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| 1 | date multiple women100% agree, I've recently found myself in a fortunate position where a lot of friends are demanding my attention and it's been hard to keep up with dating and the energy shift is real. | /r/seduction | 13/02/26 05:32 PM |
| 29 | Where do horny women go when they want to find a man to sleep with?Stupid question, what are gender shots? | /r/seduction | 09/02/26 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Post-Hookup Etiquette2nd update: I’m actually seeing her tonight, I’m so happy :D Lmao let's go bro 🔥 she couldn't wait until finals are over I see 😏 | /r/seduction | 15/12/25 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Assuming emotional connection and sexual chemistry, will asking a girl to be exclusive turn her off, or do they typically like it if the guy initiates that discussion?Fair enough, just wondering about what the convergence of people's experiences is on average | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 04:08 AM |
| 1 | What’s the smoothest way to invite her back to your place?That's an interesting way to put it. It might be helpful to me because I tend to be timid/shy by default, but if I'm bold it might just be polarizing enough to work. Just gotta make sure the girl finds me reasonably attractive enough for it to work I guess X) Has it ever turned off or grossed out a girl enough to never see you again? I mean even if it has, it might be better than the alternative if it lets you get out of your head, as you said. | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 01:15 AM |
| 5 | What’s the smoothest way to invite her back to your place?Does it have a higher success rate than the plausible deniability strategy though? | /r/seduction | 12/12/25 12:47 AM |
| 2 | Role playing in the bedroom kinda screws up your perception of womenRole playing in the bedroom kinda screws up your perception of women I don't think it should. It's more like, the essence of female sexuality is them being turned on by being desired, and in this safe fantasy space, you're able to crank up that desire to 110%. I had a similar thought when I noticed a trend of love triangles in movies where the female lead is being pursued by two men simultaneously, but then I looked at an actual study and it was only something like 30% of women actually enjoy th… | /r/seduction | 11/12/25 07:02 PM |
| 2 | What are your best flirty questions or innuendos to spice up platonic date banter/convo once rapport is built?Ooo that's so good. It's being playful and flirty but with better risk management because if the suggestive meaning is received poorly you have plausible deniability of it not being your intended meaning. It's not your fault she interpreted it the dirty way 😂 I think it might also just be more fun than being literal. It's more dynamic and unpredictable in a way | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 04:48 PM |
| 5 | What are your best flirty questions or innuendos to spice up platonic date banter/convo once rapport is built?Actually, funny enough, I stole a canned line that Craig Ferguson used on a guest and used it on a date because of that Charisma on Command video. I dropped it in naturally and it worked, it was a funny moment for my personal development lol | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 02:20 PM |
| 10 | What are your best flirty questions or innuendos to spice up platonic date banter/convo once rapport is built?Oh yeah, I saw Charisma on Command do a video on him, he's hilarious ha. Time to watch 50 hours of footage to train the LLM in my brain 😂 | /r/seduction | 09/12/25 02:18 PM |
| 3 | Is there any value in following up with a girl that likely lost interest?I see what you're saying and your emotions are valid but another way to think about it is to view it as a reflection of THEIR inability to respect boundaries and not a reflection of YOUR worth as a romantic partner. If you want some advice, I'd say keep filtering hard and stating your boundary in very plain language like, “Just so you know, I don’t have sex outside of a committed relationship, that’s a non-negotiable for me.” If you say it in a softer way, some guys might take it as a modesty di… | /r/seduction | 08/12/25 08:42 PM |
| 2 | Is there any value in following up with a girl that likely lost interest?Now I don’t go over to a guys place at all because it’s not worth the headache of rejecting them and it always makes me feel bad about myself May I ask why turning down guys for sexy time makes you feel bad about yourself? | /r/seduction | 08/12/25 06:13 PM |
| 2 | Once you've kissed her once, do you have to check-in every time after as well?You can ofc nudge this along by planning say a movie night at her place etc as a date. Usually something like that is brought up as an option and if she goes for it then that's pretty much green light to sex. Yeah I was thinking of doing that with an upcoming date. But saying it at the end of an already fun date, and framing it in a way that seems casual and where she can say no without me losing face. Kinda like, "I'm starving. Wanna eat out or do a movie and pizza at my place?" | /r/seduction | 05/12/25 09:51 PM |
| 2 | Once you've kissed her once, do you have to check-in every time after as well?Fuck this is actually good. Thanks man. Eventually they'll work to create the environment where sex can happen spontaneously. So at any point if she hints at making such an environment you're good to go. Shiidd I might've missed a chance last year then. A date asked me like two or three times how far away my place was. I guess she wanted me to pick up on it and say something like, "yeah it's not far, we should watch a movie or something" I guess how obvious it is will vary as well, based on the … | /r/seduction | 05/12/25 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Once you've kissed her once, do you have to check-in every time after as well?Fuck at the end of it if you are fun and then you don't have to be committed to each other. How do I make that transition from "we're going on fun dates, exchanging banter, connecting emotionally and sharing, having some cute moments" to her coming over and us fucking? It just seems like such a big jump from where I am with her, I can't even imagine what would need to happen. Like, I lack the experience necessary to even generate the simulation, you get me? We've gone on two dates, one was ~4 ho… | /r/seduction | 05/12/25 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Once you've kissed her once, do you have to check-in every time after as well?Thanks man, I think I agree with the consensus here, it makes sense. Women have insane amount of options so they always want to keep options open and not get tied down to one man. Yeah that's definitely true, but this particular girl was engaged last year to a seriously long relationship, so I think that's the reason on her part (my speculation). She could of course be seeing multiple guys, but I honestly don't think that's the case for her, not that it matters. | /r/seduction | 05/12/25 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Once you've kissed her once, do you have to check-in every time after as well?How do I build the confidence to do this? Just try enough times successfully? I guess there's no shortcut or hack huh 😅 | /r/seduction | 03/12/25 02:17 PM |
| 248 | How do you actually attract the calm, grounded guys instead of the high-energy party types?I'm exactly the type you're describing and I'm currently seeing a girl that matches my vibe perfectly. She's very family-oriented, works as a daycare teacher, loves animals, is vegetarian, doesn't drink, etc. I decided to pursue her because her photos didn't make it seem like she's too in love with her looks. They're normal photos taken of her in casual "modest" clothes and just one photo in a flattering dress where you can tell she has a nice body but she's not flaunting it. I want to keep seei… | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 08:22 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean when a girl asks if you're okay with just casual dates?We'll reach AGI and solve nuclear fusion, but no one will ever be able to understand women 🤣 | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 02:25 PM |
| 1 | What does it mean when a girl asks if you're okay with just casual dates?I worded my question very specifically so her answer would be precise, but it was still kinda vague. She just said she doesn't want to be in a relationship atm. I don't think it'll be good to follow-up, my question was pretty wordy. I'll just keep rolling, I've seen nothing but green flags so far. I think if anything, I should turn up my boldness because it'll be date #3 and she's setting a relationship boundary which means she wants to keep seeing me but manage my expectations too | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 07:58 AM |
| 1 | What does it mean when a girl asks if you're okay with just casual dates?Yeah, she said going out and enjoying each other's company. Thing is, I'm not sure if this means kissing and/or physical escalation is out of the question since she said this after our second date, where I kissed her. But it might've been because I took her to a Christmas lights thing at a zoo, which was very relationship-coded. I don't think it means she wants to be platonic because otherwise why be on a dating app, right? Plus she must expect I eventually want sex, being a man, right? At first… | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 07:44 AM |
| 3 | Once you've kissed her once, do you have to check-in every time after as well?I asked her what "casual dates" means to her and she said just going out and enjoying each other's company. But I'm still not sure if she means just being platonic or everything is on the table, just nothing long-term. My initial impression is she's saying she'd rather have something platonic, but I'm not sure if that makes sense if she's on dating apps? Should I ask her next time I see her or will that really make her dry up? Do I just assume attraction and make a move? Another possible explana… | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 06:36 AM |
| 1 | Once you've kissed her once, do you have to check-in every time after as well?Nah I've been leading with where to meet, when to meet, what to do, etc. I just asked her if I could kiss her because I didn't want to surprise her, but I felt like kissing her in the moment. | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 06:31 AM |
| 2 | Once you've kissed her once, do you have to check-in every time after as well?So yesterday I went on a date with this girl. I asked her if I could kiss her as she was getting in her car. She said yeah and we kissed. Today she asked if I'm okay with just casual dates and that she's not looking for a relationship at the moment. Am I good to be forward and invite her to my place at the end of our next date? | /r/seduction | 02/12/25 06:30 AM |
| 2 | Your attractiveness is largely dependant on your social validationBut how does someone "AMOG you" like that guy said? He's using it like a verb | /r/seduction | 01/12/25 02:01 PM |
| -3 | Your attractiveness is largely dependant on your social validationYeah I'm a terrible overthinker. My brother has full-blown OCD and it seems I have a related pattern of thinking sometimes. Appreciate ya | /r/seduction | 30/11/25 02:15 AM |
| 16 | Your attractiveness is largely dependant on your social validationWhat's AMOG? I've heard of "mogging". Is it related? | /r/seduction | 30/11/25 12:49 AM |
| 4 | Your attractiveness is largely dependant on your social validationTons of beautiful women are always talking about how they’re going to see some DJ this weekend. The DJ has such a high perceived level of ‘status’ and social validation that they all flock to them. Bruh I was on a date the other day and the girl seemed really sweet and reserved but now you've got me worrying. She voluntarily divulged that she went clubbing with her friends, and she framed it like she had to be peer pressured to be there. She said something or other like, "alcohol was involved un… | /r/seduction | 30/11/25 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Fix your Incel mindset before you go and seduce/harass womenI agree it seems irrational on a high-level. And I'm not defending these people but there is some nuance where their frustration kinda makes sense. Say guy A takes a girl on dates, pays for the food, shows her cool places, etc. but gets no action. Maybe he's nice but not hot. Or maybe he is good looking even but he lacks confidence and is timid so he doesn't really make a move on the girl, i.e. no spark or sexual tension. Now say guy B is hot and confident, is a chad even, and he gets laid with … | /r/seduction | 26/11/25 03:38 AM |
| 25 | How do you actually flirt sexually without coming off creepy or too aggressive?Being confident is unapologetically acting on how you feel. Being pushy is getting clear resistance but actively ignoring no's and not recalibrating. Elegantly said | /r/seduction | 17/11/25 08:30 PM |
| 11 | How do you actually flirt sexually without coming off creepy or too aggressive?We matched on Hinge, conversation started great, but I can't figure out how to move it forward. Like when she sends something slightly suggestive I have no idea how to respond. Do I match her energy? Go further? Play it safe? I would say if she sends something slightly suggestive, that's tacit consent for you to reciprocate. Think about it logically, why would she be flirty if she wasn't receptive to you flirting back? What's more, you've already matched, right? So she at least likes what your f… | /r/seduction | 17/11/25 08:27 PM |
| 2 | A trick I used to teach my studentsI think he's saying to not hype her too much in your head. I think he's taken his idea a little too far imo, it's a bit mean in spirit and you're kinda manipulating or gas lighting yourself. If you want to approach a woman who is looking amazing, Devalue her, then see how easy it is to approach her. I used to imagine a girl who I wanted to approach, had warts on her stomach or something similar. It also doesn't make sense logically. If she was actually gross, then why the hell are you approachin… | /r/seduction | 17/11/25 08:17 PM |
| 8 | A trick I used to teach my studentsIn fact, she should be worthless to you until she continuously shows that she likes you. This has to be rage bait, there ain't no way | /r/seduction | 17/11/25 08:12 PM |
| 11 | Why do so many men fail at first-date sex if a lot of women are open to it?This is a great, unintuitive point. Orion Taraban on YT has expressed a similar sentiment where women really have it backwards in some sense when trying to secure a so-called high value man, or someone they fancy for a possible LTR. They accidentally end up punishing the man they want most and end up getting ghosted by increasing the man's perceived cost. If he's truly high value then it's a rational decision to pursue other options that are less expensive. | /r/seduction | 17/09/25 08:16 PM |
| 2 | How many dates do you personally take women on before you cut them off for not wanting sex.Self-betrayal is the worst, man, it disrupts your internal compass. It's rough because if someone betrays you, you have the luxury of blaming them, but if you betray yourself, then you literally have no one else to blame. By consequence, it's hard to learn to trust yourself again because fundamentally you've betrayed your own trust. It's hard confronting that because it means some part of you might be insufficient or twisted/warped and probably needs to die and be reborn. Like with you sowing se… | /r/seduction | 05/08/25 05:20 PM |
| 10 | 19m here. Is it normal to not cum during sex?Wrong sub, but I had the same issue when I was your age. It eventually went away and I would ejaculate normally from sex. I think the issue is just the body experiencing a new form of sensation/a different level of pressure versus your hand. You've basically trained your body to ejaculate from a certain type of sensation/level of pressure, i.e. your hand. It just needs to get accustomed to sex. You're fine my guy. | /r/seduction | 24/07/25 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Me (M25) worried about my new girlfriend’s (F25) posts?but I know myself and how if something is on my mind, and it’s not discussed, it’ll manifest in my behaviour changing towards her. I applaud you on your self awareness man, especially at this level. Unchecked resentment is a nasty business, I know from personal experience. If you have something to say, say it. Otherwise it will fester in your nasty little soul and resurface in a way you don't want it to. Keep being introspective like this and you'll go far in life, or at the very least you'll ke… | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 05:12 PM |
| 5 | When did you realize she was flirting, not just being nice and what did you learn?no one is that happy about asking where an atm is or where's the nearest Starbucks at 2am 🤣 I love your comment man, it's worded in a way that autistic men will understand, this makes a lot more sense than "you'll just know bro" X) | /r/seduction | 24/04/25 04:03 PM |
| 39 | I find majority of girls boring, what can I do?Gentlemen, you both have valid points but let's not attack each other's interests. You might find Burning Man boring and what you like interesting, but the person you replied to may find what you like boring and what he likes interesting and you're both correct because you both like different things and that's okay. Let's just say we should go out and do what we find interesting and fun and approach women who like the same things we like and maybe we'll all have a chance at being happy, deal? :~… | /r/seduction | 23/04/25 07:26 PM |
| 32 | I Asked 20 Women Why They Slept With Me: Their Answers Changed My Game8️⃣ The "Female Best Friend" safety story. Subtly lets her know you’re not a creep and understand women’s experiences. Can you or someone else elaborate on this one? I'm not sure I understand | /r/seduction | 05/02/25 05:50 PM |
| 3 | How to attract beautiful girls as a short guy?I'm also 5'4", only you're 18 so you could possibly grow some more. I do fine on dating apps and I'm no chad, so there will be some women who will find you attractive, it's just a matter of probability. However, it'll be harder for you because you have no status, power, and virtually no compelling lifestyle at 18 but if you date girls your age then I guess it won't matter because you guys are practically still kids so the bar is low. Practice good hygiene, maintain strong eye contact, smile at s… | /r/seduction | 27/01/25 03:57 PM |
| 1 | [Field Report] Advice for my first date follow-up message?Solid advice, thank you! | /r/seduction | 11/07/24 12:21 AM |
| 1 | [Field Report] Advice for my first date follow-up message?Thanks man, this is really helpful, appreciate you 🙏 | /r/seduction | 10/07/24 09:51 PM |
| 2 | [Field Report] Advice for my first date follow-up message?you are massively over-gaming this situation and it’s kinda cringe (but you sound new so it’s fine, just focus on improving) I was ready for someone to say I'm being very need by overthinking this haha, but thank you for understanding 😅 Yes, I am very new to this stuff! also going to see a movie is a terrible idea no one’s physically escalating a meaningful way in a public theater Hmm, okay, I need to do more research on physically escalating. I didn't really make any moves on the date, I think … | /r/seduction | 10/07/24 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever gotten a woman to have sex who had initially laid it as a hard boundary? How did you get her to change her mind?How did you escalate naturally from "hey wanna come inside" to you guys doing the deed since asking her to come inside doesn't explicitly convey the intention of wanting sex? Do you think it might be the vagueness/uncertainty creating sexual tension, it actually helps? | /r/seduction | 08/07/24 06:19 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever gotten a woman to have sex who had initially laid it as a hard boundary? How did you get her to change her mind?But I'm going to guess a strict boundary is more like a moral principle, e.g. no sex before marriage, whereas an empathic boundary is based on emotions, so it'd be something like, she doesn't want to have sex with me specifically because the sexual attraction isn't strong enough to justify the risk of the sexual opportunity? | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 03:41 PM |
| 3 | Have you ever gotten a woman to have sex who had initially laid it as a hard boundary? How did you get her to change her mind?Can you elaborate on strict boundary vs empathic boundary? Not sure what you mean | /r/seduction | 05/07/24 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Do guys do shit tests, or is it predominantly a thing women do?For sex though or for a relationship or both? | /r/seduction | 02/07/24 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Do guys do shit tests, or is it predominantly a thing women do?What would a shit test for this look like? | /r/seduction | 01/07/24 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Neediness vs. being direct: Tell a woman "I want to fuck you".Thanks! | /r/seduction | 20/06/24 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Neediness vs. being direct: Tell a woman "I want to fuck you".I liked Models overall, but I'd also like to learn about the concepts used in game (the ones you mentioned). Do you have a book where you learned about these? | /r/seduction | 19/06/24 09:58 PM |
| 5 | Is it normal to not understand woman’s behavior as a man?Fax, Mark Manson mentions this in his book Models, it's called Polarization. You basically polarize a woman by expressing your interest, and if she responds positively, then you know she's receptive. If she's unreceptive, then you know where you stand, mystery solved, move on to someone else. | /r/seduction | 19/06/24 09:16 PM |
| 3 | For the guys who had zero experience with womenThe dance lessons thing sounds interesting. Would you practice in pairs? Is that how you became habituated being physically close to women? What was the sex ratio in these classes, roughly? And what was the age distribution like? | /r/seduction | 02/05/24 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Help! How to move the frame to where she wants to impress me?Frame isn't a technique, it's something you assume as being true and sub-communicate. By trying to think of a witty response and asking us to help you out, you're already in the frame of trying to impress her, lmao. Okay, so frame is something that you believe internally...got it. And you're saying by me worrying about what she thinks of me, I've already stepped out of my desired frame of her wanting to seek my approval instead of the reverse. As you're a beginner, you should start from STOPPING… | /r/seduction | 02/05/24 02:56 PM |
| 3 | Help! How to move the frame to where she wants to impress me?This is a fair critique. This reminds me of Orion's video on how men "snatch defeat from the jaws of success." https://youtu.be/nRzgSqPqXRw?si=3mURCyccsCL-UzlHI I think it may just be my anxiety about not having dated in a few years. The date is also on Saturday, so I was thinking I have to fill these two days with more messages but maybe I'll just wait until I see her for my next interaction? But you're right. It's already established she liked whatever she saw (or at least her idea of me), and… | /r/seduction | 02/05/24 12:36 AM |
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