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DISCUSSIONjuicy_lime/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 05:12 AM
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Amazing! This is inspiring to me because I made the decision last year to climb with female partners whenever possible and pursue meeting more female climbers in my community. It's been great and I've made a few supportive new friends along the way. Parts of the climbing community don't take women and their goals and strength seriously. Congratulations on your amazing accomplishments!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 10:49 PM
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There needs to be a "Scrote Awareness 101" class given to girls as soon as they hit puberty
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:52 PM
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Ovulation time is a dangerous time! No way to be clear headed and rational. When Fat Joe from the bar starts looking enticing you know there has to be something weird going on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 01:59 AM
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Garage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:27 PM
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Kurtis gets it! The majority of his audience is women too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 03:53 PM
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So proud of you for making the tough decision and sticking with it through the pain. Keep taking it day by day and you won't be sparing a single thought for him in a year's time. The decision you made is the best one for you and your future life. Take the time you need to grieve but always remind yourself that that HE was the problem, not you ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:17 AM
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I believe it's a physical symptom of anxiety. It happens in new relationships because we are anxious about what the other person thinks, while we're trying to make a good impression and aren't sure yet of how they feel toward us. If it continues past the first few months there's probably something wrong. After getting to know someone closely for 3-4 months, if you're still feeling butterflies it probably means you are subconsciously anxious and uneasy about part of the relationship or about the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 01:04 AM
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She has that unfortunate putting-up-with-a-manchild look on her face on her wedding day. Also, that's a beautiful dress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 05:42 PM
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"What else is there?" he asks in response. This is my absolute favorite animated movie and even as a child I LOVED how she stormed off after he said that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 04:22 AM
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There's a documentary about a well-known rock climber and in it there's a part where they're talking about his close friend (a man with a wife and I think young children) who died while climbing. His own response to his (major pickme) girlfriend's panic when she finds out about the friend: "his wife doesn't get to be sad because she knew what she was signing up for when they got married, she knew there was a big chance he would die!" And his entire rationale about the high risk of death and how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:52 PM
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Same here, I unfortunately have a weakness for the typical climber build too but most of the climbers I've met have been quite avoidant and one-dimensional. Lots of poor hygiene too! I wish more women were into climbing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 10:44 PM
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High-risk hobbies are a BIG red flag to me. This could be things like skydiving, most types of racing, mountaineering things like climbing or hiking in dangerous or secluded areas. It signals a couple of things about the person: They don't enjoy normal activities because they need a sense of danger or lots of adrenaline to feel anything/to feel alive. They don't care much about how the risk affects the people in their lives. They're unlikely to seriously commit to a relationship or accept the re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:56 PM
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In my experience the ones who talk about being good cooks usually aren't. With my exes at best they successfully followed a mid-difficulty recipe and got praise for it because a man putting in the effort to make something non-basic is so rare. For contrast, my boyfriend is actually an amazing cook and I don't recall him mentioning it even once in the years we've been together. It would be a turn-off if he did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:26 AM
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Thank you! There's so much good advice in the post and in the comments. Saved it for future reminders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:56 AM
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This is a great answer! All of this applies for me too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:13 PM
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"Partner in crime" is such a strange description. I've never heard a woman say it, it's always the men. It sounds fun and exciting if you're young and inexperienced but really it's a dressed up way of saying "someone I can use until I'm bored of them".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 05:50 PM
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All this strategic maneuvering and yet they can't figure out how to fry an egg to feed themselves without burning it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:58 PM
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AVOID them for your own sanity! Not worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 04:06 AM
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They sound like really cool girls!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:42 PM
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It's impossible to do this to someone you genuinely care about. Imagine being cold, unresponsive, and doing things that are anxiety-inducing to someone you love. It sucks you dry. Anyone who thinks this is a good strategy doesn't care at all about their partner's happiness and comfort. There is no "saving" or "maintaining" a relationship with this game, if you think it's a good thing to try then the relationship is already dead and you're the reason why. Ladies, if a man does this to you, GTFO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:35 PM
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From my experiences with men I've thought that men generally aren't taught or expected to handle strong emotions the way women are. Woman gets her heart broken -> cries, feels sad about her ex, takes some time for herself, thinks about what kind of partner she should look for next, gets back into the dating game when she's ready Man gets his heart broken -> doesn't know how to process emotions, bottles it up and becomes bitter, ALL WOMEN ARE EVIL BITCHES, decides he is logical for wanting to avo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 11:19 PM
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Porn is corrupt and the industry is morally corrupt. I'm not defending porn, I'm saying that someone struggling to break out of it is not necessarily an immoral, bad person. If they defend their right to use porn or dismiss the harmful effects of it that is 100% a morality problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:15 PM
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Good decision and good luck to you, queen. Be prepared for love bombing and remember that you are the only person who gets to determine your future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:52 PM
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I don't wear jewelry and I'm not a flashy person at all so I would hate to be presented with a fat ring no matter how nice or expensive it is. Something simple, perhaps an understated non-diamond antique ring that has a happy history, would be okay. As for a proposal I would love it to be somewhere in a natural setting like at the peak of a mountain overlooking a lush green forest or on a beautiful beach. No audience or spectators.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:44 PM
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I now go into new activities that I'm already interested in and look for HVW that could turn into friends. They're hard to find too, even more so if the activity is male-dominated. Sigh @ my genuine interest in surfing classes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:33 PM
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I know I'm probably going to get flack from the FDS community for saying this, but for now the context of my partner's struggles with porn are within what I can morally tolerate. I won't tolerate it forever if he doesn't keep doing the work to improve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:10 PM
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The point I was trying to make is that it's hard to quit even when they see how harmful the industry is. Teen boys discovering porn don't have the mental capacity to consider how it's harmful, or to have any real sexual experience to compare it to, before they get addicted to it. Plus it's not often that an anti-porn argument gains momentum in trying to shed light on the issue because the dissenting voices are silenced by the industry. I'm not defending the industry whatsoever in saying this, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:58 PM
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He's HV in every other criteria that we vet for here at FDS and I am benefiting in many ways from being in the relationship. He's a generous, attentive partner in general and also sexually. My LVX couldn't ejaculate from normal means due to porn addiction/death grip so I have experienced the pain and humiliation of that as well (I was very much a pickme, it was my first relationship, and I had no idea the bar could be higher) and this is nothing like that. When I initiated the porn conversation …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:37 AM
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I'm also curious because I had the porn conversation with my boyfriend some time ago, soon after finding FDS, and he said he hadn't thought about the effects of it and how it would impact me and our relationship, but he said he would stop. I believe him when he says he wants to stop but it hasn't been a smooth ride. It's very, very difficult because that shit is incredibly addictive. He has gone from once a day to once every couple of weeks but I'm not sure if I believe it'll ever be completely …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:44 AM
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That is all so messed up but I love the teal pen detail. It's interesting that he admitted to being awkward and ugly but his self awareness stopped there. He thought if he wrote out a note you would look past his self-confessed flaws? It reminds me of a story my mom has about her college lab assistant leaving a letter hidden at her workstation. It was a marriage proposal. They had never spoken, he was unbelievably socially awkward/incompetent and couldn't even make eye contact with her or speak …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:23 AM
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The grammatical errors in this alone make me want to barf. I SEEN you..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:53 AM
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I genuinely don't understand this. All of the women I know who travel a lot (pre-covid) have high paying professional jobs. How does sex work even come into it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:52 AM
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Speaking slowly and with a downward inflection intonation at the end of the sentence sounds sooooo confident and powerful. Listen to any confident, powerful person who has a reassuring and calming demeanor when they speak and this is ALWAYS what they do. Kudos for demonstrating this to your daughter, she is lucky to have your guidance!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:04 PM
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I hate that we have to be the ones that uproot our careers when shit like this happens. I left a similar situation recently (thanks to FDS for teaching us that we shouldn't accept LV behavior under any circumstances, romantic, familial, or professional). The best we can do is document incidents, know the details of our contracts and our legal rights, and always be on guard for mistreatment. I was lucky enough that my excellent work and interpersonal skills have kept doors open for me and I was a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:59 PM
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I learned that my value came from my value to men. I had even forgotten how to make friends with women, I was only good at making friends with men because I had learned to use my sexual appeal to attract men, as I had found that trying any other way had little success. This really resonates with me! It's super sad because men are never truly our friends, in the best case they're just orbiters acting nice and waiting for their chance to fuck us. I'm really glad we've found this sub. One of my big…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:44 PM
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I've been trying to change how much I do this in both writing and speaking and it's really hard. Thanks for the reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:37 PM
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What makes my logical brain stops working due to sexual attraction: Are at least 5'10 Broad, well-defined shoulders and narrow hips Lean build with muscle definition, long limbs, big hands with long fingers Muscular thighs Graceful walk (because tall skinny guys are sometimes very awkward at walking) Dark wavy hair Big nose Strong jawline Facial hair neatly groomed Body hair Caucasian Deep voice General hygiene such as smelling good, washing their hair, cleaning under their nails, and brushing t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:31 PM
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I might be part of the minority who found this sub through wholesome events - another member had posted it as a resource for a woman who had made some bad choices in her love life and FDS was suggested to help her level up. The concept of a HVM confused me initially because I misunderstood it as "high net worth" and I was like wow these women are not very smart... and I was so wrong! This sub has become a go-to for me, it motivates me to level up in so many ways outside of relationships too. I s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:02 PM
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I can smell the moldy, slightly damp, fart-infested air of that room through the screen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:17 PM
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Just want to say that the few Samoyed puppies I've met were all MUCH higher value companions than most men I've met. If you go for it please give your puppy extra love from FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 04:51 AM
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Celery legs! I love it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 10:35 PM
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if a man uses memes or reddit for most of his punchlines, avoid. He will browbeat and bully you into having no standards. This is 100% true from experience. I've been thinking of writing a whole post about why we need to avoid this kind of man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:55 PM
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Same! I love watching the number grow!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 03:33 PM
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I hate how the standard reaction to this type of "compliment" from a strange man is an awkward "ha, thanks" followed by cutting eye contact and hoping the guy gets the hint and goes away. I do it too (haven't been approached by many strangers since COVID lockdowns started and I discovered FDS), I'd bet most of us here have done it, and it's like it's just conditioned for us women to pretend to appreciate random valuations of our appearance from strangers. Like why should I be thankful that someo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:42 AM
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It's nice but let's not forget that most men in the ME are also 10000x more sexist than in the West and wholeheartedly believe that a woman's place is in the kitchen with a baby on her hip and no complex thoughts in her head. I don't know where you were but the separation I've experienced there is absolutely needed because men would literally rub themselves all over the women if the women didn't have their own protected space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:20 AM
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The first gym I every joined was a women's-only gym. I didn't realize it was such a safe space until I tried working out at my college gym ONCE. NEVER AGAIN. They can't stand women's gyms for the same reason they can't stand FDS: they don't like being reminded that women can, and do, thrive without men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 05:15 AM
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who can request recorded video content from Ring users without a warrant The message of being careful with tech and stalking risks is important but what you're describing here isn't 100% accurate. It's not the case that police can scan random cameras whenever they want to stalk somebody. They can request footage from the owner of the camera and the owner can then decide to provide it or not, i.e. the police don't have to get a warrant to obtain the footage if the camera owner is cooperative. Wil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 01:06 AM
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I was just thinking this too, it's funny. They think their material wealth is going to be the magic ingredient that pulls all the hot 22yo women to them. If a younger woman then dares ask to be treated appropriately by this man flaunting all his wealth she is suddenly a gold digger and he is repulsed that his one selling point actually got a hit! Like which is it, are you using your wealth to attract and keep women or are you not? Make up your damn mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 06:01 PM
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Girl, don't ever regret speaking out about things like this. The other men are LV enablers of shitty behavior and this is just another reminder - there have been quite a few on FDS lately - that men are never your friends. It sucks that we can't pursue our hobbies and interests without having to be vigilant about situations like this. It sucks to be in male-dominated communities for activities you can't do alone and where female partners are hard to find. I'm into some outdoor activities that ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:50 PM
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Lol I completely agree, it's weak ass shit. Anything to keep spineless manchildren away is a win, I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:09 PM
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This is a sad story. I hope your friend is able to either wake up and get out or at least do something about her situation. I was thinking that this older man must be very wealthy, attractive, etc. but from the comments I see that's not even the case. There are a lot of women out who weren't raised to value themselves as they are, only in relation to what they do for others. Your friend sounds like she might be one of those. Feeling responsible and needed by the man and his children probably mad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:10 PM
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I was once chatting with a slightly younger guy (20yo) I worked with about dating, asking people out, etc and brought up the fact that I sense a lot of interest from men but I rarely get approached by them. He said "well yes, it's because you're way too beautiful and we know it'll hurt more when a girl like you turns us down. You're really nice but it's scary asking out a girl like you." I was shocked but as I digested this new information it all made so much sense. I wish I had known it in my t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:07 PM
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Fine AF Friday made me realize that I... don't really care to look at photos of random attractive men? I'd never noticed it so explicitly and I spent the weekend questioning my sexuality lol. I've never sought out hot guy pics (nor hot girl pics, for that matter) and I was happy that the posts here were all blurred out. I clicked on a few to look and they were all nice to look at for a few seconds but that was it. The conclusion I've come to is that I don't feel interest in a man without also ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 04:48 PM
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This comment gave me life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 05:06 AM
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All of that plus a nice flower garden, a vegetable garden, and a view of the mountains - that is literally my dream life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 03:38 AM
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I saw this on the front page earlier and was really disappointed by the reminder that 98% of Reddit's user base is entitled LV men who can't handle their own emotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 01:06 AM
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Having 9 cats/rescuing animals and living in a nice little cabin in a beautiful forest sounds like heaven.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:29 AM
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Sad to see a tiktok video about women not accepting walks or coffee dates for first dates, that was posted here a while ago, making Reddit front page as a "cringe" post. If anyone had any doubt that Reddit is 98% entitled LV men, here is your proof.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 07:36 PM
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Construction is the worst. I wasn't exactly in construction but I used to have to check on things being built. As a young woman it was extremely rare to be taken seriously. The construction guys would argue with me when I told them they had to do things a certain way or that they had done things wrong. Trying to make it sound like I was being difficult and I wasn't qualified to have opinions. And I'd have to be like, hey scroteboy, I literally designed the entire section of the building you're w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:57 AM
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In my experience the people who post pics like that are incredibly insecure. They only say it's empowering because they believe women need male approval and validation of their value as sex objects before they are allowed to have any power. Completely backwards. I can't imagine ever doing it. The thought of strange men using it to feed their porn fried brains is revolting. I don't even wear tight fitted or low cut clothing anymore because the unwanted attention is so gross. Like you just know th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 05:46 AM
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Agreed. I got hounded by an Indian guy born in the west who was super into gender roles, slept around, talked about "getting married" and supporting his family like it was a requirement in life, didn't realize a married woman could continue working and have her own bank account... yikes dude. And he was SO pushy despite me having a boyfriend, he continued orbiting after my breakup despite me very bluntly telling him that I did not find him attractive whatsoever and to leave me alone. Offered to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 11:09 PM
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He's been stagnating in the same sad excuse of an adult life since we started dating almost a decade ago. Is now very obviously balding, hasn't been able to find a job for almost a decade (after ignoring everything anyone said and did to try and help him), is more obnoxious with his stupid sense of humor (nobody thinks he's funny) than ever, and still lives with his parents who are sick and tired of his behavior. I very much still resent him for making me feel like I was the reason the relations…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:31 PM
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Well put!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:56 PM
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This is my first time hearing about Charlie's Toolbox. Just checked it out briefly and I'm excited to dive in more. Thanks for the tip!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:39 AM
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Yes! This happened to me too! Looking back, I can pinpoint the beginning of my body's reactions to the same time that I began to be lowkey disgusted by my LVX as a person. Unfortunately it was years before I realized I didn't have to put up with him and that his subpar behavior wasn't a reflection of my value. Wish FDS was more mainstream because I know a lot of women go through this problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:18 PM
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People who use sarcasm often are almost always bitterly angry at the world, people around them, and their lives, but have no communication skills with which to address their problems. The anger leaks out in the form of sarcasm. If you ever call them out on it they won't know how to handle the conflict and they think they have plausible deniability because they already warned you they're sarcastic assholes and it was jUst A jOkE .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:31 PM
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So proud of you and so happy to read about your success! You deserve all the benefits you're getting now and you got here by being strong and trusting in yourself. Please give our love to your high value puppy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 10:13 PM
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There's nothing wrong with you that you need to fix to be better. Treat this like a relationship. Your manager is obviously a LVM whose behavior is affecting your health and mental well-being. Do you continue to try and help him improve, keep trying to communicate when he doesn't listen or care? No. You didn't mention if you're open to finding a new job. Like everyone else in the comments so far, I think you need to leave. I'm also in my 20s and recently went through a short-lived employment sit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:45 AM
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Not even going to read the twitter comments because I already know what they're going to say. Voluntary sex work sounds like the ultimate Pickme choice to me. Men are gross, they're literally paying to treat you like an object, what is there to gain? How low does a woman's self-worth have to be to voluntarily choose this shit? What quality of male validation could they possibly be getting in a prostitution scenario that has any, ANY real value? I think these women are the type who hate other wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:30 AM
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I'd highly recommend joining a women's-only gym if one is available and affordable for you. The women's gym I used to go to was the only place I felt comfortable enough to work out, plus it's amazing to see strong women helping each other improve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:01 AM
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100% this, every young person starting out in their career needs to know this. If something is not in your job description and you're not getting compensated somehow for doing it, you shouldn't do it. Employers are not your friends, there is no need to play nice and hope they appreciate you for it later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:17 AM
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One surprising consequence of discovering FDS is that I now take less shit in other aspects of my life. I recently quit a job with a shitty management team - the company had a lot of potential, and I saw that my boss had the potential to not be such a jerk, and I thought maybe if I cOmMunIcATEd my concerns about his management style and lowkey illegal practices he would get better. But you know what? Fuck that. I left without a second thought, no regrets. If he wanted to do better, he would. If …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:13 AM
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LOL. No gamer guy looks like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:18 AM
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These posts are valuable for new FDS members and women whose eyes are being opened up for the first time. I see how the posts can be repetitive and energy-consuming for the queens who have internalized their HV selves, but a lot of us still struggle with overcoming lifetimes of internalized misogyny and pickme tendencies despite knowing that it's all wrong and illogical. I get upset about "the wall" and all the other TRP shit when I read the posts too. But the comments of the ladies here almost …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:33 AM
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It's so nice to see everyone's comments here confirming what I've thought for years but never been able to articulate. I used to be really hurt about losing my male "friends" when they inevitably confessed feelings or tried to hook up with me. I used to think it was my fault for leading them on and hurting them. So glad to have outgrown this mentality. I no longer seek out or invest in male friendships like I did as an insecure teen/young adult. Also, friendships between males SUCK. They're shal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:43 AM
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That's so sleazyyyyy. Gross!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 04:28 AM
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I'm very curious - did your cat try to lick the lamp?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:35 AM
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The world needs more women like your friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:10 PM
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Thank you! I can lift up other women and do my part to support others rather than dwell on things that can't be changed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:06 PM
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I agree. I appreciate the messaging of women being able to discuss and influence the state of their communities. And it's important that women are informed, educated, well-connected in their communities, and feel empowered to effect change. But most of the time gossip is not very useful. Much of the gossiping I was involved in as a teenager/young adult was centered around other women and created a sense of hostility and competition toward other women. I wish I could go back and put that energy i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:02 PM
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WHY CAN'T I HAVE POCKETS? Seriously, why are pockets in women's clothing so rare and so useless when they are present?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:50 PM
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Came here to say the same thing. It's not rocket science to make something of yourself but it takes real effort and it can be uncomfortable to start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:45 PM
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Yes, I don't think it should be too much to ask that at least the men who are close to us see us as human beings and not just objects that exist to be pretty for them. I'm struggling a lot with this as I used to absolutely idolize my older brother growing up. Realizing he's become a shameless NVM scrote is like watching that old version of him die and I don't know how to deal with how much it hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:30 PM
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Lol what a joke! They feel entitled to share all their opinions about our appearance and expect it to be taken as fact. But we make one small comment on their appearance and it's like the sky is falling. Idiots indeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 04:26 PM
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I don't see those dots at all on the promoted posts :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:29 AM
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I'm so sorry you went through that and thank goodness you dodged that bullet. His fiancée doesn't deserve that either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:23 AM
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Dumb question, but how do you report an ad? I've been seeing a lot of their ads too but I don't see an option to report or block them or anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 07:03 AM
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Oh yes the guilt trips were real. My mom almost cried when I told her I was going to do it and tried to talk me out of it for weeks. My brother actually got angry at me because he said I didn't correctly consider how it would affect the way men saw me and he was "just looking out for my best interests". That one was the most hurtful, I expected that my own older brother would be less of a scrote, but it was one of the (unfortunately many) comments that opened my eyes to how trash he is. And lots…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 06:57 AM
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I chopped off waist-length hair into a pixie cut and the attention disappeared overnight too. Even from guys who were pretending to just want to be friends. I felt really insecure and unfeminine at the time and it messed with my confidence quite a lot even though my new haircut was soooo cute. There were a few guys in my friend circle who didn't treat me any differently before and after, and those are the ones who are still around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:37 AM
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I had to put up with a male boss that spoke to me this way for months. It was paired with a lot of other casual misogynistic comments that he considered funny. Needless to say I dumped that employer as fast as I could.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:31 PM
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Another major point is knowing how to weigh the advantages and disadvantages of different financial options and make the most beneficial choice given whatever one's goals are. It goes for women too, obviously, I'd call it a 201 adulting skill for people in general. If you can make 10% return in a year on one account but choose to pour all your money into another account that promises 0.125% return... what are you doing? Strategizing and solid informed decision making are so important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 10:17 PM
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Thank you for this, I really needed it. I'm at the tail end of my mid-20s and I feel so much invisible pressure to be living my "prime" years to the fullest. I don't even know where the pressure is coming from: it seems to be coming from everywhere, nowhere, and from inside me all at the same time. I feel it pressuring me to move in with my boyfriend, get engaged, buy a house, work hard, earn a lot of money, plan to have kids, have multiple hobbies and be good at them, look hot but don't lead me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:19 PM
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Or when the hot guy laughs and it sounds like a dumb braying donkey. Instant death to any and all attraction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:40 AM
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100% agree about being attracted to good personalities only. I can (and often do) absolutely acknowledge that a man is physically godlike while also wanting nothing to do with him due to his personality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:38 AM
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This is hilarious. They get so offended.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:15 AM
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I did number 4 after leaving a LVM and I agree that it's better not to date for a while. Luckily I ended up dating a HVM and we are still happily together years later, but it would have been really great to have some time for myself, just figuring out how to exist in my own life and be content. Dating and especially falling in love turn your brain into mush. Makes it so hard to stay grounded in reality and to grow for yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 04:20 AM
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Same here! That would be amazing. And maybe one or two of our fantasy female colleagues could have the social skills to keep a casual conversation going for more than two sentences.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:39 AM
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You did the right thing! Your story sounds a lot like mine with my first boyfriend. I could go the rest of my life without ever seeing, hearing, or thinking about him again. The mutual friends part makes that hard, but oh well. At least I don't have to deal with his bs and wasted "potential" anymore. He has even been spinning it as a mutual decision to break up all these years even though I did all the work of initiating and actually making it happen! The heartbreak will take time but it'll heal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:20 AM
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This issue was really hard for me growing up. I love people and getting to know them well. Sadly I haven't had many good female role models in my life to show me what a strong supportive circle of female friends could be like. When I was younger I thought all my boy "friends" were happy to be around me because of the amount of understanding, support, and fun conversations I handed out. Then one by one they would confess feelings, insult me for not feeling the same way, and gtfo. I used to feel s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:05 AM
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Break up with him. He doesn't want to live up to whatever potential you think you see in him. No guy wants to be your friend. Find and form friendships with supportive women. No man is going to fill the void of self-respect and self-esteem in your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 04:09 AM
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That seeing "potential" in a guy means absolutely nothing. Take them as they are, not as who you think you can change them into with your love. If they wanted to be better, they would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:02 AM
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What you're describing sounds like your ability to see that his verbal communication and physical communication aren't lining up in a way that makes you feel safe and sure of his intentions. Reading body language accurately is an important part of being able to keep ourselves safe. Body language is incredibly difficult to control, especially when a person is aroused (emotionally, in general). I don't know if this is the same thing as intuition, but I experience it too, mostly with men who preten…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 04:48 AM
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So gross. Just his inability to type out a proper sentence makes me gag, let alone the dumpster fire of what he's saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:01 AM
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Congrats on the new kitten!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 07:23 PM
4

I realized I was waiting for a man to come along and give me something... I don't know what exactly, but maybe an identity? sense of purpose/worth? I realized I had serious self-esteem issues and was used to chasing emotionally avoidant men to fill the void. I was on the road to facing this pre-FDS but FDS made me realize just how important it is to live a life true to myself - and to figure out what that means in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 05:59 AM
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Love this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 05:09 AM
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Thanks for sharing this great video. I only knew about the reduced performance during the latter stage of the menstrual cycle from experience. Nobody knows or talks about this stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:34 AM
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This is important advice for men AND women. Recognize your wounds and heal yourself before having children or you will pass on all the trauma to the next generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:33 AM
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His atrocious use of "whens", "hmm", "jw" and "your" would be enough to get him blocked by me. Such low effort. Thanks for the laugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 09:45 PM
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I felt this a lot. My ex was neglectful too and it really fucked with my head and self-esteem. Now, with the anger, a lot of it is directed toward him as resentment for being so worthless, but most of it has been directed toward myself for putting up with that kind of treatment for so long. But seriously, were any of us ever educated about the importance and techniques of vetting men for romantic relationships? Were we educated about attachment styles and how not to fall into a relationship with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 07:40 AM
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Women who scoff at the word "feminism" are pickmes in disguise. These are the ones who think they're "not like other girls" and will put other women down to make themselves seem like the cool girl to gain shallow male validation. They may be beautiful, educated, and financially independent, but those things don't mean anything when your self-esteem is so low that you refuse to accept the validity of women seeking decent human treatment. Mostly they're dealing with a lot of internalized misogyny …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 06:55 AM
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So cringe and I'm sorry that happened to you. What a lame sad excuse for cheating with your boyfriend. As if you should pity her for wanting to be happy and accept that she would seduce your boyfriend?? Good on you for cutting this leech out of your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 06:43 AM
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I totally agree about living with a man before marriage. There's no better way to know a person's true character. But I also will refuse to do his chores for him, cook for us all the time, or do other live-in maid shit for him while living together, and this extends to after marriage as well. I see the period of living together before marriage as a test of whether he is good life partner material. In my ideal partnership, both parties can pull their own weight, be responsible adults, and do so w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 06:31 AM
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This sounds so great! Pole dancing is incredibly physically demanding and I have nothing but respect for the women who dedicate their time to developing their sport on the pole. They are so SO strong, graceful, disciplined, and inspiring. I've been interested in pole since I saw a video of Jenyne Butterfly years ago when I was 18 or 19 but unfortunately the classes have never fit into my budget. Thank you for sharing your story, it has put this interest in the front of my mind again. And your ex…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 06:00 AM
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and/or constantly are on their phones browsing through Reddit (esp this, my former friend would do this EVEN when we’re hanging out) My ex-NVM did this ALL THE TIME. He browsed Reddit through the entirety of our first vacation together. Poor old pickme me, I thought I was too boring for him. He didn't understand why I was upset when I brought it up. Dude was socially inept but his involvement in Reddit made him feel like he was a valued member of a community, I guess. It's a super glaring red fl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 06:50 PM
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Yeah those two that you mentioned are generally what happens. Usually when I'm having thoughts like that it's because I'm not satisfied in my relationship. My boyfriend might be working a lot and not have enough time for me or I feel we don't have enough common hobbies. If I were with a LVM this would be a sign to look at the relationship and evaluate whether the positives outweigh the negatives, and maybe it would be a push to break up. But I'm with someone that I know is a great guy, so I igno…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 04:19 PM
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There's a difference between being sexually attracted to other people while in a relationship and being tempted to cheat. Sexual attraction is normal. Emotional attraction is also normal if the relationship isn't providing enough emotional connection for you. I'm in a relationship with a wonderful man and I still find other men attractive sometimes. But would I consider cheating? No, because temptations happen all the time and are inherently meaningless. My boyfriend and I work to maintain our c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 11:40 PM
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the grass is greenest where you water it I love this! Totally agree. Relationships take effort on both sides. Still, it should never be a battle to get the other person to engage with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 11:33 PM
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It's great that this worked out for your parents, but I think this could completely backfire on the woman as well. My father also gives my mom 100% of what he earns, but it's because he has absolutely no interest or ability in handling his own finances. My mom does EVERYTHING from paying bills, to paying the mortgage, to saving for retirement. She does get to decide where extra money goes, but she's also too timid to spend anything on herself. And I know she's not happy about this responsibility…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 09:24 PM
9

They do still use "u" and "r" and I don't understand why either. It takes literally 1/3 of a second to type out the full word. Instant turn off tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:31 PM
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So disgusting. You handled it well for being so young. I've had male teachers pick on me but never anything like this. I hope he gets his ass handed to him by a girl who trusts her intuition and reports him. It's terrifying to think people like this exist because 1) teachers are in positions of power and 2) most of us are taught that our teachers would never do anything wrong, that we should trust them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 04:28 PM
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Good for you! You did a scary thing and you're going to be so much better off. There's never an ideal time to do this type of thing. Please don't feel bad about doing what you had to do. Celebrate the strength that you exhibited for the happiness of your future self. It's going to suck for a while and you need to be patient with yourself while your emotions settle. It's okay to doubt your decision and feel sorry for him. You don't need to act on those emotions, just feel them and let them out of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 05:49 AM
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This update is so heartbreaking. That she felt like she needed to do this to salvage her relationship is heartbreaking. I hope she will get the love and support she needs to move on because this story is messed up. I can't imagine ending a loving relationship this way. Her fiance was an ass and had no right to her past or her body. To anyone reading: please don't listen to the trash at r/relationship_advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 05:26 AM
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Good job! Never compromise on your boundaries to please others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 04:20 AM
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Nope. I've had many guys who opened up to me emotionally and considered that definitive proof that we must have a relationship now. It's hard because I love listening to people and understanding them, and I can never do that with guys without them taking advantage of it. The nice ones are just waiting their turn, being the "nice guys" that they are. I got hurt one too many times by ones who pretended to be a friend and then severed our "friendship" as soon as I rejected them romantically. Eventu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:58 AM
2

These are so beautiful! I can imagine losing track of time making such detailed art. It must be so relaxing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:26 AM
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We had a textbook case of an anxious-avoidant relationship. I felt like I had failed to be a good enough partner and that's why we just never seemed to work. He was my first boyfriend - I didn't know that dynamic wasn't healthy or normal. All the potential I saw in him had gone to waste. My youth had gone to waste. He was on dating apps within weeks of us ending our 5 year relationship, posting snap stories of his dates with trashy looking girls, and it felt like a punch to the gut on top of the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 03:24 AM
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I remember your post. There's no getting around the fact that it's going to suck for a while. You lost a partner. A very low/zero value partner, but still a partner that you envisioned as part of your life and that your identity was wrapped up in. You must give yourself time, space, and compassion to grieve the loss of a relationship where love wasn't enough. You will come out stronger and feeling so liberated. Maybe it'll take a few months to cry all the tears you need to cry and that's okay. Y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 11:58 PM
14

What a psycho! It's so good that you were able to get out of your lease. Imagine being stuck with that long-term because you signed a piece of paper saying you'd live together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 09:33 PM
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My ex did the same thing as yours OP! It's so pathetic. There were lots of other things that I look back on and cringe. One time I was over at his place (he was jobless and living with his parents) hanging out. A few of his friends were planning to join a PS4 game together at a certain time that night. I assumed he would skip joining them this time because I was with him and they gamed together multiple times a week anyway. Somehow I ended up giving him a BJ shortly before the appointed game tim…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 05:52 PM
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This works! I once cut off 2 feet of my hair, up to a short bob, and never have I seen male attention dry up that fast!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 07:21 AM
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I relate to this so much. Being suddenly showered with male attention after growing up largely ignored made me lose my integrity and self-respect too. I've only recently realized that I've been living for the attention for over 10 years and it's opened up a whole journey of figuring out who I am/want to be for myself going forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 07:01 AM
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What a loser! The nerve! Good on you for finally blocking him, he is a total waste of time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 03:28 AM
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Newbie here, I just wanted to say how grateful I am that this sub exists. I discovered it less than a week ago and poring over the amazing posts and spot-on memes has helped me verbalize a lot of thoughts I had about my relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years. I've realized that I've been a Pickmeisha my entire life and I no longer want to be that way. Last night I told my boyfriend that we need to talk about the things I'm doubtful about and things that make me insecure about our relationship…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 12:51 AM
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