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| 109 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesWhile possible that he has some strange abnormality only allowing him to produce X sperm, it's definitely more probable that he got "lucky" in odds with the ex wife (1/24 odds for all 4 being girls) or maybe the ex wife had miscarriages with boy fetuses? Idk, stranger things have happened medically. I hate that he is blaming this 25 year old, barely an adult, while he's the one who blew up his and her whole life. Baby trapped my ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 12:29 AM |
| 2 | Should I block him?I can see it in your history, kinda wild that this term is blocked. I def don't align with fds views on that whole issue (I'm afraid all related terms are blocked...) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 01:40 PM |
| 6 | Should I block him?I don't think post approval is on for anyone that's already flaired. Obviously the mods are really busy but if there was a way to enforce reading the handbook before flairing users that would be cool😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 12:33 PM |
| 53 | Just another day in the mind of a LVM. Men shouldn’t be allowed to date, they’re evolving from walks to wanting to run errands on dates for their own benefitWould bet $$$ that he wouldn't do an errands date that benefits the woman. Thank fck I'm lesbian now lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 12:29 PM |
| 2 | Facts Dont Care About Feelings: Study reveals men and men alone are worse off when theyre alone or suffer from divorce/breakups. Women are unaffectedThank you!! 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 11:37 AM |
| 21 | Facts Dont Care About Feelings: Study reveals men and men alone are worse off when theyre alone or suffer from divorce/breakups. Women are unaffectedCan anyone find Dr. Lunds study at a link other than the daily mail please?? Didn't show up on a quick Google search :( I want to read the original research for sure as it sounds fascinating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 02:59 AM |
| 353 | After telling him I’ve been in hospital, have covid pleurisy & too unwell to date atm.. I’m done with menHope you quickly blocked him after that! And feel better sis :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 04:52 PM |
| 14 | Anyone else experiencing the desperation going on in OLD right now?And to you as well!! 🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 02:56 AM |
| 41 | Anyone else experiencing the desperation going on in OLD right now?Yass girl! I'm hosting some friends as well and this will be my second completely drama free NYE ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 02:44 AM |
| 291 | OP asked for advice and naturally everyone gaslit her into thinking she was at faultGotta love the struggle Olympics. Did ya get a medal, pickme? Lolll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 03:46 AM |
| 14 | Fwb has cold soreHonestly I think most people carry HSV even if they don't show symptoms, so I don't worry about cold sores. If it were genital herpes that would be a different story though! Everything else you've shared is massive red flags. Please please read the handbook and run from this tool! | /r/askFDS | 10/12/21 11:47 AM |
| 17 | (Part 2) Seriously, how to deal with downstairs neighbor having loud sex?/TW: Sexual traumaDefinitely agree that the best long term option is to move to a new place. Unfortunately apartment/condo living comes with these...special gems. In the short term since they aren't respecting you and the HOA isn't doing anything, to keep up your sleep I'd recommend melatonin or Benadryl and earplugs. Since this is also eliciting visceral responses, maybe add something calming to your bedtime routine as well, such as candles/oils/incense/bath? | /r/askFDS | 08/12/21 12:57 PM |
| 13 | How to have quality dates in lockdowns/high COVID incidence?I take the weather in the southern US for granted it seems! Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 08:11 PM |
| 18 | How to have quality dates in lockdowns/high COVID incidence?If he wanted somewhere outdoors because of worries about COVID, he could have suggested a picnic instead so it does sound like he's being cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 07:07 PM |
| 56 | Is it a red flag? i need your advice pleaseThe age gap and long distance are two major issues. The debt is also a significant issue because he is a decade older than you so should be well established by now, and plane tickets aren't that expensive when compared to a wedding or living expenses in general. You are young and have so much time left, don't waste it on a bad marriage :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 05:58 PM |
| 96 | He is simping on TwitterNot to be mean but WHY are you still with him?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 01:57 AM |
| 526 | Right as we are about to get a place, I found out my boyfriend lied about his income.FDS handbook would not advise to move in together with just a boyfriend as there's no true commitment. Plus from your past posts it looks like this relationship has been less than 6 months potentially. I would definitely recommend taking a step back as moving in together is a huge deal and not a good idea to go through with when you have doubts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 09:53 PM |
| 231 | Are these negs? Just a bi woman finally getting around to dating men and these are some of the things that have been said to me so farSome are negs and some are just these men telling on themselves. The bar is truly in hell. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:14 AM |
| 91 | Why do guys remain friends with ex girlfriends while seeing other girls?Keeping their backup options. | /r/askFDS | 06/11/21 03:31 AM |
| 36 | Can Dropping Out Of College End Well???Are you able to share what country you live in? I imagine this is very location-dependant. I wouldn't generally advise dropping out of college in the US but as you mentioned you don't live there, it's hard to give meaningful advice. I will say that service industry jobs tend to not be great long-term options, although they can be quite lucrative while you're young and healthy. | /r/askFDS | 04/11/21 03:23 AM |
| 3 | My NVM STBX’s response to me enforcing my boundaries with him. We’d separated; he called wanting to reconcile. His condition: I stop drinking. My condition: he stops watching porn. He broke his word and so I started a respectful conversation trying to clarify boundaries. This is how he reacted.And now you have me searching offices with CO2 lasers nearby :D honestly didn't know about that and will be booking a session asap! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 01:09 PM |
| 38 | My NVM STBX’s response to me enforcing my boundaries with him. We’d separated; he called wanting to reconcile. His condition: I stop drinking. My condition: he stops watching porn. He broke his word and so I started a respectful conversation trying to clarify boundaries. This is how he reacted.Oh, I can relate SO much to that. I moved back in with my parents after my divorce and that was a STRUGGLE haha. Hang in there!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 12:42 AM |
| 140 | My NVM STBX’s response to me enforcing my boundaries with him. We’d separated; he called wanting to reconcile. His condition: I stop drinking. My condition: he stops watching porn. He broke his word and so I started a respectful conversation trying to clarify boundaries. This is how he reacted.Nuclear warhead dodged!! Wow, please stay safe and far far away from him! (Btw you are gorgeous and a queen but I struggled for years with acne before taking accutane and it is a game changer, highly recommend seeing a derm at least for the pain and infection risk of acne) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 12:21 AM |
| 47 | No words neededPick me! Choose me! Love me! Barffff 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:27 AM |
| 53 | Surprised by his decent behaviour, and then… the mask slipped 🚩In this case bike may have meant motorcycle? Which is probably a different kind of red flag, lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 11:42 AM |
| 14 | Man I’m seeing seemingly put forth ZEROOOOO effortAt very best intentions, he disregarded your specific wants and acted like he knows better. At worst, this could be manipulative as he can hold over you how much he spent and "how well he treats you" just because of the amount of money. So when you complain about him not making plans for your bday dinner he will pull this card out. 🚩🚩🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 12:38 AM |
| 41 | Ladies: have you ever had a successful walk, coffee, or drink date with a HVM?Exactly. There needs to be an actual date component - like ladies here often say, coffee is for friends and walks are for dogs :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 12:06 AM |
| 107 | POS is posting graphic cartoon p@rn on Reddit pages geared towards children. The users are begging their mods to remove the content. This is Reddit's response to my report on the user.Why is this site such a cesspool 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 11:45 AM |
| 215 | I don’t even desire sex with a man anymoreSo sorry to hear about your husband. I'm so disappointed in most men that I don't even try to date anymore. If someone truly special comes along maybe I would consider it, but it's not worth the risk to me. Most men don't even try to look attractive anymore:( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:26 PM |
| 84 | Not even 3 weeks post break up, and he's already back on TinderHonestly I've had friends (that meant well) show me pics of exes on dating apps. It's such a joke that these pornsick losers can't handle being alone for a few days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 01:25 AM |
| 90 | stay woke ladiesYes!! I've brought irl friends here to FDS and it just clicks immediately for them. 2021 is about knowing our worth and never settling for scrotes 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 09:56 PM |
| 7 | I know the signs now, the red- flags, I know how to vet, but why is it still so difficult (mentally and emotionally) ?!? 😓This!!! Once I put my energy towards friendships with women and stopped focusing on men, my life and specifically social life improved immediately. Now I have all the love and support I could ever need and no desire to muddle up my life with D 🤏🦐🍆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 03:30 AM |
| 121 | Vetting Men by their job positionAbsolutely!! I get some hate from my irl friends for refusing to date military, but best case these guys chose a career that basically furthers American imperialism, and worst case they did this because they straight up want to shoot at people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 12:58 AM |
| 121 | Can you imagine being a SPICE GIRL and still having to wait 21 years for him to make up his mind🤦🏻♀️Totally agree! I lost a lot in my divorce because I am the breadwinner and I don't have much hope that I would find someone worth marrying again. It's just not worth the risk!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 12:56 AM |
| 40 | I cant seem to be happy single 😔Sis, not enjoying things like food and social gatherings (with people you actually like!) really sound like signs of depression. Has your therapist discussed this with you before? There are great options such as medications and cognitive behavioral therapy which can improve depression SO much. There's a good chance that (if that is the underlying issue) once depression is addressed, you will feel more confident in yourself and in being alone. We've got to start with internal validation (loving o… | /r/askFDS | 10/07/21 01:06 PM |
| 9 | What age gap is appropriate?Totally agree! It may vary based on regional differences as well, like as a mom and homeowner in a high COL area in theory I might consider dating someone several years older if they are in a similar place in their life. Unfortunately most of the men my age aren't as far along logistically as I am. If I was in a LCOL area I wouldn't likely accept a significant age difference as it is less understandable to be steps behind where I am if they're older. | /r/askFDS | 28/06/21 09:03 PM |
| 52 | Celibacy > LVMs, by far100% there is no going back to the old way now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:48 PM |
| 92 | Please tell me there are HVM, I’m autistic and after seeing so many negative posts lately I just need some reassurance that life isn’t black and white the way my brain defaults it as.It's so hard especially being neurodivergent! There truly are good men and women out there, but the main focus should be on YOU! No person is 100% perfect but (being neurodivergent myself) I would recommend working on strong boundaries for friendships and potential relationships to protect yourself. The most important questions are if someone is adding value to your life and if they are adding stress. I always use those questions as my litmus test for friendships and relationships and in combina… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 02:53 AM |
| 105 | The Dating Pool in 2021God seriously. Or how "you should have just left the abusive relationship" somehow doesn't apply when you have kids and thus become a single mom? Like shiiiiiid sorry I picked well on paper and ish went south. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:04 PM |
| 100 | The delusion, the audacity 🤡😂Eww, no thanks, I'll also be single and rich but not dripping with desperation! Love when scrotes think money replaces the need for a personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 04:07 PM |
| 115 | A scrote larping as a woman recorded me via Skype and threatened with revenge pornLet's run through the realistic worst case scenario. So he uploads your video online. That would suck. But does he actually have any real info about you? If he doesn't know your name, employer, family etc., I think you're going to be ok. likely he isn't some super savvy hacker, but just some scrote who screen shares and records. Men are trash for sure, and it sounds like good lessons were learned here about stranger danger lol. ETA: also for good measure maybe lock down your social media for a w… | /r/askFDS | 03/06/21 04:27 AM |
| 13 | Establishing boundariesA while ago I saw a comment on FDS recommending to follow nedratawwab, she has incredible advice for boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 04:32 PM |
| 33 | Saw this on Reddit a while ago and I was speechless. All the comments were saying they’d get a punch from their husbands for money…Oh cute, pickmes and scrotes normalizing abuse 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 02:12 PM |
| 7 | Be very aware of how far men go to try to control women to compensate for their low valueThank you!! 🏆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 03:28 AM |
| 10 | Am I being too nitpicky/sensitive?I would strongly recommend locking down your instagram for your safety sis. As for guy 1, that comes across as CREEPY imo. For guy 2, i thought the handbook might have addressed this situation but i can't recall exactly. I would expect to be asked on a date at the one week mark but might wait for two weeks. If nothing by then, he's just keeping you as an option. | /r/askFDS | 29/04/21 06:42 PM |
| 2 | Feeling stressed/hopeless about my unconventional relationship vision and seeking support and adviceI think it's the second. In theory any HVM should be ok with your decision because your body your choice, but i haven't met many men in general who are ok with not having bio kids. Which makes zero sense because it's not like they're heavily involved in actually raising kids 🙃 | /r/askFDS | 27/04/21 02:39 PM |
| 11 | Feeling stressed/hopeless about my unconventional relationship vision and seeking support and adviceI'm a very financially stable single mom (solid main job + investment income) and it is honestly amazing. I definitely wouldn't recommend adopting until you're quite well off, for the reasons you listed, especially being able to pay for childcare for breaks. It is so rewarding to put the energy and love into raising a child that's kind, intelligent, passionate. I only ever wanted one child so that i could invest energy and resources into raising a good human (and environmental reasons - i think … | /r/askFDS | 25/04/21 03:46 PM |
| 36 | So true.Unfortunately it's not always as simple as just redirecting energy, when most women have been raised to base their self worth at least partly on their weight and appearance. I understand your sentiment but just wanted to point out that it's a big struggle for many! Myself included, skinny=worthy has been ingrained in me since birth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 04:11 AM |
| 4 | Unexpected pregnancy?I don't agree with your conclusion based on my own life experience, but the point is that I'm not saying "do not" do this or that. I don't agree that telling women to not have children is in the spirit of FDS, that discussion is certainly fine to have and sharing life experiences is important, but your original comment is worded as telling women what to do. Like i said, we certainly have enough men in the world trying to tell us what to do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 05:02 PM |
| 9 | Unexpected pregnancy?Of course those views are welcome but the original comment really is worded too harshly. I don't think she should be telling women what to do/not do, we certainly already have the patriarchy doing that to us! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 04:08 PM |
| 33 | Can we talk about entitlement in dating for a sec?Welcome to the club! We have peace and fewer gray hairs;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 01:06 AM |
| 143 | FDS has officially reached 150k members!This sub changed my life and I'm thrilled it's helping so many women live their best life 💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 11:03 PM |
| 9 | Ladies who have gotten the vaccine: Did it mess with your monthly cycle at all?Yes, my cycle after the first shot was late by a few days, and was early by a few days after the second 🤷 otherwise my cycle is always regular so it was a bit unexpected. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/21 06:45 PM |
| 89 | Why are so many of them OBSESSED with heightDead 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 03:31 AM |
| 431 | Pew pew. And then you eventually get sick of it, question your up bringing, invest in a good vibrator and call it a day.My favorite suggested response in this scenario (pushing to not use a condom) is to go full crazy and talk about how ready you are to have a kid, how exciting it is that he's on board, what names you have picked out! Scare them away sis because we all know they won't take no for an answer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 03:28 AM |
| 13 | Yes, the economy is bad. That doesn't mean you have to be a free prostitute.Thanks for posting this edit! I had no idea either, and was confused since scandinavian countries with liberal healthcare/education etc are thriving in many ways compared to the US. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 03:47 PM |
| 6 | Needing some support. I am fuming. Boy moms are fucking worst.So glad you get it sis 🙏🏾 it truly is a daily struggle no matter the gender of our children to raise them right! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Needing some support. I am fuming. Boy moms are fucking worst.Exactly! Ok so I'm the worst because I have a son? Get bent OP. It's low value to take out frustration with a specific situation by name calling other uninvolved women, my goodness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/21 03:03 AM |
| 73 | Tips for safety in a mixed gender student housing?I'm not sure if you even need something heavy, my traveling colleagues have a doorstop that they use in their hotel rooms to stop it from being opened from the outside. Definitely look into that! I'd also recommend befriending your women dorm neighbors so you all may watch out for each other. Ensure at dorm parties that there's always someone staying sober and keeping watch on the other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:56 PM |
| 39 | A guy walked into my apartment & I realize to exist as a woman is to be constantly reminded of my own vulnerabilityOh my god sis I'm so glad you're ok! That's so terrifying :( this is why I'm strongly considering getting a large dog for protection, but I acknowledge that might not be an option in an apartment:( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 05:13 PM |
| 10 | Men be like “haha the financial insecurity women face is so funny!”Honest question is that a woman though? Zoom in and you can see the nails etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:57 PM |
| 2 | What can we do to support women who choose to not rely on men - a dream about housesOh for sure, the patriarchy makes it hard to get ahead in life as a single mom so i totally see why so many are pickmes. Plus the whole damsel in distress disney fairytales of our childhoods feed into that (thank goodness for more recent movies actually depicting strong women and strong friendships!). I do agree that a pickme roommate would be better than most men, although I worry about the unstable/abusive/low value men that would be coming around (and the effect on me/my child). That was my e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:39 PM |
| 23 | Welp! Now the incels on a famous greentext posting website have found us. RIP mods’ inboxes 😭Wasn't taylor swift rumored to be a regular poster on 4chan? Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:42 PM |
| 117 | They will never skip on opportunity to waste your time, even if it costs themImagine being such an immature man child that you would rather involve medical professionals in your scheme instead of just being honest! The AUDACITY | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:08 PM |
| 78 | Welp! Now the incels on a famous greentext posting website have found us. RIP mods’ inboxes 😭Thanks for the free publicity 😘 I'm confident this will bring us more women in need. Love the streisand effect! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:05 PM |
| 217 | What a scrote. This is my biggest nightmareGas 👏 light 👏 ing 👏. Can't tell you how many times I've heard this from the LVM spouses of friends. Damn son just ignore the fact that marriage mainly benefits YOU | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:03 PM |
| 16 | Women are mad about "sex work" for completely different reasons than menPreach sis! Also, we can be angry about sex work but still support our sisters trapped in this lifestyle. Burn down the patriarchy 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 04:00 PM |
| 18 | Why it's unfair to compare FDS and TRPExactly! FDS is all about moving on asap once someone shows their true lvm colors. How is that manipulation?? TRP is about manipulation for sex. Zero overlap. FDS helped me become confident enough to leave an abusive relationship. And now I am quite content with myself and working on self love and confidence, without the need of a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 03:41 PM |
| 51 | To ladies who DO NOT make six figures, don't date for money.Love this!! My best friend (HVW) just bought her first place and funds it by having a roommate. I'm buying my first place by negotiating with my company to let me move to a LCOL area with my same salary (not six figures). We got this ladies!! 💪💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 05:06 PM |
| 239 | As we all know. Dominique Sisley recently posted a wild article on FDS. Apparently she can’t take criticism either. This is what happens when you try to explain what FDS’s main purpose is.Well I guess she did learn one true thing from this sub - block and delete!! Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 03:56 PM |
| 27 | How should we raise our sons?I think it's important for all kids (and especially our sons) to do chores. It teaches respect for our living space and family members. I'm also working on empathy and feelings with my son, we read stories about how to express our feelings and healthy ways to deal with feelings like frustration and disappointment. At school they watch videos on empathy and how to be a good friend (he's quite young). I think calm parenting is really critical, as our kids pick up on our parenting strategies and ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:20 PM |
| 511 | That update tho 🙌"The year is 2035. Marie Kondo holds up the condemned man to the crowd. “Does this man spark joy?” The crowd jeers, “No he does not!” She nods silently and throws him into the pit." Favorite konmari meme 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/21 02:10 PM |
| 61 | best "advice" to keep a man from pinkpilled sistersEwww 🤮🤮🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 12:07 AM |
| 29 | If this isn't FDS, I don't know what is. What a beautiful quote.💖Wow, this gave me chills. Absolutely beautiful 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 02:12 AM |
| 92 | Turn the tables on male gaslighting, except it’s not cute when they’re angry because it’s actually life-threatening.Exactly. This is actually how we end up getting murdered🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 04:45 AM |
| 64 | What can we do to support women who choose to not rely on men - a dream about housesI love that idea but as a single mom, the only other single moms I've met in person have been total pickmes :( it would be lovely to know who else was a single mom following FDS in my general geographic area, but I worry about doxxing. I'm not sure how it could be done in a safe way apart from finding HVW in real life and vetting them for a while before moving in together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:09 PM |
| 146 | Female Dating Strategy is not heteronormativeYes! I am a bi woman and have only recently explored that part of my sexuality and dated a woman. Of course some FDS principles don't apply in that case but a ton still do, and I've found it super useful. Honestly after FDS i prefer women now 😅 less power dynamic bs and more empathy and loveliness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 06:32 PM |
| 23 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inLVM friend messaged me about his weekend hookup/situationship, definitely ignoring him but it feels sad to block someone I've known since middle school:( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 04:59 PM |
| 12 | Today is Meme Free Monday!Love this idea 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 04:35 PM |
| 1 | Gaslighting 🚨 Never, ever, EVER allow a man to weasel his way so deep into your psyche that these sentences seem like reasonable responses. They are MANIPULATIVE through and throughI hate that i have heard all of these from my NVM ex :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 11:52 PM |
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