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Check out the comments. Did the decimated state of men after huge armed conflicts open the floodgates for feminism?
/r/MensRights23/10/12 09:20 PM
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Try being a white male, growing up in the city, going to majority black schools. If you can't learn to be something other than the white man, your life won't be pretty. Shit I would've loved to be something else. All the kids assuming you're rich when the reality is your family lives in a dilapidated little house and you're a latchkey kid too because your mother devoted herself to try to teach remedial little badasses in the same schools. She's still just some white bitch. And me, well I might a…
/r/MensRights23/10/12 08:51 PM
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And let a woman find out you make less than her. See what she thinks of you then.
/r/MensRights23/10/12 08:29 PM
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practically every woman these days has a long resume of boyfriends and is heavy into serial monogamy, or was at some point. women pick up men easy because men have forgotten that they used to get more than just some vanilla shagging for their efforts. women rule now because men have their backs against the wall and the majority of them are still just happy to get laid, if they can.
/r/MensRights23/10/12 02:22 AM
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so what was the power? the ability for people to care about you because you got tits?
/r/MensRights23/10/12 02:12 AM
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pshh. maybe the most unattractive ones have been pretty forward, but for the most part it's more like, sexually ignored.
/r/MensRights23/10/12 12:25 AM
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I grew up in a fairly liberal household and went to liberal schools and I am just now--in my young adulthood--beginning to realize that the narrative I've been fed is just one narrative and not the way of the world. Though I've always been a skeptic, I just get more and more skeptical of leftists because they keep showing me that they're not really going to do anything for me, but they expect me to do the right thing by them.
/r/MensRights20/10/12 12:08 PM
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Speaking of that, I'm getting a grown-up job soon, one that actually has a lot of potential for me to get injured. Why? Because I can't afford to keep working for what is practically minimum wage. I see a lot of struggling women hatching or trying to hatch their escape plans (hooking up with a male who's got a good job.) But I am the only escape plan I've got. And for the record, those who think I could be their meal ticket or safe bet can dream on.
/r/MensRights19/10/12 10:23 PM
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As a man, I feel mainly objectified for my strength (of ego, of finance, of body - especially the ego though, because the other things are tangential to that.) People like men who have healthy egos but will have little to with men who seem weak, who need help with their ego. Men are to be strong so they can take care of everyone else. If you seem strong, if you seem like a winner, people will flock to you.
/r/MensRights13/10/12 07:52 PM
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On the one hand, I think "success" with women is simply vital to men's psychological well-being. Everybody wants to get laid and those who do are happier. The men who do tend to be more powerful, and this really says a lot. It sounds like a joke but not being able to get laid is horrible and quite damaging to a man's psyche. Also, once you get sucked into it, it's hard to get out, because there are very little resources for help. Society spurns weak men, which brings me back to why a man not bei…
/r/MensRights13/10/12 03:59 AM
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Better yet, ask a faculty member if you can hold meetings for your club (the men's center) in the faculty lounge.
/r/MensRights24/08/12 01:21 PM
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I get them from other dudes, actually. It's usually along the lines of "damn, you're chest is huge" or "you're jacked" or "you look like that dude [insert celebrity]." For the most part, women don't say shit. They smile and act coy around me. Mute "compliments" I guess. Only the most aggressive ones, which are few and far between, will say something.
/r/MensRights17/08/12 06:34 AM
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/r/SuicideWatch
/r/MensRights15/08/12 03:33 AM
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I get compliments about my appearance everyday. Sure, the attention may be awkward in some instances and almost always unsolicited, but for the most part, it is an extraordinary privilege and confidence booster.
/r/MensRights15/08/12 03:31 AM
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I like how both men and women have issues in your scenario, but the women are victims ad the men are reduced to comic book good guys and bad guys chastised for how they interact with women (either by "using" them or failing to "step up to the plate") It's nice that the girls get to be human beings though, I'm happy for them.
/r/MensRights14/08/12 01:27 PM
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According to Men’s Health magazine, married men make more money, have more sex, get promoted faster, and are generally healthier than unmarried men. I think this hints at the class-based marriage gap and that more men are poor now.
/r/MensRights13/08/12 02:34 PM
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It was the the Prostestant Ethic that bound moral righteousness to wealth, leading to a more secular, at times theist, at times atheist, worship of the almighty dollar.
/r/MensRights09/08/12 12:05 AM
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It makes sense [to feminists] when you realize that women objectify men mostly on the basis of their character and moral dispositions. Good men, bad men, funny men, and so on. This is why they obsess about status, acquiring a "good" man, or changing a bad boy, and so on.
/r/MensRights07/08/12 05:24 PM
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I really think there's a huge misunderstanding of mental illness and clinical depression in men and we pay for this ignorance dearly. People expect men to behave all sad, depressed, and dejected when dealing with psychological turmoil because this is how women tend to express it and it's more recognized. Sure, this can certainly be how men express it sometimes too, but what we're missing here is how men attempt to deal with problems by internalizing them rather than reaching out. It's hard for s…
/r/MensRights06/08/12 02:52 PM
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I confess that I am kind of in the closet as a MRA. I am getting more bold though, so I speak my mind when the chance arises. People know that I am anti-sexist. I have spoken up several times about men's issues, but while I've alluded to it, I haven't quite outed myself as an MRA. Perhaps some might suspect, if they even have a concept of what that is, but I try to appear unbiased. Maybe I will change my mind, but for now I just don't want to deal with getting blacklisted and all the low blows I…
/r/MensRights02/08/12 07:24 PM
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I think male feminists either have a self-hatred complex, or else they haven't been introduced to any alternatives to feminism as a mechanism for critiquing gender.
/r/MensRights28/07/12 04:45 PM
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My gym membership is $30 a month, which is a dollar a day. I'm sure you can find similar pricing somewhere. I used to do a lot of cardio and I found that it wore me down. I highly recommend giving up much of your cardio and hitting the weights more. Hit every muscle group (don't neglect legs, back, or shoulders), rest, eat (nutritious stuff, mainly). The only cardio I might do is warm up or cool down for a few minutes although I also get light exercise from my job.
/r/MensRights26/07/12 08:29 AM
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The fact that men aren't expected to take care of their bodies leads to health issues of course. It's like the inverse of the issues caused by women being expected to care too much about their bodies. How can people not see that the mantra that "only what you do matters" for men makes them sacrifice their health for their jobs.
/r/MensRights26/07/12 12:47 AM
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5 days a week is fine as long as you don't go balls to the wall each time. I have a split where I focus on one or two muscle groups a day. Women tend to care more about what you do This isn't necessarily about appearing attractive to women, or what women want. It goes beyond that. Sure, those things are related, but OP has an issue with his self-image. Maybe he cares about his body but hasn't figured out how to do it in a healthy way. I've been there. Men aren't really supposed to care too much …
/r/MensRights26/07/12 12:41 AM
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Exhibit A
/r/MensRights23/07/12 12:38 AM
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Fuck, isn't subsidizing the bad decisions of poor single mothers enough?
/r/MensRights20/07/12 07:34 PM
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People are also free to joke about men's bodies to their faces, and we are supposed to have a sense of humor about it. Like when people would joke about my height I would shrug it off and joke about it too, until I realized that it wasn't as much of a joke as I thought it was, because people seriously judge you for it. One time a girl who was a friendly acquaintance made a comment sounding annoyed at all the short men there seemed to be at this bar we were at, not at me but right in front of me …
/r/MensRights10/07/12 09:43 PM
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Even if she doesn't, she probably expects to meet a man who will make good money.
/r/MensRights10/07/12 09:22 PM
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Okay, this power+prejudice propaganda is getting really stale. I'm fed up with it.
/r/MensRights10/07/12 03:02 AM
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Permalink with more context.
/r/MensRights29/06/12 07:43 PM
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Jezebel has always been about trying to marry supposed topics of substance with irritatingly glib writing. I just don't know how you can read the prose without clawing out your eyes unless you already possess a religious belief in whatever bullshit they're parroting. I think it mainly appeals to that market of women's studies and sociology majors who are looking for some light reading half-way between their textbooks and Cosmo.
/r/MensRights29/06/12 07:28 PM
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Also, with regard to reciprocal domestic violence - people have no concept of this. It might as well just be the man doing it by himself.
/r/MensRights25/06/12 07:48 AM
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This is one of those ideas that appears sound at first, but when you think about it, is actually bullshit. It only works if both sexes ask at a relatively equal rate...and...they don't.
/r/MensRights25/06/12 04:07 AM
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Man, it'd be nice to be able to do all that. I am sure it is very satisfying. But honestly? I'm more interested in seeing how crazy we can get. I don't really have a choice. I'm in my 20s. People in my generation? Their minds are all fucked up and scattered all over the place. In a lot of ways, "normal" is decentralized. People write their own scripts. It's all hook-ups and quasi-pair bonding (serial monogamy, polyamory, friends with benefits) and quasi-traditional ideas about gender (the world …
/r/MensRights25/06/12 03:58 AM
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Attractive women of course get the most mileage out of this way of thinking, but women in general still benefit from it. Take an average guy and average girl and the formula will still be that the guy is just jazzed about having a woman and the girl is happy based on the man's social value and how he "treats" her.
/r/MensRights25/06/12 03:31 AM
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Man, this title had me excited because it was going to call women on their shit. What is this bullshit I just read? I had to double-check the URL because I thought I was reading Cosmo. Of course the prose was terrible, but the worst offense is that this is pretty much as stereotypical as you can get: a woman writing about men's character. They objectify men's character, get it? They are obsessed with personality and ego as men are with looks. This is where men and women have to just cut it out a…
/r/MensRights25/06/12 03:21 AM
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What is psychologically or socially healthy about such sexual vampirism? Sex doesn't exist in a vacuum away from everything else and I just don't see that working in a healthy way. I imagine people living their lives nihilistically or turning to raising children in a radical kibbutz-style.
/r/MensRights24/06/12 04:06 AM
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Then my mind spiraled..I thought of all the things activities I can do without being judged too heavily by those of each sex. We've get a live one boys! They're starting to wake up! It's like the scene in the Matrix where Neo wakes up in the tub of goo. Is Tristin tough? What does he need to be tough for? Tough so he can protect me? From what? Tough so that he never wants to talk about anything? Tough so that as a woman I can never really relate to anything he’s thinking? Tough that as a woman I…
/r/MensRights24/06/12 03:52 AM
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The whole alpha and beta thing is something I'd like to see us explore and critique a lot more.
/r/MensRights23/06/12 04:01 AM
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Um, if I could get casual sex that would be a huge step up for me. How does it even work? With friends? With random drunken women? Problem is, they're drunk.
/r/MensRights23/06/12 03:50 AM
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This is me, pretty much.
/r/MensRights23/06/12 03:49 AM
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Women are going to have this problem until we, as a society, approach some level of parity with regard to initiation of this ritual concept called dating. As it is now, women have all the initial value and can simply expect to have men initiate. Not only that, but it gets to the point that many of them receive an uncomfortable level of attention. This is because men have no choice. Women's ability to sit back and wait for advances forces our hand. A man who does the same is a lonely man, since c…
/r/MensRights21/06/12 07:39 AM
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Shit, I've heard all kinds of crazy things. I've heard specifically from some women that they will only date friends, who have to behave and show no romantic inclination toward her unless she decides she wants to date them.
/r/MensRights21/06/12 07:08 AM
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What is the cost? I am thinking freedom of sexuality would turn us into a rather nihilistic culture centered on self-satisfaction rather than self-sacrifice. I honestly think we are already well on this destructive path and it's too late to turn back. Most people don't even think intellectually about what they're doing, they just see society giving them the greenlight to do whatever they want and not be judged for it.
/r/MensRights12/06/12 05:30 AM
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I guess it's not wrong in itself and it may be that I'm overreacting, but I feel like most people would not take pity on a man for an equivalent deception/transgression. It's seeing them take pity on her juxtaposed with the ridicule of the men she duped that gets me. It could be that most people feel she was already hard enough on herself by her own admissions, but I had this inkling it was a case of giving women a slap on the wrist when they act out, you know?
/r/MensRights11/06/12 05:36 PM
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You pretty much read my mind.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 05:28 PM
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Ok.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 06:45 AM
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Laughing at the stupidity of other males, while giving her a pat on the back. I'm not saying the guys aren't dopes, I'm just saying.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 06:27 AM
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Now morals may be a weird thing to bring up in a supposed den of iniquity such as r/gonewild. And really, if you go to the lengths of actually sending private messages and phoning the people posting pics, you gotta know not everything is as it seems. But I spy a double standard. does anyone else think if a man did a similar thing he would get torn to bits? Instead we get, well "usually men have to pay for this stuff" and "I see nothing wrong with this." Male sexual desire is the subject of ridic…
/r/MensRights11/06/12 05:48 AM
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The definition of discrimination that is currently in vogue, a.k.a. the whole "only those with power" thing, e.g. "xxx-ism is power + prejudice"? Can't wait for the "enlightened" among us to wake up and realize this is bullshit.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 05:19 AM
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I think you both make good points. I have to say that while I think strict adherence and enforcement of gender norms will cause issue, so does a vacuum of gender. I also think the line between choice and expectation is blurred. It could be that those men chose to do those jobs, sure. And maybe they like it. But I think we also expect men, in fact, depend on men, mostly, to do these types of jobs. It's subtle coercion. As a personal anecdote, I work a job right now where I'm lifting heavy stuff a…
/r/MensRights11/06/12 05:05 AM
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What stands out to me is that he interprets girls being sexist as "perpetuating [their] own discrimination." I interpret it as them simply being sexist. He is essentially being admonished for acting outside of the boundaries of his gender. I have a theory that straight women feel threatened by men who encroach on their feminine power. You might think having gay men as friends would make straight women forward thinking, but their attitudes within heterosexual paradigms still tend to be pretty bac…
/r/MensRights11/06/12 04:50 AM
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Yeah, she sort of lost credibility with me on the whole complaining about gender stereotypes thing by basically living a stereotype right there.
/r/MensRights06/06/12 05:45 AM
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I really don't how you avoid it, except to choose a low status woman maybe. And I mean low, not average because even average women have their pick of men. I just shake my head though. I mean, we have a post by a woman saying she supports us on the front page, who admits her husband makes double her salary. Most men buy into this idea too.
/r/MensRights06/06/12 12:58 AM
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The double standard exists, because point blank: it's easier for women to get laid. Yes, even average women. Until it's as easy for me to get laid as it is for a woman, I'm going to hold it against her for taking advantage. It's not just a matter of pride, but a matter of sanity. Why would I think I could develop a successful relationship with someone who could snap her fingers and have another man, and has shown a proclivity toward doing just that? To me, if you've had a bunch of boyfriends or …
/r/MensRights05/06/12 01:22 AM
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Wow, this is huge.
/r/MensRights05/06/12 12:49 AM
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When he gives a figure like "1 out of 3 Americans is affected by abusive relationships" it sets my bullshit detector off. The problem is this is such a vague statement that it can easily conflate petty bullshit with serious abuse. And then he goes on to claim the problem is growing because we're not bringing "awareness" to it. Maybe it's just me, but I don't envision men's rights to be a haven for ribbon/bracelet/likethispage causes and oft cited stats that are based on poorly defined data. I de…
/r/MensRights03/06/12 03:42 AM
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This is really quite telling. It seems like the biggest presence we have is online; we are but a shadow in the real world.
/r/MensRights03/06/12 03:30 AM
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Neubsss! I would be wary too. Women are interested in social status; just like looks represent status for women, men's standings in the social hierarchy represent status for men. Especially at our age, women sort of shift from becoming more interested in the quasi-social status of high school (how popular you are, how cool you are, what you're into, are you on the sports team, other bullshit) to more interested in actual social prestige such as life goals, income level, and career. It's not all …
/r/MensRights01/06/12 03:52 PM
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First of all, thank you for your cogent response. I just want to comment on the correlation between the number of sexual partners and compatibility with marriage. Disclosure: I'm an atheist, not that it's what I go around presenting myself as; it's merely a characteristic of myself and not a statement on my philosophy in life, morals, etc. That said, I think marriage as a religious institution is merely a convenient catalyst to get people to go along with something that made sense in order to ha…
/r/MensRights26/05/12 05:59 PM
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His analysis in the first 10 minutes isn't adding up, and he goes on to bash the traditionalist set up, focusing on how it is exploitative of women, and not really speaking on how it exploits men. I heard no mention of hypergamy. Where are the women who marry down? They by and large don't, because even the top earners want to feel like their man is powerful - at least as powerful as them, but probably they would prefer more so. What happens when you have wealthy women only marrying men perceived…
/r/MensRights26/05/12 03:59 AM
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It bothers me because we are framing relationship problems as matters of moral character among men. Never do I hear any talk about women's moral character. Why the fuck should I always be the one to make my feelings known, and why is that a judge of my morals? The truth is women have us by the balls, simply by deferring, and making us propose to them.
/r/MensRights26/05/12 01:35 AM
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In the same analogy, implying men are dogs.
/r/MensRights26/05/12 01:22 AM
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So many things. But the main thing in my mind would be having a problem and not being able to ask for help because as a man you're not supposed to acknowledge problems, and nobody else wants to acknowledge them. Society just wants men's problems to fuck off, for them to wreck themselves unless they can deal with it on their own. Suck it up, son, suck it up. Let everything roll off your back. We will shun you if you speak up and ridicule you if you cry out. Lots of things apply to this: depressio…
/r/MensRights26/05/12 01:05 AM
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I don't know which poster here said it, but they put it kind of like this: people mistakenly confuse strength for invulnerability. Male size or strength, or whatever it is people think makes males invulnerable does not make them safe. In a way, for some men, it might seem risky to attack them, but then again, being male basically means you are fair game and it's open season. As OP alluded, while men may be primary perpetrators of violent crime, they are also the primary victims. Anyway, that was…
/r/MensRights25/05/12 05:14 PM
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I hate how violent our culture is, and it can sometimes be insane to see our puritanical nature juxtaposed with with the lust for violence. Still, I don't think we should simply switch from no longer condoning one thing, to condoning the other. I don't think I can pretend being a "sex worker" is no big deal. I know that for one, prostitution, stripping, and porn would not even be a lucrative option for most men, but women will use it to make good money so they can have nice things and sometimes …
/r/MensRights24/05/12 08:03 PM
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Big chest little arms, maybe a case of muscle dysmorphia. My weight has gone up and down my whole life. I've been through binge eating and exercise obsession. My height, I'm 5'6. People, including girls, would feel it appropriate to comment on me being vertically challenged so naturally I became insecure about it, but I'm supposed to pretend I'm not. Also, you would never hear me talk about the above issues IRL. Maybe a bit more lately, as I've opened up about some things to my sister, but still…
/r/MensRights24/05/12 06:43 AM
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Alternate headline: women are attracted to men who seem smarter than them. Women can be difficult. Smart women, even more difficult. Unless they're drunk. Men take what they can get. /source - personal experience
/r/MensRights24/05/12 06:08 AM
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I have long hair down to my shoulders, so although this may seem like a small gripe, I feel that this is no small issue for men who want to wear their hair long. I think I am often treated differently because of it. At jobs I feel uncomfortable, because I feel like I have to prove I'm "a regular guy" and a hard worker and not some sort of slacker or hippy in order to compensate for having long hair. If you're ever over in /r/amiugly, you'll notice a pattern: if a girl has short hair, she's told …
/r/MensRights23/05/12 11:25 PM
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I completely agree with everything you said here. I would just like to add that I am baffled at the dichotomy I see even for occupations where it is supposedly a matter of safety or professionalism. For example, every male cop I see has a very short military-style haircut. Yesterday, I saw a male cop and a female cop on a traffic stop. Female cop had a ponytail. So why would that be acceptable for her, but not a male cop? I think this military line of thought also bleeds over into the kind of co…
/r/MensRights23/05/12 09:52 PM
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I agree that it's a sliding scale and having rigid gender roles has problems, but I recognize that this is merely the prevailing viewpoint of my time. I think we've progressed to the point that we have a vacuum of standards and expectations when it comes to gender, and while this has its own merits, it does not come without its flaws. It makes navigating social expectations and interpersonal relations more complicated. We have everyone sort of making up their own rules, so we all end up pretty c…
/r/MensRights23/05/12 09:39 PM
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This article is terrible. Second, meaning in addition or secondary to the first sexism which is, of course, against women. Benatar does not blame feminism for anti-male discrimination, rightly noting that most such injustices long predate the women’s movement. What? So anti-male discrimination goes way back, yet sexism against women is first, sexism against men is second? This whole damn article is defensive of feminism while bashing MRA's. Basically it's a feminist trying to co-opt men's issues…
/r/MensRights23/05/12 09:02 PM
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It's actually such a big problem that some would like to see it normalized. It's becoming normalized among all Americans too as more babies are born to unmarried women. I know a single mother who is all too proud of her status. She basically dated a guy for a few months and used him to get pregnant, then he was out of the picture. Now is actually pissed off at men who would not want to date a single mom.
/r/MensRights23/05/12 07:44 PM
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This must be a troll, right?
/r/MensRights23/05/12 07:39 PM
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The way I see it, Black men have a very big stake in the success of the Men's Rights Movement. I am not Black, but grew up close to lots of Black folks, so I see some of the things you are talking about. Black men have the dual problems of being persecuted in a quasi-Jim Crow style by the law and, as a result, having women supplant their duties in the family and community as family leaders and providers. Everyone is quick to condemn hip hop culture for denigrating Black women, but I can see many…
/r/MensRights23/05/12 07:33 PM
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We don't have poor in America, we just have temporarily embarrassed rich people.
/r/MensRights23/05/12 07:17 PM
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Haha, do they even realize how much contraband refreshments they would uncover if they started screening women's purses? Shiiiiit.
/r/MensRights23/05/12 06:58 PM
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It's not just that they are viewed as sexual objects, it's that it is treated as their strict domain. I often see people chastising men for viewing women as sexual objects, but am I the only one who notices that women are territorial about their status? I think many women are threatened by physically attractive men, and by the idea of considering men as sex objects, because they think it detracts from their power as objects of beauty. I've heard things from women like "He can't be prettier than …
/r/MensRights23/05/12 06:26 PM
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Feminists feel comfortable co-opting the LGBT movement for much the same reason women feel "safe" undressing in front of their gay friends. Every straight woman loves having men as allies and platonic friends because she can get her ego stroked without the specter of sexual advance.
/r/MensRights23/05/12 06:17 PM
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It's important for men of all backgrounds and orientations to unite for this cause, because it affects all of us. Society tends to think of men as being free to do as they please in the sexual realm, yet at the same time it is very homophobic about it. Women have much more freedom to experiment with their sexual orientation. Men, on the other hand, are socialized to be homophobic from a young age. Not that straight women aren't homophobic; they may think it fun to have gay men as friends, but ma…
/r/MensRights23/05/12 06:09 PM
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Indigo is Blue ~Catherine Wheel
/r/MensRights22/05/12 06:04 PM
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Women who don't want to hear the truth respond with "can't get laid" remarks. This is one of the most common and irritating responses to men who speak up about gender biases and double standards. It's okay to ridicule men based on their prowess with women, but at the same time players are abhorrent?
/r/MensRights22/05/12 05:15 PM
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Exactly, the mere expression of acknowledgement "ow, that hurts" had someone jumping on his back.
/r/MensRights22/05/12 04:45 PM
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What pisses me off is how much they abuse and manipulate society's acceptance of them crying. They will fucking bawl their eyes out over some little nonsense, but let men get watery eyes over some legitimate shit. No, we can't show weakness. How about some fucking middleground?
/r/MensRights22/05/12 04:42 PM
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Whenever I've heard women express concern about "a real man" "taking it like a man" and "behaving like a gentleman" it was never done with respect or empathy.
/r/MensRights22/05/12 04:37 PM
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Downvoting this because I don't think it means what you think it means. The author of the post merely makes some vague argument about how characteristics can only be ascribed on an individual basis. It does nothing to combat misandry, and I think it is really only offended on the behalf of generalizing about one gender, while still maintaining a what is considered a politically correct tone in feministspeak. Go to the comments and you find this bullshit, "Maybe if he had said, 'The character tra…
/r/MensRights19/05/12 09:15 PM
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It's not that we only care about sex, it's that we are traditionally burdened to pursue it. American women can passively sit around and American men will come after them. I do wish there was more parity, because honestly it's humiliating. Personally, I've been involuntarily celibate for several years now and it ain't easy. This doesn't mean sex is the only thing I'm interested in, but not having it feels like being starved while having to present yourself like you're not starving.
/r/MensRights19/05/12 09:03 PM
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Reading the last article, all I kept thinking was, soooo...where are the jokes? This is supposed to be comedy right? Maybe he'll make one in the next paragraph! Then I got to the last paragraph and I still hadn't found one.
/r/MensRights10/05/12 06:08 PM
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people take men being physically invulnerable to women (mano a mano I mean), and generalize it to men being totally invulnerable to women I have never heard someone put it like that before, thank you. There are all kinds of ways a woman can hurt a man that don't involve physically dominating us with their own two hands and feet. Poisoning, use of weapons, and the most insidious in my mind (not that they can't be physically menacing) is they can be very psychologically and emotionally abusive. Ev…
/r/MensRights10/05/12 05:43 PM
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Nothing will change until over half of all women 40 and up are single (and most likely childless) Or they decide to fuck a man so they could have a child then breakup. Seriously, I know women who think nothing's wrong with single motherhood. They're mad the world looks down on them and they want to be celebrated. Mind you, these aren't women who's whose husbands died. They just think raising a child alone is better than trying to work out issues with their father. And then they're mad that men d…
/r/MensRights08/05/12 02:31 PM
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A truly stable, meaningful, and fulfilling relationship is rare in today's world. It's rare because we don't teach it at all really. We are conditioned to find mates, totally unsupervised, from the time we are in high school. This has not always been the case. Then people act all surprised when they've been conditioned for serial relationships and don't know what it takes to make one relationship last. It's because we're greedy. It is so easy to make connections in this age that the world seems …
/r/MensRights08/05/12 02:24 PM
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This same kind of concern troll type post gets posted every week. I'm guessing there's some brigade of SRS that upvotes these posts?
/r/MensRights30/04/12 11:03 AM
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When I was in a long term relationship, she and I would take turns picking up the tabs and it seemed quite normal and a good way to take care of each other. But it's a different dynamic when you're comfortable with each other. When I went on a first date with a girl and she insisted on paying I was just kind of taken aback, but very appreciative, and I made sure to cover the next date. I think it was a little uncomfortable for me for a couple reasons. First, I am uncomfortable with receiving hel…
/r/MensRights29/04/12 10:53 AM
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That's because women generally don't offer, so you become the gatekeepers by being silent. It puts the burden on men to initiate, so it looks like we want it more. Basically women are asked because they themselves don't ask, or don't achieve parity in initiating.
/r/MensRights29/04/12 10:20 AM
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Eh, even women who don't self-identify as feminist don't exactly have healthy attitudes towards men. Damned if they are, damned if they aren't. I don't really trust American women in general. I think it's just because feminist attitudes are so mainstream anyway as to not seem obvious, and are combined with the power of old-school female privileges.
/r/MensRights28/04/12 05:33 AM
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"Confidence" is to the world of attraction as "self-starter" is to the business world. It is way, way overused and abused to the point of being a buzzword that has no substance. In the end it has become this weird fanatical character ideal people are obsessed with, when in reality it says next to nothing about a person. I am tired of this word.
/r/MensRights26/04/12 03:17 AM
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Are you still gonna do business with her? I would've let her know she was misandrist and told her she lost a customer.
/r/MensRights26/04/12 12:51 AM
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Thanks, this woman also had a special on PBS, where she told the exact same story. I couldn't remember who it was.
/r/MensRights25/04/12 07:55 PM
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I liked this point made in one comment: craven ‘boy-toys’ with the temerity to call themselves alpha males (a technical term normally applied to the status of a male among males – not females
/r/MensRights21/04/12 12:19 PM
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It's actually degrading, like I have no intrinsic worth that makes her want to be with me, only my capacity to impress her. One girl actually thought it was a privilege for men to be able to go on a date with her.
/r/MensRights16/04/12 02:30 AM
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I have since given up on dating, but the most annoying thing to me was women's overall passivity. They basically just sit back and judge what I do instead of taking an even amount of responsibility in steering the ship. You know, things like always waiting for me to call or text first. By just sitting there, they forced my hand. If I didn't make a move they liked, it was game over.
/r/MensRights16/04/12 12:55 AM
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Ever tried being a passive man? One who isn't of obviously high status? You could plant the garden but women are just gonna look at it and wait for your plants to try to eat them.
/r/MensRights07/04/12 09:59 PM
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Same here; got circumcised as an infant and everything works fine as far as I can tell. I am trying to keep an open mind about this though, if I have a son.
/r/MensRights31/03/12 11:28 PM
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I'm so glad to find out there's other leftists who don't support or are critical of feminism. I feel that men in the middle and poor classes get shafted the most by it.
/r/MensRights09/03/12 07:45 AM
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More slut shaming Duh? The fact that feminists have a name for it in their lexicon doesn't make it invalid. It makes evolutionary sense to slut-shame, because men risk being cuckolded by loose women. The fact that they've had sex before doesn't damage them in some way. Oh, but it does. It causes them to think they can get it from anyone, so they never settle down. If they do try to settle down, they don't have the mindset for it and they fail. This has the power to really hurt the other person p…
/r/seduction08/03/12 08:19 PM
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no, sloppy as in sloppy seconds or thirds, fifths, 8ths, and so on. and there's nothing classy about sluts or serial monogamists.
/r/seduction08/03/12 06:00 PM
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The reason guys don’t want sluts is because they are easy to obtain. If you’re giving yourself out to everyone, there is no challenge. They want a challenge. Someone they need to chase after. It’s no accomplishment to get someone anyone could have. No..just...no. The reason they don't want a slut is because a bunch of other guys have had their way with you and you're all sloppy.
/r/seduction08/03/12 03:07 AM
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An esoteric word rarely encountered outside of liberal academic circles for a person who was born male and identifies as a man, basically. It's espoused by gender/queer/feminist theorists and these are the only people you will see actually use it.
/r/MensRights04/03/12 03:10 AM
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Men are shamed if their career success is not above or equivalent to the woman they are seeing. Women who are now independent and professional still have a hypergamous mentality. This means they will compete for and cluster around men who match or exceed their own. They will bemoan the lack of these men. They will look down on and reject men who aren't as successful, or contemplate leaving their man if he isn't upwardly mobile. Here's a typical example of this dynamic at work.
/r/MensRights04/03/12 03:03 AM
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The only thing I can think of is how men are not treated as trashy for sleeping around where as women unfortunately often are. Eh, there's two sides to that coin. It's not as if there aren't reciprocal double standards for men with regard to the sexual economy. Discussed here.
/r/MensRights04/03/12 02:41 AM
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Does /r/MensRights have an official book list that could challenge such claims? I have been looking around for stuff, and here are some titles I've come across: Warren Farrell's The Myth of Male Power Chinweizu's Anatomy of female power: A masculinist dissection of matriarchy Esther Vilar's The Manipulated Man
/r/MensRights04/03/12 02:16 AM
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Here's an example of some epic creep shaming from another subreddit.
/r/MensRights04/03/12 12:38 AM
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Since you are playing the NAFALT card, I'll just link you to this instructive comment. There is near monolithic support for VAWA. Which in america is the source of amost immediate mens and fathers civil rights and legal discrimination. Popular feminist sites like amptoons, shakesville and feminist majority foundation publish misinformation about abuse rates ... follower feminists tend to believe what they read on these sites.
/r/MensRights04/03/12 12:26 AM
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I wonder if this is why feminism for so many western women means trying to emulate men.
/r/MensRights03/03/12 11:40 PM
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I would like to add for the feminists who will inevitably blame it all on "The Patriarchy," that it's not just other men, or society at large, but women especially, who look down on depressed men. Rather than feel sympathy, they view us as weak and feckless. Not only do we have to deal with the traditional aspects of being strong providers, protectors, and leaders, but in contemporary times, women expect us to entertain them and have vitality. And in their theory, there's nothing entertaining or…
/r/MensRights01/03/12 09:18 AM
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The flipside of teaching boys and men to "suck it up" and girls and women to let out their distress is that we end up being conciliatory towards them when they act out. This is female power at work. It works out to be a very subtle and effective manipulative tool for them. In my experience, I have felt I was emotionally manipulated by various women, including a woman I had a serious relationship with. Now, I have a lot of trouble believing them and taking them seriously. I am not talking solely …
/r/MensRights16/02/12 03:53 AM
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My wife and I are on good terms, we're friends, but we've decided to end the marriage and part ways. I signed the apartment over to her and our male roommate and moved to a new place. Not two weeks after moving and about the time I started getting our dissolution papers together, she's pregnant with the child of our roommate. Okay, I'm sorry, but that's hilarious.
/r/MensRights16/02/12 12:32 AM
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Hey, fellow worthless degree holder here (different area, just as worthless). Any advice for going back for another bachelor's? How do you finance it? If you work, how do you juggle it with work?
/r/MensRights14/02/12 05:31 AM
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I got my B.A. in History. I never expected to be rich, but I thought I could at least carve a lower middle class existence as either a teacher or archival worker. Have you seen what's going on in the teaching field recently? I tried it; it's a horrible profession to be in. The latter field is also very unstable with all the library layoffs and lack of openings. Both require a grad degree; so more money to jump into a sinking ship. I've never had an aptitude for math (but that doesn't mean I didn…
/r/MensRights14/02/12 04:41 AM
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She studied theater, but is now in law school because she realized ....uh, so nobody warned her about law school?
/r/MensRights14/02/12 04:22 AM
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Well, it sure sounded like you were making a comment on the number of feminists. You must know a lot of feminists. I find that non-feminist identifying women tend not to feel the way about these things than you have stated. Here, you are obviously trying to downplay the mainstream prevalence of feminism in women, which does not necessarily mean they are feminist activists, and you follow it up with a very small anecdotal sample size of women who don't subscribe to it. So, was that not your impli…
/r/MensRights14/02/12 04:17 AM
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Your girlfriend sounds like a nut.
/r/MensRights14/02/12 03:05 AM
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Jezebel-reading shudders
/r/MensRights14/02/12 02:49 AM
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Not sure how I feel about this. I'm a leftist, but I think you make some valid points. Upvote for provocative thoughts.
/r/MensRights14/02/12 02:36 AM
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Wow. You must not know a lot of feminists. I'm from a city on the East Coast that is crawling with them and is not exactly a haven for traditional women.
/r/MensRights14/02/12 02:21 AM
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I don't know where you're getting your second idea. It seems like more of an opinion and generalization. If you get someone of pale complexion and someone of dark complexion, their offspring is generally going to meet halfway, because that is how the multiple genes that govern the trait work. If the many genes that determine pigment literally worked the way Americans think, any offspring between the aforementioned parents would have the exact complexion of the darker parent.
/r/MensRights12/02/12 10:09 PM
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People like to make it seem like mixed children don't look at all like their white parents, but it's just a legacy of the one-drop doctrine. If the child is biologically theirs, they must look something like their parent.
/r/MensRights12/02/12 08:56 PM
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She told me to take my hand out of my pocket and to step away from Ty, declaring that someone had seen a white man chasing a black girl and reported a possible kidnapping. Fuck nosy racist motherfuckers. Seriously.
/r/MensRights12/02/12 08:37 PM
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I prefer experienced partners who have well-developed sexual skills In the context you were replying to, this sounds really ignorant. Are you implying people who don't sleep around with a lot of people can't have well-developed sexual skills? You do realize that acquiring experience and developing these skills does not require sleeping with a lot of people, in fact it need not require more than one partner, provided you take the time to explore.
/r/MensRights07/02/12 10:43 AM
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The unequal loosening up of gender roles is the problem, because they are loosening up for women, but for men, not so much. The social engineering we've undergone hasn't considered this nuance. I'd say don't worry about impressing women or making more than they do...I've never had problems dating. Haha, this is is easy for you to say. This is the kind of thing I'm talking about.
/r/MensRights05/02/12 04:05 AM
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Thank you for articulating much of what I protest about feminists. It seems like many of them choose to opt in to equality when it benefits them, and opt out where they enjoy perks or advantages. Many women still maintain an expectation that they can assume a passive role in courtship and will not deign to do things like ask a guy out. There's a big disparity in the young generation where women are actually excelling financially, but men still have this old-fashioned expectation thrust upon them…
/r/MensRights04/02/12 10:26 PM
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The notion they try to project is that if you don't accept feminist terminology then you don't understand feminism...White-knights will jump to defend the poor offended damsel in distress. Absolutely.
/r/MensRights03/01/12 09:56 PM
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don't get me wrong, i like what you guys are saying, but it sounds like you guys are experienced in debating feminists. a lot of guys out there aren't, which is unfortunate, because i think it somehow gives feminists steam. they only debate feminists casually and get caught off guard because a feminist basically trains for it....therefore "victory!" i guess this is more about noticing this phenomenon than my solution for it. i appreciate the pointers.
/r/MensRights03/01/12 09:51 PM
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okay, it's one thing for them to come here, but what about conversations taking place on neutral turf? i am new here and feel like they get the political upper hand when debates come up and they introduce their theories to unsuspecting people. and if you disagree with them, you are just ignorant or politically incorrect.
/r/MensRights03/01/12 09:39 PM
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good point. i just get really annoyed seeing them "win" a debate because a guy is oblivious to what they're thinking. i'm thinking of a layman here. she brings up some esoteric sociology/gender theory terminology like "cisgender" or the "male gaze" and feels validated simply for having "expertise," so she can write the guy off as ignorant. i just feel like saying to them "i am familiar with your little terminology and i still disagree!" i see what you mean though. the fact that i can tell when s…
/r/MensRights03/01/12 09:26 PM
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i can't stand Hugo Schwyzer. he got off being a playboy, now he gets off being a reformed playboy kowtowing to women. he has no understanding of the perspective of marginalized men. There is something wrong with deriving one’s self-worth from how many women one takes to bed edit: it must be easy to evaluate that with the hindsight of having screwed a lot of women. it's like he's only talking to alpha males who have been highly successful with women. seriously, fuck this guy.
/r/MensRights03/01/12 09:08 PM
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