Going to try to keep a long story short. My wife (28 y/o) and I (34) have been together for 5+ years.

9 months ago her lifetime on and off junkie dad relapsed again, got caught up doing dumb shit with the wrong people and ultimately lost his marriage and his home, etc.

6 months ago he started living with us because he had no where else to go. Her parents are divorced and her mom lives in an apt a few towns away.

The deal was he was allowed to stay for 3 months and then had to leave. Problem is, he detoxed at our house for 3+ weeks and couldn’t literally take care of himself ( he’s wheelchair bound). He was so physically sick from the shit he was doing, he dropped down to like 100 pounds skin and bones. It took nearly 4 months for him to not look like death anymore. That being said, I stfu and did what I could to make things a bit easier for everyone.

It’s now starting to feel like this is never going to end and that I’m starting to feel that I’m being taken advantage of. so I told my wife that things need to start being put into action to find him housing, job, disability, etc. I laid down the law and told her he has to start doing things immediately or he’s out. I’m hoping it isn’t in one ear and out the other. It’s ultimately on my wife to get her family together to solve this ordeal.

My wife is gone on a business trip for another 5 days and it’s just me and her father at the house. I’ve been avoiding anything more than just saying hi to him.

What else can I do to make my requests taken seriously?