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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 2 | Don't Live With Your Boyfriend if You Want to Get Marriedhow do you be more interesting/mysterious? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/09/21 06:45 AM |
| 1 | Treating MYSELF the way I want to be treated. I closed my first major deal today in my new career and took my beautiful self to the jewelry store to pick out exactly what I wanted 👏🏼you have amazing nails | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 02:09 AM |
| -1 | How to eat, sleep, and breathe FDShow do you guarantee this kind of outcome? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 06:50 AM |
| 1 | how important is passion/chemistry?is this considered settling or not? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 05:02 AM |
| 1 | how important is passion/chemistry?no grit? no intensity? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:12 AM |
| 1 | how important is passion/chemistry?does sexual prowess always mean narcissism? what were the other signs? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:12 AM |
| 1 | how important is passion/chemistry?does sexual prowess always coorilate with narcissism? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:11 AM |
| 1 | how important is passion/chemistry?define what chemistry means to you? what moments do you find it in? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:08 AM |
| 5 | how important is passion/chemistry?but won’t you feel like you’re settling/missing something? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:59 PM |
| 10 | A lesson from Cassie, who majorly upgraded: Don't let your boyfriend keep you from your husband- when they know they knowhe was her and diddys personal trainer. my guess is she knew him much longer and got together afterwards | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Do you need to state your boundaries?can you give me some examples of showing and not telling? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 03:03 AM |
| 1 | Do you need to state your boundaries?what if you say something like “i like a guy that’s giving and likes to spend quality time with me” that’s not telling him what to do it’s telling him what you like. and he can act how he interprets those things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Do you need to state your boundaries?so in this case, i would only accept dates. how do i communicate that with actions? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 10:59 PM |
| 4 | Sisters, what led you to realize you needed the knowledge from this subreddit instead of dating the conventional way. In other words, what made you woke to the game?what did work in getting commitment from guys like this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/20 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Why are there SO MANY LVM?i really appreciate this answer. i joined this sub with a certain level of confidence, hope, and awareness, yet i feel that it’s opened my eyes to negativity to the point of depression. i understand how understanding patterns, power dynamics, themes, etc. let you filter better, faster, and stronger...but my thinking is, how much does this serve a bright and positive outlook for the future? if we are lead to believe that the only options are garbage, the why should we believe in the possibility o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 02:19 AM |
| 9 | Why are there SO MANY LVM?how is that possible? human beings have variables in skin, hair, personality, health, intelligence...i could go on. yet how is possible that all men have formed the combination of low value-ness? i’m not saying that there aren’t a lot of LVM. i just don’t understand how believing that ALL men are unilaterally low value helps us in creating a fulfilling healthy relationship with an HVM one day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/20 02:14 AM |
| 8 | amazing advice!great advice. awful shirt. “save me a baby father” ?? 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 03:24 PM |
| 2 | My online dating experience in Israelhow was the dating culture there? what were the men like? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 05:23 AM |
| 2 | My online dating experience in Israeldo tell. what was it like living there? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 05:10 AM |
| 3 | Reading their feelings in the quarantine?so in this case a man venmoed me to get sushi for a facetime date with him..... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 04:47 AM |
| 6 | My online dating experience in Israelany other red flags from israeli men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Ending things with a HVMWhere qualities did the butterflies from the good guy come from ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 06:55 AM |
| 15 | A tip on finding HVMs: go for athletic guys who train for NON-AESTHETIC goals. Avoid men who are into bodybuilding or are extremely preoccupied with their looks.I don’t disagree with this, but one of the worst covert narcs I ever met was a guy that embodied most of these. Wasn’t a bodybuilder, trained for performance improvements over physical, excellent at his craft, taught me a lot, was cute and built but not “over the top,” strong work ethic, everyone in the gym loved him, but holy hell did he treat me like shit in private. The way he manipulated, lied, cheated, and generally made me feel like shit was awful and I would never wish that upon anyone. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:27 AM |
| 17 | Being passive aggressive is the keyDumb like a fox 🦊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 06:57 PM |
| 7 | Realized why I was so obsessed with him.What I struggle reconciling is understanding this power. I’ve encountered far too many situations where I’ve developed feelings for someone, only for them to be unrequited or I just end up the second choice and he dates someone else. I struggle to obtain men im attracted to, so when I hear “you can get what you want,” I literally can’t conceptualize how I can do that. My experience shows me that I’m unable to reach a mutual interest with these men (both HVM and LVM) and how can one logically bui… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 07:22 AM |
| 8 | Realized why I was so obsessed with him.It was so hard to think of him as a narcissist because he was a nice guy and did nice things in general. People applauded him for “having a big heart” and”being so kind and amazing.” I felt genuinely crazy for thinking he was a gas person and that instead i just wasn’t good enough. But when it came to dealing with me I always felt like shit, sometimes for reasons I couldn’t explain. Something as minor as a negative body language cue to him completely ignoring me at a party...anyways. He definite… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/20 07:10 AM |
| 4 | Can we create a 12 step program for fuckboy. Want to keep it a #FUCKBOYFREE2020SAME. LITERALLY SAME. I have to see him on an ongoing basis, so I’m not sure if it will pass. I’d sooner pass a kidney stone than have this pass with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 03:53 AM |
| 10 | Can we create a 12 step program for fuckboy. Want to keep it a #FUCKBOYFREE2020No I am not a guy...I’m deep into a pickmeisha relapse and turning to this sub in my darkest moments. Tonight has been pretty bad. So if you have advice about immunizing myself from fuckboys I’ll l take it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 03:52 AM |
| 13 | What FDS principle has helped you the most?What’s behavior mirroring...only invest as much as they invest in you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 08:54 PM |
| 47 | What FDS principle has helped you the most?Ohhh...this means not to send scrolls of emotions and diatribes to men? Just keep it simple and succinct? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/20 08:07 PM |
| 2 | “Women have the love life that they want.” ~ heard it somewhere.Enlighten me on getting this self esteem .... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 05:13 AM |
| 2 | "Men marry who they want, women marry who they can." ??why do you think no man will commit? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 01:27 AM |
| 5 | Great philosophy to level up ALL aspects of your lifeWhat are examples of a calling or purpose? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 06:08 PM |
| 7 | "Men marry who they want, women marry who they can." ??I’m with you...I just have a hard time figuring out how a woman can land “who she wants” if by definition she has to be passive and wait for them to make decisions | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 08:44 AM |
| 22 | "Men marry who they want, women marry who they can." ??Yes because it’s a sex market for women and a relationship market for men. Both are trying to meet in the middle. I agree about filtering | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 08:43 AM |
| 8 | "Men marry who they want, women marry who they can." ??I’m with you. I think there is someone to the fact that it’s literally the mans decision at every turn. Assuming you have an attractive prospect whose acting properly, a woman can hope he will pursue, commit, etc. but that is not within her control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 08:42 AM |
| 11 | "Men marry who they want, women marry who they can." ??I think the comment has to do with women’s ease with getting sex but not necessarily commitment. A woman could walk out tomorrow and get sex within an hour but it would take a man much more work. I think the opposite can be said for commitment...you can’t force a man you love to propose. I wasn’t aware men said this. From my experience men are in the drivers seat to make the first move. So if a guy you’re into doesn’t like you back you’re SOL and the connection dies on the spot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 08:41 AM |
| 2 | Fact: it's unnatural for men to not chase. The hypothalamus region associated with sexual pursuit is 2.5x larger in men than women.That's why the self improvement shouldn't be something you did for the sake of passing time I don't feel like I'm doing it for the sake of passing time...I quite literally don't know what else to do or what goals to achieve. My focus is on fitness and beauty so most of my free time is dedicated to exercising and doing various self care, appts, etc. It's what I value. But I've reached a "looksmax" point where I'm at my goal weight and beauty point and it's just maintenance at this point. Even whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 06:13 AM |
| 2 | Finding the balance between truth vs hope with menWhat does it feel like when they peace out like this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 05:49 AM |
| 2 | Finding the balance between truth vs hope with menthat's a good mentality to have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 05:25 AM |
| 2 | Fact: it's unnatural for men to not chase. The hypothalamus region associated with sexual pursuit is 2.5x larger in men than women.volunteering and giving back isn't something I considered. Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 05:14 AM |
| 4 | Finding the balance between truth vs hope with menThis is incredibly helpful advice. Thank you so much....you saved me from what could have been slow descent into a dark place. Reading this sub has made me more depressed, unfortunately, because men seem more of a battlefield than I originally anticipated and it makes me lose hope that there’s anything worthwhile to gain or look forward to. I have been the second choice girl for most of my life and have felt so unattractive because of it....objectively I’m attractive (through lots of work) and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Finding the balance between truth vs hope with menThank you. Advice on how to offset the loneliness of the emotional distance? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 09:17 AM |
| 3 | Finding the balance between truth vs hope with menwhat sort of things make up your awesome life? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 07:03 AM |
| 6 | Finding the balance between truth vs hope with mendid you ever get the attention of attractive guys? I am in your age range and am struggling with attracting people I'm actually into.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 07:03 AM |
| 3 | Finding the balance between truth vs hope with menI’m so sorry. What happened? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 05:44 AM |
| 1 | How to stop being bitter?What happens if your soul is already pretty hurt? How to recover? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 04:41 AM |
| 11 | Finding the balance between truth vs hope with menShit. Maybe this is my problem. I recently met someone I was very attracted to and it absolutely gutted me....just being in his presence was enough to topple me and his half interest knocked my self confidence to the floor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 04:08 AM |
| 5 | Finding the balance between truth vs hope with menDo you really think that’s what puts women in the “placeholder” position? Or do you think it’s possible she was bound to be there anyway? (Not the guy’s physical type...personality type...culture...etc.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 04:03 AM |
| 3 | "I was blindsided!!!"how do you become mentally stronger? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 01:18 AM |
| 38 | Fact: it's unnatural for men to not chase. The hypothalamus region associated with sexual pursuit is 2.5x larger in men than women.how do you reconcile every guy being "not that into you"....what if no one you're remotely interested in pursues you? are you not sending the right signals? are we just supposed to sideline ourselves until someone chooses us? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 01:01 AM |
| 1 | Do you ever wonder if it would have worked out if you weren’t a pickmeisha?The second one I’ve read, yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 11:06 PM |
| 4 | Do you ever wonder if it would have worked out if you weren’t a pickmeisha?at a basic level, yes. He's taking her out in public, introducing her to his circle, shutting out other options, etc. This doesn't mean they are "perfect" but it's far and above how he treated me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Do you ever wonder if it would have worked out if you weren’t a pickmeisha?I keep getting into negative thoughts spirals that I was with HVM that I let take advantage of me because I had poor boundaries, and if I had better boundaries it wouldn’t have happened. Not sure how to break out of that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 08:18 AM |
| 4 | Do you ever wonder if it would have worked out if you weren’t a pickmeisha?What would you change? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 04:48 AM |
| 3 | Do you ever wonder if it would have worked out if you weren’t a pickmeisha?How/when do you know it’s worth it? I feel like I’m in the trenches for no reason | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 04:48 AM |
| 18 | Do you ever wonder if it would have worked out if you weren’t a pickmeisha?Yes but how do you cope with seeing him give the best parts of himself to someone else and treating her objectively well? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 04:43 AM |
| 10 | You ever met ONE guy you lowered your standards for? Why?Currently in the same situation. How did it destroy you? How did you get over it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 12:57 AM |
| 46 | They ALWAYS come backBut in what capacity though? I’m not sure if “they always come back” is said as a brag or motivation or what. In my case, they always come back but only because I’ve said yes to them before. And it’s usually when they are lonely, bored, etc. Men are like depression era children in that they don’t let go of the leftovers (past flings) and they boomerang back when it suits them. This usually is more destructive to me than if they just stayed away.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 05:54 PM |
| 1 | When a guy returns. What’s the move?thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 02:13 AM |
| 3 | When a guy returns. What’s the move?this is good advice. he can probably sense that my willpower can break at any moment....even though I've been doing amazing in 2020 so far. I agree that it's just an ego boost. Ugh...it hurts. it helps knowing the mindset/what to say going into this. What are your thoughts on what to do if he sends a heartfelt message down the line? (he's done this before...again I don't want to fall into the trap) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 02:11 AM |
| 5 | When a guy returns. What’s the move?exactly!!!!! I'm so proud of myself for not having sex and for not getting sucked in further than I could. it's sooooooooo hard still because my body craves him so much, but I know logically it can't work out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 02:08 AM |
| 2 | When a guy returns. What’s the move?how did you react to that? what was the guy specifically doing? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 02:07 AM |
| 4 | When a guy returns. What’s the move?“Glide by” Love this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 07:08 PM |
| 5 | When a guy returns. What’s the move?yeah, I didn't respond. That's why I went no contact. I just get the vibe he's coming back now that I've moved on and I want to know how to handle the in-person questions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/20 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Younger me earned the "Maybe he's just not that into you" BadgeThanks for the info. I’ll check it out. Does anything jump out to you as “narcisistic” about my guy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 11:30 PM |
| 12 | I just received a text from someone who destroyed my heart 4 months ago.Men are like depression era children when it comes to throwing out their romantic “leftovers” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 10:59 PM |
| 1 | Worried that medication will make me overweightWhat anti deprepresent is it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 09:25 PM |
| 2 | Younger me earned the "Maybe he's just not that into you" BadgeI’m not seeing love bombing really...just going out on dates, spending quality time, etc. Taking actions and time that communicates that he values her. Cutting off other girls, etc. nothing extreme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 12:51 AM |
| 5 | Younger me earned the "Maybe he's just not that into you" BadgeBut that’s exactly it. I can see my pick be mistakes...but intuitively I feel that he actually is treating this other girl like an HVM and that I brought out the LVM treatment. Idk how not to blame myself so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 11:03 PM |
| 14 | Younger me earned the "Maybe he's just not that into you" BadgeAt this point, it seems like my old headache is her new heartbeat. I cringe so hard at the night and day difference and blame myself for not being good enough. It’s hard to break out of that loop that I will find a way to ruin it with a guy because he clearly is capable of showing up...when she’s young enough, hot enough, smart enough, etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 10:46 PM |
| 22 | Younger me earned the "Maybe he's just not that into you" BadgeHow do you make sense of this? Currently happening to me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 08:52 PM |
| 1 | What do you use for birth control?Interesting. How do you check with Basel body? | /r/RedPillWives | 13/07/19 04:58 PM |
| 1 | How does it feel to fall in love?Damn! It sounds like you really know yourself and what you want. Congrats girl 🔥 | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/18 06:02 AM |
| 1 | How does it feel to fall in love?Well written. Do you think most people experience this? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/18 05:59 PM |
| 1 | A Bit Of Tarot: Fun And WisdomVery interesting. I appreciate the depth and insight. Your summaries are general enough to make me think of a wide variety of situations yet specific enough to focus on major ones if need me . I'm curious if your senses/intuition -are different online vs in person? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/17 07:16 AM |
| 1 | A Bit Of Tarot: Fun And WisdomThat makes sense. In that case, would you mind if I asked another question? Can you give me insight into the temptations I am experiencing? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/17 07:02 AM |
| 1 | A Bit Of Tarot: Fun And WisdomThat definitely adds an interesting layer to this dynamic! I went in for a reading. Very very interesting. Initially I was very closed off and a little hesitant about sharing so much information. But it all gave me something good to think about! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/17 06:48 AM |
| 1 | A Bit Of Tarot: Fun And WisdomWow this is great! Thanks for doing both questions too. I did another tarot ready recently and kept getting the devil card...seems like dwelling is a common theme here ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/17 06:31 AM |
| 1 | A Bit Of Tarot: Fun And WisdomThis is so exciting! Thank you for offering your wisdom :) here are my questions... What is influencing me most right now? What talent do I have that I need to use more? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/17 01:33 AM |
| 1 | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?yeah you're right. and I think I struggle with articulating myself. It wasn't until I stumbled on this sub and started reading the sidebar that I figured out how to define exactly what I felt was missing from my relationship and how I can (or cannot) improve it and what I should vet for in the future. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/17 03:00 AM |
| 1 | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?I LOLed at this :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/17 02:46 AM |
| 2 | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?thank you | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/17 02:45 AM |
| 3 | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?People who watch a lot of TV and play with their phones are "bored". This is because they fail to participate in productive activities. I am never bored because there is too much to do. There is always something that needs to be done around the house and there is always something I can do that is active and healthy. Too many places to go, too many people to see, and way too many things to learn and experience. Get a boyfriend who stimulates your brain instead of making your eyes roll. This is ex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/07/17 02:43 AM |
| 1 | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?I agree with this. But I'm curious, what specifically would you consider exceptional? other than being exceptional good looking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/17 06:15 AM |
| – | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?Did you give him specific example of what leadership/being a leader would look like in your relationship? For example, managing money, deferring to him when planning events, etc. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/17 06:06 AM |
| 2 | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?This is good advice. Thank you | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/17 06:05 AM |
| – | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?Good to know. I've shown him RPW and RP and it doesn't interest him and he doesn't really seem to buy into it or believe in it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/17 06:05 AM |
| 3 | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?This is good advice. I can't expect him to read my mind. Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/17 06:04 AM |
| – | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?You're right. By themselves, the scrolling or TV watching aren't a big deal, it's more that they are a symptom of a larger theme, which is complacency and stagnation. As far as cooking and cleaning, I do enjoy these activities. It's more the mindset/demeanor of being submissive that I have trouble with when dating a beta. It's almost as if the polarities come into play and someone has to be the leader, which usually ends up being me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/07/17 06:03 AM |
| 2 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?You nailed it with smart guys watching minuscule reactions and backing away. I think I have a sense of awkwardness about me that tends to turn guys away :( | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/17 05:43 AM |
| 1 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?For reference here is a fitness post with my before/after photo of losing weight. I have improved even more since this. https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/comments/464skk/3_month_progress_cutting_out_sugar/ | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/17 10:13 PM |
| 1 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?You're right that perhaps it's my looks that guys are still evaluating or unsure of. But I wouldn't say it's because I'm overweight or heavy at all. By all standards and measurements I'm very fit and athletic with an hourglass shape. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/17 10:11 PM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?It's only my assumption since he is on tinder and constantly talking to girls in the gym. But I really don't know for sure his personal life outside of it. Are you suggesting to its probably best to pass on this one? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 04:16 PM |
| 1 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?25 | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 07:08 AM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?Good point. Does it matter that he seems like a "hot commodity" at all? He seems like a very sociable person that gets a lot of attention and interest from women | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 06:32 AM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?You could say I'm somewhat competitive, but I also develop really strong attractions and don't know what to do with myself. Often I find that I "chase" the non-starter, dead-in-the-water relationship like I'm in high-speed chase. And this means scheming and obsessing and thinking up strange ways to maintain contact, to orchestrate some kind of chance meeting so I could “make him like me." So yes, there's definitely a trend where I am 'going' for guys. Maybe I do all of this because their feeling… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 03:02 AM |
| 2 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?Good point | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 02:54 AM |
| 1 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?In the coworker or gym case, are there other methods for better expressing my interest in a passive way in case he is interested? Or do the general rules still apply..that if he's not pursuing he's not interested? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 02:54 AM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?What are your recommendations for being flirty if I am his coworker or customer? | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 02:53 AM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?Does it matter what these reasons are that a guy isn't interested/making a move? I find constructive criticism very helpful and often read on TRP the specific reasons a guy doesn't approach (her boobs were kind of saggy...she came off too masculine and abrasive). They seem oddly specific, and if perhaps there's a way to get feedback rather instead of wondering if I'm doing something wrong, or at least can narrow down a reason. It would give me confidence in my next interaction with a man. Otherw… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 02:43 AM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?I really like the line of thinking in this saying. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/06/17 02:37 AM |
| 1 | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?You're right. and I didn't intend to come off that a guy was "below" me...simply that I zeroed in on him because there was some aspect about him that seemed like he wouldn't reject me and that I had a chance. If that makes sense. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 10:35 PM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?I think so? I find that I'm either totally cold/distant or awkward/forced flirtatious that it's usually better that I don't try. Although if they lead with some sort of flirtation it's easier for me to follow suit. It's just hard for me to relax | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 10:26 PM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?This makes a lot of sense. Essentially "lay the tracks" to being approachable, see what arrives, and work with that. Thank you for your advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 10:11 PM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?With most of these guys there's usually something I like about them, some more than others. Currently theres 1 particular guy that has really caught my eye (he seems in my league but his personality may make him slightly higher), but he has yet to seriously escalate. With the Hunter, I wouldn't say that I'm necessarily chasing him, it's more that he will text me, I will respond in a timely manner, and he won't reply. He throws me these "kernels" lets call them, and I take it and run with it, onl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 10:07 PM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?And this is afraid how I come off. I'm pretty stone-cold and withholding at first (without trying to be) because I'm nervous/shy. Almost every friend I've had has said they thought I didn't like them at first. I think this has stopped a lot of men from approaching although maybe it's just my appearance, not sure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 10:01 PM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?I see what you're saying here. But I'm a little confused about how I can appear approachable/interesting/etc. or in other words "lay the track" for guys to take the initiative to pursue me. I seem to get caught in the infinite loop as an "orbiter" wondering if I'm doing the right thing, saying the right thing, and sit around waiting patiently for him to take initiative. And it usually doesn't happen, at least not in the way I expect. (for example...there's a friendly guy at my gym that keeps say… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 09:54 PM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?I wouldn't say shy as much as being hesitant and "watered down" around people I find attractive initially. It takes me a LONG time to open up. Once I've reached this point I'm comfortable showcasing who I am. What do you mean by saying "stupid shit"? do you mean you showed who you really were instead of being shy? Do you find that this odd behavior turns guys off? (assuming it's congruent to who you are and not just for show) When you say men will scope out there options before going on the hunt… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 09:44 PM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?That's a good point that it's probably useless to eliminate guys based on my pre-conceived assumptions (which are probably wrong anyways). It's really a self-protection mechanism...deep down I'm so terrified of rejection and really falling for the guy that I'd rather play it safe than truly put myself out there. If I may ask, how did you meet your current LTR and how did it progress for you? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 09:17 PM |
| – | How to define your "league" and handle rejection from guys in (or below) it?Thank you for your suggestions. For your #1- I wouldn't say I'm being picky as much as I'm looking for guys who I subconsciously think I have a chance with wont be rejected by. The last guy I came to the conclusion to peruse because I noticed all of his exs were slightly overweight so I figured I had a better chance with him. For #2- your right that I'm not very approachable looking, tend to be slightly awkward sometimes and generally seem like I'm lost in my own world. Perhaps it has something … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/17 06:02 AM |
| – | ADVICE: How to handle RedPill humor/banter?Yes. It wasn't exactly as written on the blog but nearly the same. Which is what lead me to believe he was RP | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/17 08:18 AM |
| – | ADVICE: How to handle RedPill humor/banter?Looks I'd say 6-7/10 but personality/confidence brings him up to a 8/10. He's 5'9, cute, and fit. He wouldn't stand out in a crowd but he carries himself very confidently (has a strong walk/presence). I'd say he's shadily good looking but could easily be overlooked if you’re not paying attention. Basically the type of person if you get to know/stare at longer you start thinking "hmm, you're hotter than I thought you were." This is the close, slightly better looking doppelgänger https://goo.gl/im… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/05/17 01:59 AM |
| – | ADVICE: How to handle RedPill humor/banter?You're right, looking at it logically it's not the smartest long term strategy. It's hard because while I try to deny it, I AM drawn in by witty banter and harmless negging especially when it comes from a place of solid confidence. It shows me that the guy can function on his own and worries about losing me. On top of that, I'm not used to having men (especially these types of men) approach me or show interest, so I haven't developed strong boundaries or a solid baseline which to work off from. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 11:16 PM |
| – | ADVICE: How to handle RedPill humor/banter?I see. So in practical terms this could look like subtle laughter and a smile or a witty but friendly spar? Point being that you aren't thrown off course by the comment | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 06:05 AM |
| – | ADVICE: How to handle RedPill humor/banter?Awesome tips, thanks! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 01:22 AM |
| – | ADVICE: How to handle RedPill humor/banter?Yeah that makes total sense! And definitely the "sweet spot" between feminine and funny. Usually its not too too hard for me, but when I'm around someone I really like it's hard not to freeze up and be so black and white (either crickets or insults). Can you explain a little more what amused mastery is? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 01:20 AM |
| – | ADVICE: How to handle RedPill humor/banter?Amazing responses! I'll have to keep these in mind next time I'm faced with a neg. I do get really nervous and freeze up around him so it's good to have a general idea of what to say. Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 01:17 AM |
| – | ADVICE: How to handle RedPill humor/banter?In that case I mean 7-7.5/10 | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 01:14 AM |
| – | ADVICE: How to handle RedPill humor/banter?This is good insight. Happy to know my responses are reasonable! I'm definitely attracted and drawn to this guy due to his alpha qualities, but it sounds like I'm not vetting hard enough since he may be a player/only looking for a hookup/not interested? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/17 12:06 AM |
| 1 | Would anyone be interested in joining an accountability buddy system via groupme?Yes! | /r/RedPillWives | 30/04/17 07:27 AM |
| – | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?Interesting that it can work in reverse though (a strong man can lead an unfeminine woman) as one user pointed out. This helps a lot to know this. Thank you | /r/RedPillWomen | |
| – | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?I must have a hard time articulating this. From past experience, it also seems like most of these conversations end up at conclusion of "well this is just how I am" (him). | /r/RedPillWomen | |
| – | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?Yes you're right. Perfection is far from reality and I would assume also very boring if you were to ever come across it. I appreciate learning and growing with someone (imperfections and all) and I think that this can be fostered by having a curious mind and the adventurous spirit of doing and seeking rich and meaningful experiences. It makes sense that every RPW should vet for someone that they can see themselves with long term, and for me that's someone that is as excited to learn and grow wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | |
| – | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?So if someone needs less activity to get the same sensation as you do from life, that's not okay? Not at all. In fact that's exactly what it is...just "ok." For example, instead of watching TV, something that's more growth oriented like reading a book can bring infinitely more conversation topics and intellectual discussions to the relationship and be far more beneficial yet equally as relaxing. That's not to say it's not ok to watch tv every in awhile, but perhaps swapping in some of that TV ti… | /r/RedPillWomen | |
| – | How to bring out the Alpha in a Beta man?It's very attractive to me for someone to want more from life than just watching TV or being on their phone the majority of time I am around them. I am someone that constantly seeks self improvement and growth and wants the same in a partner for the fire to stay alive. You're right that scrolling or Tv watching aren't necessarily bad. I feel like it may come down to different personality characteristics we are each attracted to/mesh best with. | /r/RedPillWomen |
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