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Yea, they are social life. Not a medical student or doctor, so can't advice on getting those girls. AWALT regardless, and you got your life together. Just remember that you are the prize.
/r/askTRP23/03/21 07:12 AM
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Before getting girls, do you even have a social life?
/r/askTRP23/03/21 07:09 AM
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Re-reading back, now that I have achieved the top goals, I have to say your advice helps a lot at that time of uncertainty, thanks man!
/r/askTRP31/01/21 03:27 PM
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I have to add something. A lot of people, especially nerds, have no idea how to spend to make themselves look good. They buy expensive suits, apple watches, etc. And not only did the appearance look terrible (because the clothes don't fit them), it gives the wrong vibe. I am still learning about how to dress to male myself look good, but the process needs the person to spend some money. TLDR, Learn how and where to spend reasonable money to further your goal such as looking good.
/r/TheRedPill17/01/21 06:05 PM
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Why are you here?
/r/askTRP01/01/21 09:49 AM
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33 year old dude getting jealous of a 24 year old cousin. Man, if this is not made up, the guy has a lot of emotional baggage to undo.
/r/askTRP01/01/21 07:50 AM
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Nope. They were friends before you two date, and happy new year is just a phrase that means nothing. Stop being insecure.
/r/askTRP01/01/21 07:47 AM
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Bruh...I hope this is a sarcastic post.
/r/TheRedPill01/01/21 07:27 AM
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Psychopath. Easy to get along. Bro...
/r/askTRP31/12/20 09:12 PM
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Not too sure why people are downvoting. What u/LastRevision describes is the exact prize mentality that we all should pick up on, but when seen from the outsiders, we are called the assholes. I never shy away from conflict, especially when I’m “fighting to be right.” This is gold. I hate the quote "happy wife, happy life", and I am very much disgusted by how Chinese call "shying away from arguments from GF" as "the desire to survive". A girl who insists to be right / cry in many conflicts is a h…
/r/TheRedPill31/12/20 01:46 AM
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You handle yourself. Don't LTR or get exclusive with a hoe, even if she gets exclusive with you. You don't reciprocate this shit with a hoe, unless you want your heart broken.
/r/askTRP27/12/20 05:09 AM
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On a way to a family? Lmao using RP for Blue Pill dream.
/r/askTRP26/12/20 07:25 PM
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Know that an acquaintance can do whatever you want, but a friend would never be hoes before bros. This is speaking from experience. After broke up, the things friends would do is to support you,not fuck your ex behind your back.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 10:07 AM
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Holy shit. Theory + Practical advice. This is freaking gold mine. Thank you Woujo!
/r/TheRedPill22/12/20 02:18 AM
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Not too sure you are being sarcastic or not, but for real tho, it's one thing to have feelings, it's another to express your feelings.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 02:13 AM
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How do I not get emotional over the divorce? I still feel like I love her First, read the sidebar and TRM, and REMEMBER THAT she is the woman we talk about. If you can still love her despite her being such a shitty person, you must be a person who doesn't love / value yourself.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 02:11 AM
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Not too sure about LTR, but all girls from any country are terrible for marriage. I am from South East Asia, and I have a cousin who was newly wed (less than 3 months). His wife already says on Facebook that he is ugly, so he should feel lucky he has her. Even if it is a joke, this is a big shit test that just shows that when you get into marriage (or LTR), and the girl thinks that she got you, you lost power.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 01:45 PM
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27.
/r/askTRP08/12/20 09:40 PM
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More like I cannot stand to see the process of self-destruction of a person.
/r/askTRP05/12/20 01:45 PM
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This is a tough pill for me to swallow personally, that as a bro, we have to be there for a person doomed to be destroyed and who do not heed our advice. Maybe that's why I don't want to have kids.
/r/askTRP05/12/20 12:08 PM
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Why don't you just break it off?
/r/askTRP04/12/20 01:27 PM
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If you are not getting girls in youe home country, you are not getting girls outside. For real tho, don't travel to meet girls. If traveling is your mission, then stay in hostel or places where things happen.
/r/askTRP03/12/20 09:18 PM
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Didn't believe in the values of marriage and kids, do not believe in them, and never will. If you really want to leave a legacy, you better build an empire like Facebook. Your genes are just mediocre. Don't pass it on.
/r/askTRP03/12/20 09:16 PM
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No. Fuck marriage. Even if you are not successful with ladies, do not sacrfice your freedom for one woman. Freedom > Woman
/r/askTRP22/11/20 05:05 PM
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If you want marriage, TRP isn't for you to achieve Blue Pill dream
/r/askTRP20/11/20 11:32 AM
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how? you dont need weight to train pistol squat.
/r/askTRP10/11/20 10:24 AM
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I feel like OP's problem is that he put more efforts into the girl than himself.
/r/askTRP03/11/20 09:55 PM
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Lol home workout is not boring if you choose the right programs. Can you do planche? Pistol squat? Handstand push up? L sit? V sit?
/r/askTRP02/11/20 12:12 PM
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The whore-madonna complex. It's better for yourself to drop this mindset.
/r/askTRP22/10/20 09:00 PM
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The point of redpill is to figure yourself out. If something so important like this is something you have to ask for opinions from strangers in the internet, you are just a newbie. Outer game is what strangers can help. How you want to live your life is not.
/r/askTRP22/10/20 08:58 PM
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That's why the 5'8" bartender beats the 6'3" jacked bouncer. The bartender is fucking with the girl's head. Can you explain this more?
/r/askTRP21/10/20 09:24 AM
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It's exhausting to run on emotions. It is not sustainable, and you condition yourself to think that you can only get things done when you have strong emotions. Furthermore, maybe you get things done with strong emotions. Now those emotion-filled days are your best days. When things plateau, as they would be, you will start to self-destruct to get back to the emotional high. TLDR: dont rely on emotions.
/r/TheRedPill14/10/20 07:31 PM
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The actual reality is that lifting is important. The actual reality is that men age like wine. The actualy reality is that marriage is a bad deal for men. The actual reality is that sex feels good. So fuck off with your beliefs. Go somewhere else.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/20 04:38 PM
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About the poems, it's Zero cringe btw. Lmao
/r/TheRedPill09/10/20 06:15 AM
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my reaction.
/r/askTRP07/10/20 07:26 PM
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Urm...I guess you have been Asianized from the way you talk about 2 years + screen her well -> should marry. Here's a hot take: there's nothing to gain for from a marriage, even in an Asian country. There's nothing your wife can give you except sex if you are a healthy male (i.e., you know how to cook, you have hobbies, you are not afraid of being alone).
/r/askTRP07/10/20 07:22 PM
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Here's my take. A man with a solid frame is not someone who constantly shoves his frame down some other people. Maintaining your boundary doesn't mean you constantly step over others' lines when unwarranted. Second, I do not look up to somebody who act friendly towards you like he's known you for five years and then talks shit about you. It signals incongruence and manipulation (the act friendly part). If you want to hit on somebody's girlfriend, go hit on. But don't act like bromance with the g…
/r/askTRP06/10/20 10:49 AM
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First, Texting is for logistic. Second, move on. Have an abundance mindset.
/r/askTRP06/10/20 06:43 AM
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Hit the gym. Get plates. Mission. Take good care of yourself. Make sure you eat healthy, sleep well, and exercise hard. Work on your craft. Get good at whatever you are doing. You will be over her in no time.
/r/askTRP06/10/20 06:42 AM
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The problem with people with these insecurities would think that they lose not just £100 but £90,900. LOL.
/r/askTRP05/10/20 10:53 AM
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Add in some cheating traits and narcissism and we have the classic amd literal AWALT HB10
/r/askTRP04/10/20 07:58 PM
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He must be really desperate such that these desperate bitches turn her on.
/r/askTRP04/10/20 04:08 PM
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You went exclusive. How is that different from having an LTR?
/r/askTRP04/10/20 04:05 PM
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What part of "stability, not worrying about having to date people, or deal with others BS" that you need a marriage for? I am just super curious as to the real benefits that marriage can provide and that a single man cannot achieve on his own.
/r/askTRP02/10/20 10:09 AM
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I hope you are being sarcastic. Imagine jumping through all these hoops such as recording conversations when going on a date to get girls.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/20 04:42 PM
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LMAO the Madonna-Whore Complex.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/20 04:40 PM
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My biggest takeaway from this post is this: He carried cards with him and focused on developing one virtue for one week at a time. Every time he failed practicing the chosen quality he would note it down in his ledger. He is not the only one which dedicated himself to moral perfection as he called it. The Samurai had their bushido code. Aristotle had his 12 virtues which he practiced. This practice you don't see that often today. That's called principles, or in TRP, boundaries. Look, we are so m…
/r/TheRedPill26/09/20 10:03 AM
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Here's the thing about being grateful. If you don't really resonate with being grateful, merely writing down/thinking about things you appreciate doesn't really help you become more positive. Experience: writing down 3 small things I am grateful for consecutive months. My point is that being in an appreciative mindset is different from consciously reminding yourself to become appreciative, and the latter does not necessarily make you an appreciative person (notice the cause-and-effect relationsh…
/r/TheRedPill26/09/20 09:57 AM
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To do well in life, it all boils down to doing two things well simultaneously: practicing and learning. And here's the trick: don't get stuck in the binary world – you need to work on both at the same time. I am still working on both aspects but I do notice that when I learn and not practice, I don't feel like my life is improving on the practical level. when I practice and not learn (from the personal experiences or from others such as through TRP subreddit), I feel like I am all over the place…
/r/TheRedPill26/09/20 09:41 AM
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This is what happens if you put others first. Imagine that he chooses to prioritize himself selfishly instead of other people. He would have used the money to improve himself (such as education, fashion, experiences, etc.). I think the valuable lesson here is that choose wisely where to invest our time and money.
/r/TheRedPill26/09/20 09:34 AM
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Urm, first of all, why do you care? If he happens to work on a job that he loves to death, he is lucky. Second, having a life outside of work doesn't make you a better person. But good for you to know how to make yourself happy. The only question you need to ask is if he has a mission and if you have a mission.
/r/askTRP20/09/20 08:53 AM
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It is true. 147 pounds are not buff. I am 5'10'' and around 67kg – definitely need more 10kgs to look muscular.
/r/askTRP06/09/20 01:18 AM
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Then why do you still keep the guy in your vicinity and not hang out with your majority?
/r/askTRP09/08/20 06:20 PM
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I have been thinking about this recently and I realize that chasing after something profitable for the sake of money doesn't give you wealth necessarily. Case in point: people from profitable industry such as tech who get laid off in this COVID. International students working hard to get into USA are now having their dreams shattered. It's better to work hard at what you love and monetize your work/skills.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/20 03:47 PM
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If each women has 50 guys your level hitting her up, then you are not the top 10% males with respect to SMV. And you seem like you should learn to make friends. If you don't have friends of your own age, I dont think women should be your first concern.
/r/askTRP26/06/20 08:47 PM
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Post this in asktrp, not here.
/r/TheRedPill25/06/20 11:08 AM
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What do you mean by a nice connection? LMAO after all the sidebar, you still think that a woman can love you like you want?
/r/askTRP14/06/20 12:05 PM
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Only working on your purpose for 1 hour? And you call it ideal? Using a simple heuristics: 24 hours can be divided into three parts: 8 hours for sleeping / resting / nap 8 hours for working on your mission (use RescueTime to actually track the time you spend on your tasks) 8 hours for health (i.e., eat and exercise), grooming, and hobbies.
/r/TheRedPill13/06/20 04:06 AM
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Been lifting for a month. I am 19 years old. In high school I was pretty popular because I played soccer, one of the only good habits I had. Okay, I really don't think you are in the position to give advice, even though your post is decent. It feels like you haven't had a long enough time in college. Do you pick up new hobbies over the time? How to balance academia, internships, networking, dating, sleeping, and exercising? Perhaps instead of framing this as an advice post, make it a self-report…
/r/TheRedPill30/05/20 02:45 PM
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I totally can relate. I find that there's a period where it's damn tough for me to internalize RP because I lacked a lot of security (such as job security and financial security), and I have a lot of toxic inner thoughts to get rid of (i.e., the anger phase). I am also not an innate RP person, and I was lost for some time because of the lack of mission. RP is tough for me because it reveals my weakness. It makes me uncomfortably aware of how I lack abundance mentality and the courage to push thr…
/r/TheRedPill17/05/20 01:40 AM
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you must be young.
/r/askTRP28/04/20 08:21 PM
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OP, please no ffs. Do not fucking cohabitate with your GF. My fucking god what has this asktrp become.
/r/askTRP11/03/20 09:11 PM
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I feel like your problem is resolved if you have multiple plates. From your post, it reads like you only have one plate, which to quote many endorsed contributors, one plate is NOT a plate.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/20 01:13 PM
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You want the girl to tell you to fuck off so you know to fuck off? Man, where is your frame? Where is your prize mentality? Where's your abundance? Where's your gate of commitment? Go back to the fucking sidebar please.
/r/askTRP09/03/20 05:41 PM
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Little people have big pride because they are afraid of failure. And no, pride doesn't come in the form of anxiety. Pride comes in the form of living in the past or exaggerating a certain part of oneself whom one is proud of and becoming defensive when people suggest otherwise. This is how I understand the quote, " If it is truly your ambition in life to become something great, then you will follow that ambition no matter what is in front of you, no matter how challenging it could be. You will a…
/r/askTRP06/03/20 10:18 PM
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You were a typical nice guy. I was no longer a complete fucking asshole, insulting women when I could, or brushing them off to make them work harder or qualify themselves. TRP tells you to put yourself first, but since you have been a nice guy, you go to the extreme end: by being the asshole and insult people to show that you matter. You lack inner game because your ego drove you. TRP tells you to show, not tell. This includes not bragging, not shit-talking, etc. It means building up an interest…
/r/TheRedPill06/03/20 02:01 PM
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OP. This.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 01:19 PM
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Man, what are your hobbies? Do you do any social hobbies, e.g. going to language exchange, meetups, traveling with randoms in groups, dancing, etc.? Do you have interesting life experiences such as adventures? I have a feeling that you don't live an interesting life. Do things after work that you think are cool regularly–––you will later think highly of yourself, and you can break free from the validation from others when you have self-validation.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 10:11 AM
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She is already unworthy imo. She sounds like she has mild disrespect to your boundary. If she really puts you first and cares about how you feel, she wouldn't continue things that make you feel uncomfortable. It should be you defining what is appropriate and inappropriate for an LTR, not her.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 03:07 AM
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Outcome independence man. If logistics really sucks, and the only thing you want to extract out of the girl is just sex (not the good time spent with her), then bail and reschedule. If hanging out with her gives you a good time, and there's chance you can physically escalate, go for it.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 03:02 AM
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Both exercises do not build muscles. Period. And if you are aware of what women like, those who love muscles are enough for you to have new pussy every day.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 01:25 PM
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Just the title is enough for me to tell you what to do. Get a grip of yourself. Stop relying on other people for emotional support / being cheered up. Get your shit together and do things that make you happy. Talking to your oneitis is not one of them.
/r/askTRP23/02/20 03:48 PM
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Read the side bar. What do you do when you have rejection/people bailing on you? They miss out. Pity them. Say you wanna go on cafe and you ask them out to catch up, but they bail? Keep doing what you plan on doing. Outcome independence. That is, go to the cafe and work / enjoy coffee.
/r/askTRP23/02/20 03:46 PM
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I tried to break up with her many times and she refused to let me. She wanted me around to treat like this. I don't get it. What do you mean that you cannot break up with her? Walking away is the strongest weapon a person can have. Man, you need to get away and start afresh, and please, get your shit together man before you get involved in LTR.
/r/TheRedPill15/01/20 08:59 PM
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3 dates and no sex. I guess it's time for you to move on buddy. No need to mention "I'm also a man and enjoy sex." Just tell her: "I think it's best we don't hang out."
/r/askTRP14/01/20 05:08 PM
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From your post history, I think you are not as high in SMV as you claim. First, your neediness is oozing out. When getting laid is your top priority, and when everything you does is to get laid, you put women on a fucking pedestal. Look at yourself and your post history: "I'm a complete beginner and I approached 7 women tonight; got rejected by all 7. No, it doesn't make me feel better at all. I want to be castrated so I can finally stop thinking about women. I hate them so much." Classic sympto…
/r/askTRP14/01/20 05:04 PM
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No, the mistake is escapism to get the instant gratification for quick serotonin boost. People who have problem with PMO have problems in other aspects in their life, noticeably video gaming addiction, alcoholic, drug abuse, depression, debt, etc.
/r/askTRP13/01/20 06:18 PM
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busy with things that are exciting for you and get you out of your thinking mode. E.g. traveling, going to meet-ups to meet new people, etc. In short, get busy with things that venture into your discomfort zone or zone of unknowns.
/r/askTRP13/01/20 04:17 PM
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Bluepill, redpill, and blackpill can be as real as you want them to be. There are multiple forms of reality. Choose the one that serves you, not hinders you.
/r/askTRP13/01/20 12:59 PM
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OP, make sure you drill this advice into your head.
/r/askMRP01/01/20 08:02 PM
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Leave toxic environment. Period. If you don't like your current work environment, don't fucking settle, even if it hurts your boss (in this case, your parents) feeling. You don't like it, and you have a rational reason for not liking it. Work takes one-third of your lifetime, so why fucking settle? Abundance mindset man. If this work place is your marriage, will you stay? You know the answer.
/r/askTRP01/01/20 07:52 PM
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All humans are inherently evil. That's why we average humans have World War 2 and concentration camps. We are no better than Nazi people. That's why in 12 Rules of Life, JP urges people to strive for good. Because being bad is default. Power doesn't corrupt. Power boosts serotonin level because powerful people are at the high end of dominance hierarchy. It makes people confident. And then people, who do not aim for good, show their true nature.
/r/askTRP01/01/20 07:49 PM
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It's not mutually exclusive. Vulnerability means willing to go to unknown territory and risks getting failure and embarrassment. It means do things that requires huge balls. I believe it is mentioned in the book that vulnerability is not emotional puke, not seeking for sympathy. You fucking STFU about your problems. Vulnerability means cold approaching, asking her on a date, escalate, unabashedly being sexual, embrace conflicts, hold eye contact, etc. Anything that requires courage.
/r/askTRP01/01/20 07:43 PM
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What is holding you back? Social judgement? People's opinion? You said you like tattoo. Then get it ffs.
/r/askTRP01/01/20 03:34 PM
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Shit test. You pass it unknowingly because you are genuinely secure with yourself.
/r/askTRP01/01/20 02:50 PM
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Of course she wants to have sex. But its unlikely to be you, because you have been friendzoned, and during the friendzone period, you were inaunthentic. You saw her as a sexual being but you never act sexual towards her. Moreover you have a girlfriend. Sounds like your girlfriend is not satisfying you huh? I think there's a bigger problem in your life.
/r/askTRP01/01/20 12:45 PM
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Okay. First, know that your ex is malevolent, and you have to protect yourself because no one else will. She is simply out there to get you. Period. Second, don't try to contact her. Block her. Try to win the court case by consulting lawyers and understanding the consequences or implications that you have a restraining order. Then fucking move on. Your mindset is that you want to get the court case over as quickly as possible and start a new life in March. Visualize the new life without your ex.…
/r/askTRP01/01/20 10:30 AM
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Focus on the five aspects. Health - eat well. Sleep well. Lift. Wealth - clear debt. Build wealth (assets). Have a mission. Social - Show up on events. Host events (be a leader). Game women (cold approach and escalate). Hobbies - Trinity of hobbies. Have three hobbies: at least one is intellectual, at least one is physical, and at least one is social. Experiences - Tick things off your bucketlist. I think the five aspects are enough to keep you busy. You will become interesting and recognize tha…
/r/askTRP01/01/20 10:22 AM
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Oneitis sent you nudes and you think she wants you to fuck her, given how you have been the emotional tampon in the past? She is just an attention whore and she wants to get you back her orbit. Sounds like you love drama. If I were to take a guess, you don't have enough chaos in your life so you are drawn to her. That is, you don't have a mission and you still put hot women who brings drama on pedestal. Time for you to get busy with things you are passionate about.
/r/askTRP01/01/20 10:13 AM
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When I first read the title, I was like, "Since when RP tells us to put in more efforts in women to gain their desire?" I think what you mean is "Women's Desire Is Inversely Proportional To Your Effort."
/r/TheRedPill23/12/19 01:54 PM
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Appreciate ≠ Heartbroken. You graduate from college. You appreciate the things it taught you. Do you get fucking heartbroken over it? Have an abundance mindset and believe that the broken plates bring more goods than bads.
/r/askTRP21/12/19 05:32 PM
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Better in what sense?
/r/TheRedPill18/12/19 08:54 AM
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Lol. "Demote to place" and "want her in life". Dude, first, you are not being authentic. Second, you think she has higher value than you. Third, you are in scarcity.
/r/askTRP16/12/19 01:44 PM
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I think you must be tired of answering these dumb questions.
/r/askTRP12/12/19 08:25 PM
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First, how good do you look physically? My ex was a virgin and hates physical intimacy with random people, but after I start lifting she can't keep her hand off my ass and love lying on my chest (go figure how horny she is). The thing is, you don't make your gf horny so she doesn't initiate sex.
/r/askTRP12/12/19 09:42 AM
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So much hamster. I simply want her without sex? okay bruh I do not have the energy or the time to chase more tail. Then dont have a relationship and focus on your goals. Why give that girl (your oneitis) your attention if you dont have time/energy? She isn't my official gf So what is she? And what are you? Her emotional tampon or her "best friend"?
/r/askTRP12/12/19 09:33 AM
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"I saw you on Tinder. This is not working out for me." -> Block her and go on the trip alone. What you need to make yourself feel better is to do stuff that makes you feel more respected. Break-up with a whore (attention or what, idc) is the first step.
/r/askTRP11/12/19 08:14 AM
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The other way round. A healthy dynamic of LTR is men love women, women respect men (first captain thing).
/r/askTRP11/12/19 12:22 AM
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What's your mission? What values you are contributing to the society that you thinking is meaningful to you? The things you mention are all outer game (indicators of high-value male), but how's your inner game? I don't feel lonely working on my craft (aka research paper) even though I spend 1 month alone in the library from 8 to 8. I feel content after I submit the paper to the conference because I feel like I am making a direct positive change in the machine learning community. I feel good beca…
/r/TheRedPill11/12/19 12:12 AM
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her living 3 hours ahead Are you in a long-distance, OP?
/r/askTRP10/12/19 08:48 AM
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Double texting? You fucked up. Keep thinking about saving the situation after you fucked up? You lack abundance.
/r/askTRP09/12/19 11:36 PM
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It's her turn with you now. Enjoy the ride.
/r/askTRP09/12/19 10:56 PM
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Not too sure if she is just shit-testing you or she is really not over him. From your response, she is not over him. 6 months is supposed to be long enough to move on, especially if she has an interesting life on her own. Tell her that you don't appreciate her talking about her ex, especially how she used to behave around her ex. If she brings that up again, she is not respecting you. Period. And if you read the sidebar, you know what to do.
/r/askTRP09/12/19 10:55 PM
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OP hasn't read the sidebar. He won't get your sarcasm
/r/askTRP09/12/19 10:40 PM
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When there's a change in attitude, that's usually when the doubt starts. We instinctively know that she no longer puts us as her priority, and we feel that she has replacement for us. TRP suggests breaking up not just because of the actual actions, but also because she has lost respect and admiration for us. Even if cheating doesn't happen, the LTR doesn't feel good, and we men deserve better (abundance).
/r/askTRP09/12/19 09:26 PM
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The side bar will tell you these two: You have oneitis with this girl. Rejection is better than regret.
/r/askTRP08/12/19 02:25 PM
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The probability of having women is high, but the high-quality ones are few.
/r/askTRP08/12/19 02:20 PM
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You care too much how your plates think. If you can't make it silent, just let it be. It's just fart.
/r/askTRP28/11/19 11:07 PM
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90% of the time, it should be the woman talking. 90% of the time, it should be you escalating physically.
/r/askTRP27/11/19 11:18 PM
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Escalating on the first date is not desperate. You didn't even attempt to escalate.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 10:53 AM
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Why? He makes a point about women's tingle for chad never dies even when they age, and how the man should have an abundance mindset.
/r/askTRP24/11/19 02:21 PM
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most women don't want to sleep around and most would feel sincerely guilty about such behavior. Some women don't want to sleep around. Some women feel sincerely guilty about such behavior if she grows up in a conservative culture, surrounded by judgemental friends, and with a strong father figure. Even so, some are rebellious ––– tattoos, smoking weeds even when weeds can land the person to the death penalty, iud in vaginas for 10 years so they can raw fuck around. when a man is holding frame, l…
/r/TheRedPill20/11/19 11:37 PM
15

She still wants your attention, or she wants someone to fall back on if she fails to branch swing. She still want you in her life as an orbiter, and guilt-tripping is one of the common tools. What's so surprising about it?
/r/askTRP15/11/19 09:34 AM
19

You did the right thing (not bending into her frame, did not do what you did not like, nexting her when she lost her attraction, etc.)
/r/askTRP15/11/19 09:33 AM
37

Pansexuality, blah blah sexuality. Why are you so focused on it? It's just a big shit test/excuse for saying "I am not that attracted to you anymore. You are no longer that important in my life, and I want a way out "
/r/askTRP15/11/19 08:53 AM
9

Travel without inviting you? You are not that important in her life, especially when both of you have declared exclusivity with each other.
/r/TheRedPill14/11/19 02:31 PM
1

You don't have anything else to do? Really? For god sake, the advice of holding eye contact is that if you are walking to a destination, don't be afraid of looking into someone's eyes. Anyway, if you find yourself in a staring contest and if you have something else to do, smile and disengage. Otherwise, approach and start a conversation.
/r/askTRP14/11/19 12:12 PM
3

Because you are not good enough, and you do not have a mission. Period. I have felt this way and that's when I feel fucking mediocre with respect to social, physical, career, skills-wise (i.e. music-making, cooking, dancing, etc.). It's during the time when I do not have an aim that I truly believe in myself achieving it (aka no mission). overwhelming feeling when the truths get in your head Let me pinpoint that feeling. It's called despair/helplessness/negativity. They kill you from the inside …
/r/askTRP13/11/19 08:21 AM
13

Im a straight white male so theres no social club for my heritage, gender, sexuality, etc. You have this big fucking victim mentality. First, you don't need a trait to have a hobby. ^ this shit is a fucking excuse. Do you need to be Asian to join the ukulele club? Do you need to be transgender to learn Salsa?
/r/askTRP11/11/19 10:00 AM
29

It's plate. First rule of thumb of casual relationship is that you should not even feel the need to react unless the disrespect is over the line, which you should immediately next. Let the shit test fly. Ignore, or agree and amplify to the most absurdity.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 06:11 AM
5

​ I made her promise she won't go to work and she'll stay home. I wake up and guess where she is: at work. Wtf dude. Really? She breaks her promise maybe because she no longer felt that sick, maybe there's urgent work to cater for, etc, and you were fucking sleeping so she couldn't tell you that she changed her mind. My main point is, even you feel hurt because she didn't fulfill her promise, I don't see how her action of going to work and couldn't inform you is disrespectful for you. You make a…
/r/askTRP03/11/19 04:50 PM
10

I don't get it. If she cheats, and she is your LTR, you are a cuck. That's on you. Unless she is actually your plate and you don't give her a lot of non-sexual attention. Abundance is not that your partner cheats and you don't mind. Abundance is that you set your boundary, and you know that there are girls out there for you. Clearly your boundary here is that your LTR partner is allowed to cheat.
/r/askTRP28/10/19 04:56 PM
2

This. Especially for a person like OP who is not used to talking to strangers in public, whatever he wants to do (hitting on other girls to create dread) only creates disgust in his LTR because of the incongruent behavior.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 07:57 AM
6

If you are not fucking her, you don't have a great connection. Period. Alphas have no shit for emotional connection for women because it takes away their attention from their mission. I bet you don't have a mission.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 07:52 AM
1

You are in your mid 20s. Dude, baby steps and be patient. I agree that for people with ground zero, the information from the sidebar is overwhelming. I have read the sidebar more than 10 times, and every time I read it, I still learn something new. Go figure how much time and patience you need to internalize the shit. The best way to see gains is to take risks in these three aspects of life: yourself, career, and social. You: "Get your shit together" by starting from replacing bad habits with go…
/r/askTRP09/10/19 07:48 AM
6

TRP is indeed amoral. I cannot tolerate people boasting about cheating because that's inauthentic. If you are high value enough, you don't need to cheat. You have plates, and you are non-exclusive. You are in an exclusive relationship but you cheat? You don't have balls to get out of the relationship or you don't have the balls to open it. Either way, I wouldn't acknowledge cheating as High SMV action.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 11:10 PM
11

​ Should I just ignore her or try again online another day? No. That's what she want you to do. Cut her off and next. She is an attention whore with game. She shows you affection, but she rejected your escalation. Her purpose? You lose your mind over her, like right now, so you will pursue her. She wants you to be in the beta orbit.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 06:31 AM
3

Your problem is outcome dependence, which leads to neediness. I think you are maintaining those routines because you believe those routines such as gym, reading, etc. make you get the girls. You do them with girls as your target. First, keep doing those routines, but remember they will not immediately bring you girls. Those are routines that make you have high SMV and have better self-esteem, which is much better than having girls. Second, cold approach in the day more. Go in with the goal of fu…
/r/askTRP08/10/19 06:22 AM
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Good job! Now you are in the phase of having a mission, and you value yourself more. There's a subtle difference between constantly chanting that girls should not be the priority of your life and subconsciously feeling that there are more important things to do than spending time on girls. Anyone else ever felt like they needed a break like this? I just wanted to pull myself away and just spend time for me, and get my life in order. It's not a "break". It's called a healthy lifestyle and maturit…
/r/askTRP07/10/19 09:47 AM
8

I think I know your problem because I have experienced that. Let me guess – you haven't attempted those "boring" stuff more than 3 times but you hypothesized that they are boring. And you believe that your theoretical knowledge about the activities, which is formed from what others tell you or what you look up online yourself, is the reality. Here's a mantra that helps me navigate life easier – "When people say they don't like something, it's because they are bad at it." Prove me wrong, and I ho…
/r/askTRP07/10/19 09:43 AM
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I agree, but tt's not something you should say. It's what you should behave in an LTR. If you retort with this sentence during an argument, which first you should not get into in the first place, and second, the woman already knows you enough that you are faking alpha, it would not help.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/19 01:32 PM
5

In addition to that, these girls know that betas cannot take their sexual wildness (there's a post in TRP main sub).
/r/askTRP18/09/19 11:53 AM
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No he is not being a dick. His point is rational and you really have to reflect on the "why" (you LTR these girls) more than the "how" (to run the relationships).
/r/TheRedPill18/09/19 04:55 AM
2

That's instinctive. There's no harm fighting that instinct, but being a cool or popular kid is an outcome. Do not focus on the outcome. Focus on the process that leads to the outcome. To be honest, your prime is in your 30s. The best outcome is to get your shit together and be a cool kid at the same time. If these two goals go against each other (e.g. job interview vs party invitation on the same day), choose getting your shit together.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 01:03 PM
2

I lift and jog almost every day and am pretty fit and toned but that's unfortunately pretty much the only thing I have going for me. Most of the time for the past few years I have just been working as a waiter or film extra while sharing my mom's old car with my younger brother. Good. Keep going. You are keeping your physical shit together and you are thinking about your future. You have a clear evaluation of where you are right now. I understand that to accomplish these things I'll have to go f…
/r/askTRP16/09/19 11:43 AM
1

thinking she is into you when she says your beta trait is appealing (i.e., convo is good). there's no attraction in the first place.
/r/askTRP16/09/19 11:34 AM
1

First, get your career together. You don't have tertiary education to fall back on when the job market goes down so make sure you do a fucking great job in your current job and gain that experience and reputation. Second, continue taking care of yourself physically and mentally. From what you type, you sound still a little unconfident about your routines, but keep it up. You are on the right track. Third, make socializing a routine like brushing your teeth. Do it regularly. I don't like the idea…
/r/askTRP16/09/19 11:30 AM
2

You have a point. I make meeting new people my routine, but my emotions do not depend on what other people have done and how relationships with other people turn out to me.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/19 03:57 PM
1

Uninhibited. Some new activities seem fun? Join it. At a party? Meet new people. Constantly go out of your comfort zone creates that unpredictability.
/r/askTRP14/09/19 03:41 PM
6

A philosophy that I live by and which have kept me happy for over 6 months so far. ​ "People and relationships are the least important factors for your happiness and fulfillment."
/r/TheRedPill14/09/19 07:36 AM
6

Wait, so you are the one who opens the LTR relationship and now you are troubled by the fact that your gf gets dicks? Aren't you like the female who opens the relationships and feel jealous when their men get hot girls? Shame on you. She is definitely committed you but you ask for open relationship (which implies you plate her). You make bad decision aka you want to open the relationship but you still want yourself to be her one and only partner. You might need to reconsider what's your boundary…
/r/askTRP11/09/19 07:18 AM
1

My bad, I didn't fully understand your situation.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/19 10:00 PM
2

You did not trust the process. You are outcome dependent. If you have faith in your routines (such as showing up, working out, etc.), even when you are rejected or you experience failures, you will easily let it go because you know that those periods are temporary.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/19 09:26 PM
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You automatically talk slower when you truly believe that you are saying something valuable, and you want other people to hear clearly. When I wanted to talk slower but I couldn't (not like Ben Shapiro who chooses to speak fast), it's when I wasn't okay with myself saying ignorant shit or sounding stupid (cue: low self-esteem). Join more interesting activities and make yourself an interesting person. That's when you will automatically talk slower.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 01:55 PM
4

Vouch is saying that it's your reality (frame). If you believe looks matter, then looks matter.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 06:15 AM
1

Unless you have success every time you go out, you are no better than the average PUA.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/19 02:17 AM
4

There's a quote I love the most. "How you start things is usually how you do things." If moving away is what you will eventually do, why not do it now? Whatever the reason you come up with right now, you will face them again when you graduate and thinking of moving away.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 01:37 AM
8

Oh it will. Trust the process. Take good care of yourself. You will be in good place when you least expect it.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 01:06 AM
4

I rather have a more challenging life (I guarantee you the life skills will be more fulfilling) in my 20s than starting a life of security at such a young age. I deliberately study in a less famous college in the west to leave my family in the east (although I visit them every summer). I have grown so much I appreciate the path I have taken.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 01:01 AM
17

4th Law of Power - Always say less than necessary.
/r/askTRP03/09/19 04:17 PM
2

Your comment reminds me of the post "Screening doesn't matter. Boundaries do." Great insight.
/r/askTRP03/09/19 11:04 AM
8

That means that your frame is weaker than your mom. Either you held your frame (and tolerate more drama), or you solve the logistical issues (moving out, going to the girls' place, etc.)
/r/askTRP03/09/19 11:00 AM
2

It means that if she sees you become assertive or sees you chasing your mission, you will attract her more (in a good way). Now your job is to become a little alpha more so you make her even wetter.
/r/askTRP03/09/19 10:58 AM
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Regarding talking about your feelings, as long as it is presented as an assertive manner, like "I don't feel happy when you do so...", that's great. You are authentic. But betas share feelings because they want their women to handle them (aka they seek security from women). Regarding women don't know what they want, that's indeed a generalization. But try asking women how they want to solve the "communication issues" and you realize no matter how experienced they are in dating, their way of solv…
/r/askTRP03/09/19 05:13 AM
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Communication and mutual respect is a must, but they are not in BP sense. Let me break down for you. (BP version) Communication - Open up your feelings. Believe that all relationship problems can be solved by talking about them openly. These wouldn't work because women don't know what they want and these actions show that you are not a leader by example. (RP version) Communication - Rely more on covert communication (which is to show by actions rather than by words). Set your boundaries and be o…
/r/askTRP03/09/19 01:43 AM
3

Her behavior? Attention whoring. You are giving her your energy, time and attention. That's what she is looking for.
/r/askTRP02/09/19 12:18 PM
2

Doesn't matter. The first rule of RP is that you don't talk about RP. The second rule of RP is AWALT around the globe.
/r/askTRP02/09/19 12:10 PM
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First, you don't apply RP to get your girls bad. It's entirely outcome dependent, and please for god sake don't use RP to chase BP dream. Use RP to improve your SMV for YOURSELF. She is already a lost cause.
/r/askTRP01/09/19 02:36 PM
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I think you got it wrong. You don't look for opportunities to tease to get a reaction. That's needy in a sense because you are in a reactive position. Teasing should be the default. Teasing is not BS. Push-pull, A&A, and pressure flip are not BS. They are essential conversational skills not just with women but with people in general.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/19 03:31 AM
26

I'm sorry to hear your story. It must be a tough period dealing with shitty accusations and no one sides with you.
/r/TheRedPill01/09/19 03:24 AM
0

IMO, investing in (4) and (5) leads to outcome dependence. Yeap, def missing those two.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/19 11:19 AM
10

1, 2, 3 are solid points. Don't be so salty and nitpicking.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/19 10:13 AM
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To expand on (2), when discomfort and risk-taking become part of your personality through routines and habitual practices, there's no going back to comfort. Now I feel dead lazing around or watching random Youtube videos.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/19 10:03 AM
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I will focus on inner game. Stand straight. Shoulder and chin up, hands visible on the side (with some space in your armpit). Don't overanalyze the situation. Most of the time your analysis is completely wrong. Stick around TRP and askTRP longer (mainly field reports) and you will learn to intuitively read the situation better. Always err on the side of zero inhibition and outcome independence. Your mindset is "I will handle the situation if I fuck up, which is unlikely." Have a mission and get …
/r/askTRP31/08/19 09:22 AM
4

You are the type of bully I like to beat down. Intellectually, physically and mentally. I love to see these assholes suffer from their ego bruise.
/r/askTRP31/08/19 02:06 AM
4

Your definition of plates and LTR is weird.
/r/askTRP30/08/19 01:11 PM
5

I hope your entire post is meant to be sarcastic. Otherwise, I don't know why you are here in this sub. Clearly you don't even read the sidebar because you think alpha is supposed to be dumb and stupid.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/19 04:06 AM
2

I grow up in the Eastern world, and I spend my college years in the Western world. I primarily date Asians and let me tell you something. AWALT. It's in their nature. It's just the society doesn't allow their inner sluts to come out, but hell they are opportunistic. They flirt with other guys when they are in relationships. They are hypergamous. The book "The Manipulated Men" basically describes the BP Asian world. ​ Family-oriented? They care about the children more than you. Remember the love …
/r/askTRP28/08/19 12:37 PM
6

I immediately downvote when I see you wanting to get a wife who is a unicorn. Stop using RP to achieve BP dreams, faggot.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 11:59 AM
1

OP, you actually need both confidence and dominance. Confidence is that you are comfortable with your own skin. Confidence makes you outcome independence and easier to approach and next girls. Dominance is that you are seen as the alpha while she is the beta complying to you. It is important when you are interacting with her, because you are screening for compliant and submissive girls. Also, behaviors such as aggressiveness and assertiveness exhibit strength, which is a huge turn on.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/19 01:03 AM
1

Dominance is not something you say. Dominance is your behavior.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/19 12:59 AM
2

If what you have done gives you edges, don't be apologetic about it. If anything that I have changed after taking RP, it is that being disliked by other people signals that you are living with freedom and zero inhibitions. Being a jerk is a good trait.
/r/askTRP26/08/19 01:03 PM
1

Overthinking.
/r/askTRP26/08/19 01:01 PM
4

I can feel her hamster spinning already.
/r/askTRP26/08/19 12:54 PM
1

You forget /s ahahaha
/r/askTRP26/08/19 12:54 PM
6

Yes. They use you for validation. You become a beta, unless, your job is tied to social media.
/r/askTRP26/08/19 12:53 PM
3

You only regret if you have oneitis.
/r/askTRP26/08/19 05:27 AM
5

Check your testosterone and vitamin D level. Have a mission. You got this.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 11:16 AM
1

The thing is betas do not know what's truth.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 10:23 AM
3

LOL. We don't run that game because we are outcome independence. We don't want to force a certain outcome, especially when the locus of control is external. Does working on yourself make you a male with high SMV enough that the girls buy you shirts as presents when you just say "I like this shirt" in front of their face? Possibly. Also, when you have kids, do you expect your kids to buy you daddy shirts? Do you run game on them to buy you shit? Pathetic if you say yes.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 03:23 AM
1

Fame doesn't make a person become RP, even when there are women flocking towards him. RP is therefore a mindset - not forged by circumstances, status, appearances, etc. Fame and wealth and model-like look make your game easier, but RP mindset is a mindset that is adopted through undoing social programming.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 03:16 AM
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Do whatever you want. It seems like no persuasion from us or asking you to read sidebar will make you change your mind. So do whatever you make up your mind for and learn from the outcome.
/r/askTRP23/08/19 12:24 AM
2

Well, then IMO, text is for logistics. You responded fine.
/r/askTRP21/08/19 01:22 PM
3

No. It's the root issue. If she is not your favorite plate, how would you have responded? I think people need to understand that even if men show slight interest (such as plating them or giving some sexual attention), women are satisfied enough. They don't quite care about whether they are your favorite plate - they bring them up just for drama.
/r/askTRP21/08/19 01:18 PM
1

You have oneitis (perhaps very mild). You don't see yourself as a prize. Why are you thinking that the woman is so important such that if she doesn't reply to your snap, there's something you must do to gain her attention back? You don't be responsive, including deleting her. Just let the conversation die. Don't double text or double snap. Needy af.
/r/askTRP21/08/19 01:16 PM
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Oh man. Read the sidebar. It pains my eyes reading your post. Let me point out your mistakes (maybe you already know them) before I answer your question. I want to be loved, to cuddle, etc Nothing wrong with that unless you are obsessed with getting them. Here's the thing - RP people still enjoy being loved and cuddling their girls, but they are not obsessed with getting them. Outcome independence. right now I'm totally dry and feel like I'll go crazy (not in a violent way; just in a bad mental …
/r/askTRP21/08/19 01:09 PM
1

When you have to ask this question, you already put her on the pedestal.
/r/askTRP21/08/19 01:40 AM
2

Yeap you are right. I am a lot younger. (Agreeing) I am three years old. (Amplifying).
/r/askTRP21/08/19 01:39 AM
21

Did you just copy paste every time you see a post from a beta who is lost? Lol. These posts from betas are getting too repetitive.
/r/askTRP21/08/19 01:36 AM
3

Logistics didn't work out. Not your fault.
/r/askTRP21/08/19 12:26 AM
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That's not mate guarding tho. Mate guarding is when her actions are ambiguous to you, and you jump to ward off potential suitors or prevent her ambiguous actions. I think RP preach that you draw the line. When she crosses, you break up with her. If she doesn't cross, don't mate guard or be insecure.
/r/TheRedPill20/08/19 01:01 PM
2

Apparently OP cannot swallow the fact that his girls will cave to his desires and do whatever including changing themselves to gain OP's favor. It's all about SMV.
/r/askTRP20/08/19 12:22 PM
1

If I read between the lines correctly, you want to believe that unicorn exists? Let me tell you one thing. Even if you LTR a virgin, shit tests and hypergamy are still rampant. When a slut is being hypergamous, she knows she has options and she will cheat by having sex with others. When a virgin is being hypergamous, she will start acting distant and disrespect you. Both wear you down in different ways, especially if your locus of control is external - looking for unicorns, etc. This comes from …
/r/askTRP17/08/19 11:41 AM
6

Why are you watching news? If news make you neurotic, don't watch it. Are you on social media or LinkedIn? There's a reason RP people dont live in hyperreality like social media.
/r/askTRP16/08/19 11:50 PM
1

Okay. You can handle rejection, you say. So why don't you ask her out and escalate? You say that you are really tired of wasting your time. This means that to you, the girl is not worth your night out on a date. You don't find her interesting enough. That's your call. So why do you have to write a post about her and gauge her interest level? The answer is simple. Either you don't have balls to escalate (action: ask her out), or you don't really see her as somebody adding value to your life (acti…
/r/askTRP16/08/19 12:55 PM
1

Thanks man! I have downloaded it and started reading it - looks like an inspiring book.
/r/askTRP14/08/19 11:24 PM
2

Better have an "amicable relationship" with the mother? Do you really think this woman, who has cheated with multiple partners (not just one, but many) in a relationship and has lied about taking the pills, will be considerate about him? I'm sorry, this situation will either turns bad (with drama) or worse (child support).
/r/askTRP14/08/19 11:15 PM
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Examples are greatly appreciated.
/r/askTRP14/08/19 11:02 AM
3

No, the sub is showing you what's the water. You are the horse; it's your choice to drink or not. OP can only show his dad what's RP like, not telling him what to do.
/r/askTRP13/08/19 04:37 PM
21

It will get much better, and the journey to become a good lead is worth it. Girls dig it (you will be surprised how many girls can't actually dance without a good lead.)
/r/TheRedPill13/08/19 03:30 AM
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Dynamic movement and wanna look swag? Latin dancing for people who wants to allocate time away from sports/gym. You learn to lead physically, identify IOIs from women who want you to lead the dance, learn to ask girls out to dance with you on the dance floor, dance to the beats, learn to move your arms and hips to music, etc.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/19 12:59 AM
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There's nothing wrong in doing 50% less work for 100% effectiveness. But the thing is, do you really know how to evaluate effectiveness? For example, I could only spend the night before an interview cramming for the typical interview questions, and pass the interview and forget what I learn. To common people, it's effective and smart. You put in less work but get the same result (pass the interview right?) But, compared to another person who spends a week preparing the interview by being mocked …
/r/askTRP11/08/19 10:31 PM
17

"Pick up. New to RP." Okay, you know what, you are desperate for validation from hot chicks. You are those who are seen as the creepy pick up dude. Even if you spend years improving outer game by PUA, your inner game must be weak. Mate, there's no answer to your question even though I know the standard answer is "3-to-2" rule, which is that you show interests twice after the girl shows interests thrice. There's no answer because to a high SMV male, expressing interest from the start (direct game…
/r/askTRP11/08/19 09:34 PM
1

I don't know how people can feel contented 24/7 for 365 days in marriage. It is RP in hard mode and some if not most of the energy is spent on keeping frame while being shit tested. Without marriage, there's no need for handing shit tests because you can always walk away. Marriage takes away that option.
/r/askTRP11/08/19 09:17 PM
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Yes, especially when you started a few months of RP, and when you are in your early 20s seeing your friends chasing fun and validation. I was unhappy for a while after a year into college and when I was in LTR. My ex had depression, and I followed the BP script of being empathetic and understanding of her problem. Then, I was done with all the emotional shit. Then I looked around and I felt a gloomy vibe glowing from everyone including myself. Career-driven friends couldn't secure internships, p…
/r/askTRP11/08/19 08:15 PM
1

I don't want her to deny me sex for the next days as well Alright. You lost your frame. You become outcome dependent. Here's the thing. If she denies you sex multiple with reasons that you think are invalid, you decide for yourself whether you want to continue the relationship. I am sure your SMV is high enough to draw girls who want to have sex with you. Abundance. Enjoy the trip! Don't over-think.
/r/askTRP10/08/19 04:26 PM
3

You know your thoughts are unconventional because ECs claim that TRP is about sexual strategy and a lot of RPer think that the only good final metrics is SMV and how many women they can close. With that being said, you said what I want to say to OP.
/r/askTRP10/08/19 04:23 PM
2

I agree. People should not think that they have to work on SMV to a certain point and they will be "rewarded with women". To me, this is very much that same as the old BP mindset that they work 9-to-5 in a dead job and then listen to women problems and they will retire with a lovely family (i.e. work work work and beta-ize themselves to receive the unguaranteed reward at the end). I guess the paradigm shift for me is when I learn to love the process (the process is enjoyable and the process is w…
/r/askTRP10/08/19 03:49 PM
3

I am 22 years old. Broke out of LTR 5 months ago. I am currently reading books that improve my inner game, undoing altruistic/BP mindsets, and improving my habits. For example, I am reading through "The Courage to be Dislike" to internalize Alderian psychology and the "Millionaire Fastlane" to build up mindsets for financial success. I make sure that I have hobbies so I no longer become a workaholic (my previous mindset was that I have to work work work and eventually I will be rewarded). I pick…
/r/askTRP10/08/19 03:39 PM
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It's more than just keeping frame. Keeping frame makes you unwavered to her emotional shit. Leading and giving instructions direct her emotions and passion away so she doesn't create drama agaisnt you.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/19 10:56 AM
15

Figuratively you are right. But literally, that's not how math works.
/r/askTRP09/08/19 09:05 PM
1

I dont think it is the photo problem that you should next her. To me it is not promiscuous, but her attitude and how she handles your confrontation are a big problem. She wants to assert her right to share photos that you think are promiscuous, and threatens to breakup. This means she sees herself has higher value than you. Of course, on the other hand, I think you are insecure about it. The best way to do it is to demote to plates. But nexting her is a good decision, which is what I would have …
/r/askTRP09/08/19 12:31 PM
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Actually, what's the reason for not doing so? I thought college or high school is where you try to casually date your classmates.
/r/askTRP09/08/19 12:10 PM
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Alright. OP is delusional. The girl you are interested in is an attention whore. Period. OP, Let me tell you how to differentiate IOI coming from girls who are interested in you and girls who are attention whores. They send almost the same signals. The trick is whether the girl wants to go out on a date with you. Now you know the answer. The girl loves your attention, but she doesnt want to take your lead to escalate. You should soft next her.
/r/askTRP09/08/19 03:30 AM
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Because you have gone through the reward-and-punishment education system in school and family. As you grow older, the form of reward becomes recognition, smile from chicks, validation from social media, attention from the people you admire, etc. Punishment manifests as being alienated, withdrawal of compliments, shame, etc. How do I overcome this? Still ongoing, but after picking up the Alderian philosophy, I learn a few things. Draw boundaries. Identify clearly what is your task and what is oth…
/r/askTRP09/08/19 03:25 AM
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Sidebar. Then The Rational Male. Then improve your outer game by reading PUA books such as Bang. At the same time, improve your inner game by meditating and reading books such as Model by Mark Manson. Lurk in The Red Pill subreddit. Ask questions in asktrp subreddit. Cold approach girls and get into relationships to put what you read into tests. Read, verify and reflect.
/r/askTRP08/08/19 10:05 PM
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Read the book "The Courage to be Dislike". I strongly recommend it. You attain freedom and happiness when you have the courage withstand dislike from other people and when you have the feeling of contributing to other people.
/r/askTRP08/08/19 06:37 PM
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That is indeed a good book. I pick it up after reading your comment and I've just finished the first chapter. It is a book of red pill, but instead of about sexual strategy, it is about how a person should live his/her life. It is indeed a strong medicine, and it gives you full ownership of your life. Thanks for the recommendation of the book.
/r/askTRP08/08/19 02:51 AM
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Not following through your words for no valid reason is not a sign of masculinity. If it is because she is extremely bitchy that day and makes your day awful, okay, we understand. But being "inconsistent" and your girl points it out in your face? Yes it is your fault. You failed your captainship.
/r/askTRP08/08/19 01:39 AM
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It is a bluepill goal. Using red pill tools to get yourself married, which is the ultimate manifestation of how committed you are to THE ONE, is an example of One-itis.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:49 PM
2

Text only for logistics before the first date. Leave conversation until you two meet.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:46 PM
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So what are you trying to look for? Catch her in bed with her lover? Is that the evidence you are trying to "verify"? You are in constant denial. She doesn't see you as a prize. She had a crush with other people while in a relationship with you. She finds physical intimacy with you weird. Aka, she doesn't see you as a boyfriend she wants to get intimate with. What's there to be in denial about? What's there to be verifying about? The ball is in your hand right now. You have the power to walk awa…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:35 PM
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LTR. Abundance. Are you serious? I am sorry. Your next LTR will not be different from your most recent one.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:13 PM
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Yes. But be wary of one thing. Your mindset is not to cut contact. Hell, you and the girl have not even been in a relationship. Cutting contact imply that you want to absolve the one-itis and remove her from your life. Your mindset should fixate on there are girls out there who are receptive to you. Fixate on going out more to social events to meet new people.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:02 AM
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There are two potential scenarios. The first one is the man is having a good time. He cannot contain his energy and that's his natural state of sharing happiness. In this scenario, as long as the girl is receptive of his energy, he feels good and the entire interaction is centered around him. If the woman is not receptive, he would intuitively know that he wouldn't want to be around her and would want to find someone else who enjoys his vibe. The second scenario is that the man is trying get the…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:57 AM
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Started reading it and I love how scientific it can be (by debunking a lot of myths and confusing advice), yet easy to read.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 06:25 PM
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Don't text game without asking her out. Even when the text game goes well, you cannot tell whether a girl is merely seeking attention or is attracted to you. Text is mainly used for logistics for a reason. You want to close every single time if you can. You may not close every time, but you must try.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 05:04 PM
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"Intelligence" is a beta trait. It is a tool that women can use for their gains (women rely on smart orbiters to solve their problems). No one ever gets her pussy wet for Newton or Einstein. No one. Ever.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 12:39 AM
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In my honest opinion, you should next her (break-up) because you have severe one-itis to the point that you still want her in your life. You cannot risk losing her, and this vibe oozes out of your entire post. Trust me, you have two choices. You will either next her now, or next her in the future when you resent yourself enough for staying in the relationship. Don't BS that the relationship is salvageable. There's a reason why you seek out TRP in the first place.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 12:26 AM
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That's why I despise the social programming of being "empathy". Throw out all the YUGE words, it essentially means we have to handle the emotional baggage of other people. "I were raped / sexually abused in childhood and now I trust nobody. I am afraid of physical intimacy." Fuck off from my life. Don't be an energy drainer. "I have depression / anxiety / BPD / schrizo / [insert any mental disorder]. You will stay with me through this right?" Fuck off from my life. Don't drag me down. If you hav…
/r/askTRP04/08/19 12:20 AM
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"if her dad was a loser/idiot, or if she didn't know him bc her mom was slutting it up" No. Just no. Please. She will have daddy issue (but I don't know if that is your fetish).
/r/askTRP01/08/19 04:39 AM
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I love your analogy. I want to mention that those irreversible things like tattooing and high N-count are not just something correlation. There's psychological causation behind those actions – and those are the red flags we want to avoid.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 04:38 AM
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All three paths have one thing in common - emotional baggage. Trust me, unless you are professionally trained, you don't want to deal with that emotional shit. Those shit wears your frame down (you can't pass those tests because they are not tests, they are the shit ingrained in those abused women). That said, most if not all women nowadays have some sort of emotional baggage. It's up to you to draw the line.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 04:33 AM
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That's what I initially thought as well. But after taking the RP I feel like if your girl makes you feel bored, you are having a boring life. My belief right now shifts to an LTR is supposed to reflect your life because an LTR submissive to you adopts your lifestyle.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 04:30 AM
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I kinda disagree with the tattoos on the wrist part. Girls with tattoos on their wrist, in my experience, are slutty or very masculine. Btw, if you look at the tattoo pain chart, tattoos on wrist are really painful. Guess what that tells us huh?
/r/askTRP01/08/19 04:25 AM
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Those guys are the "gay" men (often seen hanging out in a group of females in a social setting). Trust me, you don't want to be like them. You will be seen as someone without sexual potential. "girls w lots of female friends and a few male friends are more likely to friendzone" <- perhaps this is true for the guy who is not accepted by her female friends.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 04:21 AM
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Either she is masculine (doesn't like submitting to your frame) or she loves attention from orbiters (string them along). For the former, if you are RP and you want to maintain frame, unless she see you as leader and more superior than her in all aspects, she will disparage you and your self-esteem seem to drop slowly and subtly. For the latter, good luck competing for her attention if you are in LTR.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 08:55 PM
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On top of you going for the same "type" of women, it's that you tolerate whatever of their traits that are undesirable. Also, girls love drama. They like having emotional stimulation so you need to expect a healthy dose of drama in your relationship.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 07:30 PM
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Alright! I have tried agree and amplify + amused mastery at this point. Gonna try changing the subject strategy in the future.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 07:24 PM
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Thanks! I don't care about fucking them at this point. I am still in my early 20s and I have tons of opportunities for fucking girls in the future. I just want to fix my "beta" vibe and master the ability and confidence to next girls.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 07:22 PM
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Yes, this is not a RP advice. You don't game other girls to get your ex back in. Ex is ex for a reason. You game other girls because other girls are better than your ex. Do not even think of plating ex. Period.
/r/askTRP30/07/19 06:02 PM
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That is the motto RP people should adopt. Let me break it down for you. Haters will hate you for being better than them. So let them hate. Your life goal only please yourself and make yourself better, even at the expense of other's displeasure. Have you ever seen a king on his knee, kneeling in front of peasants? Your life is about you. People and relationships should be the least important factors contributing to your happiness. This is how you can achieve outcome independence without true abun…
/r/askTRP30/07/19 05:34 PM
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LOL. Sounds like you are not even having fun by yourself but you expect the girl you are dating will have fun with you? Learn to have fun or be happy by yourself. Girls will come to you when you carry the happiness vibe. You can't let loose of yourself? You inhibit yourself too much. You filter your thoughts and actions. I have a feeling that you are a judgemental person, and you judge weird people including yourself when you behave oddly. You need to stop giving yourself a hard time.
/r/askTRP28/07/19 06:02 PM
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If she doesn't bombard you with her emotional baggage, it's good. I don't date any more girls with emotional baggage. Period.
/r/askTRP26/07/19 06:42 PM
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? You sound more feminine than girls whom I address with "Hey man" because it's a habit. At least they didnt make a scene like you.
/r/askTRP26/07/19 06:37 PM
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Do you talk about how often you brush your teeth? Do you talk about how often you poop or what's the color of your poop? You don't. Because those in the bathroom stay in the bathroom. First, discretion. Second, fucking other women should be so common like how you brush your teeth every day you dont even talk about. What you can do is to flip the pressure and tell her that if she is interested, you can show her how to do it.
/r/askTRP25/07/19 05:23 PM
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You should be the normal version of yourself when you go out on date. Period. In other words, make the best presentable version of yourself in dates something normal to you. You wanna be goofy on dates? You should be goofy in every social setting. This is what congruence is all about. You lack practicing agree and amplify or other techniques in handling shit tests. Easy practice. Whenever you are in conversations with anyone including your buddies, try agree and amplify. "Hey man, I believe you …
/r/askTRP25/07/19 03:44 PM
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Yes, but I wasn't conscious about it. Then, the depression of my ex got the better of me so I broke up.
/r/askTRP24/07/19 07:43 PM
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It is the healthiest if you are outcome independent. It means that you know that if someone fucks your girl, you leave your girl. If you are worried that someone fucks your girl or your girl might cheat, you are not capable of having a MLTR now.
/r/askTRP24/07/19 07:40 PM
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It does not matter. You lost frame because you argued with her. It is a really obvious shit test (it is obvious because it is overt that she tries to bring your value/confidence down.) You should default to amused mastery or pressure flip. Amused mastery - "because she doesn't have me anymore." Pressure flip to subcommunicate that she is ugly too - "I dont know girl. If you think my ex is ugly, I wonder what does it say about you?"
/r/askTRP24/07/19 07:27 PM
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I will give you a weapon that will save your face if she confronts you why you are touching her. I field-tested it and usually you get a pass for touching her. "Your [part] is like a magnet. My hand can't help but to attach to it." Leave your hand there for a few moments after you say so and then withdraw your hand for a few minutes. What you are subcommunicating here is that you are not afraid of touching her, but you know that she is uncomfortable with your touching at this moment. Here's how …
/r/askTRP24/07/19 07:11 PM
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Correct! To OP, It's the best time to practice passing shit tests. Learn to detect when is shit tests and when is not. Then learn to pass them. Learn to be decisive. Learn what is the limit you can assert yourself against her. You have a free experimental subject. Use it to improve yourself.
/r/askTRP24/07/19 07:00 PM
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Happened in my previous relationship. Here's how I will deal with it this time. First, your LTR thinks of you as inferior than her with respect to living skills. Your dealing with this situation is to acknowledge to yourself (not to her) that perhaps you are not that good, and whenever she shows you how to do it, learn it without speaking anything. If she criticizes you, you seek information online to form a baseline of how to do the stuff. Second and third, take a period of time just telling he…
/r/askTRP24/07/19 06:50 PM
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It's a shit test. I go with amused mastery if the vibe is good. "Yes, I have just seen 100 women tonight."
/r/askTRP23/07/19 10:43 PM
1

Career success to women is not the same as career success to men. To men, it's about the pride and the ability to get the shit together. To most women, it's because of societal expectations and fitting into the crowd. Yes, and it is likely that your ex has emotional baggage and she sees you as the victim to dump her baggage on.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 02:08 PM
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I have a question. How do you know she has branched swing in LDR?
/r/askTRP21/07/19 04:07 AM
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Classic oneitis / illusion? The girl seems so so good and naughty. Career successful and sexual. So hot. If you can't nail them on ONS, don't bother including them in your life, especially when you sound like you want to be more career successful. Your description of them gives off the vibe that they have a lot of emotional baggage.
/r/askTRP20/07/19 12:49 AM
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What have you focused on yourself? When we say focus on yourself, it means that you are obsessed with a goal that when other stuffs do not align with that goal, you will not give it further thoughts. "You still miss her". This is the classic oneitis. Regardless of you arguing how much you have tried to done with the RP shit, you still want to get back to her. All the RP shit you are doing are just a form of escapism. Eventually you will get back to where you started, which is her on your pedesta…
/r/askTRP20/07/19 12:46 AM
1

I am sure he wants to post it on gainit.
/r/askTRP20/07/19 12:27 AM
1

Their interests in you have dropled. If they want to meet you, they will make time for you. They flake on you? They are pulling back. Cool, now you pull back until she reaches out. Time to find a new girl.
/r/askTRP20/07/19 12:26 AM
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LOL. Okay, hear me out before you beat yourself up. "Mission" in life is supposed to be something that you feel excited about. Something when you think about it, you get some sort of energy. That's why when men put mission first, they cannot be obsessed with women. That something that is taking his energy is his obsession with mission. Now getting back to you. So the totality of my “hopes and dreams” are to get a job that pays enough to be able to buy a house, raise kids comfortably with a stay-…
/r/askTRP19/07/19 02:29 AM
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Chill. You sound young. Maybe you are in your early 20s. Going MGTOW because of frustration will not help you. Period. Been there. I cant break it, my habits seem to more woman than man in the sense I'm a natural tend and befriend instead of fighter. Listen, you hold the assumption that you cannot change your personality. I will talk about that in a second. yet I seem to be too relaxed and its hurting me and the A type personality side of me that wants to be an "alpha" male wealthy business owne…
/r/askTRP19/07/19 02:24 AM
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This is a phase. Just enjoy it while it lasts. But you need to be aware of one thing, especially if you are becoming more and more successful with game. You will go down the rabbit hole of gaming and pursuing women aka PUA. In other words, you will become more and more obsessed with the outer game. If that's your mission and who you aspire to be, cool. Otherwise, use the energy you have for gaming to do social activities that give you some skills. Dancing. Improv. Stand-up comedy. Martial arts. …
/r/askTRP19/07/19 02:15 AM
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"8:55 (next day) - her: Hi ;) Better watch yourself, so you won't have to see me to check up :D" She is already flirting with you. Agree and amplify here. Go sexual here. Jeez, she is giving you a free pass already. I would have reply "nah, close up checking up sounds fun. I heard these examinations need me to be naked in bed."
/r/seduction19/07/19 12:50 AM
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"6:47 - me: Heh, I'm just right off my car and I'm also starting my work. I won't lie, in my city a lot of stuff happen. People on Internet may laugh, but I like my city." Bad reply. Don't build rapport over text. Reply "sounds pretty terrible." Then on weekend or any day after 4-5 days, ask her "wanna grab a drink? Gonna be chill."
/r/seduction19/07/19 12:47 AM
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This. OP definitely overpursue her. From the post, for the entire week, the most satisfying thing OP have done is to pursue the goal. I didn't feel like there's other stuff going on OP's mind other than the girl's image.
/r/seduction19/07/19 12:43 AM
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Lol Having a crush on girl to the point where you are invested in the outcome? When you eat good food, the outcome is that you think it is tasty. You have already achieved the outcome. How the fuck is getting a crush on girl to the point where your emotions are affected negatively comparable to eating good food? So much outcome dependence in OP's post. I agree with SonofLelith. OP is gonna get more heart broken if he is so easily invested in cold approaching strangers.
/r/seduction19/07/19 12:33 AM
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Text for logistics. Save getting to know her or her getting to know you on dates. If the date is like more than 5 days away, check in with statements, not questions, 2 or 3 days before the date to see her interest level. If she responds, she is unlikely to flake you. E.g. (Friday night) " hey I hope you have a productive day. I will see you in the bar on Sunday."
/r/askTRP18/07/19 11:08 PM
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"This relationship is starting to wear on me." Leave the relationship. You will grow resentful eventually. There's nowhere out after you mention this. Relationship is not supposed to bring you down. Period.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 10:58 PM
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Committed to mission. Put the most normal version of yourself when you go on date. On the other hand, make the best version of yourself that you go to date with something you normally do. clean your room before going to date? Cool, now clean your room everyday. wear the best hairstyle when you go on date? Wear it everyday when you are going out. want to look jacked on date? Now exercise, and whenever you go out, people think that you are jacked. It all boils down to self-improvement to make your…
/r/askTRP18/07/19 10:55 PM
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Because women love to gossip and they love talking about who who who did what what what? That's why we men don't talk in public about women or plates we have fucked. It emasculates us.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 10:50 PM
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Here are what I learned after being conscious about talking to random people at meetups or social events. Here's what I notice about conversational topics. Things people have done ("I remember last summer I did ....") Things people have heard from others. ("I have heard that .... Is that true?") Things people are unfamiliar with. ("I didnt know about ... Can you tell me more?") The technique I use to keep conversation going is to freestyle, basically it is along the format "you remind me of .../…
/r/askTRP18/07/19 10:35 PM
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First, why do you care? Second, if you use break-up as a way to improve your relationship with your gf (which is why you care about her reaching out to you) you are not being authentic. Third, to answer your question, a week. But I kept a stoic face and said, "no."
/r/askTRP16/07/19 01:13 AM
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Thanks man! Yea, he is one of my close friends and he seems oddly rational. He is pretty much determined to still go on a date with her even after I said if I were him, I would ghost her. It's his decision after all. I only do what I can help, and I also can have a bar night out with buddies.
/r/askTRP15/07/19 06:02 PM
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He wanted somebody to talk to right after the break-up. Got ya! I shouldn't get myself involved.
/r/askTRP15/07/19 08:36 AM
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You are overthinking about hugging. It's just hugging. It's like a hand-shake. ​ Strive to achieve congruence about socially acceptable physical contacts. Do you feel normal about hugging? Do you feel normal hugging your guy friends? The reason is that you don't feel weird when you do these socially acceptable physical contacts with the women you like.
/r/askTRP15/07/19 07:32 AM
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