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If I had to choose college loans or a dad, the choise is pretty obvious.
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/18 11:14 AM
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You dont sound ready to leave. Have you tried to fix your marriage? You were happy once, you could be again. Therapist or minister or something. She isn't happy also so there is that. Talk to a lawyer to avoid mistakes but if you save your marriage it could be better for another 20 years.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/18 11:08 AM
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Maybe? But I doubt it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/18 01:08 PM
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Lol, they are completely broke there is no cash!
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/18 01:06 PM
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Good luck with the court case. Hope you had a good birthday.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/18 01:04 PM
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He lost it in the separation, then she lost it to the grass and fire.
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/18 02:45 AM
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Good luck man.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/18 10:58 AM
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I think there are more female family practise lawyers. Maybe I am wrong though.
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/18 03:50 AM
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Please keep comments on topic, and not making generalizations. If you want to take the red pill do it on your time.
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/18 12:19 PM
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You may have won the battle but the war is not over. Hope for the best plan for the worst. Keep at it and get this thing done. Move on and start a new life without her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/18 10:59 AM
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Kids say the darndest things. I would bet that they have said the same things about you, and if they havent they will. Especially when they get older. I know my kids say things. Your right about the truck. Get your stuff in order and file. Lets get those kids in a safer place. She should try to get the kids safer also.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/18 01:05 PM
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You are smart enough to know what needs to be done (lawyer and probably file soon.)
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/18 08:52 PM
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delete
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/18 03:46 PM
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Keep it up. Your kids deserve a dad. Its hard as hell, but its geta better after a while maybe months maybe.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/18 03:36 PM
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Definitely call a lawyer, I have no idea what kind. Maybe a Japanese lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/18 11:37 AM
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Your doing well. Keep it up. When you get angry and frustrated come back here. Don't let her or the kids know your feeling as much as possible. We can relate to where you have been.
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/18 11:31 AM
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My ex racked up a couple hundred in overdraft fees. Next day the account was closed (we closed it.)
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/18 09:50 PM
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I agree with the priorities. Also, my ex is engaged to be married, and they are living together, so I think I am at least going at a slower pace than her.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/18 06:17 PM
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I hear you, but when he says punish me, he is literally asking for it. Also, he is with his mom half the time so 2 weeks is really 1 week, and its just tv & ipad. He still has everything else. A whole house of toys.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/18 12:47 PM
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It wasn't about eating it was about tasting. And listening.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/18 07:36 AM
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It sucks. Wish you the best. Try to stay busy doing things you like.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 01:16 PM
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You are not broken. You are still a dad. You are still a man. The people you watching are putting on a show. You could do this, but they are lying. I feel like a failure at least once a day. I haven't worked out in 2 weeks, but I have confidence in some things. I am sure you are great at many things. Staying married to the women wasnt one of them and thats just fine. Edit: inserted watching. (My bad.)
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 03:19 AM
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Plan for the worst hope for the best. Mediation can be GREAT! But know your options what are deal breakers and what is ok to negotiate, and what you would expect if you paid 50k in legal fees. Hold off on dating anyone potentially serious for a bit. You have been giving since Clinton was in the white house. Time to think long and hard about what kind of relationship you want and what you need. Maybe you work best in that kind of relationship maybe you want to be taken care of maybe something in …
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/18 03:12 AM
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I agree it is over. I can't answer your question about NV. Sorry. I would move on, talk to a lawyer. Get your things in order and file.
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/18 11:08 AM
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One more thing. Talk to the priest/whatever. Tell them your miserable, go through counselling. It may make the next year less miserable if the ex makes some changes. Plus she will like that you participating in that part of her life.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/18 03:25 PM
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Nothings impossible, but honestly, you want an joint everything you should leverage what you can and right now waiting a year would be good. Do what you can to make it through the year. Just don't get her pregnant again! Thats the worst case scenario. My advise have a great network of friends. Hang out and do non-destructive (no drugs and limited booze) activities. Involve the kid as much as possible. Encourage pumping. And build a strong bond with your kid. Talk to a lawyer now! I had my lawyer…
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/18 03:22 PM
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Honestly, if you wait until the kiddo is weened and push for 50-50 you wpuld probably have a very good chance at it. And she would pay you child support
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/18 02:58 PM
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Good choice. Insert Iowa joke here. (MN native!)
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/18 01:15 PM
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To answer your question I didn't do this but briefly considered it. I setted amicably out of court but mostly because she wanted it. I advise trying for this as it is quick and not too expensive for lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/18 01:42 AM
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I considered this, but considering the tax penalty I think it would be dangerous if it came up in court and less rewarding than it could be.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/18 01:40 AM
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I disagree that there is no amicable dovorce with unstable women. My ex is rather but because she wanted the divorce it was quife amicable. Dispite our differences, I agree that preparing for a fight. If she is truly suicidal, call the cops. There is a record of it there. Keep track of time with the kids. Money she spends on booze or drugs. Talk to your lawyer about other things to keep track of. Only share information with the lawyer. Don't tell anyone anything negative about your ex. Try for a…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/18 04:08 AM
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What is your custody agreement? If you have 50/50 custody you should have half the expenses. If she has 100% custody she has 100%. (I am not a lawyer, just what I have seen)
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/18 10:58 AM
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That was nearly what my lawyer told me a year before my divorce. All good advice. In the States status quo is a big deal. I would assume it is in Canada too. If you want 50/50 make sure you are with the kids at least 50% of the time.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/18 10:55 AM
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Military pensions sound complicated. You dont have it yet so you may be in luck. Good luck getting out of California. That will be a tough one, it may be better to try and stay there. CA is a big place though. My lawyer recommended we keep pur own student loans. No splitting. But rules cpuld be different in CA. Regardless get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/18 11:57 AM
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Your obviously pissed and rightfully so, but in no shape to make decisions. Breath go for a run, sleep on it. Your paperwork is filed, let the courts sign it then sue her if she doesn't follow. It will work out. She will realize that you are not her toy, and your life will improve.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/18 03:30 AM
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Agreed, easier said then done.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/18 08:35 PM
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One of my coworkers mentioned the same thing, I wish she would have just said so, instead of this friendly notification of things I dont care about. I have no problem watching my kids and being flexible with custody. It goes with parenting...
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/18 08:34 PM
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Some more details. We have been divorced for 7 months. Seperated for 1 year. We have 2 kids (so ghosting isn't an option.) Any advice?
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/18 03:17 PM
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It sounds like you aren't ready for a divorce. I would stay in it as long as possible. Don't assume they want a divorce because you have problems, you are human after all. Keep working on your problems they will help you in the long run with or without your partner.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/18 01:22 PM
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I make 100k a year. My exs lawyer advised her not to even try for alimony. She had a full time job at 40k a year. Talk to a lawyer ask them whats normal in this, what you could expect from a court. Try for 50% custody. We signed without going to court and we are both happy not to be together 6 months after divorce. Life moves on it will get better. Try for mediation if possible.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/18 01:16 PM
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I am about a year out from where you are at now. Talk to a lawyer first. Keep everyone amicable, and try for a agreeable terms through mediation. It is possible to have a divorce end where everyone moves on without too much trouble. Your lawyer should know a mediator.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/18 01:09 PM
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