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you have everything you could possibly want in a relationship. It seems your man is awesome. Your doubts come from social conditioning. Please don't give it any power!
/r/ExRedPill19/08/24 08:11 PM
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I don't see how my post is in bad faith. I have asked multiple people who said that the RP is better or more logical than the BP for actual arguments with data and have so far not received anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/23 01:32 PM
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I think that women have done a lot of cultural development in the past century. At the same time, men haven't gotten many new ideas. It seems quite logical that when the typical position in a society of one gender changes that the other gender also has to change to some extent. In this case, both positions have become more similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 10:17 PM
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List of top 10 most important and convincing arguments please
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 10:15 PM
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I never said that women are perfect angels. Women are flawed and so are men. Generally, both prioritize different things and that's why there is friction. The point is that you can find a compromise that's way better than A) being alone or B) a transactional resource for sex relationship. I am sure that you can get to the point where you can see this, hell, even experience this. It's going to be a whole lot of work though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 10:14 PM
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Okay, please give me a list of the top 10 most convincing and important RP arguments. I'd like to spend some time looking into it. I am pretty sure that every one has a weakness that can be pointed out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 10:09 PM
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My personal experience is different and I believe that the reason why you have these views is that you have never learned how to have an honest and deep relationship with a woman. You carry a deep mistrust, at the end of the day, this mistrust is even part of your identity as a human being. That's why you are merely capable of making superficial connections based on physical attraction. Of course, a relationship crumbles if you show the "wrong" emotions. That's not because all women are bad. You…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 10:03 PM
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okay, please send me a debate where the RP is winning in your opinion. Because I am certainly on the blue side of things and I have never seen a red-pilled argument that I feel is truly foundational.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 09:31 PM
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thanks for your view. I haven't participated in the original rp spaces before they've been banned. So I have no reference for how bad it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 09:20 PM
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This article refers to an analysis of 4 studies and only one study found what the headline of this post claims. I am 100% sure that neither you nor the OP has taken the time to look at the actual studies. You have no idea about the validity/quality of the studies you are talking about. There is no reason to freak out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 09:05 PM
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yeah, that's what I am thinking as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 09:00 PM
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I used body shaming as an example because I see that many posts are about the fact that women are allowed to mock men about their height, penis size, etc. while having no tolerance if a man calls them obese. If one person disagrees with you while 20 agree then I don't see how you can conclude that this sub isn't rp dominated.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:59 PM
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this is what i mean. No facts, just bitter opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:54 PM
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I am not going to take the time to analyze 100 posts. But if you sort for the top this month you can clearly get an idea by looking at the first 5 or 10 posts. Edit, spoiler: They are all rp-esque
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:53 PM
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bra
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:12 PM
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You do understand that women differentiate between fun and relationship? Or do you actually believe that a women that's hookup up with you at a club is trying to make you your boyfriend? I think what you are missing is that women like to have sex for the sake of pleasure too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:11 PM
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If the dildo is clean it doesn't matter how many people have used it. The reason that you don't want to use it is that you have the idea that it's dirty while factually being clean. In other words, you not wanting the 50 women dildo is irrational. It's okay to be irrational in this regard. Most people are.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 08:08 PM
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Tbh, the reason why most men care about body count is that they are insecure. As long as the woman is healthy, why does it matter to you how many penises have been inside her? Yeah, because they are afraid that she is still craving the one that is not attached to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/23 05:11 PM
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Anyone who celebrates Andrew Tate unironically is not going to be a good partner. sorry :/
/r/ExRedPill26/07/22 02:28 PM
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I can tell you what the difference is: - having had the experience of being successful
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 08:22 AM
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BTW, the original data is from a study from the year 1993. That's almost 30 years ago. I think you should definitely mention this in your post. Society has changed drastically since then.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 11:51 AM
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Do you have access to the whole study where this is cited? (Buss, D. M. (2016). The evolution of desire: Strategies of human mating. New York: Basic Books.) Because the link doesn't contain the original source. I'd love to see the entire overview of the 67 qualities.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 11:41 AM
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There are rewarding friendships among males and females. If you are expecting to get your D wet from a friendship than that's on you. Also, people of all genders can be jerks. I am sure you've been mistreated by a male friend before. Your conclusions just show that you still got all the RP bullshit internalized.
/r/ExRedPill13/05/22 08:50 AM
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It's definitely possible for a man to get into a position where he is the gatekeeper. There are many men out there, however, most of them are blatantly ignorant of female needs. Once you genuinely try to make the time enjoyable for the women that you are seeing, you will have no shortage of offers. I sometimes think that the majority of guys are all trying to work on the wrong things. Everyone is chasing materialistic stuff while the value lies in your mind. Internalize that you will always be o…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 04:20 PM
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Your post is all over the place. To me, it seems like you are generally frustrated about dating and life in general.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:07 PM
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Fake it until you make it is the worst thing you can do when it comes to sex. Getting good at sex is about understanding what your partner likes and that requires open communication. Faking it takes honesty off the table and now you are stuck with a lack of feedback and feelings of inadequacy. It's much better to admit that you are trying to improve. It shows your partner that you care for their pleasure and that is attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 03:30 PM
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for others, the most important skill is to read a women's body language. Otherwise, you have no clue what she likes and what she doesn't. It also helps you to improve your technique because you get "honest" and direct feedback. Here is a guide on how to learn that. Techniques you can find on youtube even, just type in yoni massage.
/r/seduction05/05/22 04:41 PM
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you got a pm
/r/seduction05/05/22 04:25 PM
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I write a blog about it: https://www.julianbeing.com/ Generally, you want to treat sex a bit like building a startup company. First, you need to find out what the girl likes (everyone is different), and once you know what your customer wants you to give it to them, and based on how they communicate (with their body, voice, etc) you iterate until you've found what she loves. So the majority of the work is understanding what the women craves. You just need to practice. You are already ahead when y…
/r/seduction05/05/22 08:00 AM
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I write a blog about it: https://www.julianbeing.com/ Generally, you want to treat sex a bit like building a startup company. First, you need to find out what the girl likes (everyone is different), and once you know what your customer wants you to give it to them, and based on how they communicate (with their body, voice, etc) you iterate until you've found what she loves. So the majority of the work is understanding what the women craves.
/r/seduction05/05/22 07:58 AM
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Lots of books, tantra dvds, articles, educational videos
/r/seduction05/05/22 07:52 AM
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A relationship is something external, it's a form of validation. So if your depression goes away because of a relationship that means that it will return once the relationship is over. Put differently, you make yourself dependent on the grace of that other human. Not a good way to lead a healthy relationship. Relationships work best if every individual part is happy by themselves and doesn't rely on the other party. So entering a relationship under such circumstances sets you up for a toxic dyna…
/r/ExRedPill25/04/22 11:51 AM
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You have a jarred view on life, attraction, and relationships, my boy. A huge cock is certainly not required to be a real man. However, that lack of confidence that you have about yourself because of your own perceptions of the inadequacy of your penis will translate into you being less attractive and fun to be around. You can't change the size of your junk, but you can change your relationship with your body. It's going to change everything.
/r/ExRedPill11/04/22 10:05 AM
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I mean if the problem is having too high standards, then simply getting off from SM and porn should have a massive upside.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/22 01:34 PM
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I'd like to disagree. I agree that you can relatively make yourself more physically attractive. However, going to the gym 3-4 times a week, changing diet, learning how to combine stylish clothes, etc. are all skills / habits that take quite a lot of time to develop or to take any effect. Your behavior is rather mullible. If you are now depressed because you are sucked into the redpill narrative and you hate yourself and women, this is not a definite state of your personality. Once you enjoy life…
/r/ExRedPill11/03/22 09:45 AM
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good attitude you have
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 03:12 PM
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I am not disagreeing with that. On the flip side, you might have been just a bit unlucky in clubs so far.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 02:51 PM
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In a club situation, you are not solely judged based on looks. It's a factor, but if you are having a good time and the people around you too, women will see that and find that attractive. Of course, this is not an in-depth analysis of your personality and yes, this favors guys with social skills and an extroverted tendency. Still, your personality plays a huge role.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 12:04 PM
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Like why? Let this man celebrate his personal victory.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 11:13 AM
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Outside of dating apps personality makes a huge difference. Once you make people around you feel like fire, things look very different all of a sudden. If one girl finds him attractive, thousands will. There are literally billions of women on this planet.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/22 11:12 AM
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THIS
/r/ExRedPill27/02/22 11:32 AM
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this.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/22 11:48 PM
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She is a human being just like you and just like your parents. Imho, hating on you dating her is the weird thing to do. Go for it and stand your ground.
/r/ExRedPill17/02/22 09:23 AM
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I've watched one video and got to say that I like the quality of your line of argumentation. Good job!
/r/ExRedPill15/02/22 12:37 PM
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Looks matter on dating apps. The problem is that most guys are only trying their luck there. One of the guys who has crushed it the most was some mid 30s MBA dude who was overweight, bald, and even had missing teeth. However, he was himself and funny as fuck.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/22 05:45 PM
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I see your point. Thanks for taking the time to help me learn today! Appreciate it :)
/r/ExRedPill04/02/22 04:18 PM
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I agree lying is stupid and wrong. Still, what I did was a direct response of fake it until you make it advice I was given at the time. In the example I have given, fake it until you make it is damaging regardless of lying. Even if you just pretend you know what's up you are taking away the foundation for an honest conversation. The concept implies a certain level of dishonesty. It's useful in some aspects of life, in others it's not.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/22 03:34 PM
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Jup, your values will change to some extent. However, what I am talking about is more of the core foundation of your being. For instance integrity is a strong value and I am simply not willing to compromise on that. An example would be 'i don't cheat on my partner'. I'll never change this core foundation of my existence. It's set in stone. I've also had some bad experience with fake it until you make it. Often it's a bad foundation for an intimate relationship. I once talked myself up for a girl…
/r/ExRedPill04/02/22 09:51 AM
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I think part of being yourself is striving for growth. A person who has a strong value system development and executes their life on these premises will not settle for who they are.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/22 09:45 AM
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I wish I had more time to elaborate. 'Just be yourself' is good and bad advice at the same time. Good because it's true and bad because it's too abstract and guys like you have no clue how to implement it. From my experience just be yourself means refining your value system. What do you believe a good human would do and why? Once you have this foundation decided for yourself (and it will take time) you can simply follow your values. Oftentimes that means pursuing something that you find interest…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/22 10:52 PM
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Good that you are ready. Stay ready. You can't force it. Being too keen will lead to clouded decision making. Do you know how many of my friends are still together with the girl they dated when they were 19? You guessed it. 0. Not a single one of them. You are not falling behind. Try to focus on yourself, your passion, your career instead of comparing yourself to other people. One day you will meet a woman that you like and then you can share your world with her. It might be tomorrow, it might b…
/r/ExRedPill03/02/22 07:19 PM
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You are 19. The only advice I can give to you is to relax. Dating apps are not ideal to find a long-term partner anyways. There are success stories of course but you can't expect that. It's like buying a lottery ticket and getting mad that you didn't win. However, if you keep using them for years and you start becoming good at screening superficial women out. Then you will eventually find someone, either through apps or real life. Also, the older you get, the easier it becomes to attract women. …
/r/ExRedPill03/02/22 05:32 PM
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As most people have said already, this advice is complete crap. I get that there is some truth to it as you will certainly get results with some women. However, these are not the women you want to get attention from. The problem is that many guys are so underfucked and feel so underappreciated that they feel the need to adopt this toxic behavior to get validation. Try this ethical dating philosophy instead. Has gotten me amazing results and lots of positivity.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/22 04:24 PM
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Women are attracted to men. Not all, but most of them. :)
/r/ExRedPill31/01/22 05:20 PM
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I want to encourage you to start being more selective with who you allow enter your life. I personally am pretty calm myself, my voice is rather high for a guy and not very loud, I don't have super wide shoulders, etc. However, I've never had these issues. As long as I am doing what I like and clearly communicate my boundaries, women respect me for who I am. If they wouldn't I would spend time with them.
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 10:48 PM
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I feel you. To be honest, I started out with PU when I was 16 but luckily realized 3 years into it how toxic some of these ideas are and that they started to become damaging to my self-development. PU and related stuff definitely work if your only goal is to get girls. I've been struggling a lot with being good in bed as my first partner flat out told me that I suck and that she always faked orgasms. My ego, annihilated. Anyways, I started working hard on my ability to please women. Today, I don…
/r/ExRedPill30/01/22 10:39 PM
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I want to say that once you treat women like humans you will start to meet more women and have good relationships with them. Most men either hate women or they put them on a pedestal. Both are counterproductive. :)
/r/ExRedPill29/01/22 04:08 PM
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Jup, women are just people like you and me.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/22 08:52 AM
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Yeah, it's honestly crazy how warped ones perspective can become.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/22 08:52 AM
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Redpill is also some crappy behaviour, it's basically the same stuff.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 07:16 PM
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Most people are actually decent people. At least from my experience. Often it's just that they have been brought up in a way or adopted crappy behaviour.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 04:39 PM
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Self-awareness and personal boundaries is where it's at.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 04:38 PM
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That's it!
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 04:37 PM
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Seems like you'd make a great social scientist ;)
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 01:31 PM
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That's very interesting. I personally found that I've become more open minded towards what I find attractive in a woman as I've internalized that they are human. It's like I've grown into my own preferences instead of relying on what other people like.
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 12:59 PM
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Well said, thanks for sharing! :)
/r/ExRedPill28/01/22 12:55 PM
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If you look at my parents, my father's turn is lasting pretty fucking long. Forget this limiting belief. Build a genuine connection with a woman and your turn will last until your or her last breath.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 04:12 PM
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Honest human connection is everything.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 04:08 PM
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It depends. There are people in poly- or open relationships. It's all happening with consent. So I am quite certain that some also fancy others in secret. Then there are asexuals, they certainly don't fancy anyone that way. Humanity is wild and you are part of it.
/r/ExRedPill18/10/21 04:06 PM
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