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I remember reading this in some books written before the internet was big... it was eye opening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 08:54 PM
42

Or they SAY they feel shame just to manipulate you into feeling bad for them and forgiving them. I know firsthand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 08:52 PM
5

This right here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 10:25 AM
210

It's so hilarious it almost seems like a parody 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 11:39 AM
14

On the flip side, I've always kind of looked at it this way: If someone leaves a relationship and ends up with someone of less "status" (in terms of how society values status: looks, height, money, et cetera) I kind of end up thinking "Wow, that person must value this new guy/girl for who they are on the inside. Their ex must have been a really shitty person." I think it can be the same for companies too. If someone "down-leveled" to a smaller company, maybe it's because they value work they fin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 05:45 PM
138

Society needs to stop pandering to men and their egos 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/22 01:02 AM
37

So glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 02:47 PM
229

I wouldn't mind it so much if society didn't also expect us to be bad-ass career women. But no, not only are we expected to be amazing wives and mothers (and sexy to boot), but we also need to be high powered earners contributing financially to the family. Sorry, I'm not doing both. I'm not sure which one I prefer at this point, but I do know that I don't have it in me to be everything to everyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 12:53 PM
44

Hilarious 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 02:14 PM
31

My ex literally wrote me this sentiment in a series of letters after the break up, and I was like, "like I care lol".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 06:00 AM
708

This 1000%. Even if a man suddenly does a 180 because you explained how hurt you were, all that really means is that he's emotionally immature because he doesn't have the capacity to understand the consequences of his actions without you handholding him through a teary explanation. Truly masculine, high value men will never respond to your pain because they either won't cause you pain to begin with or are empathetic enough to understand how they've wronged you and do something about it without y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 05:33 PM
64

Some use their battletag/steam username as their reddit username. Do with that what you will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 08:57 PM
39

I feel this to my core. So glad you left him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 09:47 PM
76

This is actually great. If it was dark chocolate I would totally get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:58 PM
138

How romantic 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 01:04 AM
80

😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 02:07 PM
25

YES. I hate this so much. It's a man's way of saying "you don't deserve a gift so I'm not intending to get you one, but hey I guess if you really want to make as both uncomfortable by saying 'yes' I'll make an effort just to appease you". Had this number pulled on me about Valentine's day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 11:27 AM
32

Also something to consider: does he make his car comfortable for you? Or does he fail to make even minor adjustments for your comfort? Example: my ex had bought a relatively new Honda Civic. Summer came, but the AC was out which meant anytime we went anywhere we had to keep the windows down which completely destroyed my hairstyle and of course led to us both sweating profusely. Yet, fixing the AC was well within his budget, but did he have it fixed after I mentioned how inconvenient it was? No. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 11:44 AM
23

So agree with this. If not a nanny and cleaning lady, then at least the ability to not work if that's something you want. I'm the oldest of 7 kids so I've already spent a lot of time taking care of children. It'll be a cold day in hell before I'm a fulltime career woman AND a mom AND a housekeeper. Too much work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 05:34 PM
14

I definitely relate to this. It doesn't happen often, but when it does I just let the feeling happen. I acknowledge it, but I don't beat myself up for wanting something that I don't have. Not sure how many other FDS-ers were raised the same way, but I come from a background where the mentality was "quit complaining/be grateful for what you have" so it's taken me a while to overcome that and just let myself feel disappointment without also shaming myself. Maybe that makes sense to you too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 09:56 PM
120

If she wasn't his priority, who was? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 01:30 PM
6

Truly the worst of both worlds 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 11:38 AM
40

My last relationship left me with some credit card debt (trips I couldn't afford, et cetera), so this Christmas I treated myself by paying it all off!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:18 PM
195

Sound advice. This was how I realized my ex didn't see the problem with age gap relationships or the moral problems related to prostitution, among other things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 01:46 AM
43

Same, came here to say this. Although my ex didn't technically cheat on me, like yours he was continually making baseless accusations of me of cheating on him and "having other boyfriends". The jabs weren't funny, but he continued to make them. Ugh, why are they like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:36 AM
2

Love this explanation. Couldn't agree more. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:34 AM
2

That's so toxic. You hate to see it. 😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:48 AM
49

In my experience a lot of guys think that they have a personality due to their interests. They'll go on and on about certain games, video games, musical genres they like, et cetera (especially indie guys 😬) but at the end of the day they can't crack a joke, have no original thoughts about ANYTHING, and have no positive discernable qualities like "bold", "kind", "warm".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:24 AM
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If you haven't checked his Discord servers/chats, you don't really know who he is. I've heard some of the most vile stories about men who have chats/servers just for porn. Trading porn with your friends is apparently a popular pastime for these dudes, and somehow a very straight thing (?). You can see my (embarrassing) post history for everything my gamer ex put me through. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 09:48 PM
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I think it's also manipulative for men to pull the same card on us. My ex used to refer to us/our pets as a family even though I refused to move in with him. I think doing this---using the word "family" or even elevating the meaning of being just boyfriend/girlfriend is a tactic to brainwash you into unquestioned loyalty. To me, being someone's boyfriend/girlfriend really doesn't mean that much. You're not legally committed to each other, you're not legally obligated to them in any way, and if y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 09:44 PM
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Coffee is something you do while running errands, or is something you plan with someone you already know and have a connection with who you primarily want to talk to while drinking a cup of coffee. In either case, it's not the main event. There's nothing enticing about signing up for a conversation with a guy who could turn out to be a creep, predator, or bore. Men need to up the ante so even if he is a dud we at least have a good time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 06:06 PM
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This is my guess too. My ex got angry at me buying myself flowers, presumable because in his mind it "discounted" the times he had bought flowers for me. This guy probably wants to feel like he's doing something grand for her, but he can't feel that way if she's used to nice things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:44 PM
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I will be single for the rest of my life before I commit again to a man who engages with the porn industry. My god. His addiction led to gaslighting of the highest order. He told me I was the one with the problem because I "always wanted to have sex" when in reality he was the one with erectile dysfunction at the age of 28, and for whom neither the sight, smell, nor touch of my completely naked body could get him hard 9 times out of 10. I'm only 5'4" tall and weigh only 110 pounds, but I still s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:31 PM
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If he's already saying "I hate you", imagine what he'll be saying (or doing) 10, 20, or 30 years down the line. And if that's really a joke to him, what else does he find funny?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:25 PM
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quitting dating is always an option. This 100%. Even a temporary break from men, say 3 or 6 months, may be enough to give you the space you need to relax and be at peace if dating is proving to be too stressful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 05:05 PM
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I don't think this is even just relegated to the especially misogynistic men, this is standard male practice. Honestly, yeah. I've been feeling this way about a lot of the low value behavior called out on this sub. Unfortunately, I'm not prepared yet to deal with the cognitive fallout of admitting most men are inherently flawed to the point that pursuing relationships with them is a fool's errand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:20 PM
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On top of this, I think the most intelligent (read: conniving) manipulators actually like the "communicate" advice that women are told. My ex was always like "communication is SO important", and now I see why. He was all talk, no action. I told him how and why I needed him to change, and he always SAID he would, but he was all smoke and no flame. If a man is especially misogynistic, I would be willing to bet money his line of thinking is "Oh, women are so dramatic and they feel like they're acco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:22 PM
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I just love it when guys give you the "sorry, I was hungover" excuse. Like what? Am I supposed to be understanding because you chose to over drink yourself to the point where you couldn't function the next day? Is that supposed to tug at my heart strings? Because it doesn't and you just look immature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 01:42 PM
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🚨 OH HELL NO! 🚨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 11:55 AM
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Yes, totally agree that video games and anime are instant deal breakers. On the off chance he is one of the enthusiasts who isn't into hot tub streams, porn games, sexual mod packs, games with rape scenes, or e-girls, do you really want to take the risk of being with someone who will statistically devolve into those interests over time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 11:49 AM
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YES. Don't let him gaslight you by saying you're "overthinking things" by talking about the details of a potential future. Been there, done that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 11:42 AM
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Hence the "daddy's little princess" hate. They'll resent you for having standards or healthy relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 06:08 PM
39

Especially when it isn't the first time you've discussed the issue at hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 10:59 PM
25

That's awesome!! I think drifting is so cool, I just don't know how anybody affords to burn their tires like that. If only I had that kinda money 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 08:33 PM
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He said he quote "almost looked forward to" his dad dying because his dad was intending to leave an inheritance when he died. Who says or even thinks something like that? In the broader context of our relationship it makes sense, since he was very much a taker who evaluated people in terms of what he could get out of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 08:05 PM
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Curious about others' experiences, but car bros seem to fall into two extremes: cheap, lazy, dirty guys on one end of the spectrum or rich, actually mechanically-inclined dudes with good taste in cars who have other hobbies like guitar or something. I wouldn't mind dating one if he could help me work on my truck or save me some money on repairs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 08:01 PM
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Honestly, kind of afraid of the hard questions I would have to face if I admitted that most men are just trash... like, is it even worth trying to date at all? Should I even like men anymore? I'm not ready for an existential crisis right now 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:24 PM
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Same. I interpret this as him being self-deprecating, like he isn't really this low value but is exaggerating to show how great she is to him?? At least, I hope. At the same time, it makes you wonder if deep down he knows he should in fact do more for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:21 PM
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🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 11:10 PM
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Oh man, that reminded me of my ex saying "son of a bitch". I really, really hate that phrase and the b-word... idk if it's just my own personal preference or a legitimate red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 11:09 PM
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Beginning to think men as a whole are just less moral than women...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 05:11 PM
10

Ah, Dolores Claiborne. I love that movie and Kathy Bates is such a badass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 11:08 AM
8

That is awful! Somehow, I can't stop fixating on how he thought putting vinegar in soup was a good idea... 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 06:07 PM
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This is so true. You can't just take a man's word at face value. If he says he wants kids, ask him "what does having a family mean to you?" I wish I had done that with my ex. I would have learned that his master plan for a family consisted of offloading childrearing responsibilities to his mom and his dad/stepmom even though he was constantly blaming his mom for how she fucked up his childhood. These men aren't thinking about how important the early years are for child development. They aren't t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:13 PM
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STRAIGHT FACTS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 02:18 PM
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Back in the 80's, my mom was dating a guy who "couldn't commit" to NOT going to strip clubs. She broke up with him and never looked back. Like you, I can't believe the concept of stripping is so widely accepted still. Blatant misogyny, blatant cheating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 11:28 PM
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Men: "Marriage is risky." Also men: "Let's invest in dogecoin." 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 05:06 PM
108

Also beware of men who have good jobs but never actually worked that hard to achieve them. My ex was like this. Initially I though "Oh cool, he's a network engineer, that takes discipline, he must work hard." Nope. Turns out, he came into the field by accident purely because he knew a guy in the industry who managed to convince the company to hire him. I'm not saying he doesn't work hard now or deserve the position, but the truth is he initially got a soft degree in the arts, worked manual labor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 02:37 PM
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If he didn't want strippers at the bachelor party, he would make that clear to his friends. Think about it. What would you do if you suspected your girl friends were getting YOU a male stripper? You'd say hell no, and if they're really your friends they'd respect that. We gotta hold men to AT LEAST the standards we hold ourselves to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:56 PM
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What does it matter if a girl is hot or not? Who bases their value on someone's opinion by how hot the person is? What difference does it make? There's no correlation between beauty and valid opinions... He sounds kind of misogynistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/21 02:55 PM
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Any man who is truly okay with his woman having sleepovers at another man's house is a man who doesn't like her romantically. However, I'm sure if you actually tried to do that would throw a fit and is just pretending like he's okay with it when he's not. Good call on this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/21 01:27 PM
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Thinking I was an "over-thinker", "neurotic", and/or had anxiety. Nope. The reality is, he was throwing up red flags and I was just confused and gaslighting myself trying to reconcile his loving words with his unloving actions. Basically, if you find yourself trying to constantly rationalize a situation and "make it make sense" ---- RED FLAG. I wish society didn't downplay women's feelings and intuition. We're not crazy, we're observant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 04:19 PM
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Yes, I want to hear more about this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:29 PM
37

Wow the same thing happened to me. I wasn't raised Mormon, but Baptist, so when I left the faith I was like "Yay! I can have sex now!" And then... yeah. This book was helpful for helping me realize it wasn't prudish to wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 04:18 PM
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AKA broke af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:48 PM
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And what, pray tell, does a woman get out of this arrangement?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:45 PM
12

Then give you the surprised Pikachu face when you break up with them lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:37 PM
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Damn you described my ex to a T. Constantly asking this question, yet when I did finally bring up an issue that made me unhappy he turned around and gaslit me about it, acting like we didn't have issues in our relationship and that everything was cool. They don't really care. They're just testing the waters to see if you're thinking about jumping ship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 10:27 AM
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Good advice. I also think it helps to reach a place where other people's opinions of you don't influence how you see yourself. I've found it easy to de-prioritize men because I've reached a place in my life where nothing a man says or does can make me feel better or worse about who I am as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 03:50 PM
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Good job 👏 I drive a pickup and my ex was always asking to use it 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 07:20 PM
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You would be correct. I think he has a type too. His last girlfriend, like me, was raised Christian/homeschooled in a nuclear family. So, he knows what our expectations are, but goes after women he thinks are submissive and that he can control. I seriously hope he doesn't con another girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 10:57 AM
14

Oh my god. Men are such posers. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 10:54 AM
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It all sounds familiar 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 10:52 AM
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I fucking hate that rape games are a thing, but to base them on real events? That's another level of depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 09:38 PM
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Absolutely. I think it's not discussed enough in society at large. And the complicated thing about it is that not all gold digging men are the unemployed losers you might traditionally take them for. They can have jobs, homes, and even give off the facade of being a family guy. Those are the most dangerous types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:56 PM
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Funny you say that. My ex also was hell-bent on being a stay-at-home dad. Of course, he didn't tell me this until 1+ years down the line after I had already told him I wanted to raise my kids until kindergarten and he had seemingly agreed to the idea...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 01:53 PM
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OH MY GOD YES. So, one of the (many) reasons I recently broke up with my boyfriend is because he was a gold digger. And trust me ladies, they come in MANY forms and in my case, he was sometimes very subtle about it (it took me a while to realize just what a user he is). CASE IN POINT: I am a software developer. It is already a difficult career, but for those of us who are especially ambitious, the hardest and most lucrative path you can take is to work for a Big Tech company like Amazon, Netflix…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:24 PM
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I broke up with my toxic boyfriend last weekend and pawned the diamond necklace he bought me for Christmas. Feeling great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 02:26 PM
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I just remember "I feel no more alone without him than I did in the relationship".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:31 PM
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He literally admitted to me that he didn't deserve me and that I could do better than him. He lied to me for a year and would have continued deceiving me if I hadn't found out myself. He stayed with his last girlfriend for 3 years even though he knew he didn't like her. He is a trash human who uses others to his advantage. If I told him "no" regarding even the smallest requests he would act petulant and give me the silent treatment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:30 PM
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Part of me wants to disagree and say "not all men", but it's true... every man I've known who's into videogames was toxic AF whereas the only men I know how aren't (my brothers) actually treat their women right, and that's not just my sisterly bias talking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 12:53 PM
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Especially when they are local musicians where he lives. Check his Soundcloud account for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:54 PM
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What does he have against dogs of all things?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:49 PM
7

Big yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 09:19 PM
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T H E A U D A C I T Y
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:38 PM
19

That is very romantic!! I'm excited for you. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 10:42 AM
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Great post. I think there is a distinction between a guy saying questioning your reasons for a boundary in an attempt to tear down your reasoning so he can justify not respecting it, and a guy asking why you genuinely have a boundary so he can understand you and empathize. Unfortunately, in most cases it seems to be the former.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 02:07 PM
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Yes! All of the female characters are so horny and always coming on way too strong. It feels like a man's fantasy of "female empowerment" where women are the chasers. I cringe hearing some of the lines she wrote for the women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 03:42 PM
148

This show gives women unrealistic ideas about the outcome of sticking with commitment-avoidant men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 02:37 AM
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Needed this. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 10:59 AM
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What's wrong with The Dark Knight?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:18 PM
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He hates his gf. That's what's up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:48 AM
41

I feel so bad for her. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 05:36 PM
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As a developer, it really irks me how UI/UX design is seen as less important than coding. I work at a startup, and we never hired a professional UI/UX person for our project and believe me, it shows.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 01:42 PM
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That's how I felt about it too. My ex even tried to tell me he didn't watch cam girls, so I spent time on Pornhub clicking around trying to simulate requests to Chaturbate without actually going there, and guess what? It didn't happen. Part of why this in particular sent me over the edge was that he tried to explain why he watched porn with reasons like when he was "feeling bad about himself" --- so I knew it wasn't just a mastubatory tool for him, he was actually using it to replace intimacy we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 08:33 PM
26

True. My stbx once told me that my crying turned him on. 😥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:58 AM
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30 YEARS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:00 PM
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The show really is an example of how so many men can drag you down in life and Dave has no qualms about calling out the LVM. Refreshing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 04:48 PM
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Just when you think you've heard it all 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:39 PM
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I heard this too and thought of FDS! I cringe so hard everytime I hear it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:34 PM
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Honestly they look so fragile. One accident with a butter knife and they got an opened vein lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:40 AM
54

This is what I did. Moved from rural Indiana to a major city and the difference in men is astonishing even though I'm still in the midwest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 09:37 PM
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Oh I'm leaving him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:48 PM
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he leeches you off for years, makes you lose your shit, you become exhausted (duh) and because the attraction isn't there aNyMoRe ...unto the the next chick, I guess. Oh this is definitely what I think would happen. I would suddenly become this masculine, overbearing, professionally overachieving but emotionally underperforming wife in his eyes because I wouldn't have the energy left to available to serve his every request, sexual or emotional, at the drop of a hat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:25 PM
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Thank you taking the time to write all of this out. It is so obvious now that he wants me for ulterior motives. (He even had the gall to suggest a prenup a few months ago, because he "wants to protect his Magic cards"). The funny thing is, I don't want kids that bad, but would be down to have them if he was going to be a provider. And initially, this is what I thought he would be. But obviously in recent months it's slowly become clearer that he has no intention of taking responsibility for the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:22 PM
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No, we actually don't live together (my choice) :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:13 PM
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I think I'm just done trying to explain women's issues to men (soon to be ex-boyfriend included). It's exhausting, they don't care about either what you say or how you feel, and in my specific case he makes me feel like I'm the one being irrational.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:13 PM
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You're so right. I won't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 05:09 PM
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You do you!! That reminds me, we had this conversation recently about sex work, and I was saying it is overall not a positive thing for women or society, even though I believe women should be free to do it. He however, was trying to convince me that there was nothing wrong with sex work/prostitution. I asked him if he would date me if I was a stripper or did porn, and of course his answer was no. Really? If sex work is so great, why won't you let me do it? lol. I just can't with these men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 02:01 PM
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Then I come home and am the bad guy for "nagging" him about his incompetency. Yeah no thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:46 PM
7

Most importantly has he bothered to even ask what you want? Nope. Even when I broke down crying he didn't ask. This is over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:44 PM
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Thanks. I will be breaking up with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:43 PM
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A man too lazy and unmotivated to work hard for HIS OWN future is a NVM. Exactly what I thought. Like why would anyone, man or woman, see that they could do better and think "Yeah, I'm okay with the bare minimum". Like wtf? We watched "Hillbilly Elegy" recently because I wanted to, and after the movie I was like "That was cool. I like movies about people who work hard to earn money/climb the economic ladder" (obviously I wish the world didn't require this, but here we are). And he said "Why?". A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:41 PM
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He doesn't want her to ride her motorbike because he doesn't want to lose his golden goose. Damn straight. On the surface he comes across as the liberal guy who's all about women's bodily autonomy, freedom, and rights. But the moment it's about MY bodily autonomy and freedom he gets to tell me what I can and can't do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:39 PM
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It's so concerning that apparently this whole time my career was apparently a big drawing card for him. I feel used. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:35 PM
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Right? I was so surprised he thought it would be easy to spend 9 months creating a baby, then just hand it off to him (or even a daycare) so that 80% of my waking hours could be directed towards excelling in my career because he doesn't want to ON TOP OF being separated from a new born baby!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:34 PM
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It does! Thanks for sharing your experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:32 PM
13

It just doesn't seem fair to live a life constantly making up for his lack of effort. FACT.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:31 PM
10

Thanks for your input. I was also afraid that I would grow to resent him for being so blase, and that he would resent me for not being able to fulfill the feminine caretaker/mother/wife role.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:30 PM
29

I have 6 younger siblings; I helped my mom out a lot during her pregnancies, and I know first hand just how exhausting it is to raise young children. But when I told them this, he said I was "overestimating" how hard motherhood was. lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:29 PM
18

Thanks, I was afraid I might regret it but I think you're right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:28 PM
13

Lol that was great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:27 PM
13

This is what I was thinking too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:27 PM
31

I definitely agree with your point about a AAA membership. I feel very empowered and safe driving long distances knowing that if something happens to my car, I won't be completely helpless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 12:08 AM
23

I agree with this so much! Take WAP for example... how is it empowering to sing about how much you need dick? I think that's why men love these kinds of songs so much. Penis worship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 03:22 AM
2

Beautiful flowers!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 03:17 PM
6

My one and only male friend started posting HIS OWN NUDES on there. It's somehow worse and even more cringey than the thought of him subscribing to girls on there 😬 And the saddest part is he's engaged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 11:43 PM
5

I have a .380 Ruger and my concealed carry permit too. Having a gun makes me feel empowered! I grew up with brothers and I know from experience that even a thin, short man who doesn't work out could EASILY overpower me if he tried. Owning a weapon is the best way to protect yourself from a male predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 12:52 PM
32

Your dad sounds so sweet! 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 11:25 AM
66

Cringe alert 🚨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/20 09:20 PM
7

I've dealt with this and still do, but ultimately you'll feel better about yourself if you stop caring what people think. I think you probably already know this, but every now and then our insecurities get to us, so just remember there is nothing wrong with you for being selective about your social circle. Any full grown adult knows how hard it is to make friends, ESPECIALLY as an adult, so anyone with an opinion worth caring about WILL NOT think you're inferior for dealing with such a common is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:41 AM
101

Hurry ladies!! This is the only opportunity for sex you'll EVER have! /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:07 AM
28

Sounds like some cringey PUA tactic lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:04 AM
192

Masturbation DOES NOT equal porn. Sad that society conflates the two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 07:08 PM
2

Why do guy think we'll find this funny??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 11:04 AM
162

The ending got me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:25 AM
33

It's like they know nothing about what women want. They can't even play us 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 02:18 AM
28

I don't know how men watch porn without feeling like cucks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 02:24 PM
16

I agree that you shouldn't post thirst traps, it's just too "pickmeisha" to me and seems desperate, which is the last vibe you want to give off. I also avoid long posts, but that's just because I don't read long posts myself and I really doubt anyone follows me to get free essays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:57 AM
27

My situation was the same living in a small town in the Midwest. What few decent men there were, were already taken. Then I moved to the second largest city in my state and finally found men who were attractive, clean, not lazy, and whose hobbies weren't limited fo memorizing every NFL statistic possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:59 AM
6

Yes, at the time I probably should have fleshed that out, I was just too focused on not crying or sounding hysterical that I let it slip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 10:35 AM
6

Thanks for the words of encouragement!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 10:33 AM
20

I feel so sorry for past generations. I recently had to inform my mother and grandma what "misogyny" meant. They didn't know, and my grandma lived through the Women's Liberation movement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:02 PM
66

Women: have perfectly sized, self cleaning vaginas designed for intercourse. Men: "Can I stick my peen in your unlubricated and germ ridden poop hole?" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:00 PM
5

Erectile Dysfunction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 11:55 AM
2

There are 12. It just looks like 11 lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 10:39 AM
6

That's the dream! I only have an apartment at the moment so I can't do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/20 04:17 AM
71

Definitely. I just hate relying on men for happiness, and flowers make me happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 08:17 PM
22

I keep a diary for this very reason. It's a great way to let off steam without making yourself look like an idiot or look desperate. But even more than that, it allows you to explore your feelings in a safe environment and discover WHY you have the feelings you do. I used to dismiss my feelings, but writing about them has taught me that they are indications of something else that is going on that needs addressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 02:07 PM
26

Honestly, everything you've said. Focusing on career and hobbies will prove far more rewarding than entertaining a long string of dudes who are financially and/or emotionally unable to commit or add any value to a girl's life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 03:19 AM
295

This is really sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:02 PM
27

I'm guessing they want to "lock the man down" or manipulate him into proposing by having a child, but who knows. I can't imagine birthing and raising a man's child when he doesn't have the decency to commit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/20 11:40 PM
8

If he was to jerk off in the corner of a bedroom watching a threesome in real life, what is the difference if there is screen between him and what he is watching? THIS. Probably unpopular opinion, but to find out the truth you will probably need to get into his phone without him knowing because as I said, if he is using he’s probably not going to be honest about it, or he will downplay his use. I've thought about this, but since he already lets me use his phone and we both work in IT, I fear tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 07:32 PM
14

That does sound amazing! I didn't mention it in my post, but in the past he has had ED off and on, and is almost never hard during foreplay (to the point where I have to aggressively stimulate him so that we can actually do it), so when he casually mentioned masturbating recently I was like "WTF" in my head. I don't think it's fair to compare him to others I've been with, but they never had this issue so to think he's exerting energy alone as opposed to with me is kinda... strange I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 07:25 PM
18

Yes, I am going to discuss with him if this is actually the case. I appreciate your feedback; I needed to see if I would be potentially overreacting if it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:58 PM
21

Yes, if you go on the internet, everybody's like "porn is great, and it's not cheating so women should just deal with it"! But these are the same people telling us it's okay for women to pursue men, so yeah. Every time I question the legitimacy of my feelings, I try to think if I would be okay with my sisters or my hypothetical daughter being in the same situation, and usually the answer is no. ​ I totally agree with you about the Vin Deisel thing; it's the difference between my boyfriend seeing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:56 PM
14

I'm definitely going to talk about it with him; but if he is unwilling to change, then yes, I will be leaving him. I just wanted to get some perspective and confirm what my issues were with it before talking to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/20 02:51 PM
61

Why do men think telling us they want go have sex with us makes them stand out? Bro, that's the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 10:06 PM
19

I wonder if he finds that "life affirming".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 04:43 AM
43

Ummmmm, hard pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 04:22 AM
6

That's unfortunate. I went into this job expecting to be ignored, unappreciated, even looked down upon, but my coworkers have been very respectful and helpful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:52 PM
3

Good question. I think it's a pretty standard software emgineering culture, but with the managers being family men themselves, I could see them potentially not hiring someone who didn't value the same things they do since that could lead to a culture conflict. Maybe one reason it's not "tech bro-y" is because these guys are all at least 30, and as we know most men reach a turning point around 30 where having a wife and kids becomes a priority. So perhaps my coworkers are just more mature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 04:51 PM
64

I actually work with a number of them. Besides being well-paid software developers/team leads/data engineers, what has stood out to me most is the way they talk about their families at work: they speak of their wives with respect and as people with thoughts and feelings. They routinely discuss their children, ways of disciplining and raising them, and the pros and cons of certain parenting techniques. And 99% of them are married, unsurprisingly. Honestly I've never been surrounded by such qualit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 06:43 PM
8

I always cringed when reading the part where she finds him sleeping and lays down with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 03:54 PM
5

Definitely after exclusivity is both discussed and agreed to. The last thing you want is to fall in love with someone who doesn't want to have you all to themselves. As for how long, that probably depends on the relationship but I would say not before 2 months at least. But that's just me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 01:27 PM
3

Exactly what I cam here to say. The user base, while smaller, is a bit more refined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 06:51 PM
2

It is though because most men aren't selfish, narcissistic assholes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/19 01:02 PM
74

It's really quite amazing how their entire worldview revolves around them and how, where, and how often they get sex. Notice how he spins a woman wanting to introduce her friends as 'code speech for "I don't plan on being intimate with you today but I still want your time and attention" ', when in reality when a woman wants to introduce her friends it is her saying "You are important to me and I want to share this part of my life with you", or perhaps "I'm not sure about you, so I'm introducing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/19 07:49 PM
16

That subreddit is a dumpster fire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/19 03:13 PM
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