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ke3bsf6/r/askTRP07/08/19 12:03 PM
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I doubt it, I try to keep the ball sweat for myself
/r/askMRP14/06/22 07:56 PM
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She hasn’t yet, but I’m going to make a request. 😂
/r/askMRP14/06/22 04:52 PM
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It’s more so that my business is doing well and a measure of that is income. I’ve obtained some high end clients lately and I find that more RP than the income. My question was, does one have to constantly have big wins in order to continue to get proper sex? My wife doesn’t deny me sex usually, but there is a lot more enthusiasm when I achieve a goal. She also seems a lot less in her head after we go out for a date night.
/r/askMRP14/06/22 04:51 PM
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Solid answer. It’s almost as if she can smell the confidence after I win a tournament. Nothing gets me going more than subbing a sweaty dude.
/r/askMRP14/06/22 01:59 PM
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Just stating that majority of the aspects of my life are in line with red pill ideology.
/r/askMRP14/06/22 01:31 PM
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😂😂
/r/askMRP14/06/22 01:12 PM
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Nah, not beta bucks. My wife makes like $80k a year as well.
/r/askMRP14/06/22 01:04 PM
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Thanks for the constructive response. My mom and dad split at a young age and I can’t remember her having a solid relationship until about 10 years ago. She’s been with the same guy since, but he’s a huge pushover. I don’t live with my mom. I make close to 6 figures and live with my wife about 30 min away from my mom. In the past 2 1/2 months, I’ve seen my mom once. Talk to her on the phone once a week. Having more distance has helped me be more clear headed.
/r/askMRP15/04/22 11:11 AM
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Gotta pick and choose your battles and what to stress over. Probably isn’t worth getting upset over.
/r/askMRP07/03/22 02:38 PM
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I wish I could have.
/r/askMRP22/11/21 02:19 AM
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He’s going to NA, that was one of the many conditions with living here. I told my wife that she’s an enabler, she gives him so much slack it’s insane. She’s now realizing that it’s only harming him and she’s finally putting her foot down. I told her the other night that this is ruining the marriage and she better follow through on a plan with her family or I’m out.
/r/askMRP19/11/21 01:53 PM
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Because unfortunately, it wouldn’t be man to man. He has the mental capacity of a teenager.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 05:51 PM
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Yeah I hate NJ, hoping to leave this shit hole of a state as soon as possible.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 03:22 PM
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I’m in NJ, so I can’t imagine the laws being much different from yours. I’m gunna email my lawyer friend today to see. Thanks
/r/askMRP18/11/21 02:05 PM
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Even if he doesn’t pay rent?
/r/askMRP18/11/21 12:46 PM
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I’m not going to divorce my wife over this. A plan for a family meeting has been put in place for when she’s back.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 12:46 PM
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I am following through. The Family meeting is setup for when the wife is back from her biz trip.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 12:44 PM
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He’s just lazy. Doesn’t lift a finger to help out except to mow the lawn. Other than that, he sleeps all day. It’s just draining to have him here. I’m sure he’s extremely depressed and not in great health, but something simple like running the vacuum around the house every other day would be appreciated (my dog sheds a lot). He wastes his money on cigarettes and just chain smokes and drinks coffee all day. He’s always here. I feel like I’m back in high school when my wife and I are fooling aroun…
/r/askMRP18/11/21 03:14 AM
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I gave her a soft ultimatum, but she took it seriously. I didn’t put a date on it, but I told her things need to happen soon. I’m hoping this is enough to get her and her family in gear. I have told her I didn’t sign up for this.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 02:23 AM
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Yeah there’s always a few assholes that say dumb shit on here. I have other outlets. I do jiu jitsu and lift. It feels good to do both, but it’s a vicious cycle. My testosterone is through the roof after and makes the cravings for sex even worse. My LTR also knows that I’m capable of picking up other girls. You would think this would make her hamster spin more and want to give me sex to keep me locked down..
/r/askTRP23/11/19 09:24 PM
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No don’t bring it up, don’t let her know that you’re thinking about it at all. also remember, trust but verify. You can def keep tabs on the situation, but keep it stealthy. Only bring it up if you find dirt and are willing to end it with her the second you confront her.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 12:46 AM
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You’re going to encounter this more than once in your life. Play it cool, don’t even let it phase you. You shouldn’t even have time to worry about it. Focus on other shit. Don’t be jealous cause you’re going to look like a pussy and that’s going to make her want to fuck him. Just remember that if she does act on it, your outta there.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 12:16 AM
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Nah I wasn't a loser, but I have improved tremendously over the past year. I've always had girls interested in me. I definitely have a higher SMV than she does. I'm in great shape, I think I am above average looking. She was heavy when she was younger, now she is fit, but she still isn't in the best shape she can be. She recently landed a huge full time career and I think it has gone to her head. I've noticed she is cockier than she used to be.
/r/askTRP28/09/19 09:16 PM
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Yeah, honestly I was in a pretty rough place before doing jiu jitsu. I was pretty miserable. I now have a hobby that I'm obsessed with and makes me happy and she has to poke comments. I think she is insecure herself, so she has to try to bring me down to her level.
/r/askTRP28/09/19 09:08 PM
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I've applied dread in the past, levels 1-5. I think I need to amp it up a bit and flirt with other girls. I have a few girls who are interested in me and I text them once in awhile, but that's about it with that. I will talk to other females in person in front of my LTR, but it's normally not any flirting.
/r/askTRP28/09/19 09:07 PM
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You're completely right. I don't know if the word respect is it because she doesn't do anything scummy. I think the word would be value. I don't think she values me enough. She does do her womanly duties, there is always a home cooked meal every night. I agree, I think if she leaves she won't find someone better than me. I can tell she doesn't value me because although we still have sex regularly, it isn't as exciting as it used to be. She doesn't go the extra mile in the bedroom to please me. S…
/r/askTRP28/09/19 08:39 PM
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Google zinc rich foods. It’s in a lot of foods.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 01:22 PM
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She isn't fat, but I see what you're saying. How else can I up my SMV? I'm competing in BJJ, I lift, I eat healthy, I'm in good shape and I'm doing pretty well financially. I'm not into going to bars or clubs really.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 12:17 PM
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I've always thought that cheating is a scummy thing to do, but everyone is different. If she is a good catch and you respect her, then I wouldn't cheat, but if you don't see it going anywhere, just end it with her and fuck other girls. Doing it with a clean conscience is better than cheating and feeling shitty. Just my 2 cents.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 12:00 PM
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Definitely get your levels checked. Also, start eating a diet with a lot of zinc and start lifting if you aren't.
/r/askTRP05/09/19 11:12 AM
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What confuses me then is all the recent compliments that she's made towards me. She likes how I always have my hair and beard in order, that I've been dressing nicer, that she finds me more physically attractive then ever, etc. I've also stepped up my financial game and started making a shit ton more money recently. How is there a lack of attraction if she just last week said these things? My LTR and I have sex usually once a week, so it's not so much being rejected, it is the quality of sex whi…
/r/askTRP05/09/19 11:10 AM
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I’ll check it out, any chance you can preface it?
/r/askTRP02/09/19 08:39 PM
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She gets off every time we have sex, but yeah I get it. She should be on the verge of having an orgasm before we even start.
/r/askTRP02/09/19 08:32 PM
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It’s not a bad thing to be in an LTR, but you should also live your life. If you find yourself cancelling plans with friends to sit around and hang with your LTR, then you need to re-evaluate everything. If she brings value and fun into your life, then learn to balance her with everyone else in your life.
/r/askTRP09/08/19 02:01 PM
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I could, it just comes down to logistics. I have to see what the rules are in our apartment complex.
/r/askTRP08/08/19 11:47 AM
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Yeah, you're right. I actually have 2 potential plates lined up and I have both of their numbers. Let's say I continue this dread and continue to get more numbers/flirt in front of her. What if she does the same? Should I just end it on the spot? Isn't that a bit of a double standard? I don't care if she does because it'll give me the information I need to make a solid decision. Also. Since my LTR has been away on a trip and she hasn't seen me in almost a week.... I definitely have a better chan…
/r/askTRP08/08/19 11:46 AM
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https://youtu.be/yczsr6Gy3PU
/r/askTRP07/08/19 10:41 PM
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If she cheats she cheats. I will eventually find out. No the MySpace comment wasn’t from me.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 08:01 PM
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I think you’re confused. Her sister never told me anything, I saw a text conversation between my LTR and her sister. I’ve met all of her coworkers. They ARE beta males. Who said anything about MySpace?
/r/askTRP07/08/19 07:50 PM
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Still doesn’t make sense. I don’t feed her or pay for her shit. Expenses are shared between us.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 07:41 PM
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It’s highly unlikely she would go and do that.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 07:27 PM
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Been trying to dread since. I’ve recently taken up MMA and spend most of my free time there.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 07:21 PM
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Thanks for this response man. I appreciate it. I’m glad I made this post and there are things that I’m going to take away from it and apply. One being what you are suggesting
/r/askTRP07/08/19 07:19 PM
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Doesn’t RP always say trust but verify? I’m just doing it to see what I can dig up and react accordingly
/r/askTRP07/08/19 07:02 PM
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It’s happened in the past. I flirted with a girl at the party we threw and my LTR fucked me like there was no tomorrow the next day. I definitely need to apply more dread to get things to start turning around.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 07:00 PM
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I don’t really find any of her social media use to be shady. I do need to snoop through her texts again though and try to find any more red flags that will put the nail in the coffin. Then at least I will have all the proof that I need. She does have the hand in the relationship to an extent. I’m through the RP rage now though and I’m working on internalizing things. I think my best bet is to just invest less emotionally. Also going to make myself less available. We are legally both on the lease…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:59 PM
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She’s not active at all on social media. She barely posts anything. It says we are in a relationship, but u have to click into her fb profile to see it. This isn’t a huge deal to me, I just find it odd. Sex life isn’t bad but isn’t good. We have sex once or twice a week, but it isn’t as intense as it should be. The third, her parents like me a lot. They have only ever said great things about me.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:45 PM
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Yeah I guess it just comes down to logistics
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:35 PM
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Her crush isn’t on this trip, they actually barely see each other. They work in different departments and I’m pretty sure it’s rare that they even see each other when they aren’t on trips
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:35 PM
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It is definitely only in her mind. She’s become a bit more cocky since she got the job.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:32 PM
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I'm not worried about her bad mouthing me, at least not publicly.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:22 PM
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That could possibly be it, but if she is unhappy, why stay here. She can also suggest that we end the lease. She would have no problem affording a smaller apartment on her own.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:21 PM
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Yeah I def have both alpha and beta tenancies, one being, I apologize about dumb things. She def tries to make up rules for control and I end up falling into the trap.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:20 PM
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She's currently on a trip with all guys and I've met all of them. They are the nerdiest that they could be. She could be at the hotel bar, but she doesn't drink much. I'm sure she could still meet someone though. They have strict rules because they are in level 3 travel advisory country, so she is limited on where she can go. Anything is possible and I'm not blind to it. I know what she is capable of doing.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:12 PM
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You're right.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:10 PM
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Both of our names are on the lease and the bills as well.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:09 PM
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I agree.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:09 PM
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I'm hesitant to leave because in order to break our lease, We would have to pay like 2+ months worth of rent and then a couple of fees. I don't have another place to go and she doesn't either (which doesn't matter to me).
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:08 PM
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This is a great idea. I'm going to give this a shot.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:06 PM
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See, if you pull back to do nothing else - it's because you're butt hurt, she'll know and you look even weaker, reactionary. I've noticed this and I've caught myself being butt hurt way too much. The key is to eventually become your own mental point of origin, so these things do not bother you truly. For now, you don't "pull back" as much as "move towards something else". This is a great way of viewing things. My problem is, I'm running out of things to do. I've always had my hobbies, When I pul…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 06:05 PM
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I'll go out on a limb and say she was raised by incompetent parents. Possibly a lot of turmoil between the parents, while being raised. Her parents stayed married for a really long time, they are just now getting a divorce. Her dad recently became an addict and has changed completely. There is a bit of turmoil now between them. I do think that her and her sisters were raised right though. I could be completely wrong, but a picture says a thousands words. If shes high SMV and your a mid-low SMV, …
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:54 PM
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I've kept a eye out about conversations she is having with her sister and close friends. Nothing indicates she is cheating. I do need to verify things again though. I know she doesn't see me as a prize, I think she is way to comfortable with me. Physical intimacy isn't weird at all, we still have sex, she gets into it and be both enjoy it.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:47 PM
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There are times where I feel like she doesn't value me at all and other times she greatly values me. It is very hot and cold.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:45 PM
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I have 2 potential plates lined up now. I haven't really pursued them much, more so keeping them on the back burner, but I think I might push a bit more now.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:44 PM
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I could afford it on my own, but just barely.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:44 PM
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I agree, she definitely cheated on me emotionally.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:43 PM
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Her mom would call her out, without a doubt in my mind. It would be something that I would find out immediately.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:43 PM
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This was also a thought of mine. I've read that people who flash their relationship constantly aren't actually happy. Sex frequency isn't where it should be, but we still have sex once or twice a week. sometimes once every 8-10 days, but that is because she is gone on a trip.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:42 PM
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I'm not a huge fan of PDA either, but a simple butt squeeze shouldn't warrant her reactions. It's a control thing in her mind.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:41 PM
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You're completely right. I've let this get way out of hand and now it's probably too late to change it.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:40 PM
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This was exactly my plan. I shouldn't have to change this about me, especially since it is such a dumb thing for her to get upset over. It is definitely her trying to maintain control.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 05:39 PM
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I don't know if her attention is on someone else anymore, but it was at one point. Trust me, my eyes are open. I'm really just trying to figure out the logistics at this point.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 04:57 PM
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She's never openly discussed it with me. I saw a mention of his name when she was sitting next to me texting her sister. I thought it was odd, but let it go. Later I ended up reading through her phone and found a previous convo discussing her crush on him.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 04:53 PM
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I agree. I just think it is a matter of time. The only confusing thing is that she has plans for us in the near future. A wedding next month and another wedding the following month. The second wedding is in California and she has agreed to cover my cost. She also was talking about a vacation next year.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 04:28 PM
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Yeah I think you're right. I want to do a bit more snooping to verify more clearly and then go from there.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 04:27 PM
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I think she sees both alpha and beta traits in me, but the beta ones stick out like a sore thumb. I've never had to rely on money from her, I've always been able to hold up my end of the deal. I definitely think her getting this new job has gone to her head. I can't put my finger on it, but she has shifted a bit ever since getting the job. She might be waiting on a branch swing, but I don't think it'll be that easy for her. I think she is good looking, but I don't think she is confident in herse…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 04:26 PM
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I honestly don't think she is banging anyone when she travels, but she could be. I can find out pretty easily, once she gets back home. She definitely doesn't have a burner phone haha.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 04:21 PM
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I hated to do it. Felt swarmy at first. But a few months back, I consciously withheld affection and attention from my wife. I had identified an asymmetric amount of outward expressions of 'caring' as you note. So I simply mirrored her, I figured - fair is fair. My SMV is high (higher than hers) and if yours is higher than your LTR's (in her mind too) it may work. My wife went from expecting affection randomly to wondering 'what was wrong', to asking "what was wrong", to giving affection randomly…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 04:19 PM
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Not trolling at all, just fed up with how I'm treated.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 04:05 PM
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I can't right now, stuck in this lease. But if things don't change soon, I will have to do what I can to get out.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 04:05 PM
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Yeah I trust, but I've been verifying as well. I don't think she has cheated yet, but I wouldn't be surprised if she does in the near future.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 04:05 PM
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I've kind of been doing dread, but probably not at 100%. I just want to be able to break out of her frame.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 04:04 PM
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I failed to mention that I think my LTR is pretty insecure. I think although she is treating me this way now, she would be devastated if I ended it. I don't think she has a lot of confidence in getting a guy to like her for a relationship. I think she has a fear of being played. I
/r/askTRP07/08/19 03:41 PM
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I'm not in denial, I realize that I'm being treated poorly. And I agree, she doesn't respect me. I'm stuck, I can't get out of this lease for now.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 03:25 PM
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In some aspects, she already has the upper hand. I invest too much emotion in her, with little in return. She definitely knows this. My problem is, I can't break out of the habit. I am preparing for things to go south and I'm sure it is only a matter of time before they do.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 03:24 PM
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I'm hitting the gym 3 times a week and going to MMA several times a week. I went to jiu jitsu this morning and I'm going again tonight. I spend a fuck load of time over there. It is becoming my sanctuary. It's one of the few places that my mind is clear and I'm 100% focused on what I'm doing.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 03:17 PM
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I need to work on gaming other women, especially gaming them in front of her. I've done it once or twice before and if any girl shows interest in me, she hamsters hard and I get great sex. But to be honest with myself, I think that will be hard to maintain. I'm working on getting jacked. In the past 10 weeks or so, I did a nice cut, went from 202 down to 185. I'm not where I want to be just yet, but I def look a lot better. Physically, I score a hell of a lot higher on the SMV scale than her. Sh…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 03:14 PM
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Had or has, but from what I read in the convo between her and her sister, my LTR was over her crush. She probably realized that either 1) he wasn't interested as much as she was or 2) (which I doubt) she realized she shouldn't shit where she eats. I think it is a bit of both. She has mentioned to me early on that she wouldn't date someone she works with. I'm still with her for a few reasons. I do think we have some great times together and other times they aren't. I'm also stuck in this lease wi…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 03:12 PM
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I guess the only thing I can do is pull back for now.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 03:09 PM
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I appreciate the input. I'm going to pull back and just focus on myself and see what happens. I'm kind of stuck in the situation for now, so I'm just gunna do what I can to make it bearable.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 03:08 PM
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I agree, I don't think she is cheating yet, but I'm sure she has someone or a few people in mind. I agree, her behavior is not normal at all. I've already lined up a girl for myself and I've been lighting chatting with her.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 03:07 PM
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I know her mom raised her and her sisters religiously, so that might have something to do with it. Her mom is also a raging liberal and she has the "you don't need no man" mentality. Which is probably why she is about to divorce her husband. I don't think my LTR is nearly as extreme, but I still think she has adopted the mentality to never rely on anyone.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 03:06 PM
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I understand. Well unfortunately, we can't break the lease right now unless we are willing to spend a butt load of money, which neither of us can shell out right now. I'll have to suck it up for now until I have some money to piss away. She does like getting cave manned for sure, but I completely agree with you. She doesn't do anything extra to please me. What can I do for now to reverse this and getting the upper hand again. I just want to make things a bit more bearable until we can break the …
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:49 PM
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Yes, I've been a lurker for awhile, but I've just started to put things into play the past 2 months. I joined an MMA gym, I still lift, I've been eating very healthy and getting in shape. I've also upgraded my clothes and I've been passing shit tests more and more. Even if I change my life and she completely notices, who cares. It'll just speed up the process of everything.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:46 PM
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I could be, but so far, nothing has stood out to where I think she is cheating. I'm going to continue to verify and see what I can find out.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:43 PM
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She could be, but I don't think she is. I'm going to do some more snooping and if I find anything, I'm going to end it.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:43 PM
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I appreciate it, I'm going to take the next few weeks to think about everything. It's nice that she is gone, I can really utilize my time and figure things out.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:42 PM
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I haven't gotten a quality blow job from her in awhile. It's just been long enough to get my dick wet so I can slide it in her. There isn't as much passion in the bedroom as there used to be. We do still have sex though and I normally just cave man her. The past few months, we did have some good sex as well. It is very hit or miss and the quality varies. The quantity is fairly steady though.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:41 PM
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I guess this is the part of red pill that confuses me. I read a lot that I should be so busy, that I don't always have time for my LTR, withdraw attention, etc. And you're saying that I shouldn't distance myself because she might retaliate. My LTR has admitted to me that she is very co-dependent on me. She says she likes that she is, but she wants to try to be more independent. So far she really hasn't been. When she is not at work, she comes home, goes to the gym, makes dinner, tv and sleep. It…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:39 PM
3

Should I just start distancing myself from her? She has a large family and they get together quite often. Should I just stop going to those events as much. Maybe for every 3 events, just go to 1. Or if she wants to go do something over the weekend, just make other plans?
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:33 PM
1

I think it's because I want it to work out. I want to get back in control and have the upper hand. I want to see if I can change to better myself and the relationship. If it doesn't then whatever, it's not all that much more lost time. what's another few months, I've already spent 3 years with her.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:30 PM
-6

It is def a red flag, I agree. She is a predictable person though. She also gave me her location on her phone, so I'm able to see where she is at. Literally, the only place she could cheat on me is when she is on a business trip, but I don't see the value in it. None of the people she works with are of value to her. They might be smart, but their SMV is below hers.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:25 PM
0

I don't think she would trap me. Especially if she is looking for a branch to swing to. What confuses me is that she says she wants to marry me. We have plans for some traveling in the near future. Some of which, she is footing the bill. We have a wedding to go to in California and she said she would cover the cost of everything. This is why I find things so odd.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:22 PM
1

I don't want more affection, I just want to be appreciated and respected more. I'm not monitoring her social media either, I'm already aware of the situation and her lack of showing me off.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:20 PM
1

I agree. When she told me that she was displeased about it, instead of holding frame and saying that's just something I do, I submitted to her and DEER'd about why I do it. Ultimately, I apologized for something that I didn't even see a big deal. Yeah I think making out in public and shit is gross too, but a quick ass grab doesn't even scratch the surface. I'm going to give more attention to other girls in public, but I wouldn't feel right grabbing ass. I rather not give her any reason to play a…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:18 PM
0

She's on birth control and is very strict about it. I've been busting nuts in her for 3 years and not even a scare once.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:16 PM
2

I'm almost positive she isn't. She wouldn't be able to pull it off, unless it was on a business trip. Plus, she has a terrible poker face, I would have found out already if she has. I can read her pretty well.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:15 PM
-2

She definitely overestimates her value. She had/has a crush on a coworker several months ago, who has a girlfriend and I don't think my LTR has a chance. Not that he is any higher value than me, but he seems happy with his girlfriend. I verified this recently by seeing some text message discussions about him. It all checks out, I don't think it is anything more than a crush, for now.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:14 PM
2

I agree, I find it hard to clear my mind enough to benefit from it.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 01:36 PM
-1

This is definitely a consideration of mine. I'm not ready to kick her to the curb yet. I've actually made up my mind that I will give it until the end of the year and see what happens. During those 4+ months, I'm going to work on myself completely, use our relationship as a means of bettering myself by identifying and passing shit tests, focusing on myself and raising my smv. I think it'll be good practice to do it while she is around. She is traveling so much, I think I will only see her about …
/r/askTRP07/08/19 01:33 PM
1

I just find it odd. Almost everyone that I am friends with on social media, has a photo of them with their S/O. Bedroom isn't dead, it's been a bit starfish, but I usually just cave man her. Career-wise, she definitely has higher smv than me (in a way). She works a lot more than I do and she really doesn't make all that much more money than me. It actually balances out by the end of the year. The only thing she has on me with that is benefits, paid vacation, etc. Looks-wise, I definitely think I…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 01:30 PM
3

I've tried it, but I should probably give it another shot.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 01:23 PM
13

I feel like I have been doing a lot of red pill things, my physique has never been better, I have hobbies that I'm really into. The probably is my mentality. I go from feeling clear headed and goal oriented, to scarcity mentality, beta-ville, I get emotional over shit that doesn't matter. I'm really struggling with keeping a straight head.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 01:07 PM
3

I've been really focusing hard on getting in better shape. Physically, I have several points higher than her. I'm 6 ft, 185 pounds and probably around 12-13% body fat. I lift, do bjj, muy thai and boxing. She is in shape, but I wouldn't say she is fit. She def got cockier when she landed her new job. They make her travel a lot. (I don't think she will cheat because she works with a TON of nerdy beta males who couldn't fuck their way out of a bag). I honestly like when she goes away, it gives me …
/r/askTRP07/08/19 01:05 PM
14

Yeah, I've been trying to have more of an abundance mentality, the red pill rage hit me hard the past several weeks and I'm sure I've looked really strange to her. I'm finally working through it and I see a light at the end of the tunnel, but it is probably too late to shift anything with her.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 01:02 PM
7

I can't kick her out, we split the apartment, but I can end the lease and leave.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 01:01 PM
2

It is definitely a bit of both.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 01:00 PM
20

You're right. I found out a few months ago that she had a crush on a coworker. He obviously didn't want anything to do with her, so that is probably why she stayed with me.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 01:00 PM
6

But why let it go for 3 years then?
/r/askTRP07/08/19 12:58 PM
35

She got a new full time job a few months ago and her salary doubled over night. I definitely think that went to her head. We split the rent and everything down the middle, so she's isn't getting a free place to live.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 12:58 PM
4

That’s the mentality I need to live by.
/r/askTRP06/08/19 10:59 PM
4

Slight caloric surplus over your maintenance calories. Around 250-300 calories. Lift heavy. Track your weight and how u look in the mirror. If you start to look too puffy, cut the calories back a bit.
/r/askTRP06/08/19 05:09 PM
2

Injured my knee (dislocated) awhile back, lost flexibility on my right leg, squats have been suffering and I haven’t been able to push myself. I still do heavy hack squats and leg press. Just something about squats that upset my knee.
/r/askTRP06/08/19 04:03 PM
2

Thanks for the response. I understand completely. I actually do hit the gym, 6 ft, 185 lbs, probably around 12-14% bf (still leaning out). 365 dead, 275 squat, 265 bench, BJJ, Muy Thai, boxing. I definitely think I care too much about her opinion of me. And thanks for that story, it definitely puts things into perspective.
/r/askTRP06/08/19 03:26 PM
2

Ohhh gotcha. A bit of reverse psychology. But someone who can internalize this ends up being an alpha inside and out. That's a really good idea. I'm going to keep that in mind.
/r/askTRP06/08/19 03:23 PM
2

I don't completely understand what you mean, but I'll see if I can look that person up.
/r/askTRP06/08/19 03:03 PM
2

That's such great advice, so glad you are on this sub-reddit.
/r/askTRP06/08/19 02:59 PM
2

The frame control right now in the relationship is always changing. Sometimes I feel like I have frame and other times I can tell that I am slipping into hers. My LTR recently admitted that she likes that the honeymoon phase is over and that she is now comfortable with me. She said she was afraid of screwing things up during the beginning of the relationship. But, now she has me. **Way too comfortable. I think that since now she feels comfortable, she isn't as receptive to me. In the long run, t…
/r/askTRP06/08/19 02:43 PM
1

Easier said than done. I really suck at small talk/flirting. It's something that I've been trying to work on. I feel like if I leave and go talk to other girls, she will see that they aren't interested in talking to me.
/r/askTRP06/08/19 02:36 PM
1

Well considering females are branch swingers, if she sees this guy as a level up, why would she walk away.
/r/askTRP06/08/19 02:15 PM
3

And if she resists? Doesn’t that make you end up looking like you are stuck in her frame?
/r/askTRP06/08/19 02:10 PM
7

Him doing a threesome with an LTR and a threesome with him and 2 plates are two different scenarios. I'm not saying he needs to stick around if she suggests it, but from him saying "our neighborhood" hints that they might be living together. That changes the dynamic a bit.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 03:43 PM
17

Just keep in mind she could flip the script after you landed a few MFF threesomes and want to try it with you and another guy.
/r/askMRP05/08/19 01:41 PM
1

I def have things I need to work on, no denying that. I do care way too much about what she thinks. Was just hoping that I could use this other situation to my advantage and even spin the plate in case my LTR wants to end it.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 01:12 PM
1

Hard mode, as in it is harder to keep her attracted because we see each other more than we probably should. Everything is good besides her lack of desire, which I understand can't be trained. I have another girl who has a crush on me and I want to use it to my advantage. I'm still happy being with my LTR, she's a great person. I just want her to know that I have options.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 11:24 AM
1

The only reason I posted this is because I keep reading 80/20 alpha to beta in LTR's. Just wondering the optimal times to be either.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 11:22 AM
1

I didn't come off as butt hurt at all. My tone was playful with her. She laughed.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 11:21 AM
2

Also, I don’t play videos games anymore really. I’ve been too busy to even think about playing them
/r/askTRP05/08/19 02:47 AM
2

I get where you’re coming from. In the past, I would cheat on my LTR’s because it was deserved. My current LTR doesn’t deserve to be cheated on (yet). I’m more so asking these questions to better myself as a person and get out of the oneitis mindset. So much so that my LTR notices and adjusts her behavior accordingly. Like I said, I’m overall happy with my LTR, just a few things need to change. I want to know how to be more confident, to the point where my LTR is scared she might lose me to some…
/r/askTRP05/08/19 02:47 AM
1

I second this. You have oneitis. Just continue living your life and look for other girls. Don’t put all of your eggs in one basket.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 02:22 AM
1

Don’t sweat it, stay busy and do your own thing for a few days.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 01:07 AM
1

I'm not tired of her. Everything else in the relationship is great.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 11:02 PM
2

Thanks for the response. Yes, I take shit too seriously and it does cause anxiety. I feel like I'm doing a lot of what TRP says to do; lift, eat clean; join a cause or club; dress nice; etc, but I still feel like I'm not doing enough. The 1000 ft rope theory is in the back of my mind too, just wish the rope would tighten a bit quicker. I'm gunna go into the wedding with an open mind and to have fun. I think where I have trouble is situations where someone I perceive as more "alpha" than me is "f…
/r/askTRP04/08/19 10:54 PM
1

Yeah you're right, I do get too caught up in it. I just really want to learn as much as I can and apply it. I overall like almost everything about her, just a few things need an influence to change and I'll be happy.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 10:49 PM
1

Well if you saw the way she looked the car up and down and held her gaze at him for over 10 seconds as he walked by, then you wouldn't think it is so harmless. You also need to know the tone she said it in.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 10:47 PM
1

My LTR is too comfortable. She has even said recently that she is happy the honeymoon phase is over because she likes knowing that she can be comfortable around me. (basically she is saying that there is no competition for her anymore because we now live together). She still loves me, but she doesn't always seem like she's into the relationship. She does the basic necessities of a relationship (she cooks dinner several nights a week). But she never does anything over the top really. She doesn't …
/r/askTRP04/08/19 10:45 PM
1

My LTR doesn't go out or do girls night or anything. She actually hates being in large groups of people who are drinking. She will occasionally go out for food with a few friends, but it all checks out, she isn't lying. The only time we go out is on like NYE or someones birthday. It is very rare. I can't think of one instance where she has gone out drinking without me. Normally, if she is on her period, she throws a lot of comfort tests to me. Even several days before her period, she throws comf…
/r/askTRP04/08/19 09:41 PM
1

So basically your saying I should be dynamic all the time?
/r/askTRP04/08/19 09:12 PM
0

I'm looking for real life stories of how people handle different situations. I mostly want to know about how red pill guys treat their LTR's during their fertile window. For example: My LTR and I will be guests at a wedding coming up next month and according to her birth control, the wedding lands on her most fertile day of the month. I want to know how to handle my LTR giving other guys her attention. She is what I would say around an 7.5+ on the hb scale. She has a pretty face and a really thi…
/r/askTRP04/08/19 08:32 PM
2

Well I'm a man, so yeah I would/want to bang her, but I won't because I respect my LTR. Living with my LTR puts me in hard mode, so just trying to get as much input as I can.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 08:19 PM
0

I can't post it, trp sub doesn't allow links. The post I found on reddit is called: The Female Menstrual Cycle.. for dummies and the Rollo article is on the rational male website and it is called Your Friend Menstruation.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 08:16 PM
1

Should I friend new girl on FB and go from there?
/r/askTRP04/08/19 07:55 PM
1

I'd like to keep this girl interested in me as much as I can. I feel like I have less oneitis when I know I have other options. Also, if anything happens with me and my LTR, it is someone I can start plate spinning with. I don't believe in cheating (my LTR doesn't deserve it) and I highly doubt my LTR would cheat on me. I know females are capable of anything, but in the past 3 years, my LTR has really only had 2 red flags. I honestly don't even have to seduce this girl, she is seducing herself f…
/r/askTRP04/08/19 07:53 PM
0

Well I have Down’s syndrome, so the autism app might be too complex for me.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 07:19 PM
1

So how would you approach this? I have only seen this girl a handful of times while stopping by to say hi to my dad. I’m not friends with her on FB, don’t have her number, nothing. All I have is the few interactions I’ve had with her and the few things my dad has told me.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 07:18 PM
3

Not at all, just trying to maximize my chances with it all
/r/askTRP04/08/19 06:43 PM
1

I beg to differ. I saw a solid post discussing Rollo Tomassi's insight on how important the menstrual cycle is and to be dealt with accordingly. I might be taking it too far, but I'm just working through all of this to better myself.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 06:18 PM
1

So that goes back to my question. Does mentioning this girl still have the same effect as if my LTR saw me talking to her in person? Does it still have the same bang for my buck?
/r/askTRP04/08/19 06:15 PM
1

Threesome most likely won't happen. I don't think my LTR see's me as alpha enough to submit to having a threesome. yes, I am obsessing over it because I really want a change. In fact, my LTR just said the other day that she hates the honeymoon phase because she doesn't want to fuck anything up (code words for she saw me as alpha and having options) but she says she's happy now because she is comfortable (and now probably sees me as more of a beta). Like I said, I truly love my LTR, she's a great…
/r/askTRP04/08/19 06:14 PM
2

I know quite a bit about this because just a few years ago, my T levels were kind of low. I was in the high 400's which isn't bad, but my free test was low. I got my diet in check and I feel a decent amount better. T levels are above 500 and my free test went up a bit. What kind of shape are you in? How is your diet? Do you have kids or do you want to have kids soon? I know the TRT route could cause some issues if you are looking to have children. If I were you, I would look into the HCG route. …
/r/askMRP04/08/19 04:45 PM
1

Well I guess you had to be there then. She was definitely fishing for a response. It was all the way she said it, stared at the car, stared at the guy walking by. It was def to try to make me jealous. If I just ignored it, she might have seen me as weak for just accepting her comment. It was light-hearted for what it was and she actually laughed about it. Matter of fact, I got laid last night with her initiating and it was pretty decent sex. In fact, we had sex every way that I've wanted it (rec…
/r/askTRP04/08/19 04:00 PM
3

Yeah I totally agree. I think one of my problems is that I care too much about certain shit that shouldn't really matter. I become fixated on shit that should be dismissed quickly. It is something I am working on and hopefully I'll be able to give less fucks about certain things soon.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 03:37 PM
4

I spend everyday trying to better myself as a man. I do think the "1000 ft rope" theory is real though. What makes thinks tough is that I still have some beta tendencies here and there. It is harder to stay alpha when you live with someone and they literally see every side of you. So as the rope tightens on some days, I lose momentum and the rope becomes loose again. Really trying hard to get my boat up to speed to tighten the rope, but I feel like I keep fucking up some where.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 03:33 PM
5

Yeah, I completely understand this. I have truly been working on myself.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 03:25 PM
0

I’m still about the LTR, just looking to create some competition anxiety. Have you read the side bar?
/r/askTRP04/08/19 01:14 AM
2

Agree and amplify
/r/askTRP04/08/19 01:13 AM
2

That’s not even $1 usd.
/r/askTRP03/08/19 10:07 PM
2

How much $ u got?
/r/askTRP03/08/19 09:41 PM
2

Will do, I plan on waiting until she is asleep tonight and releasing a full bladder of dehydrated piss into her face.
/r/askTRP03/08/19 09:20 PM
18

Ackshully
/r/askTRP03/08/19 08:33 PM
2

It was tho, I could tell she wanted to see my reaction
/r/askTRP03/08/19 07:15 PM
1

I agree with you. I felt something was off, so I wanted to investigate. The sex isn’t terrible, just not as frequent as I’d like it to be, but it needs to become more fun again. I don’t think her crush warrants a break up just yet, but I’m going to keep my eyes open from now on. I’m to the point where I do love her, but have no problem ending it if I find some shady shit.
/r/askTRP02/08/19 07:08 PM
1

I think I gotta stop looking so needy for sex. I don’t think I come off that way, but I’m sure I do to her. The relationship isn’t bad, she’s a good person. I’m gunna work on subtle dread and see how things go from there. We actually just had a talk and I basically told her if she’s not into the relationship or living together or anything anymore, it’s all good, just let me know so we can end the lease. She said she’s still happy with me and she wants to stay together/live together still. Let’s …
/r/askTRP01/08/19 10:23 PM
1

Well she just got home from work and I cave manned her. At least I got some type of sexual release for now. Going to work on slight dread and go from there.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 09:36 PM
1

One thing I didn’t mention in this post is that I know my ltr had/has a crush on a guy from her work. I became aware of this a few months ago, but nothing has come up since. He has an ltr as well and I’ve met both him and her. His ltr is attractive, id say a little more attractive physically than my ltr, but not by much. I don’t sense that he would try to fuck my ltr, but you never know. Anything can happen. I think this is another reason why I have a bit of anger towards her. Overall, I think s…
/r/askTRP01/08/19 07:52 PM
1

I forgot to ask this yesterday, Do you ever deny her sex? If she initiates, do you ever say "no, not now" or anything of the sort?
/r/askTRP01/08/19 11:20 AM
8

Sleep, healthy diet, lift heavy, quit porn use, socialize a lot, and don't give a fuck about anything. Turn into a primal beast and fuck everything in sight.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 10:46 AM
2

My live-in LTR always has an excuse to not have sex. When we do, 9/10 times it is duty/starfish sex.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 10:11 AM
1

It's a common trend I've been seeing, at least in askmrp. It's to show that you are on your mission to bettering yourself. Prob just a mrp thing.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 10:10 AM
1

I honestly don't like fapping. It makes me feel worse. I end up feeling less confident and I become lazy. I like to channel my surge of testosterone towards the gym and MMA. I can suck it up and just stop initiating. I think I'm just going to start telling her that I am "going out" and that's it. Also, she will be away next week for the entire week on a business trip, so I am going to keep contact to a minimum. This will kind of be our break without mentioning a break. How involved do you get wh…
/r/askTRP01/08/19 10:09 AM
1

At first I texted her a lot, which was a huge mistake. Then I learned from red pill that texts should be used for logistics or important shit only. Spend your time doing you and it’ll create some dread and will get her to text you/ want to see u or fuck u more.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 02:47 AM
1

Dating for 3 years, living together for 4 months now. Sex started drying up about 5-6 weeks ago, turned into duty sex. Shes been on birth control for pretty much the entire relationship, took a few months break from it right before we started dating. Not sure how long she was on it before that.
/r/askTRP01/08/19 02:43 AM
1

I’ve seen it trending throughout the community to show I’m on my fitness mission. Maybe that’s more of an askmrp thing. I need to think of things to do without my ltr to create dread. My schedule is pretty routine, so it might be shock to her when I start leaving to do stuff in the afternoon or night. I guess the main thing is I gotta just do something. I’m always home, my ltr is rarely home without me, except for tonight. I’m going to a jiu jitsu seminar, but she knows I’m going, so I guess it’…
/r/askTRP31/07/19 10:01 PM
0

Yes, I def miss the fun. Living together is a bit of a drag. And yeah, they all get ugly as time goes on haha
/r/askTRP31/07/19 07:28 PM
1

I plan on it. Also, my dad works at a golf course and the club manager who is pretty hot has made a few comments to my dad regarding me. Is this a bad idea to pursue? I know the phrase Don't shit where you eat, but does this still apply? I don't wanna end up screwing my dad over with his job.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 07:27 PM
1

Shit is mostly together, I need to work on my confidence a bit more. I feel like as I get further into a relationship with someone, the less confident I feel. She def doesn't put in as much effort as I do. She thinks cooking dinner gets her off the hook from everything else.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 07:15 PM
2

She's been in alarm mode once since we started dating. It was actually pretty recently. She caught me taking pics of a girls ass at a party we threw. Also got mad that I was making comments about this girl. Ultimately, it resulted in her giving me good sex the next day.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 07:10 PM
1

Lol okay keyboard warrior
/r/askTRP31/07/19 06:31 PM
2

It's something I've seen regularly done to show that I'm on my mission.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 03:58 PM
0

Yeah, like I said in other response posts, the sex is really the only negative part of the relationship. We have a lot in common, she enjoys fitness and health, she does a lot of womanly things for me. and yes, I do think she is great mother material. The sex frequency isn't the probably, it is the lack of passion and excitement.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 03:57 PM
2

I think I do a fair amount of it. But yes, she def anticipates it a lot. So, I'm going to withdraw attention and availability completely.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 03:17 PM
1

Not really sure what you are trying to say here.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 02:56 PM
1

Yeah you're right and I'm getting better at identifying the shit tests and I normally feel like I pass them, but probably not as well as I could be.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 02:26 PM
12

You're exactly correct. I'm putting her on a pedestal and although I withdraw attention, she still has the power because she knows I'm going to stick around. I really need to internalize this and live by it. Thanks for the comment!
/r/askTRP31/07/19 02:12 PM
1

I'm gunna start doing this exactly. I do way too much for her and around the apartment without much appreciation for it. She thinks making dinner gets her off the hook for everything else.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 02:11 PM
4

I was a lurker on TRP for awhile and I knew I shouldn't have done it, but I did anyway. Now that I understand TRP even more, I'm doing what I can to try to reverse it. But yes, I have a nuke up my ass and it's only a matter of time before it explodes.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 02:10 PM
1

The first 12 months or so the sex was great, but once the honeymoon phase was over, it has become less and less frequent, still fun, but not as often. Now that we live together (4 months of living together), it's become duty sex. I don't think the birth control helps at all either.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 02:08 PM
2

I agree, I just have to wait and see what happens.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 02:06 PM
2

Don't get me wrong, I'd love to fuck other girls, but as of right now, I don't want to cheat on her. She doesn't deserve to be cheated on, yet.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 02:06 PM
1

Honestly, I was living at home before this (I could have moved out on my own way earlier, but I was saving money) and it got to the point where I was so ill tempered that I wanted to flip out. At least here, my girlfriend goes to work and I have peace and quiet. I'm def a good guy and it bites me in the ass. I'm going to try to do less for her. I agree and I need to stop thinking with my heart. As bad as I want to have proper wild sex, I can't (and I know I prob sound like a pussy) fathom the id…
/r/askTRP31/07/19 02:05 PM
1

Not interested in cheating.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 01:47 PM
1

I agree. Looking back, living with her a bit of a mistake, but it is still better than my previous living situation. I honestly make the coffee in the morning for myself first and since I'm already doing it, I figure why not make her a cup. I think tomorrow, I'll still make the coffee, but I won't pour her a to-go cup. I know this is such a dumb thing to even make mention of, but I think it's something out of our typical routine. I do love the girl, completely, but I agree that my behavior is ge…
/r/askTRP31/07/19 01:47 PM
3

It's one thing to read it, but I find it super difficult to internalize it. I'm going on 9 months of lurking on TRP and I find that just the past few weeks since trying to apply it, I've probably looked so strange to my LTR. She def knows something is up.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 01:26 PM
1

Nah, she is on birth control, so I highly doubt she is pregnant. I guess we will find out shortly because she should be getting her period soon
/r/askTRP31/07/19 01:04 PM
1

Overall I'm happy in the relationship, but the lack of intimacy and sex is shitty. She's also become a bit cockier since she landed her new job. I get the sense that she thinks she's better than me now. But, I still have several traits that she doesn't. I'm outgoing (she's afraid of confrontation, she's a bit shy, she won't speak her mind in public situations), I'm in a lot better shape than her, people overall like me and like to socialize with me, I make friends easily.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 01:01 PM
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I've honestly done both, I've withdrew attention before and have waiting like a good boy and I've also demanded it. Both really didn't have a better response over the other.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 12:56 PM
2

Recently, when she refuses sex, I go into my office and do work. I think I'm going to start ramping it up though and randomly leave the apartment. I do, I am really into MMA now and I spend a lot of time at the MMA gym. I'm in my 30's though and a lot of my friends are either married or have kids or both. So trying to get them to hang out isn't easy. So a lot of the time during the week I'm just chilling at home after work. The weekends I usually spend with my LTR.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 12:52 PM
2

We recently threw a party at our apartment and I got drunk and basically was hitting on a few girls, one in particular my LTR thinks I wanted to fuck. I was really just having fun and being obnoxious. I've know this girl for a long time, like 10 years and although she is hot, I was never really attracted to her like that. My LTR's hamster was spinning, the next day, we had really great sex, she was into the things she used to be into, but the following day, she shit tested me a ton. She basicall…
/r/askTRP31/07/19 12:49 PM
2

I don't want to drop her completely, besides the shitty sex, she is a great person to be around. We have a lot of things in common. I do need to learn to start doing things without her though. Whenever I do withdraw attention and tell her I'm leaving, she always asks me where I'm going.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 12:41 PM
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I'm starting it now, I have off from work today.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 12:22 PM
-2

I've read the 12 levels of dread and I've applied. I've started recognizing shit tests more and more, still working on passing them better. I've developed an action plan. Getting in better shape, recently joined an MMA gym, expanding my business, etc. I've been working on level 4, trying to stay busy and not being so available. I've revamped my closet and bought a lot of new clothes.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 12:21 PM
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I've read the side bar and it has become mush in my brain.
/r/askTRP31/07/19 12:06 PM
1

2 weeks ago I fucked her so good, she was literally screaming and had such a violent full body orgasm. That was the most alpha I’ve felt in a really long time. She knows what I’m capable of. I know how to please her. Lately she just likes having quickies. She orgasms from it, but it’s so routine and predictable. I honestly just think she’s bored. I’m bored af with her, so I can imagine she is too. I’m not lazy though, I do stuff to make the relationship interesting and fun. I try to surprise her…
/r/askMRP29/07/19 10:10 PM
1

I need to look into day game more and start to internalize it. When I was younger I used to not give a fuck, now that I’m in my 30’s I don’t have the urge as much. I def need some examples on how to game my wife. I don’t know what drive bys are. Have not named her pussy haha I think for the most part I am the center of my universe, I’ve been focusing lately on bettering myself in all aspects. I do not own my mental point of origin, I’m still in red pill anger mode, still trying to figure it all …
/r/askMRP29/07/19 09:51 PM
1

I actually do have work to do, I just got off the phone with a client and I'm writing up a proposal for potential work. I'm not waiting on her at all. Just wondering what I should do once I'm done with the work I have to get finished.
/r/askMRP29/07/19 08:40 PM
1

I want to get laid haha, I'm trying to get her out of this starfish/duty/predictable sex (although she initiated on Saturday and it ended up being spontaneous, but still some what starfish). Yeah I held frame the best I could. I kept things friendly, didn't give her short responses or anything. I just went out there to grab a note pad (phone call meeting with client) and sat for about 2 min while she clacked away at the keyboard. I said "you know what, lemme know when you're done. I'm going to m…
/r/askMRP29/07/19 08:30 PM
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I appreciate the response. I'm definitely going to keep this in mind. ​ On a side note. The wife is home early from work and I had off today. We sat by the pool, I was happy to see her, etc. Good convo. I hinted at the pool that we should take advantage of her being home early *wink* She said no. Got back to the apartment and said, " after you're out of the shower, lets put those butt plugs to good use" *wink and grin* Her: I have emails to write. Me: well those don't take too long, I'll go warm…
/r/askMRP29/07/19 08:07 PM
1

This is a common occurrence withe me. I know when I'm being shit tested but I get too far in and lose sight, end up DEERing and before I know it, it's too late.
/r/askMRP29/07/19 07:56 PM
1

I agree at everything you're saying. Although these are the best responses I could have made, I think it is huge progress from where I started. Blue pill days I would have argued with her and it would have spun into something more than it was worth. I don't have enough knowledge to cleanly get through these situations, but I've learned the better thing I can do is STFU. If I open my mouth too much, I end up saying stupid shit.
/r/askMRP29/07/19 05:17 PM
1

Not really sure where to start. I've read the side bar, but I don't know how to put it in to action and move forward. I also feel out of place if I intentionally try to flirt with other females in front of or in the vicinity of my wife.
/r/askMRP29/07/19 04:56 PM
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Good idea, I'll keep that response in mind. It's okay dismisses her behavior, thanks acknowledges but doesn't let her know if she is off the hook or not.
/r/askMRP29/07/19 04:54 PM
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Yeah it's something I need to work on.
/r/askMRP29/07/19 04:46 PM
1

I honestly suck at flirting with random women. I really just suck at small talk in general. There was 1 situation recently where we were in the courtyard, wife on her phone and I was cooking on the grill. A hot female neighbor (married with a kid) that we never met came up to me and started talking to me and I was friendly, I was smiling, she was smiling. Wife was far enough away so she couldn't hear our convo. The second she could get off the phone, she did and came running over to butt in on t…
/r/askMRP29/07/19 04:18 PM
1

I think a huge thing is that she is on birth control, so her hormones are a bit more muted. I feel like I rather have her have stronger hormones. I could deal with the pms, if the horniness was more prominent. If she was a plate along with other plates, I would probably still pick her to be an LTR/wife. I overall enjoy being with her, we have a lot of common interests and she is a great cook. She will def make great mom material. Not all of her treatment towards me is sub par, but there are thin…
/r/askMRP29/07/19 03:44 PM
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Lemme elaborate. When I say I barely acknowledged her, I mean I didn't make it a huge deal. I basically said "it's okay" and she gave me a kiss. This is the complete opposite of what I would do in my blue pill days. My bill pill days I would want to talk to her about it. Now, I accept the apology and move on. My wife is the shy type, she usually doesn't voice her thoughts to people she doesn't know or in groups of people. Me on the other hand, I am the complete opposite and I will call someone o…
/r/askMRP29/07/19 03:38 PM
1

Starting dread early on will minimize shock from her as opposed to when you are a year in and you start dreading. It'll also allow you to do these things under the radar because you are in the honeymoon phase, she doesn't know the true you yet. The honeymoon phase is the best and worst part of an LTR, things are new and exciting, but it also causes you to brain fog. You gotta stay on point always or they start to get comfortable and they will do whatever they can to get away with shit, even if i…
/r/askTRP25/07/19 11:57 AM
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If everything in the LTR is great besides this: you're getting laid when you want, she cooks, cleans, etc, then start considering applying some dread. It sounds like you are putting her first in a way. Remove some attention, focus on yourself, hit the gym, get shredded af, work on furthering yourself in your career, etc. What I'm saying is, it shouldn't be hard work. You should have a mission and she is either on board or she isn't. This doesn't mean turn into a dick head and ignore her, just pu…
/r/askTRP25/07/19 11:45 AM
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You made her your LTR before having sex with her?
/r/askTRP25/07/19 10:56 AM
1

Is it a comprehensible book? I find the rationale male to be wayyy to much for me to understand. I don’t have the greatest reading comprehension.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 09:13 PM
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I agree. It is pretty torturous to have to constantly deal with my brain in overdrive. I'm gunna keep working on trying to chill out and stop being so uptight. ​ Thanks for this response.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 08:31 PM
1

Yeah you're exactly right. Can't find happiness from others, it has to be from within myself. ​ If you happen to stumble across that post, can you link it? I'm curious to read what it says.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 06:02 PM
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I don’t have enough time for recreational reading really. I used to meditate, but it’s been awhile. Not much of an artist or musician, but my career is in the photo and video world. Honestly tho, I can’t remember the last time I shot something just for fun.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 03:02 PM
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Thank you. Yeah you’re right. I worry way too much about what she’s thinking/feeling. I’ve also turned into a prick lately because I think I’m in red pill rage (well I think towards the tail end of it). I’ll keep this in mind and try to interact with her from this mentality. Thanks again.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 03:01 PM
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Thanks for the reply. You think it’s not a good idea to involve her in the kickboxing class? That’s the only thing she does there. I do Muy Thai and bjj on my own. I figured it was another way to get her to exercise more. I’ll take everything else into consideration and start applying it. Thanks
/r/askMRP24/07/19 02:24 PM
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Yeah that could be it too. Literally, yesterday I hit the gym in the morning on my own, hit the heavy bag for 15-20 min. Went to the gym again with the wife and showed her some boxing technique. After all said and done, time for bed and I just starred at the ceiling for over an hour, while the wife was sound asleep. This is one of the reasons I'm going to get blood work done.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 01:00 PM
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I truly believe hitting the gym and doing MMA is to make me stronger mentally and I think I'm benefiting from it for sure. I'm doing these things to try to better myself as a man. ​ I appreciate your comment and I'm going to think about this a bit more.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 12:38 PM
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I agree and I don't know where the validation seeking is coming from. My wife has even mentioned before that I'm way too hard on myself. I know she is impressed by my accomplishments, but I feel like validation is almost like a drug. Recently, I've been trying to do more for me, but it always seems to revert back to trying to impress her.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 12:36 PM
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I'm 5'11 or 6 ft and 188 pounds, recently did a cut and went from 202 to 188 in 8 weeks. Looking lean, but I still want to drop about 5% more body fat.
/r/askMRP24/07/19 12:22 PM
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This is the response that I was expecting and I agree with you 100%. I think what is really screwing me up is that I'm putting in the work at the gym, killing myself at MMA, working on achieving things career-wise, etc and it is frustrating to not get a response from her. What makes it worse is I'm always in my own head, I care waaayyy too much of what people think of me. I want to take up your advice about getting away from her for a few days, but I really have no idea what to do. All of my fri…
/r/askMRP24/07/19 12:21 PM
1

Try moving the bar either higher or lower. High bar squats will change your center of gravity and so will low bar squats. Pick which ever feels better to you.
/r/askTRP20/07/19 07:33 PM
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Not seeking validation at all, but I do think it adds value to the scenario and gives more insight to it. What would you think if I said that we had sex twice and she didn't cum.
/r/askMRP28/06/19 05:33 PM
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Having an excuse to leave when being rejected is tough for me because since I have such a tight schedule with work, jiu jitsu, etc, I have a very similar routine every day. I could probably test it out by telling my wife that one night is guys night, gunna grab some food and drinks with friends. Initiate before I go, see what happens and then leave. I'm sure if I do that, am not butt hurt about being rejected and then go to a place that she knows will have females (and me with a loaded gun, *tha…
/r/askMRP28/06/19 05:31 PM
1

Well she didn't ask if I was mad, she asked if I was okay and I was completely fine. She does that a lot, she at least once or twice a week asks if I'm okay. I have a sometimes mad/mean looking resting face, but I'm actually just thinking and I think she sometimes mistakes it for me being mad. In this case, I think I reacted perfectly to her question and played it off as if she's thinking into it too much. ​ I've read verbal intercourse, but I'm going to look into it even more. I'm realizing mor…
/r/askMRP28/06/19 05:19 PM
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Yeah I completely understand, but me rolling over and saying goodnight the way I did it didn't seem butt hurt. She asked me if I was mad and I said no not at all and I looked her in the eyes when saying it. I wasn't sour about it at all. ​ But yeah, I do see it from your point of view. physically leaving because I have something else to do and letting her sit and think about it def will intensify her hamster. ​ I will keep this in mind for next time, thanks.
/r/askMRP28/06/19 01:56 PM
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This makes perfect sense, Thank you
/r/askMRP28/06/19 01:28 PM
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Thanks for the response. Can you give me an example of making her work for it?
/r/askMRP28/06/19 01:27 PM
1

OYS #1 this is my first time posting in OYS MRP Journey ~ Been reading as much as I can for awhile now, not sure when I discovered red pill, but it has been some time. 32 years old, 6 ft, 190 pounds ( Just did an 8 week cut from 202). Currently 13-15% body fat. Lifts: 275 squat (Never had a strong squat), 265 DL, 265 Bench, 155 OHP, 18 rep max pull up. Just started Jiu Jitsu 3 weeks ago, incorporating this into my fitness routine more to lean out/get in extra cardio/learn some bad ass shit. ​ Mi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/19 09:24 PM
1

I appreciate your responses. Do you have any solid posts about gaming wives? Maybe some situational or in field type stuff. I feel like I learn more from examples than just reading hypothetical stuff.
/r/askMRP26/06/19 06:22 PM
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You know, now that I think of it. Her and I live in a higher end apartment complex and there are quite a few attractive women here. We were BBQ'ing the other night and my wife was on the phone. One of our hot neighbors approached me as I was manning the grill and started chatting it up with me. My wife was close enough to see us talking, but far enough not to be able to hear us. within the first 90 seconds of me talking to my neighbor, my wife ends her call and comes over to join in on the convo…
/r/askMRP26/06/19 06:00 PM
1

Yeah you’re right. I didn’t realize how much I’m making this of her and not owning it myself. I have to change in order for her to change. I’m doing RP for me, but I lose sight sometimes.
/r/askMRP26/06/19 03:39 PM
1

Also, just remember yesterday her and I were relaxing for a bit. She was going to try to take a "nap". I scooted close to her and started rubbing on her, messing with her, bothering her, etc she started jokingly saying to get away and was being pretty playful. We were having a moment and I told her that I love flirting with her and she jokingly said that she hates it with a big smile on her face. I forget how it came up, but I told her about how it was hotty day at the gym (so much good looking …
/r/askMRP26/06/19 12:58 PM
1

I appreciate your response. I've posted a few times and I get the typical response of read the side bar, read the side bar. The side bar is honestly a bit overwhelming. I've been reading as much as I can, but sometimes I get so lost in it all. I have to stop worrying about what my wife thinks about me. I need to keep in mind that if things were to end, there are always other chicks. ​ We're throwing a party this weekend and having about 30+ people over. It's about 50/50, my friends and her frien…
/r/askMRP26/06/19 12:44 PM
1

I'm working on frame, old me would react to her being bitchy or shit testing me, now I either STFU or IDGAF. I'm still a noob at it, but I think I've improved a bit. I still sometimes catch myself giving BP responses/reactions, but I'm starting to notice them a lot more. My game is a bit weak, It is something I struggle with and I don't always feel confident gaming (afraid of fucking up). ​ My looks are def above average. 6 ft, 190 pounds about 13-14% bf. lifting 2-3 days a week, jiu jitsu about…
/r/askMRP26/06/19 12:31 PM
1

Would you say that seduction via text is just for guys spinning plates/non-commitment relationships? ​ Like I said, I've read sections on here that talk about gaming via text. That it is important to fire her up before she gets home. I'm hoping more guys will chime in on this to set things straight.
/r/askMRP26/06/19 12:13 PM
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I was in the same position as you 16 years ago. You don’t need to show up wearing a suit, but dress nicely, make sure you don’t look like a slob. Make yourself look clean and comb your hair or even get a fresh hair cut. They’re going to ask you if you have worked in a supermarket before, if you know how to count money (yes I’m serious) and they’re just gunna ask you simple questions to get to know u. They want to make sure ur not going to flake after a week of work. Use that time to build confid…
/r/askTRP25/06/19 09:30 PM
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I edited a bit to my response just now from your original response. ​ Yeah I really need to learn how to not fall into the trap of being in her frame. Looking back, I def had frame in the beginning of the relationship/marriage, it slowly drifted to 50/50 and now I feel like she holds frame more than me. I need to learn how to transition this frame without it being a huge slap in the face to her to where she notices is and knows what I'm trying to do.
/r/askTRP25/06/19 03:06 PM
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I def am in her frame, I'm always wondering what or how she feels about me and the relationship. I'm really bad at just chilling, not worrying about what she thinks. She's so good at acting like she doesn't give a shit (or at least I perceive it that way). She might actually just be hanging out chilling and I see it as more than it is. ​ I'm trying to improve myself, I'm doing as much as I can to improve in all aspects of my life. ​ I normally don't get myself into situations as you state (out a…
/r/askTRP25/06/19 02:56 PM
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I’ve read the side bar. I’m realizing the mistakes I’ve made. I momentarily said fuck the red pill and just got my frustration out. I know it was a wrong move. I’m supposed to go to a family gathering with her today, but I think I’m gunna bail and spend some time apart from her today.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/19 11:36 AM
1

Didn’t kiss her goodbye this morning, didn’t text her at all but one response to something. Didn’t make eye contact when she got home. Didn’t go for a kiss at all. She came to me and kissed me. I continued cleaning up my mess in the kitchen right away. Didn’t say anything else. She sat down and actually asked me about my day. Wtf happened in 8 hours haha
/r/askTRP20/06/19 10:00 PM
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Yeah you're right. Every time she tells me about her day, I'm thinking to myself, I don't really care and is it over yet. I try to be a good listener ( yeah beta I know) but it gets to the point where I'm looking for an exit so I don't have to listen. I have to break out of caring about things, everything really. I actually used your approach last night after reading your response, I basically told her about a crazy lady I encountered at work and she found it kinda funny. Even then, she likes to…
/r/askTRP20/06/19 11:05 AM
1

Yes, agreed with what Lifeisweirdasfuck said. Do challenging weight, but controlled. focus on mind-muscle connection and feel a stretch in each rep. Lifting heavy and throwing the weights around is pointless.
/r/askTRP10/06/19 07:35 PM
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Check out someone named Jeff Nippard on youtube. He has a TON of information regarding fitness at all levels. ​ Focus on weight lifting, steady state cardio and also do HIIT 1-2x a week. ​ There are different types of whey proteins. For post workout, take 30 grams of super fast digesting carbs and a hydrolyzed whey isolate. That digests super quick. It is normal to feel hungry afterwards, that means your body shuttled the nutrients to your muscles.
/r/askTRP10/06/19 12:11 PM
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That's your call, but regardless, just act as if her temper tantrums don't affect you at all. Look up how to pass shit tests.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 10:04 PM
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If she's an aggressive flirt, then even more of a reason not to fall into the trap. Play it cool man.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 09:58 PM
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She is shit testing you to see if you're going to squirm. Don't buy into it. She's trying to get you to chase her and she's going to find you weak the second you acknowledge her frame. Brush it off as if it didn't happen and wait it out until she's rebounds from her weird emotions. Live your life unfazed from her. Also, get rid of your oneitis. I don't know how old you are, but if you're young, you should be talking to as many girls as you can.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 09:32 PM
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Awesome, yeah I agree, I don't want her to control sex and when or if it's going to happen. If I want it and she doesn't give me any, then that's it. It is off my mind instantly. I really find it a turn off and it makes me question why does she think I need to work so hard to get laid. I don't have time for her shit, I have other shit I gotta do.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 04:52 PM
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Thanks for this response. I appreciate it! ​ Since posting my original post, I've started to jot down different things I can take on to stay busy and put myself first. The gym and health is my number 1 priority, second is my career and third are my hobbies that I enjoy doing. ​ I need to learn to stop being so predictable and maintaining my frame, not reacting to hers. ​ Thanks again.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 12:54 PM
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Because I'm a great catch and have a lot going for me. She knows that if I ever found anything out I'd leave her, start fucking other girls and leave her with the apartment to pay for.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 12:44 PM
1

Thanks for the response and I agree. She is getting comfortable. She's still in pretty good shape, but I can see that declining over time in the future. ​ I'm going to play some dread and focus on myself.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 12:42 PM
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I'm willing to nuke it if there is reason to. ​ Also, in a way I still have some power. She doesn't know if I'm inviting other females over or not. She has no way to keep track while she's gone. ​ I'm going to stay busy and not spend as much time with her and I will go from there.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 12:41 PM
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Thank you for a meaningful response. You’re correct, I don’t want to and don’t have a reason to end it. This asktrp community instantly says to leave her as the default answer without any actual advice. I need to work on applying dread. I live in an apartment building with a ton of people here, tons of females. I might start getting friendlier with the neighbors. I also need to put myself out there even more than I do now. I gotta meet new people. I’ve also just created a ton of stuff to keep me…
/r/askTRP05/06/19 11:59 AM
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I don't want to nuke the relationship, but I will start applying dread. I've learned to not react to when she says no to sex. I'm still not great at identifying shit tests, I never know I'm in one until I'm thrown in. (level 1) ​ (level 2) action plan. I hit the gym hard several times a week, I'm in above average shape. (Level 3) I have to work on again. I was a volunteer firefighter for awhile, but I had to quit. I really don't know what to do to stay busy. I work in the media production world,…
/r/askTRP05/06/19 01:31 AM
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Can’t tell if you’re trolling or just didn’t read the post. Overall I’m happy living here and happy with my gf. There’s some things that need to change and I want to know how to move forward. Moving out is an option, but it’s not something I wanna do.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 01:08 AM
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I appreciate the response. I haven't given the power away to walk away, I still have a place to live else where if need be. Anyway, I was hoping I was going to get responses to help me moving forward. I'd like some info on how to change things.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 12:57 AM
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