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I've dealt with this type of anxiety before. I think it's pretty common. In my case I had a lot of traumatic experiences with my mother and sisters as I was growing up. But in between episodes of manipulation and abuse they would remind me that they love me. As an adult the stupidest thing I could do was get a girl to fall in love with me given how unpleasant my experience of love was. The truth is, if a girl truly likes then you really don't need to do anything. My current gf loves me for who I…
/r/seduction26/04/18 03:35 PM
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Have you tried not caring? It's worked wonders for me.
/r/seduction25/04/18 06:05 AM
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Women in general typically put themselves in positions where they can avoid rejection for the most part. But I've dated girls that were super hot, but also just super incompatible. Those girls you could say I rejected.
/r/seduction09/04/18 05:24 PM
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Interested
/r/seduction26/12/17 04:56 PM
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Right now I'm seeing a few girls, looking for something more intimate and monogamous. I really enjoy her company, she's so much fun to be around, but it really takes a lot of mental energy to keep the conversation going. We have plenty to talk about, but by the end of the night I am just mentally exhausted. It's harder to relax with her because if I miss something I'll have to ask her to keep repeating herself and that would get old fast. I guess I wouldn't ask this here if I wasn't considering …
/r/seduction13/11/17 06:38 AM
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This is solid advice. Thank you. This girl is really beautiful, but is also super fun to hang out with. I can't say I have as much time to really set aside to learning Spanish fluently, but I've tried my best to brush up on my past skills and try to speak as much Spanish with her as I can. Despite my Spanish being pretty poor, I think she finds my attempts really charming. She promised to improve my Spanish if I improve her English haha.
/r/seduction12/11/17 10:02 PM
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Touch him a lot with your hands on his back, arms and legs. Brush your body against his when uou walk by. When you're sitting next to each other, lean close to,his face. Or you could always just take your clothes off.
/r/seduction08/10/17 07:50 PM
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That's more helpful. Thanks
/r/seduction28/09/17 11:54 PM
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This isn't really helpful. I have plenty of game in person, but I am also juggling a full time career with a graduate degree program. I have two main women that I'm seeing now, but I don't want to have to go to the bar 5 days a week to keep meeting more women when I'm just lookong for casual sex.
/r/seduction28/09/17 11:30 PM
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I get like zero matches on Tinder, but I can't figure out what's wrong with my pictures. My main photo is just a selfie with a smile. I'm a good looking man.
/r/seduction28/09/17 10:06 PM
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Was it a meme or something?
/r/seduction27/09/17 04:47 PM
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I only read the tLDr. Dates have asked me if I was gay when my kino/escalation was weak.
/r/seduction27/09/17 04:45 PM
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People get a lot of flak for this attitude, but honestly all men need to live by this rule. Women expect men to make moves. When you go to far they tell you to stop. You can usually tell if you're going to far jist by gauging her reactions.
/r/seduction27/09/17 04:44 PM
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Believe me I'd move if I could. Once I get my master's degree and establish my career I should be fine. I think in Sac there may be a greater expectation to have you're own place, but out is almost never a deal breaker for younger women. If you can demonstrate value and turn her on before she finds out then you should be fine. It's my opinion that I would get more pussy with my own place, but that's more of an inner game issue for me.
/r/seduction27/09/17 04:17 AM
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I've done that befote too, but she usually doesn't. Edit: Where ypu at in cali? I'm in the SF east bay
/r/seduction27/09/17 04:05 AM
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I don't bring it up unless they ask. I also live in California where it's pretty common for people in their 20s to go back home. It's not a deal breaker for most girls if you're otherwise attractive. Fucking in my car and or renting a motel room gets old though.
/r/seduction27/09/17 03:54 AM
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No. Pretty much never trust a woman to contact you first
/r/seduction26/09/17 09:15 PM
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I think you need to slow down a little bit. In my experience, starting relationship talk before getting sexual is usually a bad sign. It's a good idea to be in your emotions and tell a girl you have feelings for her, but relationship commitment should take longer to establish. As for your next move, keep having dates no more than once a week. Text her when you feel like it, but try to keep conversations brief and flirty. Don't have long conversations over text, and never respond right away. I th…
/r/seduction26/09/17 04:01 AM
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I think you need to get rejected a few times before it really starts to make sense. In high school I used to feel the same about a girl. She was perfect; beautiful, funny, smart, etc. When I finally worked up the courage she told me she couldn't date me because I was too muvh of a pussy and a faggit. She used those words. That's when I realized that this idealized image I was painting of women was false. Just because a girl js good looking doesn't mean she's friendly, or caring, or interesting. …
/r/seduction26/09/17 02:52 AM
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Your post was removed. What was your original question?
/r/seduction26/09/17 02:08 AM
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This isn't true for every girl. And if OP doesn't want to buy a drink he doesn't have to. He should still ask this girl out
/r/seduction25/09/17 07:36 PM
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I think you got ripped off bro /s
/r/seduction25/09/17 05:34 PM
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Is this the first girl you've dated? Have you had sex before? How old are you and the girl?
/r/seduction25/09/17 05:04 AM
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I get pussy and I live with my parents at 25. The hardest part is finding a place to actually have sex. Most people feel bad about living with their parents and it kills their game.
/r/seduction25/09/17 05:02 AM
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This post perfectly describes a guy I knew once. He could get literally any number in the club but can't cash in his v-card to save his life. I think the issue goes beyond droning about boring niche hobbies. It's about a failure to be socially aware. Socially disconnected people never give you the sense that they care about anything outside themselves
/r/seduction25/09/17 05:01 AM
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What's the worst that would happen if you just told her you thought she was cute and that you wanna buy her drink if she's down? If she rejects you just tell her it's no big deal and go on being friends. Asking a girl out doesn't have to ruin your social circle. Just be direct and confident and accept the outcome you recieve. Good luck man.
/r/seduction25/09/17 04:52 AM
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I have a friend who's definition of game is finding an excuse to take his shirt off. He's a bodybuilder so he looks great, but he doesn't understand why girls just laugh at him
/r/seduction25/09/17 01:26 AM
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Well it's less about the content and more about the context and presentations. I world never talk about starting a relationship with the current girl, but i talk about past experiences all the time. But like I said, it comes up in the conversation. I'm not looking for excuses to talk about that stuff, but I don't actively avoid it either.
/r/seduction24/09/17 01:01 PM
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A lot of guys get performance anxiety, myself included. It's perfectly normal. First, make sure you are taking care of yourself. Sleep, diet, cardio exercise, and stress management are the most important for sexual health. Beyond that, just be present during sex. Do what feels right, act on a little instinct.
/r/seduction24/09/17 12:58 PM
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Yes, you should be more aggressive. People on this sub think being aggressive is synonymous with trying to rape them, but that's clearly not what you want to do. Aggressive, or assertive, whatever word you prefer, you should just do what you want without doing anything that'll get you in trouble. When I'm with a girl I say what I want, I kiss her when I want, I touch her how I want, and so long as I pay attention to her reactions and the circumstances of the moment I can avoid pushing any of her…
/r/seduction24/09/17 12:54 PM
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Or worse, better looking AFCs. They attract all the women and immediately repel them.
/r/seduction24/09/17 12:39 PM
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It might be a good rule thumb if you're not sure where got stand with a girl, but in general it's not off limits. I talk about past relationships with partners all the time when it's appropriate for the conversation. Usually the girl should bring up the topic though. I've seen it work for other guys to pretend to hit certain relationship milestones as a means of building flirty rapport. I.e. i saw a guy get down on one knee for a girl he was gaming that night and have her a ring pop. I don't do …
/r/seduction24/09/17 12:34 PM
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Ol, I went back and decided to read your meaningless wall of text and found that nothing your said was factually incorrect. Just the same, none of it is relevant to OP's question or my original comment. I feel kind of stupid now falling for such a shitty troll.
/r/seduction24/09/17 12:28 PM
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I won't claim to not be beneath you, but I will claim that I communicate more clearly than you. Perhaps that will spark you proofread your comments for clarity before you measure dicks with a faceless stranger.
/r/seduction24/09/17 12:23 PM
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Omg wtf are you talking about
/r/seduction24/09/17 12:01 AM
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Jesus Christ. Is it possible for two men to just have a conversation without turning it into a post-modern identify crisis? You were poking holes in my advice to OP, so I responded to your criticisms so OP can see my how I justify my advice. If OP doesn't like my advice he doesn't have to take it. Simple as that. No body needs to "separate psyches" over anything, whatever that means. If you disagree with my advice then great, reply ro my comment and tell me why I'm wrong. It'll all be to OP's be…
/r/seduction23/09/17 10:23 PM
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OP said aggressive
/r/seduction23/09/17 09:42 PM
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Where I come from, aggressive means trying to fuck
/r/seduction23/09/17 04:13 PM
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Fair enough
/r/seduction23/09/17 04:12 PM
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"Take this book! In it you shall learn how to protect yourself!" "Protect myself from that?" "Other dick."
/r/seduction23/09/17 09:57 AM
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He doesn't have to practice on the unattractive chicks, he doesn't have a problem with them. He has to practice on hot chicks.
/r/seduction23/09/17 09:55 AM
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I think it's kind of dumb to be flirtatious and aggressive with a girl you have not actual intentions with. I'm assume he wants to f-close hotter women
/r/seduction23/09/17 09:53 AM
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flirtatious and aggressive SMH
/r/seduction23/09/17 09:51 AM
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Oh geeze, you better start planning the wedding pal
/r/seduction23/09/17 12:08 AM
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That's plagiarism when you dont cite my name
/r/seduction22/09/17 11:56 PM
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Bad case of relevant username here. Just ignore her. Let her be a girl. If you go and freak out about something this stupid you'll turn her off. If you're that embarrassed about this book maybe you shouldn't leave it out in the open.
/r/seduction22/09/17 10:41 PM
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I've never really looked into his stuff, but I think your right. It's sounds like a cash-grab.
/r/seduction22/09/17 08:29 PM
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Hey man, it's hard for everyone. But I know you can do it. It might take some practice, but when you're with a hot girl, really try to focus on enjoying her company. Try not to think about how hot she is or all the things you need to do to impress her. Try to just enjoy the fact that this chick is super hot and you are there with her. Try some visualizations. Imagine yourself with a hot girl and just play out the scenario in your mind. Play out a scenario where she rejects you, and play out anot…
/r/seduction22/09/17 08:27 PM
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Semantics. You know what I meant.
/r/seduction22/09/17 08:24 PM
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Tell her you can teach her the language, but the only words you know are the ones that describe different sex positions.
/r/seduction22/09/17 07:34 PM
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While I agree with you, a lot of guys get laid just by doing that, so it's not like there isn't already an audience for that type of content.
/r/seduction22/09/17 07:31 PM
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1) Stop chasing girls you don't find attractive 2) Act the way around attractive girls the way you act around unattractive girls. i used to struggle with a similar problem. The issue for me was that there was too much pressure on a particular outcome with the hot girls that I couldn't allow myself to just enjoy her company. If you can just let yourself havr fun with the hot girls it'll be a lot easier.
/r/seduction22/09/17 07:30 PM
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Pretend like nothing happened. Just because they felt creeped out doesn't make you a creep. And since you already know you aren't a creep, what some random girls think is irrelevant. I wouldn't recommend you approach them, just don't let them make you feel uncomfortable, and definitely don't react to anything they do. I'm kind of an asshole and I personally would approach them again specifically to mess with them, but I don't think you should do this if you're trying to pull another girl at the …
/r/seduction22/09/17 07:27 PM
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This is the best advice here. This girl is clearly interested in OP. He probably doesn't really need to do anything special. I bet if he just kept up his work persona it should work out just fine
/r/seduction22/09/17 07:22 PM
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We'll have to agree to disagree. In my experience everything you've said is patently false. Adopting that kind of attitude toward sex will cause a net harm in almost everyone's sex life. These two kids are already communicating with each other more effectively than most adult couples. And I've literally never been in a situation where a girl told me to stop/slow down and then the date ended right there. The only scenario i could conceive of this happening is in the case of a sexual assault, whic…
/r/seduction22/09/17 02:35 PM
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Not if you want to get laid
/r/seduction22/09/17 07:02 AM
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Lmao, is OP for real?
/r/seduction22/09/17 06:46 AM
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Do not under any circumstances address that she didn't give you her info. Just approach her again and ask for her number again. Act like nothing happened and if she brings it up to apologize or something just brush it off. It's not a huge deal. One of two things will happen. She'll tell you no, which is a clear indication to move on. Or she'll give you her number in which case she's probably into you.
/r/seduction22/09/17 06:41 AM
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I would think there was something wrong with you if you didn't.
/r/seduction22/09/17 06:36 AM
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Make sure to hold her hand and touch her lower back a lot. Get comfortable to putting you hands on her body. Start with safe touches (arm, shoulder) then escalate hand on hand ---> arm around her ---> kiss. Make sure you pay attention to her facial reactions. Look to see if she likes what's going. Most of the time you can tell when to back off just from the look on their face. If you get good at this you can avoid some awkward moments. If she tells you to stop, listen to her. You can try again l…
/r/seduction22/09/17 06:18 AM
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I ain't no guru, and I ain't selling anything. I'm just some idiot who made the mistake that OP has made too many times. This guy has gone on 6 dates with the girl and hasn't even touched her hand yet. You're right, life isn't like porn. The biggest difference between life and porn is that the girl will tell you to stop if she's not into what's going on. And so long as you listen when she sets her boundary then everything is gravy. But if you just sit there with your girl and don't even try to k…
/r/seduction22/09/17 06:10 AM
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Just try to have fun. You should be fine
/r/seduction22/09/17 05:23 AM
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Yeah dude, I lost many girls because I failed to escalate. Some of them hate me, others think I'm gay. It's because women actually get offended when you don't try to fuck them. But you don't have to make that mistake if you don't want to.
/r/seduction22/09/17 05:02 AM
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In my experience, if I don't kiss or try to fuck on the first date, the girl usually loses interest. I'm actually kind of amazed that OP got a girl to wait that long.
/r/seduction22/09/17 01:38 AM
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No worries man. I made all these mistakes and more. I'm just sharing my experience. You can do it man
/r/seduction22/09/17 01:07 AM
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How to get out of friend zone: Stop hanging out with women who won't fuck you. How to avoid friend zone: Make your sexual intentions direct and clear. This will force the girl to either reject you before you get friendzoned, or if she's receptive it'll turn her on.
/r/seduction22/09/17 01:04 AM
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It's ususally a bad sign when a girl declares you have to take her somewhere special. Tell her where you want to take her, and if she says no, tell her to go without you.
/r/seduction22/09/17 01:01 AM
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7 dates is excruciatingly slow. Once again, you should be constantly escalating until she tells you to stop. Make sure you aren't going straight for tbe panties. Kissing needs to happen first, but if you just start kissing her without turning her on with plenty of touching leading up to the moment then she'll probably tell you to stop.
/r/seduction22/09/17 12:57 AM
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You said "1." Don't give me lip, I'm helping you Listen dude, despite what you think, this girl wants you to fuck her. If you keep stalling she will leave you for someone else without your sensibilities. On your next date, try touching her more. Touch her arms, her waist, her legs. Kiss her before the end of the date. I like to get the kiss within the first couple of hours so we can spend the rest of the date making out. You guys are young so you don't need to dive head first into intercourse, b…
/r/seduction22/09/17 12:46 AM
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How old?
/r/seduction22/09/17 12:11 AM
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How old are you two?
/r/seduction21/09/17 11:53 PM
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There's a lot of context missing here. I've been in scenarios lile this before. Sometimes the girl doesn't like you, sometimes she does but is too nervous. You need to be more direct and aggressive.
/r/seduction21/09/17 11:52 PM
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I don't want to say it's "bad" that you had this talk. Communication is great, but you should consider yourself lucky that she hasn't left you yet. She wants you to fuck her. You don't have to be afraid of making her uncomfortable. If she wants you to stop she'll tell you. But if you keep stringing her along like this she's going to begin to really resent you. The women I've dated that hate me the most are the ones I never had sex with. I think it's great ypure practicing communication, but this…
/r/seduction21/09/17 10:23 PM
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I do it sincerely. Honestly, I would never use the above line verbatim, but I use a lot of really on the nose sexual innuendos when talking to women for no other reason that I want to have sex with them. When a girl asks me if I just called her fat and I responsd "I can call you all kinds of things if that's what you're into", I say that because I like to talk dirty during sex. There's really nothing jokey or seductive about it. It's communicated sincerely and confidently. This will force the gi…
/r/seduction21/09/17 04:17 PM
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It depends on context and presentation. If a line like this is congruent with the rest of your personality it won't be creepy
/r/seduction21/09/17 02:45 PM
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Even better. Tell her "There's one thing my watch can't do, save your number"
/r/seduction21/09/17 01:20 AM
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OP: "This watch can actually read your mind." Girl: "Oh yeah? What's it say about me?" OP: "It says you're not wearing any panties." Girl: "Well your watch is wrong." OP: "Now that you mention it, it is half an hour fast."
/r/seduction21/09/17 01:13 AM
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Sexual innuendos.
/r/seduction21/09/17 01:09 AM
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Holy shit I'm fucking using this one!
/r/seduction21/09/17 12:38 AM
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I think you're taking this way too seriously. Unless your hideously deformed, usually whatever it is you need to fix will be relatively simple. You don't need to bribe or threaten friends. Is there a particular pitfall you keep running into? Like a common theme that seems to be linked to your poor success rate?
/r/seduction21/09/17 12:33 AM
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You've got to learn to find fun in it. I spun my wheels for years because I couldn't wrap my head around the concept, but if you aren't having fun while seducing it's usually not going to work. Take texting for example. I used to hate texting girls because I was always too worried that I would say something and that they would not reply. But when I learned to have saying random stuff to girl to see what gets her attention it just became natural. As for getting better, /u/SinSlayer 's advice is i…
/r/seduction20/09/17 11:55 PM
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Sometimes I nibble on their bottom lip before I pull away. One hand on her neck while the other explores her body.
/r/seduction20/09/17 09:17 PM
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I think she's neutral toward you. Basically she sees potential but you need display confidence and make your intentions clear.
/r/seduction20/09/17 08:32 PM
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I don't disagree with what you're saying, but I don't think OP's values are perfectly clear. I think your points valid that something I said might have been misleading or poor advice. That wasn't my intent. Perhaps I put it too glib because I thought it was an unlikely scenario. However I must respectfully disagree with you. Relationships don't fit into a perfect definition and I'm not going to pretend I know anything about OP or his girl. For all we know OP has other women lined up, or OPs gf j…
/r/seduction20/09/17 06:41 PM
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Not a typo. Some people draw different boundaries. I can imagine couples stayong together but switching to an open relatio ship in response to something like this. I don't pass judgement.
/r/seduction20/09/17 05:55 PM
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Women don't just bring up dick casually like that. You should always assume until she stops you. OP failed the shit test, didn't even bother to make sure she knew his intent. If he had told her right then to come alone he would've known for sure if this girl was just trying to play him.
/r/seduction20/09/17 01:32 PM
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My phone just really hates that word
/r/seduction20/09/17 12:57 PM
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Listen dude, if you still you want to fuck her should treat the situation like nothing happened. You can text her or not, it really doesn't matter. What does matter is that I think you had your opportunity but it doesn't sound like you took it. She literally asked for dick. When she suggested bringing people to the date I would've jokingly suggested that If they don't want to watch us fuck they have to participate. If she responds that sex is off the table then you next her. Or just tell her to …
/r/seduction20/09/17 11:50 AM
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I think OP had a chance, but acted too slow. She almost literally asked for dick. In my experience when you don't provide dick whena girl is that ready it really hurts attraction.
/r/seduction20/09/17 11:42 AM
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I think you should trust your girl. If your worried your losing her then you have to game her a little too remember why she likes you, but you should leave this guy alone. She told you not to worry, so if you go and confront him now you'll look like a chump. That jealousy will really turn most women off. If your gf has to perform dances with this guy she probably doesn't want there to be any drama. Just continue being a good bf. Now if the situation escalates, like you find they're hanging out b…
/r/seduction20/09/17 11:36 AM
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You mean friends? Yeah sometimes people have those.
/r/seduction20/09/17 05:44 AM
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My opinion if you want a relationship is that you want to have sex relatively early. It doesn't have to be the first date, but if you keep her waiting too long she'll get bored. If you want to keep this girl you just gotta keep up the charm that attracted her. Don't change gears because you want to be a boyfriend. Let her dictate the pace at which the relationship progresses. Your only job is to keep giving her good dates and good sex.
/r/seduction20/09/17 05:21 AM
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I work with a young child with cerebral palsy and severe autism spectrum disorder. My job is to teach him to use the toilet and dress himself. He's almost middle school age. I never claimed it was an even playing field, I never even said it was fair. The fact of the matter is that my advice works for the average guy. You're right, people are assholes. Every last one of them, damn sure including me. It's not that I don't sympathize, but I don't know what you want me to do about it.
/r/seduction20/09/17 02:31 AM
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How old are you? What's your living situation?
/r/seduction20/09/17 02:18 AM
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I don't know what you expected. You didn't ask a question or present any specific context, you just said you had given up. Alright well, good luck with that.
/r/seduction20/09/17 01:20 AM
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The time
/r/seduction20/09/17 12:42 AM
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Cool story. Have fun
/r/seduction20/09/17 12:41 AM
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Hey man, you're definitely not wrong. If you're really ugly then you'll have to work harder. It doesn't disqualify you, you just have less room for error. Most guys aren't that ugly. Most guys are just average looking. If you're really as ugly as you say you are then I feel bad for you. But ugly guys get laid all the time too, and supermodel bodybuilders go for years-long dry streaks. If you think that you're hopeless then you're right, if you think you're not hopeless then you're also right.
/r/seduction19/09/17 09:58 PM
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You just need to let it go and either try again with this girl or move on. You really gotta gauge where you are with this girl. Does she like you? If yes, she might have stood you up because she's self-conscious or worried you would reject her (it sounds silly but girls are really think like that). If this is the case, I suggest being more direct, and maybe even more aggressive. I had the same problem with a girl I'm seeing right now. She stood me up 3 times, but just based on the times I saw an…
/r/seduction19/09/17 03:38 PM
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I usually set things up so I pick her up from where ever she is. In that regard, I don't need to confirm anything. I just b say I'll be there around 6 and I show up when I feel like it
/r/seduction19/09/17 07:48 AM
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Anywhere, clubs, bars, books stores. You name it
/r/seduction19/09/17 07:45 AM
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Honestly dude, I think you're just being needy. If she agreed to meet you for lunch, why do you need to message her to remind her to do what she already agreed to do. Stop trying so hard to corner a girl into a date. Flirt with her to make her feel good then she'll actually want to go to the date. And don't schedule day dates if your goal is to create sexual tension.
/r/seduction19/09/17 07:01 AM
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I almost never approach a girl alone in public. They are usually waiting their their boyfriend to come back. If the issue is there's a group of attractive women and you want to talk to one, introduce yourself to the whole group.
/r/seduction19/09/17 06:54 AM
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Believe me, I wish I learned this from this sub. I learned all this from ending up in your position over and over until I fixed what was wrong. You can do it too mate
/r/seduction19/09/17 06:49 AM
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No one takes an L and then stays in the friendzone. The truth is I'm sure you could change their minds, but it'd be much easier to just move on to other girls. You're obviously doing something wrong. You need to reflect on what that is and fix it. If you're getting the friendship card, I'm sure you're encounters lack sexual tension
/r/seduction19/09/17 05:06 AM
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I rarely get matches on tinder so take this with a grain of salt, but I've had some success with sending gifs. With girls that I met in person, I always make my intentions known before I ask for the number. This makes it easier for her to decide whether or not to give me the number given I don't know how receptive she'll be. This is great for a number of reasons, I don't have to worry about coming off as creepy because she already knows why I'm texting her. What's more is that in most tinder/tex…
/r/seduction19/09/17 04:37 AM
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I've definitely had that experience, while there's definitely a lot of things a woman can do that's a deal breaker for me (drugs/smoking, dishonest, etc) the majority of the time I feel that way it can be boiled down to being judgmental. I've had the experience where after a first date I think a girl has no further potential only to be really impressed with a new side that comes out on the second date. Can you be a little mite specific what types of things are bothering you?
/r/seduction19/09/17 04:21 AM
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This is oddly specific, but if you can connect over experiences with the same professor, either positive or negative, it seems to create rapport really quickly. Also, while I don't suggest you do this, if you get into Greek life it's pretty easy to walk up to chicks and invite them to a frat party.
/r/seduction19/09/17 04:16 AM
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Yeah there's a lot of hand holding and cuddling when I hook up with these girls. Strictly no friends or family. No names, except sometimes over text. I definitely like all of these girls and communicate that. I'm not gaming them just for the sex, I like the dates too.
/r/seduction19/09/17 04:12 AM
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In the past this has happened to me because I never really created any sexual tension. If a girl sees you as a friend, that generally means she thinks your "harmless" to be blunt. I'm willing to bet you probably do a lot of things that come across as needy. It could be that you're not accurately communicating your intentions. I like to make it very clear to women why I'm talking to them. I like to open by telling them that I think they're really attractive. There's no trick to it. Some girls get…
/r/seduction19/09/17 03:12 AM
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I'm enjoying the situation I have. Honestly all of them have GF potential, but I'm not so attached to one that I'll give up the others. I take them all out on nice dates, give them attention, and charm them because I want them to have a good time. Is this boyfriendy behavior?
/r/seduction18/09/17 11:08 PM
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I don't think either would be happy to know for a fact there are other women. Every time the conversation comes up I usually deflect and say that I'm just trying to have a good time and not looking for anything too serious. I'm not sure they would consider it technically cheating, but I'm pretty sure they'd be upset about it.
/r/seduction18/09/17 11:04 PM
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Meet girls doing things that you like.
/r/seduction18/09/17 07:35 AM
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I'm gonna read too deep into your post, but here's my advice. It sounds like this girl is receptive but doesn't really like you yet. If I had to guess, there's no sexual tension, and if I had to guess again, you're killing the sexual tension by going into these scenarios by rejecting casual sex as a possible outcome. You may not realize it, but you are putting too much pressure on the outcome. She could be picking up on this whigh explains her mixed messages. You need to create sexual tension by…
/r/seduction18/09/17 07:23 AM
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If that person rejected then it's usually a sign they aren't a good fit
/r/seduction16/09/17 08:44 PM
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I think you're already on the right track. Just keep trying, and when things don't work out, reflect on what you did wrong and try not to make that mistake again. It can be a pretty long and grueling process, but it's worth it.
/r/seduction16/09/17 05:35 PM
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In terms of any kind of real relationship, she's going to be too chaotic for anything that stable. It sounds like he has some kind of personality disorder, which basically means she's not going to change from how she behaves now. If you want my opinion, you should keep around for the sex, but she should be your main relationship.
/r/seduction16/09/17 05:27 PM
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Physical touch, sexual innuendo, and attempts to isolate you an her. Women generally understand that when you do those 3 things that you are trying to fuck them. Failure to do any or all increases the probability that she'll assume your gay. Someone women have actually been bold enough to ask me if I'm gay to my face cause my kino was weak and I never tried to take her to my car or find a room.
/r/seduction16/09/17 05:23 PM
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Give yourself some credit. It's easier said than done for the vast majority of people, women included.
/r/seduction24/06/17 06:13 AM
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The first question I ask myself every time I meet a new woman is "What color is her eyes?" If you can't remember the color of the girl's eyes after she's gone then you can safely assume you did not connect. Other than that, roughly speaking, connection comes from finding something in common that you can share emotions over. If I find out that a girl likes something I like, then I will direct the conversation about the emotions pertaining to that thing. If I meet a girl that's an artist I'll ask …
/r/seduction24/06/17 05:16 AM
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I have a similar problem. I have issue with intimacy stemming from abusive relationships with my mother and my sisters. Unconsciously I believe that deep down every woman is going to hurt and exploit me the way the women that raised me did. As a result, when I start getting too close to woman I tend to push them away by being rude to them. I have to remind myself daily that there are women out there who I will like when I give them a chance. In my unprofessional opinion, you have some kind of un…
/r/seduction24/06/17 05:05 AM
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If you look into Woujo's comment history you'll see he particularly enjoys leaving negative comments without any concrete constructive criticism. I would just try to ignore him. Trying to have a discussion with him usually turns into a flame war.
/r/seduction17/06/17 10:19 PM
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If you look into Woujo's comment history you'll see he particularly enjoys leaving negative comments without any concrete constructive criticism. I would just try to ignore him. Trying to have a discussion with him usually turns into a flame war.
/r/seduction17/06/17 10:19 PM
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Hey for what it's worth, I've been exchanging PMs with this guy for a few weeks now and when I asked if we could communicate over email he declined and said we should continue over Reddit. He's given pretty good advice so far too.
/r/seduction08/05/17 09:13 AM
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Their criticism of you, whether or not it is valid, ultimately stems from them. There's a name for people that spend a lot of time pointing out other people's insecurities: assholes. You don't need the approval of assholes to feel good about yourself. On a more practical level, there fact that their criticism bothers you implies one of two thing. 1) You feel bad because you actually want to do the things you are teased for not doing but for whatever reason you aren't investing your time in these…
/r/seduction28/04/17 04:03 AM
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Wow, just wow. I apologise if my observation hurt your feelings, but I felt the need to make you aware of how you are being perceived by others. You call my previous comment an ad hominem attack and then call me a rapist in the same breath. My only hope for you is that you gain the necessary insight to move past whatever is the source of your anger and cynicism. Please read that as coming from a place of genuine concern for your well being. I am happy to hear that you respect women and despise s…
/r/seduction24/04/17 11:23 PM
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I think you're projecting. Please refer to my other comment. You call OP a noob like he's playing Call of Duty or something. I'll agree he sounds a little needy after the fact (I.e. Wondering​ what he did wrong) but your response is so steeped so full in your own interpretation that you've missed the point entirely.
/r/seduction24/04/17 10:47 PM
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Yeah, you are wrong. From my reading it sounds like the girl was into him but didn't want to cheat on her boyfriend. Every girl I ever fucked made a point that we weren't going to have sex. And every woman that's rejected me either ghosted me, turned their back toward me and refused to acknowledge me, or straight up told me to leave them alone. They didn't waste their time or energy getting to know me or doing activities with me. And if you read your own post history you just sound like a needy,…
/r/seduction24/04/17 10:41 PM
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I don't think you made any mistakes. You sound like you were just being yourself. You did what you had to do and what happened happened. Just don't dwell on it too much. This girl had a boyfriend so she probably liked you but didn't want to cheat. You can't blame her or yourself for that. Just take it in stride.
/r/seduction24/04/17 10:31 PM
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Don't listen to /u/Woujo, he's kind of an asshole if you follow enough of his comments. If this girl wanted you to leave her alone she wouldn't have invited you to exercise with her. Whether or not she was DTF is anybody's guess, but take solace in the fact that you showed up and had an enjoyable interaction.
/r/seduction24/04/17 09:21 PM
1

What kind of journalling? I'm struggling with my inner game
/r/seduction24/04/17 08:56 PM
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Because it's what he said in his post
/r/seduction18/04/17 04:21 PM
1

For what it's worth, I know many people on the spectrum that found love. It may be an obstacle, but it doesn't have to stop you
/r/seduction18/04/17 07:29 AM
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If the age of consent is 16 then what's the problem? Unless you have a moral issue with it...
/r/seduction18/04/17 07:25 AM
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When it comes down to it, learning to cook is something I want to do regardless. I have some cookbooks around the house I can experiment with along with taking a class. Thanks for the great suggestion.
/r/seduction18/04/17 05:15 AM
1

Getting over my fear of deep water is on my to-do list this year. Maybe I'll find the courage to do this as well.
/r/seduction18/04/17 12:13 AM
2

Thanks man! Your replies have been very helpful
/r/seduction17/04/17 09:15 PM
3

Yeah, dancing is an activity I could see myself really getting into. I'm not really worried about the learning curve. I'll figure it out over time. I listen to a wide variety of music, but mostly reggae, pop rock, and hip hop. If I were to get into dancing I would probably do Salsa and or Swing dance just because those look like the most fun. I live in a suburb in the greater San Francisco Bay Area. Typically I work in the evenings, but I could make time at least once a week to do something like…
/r/seduction17/04/17 06:51 PM
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This is excellent. Thanks!
/r/seduction17/04/17 04:07 PM
6

Sociopathic is doing something that causes net harm to the people around you. Wanting to engage in more social activities to meet new people isn't sociopathic.
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:55 PM
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Playing my guitar had been a great way to get laid once I'm already on the date, but in terms of meeting people it doesn't seem to do much for me. But you're probably right that I'm short selling myself. Book club sounds like a good idea. Same with the improv meet up.
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:24 PM
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I play acoustic guitar and I like to sing covers. Occasionally I write my poem songs. I like to play pool, and I'm actually really good. I go to the gym regularly. I'm not very strong yet, but I have future aspirations to compete as a strength athlete. I like theater improv and comedy (but it's hard to find groups of people to do these things with and classes are expensive). I read a lot of books. I go running and hiking a lot in the spring and summer. I practice meditation. It's not really a ho…
/r/seduction17/04/17 03:05 PM
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I guess I think about it a little differently. Let me try to reframe the premise. I am open minded to new experiences, and I enjoy finding the aesthetic in all manner of activities, but my personality is such that any hobby I decide to pursue I will inevitably invest a lot of time in. I don't think it's necessarily fake to decide to invest time in one activity over another because it's likely to attract more people into my life. We can think of video games as an analogy. Someone might decide to …
/r/seduction17/04/17 02:52 PM
2

I learned this skill while volunteering for a suicide prevention hotline. Being able to demonstrate you understand a conversation partner is one of the most important social skills I've ever acquired.
/r/seduction15/01/17 11:03 PM
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I can relate. I have received a diagnosis is Persistent Depressive Disorder and it negatively affects my relationships with women. I'm going to share a little off my experience with you. It may not necessarily apply. Not to brag, but I'm a good looking ambitious guy. I can go literally anywhere and meet women and more often than not I get a phone number or a kiss out of that first encounter. But something about my brain makes it difficult to enjoy. I don't know if it was parents religious progra…
/r/seduction14/01/17 11:45 PM
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I think he means he practices hygiene but he doesn't have a JCPenney catalogue smile. IMO OP it's not a huge deal.
/r/seduction21/09/16 06:08 AM
1

Well I think complements are appropriate if they don't break the flow of conservation. Say a girl likes soccer. And she's telling you how she learned to juggle a soccer ball. You can tell her how you think that is an impressive skill, make some comment about coordination, etc, and that gives her an opening to respond or expand. Of course the context is really what matters. Probably shouldn't open with a complement a lot though. I try to avoid that. Edit: If the glasses are kinda stylish and it g…
/r/seduction21/09/16 06:03 AM
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Thanks for being the voice of reason man. Would you condone keeping her in my social circle and meeting her friends?
/r/seduction21/09/16 05:48 AM
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I don't think there's a policy, but it's a huge ethical boundary. It would have to be kept completely secret.
/r/seduction21/09/16 05:45 AM
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Social Psychologist Philip Zimbardo wrote a book called "The Demise of Guys". His TEDx talk on the same topic has the same title. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FMJgZ4s2E3w
/r/seduction09/12/15 06:33 AM
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While I agree with this statement, there are a lot of guys that express confidence through complete stoicism. It's sort of the socially conditioned norm. As someone who struggles with confidence on almost a daily basis I constantly feel the pressure from my peers to hide my feelings and my vulnerabilities so as to not appear "weak".
/r/seduction23/02/14 05:23 PM
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21 male. I harbor a lot of self-loathing and self-esteem issues. I chronically avoid pursuing women who show signs of liking me and fixate on the women who couldn't care less about me. I'm actually pretty good at talking to women, and I don't really have much in the way of approach anxiety or anxiety about talking to strangers in general. But when it comes to actually being intimate with someone I just freeze. In a nutshell, I don't really believe I'm worthy of being loved, nor do I accept any o…
/r/seduction08/12/13 06:40 AM
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'Forced' doesn't imply that every child is circumcised by the government. It implies that the decision was made for the child and subsequently forced on the child. 'Involuntary' implies the child has the ability to voice dissent, which he cannot.
/r/seduction30/07/13 02:54 PM
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What is the difference between "involuntary" and "forced"? If the decision to circumcise the child is made before the child can give their own consent then you could say the decision was "forced" on them. Calling it "involuntary" is just softening the language. There's no reason to soften language when talking about forced genital mutilation of infants. It's disgusting and abhorent and it's a human rights violation. There is a law that protects women, it's only fair that men have that equal prot…
/r/seduction29/07/13 09:09 PM
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I too occasionally find myself checking /r/theredpill or /r/MensRights only to be disappointed. I don't feel oppressed, but I certainly feel I can name one human rights issue exclusive to men in the US: forced infant genital mutilation. You may not agree with my stance, but perhaps you can agree that it's ridiculous that those two subs spend so much time bashing women instead of focusing on important issues, such as not cutting off baby infant dicks. Overall, I agree with everything you said.
/r/seduction29/07/13 05:18 AM
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That two things
/r/seduction26/06/13 06:18 AM
1

Read a book in a dim light.
/r/seduction26/05/13 11:34 PM
1

In high school I used to live by this creek and I would just take all my dates there. Also book stores are a great place if want to keep it cheap. Girls tend to enjoy reading the silly books about astrology and sex, and you don't even have to buy them!
/r/seduction02/05/13 12:22 PM
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I look for women who can talk as openly and confidently as I can. I look at the game less as a means to have sex and more as a means to network and meet new people. It takes a lot of effort to be so open and for me it's really easy to lose interest in finicky or just straight boring girls. Be yourself. If a guy asks you what you do don't just tell him where you work, tell him what hobbies or activities you like. Share your opinions about nature, about music, about sex, or really anything that in…
/r/seduction30/04/13 01:05 PM
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Well where do you go to meet guys? I find that where I meet girls reflects what kind of person they will be. For instance there may be a bunch of HBs at some party, but they tend to be people who value partying more as opposed to say book clubs or live theatre etc. Maybe something to work on as far as your "girl game" goes would be framing where you find men. Not to say good men don't ever party, but if their values don't align with yours then things probably won't get very far.
/r/seduction27/04/13 12:58 PM
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I totally agree with this advice, but sometimes it's not so simple. I don't know OP or anything but sometimes it's possible to be a really social, attractive, valuable person and still have a terrible self-image. Sometimes I feel like I suffer from this. It's not always a lack of qualities that make one valuable, but one's inability to accept oneself.
/r/seduction15/04/13 06:36 AM
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I suppose it would be inappropriate for someone named "-colors" to maintain the dialect of only one race
/r/seduction13/04/13 04:06 PM
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I'm gonna have to second this post. OP should just reciprocate with an equally lame nickname
/r/seduction10/04/13 06:48 AM
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