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| 58 | Mom gives “Husbands in Training” course to her sonsI watched this somehow not long after it was posted and have followed his story. For some reason I got the feeling that MAYBE the curriculum was from what the mom had wished she had in a partner. It just happened that he also had the self-awareness to see it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 09:34 PM |
| 12 | How to approach friend about her new relationshipOh my gosh this is all great advice. Unfortunately I can’t think of anything right now. Again I’ll think harder now because these are all great points. I will definitely try to fight the isolation now. Lately I’ve just given into it as I thought she was the one doing it. I’m definitely going to stop thinking like that now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 03:34 PM |
| 28 | How to approach friend about her new relationshipYeah, that’s exactly it!! I hadn’t even thought about a media approach. I can’t think of anything right now either. But I’ll start thinking of possibilities. She hasn’t said anything abusive at all. But I see lots of red flags, especially in his previous relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 02:58 PM |
| 5 | Happy VD, FDS!!Seriously. The male cat owners I’ve known have been BAD!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 06:39 PM |
| 16 | Happy VD, FDS!!😂 yes!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 03:20 PM |
| 39 | Didn’t realize this sub would cause me to be bannedWowww yes, you did! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 02:33 AM |
| 1 | He just fucking Venmo me. I’ve blocked him as much as I can. I don’t want his money but don’t want to respond!I can block him but it’s already sent. For me to send it back is a response to him which is what he wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 05:57 PM |
| 15 | The Look On His Face Was My Christmas PresentOmg THAT is a good thought! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:41 AM |
| 24 | The Look On His Face Was My Christmas PresentYeah, the more I’ve thought about this tonight the more uneasy I feel. What made him think he had this right? I have lots of family, friends, and neighbors who care about me. I spent Christmas alone due to this pandemic. There was no need for him to check on me. I’ve just now told my neighbors once I read your comment. They know him and know he shouldn’t be around any more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 02:40 AM |
| 13 | The Look On His Face Was My Christmas PresentYes, I’d already thought that about him showing up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 12:07 AM |
| 116 | The Look On His Face Was My Christmas PresentI’m honestly not even sure it was caring. I felt it was more there was no way I’d NOT answer HIM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 09:50 PM |
| 57 | The Look On His Face Was My Christmas PresentThank you!! I feel so empowered now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:22 PM |
| 250 | The Look On His Face Was My Christmas PresentAbsolutely!! He NEVER went out of his way before to check on me!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 08:19 PM |
| 10 | Why does it seem that men are MORE likely to cheat when their partners are pregnant?Yeah, my mom has always been unable to stand up to my dad. I wouldn’t say a pickmeisha necessarily. But it’s never been a healthy relationship. She saw what my brother did though and had very similar done to her after my sister was born and wasn’t standing for it for somebody else. I’ve always wished she’d fight for herself the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:32 AM |
| 10 | Why does it seem that men are MORE likely to cheat when their partners are pregnant?Oh girl. For this? Same | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 04:30 AM |
| 38 | Why does it seem that men are MORE likely to cheat when their partners are pregnant?My POS brother cheated on my SIL while she was pregnant. She found out like 2 days before giving birth. So the Ahole decided it was fine to bring his girlfriend to the hospital to sit with him in the waiting room while she was in labor. My mom told her she should leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 11:45 PM |
| 49 | Why does it seem that men are MORE likely to cheat when their partners are pregnant?Same reason so many men kill their pregnant wives. 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 11:38 PM |
| 8 | Repeat after me from the handbook, Ladies: "D* is abundant and ___?" 💁🏻♀️ABSOLUTELY LOW VALUE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 12:47 AM |
| 2 | No thanks scroteHA!! That made me laugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 12:39 AM |
| 6 | No thanks scroteThank you. Yeah, then when I’d have enough and say I wasn’t going to settle since he thought he was, he’d gaslight me and say he hated my self-esteem was so bad that I’d ever think he’d say that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 08:10 PM |
| 9 | No thanks scroteMy ex-bf used to LOVE to tell me we could both do better. And that I should settle like he already has. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 07:08 PM |
| 1 | My narc ex lived like this 🤢HA!! Exactly!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 04:07 AM |
| 11 | Own It!!Yes!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 02:03 AM |
| 3 | My narc ex lived like this 🤢I thought this was from my Animal Crossing group. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 08:55 PM |
| 17 | Own It!!Wow. This is SO well said!!! I love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 07:46 PM |
| 67 | Own It!!EXACT same. And it was like I did a polar opposite to compensate. My own mom told me not to be so bossy and intimidating because people wouldn’t like me. Looking back, I wasn’t being bossy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 06:56 PM |
| 15 | They find any sort of crack to slither back inWtf?! Had he just been trying every couple of days for a while? WOW!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 09:00 PM |
| 10 | They find any sort of crack to slither back inHa!! Right!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 09:00 PM |
| 20 | They find any sort of crack to slither back inThis made me laugh. Exactly!! Blocky. No answery. No time for fuckery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 08:59 PM |
| 24 | They find any sort of crack to slither back inThey truly are!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 08:59 PM |
| 3 | They find any sort of crack to slither back inAbsolutely. Especially since she was an ex of his. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 08:51 PM |
| 2 | They find any sort of crack to slither back inNope. She didn’t. 🙄🙄🙄🤬🤬🤬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 08:49 PM |
| 21 | They find any sort of crack to slither back inYES!! I was!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 04:58 PM |
| 38 | They find any sort of crack to slither back inWOW!! I am so sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 04:57 PM |
| 8 | Not a Flaw in Your Character- This morning’s advice to a friend whose LV ex BF is posting some gross stuff on SM. Figured somebody here might also need the reminder!Ha!! Omg I forgot I said SM. I thought this was my friend answering me. Yes. Social media | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 01:26 PM |
| 9 | Boys will be boys 🤮 so disgusted with double standardsI know. I knew it was bad when I went there, but looking back I realize how toxic that school really was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 12:24 AM |
| 18 | Boys will be boys 🤮 so disgusted with double standardsThe head football coach was one of my teachers in high school. He was late to class one day and everybody was talking. A guy ended up snapping a girl’s bra and she yelled and slapped him just as the teacher came in. The teacher 1) Told the guy that that was a weak snap. 2) Told the girl to go to the principal’s office. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 12:04 AM |
| 41 | I love how OP handled this like a queen 🙌👑 the audacity of this selfish guy trying to pressure her into being a warm fleshlightThis legit made me tear up. What an awesome mom you have! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 04:33 PM |
| 6 | Don’t EVER go in any form of debt for a man!Omg I hope she wakes up soon!! And not after he lets her pay everything and then peaces out. But yes, I agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 08:54 PM |
| 32 | Don’t EVER go in any form of debt for a man!Asshole. Sounds like an ex of mine. I’m so sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 05:15 PM |
| 42 | Don’t EVER go in any form of debt for a man!🤯🤯🤯 What?? You didn’t like that?? I dId sOmEtHinG nIcE fOr yOu | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 05:07 PM |
| 52 | Don’t EVER go in any form of debt for a man!Right!! I bought an ex thoughtful gifts for Christmas. Spent so much time thinking of things he’d love. He gave me a $5 pen that he also bought for his mom. And a pair of graphic socks that had things HE liked on them. Don’t get me wrong. The price of the pen didn’t bother me! I’m just saying it wasn’t even a special pen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 05:01 PM |
| 17 | Don’t EVER go in any form of debt for a man!Agreed!! I think $100 tops is good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 04:40 PM |
| 14 | Don’t EVER go in any form of debt for a man!Agreed!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Deprived political post.I found a sub the other day and was literally sick to my stomach at all the posts on there. Like I knew the men existed but had never read anything by them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 10:43 PM |
| 26 | When you stop tolerating their bs and start enforcing boundaries, the dead weight from your shoulders suddenly drops. That release is refreshing.In the beginning of my last relationship, I’d watch the things he wanted to, listen to what he wanted, etc. Started to realize, it was NEVER what I wanted to do. When I started pushing back, he was like I don’t understand you! You’ve CHANGED! You used to WANT to do these things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 06:37 PM |
| 7 | !!!Exactly a year ago today, I did this. My cat had passed away 2 days before and I was in a very low, lonely place. So that morning when I got the text. “Hi. How have you been?”, my stomach sank. But I still responded. After he quit talking for 2 months, I responded. And proceeded on a 10 month rollercoaster of gaslighting, manipulation, and emotional abuse that I could have avoided if I’d heeded FDS then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 01:55 AM |
| 7 | Men unloading unprocessed trauma on women: is therapy? 🥺👉👈When my LVM ex kept saying he was going to commit suicide and wanted to discuss his suicidal ideations, I said he needed to talk to a therapist rather than me. I said i want to be there for him but it wasn’t fair to me because I don’t know how to process it or what to say. He said I was the most selfish person ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 04:55 PM |
| 5 | Stay alert on what’s compromise or notExactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:54 PM |
| 23 | Stay alert on what’s compromise or notThis triggered me this morning. For months I was made to feel like I was the most uncompromising woman ever, even though I kept trying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 12:15 PM |
| 16 | *internal screaming, forever*Be free here, queen!! Let it loose!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 11:16 PM |
| 46 | *internal screaming, forever*My LVM ex bf would say he couldn’t help that he got pee everywhere other than the toilet. “It’s because my dick is so big.” (It wasn’t big at all when limp. Microscopic actually) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Having a Hard Time TonightThank you so much!! Yeah, it’s not even that I’ve talked about him with them. I haven’t been able to as I never hear from them anymore. I’ve not wallowed for the most part. I HAVE had my moments (like last night). One of his friends text bombed me to ask what I’d sent them (I hadn’t) and then proceeded to give me the update. They’ve now been blocked though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:12 PM |
| 3 | When LVM Have Good PersonalitiesHa!! I don’t! But that’s where he moved from after the divorce! This is bizarre! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:08 PM |
| 4 | Having a Hard Time TonightThank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 11:31 AM |
| 10 | Having a Hard Time TonightYeah, I forgot to say she’s an ex of his that he apparently talked to the entire time we were together. I have tried reaching out to my close group of friends. They have all acted like they were still quarantining (which I am too) and couldn’t even meet for socially distanced things. However I also found out last night that they actually HAVE been doing that. Just without me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 11:31 AM |
| 4 | May we never deal with NVM again👸Yes, you are!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:26 AM |
| 7 | When LVM Have Good PersonalitiesDamn. Did I just break up with your ex-husband?? He had been married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:24 AM |
| 16 | May we never deal with NVM again👸Gah I’m in tears. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:00 AM |
| 4 | It’s funny what brings the sexists out. MM made a comment the current playoff bubble is good because the players aren’t distracted by their wives. I can’t handle the comments on posts right now of all the men (and way too many women) seeing nothing wrong with the statement.Omg I didn’t even see that one. You’re right...wtf Sounds like an ex of mine who tried saying that he as a straight white male is oppressed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 01:24 AM |
| 6 | OP was writing that her family was mad at her for ruining her cousin’s life for coming forward that he sexually assaulted her 4 years ago when she was 14 and he was 17. This is how a scrote answered her.She also said that, since she has come forward, other women have as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 12:40 PM |
| 2 | OP was writing that her family was mad at her for ruining her cousin’s life for coming forward that he sexually assaulted her 4 years ago when she was 14 and he was 17. This is how a scrote answered her.We’ve got you and will always be here for you and remind you of the queen you are!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 12:18 PM |
| 2 | OP was writing that her family was mad at her for ruining her cousin’s life for coming forward that he sexually assaulted her 4 years ago when she was 14 and he was 17. This is how a scrote answered her.I’m so sorry all of that happened to you. You have a big support network here! I know it’s not the same though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 12:12 PM |
| 13 | “Girl he is the SWEETEST, sometimes he just doesn’t text back bc he’s busy you know?? We aren’t even official but he wants to move in w me, he’s THAT into me.”I just scared my pets I cackled so loud! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Saw these in response to a post in a FB group I’m in. They both really hit meI feel this so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 12:48 PM |
| 4 | Stay Safe Queens!I know!! I get goosebumps every time I think about it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 04:27 AM |
| 8 | Feeling lonely todayWay to go, queen!! Yes, we will be stronger! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 09:07 PM |
| 12 | I did it! Thank you FDS Community!!Those are great points!!! I actually went out to my car after dark last night and was afraid for the first time in my life. Maybe not afraid. But uneasy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:22 PM |
| 5 | I feel like an A**holeThank you!! Unfortunately they’ve all been about the same man. I couldn’t get rid of him. But I did yesterday! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 10:07 AM |
| 2 | I feel like an A**holeI made a new post. I got him out yesterday. In the meantime, he accused me of poisoning his cat. He took her and I have no doubt he’ll take care of her. But I was scared for my own animals to be alone with him after he accused me of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 10:06 AM |
| 3 | I feel like an A**holeYou don’t know how much I appreciate your comment. These are all excellent points!! I thank you so much for taking the time to write them!! It ended up not having to come to this. He left yesterday. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 10:04 AM |
| 6 | I feel like an A**holeI did it! He left yesterday! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 10:01 AM |
| 2 | I feel like an A**holeI may have to do this. I’m definitely starting therapy. But I got him to go yesterday! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 09:59 AM |
| 11 | I feel like an A**holeI have wondered before if I should. And then get mad at myself for even putting myself and continuing to put myself in this situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 01:25 PM |
| 22 | I feel like an A**holeI am. I’ve told him multiple times he has to leave. I have called his brother for help. It gets to the point where I think he’s going. Then he just doesn’t go anywhere. He’ll retreat to bed and “go to sleep”. I try to get him up. And he doesn’t do anything. I’ll admit there have been like 2 times that he’s gotten to me by manipulating. Saying our problems are because I have issues with things nobody else would have issues with (staying up all night and drinking). Or he says he truly loves me and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 01:23 PM |
| 14 | When you think there are red flags...believe it!Oh, I totally agree!! He apparently thinks I’m the most gullible person alive to believe his BS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 10:03 PM |
| 34 | When you think there are red flags...believe it!Nope! They’re definitely not. She’s married to somebody else!! And I’ve met her husband. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 09:51 PM |
| 28 | When you think there are red flags...believe it!I wondered the same! He said she just GAVE it to him! 🙄🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Always keep your head and your standards high 👊🏻☝🏻This is amazing. I love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/20 03:29 PM |
| 102 | Always keep your head and your standards high 👊🏻☝🏻Yep. If he texts other people the entire time we’re out together...we won’t be out together again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Don’t Settle!Ah! Crap. I looked and didn’t see it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 06:04 AM |
| 4 | They’re playing games anyway!Ha! I didn’t know that’s where it came from. I saw it on IG but under a “general” account (for lack of a better word.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 07:56 PM |
| 8 | They’re playing games anyway!🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Temporary? Dead BedroomOmg the grouchy cat comment made me spit my water out! That’s great! And all of this is so true. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/19 03:22 AM |
| 8 | Get a proper apology for his bullshitI’m really loving your tough love! It’s kind of the kick in the ass I need. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 05:33 PM |
| 12 | Temporary? Dead BedroomI have and he’s actually quite large. Which has been one of his excuses...he says in the past women have just wanted him for his dick, so he wants to wait. Which makes me want to laugh every time he says it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 05:17 PM |
| 12 | Temporary? Dead BedroomThank you for this comment. This is what I’ve wondered as well...I could see myself starting to get irritated with everything just because we’re not having sex. Haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 05:11 PM |
| 8 | Temporary? Dead BedroomNo, he’s not on meds. I honestly feel like things might be better if he was, but he refuses to be treated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 05:10 PM |
| 27 | Get a proper apology for his bullshitThis is happening all too often with the guy I’m seeing. He does something shitty, I call him out on it, he starts having a meltdown saying either 1) he’s having a panic attack. Or 2) he feels depressed. So either way, it’s never his fault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Good question.This hits hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Ghost came back in time for Halloween!Lol Oh, I definitely did! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/19 10:37 PM |
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