Starting Red Pill with an infant

HornsOfApathy · 2020-12-12T03:40:26+00:00

Approved so you guys can get to the retard of the problem.

friendofthedevil84 · 2020-12-12T03:45:10+00:00

I would definitely wait until your kid is at least in college to improve yourself.

TRT_Maybe_Deca · 2020-12-12T05:07:50+00:00

I'm pretty pissed now

You know why you are pissed, because you did what you thought you were supposed to do and then 'Rona showed you that you still have no fuckin clue what you are doing.

You read the books, started martial arts, started lifting.... why didn't everything just fall in place?

Because you are still the same beta fuck you were before, you didn't internalize any of this shit!

At this point, I don't care to be married anymore,

How would your life be better if you were single, and more importantly why are you not doing that right now?

Be honest, nuking your marriage wouldn't make your any better , so chill the fuck out and get your shit together

Start back at NMMNG, reread that and actually do the work. You went right back to MMSLP because you are more concerned with getting sex then you are about being a better version of you. Your not going to get laid consistently until you can quit caring so much about getting laid for fucks sake

nantucketghost · 2020-12-12T16:08:44+00:00

A lot of blaming it all on the gym. Take some ownership. You are full of excuses instead of just doing.

You can walk outside, run out side, do pushups, buy a couple of weights and do higher repetitions, you can follow a body weight program on your computer that will kick your ass.

there are no excuses unless you want to make them.

Infants? They sleep all the time. Push them around in a stroller. Eat better. Let them chill on a blanket while you do your workout at home. You don't need abundance mentality, you just need to focus on improving yourself and most likely losing that weight you've put on. Did you gain that Covid 20, 40, 50? Be honest. Take off your shirt and look in the mirror and ask again: Why doesn't my wife want me?

BobbyPeru · 2020-12-12T04:10:00+00:00

I don't have oneitis, but lack abundance mentality since I don't have a life.

Nope, You have oneitis.

Feeling stuck with everything closed.

Quit making excuses for being a faggo#.

Just looking for tips from guys who tried to turn their life around with an infant in the picture

An infant is another BS excuse for you being too much if a faggo# to stand up to your wife and get in the gym... You’re terrified of her because you have ONEitis and a scarcity mindset.

rewire_your_brain · 2020-12-12T12:59:15+00:00

Welcome to extra hard mode. You have to thread the needle between red pill, putting yourself and your self respect first, and the genetically ingrained need to protect your family, not to mention all the social conditioning that makes you wonder what's the right thing to do.

From personnal experience, I would ease off a little on the building of a life outside of home, and the pushing for frequency of sex, until her cycle comes back. Our infant is 8 months old, my wife is still breastfeeding so no period, and we have sex once a week, so YMMV.

You will still have plenty of opportunities to practice red pill concepts while at home, against your most formidable oponent, your wife. You can still focus on yourself and on your attractiveness: STFU, be aloof, confident, be the oak, be the leader your family needs during this vulnerable period.

Edit: regarding lifting, I do long workout (SQ, BP, BR, dips) on weekends, and short workout (SP, DL, chins) on a weekday after work. Everybody says it's not enough but it works for me, I get to increase weight/reps everytime, and just accept the slow progress. In your case I would not back down, or keep a minimum of 3x week since you already established this boundary, but would not go too hard on the rest of the stuff that makes you leave home. You already have a lock on the most important one, lifting.

good_looking_man · 2020-12-13T16:28:35+00:00

If I were you, I'd just invest in a garage gym. I did this 14 years ago when I had a 2 year old and a newborn without a pandemic. During the COVID shutdown I ended up buying a cheap Bench / Squat Rack, pull-up / dip station, weight belt / chain, bar and 400 lbs weight.

This gives you everything you need to do deadlifts, squats, weighted pull-ups, weighted dips, bent-over rows, bench press, over head press, shrugs, curls, preacher curls, calve raises and more.

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With that said, ask yourself why you became more beta after everything closed down this year? That's just an external problem that any red pill man can solve when they put their thinking cap on.

beardedbaboon · 2020-12-19T11:33:20+00:00

You have to start to shift focus to yourself. Start take steps to better yourself. Less or no sex during and after pregnancy is more a rule than an exception. To show hurt about it doesn´t help at all. It will actually make it worse and prevent you from starting your sexlife again.

Be helpful at home and with your daughter without whining about it. Be respectful at your wife and she will be respectful to you. Start to prioritize yourself and be a rock. The sex will return when she sees you like a man and not one of her kids.

Don´t force any active dread in your position. Better youself and let the changes take time.

Motorized23 · 2020-12-12T12:34:18+00:00

You have a powerful weapon now. Your child is your priority. Turn the world upside down to ensure your child gets the best of everything THROUGH you. Improve yourself professionally, physically and mentally. It's still about you, but now you have the most powerful motivator to improve.

Yurcak · 2020-12-12T21:18:49+00:00

Schedule your gym time and let her know when so you both can plan for your absence. When that time comes up drop everything and leave.

She will bitch about it for the first two weeks then it will just be routine.

Also make sure you man up and change diapers and stuff. My wife nursed so her job was to manage the baby since I couldn't do any feeding and my job was to manage her and make sure she got enough sleep.

PutABabyInThat · 2020-12-18T17:27:02+00:00

At this point, I don't care to be married anymore

Why? Because you're so unattractive that your wife won't fuck you?

Or is it because you're so afraid of her that you feel like you can't do any of the things you want to do?

Those are both really good reasons to divorce her.

Clearly she is the problem here.

JDRoedell · 2020-12-22T00:33:18+00:00

Do you want to help with the baby occasionally? Do that. Should you get the fuck out of the house occasionally for your own sanity or to work out? Absolutely! No need to go full retarded on the dread now. This is a phase. It will end. You for sure won’t be the priority in her life now so make yourself your own priority. Better yet, get to a place where you don’t care if she prioritizes you.

Jaggarojo · 2020-12-12T03:57:48+00:00

On normal weeks, you can lift your wife. On deload weeks, you can lift the baby. You can stack NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP if the lift doesn't feel heavy enough. Good luck!

feargrinn · 2020-12-13T16:21:28+00:00

I hit a squat PR while my wife was in labour. Day after the birth I got her settled at home and headed out to the gym again.

I can’t recall what I got that day but I’m sure it was light bench.

Tips? Put the grandmothers to work.

redwall92 · 2020-12-14T15:05:27+00:00

Wife and I have a 3 week old infant. Have had sex about 5 times since she got pregnant, last time months ago.

Ouch man. Not sure if my experience was typical, but there were some freaky times in the ~2 months before birth for most of my children. Like freak-show man. I'm talking night before birth things were happening that were tiring me out. I am still surprised looking back at what that woman was capable of with a little human inside her.

Is it selfish to hit the gym 3-4x /wk with a newborn?

Dude.... "currently re-reading" shit. Shut the fuck up man. Read and gym.

Is the total 180 going to force a break/divorce if I go too hard right now?

What the fuck does this even mean? Are you asking if you control your wife's decisions? Because if you think you control your wife's decisions, then let me know what you're smoking. I'd like some later tonight out on my deck. Sounds like you're high AF if you think you can control your wife's decisions.

Just looking for tips from guys who tried to turn their life around with an infant in the picture.

Hello unicorn.

RicoDunne · 2020-12-14T17:29:05+00:00

During this pandemic a wife needs a man /leader she can look up to, provide emotional stability, and physical protection. Yours doesn't have that, so let's run-away from it all, because it'll be better over the rainbow.

NeoTheJuanDJ · 2020-12-19T00:25:41+00:00

You now have permission to be a man, and to do the things you want to do. - Anonymous internet stranger

RomulusTurbo · 2020-12-17T17:25:29+00:00

Just wake up extra early and go while they’re asleep if that’s an option. Not sure if gyms are open where you are.

RStonePT · 2021-01-02T18:01:27+00:00

Leave him in the forest with a cape and a spear, if he comes back wearing a wolfs head he is allowed in the tribe.

business---travel · 2020-12-12T09:15:43+00:00

Waves upon waves of shit.

RStonePT · 2020-12-13T00:37:51+00:00

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dankeykang4200 · 2020-12-12T10:14:25+00:00

When the baby gets hungry while your wife is sleeping you can just give it your wife's titty. You don't even have to wake her up. She'll probbly be less bitchy than normal when she does wake up.

Title	Starting Red Pill with an infant
Author	tabula_rasa_889
Upvotes	14
Comments	34
Date	December 12, 2020 3:32 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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