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Fear of missing out. Not being around for my daughters when they graduate, or get married, or have grandchildren. There's certain outcomes like these I'm still attached to. I rarely ever dwell on such scenarios, but time to time I do reflect on the possibility I'll miss out on them. For example when I'm flying, or when my daughter is out driving late at night. Losing those attachments and becoming content with the idea that I had only 1 quality day left in my entire life, is some next level zen …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 07:42 PM
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In my case it's fear. I'm not angry, resentful or dejected about anything. Not anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 07:17 PM
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So, it's easy to see it's the quality that matters, isn't it? And for that, you only need today. That's my dilemma. I'm always wanting more.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 07:03 PM
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You make excellent points Blarg. 48 is a weird age for me because I'm realizing the years behind me are now greater than the years ahead. I fear death because I now have a fear of missing out. However, once it happens, I suppose I won't be worrying about it too much.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 06:21 PM
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This is a shitshow. Thank you for making some of us feel better about how far we’ve come. If I had to place my bets on guys with OYS's less than 5 I'd put my money on this guy. Yea his heads a mess right now, he's a wimp, and he spews out verbal diarrhea, but for a guy who's so hardwired into so many convert contracts (religion being one of the biggest), I see some neurons starting to connect here attempting to draw lines between some very important dots. Not to mention, all this guy had to do w…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 05:48 PM
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"The illusion of control is the tendency for people to overestimate their ability to control events, for example, when someone feels a sense of control over outcomes that they demonstrably do not influence." Mind blown. This took me to school this morning. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 04:01 PM
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First, don’t slow down on your improvements. I used to be married to your wife (figuratively speaking). The comfort tests, then the shitty comfort tests, then the cold shoulders, sobbing and finally the apology at the end. Then repeat. The cycle I mentioned above will repeat for a while. And as you talk more about it in future OYS’s, guys will tell you it’s happening because you suck at leading. It's true, but becoming a leader overnight won’t address the emotional rollercoaster that your wife w…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 03:29 PM
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OYS # 30 Taking some time off after Thanksgiving to go to Puerto Rico for a few weeks. I want to get out of the mid-west for a while. I’m bringing my computer just in case work requires my attention, but everything has been pretty smooth and on auto-pilot at work over the past few months, so I doubt I’ll need it. My future successor is killing it as far as taking over my responsibilities, and helping me run and build a team. He’s a guy from India who we ended up sponsoring his visa for him. Remi…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/21 01:53 PM
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I can't find your other post, but reading this post and the texts, you sound like a retard who doesn't know how to handle comfort tests or lead in a relationship. Listen to the words you used in your post. "She's making you" answer questions? You have no frame, and you think becoming a dismissive avoidant retard is the answer. Worse off, you're here asking a bunch of anons how to respond back with the most frame. Take your punishment and desire to make her crawl back over to askTRP where at leas…
/r/askMRP21/11/21 03:24 AM
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Here's a true story I think will help get my point across. Because I think some men are getting ultimatums confused with personal boundaries that are enforced. Before we moved into the house we live in how about 10 years ago, I remember my wife didn't want to remove our children from the school district until the school season was over. This was around February, so there was a good 4 months left. So her idea was to move into her mother's place and we'd stay there until the year finished out. I w…
/r/askMRP18/11/21 07:10 PM
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I think you should focus on fat women. They're more insecure and willing to please. I recommend you try Mississippi BirdBath with one.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 05:38 PM
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Your wife isn't capable of laying down the law w/ her dad. You're gonna have to do it. Tell him with your wife in the room so that she hears it too. Don't hide behind her. Women are incapable of being the bad guy. Hogwash. Women are 100% capable of making tough decisions and they do so everyday. Men just don't hold them accountable. Regardless of the marriage union, your family is your family and her family is her family. If there's one thing I learned being married for 23 years, it's that we're…
/r/askMRP18/11/21 02:17 PM
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Good luck with that. At the end of the day I'm sure it "feels" good to solve another families problems, but in practice this will most likely end in a no win scenario. This is a man who has constantly made bad choices in life (even recently) and this is why the old man is in the situation he's in. I agree OP should show the man compassion while he's in his company, but this is a problem his wife and her family need to solve. OP isn't Captain-Save-A-Hobo.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 04:27 AM
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I used to have a tenant who I rented out one of my properties to month to month a few years ago. Back then I was a nice guy like you and told him that if he couldn't pay then he needed to be out. I didn't give him a deadline and the situation continued. I learned the hard way by losing 1000's of dollars by not making my expectations crystal clear. Now it's an instant 7 day eviction notice if first payment is late and I haven't had a problem since. I consider your situation more serious because w…
/r/askMRP18/11/21 02:33 AM
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Are you willing to make this situation a deal breaker in your marriage? If yes, then tell her this wasn't what you signed up for and then decide on a deadline for him to be out. If there's no follow through on her part, then hold your boundary and follow through on your part. If no, then any boundary you set now will just be a bluff. In my mind there's no in-between.
/r/askMRP18/11/21 02:19 AM
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Right on brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 03:07 PM
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Leverageable equity in an appreciating asset you control. My kingdom for that. 100% agree. High salaries are definitely remarkable and respectable, but most fortunes are never made on income alone. I don’t think Horns is saying anything against this or disagreeing with anyone here regarding that (I do agree to his point that having a high salary in the first place puts someone in an easier position to build these assets). However after a life of working hard and earning a respectable salary myse…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 02:50 PM
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OYS # 29 A few weeks ago I had a discussion with u/ImpatientZen regarding my last OYS that lead to me to some self reflection. I told ImpatientZen that if I wanted to, I could retire and not work ever again. This is actually something I want to do now, but I’ve been avoiding the decision. The truth of the matter is I don’t like software development anymore. I haven’t liked doing it for several years now. I used to love it, but my mind isn’t sharp as it used to be. I’m burned out from doing this …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 11:28 AM
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I know you said you guys experimented with throat fucking and other things, but this shit has to be spontaneous on your end. You make it sound like you guys had a book out as you both proclaimed "we will now commence with the throat fuck". It's not enough for her because your wife doesn't believe it. However you act outside of the bedroom isn't congruent to what turns her on in an erotical way. You have to look deep within yourself and pull forth that raw masculinity that's inside you man. Don't…
/r/askMRP13/11/21 04:54 PM
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I can appreciate your take on why you talk about the things you do for the sake of your own reference and helping others. I’m sure in the future you’ll look back at what you wrote yesterday and realize how far you have come. We all do, and I hope this for you. I come here and read every week and usually don’t contribute. I’m contributing to yours because I see a lot of myself in you. Perhaps it’s just projection. But I see how you care so much about how others perceived you in whatever you write…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/21 02:47 PM
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OP's version of Horn's message is a complete mess. I cut out a bunch of words. --------------------------------------------------------------------- Horns granted me the gift of his time today. In the beginning of MRP, you are just glad that you can STFU, and it's exciting to see how it can lead to [a woman’s] hamster running like it does, and that gets your dick wet. And when you get past that point, you actually start valuing yourself and becoming your own mental point of origin. During this t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 09:37 PM
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Hey man. I like you a lot, and I think you’ve come far over the past year, but something seems a little off with this OYS. First, you still care too much about what your wife and other people think. If your wife complains about your Halloween costume, who fucking cares. Would you entertain putting this much energy into having the same discussion with your 7 year old? How this discussion even turned into the primary point of your OYS this week I don’t know. You didn’t STFU, and because you didn’t…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/21 07:15 PM
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This woman lies, twists facts around and manipulates you + others around you. And you don't think she has the capacity to cheat on you? Really? Her going into the office instead of working from home shouldn't be an issue with you. I like and love my wife, but the thought of being home with her 24/7 would make me go fucking nuts man. All the other shit you mention is a serous problem. You've only been married for 1 year. You don't have a wife. You have a roommate. You have the type of marriage so…
/r/askMRP08/11/21 12:12 AM
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I can't tell if you're trolling the troll, or you actually initially thought it was the flowers. Edit: Darn it. I broke Rule 4 Concern Trolling
/r/askMRP04/11/21 11:51 PM
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Also, (Not sure how relevant) the day before I got her some flowers Her love language must be receiving gifts. Some women get wet by words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time or physical touch. My wife gets wet by acts of service. So when I take her car in to get an oil change I come home to a ready and willing wife and that's when I give her a nice loving and caring Baltimore Blowfish.
/r/askMRP04/11/21 08:46 PM
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I research and pick small cap projects with great teams and utility before they get listed on large exchanges like Coinbase or Gemini. An example of one that's doing very well is Trac. I bought at 18 cents back in June and yesterday it pumped to over $6 on its first day on Coinbase. Obviously it got pushed back down to the mid $2.50's but still this is 16 X increase from my initial buy. Since my original post last week, my portfolio has increased to over 12 million because of this particular tok…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/21 03:54 PM
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I've always got something out of comparing notes with you brother. Regarding the women, my brother-in-law (and a few friends of mine) are in a similar situation as you. 6ft, 40's even 50's, fit, successful and have their shit together. Like you, there's no deficiency of women chasing after them in the dating market. They're looking for a quality product that involves all these traits and there isn't enough men who fit this bill to go around. At the end of the day, women really don't give a shit …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/21 07:12 PM
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All very good questions. As of today I have financial freedom. If I wanted to, I could quit working for the rest of my life. I’ve met that means to that end. The art of investing and the process to build my net worth is very exciting to me. I get great satisfaction out of finding ways to succeed, and when I fail, I enjoy the process of learning from my mistakes and improving upon them. A process that brings both satisfaction and personal growth to me. When my net worth surpassed $1 million earli…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/21 03:44 PM
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Thanks Lucky. There's one thing you said to me once that stuck with me. I'm paraphrasing, but you said something to the effect that we can't beat the shit out of ourselves everyday, and that we need to be kind to ourselves. This statement made me realize what I had been doing to myself my entire life. Helped lead me down a path of self-acceptance.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/21 03:41 PM
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I've never read the Unchained Man but it looks interesting. Thanks for the suggestion.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/21 03:35 PM
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Hi ImpatientZen. Great to hear from you man. I mentioned in my previous OYS’s, I want to live and experience other countries. And continue building my portfolio without the constraint of having to pay any capital gains taxes on every trade or sale. And So the second half of my life is going to be what I want, not what my family or society wants me to do for them. I want to continue building my empire without these constraints while living abroad. Both things I'm very passionate about, and I wake…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/21 03:32 PM
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OYS # 28 This is more of my field report over the past 7 months. My last OYS was 7 months ago. I recently read through my past OYS's and it made me want to write at least one more. Health / Fitness Age: 48, Height / Weight - 5’11.5 / 192.5 lbs, Squat - 300 lbs x 8 reps, Deadlift - 350 lbs x 8 reps, Bench Press - 240 lbs x 8 reps, Overhead Press - 165 lbs x 8 reps, Train 2 times a week with an instructor and 2 times with friends. I do kettle bell classes once a week and run 2 times a week. Work /…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/21 07:00 PM
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After the first month no. The achey balls only lasted a few days. The skin redness lasted almost an entire month. I eventually found out it was an adverse reaction to when I drank beer. I was drinking beer 3-4 times per week back then, so limiting myself to one night a week eliminated this side effect.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 01:15 PM
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I'm not doing it for her, I just want to look as good as possible. Some guys look good with a bald or shaved head, but I'm not one of them. My bald headed neighbors give me shit about taking the pill. Doesn't bother me. At the end of the day, I'm the only one on my street who still has a full head of hair. If that doesn't work you can always try Dutasteride which is just as effective for most. It is harder to get since I don't think you can buy it online. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 05:33 PM
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Been on finasteride for 1.5 years. I did have the same side effects as you in addition to red blotchy marks, but it all went away after the first few weeks. BTW studies show you can take it every other day and still get the same results. So give that a try. Expect your hair to get worse during the first 0-6 months. This means it's working. The weak hair sheds fast and gets replaced with thicker hair that continues getting thicker over time. Biggest improvement for me was after 1 year and still p…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 02:14 PM
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Can't argue with that. That's a fair and solid response.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/21 03:10 PM
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That's a fine answer as well. But if it gets to the point where it becomes a habit to say “I was late, and I’m not happy about it” then you have no one to blame but yourself. Fake promises are for people with no accountability, or who can't wake their own ass up early enough and get to work on time. Is it really that hard? Most of my employees and myself are late maybe once or twice a year.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/21 08:20 PM
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Of course. Agree 100%. But that's not what we're talking about here. You gave an example of what you'd say if the boss called you out for being late. Saying "yea I was late" and then trying to switch the topic might work against a weak boss. However if you have a strong boss who enforces company boundaries then it's not going to go well for you. As a boss myself, I don't have time for excuses, apologies or dealing with employees who try to sweep my concerns under the rug. The best thing an emplo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/21 08:08 PM
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Agree with everything you said except what you said when your boss calls you out for being 10 minutes late. Best to say "Yes I was late. It won't happen again". Then change the subject like you said. Otherwise you display yourself as someone who doesn't take time management seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/21 06:00 PM
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The feeling you describe reminds me of the test subjects I hear my brother talk about when he gives sugar pills to Group B during his pharmaceutical studies. You're taking something called the red pill because you're convinced it's going to improve you. When things are good, you feel like you're on cloud 9 from the mania of something new. Then when something happens (like the events you describe in yesterday's OYS) all those feelings go down the shitter in that moment in time. It's called the pl…
/r/askMRP13/10/21 08:17 PM
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I don't think you understand the significance of your wife being ok with opening up the marriage. It doesn't matter the reason. If she believes you're her best option, she won't risk putting the relationship in a situation where she could lose you. Women who think they can do better allow marriages to be opened. You're thinking too much like a man when it comes to understanding her right now. Men love variety. So the thought of an open marriage strictly from a man's point of view seems appealing…
/r/askMRP29/09/21 07:17 PM
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Nailed it. Good stuff.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/21 01:46 PM
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I think trying to break frame down like a wrist watch and putting it back together is not going to accomplish what you think it will. Frame doesn’t come from analysis, chasing a standard, or trying to achieve a set of known attributes. Analysis and overthinking is what got guys here in trouble in the first place. Too much thinking, and not enough cock n’ balls. Developing frame is pragmatic, not theoretical. It comes from challenging the thoughts, fears and the concessions you make tied to poor …
/r/askMRP27/09/21 02:10 PM
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Oobertas is right. Too much thinking and I really like how he says large thought structures tend to obstruct because it’s true. You sound like a really smart guy; probably in the field of engineering or something that requires you to analyze things all day. The majority of problems guys have around here are emotional problems. They developed fears early on, so they navigate the rest of their lives finding ways to avoid them (ego, living for their wives or others and allowing boundaries to be cro…
/r/askMRP26/09/21 04:36 PM
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Thanks man. That already feels like forever ago but I still check in from time to time. Been thinking about writing a field report at some point. The past 6 or so months have been very productive.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/21 05:57 PM
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Yada Yada Yada man is back for more. I read your post about 5 times. Here's my assessment about you. I don't think you're a lurker who just started posting. You appear to have an axe to grind. I think you had another account, but that account is tied to an ego that was bruised or shattered by a mod, vet or someone farther along than you. So you created another account instead of taking the punches and working on yourself through OYS. Now you're an official Larper. Your post makes sense coming fr…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/21 04:04 PM
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None of your post matters much. It's all over the place, messy, and equivalent to saying: "Your wife, who's been out a good bit of the day with her friend, doing some shopping at the mall, comes home." "Her friend told her how great of a husband you were and how lucky I am to have you. She wishes John would take a queue from you." yada yada yada "You've now fucked that up for her. How things play out from here is another topic, but let's just say, it doesn't look pretty." Followed by a shit load…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/21 07:54 PM
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I think this could have easily been an excellent post about mindset. However if anyone does a “control f” on the word “you”, this entire post lights up like a Christmas tree decorated with “you” and “your” ornaments. This is why I think this post is actually about dilberryhoundog and not what OP claims it to be. However I might be wrong, so I want to ask an honest question to anyone who can correct my misunderstanding. Is there a difference in the mindset of someone who writes a post containing …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/21 01:49 PM
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So then why do 50-59 women as per the study cheat 5% more often than 18-29 yr old women? Validation. Women in their 20's are used to men flirting with them. Women in their 50's see it less. Add in various other factors such as being with the same man for 2 decades and boring marriages and that attention from another man becomes even more significant (even if that other man isn't that great of a catch).
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 04:12 PM
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lol I was shaking my head at usr00nm's comment as well. He couldn't be further from the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 01:35 PM
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That's actually 5 plates on each side when you count the gut.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 01:43 PM
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OYS # 27 “Things change. Always do. You'll get your chance! Important thing is, when it comes, you gotta grab it with both hands and hold on tight!" Otis -The Last Starfighter - 1984 Stats 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 187.0 lbs @ 5’11, BP: 230 LBS x 8 reps, SQ: 305.0 LBS x 8 reps, OHP: 150.0 LBS x 8 reps, DL: 335.0 LBS x 8 reps, BOR: 175 lbs x 8 reps Early Bird Gets the Worm In my case, the worm is better focus throughout the day. I wake…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/21 12:12 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/21 04:01 PM
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and being in a really shitty area for good looking women Are you from the Mitten State?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/21 04:00 PM
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OYS # 26 This OYS will be a little different. I’ll go back to usual format next OYS. I had a really good week. Had to go out of town for work for 3 days. I took this time to reset myself and reflect on a lot of things. Early on in my life I started my mission to come up with an idea of my own and build a company around it. I didn’t go into any of this with a plan. I just stumbled from idea to idea, constantly innovating. Just enjoying that process. They say you’ll always be successful if you do …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/21 12:29 PM
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Thanks for your insight. Sorry I wish I had seen this sooner. I was away over the last few days. I’ve had a chance to reset and had a really good week. Horns, of course I’m going to take your word on everything you said about Red. u/threekindsoflucky I read your comment. You saw it. I broke frame so quickly like a little bitch. I know the lesson that Red can provide me, it’s the test of frame. I do see this value in him, and I’ll take that lesson. But Red taught me a bigger lesson than the one y…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/21 02:19 PM
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One thing I learned today is that I have a shit load to learn, and a far way to go. You helped me realize this. So thank you. I've been watching you for a while, and there was something I quite couldn't put my finger on about you. Something was off. Then I figured it out. I see a lot of myself in you. Recently I found myself participating a lot on MRP posts thinking that I was farther along than I actually was. It was great for my ego. I felt like I was helping people, and I actually believed I …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 10:01 PM
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Pussy. I completely wrecked your frame in a few posts. I don't know man...I saw some bullshit in your reply that I disagreed with. Measure it how you want.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 09:05 PM
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Yea I read it. I’ve accepted the fact my wife and I are both middle-aged. I’m also aware my wife has passed her prime. That’s life, and when you’re my age in 6 or so years, you’ll still feel pretty young too. Trust me. It's all relative to each of our own journeys. None of this is absolute especially if your goals are different than mine. Regarding my frame size and my lifts, I don’t agree that you need to have exceptional level lifts in order to work on physique + mental models and start seeing…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 08:23 PM
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I only got dress pants and dress shirts tailored. The tailor seemed to know what to do when I brought the stuff in. For shirts, I bought what fit well in the shoulders, and my tailor was able to bring in the waist area. Before the resizing, the stomach area would keep popping out and I'd have to keep tucking it back in. For pants, I ended up buying what fit perfect in the butt and and legs. The tailor was able to bring in the waist. There was some excess fabric on the back of the pants that was …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 07:54 PM
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Watch the comfort tests drop and the fun progression toward a better life for everyone in your world show up. She's on the lookout for how to help. She gets the positive feels from you when she does good things. Your mission accelerates faster. Thank you. I realize I'm deficient on some very important key pieces. I have a vision, but I don't share it or enable her to help me propel this in any way. The employee example you give really makes it clear to me what I've been doing wrong. It's a commo…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 07:42 PM
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This is fucking gay. If she is asking you this then you are clearly boring in the bedroom. The question was sandwiched in between other validation seeking questions like "am I beautiful enough for you?", and "what turns you on the most?". So I'm not so sure. As long as I'm having sex when I want, and I enjoy the experience, I'm not going to worry about what's going on in her head. Thanks for the feedback. I'll reflect on everything you had to say.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 04:13 PM
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The situation with your son is tough. I had a similar situation with my youngest daughter about a year and 1/2 ago. One night a friend of hers contacted us and told us that my daughter was thinking about taking her dads pills and ending it all. This was one of the wakeup calls for me to start something like MRP. You have a difficult situation because you don’t have complete control of his environment. It sounds like your ex-wife plays shady games, and many therapists are so gynocentric that some…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 01:39 PM
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OYS # 25 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Diet: Weight: 185.0 lbs @ 5’11. Keep losing #’s despite increasing daily caloric intake (now 3k). Seems cutting beer down from 4-5 nights to only one night sent my metabolism back to teen years. Lifts: BP: 220 LBS x 10 reps, SQ: 290.0 LBS x 10 reps, OHP: 130.0 LBS x 10 reps, DL: 320.0 LBS x 10 reps, BOR: 165 lbs x 10 reps Same weight but higher reps. Sticking to 8-12 rep range. Achieved adonis ratio and 6 pa…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/21 01:03 PM
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>I come from a South Asian background, so it's definitely possible to find a virgin or at most n=1 type girl to import. I'm going to be a little vulnerable right now and admit that I enjoy watching 90 day fiancé with my wife. 9 out of 10 of those relationships end up a train wreck. Add in the risk that you're on the hook to sponsor them for 10 years in the US if it doesn't work out. I also find it hard to believe that South Asian women don't fuck and keep it a secret. >At 35 I feel like I'm at a…
/r/askMRP15/03/21 07:19 PM
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To some degree, I see a lot of my pre-mrp self in you. I didn't actually cry about the car breaking down, but I sure as hell didn't deal with things well when something went wrong (like the furnace breaking down, unexpected med bills, etc). I was an emotional wimp and neglectful father too. Most of us had shitty fathers, so don't be a pussy about it. I also struggled with depression and anxiety like you. I put all my energy and focus into work. That's the only thing I was good at. Being a provid…
/r/askMRP15/03/21 02:23 PM
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I do not think anyone can top his story. Looks like that link goes to a different user, but I've read OOPi's latest stuff. I was wondering about the babysitter situation. Too bad he deleted his previous posts after his wife found out about MRP.
/r/askMRP15/03/21 12:04 AM
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>I haven’t been lifting. I have a home gym and some dumbbells and a exercise bike and was working out about a year and a half ago to try and feel better. Turned out I have arthritis. You don't even lift bro? Using arthritis as an excuse not to lift is like saying I'm not going to take finasteride because I'm losing my hair. Lifting helps arthritis https://creakyjoints.org/diet-exercise/weight-lifting-arthritis/ Lots of guys worse off than you OYS. Shit, one guy even let himself get talked into b…
/r/askMRP14/03/21 04:41 PM
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I’m choosing to live in a van I’m building out for my own reasons. Do you run a YouTube show called Better Bachelor? Joker is that you?
/r/askMRP13/03/21 05:28 PM
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Thanks Horns, this really helps me a lot. If the pattern I described earlier continued (which it will), then I could have easily seen myself stopping at step 4 like red. I saw things too binary, meaning I would have considered anything beyond what I'm already doing now as "regulating" her behavior at the expense of stepping out of my own frame. However you gave me something to think about regarding step 5 and 6. I don't need to regulate, I need to lead and praise. Although I think I've done a pr…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/21 04:54 PM
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I'm just a day away from finishing out the week, so I'll save the details for Tuesday's OYS. But I think I was dealing with some sort of minor event aftershock this week. There seems to be this pattern where there's some trigger that's not within my control setting off an escalation of shitty comfort tests, that eventually lead me to calling her out on shitty behavior, which then leads her to crying and apologizing, which always leads to her being overt about her fears of losing me; followed by …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/21 03:33 PM
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followed by then either subtle corrections on your part, or failed comfort tests out the ass till you are fucking trannies in the ass in the gym bathroom between sets. I don't know about fucking trannies in the ass at the gym, but you definitely have an accurate crystal ball regarding the failed comfort tests. I'll make sure to tag you on my next OYS when I reflect on this weeks events. Because you fucking called it my friend.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/21 08:12 PM
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It's such an interesting space. I wonder what your organizational complexity is like. Yea it's a very interesting space. My org started as a startup with myself and one other person several years ago. We've added several more people with additional resources in India which has been working really well. We all work remote, however I share office space with another business, since I really hate working from home. We plan to have our own separate space once people start normalizing the pandemic as …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/03/21 02:13 PM
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Option 2 is a good test because you’ll find out whether or not you have it in you or you don’t; and whether your idea is good or not. Nobody has to know everything in the beginning, or have the courage to go balls to the wall right from the beginning. Building confident requires time, experience and experimentation. Allow yourself to fail. So if you attempt to make progress on an idea during your free time, and you don’t have enough discipline to at least do that, then you’ve answered your own q…
/r/askMRP11/03/21 03:59 PM
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If my wife wanted to go to dinner and I didn’t want to, then I’d tell her what I wanted to do instead. Her asking me to take her out isn’t a shit test. It’s an ordinary request. Now if you have a problem with her wanting to go out all the time, then you need to be a big boy and use your words and tell her that. STFU and then making yourself a sandwich while the woman stands there wondering what the hell is going on is autistic and retarded. Point blank you're playing games and being passive aggr…
/r/askMRP10/03/21 09:24 PM
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I don’t know enough details about your idea. However as someone who’s been in your shoes I can share a few of my notes. I'm assuming you have an idea you believe in. If you don't, then I'd listen to some of the other comments here. You’re going to need to look at this as viewing different scenarios and then measuring their tradeoffs. Let’s say you have an idea to create this great new widget. Option 1: You can attract an investor who may give you the resources in order to begin developing this n…
/r/askMRP10/03/21 07:22 PM
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That's a tough one. The first thing that comes to mind is "retard sandwich". That's what you make yourself for dinner after your wife asks you to take her to a restaurant and your response is to STFU and then make dinner just for yourself.
/r/askMRP10/03/21 06:20 PM
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Now started as a joke from me to help people recognize when they want to speak to me "Similar name around" so I called myself "Mr RedpDaddy" and people took it and all my managers even call me that now. If you care about anonymity, this was a pretty dangerous thing for you to do. Google "RedpDaddy" and see what comes up...
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 02:52 PM
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Nice. Thanks for the suggestion. I'll check it out.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/21 12:41 PM
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Yes, but I've still yet to close on anal. Wife is game but I still suck. Bookmarked your brilliant posts in the meantime.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:59 PM
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I like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:53 PM
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I, for one, am happy to see you walked back that egotistical, mental masturbation portion and realized jerking yourself off was getting you no where. Yea that portion reeks ego and I knew it as I was writing it. Over the past 25 years I tied my entire identity to my work. It was the one thing I had in life that made me feel good about myself. In a way this OYS is helping me to start picking that apart. Thanks for the feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 07:53 PM
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Shit. I didn't even realize I pulled a Han Solo.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 03:52 PM
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After seeing this it really opened up my eyes to how much time me and my wife both spend on our phones. I don't want my son to grow up in a house where people just have the Faces stuck in their phones all day. I told my wife that from now on, once our son gets back from childcare and until he goes to bed we're going to put our phones away. There was no push back to this, she agreed it was a great idea and had noticed how much time we really do spend on our phones around our child. Our marriage d…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 03:49 PM
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I agree. For me it's a matter of selfishness. Having a significant enough stock ownership helped me see the bigger picture.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 03:03 PM
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OYS # 24 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Lifting / Diet: Weight: 186.0 lbs @ 5’11. Lost another 1.5# last week. Gradually upping my caloric intake while watching my macros until I stop losing weight. I’m losing strength from not eating enough. Making sure I get at least 186 grams of protein per day. BP: 220 LBS x 8 reps, SQ: 290.0 LBS x 8 reps, OHP: 130.0 LBS x 8 reps, DL: 320.0 LBS x 8 reps, BOR: 165 lbs x 8 reps Added isolated exercises to ta…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/21 02:01 PM
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Let's start with the gripes you have with your wife. Lazy bedroom... The woman isn't attracted to you. Lifting in the gym for 2 weeks isn't going to change that. Doing laundry, cooking and cleaning isn't going to make her vag-hole moist. Entitlement... This is a learned behavior. A woman will feel this way if her man is constantly giving into her. Gifts, praise, etc. You can't expect her to unlearn this as soon as you take a magic pill. Laziness... Read entitlement again. You say you've been coo…
/r/askMRP07/03/21 09:01 PM
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I don't know why, but for some reason I believe in you Beauford. I wish I could take these words back. Retard deleted out.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/21 10:27 PM
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The first link is a good primer. The second link summarizes Horn's journey through OYS. Expect to get temporally banned. If this happens, suck it up and figure out where you went wrong so you can improve on your next one. Don't take any feedback personally. These guys have seen each and everyone one of us before in other men's journeys, and they will see us again in the future. It's all part of the process. https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ixd4fh/tomorrows_oys_post_some_recommend…
/r/askMRP05/03/21 02:08 PM
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I saw a few of your past comments where you mention you're on the spectrum. I have a nephew in the same boat, so I can understand your desire to connect with others. I recommend posting a OYS every Tuesday morning if you want a more meaningful interaction with guys comparing notes. Do you know about OYS?
/r/askMRP04/03/21 05:54 AM
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My notes seem to align with yours angels-fan. I have a feeling OP thinks he's hiding his cards well, but his wife can often see the hand he's holding (ie his state of mind). If his wife is currently attracted to him at this time, then she's most likely asking because she doesn't like the way she feels around him in that given moment. Maybe she feels like he's mad at her. Maybe she wants to know what's he's worried about. Who knows. Where this becomes a serious problem is if OP is moody all the t…
/r/askMRP04/03/21 04:11 AM
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No, I never had a problem being scared or nervous around my wife in the way you describe. Before MRP, I came from a place of anger, which I now see as masked fear. So I always choose fight over flight. It's the reason I was such a retard when Vets would provide feedback in the beginning. However, at its core, I don’t see a difference between the 2 anymore, because both approaches involve protecting the ego. Once I learned to let go of my ego, the anger went with it. This allowed me to begin expe…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 06:28 PM
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I used to get this quite a lot. Usually it was because I was mad/angry/crabby/grumpy. Women can smell feelings of stress, anxiety and fear in their man from a mile away. And if it happens enough, they become hypervigilant about it. I wouldn't even classify this as a shit test, but more about her feeling hypersensitive and insecure around you. Next time it happens, do a personal inventory and ask yourself whether or not you're actually feeling content in that moment. Regardless of your answer, ju…
/r/askMRP03/03/21 03:22 PM
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Wow. Thanks for the link. I've seen some of this guy's work in the past, but I was in the anger phase at the time and I don't think I was ready for it. I plan to do a lot of reading, but this will go on the top of my list with Horns, WeakAndSensitive and SorcererKing. There's one particular post that SorcererKing wrote a long time ago that made me start thinking about things entirely differently. I'll probably talk about it more in the future, but I'd probably still be angry today had I not come…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 02:57 PM
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Ah man you're like that guy in middle school who kept getting put into detention. I don't know why, but for some reason I believe in you Beauford. I believe you're going to discover on your own that chasing the dragon is too exhausting and non-sustainable once you realize the emptiness is still there after the highs are gone. In my younger self, I could see myself giving into similar tendencies, had I ever gone on a 3 day binge of menthphetamin.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 02:31 PM
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A year ago I started Finasteride, along with the Minoxidil that I've been using for 10 years. You can get Finasteride online from a doctor through Roman pretty cheap. Finasteride prevents around 70% of the conversion of testosterone to DHT, which is enough to stop hair loss in its tracks for most men. DHT is responsible for hair loss (it chokes blood flow to the hair follicles). You also get a slight increase in Testosterone as a result. I've had no side effects, but sexual side effects are poss…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/21 12:24 AM
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Thank you for the DM offer. I'll definitely take you up on it. I do remember a few of these from past readings, but worth the re-read. Thanks again.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 11:58 PM
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You may think your woman is literally asking you what the endgame is here. She's not. In her frantic mind she just wants to know what to do, right now. I did think it was end game, but I very much see the 2nd part of your statement now. Thanks for all your feedback. I'll need to digest it all. Your OYS 35 is interesting because it's close to the 11 month mark. Although I didn't start writing OYS's until much later, I'm approaching the same timeframe. I do see lots of "She's" in that OYS. :) Was …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 11:53 PM
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OYS # 23 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Lifting: Weight: 187.5 lbs @ 5’11 No change. BP: 220 LBS x 8 reps, Squat: 290.0 LBS x 8 reps, OHP: 135.0 LBS x 8 reps, DL: 325.0 LBS x 8 reps, Bent-Over Row: 170 lbs x 8 reps Diet: Lost another # this week. Noticing veins showing in my forearms, waist is smaller and abs are showing up more. Passing Storm: I don’t know how to explain the past week other than give a play by play from beginning to end along…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/21 02:09 PM
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I've noticed nurses between the ages of 24-29 with live-in boyfriends seem to be down to play. These women's home lives sound as boring as 30 year marriages. Playing video games and then in bed by 9pm snuggled in with dogs they adopted together sleeping between them. Young dried vagina wondering if this is all life has to offer...
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/21 04:02 PM
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I was reading this post last night and was telling myself this guy can't be real. He's talking about throwing in the towel and filing for divorce? Can you imagine asking a guy or male friend in your real life why he got a divorce, and his answer was because he failed a bench press and got injured in front of his wife? No way this is real. I refuse to believe it!
/r/askMRP25/02/21 03:51 PM
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The more I read askMRP, the more I believe askMRP is the Jupiter of marriedRedPill. What I mean by this is Earth is a nice and tidy place thanks to Jupiter attracting all the asteroids and other space rubble.
/r/askMRP25/02/21 03:08 AM
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I think the biggest danger for you is replacing one addiction with another. Or just adding more addictions to the mix such as dating. Everything you're doing including porn and endless internet surfing is you trying to find your next fix. The thing about chasing the dragon's tail is you'll never catch it. It's a feeling of constant discontent. The only way this gets better for you is if you're able to acknowledge these tendencies and challenge them in the moment verses constantly giving into the…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 02:20 PM
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Make sure you're allowing your central nervous system to recoup, otherwise injuries will be just around the corner. Not may be, will be. It's too bad OP went retard and got his comments deleted, because your entire reply is extremely valuable for retards like me who have let their ego push their bodies to the breaking point.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/21 01:48 PM
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I'm not going to lie, I've thought about this as well. My kids will be out of the house within the next 3 years. Will I still want to spend the 2nd half of my life with this same woman being in an empty nest? Will I want to continue to bring her along on my journey? I don't have an answer to these questions right now. However at the same time, I'm okay not having the answers. I'm just enjoying these next 3 years and I'm enjoying the process of becoming a HVM. It excites me to know that I'm going…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 10:11 PM
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It's not trending in the right direction though Gotcha. I see your point. There have been times I thought about this as well. With hard work, I can still see myself looking as good as I do now for the next 13 years without a huge decline. A HVM even in his 50's has many younger options.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 09:25 PM
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Thanks for the great information.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 08:33 PM
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I want a hot young wife, who’s also the mother of my children, a great family matriarch, but also fulfils me with the sex life I want. It’s not possible anymore, she’s middle aged, just like me. I'm interested in what you said here. Do you believe this is actually an age thing? Or is it that you don't think your wife will ever have it in her to be active enough to get the younger looking body you're yearning for? My wife is 47, but her constant activity in the gym (training for fitness competiti…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 06:41 PM
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Thanks Horns. Roleplay gives her plausible deniability that she is not really a slut. This part I caught onto pretty quickly. ​ Get her to accept that she is indeed your slut, that's OK, and dissolve that ego of hers through leadership.... you will have a very happy cock. Mmmm. This part is very interesting to me. I like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 03:04 PM
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OYS # 22 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Sidebar: 1/4 way through TWOTSM a second time. Lifting: Weight: 188.5 lbs @ 5’11 BP: 220 LBS x 8 reps, Squat: 290.0 LBS x 8 reps, OHP: 135.0 LBS x 8 reps, DL: 325.0 LBS x 8 reps, Bent-Over Row: 170 lbs x 8 reps Working myself back up after de-load. Lost some strength but I feel very refreshed overall. Diet: Lost another # this week. Since I stopped Creatine and drinking beer the weight keeps coming off. …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/02/21 01:59 PM
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Importantly, I want real deep relationships with women, not ones where I am manipulating them with fear and dread. If they fantasize being with other people, I want them to talk to me about it, not keep it a secret out of fear. I enjoy sexual women with interesting fantasies that really open up to me, if I can come at it from a place of abundance and not one-itis. If you can connect with them on this in a safe and vulnerable way, they open up sexually in ways way beyond what is possible with TRP…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/21 02:44 PM
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I'm focused on maximizing value, not minimizing cost. The startup that I’m involved in focuses on this same approach. In my industry, high value based outcomes have a direct impact on minimizing costs overall. Therefore potential investors we’ve spoken to want to see this relationship quantified very clearly before we’re on the same page. However I’m not sure if my situation or scenario is relevant to yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/21 06:00 PM
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OYS # 21 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 189.5 lbs Height: 5’11 Sidebar: Starting to listen TWOTSM a second time. The first time around was too soon. Lifting: I took Cam_Winston21's advice last week and decided to de-load. Around 2 weeks ago I started feeling really burned out. Diet: I lost a lot of water weight after quitting Creating. I don’t crave beer it like I used to, because I don’t need it to hide uncomfortable feelings related …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 03:33 PM
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It may be time for a deload week. I think that's a really good idea. I feel burned out physically lately. How long did you do these, and what was your deload %?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 05:49 PM
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Yep => https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NAjIBFD4wRM
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/21 01:44 PM
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"what am I actually worried about". Try running the same thought process you wrote in your reply here each time you feel this way. Eventually the words might sink in. I had many of the same thought loops running in my head like you. These recordings in your head have always gone unchallenged, so you believe these feelings of fear are valid. Cognitive behavioral therapy has been a huge help for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 06:55 PM
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Scared of wife: So, I’m scared of my wife, well her reactions actually. I don’t like confrontations with her and this affects what I say, do, and even think. This part is really interesting to me. I think deep down inside this was why I used to be so defensive and confrontational in the past. Just a question...what's the worst thing that will happen if your wife didn't agree with the things you shared (ie scale and nutrition program)?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 05:57 PM
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I think what Horn's said is true, my wife accepted my decision because I'm trusted and valued. On the other hand, I imagine this was a hard thing for her to do in the past when I was so defensive about everything and acted like a little argumentative bitch in almost every situation. This isn't what a leader does...
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 05:44 PM
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For a guy who's been here almost half a year and understands gender polarity dynamics, you should have understood this instinctively. I'd say I only just discovered it. It takes me a while to really internalize things. I tried reading TWOTSM last year but I know now there was no way I was ready for it. Funny you said that about the narrator because I thought the same thing. I'll give it a read again. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 05:09 PM
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Yea, you explained that way better than I did. That's exactly it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 02:57 PM
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I'm still not sure how to make sense of all of this in terms of RP theory. When you listen to her actions and not her words, everything is clear as day. Your STBX isn't even divorced yet and she's scheduling a hookup with Chad. Is this what a woman does when she's trying to save a marriage? Feminist Chad just has to be confident, appear to have his shit together, and must have performed some trigger in order to have set off her inner desire. That's all it takes. Don't try to overanalyze it. Lear…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 02:45 PM
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OYS # 20 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 193.5 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 235 LBS x 8 reps (Exceptional Goal: 260 lbs x 8 reps) Squat: 315.0 LBS x 8 reps (Exceptional Goal: 350 lbs x 8 reps) OHP: 152.5 LBS x 8 reps (Exceptional Goal: 170 lbs x 8 reps) DL: 350.0 LBS x 8 reps (Exceptional Goal: 400 lbs x 8 reps) Bent-Over Row: 190 lbs x 8 reps (Exceptional Goal: 212.5 x 8 reps) Sidebar: Pretty much everything. Now reading "The Evolution of Desi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/21 01:41 PM
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No worries man. I definitely don't take your response as you instigating. When I hear "swinging" I always assume it's two couples (MF - MF). So in these situations I do think there's an element of cuckoldry despite the fact both guys are banging each other's wives. However, if by swinging you meant MFF threesomes, then I don't believe it's cuckoldry. There are actually guys in the community who state MFF threesomes are similar to a harem. To me, I'd be concerned a MFF threesome was her way of tr…
/r/askMRP08/02/21 07:56 PM
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Don’t forget, men and women have different mating strategies. I think the biggest mistake men can make about swinging is to ignore the fact that a woman’s mechanism for desire is different than a man’s. Men overall want variety so we can spread our seed. We will even mate down in quality and it means nothing to us. Many of us are able to cheat despite being in a happy relationship. Many men don’t because of the repercussions. Women on the other hand are always looking for their best. If they bel…
/r/askMRP08/02/21 01:23 PM
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I really liked your OYS this week. I'm interested in your journey, so I hope you keep coming here. I have a serious procrastination problem that is ruining my career. I had the same procrastination problems as you when I started. The late nights to avoid things getting ugly, I know all too well about it. Your dopamine reward system is fucked up. The masterbation makes this even worse. As things become more stressful with your wife, you may find the procrastination getting worse. For me, it was a…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/21 09:03 PM
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there's absolutely no discussion of swinging on these subs. Seems like a major blindspot. I don't think it's a blindspot. I think it's a feature. Many guys who come here are in a rough spot mentally and physically with their life and with their wife. Most of their work needs to go into becoming more attractive, changing their shitty mindsets, and developing new mental models. Any discussions I've seen about swinging is don't do it, and I think the reasons are pretty obvious.
/r/askMRP04/02/21 03:03 PM
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Eye Contact: I’ve been working on holding eye contact whenever I make eye contact with anyone. I’m refusing to look down/away. It’s pretty powerful, and I really had no idea of how quick I was to break contact. Weak. It’s been an interesting social experiment. I typically smile if it extends with the ladies and scowl a little with the dudes. Both typically look away quickly. At least half of the ladies’ blush when I smile. Trying break and unwire any week or nice guy habits, especially those tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 05:55 PM
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Thanks. I think the boys learned their lesson. There has been no trouble since. My original concern was how her class mates were going to take my involvement. Back in my day (80's an early 90's) snitches got stitches. However my daughter said the consensus is everyone agreed these boys crossed a serious line.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 03:15 AM
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Thanks. Form is good now, but it was terrible last year and I was constantly getting injured. So about 6 weeks ago I asked one of my neighbors down the street who owned a gym to help me straighten things out. He lost his business last year when our governor shut down all gyms for over 6 months. He corrected me a lot on my deadlift and squats. For deadlift, I was lifting from a 3 inch deficit due to using standard sized 50 lbs plates. This caused me to bend my lower back too much when I tried to …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 03:10 AM
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Thanks. The me-too risk was something that weighed heavy on my mind, and I felt I went too far with the "pulling her pony tail" comment. I also realized part of my behavior was ego and validation seeking. I like the idea of just being an easy going guy at the office.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/21 02:46 AM
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The nothing over 51 has got to be a typo. A woman like this can't be that delusional?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/21 09:43 PM
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The nothing over 51 has got to be a typo. A woman like this can't be that delusional?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/02/21 09:42 PM
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OYS # 19 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 196 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 235 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 230 lbs x 8 reps) Squat: 315.0 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 305 lbs x 8 reps) OHP: 152.5 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 150 lbs x 8 reps) DL: 350.0 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 350 lbs x 8 reps) Bent-Over Row: 190 lbs x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 185 x 8 reps) Sidebar: Pretty much everything. Lifting: Officially hit my goal of reaching advanced …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/21 01:36 PM
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"NOT HERE FOR SEX!!!" isn't directed to the guys reading her profile. She's trying to convince herself.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen31/01/21 02:39 PM
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I think you should just hold out until curbside anal swaps come to the US. It's the most accurate and efficient way.
/r/askMRP28/01/21 05:09 PM
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I have a unique situation where I'm working with so many women, so I think the pure saturation of having so many opportunities accelerated my progress. First it was getting used to eye contact. Being able to hold your gaze even when the woman doesn't look away. This took about 3 or 4 days to get comfortable with. This felt weird and incomplete, so the next step was getting comfortable smiling (when not wearing a mask) or winking (if I had a mask). This scared the shit out of me at first, but doi…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 07:16 PM
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All true and thanks. Also, glad to have offered something in return. I have the Athol Kay book you mentioned, so I’ll look for that section and read it again. I don’t want to have sex with this woman, so I have no business leading her on. At the end of the day it worked, I can imagine putting myself in new situations (outside of work) that I would have been way too scared to even consider. This is a unique situation I had where I was being saturated by the one thing I feared the most. It allowed…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 06:47 PM
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This is great. Even these type of hyperdominant moves of "I'll yank your ponytail and put you in your place"? Yes. It's not uncommon for me to say shit to my wife in a teasing/sexual way, and I do it all the time. For example, last night my wife asked for a back rub. We were standing in the kitchen, so I told her to lean forward against the counter so I could get her full back. As I'm rubbing, I hear her moan. Every time I'd hear her moan, I'd thrust my package into the back of her ass and tell …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 04:25 PM
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What I would think about, though, is domain. I'd keep the office to being that awesome guy - but not sexualize nor use push game. And then save your real game for outside of work. Get out of the kiddie-pool and jump in at the deep end in stead. This goes triple in these metoo-times. Worst case, light switch effect happens when your office GF realizes you wont bang and her ego is hurt. And all of a sudden "I'll yank your hair and put you in your place" is on an official complaint to HR. I would p…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 04:10 PM
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I saw the new askMRP avatar and thought it was OP. I think that makes me the retard.
/r/askMRP27/01/21 01:49 PM
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How often do you act like that around your wife? Everyday. I tease and play with her constantly. Before MRP, never. As I thought about things more last night, I do think there's an element of me wanting and liking the validation I'm getting from other women that aren't my wife. Something I need to figure out. I went into this trying to overcome a fear (which I did), and it turned into something else.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/21 12:15 PM
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Your observation definitely resonates. 100% true in the beginning of my journey. However if I told you things changed for me late last year, and it was no longer about my wife, I don’t think anyone would believe me. The best way I can explain it is I always suffered from extreme social anxiety my entire life when it came to women. When I drank, this problem went away. I never talked to or approached women ever. Every girlfriend or hookup I had prior to my wife (many years ago) was a result of th…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 10:12 PM
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I think MRP's stance is rule 3 (No moralizing - We don't judge what is right or wrong in sexual strategies, only if it works). You're just expected to take responsibility and accountability for your own actions and their repercussions.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 05:14 PM
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Shit even the porn thing was so true. I'm not a guy who fucks holes. I'm a guy who fucks his hand. I mean, when I watch porn with a fat chick, wipe up and turn my phone off, I know for a fact I don't wanna fuck fat chicks at all. Same as midgets (well unless she is real hot) I have a theory about men who masterbate to shit like fat chicks and midgets. I think it has to do with low self-esteem and even self-loathing. The fantasy of banging and degrading these types of women makes the guy feel sup…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 03:19 PM
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OYS # 18 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 195 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 235 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 230 lbs x 8 reps) Squat: 305.0 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 305 lbs x 8 reps) OHP: 150.0 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 150 lbs x 8 reps) DL: 345.0 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 350 lbs x 8 reps) Bent-Over Row: 185 lbs x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 185 x 8 reps) Sidebar: Pretty much everything. Lifting: I hit all my original 2021 lift goals except…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/21 02:23 PM
2

This does help me see your stance very clearly. I appreciate it. I think part of the reason why I feel the way I do today is because of past experiences before my wife. The first girlfriend I ever had did shit like this. My typical response was to follow your suggestion. Just figuratively shut that door no matter who was at fault. However, I found myself gradually having to do that more and more until it eventually became a pattern and a big problem. It was when I met my wife that I started actu…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 06:54 PM
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I know this happened a long tie ago, but I wanted to apologize for this comment. You were completely right. Not squatting as low as possible affects the deadlift. At least for me it did. I should have listened to your advice instead of being a know it all.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 01:59 PM
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It's obvious I've done a really shitty job explaining myself, even breaking rule 9 in doing so. I'm hearing some good guys here explaining a different point of view, so instead of trying to prove why I'm right, I'm going to reflect on it. A part of me doesn't understand how guys get into these situations with their wives in the first place. However this alone tells me I have no business giving my input on these matters. At the end of the day, you guys built this place and made it what it is toda…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 01:46 PM
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If my wife leaves the door open out of spite, I won't close it for her. If she left it open by accident, that's a different story. About 21 years ago when I first got married, my wife was drunk. During an argument she threw a glass at the wall out of anger. I don't want to say what the argument was about, but it was a more severe compliance test than being asked to get a package. The glass shattered on the kitchen floor and she ran into the bathroom and locked the door and threw a fit. Because I…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 02:14 AM
3

My comment stands. Her leaving the door open should not even register on your list of concerns. It's not about being passive-aggressive. It's about not actually giving a fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 11:25 PM
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I say it’s bad advice for Jerry because it’s bad advice for everyone. I agree with HOA that it depends on the audience. However, I also think it all depends on the reason you didn't get the package. If you were busy at the moment and your wife was not, then I'd treat the situation as if my teenage daughter threw a tantrum because she didn't get what she wanted. It's only a war of wills if you are trying to win something and you actually give a fuck. This was the scenario I assumed that happened.…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 10:38 PM
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I hear you loud and clear. The last thing I want to do is fuck things up for other guys, so I appreciate the straight forward direction.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 06:06 PM
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I get what you're saying. I didn't mean to take away Uncle Jerry's victory or win this week. Ignoring the open door is something I would have done because I actually wouldn't care if she left it open, and I know my wife would forget about any of it within an hour or two anyway. However as you pointed out, Uncle Jerry is at a different point in his progress, so my comment for him isn't very relevant or helpful at all. What you say makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 05:49 PM
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This is very interesting. Shit from the past is starting to make sense now. Back in my OYS # 8 (under "No Game" section) I talked about a co-worker in her 20's who often took time to stop by my office and talk to me. She's actually one of the ones I caught looking at my package and I remember seeing her face get red with embarrassment because I caught her. One day she came behind me and pressed her body up against me and asked me what I was eating for lunch. I talked about how I panicked and bas…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 05:36 PM
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When she came back, she left the door open as a sign of protest. All that followed with the silent treatment for the rest of the night. I didn't budge. I keep on eating. Only after I finish up my food, I walk up and closed the door. I think I would have left the door open until she closed it herself.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 03:15 PM
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I think you're right. If she hasn't done this before, she's been thinking about it for a while. Last week I made a mistake by saying this was a perfect example of hypergamy. I should have said this is a perfect example of a woman's duel mating strategy. When she's says she's happy, I think she actually means her husband satisfies all her comfort and beta needs.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 03:14 PM
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OYS # 17 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 195 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 230 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 230 lbs x 8 reps) Squat: 295.0 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 305 lbs x 8 reps) OHP: 147.5 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 150 lbs x 8 reps) DL: 335.0 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 350 lbs x 8 reps) Bent-Over Row: 180 lbs x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 185 x 8 reps) Sidebar: Pretty much everything. Lifting: Rising up. Gains keep coming and I’m not com…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/21 01:05 PM
4

I just came here to say you have the creepiest post history.
/r/askMRP18/01/21 06:05 PM
2

Meh...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/21 06:48 PM
2

Shit. 5' 10 at 220 lbs with your lifts, that's a fucking hulk.
/r/askMRP17/01/21 03:38 PM
1

Out of curiosity, how tall are you?
/r/askMRP15/01/21 08:47 PM
2

He went out to buy some scratch offs and never came back.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/01/21 07:57 PM
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Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 03:00 PM
2

Neither you are OP have fully internalized that you are the prize, nor have you fully grasped a womans true motivations. Fix that, and both of these comments go away. I missed the comments removed by the moderator, but I think red-sfpplus is spot on concerning my OYS comments made about the lady's husband. I haven't fully internalized being the prize. Definitely gives me something to think about.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/21 02:54 PM
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This post reads like a Haiku. If you want to tap some side ass, then do it and accept any potential consequences. If you imagine the consequences are too great, then accept the situation you're in and focus on something else. What you're doing here in not productive.
/r/askMRP12/01/21 03:44 PM
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Yep. As soon as I got the first DM I knew that's where things were headed.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 02:25 PM
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OYS # 16 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 197 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 230 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 230 lbs x 8 reps) Squat: 290.0 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 305 lbs x 8 reps) OHP: 145.0 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 150 lbs x 8 reps) DL: 325.0 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 350 lbs x 8 reps) Bent-Over Row: 170 lbs x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 185 x 8 reps) Sidebar: Pretty much everything. Lifting: Broke my plateau and started making gains ag…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/01/21 02:06 PM
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haven't you heard about feminism? Didn't you read her profile? She's going to work for NASA.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen07/01/21 03:06 PM
1

BP: 12x114, S: 15x114, DL: 12x114, OP: 8x98 Did you bench press 12 pounds @ 114 reps? Or 114 pounds @ 12 reps?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/21 09:31 PM
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I was around 222-225. Weak as fuck. Almost hyperventilated just by doing squats and deadlifts in the beginning. Before / After MRP - 9.5 Months
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/21 03:56 PM
10

She doesn't need a man, she just wants one. What she needs is a jar of peanut butter and her dog's wet tongue.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/21 03:33 PM
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Good on you for tackling the porn and masterbation issue straight away. I didn't realize it until I quit both completely, but this crap screwed up my dopamine reward system. What area of IT are you studying?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/21 02:54 PM
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OYS # 15 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 197 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 225 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 230 lbs x 8 reps) Squat: 270 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 305 lbs x 8 reps) OHP: 142.5 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 150 lbs x 8 reps) DL: 300 LBS x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 350 lbs x 8 reps) Bent-Over Row: 170 lbs x 8 reps (Advanced Goal: 185 x 8 reps) Sidebar: Pretty much everything. 2021 Focus: I made a lot of great progress in 2020. I wen…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/21 02:27 PM
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I once watched this video of this 3 foot dwarf woman who had a medical condition that made her bones and pelvis brittle. She was constrained by a wheel chair and couldn't even walk or take care of herself. Yet, when presented with the opportunity to date a guy who was around 5'10, normal intelligence but had a limp, she rejected him because "she wanted a normal muscular man who was at least 6 feet". This was a woman who was at the bottom of the barrel. I think this is the mindset you hear men co…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/21 07:19 PM
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Idk why you're comparing yourself to what you think other dudes here look like. Good catch. I asked myself that same question and It's because I'm a very insecure guy. But not for much longer. It kind of feels like peeling an onion for me, but I'll get these mental models hammered out.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 05:42 PM
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"The more worthless they are in life, the better dick they got. That's the true curse of Eve" If there was a red pill for women, this chick is very close to taking the pill. She has become aware of her dual mating strategy.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen29/12/20 05:05 PM
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Hey guys, look at me I'm so hoping this will be your new flair. Good on you for writing your first OYS post.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 03:57 PM
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OYS # 14 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. Together 27 years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 196.5 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 220 LBS x 8 reps Squat: 270 LBS x 8 reps OHP: 137.5 LBS x 8 reps DL: 300 LBS x 8 reps Bent-Over Row: 170 lbs x 8 reps Sidebar: Almost everything. Recently, Reread Athol Kay’s The Mindful Attraction Plan and the Mystery Method. The Power of Now. Mission: See OYS # 8 for mission and goals. Lifts: I lost another 4 lbs as well as some strength in most of my lifts as a resul…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/20 02:36 PM
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Her: “You turned me down last night. You think you can just try to take the power away like that?” Me: Yes. Sex isn't worth any of this shit. I'd rather slap my own salami or put that extra angst into my lifts than chase a woman who keeps turning me down.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/20 05:45 PM
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My wife can't fix shit when it comes to technical. In this scenario, there's a 99% chance she can't turn it on because the battery is out, it's in the process of an update, or she's not pressing the power button on correctly. Asking her to solve it will end in wasted effort and money. Better to just make her wait until I come home and look at it myself. Or delegate it to my youngest daughter. She knows her shit.
/r/askMRP22/12/20 05:52 PM
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[1:42 PM] Wife: It’s not even turning on [5:30 PM] ME: I'll look at it when I get home. [5:31 PM] Wife: Ok!
/r/askMRP22/12/20 05:32 PM
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Retroactive jealousy. It's the biggest waste of energy. Assume no women is honest about her past. The fact that you're hamstering over this list in your head says a lot about you and how much work you need to put into yourself. Good luck.
/r/askMRP22/12/20 01:15 PM
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OYS # 13 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 200.5 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 215 LBS x 11 reps Squat: 280 LBS x 11 reps OHP: 140 LBS x 11 reps DL: 310 LBS x 11 reps Bent-Over Row: 170 lbs x 11 reps Sidebar: Almost everything. Recently, Reread Athol Kay’s The Mindful Attraction Plan and the Mystery Method. The Power of Now. Mission: See OYS # 8 for mission and goals. Lifts: Got either some kind of stomach flu or food poisoning last week. I was puking and had diarrh…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/20 01:07 PM
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The question I have is did you leave the mask on while you banged her doggy style?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/20 04:06 PM
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Stifler's mom
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/12/20 09:20 PM
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"If you're interested in me, I need a 500 word essay on how you're not going to waste my time" Her Inbox: 0 messages...
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/12/20 09:13 PM
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Maybe she hit the wall around age 15.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/12/20 04:53 PM
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She looks older than my wife, and my wife is 47.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen17/12/20 02:31 PM
3

Couldn't be. Red wouldn't have complained it was too big. He would have taken the entire sausage like a champ.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/20 06:08 PM
3

Still no porn for like 7 weeks. Jerking off a few times a week and avoiding unrealistic fantasy or thinking of exes. What's an example of an unrealistic fantasy?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/20 03:47 PM
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You sound like an enabler. And she doesn't sound like a very high quality woman. Why do you put up with this shit?
/r/askMRP16/12/20 02:31 PM
2

I think giving her a $50 gift is fine. Just don't make a big deal about it. And make sure she's Jewish.
/r/askMRP15/12/20 06:46 PM
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I think this is another ant trap MRP post. Somewhere in the shadows u/threekindsoflucky is waiting to hit the ban button for any puke who responds...
/r/askMRP15/12/20 06:37 PM
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Everyone's an instagram model these days.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/12/20 03:30 PM
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OYS # 12 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 209 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 215 LBS x 11 reps Squat: 280 LBS x 11 reps OHP: 140 LBS x 11 reps DL: 310 LBS x 11 reps Bent-Over Row: 170 lbs x 11 reps Sidebar: Almost everything. Recently, Reread Athol Kay’s The Mindful Attraction Plan and the Mystery Method. The Power of Now is next. Been too busy to do any ready lately. Mission: See OYS # 8 for mission and goals. Lifts: My lifting sessions feel safe and good. Much bet…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/20 02:29 PM
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If I were you, I'd just invest in a garage gym. I did this 14 years ago when I had a 2 year old and a newborn without a pandemic. During the COVID shutdown I ended up buying a cheap Bench / Squat Rack, pull-up / dip station, weight belt / chain, bar and 400 lbs weight. This gives you everything you need to do deadlifts, squats, weighted pull-ups, weighted dips, bent-over rows, bench press, over head press, shrugs, curls, preacher curls, calve raises and more. - - - With that said, ask yourself w…
/r/askMRP13/12/20 04:28 PM
2

I donated $10 to you retards because I appreciate your efforts! Don't give any of it to /u/johneyapocalypse. He'll just use his share to get high.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/20 06:29 PM
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"This gives her a bit of leverage just being a woman, you know?" This is the part you don't understand. Overall women aren't attracted to 80% of men. This means there's a 5 to 1 ratio between women and men they actually want. Become one of the top 20% mentally and physically and the math will be in your favor. I believe the 5 to 1 ratio becomes even greater as men reach their 30's, 40's and 50's (when most men become fat, bald, lazy and boring).
/r/askMRP09/12/20 06:59 PM
3

60 lbs shed is awesome. 6'2 and 229 lbs. Good job! What's your ultimate goal?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/20 02:16 PM
1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WuDwUnhwPAk
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 03:49 PM
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OYS # 11 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 209 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 215 LBS x 9 reps Squat: 280 LBS x 9 reps OHP: 140 LBS x 9 reps DL: 310 LBS x 9 reps Bent-Over Row: 170 lbs x 9 reps Sidebar: Almost everything. Recently, Reread Athol Kay’s The Mindful Attraction Plan and the Mystery Method. The Power of Now is next. Been too busy to do any ready lately. Mission: See OYS # 8 for mission and goals. Lifts: I paused on increasing weight to allow my body time t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/20 02:53 PM
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she was crying her eyes out saying how he touched her inappropriately and her boss got furious and said she’ll take steps. Whoa. Hang on for a second. Huge red flag there that goes beyond just cheating. A woman who's drawn to a better deal than the declining man she's with, this is just common AWALT. A woman who accuses the other guy for inappropriate touching when it's obvious that everything was mutual, that's a fucked up woman you want nothing to do with. If she's capable of pulling that shit…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/20 07:33 PM
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Instead of the agreed 10% equity, the plan has me starting at zero percent, then earning 2% every 12 months maxing out at 10% after 5 years. As a co-founder of a startup myself, I see where your boss is coming from. Although you provided a significant contribution and continue to do so, from his perspective, none of this would have been possible without the situation and framework that he put in place that enabled you to do so. None of it would exist without that original idea in his head to cre…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/20 03:45 PM
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”I TOLD YOU not to do it this way! I TOLD YOU to tell me before you start decorating so I can do X! Why can’t you ever just do what I TELL YOU??” I've been married 21 years. I got something similar to this from my wife in the beginning of our relationship (I've been married for 21 years - together 27 years). When it happened to me, I paused and looked her in the eye and said in a stern voice, "Don't ever talk to me like that again. It's not okay. I'd rather be alone than to be treated like this"…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 07:14 PM
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OYS # 10 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 208 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 215 LBS x 8 reps Squat: 280 LBS x 8 reps OHP: 140 LBS x 8 reps DL: 310 LBS x 8 reps Bent-Over Row: 170 lbs x 8 reps Sidebar: Almost everything. Recently, Reread Athol Kay’s The Mindful Attraction Plan and the Mystery Method. The Power of Now is next. Mission: See Previous OYS for mission and goals. Lifts: Increased weight by 5 lbs on bench and overhead press last week. Keeping weight the sa…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/20 03:44 PM
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but in the heat of the moment I think I am still paralyzed by fear of rejection You need to gain confidence through baby steps. Start by giving her a back rub when you're alone in the kitchen. If she starts to moan as most girls do when they get a back rub, tell her to lean down against the counter and continue to move down her back, to the side of her body and then feel her hips. Keep it innocent at first. Repeat these steps next time you give her a back rub. But then this time (while she's moa…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/20 07:20 PM
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I'm not coming here to insult you. I'm coming here to tell you how lucky you are. You learned a significant RP lesson here before you reached your peak. If there's only one thing you do now, stop being fat. Don't even bother with Tinder until you stop being fat.
/r/askMRP25/11/20 02:07 PM
2

I came from a place of laziness and complacency when it came to my marriage...my career path has always been solid. I can relate to this. I admire how you can continue to progress while keeping your ego in check. This is the part for me that I find most difficult. Every success in my life (when it comes to my career or achieving personal goals) was/is driven and fueled by emotional highs, adrenaline and ego. It's as if anything I do in life (no matter how small the task) has to have the intensit…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 08:46 PM
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I sure hope your story is 100% real. As I read your OYS each week it almost seems like it's too good to be true. Amazing progress though. Congratulations man.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 07:20 PM
2

Many of the side bar books are in audio format, so I listened to them while in the car, lifting or multi-tasking. One of the rules is you don't talk about fight club. So wife should only see the byproduct of your red pill journey.
/r/askMRP24/11/20 03:54 PM
1

I recommend moving this to askMrp. It will probably be deleted.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 03:47 PM
1

I kinda see your point. She even says "the right guy is an illusion". 99.99999999999999999% of women will never ever realize this.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen24/11/20 03:33 PM
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At my last birthday it dawned on me that my life is half over (if I’m lucky). There's something that seems to happen when a guy starts realizing there's fewer years ahead than behind him. I noticed this happens to guys like us in our 40's. The realization that we no longer want the heavy burden of carrying the same emotional baggage into the second 1/2 of our lives. For the lucky ones, it forces us to reevaluate what our priorities and concerns have been. For the unlucky ones, they continue as t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 02:53 PM
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OYS # 9 Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 206 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 210 LBS x 8 reps Squat: 280 LBS x 8 reps OHP: 135 LBS x 8 reps DL: 305 LBS x 8 reps Bent-Over Row: 170 lbs x 8 reps Sidebar: Almost everything. Recently, Reread Athol Kay’s The Mindful Attraction Plan and the Mystery Method. The Power of Now is next. Mission: To create and innovate. To stay hungry and continue learning the latest and greatest technologies in my field. Main Goals: Continue cr…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/20 02:42 PM
5

She's accepted her obesity, so you should too!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/11/20 02:17 PM
6

I got your sarcasm.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen23/11/20 02:15 PM
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I'm dumb mother fucker # 1. I think the biggest lesson for me yesterday was realizing the vets here can spot bullshit a mile away. They got newbies pegged into several archetypes that they've seen come and go over the years. None of us are special. If they respond in any way to your OYS, then don't be like me. STFU and process the information. Eventually it will make sense, unless you're unable to tell your ego to step aside. It sucks to hear the truth, but much appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/20 02:15 PM
2

Agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 09:39 PM
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I've been married for 21 years (I'm 47), but I'm aware of the dating market for the late 40's and 50's crowd in my area. My wife and I have many friends on either side and we hear many stories. It's basically a shit show with both sides having a ton of baggage. If you have: a stable job muscular six pack (or at least don't have a beer gut) take decent care of yourself, dress nice, appear as if you don't give a shit about the small stuff have a few interesting hobbies and friends. then you will b…
/r/askMRP17/11/20 04:39 PM
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red-sfpplus knows what he's talking about. OP You just answered your own question. Yes, if you're one of the 95% of guys in their 40's and 50's who's a fat piece of shit, then it's going to be hard to get back into the dating market. However if you put a little effort into yourself and actually get into shape and build muscle, you have the pick of the litter. Same goes for if you're a fit man in a 20 year relationship. She'll be less likely to ignore your needs if she knows you have many options…
/r/askMRP17/11/20 04:01 PM
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Lifting weights will cure 99% of your problems. I came here to say this. Sometimes I look around at all the guys in their 40's and 50's and notice 95% of them are fat pieces of shit.
/r/askMRP17/11/20 03:55 PM
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Thank you. I should have STFU and reflected even more so I could have figured that out on my own. Instead I tried to DEER and explain away why I'm different than everyone else here, when actually I'm no different. By doing this I missed an important underlying message from you. What you said makes 100% sense. I will do better next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 03:17 PM
3

Fuck. The irony of the flair you bestowed upon me doesn't surpass me. If I can't STFU with you when you're taking your time to give me advice, how can I expect anyone to believe that I can with my own wife? Lesson learned and touche. Edit: I do need to STFU with my wife. And I do need to STFU with you guys. Instead I'm trying to explain away why I'm a fricken' unicorn when in fact I'm no different than any other guy here.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 03:05 PM
2

I didn't have all the information until now. If I had it then, then I would have done it then.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 02:51 PM
2

"Oh look at me mommy! I fucking told you you dumb bitch! Should've respected me more back then when I was a fat piece of shit huh!" You edited your original response I saw in messages after I replied, so I'm replying again. I don't feel any of this. I know I was a fat piece of shit, but I don't think she should have respected me one bit. I gave up on covert contracts long ago. However 2 things can be true at once. 1 - I can understand that I was at fault. 2 - I can make my boundaries known on wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 02:47 PM
2

A part of me thinks its weak to just tuck it under and put my head in the sand. I have evidence that a boundary was crossed. For me, I need to give her a clear warning shot on what to expect if she ever decides to cross it again. Short and sweet, and we move on. What she does after is entirely up to her. I won't lose any more sleep over it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 02:29 PM
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OYS # 8 - The Anal Failure Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 201 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 205 LBS x 8 reps Squat: 265 LBS x 8 reps OHP: 120 LBS x 8 reps DL: 285 LBS x 8 reps Bent-Over Row: 160 lbs x 8 reps Walk 3 miles per day 2-3 days per week. Sidebar: Almost everything. Recently, Reread Athol Kay’s The Mindful Attraction Plan. Now reading the Mystery Method. Mission: To create and innovate. I feel like a kid again when I’m in the zone and creating something …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/20 02:07 PM
1

How tall are you?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/20 05:43 PM
2

Check out his post history. 14 posts to nofap. 1 post to here. Fuck, I never understood these nofap guys. If you're constantly thinking of nofap, you're gonna want to fap even more...
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/20 06:46 PM
1

When your woman isn't visiting you on the weekend, she's riding my 17.78 cm pole.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/20 06:36 PM
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"She has told me that she wants to be treated like a whore and have a very submissive vibe in bed but she when just verebally right before sex have asked her for blowjob she has said no." You don't ask a slut or a whore for a blowjob. You tell her.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/20 03:30 PM
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Thanks man. I appreciate your time and feedback.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/20 02:22 PM
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Thank you. It's extremely disruptive. Especially for a guy like me who's always been on the dismissive avoidant side when it comes to dealing with shit in his life. My first instinct is to just blow things up. Either by just walking away, or doing something to blow it up like cheating myself. As HornsOfApathy said. I'm being a retard. It's my way of saying fuck this, I'll show her. Any other way such as letting it pass and staying quiet is out of the question. I feel myself going to a bad place.…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 02:31 PM
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Cause mommy finally gave you permission. When you started to actually consume the red pill, did you ever have that a-ha moment that women were no longer superior to men in regards to virtue? That women used this illusion to try and manipulate and control men? Before you had this moment, did you ever feel guilty for thoughts of cheating and lust during your blue pill days? This is what I'm referring to when I talk about a liability lifted off my shoulders. Is finally knowing the truth about women…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 02:15 PM
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fuck! Don't you fucking get it? You arrived here on the highs and lows of a woman and now you're planning on doing it again? What the actual fucking fuck? Are you a fucking retard? I'm starting to think I am a retard. Attention and validation from other females is fucking powerful to me right now. I need to put this in check.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:26 PM
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Go ahead, convince yourself on an external party. No you're right. I knew there was an important point you were driving at. I just missed it the first time around. Thanks as always.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 08:15 PM
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That's exactly what has gone through my head since the suspicions began. In a way I feel like she's damaged goods regardless of the reason and whether or not she'll try it again. I have a lot of shit to figure out. I feel like I took a few steps back this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 07:14 PM
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I thought about what you said here, and I’m not saying you're wrong. You’ve been around enough to see patterns in men many times over, so you’re obviously seeing something here. However, why am I not feeling angry or depressed about seeing what my wife did (or tried to do)? Instead of being butt-hurt, why do I feel as if there’s been some liability lifted off my shoulders? For 21 years I believed I was married to a pure virgin unicorn. I felt guilt and shame for finding other women attractive to…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 07:07 PM
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Congrats on your first step. I look forward to following your OYS's since your situation sounds a little similar to mine.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 04:38 PM
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OYS # 7 - The Awakening Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 201 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 205 LBS x 8 reps Squat: 265 LBS x 8 reps OHP: 120 LBS x 8 reps DL: 285 LBS x 8 reps Bent-Over Row: 160 lbs x 8 reps Walk 3 miles per day 2-3 days per week. Sidebar: Almost everything. Reading and rereading Athol Kay’s The Mindful Attraction Plan The Lifts: After a few great weeks of gains, I’m not going to increase the weight for another week or 2. In the past I always seemed…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/20 01:19 PM
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STFU is an important lesson in life. Trumps relationship with the media kind of resembles some relationships I've seen. Whereas the guy just keeps arguing with his wife just to win. When all it does at the end of the day is make her more of an emotional basket case at the expense of his energy being diverted from getting important shit done.
/r/askMRP09/11/20 07:15 PM
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At first glance I thought this post violated Rule 2. However it's minimally sufficient enough to convey an important message.
/r/askMRP09/11/20 06:42 PM
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Excellent advice and thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/20 09:37 PM
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You got nothing. She can use total deniability if that's all you got. If your gut is telling you something, sit back and observe her actions for a while. This way you'll have more information either way to make a decision.
/r/askMRP04/11/20 09:09 PM
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I'm in a similar situation as you. I suspect something happened before COVID lockdown back in March, but it's only hearsay. Personally I choose to watch her actions for now and focus on becoming a more attractive and capable man, not the drunk captain puke who let himself go for 5 years. If something happened (happens), I'll eventually find out regardless if it was past, present or future. What I won't do is lay my cards out on the table too soon when I have the option to get a peak at the hand …
/r/askMRP04/11/20 08:51 PM
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GW you should change your reddit profile picture to this. https://experimentwithyourfood.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/smashed-donut.jpg
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 07:33 PM
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GW The Cake Destroyer. Now GW Smasher of the Donut. Even though you and I are battling different demons, your OYS still brings me inspiration.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 06:03 PM
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OYS # 6 - Check In Me: 47 yrs. Wife: 47 yrs. Married 21 Years. 2 teenage daughters. Weight: 201 lbs Height: 5’11 BP: 205 LBS x 8 reps Squat: 265 LBS x 8 reps OHP: 120 LBS x 8 reps DL: 285 LBS x 8 reps Bent-Over Row: 160 lbs x 8 reps Walk 3 miles per day 2-3 days per week. Sidebar: See previous OYS history. Now reading Athol Kay’s The Mindful Attraction Plan Map: This OYS is more or less just a check in, so I won’t be going into details about my relationship, career, etc this week. Most of my pro…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 03:41 PM
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Premature ejaculation is usually 95% mental, 5% it feels good. Become the prize and you can fuck all day. Or just think about dead kittens.
/r/askMRP30/10/20 04:00 PM
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Thank you. You hit the nail on the head about a lot of things. Like you more or less said, I need to ask myself what’s my narrative? And why am I even doing this? I know the answers, but I haven’t clearly laid them out to myself or my OYS’s. What you said about being a tyrant, it’s true. I’ve been so hard on myself my entire life. At 47, I’m realizing there’s more years behind me than ahead of me. I want to live these last several decades happy. My worst nightmare is waking up 70 years old and s…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/20 01:37 PM
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I had to google what a "dick pancake" was. I learn something new everyday. https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Dick%20Pancake
/r/askMRP29/10/20 09:11 PM
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Thanks for your feed back TKL. I really appreciate it. You bring up a good point about vision. I guess I’m struggling with that right now. I know what I want in life, but right now the only way I know how to get there is by doing things. I drove myself pretty hard goal-wise my entire life. The same energy went into everything I did including career, lifting or hobbies in the past. But I could only juggle 1 or 2 balls at a time. What ended up happening was I’d focus on 1 or 2 things and make such…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 02:12 PM
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There's a lot to unpack here. I would think you were my brother and his wife based on your story. Ask yourself if you want to deal with the schizophrenia part alone. For many that's too much. Not only having to live with someone who has it, but it's genetic and you can pass it on to your kids. Remove the schizophrenia aspect, and your wife seems to be suffering from limerence. This is beyond alpha widow. Its obsessive and compulsive thoughts about the other guy that don't go away. The fact this …
/r/askMRP28/10/20 01:54 PM
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For me there was many aspects of red pill that I learned at different points in my life (most important ones I'm learning now at age 47). So it isn't a matter of learning it before or after. For instance, 30 years ago I learned the hard way (after my first girlfriend) that a girl will look down on you and take you for granted if you put her up on a pedestal. So I stopped doing this before I met my wife. It's one reason she said I stood out from the other guys. The lifting and its benefits with w…
/r/askMRP28/10/20 01:34 PM
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OYS # 5 5’11 @ 201 LBS, Mid-40’s. Married 21 Years. 2 teenage daughters BP: 190 LBS x 10, Squat: 230 LBS x 10, OHP: 110 LBS x 8, DL: 265 LBS x 10, Bent-Over Row: 150 lbs x 10. Walk 3 miles per day 2 days per week. Sidebar: See previous OYS history. Lifting/Diet/Fitness: Lifts started improving again after I started increasing my calorie intake. Eating 2000 calories per day Sunday-Thursdays. Friday and Saturdays are cheat days. On Saturday night I ate 5 Big Cup Reeses Peanut Butter Cups and 3 pac…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 01:15 PM
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I've seen this same story over the years. If the goal is to keep a happy stable marriage, then this doesn't end well for OP. She's not looking for a new branch to swing to. Right now. She's been too busy grieving a loss over the past 6 months. Hence the betrayal PTSD groups. If there was any hysterical bonding on her part, it will soon fade if it hasn't already. Eventually she'll be very open to validation from other men. The resentment she has for OP will fester. She'll eventually convince hers…
/r/askMRP26/10/20 12:59 PM
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Going to the gym should be out of discipline and habit, not motivation. Trying to do it out of motivation only will burn you out. Just go in and get it done and get out. Then do it again the next day. Don't try and get all your needs met through a single activity. Diversify.
/r/askMRP23/10/20 03:27 PM
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Thanks for the information. I will make sure to read these. My state of mind has been so fucked up chasing external validation and approval for so many years. The only thing that seems to be working on improving my state of mind is blunt force cognitive behavior therapy. Frame is a hard thing for me to understand and internalize.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/20 12:35 PM
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OYS # 4 5’11 @ 201 LBS, Mid-40’s. Married 21 Years. 2 teenage daughters BP: 185 LBS x 10, Squat: 225 LBS x 10, OHP: 110 LBS x 8, DL: 245 LBS x 10, Bent-Over Row: 140 lbs x 10. Walk 3 miles per day 5 days per week. Sidebar: MMSLP 2011, Rational Male Volumes 1-3, Practical Female Psychology, NMMNG, The Way of the Superior Man Got Rule 9’ed 2 weeks ago and banned so had to post late this week. If you performed a word count on the amount of “she’s” it lit up like a Christmas Tree, so I’ll do better …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/20 12:02 PM
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Your past post about "Why am I not attracted to good women?" sheds some light. Aside from watching too much porn, you probably get off and fantasize about degrading sluts and whores. Maybe because of your self-loathing, and being with shitty women who sleep with anyone and everyone makes you feel superior to them. What you fail to understand is you have the power to turn your wife into a slut. For the right guy, there's a whore and slut in every women.
/r/askMRP20/10/20 09:00 PM
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meh
/r/askMRP14/10/20 03:55 PM
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My business partner told me a story about his wife hitting him one time when she was in a rage . He called the cops and they came to arrest her. They dragged her out in handcuffs and all. He said her mugshot was priceless with tears and mascara running down her face while holding the sign. She never hit him again.
/r/askMRP14/10/20 02:09 PM
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OYS # 3 5’11 @ 203 LBS, Mid-40’s. Married 21 Years. BP: 185 LBS x 10, Squat: 225 LBS x 10, OHP: 110 LBS x 8, DL: 235 LBS x 10, Bent-Over Row: 130 lbs x 10 Sidebar: MMSLP 2011, Rational Male Volumes 1-3, Practical Female Psychology, NMMNG, The Way of the Superior Man Lifting/Diet/Fitness: Lifted 5 days this week. Increased my deadlift by 10 lbs, and bent over row by 10 lbs. I actually went down in my upper body push exercises. Thinking this is because I was off for 6 days, and I’m cutting my calo…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 01:43 PM
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This is an extreme version of lacking frame; not only do you lack your own frame, you literally panic if you fail to fully subsume yourself into someone else's frame. This here is the heart of my problem. Develop your own frame. Until I started posting here in mrp, I just focused on increasing the strength of my lifts. Now I need to start increasing the strength of my frame; or lack thereof.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 01:53 PM
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I'll take your advice. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 08:53 PM
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I love what these guys are doing. Personally I'd like to see them feature OYS's based on their own picks.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 06:34 PM
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My wife was his first woman, he had average looks, not tall, not macular, lives with his parents and never had a girlfriend in his life I've seen this a lot with women I work with in the office. The walls are thin. Contrary to what many believe, sometimes all it takes is a guy who makes her feel a certain way regardless of whether or not he's physically a Chad. If the way he makes her feel is an unmet need from you, then sometimes that's all it takes.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 04:57 PM
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OYS # 2 5’11 @ 205 LBS, Mid-40’s. Married 21 Years. BP: 190 LBS x 10, Squat: 225 LBS x 10, OHP: 120 LBS x 8, DL: 225 LBS x 10 Sidebar: MMSLP 2011, Rational Male Volumes 1-3, Practical Female Psychology, NMMNG, The Way of the Superior Man Additional: Read most marriedRedPill and askMRP posts and comments. Watched all WhineMorePlease videos. Watch Rian Stone’s videos. Before I begin, I’d like to say I’m really finding a lot of value in the YouTube videos by weakandsensitive and horns. I’d say it’s…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 04:45 PM
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You're absolutely right. Especially the last sentence.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/20 02:29 PM
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I did understand HornsOfApathy's point straight away, but you're right I didn't empathize it. Whether I choose to learn to be handy or delegate these tasks should come from a place within my own frame, because it's what I want. Not because I'm trying to keep track of points with my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/09/20 01:32 PM
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No thanks. I work in the physical therapy field. A2G vs parallel is debatable. As a man who's 47, I'll take the advice of 3 physical therapists I know and work with personally over some dude on the internet who takes gear. https://www.advancedhumanperformance.com/atgparallelsquats
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/20 01:07 PM
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Not much of an ask. What's stopping you? What's stopping me is me and my excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 06:58 PM
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Maybe your time is more valuable doing other other things and delegating that task to someone else so you can go do other things of greater value to YOUR LIFE and not worried about how your wife will "deduct alpha points"? Or, you can choose to learn how to be handy because YOU WANT TO. I was too far up everyone else's frame to see it this way. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 06:45 PM
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OYS # 1 5’11 @ 205 LBS, Mid-40’s. Married 21 Years. BP: 190 LBS x 10, Squat: 225 LBS x 10, OHP: 120 LBS x 8, DL: 225 LBS x 10 Sidebar: MMSLP 2011, Rational Male Volumes 1-3, Practical Female Psychology, NMMNG, The Way of the Superior Man Additional: Read most marriedRedPill and askMRP posts and comments. Watched all WhineMorePlease videos. Watch Rian Stone’s videos. Introduction: This is my first post. Found MRP about 4 months ago. I’m just going to lay it all out simply. I’m more or less a drun…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 05:11 PM
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