just say you’re insecure and feel threatened by women who call themselves attractive because they don’t hate themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 02:31 AM
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I actually struggle with my self-esteem a lot. I have body dysmorphia and used to have an addiction to working out before therapy. I certainly do not consider myself a 10, nor did I ever say that? By society’s standards, I would be regarded as a conventionally attractive woman. Did you read my comment..?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 07:12 PM
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I mean yes I would agree, however our handsome male servers got the same tips from women (if not sometimes more on certain nights where tables of middle-aged mothers were sitting lol)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 10:58 PM
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Yes, female servers probably earn more than their male counterparts But it’s strange to automatically assume that a man MUST be supporting me/every young woman financially I had a female family member sue a hospital for misconduct. She won 1.5 million in damages after the lawsuit was settled Ppl get money in all kinds of ways
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:53 PM
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My grandmother passed away and since I’m an only child, she left me her inheritance. I worked as a server at a famous Italian restaurant in my city, earning about $500/day while in school. There are 1 million ways people might have money totally unrelated to being supported by men……
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:35 PM
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My grandmother passed away and left me her entire inheritance because I’m an only child. At 22/23, I was working at a very fancy restaurant as a server earning about $500 per day in tips on top of the money left to me. There you go :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:34 PM
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My grandma died and left me her inheritance xo
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:28 PM
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My grandmother died and since I’m an only child, she left me her inheritance. Have a nice day :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 06:28 PM
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25F I’m attractive and have some gorgeous female friends. Never once have any of us gotten a bill paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 12:48 PM
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I’d rather be single for life than settle for a man who doesn’t meet my standards (25F)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 04:03 PM
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I spoke to someone who formerly used to work for Hinge. The website is actually designed to have people fail for business purposes. They want returning customers… I would avoid dating apps entirely if you want a real relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 04:53 PM
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I’m not trying to sound smart. Everyone has an ego. That is a basic fact, I agree… lmao Attention still isn’t related to ego. I think you might need to search up the definition
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 03:25 PM
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Wearing makeup isn’t ego, it’s a socialized practice that women are told makes us more beautiful and valuable in society. Ego comes from within. The Id, the Ego, and the superego are all primitive parts of our psyche that have no relationship to makeup. Your response with the emojis quite frankly proves my point. Thank you for providing a flawless example of male ego bruise :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 12:36 PM
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I’d much rather stay single than date a man I have absolutely no attraction to…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 01:17 PM
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The difference is that men have been proven to have significantly higher egos than women do. We are not nearly as ego-driven in our decision-making or rationale
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 07:21 PM
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“This is how almost all women feel”. Every woman I’ve ever met or encountered (you can also see thousands of videos of women saying the same thing on Tik Tok) wants to be approached. There’s a huge difference between walking up to us at 2 AM on the subway when we’re alone versus respectfully asking us on a date mid-day at a coffee shop or library/gym. If a man doesn’t ask me on a date, I will quite literally remain single forever because I don’t use dating apps. A huge reason for the current mal…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:34 AM
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I’ve approached men before, we went on a date and they immediately expected sex or texted “come over” at 2 AM I don’t really want to boost anyone else’s ego lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 02:29 AM
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“Men have made themselves way too available” As a 25 year old woman who is conventionally attractive, I quite literally have not been approached or asked on a date in months and months. It almost never happens, and I don’t use or believe in dating apps. Men aren’t making themselves too available, they’re terrified to interact with women in any other context than online nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 01:25 AM
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If you don’t think what this man is doing is creepy… I can’t help you
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 06:39 PM
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Looks matter in choosing a partner, but it’s a VERY common occurrence that young beautiful women date old, rich guys who are balding, fat, or not particularly attractive. I would actually argue that in most couples, the woman is almost always better looking than her boyfriend or husband. Men receive attention due to things like status, career, fame, and wealth. Women receive attention due to our looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 08:54 PM
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It’s not rhetorical, maturity levels in men versus women have been studied extensively. You have no clue who the younger men are who I’ve dated lol, how can you speak on their emotional maturity? I have 4 older male cousins in their late 30’s early 40’s who constantly tell me “men your age aren’t even men yet. Just wait until they become actual men, which doesn’t happen until much later”. So even older men would agree. Ask your dad if he was mature at 22. He’ll laugh and say hell no
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 08:10 PM
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Yes, it’s all women. Our value lies in our looks from birth. I said nothing inaccurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:22 PM
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“Or I’ve approached them” was the second half of the sentence. And no, unfortunately not. I’ve dated younger men in the past and they’ve had the maturity level of a High Schooler. He would need to be incredibly mature and emotionally intelligent for his age
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 12:29 PM
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Because women are inherently sexualized simply by virtue of being women. we’re told our looks are the most important thing from the time we’re 5 years old. Wearing our mother’s heels, putting on her makeup at a young age. Men are taught that their standing in society is based on their career and success, not their physical appearance. So obviously when we’ve been sexualized our entire lives, we get tired of it….
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:17 PM
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I agree. 25F and I’ve never used apps. Every guy I’ve been with has either approached me or I’ve approached them. The men on this sub need to stop complaining, get off the apps, and have enough confidence to speak to a woman before coming here and saying “wow is me” lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 11:13 PM
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Which women are you talking to? Because every single one of my female friends complains about never being asked out anymore… Both men and women have things to offer. That isn’t gendered.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/23 02:43 AM
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I don’t use apps and will not be in a relationship until I’m asked out in person. I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than meet someone on tinder or hinge, but that’s me. No face to face interaction is the entire problem with this generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 12:41 AM
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Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:31 PM
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Exactly. I was abused and mistreated by men starting with my father my entire life, but I don’t hate men at all and choose to take breaks being single for long periods of time to re-evaluate myself and how to improve/heal from the previous rejection or end of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:30 PM
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Sad. I refuse to use them. I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than meet on a dating app
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 03:16 PM
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Dating apps don’t represent reality
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:15 PM
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What a chronically online comment. This terminology just screams “I watch alpha male podcasts all day”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:15 PM
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That’s why dating apps are horrible and shouldn’t exist to begin with. My life improved greatly when I deleted them all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 02:14 PM
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Look around at the world. Which couples do you know in real life earn 200K per year? Probably none. These short 30-second clips don’t represent reality. Further, the term “gold digger” isn’t really a thing because just as women who only care about money go for rich guys, those same rich guys will go for young and hot girls back just by virtue of their physical appearance. Thus, a “gold digger” is the exact same thing as a “youth” or “hotness” digger. Both parties have received what they’re looki…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 10:53 PM
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I’m 25 and haven’t had strong enough feelings for or loved a man enough to stay with yet, that’s why💀
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 03:59 AM
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Yes, just like a woman’s personality doesn’t become apparent until you first find her attractive either This isn’t gendered. Neither sex would date someone they thought was ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 11:47 PM
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You make no sense, I can’t “let” or “not let” someone walk up to me💀
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 10:09 PM
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Yes, women typically like masculinity the same way straight men like femininity. However, don’t confuse a masculine man for a man who is automatically unfeeling, disrespectful, and abusive. You can be both masculine AND treat women correctly at the same time. And actually, empathy is something I look for as a top priority in dating. A lack of empathy is correlated to all kinds of mental disorders
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:43 PM
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No one “lets” anyone approach anyone else. How is that something I would have control over?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 07:37 PM
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As a woman who has been mistreated by every single man I’ve ever encountered starting with my father, I would die to finally be treated with respect and true genuine love by a man…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 10:52 PM
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I think you’ve distorted the the difference between being in a loving relationship with someone you care about and getting laid. They aren’t the same thing at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 02:36 AM
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“Why waste your time dating when you can go to a sex worker” is quite literally exactly what you said. Disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 04:42 PM
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If you think being in a relationship and dating someone is the same as hiring a sex worker, please refrain from ever entering into a romantic partnership… yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 12:23 PM
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Unfortunately they never make that clear and aren’t upfront. Using someone without telling them that’s your intention is disgusting and void of any empathy whatsoever
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 11:53 AM
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I agree. There’s no “perfect” time to have sex so who really cares lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:32 PM
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And unfortunately those aren’t men I would ever consider being in a relationship with. My personal belief is that getting off to other naked women while being with me is a form of cheating, but you do you! I would find it extremely disrespectful for my partner to pleasure himself to random women on the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:20 PM
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I agree with both of you. Unfortunately, sleeping with a man too quickly makes us a whore or for the streets while waiting makes them sexually frustrated and confused. Either way, we never win lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:19 PM
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Interesting. As a woman, men lose interest the second they finally sleep would you. Once the mission is accomplished, they’re just able to leave immediately
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:47 PM
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Yup. He doesn’t understand clearly that employers can’t peer into your bedroom windows or follow you around to see the sexual activity you’ve partaken in. They can easily, however, search the internet for your naked body being exploited online.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 06:47 PM
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I’m sorry but promiscuity behind closed doors is incredibly different from having sex on camera for millions of people to view, permanently on the internet for eternity. 18 and 21 is a significant difference in terms of brain development and experience. I doubt anyone on earth would say they were the same exact person between 18-21.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 06:46 PM
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Porn only depends sadness. Drugs, smoking, partying, and self-harm are also ways to deal with sadness.. doesn’t make them healthy. You don’t need porn to alleviate sexual frustration. There’s your imagination and fantasies. You don’t need to watch someone have sex to become aroused.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 06:43 PM
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Only being able to get sexual satisfaction through porn is extremely sad. It didn’t exist for thousands of years and human beings continued to be sexually fulfilled, reproduced, and the human race continued…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:58 PM
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Porn shouldn’t exist to begin with. There have been several studies done on the damaging effects it has on the brain, perception of reality, and sexual expectations. Thousands of videos have been removed being flagged for girls under 18 in addition to known sex trafficking rings posting videos, and it promotes violence and exploitation of women. Just erase the entire industry.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:05 AM
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Very, very few women make false allegations. That’s why the ones who do are so massively sensationalized in the media. Why do you think female murderers have so much media coverage? Because it has shock value due to being so rare. I have a criminal justice degree and we studied media and social media bias in those who make false allegations or women who commit violent crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 08:38 PM
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Asking a woman out on a date is never going to become a criminal charge😂 Every generation before dating apps had to approach the other person in order to date. How did ur dad meet ur mom? He asked her out. How did your grandfather meet your grandma? Oh yea, he asked her out. Stop being so extreme
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:54 PM
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Ok so she had a boyfriend..that’s one girl. Move on and ask someone else out. Your personal opinion on whether or not millions more women will be sociopathic enough to put men in prison for decades who wronged them is just an assumption. My female friends and I have all been MASSIVELY hurt by at least one man. My next door neighbour drugged me when I invited him over for dinner. I never pressed charges. Most women who are assaulted by men actually choose not to take any legal action at all. So w…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:32 PM
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Ok, as long as we both agree you’re using each other and there’s no emotional connection whatsoever. If u wanna sleep around with a bunch of women and have meaningless sex for the rest of ur life, go off :)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:23 PM
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When I was about 10 and my mum was 36/37, she still had men catcalling her and asking her on dates. My close friend’s mum got married at 37 and had her at 40. Both my grandma’s got re-married in their 70’s. We never get too old for male attention. Sorry if that dismantles your world view. It’s getting more and more common for women to have families and children in their 30’s and 40’s. In fact, having kids in your 20’s is actually quite rare now. This “wall” shit needs to stop lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:15 PM
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1) No one’s ex looks like Henry Cavill. What an insane exaggeration. 2) No one is going to pepper spray you for saying “hi I thought you were quite pretty and was wondering if I could grab your number?” That makes 0 sense. Have you been outside or interacted with human beings lately? 3) 99% of sexual assault allegations are true. There are VERY few instances where a woman would make up an entire detailed story that never even occurred. I have a degree in criminal justice and you would also need …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:10 PM
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No one has ever said short dudes need to be killed lmaooo are you okay? Just say you’re short and insecure. No need to make absolutely insane remarks
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:06 PM
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There’s a huge difference between being attracted to a man my own age versus a 40-year-old dude grooming and manipulating a teenage girl lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 04:04 PM
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I never said ALL men in their 20’s. I said the vast majority just want to fuck around. Most men aren’t interested in commitment until their 30’s, which is just true lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:49 PM
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He lives in Europe, so I wasn’t expecting a full blown relationship due to the distance. But after spending a week together and I flew home, he randomly distanced himself and just stopped speaking to me entirely. This was after a very intimate week of spending every second together, showering together, sightseeing, etc. Even just dropped me as a friend. After promising we would always be in each other’s lives in some capacity or another. Anyway, I don’t hate men at all- I just think they say thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:45 AM
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She wants something from you. As soon as she gets it, she’ll likely be gone. At least women your own age will want you for who you are
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:42 AM
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Your personal anecdotal experience doesn’t represent the majority
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:40 AM
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Actually no I don’t, because I have genuinely found men to be seemingly wholesome or prepared for commitment and then they randomly switch up out of nowhere. I had a guy write me entire letters and poems about how in love with me he was, only to lose interest out of nowhere Men can present themselves one way and act another, it happens a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:22 AM
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You’d be surprised at the amount of average or below looking men who somehow still end up playing women much more attractive than they are🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:14 PM
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Me too. I’m 24 and men over 35 aren’t physically attractive to me, at least at my current age
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:13 PM
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Not really, it seems to be a universal experience among most women that men in their 20’s simply aren’t interested in anything serious. The ones who are typically met in high school or college at a very young age and have been coupled up for years already
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 09:12 PM
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They have options until they show visible signs of aging and aren’t going to initially attract 25-year-olds anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 08:49 PM
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These comments are sending me💀😂 Everyone is so extreme
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:40 PM
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It’s not personal. I’ll add to it by saying men will dump every girl who cares about them in their 20’s, play the field, and attempt to “find a better, hotter girl” and then are shocked when they’re 35, single, balding, and have beer guts. If you want to be a father, try taking women more seriously during your fertile years before sperm quality and count plummets.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:34 PM
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Sooo many men spend the entirety of their 20’s seeking casual sex, playing the field, and dumping their girlfriends to “find better”. Then suddenly they wake up as 35-year-olds and no one is left. If men want to be fathers (especially before their sperm count decreases therefore heightening the risk of autism and other birth defects), maybe they should start taking women seriously at a younger age.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 06:31 PM
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I agree but boohoo. There’s no excuse to behave like a toddler throwing a temper tantrum as a grown man.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:31 PM
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Where are these statistics coming from?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:58 PM
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That’s not how marriage vows work. “I promise to stand beside you. In sickness and in health. In times of prosper and decline. In peace and in turmoil. For as long as we both shall live”. I’m not religious at all, but please don’t marry someone if you’re going to “fall out of love with them” the second they gain 10 pounds or are laid off from their job.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:57 PM
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Yup. And the 35-50 year old men here saying “well I can get younger girls because I’m financially stable” are really naive if they believe those women would care if they lived or died under the condition of being broke. I would much rather have a partner within my age range who loves and cares about me for who I am than a carousel of gold diggers who leave me the second they achieve their end goal. It’s sad to see the men here glorifying being used and dumped as middle aged men…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 04:30 PM
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So you only like having relationships with gold diggers who use you for superficial things like fancy cars and entry into events? They wouldn’t care if you lived or died without your money. That’s actually so sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:49 PM
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How when the vast majority of people both men and women are already married by 30… Your dating pool is vastly reduced, because the majority of women are taken. I’ve never met a woman my age who wants a 40-year-old. I just don’t believe you have 20 year old girls fawning over you all the time. Are you Leo DiCaprio or Brad Pitt?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:36 PM
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You can have security, safety, and a nice bank account before the age of 40 when the average man’s hairline is receding, they’ve got beer guts, and/or are balding. I’m 24 and all my female friends are 21-30. None of us would consider dating a man who is over about 5-6 years older than we are. Women in their 20’s don’t want old men despite the delusional fantasy they have that we do want them-
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:05 PM
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You’re the only one here with any logical sense, thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:03 PM
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Yup. Men over 35 aren’t sexually desirable to any woman in her 20’s on average. The only argument they ever have is “well I’m richer”. I guess they want gold diggers and nothing more🥴
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:02 PM
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Sorry but men over 35 are definitely past their prime. As a 24 y.o. woman with female friends between 21-30, we’ve discussed it and none of us find any man above the age of 32/33 sexually desirable at our ages currently. The beer gut, the receding hairline, beginning to bald, etc. No thanks. It might get easier for you to date other women your age, but not any of us who are in our 20’s lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 01:01 PM
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I agree. My childhood female friend and I were discussing what we would do if we happen to be 35 and still single/childless. She said “I absolutely want to be a mother, so I’ll just settle for a guy I kinda like. I refuse not to have a family or continue my lineage”. Fact is, this is true of a large portion of women. They want to be mothers and therefore will get knocked up by whoever they’re dating at the time they’re around 30 lol (I’m a woman)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:56 PM
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The mean age for getting married in North America is 31 for men and 29 for women. After that, the dating pool is vastly reduced and either party will have a more difficult time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:52 PM
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It gets harder for both. The average age of marriage in the U.S. and Canada is 31 for men and 29 for women. So after those ages, your dating pool is vastly reduced either way because most of the population is taken.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:51 PM
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So u just want as many girls as humanly possible? Ok
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:53 AM
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Is your goal in life to have several baby mamas? Or is it to find a loving, loyal partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:49 AM
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Interesting, because every single day I see engagement posts or pregnancy announcements with men under 30 who I used to know and were genuinely kindhearted and respectful men. To assume that women are only having relationships and children with inmates and drug dealers is insane
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:30 AM
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Nope, they’ve learned it from a complete lack of self-esteem to the point where these “nice guys” need to go off on an insulting rampage because she said no to sex. Accept the rejection like a mature adult and move on to someone who’s interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:24 AM
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And plenty of respectful, loving, and loyal men are in happy relationships or happily married.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:20 AM
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EXACTLY. Thank you. You’re only considered a “nice guy” if you can’t handle any form of rejection and begin to spew hateful insults as a response.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:12 AM
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As a woman, I consider the term “nice guy” someone who is only respectful for the sole purpose of sex as an end goal and nothing more. As soon as you reject them, they resort to abusive insults and hateful commentary about how you’ll be alone forever and are a useless whore. If you can handle sexual rejection like a mature adult- then given your post, you actually are a nice, decent and normal guy lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 02:11 AM
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The same way women keep society afloat by being the ones who give birth, primarily raise children and do all of the emotional labour, and are largely teachers, educators, nurses, nannies, and caregivers for elderly people? Society would not exist without women. And I’m not expecting young, good looking men to settle. But they’ll lie and pretend to be interested in a relationship to get laid. Women are angry by dishonesty and lack of clear communication. If they want to sleep around, let me know …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 06:55 PM
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“Just jerk off to some female shit” “Nothing like being balls deep in some pussy” “Niggas want pussy and some girls give it up for the low” Yea, you’re so smart🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:36 PM
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I will never agree with you that prostitution isn’t an inherently exploitative profession so we can disagree on that. I haven’t watched porn to pleasure myself in over 2 years, so I have equally as much of a problem with men watching porn. It’s an incredibly exploitative industry filled with abuse and degradation. Not to mention, PornHub had to delete thousands of videos of underaged girls as young as 12. A real man will have eyes for no one but the woman he’s in love with, nor will he support t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:34 PM
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The entire profession of prostitution is exploitative in itself. Sorry, I will never agree with anything otherwise. Cheating is extremely relevant because you’re saying that there’s absolutely no difference between jerking off and paying for sex. Yes, there is. I would much rather a potential partner/current boyfriend jerk off than pay for sex with a prostitute. How is that difficult to understand? In order to jerk off, you simply need to sit down somewhere and use your hand. It takes effort, ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 01:11 PM
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Jerking off has nothing to do with sexual discipline because masturbation is healthy and doesn’t harm or exploit anyone. Again, the vast majority of sex workers aren’t there by choice. So, you’re actively choosing to further victimize someone for your own pleasure. If my boyfriend and I ever had a bout of a few months where I wasn’t able to have sex due to a medical issue or major family catastrophe, going to a prostitute would be called cheating. Using his hand wouldn’t. The fact that you’re co…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 12:44 PM
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“I would rather hire a prostitute than jerk off because it feels better” I don’t want someone who has absolutely no self-control or sexual discipline, as I said in my original comment. I don’t care how “good” it feels. You’re proving my original point lol A man who isn’t able to practice restraint is not attractive to me at all (goes for most women)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 12:23 PM
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I would know because there’s a type of guy who hires sex workers, the ones who aren’t able to get sex otherwise. My previous 3 boyfriends were tall and handsome, the first two playing D1 baseball and D1 tennis. It’s very obvious they wouldn’t need to sleep with prostitutes because they’re already attractive and athletic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 12:03 PM
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Just your response alone is enough to have any woman with a modicum of self-respect never date you lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 12:01 PM
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That makes no sense. People are absolutely allowed to be upset about situations caused by themselves. You don’t think drug addicts or alcoholics are allowed to feel miserable or upset by their situations just because it’s self-inflicted? Lmao I’ve been going to therapy for a year and many of my symptoms are improving. I take action to heal myself, journal, have a job, workout consistently, and am completing my master’s degree. Imagine thinking people with mental illness caused by trauma inflicte…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 11:48 PM
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Why not? Just because I’m complaining about being lonely, doesn’t mean I’m suddenly willing to settle for less… And one or two-week long flings with good looking men doesn’t= “no longer lonely” That’s not how it works. Some of the loneliest, most depressed people are having tons of meaningless and unfulfilling sex with randos.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 10:55 PM
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My standards for men are not unrealistic at all. I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than settle into a mediocre relationship with someone I feel “okay” about. If you or others would like to settle for less, that’s a personal choice. If I’m going to give birth to a man’s child thus continuing his entire bloodline while putting my life at risk, my career on hold, doing the majority of the housework, and supporting him and our baby (women statistically do most child rearing of course), yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 10:26 PM
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I don’t really agree. My friend is an escort and everyone in the city (within that world) knows who she is. You can’t cover your face with a ski mask when you meet every person. She said “I’d like to change my reputation if I could change anything about myself”. Word gets around. That doesn’t even include OnlyFans, pornstars, or people with sugar baby profiles. They will have their nude images plastered online forever
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 10:21 PM
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It certainly worries me when I hear girls who JUST turned 18 already starting OnlyFans accounts. They haven’t even attempted to enter adulthood before posing nude online, nor will they have fully developed prefrontal cortexes for another 5-7 years. For women who decide to be sex workers at a young age and then suddenly want to opt out, their job prospects are slim to none. The only way to maintain such a career would be to continue doing it for life, or at least up until your age now (50’s+) whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 09:35 PM
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That’s very interesting. I’ve never heard of an escort beyond their late 20’s. I used to work in a famously known expensive steakhouse in my city, where young women would walk in with MUCH older men who clearly weren’t their fathers based on the sexual undertones my co-workers and I observed. I would be surprised if rich older men were paying for older or middle-aged women when they could just as easily hire a 22-year-old who is at her physical peak
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 09:11 PM
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Yes, a lot of wonderful men are single and a lot of shitty men are playing the field. There are also kind and loving men who are married, as well as terrible people who are alone and miserable. Most women who have the perception that “men ain’t shit” is due to their string of terrible experiences with men, which typically starts with a father wound. I would emplore those women to seek therapy and heal the hurt they’ve experienced from countless men before attempting to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 09:08 PM
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I’m lonely because I refuse to settle, not because I’m incapable of finding a partner. I could have a boyfriend if I were willing to date just anyone, but I’m not. A lot of people in relationships are only with someone for the sole purpose of avoiding loneliness and having some semblance of companionship. I choose to be single rather than to be with whatever person is presented in front of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 09:04 PM
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Totally understand that. You’d like to work fewer hours. But what will happen when you aren’t young and hot anymore? Your career as a sex worker only lasts from 18-28 on average. After that, you’re “expired” in the sexual marketplace and will need to find a regular persons job. Unfortunately, you won’t be able to considering your past as a sex worker which will eventually be discovered by every employer and co-worker you have. I hope you’re planning on having enough to retire before 30, otherwis…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:48 PM
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My point was men will generally have more of a harsh judgement when it comes to onlyfans girls than women do. I think most men would agree with me, while most women wouldn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:46 PM
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I personally wouldn’t want to have children with someone who is just “good enough” but that’s me. Either I’m deeply in love and willing to carry on a man’s entire lineage because he treats me with respect and loyalty, or I’ll remain single. If you’d like to become a passport bro and move somewhere women will settle for you, go for it!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:45 PM
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I travel a lot. The reason they can’t give me what I want is because we live in different continents…. thousands of kilometres away from each other. So obviously, they can’t give me what I want seeing as that would be proximity lmao And why are you assuming it’s THEM who rejected/were too good for me? I turn men down all the time, say no to dates, and haven’t been interested in many of the men who’ve expressed interest in me. Women can reject men the same way they reject us. In fact, it’s a lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:37 PM
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There are 2 options both men and women have: A) Genuinely fall in love with someone who ticks all of your respective boxes (each of us obviously have our own values, religious practices, physical features we find attractive, and traits/characteristics we look for in a partner so that will vary person to person) OR B) Settle for someone in the name of having companionship of some kind, a family, or the desire for parenthood My childhood female friend and I were having a conversation about this. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:30 PM
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Unfortunately my views on sex work (especially as a woman) are not favourable to other women lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:10 PM
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If you’d like to have casual sex with as many women as possible, go ahead :) no one is stopping you and that’s totally your own decision to make And no, I didn’t complain about “being pumped and dumped by random men on various vacations”. Only one of them was an asshole who completely lied and misled me. The rest were wonderful men whom I had a mutual understanding with that we were nothing more than a temporary fling obviously seeing as they live in other continents. Have as much sex with as ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:07 PM
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“Women who are sex workers love it” “plenty of women go into sex work willingly”. Not really. If a woman were financially stable with a regular job, she wouldn’t have any incentive to turn to sex work. The women who claim to “love it” almost always end up on podcasts or interviews regretting their decisions and wishing they could go back. Riley Reid, Lana Rhoades, and Mia Khalifa have all cried on camera expressing how their reputations and family lives have been ruined. Since the sex work indus…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:04 PM
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The idea that there’s a population shortage is only true in the west. People in the global south are still having many children, which is where most markets and production move to anyway. Also, I don’t think women should be made to settle for subpar relationships with men or be bound for life with a child just because there’s a population shortage. For me as a woman, that’s not enough incentive to give birth and spend the next 60 years of my life as a mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 07:57 PM
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Both of the above. Not just women, but people will decide to commit to someone who may not meet their highest standards, OR they will remain single and childless.. The options seem to be: A) End up with someone who ticks all the boxes (which vary, because we all have different preferences and values) or B) remain single And to someone unattractive, another unattractive person would be considered attractive TO THEM if that makes sense. 3’s will gravitate towards other 3’s and then say “my boyfrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 07:50 PM
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Yes I completely agree. These archaic gender roles aren’t working in modern society, and trying desperately to cling on to them or force them to work isn’t going to happen. As women continue earning more, become even more self-reliant, and have even greater freedoms, men should learn to simply adapt to the inevitable rather than trying to turn back the clock or return to 1955.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:31 PM
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Most women in sex work have been exploited, manipulated, or just flat out sex trafficked and drugged to keep them subordinate victims. As a woman, I would never touch any man who has told me they’ve paid for sex with a 10-foot pole because it says a lot about his character (or lack thereof). But do whatever you want
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:20 PM
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That’s unfortunately not how basic evolution works. This sounds rude, but 3’s date and marry other 3’s. Average looking people marry and have children with other average looking people. Supermodels or handsome men/gorgeous women date other attractive people. Women who “aren’t good looking to begin with” will end up with other unattractive men at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:18 PM
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The women who want rich, hot, 6’0 men are also typically successful and beautiful. You would need to match their level in order to achieve dating them. There are plenty of options, you just want the top 5% of women
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:14 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 06:05 PM
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Actually, there are many couples who are good looking, financially secure and stable, have a healthy and passionate sex life, and who are loyal to each other not searching for anyone else. Until we receive such treatment, women are opting out of dating
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:55 PM
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This exactly. As a woman, why the hell would I settle for someone I’m not very attracted to or can’t see myself being with for 40 years just because dudes tell me I’ll “die alone with cats”. I’d rather die alone with cats than be in a miserable relationship like millions of couples are. Until I meet Mr. Right, I’ll remain “alone” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:47 PM
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Women aren’t “desiring above average men more than ever before”, we simply are one of the first generations who do not need men for survival. Until very recently, women used to rely on men to live. Basically, the “ideal” man simply needed a relatively decent income to be considered husband material and that’s about it. In 2023, women have jobs, apartments, our own incomes, are actually now outnumbering men when it comes to obtaining college degrees. We are entirely self-sufficient without men. D…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 05:40 PM
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That’s a personal problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 01:23 PM
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My personal experience is not a delusion. But I love when we’re automatically called “crazy” “insane” or “delusional” by men because they disagree. If you have a different perspective, just say that instead of name calling unnecessarily
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 01:22 PM
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I ran track and field for 8 years, am 5’9 and 140 pounds with 15% body fat Try again love❤️
/r/seduction20/09/23 02:51 AM
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Women have raised their standards and become way more selective in 2023. Plus abstinence is a trend for women on social media
/r/seduction20/09/23 01:57 AM
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Imagine thinking all 175 million women in the country are fat💀💀💀 I’m not even American but be for real
/r/seduction20/09/23 01:54 AM
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From an article published on premarital sex statistics in 2002 (which is probably significantly more in 2023): “Data from the 2002 survey indicate that by age 20, 77% of respondents had had sex, 75% had had premarital sex, and 12% had married; by age 44, 95% of respondents (94% of women, 96% of men, and 97% of those who had ever had sex) had had premarital sex” If you’re looking for a virgin, you’ve reduced your dating pool to very few people but all the power to you
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 12:34 AM
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Attractive men with big egos are even more arrogant. A hot guy once said “I’m perfect” while I was talking to him and I was immediately turned off. We don’t want narcissists
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 03:16 PM
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It’s good to have confidence!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:55 PM
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Sounds like you need to get out in the world, improve yourself, and start dating. In 2005 I was 6 years old, so I’m not sure why you’re trying to create a “who’s lonelier” competition. I’m sorry you’ve been single for so long, but you don’t need to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:52 PM
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I’ve been single for 2 years and I’m fine. But ok
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:46 PM
1

Huh? How would I want my own ego boosted when I have no clue a random man is about to approach me? Men who believe that every single woman finds every man creepy is so odd.. we only think you’re creepy if you actually are.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:04 PM
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There’s a trend going around currently where husbands are smashing cakes in their new wives faces. It’s happening everywhere… Two women had their noses broken after getting caked and blood was pouring everywhere. This isn’t “one instance”. If so, 52% of all marriages wouldn’t end in divorce. Statistically it’s more likely to get divorced than to be in a happy marriage…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:54 PM
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Lmfaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:52 PM
1

It’s shallow not to want to sleep with everyone who wants to sleep with you..? Fact is, the average woman will have dozens, hundreds, if not thousands of men hitting on her or willing to have sex with her in a lifetime. We will find some of them attractive, but most of them not. Same with men. Virtue signaling means acting rigorous or of high character for taking a certain position, which I never once indicated. “At best has one kid left in her” was a truly horrifying thing to read. Please just …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:51 PM
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There’s absolutely no way you’re attempting to say that women abandon their children more often than men do lmao And the reason women win in court is because they are almost always the primary caregiver, so yea…. Obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 11:35 AM
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That’s an anecdotal example that doesn’t represent most of the population
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 11:33 AM
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Your entire issue is your mentality. If “ugly” people never felt human touch, got married, or had kids- then why are there so many of them in the world…? Someone had to reproduce in order to create that child. If you continue going through life saying absolutely no woman will ever want you, we can pick up on that energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 11:31 AM
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No. Men I’m not attracted to have approached me and I’ve said “that’s so nice of you thank you very much” and later told them I’m not interested politely. No one is calling a polite gentleman a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 11:29 AM
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Have you seen the horrific wedding vows that went viral where the man only spoke about having sex with his wife and “slamming her into the headboard” while he does her in front of his entire family? That woman went on to defend him and say they’ve been happily together for 11 years, despite the sadness behind her eyes and his blatant disrespect of her.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 11:27 AM
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It’s not deplorable, it’s how biology works. I have 2 degrees in psychology, and women are the “choosier” or “pickier” sex because evolutionarily, we have much greater consequences for having sex than men do (pregnancy). Being stuck with a potential child is a massive repercussion, so we are naturally going to choose fewer men than men would choose women. If you don’t believe me or think I’m making it up, you can watch Jordan Peterson make a speech about this exact topic with sources included.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 11:23 AM
1

Huh
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 02:58 AM
1

I’ve been sexually actively since I was 17 and I’ll be 25 next month. Over the past 8 years, I’ve slept with 15 men if I’m being honest
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 01:56 AM
1

Yes, I would
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 01:54 AM
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So what exactly are these studies comparing? Because “being happier in marriage” would only work if all marriages were happy. Unfortunately that’s not the case seeing as 52% of marriages end in divorce. So clearly, those married people weren’t very happy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:37 AM
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Men die by suicide at a rate of 7X more than women do, though. And the median age for suicide in men is 41 years old, which is younger than the age you’ve put here :/
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:35 AM
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A happy marriage is better than being single, but being single is a lot better than being in a miserable marriage. As a woman, I’d also prefer being childless than abandoned or left as a single mother. It’s all relative.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:32 AM
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I would say yes, but not necessarily my particular type or someone I’d have a long term relationship with/consider having a child with. I might see a guy and say “he’s objectively kinda handsome” without wanting to necessarily wake up with him in a marriage every day for the next 30 years of marriage. I think most people in general would agree that the person they marry would need to be super hot (to them) in order to consider spending the rest of your life with that person
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 12:23 AM
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I definitely don’t deny that. I understand and sympathize with male loneliness, as it’s definitely worse for men. But I don’t think that means women are exempt from feeling lonely. And as I commented before, there’s nothing more lonely or soul-crushing that leaves you with a sense of total emptiness than having sex with a man you thought liked or cared about you as a person, only to be immediately abandoned or discarded like trash right after. Sadly, being used for sex is a universal female expe…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:47 PM
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No, I don’t actually. And I realize men are lonelier overall. But, that doesn’t make women completely exempt from loneliness. There’s also something deeply isolating and sad about being used for sex as a woman, when you in fact thought a man really cared for you as a person. I would argue being discarded after such an intimate act has left most women feeling abandoned, empty and alone as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:44 PM
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Lol this meme cracked me up because I love Jim Carey. But anyway, I haven’t been in a committed relationship for 2 years. The two men per year have been short-lived one week long flings in places I’ve travelled abroad. We parted ways and I’ll never see them again. Two weeks of human touch per year absolutely leaves room for loneliness
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:41 PM
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I absolutely disagree. And do you think getting an abortion is a walk in the park? The way you’re phrasing it, you make it sound like the potential for pregnancy and the possibility that a woman may need to abort her baby is like purchasing skittles from a candy shop. My mum had an abortion with an ex boyfriend who was beating her (he died of an overdose 5 years later) and still has PTSD from the experience. She cries every time she remembers it. Abortion is traumatic and one of the worst, most …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 09:04 PM
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Nope. I’m turning 25 and have had 3 boyfriends in my lifetime, as well as flings (sometimes abroad when I travel and won’t see them again) or brief relationships with about 12-13 men total. If I were incredibly choosy and unbelievably picky, I wouldn’t have had that many interactions or relationships with that amount of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:59 PM
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I’ve been sexually active since I was 17, and now I’m almost 25. I’ve slept with/had relationships with 16 men total over the last 8 years. Two people per year can absolutely become lonely, especially with months of dry spells in between. I was abstinent from December-June this year. No male contact, no physical touch, no cuddling, kissing, or hugging whatsoever for the majority of the year. Women get lonely too, so im not sure why people think we’re exempt from loneliness.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:57 PM
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No, people tend to end up with other people who are similar to themselves in attractiveness. I absolutely hate using the rating scale to describe how people fair in terms of looks, but 3’s will marry and have kids with other 3’s. 6’s marry and have children with 6’s. 10’s or conventionally hot people choose other hot people as partners to reproduce with. When you see couples holding hands walking down the street, they tend to be very similar in how good looking they are. There are few exceptions…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 08:54 PM
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Women are biologically the choosier sex because we are stuck with pregnancy as a result of intercourse, which is permanent. Men aren’t. This is the evolutionary reason for it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:52 PM
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Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:51 PM
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Okay so I’ll just be completely honest because I’m anonymous and don’t care. I’m turning 25 next month and have been sexually active since I was 17, so about 8 years. In the past decade or so, dozens if not hundreds of men have attempted to sleep with me, hit on me, or made it known in some way or another they would have sex with me. Of those dozens to hundreds, I have slept with or had relations/relationships with 16 of them. So when I say 5%, I’m not saying “I NEVER” find men attractive. Obvio…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:34 PM
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That’s been proven incorrect by sociological studies. Similar features in men and women are considered universally attractive across all countries, ethnicities, races, and cultures. That’s why you’ll have almost everyone on the planet agree that Brad Pitt, Angelina Jolie, Rihanna, Zendaya, and other good looking celebrities are objectively attractive to most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:29 PM
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So you don’t know her well, have never asked her on a date, and haven’t made any clear advances towards her and wonder why she doesn’t communicate? Sounds like you’ve never communicated with her
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:28 PM
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Scientific data and statistics don’t tell you anything about a woman walking alone at night and experiencing internal fear when a car slows down behind you in the dark. Data and statistics don’t tell you how it feels to be lead on to believe a man has feelings for you only to be used and discarded as a sex object. Data and statistics don’t validate being drugged, assaulted, stalked, followed, or assaulted. I am speaking on the female experience, not on data.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:25 PM
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Did you formally ask her out on a date?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:55 PM
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I’m not shallow or pathetic? I have standards. And many of them are also in regards to personality and character traits. Obviously I wouldn’t date a good looking guy who is also dumb, uneducated, lazy, rude, etc. Finding a man who is good looking, ready to commit, AND has traits we want in the father of our future children is nearly impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:55 PM
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I find a wide range of men good looking (I don’t have one specific type, in fact most of the men I’ve been with I met travelling abroad so they are all from different countries), however the typical guy isn’t very good looking in comparison to the typical gal. I’d say the majority of women are pretty, while a small minority of men are objectively handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:42 PM
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She’s just not interested, which is why she’s not communicating. If she wanted to date you, she’d be speaking to you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:41 PM
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I’ve never dated a male supermodel… I just only find a small minority of men good looking enough to have children with. Women are objectively the better looking gender, as well. Men have a lot more options to choose from when it comes to pretty girls in comparison to handsome guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:39 PM
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That’s because unattractive people tend to reproduce with other unattractive people.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:22 PM
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Ya exactly lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 06:21 PM
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Really? Because most of the men on here say women become grotesque and undesirable the second we turn 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:54 PM
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You can’t pretend to know someone else’s experience that you yourself will never have. Observation and living in someone else’s shoes are completely different.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:53 PM
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Most people only find 5% of other people attractive enough to have children with. Are you going to have a baby with just whoever comes along…?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:46 PM
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Obviously a woman’s eggs decrease with age, and we only have a certain amount of time for fertility. But what do you expect a woman to do? I personally (eventually) want a long-term partner. I’m 24 btw My 3 previous boyfriends didn’t work out. I was way too young in my first relationship to settle down, so we broke up. My second boyfriend was bipolar and lazy.. no job, dropout- so we broke up. My third boyfriend drugged me and eventually admitted to it, so we broke up. Let’s say I continue havin…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:44 PM
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If men would actually listen to what women want, maybe they’d get more women
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:37 PM
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I just find it interesting that men who use the term “hitting the wall” seem to believe that everyone on the planet is destined to meet the love of their life at 22 years old. Not everyone finds a partner for them. Not everyone has a love story. Not everyone finds someone who is marriage material. You aren’t guaranteed to, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:15 PM
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No because I also think this is bullshit when it comes to women. Not everyone is meant to be a model and that’s okay…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:08 PM
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Or attractive women (I myself am quite pretty and am hit on a lot) who don’t enjoy terrible, casual sex with random strangers, don’t use dating apps, and only find about 5% of men attractive. It’s very lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:06 PM
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Actually unless you’re a woman, you have absolutely no clue about the female experience. I’m white, so I can’t possibly comment on what it’s like to be black.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:04 PM
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FOR REAL💀
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:03 PM
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Nowhere did she ever state she’s asexual. I’m a 24-year-old woman who also doesn’t care to date the vast majority of men, nor do I enjoy casual sex with complete strangers. I love sex and have a high sex drive in general. We are quite literally telling you our lifestyles as women and you’re saying “you must be asexual”…?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:02 PM
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I agree. I don’t use apps, don’t enjoy casual sex, and only find about 5% of the male population attractive. It’s very lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 05:00 PM
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I’m a woman and literally every woman I’ve ever spoken to wants men to approach us. You aren’t listening correctly. We don’t want to be cat-called or sexually objectified. A simple “I thought you were really pretty and would love to grab your number if possible” during daytime hours is complimentary and kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:59 PM
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I’ve never used any apps and I’m a woman lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:57 PM
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Would you suggest women just settle for whoever? Or someone they don’t find attractive whatsoever…? What’s your solution
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:55 PM
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Not me. I’m 24, quite pretty and I have 0 situationships, no dates lined up, and no friends with benefits. I don’t use dating apps like tinder at all, and neither do many of my female friends. Not sure where men got the idea that we have a revolving door of men constantly coming in and out of our lives at all times. The last time I had sex was a month ago with a guy I met in Europe and then 3-4 months before him. We don’t just sleep with people constantly lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 04:55 PM
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What a sad thing to say. Marriages end in divorce for a myriad of reasons, most of them completely unrelated to sex. And no one who has been in a long-term relationship “fucks like rabbits” anymore because passionate love turns into romanic love. Obviously people who first meet and lust after one another aren’t going to be having sex 3 times a day decades into marriage…. That’s normal and natural. If your expectation is to have the same amount of sex after 20 years that you had during the honeym…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:23 PM
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Okay I’ll rephrase that. It happens often. Many married couples continue to have an active sex life. You need to meet more married couples and get off the internet
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 12:21 PM
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Are you actually comparing a marriage in which the couple has sex to the probability of winning the lottery…..?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 10:55 AM
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I know this is anecdotal, but two of my closest friends have parents who have been married 30+ years (I’m 24). I know their parents and they are still very happy/touchy and my friends report they remain having frequent sex. My god father (dads best friend) is 70 years old and after a bottle of red wine at his birthday, he made a joke about how much sex he and his wife still have after 47 years of marriage. It might be rare, but it’s absolutely possible if you’re still in love (among other factor…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 12:41 AM
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My best friend is 25 and her parents have been married 30 years. She makes jokes about her parents not being able to keep their hands off each other, even after 3 kids and laughs about occasionally hearing them have sex (when she was growing up) in their room and having to wear headphones at night to block out the sound, lol. I know this is anecdotal and probably also rare, but there are absolutely long-term couples who are still sexually attracted to each other and have frequent sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 12:39 AM
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He still doesn’t get it… he’s completely oblivious and will never understand. No one ever said they hated men, he just enjoys taking things personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 02:15 PM
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No thanks❤️ Stay living in delusion!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 02:13 PM
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No❤️ Stay denying reality
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 02:12 PM
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“Never find woman prettier than any age above 23”. So, you’re going to break up with your girlfriend the moment she turns 24? Or divorce her the second she has a fine line, wrinkle, a grey hair, or sagging skin? A marriage or lifelong partnership doesn’t just end because one person ages…. If that’s your mentality please never enter into a relationship I stopped reading the rest at “person is worth the price”. Human beings aren’t goods and services, nor are they objects. Being in love with someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 02:11 PM
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No idea who you went to school with who’s gained 50 pounds after college but that hasn’t happened to anyone I know. “Before 27” is such a random thing to say. So many people both men and women START getting in shape at 30, 35, 40. A weight loss or muscle gain journey doesn’t have a particular age limit. Further, women tend to gain weight (not 50 pounds, maybe 5-10) in their mid 20’s due to hormonal changes. We aren’t children/teens anymore. Our hips widen for childbirth and we get more of a “wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 02:06 PM
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Men are inherently misogynistic because they all live on earth… under the patriarchy. That doesn’t mean many of them aren’t better than others. I’ve met wonderful men. They still exist under the patriarchy regardless. You can accept basic truth without getting personally offended. My little brother and I have a wonderful relationship, but thanks for telling a complete stranger to stay away from their sibling❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 01:32 AM
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I don’t hate men at all. I hate the patriarchy. I love men, I dislike how they’re socialized. I have an 11-year-old brother and I can already see the misogyny and sadly, the pressure to “be masculine” and “not express his emotions” and he’s only in 5th grade. When men become more emotionally mature and have the ability to be vulnerable the way women naturally are, I’ll be more attracted to them on a mental level.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 11:38 PM
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I agree because I do the same thing. I’ll often see a relatively pretty girl and think “she honestly wouldn’t be very good looking as a man”. Women put more effort into our looks and are evolutionarily meant to be sexually desirable, seeing as males in all species are the natural pursuers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 09:46 PM
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The difference is, the thousands of women you’re approaching aren’t asking to use you for sex lol
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 07:53 PM
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Yup. If sexuality were a choice, all of my female friends and I agree that we’d choose to be physically attracted to women. You’ve never heard a woman say “I’m tired of men” or “I wish I were a lesbian”? That’s shocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 07:52 PM
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Who are u talking to? I’m a woman and yes I am unfortunately attracted to men :(
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 06:41 PM
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Nope, I’ve approached 3 men who I’ve seen frequently at the gym/my school (I’m doing a master’s degree). Two of them hit me up for sex in the middle of the night and the other one ended up ghosting me. The men in this generation are genuinely awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 06:10 PM
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If you don’t find the vast majority of women attractive, you’re probably gay or asexual. Sorry, but men are biologically programmed to find women good looking for procreation purposes. So if you don’t, you could be closeted. Absolutely not an insult, just a possibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 05:06 PM
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I’m actually an attractive 24 y.o. Woman (5’9, 140 pound athlete with blonde hair and green eyes) and my success rate approaching the few men I’ve approached is shit. Never gonna be the one to make the first move again lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 05:05 PM
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“Most women are not attractive” Maybe you’re gay? Something to consider
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 04:32 PM
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If you aren’t attracted to women, just say that 🌈
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:29 PM
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Exact same thing for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:28 PM
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I 100% agree and think you’re one of the self-aware men! Gorgeous women are everywhere, very attractive men are rare to see. Now that the vast majority of us have joined the work force, a man with a job is the bare minimum criteria and is hardly even relevant haha
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 01:00 PM
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Actually yes there is. There are certain facial features that have been said to be universally attractive among all races, ethnicities, and cultures. For women: - Clear skin - Waist-to-hip ratio (wider hips than her waist) - Relative thinness as a sign of fertility - Thick hair - Small or narrower nose - Full lips (also a sign of fertility, women’s lips rapidly thin as we age) - Large eyes (strangely, big doe eyes are also a sign of fertility and trigger a dopamine hit for men/protective instinc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:15 PM
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User you’re arguing with is absolutely correct. “Women aren’t attractive without makeup”. So your standard is that we wear a pound of makeup daily…? Like what are you saying
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:07 PM
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If you aren’t attracted to women, just say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:06 PM
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I’m a 24 year old woman. Most of my friends look significantly better now than in college. 3 years ago, I had chubbier cheeks, hormonal acne, and a flat ass. My skin is clear, my face shape has changed (lost the baby fat), and I’ve started lifting weights so I have a nice round butt. It’s absolutely false that all women peak by 20.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:04 PM
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So you’d divorce your wife or breakup with your girlfriend the second she isn’t in college anymore….? Everyone ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:02 PM
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Your personal anecdotal experience isn’t representative of actual research. I personally find that women peak at about 28-30. Baby fat gone. Acne gone and skin clear. Still no wrinkles or fine lines. Half of men are bald with beer guts by 30. I’m currently 24 and I already know tons of men who have reseeding hairlines.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 12:01 PM
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Anyone who thinks men and women can’t be friends purely views women as sexual objects and nothing more. We’re human beings with thoughts, feelings, interests, insights and hobbies. If you can’t befriend us without wanting to fuck, please seek help (I completely agree w this post)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 11:57 AM
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Although this is anecdotal and not based in any research that I know of, I personally (as a straight woman) find 80-90% of women pretty at the very least. Maybe not absolutely stunning or gorgeous knockouts, but pretty. As I walk around in my city of 5 million, the complete opposite is true for men. Around 10-20% of them are good looking in comparison. We’re simply the more appealing gender to look at. No wonder we hardly have any options in regard to physical attractiveness that men have.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:36 AM
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There have been studies done where findings confirm women are the more attractive gender. There are of course exceptions, but most women are relatively pretty in some regard, while most men just aren’t. You can even look at brothers and sisters. I had to read an article for school where amongst both gender siblings, the sister tends to be objectively a lot better looking than her brother is.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 03:31 AM
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Do you expect women to force sexual attraction and make themselves want to sleep with a man they have no physical proclivity towards? The reason women complain about the same 5% of men is unfortunately because only about 5-10% of men are good looking. There have been studies done that women are more attractive than men overall. We don’t have nearly as many options to choose from when it comes to looks as men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 10:24 PM
1

What….
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 02:54 AM
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Very rapey post. We don’t see men as a scale from 1-10, you’re either good looking or you aren’t (everyone has different preferences). No one is obligated to date or sleep with you. Most couples are similar in attractiveness already..
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 02:00 AM
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I hate how there’s an overall notion that just because life as a western woman is generally relatively equal to that of a man’s (despite street harassment, sexual violence, stalking, domestic abuse), that suddenly the billions of other women in the rest of the world disappear?? They clearly have never looked at the Middle East or most parts of Africa to see the differences. Women in Saudi Arabia could not legally drive until 2021…..
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 08:12 PM
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Sadly, men will never have a clue what it’s like to move through life as a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 07:59 PM
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Anyone who finds the safety of women offensive needs help
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 02:56 PM
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Nope. I never want to get married and am still on the fence about children. My mum always taught me to earn my own money and never to rely on a man for my financial situation. Therefore, I will always have a career and work full time along with my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 08:37 PM
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Sucking cock and brain development have no correlation
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 08:36 PM
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I don’t use drugs? The fact is, a 21-year-old doesn’t know even CLOSE to as much about life as a 30-something year old. Deny reality if you want
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 05:30 PM
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I’m only 24 but it’s the same for me in comparison to being 20. In college, I had bad acne, no ass, and my nose was a lot more disproportionate to my face. I lift weights now so my bum is way rounder and more perky, my skin has cleared completely, my facial structure has thinned out along with my nose, and through exercise I’ve gotten a smaller waist. 18-22 is absolutely not a woman’s physical peak unless she somehow peaked as a teenager due to no personal maintenance or care for how she looks….
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:48 PM
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They’re more likely to stay because they don’t know anything else and have no life experience at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:35 PM
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Lol I’m 24 and my best female friend is 31. She has amazing skin, 0 wrinkles, is a runner so has a nice body, and looks way better than she ever did at my age. Men thinking that women become the crypt keeper the second they turn 30 is outrageous. Margot Robbie is 33 for reference.. they are delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:34 PM
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You think 30 is old….? Yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:32 PM
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That isn’t true lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:32 PM
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21-year-olds and 30-year-olds pretty much look the same if you age well. I’m 24 but my best female friend is 31. She has 0 wrinkles, no fine lines (wonderful skin), is in good shape (she’s a runner) and I would argue is younger looking/more attractive than most women in their early 20s. Millions of women peak physical appearance wise at 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 03:31 PM
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Do u want a dissertation?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 04:29 PM
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I have 2 degrees in criminal justice and another degree in political science. I could write an entire dissertation on why black males are arrested more often, and I have. There’s no way of answering that question in fewer than several pages
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 03:26 PM
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Original🥰
/r/AllPillDebate06/09/23 03:55 AM
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Then why are millions of western women having children, Marriages, and families? The “west” is half of earth lmfao Seems like men are pursuing us just fine
/r/AllPillDebate04/09/23 10:40 PM
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My personal body count is irrelevant… that’s my entire point. I could be a virgin and I could have slept with 175 men. Who cares
/r/AllPillDebate04/09/23 10:39 PM
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Lmao these opinions are becoming outrageous
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:49 PM
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Just because men find more women attractive, doesn’t mean they’re committing to or marrying us. Most aren’t
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:25 PM
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Where did you get that information from? If anything, beautiful women are walking around with significantly uglier partners
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 05:28 PM
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Attractive men will have sex with fewer women where…? It’s 10% of men who are having sex with the vast majority of women… seeing as good looking people have options in general I don’t understand your second point at all
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 05:09 PM
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Earnings have nothing to do with marital satisfaction or fulfillment when both parties are still working 40 hours a week lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 04:36 AM
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Yea exactly. Men wonder why their wives won’t sleep with them while doing nothing to contribute. I’ll need to pull up the article, but my mom sent me a study on women who have their husbands help with daily chores reporting MUCH more fulfilling sex lives, and more frequent sex. I wonder when men will start to clue in that sitting on the couch expecting dinner to be served hand and foot is the reason they aren’t getting laid lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 04:34 AM
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People tend to gravitate towards others who are on their similar level in terms of physical attractiveness, which actually begins as early as childhood. “Cuter” kids associate with other pretty or handsome children, and it continues from there into adult romantic relationships. Is a 5’5 chubby man who doesn’t earn very much going to end up with a Victoria’s Secret model? No. But is he going to have options? Yes. So obviously a 6’3 good looking man who makes 6 figures will have success dating mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 04:29 AM
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Watch videos on divorce lawyers speaking on why their clients file for divorce. The #1 reason all of them state as being the biggest factor is a lack of help and support from the husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 04:24 AM
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Then why are short men holding their wives hands and pushing strollers 100X a day in public. If they were so undesirable, women wouldn’t be having families with them
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 07:56 PM
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I have no clue why the studies you’re stating aren’t a reflection of real life. It’s strange because approximately 75-85% of divorces (depending on the country- where women are able to divorce keep in mind) are filed by women. No one wants to get divorced. No one enjoys separating or choosing to leave their children with a broken home. This, however, seems to be the case seeing as men are unfortunately giving us no other option with their lack of effort than to ultimately leave them. If men were…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 04:10 PM
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And men can be equally as unlikable as women can. What is your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 04:00 PM
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This is more anecdotal, but I’ve been a nanny for years. I spend all day every day around middle-aged couples with kids. You wouldn’t believe how often men say “can you do it honey?”, “I’ll get that later”, “I don’t have time, you mind doing it yourself?” on top of the thousands of things these busy mothers already have on their plates. Most recent example: A mother and I were carrying a 100 pound desk up the stairs the other day, to re-arrange her daughters room. She looked over at her husband …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:57 PM
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24F. Joe is losing to solitude because the second option is more peaceful. The #1 cause of death for pregnant women is being murdered by their spouses. 93% of all domestic violence is committed by men. Women do the vast majority of the cooking, cleaning, child rearing, and organizing. Not to mention we also have full-time jobs (most couples can’t survive in this economy without having dual income streams). I read recently that married women have an average of 8 hours per week MORE of chores to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:50 PM
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Why do you assume women have disgusting narcissistic personalities…?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:46 PM
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Because we don’t have those issues anymore…? And women’s satisfaction doesn’t come from how many of our kids will survive or die. There are now various emotional factors that come into play. We as women have the choice between being with a man and being alone. Sadly, solitude wins for most women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:42 PM
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The idea that men are “providers” so women should do everything else (child rearing, cooking, cleaning etc) is hilarious to me. Most couples cannot survive in our financial climate or economy unless both work full time. So women are expected to work full time, do all the chores, appear attractive, raise the children almost exclusively, provide men with sex, AND pursue them at the same time? What exactly is the man bringing to the table then..? Nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 06:00 PM
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Around 64% of all men are fathers. Are you saying they’re all sociopaths and criminals..?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 05:58 PM
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I agree. In every other species on earth, the males will perform dances, show their bright colours, compete with other males, and do everything in their power to pursue the female to reproduce with them. For some reason now, men want to be chased and pursued by women so badly.. it makes 0 sense
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 05:55 PM
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Have you seen actual couples in real life…? Today I saw 3 different men pushing strollers and holding their child’s hand next to their wives who were under 5’6 and not particularly good looking. Not sure where this narrative that only ripped 6’3 millionaires are reproducing came from lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 05:53 PM
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No because I don’t find him sexually attractive. Finding your partner good looking is essential among other factors of course
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 08:48 AM
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It’s easy to say “I must be 6’3 with chizzled abs and millions of dollars, otherwise there’s no point in trying” I suggest you look at real couples out in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 09:34 PM
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Even though I’m still a young woman at 24, my face has become a lot more proportionate and attractive since being a teenager. My nose has gotten thinner naturally (or maybe just suits my face better), my bone structure is more defined (lost the baby fat), I’m thinner but with a bigger butt, my skin has cleared up because I’m no longer going through the end stages of puberty. I’m not quite sure where men get the notion that 18-22 year olds are the “hottest”. Most women I see peak at around 30. Th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 07:55 PM
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24F. I would never date, commit to, or have sex with a man I didn’t find sexually attractive. That being said, I’ve found a range of men attractive. There hasn’t been one single body type or specific facial features I’ve stuck to. If you’re a good looking guy, you’re a good looking guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:26 PM
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24F and my best friend is 31F. She currently has multiple guys chasing after her, gets hit on every time we go to a bar or public space together, has absolutely 0 wrinkles or fine lines because she’s a skincare specialist, and is very pretty. Men never stop pursuing or being sexually attracted to women no matter what age, especially as young as 30. You just sound bitter and resentful that successful, financially independent, beautiful women aren’t willing to settle for bums. It’s also hilarious …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 05:24 PM
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The typical response to that is “are you sure ;)” or “can I join?”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 03:07 PM
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I answered your question. There’s no deception involved and body count is neither partner’s business
/r/AllPillDebate27/08/23 01:50 PM
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My friend was a virgin until she was 25 and basically every single time we hung out as a group, someone would ask whether or not she had lost her virginity yet… It came across more as pure curiosity rather than criticism, but she was clearly uncomfortable by the constant questions and interest in her virginity status
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 01:43 PM
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Yes, it’s very unfortunate either way. Women are accosted for being virgins and also shamed for having had sex. We can’t win either way so who cares lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 01:40 PM
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You’re either very young or are choosing to associate with immature little girls. Try to surround yourself with grown women who don’t give a damn what their fellow friends do behind closed doors in the privacy of their own homes lol Such a non-factor
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:02 PM
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Because once you age beyond the maturity level of an 18-year-old, it doesn’t matter to us anymore. I’m a woman with quite a lot of female friends and no one cares now that we’re adults
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 06:00 PM
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Women don’t slut shame each other anymore beyond high school. That was my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 05:56 PM
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Not anymore, really. I have a few friends who have slept with 30-60+ men and still value and respect their thoughts and opinions on what they study in medical school/their programs. We get together, talk, and laugh. “Body count” is a non-factor in female friendships
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 05:53 PM
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It’s also not a “secret”. It’s simply irrelevant and doesn’t need to be brought up at all
/r/AllPillDebate26/08/23 03:06 PM
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It’s none of anyone’s business. As long as people get tested and make sure they haven’t contracted anything, are using birth control and condoms- why would you actually care? Give me one valid reason why it would matter aside from insecurity
/r/AllPillDebate26/08/23 03:04 PM
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Most of the men I’ve had relationships with aren’t even from my country. I met them travelling while in other continents and cities, and we ended up spending the week/months together. I am not an investments account, I’m a human being. Webster Dictionary definition of deception: “An act of statement that misleads, hides the truth, or promotes a belief/concept/notion that is not accurate”. There would be no deception involved seeing as adults simply shouldn’t care who each other have been with be…
/r/AllPillDebate26/08/23 08:20 AM
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“Sorry I have a boyfriend” usually works because men respect other men If not, “I’m not looking for anything” or “I’m not dating right now but thank you I’m flattered”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 07:33 PM
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Pre-martial pregnancy was considered contagious. So women were kept away from other women to prevent them from “catching” the pregnancy “disease”. It is real, read a history book. We are currently accomplishing graduating from university with better grades at much higher rates than men. Women have created inventions, fought for the right to vote, we have fought for bodily autonomy, and I can list dozens more? The fact that you need to condescendingly ask “what have women ever accomplished” says …
/r/AllPillDebate25/08/23 06:07 PM
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Only insecure people who are worried a past partner may have been better in bed, more handsome/prettier/pleased them better would care. Confident folks are unphased
/r/AllPillDebate25/08/23 12:27 PM
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Because how many people myself or my partner have slept with previously is completely irrelevant to the relationship we have with each other now. Who he was in love with or banged before knowing I exist and who I loved or had sex with before knowing of his existence are non-factors
/r/AllPillDebate25/08/23 12:25 PM
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The fact that you asked would’ve been over for me. End of relationship
/r/AllPillDebate25/08/23 07:50 AM
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“Throughout history”. You mean a sexist, misogynistic history where women were locked in rooms for 9 months if they were pregnant out of wedlock because they were considered “diseased”? Yea let’s go back to that🥴
/r/AllPillDebate25/08/23 07:49 AM
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Good thing I would never share my previous partners with a man I were seeing, nor would I want to know/care about his. As long as we’re in love and happy together, who cares :)
/r/AllPillDebate25/08/23 07:47 AM
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I would never even disclose my “body count” to a man I was seeing, and wouldn’t want to know his either. Who cares.
/r/AllPillDebate25/08/23 07:46 AM
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I never even said teenage heartthrob. I said heartthrob in general. And there are plenty of them in their 20’s lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:23 PM
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What about a 3 or a 4
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:22 PM
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Heightism💀😭
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:20 PM
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Why would you choose to respond to that question with a straight up insult, disqualifying you from ever getting laid..? Something similar actually happened to me a few days ago at a bar. A good looking man asked if I preferred circumcised or uncircumcised dicks and I said “I have no preference and don’t care. I’ve dated both”. He didn’t like my response and kept pressuring me to say I had a preference. Then asked “do you have an innie or outie vagina”. Nothing gave me the ick quicker. Got up, pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:19 PM
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24F who happens to be 5’9 (my whole family is quite tall) Due to my above average height, I personally look for men who are at least 5’10 which is just an inch taller than myself. I have never understood why tiny/petite women need men a foot taller than them… if I happen to be born short I would happily date a short king. There’s no need for your partner to be 10 inches taller than you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:12 PM
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Exactly. I’m confused as to why he’s choosing to be with such a shallow woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 06:10 PM
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He’s not a teenager in real life and neither are any of the other thousands of female and male actors who pretend to be in high school. That’s literally why it’s called acting bro
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:16 PM
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You mean how 100% of people who play teenagers in shows and movies are between 20-30..?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 05:16 PM
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There are plenty of actors who are well-known for being heart throbs between ages 18-25 lol My current movie crush is Lorenzo Zurzolo and he’s 23.. so fine
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:58 PM
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This is just an excuse to say “guess since I wasn’t born a 6’3 chiseled millionaire with rock hard abs I should just give up now”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 10:30 AM
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A lot of these aren’t privileges, they’re called working hard. Graduating college? Not committing crimes? Getting scholarships? Why do you think we need shelters for DV to begin with? Or government support for our children? Oh, because of men’s wrongdoings. Why can women be near children and not be called creeps? Because statistically 99% of child molesters are men. Men are being shot by police more often because they are responsible for 93% of all violent crime. Sounds like men should be making…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 09:09 AM
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24F I rejected a good looking guy who was a total asshole last week. I said I didn’t want to have a one night stand with him and he started to condescend to me. Few days ago, another guy was very respectful and seemingly had genuine interest in my life (even if he didn’t, he was an attentive listener). I ended up having sex with him. We don’t want cocky dickheads with massive egos, we want the good ones lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:42 AM
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THANK YOU. As a woman, I agree wholeheartedly
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:38 AM
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Yes actually, it is grooming. And the examples you’ve provided are exactly what a parent-child relationship would look like. “Taught her things she may have never dealt with before”- you mean like a father helps his daughter navigate adulthood? “Teaching her how to drive a car” you mean how a mother or father would teach their child to drive? You’re just proving my point. By the way, the frontal lobe and prefrontal cortex are not developed until around age 25/26. 21-year-olds have similar neuron…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:19 AM
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Hahaha exactly- the average/typical 40-year-old man is not physically attractive to young women. Maybe the top 1% who take incredibly good care of themselves, but those are very rare. These men really used George Clooney and Brad Pitt as examples. Some of the most handsome and richest men on the planet💀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:16 AM
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You’ve really compared the average balding 40-year-old man with a beer gut to famous, rich billionaires who’ve had plastic surgery?💀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 08:14 AM
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No. I’m 24 and any man over 35 simply isn’t sexually desirable to me. All of my female friends agree
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 08:54 PM
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“Mentored” is what men like to say in place of parented/manipulated/groomed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 08:53 PM
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This is called parenting … super weird description honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 08:52 PM
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Same. I’m 24 and would absolutely not consider having sex with a man over 35 MAX
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 08:51 PM
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Yup. I’m 24 and I don’t find men over 35 attractive at all. I could never date anyone or have a serious relationship with anyone older than early 30’s
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 08:48 PM
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Realistically, look around at actual couples. This isn’t happening aside from 1% of cases
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 07:40 AM
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“Femcels” don’t exist because there’s no such thing as being an involuntary celibate woman. We can walk into any establishment on earth and find sex easily. Try again
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 06:15 PM
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I can guarantee you no woman likes to have their clit violently rubbed resulting in carpet burn
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 06:14 PM
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Ya exactly. Genitalia in general is sensitive, it’s not meant to be aroused by pulling, tugging, rubbing, or violently pressing lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:38 PM
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You hit the nail on the head. Thank you for representing how all women feel about men like this…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:29 PM
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I have never met a woman who wants all of her bills paid as well as constant showering of presents. This social media phenomenon isn’t happening in reality. Most couples both work jobs…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:26 PM
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There’s no such thing as a femcel, because women can’t be invulnerability celibate. We can walk into any establishment/bar/club/place on earth and get laid easily lol Just a term bitter incels created
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:15 PM
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I am educated on the male body :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:15 PM
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Rough sex AFTER being properly lubricated and sufficiently warmed up to the point of wetness is completely different from roughly handling genitalia….
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:44 PM
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This entire time, I’ve been saying women only dislike sex when the man goes straight into us without any foreplay. I’ve repeated myself over and over again. I have dozens of female friends and have spoken about sex over the years with hundreds of women. If you want to discard my advice from an ACTUAL woman, go ahead no one’s stopping you
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:42 PM
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Rough sex, sure. You need to be wet to enjoy that, otherwise we’re getting carpet burn inside our vaginas. I was speaking on foreplay exclusively this entire time, though. Our lady parts want to be warmed up in a gentle way PRIOR to sex, not aggressively rubbed and pressed on. Ouch.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:40 PM
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And women will continue having awful sex with them, if they’ve even left their mothers basements long enough to get laid in the first place
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:19 PM
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Dicks and vaginas come in all shapes and sizes. Some women are virgins with large labia and others have had 300 sexual partners with “innie” vaginas. Are you over the age of 14? If so, you should know this by now
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:17 PM
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Women have told you to aggressively rub their clits, giving them carpet burn? No, they haven’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:15 PM
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https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-clitoris-uncovered-an-intimate-history/ It’s actually not the size of a Tic Tac: you guys have absolutely no clue what a woman’s vagina even looks like and wonder why you’re awful at sex. I would genuinely be humiliated and embarrassed if I were you… yikes
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:14 PM
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The ignorance is absolutely insane. These men don’t have a damn clue how vaginas work and wonder why they’re terrible at sex…. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:10 PM
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That’s not how labia works… Jesus Christ you should be embarrassed. Our vaginas change during puberty and have absolutely no correlation with how many people we’ve slept with. Do you realize porn stars with tiny little slits bang hundreds of dudes per month? That’s like saying “dicks get bigger the more sex a man has”…?? Or “penises become more crooked the less sex a man has”. Genitals are genetic just like hair and eye colour. You scream Incel and need a 5th grade sex ed class.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:10 PM
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Where did I state that we should lie there without movement and let the guy do everything? Not a single soul said that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:07 PM
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Ya let’s all just get entirely different bodies that aren’t human the way they’re naturally built!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:07 PM
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You’re taking the most extreme example of biting someone’s dick off (which no one does) and making it the rule. Type in “female pleasure spots” “how to arouse a woman” “how to rub the clitoris” it’s not rocket science.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:06 PM
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Please try to understand that bad sex on a man’s part is actually due to no foreplay, otherwise we wouldn’t be complaining. I’m not exaggerating when I say 9/10 guys my friends and I have slept with collectively simply don’t do it. If they did, the sex would’ve been good. Now that I’m almost 25, I’ve recently started communicating that I need more time. When women are in our teens and early 20’s, oftentimes young guys will become offended or have their egos bruised when we tell them our needs. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:46 PM
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It’s called Google☺️😍 A little easier than talking to god hun
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:42 PM
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Being aroused and actually wet from proper foreplay seems like a high standard for me. I’d say 10-15 minutes of stimulation is needed for us. The reason we complain about bad sex is because men get hard in under one minute and are too eager to just enter us… Too many of them are trying to have sex while we’re still dry. That’s literally why the sex ends up being bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:40 PM
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Yes, I’m not even joking. There’s no reason I’d lie and as a woman myself (also I’m a girls girl, so I have lots of female friends I talk to about this).. the #1 biggest issue causing bad sex is no foreplay. Men unfortunately take 0.5 seconds to get a boner, so they think our bodies work the same way a lot of the time. We aren’t ready for sex in under a minute the same way men are. If you try to insert into a woman who hasn’t been aroused yet, she’ll just be dry the entire time. The whole experi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:38 PM
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Actually it’s 90% of what makes good sex, according to discussions I’ve had with hundreds of female friends and women I’ve met along the way in life. Most men do absolutely no foreplay at all. So when the clitoris is involved, it’s practically impossible to have bad sex seeing as how rare men being able to locate it seems to be….
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:33 PM
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You don’t suck, I think you’re just saying that out of low confidence. The trick is to be gentle. We don’t want carpet burn- Imagine a woman squeezing the shit out of ur dick, you wouldn’t like that very much. Genitals are very sensitive, so just rub lightly with a soft touch and you’ll be fine
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:32 PM
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Actually yes lol I’ve never had bad sex after solid foreplay and having my clit stimulated. I have a dozen female friends and most all us will occasionally talk about our sex lives as friends do. We all agree with each other. The general consensus is that if a man “warms us up” before insertion, there’s a very low probability sex will be bad. In fact I’d say almost impossible
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 12:30 PM
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Not at all? You don’t need to visit space yourself to know that other planets exist. You don’t need to have sex with 500 women to know where the clitoris is located….
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:04 AM
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Most information on the pleasure spots of women are incredibly obvious and easy to look up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:03 AM
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Your analogy doesn’t correlate at all. The fact is, most men go directly in for sex without any foreplay at all, nor can they locate the clitoris even through its glaringly obvious on any anatomy photo of a vagina. You’re making this more complex than it needs to be. If men would simply look at a diagram of a woman’s vagina and do 10 minutes worth of research, we’d enjoy ourselves a lot more
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 11:03 AM
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You don’t need to visit outer space to do research and learn about space…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:57 AM
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By educating yourself on the female anatomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:57 AM
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A lot of men can’t even locate the clitoris, it’s embarrassing. Instead of whining about women, educate yourself on the female body. No one needs to “tell” you where our pleasure spots are, or that it takes 10-15 minutes of foreplay to become wet. Men should already know these things on their own over the age of 20
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:57 AM
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Most men also aren’t very good at it lol I’d rather masturbate most of the time
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 10:13 AM
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Statistically, men in poor countries have the most children. So, you’d be incorrect
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 06:24 PM
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The original post was about hugely declining marriage and birth rates. I was providing a clear explanation as to why. Women don’t want to be servants anymore and we’ve now realized our quality of life improves without marriage- I was responding in regards to this whole post
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:31 PM
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That was my whole point
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 12:17 PM
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You said marriage, and I said no any man who resides with a female partner benefits
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 12:17 PM
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All men who move in or live with a woman benefit from it, even girlfriends
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 10:48 AM
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I never said they were genes. I’m not speaking on genes at all, I’m talking about bum men who abandon their families because they decide they no longer want the responsibility and would rather start new lives. Being “good looking” is not enough to have a child with someone. The average dad you see walking around pushing a stroller looks like…. A dad. Most men with kids aren’t 6’3 buff gods with six packs and millions of dollars. Women want to start families with secure, stable men who will be go…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:47 AM
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I recently read an article that the workload in terms of household chores and housekeeping increase by 4 hours per day for married women, while those same tasks cut 4 hours per day off for men- seeing as their wives are now (almost always) doing it for them. Married men get a full-time nanny (women do most of the child rearing), chef, and personal cleaning lady while women take on significantly more work. At the end of the day, marriage benefits men and decreases quality of life for women sadly
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:44 AM
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I agree with the second half of your statement, in terms of there actually statistically being about as many female narcissists as male ones. Women can be equally as mentally and emotionally abusive, which men aren’t generally taught to look for. Where I’ll disagree is that while single women are happier and more successful, studies show that men in relationships are actually happier and more successful. Basically, men benefit from marriage through having a personal chef, cleaner, and nanny (wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:42 AM
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“If you give women the freedom to choose”. Stop right there. Prior to women being able to legally divorce (which was 1986 in Italy, for example and even 2023 in many countries), women were STILL in miserable relationships with men who were criminals, beat them, and fuckboys who didn’t care about them. They just had no other option but to remain together. The rise in single mothers isn’t because women are suddenly “choosing terrible men”, it’s because we actually have the ability to leave now. Te…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 09:36 AM
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I’d rather have a cat than a bare minimum man lmao If you’re one of them, just say that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 09:02 PM
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Haha good thing women are biologically the ones who determine who we sleep with. Men have 0 say in it other than asking or making a move, where the woman ultimately says yes or no to sex. We are the evolutionary “choosers” so unfortunately you don’t get to decide :)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 07:53 PM
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YES. The awful and mediocre men who either do the bare minimum as fathers or just leave will eventually be weeded out. Women are starting to wake up to being exponentially more careful than we’ve been in past decades. The men we’re talking about will hopefully go extinct after a couple generations because their genes will be effectively erased from earth 👏
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 07:51 PM
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No not at all. I’m talking about the millions of men who impregnate women on a daily basis and then decide they don’t want to be involved or just up and abandon their families all together whenever they feel like it. Women are collectively exhausted by men’s actions and are choosing not to reproduce with low-quality men. Having a baby with someone else ties you to them for life, you can never escape. The number one cause of death among pregnant women/expectant mothers is murder (look it up). Men…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 06:15 PM
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Not wanting low-effort fathers who abandon, abuse, neglect, and create generational trauma that will continue to be passed down sounds fucked? Sounds like you’re one of them-
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 06:07 PM
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Agreed. I’m so proud of women for refusing to breed with men who don’t deserve their genes passed on
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 05:44 PM
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Women now have our own careers, our own apartments, our own money/ability to travel/pay bills. We no longer need to rely on men for survival. Therefore, we’re now staying single unless a man vastly enriches our life in some way or another that we aren’t already doing for ourselves- which seems to be rare. I personally am very independent (24F) and unwilling to date a man unless he improves my life for the better, otherwise the rest I can take care of myself. Women are opting to be single rather …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 05:40 PM
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As a woman, I completely agree
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 10:19 PM
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The last one is ridiculous. Given the right moment, I love when men approach me or ask for my number under certain circumstances. It’s creepy if you’re coming up to women in the dark at 2:00 AM, or outside of a bar in passing when said woman is clearly hammered. I just did a tour of Rome, Italy today and a guy I had been chatting with on the tour asked me out for dinner.. we proceeded to go on a date. It’s really flattering if you’ve had a bit of banter prior
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 10:18 PM
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Yes, and the same thing goes for men as well as every other species on earth. No animal wants to reproduce with another who they don’t find “mate material”. It’s biological and universal in Mother Nature
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 11:41 PM
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As a woman, I can’t articulate exactly what I find attractive because a certain spark or connection needs to be present as well. On the other side of the coin, I’ve gotten to know hot men who ended up having terrible personalities and I couldn’t tolerate them either. You aren’t entitled to being a “match” for every woman, and she doesn’t need to see you any way that she naturally doesn’t feel intrinsically
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 01:01 PM
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Being nice is not good enough criteria for any woman I’ve ever met
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 12:09 PM
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It doesn’t make you misogynistic, but as a woman myself I would never date or take any man who has paid for sex seriously (honest opinion)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:24 PM
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Or maybe you’re just interpreting politeness and basic human decency with flirting, which seems to be a very common thing among men. Unfortunately, men can’t fathom being nice to a woman they aren’t sexually attracted to or find pretty (unless it’s their own mother/sister/relative), therefore they aren’t capable of comprehending that a woman may be cordial with them void of any physical attraction. I personally lift weights and have absolutely no problems lifting and re-arranging furniture witho…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 10:55 PM
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I recently called a guy who was very sparse with his texting and only ever replied when it was convenient for him out on his behaviour. I said I’d never sleep with him again due to his lack of interest. Anyway, he invited me out after calling twice. I went out with his friend group and paid him 0 attention. Completely ignored his presence. He tapped me on the shoulder at some point during the night and said “I’m not interested in you and don’t find you attractive” completely out of nowhere (afte…
/r/seduction12/08/23 01:55 PM
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You should be able to easily control your sex drive in the presence of a friend who happens to be a woman.. are you saying you have no self-control?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:12 PM
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Being nice and giving me attention are not good enough criteria to get me into bed as a woman. Literally every man on earth is “nice” to women they find attractive.. next
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:10 PM
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Are you aware that if we needed help moving or emotional support, we could easily call our female friends as well? There’s 0 difference
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:08 PM
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I have had plenty of male friends and not a single one of them has ever owned a truck, helped me move, or had a boat. What are you saying??
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:07 PM
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You seem to equate labor to friendship, and make it seem like companionship in general is awful. I’m friends with women (as a straight woman) and I don’t expect anything from them other than a good conversation and some emotional support. We hang out, eat some dinner and talk. 0 sexual attraction involved. If you’d prefer porn to actual human relations, I’m so sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:02 PM
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I just can’t wrap my brain around how men enjoy 5 minutes or sex and then leaving.. how is that fulfilling in any way?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 02:17 AM
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Would I have sex with someone I didn’t find attractive? No lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 01:48 AM
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As an attractive 24 year old woman who has never been turned down for sex before, having casual sex and random one night stands isn’t even fulfilling or fun… It genuinely sucks. Not sure why men crave it so much lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 01:46 AM
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If you think anyone over the age of 30 is sexually “long gone”, I’m praying for whoever your wife is
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 09:49 PM
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Most of them get Botox, but so do millions of regular women That doesn’t negate aging well haha, lots of people continue looking good and fit well into their 30’s and 40’s
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 06:33 PM
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Actually, coming home to a clean apartment used to make me instantly more receptive to being intimate and sexual with my ex boyfriend when we lived together… this seems to be universal among women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 11:09 AM
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People get fatter because they choose to stop taking care of themselves. I personally will never be fat, because I consistently workout and eat well. Also, everyone should be wearing sunscreen daily- the sun causes skin damage, cancer, and premature aging in general so the same goes for men. By “leaner” I didn’t mean deathly looking, I meant the baby fat is lost and their faces look more beautiful in a mature way. As a teenager, I hated my nose because it was quite long for my face (I have a Ger…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 10:59 AM
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A lot of women in general grow into their features and are much hotter at 30 than 20
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 10:55 AM
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I personally don’t find women in their late teens and early 20’s to be at their “peak” yet. I can list dozens of female celebrities who really grew into their features and are much hotter in their 30’s. Women tend to lose their baby fat and chubby cheeks when they’re older, and facial features become better
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 09:39 PM
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I can acknowledge that tons of people are nice and attractive without being drawn towards them. I would consider most of my female friends to be pretty with great personality qualities, but I don’t want to be with them romantically or sexually because I’m not attracted to women (for example).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 09:35 PM
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The average guy meaning traits, not the average guy in terms of looks. Several of my female friends are dating short kings, or dudes who aren’t particularly attractive. The reason they got girlfriends was because of their character traits, ambition, educational level, and future career path. If the average man is unable to get a woman nowadays, he needs to ask himself why his personality or lifestyle is so undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 02:13 PM
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A growing number of women are also choosing abstinence and celibacy. We have a boom of women currently abstaining from sex entirely. There are actually “no sex with men” strikes in countries all over the world as protests right now. Look it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 01:49 PM
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The reason men are having less sex in recent recoded history isn’t because of looks. Men in the 1950’s weren’t all models with washboard abs… Women are becoming more selective and choosier with personality traits and the age of marriage for women continues to rise. With more time comes more options. Unfortunately, men just aren’t cutting it. If you aren’t getting laid, ask yourself why that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 01:46 PM
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First of all, every sentence you say starts off with “I see”. Your personal anecdotal experiences and perceptions aren’t equivalent to reality. Second, couples having less sex overtime is completely normal. Initial attraction and lust turns into commitment and romantic love. Do you think people are hopping into bed every 5 minutes after 30 years of marriage? No. Fun fact (I have a degree in relationship psychology): Men tend to deem themselves as more attractive than they really are. These “good…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 01:43 PM
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Because men refuse to listen to us when we are blatantly expressing our exact desired traits in a man. Stop reading articles and going online, and start taking women’s actual words into consideration. I find men will endlessly listen to other men when it comes to relationship advice and sex while claiming that a woman’s perspective on sex and dating “isn’t true” lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 01:33 AM
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What an ignorant post. Please go outside and touch some grass
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 01:16 AM
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Every man who refers to himself as a “nice guy” actually isn’t. That’s the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 01:15 AM
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That’s anecdotal evidence, not representative of actual statistics
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 01:13 AM
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No, I’m often asked if I’m a model because I’m tall, skinny and pretty. Sorry, but being constantly sexually harassed by men is extremely degrading. We aren’t seen, we aren’t heard, our emotions are never validated. We are viewed as prizes to be won, not as actual human beings. You don’t seem to have any empathy. Being invisible or less attractive would be nice once in a while…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 12:48 AM
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This is such a ridiculous post lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 12:44 AM
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24F- I have 1,500 followers on IG. I haven’t been in a relationship since 2021 and haven’t had sex in 7 months. Your instagram followed have absolutely nothing to do with being promiscuous at all..?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 12:43 AM
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The photo you used just proves that men do not understand the female gaze whatsoever💀
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 12:35 AM
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I’m automatically turned off by misogynistic men who hold traditional, conservative views. If a man isn’t a feminist, I will drop him immediately. If he is, my panties will drop immediately-
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 12:19 AM
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I personally have never cared about a man’s sexual past, and would not date a man who even asked my “body count” to begin with. Love is love. Who cares what either of us did or didn’t do prior to knowing each other existed. Human relationships being reduced to sex and promiscuity is immature and meaningless-
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 12:14 AM
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When women are rejected, we may do something behind the scenes (if mentally unstable) to express our hurt. However, many men will become violent. Women need to be cautious not to get assaulted or killed over a rejection, thus explaining the difference in stigma.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 12:11 AM
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Still not denying you just want sex💀
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:03 PM
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No one is spending that much money on dates….. you’re just trying to find every way around saying “we gotta have sex after the first couple dates” without ACTUALLY saying it- some self-awareness would be good
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:27 PM
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You aren’t talking about having time together without an expensive date… you’ve mentioned sex several times. Do you think I’m easily led? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 08:07 PM
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This is such a sad thing to say :/
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:57 PM
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It’s sad that you only go on dates or pay when sex is involved. You just fully admitted to viewing us as sexual objects and prizes to be won…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:45 PM
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Yes, they got divorced when I was 8 and never even loved each other to begin with. I was an only child and accident.. I now have a disorganized attachment style
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:43 PM
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I disagree. Sex comes with emotion, the potential for pregnancy and STIs, as well as a slew of other mental and physical outcomes. Paying is simply swiping a card. Giving up your body to someone is very intimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:38 PM
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First of all, BPD and Narcissistic Personality Disorder are NOT the same whatsoever. They exist under the same cluster of “personality disorders” but have different criteria. I was diagnosed borderline last year, and actually the reason men are attracted to us is because we can mould ourselves to anyone else’s likes/dislikes/traits/hobbies and interests. People like to be listened to and feel like they’re understood. As someone with BPD, I’ve also gone through major depressive episodes where I h…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:32 PM
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As an attractive 24-year-old woman who exercises regularly and is in good shape, I’m already desired sexually by many people. I would say this is the case for most women lol… I would MUCH rather find someone who loves me completely. It’s actually quite sad being constantly extorted, used, led on, followed down the street, cat called, lied to, and manipulated on a regular basis by men all in the name of sex. I often feel like I’m viewed solely as an object or prize to be won and it’s degrading.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:22 PM
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Have you ever met an actual couple? Out in real life? The average guy isn’t rich or making tons of disposable income. Most regular people have regular jobs, regular relationships, and are struggling to make ends meet/be financially comfortable. Not sure why the men on this sub assume women only date multi millionaires who constantly give us money lol
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:26 PM
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You’ve never seen a couple where the woman is significantly more attractive than the man and wondered why she’s dating him? “It must be his money/sense of humour/he must be good in bed/I’m sure he’s a comedian” are very common remarks in this situation to justify why she might be with him aside from appearance
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:15 PM
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Truth: the vast majority of men are not good in bed. My friends and I regularly discuss how difficult it is for us to finish, how men skip foreplay, and how we’ve rarely (if ever) found the experience completely enjoyable. If we get nothing out of sex 9/10 times, why would we sleep around?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:10 PM
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“She can be rich and afford between $100-$350 per therapy session”💀
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:07 PM
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Nope. Two of my female friends had fathers who begged for them to be born. Immediately after (while married to their moms), they fled to South America and started new lives. Sorry but this happens often.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:05 PM
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“Women choose mates of low quality”. Yes, because abusers and awful men love making it known straight away that they abuse and are awful!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:04 PM
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My mother is a single mum and didn’t realize my father was an alcoholic with narcissistic personality disorder until he started exhibiting awful traits/red flags at around 7 months into her pregnancy with me. Do you think abusers are just going to randomly make it known they abuse…? Vast majority of women are completely blindsided. By all outward appearances, my father had a great job, was tall and good looking, funny, was a member of a men’s hockey league, etc. No one has a “loser” radar built …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:03 PM
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My female friends who had fun dating/sleeping around in college are now in relationships. I personally was in an almost 4-year committed relationship in college and now enjoy being single at 24. Everyone has “their fun” regardless of age.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 12:56 PM
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None of my female friends in relationships are given random money by their boyfriends.. This post is very out-of-touch with reality
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 12:52 PM
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If a girl is chasing after you, double texting when you ignore her messages, making all the plans, and trying to catch your attention constantly you should be seeing her as desperate…not attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 11:54 AM
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I invited my neighbour who I had known for 2 years in college and had an established friendship with next door for some wine in 2020. I trusted him, and he put oxycodone into my glass. I blacked out within minutes and he assaulted me. My best friend was drugged and assaulted by a man she had developed feelings for after going out with him over several months. Not to mention, marital rape (within MARRIED couples) has its own sub-section under the law. The VAST majority of rapes are actually commi…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 11:31 AM
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Men are the natural pursuers, that isn’t our job. Once again, you’ll never catch me chasing a man and begging for his attention. It’s embarrassing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:14 PM
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We take hours to get ready with hair and makeup, go out of our way to provide you with our time and energy, as well as companionship, advice, and intellectual conversation. I will never chase a man around. If he isn’t willing to actively pursue me, I assume he isn’t interested and pretty much block him immediately, moving on to a man who actually is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:35 PM
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No one is asking you to marry or settle down. If you love sex, just remain single
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:29 PM
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Yup. I carry every single conversation. Speaking to most men is like talking to dry wall..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 02:22 AM
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Sounds like she’s incapable of being happy with herself, needs constant validation, is a serial dater, and should seek therapy. Her boyfriend sounds like a lazy, incompetent man child. This one example is sad, but obviously was doomed from the start and shouldn’t represent all women “hitting a wall”. I’m 24F, but have several female friends who are 30-32. They’re all still gorgeous, none of them have begun getting wrinkles, and they’re all still very much lusted after. Not entirely sure where th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:12 PM
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You can look like Brad Pitt. If you’re an immature little boy who has 0 emotional intelligence, no self-awareness, no conflict resolution skills, and is really boring then I do not want to touch you with a 10-foot pole.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 01:03 AM
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Look at whether they’re serial daters and are never single. If the person continually has a rotation of boyfriends or girlfriends without a moments pause, they’re using you to fill a void and will probably be onto the next soon. Ask how many relationships they’ve been in. If they say “9” or some huge number, they simply can’t be alone and are settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 12:18 AM
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It’s not about “which is more important” having a child is a privilege not many people can even afford nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 12:14 AM
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Huh? A thousand generations of mothers in your family have sacrificed absolutely everything for you to be alive today. What’s your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 12:07 AM
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You’re 25 and have never once been victimized by a man before? Consider yourself incredibly lucky to be part of the 0.000001% of women who have not had a single bad experience with a man. You’re privileged and this is NOT the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 12:06 AM
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You used the Daily Mail as a real source? Lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 11:34 PM
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100% agree with this post as a woman. Now that we have everything men can have in terms of education and career, simply “earning an income” or “having their own place” is no longer going to Cut it for us. Either they step up and realize the bare minimum is no longer sufficient to find a girlfriend, or their gene pools die out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 11:33 PM
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In the United States, it was illegal for women to withdraw money from the bank without their husbands signature well into the 1980’s. What are you talking about?….
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/23 11:31 PM
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Being Handsome and tall is very superficial and barely meets any criteria at all for dating lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 01:18 PM
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As a woman who goes to the gym regularly, interesting how Pete Davison, Harry Styles, and Timothy Chalamet are the most lusted after men on the planet. When are men going to understand that we truly don’t care about big muscles lol You’re not seeing the female gaze
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/23 12:50 PM
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What a generalized statement lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 11:40 PM
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I have a psychology degree and found my “relationships” class very interesting on this exact topic. They did a study which concluded that men typically have “side-by-side” friendships (for example, standing next to each other while watching a sports event or sitting next to each other at the bar stool) while women have face-to-face friendships (as in, directly facing each other during conversation). I currently have a 9-year-old brother in 5th grade. Watching him interact with other little boys …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 09:43 PM
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I know right, I’m logical and my statements make sense
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 07:57 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 07:56 PM
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I love feminist men, they’re the only ones I would ever date. Men would never date a woman they don’t find attractive either lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 06:05 PM
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Start talking to women. We all agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 05:04 PM
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Yes, the majority of people want relationships. Correct. You’re missing the point. Women are no longer SETTLING for mediocre or bare minimum men. We would rather be alone than with someone “alright” lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 03:42 PM
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What….
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 01:23 PM
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You aren’t competing against looks, money, or status anymore. You’re competing against women and our peace in being single/alone. Would we rather be by ourselves or dating you? Most women would choose the former nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 01:22 PM
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Not true. 50% of women 30+ are projected to be single and without children in the very near future, which is almost unheard of. We are opting out of men rapidly.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 01:20 PM
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24F I realize this is anecdotal, but I 100% agree. My best friend and I have chosen to be abstinent because we would both quite frankly rather be alone and single than with a man who will use us for sex, discard us like trash, and potentially turn out to be a dangerous or violent misogynist. Men are no longer competing against the “top 10%”. They are competing against our peace and tranquility, which is actually much tougher lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 01:18 PM
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It’s clear you see relationships as transactions and have never been in love before lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 02:11 AM
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Screams “I’m insecure”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 02:04 AM
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Exactly. He just stated why women shouldn’t rely on men financially lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 02:03 AM
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You literally just proved why women shouldn’t be dependent on men. The jokes truly write themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 02:03 AM
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This happens all the time😭😂
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 02:00 AM
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There’s a middle ground between virginity and being a whore💀 The grey area is realistically where 99% of the population lies
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 05:36 PM
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Imagine virginity overriding absolutely every other aspect of a human being. Couldn’t be me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 05:35 PM
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97% of the population are not virgins prior to marriage. So you’ve just eliminated almost the entirety of North America as being undatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 05:32 PM
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All the men saying “first girl” would immediately choose the knockout 10 if face to face with her any day. Margot Robbie approaches you but isn’t a virgin and y’all are gonna say no? Lmaoo be for real
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/23 05:31 PM
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Are you unaware that “masculine” and “feminine” changes every decade? They are socially constructed. The “masculine man” in the 1600’s wore makeup, high heels, and blush. That was considered masculine during the time period. In the 1990’s, it was popular for men to wear black eyeliner during the grunge era. Those men were considered masculine at the time. Right now, Harry Styles, Timothy Chalamet, and Pete Davison are some of the most lusted after men on the planet. They wear dresses, the colour…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 07:16 PM
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Whoever told you that having feelings= being a woman clearly abused you mentally. That is EXACTLY what the patriarchy teaches little boys and it’s very disturbing. I pray I have a son who never in a billion years turns out emotionally repressed and stunted like you. There’s a reason men have a suicide rate 7X higher than women do. It’s because they bottle everything up until it explodes. I feel so sorry for you…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:58 PM
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No one said any of that. The only two men I’ve been deeply in love with and sexually attracted to were intelligent, engaging conversationalists, and had attractive hobbies outside of school and work. I’m really sorry you think men can’t have feelings and need to be ripped chads who never cry in order to be wanted or “real” men. You’re a victim to the patriarchy :(
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 01:25 PM
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All the women in this thread agree with me, while all the men have fought me and denied the female reality. I guess that’s why they’re all single and sexless lmaoo Let’s just continue letting them believe whatever they want in their delusional minds🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:28 AM
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They always need to be so incredibly extreme. I saw a thread where a woman simply stated she did not want to wait until marriage to have sex with her partner, which is 97% of the population. Almost no one is a virgin at their wedding… She was met with hundreds of replies from Incels saying she must participate in orgies, go to sex clubs, has banged entire football and basketball teams, is a prostitute, likely has aids, and is a ran-through whore. I guess they don’t think grey areas exist💀 It’s a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/23 06:27 AM
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1) You assume that everyone who is “bad” makes it obvious. It’s clear you have 0 clue how abuse works. 2) you did not address my point about men being deserving of abuse haha, conveniently skipped over that one 3) My mother has dated several men after being divorced both times. Single moms have no shortage of male attention. 4) She is now 50 and has no interest in men anymore. She is finally at peace and would rather live by herself than with abusers. Not every woman needs a man to exist💀 Many o…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:28 PM
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24F. Both my ex boyfriends and the only two men I’ve ever loved approached me in public with confidence :) So #1 worked for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:25 PM
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Your comment was sarcastic and rude, be for real.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:06 PM
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How would the “men around her” even know my dad or former step-father? Do you think everyone on earth knows each other? “Her fault”. Let’s just blame victims of abuse for being abused… makes sense. If a man gets involved with a narcissist who uses love bombing and affection only to trap him later on, he deserves to have his life ruined and half his income/life’s savings taken during divorce. Equality right? :)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:06 PM
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Narcissists are predators as well as men who abandon their children. I think you fail to realize there are multiple forms of abuse and trauma, not just one. To blame victims for their own victimization whether male or female is horrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 05:04 PM
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I’m not sure why you’re so angry but I can calmly explain why I wasn’t interested. Basically, we spent the whole entire week together on vacation. We ate meals, swam in the ocean, went out with our friend groups to bars, etc. did everything together. Unfortunately once I started to recognize that I was carrying every single conversation (as in, I asked him all the questions about his life, his family, and himself) he never asked me anything about myself in return. For example, I would ask “so ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 03:23 PM
2

Yup, they’re angry they can’t get girlfriends or get laid when their deep-seeded hatred for women remains apparent.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 03:10 PM
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I’m not even talking about being choosy… what are you saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:09 PM
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LOL exactly the men here are completely delusional and truly void of making any associations in their hypocrisy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:09 PM
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No, he wasn’t interesting enough to be attracted to. His bland personality turned me off lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:08 PM
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So basically you’re just mad about being short and/or undesired by women? Checks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:07 PM
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Most of the time, neither women nor men can predict how awful someone will be when they first start dating them. There are a barrage of reasons for someone to end up a single parent. My mom has been divorced twice because after dating, getting married, and having my brother and I with our fathers, they suddenly began to show their true colours. She genuinely says she did not see it coming or notice the red flags at all until we were already born. Further, the majority of narcissists (those with …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:05 PM
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He was genuinely boring. Not everyone is interesting🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 03:07 AM
1

Imagine thinking any of these are impressive😭
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 03:06 AM
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You’ve never once in your life seen an attractive short couple?…. That makes 0 sense because I live in a city of 5 million and see short couples who are good looking all the time. I’m a 5’9 woman myself, but how are short women inferior? Sorry what?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:12 PM
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You already know deep down how untrue that is. If women didn’t go for men on the shorter side, than the worldwide average male height would not be 5’8. Only 3% men on earth are above 6’0. If we were exclusively dating them, then most of the earth’s population wouldn’t exist
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 09:08 PM
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Have you ever seen an actual couple holding hands and going on dates in public? Very few of them are 6’4 ripped models with chizzled jawlines and millions of dollars. A lot of these opinions are sooo chronically online it’s laughable
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:58 PM
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The majority of narcissists are actually female. Their strategy is to love bomb using compliments and gifts, luring you in only to destroy your life financially, mentally, and emotionally. I guess if men don’t want their lives ruined and half their money taken, they should’ve made better choices. Their fault🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:27 PM
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If being 6’4 is the only requirement you think women need, you’re truly living in delusion. I met a guy on vacation last year who was actually 6’4 exactly, really hot, and was conventionally an attractive man. He had no redeeming qualities aside from being good looking so I blocked him soon after. We want partners, not Abercrombie models.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:19 PM
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Do you actually think most women who aren’t in relationships are having sex? We aren’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 08:18 PM
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“There are men in my life who shower, have friends, and dress well. I can’t believe they’re single!” What a joke for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 06:15 PM
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The notion that we are running around fucking chads all day and night is such a delusional mindset perpetuated by alpha male podcasters and their fans, it’s actually pretty laughable
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 05:28 PM
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Nah, I just keep telling you what women want from a young woman’s perspective and you continue to reply “nope! That’s not what they want. You’re wrong and I’m right!” I haven’t been cornered, I simply stated my perspective and you always have a rebuttal no matter what. Why would I keep arguing? Bye :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 05:18 PM
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Yup because it’s the single mothers fault that the father decided to abandon his family…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 05:15 PM
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The hottest 6’4 man on the planet could not keep a woman if the only thing he has to offer is “showering”. Lol what….
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 04:52 PM
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I think it’s very interesting that men think the only criteria for us to be attracted to them is: 1)Not obese 2)Showers 2)Has friends Maybe they’re single because these are extremely bare minimum traits that 10-year-olds have? The bar is in hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 04:43 PM
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Everyone adult should have a job, male or female. Every adult should be independent, male or female. What do you mean by a “work in progress”? That could be defined as a lotttt of things. No one is asking anyone to be perfect and without flaws. Employment, kindness, loyalty, good conversation, and emotional intelligence are very basic traits of a decent person. Not sure where there’s any confusion!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 04:37 PM
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Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:41 PM
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Interesting. When I posted the identical qualities men are discussing in this thread that women look for I was told my standards are too high Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 02:49 PM
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I would never settle for the bare minimum from any man, regardless of how they look. Nothing on my list was unreasonable or unrealistic, either. Those are just normal traits that any good person should possess.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 01:18 PM
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Yikes. I guess it’s easier to call women used-up, ran through obese hoes on antidepressants than it is to self-reflect and consider why women don’t want you :) self-protection and deflection mechanisms at their finest. Have a nice day!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 01:16 PM
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You’ve completely made up your mind and are unwilling to take into consideration anything an actual woman is telling you. Have a nice day :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 01:13 PM
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If you’d like to continue completely ignoring my point, claiming you’re 100% correct and that men can be dumb, immature, and not emotionally available yet continue to get laid- no worries :) Have a nice day
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 01:12 PM
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Men automatically discard the majority of women based on looks alone as well. Not only that, they will pick apart every aspect of a woman’s face and body and point out every unsuitable flaw.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:03 AM
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The only two men I’ve ever been deeply in love with wrote me poems, love letters, brought me flowers, and spent quality time with me. They were the only ones who I’ve felt heartbroken over and were by far the most romantic men as well. Why do you think romance novels are geared towards the female gaze? Why do all romance films speak to the men WOMEN actually want? We do not want chad fuckboys with big muscles and terrible personalities. Timothy Chalamet and Harry Styles are the two must lusted a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 03:01 AM
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The multiple paragraphs you just wrote blamed women for all of your problems and then proceeded to tell women they need to take accountability. Interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 02:57 AM
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Every man begins to bald and lose hair as they age. Doesn’t matter how hot they are. Everyone gets wrinkles. Everyone goes grey. Everyone’s skin stretches and looks less youthful regardless of working out. I just turned 24, and I can tell you that no woman around my age (and as stated earlier, the average couple has an age gap of 2-7 years) is wanting men above early 30’s MAX. Unless you are a straight up gold digger and do not care about having a meaningful relationship at all, we aren’t lookin…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 02:54 AM
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Again, people initially need to be attracted to each other in order to get together and this is clear. I don’t think you quite understand the actual scope of what emotional intelligence and processed trauma mean. Men who do not address their issues (regardless of being hot or not) end up causing every partner they’ll ever have even more trauma. They are angrier, more prone to violence and abuse, not able to resolve conflict without raging, passing on mental health and addiction issues to their f…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 02:48 AM
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The average person pairs with a partner who is similar to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 12:22 AM
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Doctor and teacher are both very honourable jobs. If you were well educated and had a master’s degree, you absolutely would not date a woman who works at McDonald’s regardless of whether you claim you would.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 12:21 AM
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Further, as someone with a degree in romantic relationships psychology the average age gap of a typical couple lies anywhere from 2-7 years. So when these “chads” enter into their mid 30’s and begin to bald, get grey hairs, a bit of a beer gut, and wrinkles, they are generally no longer able to get women younger than 30 to be interested in them. They are left with few options (at least when it comes to the younger women they’re probably looking for) and end up single or settling. Ask yourself “d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 12:14 AM
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I don’t think it realistically is one or the other. People are not “fat and ugly with the exception of emotional intelligence” nor are they “hot, tall, ripped, and rich with the personality of dry wall”. Most human beings fall in between those two categories, you’re using extremes here. I agree that attractive men get laid more, but who even cares? Are drunken, terrible one-night stands your goal in life? Why is having sex with random women you met one hour ago at some crusty bar so highly covet…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 12:06 AM
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I would prefer not have sex with someone fat and ugly, nor would I want to have sex with a man who will cause me mental health issues. Is there an option C?💀
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 11:43 PM
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That’s not why the average height is increasing actually! There was a study done (I’ll find it) where they took the children of parents who grew up in very impoverished countries who lacked food and clean water (so basically, where starvation is rampant) and raised them in “first world” counties with an abundance of food and lower poverty rates. In just one generation (no more than 25 years between parent and child), the kids surpassed both of their parents heights significantly. A lot of the re…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 11:40 PM
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I would argue that men are extremely visual creatures who would not even look in the direction of, let alone approach, a woman they didn’t find attractive. Not to mention women are sexualized at an exorbitantly higher rate than men. Advertisements, magazines, pornography, and multiple industries such as film are geared towards the male gaze. Beautiful women are traditionally used and exploited for men to look at. Not only that, but 97% of sexual assaults are committed by men. So your argument th…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 11:07 PM
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Yes, women tend to be a lot more choosy because we need to bear the consequences of sex unlike men, which for some reason many fail to understand. Two of my close friends as well as my mom’s best friend had their fathers abandon them as children never to return. Therefore, it makes perfect sense that women would be more selective as her entire life can be ruined by a man’s ability to just leave whenever he pleases. I’m also exhausted with these non-existent terms. I’m a 5’9 woman with blonde hai…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:59 PM
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I’m not a man. How would I be able to comment on what men want as a woman? Lmao what….
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:42 PM
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Everyone tries to attract a partner who will pass the best looking and strongest genes onto their children. This goes for men and women. So unless you’re willing to admit that 100% of the earth’s population is “looksist”, only then would I agree this is an actual term. I am unsure where the racism argument came in. The overwhelming majority of the world is non-white. Look at India and China who have the biggest populations. People must be reproducing with non-whites, otherwise they would not mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:40 PM
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There is an evolutionary component as to why women are choosier when it comes to looks. One of my degrees is in romantic relationship psychology. It makes perfect sense that men would rank women as more attractive overall because they do not suffer the consequences of pregnancy and child-rearing. Since having sex places women in a SIGNIFICANTLY more vulnerable position than it does men, we traditionally need to be more careful with who we select to sleep with as this could have life-long consequ…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:11 PM
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This post is saying that before you’ve ever spoken to someone in your life, looks are what initially draws you to them. That’s obvious to anyone with a pulse. The initial post (which was mine) was to say that AFTER we initially have attraction, women will weed out the good looking men with a lack of conversational skills and little emotional intelligence, while continuing to pursue good looking men who DO have those traits. No one of either gender would date someone they aren’t physically attrac…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 09:57 PM
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Yes people generally want partners who are loyal, hard-working, assist in contributing financially, AND are sexually compatible. I feel like this isn’t news haha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 09:51 PM
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You mean people need to have attraction to date each other? Woah 🤯
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 09:35 PM
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They think every single man on earth who’s in a relationship is 6’4 with abs, millions of dollars and plays in the NHL lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 09:35 PM
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Yup, almost entirely the issue lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:51 PM
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A lack of emotional maturity is exactly the reason men are struggling. Two women just replied and both of us are telling you exactly what you can do to improve your dating life but you’d rather not hear it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:51 PM
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Yup. I don’t think much of this comment section knows or has ever met an actual couple in real life lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:43 PM
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Women are the choosier sex. I have an entire degree in romantic relationship psychology. Evolutionarily, women are stuck with pregnancy while men aren’t, so we are biologically inclined to be careful with who we select as partners in comparison to men. Was your statement solely based on your own personal opinion rather than scientific research and fact?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:42 PM
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I bring all of the traits mentioned in the post to the table, otherwise I wouldn’t ask for them in return obviously :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:41 PM
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Wanting someone emotionally mature and able to handle conflict appropriately without yelling, gaslighting, or swearing at me does NOT= dismissing his feelings. I think it would be helpful for you to google search the term “emotional intelligence” to clear up its definition. I’m not asking my partner to suppress emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:37 PM
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Obviously it applies the other way around. No one said it didn’t. Minus the career part because this post is specifically about men in previous generations versus now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:35 PM
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“I want someone who is intelligent, good with conversation, funny, and mature” “Your standards are selfish and unreasonable”. Huh?….
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:34 PM
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I’m delusional for wanting an intelligent, mature man with good communication skills? If you don’t meet very basic criteria as a man, you can just say that! There are plenty of women with low standards to choose from :)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:33 PM
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By the way, to tell people who struggle with mental health that they are not able to be compassionate, nurturing, or emotionally mature no matter what they do is very closed-minded of you. That’s like saying someone with depression can’t have hobbies or someone with ADHD is incapable of finishing a project. Just untrue. For future, I would avoid stereotyping victims of mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:28 PM
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I agree, I’m using my 20’s as a time to travel and will start (seriously) investing when I hit 30. I already have some savings, but I use my spare money on seeing the world instead of on retirement right now etc
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:22 PM
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You should really re-evaluate and start requiring a lot more- you’re worth more than dating someone over a decent meal
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:06 PM
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Imagine your only standard being “this meal is good” lmaoo couldn’t be me but stay safe
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 07:03 PM
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Sorry, you still haven’t answered my question yet. What have you accomplished? What do you bring to the table?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:58 PM
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I suppose you’re one of the men who thinks they’re perfect. Sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:57 PM
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Due to my awareness of where BPD stems from, how it manifests, and the impact it can have on others, I actively choose to take steps to make sure I’m emotionally mature. So yes, I am that. Did you not read where I said I journal, go to therapy, run, and exercise to avoid trauma dumping? I take every necessary precaution possible to have emotional intelligence. Anyway, I’ve admitted every single one of my flaws and shortcomings while you’ve continued to defend yourself and admit nothing haha
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:57 PM
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Of course I can admit that the illness makes it significantly more difficult to regulate emotions. I never said it didn’t? I said it’s manageable, treatable, and eventually curable.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:51 PM
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You should re-read your own comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:49 PM
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Ok? “peak age” is no longer financially possible in the year 2023.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:46 PM
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That’s not true at all. One of my degrees is in psychology. BPD is manageable and treatable. There are hundreds of dialectical and behavioural techniques we can use to mitigate the mental illness until it’s eventually cured. Women want the same. Not more.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:45 PM
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Yes, white men. Although a black or Hispanic man has still had more access to all of the above than a black or Hispanic woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:43 PM
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If there’s such a massive difference between a 25 and a 30 year old, you’re insinuating that after 30 you’d no longer want her anymore. Now suddenly you backtrack on your statements haha
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:42 PM
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Not really. My mother vividly remembers going to the bank with my grandma in 1984 when she was 12, where my grandmother was unable to withdraw her own money without her husband present. The bank denied her access to her own funds unless he was there to sign off. The idea that women are independent and no longer prioritize money when looking for a man is very recent.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:41 PM
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I agree with your first statement, which was my point. Women didn’t really have the choice, they were simply expected to be married right out of college regardless of whether the man is abusive or not. If your only criteria on a date is “Is this meal enjoyable”, you really need to raise your standards babe
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:39 PM
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Sorry, what have you accomplished again?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:37 PM
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Ah yes, let’s blame women for being abused by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:37 PM
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Leonardo Dicaprio is one of the most famous and richest men on earth. He is absolutely not representative of the general male population. Terrible example
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:36 PM
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I’ve been sexually active since 12th grade, when I was 17. I’m now 24. Which means I’ve been having sex for 7 years. There’s a grey area in between “being a ran through hoe” and being a virgin. The average person has sex with whoever they’re dating and in love with at the time, with a couple flings and one night stands thrown in over the years. The vast majority of the population lives in between being a prostitute who has orgies all the time and being chaste.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:33 PM
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Although I think I’m a great catch, I’m not without flaws. Go look at my other post about struggling with BPD. I have certain behaviours and red flags that I’m very aware of and constantly working on through exercise, journaling, artwork, therapy etc. The issue with the men in these comments is that you’re all saying we as women claim to be perfect. No one said that. The bar has just moved, and standards have changed. What used to be impressive no longer is.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:30 PM
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Three degrees (working on a fourth), a full athletic scholarship to college, playing multiple sports at a high level and competing in world championships for golf and swimming, running half marathons, paying my own bills and rent without help, having 2 jobs, and always working on myself through therapy, journaling, and artwork. Being a good friend, sister, and daughter. Helping my mum whenever she needs me. What have you accomplished?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:28 PM
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I bring every single one of the traits mentioned in this post to the table :) Otherwise I wouldn’t ask for them in return
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:25 PM
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Ohh so if you get a 25-year-old woman to be into you, you’re going to discard her when she turns 30 to find a new 25-year-old? You’re just shallow and will never experience actual, deep love.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:25 PM
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Ohh so basically you’re angry that women are more easily able to get laid and instead of accepting that, you choose to demonize us and call us used up hoes? If you were able to have sex with any woman you wanted, you would. You’re just upset that you can’t and project that insecurity onto us.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:23 PM
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A 25 and 30 year old basically look the exact same. There is pretty much no difference physically. Do you really think people suddenly become senior citizens between 25 and 30? You have no logic or reasoning
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:21 PM
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I didn’t really understand your response but I’m shocked at how angry men here are over the fact that I want someone mature and intelligent lol It’s because they’re immature and dumb and can’t face the music
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:19 PM
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One of my four degrees is in psychology, specifically the study of romantic relationships. There is significant evidence to show that the divorce rate shoots up once couples surpass an age gap of more than 9 years because there isn’t much to relate to aside from shallow and superficial factors. My parents are 19 years apart and got divorced. I also wrote a paper on how older men in their 40’s and 50’s tend to continue pursuing women in their 20’s because they’re unfortunately stuck at that menta…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:18 PM
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I don’t use dating apps :) Why the hell would anyone look for quality human beings and lasting, loving relationships on Tinder? Lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:15 PM
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“Not quite”. Babe I tuned 24 two months ago.. it’s not like I’m a senior citizen lmaooo My grandma (like every other woman during her era) was pressured to get married straight out of college. She married my grandad at 23, and he ended up killing himself leaving my mom fatherless. I’d say I’ve definitely made much better decisions :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:13 PM
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Huh
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:10 PM
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Such bullshit. Plenty of women are gorgeous well into their 30’s, 40’s, and 50’s. I just turned 24 and I actually look a lot better than I did at 18. My skin has cleared, my ass has gotten bigger while the rest of my body has stayed thin, my cheek bones are thinner, and my nose looks much more balanced on my face than it did a few years ago. My 2 closest female friends have actually lost 10-15 pounds since college and their bodies look 10X better. Most people actually continue to get hotter as t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:09 PM
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You mean how the overwhelming majority of college boys have body counts well into the 30’s? Haha
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:06 PM
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If I wanted to have sex, I could easily approach 99% of men who would say yes. I choose not to use dating apps and instead value meeting men in real life. I choose to remain abstinent. I choose not to go on dates. If I felt like having sex, I could get it today lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 06:01 PM
1

Still more than some men have to offer which is absolutely nothing at all
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:58 PM
0

Most men are also in bad shape and aren’t fit? Like what is your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:57 PM
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Actually there aren’t. I’m 24 and wouldn’t touch a man beyond 35 with a 10 foot pole. Do you really think young attractive women will still want you when you’re bald with wrinkles and a beer gut? Men hit the wall too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:56 PM
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Actually I’m abstinent and have been single for over a year? 0 dicks are being sucked on my end at all. Do you think the average woman is going around fucking every man in sight? Please go outside and touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:51 PM
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*we’re
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:50 PM
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I am literally saying I don’t care about a man’s income because having a job is a given, and would prefer he be funny, a good companion, and emotionally mature. Somehow these extremely bare minimum requirements have all the Incels triggered because the bar is in hell and they don’t meet any of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:49 PM
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The “nuclear family” used to be able to survive with the father’s income alone. That is no longer the case. Feminism has nothing to do with this at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:48 PM
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Being a loyal, self-aware active listener who has emotional maturity and hobbies with a good sense of humour makes someone a narcissist? Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:47 PM
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Feminism didn’t kill the family unit, capitalism, inflation, and the cost of living did. Practically no one can afford to be a stay-at-home mother anymore. Most households need two incomes to barely survive. Y’all just make shit up, don’t you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:37 PM
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I’m not sure what the obsession with sex in this comment section is. My post has nothing to do with intercourse, condoms, or one night stands. Y’all just be making irrelevant shit up at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:36 PM
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I think everyone can agree that both men and women attempt to select the best “mate” physically that they can to pass the best genes onto their offspring, much like every other animal on the planet. This ain’t news. I can weed out and discard the attractive men who are boring, terrible conversationalists, and lack emotional intelligence and will stick with the attractive ones who actually do possess those traits. It’s not hard to understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:35 PM
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The amount of Incels who actually hate us deep down is astonishing. If they despise women so much, hopefully they start dating men instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:32 PM
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It’s true. There’s a significant amount of emotional maturity lacking all over the place here
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:31 PM
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I’ve said this tons of times in this threat. The hot “player” might be attractive to teenage girls and women in their very early 20’s. As soon as our frontal lobes develop and we’re finished college, we’re no longer interested. No one beyond the age of 25 wants to start a family with a fuckboy who doesn’t care about us. It gets boring an old once we start to mature a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:30 PM
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Maybe you should stop letting dozens of women suck your dick? Take absolutely 0 accountability and keep blaming women tho
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:26 PM
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Have you ever seen an actual couple in real life? How many of the men you see holding their girlfriends hands on the street are 6’3 chizzled Greek gods with millions of dollars? Be for real….
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:21 PM
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The majority of the men in this thread have absolutely 0 emotional intelligence whatsoever lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:19 PM
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I quite literally have no response to such a vile and disgusting comment. You realize these “dicks” women are “sucking” are attached to men, right? Sounds like a bunch of ran though men
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:19 PM
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I would never ask a man to have criteria I don’t have myself. Every single trait mentioned in this post are ones I possess :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:07 PM
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Hmmm sounds like most men need to be less abusive haha
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:06 PM
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Huh? I think you quite literally missed every point I made in this post. I never said we don’t need men? I said we no longer need to RELY on men for our EXISTENCE. In fact, I make the argument that we as women are now in relationships for love and companionship more than ever before… the whole point was that we now prioritize a man’s personality characteristics and traits over how much money he earns. I think you truly need to re-read everything I said. Also, to say that women can’t fall in love…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 05:05 PM
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I’m extremely self-aware :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:51 PM
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You mean when it was unacceptable to be beyond the age of 22 and unmarried? I mean obviously not? Lmao put 2 and 2 together and get four
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:51 PM
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Then you should be looking for more quality women :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:47 PM
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No, my future kids. I just turned 24, I don’t have children lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:44 PM
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A woman who is fit and hot is a minority in general. Most aren’t at any age. Next argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:41 PM
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Until you hit the wall as a man, look around and realize you’re 50 and balding and every woman is already taken lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:39 PM
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Retirement isn’t my goal in life :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:32 PM
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That’s a lot of assumptions. I have lived with my dad in abandoned buildings as a teenager after he lost his job, and have never owned a car. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:29 PM
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No one can fucking afford kids at “peak age”. Who tf is a home owner with a 65K+ per year income at 21? No one
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:29 PM
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If you think women over 22 are old, I recommend therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:28 PM
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The average American is fat in general💀 Regardless of age
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:27 PM
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What do you think that says about society? Women are still valued less for doing the identical work men do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:19 PM
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My boss is a corporate lawyer who earns upwards of $3,000 per hour. She is in the top income bracket in the country. She bought her own home, which is valued at 4 million dollars and has a pool (which is rare for a huge metropolitan city). She was accepted into law school with a double major in English and psychology LMAOO
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:16 PM
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I can find a slew of studies proving the opposite of the one study he just sent lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:13 PM
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“Most 30-year-old women are overweight”. Source?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:08 PM
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Yea, the one who runs towards has no self-respect, hates herself, and settles for a miserable life. Good luck with her xoxo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:08 PM
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Because fertility isn’t the only thing women have to offer? Wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:07 PM
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I spend most of my savings on travelling to other continents and countries. I would much rather look back on my life as an old lady and say “I travelled the world and had incredible experiences” than “I’ve got a few extra bucks in my account”. Everyone has different priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:06 PM
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No they aren’t. There is hardly any difference between the body or face of a 25-year-old versus a 30-year-old. Do you really think 4-8 years suddenly makes someone ancient? Y’all are absurd
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 04:01 PM
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And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that :) Men have fun in their 20’s and don’t start looking for anything serious until around 30, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:59 PM
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If you live alone and aren’t rich, who else is gonna cook for me and do my laundry? I can’t afford a full-time chef and cleaning lady like most normal people. It’s not impressive at all to me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:54 PM
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Tastes change :) I just turned 24 and have 3 close female friends in their early 30’s. They’re still hot, they still look young, they don’t have wrinkles, they’re all attractive. The notion that women become crusty and old when they turn 30 is ridiculous. All of them still have lots and lots of men throwing themselves at these ladies lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:50 PM
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I bring all of the requirements I mentioned in this post to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:45 PM
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I never said these particular people in this threat. Generally, a stoic man with no personality will be dumped by any woman with a pulse.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:44 PM
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No woman beyond age 25 is starting a family and raising children with a fuckboy who doesn’t give a shit about her……..
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:40 PM
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I personally have not engaged in casual sex since I was in college 3 years ago, though. Each to his or her own.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:36 PM
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Yes? Casual sex is casual, and commitment isn’t. So obviously lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:36 PM
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That’s really sad, and tells me that men should raise their standards as well. If having a beating heart and blood pumping through your veins is the only requirement men have for marriage, the bar is in the subterranean hemisphere.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:31 PM
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At least you’re self-aware and are willing to admit that as women mature and look for a life-long partner, they leave the fuckboys behind. Players are fun when you’re 18-22. After that, thank you next.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:30 PM
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That shows your lack of maturity and sole priority being sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:28 PM
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I completely agree that evolutionarily, looks have always been important since the dawn of time. Even animals won’t reproduce with unattractive mates, that’s obvious. To say that emotional intelligence and morals are “irrelevant” is just blatantly a dumb thing to say. Myself and my female friends have gone on first dates with hot guys, who never ended up getting a second date because they couldn’t carry an interesting conversation and were emotionally inept. Thank you, next.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:26 PM
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So once again, you’re saying a barely legal teenage girl who is 18 is ideal? That’s literally disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:24 PM
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Do you not think 25-year-olds are youthful?💀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:20 PM
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Basic requirements apply to everyone, not just virgins lol what
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:19 PM
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Yes we do. Are you really going to marry a woman with absolutely no redeeming qualities at all?💀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:19 PM
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You’re a diagnosed psychopath. Makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:18 PM
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Nope not me. I wouldn’t sleep with someone I weren’t attracted to, obviously.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:17 PM
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You shouldn’t be. Hold better standards for yourself. STAND UP.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:16 PM
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Virginity has nothing to do with anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:15 PM
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You mean divorce?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:14 PM
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Obviously looks :) and then when they turn out to possess none of the qualities I mentioned, thank you next. There are lots of good looking people in the world who also have those qualities!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:14 PM
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“I get tons of women” “women are only good for sex” “9/10 women are absolute excrement”. “I change women like I change underpants”. I pray to god your daughter never ends up encountering a guy like yourself when she gets older. “My daughter will be a CEO/Olympian”. My father said the same exact same kinds of things. He is a diagnosed narcissist with grandiose ideas and we no longer have a relationship. Someday, she’ll cut you off too :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:11 PM
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How does being 25 instead of 18 make someone “less valuable?” If ur a pedophile, just say that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:08 PM
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Did you even read my post? Money as a requirement wasn’t mentioned once. Have you ever met a couple before in the real world? How many couples holding hands walking down the street are earning $500,000 +? Get off the internet and go touch some grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:07 PM
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Yea, they are women. That doesn’t mean their frontal lobes are developed. That was literally my point….
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:05 PM
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“I was aggressive”. “I made her do things”. “I was forceful”. “She begged me”. So basically you created a trauma bond with her, which isn’t real love. Poor girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:03 PM
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I’m not wrong. Millions of women have healthy babies in their 30’s. What are you even talking about💀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:02 PM
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I never said a man couldn’t rely on me for emotional support…. I said don’t trauma dump on me. I’m not a professional therapist. Those are two entirely different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:01 PM
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No? They just age, and thus their tastes in men become more mature. The simplest explanation is usually the correct one, remember that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 03:00 PM
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I provide every single one of the traits I mentioned in the post :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:59 PM
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The fact that you hold these opinions about women and have a daughter is extremely concerning. Praying for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:59 PM
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Huh? Who said I haven’t processed my own trauma? Where did I say I wasn’t emotionally mature? Which part of the post suggests I haven’t gone to therapy or done inner work? You’re making hella assumptions here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:57 PM
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Why would you even want to get laid every night of the week with girls who will never take you seriously? Would you genuinely prefer that over having a long term relationship with a woman who’s in love with you?…..
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:55 PM
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30 is the average age for having your first child here in Canada. Pretty much every mom I know had kids in her 30’s. They’re all perfectly healthy lol relax
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:53 PM
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As I said in the post, being a good conversationalist would be something a man could contribute to my life that I don’t already have living alone. I don’t think people will settle for those below them, I just think the bare minimum men and women will die out. Evolution says “survival of the fittest”. If you aren’t worthy of having your genes passed down, that sucks :/ sorry!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:52 PM
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97% of inmates in prison for murder and manslaughter are male. Huh?….
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:50 PM
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No, actually between 24-26. If you’re saying that people’s tastes become more mature as they age, thank u for stating the obvious :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:49 PM
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I turned 24 in November
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:48 PM
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They’re either getting laid by girls between the ages of 18-22 who have under-developed frontal lobes and can’t yet make rational choices, or they’re automatically discarded once women actually want to start a family and build a future with someone. No woman I’ve ever met is willing to reproduce with a fuckboy. They might be fun in their youth, but you can’t take them seriously long-term at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:45 PM
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“Letting women enter the workforce was a huge mistake”. Translation: “I feel threatened by the fact that women now have equal opportunity and feel I’m losing power”. Fixed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:43 PM
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I’m assuming you’re a man. Once again, dudes ignoring what women actually want and insisting they must be correct. Only to keep whining about how lonely they are and how none of us want them. Classic….
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:40 PM
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Fertility doesn’t fade at 30💀 Pregnancy is considered high-risk after 36 years old.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:38 PM
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Then you need to raise your standards! Cooking and cleaning are the bare minimum every adult should be doing those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:38 PM
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Those aren’t women, those are teenage girls who’s frontal lobes haven’t developed yet. There was actually a guy from Spain who I was not initially attracted to at all. I had automatically friend-zoned him straight away in my mind. We got to talking and hanging out, and I noticed how emotionally mature he was as well as really engaging me in conversation. We ended up having sex because those factors made him 10X hotter. Men are NOT listening to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:36 PM
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Men have been entitled to the vote, entitled to women, entitled to jobs, entitled to access to social hierarchy, entitled to politics and law. Men have literally been entitled for centuries. Why are men now suddenly lonely? Read my post again. That’s your answer. Y’all give us the bare minimum and wonder why you’re lonely LOL
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:34 PM
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Dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. I run in the opposite direction at boring, “stoic” men with 0 personality. Bye!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:32 PM
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Yikes, you just admitted to being an abusive partner. No wonder she left you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:32 PM
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Thank you! :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:30 PM
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Absolutely false.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:30 PM
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Yes you can
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:29 PM
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You mean like men only wanting to fuck hot girls? 💀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:29 PM
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I couldn’t disagree with everything you said more. In fact, it’s men who are born with an innate sense of entitlement and have been for several hundred centuries.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:28 PM
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Ew
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:26 PM
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LMAO. 1) Holidays wouldn’t exist without women. Women are the ones who set up the Christmas tree, take their children Halloween costume shopping, and make 100% of the effort in organizing birthday parties and events for their kids 2) Women are the primary caregivers. Without us, quite literally billions of babies and kids would be abandoned had their fathers raised them alone 3) Women are proven to be more emotionally mature, and men rely on women for comfort and emotional support entirely. Men …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:26 PM
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Men are NOT treated nearly as badly when they age as women are. The term “silver fox” exists for men, while women are simply discarded when they turn 40. It’s a disgusting double standard that suggests we have no use aside from our bodies and faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:21 PM
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Your profile literally says you’re a misogynist. BYE
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:20 PM
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Huh? I never said men were lazy, stupid, bad conversationalist losers with no skills. I never said I hated men. You clearly hate women. Your arguments make absolutely no sense, you’re just an incel. Best of luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:19 PM
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“Everyone will treat you like shit when your looks fade”. Ah, so basically looks are all women have to offer and nothing more? Disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:17 PM
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Sounds like a lot of projection and internalized self-hatred at the very least.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:16 PM
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Again, if women are boring, lazy, unfunny losers with terrible conversation skills, you may want to date a man babe :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:15 PM
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I agree with some of what you say, however the majority of couples you see out on the street holding hands aren’t chads with abs and chizzled jawlines, they’re just regular dudes. Of all the couples I know, none of the men have 6-packs and look like Abercrombie models. This is more of an internet take than a reality
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:14 PM
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I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than with someone who doesn’t add anything to it
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:10 PM
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Ah, so you’re a classic “nice guy”? That’s what they all say. r/niceguys
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:06 PM
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Since you hate women so much, maybe you’re gay?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:05 PM
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So basically she just had higher standards? Good for her! That’s what I’m pushing for :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:02 PM
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Only for teenage girls and those in their very early 20’s. Once a woman’s frontal lobe develops, the “chads” become instantly unattractive and give us the ick. Trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:02 PM
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There are plenty of married, lonely people. Being in a relationship has nothing to do with being lonely.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 02:00 PM
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This post is how the vast majority of women feel. Take it or ignore it, up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:58 PM
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Men wanna do absolutely everything other than listen to women, and then complain when they’re unsuccessful lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:57 PM
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so you mean people only slept with 2 partners at a time where it was unacceptable to be married older than 20 years old? Or when you absolutely had to be a virgin before marriage or else you were shunned from society and banished? I mean, yea obviously. Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:56 PM
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If you want to come up with every excuse imaginable in the book to avoid being more than a bare minimum man, I can’t stop you!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:54 PM
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Any time anyone becomes extremely defensive, it’s because they’ve been called out. Classic human nature/body language
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:53 PM
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I’d rather be single for the rest of my life than with a bare minimum man, and most of my female friends agree :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:52 PM
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Absolutely not. I would never in a million years reproduce with a man who has “buckets of trauma”. I don’t need traumatized children, I’m good.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:51 PM
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There are lots of self-aware and funny men as well as women. Maybe you just aren’t one of them and that’s where the defensiveness comes from
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:49 PM
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LMAOOO
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:49 PM
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Sorry that’s a completely different debate unrelated to this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:46 PM
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Why should I feel bad for the most privileged population for the entirety of mankind? ….
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:45 PM
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My best friend’s boyfriend is 5’6 :) My other close friend is dating a man who is 5’8 and they’re a really adorable couple, in love. If women only went for tall men, the majority of the earth’s population wouldn’t exist. Next, you mean the same way men would never approach a woman he didn’t find attractive? Like what’s ur point?….
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:42 PM
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Yup, everyone should be raising their standards. You can really tell which men in the comments bring nothing to the table. But instead of self-reflection, they’ve decided it’s our fault
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:40 PM
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Actually several studies have proven that women are exorbitantly more emotionally nurturing and mature than men are lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:39 PM
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Yup. He’s acting like women had any other options lmao, they didn’t. Now we do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:37 PM
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Actually I never say that. I said money and being provided for were the only things men needed in order to find a wife, because women could not survive on their own financially without men due to their oppression. Read again.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:37 PM
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However, marital rape and domestic violence were significantly more common and actually legal. Women are a lot quicker to leave relationships after experiencing abuse now, because we can.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:34 PM
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My post absolutely holds true reversed as well. For example, if a man lives on his own and already cooks for himself, does his own laundry, and cleans for himself- he wouldn’t be impressed by a woman who brags she cooks and cleans lol. I personally always want to work. I was taught never to rely on a man as a little girl, so whoever I end up with we will be a 2 income household.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:30 PM
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And who set that system up? Oh yea, men did.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:27 PM
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I 100% agree with your post to be honest. Traditionally, relationships and marriage were for the sole purpose of financial stability and the continuation of family lineage. People now marry for love. In the last 20 or so years, men have had to become actually likeable as you said. And they don’t want to hear that lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:25 PM
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Idk, I’ve chosen never to use dating apps and have done just fine. You can choose to do the same lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:23 PM
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Dude, the average height of a man worldwide is 5’8- 5’9. If women weren’t going for men within this range, that would mean that no one who is 5’8 exists on earth. That’s like saying “no one goes for people with brown eyes” when brown eyes make up 88% of the earth’s population💀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:22 PM
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Yes :) I would quite frankly rather be alone for the rest of my life than accept the bare minimum, actually
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 01:00 PM
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I’m a Canadian woman and can confidently say that European men are 100X more loving, communicative, romantic, and expressive. Men from North America now bore me to death,I’m actually planning on moving lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:53 PM
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You mean the standard of being arrested and a convicted criminal?💀
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:52 PM
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You can say stereotypically the same about women. If you personally already clean your place, put laundry away, and grocery shop- how is a woman flexing that she can clean, cook and do laundry a flex? It’s not. Those are just standard adult activities you already should be doing. People are now just waking up
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:50 PM
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You SHOULD be asking yourself “what does she bring to the table that I can’t already do for myself?”. If a woman isn’t adding to your life in anyway, there’s no point in even dating her. People are choosing to stay single rather than settle for the bare minimum and I’m actually proud of this generation as a collective. Expectations are way higher and it’s great to see!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:48 PM
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In my opinion it has absolutely 0 to do with “modern technology”. The ONLY requirement men needed in our parents and grandparents generation was to be employed with a decent job. Basically, to be a provider. Today, women already have jobs. Women build careers now. We graduate from university at significantly higher rates than men and are becoming more educated. We pay our own bills. We can provide for OURSELVES. As a woman myself, all of my friends have the mentality of “what exactly is he bring…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:43 PM
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Agree 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:37 PM
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Ariana Grande also dated Mac Miller who is 5’7, Big Sean who is 5’6, and Dalton Gomez who is 5’9. Y’all are so incredibly selective with your choices of example lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:36 PM
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You guys need to go outside and touch grass. The worldwide average height of a man is 5’9. In Asia, it’s 5’7. Men over six feet make up 3% of the world’s population, so it’s extremely rare. If women “wouldn’t give average height men a chance”, than most of the billions of people on the planet wouldn’t exist That’s like saying “women don’t give men with brown eyes a chance” when the overwhelming majority of the world has brown eyes lmaoo
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:32 PM
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Every single physical characteristic we’re attracted to makes us shallow….. My best friend is 5’3 and her boyfriend is 5’6. I personally am a 5’9 woman, so much taller than average. Based on my height, I would not be dating a man shorter than myself which makes perfect sense lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/23 12:30 PM
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I have so many things to say. First of all, women aren’t “entitled”. The fact is, the ONLY requirement men needed to have in our parents and grandparents generation was being employed (aka, a provider). The reason women seem entitled to you is because in the modern era, we already have jobs. Women now graduate from university at significantly higher rates then men and are becoming more educated than ever before. Women now have their own careers, we pay our own bills, we make our own money. In sh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:44 PM
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Every time I pursue or approach a man first, he ends up having a boosted ego and nothing comes of it. Never doing that again lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:27 PM
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Yes we easily can. The reason you aren’t getting the replies you’re looking for from women is because we can tell. As for f boys, teen girls and women in their early 20’s might go for them due to having an under-developed frontal lobe and being naive/inexperienced. Since turning 23 (I’m now almost 25), I will immediately block any dude who’s playing games or not interested. Grown women don’t have time for those little boys, anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 08:23 PM
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Ask soon as you mentioned Sneako, I immediately knew where this was going. He’s an alpha male podcaster with the intelligence of a gold fish. None of his arguments make any sense, he’s chronically online, and has made absurd statements like “ALL men cheat”. What a complete embarrassment of a human being. You might not be having much luck with women because you come across as someone who would take the advice of Sneako and we as women can smell boys like that from a mile away.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:55 PM
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24F here. I’m 5’9 and come from a family of giants (we’re Scandinavian. My mom is 5’11 and my dad is 6’2). For me personally as a taller woman, I look for a man who is at least 5’10 because otherwise I feel uncomfortable. Had I been born average height, however, that would be a non-factor. The only other criteria I have in terms of physical appearance is a nice smile and good dental hygiene. I find it absolutely disgusting when men don’t floss or brush. Aside from those, it’s incredibly sexy whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 06:13 PM
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Absolutely agree 100%. I’m 5’9 and grew up as a competitive track athlete and swimmer so I have a nice figure. People have even told me I should go into modelling. I absolutely struggle with self-esteem issues and body dysmorphia, so I’m not saying I’m gorgeous or without many flaws of course. As you said, so many men are chronically online and haven’t touched grass. I’m conventionally attractive and receive practically 0 attention from men. The internet, incel forums, social media, and porn hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 02:42 PM
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24-year-old woman here. Hinge is the only dating app I’ve ever downloaded, but have never actually met up in person with anyone on it. I deleted the app last April, and re-downloaded it yesterday as a joke just to see my matches etc. My first three messages at the top from men were “what kind of stockings do you wear?”, “U smoke girl?” And “Wanna get together over booze or blunts?”. I got the ick immediately, laughed at how gross those messages were, and then proceeded to delete the app once aga…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 02:24 PM
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Multiple men I’ve known with degrees have said they won’t date women without them. So yes, typically people tend to go for others on the same or similar educational level. You won’t see a doctor dating a McDonald’s worker, that’s not how it works. Secondly, “make yourself available”. What does that even mean? Most regular people including myself do normal things like go to the gym, go to work, attend school, have a couple hobbies and then return home. I’m not going to party and go to bars every …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 12:18 PM
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I’m a thin, 24-year-old young woman who is pretty, nice, well-educated and works out regularly. I haven’t been asked out on a date in a year and since I don’t use dating apps, men barely speak to me. I have the “bare minimum” criteria you’re talking about and it hasn’t led me anywhere….
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 11:02 PM
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I got him attracted to me in 1 minute it’s not that hard. Who said every woman wants to be a wife babe?…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 03:31 AM
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No it’s not? That would mean they were equal wtf
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:17 PM
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They don’t want anyone as a life-long partner either. That’s literally what a player is lmfao
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:16 PM
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They really think we haven’t figured out their games😂😭
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/23 05:15 PM
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There’s absolutely 0 similarity between those 2 scenarios
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 08:39 PM
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Sleeping around does not equal being abusive or cheating lmao what
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 08:36 PM
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I mean if the same dude is ghosting absolutely everyone or has a history of abuse, he deserves to be put on blast regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 08:36 PM
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1) This applies to both sexes 2) Dating apps are damaging for everyone 3) As a woman, I’m not looking for an “average” guy. I’m looking for a life partner who meets my expectations and standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:53 PM
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So you broke up with someone you supposedly claim to “love” over one single guy?…. Lol glad she broke free from your misogyny and dislike of women. Hope she’s doing better now! Queen 👑 Anyway, you still haven’t provided me with an ounce of evidence for your claims.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 10:58 PM
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You have no argument, other than anecdotal. Please provide research where female promiscuity destroys anything? And lmao you wouldn’t find out how many people a woman slept with because it’s a very weird thing to ask. Why would she tell you?….
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:02 PM
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Actually I want a guy who’s 6’0 + because I’m a 5’9 woman lmao Otherwise I would not care at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:32 AM
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If you actually like someone, who they slept with before you is irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 10:52 PM
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You sound really insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 10:52 PM
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Period. If I receive any indication that they were only being nice to me for the sole purpose of getting laid, why the hell would I want to date such a loser to begin with? I’ll pass hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 10:02 PM
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Thank you!! Men will say they want a pure, chased woman… and then in the same exact breath they’ll beg and plead for us to fuck them. They can’t have it both ways lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 10:01 PM
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If a guy is threatened over irrelevant men who I fucked years ago and will literally never see or speak to for the rest of my life, I don’t want him anyway. Screams insecurity :) I’ll pass
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 09:59 PM
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I’m perfectly willing to have sex all the time with a man who respects and values me :) I will not, however, be sleeping with men who don’t care if I live or die and are using me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 09:58 PM
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As a woman, we can tell from a mile away whether you’re just trying to be nice to get laid or you’re being nice because you’re actually a good person. I can sniff out the difference in fake chivalry and actual, genuine interest very quickly
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 09:25 PM
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It doesn’t only work for virgins :) many of my female friends are also celibate. It makes men try A LOT harder than they normally would, trust me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 02:30 PM
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I agree. I have never used dating apps, and for some reason as an attractive 24-year-old woman who works out, there is 0 dating potential unless you use a fucking app… The whole thing is so sad, I don’t even care anymore lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:31 AM
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This is why there’s a movement towards celibacy. Stop giving men exactly what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:24 AM
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I’m currently celibate until a man actually cares about me enough to commit. The secret is refusing to sleep with them so you can immediately weed out the ones who aren’t interested in you as a person. Ladies, do not have sex with men unless you’re completely okay with casual sex or they want to be with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:22 AM
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What do you mean by that?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 08:08 PM
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The reason that “nice guys” don’t get women (as a woman) is because literally any dude will be nice to a girl he wants to sleep with. That isn’t a special quality. What else do you bring to the table aside from human decency?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:22 PM
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r/niceguys
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 07:08 PM
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Haha sounds like she rejected you, otherwise you wouldn’t be so bitter. r/niceguys
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 06:32 PM
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Why? There weren’t phone apps a millennium ago
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 07:19 PM
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I don’t think that being neurodivergent necessarily= introverted. As a woman, I have BPD myself so I typically do not get along with neurotypical or completely mentally adjusted people. I would say that as long as you’re still functional (have a career, some hobbies), I would actually prefer a man who struggles with mental health and understands what I’ve been through!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 07:18 PM
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Absolutely. It removes the aspect of courtship and actual effort being put in prior to simply “meeting up” immediately
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:22 PM
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Yes, people typically match each other. High School dropouts date other HA dropouts. Educated people date educated people. That’s not a high standard, that’s just common sense
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:27 AM
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But I stated that she is attractive…lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 04:26 AM
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Easy to find men who will sleep with you on a whim, difficult to find genuine men who want commitment and are worth actually building a future with. I don’t have trouble “getting men”. I have trouble finding ones who meet my standards
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 02:01 AM
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I’m really sorry you’ve experienced discrimination because you aren’t skinny.. that’s terrible. I agree with everything you said. I especially find it hilarious when men call us whores and slut for sleeping with them within the first few dates, while simultaneously begging us to fuck them and complaining they never get laid. Make it make sense. And that is also absolutely true with women dating men much less attractive than themselves, but it never being the other way around. The bar for men is …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 12:42 AM
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I’ve made it very clear to my friends who use dating apps that they’re wasting their time. Why wouldn’t I want to be pursued? If you aren’t pursuing me, I’ll find a man who does
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 12:35 AM
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I don’t chase, I attract :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 12:13 AM
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No, your views are just too absurd, outdated, and quite frankly laughable to get anywhere in this conversation. You’ll never change your mind, you are who you are- good luck babe!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 12:04 AM
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You lost me at “femcel”. Join an incel forum and call it a day. Bye!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 12:02 AM
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Dude, I turned 24 last month….. just because I haven’t found the right guy yet doesn’t mean I won’t. You’re acting like I’m 60 years old and single lmao I’m very secure, and I will find an equally as secure guy. Having jobs doesn’t make me non-feminine. Your definition of femininity is incredibly narrow and places every woman on earth into one box. Just because you personally want a doormat wife, doesn’t mean ALL men do. You can’t speak for every male. My boss is in a very healthy marriage with …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:51 PM
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I’m also very aware of the privilege (although I’ve taken out many loans to get to this point educationally, sadly) I have compared to others who don’t get the same opportunities with school. I think people need to just work on themselves and the right one will come along. That being said, it’s shocking how many men in the comments are saying I’ll never find anyone because I’m too masculine and have chosen not to revolve my whole existence around being a stay-at-home housewife who cooks while ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:39 PM
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Not everyone can quit their jobs and become some guy’s wife… Some of us weren’t born into rich families I’ve had no trouble with men ever, and will continue having no trouble with men Good luck with your doormat housewife though :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:36 PM
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I don’t think you should be disgruntled because I see a lot of my friends who have dated shorter guys, or guys who aren’t the best looking, etc. what truly matters to us (with absolute sincerity) is a stimulating conversation and a guy who makes us feel safe and loved. I don’t think most men have the emotional maturity to do so, hopefully we teach the next generation of boys differently
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:26 PM
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My undergraduate degree was a double major in criminal Justice and psychology, my certificate was in crime analytics, and my master’s degree (current) is in public and international affairs. I work as a nanny and a server for the sole purpose of paying my bills as I put myself through school (until I’m finally done and apply for real jobs). Unfortunately I’m struggling because most of the men I meet don’t meet my standards, lack emotional intelligence, and haven’t done any sort of inner-work on …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:23 PM
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No one should lower their standards at all, ever. If you have a certain standard, stick to it and the right person will meet your needs. If a guy wants a woman with no education, no job, and no life- he is simply insecure and looking for someone beneath him likely to manipulate and abuse more easily. I’m not interested in building a life with a dude who feels the need to dim my light so that his can shine brighter, no thanks! You’re talking about the nuclear family where women sat in the kitchen…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:17 PM
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🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:14 PM
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1) I’m not getting an education to impress men lmao, my life doesn’t revolve around what men think 2) I have a double major bachelor’s, a certificate, and now I’m working on my master’s degree. I don’t have 3 bachelor’s💀 3) I’m also not achieving goals in life to “be in competition with men” what?…. 4) The men I’ve had relationships with in the past (almost 4 years for one and over a year for the other) have really admired and respected the fact that I work so hard to build a life for myself, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:13 PM
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Again, I agree with much of what you’re saying but people tend to seek out partners in general who are somewhat similar in achievement, educational status, and merit as they are. So if you’re a High School dropout with no career goals, it’s unlikely my attractive female friend with a 4.0 GPA attending a prestigious medical school would be interested in that dude. I feel like that’s common sense. I also agree that standards are too high in terms of expecting absolutely everything out of a partner…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 10:53 PM
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Umm if I’m an over-achiever, why exactly wouldn’t I be picky? Do you expect me to date a guy who has no job, no degree, and no ambition? That would be shooting significantly below my own personal standard… Maybe if I weren’t a hard worker or very well educated, I would be more willing to settle for an equally as lazy under-achiever. People tend to seek others who match themselves. Please cite the literature that women find 80% of men ugly because I find that hard to believe
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 10:42 PM
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Yikes. You have some deep seeded internalized misogyny to work on. I suggest therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 10:30 PM
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I’ve never downloaded a dating app in my life either, I’ve watched nothing come of them for my friends so I don’t see the point. Both my exes I had long-term relationships with we met in person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 10:24 PM
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Okay, you can have your own personal beliefs without insulting your own gender and fellow woman
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 10:23 PM
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Why are you using sexist slurs towards your own gender then…..?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 10:14 PM
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I 100% agree, and this is the average man nowadays. Anyway, I have never struggled to get men, I just think dating apps are the death of natural and organic connection. That was the point of my post :) I’m not sure why I don’t get asked out often at all, but I’m a former athlete who works out all the time and would be considered attractive by the general population
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 10:13 PM
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I agree with some of what you’re saying, I actually feel quite terrible for men because as women become more independent and financially free, we don’t really “need” men to survive or rely on anymore. I believe this could be why now that a man’s identity as “provider” has been almost entirely stripped away due to greater equality of the sexes, you are all struggling to find your place in dating and unfortunately many of you aren’t measuring up. This (in my opinion) is where “incels” were born. R…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 10:03 PM
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Maybe women can see from a mile away that you’re sexist, use misogynistic language, and have a victim mentality. That could be the reason you’re not getting laid or attracting any of us? Just a wild guess tho lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:56 PM
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That’s not why I think men aren’t hitting on me. As hundreds of men have commented here, they don’t approach women out of fear of being accused of rape or harassment, don’t do cold approaches at all because they “usually don’t work out” and are scared of being humiliated or video recorded. On top of that, dating apps have removed a lot of the socialization men used to be forced to engage in. They simply don’t have to anymore. If you would read all of the comments by men, you would see this is a …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:54 PM
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So basically all of your evidence is personal and anecdotal? Did you know that Angelina Jolie has publicly spoken about never being approached by men? She said she developed body dysmorphia because she assumed no one was interested in her. One of the most gorgeous women on earth. Anyway, you haven’t seen me as you said so couldn’t possibly garner any sort of conclusion at all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:46 PM
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1) I don’t use the word “slut” to describe women seeing as we’re in the year 2022 :) 2) The clothes someone wears has no correlation to how many people they’ve had sex with (obviously) 3) As a woman, if I found a dude made me laugh, was loyal, had a hobby or a passion he loved, and was motivated/driven in life with emotional intelligence, why would I give a shit who he’s slept with before even meeting me? That’s quite literally the very last factor on the list of reasons to date a person lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:43 PM
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So much wrong with this take. I’m a 24-year-old woman who is an avid runner, takes boxing classes, and would be considered in better shape than most of the population. I would also be considered pretty, I have no trouble having sex if I really wanted to. Further, I’m working on my 3rd degree right now and have 2 jobs. Yet, it’s been incredibly difficult to find any man to actually date. ALL of my female friends are struggling so hard right now in the dating market, and some of them are gorgeous.…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:30 PM
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Sexual history and clothing are irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:26 PM
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False rape allegations make up fewer than 1% of allegations :) I already know this story. They had consensual sex. How is someone going to accuse a man of rape for saying hello? They are completely different situations lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:00 PM
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That wasn’t even my point. Now that women have independence and financial freedom, we no longer solely rely on men to have our bills paid. Once you strip away the “I’m a provider” role from a man, they unfortunately aren’t raised to bring anything else to the table.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:56 PM
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It makes no sense to me either Lmao I’ve actually heard that attractive people tend to be hit on less frequently because they’re deemed unapproachable, presumed to already be taken, or intimidating. I’m obviously not claiming to be some gorgeous Victoria’s Secret model, however it is confusing
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:38 PM
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You are so lost. You call us all whores, tramps, and hookers and then cry that no one wants you… well obviously not lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 08:17 PM
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First of all, you can’t spell. Secondly, your sentences lack any logical train of thought, what are you even saying? It makes absolutely no sense. And the answer to your question is yes, I can say confidently that all women are too good for your “dick”, which so far is the only thing you’ve mentioned you have to offer. Maybe women aren’t interested in you because you lack intelligence and come off as an incel? Just an observation
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 05:49 PM
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So the only thing you have to offer is your penis?… Is that why there’s currently a massive movement towards celibacy? More women are abstaining from sex with men than ever until our standards are met. We don’t want ur crusty, dusty rods who can’t even make us finish
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 05:27 PM
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It is sad :(
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 04:27 PM
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Women are now graduating with degrees at much higher rates than men are. Not only are we increasingly more educated, we also now have our own careers, our own apartments/places to live, our own cars etc. We don’t need to use men as ATM’s because we have our own money :) sounds like the female standard has raised in recent decades and you simply can’t meet it babe Other than financially providing for us, which most women already do on our own- what exactly are you bringing to the table? Your shit…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:59 PM
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Hahaha you’re obviously threatened by our power. Stay mad.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:44 PM
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That’s not true though, I’m going to paris in 4 days to visit a guy who walked up and asked me out last March lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:30 PM
1

I’m complaining about online dating and apps, that’s what this post is about
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:54 PM
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And all the men in the comments are saying they don’t ask women on dates because they fear being videotaped, accused of harassment, or rejected. So I don’t think that it’s necessarily our fault based on these replies. If someone isn’t interested in going on a date, they should just say “no” instead of booty calling at 1 AM. That’s just socially unacceptable and clearly wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:46 PM
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Ya, nothing I’ve said has been crazy still lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:33 PM
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You can’t “screen” from a 1 minute interaction lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:33 PM
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You sound bitter, angry, and obviously just hate women. Sorry but you can’t gather whether or not you want to date a girl after a 30 second interaction. Next, I’m pretty :) thanks for ur irrelevant opinion but I’ve never had issues with finding men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:32 PM
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You can’t tell whether someone is worth dating based on a 1 minute interaction….
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:44 PM
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Men should do it because they’ve been pursuing women for centuries… why are they suddenly stopping now lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:44 PM
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He is only attractive, and super broke hahaha Anyway, he won’t form a meaningful connection with anyone being like this :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:43 PM
1

Nothing I’ve said is crazy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:18 PM
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You immediately decided to make the basis of your whole argument “well ur probably just ugly”. Hilarious how you bring nothing to this discussion at all
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:17 PM
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He has no personality at all, commitment issues, and sleeps around lol dw he won’t have success with anyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:16 PM
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Not rejections, gross men who have no interest in anything beyond getting laid as per usual
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:15 PM
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I answered this :) I have approached men
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:14 PM
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They also tend to lead nowhere… unless you stay on the app quite literally all day long wasting your life, it’s just not viable to find anyone on there
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:14 PM
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Please cite a mass shooting in America recently that was committed by someone non-white :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:12 PM
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I’ve answered this many times :) been there, done that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:11 PM
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I’ve answered this tons of times :) I have done that, never works out
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:11 PM
1

You never said that “a tiny percentage of men are raped” you’ve said “men are raped” to which I replied “yes, a tiny percentage of them”. What the hell are you even saying lmaoooo
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:49 AM
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You keep mentioning that men are raped… what even is your point
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:46 AM
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In the past month, 3 different women have been lit on fire by men on the subway in my city who were carrying lighter fluid in their pockets. This simply doesn’t happen in other more appropriate settings.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:26 AM
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The opera is typically not full of mentally ill people on drugs who are potentially yielding weapons, whereas the metro is. I’m not sure how the fear of being murdered on the subway (I’ve never heard of a murder while watching the ballet) has to do with wealth….
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:24 AM
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I think you’ve gone very off topic lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:22 AM
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None of these men can provide me with a single instance where they appropriately went up to a woman during the day and she started yelling or calling the cops. They all claim women do it, but can’t give any details.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:21 AM
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You haven’t seen the documentary film “the hunting ground”. If you’re really trying to claim that men and women are raped at equal rates, that is simply completely false.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:18 AM
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You’re using a very tiny percentage of men who are victims of rape as your sole argument to override the fact that women are raped at exponentially higher rates. And then when I point out what you’re taking 1-3% of the male population and using that as your entire perspective, you claim I don’t care about men being raped. Super weak stance not gonna lie
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:17 AM
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Those “nut jobs” are basic looking white males. So if you’re a white dude, you could very well look exactly like the typical shooter lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 01:06 AM
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I agree that my statement is anecdotal. However, I think it’s a gross generalization to say that all women accuse men of rape or harassment for being approached respectfully by a kind gentleman.. practically no woman is that extreme unless they are suffering from severe delusion and mental illness
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:58 AM
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I am not talking about being raped and murdered by asking men out at a coffee shop… I’m saying we as women are fearful of being approached by men late at night alone in the dark in fear of being raped and murdered.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:56 AM
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Yes men are raped, primarily by other men. Maybe y’all should stop raping people in general🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:55 AM
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No one said “men aren’t raped”…. Did you read my comment
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:48 AM
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“Ur young and therefore know nothing” do better :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:44 AM
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No one ever supported her to my knowledge. She was canceled from the beginning. Again, any other examples at all? Or are you too afraid to admit that it’s so rare it practically never happens …..
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:34 AM
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Super weak argument, u lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:33 AM
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The coffee shop guy? No, I never even sat down and had a conversation with him lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:32 AM
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You lost me at “rape happens to men”. 96% of male rape victims are raped by other men….. so clearly, rape is a male issue. I love when men take the exception and make it the rule.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:32 AM
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Men are not in fear of being raped or murdered if they walk alone at night. Men are able to basically neglect their children while placing 100% of the childcare on their wives and no one bats an eye. Men have the ability to speak freely and are taken more seriously during conversation, where women are typically ignored during opposite-sex interactions and our views are overlooked because we are seen for our physical appearance alone. Men can express anger and rage without being labeled “crazy” o…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:29 AM
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Men are the primary victims of muggings, pickpocketing, and robbery. Women are the primary victims of rape and physical assault. Again, I study criminal Justice and currently am doing a degree in law. These are statistics… I said women have the potential to be raped and murdered by men, what exactly are you talking about? I think you got it reversed by accident
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:20 AM
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I’ve already seen that video and that girl is fully delusional. She was called crazy and in the wrong by millions of people lmao. No one agrees with her. Any others?……
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:18 AM
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He canceled 2 dates in a row (one of them an hour before we were supposed to meet up). I told him “sorry but you’re very flaky. Best of luck :)” he texted me back apologizing and asking for a 3rd date but I was uninterested already at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:17 AM
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All politicians, major leaders of the world, CEO’s, business owners, and religious figures are men. Are you seriously trying to tell me women have advantages in those areas? Be for real. It’s not about YOU being an elected representative in particular. It’s the fact that our elected representatives are almost entirely men, where laws, decisions, and policies are being governed by men and imposed on the billions of people in the world. Men are still viewed as more powerful in almost every area of…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:15 AM
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And women fear being raped and murdered by men daily. I’ll take your fear over mine any day. Rejection or being killed? Hmmmm
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:07 AM
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Forgot about him, that doesn’t negate the fabric of society and communication in real life rapidly declining due to dating apps. I feel the rest of my argument has been ignored….
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:07 AM
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And you will never know what it’s like to be a woman. We have been oppressed in every single other area of life for centuries aside from sexuality. Yet, you seem to be angry that you have all the power in the world other than when it comes to sex. Dude, as a man you hold privilege in the work force, in politics, you can walk the streets alone at night without fear of being raped, you can have children and be praised for doing the bare minimum as a dad, every major religion on earth is led by men…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:05 AM
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Not a single soul is saying “ewwww” to a polite and respectful gentleman unless she is 14 years old…. Tired of this argument
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:51 PM
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Involuntary celibate
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:51 PM
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That was a serious question… I’m not trolling? If you’ve supposedly read all the comments, you would see that I’ve actually defended men and said I feel sorry for the situation a lot of you are placed in. I even have a soft spot for incels, because they hold so much anger, rage, and resentment towards women simply because they possess no social skills and weren’t taught how to interact with us. It’s very sad, and I can understand how men would be afraid to approach women. Still, we are certainly…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:49 PM
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Wtf is a “lifelong incel”?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:44 PM
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What exactly do you consider horrendously negative?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:42 PM
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I didn’t say they never happen, I said they make up 1% of rape allegations. Women aren’t running around accusing men of rape left and right dude. And the ones who are typically suffer from some sort of severe mental illness/obsessive tendencies. They aren’t normal women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:41 PM
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If you’re a guy with good social skills, you will 100% find someone eventually. It’s impossible not to
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:38 PM
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False rape allegations make up fewer than 1% of all allegations. I’m currently working on my degree in law :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:37 PM
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Having self confidence issues (like most of the earth) doesn’t exclude me from being able to have an opinion regarding online dating. How are those even related
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:36 PM
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Dude, no one is calling the police accusing men of rape for calling us pretty…. Be for real
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:34 PM
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I actually really do sympathize with what men need to endure nowadays. I even have a lot of empathy for incels, because they’re basically men who have no clue how to speak to women and therefore become violent and hateful towards us for not being able to form relationships with us. It’s truly sad, I get it. I think you’d learn a lot if you were a woman for 6 hours, too
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:32 PM
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And because you carry a glock on you, I wouldn’t be able to tell the difference between you and a shooter :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:29 PM
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I actually do agree that our current climate has made it impossible for men to approach us without being terrified of potential negative consequences. However, I have never heard of a woman screaming “rape!” Over a polite gentleman, only weirdos who immediately sexualize or catcall us. If you’re a nice guy, we’ll generally (99% of us who aren’t bitches) be nice back. I had a guy from Europe cold approach me last March while he was on vacation in my city. I am now leaving in 4 days to stay with h…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:28 PM
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There is a huge difference between being harassed by a creep and being approached by a respectful gentleman lmao. No one is crying rape over a polite dude… I would actually argue that the most beautiful women are hit on the least because they’re intimidating. So your argument that I “must be ugly” could be proven to be completely incorrect. And creating a personal brand instead of being authentic and meeting people naturally is quite literally the point of this post, so I would agree with that
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:24 PM
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Just because something is occurring, doesn’t mean it should be
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:18 PM
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I hear the argument that all women are looking for 6’2 ripped Adonis’s… not one man who’s in a relationship I know of meets those criteria lol. You all want to say that women have the highest expectations when in reality, it’s a statistical fact that women tend to be more attractive than their partners. Please look up Marilyn Monroe’s ex husbands. She is regarded as the biggest sex symbol in history and those men are ugly af. Also biologically, it’s men who value physical appearance over anythin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:17 PM
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I would actually argue that the more attractive a woman is, the less she is approached lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:12 PM
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That is absolutely untrue. ALL of my female friends immediately block or ignore men who sexualize us immediately. That isn’t husband material or anyone I would be interested in whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 11:09 PM
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Beautiful women can get anyone, they have options….
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 10:29 PM
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Yes I agree, but I also think that women with more experience tend to end up with the less attractive dude at the end of the day because he’s loyal and funny, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 10:20 PM
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You should watch Jordan Peterson’s video on attractive men sleeping around. He goes into the psychology behind it, and has a lot of interesting takes on how negatively it ends up affecting the male psyche. Sleeping with dozens or hundreds of women is linked to devaluation of the self, as well as depression. Also, I’m a 24 yr old woman and none of my female friends (including myself) would even glance at a man over 35/40. So your take that these 50 year old players will still have access to women…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 10:07 PM
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I completely agree with this take
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 10:00 PM
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Ok, I know this is anecdotal but I’ll tell u anyway. My dad was a male model, he modeled in New York, Milan, and for Paris fashion week. He was also a 6’2 division 1 hockey player, so overall a very desirable attractive dude in his youth. He has been engaged once and married four times. My father is turning 70 next month. He is completely alone, single, and 4X divorced. He told me about all the women he used, fucked over, and how deeply regretful he now is as an old man for letting all the good …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:56 PM
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Except that once every other girl realizes he has no redeeming qualities other than his looks, they’re going to block him too. Then, he’ll keep fucking girl after girl after girl without every having anyone who actually cares about him. Sure, he gets laid. But will he ever experience love? Companionship? Loyalty? No, he won’t. As these players get older, they’ll look around and realize no one loves them. Who tf would want that?…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:49 PM
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Ugh no you wouldn’t. I actually blocked a guy who was super hot last week and have absolutely 0 interest in ever speaking to him again. He’s hot but has no other redeeming qualities. How is that someone you’d want to be? Really sad tbh :/
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:44 PM
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Continually “retry” or “error”, so you must have a setting not allowing people to send images
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:43 PM
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I tried, your profile blocks images from being able to be sent!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:42 PM
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You can also vet and get rid of people who don’t meet your standards in real life as well :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:39 PM
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Okay :) cold approaching can also be done in a library, coffee shop, a gym you both frequent at the same time. It doesn’t necessarily need to be on the street!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:38 PM
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Good :) the dating market has been geared towards men for centuries, finally we have the upper hand! deserved
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:38 PM
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Because eventually being a terrible person bites you in the ass. Sure they had sex with hundreds of women, but at what expense? And why? Obviously to fill some sort of void. At the end of the day, it’s honestly the less attractive men who end up in meaningful loving relationships. Women like the players as teenagers and in our 20’s, but beyond that we say goodbye to them to find our husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:37 PM
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Yes, but those same hot dudes who have been playing women for decades will find themselves 50 years old with receding hairlines, beer bellies and grey hair wondering where all the good women went. They can only be players for so long, and they lose in the end
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:21 PM
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I’m a woman who wants to be spoken to irl lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:20 PM
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No?…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 09:16 PM
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Check out the episode called “Big Dan’s” on Netflix’s “trial by media”. It’s the most immediate example that comes to mind of a 21-year-old mother who was violently raped by 5 men on a pool table at a bar. She was beaten, the case went to court and all 5 men (regular dudes, not famous) were acquitted. She was called a liar by millions of people, became an alcoholic to numb the pain, and killed herself a few years later. This is one of many instances I can think of, but just came up first
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:49 PM
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If women are recoding genuinely nice guys who ask them out politely, I’ve never seen these videos and would be shocked. That’s simply bullying. My mom taught me that unless a guy is being blatantly sexist or disrespectful, if he built up enough courage (which takes a lot), to always let him down gently. Not sure where the women you’re referring to are, but they sound awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:46 PM
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I also said that men are potential threats or danger in the DARK at NIGHT when we are walking ALONE. There is a time and place to approach women, and that isn’t it. There’s also a way to appropriately ask a woman out. None of us are recording or calling the cops over a polite gentleman lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:36 PM
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I agree :) but that also doesn’t mean that out of fear of rejection or a couple of insane women who cry assault for no reason that all of you should simply give up and avoid us like the plague There is a reasonable in-between and a proper way of approaching women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:32 PM
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He’s white but I’ve been with other races, what does being white have to do w anything lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:30 PM
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I love how the men in this thread with no argument resort to saying I must be ugly lol I’m pretty :) but thank u for the opinion no one asked for
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:07 PM
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But they were certainly not men I would ever initially go for. It was their personalities that pushed me onto the side of attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:45 PM
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Or maybe just mayyyyybe I actually am pretty! Did you read my post? The “basis of my entire argument” is absolutely not how attractive or ugly I am. That was literally less than one sentence out of my whole post lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:37 PM
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“11 years ago”. So basically, you haven’t been on the apps in over a decade? That explains it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:13 PM
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I’m not sure what the obsession men have with telling girls they aren’t attractive is. Even if I had called myself gorgeous (which I don’t believe), let us have self confidence? Who cares
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:13 PM
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According to all of the men in this entire thread, actually they wouldn’t approach any woman ever lol. Please read the comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:59 PM
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it’s impossible to determine whether or not you want to date someone after a 2 minute interaction. They can’t possibly have known anything about me whatsoever. They’re just disgusting, misogynistic, don’t see the value of a woman beyond her vagina, and have no manners. Their unfortunate behaviour doesn’t insinuate that I’m “not good enough”.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:58 PM
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They didn’t reject me, they simply hit me up for sex in the middle of the night, proving once again the intentions of many men out there. I’m not interested in being dehumanized and degraded to prostitution status, while simultaneously boosting their egos for no reason. I’m good!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:54 PM
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I’m a supporter of the me too movement. I also study criminal Justice and law, so I am well aware of the lack of action and further re-traumatization women often experience when they report a crime. A very tiny percentage of rape and sexual assault crimes actually make it to court at all, let alone garner a conviction. So I completely agree with you there. I also mentioned that I have been drugged. My neighbour admitted months later to putting oxycodone in my glass of wine when I invited him ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:52 PM
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I’ve already commented on this several times. After asking out 3 different men in the past and all of them texting me in the middle of the night for sex, I’m no longer going to be boosting a man’s ego while receiving nothing in return. I’ve tried, and they’ve disappointed me :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:45 PM
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I’m sorry :( everyone has faced rejection. I will say I’m unsure as to why a large amount of men are shocked that Pete Davison gets so many gorgeous women. He’s funny, sociable, a genuinely nice guy, goes to therapy, and in interviews he’s very emotionally intelligent and self-aware. He’s not necessarily the most handsome guy. If you’re lacking in any of the areas I just mentioned, that could be why you’re struggling
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:44 PM
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That’s not true actually. I study law currently, and women are often not believed. There are many, many historical accounts of female rape victims being torn to shreds and her experiences questioned on the stand while the male perpetrators are acquitted. I can send you some case studies if you’d like. Not everything is about sex and “smashing”. He was a genuinely great guy and we formed an emotional bond beyond the physical. Maybe men face rejection more often than women do, but I can guarantee …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:29 PM
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True about anecdotal experience, but my experience about women’s thoughts and opinions AS A WOMAN unfortunately exceed yours, since you’ve never been one. There are many instances in which men have been believed over women. Please look at some historical accounts of men being completely let off the hook, only for it to come out years later that he was guilty. Women don’t always win in these cases, in fact they’re usually not believed
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:26 PM
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A guy last March from Europe approached me in the park while I was walking my dog and asked for my number. In 4 days from now, I’m going to paris to stay with him! You truly never know what will happen :) imagine he had never said anything
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:23 PM
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Dude…. I promise you no one is offended by being called pretty lmfao And living life in fear of rejection is no way to live. Beyoncé, Emily Ratajowksy, and supermodel Behati Prinsloo have all been cheated on this year. Some of the most beautiful women on earth, rejected by their husbands. Rejection is a part of life. You can’t walk on egg shells for the next 50 years trying to avoid the inevitable. Just my 2 cents.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:08 PM
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I was asked out by a European guy travelling to my city last March. In 5 days, I’m going to Paris to stay with him in his apartment. You never know what could happen in life. Worked for him! Anyway, you’re admittedly refusing to approach women out of fear and insecurity. Unfortunately, that’s no way to live life. The only Tik Tok’s I’ve seen where men are being humiliated are either: A) He cheated and is now crying about it B) He is genuinely extremely creepy I.e. groping a woman or cat-calling …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:05 PM
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First of all, it’s hilarious that you think I’m a young woman in my 20’s and have never been the victim of harassment by men😂😂😂 I have literally been drugged, followed all over the city all the way to my apartment, followed on the subway, and had disgusting sexual comments made towards me. Way to make a sweeping generalization that I’ve never experienced harassment before. Next, im actually a feminist who supports the me too movement. But that doesn’t mean we should paint every single man on ear…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:51 PM
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I’m sorry you were assaulted or groped in high school. There’s absolutely no justification for it, however those girls in 9th grade were 13/14 years old. I hope to god they have grown up now that they are no longer children and use their fully developed brains to know better. Further, I actually have had sex with 2 men who I initially had 0 attraction to at all. It wasn’t until we had a great back-and-forth and they made me laugh that I suddenly found myself sexually attracted. Personality absol…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:48 PM
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Objectification is treating or comparing a living, breathing being to an object. “You’re pretty” is not objectification by definition. Something like “women are locks and men are keys” would be objectification. We as women always have the option of saying no in public spaces surrounded by other people where we are safe from violence. It isn’t entitlement to shoot your shot at all. These are very sweeping generalizations about women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:44 PM
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The fact that I’ve never met one proves that it’s few and far between. As well, politely asking for a woman’s phone number or to take her out for dinner are not grounds for rape allegations. I actually have a criminal Justice degree and am currently studying law. That would be purely be a “he said she said” situation. It’s not as easy to “destroy someone’s career and life” on a complete whim as you might think
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:41 PM
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Although I agree that perceived or real fear of abandonment is a major trait of BPD, I personally have never been cheated on (to my knowledge, which I believe is true), nor have I ever downloaded a dating app, or participated in hookup culture on apps because I don’t have them (lol) So your first statement is absolutely true of those suffering from BPD, but the rest I haven’t experienced myself
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:21 PM
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My father approached my mom while she was working in her art gallery before the existence of dating apps. Had he not done so, I wouldn’t exist right now. These views are completely ridiculous and unreasonable if anyone’s saying that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:18 PM
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public transit when a woman has music in her ears and clearly isn’t interested in interaction with anyone is a not the place to approach her lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:17 PM
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“Hi, I thought you were pretty and was wondering if I might be able to grab your number?” No one is accusing men of rape for being polite and reasonable lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:11 PM
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Not a single woman I have ever met would accuse a man of harassment or rape for saying “hi I thought you were pretty, would I be able to get your number by any chance?” You are taking a very tiny % of severely mentally ill liars and generalizing all women as such…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:09 PM
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Not any of my female friends and I, I have yet to hear this from any woman lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:03 PM
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I already responded to the “why don’t you ask men out?” Comment multiple times :) I’ve done it, and they texted me in the middle of the night for sex the 3 times I tried. None had any interest in a proper date so I blocked them. All it did was boost their egos and lead me nowhere, I won’t be doing it again
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:49 PM
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I never said I was a super model, I actually struggle with body dysmorphia (never being satisfied with how I look no matter how much I workout). You can’t run around saying women have huge egos without knowing anything about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:46 PM
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Unfortunately at all, I’m actually quite shocked
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:44 PM
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Neither
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:43 PM
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No, unfortunately men just don’t approach women or ask us out on dates anymore. The practice has completely died
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 03:09 PM
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I completely understand that from a guy’s perspective :) However, it’s baffling to me because our parents, grandparents, and all generations before them met by one of them approaching the other lol Had my father not asked my mom on a date while she was working in a framing shop, I wouldn’t exist!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 03:07 PM
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Are the guys you’re meeting up with actual, genuine connections though? Have you had a long-term relationship with any of them? Most of the time, they’re meant for sex. And it’s not restricted to those only in your circle, as mentioned you can literally go out on a date with absolutely anyone, you don’t need to necessarily “know them” as a mutual friend etc
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 03:03 PM
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In my opinion, men peruse women. It’s not us who are supposed to run around chasing men. In my experience, all it does it boost a man’s ego and leads nowhere :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 03:01 PM
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Yes I’m sure, how did any of our parents, grandparents, or great grandparents get together? Oh ya, one of them approached the other lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:59 PM
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Because the primary method is now dating apps to the point where in-person meetings interaction has died. Not EVERYONE can participate in the same exact form of dating otherwise all other forms go extinct.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:59 PM
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I recently read a statistic that 15% of men on dating apps match with 80% of women. These apps make it absolutely impossible to choose parters based on any personality trait at all. And that’s coming from a woman who would be considered pretty. It’s actually very sad…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:39 PM
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At night when I’m waking alone in the dark, I will say that I assume every single man is a potential danger or treat to me. I’ve been followed and stalked before in public, so most women have grounds to be weary of men while on dark or secluded roads alone. It’s nothing personal, you could be the greatest and nicest guy on earth. Just from our perspective :)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:37 PM
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Yes absolutely, these contribute to the collapse of face-to-face socialization as well
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:30 PM
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I have often thought about what would happen if technology were to simply collapse, we would have to return to our previous face-to-face interactions as our parents and all generations before them needed to. It would be interesting to witness for sure….
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:29 PM
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I agree with you that men would probably feel more weary about approaching women since the Me Too movement and other recent feminist groups. As a female feminist myself, a lot of those sentiments are grossly exaggerated. I have been approached by very kind, respectful men who I ended up going out with in the past. I have also been approached by gross ones who catcall me with sexual comments. Most recently, a guy on the subway referring to me as “his pussy” while he snapped his fingers at me. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:27 PM
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The first two men sadly texted me at 1-2 in the morning with something along the lines of “wya?” So I simply won’t be indulging them anymore hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:23 PM
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I completely agree that dating apps have caused social decay along with most other social media sites, and the internet in general. Actual human connection is quickly evaporating and it will eventually lead to population collapse. I also don’t necessarily think that marriage or children works for every single couple. However, you put the rest perfectly!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:22 PM
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I have asked men I thought were attractive for their numbers before at the gym, a coffee shop, and once at the airport. All 3 of them ended up texting me in the middle of the night basically as a booty call for sex, and I blocked them all. Due to my unfortunate previous experiences, I won’t be doing that ever again lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 02:19 PM
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Really? In my experience it’s the complete opposite. I see all over social media millions of posts by women saying they’re choosing celibacy, deciding not to have sex until commitment, and refusing to do casual hookups as they only benefit men. Celibacy is currently being praised all over the internet! On the flip side, there are videos circulating that women who have body counts past 5 are “not wife material” and “all used up”. Your peers are making fun of you because you’re in college and they…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:56 PM
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Real
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:51 PM
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My female friends and I have always ended up blocking the player at a certain point never to speak to him again. Sure, the hot dude playing games might be interesting at the beginning but none of us want him as an actual, viable life-long partner. It gets boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:45 PM
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1) Men should be the ones asking us out. In every other species on earth, it’s the male who is intended to impress the female. Not the other way around. In my experience approaching men first, they simply get a boosted ego and only communicate with me for sex after I’ve asked them out 2) No woman I’ve ever met has grabbed a man in public… 3) Your whole issue here is that you’re referring to dating apps. Believe it or not, we actually care deeply about personality, sense of humour, intelligence, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:32 PM
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100% of women would agree with me. You must not know much about us lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 06:17 PM
1

Feminism is quite literally by definition equality….. read a book I’m begging you
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:40 PM
1

I actually copy and pasted your statements word for word hahahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:38 PM
1

Funny, now you’re making assumptions about me Lmaooo Dude you have an IQ of 8
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:36 PM
1

Yes, I believe in equality :) thank you for calling me a feminist, I am one! ❤️🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:35 PM
1

So why do you keep mentioning that other men “get sex with no effort”? That’s not what celibacy is… u make 0 sense
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:34 PM
1

“I’m not interested in women who won’t have sex with me immediately” “We don’t even get a hint of the pussy” “What real serious actual value do women give a man other than sexual access to your body?” “Without sex, men have no incentive to take you out on dates” I’m baffled that you think you respect women when these exact statements cane out of your OWN mouth 🤡
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:33 PM
1

Hell doesn’t exist babe
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:28 PM
1

You’re gross lol I hope we continue avoiding you like the plague. Incel vibes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:27 PM
1

And again, CELIBACY means NO SEX. Is there something you’re not understanding?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:27 PM
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I’m not making a single assumption… the words you’ve decided to type out as a reflection if your genuine thoughts are vile and quite frankly horrifying to read as a woman. I’m praying that very few men think the way you do otherwise I’ve lost hope
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:26 PM
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You clearly have no respect for women. We can see that from a mile away which is why you never get any. Change your entire attitude and maybe you’ll become more successful
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:19 PM
1

You are fucking disgusting and I hope all women continue to stay away from you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:13 PM
1

You just admitted you only spend money on women and take them on dates if they “give up the pussy”. Please lord, join an incel forum.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:13 PM
1

Treating women with basic respect and commitment isn’t “bending over backwards” hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:12 PM
1

By “flaming hoops”, do you mean the bare minimum? The point of celibacy is that women don’t have sex AT ALL. What are all these “other men” you’re referring to? I already know exactly the type you are. A low effort man who barely lifts a finger and then expects sex… truly laughable
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:12 PM
1

Why would we sleep with you prior to knowing you’re a good person? Will take us out on dates? Will be emotionally intelligent and make us feel safe? If women aren’t having sex with you, ask yourself what you’re doing wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:00 PM
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As a woman myself, you have absolutely no idea what it’s like to be a woman. When we have sex with men, they tend to either ghost right after, say “I don’t want anything serious” or play us in some way. Celibacy is a way of demanding respect. Want access to my body? Okay, then treat me well and commit to me first. Men seem to think they’re simply entitled to our bodies because they exist. You’re not.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 05:59 PM
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So she shouldn’t have sex with other guys yet you demand she has sex with YOU? Lmaooo
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 05:50 PM
1

Typical. Someone responding out of anger without reading the question
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 08:10 PM
1

The post clearly states “until she is in a committed relationship” did you read it?….
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 08:09 PM
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Not wanting to have sex until someone respects you enough to actually date you doesn’t make you retarded… are you okay?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 08:07 PM
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Found the incel
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 08:05 PM
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All the angry men in this comment section are the exact same ones who say women who give it up are whores and “not wife material” lmao y’all are truly delusional
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 08:03 PM
1

Incel
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 08:03 PM
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I have 2 degrees in psychology, specializing in relationships and this is statistically untrue. Men and women cheat with around the same frequency (it’s split close to even), however men cheat just slightly more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/22 02:03 AM
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