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jbird669/r/ExRedPill17/07/17 07:59 PM
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I agree with having an abundance mindset. In OPs case, how can he do that in this situation?
/r/askMRP17/01/23 03:08 PM
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I'm willing to bet a lot, but dry spells are just as common in relationships and that's worse because you shouldn't have them whilst partnered.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:29 PM
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Yes indeed. Getting as much of this as I can.
/r/TheRedPill23/04/21 02:35 PM
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I come to beat em Defeat em and mistreat em, so what if that I'm cheating Now everybody wanna sound grimey (yeah I know)
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/04/21 01:42 PM
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Boomers are why we are in this mess. Let's hope the younger generation can help turn it around.
/r/TheRedPill09/03/21 04:47 PM
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I'm already past the age of wanting/needing marriage. I've got a good woman by my side, who takes care of what needs caring for. Traditional society is gone and isn't coming back without a significant uprising, which I don't see, as people are lazy and selfish. I personally only care about me and mine and cooperate with those who have my back and have proven it. To hell with anyone else.
/r/TheRedPill04/03/21 03:01 PM
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Marriage is not "good for you", it is "good for society" (social order), and therefore, it is also good for you, because your overall happiness depends on society. I disagree. The world is a fucked up place thanks to the pandemic, riots, protests, etc. However, my life hasn't changed much. In fact, I am doing better now than I was this time last year. I am not married, and I am happy. Society doesn't dictate my happiness, I do. If society did, I'd be depressed, lonely and hating anyone who didn'…
/r/TheRedPill04/03/21 02:28 PM
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This ain't the forum for it. Check out climate skeptics on reddit for more.
/r/TheRedPill31/12/20 04:36 AM
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1) What is this triggered you speak of? 2) It's not the forum for it 3) Read climate skeptics here on reddit
/r/TheRedPill12/11/20 04:30 PM
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Ugh, this climate crap again. Let's keep that out this forum, please.
/r/TheRedPill11/11/20 02:47 PM
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Making final prep now. What have you learned is coming?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/20 08:53 PM
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I'm wondering if this is a product of where his life's work has taken. I don't see the Wall street playboys, for example, ever having this happen to them. They have a goal and a business they're working towards. Roosh only ever had pickup, women and sex - which was his business. Once that lost its luster, he was empty, IMO. Had he had something else to focus on, I think he'd be okay.
/r/TheRedPill04/06/19 07:46 PM
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Oh well. Ain't giving that up.
/r/askMRP13/10/17 08:29 PM
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Playing basketball for an hour with my buddies twice a week (cardio) is beta faggotry?
/r/askMRP13/10/17 08:22 PM
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This is a good post. But I think it's a stretch to say that men should go to therapy if they're not successful with women.
/r/ExRedPill29/09/17 08:17 PM
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I could use Tinder and ONS. I'm 39, I'd be the old guy in the club, and I'm not going to do that. As for the answer, I was hoping to salvage things when I posted this initially. Especially with her colorful sexual past that she hinted at and I wanted to partake in. I don't worry about breaking hearts because I am honest up front. The way I see it, she knows going in what I am looking for, so if she decides to stay, expecting it to change and it doesn't, well that's on her.
/r/ExRedPill08/09/17 01:46 PM
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I don't love this woman. Only been dating her for 15 months. Why do you suggest get I avoid FWB situations? How else am I gonna get laid? Can't afford escorts and don't want to go there. IMO that's desperation.
/r/ExRedPill08/09/17 03:43 AM
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Thanks. The issue is, I can't seem to do anything BUT get into relationships. Gals say they're okay with FWB then it morphs.
/r/ExRedPill07/09/17 07:48 PM
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1) It's not a compromise, IMO 2) Like I said, just a few more weeks (pd for a vacation, won't get a refund), then I can move on.
/r/ExRedPill18/08/17 02:08 PM
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Like I said to your other comment, then let's try something together that neither of us have done. Nope. She won't.
/r/ExRedPill18/08/17 01:48 PM
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I see your point, but why not be willing to try something new with me? She doesn't want to with me, and that's what bothers me. She says I make her feel safe, that she could make lists of things she likes about me, yet won't expand her horizons with me. That's what troublesome. I only have to hold on a few weeks, so there is hope.
/r/ExRedPill18/08/17 01:47 PM
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Once again, I DO NOT have an issue with her having notches. I expect most women I get with to have more partners than me. One that doesn't is worth serious consideration for marriage. What I have an issue with is certain things that she's done, that I've always wanted to do. She (so far) is not willing to do them with me.
/r/ExRedPill17/08/17 07:52 PM
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If she did it in the past, and doesn't say that it was a negative experience, why be reticent to do it with me, someone she claims makes her feel special and safe?
/r/ExRedPill14/08/17 07:37 PM
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I don't get your post. The post is about my GF not wanting sex. I'm sexually driven, she isn't.
/r/ExRedPill09/08/17 07:28 PM
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Based on everything here, we won't be long for a relationship. Therefore, I don't see the point. Plus, I doubt my insurance will cover more than a couple of sessions, and I don't have the money, nor do I wish to spend the money, on prolonged treatments for something that's not going to last.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/17 09:37 PM
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I don't fear physical retaliation. Hell no. I fear online and social retaliation.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/17 04:13 PM
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We actually discussed this, and I got a full answer out of her. She's not screwing around on me. She wants to clear up her own stuff, get her mental illness under control. Until then, sex is in the backseat.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/17 04:13 PM
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Couples therapy is, IMO, for married couples or engaged couples.
/r/ExRedPill25/07/17 04:10 PM
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I get what you're saying, and it makes sense. But, I cannot accept the fact that if I do this I may be sacrificing any in future attempts at having the sex life I want. For the record, I am okay if these things don't happen, provided I get to at least attempt to try and have them.
/r/ExRedPill23/07/17 07:58 PM
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Your issue is she has done things in her sexual past, which she told me about. I made hte stupid mistake about asking on a couple of them. She has refused to do anymore (and blames some of it on her mental illness). If, after somehow getting her to talk about it (which is dumb, I know. I should just make myself irresistible to her), find out if/how this will happen. If not, end it, make myself more desirable and move on.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 07:25 PM
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Thinking more and more that's a good idea.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 03:14 PM
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You said if no, then don't ask, to which I responded, "and go on wondering what might have been." Then you asked what my solution is. If she doesn't want to do it, and doesn't have a valid reason, then provided I get protection (from any backlash due to her mental illness) then I'm out and I'll get a FWB.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 03:12 PM
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I'm not married. So if she won't talk about it, and I get protections against anything negative that will happen, then I'm out. I'm almost 40.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 01:13 PM
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I would never do those two examples that you've mentioned (2 girls, never two dudes), but I get your point. What I would tell her is "I don't like this, but I have done this. How about we try that instead?" I don't need to do everything she has done (as I don't know everything, only what she volunteered), but I would like to try some of them. Who knows, maybe I won't like them, either. I always thought a loving partner tried their best to help enhance your life. It appears I was wrong.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 01:12 PM
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And go on wondering what might have been, not getting hardly anything now? No thanks.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 12:23 PM
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Also, not sure I have insecurities. It may seem like it, but when I find a problem, I want to find out what that problem is immediately and take steps to fix it. The problem here is lack of sex and willingness to explore sex together, especially some of her past adventures. I know a lack of sex is on the man 9.5 times out of 10, so I'm trying to figure out what I did wrong.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 12:23 PM
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That's a valid point, but the issue is, she won't discuss this with me. I can't tell if she has a valid reason to dislike them or not. I try to broach it, but she won't talk.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 12:14 PM
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I don't force anything. I just want to talk about this stuff, so I know where I am failing and what I am doing wrong that she won't have regular sex with me, and do the things I'm interested in exploring that she did before.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 03:00 AM
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Because why else would you not do those with me, one you claim to care about and one who makes her feel safe? And who says I don't enjoy a well-made cartoon??
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 02:39 AM
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Then she needs to tell me this, instead of refusing to talk about it.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 02:38 AM
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Maybe for a lot of unmarried couples, who want to try and stay together, you could be correct. I don't see much of a future with this gal, so I won't waste of time, or likely the money that I would have to spend after the first few sessions that my insurance would cover.
/r/ExRedPill21/07/17 01:47 AM
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I don't care that she has more partners, most women will have more partners than men.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/17 03:11 AM
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1) It's not just a sex swing. It's a bunch of sexual things. 2) I never said I wanted to get married. I likely won't. Already have kids. Don't want/need more 3) she's as old as I am 4) How is it insecure to want to partake of something I've been wanting to do for years with someone who's done them? No one can seem to explain that to me.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/17 02:16 AM
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No, why?
/r/ExRedPill20/07/17 01:04 AM
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Well, the man who they think they've a future with won't give them that future if they don't let some of that wild side out. Again, I can't wrap my head around why, if you care for somebody so much that you want to have a future with them, you won't lose some sexual inhibitions with him. Doesn't make sense to me.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/17 12:38 AM
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It might.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/17 11:51 PM
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I know I'll never get an answer to this, but it will go a long way into making things better, at least I think so, is if I find out what made those guys so special for her to do all these things with, but not me. What about me, in her eyes makes me inferior, and not worth doing these things with.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/17 10:08 PM
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I'm trying, but as I mentioned in previous post, she has issues with mental illness. I am weary of very negative backlash in my personal and professional life should something negative happen.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/17 10:06 PM
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No, that was just one example of something that she has done, that I would like to try, but she has no interest with me. And as I don't subscribe to the red pill, I have no idea what it says about men after forty, but I would wager it's probably not very good news.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/17 10:04 PM
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Appreciate the input. We're only dating, and only for a little over a year. Couples counseling and mediators are for people in marriages considering divorce. At least in my opinion, anyway. I think it's time for me to move on, but one I paid for vacation later this summer, and I won't get the money back, so it's probably best if I just go into, like I said, being she has a history of mental illness, I'm afraid she will lash out negatively, if I do anything.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/17 09:20 PM
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I just try to talk, in a calm voice. Before I get two sentences out, she says that (granted, this was months ago). Not sure how I'm supposed to provide safety when I can't even complete my thought. Not sure what you mean by provide a sense of safety, anyway.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/17 08:01 PM
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She's the one that doesn't want to talk about it. I've tried but she keeps saying "I thought we were done with this? I don't want to talk anymore."
/r/ExRedPill19/07/17 06:48 PM
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1) I think you're taking my example too far. I meant a sex swing, not swinging. Things like that, not sharing each other. 2) We haven't talked about this in a while. I don't pressure her, I don't point finger. I use the "I feel." method of communicating. The last two times I've tried to discuss, last one being a month ago, and before Halloween prior to that, we talk for a few minutes, then she says, loudly, "I thought we were done with this? I don't want to talk anymore." 3) "And maybe the lesso…
/r/ExRedPill19/07/17 06:48 PM
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Then I'll be out. Life's too short and I'm too near 40 to be dealing with a sexless relationship again.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/17 04:13 PM
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" That's what happens when you hurt people in an attempt to manipulate them into doing what you want." Where do you get the impression I am, or have ever, done that?
/r/ExRedPill19/07/17 03:16 PM
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Been trying to get past that now for almost 5 years. I'm open to suggestions. I do support her, but I feel I almost cross the line to doormat. All I want from her is physical intimacy. She doesn't have to do special things or be a certain way for me.
/r/ExRedPill19/07/17 03:03 PM
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I don't trust anyone. Anyone. I haven't since my ex-wife decided she did not want to be married anymore and went to go find herself. Finding herself included screwing someone she liked it since high school. I had two great relationships after my wife and I divorced, both filled with as much sex as I can handle, and in a variety of ways. Unfortunately due to jobs and my being a Dad, they weren't able to continue. Part of the issue is, as well, she has a history of mental illness. Because of this,…
/r/ExRedPill18/07/17 10:53 PM
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To this, I submit: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3kuoq3/sexual_history_matters/ and https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3krbvr/man_wonders_why_his_experienced_32_year_old_wife/ So, if she does this stuff with her next BF, then it IS me.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/17 08:42 PM
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Never said she was.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/17 01:32 PM
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I don't force anything. I try to bring it up from time to time, but she doesn't want to discuss it. Trying to give it time, but my patience is running thin.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/17 12:56 PM
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"Would you still want to do "those things", if your partner had been totally vanilla in her past?" @conservative_poly, yes, I've always wanted to do these things. When she offered up that she did certain things that I've always wanted, I got excited.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/17 10:36 AM
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@BrokenArrows95, you're missing the point. I WANT to do those things that she's done, but she doesn't want to do them with me.
/r/ExRedPill18/07/17 02:06 AM
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@RedPillDetox, so if I want to stay in the relationship, I don't get to expand my sexual horizons (that I couldn't do when I was a young father) with someone who has because she did with others but not someone she claims to care about??
/r/ExRedPill17/07/17 10:32 PM
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@oywiththepoodle, because she hasn't denied it. I talked to her about something once in the subject of a sex swing came up. She did that before, said that she do it again but she can't do in her apartment and won't go anywhere to try it.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/17 09:25 PM
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With posts like this, everyone always assumes that the girlfriend in question tried, but didn't like the acts, due to pain or coercion. Well let's go the opposite direction, which happens to be my issue. She likes doing that stuff, but she doesn't want to do them with me. I do try and bring everything up that I'd like to do she says she's doesn't wish to talk about it. I don't believe, that if it's in the past it stays in the past. I'm of the belief that if I have done something that my partner …
/r/ExRedPill17/07/17 09:07 PM
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I see what you're saying and I agree with much of this. But wouldn't it bother you some if, say, you wanted a threesome, or go to a sex club, and your GF did that regularly with past BFs, but won't even broach that subject with you? There's something wrong with that picture, no?
/r/ExRedPill17/07/17 08:26 PM
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Thanks! I'm nearing 40 and beginning to think that won't happen, but I'll enjoy every minute along the way.
/r/ExRedPill17/07/17 08:01 PM
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I'm not as well-versed in redpill, but you make sense. Funny, my parents have a great 42-year marriage, and are considered the model marriage to me, but yet I've been divorced and have no luck with women. Go figure.
/r/ExRedPill13/07/17 06:59 PM
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I appreciate this post. I just want to say, that there seems to be a prevalence (and not just here) of saying everyone needs therapy. Why is that?
/r/ExRedPill13/07/17 03:27 PM
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I tried (suggestion for improving articles), and you ridiculed me for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 07:25 PM
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It sure does. Tried to have sex with my GF Saturday morning, she didn't want to. SO I went back to writing. Later that day, I got some out of the blue.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 06:48 PM
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A much better answer, one which helps all, is post a link: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5jgxe9/the_importance_of_owning_your_shit/ What I think of owning your shit, and what the redpill does, are different. I'm glad i asked the question. Are you glad you acted like a child?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 07:08 PM
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Wow, butthurt much? Redpillers should help other men, not berate them. A rising tide lifts all boats. You say own our shit? What are we supposed to own? Apologizing all the time? Being a beta?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 06:57 PM
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Lots of good stuff here. HOWEVER, I'd also like to see examples. A lot of redpill advice, while awesome, doesn't include real world examples. THAT is how we grow, gentlemen.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 05:39 PM
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Redpillers shouldn't want relationships. That implies a compromise on your time.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/17 08:12 PM
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"Also, you don't really want a woman just for sex" Yes, I do. What else is the point?
/r/TheRedPill26/06/17 03:21 PM
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That's nice to hear because most feminists I know (including a HS friend) are militant, hoping to eradicate men to nothing more than ass-kissing slaves.
/r/ExRedPill12/06/17 07:14 PM
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"Women do not owe men ANY sex or affection at all. Men have to earn it. Instead of being bitter about it (which means they feel entitled without having some anything to earn it) men can do something to improve their chances. " But if men do things to try and earn it, and STILL don't get it, then women can't be pissed when they're left alone while the man goes and has sex with someone else. That's what it's all about for us. I'm all for a great relationship with a partner who complements me. THAT…
/r/ExRedPill12/06/17 04:57 PM
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