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Good stuff! Yea IMO all oneitis is ego driven. It is this idea that happiness/satisfaction comes from outside of oneself. An abundance mentality suggests happiness comes from within and that is attractive to women since they would see it manifest through your vibe. One thing that helps me is just talking to everyone, not just women. Being more social makes it easier for me in general. I focus more on how I can brighten the person's day/moments with my words (even if its just breaking awkward sil…
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:54 PM
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I can concur! Women will assume you are not dating or not in a relationship unless it is clearly defined. It is really weird but I had to do that. Of course there are less direct ways to make it clear!
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:30 PM
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I find this is largely true in Seoul, gyeonggido, and Busan. But outside of these areas they are much more of a novelty.
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:17 PM
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Lol in Korea, if you meet a woman's parents it generally means you are getting ready for marriage. So she would not want to introduce her parents!
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:11 PM
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I lived in China for 6 months and I noticed location makes a difference. Imo, women in the north east tend to look prettier than in Beijing. This is a bit off topic but when I visited Taiwan, I noticed they dress better than in China.
/r/seduction27/07/12 03:06 PM
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Unfortunately I can't recall any other sites at the moment, but this meetup may interest you: http://www.meetup.com/Languagecast/ As you can tell, meetup.com is largely for English speakers, so chances are, if you attend meetup groups, you'll meet Koreans who speak English relatively well. When the fall semester begins, be sure to also attend activities fairs. BTW, You may hear of something Koreans refer to as 'Nite'. This is not a nightclub, it is a 'booking club', where a bunch of Korean guys …
/r/seduction27/07/12 02:05 PM
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As a Korean American who lived and worked in Korea for nearly 7 years, here are some things to consider, and feel free to disagree as it may or may not apply to you: 1) It is not very common for Korean women to actively seek out foreigners to date as others already mentioned, but of course there are many foreigners dating Korean women. (I'm using the term foreigner from Korean's point of view). It's because racial purity is VERY important in Korea. If they do date non-Koreans, it would probably …
/r/seduction27/07/12 05:16 AM
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What you describe sounds EXACTLY like new entrepreneurs who decide to go out on their own. It triggers tremendous fear, anxiety, etc. This is bound to happen because you are going beyond what is familiar, and that is psychologically terrifying at least at first. But as you get through it, you will discover you are changing even if it's just one step at a time. While this video doesn't address seduction specifically, the principles apply in seduction just as equally: http://www.youtube.com/watch?…
/r/seduction30/06/12 05:21 AM
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I'm inclined to agree with the OP. A lot of women I've seen are far more competitive than us guys :) They will often compare themselves with each other based on their looks, but how often do us guys care about how others guys look? lol We're often so focused on women that we almost forget about other guys unless they get in our way!
/r/seduction29/06/12 05:42 AM
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Maybe it's your attitude? Maybe you're giving off a bad vibe? Maybe you're not being playful enough? Maybe the girls had their own problems and you happened to approach them? (i.e. maybe they aren't the right ones for you) Maybe they just aren't really interested right now? Maybe this is supposed to happen to see how committed you really are to succeed? There is probably no one right answer, so keep on going :)
/r/seduction28/06/12 03:31 PM
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Get over the jealousy. Jealousy is really a lack of self-love. It is a desire to seek happiness from outside of you. In order to get over it, either drop the jealousy or start appreciating/loving yourself. Either one will give you greater happiness. Once you find the happiness that is already inside of you, you'll find it won't matter if she's sleeping with another guy. It literally won't bother you if you genuinely love yourself. This video may help to clear your jealousy: http://www.youtube.co…
/r/seduction28/06/12 03:27 PM
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Wow, good stuff! I'm gonna try something like it, thanks for sharing!
/r/seduction28/06/12 02:54 PM
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Thanks for sharing this! I like many other men had issues with sexuality as if 'sex before marriage is wrong'. Religious conditioning/propaganda was certainly a major part of it, and reading what you shared is helping me undo whatever is left of it. However, there are many religious people who would look at what you shared as say, "See, look how evil the world is!" lol So I know many hardcore religious people won't be open to the obvious: Sex is good, otherwise we wouldn't exist. What you shared…
/r/seduction26/06/12 05:25 PM
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hey everyone, in the video above, I explained how I got over Oneitis two times. Here's the TLDR version: Let her go, and meet other women. It may seem 'too simple' but in order to fully understand how to do it and why watch the above video. BTW, the end result is that once the Oneitis disappeared, I was able to have fun with the girls that I was once so attached too.
/r/seduction23/06/12 12:10 AM
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as promised, here's the video I made on Oneitis. Hope it helps: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysj908Lke7M
/r/seduction23/06/12 12:07 AM
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Just wanted to add: Be sure you take the lead without trying to control her. Think of it like dancing: You take the lead and allow her to follow without trying to control.
/r/seduction23/06/12 12:02 AM
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Even though a lot of girls put up an intimidating look when you walk by them, by simply saying hello or greeting them with a smile, you will see them smile at you back, and starting a conversation is very easy. Smiles are contagious fellas. Right on! One thing for sure, most people will not refuse a smile. Because to do that would be flat out rude, and in my experience the vast majority of people aren't rude. Can't go wrong with a genuine smile! :)
/r/seduction22/06/12 11:11 PM
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Yes absolutely! And I suspect you'll have a much easier time at conventions than in bars. Obviously, you and all the women you see there will have things in common right off the bat. If you're not sure what to say, just comment on their cosplay and start bantering :)
/r/seduction22/06/12 09:43 PM
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I shared a video on how to deal with rejection (as in the feeling of rejection) here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/verg6/how_to_deal_with_rejection/ It's clear to me that your mindset also requires a major change in order for you to naturally handle rejection. I recommend applying the tips explained here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/vfmcu/are_there_some_people_who_just_arent_cut_out_for/c546zpt Hope this helps!
/r/seduction22/06/12 09:38 PM
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I hate to break it to you but it's best to let go of them. If you're wanting to be intimate, it shows some level of neediness and that is a HUGE turn off. Additionally, perhaps it's not so much your problem, but their problem. They probably have their own issues with being too close to a guy. Perhaps they have a subconscious fear of some sort and so they may push you away. So maybe it's got nothing to do with you personally. Also, I don't know if this is true, and I mean no disrespect to any arm…
/r/seduction22/06/12 09:29 PM
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My ex once told me that she prefers pretty or beautiful over cute. So maybe the word 'cute' is not a good idea. However, every woman is different and maybe you just happened to meet a woman who finds that word distasteful. Just move on :)
/r/seduction22/06/12 09:15 PM
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I'm glad it was helpful :)
/r/seduction22/06/12 09:08 PM
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I've always seen doing something for the sole purpose of getting laid a miserable, base, and subhuman thing to do. Some questions to consider: What if you could learn tons about seduction and use it to merely meet lots of women. Does learning seduction mean you have to get laid all the time? Do you see the seduction is mostly about improving yourself and not just getting laid? What if getting laid is just the natural byproduct of having improved yourself? Would you be willing to at least learn s…
/r/seduction22/06/12 09:06 PM
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I don't know if this is 'right', but here's something to consider (i.e. just see if it works for you): Generally, men like to be the ones who 'hunt', and women like to be 'chased'. Men literally get a thrill out of it, so as others have said, you must be the man and initiate. Since you want to seduce her, it is critical that you take on that masculine energy of being dominant and taking the lead as many others have said. I'm guessing now you understand what a lot of us guys go through. Quite a d…
/r/seduction22/06/12 08:38 PM
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If you think about it, books don't impress women, it is a man that does (unless they are lesbian). Quite often many guys think they can impress a woman by giving her gifts, chocolate, or whatever, but most of the time they may be supplicating (i.e. using gifts to try to win her, aka neediness). I knew a guy who bought my cousin a $1500 laptop to try to impress her! That totally didn't go well! What women want are men with a strong masculine presence, and that has a lot do with his self-worth, se…
/r/seduction22/06/12 08:17 PM
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If you're still feeling 'dead without her', then follow along with the video I shared here: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ulp08/use_this_technique_to_reduce_approach_anxiety/ It will help you reduce the pain or perhaps even eliminate in altogether. I don't know how well it will work as each person is different. Additionally, I created a video on how I dealt with One-itis but haven't uploaded it yet. (I used to have a serious case of it twice) I'll be sure to link it here once it's u…
/r/seduction22/06/12 08:07 PM
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This largely has to do with your perception of yourself, not your age, believe it or not. Something to consider: What does it mean to you if women your age don't give you a chance because you're 'too young'? In other words, what do you FEEL? Is it frustration, a sense of helplessness? Unworthy? Not good enough? Be sure to identify this. Notice where you physically feel it as a tangible sensation (forget about trying to rationalize it). My guess is you probably feel it in your heart, or stomach o…
/r/seduction22/06/12 07:35 PM
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I'm sensitive, shy, and weak, and therefore, the last possible choice of any woman. Believe it or not, what you described is an affirmation! As long as you keep thinking or saying that, your mind will keep you stuck in it! In order to make this mental shift, you must repeat the positive over and over until your mind eventually gets it. I used to think affirmations didn't work or that they are absolute crap, but after really applying them, I noticed they did work. Consider what Lady Gaga once sai…
/r/seduction22/06/12 07:13 PM
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This is a video I made on how I deal with rejection. I explain two ways: 1) Clear the feelings of rejection (using a particular technique which some of you experienced) 2) Affirmations Both of these worked well for me, though sometimes they require persistence. I hope this is helpful :)
/r/seduction22/06/12 12:14 AM
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What is it that you ultimately want? A relationship? Or as TofuTofu said, "enjoy a life of many noncommited relationship"? Perhaps it is the latter. But if it is a woman that you want, then what kind of experience are you looking to have? I think gaining clarity will help you tremendously.
/r/seduction06/06/12 08:14 PM
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yea if you think about it, every girl (and guy) was once a drooling, crying, pooping baby. In other words, we are all the same, yet some guys often buy into this idea that they are somehow "less than" a particular woman. This means it's just about perception.
/r/seduction06/06/12 08:07 PM
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This reminded me of this idea - If the 'I am' statements feel like a lie, just take them out and turn them into a word list, and then read the words like in this list of positive adjectives: Adaptable adorable agreeable alert alluring ambitious amused boundless brave bright calm capable charming cheerful coherent comfortable confident cooperative courageous credible cultured dashing dazzling debonair decisive decorous delightful detailed determined diligent discreet dynamic eager efficient elate…
/r/seduction06/06/12 03:20 PM
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This is awesome! I've done something similar (i.e. writing affirmations 15 times) and I got results, so I know affirmations work. I'm going to apply this!
/r/seduction06/06/12 02:19 PM
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Sure, the breathing technique is from huna. While I only have a basic knowledge of huna, I was surprised to see how well just the breathing technique works. The awareness exercise/meditation is based on several different disciplines that I looked into. I noticed that if you focus attention on space, you will feel much better in general. It also makes it easier to let go of stuff. Open Focus Brain talks about this in greater depth. Huna also has a similar technique called Hakalau which is about s…
/r/seduction05/06/12 09:19 PM
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You can do it just before you walk into a bar or in the bathroom where no one will care. :)
/r/seduction05/06/12 07:00 PM
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haha don't worry, I basically did an awareness exercise that puts you in a much more calmer state. This is a useful technique to use whenever you go through any kind of stress, including approach anxiety. It can also work with fear of rejection. So basically notice the emotion you want to change, use the technique and then compare how you feel afterwards.
/r/seduction05/06/12 06:58 PM
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lol yep :) Just the breathing technique can center you and will put you in a much more calmer state. When you act from this state, you'll notice things flow much better. Athletes call this being in the zone where there is no internal dialogue (i.e. 'am I doing this right?' "I hope I don't miss that shot"). This could work well before approaching women.
/r/seduction05/06/12 06:42 PM
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Go to coffee shops, malls, bookstores, bars, etc. If you're in college, it shouldn't be too hard. Join meetup.com and join a group that interests you and meet women who happen to be in the same group. There are plenty of places to meet women. Honestly, you make it sound like women are somehow 'out of this world' like they are aliens or something, or as if they are somehow higher class, which is ridiculous. They were once crying, pooping babies. The real issue I see is that you are devaluing your…
/r/seduction05/06/12 05:33 PM
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LOL The breathing technique is actually Hawaiian but "Fucking Japanese mind tricks" sounds funny as hell! ;)
/r/seduction05/06/12 02:39 PM
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What are you really afraid of? Think about it for a moment. What do you have to lose by dating? The fact that she likes you is a very good sign. It means she sees something of value in you. So instead of trying to please her, focus on how you can bless her (i.e. make her smile and allow her to have a fun time with you). In other words, you must see yourself as someone valuable, so focus on how you can make her have a good time without being needy. So forget about trying to get something and focu…
/r/seduction05/06/12 06:23 AM
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Hey guys, I created the above video to address any issue that may be bothering you. Use it before going out. Basically, think of approaching and notice the feelings inside of you. Then follow along and notice how you feel 10 minutes later. It may help you feel more comfortable. Hope it helps!
/r/seduction05/06/12 06:13 AM
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