johnnybozzz Archive

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3	Leaving my wife. Follow/up to what I previously said… top 10 pieces of advice for next steps: GO TO THE MATTRESSES! look it up, it’s from the God Father. Control the narrative! Tell her this is because of her not you, her behavior is beyond tolerable and you deserve better. It’s not a debate/discussion it is a statement to be made not adjudicated. This should be done in writing via email after you have sorted things with your lawyer. Move out, do it swiftly when she is at work or somewhere else. Get ALL of your …	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/24 03:56 PM
1	Leaving my wife. Co-sleeping? No, his lawyer will tell him and he should listen: Move out now! Apartment, in with the folks, whatever. Plan for six months, but get out. Women become violent at the drop of a hat, it’s the reason that I was able to get my wife removed from the house with a temporary restraining order and custody of my 7 year old daughter. Because my wife got violent.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/24 03:10 PM
1	Leaving my wife. You can’t anticipate this behavior, only respond to it in kind. The cruise was an opportunity, she squandered it and pushed beyond the tipping point. Bon Voyage “Ex” wife.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/24 02:52 PM
2	Leaving my wife. The only mistake I think you made would be not setting her straight in the divorce announcement. Even a narcissist will collect the feedback and it will eat at them. If she thinks she is right she will fight aggressively to prove it, but if you set her straight up front and in clear language (write an email explaining) and then stick to the narrative you will maintain the high ground with your son. He needs to understand that this treatment is her fault, unacceptable and to avoid it in his futur…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/07/24 02:48 PM
1	Ex thinks I hacked her. I wish she thought I was this capable when we were married! Do nothing, focus on you and your son. If you are fat and ugly that’s an indicator of your self confidence needing a rebuild. Start with a gym membership, get a trainer or follow one online. Set goals for yourself. Don’t set ridiculous goal like winning Mr Universe next year, set measured goals with milestones you can see. Start with losing a few pounds, cutting sugar, walking a mile then two then jogging a bit. The exercise will increase your testosterone which highly affects mood, energy and h…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/02/24 08:17 PM
3	For Those that did ALL the housework I got her as well… Russian though, lazy and now she has to do everything herself 😏	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/24 02:31 PM
7	Divided property question Careful with the valuations, lawyers will charge on both sides to sort this out. A $500 couch can turn into a $100 couch after you both pay your lawyers/paralegals to argue about the valuation. I would get a shared spreadsheet going, list all the things in the house, estimate their value and then see if you agree. Big ticket items are the real thing to look at. Accept you are going to take a loss on the little things in order not to pay to keep them. - Vehicles are easy, they have a valuation (k…	/r/Divorce_Men	09/03/23 01:55 AM
1	Need a voice recorder ASAP which one? That’s is not true, as long as you are on of the two parties in the conversation it is admissible.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/02/23 09:02 PM
1	Need a voice recorder ASAP which one? Use Otter.ai, it will also transcribe everything and it’s recorded in the cloud. Use your phone, computer etc. much better.	/r/Divorce_Men	15/02/23 09:02 PM
4	Overwhelmed by Divorce There is a lot of free advice in here, some good, some not so much. I will give you this… “this too shall pass” Of all of this advise, make a list. The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. You’re stunned, shocked, in denial… it’s coming at you from all directions and you don’t know where to turn. Sit down, close your eyes and breath. Start with a simple step, then another, then another. All moving forward, towards a goal of recovery and rebuilding. To the guy who tells you to …	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/22 06:36 AM
1	Sell the house before divorce finalized? Advice? Sounds like a mediation group is the best advice. Or you both use the same lawyer to do all the paperwork. I've seen that done as well. Either way, she's offered you the deal of a lifetime. Even with the threat of a friend in her ear that's not relevant. You're being offered more than you could hope for in a fight. Be amicable and supportive until the moment you can't be anymore. Sounds like she had a bad divorce already, play on that and be supportive. You can't fix it, don't try. Just get out …	/r/Divorce_Men	12/08/22 11:19 PM
22	Marriage Heading to Divorce Strike First, Strike Hard, No Mercy... Kobra Kai your divorce!!! Document, record and prepare. Get a lawyer and solicit their advice. Put them on retainer... And get the paperwork ready to be filed. Here is the real deal, you are pretty much screwed, so the amount of screwed depends on you. Men all over this forum are telling horror stories about their divorces. Everyone of them follows the same theme, she got everything I got screwed. Don't be a victim, just because you are a man doesn't mean y…	/r/Divorce_Men	10/08/22 05:52 AM
3	Online Divorce Service Mine is halfway there and I'm only 3 months in. However, I was prepared. Lawyer teed up, laid down the paperwork and ended up with full custody and a DVRO for three months. She has supervised visits. So guys can get the upper hand in a divorce, nobody wins, but you can preserve your rights and protect your time with your kiddos.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/22 04:42 AM
6	Online Divorce Service Get a lawyer! The mistakes you make could be more expensive than you can possibly imagine.	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/22 02:48 AM
3	need help Get evidence of this, use Otter.ai and record everything from your phone. EVERYTHING. install it on a computer ipad and use a speakerphone for calls record from the alt device on Otter.ai. Collect texts, emails, etc Play along but talk to a lawyer quick. Collect the children's passports and destroy them. Tell the lawyer that she is a flight risk, and have them file paperwork restricting her from getting replacement passports (trust me its a thing) Contact her former husband's and get them to wri…	/r/Divorce_Men	06/08/22 02:03 AM
1	I hate the feeling of having an enemy living in my house with me You can't argue with crazy. You can just plan, prepare and execute. Mitigate the damage as much as possible!	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/22 03:37 PM
1	I hate the feeling of having an enemy living in my house with me Lord have mercy... How do you even date after divorcing crazy.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/22 03:35 PM
1	I hate the feeling of having an enemy living in my house with me Set her off, get evidence and file paperwork… worked for me! I am the women now in the relationship, I got the kid, the house, the dog and she got forced to get her issues dealt with. Also read up in “classic narcissist behaviors”	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/22 02:00 PM
1	I hate the feeling of having an enemy living in my house with me Amen brother!	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/22 01:58 PM
2	I hate the feeling of having an enemy living in my house with me Strike first, strike hard! Kobra Kai divorce… file for emergency custody. Fight!!!	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/22 01:58 PM
1	I hate the feeling of having an enemy living in my house with me Read my post ^ you can win at losing!	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/22 01:56 PM
3	I hate the feeling of having an enemy living in my house with me YOU CAN STILL WIN AT LOSING! Oh man do I have advice for you, I literally just did this and am winning! Well as much as you can win for my daughter and myself. I’ll start with a bit of hope! Here you go… I currently have: 1. A TRO against my wife for me and my daughter 2. A No contact order 3. Full custody (temporary) until the hearing 4. She got booted from the house, I’m back in which is amazing for my daughters mental health So here it is, I planned for an amicable divorce and filed the paper…	/r/Divorce_Men	20/07/22 01:55 PM
1	Divorce Contempt of Court Wow that was a great reply, til… thanks!	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/22 12:53 PM
2	Don't put her name on the house title if you can get away with it. Get a legal consultation from a divorce lawyer to be sure.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/22 12:47 PM
1	Don't put her name on the house title if you can get away with it. Well played!!!	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/22 12:29 PM
1	What would you say are some good ground rules for a friendly, responsible co-parenting? Within reason, if it something you can fix and doesn’t incur any real liability it can be a good show of friendship. If you are fortunate enough to remain friends with your ex, this can make events like graduations, birthdays, parties and even weddings more Agreeable. Fixing the internet, moving a couch, are these really so bad? Remember you are also helping your child who lives there too. It’s not being a simp, it’s being a respectful example to your child.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/22 12:22 PM
1	She shit talks about me to the kids Counter with positive and direct communication with your kids. Sit them down and say, “it’s ok to feel uncomfortable when mom talks bad about dad.” One day when you are older you will have to make decide for yourself if the things mommy and daddy say are true and why. Until then just know that dad will always love you and never talk poorly about your mother. I may not love or want to live with her, but she still deserves to be respected as the mother of my wonderful children. High road, power of…	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/22 12:10 PM
2	Moving out and emergency custody Don’t move out. Once you move out you lose the fight. Stay in the house, get security cameras for home breakin protection. Take care of your kids and remember the truth always comes out.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/12/21 11:11 PM
1	Why women divorce men… What state are you in?	/r/Divorce_Men	28/12/21 11:03 PM