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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/23 12:11 AM
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“She had my kid”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 04:09 PM
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Reminded me of this video I saw a few years ago: https://youtu.be/G2yE8r9ape4 I really agree that men to need teach other men and hold each other accountable. As women, we do this all the time! On your point about mens groups, they’re not always on point but I do love those clips when some self help/pick up dude tells another scrawnier dude something along the lines of “women don’t like you because you are broke, out of shape, and have nothing to offer”. The other dude will just be sitting there…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 03:46 AM
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Yes to a Gail Dines children’s book!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 11:35 PM
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Yes, the husband part was interesting. And makes me wonder why the mom chose him as her partner if she had such a great concept of “HVM”, if you will. Maybe it was his way of getting involved, but totally agreed, I think it would’ve been more impactful coming from their father. While watching I also had this thought of - well what if they only knew what the “right answers” were, similar to how we can fill out competency quizzes but never use that information in our actual lives. The question is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 09:27 PM
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I totally had the same thought about the porn quiz! I feel like it plays into this concept of “otherness”…that “porn stars” are so far removed from his normal life, not like they are just normal women. I don’t think men can grasp the depth of sexual abuse/trafficking/etc. Also he probs watches porn and doesn’t want to be judged for it 🤷‍♀️ maybe even knows that it’s wrong (but still does it). Anyways…didn’t want to get too critical. Haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 09:22 PM
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Just reported a ton. But jesus christ, they just kept going and going. Horrendous. You know these guys aren’t joking…. Knowing TikTok, however, they’re going to keep most of them up. Why are social media platforms so strict about homophobia, racism, etc but disregard any form of misogyny (which is a much larger spread issue)? It’s almost like tech companies are created, built, and maintained by primarily men…..tech will inherently be sexist unless women rebuild it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 05:31 PM
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We really have the do a whole hazmat operation after they come over 😂 that sucks you had to repaint part of your wall. This is precisely why I don’t let men into my space. I have all white sheets and velvet furniture. You’re not messing this up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:27 PM
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It’s the whole never ate a single fruit/vegetable or drank a full glass of water thing 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:25 PM
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Oh my god 😷 terrible diet + lifestyle combined with probably never properly washing himself in his life. Like im sure he “showers” (maybe?) but probably doesn’t scrub or use soap or warm water. I dated a guy who didn’t use shampoo. As in….never shampooed his hair (he had long hair too)….just because he “didn’t believe in it”. Yeup….most men literally smell so bad because of their diets (meat/protein shakes/fast food). I don’t invite men to my house because I won’t be able to get their stench out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 05:02 PM
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As someone who was perpetually dating/in a relationship throughout the entirety of her late teens-early 20s, sometimes I wish I had that time back so I could focus on myself. It was only in the past 2 years when I really settled into my aloneness and began fixing the wounds I never gave any attention to before. Right now I am as single as ever, but grateful that I have this time to myself to develop vs doing the growth much later down the line when my life is less flexible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 04:04 PM
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These p*dos should be wearing ankle monitors and banned from coming closer than 1000 feet to children. They’re literally at a kid’s skating rink…..and imagine how brazen you have to be to say this shit ALOUD, in front of parents, etc. BRING BACK SHAME. everyone on TT was defending the second guy but he’s just as guilty. He didn’t condemn this old man at ALL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 04:16 PM
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Yep sounds like my ZV hobosexual ex who would make me feel guilty for any success in my life. Yet I was the one who would make sacrifices to save money while he would spend it like it was burning a hole in his pocket, then shocked pikachu face “why am i broke?!” Men will never repay you, with money or any other tangible/emotional things. They have been taught to TAKE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:38 PM
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He could be friends with nest guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 07:31 AM
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Reminds me of the movie ‘Tangerine’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 01:42 AM
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This is what pure, unadulterated delusion looks like..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:09 PM
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Can we form a dj group? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:51 AM
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True. When was the last time he directed his anger towards another man? It’s always women and young girls…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:38 PM
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Lies. I absolutely have had relationships get ruined by having sex too soon. Also, their statement about waiting until you feel comfortable and safe feels contradictory. Wanting to have sex immediately: good 👍 Wanting to wait to have sex: YOU ARE SEX NEGATIVE 🤬😡😤 That doesn’t feel like you are respecting our choices?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:56 PM
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“Within patriarchal culture, the girl who does not feel loved in her family of origin is given another chance to prove her worth when she is encouraged to seek love from males. Schoolgirl crushes, mad obsessions, compulsive longings for male attention and approval indicate that she is rightly pursuing her gendered destiny, on the road to becoming the female who can be nothing without a man. Whether she is heterosexual or homosexual, the extent to which she yearns for patriarchal approval will de…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:55 PM
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Oh definitely. But she was in a really bad home situation and using him to escape. This is part of the reason why I truly believe in the importance of setting up your own life before pursuing a relationship. You never want to depend on a man to “save you” from your own life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 01:20 AM
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Wow this is some”Lolita” shit😷 disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:31 PM
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This sounds like my dad 😂 never gave me a penny for uni but has always used money as a carrot on a stick to get me to interact with him (none of the money I’ve actually seen irl tho). Couldn’t even help me with books, food, or drive me to school without a major meltdown about how it’s making him late for work. The one time he did it, he ended up screaming the whole time and dropped me off at a random sketchy bus stop, 5 miles from school. I took the public bus (as a young girl in a dangerous, no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 07:40 PM
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He looks like a helpless child. How embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 05:42 AM
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It’s kind of terrible but I can’t stop watching it 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 01:37 AM
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When that scene came on I said aloud “oh finally, now he can go mooch off someone else.” Miranda financed his entire life..yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 05:46 AM
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BRING BACK SHAME!!! How does he not have any shame posting this?? Literal pedophile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 12:29 AM
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Just got back from hanging out with a girlfriend of mine who just had a baby with a bum loser druggy NVM. She wants to leave him but isn’t sure how to break it off. Any good resources, send em my way. I told her “no dad is better than a bad dad” too. So true ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 02:39 AM
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I tried reporting a really popular video on tiktok where a guy was “making a joke” by grabbing a woman by the back of her neck and pretending to slam her face down. They didn’t see that as violating their conditions. Isn’t it a children’s app? They’ll even remove people for cussing 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 07:10 PM
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What happened to staying up late to talk to the person you’re interested in, just because you are both so excited and into one another? In the past, guys have sacrificed much more than sleep just to talk to me. Nowadays, dating is not exciting or special anymore. I think the porn tabs analogy is spot on! We’re just temporary entertainment that they get to access on their terms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 03:18 PM
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!!!! This actually really triggers me because I had a whole issue with my ex (seemingly HV otherwise) waking up early or in the middle of the night and going to the bathroom, and spending soooooo long in there. I would be awake, waiting for him to come back to bed, nauseous the whole time because I knew he was masturbating. Our sex life suffered. Still never got an answer because I never really knew how to approach the topic….now I know better 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:46 AM
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A joke that cracks me up - when he tells you he wants go raw, tell him “OH MY GOD YES, IVE BEEN WANTING TO HAVE A BABY” he will never back away faster 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:49 AM
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I’m disgusted thinking about all the men I’ve been with who definitely were addicted. I was just too brainwashed to realize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:39 AM
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Definitely agree here! The strategy I’ve used so far has been not to bring up that I am against porn, and see what he says first. Maybe bring it up in a super casual way or during a more intimate moment. I find that they’re more open this way. But I just wish there was a way from the very get go to truly know sigh. Thank you, queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:33 AM
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I know that it might not be the most HV thing to do, but I am personally not against phone snooping when it comes to vetting a man (once you’re in a relationship). Sadly, this is how most dark truths come out :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:29 AM
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Question - how do you find out if a man has a porn addiction, aside from asking him? As stated previously, I feel like a bunch of guys lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:43 AM
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I will NEVER EVER support “dad bods” 🤢 until we get MOM BODS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 05:39 PM
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California has now made stealthing officially illegal and a form of sexual battery. Rightfully so!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:27 PM
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100%! Only thing that sets them apart is money and an overly inflated ego 😂 and even then, most lie about their income/net worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 06:02 PM
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Yeah, I think she has mislead intentions. All the tiktok girls make it seem like it’s so easy to find wealthy men who will give you money platonically, but they don’t mention that 100% of them want sex and are essentially pedos/abusers (whether sexually, physically, or through power). They’re not some type of feminist altruists who only want to help young women through the goodness of their hearts. Her an her friend have definitely seen some shit, so they have to put up that dead eyed front to p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:44 PM
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Haha. I know this girl, and I feel like it is all an illusion…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:20 PM
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Is it just me or does “had a baby” seem so….detached? Not like, “gave birth to OUR child” 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 05:00 PM
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I think by “low risk” he’s not even referring to safety. He really means that he wants to be able to get out of the situation if she’s “fAt Or uGly” 😷 Men don’t even think of the world in the same terms as us because they will never understand true fear of the opposite sex. And he’s cheap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 04:56 PM
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Men are praised for following economic opportunities. And we all know they have done much worse for money. Women have way fewer opportunities than men. Think about it, we can’t even pick up side gigs like uber/food delivery without being scared of getting murdered. That’s why we have to resort to exploiting the only thing society values us for in order to survive in this world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 06:12 PM
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A small one I do is requesting formal invitations for dates. This started with my ex. I had rejected some of his first date requests, and once when he asked me on a date through text, I said “I only accept formal invitations”. The next morning, I found a red envelope underneath my mousepad at work, with a fully handmade invitation with calligraphy, asking me to this lovely french restaurant. All details included (time, date, dress code, etc). At the dinner, he also gave me a beautiful written le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 05:19 PM
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Historically, women have moved out of their parents’ homes when they find a male romantic partner. This was the only option, since women didn’t have much autonomy or resources. However, things are different now and we have way more options. This isn’t your only chance to leave the home. I would recommend that every single person (male or female) live on their OWN before living with a partner. And yes, this goes for roommates too. The most growth you can do as an individual is in a space of your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 09:59 PM
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Oh sweetheart, not only is this grounds for a breakup, but she also needs to file criminal charges ASAP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 08:09 AM
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Amen 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 04:05 AM
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This is so soulless. Pandora bracelets should be a crime 😷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:45 PM
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Absolutely not 🙅‍♀️ I hate every iteration of “adventure”, “nature”, “spontaneous” guys. Sorry if I enjoy a hot shower and my own bed. Also peeved by the “I want someone who doesn’t take life seriously” guys. Excuse me? I take myself and my life VERY seriously. I am very much NOT chill. Tyvm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:41 PM
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Oh my god finally 😂 so niche but so needed! Men really will stop at nothing. I had a guy who tried to communicate with me through recently played songs and playlist adds :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 05:34 AM
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Curious to hear other FDSer’s opinions on men staying friends with their exes. My ex was “friends with all of his exes”…he explained this as something he was inspired to do bc of his father (who stayed in contact with his mother long after their divorce) and some other self righteous bs. He would occasionally mention that one of those exes would text him, and she would invite him to certain events (her sister’s graduation, thanksgiving dinner with her family etc). She’s a major pick me “sex posi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 05:30 AM
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Lmao. It’s the weak chin thing. Also have you heard of the finger length -> cheater correlation? I’ll have to link some of the studies done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 02:34 AM
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RIP 🙏❣️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 07:08 AM
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Ugh I am so torn about this concept because I would never want to be bound to a man by money…but being able to stay home and focus on myself/health/hobbies sounds so nice. I would say that it would be vital to still have your own life/private savings + career to fall back on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 08:03 PM
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Thanks queen ❣️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 08:19 PM
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From a quick google search - https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.yourtango.com/news/machine-gun-kelly-history-sexualizing-underage-girls%3famp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 12:06 AM
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Yep he played some sick twisted mind games with Cazzie, was mentally abusive, love bombed her. I heard her speak about it on a podcast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:17 PM
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Also MGK has a traceable history of being into underage girls? I swear I’m not into celebrity gossip but for the amount they’re in the media rn, barely anyone is talking about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:52 PM
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Hahahah amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:46 PM
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Right, could you even FATHOM a female equivalent?? She’d be torn to shreds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:45 PM
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Has everyone forgotten how he mentally abused his ex gf then threw her to the side when he started dating a celebrity ??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:43 PM
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😂😂 truly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 10:00 PM
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❣️❣️❣️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:47 PM
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I have NEVER had this urge in my life 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:07 AM
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Hahahah what a loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:13 PM
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Nooo I’m so sorry. I have one male mentor and I’m soo scared of this happening :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:17 AM
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“They find a way to shut down solutions.” Wow. This. It’s almost as if…they don’t even want to find a solution 🙃 because it’ll be one less thing they have to whine about. They want to be the victim. A guy I dated had everything wrong in his life and an excuse for everything. He couldn’t even do basic things because xyz was keeping him from it. I am a super logical and solution-oriented person, so every time he came to me with a problem I was already in solution mode and thinking of an exact plan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 07:11 AM
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Just started watching it! I like how it’s centered around developing female relationships, not just a male love interest. Reminds me of my summers in HS/early college
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 04:16 AM
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❣️❣️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 04:05 AM
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One of my favorite bell hooks quotes that really shaped my thinking as a teenager. From “Communion”: “Within patriarchal culture, the girl who does not feel loved in her family of origin is given another chance to prove her worth when she is encouraged to seek love from males. Schoolgirl crushes, mad obsessions, compulsive longings for male attention and approval indicate that she is rightly pursuing her gendered destiny, on the road to becoming the female who can be nothing without a man. Wheth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:05 AM
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Women have to be nice so they don’t get killed. Men are nice to manipulate women to eventually coerce into sleeping with them. Hmmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 08:17 PM
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Wow this made me remember how a higher up at a previous job of mine (M, fully bald) made a “balding” comment about my female boss 😑 Sir… ever heard of a mirror? Why do men get to make lighthearted jokes about their own bald heads, wear wigs for lolz (one day he showed up in a messy blonde wig bc he thought it was funny), etc? While women are looked down for it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 11:37 PM
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Yes, I like this. I try to drop hints - it does also help genuinely being a bougie bish already 💅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 07:46 PM
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Not George Constanza setting the bar 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 07:44 PM
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Thank you for the extra clarification 🙏 I think I didn’t write my question clearly enough. I more so wanted a strategy to see if a guy will ask me on a drinks date before he even does - so I don’t spend time on a fruitless convo/getting to know him. I feel as if I’ve spent a lot of time getting to know guys just to get asked on coffee dates. I would prefer to weed these types of men out completely, instead of telling them how to treat me (just for them to switch up their behavior in the end). To…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 07:41 PM
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Will have to try this! Have also been loving the recent tip of asking guys “what is your most controversial opinion?” to weed out the weirdos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 04:09 AM
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Honestly I just end the convo as soon as coffee/drinks are even mentioned 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 04:08 AM
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Agreed. However, this is happening with men I’ve met in real life as well, as I mentioned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 04:07 AM
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My new thing is to suggest a phone/facetime date prior to the actual date, in lieu of the “coffee”/see if this will be worth my time encounter hah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 03:19 AM
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That’s true. Is there any way to determine this earlier? I hate getting into convos with no red flags, just to be asked on a drinks date and end the conversation. Anything to ask/look out for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 02:16 AM
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Go you!! Best feeling ever. I had to have my water heater replaced the other day and when the repairman was done, he told me he kept part of the (broken) pipe for me to “show my husband or dad.” Little does he know it’s just lil ol me and my mom - both single - doing everything ourselves. I nearly googled how to put in a water heater bc I was convinced we could do it ourselves 😂 these men are useless, truly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/21 05:05 AM
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Yes and most of those reactions are from other men - not women! I have never met or heard of a woman who would hurt a guy for showing his emotions. If anything, it’s strongly encouraged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 05:45 PM
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Risks of sex: r*pe, assault, disease, pain, distress, pregnancy, etc. Risks of “emotional intimacy”: hurt feelings :( Lmk what I’m missing here but I don’t see how the two can be compared. It’s almost as though she’s implying that it’s women’s fault that men aren’t opening up emotionally bc women won’t have sex with them - not like it’s the years of conditioning. Lack of emotional intimacy is something to go work on at a therapist’s office, not the bedroom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:20 PM
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Volunteering for a person like this has nothing to do with helping others, but stroking his own ego and sadistic superiority complex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:25 PM
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Exactly! He must be a fucking idiot if he can’t bring $7.5M up to $10M by basic investments. Most wealthy people can do that in their sleep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 06:24 PM
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I’m so sorry you had to deal with that! Men who can’t take ownership and be fair leaders should not be bosses. I’m constantly shocked by how far up the ladder so many of these senseless and incompetent men go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 05:47 AM
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No shit 😂 One of my favorite sayings that helps in situations like this: “is he really the best sex you’ve ever had, or is sex the only time he shows you attention?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:31 PM
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Ah that is fair and honestly I overall agree with you on this. In the moment, I felt like I needed him to step up and it felt like he should’ve been more aggressive (or, like, any level of aggressive bc he literally did nothing). And true, I definitely wouldn’t want the night to become all about them fighting, because as we know after a fight men will act like wounded puppies and want you to tend to and take care of them (been in that situation too and it was mortifying above all else). Agree 10…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 08:23 PM
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Yes! Is it too much to ask for a guy to stand up for me, especially to other men??? I can fend for myself, obviously, but it’s good to know that your partner has your back. I’ve had several instances while in public with men I was dating where another man did something to me and the guy I was with did nothing…and it pisses me off. As an anecdote, I was at a show with a guy I was dating and a few of his buddies, and we were all dancing in a circle having a good time. A completely random, 6’4”+ du…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 05:02 PM
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Absolutely love this idea. How a man acts when nobody is watching means everything. Having an integral moral code and being reliable and true to your word is so attractive to me. So damn rare but truly a green flag when you find it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 04:51 PM
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Exact same story here, girl! 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:19 AM
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Yes plz
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:06 AM
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He shit on the floor 😌 and I cleaned it up 🥰 I will never take these moments for granted 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 06:00 AM
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I’ve found that one of the best ways to truly find out about a man is to ask him “why would your ex say you broke up?” This way it will show his perceived reaction to her reason (which will be true, unlike the reason he will give you).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 04:54 PM
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I absolutely love this book! Insane how much trauma holds us back in every aspect of life. Like we truly can’t live unless we process what has happened to us in life. And I would argue that we shouldn’t be in a relationship before we do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 08:53 PM
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Why don’t we get to cry about them “buying us dinner just to get laid” the same way they get to cry about us “going out just for a free meal”. The former is actually true, and much worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 05:09 PM
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FYI for those on BC and considering quitting: read The Woman Code by Alisa Vitti. Changed how I view my entire monthly cycle. I still refuse to get on birth control (or with any man that has a problem with that).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 06:29 PM
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OP, you could’ve stopped at “lawyer” haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:58 AM
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Ugh, yes. I’m guilty of having done this at my very first job. And although I was lucky that it went in probably the best possible way, I still would highly NOT RECOMMEND THIS, EVER. I was luckily with an overall HVM who was highly private and respectful, so I didn’t run into any severe issues because of him, but the overall repercussions took a massive toll. Even if you’re not all work PDA-y, if you’re in an office with people every day they WILL catch on and everyone WILL know. It’s painfully …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 11:15 PM
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He’s 76. 76!!!!!! Talking to a 17-19 yo. This isn’t even “old enough to be her dad” shit - OLD ENOUGH TO BE HER GREAT GRANDFATHER. disgusting and he deserves to be locked up. This is twisted. Poor woman writing asking for advice, what she needs is a restraining order and a search warrant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:37 PM
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Oh god I bet this guy also has an ankle monitor and can’t live within 100 feet of a school
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 03:24 AM
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Yes. This. Was thinking about this concept a lot during my solo trip to the mountains that I just got back from. During my trip I was reading The Body Keeps the Score, and it’s really astounding how much trauma affects our overall lives and essentially all of our actions. If we are holding onto trauma then we don’t have room to hold anything else. Only now in my mid-20s do I feel like I’m actually starting to live. This comes after a year of intense self reflection and confrontation. Before that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 02:14 AM
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“When a man tells you who he is, believe him the first time.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 08:58 AM
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I believe this was mentioned on the podcast as well, but pay attention if the victim of these stories is always a woman…”my grandmother, my mom, my aunt” etc. This is also a manipulation tactic used to appeal to our sympathies for other women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 05:16 PM
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Thank you for everything you do!!! This is my absolute most favorite space on the internet 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 09:12 PM
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Girl, same, so I stopped dating musicians or anyone related to the music industry. I think similar music taste (especially niche) is a false compatibility, we assume that he’s good in other areas as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:50 PM
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Oh my god yes. I’ve heard a lot of interesting takes on “woke” men who do drugs/psychedelics and have a shift because it’s the first time in their lives they feel compassion. Would be fascinating to dig deeper into this topic. Also lol bc I broke up with a DJ dnb/dubstep bro right before FDS. He chose his (measly) “career” over me and it was incredibly evident that all he cared about was himself and appearing cool to his social group aka other LVM DJ bros. It’s the biggest circle jerk ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 04:45 PM
453

This guy seriously rubs me the wrong way. They used to have a podcast but deleted all the episodes and I swear it was because he would not stop talking over her. It was frankly embarrassing and so obvious that he sees himself higher than her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 09:49 PM
44

100% agreed! It has nothing to do with the actual cost of the ring, however, but it’s more of an emblem of the “I don’t care about this wedding” mentality, which men love to regurgitate along with “I’m just doing it because she wants it” “men don’t care about weddings” etc. It’s only a beginning indicator of what they will want you to put up with in the future. I always tell men I date “I love beautiful jewelry so I expect a nice ring”. Personally, I care more about the ring than the wedding but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 09:28 PM
47

I wonder if it’s all the “ugly guy + hot girl” porn that’s so rampant which makes them think that way..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:08 PM
59

Truly don’t understand the audacity of the “just moved here/visiting so show me around” males. Am I a tour guide? I don’t even know you and you expect me to drop everything so I can drive you around and waste my time? Time to start a tour bus for men on dating apps - first stop: the airport.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 10:34 PM
5

One of my good friends cosigned on a car loan for a man SHE WASNT EVEN DATING (SHE’S the side chick) and now is stuck making the payments for him.....make it make sense...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 09:31 PM
32

In high school my teacher asked me “so if you believe men and women should be equal, does that mean in fights, men can hit women?”. I wish I could go back in time and deck him myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:48 AM
33

Drinks -> dinner -> ice cream is the better option
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:37 AM
15

One time I went on a first date with a guy who would not stop oversharing/emotionally dumping on me so I kindly suggested therapy to him - to which he answered “oh I don’t need that. My friends are my therapists” yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:44 PM
2

So in this case, how exactly is this “man” contributing to her idea of feminism?? She’s bending over backwards when women are inherently already placed in the inferior position. What is she gaining from this? What is he doing to enrich her? Bc mens’ struggles don’t involve being forced to open doors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/21 03:22 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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