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Yeah, I actually appreciate the brevity in this post. Simple. Time saving.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/22 02:10 PM
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I don’t check in here often but what a surprise to open up Reddit today and see a post from Stoney. Half expect to see ultmatcad make an appearance. Yes, lead-LARPing is a common problem here. I was guilty of it myself years ago. Have your purpose, put your happiness first and the rest should fall into place. I don’t even seek to lead or think about it. It’s just the way it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/21 01:53 PM
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Everything is a calculated risk. Men take risks. With that said, just don’t be a sperg. Err on the side of less details. This isn’t rocket science.
/r/askMRP13/01/21 02:31 PM
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“I’ll look at it when I get home.” End of conversation. Texting is for logistics only
/r/askMRP22/12/20 06:43 PM
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Her comments about making rules and you not being able to to find anyone better are shit tests. They seem like the kind women throw when they don’t like changes in your demeanor. Don’t talk about sex or what she does or doesn’t do when you initiate. Acta non verba.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/20 03:09 PM
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Do you want to help with the baby occasionally? Do that. Should you get the fuck out of the house occasionally for your own sanity or to work out? Absolutely! No need to go full retarded on the dread now. This is a phase. It will end. You for sure won’t be the priority in her life now so make yourself your own priority. Better yet, get to a place where you don’t care if she prioritizes you.
/r/askMRP22/12/20 12:33 AM
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Do what you want. You seem to be doing just fine. Stop over analyzing. The last half of this is just a brag. And watch their actions, not their words. Acta non verba. With all that said, don’t dig through the trash. It’s usually not worth it
/r/askMRP23/08/20 05:01 AM
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Ha! Who downvoted this?
/r/askMRP11/07/20 02:04 AM
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Ha! Is #3 , chop your own firewood?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 06:45 PM
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Why call her your “partner?” That’s weak, SJW bluepill stuff that comes from believing she’s your egalitarian equal. Stop it (face slap.) Simply put, you’re not giving her the tingles enough. Reread your post and point out the behaviors and lack of other qualities that puts you too much in the “comfort zone.” You’ll get your MAP if you’re honest about what you see.
/r/askMRP01/07/20 02:17 PM
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Even though I don’t really “need it” anymore, it’s always good to watch your vids for mental refreshers... and for entertainment. And I’ve picked up some new recipes to throw around to boot. Keep it up
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/20 01:46 PM
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I don’t know, I think it’s pretty well stated in that post
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/19 08:34 PM
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These guys need to understand that Taking your balls back will initially cause the wife to act indignantly... perhaps even cunty. Especially if it’s new behavior to her and she doesn’t know what to make of it. Strength of frame will be the deciding factor in how long you ride through that storm.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/19 05:27 PM
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Sounds like sex isn’t important to her. It is to you. Make sure she knows that. Your frame is, “I’ll be having sex... you can be involved or not.” Edit; this of course assuming you’re as high quality as you think first.
/r/askMRP08/12/19 04:04 PM
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Since everyone else has already chimed in with A&A and AM I’ll say that it’s different for everyone. I’m naturally lean and on the ectomorphic side so I have more of a “swimmers physique” or Brad Pitt from Fight Club. I’ll never be able to have huge arms and a thick neck. Just ain’t in my genetics but I sure as shit make sure my pecs, shoulders and lats pop. Focus on compound lifts and supplement with isolation work when and where you can
/r/askMRP06/12/19 07:47 PM
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Some of the hardest negotiating, no, demanding of sex I’ve seen in a while. Some women just aren’t sexual and some guys won’t get it out of them. Hard to say which it is here but it may not be worth OPs time to find out.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/19 05:53 PM
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Been away from here for a while and decided to read your post first. Good job. Hopefully it’s inspiring for other new guys not sure what to do first
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/19 03:44 PM
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I’m both excited for and not envious of you at the same time. Welcome
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/19 06:58 PM
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This is sort of an analogy for having options with women.
/r/askMRP09/07/19 09:04 PM
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Another good example of being your own mental point of origin. Know that you can be “party hosting guy,” but realize you don’t have to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/07/19 01:56 PM
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Hey buddy. Welcome back. Good stuff here.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 08:41 PM
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I needed respect, peacefulness at home, and good enthusiastic and frequent sex. I like how you differentiate wants and needs. I very recently had to reset a boundary with my wife related to me having a drama free zone at home. That’s one of my needs. I too have always advocated, against a lot of advice here, that being strategically overt at key times isn’t always a bad idea. It’s ALWAYS after you’ve made yourself a valuable man though. Men forget that the feminine primary conditioning has negat…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/19 02:17 PM
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Watch this . This is the outcome you want. “I choose you,” is one of the sexiest things your woman can say... right behind, “bend me over.”
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/19 03:57 PM
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Damn that tuna melt looked good.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 09:07 PM
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Excellent refresher. Sometimes basic rehashing of the core principles is well needed here.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/19 11:09 PM
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Don’t marry her. Pretty simple. Is sex important to you? It’s not going to get better when you’re married... I can promise you that.
/r/askMRP23/05/19 06:02 PM
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I apologize, sir... she hasn’t had her afternoon snack yet today.
/r/askMRP23/05/19 05:22 PM
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Connection is woman speak for “emotion.” The more varied the better
/r/askMRP20/05/19 06:46 PM
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Good analogy
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 06:38 PM
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I know it. I try to remember this post of mine when I see some new guy asking dumb shit and saying dumb shit like I did here. Then I proceed to call them a faggot just like I was.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/19 01:03 AM
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Ha! Good times. Here’s my first ever shitshow of a post. Ass kicking, faggot calling cameos include you, W&S, Cad, BPP, Archwinger and Jack10. So much learnin’ me.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 07:12 PM
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Don’t forget 2Guns with the most detail oriented string of field reports depicting how he went from zero to hero in about a year. So many examples
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 05:20 PM
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I liked this post and replies. Reminds me of the good old days of MRP
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 02:54 PM
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This post and all the replies remind me of 2015-2017 MRP. The good old days.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/19 02:50 PM
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There’s definitely an inverse relationship between how long one is on MRP and how much LARPing they do. I was in denial about my own for at least a year and a half. And you know what? My LARPing wasn’t really action based (I lifted, I got hobbies, etc), it was more mental based. I was LARPing the mindset
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/19 04:53 PM
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Worthy question here, OP. I know you’ve chosen not to go the divorce route which is fine since you’re owning it but once kids are in the picture that option becomes more... harrowing.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/19 04:44 PM
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I’d love you... but I probably wouldn’t be “in love with you” 🤷🏻‍♂️ Whatever you do, you don’t have to answer the question, you’re just asserting that you do value physical attractiveness. Unapologetically
/r/askMRP02/05/19 11:37 AM
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Because while she may be better than other girls for reasons you define, she’s not special and is subject to the same forces all women are. Women lose respect for you when you pedestalize them.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/19 01:42 AM
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In other words, instead of just making “pussy worshipping”songs like you hear today, they are singing about the pitfalls of such a frame. One could argue that all Blues music is a warning about this. Zeppelin was heavily influenced by American blues music.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 02:52 PM
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I love this topic. Those are good examples you threw out. You are correct. From a redpill perspective, these songs both show how a man will not be happy when he pedestalizes a woman and when he’s the one with more to lose. Again, it’s as if Plant and Page knew this instinctively and are warning men about being over invested. At least that’s what I hear. Lyrics below: Hey Hey What Can I do: https://www.azlyrics.com/lyrics/ledzeppelin/heyheywhatcanido.html Since I’ve Been Lovin’ You: https://www.a…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/19 02:47 PM
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You need to see a professional therapist that would treat this kind of anxiety. Do that first. MRP wont be able to help you until you do.
/r/askMRP27/04/19 11:43 AM
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Oh they absolutely knew. I’m sure they, like many rock stars, saw the true nature of women all the time. Thanks, I purposefully left Dazed and Confused out because you aptly covered it in your videos.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 08:55 PM
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Try a nice V-neck, Henley or even a light long sleeve shirt instead of a polo. Check out the casual shirts at Untuckit for some variety.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 11:02 AM
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I miss Blarg. Nice post. I’ve found shoes/boots to be one of the most frequently complimented items I wear. Women notice shoes a lot. I’ll go ahead and plug Thursday Boots if anyone is looking for a reasonably priced, sharp looking pair of boots.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/19 11:00 AM
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It’s all about the emotions. It’s drama for its own sake.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 06:57 PM
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I wonder where he is now.... I like to tell my wife that she put the toilet paper roll on backwards sometimes.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/19 11:06 AM
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Right. Even if your assessment of your own value is deluded... that’s where "fuck you you don't matter,” comes into play.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 10:48 AM
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Yes! Great blues inspired tune. Only played it live twice because it was too hard to reproduce the drum sound live.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/19 10:45 AM
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Phenomenal song
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 06:26 PM
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She has no idea what she wandered into. I won’t hold it against her.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 04:17 PM
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Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/19 04:16 PM
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Awesome. DL zero... stop being a pussy.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/19 11:50 AM
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Women will behave as badly as you let them.
/r/askMRP14/04/19 03:16 PM
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Don’t forget that “verbal intercourse” is optional. There’s a good post on this in MRP main sub. Search for it. Just as sex is optional to some women, you don’t have to sit there and DEER why you didn’t want to go. In short, you don’t owe her any answer as to why you didn’t feel like going beyond, “I’d rather stay... have a good time.” This is straight up manipulative behavior on her part. Her feelings, her problem. It’s how you respond to this behavior that’s important. Redsf is right about the…
/r/askMRP08/04/19 07:56 PM
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I just altered SL 5x5 into SL 4x10. You could even do 3x10 if 4 sets is too much volume
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/19 11:08 AM
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About two years ago I switched to a modified version of SL 5x5 similar to what you talk about here. I called it SL hypertrophy. If nothing else, it will help you break out of plateaus and subject your muscles to different stimulation which is good however you cut it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/19 03:37 PM
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This is the gold standard. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/19 02:32 AM
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Ha! No big deal. All good now
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/19 04:32 PM
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10-4. So just week 5, no “part I”?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/19 01:23 PM
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Put me down for “Instinctual Self Point of Origin.”
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/19 04:46 PM
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It will indeed. To me it’s mostly about not instilling or reinforcing lies for both boys and girls. For example, “yes daughter, girls and boys are different and most boys will be stronger than you as you get older but that’s ok and here’s why....”. My daughters are becoming aware of stuff like this now.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/19 01:59 PM
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So many men are awakened while married and while knowledge of game and PUA is good to have, knowing how to become your mental point of origin, within the confines of marriage is of the utmost importance to regaining our authority along with the responsibility we already have.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/19 02:41 AM
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I saw this movie with my kids and noticed the same. If you want another example of kids being programmed against masculinity go see the LEGO Movie II. More masculinity shaming coupled with the main character being told by his female friend that she likes his soft, emotional side (I.e. just be yourself.)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/02/19 04:28 PM
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I think you’re onto something. A next level look at the women’s motivations for seeking new options outside an LTR. So my new current developing hypothesis - which we'll have to field test - is 1) the difference in desire between men who had affairs and were unapologetic versus who had affairs and groveled, Ok then, so do you want to be the apologetic or unapologetic guy in this test? :D and 2) the impact of separating the notion of sex/affairs from family. I’d argue that the feminine imperative…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/19 02:15 PM
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Good analysis. I think the NRE aspect is part of that drive towards satisfying hypergamy. As Rollo says, “hypergamy isn’t a straight jacket.” Some women won’t act on it. As you point out, the higher value of a man you are, the less she’ll go looking for that NRE. Remember, women will experience NRE differently from a man. It’s all about how that newness makes her feel from an alpha level.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/19 01:56 PM
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Just made some of these this morning for the kids (I’m back on a cut and do IF until lunch). Loving these videos.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/19 08:45 PM
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Looks like you found your answer but essentially it’s the push in society towards openly enabling and encouraging the female sexual strategy (I.e. having your cake and eating it too. A beta provider and alpha seed.). And the movement is shaming men who push back against it. It’s funny (but not surprising), feminists are worried we are one step away from the “Handmaidens Tale” coming true but in fact, it’s the exact opposite. The more weak men become, the more men allow themselves to become slave…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/19 02:30 PM
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The article is just another testing of the waters for overt hypergamy. This reinforces two Redpill tropes; Don’t let her get comfortable/bored/complacent. She’s not yours, it’s just your turn. Ok, three... Be the one who needs the other the least.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/19 10:42 PM
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Second this and the recommendation to read MMSLP first
/r/askMRP14/02/19 03:39 PM
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Oh boy... breath man, just breath. First, good on you for having the balls to admit some of the shit here you did. The first step to all this is being able to identify all the beta, faggot behaviors that got you here. I mean that in all honesty. I probably didn’t have the balls to talk about some of the cringy stuff I’ve done when o first stumbled upon this place over 3 years ago. You’ll get more actionable advice here the more Honest you are about your mistakes. Second, You’re at dread level 0.…
/r/askMRP14/02/19 03:36 PM
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Upvote. Blaming your beta-ness on your wife is like radical feminists blaming their victimization on “the patriarchy.” This is why I don’t want my daughters growing up thinking there is some invisible, nefarious force holding them down.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 07:09 PM
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Nothing you said here is untrue. At its base, FOGGING is how you describe. I often take it one step further and just own the shit out of the accusation, assuming it’s accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 06:59 PM
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Oops, I think I assumed this was on askMRP before I responded.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 02:23 PM
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The mindset here reminds me of radical feminism
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 02:19 PM
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If you’re going to STFU don’t be autist about it. Sometimes I’ll just look at my wife with an expression that says, “you didn’t really just ask/assert/say that did you?” Otherwise you can FOG (“Yep, I guess I’m sort of selfish,” essentially just own it), Agree and Amplify (“yes I am planning on taking the trash out... just waiting for the zombie hoard to clear out.”). Or just be like, “Nope, can’t do that now.)
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/19 01:52 PM
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That’s because some people attempt to shame you back into the nice little boxes out social order wants you in. Words like “narcissistic” or “toxic masculinity” should raise a flag. Maybe they’re right, but more often it’s an attempt at manipulation.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 08:50 PM
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Nice to see someone cut the same pie a different way. This has huge implications when dealing with DL4; calibrating your time and attention. Your micro and macro calibrations matter. For example; she hasn’t fucked you in a month and you’ve become a high value man? Take that value and presence elsewhere for days, even weeks.... possibly permanently. She fucked you yesterday but is acting like a cunt to you today? Go to the gym or do a hobby for a few hours, come home, reset...
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 07:40 PM
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Read Rollo’s second book Preventative Medicine. You’re asking the wrong question. The question is, “what should you expect from that old woman and are you satisfied with that?” That expectation is directly correlated to how big of a faggot you are though.
/r/askMRP12/02/19 05:22 PM
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I suppose if there’s weren’t occasional beefs we aren’t doing our job. PM’d you too.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 04:46 PM
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Speaking of which... and maybe that’s what you were referring to... too bad about Rich and Anthony. I did not see that coming at all but then again I’m not in the thick of it like you are. Keep up the awesome content. All the emotions in the world can't overcome the silent treatment True. Removal of attention always reigns.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/19 03:53 AM
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Good luck to you, brother. We came here around the same time and I’ve found your posts helpful and I think your journey has paralleled mine in a lot of ways. It’s important to understand the difference between wanting what others report to have and having what you want. Sounds like you’ve found what you want. Maybe that’s good enough for you now. Maybe you’ll decide later it isn’t enough and you’ll take action to achieve that. Either way, you know how to get that. Sounds like you’ve had several …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/19 08:16 PM
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Sounds good on paper but don’t forget the legal cards are stacked well against you.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/19 01:29 PM
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I agree. It would be the easiest decision I’d ever make. The only thing I would think about is how I’m going to execute the exit. Slow and strategically
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/19 12:35 AM
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I’d tolerate literally 0 cheating. I don’t get this either.
/r/askMRP01/02/19 02:40 PM
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I dislike it, but it certainly makes for a good motivator to stay awesome
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/19 08:30 PM
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47, 3, 68
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/19 08:29 PM
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Nice... I see my moderator prophecy came true. Congrats
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/19 05:13 PM
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Oh man, I know the feeling. I HATE looking at my wedding photos because of how I look. It hurts even more because my wife looks smoking in them. Now... now the tables have turned. There’s a large photo of us from our wedding in our upstairs hallway. it’s a daily reminder to be better than that skinny-fat beta staring back at me. Sometimes I’ll even mutter, “never again.”
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/19 05:10 PM
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I love it... I read this in the voice of “Johnny” talking to Pony Boy from beyond the grave at the end of the Outsiders. Now that’s a film chock full of masculinity.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/19 05:13 PM
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Yes. Since it’s like breathing to me now, I sometimes forget to mention it
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/19 04:36 PM
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I think I know who should be the next mod here. Excellent summary. Red pill is... ...First and foremost a sexual strategy ...Not about her ...A praxeology and not a verb ...not political ...not easy
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/19 10:04 PM
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Don’t be a faggot. Focus on your mission and career. In the meantime, enjoy your insulation from getting financially divorce raped in the future.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/19 04:18 PM
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Good reminder. I too need to revisit SGM. Have an upvote
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 05:04 PM
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Yes, yours is the next level of the same story. A woman who cooks, cleans and tends to children is of value, but not necessary. I fucking love just eggs and bacon.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 03:51 AM
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She’s doing you a favor. Most women won’t come out and say as much. Earn this Read the sidebar
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 03:44 AM
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Look, it sounds like you have a halfway decent woman, if she’s taking care of you while you’re experiencing health issues. Just don’t assume it’s the norm. Women’s love is not unconditional. They can fight against hypergamy but at the end of the day, we are men, and nobody gives a shit about us.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 03:37 AM
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Yes, I’m not going to pretend that doesn’t help. I still have to reinforce the things that feminism fights against.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 03:28 AM
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But then again, I don't trust her like I'd trust a male friend. She's prone to insecurities, being cruel or insensitive, neglectful, you name it. She'll remind me of the (unpleasant) past when it suits her, yet conveniently forget hers when it's incriminating. She'll put me down or be grumpy and irritable, and not own or acknowledge it, yet I couldn't dream of getting away with that, nor would I want to. It's shameful. Yet she does it. The cold hard truth hurts, doesn’t it? You reinforced my poi…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 03:03 AM
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Maybe I’m lucky, maybe I became a man worth being that kind of woman for. Either way, be the masculine to her feminine. http://truemasculinevalue.home.blog/2018/11/23/the-contrast/
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 02:58 AM
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Hold your own torch, brother. People can follow or not. Doesn’t change your drive.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 01:53 AM
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Thanks sailor
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 01:36 AM
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You’ll come to realize that she isn’t a very a good friend at all.” Lover, mommy or friend. Pick one. And since I know the friend-lover thing is debated here, let me clarify... she’ll never embody the kind of friendship you have with other men. My wife and I are definitely NOT “best friends.”
/r/MarriedRedPill26/12/18 12:56 AM
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A great combo
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/18 11:45 PM
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No
/r/askMRP23/12/18 05:48 AM
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You strive for the strength to change the things you can, frame to accept the things you can’t and wisdom to know the difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/18 05:23 PM
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Sounds like he’s low T
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/18 01:46 PM
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Excellent progress.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 01:36 PM
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Business traveling, or any traveling I’ve found, can really amplify quantity for the otherwise casual/social drinker. I hope you can find a groove with new job.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 01:31 PM
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I saw that. All the whiny babies on reddit are really getting their “feeling panties” in a bundle over all these dangerous words the RMG puts out. Opposing views are scary to snowflakes and neckbeards
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/18 09:21 PM
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Men must do, women just are. It’s true about the greatest generation. My grandpa was an officer on three different destroyers in the navy (because 2 were sunk in combat) fighting the Japanese in the pacific. He didn’t give a FUCK about anything that I could ever tell. Never once saw him lose his composure. The absolute epitome of NGAF. He’d light a cigarette in a restaurant and pretend he didn’t hear the waitress telling him he wasn’t allowed to smoke.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/18 10:57 PM
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They can’t see the walls that protect them from the barbarians.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/18 10:50 PM
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There’s something I never thought I’d hear and agree with, in a way. I’ve always made the correlation between the ease and comfort of civilized society and feminism. The farther we are from chaos, danger and tribalism, the more feminism and egalitarianism seeps in. Not that I wish for this, but an apocalyptic event (even a localized one) resets all that shit. You see it in natural disasters. Suddenly authentic masculinity is valued by all... because it’s convenient in that moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/18 01:24 PM
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Desk sitting is a big problem these days. I’m at my desk anywhere between 50-70% of the time. Can some easy cardio every day offset it? Even just a 30 min walk? If you don’t mind sharing how often/much did you used to drink? I’ve mostly cut it down to drinks on the weekend only and it’s rarely to excess but still, it’s probably the last frontier of improvement of self for me. I know it would go a long way in my calorie management and overall health to cut it altogether. So far, I just can’t beca…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 01:17 PM
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Two years ain’t nothing A main event isn’t a goal, it’s a possibility you should be prepared for.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 01:02 PM
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Don’t worry, feminism might actually be a “self correcting” problem. Just may hurt a lot when it finally corrects.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 03:24 AM
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After three years here I still occasionally find useful posts. Have an upvote
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/18 03:14 AM
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He’s telling me here (this sub is for men btw) why they shouldn’t be like Shelly’s husband. He’s not telling them to have an affair.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 04:03 PM
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Well that was quick
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/18 07:26 PM
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Right on brother. Swing that thing around. I was the same. Putting out feminine vibes. No wonder she didn’t want to fuck me.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/18 12:21 AM
1

Never heard that before. I like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/18 11:15 PM
1

He isn’t called the God of rock drumming for nothing. Nothing like the Bonzo. I liked them in high school (the 90s) and I keep going back.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/18 07:16 PM
4

So many of my contemporaries can’t do anything for themselves and have fallen back on playing the ‘victim’ role. This is true. I consider myself just a bit too old to be a millennial but I still see many men in my social circles who would be up a creek if the thin veil of civil society were to ever erode.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/18 06:47 PM
1

Excellent year one. If you keep driving ahead, year two will have slower but more significant realizations and improvements.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/18 04:58 PM
1

Good first year. Sounds like you’ve got some concrete mission goals to me. Be flexible with your mission as it progresses. I think the easiest time to define a mission is when you’re at the bottom. The more you OYS and get your life in order, it actually becomes easier to get lazy and lose your focus.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/18 03:38 PM
1

Whatever you guys are doing it’s working. I’ve noticed a marked difference around here in the past few months. A lot fewer posts but overall higher quality. The way it should be
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/18 03:48 PM
1

Ah, ok. Ya, Invisalign is different. They are the clear trays that you wear over your teeth like a mouth guard. You change them every week and each tray is a little more in the direction of straight teeth. I order for them to do the best job, they need something for the trays to grab onto for some teeth so the dentist affixes little white attachments to some teeth. Then they remove them when you’re done
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/18 03:17 PM
1

it's TOTALLY worth it! Glad to hear. That’s what matters. Did you have all those little nubs they put all over your teeth too?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/18 01:10 PM
1

Guarantee it will be longer. They told me 18 months. Took me 49. Fuck I hope you’re wrong. I’m only a week in and I already hate it. Got real old real quick. Ha! Isn't it amazing how ingrained that stuff is? Truly is Careful. Twitter has ruined more lives than can be counted Noted. That’s how that crazy antifa bitch got Jack Murphy. I stay anonymous on it. Probably even more so than I am here
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/18 02:44 AM
1

you need to work on your estimating . . . more like 10% jest. what was your response? Nina was all you needed to say. the fewer words the better as it provides more space for her hamster. i get that same type of bullshit at times, and my response is normally "huh" as in "too bad you made a shitty decision" Ya, you are probably right. She was persistent so I said something to cut it off before stating my frame for the evening. And guess what? She had fun too.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 02:40 PM
2

Been a while so figured I’m due for an OYS. Ain’t nobody too good for some OYS. Be attractive, don’t be unattractive. Started Invisalign recently because my teeth, while not totally jacked, have always sort of bothered me. Parents never bothered to put me in braces when I was a kid. Well, now I’m almost 40 and I want to fix it. Doc says I’m an easy case... 4 months. Teeth are sore as fuck and realized I can’t just leisurely sip coffee in the morning or take my time in a few beers at night on wee…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 02:13 PM
6

It is the soft, PC side of MRP. Spot on
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/18 01:25 PM
6

And don’t be a rockstar that sticks around for the kids with a low value woman. Almost important as the rest of your post. Possibly more important, depending on which side of the value fence you fall on. When I read posts like this I always wonder if Shelly’s husband will ever wander his way into MRP. Odds are low me thinks.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 08:18 PM
1

If you’re pulling away too fast it may generate comfort tests. Hug, reassuring comment maybe and then move in from it
/r/MarriedRedPill08/11/18 02:12 PM
1

How do I let this go? It’s up to her where she wants to be lead. You can’t force that and only she can decide to come into your frame. Having frame means putting yourself first but also not caring if others come along. Treat her like someone you’re indifferent to for now. Like someone you meet on a plane who you talk to about your goals and life. Eventually you’ll have to reconcile this but for now, just have your mission in mind. There’s things my wife still doesn’t do, isn’t interested in and …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/18 01:37 PM
1

Was that ketchup guy?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 04:59 PM
2

Sounds like years of you letting her treat you this way and get off on making you wait had put you here. Can’t be undone in a month. Probably not even a year.
/r/askMRP31/10/18 01:24 PM
3

What’s with all this talk about fucking women? You’re a disgrace to MGTOWs everywhere if you’re engaging in that. Real MGTOWs actually disengage from women altogether. You sound more like a Chad with all that boasting. Just own it. Nobody here looks down on the player. Or did your sex doll say, “maybe tomorrow, I have a headache,” and that’s why you came in here spewing piss and vinegar? Faggot
/r/MarriedRedPill28/10/18 05:11 AM
2

You’re trying to negotiate desire and/or her attention. Stop You’re losing because you care more. Ask yourself, if she doesn’t want to spend one of her last nights before her trip with you, is she really the woman you want to commit to?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/18 10:33 PM
3

That’s what women do. If a terrorist was holding your man hostage you wouldn’t kill the hostage for him. Just don’t play the game. Time, attention, and if necessary, commitment are your cards
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/18 06:07 PM
1

Ok, maybe I’m confusing it with something else I looked into. Maybe I’ll try it next
/r/askMRP18/10/18 02:17 AM
2

I’ve never done greysSkull but I’ve heard it’s a LOT of volume and takes a long time in the gym each session. May be too much for a new guy. I’m doing PHUL now and like it.
/r/askMRP17/10/18 10:08 PM
3

How much comfort, time and attention are you doling out for free? I’m willing to bet it may be too much. Do you live together? If so, that’s another strike. She’s not your wife, you’ve got options here.
/r/askMRP16/10/18 12:41 PM
3

This should be in askMRP. But anyway... let her be high strung. You don’t need to follow her around like a puppy (which I think you already realized). Shit, either use her energy to your advantage (give her a list of errands) or ignore it. Is she like this with everything? If it’s a big enough deal, then next her. She’s an LTR, not a wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/10/18 10:51 PM
26

Another important aspect to this is to learn to be comfortable with the discomfort that comes from the occasional wrong decision you’ll make by being decisive.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/18 01:18 PM
2

Embracing is pretty spot on here. If she denied you that many times after being away for days, don’t even contact her again. Wait for her reach out (that’s how she has to take ownership of the relationship.). You take ownership of making yourself valuable (to you) and getting busy. I know you want to fuck her but for some reason she isn’t in the same place now. So forget her and go make your own plans until she really has to work to get your attention. You’ve given her the feeling you’ll always …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/18 12:56 PM
1

“Breath Neo, breath...” Don’t DO a lot of stuff now (other than lifting). Instead absorb, read and observe (your wife, other women, coworkers.). You’re in danger of talking or acting stupid. Give it more time to all settle in. Make slow, small changes with a purpose in mind.
/r/askMRP06/10/18 01:23 AM
8

i initiate the sexy times - she initiates the "relationship" Reenforces that the “relationship” is the woman’s responsibility.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 08:37 PM
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Means they see him as a good provider who would also allow them to name drop (famous brand name)
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 08:29 PM
2

This is good because it shows that it doesn’t have to be some grand, lofty goal like tripling your income or becoming Governor of your state. It can even be a series of smaller goals that add to your quality of life. My wife knows I want to get a daysailer someday and spend summers sailing around the Great Lakes. Is it imminently possible? No, but it’s one of my goals and visions.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/18 12:57 AM
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You old softy, you... I like it. I’ll just add that women only value this if you are valuable in a masculine sense. And as you point out... only if you fuck her well.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 01:02 PM
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You should make this a post or at least an OYS If she leaves I'll be fine. If she stays I'll be fine, because I'm my own mental point of origin now. Ha! Not sure about the “her staying” part. She’s being a cunt to you, to your kids by being a financial liability... a big one. Has she changed her spending? Stopped threatening to divorce? If not, you’re better off without her. Let her fall on her Strong Independent Woman sword and learn the hard way. Otherwise, good work, good progress and keep it…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 12:34 PM
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If we’re going out, we’ll be going out well dressed, fit and having fun.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/18 12:45 AM
1

We can cuss here, Fritz but yes... you took the words right out of my mouth. Great post
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/18 01:08 PM
3

You’ve got “good wife” covered. Make sure you’re also being the “good girlfriend.” See Mr Chad’s comment for that. But none of it matters unless he’s the type of man you want to be all that for. That’s out of your control.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/18 12:54 PM
1

Like it
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 08:58 PM
1

I almost feel sorry for her
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 08:58 PM
7

Jesus how do you string together these truth bombs so concisely? If you want to be the captain, the only power you have is your ability to walk away. The woman can either hit the bricks, or get with the program. And since we don't have hard power mechanisms (rule of thumb, or other barbarism) we only have soft power, or the velvet glove. Describes OPs point beautifully
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 04:06 PM
3

It’s like the US’s relationship with the Russians pre-1945. We’re on the same team but don’t get too complacent.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 03:50 PM
4

I’ve come to understand this cross current like this; If Her desire to have an alpha outweighs her dread that some younger/hotter/better woman could compete and win them she’ll want and reinforce alpha behavior (I.e. she’ll fall into your frame.) On the flip side, if her dread is overpowering her desire to be with a confident alpha man, then she’ll try to beta-ize the man. After all, it’s easier to fatten up your husband and make him a supplicating simp than it is to actually have to better your…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/18 03:43 PM
1

That’s great. bestie: “what was his answer?” Wife: “oh nothing...” Sorry, I should have clarified, I meant my wife likes the neck holding
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 08:47 PM
1

That’s awesome they watch the RMG podcast. My lady does the same sometimes.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 08:16 PM
1

I haven’t seen Wiggly in a while... she still around or did her cats consume her? She accused me of being a rapist about a year ago and sicked her clan of BP faggots on me who sent nasty PMs for a few days... all because I wrote in OYS about experimenting with holding (never used the word “choke “) my wife’s neck
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 07:43 PM
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That’s why I will give him some room with the whole “you had to be there” thing. Like, if everyone was already rolling with laughter from things DickPic was saying, then you could maybe get away with this without sounding like a fuck. Think “that’s a nice ski mask” scene from dumb and dumber. That kind of dynamic.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 01:33 PM
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While I agree that it’s more about who you’ve become and how you say things... I think you’re missing something here. Once you’ve become congruent you become the type of man who doesn’t have to say stuff like this. Why do you care that she changed her mind three times? Women do that. AM is the play here.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 12:32 PM
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My thoughts exactly
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 12:24 PM
3

You and me both
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/18 12:39 AM
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They’re called “front holes” now, not vaginas. We have to be sensitive to the tranny’s ...
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 12:50 PM
8

Watch what they do, not what they say.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/18 12:47 PM
1

Are you CAD? He said something similar to this to me about 3 years ago. Best kick in the nuts I ever had.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/18 09:19 PM
4

not lifting Sigh...
/r/askMRP14/09/18 12:57 AM
1

I’ll check it out. Been on a MaxOT program for about two months and am about to switch back to something more hypertrophic.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 02:43 PM
1

explains so many insecurities. Boy, does it
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 01:08 PM
2

Both are invaluable attributes but I’d say the more successful you are with lifting gains... the less you have to employ STFU.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 12:53 PM
1

But we’re equal... right... right!?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 12:46 PM
2

Channeling some serious Teddy Roosevelt here. I like it
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 12:42 PM
1

The reminder should be the sidebar but yes, it seems this is necessary
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 12:36 PM
1

Is this bandito workout you speak of similar to PHUL?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 12:33 PM
1

Is it time for a haircut?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 12:14 PM
1

I’m going to start looking for opportunities to test this out. Wife left the living room ceiling fan on all night last night. Maybe i could get pissy at her about that ... see what happens
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 05:11 PM
1

Gold right here
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/18 03:33 PM
9

“to stop mulling and simply pursue...”. So much right there. That and your comment about accepting the wife not always following your lead should be the takeaways for new and experienced guys here. The rest is just going after what you want. You know I’ve appreciated your input here... immensely. Let me know next time you’re in my neck of the woods and I’ll do the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/18 10:40 PM
1

Holy shit, get that out of your fridge! Not a test but a boundary that she feels isn’t there
/r/askMRP30/08/18 06:13 PM
2

On other news, we did have sex this saturday for the first time in a few months. How far that’s related to the therapy debacle I don’t know. She did say she regretted it though by monday in an app while at work. So there’s that, really don’t know what to make from it. Holy fuck. Sex once in a few months? This should be an Ex-GF. If once in a few months is good enough for you then carry on (I’m being serious) but this ain’t going to get better if you get married. You’re playing save a ho.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 01:02 PM
1

Good on him
/r/askMRP29/08/18 09:25 PM
1

True. OP was asking from a “financial” POV so that was my answer. But yes, you could absolutely be legally single and still be a plow horse for a woman.
/r/askMRP29/08/18 06:01 PM
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This gets brought up every few months. The answer is absolutely do NOT talk about it with the SO. It’s the one thing in that book that’s not promoted here.
/r/askMRP29/08/18 03:21 PM
1

Yes, you’re probably the resident expert on the private marriage model
/r/askMRP29/08/18 03:19 PM
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Have a wedding, get a ring if you want but don’t sign any papers. No marriage licenses nothing with the courthouse. If she has real problems with that then ask why you can’t trust her? (Pressure flip). Negative assertion; what’s wrong with us just being together without the state officializing it ?
/r/askMRP29/08/18 01:27 PM
3

This describes the the thought process and problem we have now with these young incels who shoot up schools. It’s a lack of masculinity crisis.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 01:15 PM
1

It’s because so many men are conditioned to act like women and expect other men to also. When other men don’t, they can’t understand it and it hurts their ego. You may want to watch your back. Bob seems like the kind to do something stupid when his BP ego invested ideals get pushed too far. I hope o don’t see all of you on the news.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/18 01:06 PM
1

The purpose of a midlife crisis is to encourage fully grown men to consider leaving their current mate and start a brand new family with a younger woman. This would tend to have the effect of doubling the progeny of each man who takes the plunge. Ok, you’ve possibly changed my mind. That makes sense from an evolutionary biology perspective. I was mostly pointing out that in today’s bluepill society “midlife crisis” is used by the FI to shame betas who start getting “out of line.” I also look at …
/r/TheRedPill24/08/18 12:29 PM
2

You got it. Anything not in your frame is funny, interesting or amusing.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/18 12:28 AM
2

https://therationalmale.com/2014/11/14/mental-point-of-origin/amp/
/r/TheRedPill22/08/18 07:18 PM
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You lucky son of a bitch! Be glad you found it at 34 and weren’t married. Go over to MRP, there you’ll see real regret and real challenges. use the truths you learned from this one woman to shape your mental point of origin and the rest of a great life.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/18 12:52 PM
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It’s sad that the hypocrisy of it all is so out in the open and yet still nothing will change. Men are still guilty until proven innocent but when it’s a woman we have to “be gentle and wait for all the facts to come out.” Sickening.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/18 12:16 PM
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The question is whether anyone (in the plugged in world) will give a shit. I’d bet a good bit of money she gets off with a slap on the wrist.
/r/TheRedPill21/08/18 01:18 PM
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This will be a huge reveal that shows that MeToo and feminism is about supremacy and persecution of men and not equality. The question is whether anyone will give a shit and I think the answer to that is “no.”
/r/TheRedPill21/08/18 01:15 PM
2

Good progress. Get the fuckarounditis licked though or you won’t be making the gains you can. Pick a plan and stay with it for at least three months than switch. I prefer to rotate between a heavy lift focus (like SL 5x5 or Max OT and a more hypertrophic based plan), as it keeps the muscles guessing which keeps them growing
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 12:57 PM
2

You are your only and final judge. Or, think of it this way... even when you are the best version of yourself and you may even be 100% satisfied with that version of you, will there still be others who can find flaws and poke at your frame? Of course there will be but will you care or will you be content in your success?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 12:44 PM
1

Alpha is dependent on the environment you’re in and how big you draw those boundaries. The bigger the environment, the harder it is to be the or one of the alphas. The “military” alpha will be different than the “biker bar” alpha. So while I don’t disagree with your description of alpha here... it’s not the only one. And to your point about the wolves who get to mate, most of the animal kingdom alphas get to mate because they proved physical dominance over the other males already. Sometimes thro…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 12:35 PM
9

I also wear very discreet makeup around my eyes Dafuq?!
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/18 12:18 PM
1

Good stuff for “don’t be unattractive” category.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 12:48 PM
2

Are emojis allowed?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 12:40 PM
2

It’s amazing how things can be when you’ve internalized that her feelings and tantrums literally can’t hurt you. I think the “love you when you’re a good girl” line is good. I say that kind of stuff sometimes and my wife likes to act indignant about it and slap my arm. It works because it’s all just feelings being created. Good, bad, sad, etc.... feelings aren’t boring.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/18 12:36 PM
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Nailed it. I was like this once after I broke up with my first serious LTR. God I want to go back in time and strangle that little bitch of a man.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/18 01:11 PM
2

No contest. Shave or buzz tight like Statham.
/r/askMRP05/08/18 06:27 PM
2

Beat me to it. Best part of this OYS
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/18 01:34 PM
1

I like this analogy... a lot. What was the brag? I mean if your train was on it’s way to brag-town might as well share some notes.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/18 02:30 AM
1

I’ve got one of these too. Sad
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/18 02:27 AM
2

STFU and OYS should be executed the same whether you’re married or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/18 02:20 AM
1

True
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 11:32 PM
3

The same message does apply. There’s two types of drinkers. When I drink, I’m usually just a bit more amplified (in personality, not volume) version of myself. I know people (the other type) who become a different person. As long as you are the first type, it shouldn’t make a difference.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/07/18 03:06 PM
1

Nothing
/r/askMRP17/07/18 02:58 PM
7

Funny thing (or scary/sad) is that women actually expect the reverse of this. That they can get fat and still pull men and/or their husband should have to be ok with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/18 12:15 PM
9

Feminism... the biggest shit test man has ever been dealt. Watch what they do, not what they say.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/18 01:08 PM
2

Impressive, brother. Taking in the burden of performance when already standing in a 4 foot deep pit of shit. Props to you.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/18 12:28 PM
2

Time to go Machiavellian. Laws of Power. Telegraph nothing. Build your exit plan. This is the beginning of the rest of your life. I’m sorry to hear this happened.
/r/askTRP12/07/18 01:22 AM
8

This is 90% a comfort test. Treat the entire thing as such. You’ve hit one goal post. Now calibrate back a bit until you’re in that sweet spot.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 05:21 PM
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Good news for us is that the majority of men are in a sad state too.
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 02:45 AM
2

That’s awesome. I also meant like other permanent offices
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 02:20 AM
3

Great speech. Watched it the day it came out. Do you see a potential for “satellite locations” in other cities in the future?
/r/TheRedPill11/07/18 12:21 AM
2

If a man in the forest makes a comment about a woman being attractive and a feminist isn’t there to hear it, does anyone give a shit?
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 11:15 PM
6

Unfortunately for her, I think you’re right. Sucks too because she’s not bad looking and is not a bitch. Another casualty of the feminist machine
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 06:41 PM
3

Hmmm... reminds me of a sidebar book here. Have you read any of them?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/18 03:08 PM
7

Ya, same thing. The ego-protection is real which is followed by her convincing herself that’s really how she feels.
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 01:10 PM
13

Mostly true. Sometimes when women (usually women in their 30s and 40s) say they want the nice guy and to feel wanted they are being honest but it’s only because she’s had her fill of the carousel... for now. Next year she can change her mind and it’s perfectly ok to do that because solipsism and “girl power.”
/r/TheRedPill10/07/18 12:14 PM
9

Excellent piece by an enlightened woman. The most poignant part is her NY friend describing how he would never marry the career woman he was dating. She wasn’t marriage material, just good for sex. Sound familiar to anyone? It’s like the male version of alpha fucks and beta bucks. The smart, RP men know that it’s in their best interest to ride the pussy parade with all the sexually liberated women and then settle down with the “good girl” who just wants to be submissive to the right man. Too bad…
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 03:24 PM
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Spot on. My wife has a friend (about 38 years old, career woman, no kids, no boyfriends) who recently confessed this exact sentiment to my wife over lunch one day. She even said she felt she’d been lied to about how to live her life. She’s looking into freezing her eggs now. Feminism hurts women just as much as men.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/18 03:19 PM
1

He’s licking her ass, so I doubt he’s above putting his dick in there. T Good point.
/r/askMRP09/07/18 12:56 PM
1

Yes, something ain’t adding up right
/r/askMRP09/07/18 12:39 PM
2

Maybe HE doesn’t want to fuck where she shits.
/r/askMRP09/07/18 12:35 PM
1

Re: TRM I have. Doesn't help much since I'm already married. Wrong. It’s because you’re married that this book is more important than ever.
/r/askMRP09/07/18 12:28 PM
2

Best summary of hard mode I’ve seen yet. So much going on here with Oprah, the soccer moms and cargo shorts
/r/askMRP06/07/18 08:06 PM
1

I agree. At the most it’s useful to be able to I.D. a BPD or other crazy. Just enough to know to move on. Beyond that, it’s just like looking at a car accident for too long
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/18 11:10 AM
1

Awesome. I’ll check them out eventually if not live
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/18 08:29 PM
1

Maybe it wasn’t a thing when I came here. Pre December 2015? As much as it is septic in nature, I think it also keeps the quality a little higher on MRP. A necessary septic tank. EDIT: I wasn’t picking up on your analogy at first, hence my “captain fucking obvious” reply here. Is the Red Man group doing a show this weekend?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/18 05:45 PM
3

When I first found MRP I somehow missed that askMRP even existed. Some of my early puss-faggery probably belonged on “ask” but overall I’m glad I was brought up in MRP where the men wore big boy pants. Trial by fire.... lots of fire.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/18 04:17 PM
5

This is generally true. Personally, if my wife cheated on me AND wasn’t giving me the sex I want, that sunk cost would start to look pretty small.
/r/askMRP03/07/18 03:30 PM
5

Agree with all but this and having children should pretty much mean you’re past the need for crazy sex... because raising the children really needs to take forefront from the day they're born. The reason this isn’t true is the reason subs like MRP exist. Put your needs first. “Oxygen mask theory” applies to those who depend on you.
/r/askMRP03/07/18 12:58 PM
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She cheated once (eight years ago) because she was curious but she didn't like it. No. Get out of this. No kids, technically not married.... some guys here would kill for that. Consider this a message from your future self doing you a favor
/r/askMRP03/07/18 12:27 PM
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You haven’t internalized that you are the prize... or maybe you’re not the prize and you need to get there.
/r/askMRP02/07/18 03:41 PM
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As much as I know that if I ever have to end it, I know it would be tough. Men are the true romantics so as we all know, a divorce typically is harder for the man. Women are about emotions but men are about logic while still having to be being aware of our emotions
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/18 06:04 AM
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That’s what scares me sometimes, if I’m being honest. Time will tell
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/18 07:24 PM
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Second that
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/18 03:32 AM
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Very nice to see this. Carry on.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/06/18 02:51 AM
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after I stop being a fat 253lb hunk of shit of course). Ya, I wouldn’t make any drastic moves until you fix this. Honestly it could be a year or more of lifting but nothing worthwhile comes easily or quick.
/r/askMRP22/06/18 01:39 AM
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Fuck, you’re right
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 09:29 PM
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Yep, and this doesn’t even take into account that “equality of opportunity” has swung greatly in women’s favor already, yet they still want equality of outcome. For examples look no further than hiring quotas and lowering of physical standards in the military and law enforcement for women. Enough will never be enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/18 07:24 PM
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He can date her, sure. But she should be no higher than 3rd or even 4th plate. Maybe that will be a slap in the face of reality of what dating will be like for a divorced post wall women. She asked for it so go ahead and oblige.
/r/askMRP19/06/18 12:18 PM
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No we don’t disagree. I was just adding on to your stream of thought
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/18 02:46 PM
1

While not a good idea, it would prove right quick that they #don’tCare
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/18 01:17 PM
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Equality of opportunity not equality of outcome , with no dilution of the merit required to get said outcome. Anything beyond that is “supremacy feminism.”
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/18 01:00 PM
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One... I agree with what you’ve written. Especially the parallel to the way she describes how she feels emotionally manipulated/abused with how similar it sounded to the way many men come here telling their stories. The anger, the frustration... all of it. It makes sense and is completely justified. Then again... I’m a man. Two... most women won’t care. Maybe a small minority would be able to digest the truth and logic here but most will not. The irony of it is that for them to see the parallel …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/18 12:49 PM
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I have a friend who thought that’s what it was when it first made an appearance. I told my wife about it and now she thinks it’s funny too.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/18 12:36 PM
1

Glad you found it useful
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 06:49 PM
1

I’d say lifting is 50% or more of the answer
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 04:26 PM
1

Good distinction. Sex isn’t necessarily the goal (however it’s ok if it’s one of them). Rather, sex is the barometer of successfully becoming a man grounded in his frame and masculinity. Lack of sex is like the canary in the coal mine of masculinity.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 12:47 PM
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Pay attention to the shoulder pain. Could be from OHP on strong lifts. I had an AC joint issue develop that I almost needed surgery for. Try using dumbbells for some weeks to see if the pain subsides. Some of us aren’t designed to do extensive and heavy overhead presses with barbells
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 12:42 PM
2

Hey, your username really does “check out” after all. Have a nice trip
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 12:36 PM
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Understanding this balance between pushing through LMR verse removing attention is level 10, Dread Level 4 shit ... if that makes sense. A long time ago I made a post asking this exact question. The answers there may be of use to OP, if I can find it. New men here get told all the time to just initiate, initiate, initiate. So I can see why/how so many make this mistake. There are other factors that I use to know when to remove my presence and attention vice continually pushing for sex but in a n…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/18 12:12 PM
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start leaving the house to get some dread going. You ain’t done shit yet if you haven’t done this a few times, minimum, when given starfish.
/r/askMRP12/06/18 01:36 AM
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True. Angry and not even sure why.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/18 02:36 PM
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the blowjob crisis of 2017 Dark times, indeed
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/18 12:34 PM
1

I always thought one month per year of marriage seemed too optimistic
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/18 12:33 PM
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This is how it’s done. Good work highlighting the importance realizations and turning points. You’ve been an influential man here for me. Edit: another analogy I like to use is that not only is it like turning a corner, but a long gradual corner.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/18 11:49 AM
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It’s definitely used against men today when they try to pursue their goals and happiness that may not “line up” with the fem centric view. I don’t know about it being a real phenomenon, at least not one that hasn’t been conditioned by our current social order. Do you really think Ug the caveman had a midlife crisis? I would venture a guess that men didn’t have them in the 1920’s or before. Too busy being masculine and surviving
/r/TheRedPill10/06/18 01:24 AM
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It’s scary. I’m guilty though
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 08:04 PM
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Yep, just like EVERY OTHER type of contract in the world... business contracts, rent contracts, etc, etc. Would you ever get into a business contract with a partner who invested minimal to no assets but was legally able to walk away with half when the business dissolved? So why is this the case with marriage and divorce?
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 03:04 PM
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I’ve done that. Fuck, that’s real pain
/r/askMRP09/06/18 02:31 PM
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This is why marriage isn’t recommended by most flared MRP guys. MRP exists because most of us were “awakened while married.” Making the best of a disadvantaged situation. Stay fit, stay social, stay focused on yourself and your mission and at have at least a basic contingency plan for divorce or to achieve abundance of necessary. If a guy does decide to get married then it’s all about vetting, vetting and more vetting. If I ever get divorced I won’t be getting married again. For the right woman …
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 02:20 PM
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Yep. This is what MRP is about
/r/TheRedPill09/06/18 02:14 PM
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Aaaaaannd another woman realizes feminism sucks for women too.
/r/TheRedPill08/06/18 02:52 PM
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I don’t believe in “midlife crises” anymore. It’s just a term conditioned people and women use to try to keep men “in their pen.”
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 05:25 PM
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I always prefer to see a guy go a little Rambo verses pussyfooting through the dread levels incorrectly or not making any changes at all
/r/askMRP07/06/18 11:38 AM
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I still pull out and walk away from poor effort occasionally. It’s not often, but sometimes I have to. Usually I’m not even that upset. it’s more like when you start a movie on Netflix, realize you’re not really into it about 10 minutes in and turn it off. It’s that level of emotional investment for me. The first couple times I did this, years ago, she lost her shit. Just completely floored that her evolving beta wasn’t interested in starfish. “Oh where has my power gone?” Sometimes she gets a l…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/18 02:57 AM
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Credit should go to /u/Rian_Stone who coined the term “LARPing masculinity.” I just applied to to this guy who wanted to pretend to be married to this girl, but wasn’t even doing that correctly
/r/TheRedPill26/05/18 02:28 PM
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End it with, “... and that’s why I’m glad I picked her.” Suggests you had other options and YOU decided she was the best optimization of your “man hypergamy.”
/r/askMRP25/05/18 02:28 PM
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Sounds like he just wanted all the downsides of being married without the benefits. LARPing marriage, if you will. Well, he got it... by white knighting and being possessive.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 06:17 PM
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All women have the “potential” to be like that is a better way to put it. Their environment, personality and genetics will make that potential less or more.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 06:11 PM
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Maybe the HB3 made good money, had a successful career and a good retirement plan. Sorry, I couldn’t resist. But seriously... this was fucking scary to read
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 12:06 PM
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True. Our biological programming is at the core of it.
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 02:12 AM
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Ya, probably not a trait I’d look for in a “keeper” but fun occasionally
/r/TheRedPill24/05/18 02:11 AM
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Lots of women mirror their own programming and assume men are the same. Could be a side effect of the egalitarian feminist regime we live in. When in reality, most guys would be ok with a girl saying, “I want to fuck you... let’s go.”
/r/TheRedPill23/05/18 01:07 PM
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It is indeed. Don’t be a Ray Romano or Homer Simpson
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/18 01:29 AM
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We may just unplug this one after all....
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 12:56 PM
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It’s happy LIFE happy wife...
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 12:52 PM
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Every now and then someone opens a new door to look in on old, repeated and yet important ideas. This is one of those times. If I was selling this post on amazon I’d include this excerpt; Eventually, when your SMV increases above hers, dread and competition anxiety become a reality to her, you become a dominate & attractive man, she’ll be forced to start playing a Finite Game in order to “win” you back. She knows she can’t continuously play the Infinite Game because she’s running out of time – y…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 12:43 PM
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If I’m walking in a crowded city street or festival or something like that I’ve found that if you keep your head up but eyes focused on the ground where you intend to walk, people get out of your way.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/18 12:18 PM
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That would have been me years ago too. If it wasn’t a skunk I might have chased her with it. That shit lingers for weeks
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 08:49 PM
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I always say... Feminism hurts women too
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 12:44 PM
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If you’re doing shit right, you handling the chores wouldn’t even be a big gift for her. My wife still did laundry on Mother’s Day. I was outside having the kids wash her car and grilling burgers for dinner. Got her a small inexpensive gift, put the kids hand made cards with it and cracked a beer. And gave her the D that night. I “Dad so Hard.”
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 12:40 PM
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Ah yes, one of the great contradictions of feminism. It’s because the former causes the later. “You will be my equal or my servant because feminism.... now why am I so unhappy with you?” They just can’t get out of their own ways.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 12:36 PM
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Ya, this sounds too familiar doesn’t it.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 12:34 PM
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Recently we had a dead skunk under our brick porch. Guess who handled that, and without the seeking of validation. Saves us a couple hundred dollars she wanted to spend to pay a rodent service and it sets the frame for our roles. Do you think she felt overburdened putting kids to bed and cleaning the table that night? Fuck no, she was just glad she wasn’t digging under the porch to retrieve a dead rotting skunk carcass. Good distinctions you point out here. I handle car shit, finances, Coach spo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 12:32 PM
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Spot on. Don’t dance to be the better plow horse. Don’t be a total child either
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 12:26 PM
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I will admit I didn’t read the whole article but is she a SAHM? Honest question. I was at a religious service this weekend where my inlaws go to church. The priest read some letters that children from the school had written that were answers to questions about moms. One was “who is the boss in your house, mom or dad?” Oooh boy, put your bluepill buckles on. One of the answers was, “mom is the boss but she doesn’t like being the boss. But she has to be because Dad is a goofball.” Laughter erupted…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/18 12:23 PM
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Yep. There’s no problem doing something small if she’s genuinely a good mother. Just don’t forget that it’s “Mother’s Day,” not “wife day” and you’ll be good.
/r/askMRP14/05/18 01:16 AM
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Can’t have a man improving himself in today’s world. How else would the harpies maintain their dominance over weak men?
/r/TheRedPill11/05/18 11:52 AM
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I feel like being muscular at my age is almost an oddity and not an advantage. Fixed that for you. Game matters even more when you’re married. Come over to MRP to find out
/r/TheRedPill10/05/18 03:22 PM
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And it barely belongs there
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/18 12:01 PM
2

Facebook... the modern day hair salon
/r/askMRP09/05/18 03:47 PM
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Holy hell... just stop and keep reading. You’re like Bob in this scene right now. Put the gun back on the table Where does it say to talk about sex to the wife? There are times and places for it in some situations but you are not there.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 12:53 PM
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That was sarcasm. Massage shouldn’t even enter the foreplay picture. At least not for you and not yet
/r/askMRP09/05/18 12:48 PM
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This is the only possible option. Shred the files, burn the comsec equipment and crypto. Call for an evac!!!
/r/askMRP09/05/18 12:44 PM
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Ya I would have cared about this back in the beginning too. Ask yourself why you care. Then ask yourself if you care if she cares. She’s probably already forgot about it. FWIW my copy of Rational Male is in our living room on our shared bookshelf amongst my books.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 12:42 PM
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Am I satisfied at the moment because she improved? Or have I hamstered myself to a lower threshold of acceptance? I wonder this sometimes too. It helps if I take a quick assessment of the past few days and my present state; am I in a good place? Happy? If yes, then I’m good. Is something not sitting well or am I restless? If yes, then I probably hamstered a lower threshold
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 12:17 PM
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All this is like lifting, the longer you’ve been at it the slower and smaller the gains. There’s such a thing as “Newbie RP gains” just like newbie lifting gains.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 12:14 PM
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I messed up my shoulder AC joint trying to overhead press too much. Dumbbells are safer for my “ratty collar bone” as the PT put it
/r/MarriedRedPill09/05/18 01:31 AM
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Man I still fail to see this sometimes. Just this weekend I found myself defending my choice of how I spent my time while her family was in town. It just got worse the more I tried to rationally explain my actions. While I never apologized because I won’t apologize for conscious decisions I make, I failed to attend to her feelz over the situation... which is all she really wanted.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/18 01:12 PM
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Feels by association. Women just “are,” men have to “do” to even be considered in the ballpark of the value game.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/18 01:08 PM
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Good work and it’s obvious you didn’t get distracted with unimportant shit along the way. You are correct though... year one is just the beginning
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/18 12:59 PM
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Yep. Women have been lied to by feminism too and this belief that they can still “have it all” post wall and post divorce is one of those narratives that hurt women also.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/18 04:06 PM
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The important distinction for the “just next her” advice for us (MRP) is that we have exposed ourselves to asymmetrical levels of risk by getting married. We can’t next her without “paying the piper”, so to speak. So we have to go about it more calculating and with a well rounded strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/18 04:38 AM
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Glad you got something out of it but don’t mistake my advice about lag and patience as an excuse to cherry pick only the parts of the red pill that sit well with you. It’s all manipulation when you get down to brass tax. Everything in life is. How overt the manipulation is depends on what you want and who you’re dealing with. Gaming? Absolutely necessary. It’s not evil. It’s arguably not even manipulative. Do you think the women or even men in your life have ever manipulated you? I bet they have…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/18 02:26 AM
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The Professor has spoken. Well said
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/18 11:55 PM
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Carry on!
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/18 06:31 PM
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True. This where the importance of “other women” comes in. Oneitis can kill.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/18 04:54 PM
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Yes. I can be summarized as; AWALT but each woman will respond (or not) differently to a man making himself and his happiness his mental point of origin.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/18 04:08 PM
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I remember a similar post by u/UEMcGill and his point that he was FOUR YEARS into RP. The rabbit hole does go deep. I remember that post too. It obviously stuck with me. As long as there is enough improvement to suit you: This is key. Every man will have a different threshold for this. Run your strategy with your threshold or benchmark for happiness in mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/18 03:04 PM
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Absolutely. Nothing of value happens quickly or without effort. “most men don’t want to divorce their wife.” You also have to look at the opposite of this. I would argue that most wives don’t want to divorce either. Men need to use that to their advantage. If you aren’t there yet, then MRP can show you what to practice to get to a place where your wife also doesn’t want a divorce... putting you back in a position of dominance. It’s one of Rollo’s iron rules, I believe.... being the one who needs…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/18 02:54 PM
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It’s not a change that happens overnight. Just think about what negative thing could actually happen to you by not DEERing? What bodily harm or emotional stress will you endure? Once you realize that the answer to that is “none” or it’s funny, then you’ll understand
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 02:10 PM
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t that point she left the room and I didn’t say anything else about it. I think that’s a pretty clear sign that I’m still no good at handling the shit tests. Once you realize that her emotions (even frustration and anger) shouldn’t and actually can’t (if you’re in your frame) alter your mood, you’ll find these tests amusing. You’re still conditioned to believe you owe her an explanation. “Because,” should be all you need to say when she asks why you are acting like... or doing that... or leaving…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/05/18 12:24 PM
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If she’s offering starfish it’s not a “sexual advance.” If you find her attractive and want to have sex, don’t turn down an actual advance from her... ever. If she’s overweight you could try starfishing her. Shit, women have been doing it to fat husbands for all of recent history. Maybe she gets the picture, maybe not and then you decide what your next move is.
/r/askMRP01/05/18 12:07 PM
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Well said
/r/askMRP30/04/18 12:19 PM
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You’re getting some criticism here that I don’t quite understand but either way, it’s probably good to take it and use it to examine your path. You’re making the best of a really bad situation. You’ve had a hard go at it. And yes, AWALT but I’ve always believed it’s on a spectrum too. Your wife is one of the most solipsistic women I’ve ever seen described. You didn’t vet well but many of us didn’t because we were married while plugged in. But you’re running your strategy and aren’t paralyzed wit…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/18 01:29 PM
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If everything he is describing is true, she’s not worth giving her that chance. Maybe the most solipsistic woman I’ve ever read about.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/18 01:08 PM
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It’s more important now than ever to remember that Red Pill is simply understanding truths (facts) about gender interactions. It’s making sure men don’t become doormats for women or even other men. It’s becoming the best version of yourself while not being manipulated. This throwing the red pill and MRA in with incels is just that.... an uninformed attempt to manipulate. Incels are a scary, unhinged bunch. They aren’t the red pill.
/r/TheRedPill28/04/18 12:25 PM
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You nailed it. Simple, classic and fitting. That’s the key. Google Jason Statham Style. Great example of a guy who dresses well, keeps it versatile and with a good dash of masculinity. For guys trying to get a jump start on this who don’t have a ton of extra cash, go to Nordstrom Rack to get some of the basics. They have decent stuff with good fashion. Cargo shorts are for yard work
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/18 01:35 PM
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The problem is you are taking these words of hers too seriously.
/r/askMRP25/04/18 02:30 PM
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Don’t assume all men who buy their wives LV bags are betas. Never would. I just know I wouldn’t buy a $2k purse... even if I made 3x what I make now. That’s just me and what I value. And don’t assume all women who have them are harpy bitches who conned their weak men into buying them in their high limit high balance credit card. “Yes, but maybe...” (credit: Louis CK bit). But maybe your description of beta bux here is very detailed for a reason..... because we all know there are more guys out th…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 03:30 PM
1

Ha! Fuck that. Good thing I’m not much of a beta bucks. Then again my wife knows better than to ask for something like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/18 02:36 AM
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I have absolutely nothing to bolster proof of its effectiveness. Teeth seem whiter but I don’t know beyond that
/r/MarriedRedPill23/04/18 08:53 PM
3

looking at the world as an HB10. Way to penetrate that world!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/18 01:15 PM
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You didn’t set the frame correctly. Good news is you can change that. Do you want to? Have you read the sidebar? Probably not. Even better news is you’re only married with no kids. Figure out what’s easier for you; changing the frame to your advantage or starting over?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/04/18 06:50 PM
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Turn things like this you can’t control in your favor. Shit, I don’t see the problem. They’re amplifying the passive dread without you having to do much. Use it
/r/askMRP19/04/18 12:52 PM
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Then again, if the zombies DO come over that hill, I'll come to your place, and bring you some extra ammo and some cans of soup Sounds like a plan. Zombies are of course a farcical example. It’s the breakdown of civil society and ensuing violence and restructuring of human dominance that I was more referring to. And it happens in small pockets around the world fairly regularly. You think there’s many women in Syria during the worst of the ISIS ordeal, or even now, who are worried about being a “…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 06:14 PM
1

Ha! True
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 06:10 PM
1

Until the shit hits the fan - then the men get shot at, and the women tend the wound. The fabric of society is paper thin, hiding behind it is a lot of primal behaviour. Shit, I often think this. Even say it sometimes and people look at me like some nut job preper. Watch The Walking Dead. Other than the unrealistic portrayal of the feminine, it’s a good representation of what humans will resort to. The quickest way to end all this radical Feminist BS is a good ol apocalyptic type event (which I’…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 12:28 PM
2

Good indeed. I picture the “slow clap” as the applause that starts out slow and deliberate and builds to a crescendo.
/r/askMRP18/04/18 01:16 AM
0

Emulsify... is that some fancy Canuck word?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 08:39 PM
1

Lots of truth here. Reminds me of a Jack Donovan podcast I listened to on the way to work today in my comfortable climate controlled car on a commute absent of marauders and hostile tribes. Modern society is leaving men without purpose and your article sums it up well. BTW, I’m going to have to try your savory oatmeal recipe. Getting tired of my beef and rice I make for supplementary calories.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 08:19 PM
1

Sort of like giving nunchucks to an intermediate martial arts student. I’m not actually a martial arts guy but man it looks like you could really hurt yourself with nunchucks if you don’t know WTF you’re doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 03:31 PM
1

I think so. I should have taken a “before” picture but didn’t. It definitely hasn’t made things worse, I can assure you of that
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 01:48 PM
2

Yep, they think it’s ok to do it because of bullshit like, “happy wife happy life.”
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 12:56 PM
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If a woman fucks a Chad in the forest and nobody is around to hear it, did it really happen? Yes, this post, while having some good points, completely glosses over the importance of attraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/18 12:37 PM
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Own your fucking decisions. She calls you out on it just say yep, “my first choice was to fuck... you’re not interested so I’m going to do X, Y or Z now.” Not being butthurt doesn’t mean not being honest about your desires EDIT: put another way, stop giving a fuck about what she thinks when you leave
/r/askMRP17/04/18 11:53 AM
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Slow clap...
/r/askMRP17/04/18 02:02 AM
1

I’ve been using this stuff for about 6 months now. I think it’s working well
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 06:37 PM
1

All good stuff and I doubt many would disagree with how you’re leading and living your life but at the end of the day this is about sexual strategy for men in marriages.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 03:50 PM
1

Seems like good progress and work. As some have suggested already, it sounds like you need to ramp up the dread levels and start showing her that you will responsible for your own happiness... with or without her. Do that and re-assess. If she’s still cold and withholding, then it’s likely a “her problem.” Like red pointed out, if she’s truly not interested in sex then surely she shouldn’t care if you get it elsewhere. Maybe you could even stay married. Like the man’s version of optimizing hyper…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 03:46 PM
3

Fucking incredible. I kept looking at the before and after pics trying to see if it’s really the same guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/18 02:02 AM
2

I’d be interested to know what’s in your shakes. Impressive transformation brother
/r/TheRedPill16/04/18 01:54 AM
1

Couldn’t be more true. I came into this thing with this mistaken goal. Took a while to lose it
/r/MarriedRedPill12/04/18 05:12 PM
3

The conditioning runs deep, man. They have to want to take the pill. When I discovered red pill I instantly knew everything I was reading was right. I never once hesitated to accept it. Some truths were harsh but I KNEW they were true. You can’t force it someone who doesn’t 100% want and seek it.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/18 01:22 PM
1

Was it ever gone?
/r/askMRP12/04/18 01:03 AM
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Three possibilities here; You don’t have your basic “functioning guy” shit together and she’s calling you on it. You’re owning your shit but she just doesn’t respect you enough yet to not talk down to you like that way. You’re guilty of both one and two If it’s 1, knock it off. If it’s two... give it some time and keep working on your strategy to become the man she won’t say shit like that to. There’s also a 4th possibility but my guess is it’s not this; she’s just venting feelz as women are kno…
/r/askMRP11/04/18 06:51 PM
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I’ll crush me some tacos if put in front of me. Sometimes the wife makes pulled chicken bowls (think chipotle). Good stuff, minimal carbs from bread because there’s no tortilla. But even normal, greasy, hard shell tacos... yep, I’ll indulge in that.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/04/18 11:52 AM
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My wife still shit tests me for eating healthy. It may never end. Good thing I find it entertaining
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 08:23 PM
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Good list. Most of the “common man’s” confusion over women comes from the chaff that’s been thrown up by society for so long to confuse and condition men. The “be yourself and a nice guy” BS. Get past that and this isn’t that hard.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/18 12:26 PM
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Don’t agree to go into any tamer’s cages unless there’s no door. Maybe you never have to leave the cage, but the tamer knows you can whenever, if you desire. She’ll give you the good cuts then.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/04/18 12:12 PM
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Good on you. Report back again at one year or 1.5.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 06:37 PM
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Damn. I had a comment then read this. Carry on, sir.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 01:12 PM
1

Good reminder. And one that needs to be taught here time and again.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 01:11 PM
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You’re getting some heat here but I’d say do Whatever it takes. Experiment, share notes... take feedback and adjust fire. Personally, I think this was what’s called for in OPs situation for THIS woman and for the time being. His strategy. Some women are slow learners. My bet is she’ll eventually come around to the point where you won’t have to constantly reinforce this DL10 dynamic.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 12:49 PM
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So is withholding sex a nice.... ah fuck it. I’m a slow learner
/r/MarriedRedPill09/04/18 12:34 PM
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Who the fuck is down voting this?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/18 11:16 PM
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Ha! Very nice
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/18 09:30 PM
2

An occasional nazi reference never hurt anyone. Reminds everyone what happens when good men do nothing.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/18 08:18 PM
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Looking forward to the podcast. Really enjoyed the last one you all did
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/18 01:54 PM
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This is about where I sit on this fence of debate we have stumbled into. Is my wife a friend like my brothers? Like my closest male friends? Absolutely not. Is she my “best friend?” Nope. Are we friendly in a partner kind of way? Yep. I wouldn’t try and nor would i want to have the dynamic with my wife that I do with my close male friends. Women just aren’t made for that. “Friendship” implies equality and the ability to freely walk away without consequences for both parties. Maybe this post is j…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/04/18 01:50 PM
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Good thing for you is that your fitness and style are in your control.
/r/TheRedPill06/04/18 01:26 PM
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True. All of it. Balding guy here. I’ve been cutting my a la Jason Statham for a few years now. I have no other options. The options I DO have are to dress well and be in shape (weight lifting shape, not running shape). Keep those two things on point and you can look good with buzzed or no hair. And while the majority of women do prefer men with good hair, there are some that prefer the bald look... if you’ve got the rest of your appearance together that is.
/r/TheRedPill06/04/18 01:25 PM
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Nice. We have two gray tabbies. Same litter. Mischievous little fucks but always come to the door to see who’s there.
/r/askMRP05/04/18 07:50 PM
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So she won’t fuck you as often as you’d like but wants to fuck other guys.... id tell her she can fuck right off but I know you’re sort of new into this so what I’d do is to Start drawing up an exit plan. She’s made her intentions and goals clear. You make it clear that you won’t tolerate that shit. Why would you waste anymore time trying to change her mind. She’s manipulating you. You’re lucky, most women would t communicate this overtly. 88Will88 had a great post on how to approach divorce ami…
/r/askMRP05/04/18 07:40 PM
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Spot on
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 05:59 PM
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👍🏻 thanks bogey. I remember you talking about the cowboy method some years back. Time flies
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 04:00 PM
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Thanks. That clarified where I should be focusing now. I look pretty good with my shirt off already but could use some extra size and a bit more sculpting so I think the hypertrophic focus combined with diet is the key
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 03:59 PM
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How long does each session take?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 02:16 PM
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The thing about GZCLP is that it's actually quite similar, so it's an easy one to switch to from 5x5. Ok, makes sense. GZ sounds like something I should look into. I Just posted a comment about periodization in the 60 DOD.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 12:55 PM
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Don’t switch up lifting programs too fast. A month is not long enough for pretty much anything. I did SL5x5 for a year (too long in retrospect but one month is too short). Regarding your wife’s comments about not wanting you to touch her; are you doing anything, consciously or subconsciously, that communicates that this sort of marriage is ok? You must be, otherwise she wouldn’t be thinking it’s ok to completely use you like that for 8 months. I know you’re new so don’t go Rambo but start implem…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 12:22 PM
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Question for /u/bogeyd6 or anyone else with lifting street cred. My goal is to continue building muscle/size without totally neglecting strength. How often should you switch up between heavy lifting (which i classify as 3-5 rep range) and hypertrophic lifting (8-12 reps with lighter weight)? Should you build a plan that has periodization built in like Jim Stoppani’s shortcut to size or do something like SL5x5 for a number of months followed by a more hypertrophic routine for a number of months?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/18 12:04 PM
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depending on your frame, not sure i would put this under the "however" category This was the other thing I meant to mention. Absolutely agree. If the wisecrack or comment amuses you, then it’s all good. thing is with those weights, she ain't seen nothing yet. Also true. I thought I was some kind of impressive shit after year one lifting. Year two has shown even more progress. It’s slower, but it’s there
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/18 01:23 PM
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Nice work. Year one is just the start. My year two and beyond has shown to be more fruitful. The “I like your physique but don’t get more muscles” comment is classic. Women....
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/18 12:22 PM
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Mystery is key. My wife once told me that she was initially attracted to me because I didn’t talk much and had an aire of mystery about me. I fear OP’s talking, while maybe productive for him in the short term, is just “building a better beta.” Edit: by the way, I really enjoyed your podcast with Donovan. Listened to it on the way to and from work yesterday.
/r/askMRP31/03/18 04:06 PM
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She then tells me that she likes sex, is interested in sex, but just doesn’t want to have sex with me. If this was a shit test, which it very well might have been, then ignoring it was the right move. Besides, you saw how her words didn’t match her pre-lubed pussy (actions) in the days after. If this was her being honest, then you have the assertive right to say something like, “oh well, that’s too bad. MY woman will want to have sex with me.... you can be a part of that or not.” Of course you h…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 05:05 PM
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Very true
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 05:09 PM
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In short... it’s that validation/approval from the herd. This is much more important to women than men. It’s why they go to the bathroom together and men don’t. It’s why clothing stores target women more than men. Biologically, it’s how women have survived... by making sure the tribe doesn’t leave them alone for another tribe to kill. It also explains Rollo’s “War-bride” phenomena.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 08:02 PM
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"Yup. Stereotypes exist for a reason." Another favorite line of mine
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 01:08 PM
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I just need to get back to a real sex life so I can more easily avoid (him) cheating (on me) or divorce. ....Is what your wife needs to be thinking. How you lead her to that is totally up to you. And it’s your only leverage on marriage 2.0. Your ONLY tool.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 01:14 PM
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Nothing wrong with being an asshole if you’re just doing what you think is best for you. EDIT: “Asshole” is relative. There’s asshole, and then there’s bitter, vindictive victim. Maybe you meant don’t be the later Just last night my wife said, “no, you just want that because it’s what’s best for you.” The “that” was something we were talking about in reference to a group outing coming up and a suggestion I had made. I just said, “yep, it would be best for me.” And then chuckled a bit. Manipulati…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 12:17 PM
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A&A, fogging or AM are (though I have an inkling as to frame, but not how to define it for others). Keep reading. You won’t even internalize all this in a matter months, much less be able to display it. I have this intense sense that everything related to redpill is the most important thing in my life right now. Yep. turning around years of programming is far more difficult than earning a degree, or establishing a career. We're talking about destroying and then rebuilding your entire self-identi…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 01:46 AM
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Excellent breakdown. I used to be 155 lbs. 5’11”. I’m 39. Been doing 5x5 and then a modified version of it adding in hypertrophy for past 3 years. now I’m 178. Lifting and eating. Gotta eat big to get big.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/18 04:02 AM
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This was my thought. If OP’s wife was this hysterical the police must certainly have been called to Emily’s house.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 12:54 PM
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I would say it’s on the captain to make sure his first officer handles this. Personally (as a guy with two daughters) I don’t think it’s a man’s job to talk to them about periods... unless of course mom is not in their life.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 12:51 PM
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man and explain to your beloved as I said above, "Let's get our head on straight. That is not proper behavior of a wife towards her husband. Do you want the kids to grow up seeing a good relationship or a bad one?" This is the pressure flip that should have been used from the moment she tried to paint affectionate behavior between married people as a “bad example” for the kids.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 12:46 PM
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Yes, deep down I think she likes the change of pace with the Jeep. Or she’ll soon realize she does. It’s not even our primary car so I really couldn’t give less fucks about any shit testing about it. The Jeep handles the shit tests well, it just sits there looking cool or drives down the road unaffected. You’re probably right about the advice giving. Sometimes I like to test things though, just for shits and giggles. I can always fall back on my oaking if it doesn’t work out.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 02:57 PM
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Abundance
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 12:58 PM
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I literally shivered reading the end
/r/TheRedPill13/03/18 07:26 PM
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That’s probably part of it. The wife has been more sexually available and consistently. Still not where I fully want it, but approaching that. Sexual strategy.... it’s why we’re here.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:42 PM
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Nice work! Keep going
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:41 PM
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Sorry to hear about your father. I know it won’t be easy for me when that day comes.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:36 PM
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The game part is honestly where I need to OYS. I’m more of an opportunist on game. Been so busy with everything else that it just doesn’t happen. Poor excuse, I know.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:35 PM
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Agreed. I did it last year with some success but it did seem to hurt my lifts. I’ve been bulking for a while and my body is used to eating throughout the day so it will be tough getting back into it
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:33 PM
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It seems juvenile and boring to me, but important to her. I gotta oak it up. Yes and yes
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:32 PM
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Need to either start IF and cutting soon or increase cardio which is at approximately once a week. Lifts are going up slow and steady and body is looking good, just want to lose a little more padding on prep for summer. Been doing a mixed strength/hypertrophic program 20/80 which I’m really liking and is showing good gains. The wife’s hands seem to like the bigger muscles too. Bought an old Jeep Wrangler recently and its my new hobby. Going to learn how to maintain and upgrade it myself. It’s lo…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 01:34 PM
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That sucks. So many RP truths there and just a steaming pile of hamstering about her prior behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 04:29 PM
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Excellent post, Rollo. Now we have a new post to link to guys asking, “should I turn down starfish sex?” Also reminds me of a time my wife was trying to convince me to do something I didn’t want to and tried to leverage an arrangement one of her friends offered her husband... the arrangement being that this wife gave blowjobs to her husband in exchange for him going to Disney World with her family for the second time in a year (that’s the real “Disney fairytale” isn’t it). My wife offered the sa…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 01:40 PM
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“Why do my eyes hurt?”
/r/askMRP03/03/18 12:54 AM
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This, OP. This and some of what red-curious said. Entertain it for a few days or weeks (your call). Then at some point you decide who’s in charge and how much manipulation you will entertain. Then you make it clear her little tantrum-like power play is not what you signed up for and unacceptable behavior and tell her you’ll be getting pussy with or without her.
/r/askMRP03/03/18 12:50 AM
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Slow clap 👏
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 01:40 PM
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That’s a great movie. Spacey just does whatever the fuck he wants and makes no apologies. Lots of good examples of AM and frame in that movie.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 01:12 PM
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Good post. These kind of realizations are more important for guys to have up front than we’ve given credit. There’s always that small nagging reluctance to jump over to a new path, especially when you know you can’t go back to the old. That uncertainty is part of acclimating to the new path though, whether it be a job, a hobby, a marriage or even just leaving any one of those things.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/18 03:30 PM
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Are you attracted to your wife? Is she throwing starfish? I’ll lose my erection if she acts like she’s doing me a favor.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 01:27 PM
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Sex isn’t transactional
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 06:55 PM
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Good analogy
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 04:39 PM
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Good work. I don’t think you necessarily talked too much. As long as that talk is backed up woh action, consistent and congruent it’s ok. Don’t be the silent STFU autist. Not sure if this was really a main event or just you “moving forward” as Stone said. The more I hear about main events the more I dislike the concept.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 01:51 PM
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This is why I’m starting to dislike the whole main event thing. It gives guys a “goal” they shouldn’t have and suggests it will only happen once
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 01:45 PM
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You should stay above the me anger that may be directed at you. You don’t have to take it though
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 01:44 PM
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Put an attractive woman within sight and I have more energy, more stamina, more drive etc. I’m not seeking validation; I just got more juice. Not sure if this a weakness to be worked on or is just part of the firmware. Thoughts? This is probably rooted in evolutionary biology. Not a weakness once you’re aware of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 03:26 PM
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2 is fun, huh? This probably isn’t universal but in my case, I found the “3’s” to be worse than the so called “terrible two’s.” Even more defiance and irrational resistance in the face of certain punishment. I call it “Bravehearting.” I’d tell my daughters, “don’t do X again or you’ll be put in time out/have something taken away, etc. She’d just look at me... do X again and take her punishment. Might has well have been William Wallace screaming “FREEDOM!!!” on the executioners table.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 01:27 PM
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why would she renegotiate this arrangement if she’s happy with it? Not your concern. You have the right to change your mind, your goals or reassess what’s important to you. You can’t control what she does in response to these changes. “Why change, he won’t do shit, besides he has to love me unconditionally.” I think you know this but you do not have to do anything unconditionally. EDIT: My wife tried to manipulate me once after I decided to head out for the night when she didn’t feel like having…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/02/18 01:26 PM
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Nice work. Your arms from the first pic to the last pic are the biggest improvement. I noticed a few prolonged arm grabs by other moms this weekend too. I’ve always been more on the slender side. (Like a swimmers build or Pitt in Fight Club). Starting to wonder if I’ll just have to be in a permanent clean bulk to maintain good muscle mass. But God dammit if I won’t be the most jacked skinny guy I can be.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/18 01:40 PM
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Very well put. Making me think about all this differently again. That’s tough to do after being here for two years so thank you for that.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/18 01:24 PM
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She knows I feel this way about raising our kids. She has even said herself "if I cheat on her, she won't leave but just make my life hell". Interesting. Sounds like she may tolerate it as divorcing doesn’t sound like a good option to her either.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/18 07:31 PM
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This is essentially it. She doesn’t owe you shit, and you don’t owe her your unconditional attention if you don’t feel like it in the moment. Another good post to find is “Verbal Intercourse is Optional.” Find the reply from Jack10 on that one... pure gold.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/18 01:04 PM
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Or buffalo wing Thursday
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 06:26 PM
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You’ve made some good realizations here about yourself. Some are hard to come to terms with, aren’t they? I see a lot of attempts by your wife to delegitimize your need for sex. Like the comment about the poor kids having such a father.... pure female manipulative bullshit. Do NOT let her effect your frame with this. I made a post a few months ago about owning your desires without negotiating hers. Too lazy and not enough time between sets right now to link it. It’s your new frame for when she t…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 01:52 PM
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That’s the exact mentality I’ve never understood, even before I unplugged
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 06:31 PM
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Yep, never understood why some guys get so invested in something they have zero control over. Listening to people talk about what their team could or should have done is an instant attention loss for me. My college roommate used to sulk in the room for half the day if his team lost on game day. Talk about being in a bunch of other people’s frames. Having a few drinks with some friends now and again to watch a game... that’s fine. It’s social
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 01:59 PM
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It’s actually irrelevant in this case If you mean the 30% BF then keep fooling yourself. If you were 10% and ripped might she still have been bitchy and locked you out? Yes perhaps, but then you’re leaving the house would have much greater effect.
/r/askMRP30/01/18 02:18 PM
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As a member of Married Red Pill, I’ll say this is pretty spot on. Always be in charge of your life and your goals. Make sure you are happy first. If she tries to belittle/beta-fy/put down, etc you AM it and if she doesn’t get the hint you start removing your presence and attention. Where are you taking that precious attention of yours? She’ll start wondering.
/r/TheRedPill30/01/18 01:27 PM
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Nice breakdown. I was operating in dynamic 2, where your FR is 3, correct? Your depiction of just acting to set the boundary as opposed to verbally setting reminds me of this scene (scrub ahead to 1:25). Going to DEER to you here a bit. I have had times where I just end a conversation due to not liking her tone/attitude with no follow-up. This time I wanted to make it clear that it was beyond that, that I normally have no problem helping her and like helping her, but she can’t snap at me if she’…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/18 09:57 PM
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Felt right. Maybe a small slip on my part but wanted to set that boundary
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/18 04:41 PM
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I like it. This should be the default option A. Have a backup plan and a lawyer in reserve but if this can be executed as you advise, hopefully you won’t need option B.... but know where to find option B.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 02:32 PM
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Agreed. My wife works and is increasing her hours as the kids get older. She’s also increasing her Roth contributions (that come from our bank account). I’m always supportive of these slow changes to a more equitable split of income and retirement contribution. Less for me to shell out in event of divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 02:26 PM
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They probably can’t understand what OP is talking about with all the pure logic. It looks like matrix code to them.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/01/18 02:09 PM
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Your shit test story isn’t really a shit test. Shit tests don’t happen from something you started. Your request for her to clean her mess was more of leadership expectations or boundary setting (as you mention.) The key will be whether you get drug into an argument when she pushes back. Are you afraid of her emotions? If so, this is hard
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/18 01:24 PM
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I can’t remember where I read it (some red pill blog or podcast) but the statement that stuck with me was something like; *“if given the choice between only these two, most men would choose the HB6 who absolutely craves their dick over the HB 9 or 10 who does not have that genuine desire. I’ve realized that I completely agree with this. Sounds like you do too.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/18 05:24 PM
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“if you don’t value my advice... then don’t bring me in to it’s solution.” My wife does this sometimes... the whole, “help me with a problem that isn’t your fault and oh by the way, I’ll be bitchy the entire time,” thing. Just the other day she called me and started asking (in a bitchy tone) me what some dashboard message about parking assist in our new car meant. I asked a few questions to try to trouble shoot for her and her attitude just got worse. I hung up, sent a text that said, “You want …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/18 05:30 PM
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Wait, that post was for real?! I thought it was satire all the way.
/r/askMRP13/01/18 09:54 PM
2

What do you eat mostly when on a bulk? I’m still struggling with putting on lean muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/01/18 01:08 AM
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“Yep, it’s constant” “No, I think of blow jobs too” “Lucky girl...”. Or. “Aren’t you lucky”
/r/askMRP07/01/18 04:17 AM
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Strategic vs tactical
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/18 03:28 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with valuing her for sex.. Doesn’t mean it’s the ONLY thing you value her for but if it’s important to you, and it obviously is as is with most men, don’t be shamed for that. You’re new to this. One month per year. You know this. You are limiting your options by saying or acting like you won’t divorce over something that you value highly. That’s fine if you draw the line at leaving, that’s your decision and you have your reasons. But know you cripple what little power you h…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/01/18 03:26 PM
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when something seems to good to be true (TGTBT) it usually is.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/01/18 01:31 PM
2

Solipsism is powerful
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 02:30 PM
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I buy thirty 2” thick wooden dowel rods every month. Every morning I drink a glass of raw eggs and then bend one of the rods until it breaks. Have to do it in presence of the wife though
/r/askMRP04/01/18 02:09 PM
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Glad you got some value from it. One thing, don’t talk to her about the captain FO dynamic. They don’t want to hear that shit, they just want you to get it. And she’ll more than likely say she doesn’t want that... modern feminism is powerful. Don’t fight it head on, only way to counter that is guerrilla tactics. Actions, not words. Words are the woman’s field of battle. We’ll lose 8/10 times.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 01:35 PM
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Would she care if you openly found a girlfriend? Serious question. The next time this dynamic comes up, “Well babe, since we both enjoy being married, being friends and being parents and sex isn’t a priority for you and it is for me, I guess I’ll have to find someone else I can discreetly (from your friends and family) get that with.” I know it’s a stretch but it’s worth exploring, especially if one is considering divorce. Not a plate, but a one-sided open marriage. I know this is basically the …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 01:24 PM
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Seems like your problem can be fixed with 80% lifting and 20% shut the fuck up. “I don't know what's wrong im just not a horny person etc.” My wife said this once years ago. It’s what initially set me on a path that had me finding the red pill. You’ve obviously discovered, at least in your wife’s case, these words are mostly meaningless. All they tell you is that she is not as physically attracted to you right now. Damn I wish was given such a clear and direct hint on how to fix things when I wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 12:59 PM
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How clear have you made it that she isn’t cutting it? Does she know this and not care? Know this and not want to admit it (to herself)? What is her reason for not wanting to get on board with your ideal of a good marriage? Do you think she fears losing you or losing everything you’ve built (house, life together with kids, etc)?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/01/18 03:58 AM
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I’ll let you know when I find it
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/18 01:36 PM
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“Afraid of wife” and “Not enough time for myself.” Hmmm, seems to me like the first problem can be solved by doing the second. Get out and do your thing more and there’s nothing her emotions should be able to affect you with. “Sorry babe, it’s poker night/ninja class/.etc.” And don’t adopt her biological worry about age and kids. I had my first at 31 and my second even later... obviously. A man can father a child almost until the day he dies. If it’s because you don’t want to be changing diapers…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/01/18 01:20 PM
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Slow clap 👏
/r/askMRP02/01/18 02:41 AM
1

The truth is often weird.
/r/askMRP22/12/17 07:46 PM
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Not too long before I’ll be scared to whip my dick out at the urinal. Not sure which gender is in there these days. Gets confusing.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/17 01:54 PM
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There’s three types of men; those who know something isn’t right and want that answer, and want to be unplugged, those who will absolutely reject RP truths (the majority) and those who are open minded and rational enough that they just MIGHT see the light and out of curiousness will want to be unplugged the more they know. I have a friend I’ve known 25 years who I think is in this third camp. He is in a sexless marriage where he’s an amazing husband, dad and provider. His wife gets everything an…
/r/askMRP22/12/17 01:00 PM
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Another great one. That movie has some of the best dialogue.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 04:38 PM
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Yep, you know this all too well.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 04:38 PM
1

Yep. I work in a job with physical fitness standards that must be met yearly. They are different (lower) for the women.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 04:37 PM
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Nailed it
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 01:32 PM
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Equal pay for equal work... unless that work is a garbage man or brick layer... then were not interested.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 01:19 PM
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Yes but not right now. I’m tired. Maybe tomorrow
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 01:17 PM
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One of the first things I noticed that changed when I started employing this praxeology was that arguing almost stopped completely. Because I just refused to engage. This is a decent analogy for why/how.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 12:48 PM
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My wife does this sometimes too when I have a differing opinion on something. Now I just semi-FOG it with a quote from the Big Lebowski, “that’s like... ya know..... your opinion man.” She gets huffy but knows I’m in a lighthearted/jokey frame when I say it, so there’s nothing to attack.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/12/17 12:47 PM
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Sometimes MRP feels like two steps forward and one-step backwards. Sometimes it is. It’s how you deal with the steps backwards that matters
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 06:20 PM
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The devils are always with you. Keep at it for now, report in OYS and just keep reading posts here.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 04:03 PM
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So much knowledge and non-ego invested ways of understanding MRP. Gold
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 02:23 PM
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Have a merry Christmas brother.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 02:10 PM
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Yes, it’s all mostly second nature which is nice. Frees up brain power for other more important stuff. l’m having to teach her how to adult by saying stuff like "look, if you don't want to go out with me tonight tell me, I'm not mad." I feel like I just said something similar to my wife recently. I also give less fucks when she is mad because she perceives some decision or action I make isn’t in line with her opinion. And guess what? She is usually over it pretty quick.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 02:09 PM
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Defend, explain, excuse, rationalize. All things you shouldn’t be doing if your frame is solid and your mental point of origin is you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 01:32 PM
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Thanks. You’ve been one of the constant sounding boards to keep straight since I’ve been here.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 01:26 PM
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At the end of the day, you're happy in where you are now. This is everything. Taking comfort in what you've accomplished and taking pleasure in seeing what else you can. This is a big part of it, yes. We all come into it from different places and with different momentum. Some guys just need a little course correction and things are good. Like you say, some aren’t that behind the curve. Others may essentially be “changing the rules” because their marriage never really was what they wanted it to b…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 01:24 PM
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I see what you did there. Nice
/r/MarriedRedPill19/12/17 01:11 PM
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Ya, that first one is hard to read for me, or anyone with eyes. The comments are good reminders to stay on track.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 06:10 PM
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At the time I didn’t know much about the “big players” and probably didn’t give jack10 or ultimatecads comments enough attention. Now I see Jack’s comment and realize how how lucky I was he wasted the 5 minutes to post that.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 05:05 PM
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Yep, I think I know which comments were yours and a stones. Ultimatecad and Jack10 even chimed in with some worthy nuggets. It’s cringe worthy for certain, but it’s necessary to read (for me).
/r/MarriedRedPill18/12/17 04:59 PM
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Oh my god. I have no idea why your woman thinks this is an insult. Because she can’t stand him. Because the “evil patriarchal society” we live in. This usually makes me laugh because I openly and genuinely get amused at her yelling at the TV about him. "I trust you enough to handle everything and I'm sure you'll be fine at it. Do you think you'll need my help?" I probably could have made this go easier saying it like that, yes. Usually she’s competent and responsible enough where this is just un…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/17 10:07 PM
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Time internalizing the sidebar and understanding what’s actually going on behind all the verbal smoke will get you there.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/12/17 02:18 PM
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bro, throw your wife a bone and let her have her FB feelz and validation, which is incidentally all about YOU. she has the trophy (YOU) and you're not letting her show off to all the other hens. not to mention all the knock-on benefits when the other hens check you out and IM your wife about how lucky she is. Never thought about it this way. I’ll take this under consideration.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 11:36 PM
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Yep, that DEER devil still likes to make an appearance now and again. Even after two years of me being aware of him.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 05:24 PM
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Last night I got lazy and made some noob mistakes. The engine of the plane caught fire and I nose-dived to put out the flames but pulled it up in he end... but it was avoidable. I had planned a dinner out with just the wife about a week ago since it had been a while since we did that without the kids. Booked the babysitter, told her where we are going. We are driving to the restaurant and I tell her that I’m going to have to work for about an hour or two on Saturday. Just found out that day. We …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/12/17 03:55 PM
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Very nice. This is a slow and steady process. Fast gains tend to be fleeting and over time your gains are just like lifting... quick and noticeable in the beginning and slow but lasting over a long time. Looking forward to your one year report. As MRP is sexual strategy for married guys, what is yours?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 02:09 PM
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Not a strip club fan for reasons already mentioned but agree with the rest. With one caveat... real men are also comfortable in social settings and hobbies by themselves. I have solo hobbies and hobbies that require others. Having a group of guys to do stuff with keeps the feminine from creeping in too much. Having one to three really good male friends you do hobbies or get drinks with is also important but don’t forget that at the end of the day in our society. men are, and always will be “on t…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 01:34 PM
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So you're the assholes who get married on a holiday and make it all about you. Haha! That was my thought. I hate when people do this.
/r/askMRP09/12/17 06:14 PM
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I did the same thing
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 05:17 PM
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That’s what I was thinking... shadow monsters and weird lizard dogs that will rip your face off of you get to close to the hub
/r/askMRP08/12/17 02:15 PM
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Great post. I’m one of those 100% guys but my situation is a little different. I’m employed by THE man, enjoy the hell out of my job and worked hard to get there. My pay off is one of job gratification but I still make a decent salary. If I wasn’t in this job, I’d be following this to the T. I’m looking into a side-hobby now that I’m trying to convert into a side hustle but it will be a slow road. The one thing I took from this for a guy like me is to consider renting my current home instead of …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/17 01:52 PM
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First, there’s a lot of comments criticizing your lifts here. Take it with a grain of salt. Everyone has their own pace. The last thing you need to do is hurt yourself. Find a good program, run it for 3-4 months then switch to something different because your body will get used to the same thing for too long. Periodize Second, there’s a lot of good insight here. The first part of the answer is that yes, you haven’t yet reached a status where you deserve the sex you want. Third, if you get there …
/r/askMRP07/12/17 02:03 PM
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Just finishing up Jim Stoppani’s Shortcut to size program and looking for something new. I’ll check out this BLAB program you speak of
/r/askMRP07/12/17 01:52 PM
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In the words of Ray Zalinsky, “Great, you've pinpointed it. Step two is washing it off.” What do you want? Let’s start basic
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/17 12:54 PM
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I’m the same way when it comes to strip clubs. Haven’t been in years. Just seems like nothing good comes of it. Would you pay some chef $20 for the chance to look at and maybe smell some dish he prepared? No. Then why do we do that for pussy? Congratulations on the sex
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/17 12:50 PM
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symptom of you not lifting heavy or hard enough I am sometimes guilty of this. Mostly in the form of too much rest time. I get a lot of my MRP reading in between sets and sometimes lose track of time. So no, I’m not going to full exhaustion every set. I actually just joined another gym right near my house ($15/month so couldn’t pass up.). I use my work gym for free so this is a “supplementary gym.” Anyway, They have a Bf measurement tools there. I’ll pay for a use.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 11:05 PM
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I’ll check out the RD guy. Is he on YouTube? I probably should just bite the bullet and hire a professional for a few sessions. There’s just so much info out there on the internet that I keep thinking I can use that to tweak my diet and lifting plans.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:40 PM
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Very nice
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:39 PM
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Ya, I should have clarified I’m shooting for 5-10 lbs of muscle, hence the slow, measures ramping up of calories. I’m not much for the 1RM thing. My goal is hypertrophic gain with occasional 3-5 rep lifts mixed in to fool my muscles and maintain strength.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:38 PM
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Good perspective
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 05:36 PM
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A few short course corrections I’m working on; My Goals I’m procrastinating on a small side hustle I want to start. I’m pretty much in the research phase (finding out how much capital I’ll need, laws and regulations in the industry and how to source materials.). I’m trying to revive an old (ended in 1910s old) family business. Lifting/Diet I’m trying to do a good solid bulk this winter. I’ve added a package or two of ground beef and rice to my diet weekly to supplement calories. It doesn’t seem …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/17 01:34 PM
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or for fucks sake, doesn’t need their wife to make them a Doctor's or hair appointment I know of at least two guys in the past year whose wives made their vasectomy appointments FOR THEM. I physically convulsed a little when I heard this. They literally have their husbands balls in their hands.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 02:12 PM
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Haven’t read all the comments yet so maybe someone already pointed this out by this; I have more respect for a Red Pill Rambo that laughs at his fuck ups, shrugs, and says….well I will do better tomorrow. He recognized the mistake and executes to fix it. Is the crux of importance and overlap in your and the Rambo post by /u/Rian_Stone. This basically is how NOT to go Rambo and how to maintain your status as leader. Nobody here has it all figured out (credit to GargBlarg). We make mistakes and ad…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/17 02:03 PM
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Either you believe you’re the prize or you don’t. If she gets hit on, that’s outside your control and GAF zone. If SHE is hitting on or pursuing other men or indulging advances with more than friendly conversations, then you set a boundary or show her the door if it’s repeated.
/r/askMRP30/11/17 02:13 PM
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Gotta love them bloops
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 10:47 PM
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All wise advice and i mostly agree. I agree that even when a marriage is good, you can never rest and you shouldn’t expect or strive for bluepill ends. However, I do think there can be a time or threshold where you decide the marriage is not right or good for you. I was just taking to resolutions316 about this in his OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 10:46 PM
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The flair doesn't mean I have everything on lockdown. It means I understand why things happen. It means I'm not delusional, it says nothing about my actions, and especially nothing about the results, which are only 50% under my control. "Getting it" has nothing to do with the success of a marriage. Fuck if this isn’t the realization I’ve come to. Im not one of the guys here whose wives have become a sex kitten or super slut with me. I’m flaired and the verdict is still out on my marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 08:40 PM
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Wow. Way more than I was expecting. I would have been happy with “a banana.” You’ve thought about this quite a lot obviously. Nice work
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 08:29 PM
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Ha! Or in current event terms; Bradley Cooper playing the didgeridoo is hot, Matt Lauer or Louis CK doing it is creepy and unwanted.
/r/askMRP29/11/17 04:08 PM
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This song was just playing on my mix while lifting
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 02:41 PM
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You’re a much more avid runner than I. Because I’m genuinely interested, what do you like to eat to fuel your runs so your body doesn’t cannibalize muscle?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 02:06 PM
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It could totally just be her and her hangups... Absolutely (no sarcasm intended). part of your MAP then is to figure out what your threshold for having her issues negatively effect your happiness are. Do they outweigh the cost (emotional and financial) of divorce. My wife and I are not the most compatible people either. I flat out told her that one time. Open and honest. She agrees. The other thing you need to do, so you stop ruminating about it, is get out there and talk to other girls. Shit, p…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 02:02 PM
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Rethink what she may be getting out of occasionally lifting with you
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/17 01:35 PM
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If it’s just her complaining and having a shit attitude, you need to have the more mature frame to be above it. Don’t be reactive. Be a man. If it becomes disrespectful towards you... well then, I guess she doesn’t need/value your help with the baby that much. Just walk away or get out of the apartment. One time my wife was all pissy because she couldn’t get our computer to print something she needed. She asked me for help. I came over, asked her one question about what it was she was trying to …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 03:53 PM
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Yes. And the tit for tat comments aren’t good AA or amused mastery. When my wife gets accusatory or irrationally critical I snicker and treat it like it’s one of my daughters throwing a tantrum over something.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 02:18 PM
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I’m sort of shocked at how much sex you’re getting considering how much you get pulled into her frame and fight back like a woman when she’s being bitchy. Oh well, I guess do what works.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 01:31 PM
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This is where it be at, OP ☝🏼
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 01:20 PM
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Wait, so you’ve shown her the door? It wasn’t clear to me from your OP.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 01:16 PM
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If I’m right, and I usually like to think I am... I believe he gave you a shout out because he knew his idea of cycling more beta back in was in stark contrast to your recent post. Either way, the main issue here isn’t the infusion of beta traits into the relationship, it’s hamstering away his wife’s actions.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/17 01:06 PM
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Men are the true romantics. And that cheating on someone actually does mean you do not love em romantically Not sure about this. I think it’s possible to still love a woman romantically and cheat. Probably not your first choice, right? But it’s what you’ve decided is best for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/17 09:47 PM
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Conversations where she only ever sees her side and expects me to hone my sexual appitite or something. This is her trying to tell you how she thinks you should feel and act. Just AM this. When I tell her that I've got needs and such to break the covert contract she gets mad or sad and guilts or tantrums and walks away.. This is where you have to internalize that her feelings are her problems, not yours. She gets angry because your a healthy man who wants to fuck? Tough shit. Do you get mad at h…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/17 12:19 AM
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Not to belittle the effects of legit childhood sexual trauma, because the fallout is real and bad, but this; What really pisses me off though is that she equates masterbation with cheating. ... tells me that her expectation of your relationship dynamics is way out of whack. She may have her own issues but she doesn’t seem to respect your needs. Just as you said, “the fine line of getting your needs met,” is where the issue lies. I’m no expert but her issues sound like they require professional h…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/17 12:06 AM
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You point out an important dynamic. I would still say that you can and should push through LMR without negotiating her desire, or as you say “training her to think it’s ok with you to have to wade through that LMR”... to a point. The acceptable level of LMR and the level of things the man is doing to get past it will depend on that man and that woman. This idea could probably be a post all on its own. Sometime I’m up for a challenge and if it’s sort of playful, then there’s nothing wrong with a …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 01:36 PM
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Good summary of the key points here. You bring up another important thing that I neglected.... There are two possible reasons you are getting more “no’s” than “hell yes’s.” The A and B. You first become a man who owns his desires, appearance and mission. If after that she still doesn’t follow or become the woman you know you’re worthy of, well then you have some decisions to make. Is it because of “B?” Thats when you decide what your threshold for getting what you want is. Those decisions are ou…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/11/17 12:46 AM
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I switched my insurance last year to a provider that covers more orthodontic stuff specifically so I could do Invisalign. One year waiting period is almost up. The long game. Always be improving
/r/askMRP23/11/17 04:04 PM
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I just keep seeing Red Forman’s face when I read your response
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/17 01:49 AM
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Let’s just say Bradley Cooper may have some problems in life, but worrying about sexual harassment allegations ain’t one of them.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/17 01:55 PM
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This is a good start. Start checking in on OYS. You’ve passed dread level 0, “stop being a pussy.” Not a small feat for many men but so important. Start crafting a mission, a drive and goals for yourself now.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/17 01:21 PM
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This goes in line with your post about not having an aire of jokiness when escalating. Gives them that easy way out. You initiate with certainty and confidence so they that if she is going to shoot you down she has to work harder at that rejection. That was your post, right?
/r/askMRP19/11/17 07:32 PM
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I think Scurve has only reincarnated
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/17 01:50 PM
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Exactly.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 03:56 PM
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Well put. Simply, it’s why polarity of sexes/gender is important in a relationship and attraction. My notes to share: This revelation was unlocked for me by remembering a few things that my wife did and said in the past. Many years ago, shortly after we were married she said something to the effect of (and I can’t remember the context of the conversation now) “I was attracted to you at first because you were mysterious (womanese translation: You didn’t spill feels that would add to my own unstab…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 01:25 PM
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That’s how I look at all of Red’s Divorce advice
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 03:36 AM
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I get the whole “just not good enough” thing. It’s almost like you wish your marriage and wife (both things we as men can’t and shouldn’t strive to control) were total shit shows instead of the Peter Gibbons “just enough not to get fired” category. It would be much easier to cut ties then. Otherwise some real good OYS and admitting of truths that are hard to admit.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/17 01:20 PM
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Good focus overall. Take lifting advice that’s already been given though. “Fuckin’ A, Peter-man, Fuckin’ A”
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 01:41 PM
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This is why just getting out there and talking to women is such an important part of your MAP. It’s probably even more important for those men who DON’T have intentions of spinning actual fuck buddy plates. My first clue that maybe my wife is a shitty barometer of my SMV was one random Wednesday night I was at a local bar that puts on open mics for bands. Ended up talking to this gorgeous girl, at least 5 years younger than my wife and a solid 3 SMV points above. She was there by herself and was…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/17 01:20 PM
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No worries. Good effort. I’ve just got too much going on in my head
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/17 11:40 AM
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Good work. Sounds like you should be cutting at your weight though.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/17 09:36 PM
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Thought the same. Midwestern dude here too. Educated, but I value the simple and concise. There is a lot here that is good but I’m probably too impatient.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/17 03:35 PM
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This. Not only does nobody have it all figured out, not everyone can be Elliott Hulse or any other guy in the manosphere we take value from. Different minds, different genetic builds, different goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 01:20 PM
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The criticism of the physical appearances of the 21 convention speakers is a result of the manosphere existing primarily in written form for so long. Men fill that “visual void” with their own ideal of what an alpha looks like based on the blogs, posts and books we all read. When the real men on he screen don’t fit their preconceived ideal of what a real “alpha man” looks like, the dissonance is too much for the less mature, less centered guys. TFA, Rollo, others... I’ve seen all sorts of DYEL b…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 12:57 PM
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This is what has always amazed my simple mind... that there are that many BP sub people that dedicate that much time to monitoring our sub. I wish i had time to read all of our posts like they do. Living in our frame is what it really is.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 02:47 AM
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A lot of guys think that by “alpha-ing up” they can still have the Disney fairy tale relationship they’ve always wanted (the bluepill goal). The reality is that the idealized bluepill end-state just doesn’t exist in the way we all once thought. It never will. Even by becoming redpill. Part of being redpill aware is realizing this. I’m not saying that having a good balance of alpha and beta traits is bad.... just don’t think those beta traits and attributes (like making good money) will be apprec…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 02:51 PM
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Why does she know you’re unplugging? That’s like telling the Third Reich not only what beach we are invading but that we are invading at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 12:27 PM
2

Not saying AlphaBux isn’t possible to achieve but be mindful of falling into the trap of executing RP strategy for a blue pill goal.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 12:22 PM
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I hope your dad pulls through.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 12:11 PM
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Yep, this is the key distinction. When my children act up I don’t get angry at them, I just disapprove of and don’t reinforce the behavior. Same thing for wife
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 12:50 PM
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I hope so. I’m fit but definitely no Brad Pitt from the neck up. Being blessed with good looks is kind of akin to the first part of the “do you want it to be easier or do you want to be better,” trope.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/17 10:20 PM
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Not a lot of details from you about the condition of yourself in the preceding years and leading right up to her declaration. It may not matter at this point and the subtext I’m getting from you is that you already know this. As UEM already said, work on the immediate logistics of preserving what’s in your best interest first, all else is second.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/17 12:41 PM
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Shared google calendar. I add stuff, she adds stuff. She handles most of the kid stuff because I work about twice as many hours as she does. Refer to said calendar often so you aren’t asking her what’s going on, you just know.
/r/askMRP29/10/17 02:37 PM
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That's the real issue here. Sex is sex, but I need to stop needing it so badly, stop needing that validation. No you don’t. It perfectly fine and normal for a man to want sex, and good sex. Don’t be apologetic or DEER for that. Don’t forget it’s what brought 95% of us here. But is this really the problem? One common trope or correlation on MRP that never quite sat well with me is the “sex =validation” thing. Maybe for some people it does, but for me, it’s mostly because I’m a horny fucking basta…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/17 01:05 PM
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Very well put. If guys put half as much effort into themselves as you put into this answer, this place would have far fewer posts.
/r/askMRP25/10/17 11:29 AM
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Your lifting effort will directly impact your weight loss goals. More muscle = more baseline calorie burning = less fat
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 02:32 PM
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The Olive Garden thing was a DEER fest. It only justifies to her more that you owe her anything more than a, “I don’t know.. I just did.”
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 02:29 PM
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First time posting but I've been implementing MRP on and off for a year. Been lifting 1 day a week for maintenance for a year. If you don’t care enough to put in real effort, why should we?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 12:56 PM
1

8 fish sticks.... gotta get my boxer shorts at Kmart.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 12:48 PM
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“Breath Neo... just breath.” Not much else to add that others haven’t covered. No more begging for sex Get to the point where you pass the Buffalo Bill Test (would you fuck you?) The first step, dread level 0, is doubt be a pussy. See you in OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 12:17 PM
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Again, I think you’ve got a solid idea of what you want here and a plan for how to get it. Be cautious of covert contracts though Doing this will release the wife from the 'pressure' she feels concerning sex, and all remaining neediness. I can then be fully stoic and OI. I sense a bit of a cc rising out of the ashes here. Just be cognizant if that. Could this change her attitude about sex? Possibly. And everything we talk about with RP and dread would support that she probably will react. You ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/17 01:59 PM
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This is very insightful for a new guy here. I had decided that I was not going to waste anymore of my life feeling awful and disgusting because I had given her power of veto on my sexual agency and she used all the time. This is your frame and endgame of your strategy. I’ve been here a while but am not too proud to admit that I took a lot just from this comment and look forward to your FR. There are a lot of similarities between the way you describe your wife and my own wife. If there ever was s…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/10/17 06:21 PM
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Did you verbally tell her you’d be getting it elsewhere if she wasn’t interested in participating? Typically that’s DL12 type stuff but I’m starting to believe for the right man, at the right point of his strategy, sometimes this can be effective. Keep us updated in OYS.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 10:25 PM
1

Always loved Han Solo. Discussions about what maleness is aside, people need to chill the fuck out.... it’s entertainment. The comments in that YouTube video are gag worthy.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 02:32 AM
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I agree. His divorce prep advice does have value for us. Strategic advice for being prepared for carrying out your strategy
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 03:34 PM
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I’ll chime in with The Way of Men
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 01:24 PM
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(In my best “Black church woman-ese) Mmm Hmmm... Amen.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 01:19 PM
2

LOL Never stopped you before.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 04:30 PM
1

I know, I know. Just giving you shit
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 02:37 PM
2

Did someone hack your account?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 12:41 PM
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Meh, Not really sure you fucked up. I may have removed my dick and did something else once she went starfish but finishing and getting yours is fine too. Her orgasm is her problem. Personal preference. The key is not giving in to her highness’ games and I think you played it well.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 12:30 PM
1

Think we’ll see him again in a year?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/17 10:52 AM
2

Maybe not the most abundant mindset but it is a strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 04:41 PM
1

That was quick. I was following some of your convo over there to get an early read on the place. We have our answer
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 03:29 PM
1

well this week wife says she thinks she wants a divorce. Did this come out of nowhere? Verify there’s nothing on the side. As Rollo says, there are outliers to AWALT but usually when they want out there’s another branch they’ve already got their hand on. Just like a smart monkey, a woman won’t let go of one vine until they’ve got their hand firmly around another. I said I do unless your shitty disrespectful behavior improves. Now you also need to show her what you value, not just what you won’t …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/10/17 01:31 PM
1

Fuck it.... you saw this image for a second on her phone... she probably knows you saw it. If it were me, I would have calmly asked what it was. Nothing wrong with that. Her reaction to that would tell you everything you need to know. The moment has passed though. Up to you if you want to bring it up again.
/r/askMRP16/10/17 12:47 PM
2

So it’s been 22 hours. Have you lifted anything yet you sad faggot?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 10:48 PM
1

NO matter what, "I want you" is unattractive I thought this to. Say it once, but don’t double down if she puts up LMR.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 04:02 PM
1

In some ways I appreciate the details in this because often the advice here is very high level. I remember years ago I was renovating our small bathroom and had one of those Home Depot books that shows you how to do many home maintenance tasks. I was replacing the old toilet with a new one. The first step was something like “remove old toilet,” then it immediately went on to how to install the new one. I was looking for a missing page. No details, no further guidance on how to do this without sp…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 03:56 PM
1

You’re such a dick, ha!
/r/askMRP11/10/17 11:37 PM
1

As such (strategies for) self improvement is not RP, but (strategies for) RP is self improvement A good way to put it
/r/askMRP11/10/17 11:35 PM
1

Self control; mastery of oneself. Doesn't mean I am happy about it or enjoy it - I'd much rather be fucking her into submission several times a week. If it floats your boat then do it. It's about integrity. Integrity makes me a man, not a bitch. I wasn’t talking about you
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 07:20 PM
2

Unless your equipment is a full set of dumbbells or a squat rack and bench with enough weight to get up to at least 250, you’re gonna need a real gym
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 01:33 PM
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I am disappointed that I can't go two weeks without an orgasm. Da fuq? Why is this a goal? Whose frame are you in? I’m not saying go out and get strange yet but don’t make this an adaptation to her rejections. I’d kill someone if I went 2 weeks without release. I’m also not real into all the hippy dippy tantra stuff. Maybe I’m missing out but I’m just not. Worse than that, Wife asked about how I was doing without sex and whether I had fapped and I lied to her. Bitch. You need to keep up your pla…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 01:16 PM
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It's as if my body doesn't want to put on fat anymore? I hate you Should I just stay the course for a while and let things progress in a natural way? Yes. Don’t change what’s working
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 12:52 PM
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Just got around to this. Loved it. It would make a nice little book of MRP summarized tenants. One line that stood out to me: These are the same guys who argue when you tell them to detach time and attention. But won’t she think I’m butt mad? Won’t she think I’m pissed that she won’t fuck me? I want to look stoic, like a man, shouldn’t I be calm? Another thing to get through your thick head: She already thinks you’re a fuck, you retard. Fucking own it! An important distinction.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 11:41 AM
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I’m not suggesting she didn’t have her suspicions, I was more trying to understand the tone of her, “I don’t blame you” comment. I think her response says a lot.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 11:38 AM
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It’s a risk, yes. The scenario you suggest is certainly a possibility. What I’m suggesting is that sometimes we underestimate women’s desire to stay married for their own benefiting reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 11:35 AM
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Look, you refuse to fuck me the way I like it, that's fine. We are sticking together, raising our family right. I'll get mine, be discreet, we can revisit this issue when they move out. This is the frame to come from when pitching this kind of DL12 event or come to Jesus speech or whatever we call it. It would be interesting to see just how many women would choose to look the other way in order to keep the status quo of being married and having their provisions and all that. Sometimes that divor…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 05:17 PM
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I believe that many women, especially once past the wall, don't want an alpha. They want an easy beta. being with an alpha man means they have to try.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 05:14 PM
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There would be nothing mutual about it IMHO. It would be more of a "tacit approval" from her, I guess. As the adage goes, "a woman would rather share a high quality alpha than be saddled with a loyal beta." Especially when the benefits of marriage and raising children together is at stake. It's a gamble but for some, it may be worth taking.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 04:59 PM
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is just going to let you plate other women so she still has access to your resources. There’s days where I think a mutually agreed upon arrangement like this wouldn’t be bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 04:03 PM
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Gotcha
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 03:57 PM
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Does this only happen if you share an iTunes account? I'm curious also as we have iphones.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 03:22 PM
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Worth noting here that she said this because I have told her several times in the last 9 months that her girlfriend game was not adequate; and that I would find someone that wanted to play the role. How did she respond to these declarations in the past? Not take you seriously? Silence? hamster? I ask because I've made a few similar utterances to my wife in the past few months. I'm starting slow, the first one was somewhat "tongue in cheek" the next, a little less and the one after, even less. Wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 03:21 PM
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Man, I wish this conversation wasn't in this low quality post but oh well. Anyway, I’m trying to figure out if we are mostly saying the same thing. Your increasing focus around here on the sexual strategy over “improvement” hasn’t been lost on me and, in a way, it’s reaffirming some things I always thought about the MRP but couldn't put my finger on. Just last week in a PM to one of our flaired brothers I brought up this very issue.... the fact that even after all the other stuff we talk about, …
/r/askMRP10/10/17 03:07 PM
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I would tell anyone here that self improvement is a cog in the wheel of our sexual strategy.
/r/askMRP10/10/17 12:39 PM
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This is some good owning of your shortcomings. I see a lot of similarities with my own situation, hence I actually read all the way to the end. When I have time I might come back and comment more specifically but the only thing I’ll say now is, “what is your mission?” What drives you (something we all have to continually re-evaluate and figure out). Hint: if your answer is ”the wife” or “the marriage,” you’re wrong. Start focusing on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 12:11 PM
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It’s your job to initiate and re-initiate.
/r/askMRP09/10/17 02:19 PM
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wifey no likey Would you like it if you started losing your beta slave? I think not. She’ll get over it
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 01:30 PM
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Everyone gets one. Yours was cathartic. Now get out of this . Never seen a more clear cut case for divorce here than this.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 04:13 AM
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Do it gradually. I sense you may have a stubborn one on your hands
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 02:42 AM
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Ok, well that may be a good reason. /u/88Will88 has implemented a similar hypertrophic based workout I believe. Maybe look more to the 10-12 rep range though
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 02:41 AM
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Makes more sense when you put it that way
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 01:02 AM
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I see what you’re getting at. I’ve said stuff like this before but selectively. When I do, I fully expect her to recoil from a statement like this ( bass mouth face plus, “What!!!”) so it probably shapes the subcomminication I put off, then I laugh. This is different than how I picture Will’s delivery and I think his delivery and undertones wouldn’t suit most guys, particularly new guys well. My wife thinks she’s a feminist too. Not sure if that’s better or worse than a dedicated, actual feminis…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 06:35 PM
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This is it. The “why.”
/r/askMRP06/10/17 06:25 PM
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You’re working with a “new canvas.” Most guys here are dealing with an old tattered one, trying to patch it up. (And it wasn’t me who downvoted you.). Just saying that approach probably won’t work for drty or 90% of men here. Now, if she’s a full time SAHM then yes, I’d agree that kind of stuff should fall to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 01:44 PM
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And 3x15 may not be giving you the gains you need now. Switch to higher weight, lower reps for now 5x5
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 01:28 PM
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It may help to flesh out some of the specifics. Little light on details.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 01:26 PM
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Well, no one can fault you for not pushing through LMR, damn brother. Was her LMR in a “fun” or playful manner? I’m guessing so since she finally decided fucking would be nice. If she was giggling or flirting and playfully slapping then this was good. My wife sometimes gets “swatty” when we first start fucking. Sort of like two lions or other animals. I use it to venture into more dominant play. I digress.... Seems like this worked for you but Don’t be totally autist when the resistance turns in…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 01:17 PM
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This is the key idea in your post regarding making “frame mistakes:” You learn from it, and you change your thinking and behavior. This is how progress is made and the new, better frame is forged.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 12:16 PM
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This is an interesting realization and now that you mention it I’m pretty sure I do the same. My behavior should be straight as an arrow regardless of her whims. Sounds like a post topic.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 02:05 AM
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Ya seriously. My gym is crowded enough as it is.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 02:00 AM
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Own your decisions, whether she agrees or not. Don’t fear her anger. It’s a sign of the changing dynamics
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 01:14 PM
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I’m not sure anyone wants more detail than that On the contrary, the bluepill troop loves a little detailed erotica now and again to fuel their purpose. Anyway, good progress and details on how you got there. Keep it up
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 12:59 PM
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I may be vastly under-performing in progress rate, Don’t get tripped up about this. Everyone has their own pace, own goals, and this may not be popular but each man is dealing with different women. but the real difference for me is that I'm making my own progress in the areas I choose. Don’t cherry pick parts of the sidebar or make a half assed MAP. It’s all important for a reason
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 12:36 PM
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“Enjoying” the anger is the wrong trope. Just don’t FEAR her anger. You can’t improve without stirring the pot and sometimes she’ll be angry because the rules of the game are changing. Don’t make it something it doesn’t need to be. As far as the pics of the ex.... you missed an opportunity to lead her towards sending you new pics.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/17 12:21 PM
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Ya, lucky for me I always look both ways before crossing the street
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 06:29 PM
2

One of the PMs was death threat-ish in nature. Others just hoped I died accidentally.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 04:58 PM
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Pretty sure one of them who PM’d me was even a dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 01:10 PM
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This is good advice if the wife is on receiving end of male attention and flirting. Per OPs story, she seemed just as complicit in the activity and possibly even perpetuated it. I think he struck the right balance of not mate guarding and communicating that this is shitty behavior. Best time to set a boundary is yesterday, second best time is now.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 01:03 PM
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Thanks. Been slowly delving into this.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 12:37 PM
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Either they're purposefully playing ignorant of what happens in comfortable bedrooms or they're so brainwashed that they think a little protesting in bed actually constitutes rape. Bingo.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 12:21 PM
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Ha, ya I guess so. That’s probably what they were really disappointed with, not doing it correctly.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 12:21 PM
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That was my thought. And it was a “light neck hold.” No females were choked during the making of that sex experience. Damn, now you got me DEERing to you, ha!
/r/askMRP04/10/17 12:06 PM
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The bloops are a trip for sure. A few weeks ago they wrote a post about me and called me a rapist for experimenting with some DEVI boundaries. Ha! If you met me in real life you’d see how funny that is. Not even close.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/17 07:18 PM
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Holy shit, just no
/r/askMRP03/10/17 02:18 AM
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True
/r/MarriedRedPill02/10/17 01:07 AM
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An important distinction in the cause/effect dynamics of DL4. As you state, it’s better if you have other activities that automatically make her a second priority. However, I will add that after repeated sexual rejections I have no problem getting up, leaving the house and making no bones about the reason why. Occasionally this overt correlation between her physical investment in the marriage and your presence is ok. It should not be the default though.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/17 03:39 PM
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Good to hear. Sounds like he drugs have no real downside for her
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/17 07:54 PM
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Do you find the increased happiness outweighs or offsets the severe blow to her libido that SSRI’s are pretty much proven to cause?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/17 01:41 PM
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BB test is when you can look in the mirror and honestly say, “I’d fuck me.” Ultimately what does this mean? Go pull other women if she isn't satisfying me? Yes, but only if/when you’re ready. I haven’t personally gone to this level either. Each man has his own limit at which point you either break it off all together or get some on the side. The point being, you are no longer giving one person, your wife, complete control over your enjoyment of a fulfilling sex life. If it’s important to you but…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 05:36 PM
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Do I really not want to or not feel the need to go practice day game now or am I scared to do it? But it also shouldn't feel like this. It shouldn't feel like an obsession. It should come naturally as part of my life. I should be able to do other things without wondering if I'm optimizing my ability to improve. It’s ok to turn “off” sometimes. Whenever you sense that voice saying, “I kind of just want to relax or watch Netflix tonight,” listen to it. Maybe that’s your point of origin for the day…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 01:00 PM
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Regarding sex; it’s ok to be mad about this. Just look in the mirror first and then recalibrate that anger. Do you pass the “Buffalo Bill test”? Are you leading? Are you fun and OI enough when rejected? No sex in a month? No thanks. I’d be angry too, especially if I know my worth. Since weakandsensitive isn’t on OYS all that much anymore I’ll fill the void and throw this out... maybe she shouldn’t be responsible for your sex life. That is, if you’ve internalized the sidebar, look good and can pu…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 11:23 AM
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Sorry to hear about this. No parent should have to witness this. I can’t understand what you’re going through and won’t try. Stay strong. Screech hit this one best. It’s not any degree of shit test. It’s grief and it may be comfort testing but not in the traditional way we talk about comfort tests. Be the Oak.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 10:38 AM
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Don’t do shit over text.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 05:21 PM
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I sometimes think I am boring to my wife. Are you happy and enjoying life though? Sometimes i think there’s a misplaced focus here on being fun, spontaneous and interesting to HER. Just a higher level of “whose frame are you really operating in” that I’ve been contemplating in lately.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 01:03 PM
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“Researchers have found that among barn swallows, a male that observes his mate copulating with other males responds by reducing his attention to her babies.” Avian dread level 4 and 12?
/r/askMRP26/09/17 12:52 PM
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This, combined with some spontaneous on her part sexual experimentation not long ago make me believe that simple dread can coax it out of her. Very nice. The rope is becoming taut. And you depict how to employ simple dread here... Your reinforcement carries weight because you aren't around a lot, or your approval is rare, or you look fucking great naked, wear stylish clothes, have confidence, and are getting out and putting yourself in situations where women would take interest...and she needs a…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/17 11:14 PM
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Are you your own judge/boss or is she? A calming, “I love you baby, but having friends is important and I’m not going to stop seeing them just because we’re married.” Unless it’s a strict guys night maybe invite her out a few times. She should be entering your world (especially as an immigrant), it’s up to you to make it a smooth entry. Before you become a better man, you have to find your own balls. Dread level zero is “stop being a pussy.”
/r/askMRP25/09/17 12:49 PM
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Not going to repeat what’s already been said about how most of this is your fault. That would be a waste of all of our time. Read the sidebar and in the meantime do NOT get this woman pregnant. After you’ve read the sidebar and decided if the future “improved you” would even want a wife like this, then make your decision on what to do. Then maximize your sexual strategy and improve your SMV. If she still is making excuses and not exceptions to fuck you after that, then move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/17 12:17 PM
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My wife still isn't overtly sexual...at least not outside of when we're fucking. She doesn't grab my crotch or flash me every now and then, I'm in a very similar spot. The wife just isn't an overtly flirty or sexual person and part of that I put on myself for not being the best, most self aware (of what I wanted in a woman) man when I married her. but I haven't reinforced that behavior yet either. How do you plan on doing this kind of reinforcement? How do you get her to even behave in this way …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/17 07:20 PM
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The Bullshit in my head is telling me that now that I am in better shape, etc etc, she should somehow make herself more available, be more overtly sexual and so on. While I understand this is a covert contract in me talking, I am finding it difficult to put in the effort with her. I struggle with this from time to time also. I went through a few phases where not only did I not want to put in he effort to game her, I felt she didn't deserve it. While not an ideal dynamic I think it is a step in t…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/17 07:12 PM
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Why? Good question my friend. Still a few fucks to give that shouldn't be there I suppose.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/17 12:48 PM
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This is still a thing? Man, you all have some serious vitriol. But you know what, the more I think about it, the more I realize I actually owe Wiggley and all you bloops a 'thanks.' See, here at MRP we are all about improving and after I saw all the hate from my OYS post this week I had to reread what I wrote and you know what I realized ? (With no sarcasm intended) I can actually see how my description of the sexual interlude with my wife could come off as "rapey." So for one, I thank you all f…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/17 04:09 AM
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I think you're probably spot on
/r/askMRP21/09/17 08:08 PM
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The sexual initiation dynamics of your marriage tell me that your wife is dictating the time, place and frequency of sex. Is she dictating everything else in your relationship? If so, fix that by leading and taking charge.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 07:23 PM
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Yes, I'm driven to have a great marriage with this good woman. Hear you nothing that I say? (Yes that is in Yoda-ese). Do NOT make the marriage your goal. That is a by-product of you being a great man. You can't control the quality of a marriage. You lead how you want and she comes along or not. Don't place success or failure in something you don't have full control over.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 12:46 PM
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Nordstrom Rack has some great stuff for decent prices if you spend time digging. Good place to work on the DL5.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 03:11 AM
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rebuild the relationship instead of working for sex. This is the wrong way to think about it. As Stone always says, the relationship is the woman's job, not yours. You need to build a man that a woman wants to work for to have a good relationship with. You do that by leading, knowing how to handle her emotions (notice I didn't say "fix"), being OI and having a lot of goals that have nothing to do with her. And remember, some women may never come around or may never come around in the way you wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 03:07 AM
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I do love me some barbacoa
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 01:42 AM
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Thanks for sharing. You've identified your mistakes and know how not to repeat them. Get in the gym, get a mission and move on. Lots of doors can open for you if you make the most.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 01:41 AM
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I know you're right but I wish you weren't. The thought of tracking calories makes Jack a dull boy.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/17 01:06 AM
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That'll do also. Ground beef is on sale right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 10:21 PM
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Meantime, maybe I can focus on improving myself enough to get over this bitter attitude and learn to be a fun guy again. Do or do not.... There is no maybe.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 10:19 PM
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Based on the /u/TheBluepill post I was tagged in and a few death threats I've got in private mail, it seems my comment about the "neck hold" got some Bloops all hot and bothered. Not going to reply to the silliness in Wiggley's post but for posterity sake, I'm just going to point out that the word "choke" cannot be found in my post anywhere. Her verbal protests were more "annoyed/playful utterances" pretending to act like she didn't like it (while her hand lovingly covered my hand, which was lig…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 07:44 PM
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Jesus, a gallon a day? Guess I gotta buckle down on eating more. Do you maintain 5000 a day still? It is like a second job or workout eating that much. Thanks for the reference point.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 07:27 PM
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I can start eating some extra eggs. I have to almost remind myself to eat more. I've also felt a bit tired lately so anything to improve T is good. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 07:25 PM
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Be prepared for all possible outcomes in my life. Be a man that women want to put effort into and people want to give value to. What I want I've been focusing on "me" stuff a lot lately (career, looking for a new car, hobbies, my friends) and haven't been as geared towards sex as I usually am. Can't decide if it's a good thing. Initiations are still 85/15 me/her but I remind myself that's ok since women's are mostly reactive desires. It's my sex life and I will lead her into it. She beat me to t…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/17 12:52 PM
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yes I have looked at myself in the mirror and I'd fuck me Ah, the old "Buffalo Bill" test. It's the first big, concrete action we can take of several that help us answer the question, "is it still me or is she a dud?"
/r/askMRP19/09/17 02:29 AM
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You don't owe her anything. Remember that. You certainly shouldn't respond in any way to her request to think about the relationship and report back. The flip side is neither does she owe you anything. Not her affection, not her pussy, not her pleasant company. Can you turn yourself into someone who she wants to "owe" or put effort into? That's the question
/r/askMRP18/09/17 07:00 PM
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Very few if any. Socializing with friends is about all we do together. Doesn't bother me.
/r/askMRP17/09/17 12:25 PM
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See askMRP
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/17 11:23 PM
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I would have taken the kids to soccer anyway without her. The act (and unspoken message) showing that she has to stay home because her unwarranted behavior is not conducive to a fun family outing.
/r/askMRP16/09/17 07:36 PM
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"....You're just an asshole."
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/17 07:27 PM
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If she puts on so much makeup that she looks and smells like a whore, your original instinct to tell her to back off the makeup was the right thing to do. It was more of a figure of speech. "Reward her when she deserves it. Ignore the bad behavior and it will partially go away. This is the same thing you do to train a dog." "Conditioning" is the name of the game, yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/17 03:20 AM
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Change your life (in this case, your job) to benefit you. Is a career change worth that to you? Only you know. Before doing that though, consider your successful sexual strategy with your wife could also have something to do with your absence.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/17 11:01 PM
1

I have to see an example of your style combo. Definitely sounds unique
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/17 12:17 AM
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Brilliant and easy to comprehend. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 02:39 PM
1

All solid advice. I can't remember the last time I bought flowers.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 02:23 PM
1

Do something. Today. Sounds like your mind is swimming with all the shit you need to do to not be a pussy... start with the small easy shut first. Just start doing something. The rest will flow from there if you care.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 01:38 PM
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I was having an offline conversation with one of our own about this recently. The example we used was that just because your wife is behaving well and putting out doesn't mean you stop being sexual with and gaming random girls. You're doing both of you a disservice by not. Good post
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 01:24 PM
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I want to read your FIL's autobiography
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 12:39 PM
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Handle her emotions with her. Handle the actual problem with your son directly. Being angry and showing anger is Ok but do it from a place of your frame and under control.
/r/askMRP13/09/17 12:21 PM
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Diet, screens, social media and over prescription of anxiety/depression meds.
/r/askMRP13/09/17 12:19 PM
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The diminishing returns of compliments.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 12:33 AM
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Yes. Eventually your "MRPing" will become less of a conscious thought and will morph into who you really are.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 12:23 AM
1

Good work man!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 07:50 PM
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Probably the later. I truly believe that had I known then what I know now, there's a better than 50% chance I wouldn't be married and if I was, probably not married to my current wife. Not that it's not salvageable but why make things harder on yourself than they need to be.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 05:29 PM
1

Are certain posts causing over-corrections in mrpers? Sort like a self-perpetuating circular reinforcement? I think that is possible. It just depends on the man, the wife and what stage of reclaiming their life they are in. Those in the later stages will use removal of time and attention to great effect. New guys see that, try to implement it and their wives are all, "ok honey, I'll see you when you get back..." Either this, or the other extreme and it blows up in his face and he doesn't know ho…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 05:25 PM
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This is definitely attention seeking behavior. And you're playing in her frame when you do this. Next question
/r/askMRP12/09/17 03:14 PM
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Is reinforcing with overt compliments the best way to communicate? IMO, yes, sometimes overt compliments are called for. But as I allude to regarding the "hovering pussy drier," they should be used sparingly. Too much of it and you sound like a supplicating beta. Covert reinforcement should always be an undercurrent of your actions. EDIT: a few words left out
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 03:12 PM
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Good distinction
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 02:32 PM
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I feel like if I were to start dating someone now, they'd be getting donedreadpirate 2.0, but you, you've been with me so long, you know everything about me and still see me as the boy you met. I've had this thought too. This is why it's important she sees how other women treat you or perceive you. It's like a car or other possession you've had for a long time that you take for granted, until someone else compliments you on it and you're reminded that you do value this thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 12:53 PM
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He's new. I don't think he does know the drill. He needs to sidebar now
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 12:27 PM
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I know the feeling of "where was my mind at when I wifed her up?" Was is scarcity? Was it actually better then? I now know the "why" of it all but still. For me, it was a lack of life experience and a lack of experience with different kinds of women.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 12:26 PM
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It pays to lurk for a while so you don't post time wasting shit like this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 12:08 PM
1

Sounds like AC joint. Heavy OHP and even bench are the biggest culprit. Just got done with 4 months of PT for this on my right shoulder. I've also read that if you are prone to AC problems you should NEVER do dips.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 12:05 PM
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Nah, absolutely depends on tone, subcomm and nonverbals. If every guy gave up at the first "no" how would you ladies ever be able to screen for worthy men?
/r/askMRP11/09/17 12:32 PM
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Not to mention the re-awakening of my wife's faith, which has opened a door of forgiveness and OYS with her that I didn't expect. Maybe. Don't go down this hole too far yet. Other than what I said, I think BPP's assessment is pretty spot on. Could be some hysterical bonding going on too. Keep establishing the frame and narrative of the reset relationship and let time do the rest.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 06:27 PM
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Da fuq?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 06:25 PM
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I disagree with you, there are a lot of red pill truths here. It appears you've gone to DL 10 and beyond and brought it all back. Sort of a "Bay of Pigs middle ground option" that appears to have paid off. You owned your desires and didn't let her dictate your sexuality. Good work. Lots of good OYS realizations and admissions here.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 05:50 PM
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Yes. It allows you to craft the narrative and frame without putting her on the defensive
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 02:33 PM
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This is why men and women are complimentary not equal. There's just some shit my wife does better than me and some shit I do better than her. But I also make sure if she dies tomorrow I could handle her share of the duties or at least quickly get up to speed. I seriously doubt she's doing the same.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 01:57 PM
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Could probably have just put this in an OYS post. Got any extra context to beef up this low effort post?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 01:19 PM
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The not factoring sex into the 50/50 model is an important distinction here. A lot of guys make this mistake. As soon as she thinks, or you reinforce, that sex is just some chore or act that can be exchanged for anything in that 50/50 division of duties/value... you've lost and there's definitely no genuine desire. The wife and I were at a party once and were talking to another couple we are friends with. They were talking about how they don't agree on how/where they like to vacation. The wife t…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 01:04 PM
2

He means bluepillers
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 12:47 PM
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Always initiate when you want. For me, if she starfishes it or cops a "I'm doing this for you" posture I go limp. It's not worth my time so it's easy to have OI and NGAF. Just like when you're not hungry and someone offers you food. At that point it's easy for me to say, "nah, not doing it for me" or "maybe tomorrow."
/r/askMRP07/09/17 01:31 PM
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I started dabbling in Peterson a few weeks ago after hearing his name mentioned many times on the Mark Baxter podcast (which he sadly moved on from). Lots of good points in here, some of which take a while to sink in. I'll have to read a few times
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 12:33 PM
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Your memory is incredible
/r/askMRP07/09/17 02:30 AM
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She says she's not sexually attracted to me, and has no sexual feelings whatsoever. Your OI to this, if genuine, is a sign that you've come a long way in killing the oneitis. The question you need to answer now is if she really wants you to "kill the puppy" or is just spewing drama to see how you react. If it's the later, then keep the "so be it" frame for now. Only you really know which it is because only you heard this in person and could read the sub-communication.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 11:32 PM
1

Good point. Somehow I missed this.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 12:47 PM
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You balanced your actions well here. Next time, do more along the lines of what 88Will88 suggests. Slowly ratchet up the NGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/17 12:35 PM
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Many women don't want their friends to know this. Remember, part of gaming is giving her that plausible deniability. Also depends on her friends. Are they single and slutty or prude and sexually retired (like one of my wife's good friends)? If it's the later then it literally may not be "popular" to be putting out for your husband. And why the fuck do you give a fuck? You trying to dread them too? Jesus, I only have so much time and fucks to give about my own wife in my busy life. I'm definitely…
/r/askMRP05/09/17 12:25 PM
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You suffer from a lack of OI. Some of it's your fault, some isn't. We've been conditioned by society to feel this way but have also allowed it to happen by being weak. Do you think Crag the Caveman gave two shits about a woman's feelings?
/r/askMRP05/09/17 12:17 PM
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That I hadn't discovered it 10 years ago.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 06:57 PM
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I think MRP could use some more posts/experience on this.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 10:01 PM
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Removed in 3, 2,......
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 07:21 PM
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The bloops must be "up in this mug" with the down votes
/r/askMRP01/09/17 05:51 PM
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You need to figure out when to leave to accommodate the plan change. Then tell her when you're leaving. That simple. That's being the captain.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 05:50 PM
1

Had a vasectomy a year ago. No way could I go back to condoms. Wife always hated them too.
/r/askMRP01/09/17 05:25 PM
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The HJ thing is ok with me as long as it's rarer than real fucking by a good measure. If she's having fun with it I consider it adding to variety. I never really stopped or slowed initiating, just gaming and all the kino. Not advisable but I wasn't feeling. A combination of needing to reset how I approach gaming the wife and just being tired of the always "being on" after a year and a half of this.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 12:28 PM
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Sounds like you are out and about a lot more. Finding it entertaining? It's nice when your established network of friends gives you opportunities to further network with new peo people. Our social circle has widened since kids started school a few years ago. It's been a good change. Sticking around at the bar, leg kino, devoting an hour n a half of her time talking to you...that's some good IOIs. Catch any other more subtle ones? Hair tosses, 'the look', overly interested? I did catch a few hair…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/17 01:58 AM
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After rereading his post, I'd say his problem is that he didn't completely own his decisions to move onto another store or restaurant. There seemed to be some hesitation and a "what do you want... just tell me!!!!" tone that doesn't help ops frame. On the other hand, he was trying to assist her with the shoe mission (nothing inherently wrong with that) but she wasn't unappreciative. If it were me, I would have driven home, told her to get out and went and got myself dinner. I don't help or hang …
/r/askMRP01/09/17 12:52 AM
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Hanging with friends instead of her. That's fucked up. Maybe. Removal of time and attention is a valid (and encouraged) move if she's being a cunt AND OP is not getting drawn into her shit and chasing her frame around with increasing frustration. I think the distinction is important here. It's questionable whether OP is there yet but sometimes you take your attentions elsewhere. It's conditioning.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 12:38 PM
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Stay safe and don't forget to take care of yourself too
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 12:07 PM
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Breath Neo. That's why it's called the anger phase. Also, don't assume the transition to Alpha is a given just because you are aware now.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 11:05 AM
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Mission: Be a man that women want to put effort into. Prepare myself for, and be comfortable with, the "worst case" outcome of all aspects of my life. LEADING / OMS: Had a good weekend of leadership and fun. Took my kids fishing on Saturday morning (the wife decided to come along too). From there went straight to youngest daughter's soccer game that I coach. Came away with the "W" and made the call to grab a quick lunch of fast food for us on the way home because we were going to my brother's fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/17 05:19 PM
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It was a case of me not OYS Maybe. Telling her that morning is ample time for he to be an adult. Now, if you already had some kind of understanding that it's your duty to prepare dinner no matter what then that's a different story. Only you know what this dynamic is. If she's just being pissy because she doesn't like you changing plans, that's her problem... her emotions. Just don't get dragged into them with the tit for tat type shit.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 01:51 PM
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She's dreading you and you're letting it happen. Give less fucks about where she's going for how long. Did you give her enough warning that you wouldn't be making dinner? If so, you OYS. If not, you steered the ship to the edge of an oncoming squal and handed her the tiller at the last second and went below deck.
/r/askMRP30/08/17 01:34 PM
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This is easy. You're not married
/r/askMRP30/08/17 01:07 PM
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I did my best to hold the LTR This is your problem
/r/askMRP30/08/17 01:05 PM
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That's a pretty big gap. She knows what she has and the value of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 05:01 PM
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Yeah, I think you're onto something here that doesn't always get a lot of attention. Picking the right woman is a big part of all this. Not trying to take away from any improvement you may have done (since I honestly don't know much about you) but most guys here are not coming from the same place. This also supports the suggestion that the best dynamic is when your wife is 1-2 SMV points below you.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 03:23 PM
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I coach both of my kid's soccer teams. It's a great way to lead not just the family but also your smaller "tribe" or community. It also gives me familiarity with the moms. As you point out, it's usually the moms at practice. Now when I'm at school events or birthday parties there are many friendly female faces to approach, talk to and use to be introduced to other women. It's good for a low level undercurrent of dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 03:16 PM
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To mirror what a few others have said, this is all well and good but it doesn't address the "how" very much. Sure, showing high SMV is good. Showing you can talk to and be flirted with by other women is good... but how did you get there? It seems like you never went off course and always had a good wife and good sexual investment from her. Some of that is a reflection of you, some of it is the woman you picked.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/08/17 03:09 PM
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Then take care of those first. It's not rocket science. Sounds like it will be easy to keep her on the right side of Rollo's cardinal rule.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 07:18 PM
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Good points. I like to think of it in terms of striving to take care of the strategic (finances, house repairs, automotive issues, etc) while she handles the tactical (getting kids to school, laundry, etc). The stress I take off of her by handling the large strategic issues far outweighs the minuscule benefit, in her eyes, of me cleaning the bathroom. Now, be capable of handling chores when necessary but don't lose focus of the larger issues.
/r/askMRP28/08/17 04:34 PM
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Your commitment to the family can still be solid without unconditional commitment to your wife being given out freely. Also, where are you on lifting/physical improvement?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/17 03:49 PM
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I was wondering the same thing. Just rode off into the sunset. I wish the old episodes were still up for downloading
/r/askTRP28/08/17 02:12 PM
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I don't understand the problem?
/r/askMRP28/08/17 12:57 PM
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This was not a main event. This was you trying to negotiate desire and then getting dragged into an argument. I've been there, that's how I know. Guys here sometimes seem to treat the main event like some kind of goal or prerequisite to finally "making it." The main event doesn't HAVE to happen. It might, and you're frame and mental point of origin (the Prize) need to be solid, but you can run a solid married game and sexual strategy without it ever happening. Not every guy will have a main even…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/17 03:04 PM
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Hope isn't a strategy
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/17 02:43 PM
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This was one of the first things I was able to grasp and execute well. I'd recommend new guys try to get here first because it makes the rest of the process easier when you don't care how she feels about anything you do (or don't do.)
/r/MarriedRedPill27/08/17 02:42 PM
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This is what i did when I recently noticed a pattern of poor behavior. Removal of my time
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/17 12:45 PM
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I guess I'm saying the same thing. Too much theory and logic discussion on MRP the last few days. Time for some whiskeys this evening.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 06:09 PM
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I'm torn in this. I see the point about self improvement being a means to be approved by someone else. OTH though, isn't part of a successful sexual strategy being better looking, less outcome dependent and more assured in ones' own choices = more sexually competitive?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 05:58 PM
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Me either. It wouldn't make sense. I'm not into BDSM so you won't find me on that sub trying to find out where to buy the highest quality gimp suits and most durable ball gags. It's just not a problem I have
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 05:17 PM
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I prefer to think of MRP as a self improvement sub for guys who happen to be married. Sexual strategy is packaged in that in my mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 05:10 PM
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Had to google emily. If that doesn't do it you don't have balls
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 05:09 PM
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Time with kids > finding new woman. This describes something that I'm coming to terms with too. It's been an undercurrent of my MAP that I've been ignoring.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 02:22 PM
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That's where the whole "self improvement" part comes in
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 02:18 PM
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I'm picturing you sipping coffee with a newspaper that reads "Breaking News: Women only love Children."
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/17 02:17 PM
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As scurve and screech have already pointed out, you have to lay the groundwork of good leadership and OYS ahead of time. The FO can only do so much for so long. Take action to head things off before they get to this point.
/r/askMRP25/08/17 02:02 PM
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But I certainly could have fogged, or just validated her feelings without accepting responsibility for them. Yep. "Hmmmm, I know this is important to you." "I can see that this upsets you, but we probably have different views on this and that's ok." Or the WISNIFG tool of negative assertion: "what about my behavior/actions makes you think that?" I would probably also say any of these as I'm slowly making my way out of the bedroom to go do something else.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 04:24 PM
2

Frame isn't impervious to drawing fire from critical viewpoints. Solid frame just doesn't care or react.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 01:20 PM
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Great post. Two biggest takeaways for me are 1. distinguishing bitchiness from shit tests and 2. being vulnerable to accept her comfort seeking. Bitchy vs ST: One you just ignore or nuke on the spot, the other you AA. I recently have experienced this with my wife. Over the past week her and her best GF have been in a bad spot after my wife made a lighthearted joke that her friend took poorly. A few mornings after this event, which had my wife visibly depressed, I was downstairs preparing my post…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 12:39 PM
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The language barrier should make it easier to "watch what they do not what they say."
/r/askMRP23/08/17 12:07 PM
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It's not a conversation... it's you putting yourself first and making that clear
/r/askMRP23/08/17 12:00 PM
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Absolutely. It would totally change the dynamic of the female clique. The closest I've seen is a good friend if my wife's who didn't vote for Hillary or Trump. Voted libertarian.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 02:03 AM
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I've been there. There's nothing that says you can't slow down, process what's going on and formulate a response (or lack of response in this case.). Might you come off just a bit more aspie? Ya, maybe. But it's better than being fully and quickly reactive to everything she does.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/08/17 02:01 AM
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I should have controlled the situation, understanding that she was upset - Almost. You should have acknowledged her emotions on this issue but not felt the need to own them or react to them yourself. Acknowledge the feelz when she's emoting about herself. Essentially this was a shit test of sorts when it turns to her emoting about or at you. Her saying "you don't this... you don't that... you're perpetuating white supremacy..." and maybe rightfully so - and that those emotions are powerful for h…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 07:49 PM
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I backed up and thought about it. Her body language is the same as it always is; looking up, on phone, This is telling. What are you doing to lead her away from this and what's your plan if she doesn't want to follow? She brought it up again a moment later. I looked at her and said, "If I waited for you to have open body language we'd never have sex. If you don't want to, just tell me no. I don't ever want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to have sex with me." This is true but show it. …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 06:37 PM
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I am hoping my wife is coming around. Hope isn't s plan and you need to give less fucks about this.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 05:52 PM
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No main event. Just a series of tests averaging towards the comfort side of the spectrum. Don't over analyze. The main event is closer to DL10 when you set the frame in a big way and she's in or out.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 02:23 AM
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Men are success objects (to women). Women are sex objects (to men). Your achievements are her achievements even when she didn't do shit to deserve it.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 01:12 PM
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Wife gave me a hard no last Wednesday. She had a legit long day and is going through some chick drama with her best friend. I could have pushed through but I could tell in her face that she wasn't feeling it and it would have been starfish. She said, "how about tomorrow." Which she did deliver on. No biggie. I gave her a kiss, went up to my room to change and take care of a few other things. (This is key. Don't go from "no" immediately to the front door. That does look butthurt and like you've b…
/r/askMRP21/08/17 12:58 PM
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It's made or broken with your non verbals
/r/askMRP21/08/17 12:39 PM
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It's all in the nonverbal subcomm whether this goes well or not.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 12:38 PM
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Sex God Method. Dominance, emotion, variety and immersion
/r/askMRP21/08/17 12:25 PM
1

Excellent post. Finally got around to reading it. Allays the fear somewhat and fits neatly into my MAP mission statement of "being prepared for all outcomes."
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 12:21 PM
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here
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 10:51 PM
2

This one time at band camp....
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 07:49 PM
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Every blind squirrel finds a nut once and a while.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 07:33 PM
1

How do I find this? I think it's book-specific right?
/r/askMRP18/08/17 01:30 PM
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Entrepreneurs in cars The sharpe reality Mark Baxter Kingmaker Masculine by design Girls chase Wolf and Iron
/r/askMRP18/08/17 01:33 AM
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Just trading notes
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 06:45 PM
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Great report, effort and progress!
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 03:03 PM
1

One distinction I failed to make about the open relationship suggestion and I think you're with me in this but I meant a "one sided" open relationship. It wouldn't be fair to continue to deprive you of something you value (sex) that she may not value (again, assuming you've become the best version of yourself possible... which I don't think you've arrived at yet). If she doesn't value it, then she certainly shouldn't be given an open pass to seek it elsewhere and shouldn't expect a high value ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 02:54 PM
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The assertive statement you wrote about what kind of physical investment you want and expect from a wife is good.... when you've become a man worthy of commanding it. Tuck that away for DL 10 if and when you get there. We are all on our own journey and you're just starting. Sounds like you need to work on building muscle Sounds like you need to find productive activities to channel your frustration. Sounds like maybe you should be fucking girls on the side. Shit, your fucking therapist even sugg…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 12:39 PM
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Third
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:33 PM
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Here's an example. After she says, "you make it so difficult sometimes," he fogs. I like this clip because it has fogging, AA and AM. Good all around example of frame.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 12:21 PM
1

Sorry, I've got nothing
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 08:02 PM
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Sounds like hysterical bonding. It's temporary. You may have moved the "dread needle" a bit, but it's not a long term solution
/r/askMRP15/08/17 05:41 PM
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By example. Ultimately you can't make someone do something they don't want to.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 05:23 PM
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Easy there chief. That kind of reply won't get you far here. To answer your question, most men here are still married. But what you'll find is that they learn that it's about saving the man, not the marriage. I good masculine man who owns his shit, leads his family and makes himself his "mental point of origin" will be the type of man who makes women (not necessarily his wife) want to put effort into you... and ultimately the marriage
/r/askMRP15/08/17 05:02 PM
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This is where being the Oak comes in. Always have an answer. Always have a plan. Another movie quote for you from U571. Harvey Kietel's character says this to McConaghey who assumed the captain position after the captain was killed. "Those three words will kill a crew (i don't know), don't ever say that again. The Captain always knows."
/r/askMRP15/08/17 04:56 PM
1

Good to know. If things come to this I'm not looking for anything more than 50/50. She's a good mom.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 04:45 PM
1

Act like a sole custodial parent during the marriage and your chances of getting custody (or at least shared parenting) soar through the roof. I assume this part of it manifests itself just by how involved you are, but you need concrete evidence of this, right? If she decides she wants to paint you as an absent father, when you are nothing of the sort, you'll need more than just your word.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 03:26 PM
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So many obvious fuckups here I don't know where to start. To summarize it, you are the needy girl in this relationship. The only thing you've "caught" is that something is wrong. I haven't seen any leading on your part in this mess. And for someone you're not even married to and who may have BPD you are deep in her frame. Reread this post and pull out every part where you are reacting to her or being needy. Start there. Edit: it doesn't appear she even wants to be in a committed relationship any…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 12:59 PM
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My wife tries to dig up old issues sometimes too when I'm holding frame. I tell her ONCE, "that's irrelevant to this". If she brings it up again I walk away from the discussion. Same goes for her raising her voice or tone with me... "if you cant discuss this like a calm adult I won't talk to you." Second offense.... walk away calmly.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 12:33 PM
1

Thanks for the insight. I haven't read your new post yet so direct me there if it will answer this question, but what are some key strategies to setting yourself up the best to at least share 50/50 custody of the children? My state recently changed the child support laws and now the money you pay for support is inversely proportionate to the custody you get, which I always thought made more sense. I'm already an involved father, I coach their soccer teams, take them to birthday parties, take the…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 12:11 PM
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Like others have mentioned, start slow. Your telling her "no" is a good start. Don't worry about trying to be alpha yet, just worry about NOT being a pussy. That's your frame for now.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 02:45 AM
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I'm not an attorney of any kind but I do think they take into account "future earning potential." Doesn't mean one can't still be divorce rapped but I do believe it is factored in to alimony amount and duration calculations. Edit: for example: it's my understanding that a woman with a masters degree and recent professional certifications won't get as much alimony, in theory. Paging /u/Red-curious...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 12:39 AM
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Unfortunately this is the way most couples are going due to marriage 2.0. Before divorce laws became weighted against the husband like they are now and before feminism made the traditional family "sexist," having your wife stay home was more advantageous. But now.... I'm not so sure. My wife works part time and keeps up with her professional training. I make more than her by about 4 to 1 but there's no way she could claim she "sacrificed her career" for the family. I've got a little bit of the b…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/17 10:10 PM
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I don't understand the situation or the question. Be more clear
/r/askMRP14/08/17 05:09 PM
1

The wife conceived our first (30 yr old) after about 6-7 months of trying. Our second..... was a surprise after she went off birth control for only a few weeks. The difference... we gave too many fucks the first time around. ZFG seems to apply I more than just game.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 05:08 PM
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I JUST downloaded this app and am going to finish out another couple weeks of the BB.com "Total Package" workout before starting. I did SL 5x5 for about a year, then switched to a hypertrophic version of SL, then to the total package. It's time for a change again and this caught my eye.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 03:03 PM
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If you aren't going to have the meal sent back (which was an option), then you AM this and laugh. Put your fork down, close eyes and put fingers to temples. When she said, "what are you doing?" You say, I'm using my thought powers to make sure you blow me before I fuck you tonight. Then laugh.
/r/askMRP14/08/17 12:08 PM
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Sounds like a catalystic-y moment in your life. Whatever you do don't immediately go trying to change that. The progress to testosterone-y you line chart should be a slow, gradual one. What are your hobbies? Did you ever play sports?
/r/askMRP12/08/17 01:24 PM
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You say this is your first post so I'm going to guess you are new to MRP. People are saying this probably because it appears that way, probably because it's true. Don't worry yet, you're in the right place to fix it. Should it bother you? Depends how much you care about living the life you want. I disagree with those who say it shouldn't bother you... It should, and it should make you want to be a better man and be a man who leads his wife and family. You can AA these kind of comments once you'r…
/r/askMRP12/08/17 02:26 AM
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Really good post. Don't fear her negative emotions especially when you cause them. Recently I've been taking chances with this idea. See my recent post about WISNIFG for MRP and boundary enforcement. My execution of attention removal was sort of controversially received but I don't regret any part of it because I learned something either way. I think this just connected another dot for me. This FR of yours could be a good way to test for whether she even wants an alpha or not, which is a recurri…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 09:54 PM
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I've always thought the same about the "always be initiating" advice. It's not very agile or tactful and definitely all "pull."
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 09:37 PM
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It's the blue pill dream via red pill ways that Rollo constantly warns about. You can't have it both ways and it takes a long time to internalize that.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 09:27 PM
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Nice work. Solid example.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/17 03:34 AM
1

To add to this, it's basically Rollo's "mental point of origin" idea. You are first, you can't be a value giver until you find value and validation internally. Evidenced by my daughters comment last night, they get value from me. They see I'm one of the few dads willing to run around and coach them on the field. I asked for help at one point yesterday from the parents for a certain drill. Guess who helped? A mom, whose husband sat there the whole time. Both dads I saw there were dadbod advertise…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 03:00 PM
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That's something you have to figure out for yourself. But for me, it boils down to being someone others want to put effort/time into and seek value from. I do this by making sure my needs and wants are met first. Once they are, I can add value to those people in my life who deserve it and give value back (like the oxygen mask on a plane). All other things like being fit, social, providing and being fun are encompassed in that MAP. And lastly, or perhaps most important, I make sure I'm prepared f…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 02:52 PM
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This is how it's done OP, and how you persist in your own frame. How can we sidebar a single reply?
/r/askMRP10/08/17 01:06 PM
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Would you care if you lost her at all? Other than her salary (which by the way is a huge plus for your situation) what value does she bring to your life? From your post it's hard to determine what value YOU bring to this shit show . There's a lot of "she" and "her" in this puke but let's assume for a minute you've got your shit together.... what value is she bringing? 3 years with no sex is NOT a marriage. Not even close. That's your broken record frame if she tries to muddy the waters with her …
/r/askMRP10/08/17 12:46 PM
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I just want them to know what a quality man looks, acts and talks like. That's what's it's about. They're always watching
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 12:36 PM
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Mission: Prepare myself for, and be comfortable with, the "worst case" outcome of all aspects of my life and MAP. Be a man that women want to put effort into. I haven't been gaming my wife all that much the past month or so. To be honest it got tiresome and I've been too busy with my own goals. I throw in the occasional innuendo or tease but it's fewer and farther between. For example, last week she came into the kitchen and announced, "I want to put something in my mouth that has no calories an…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 03:23 AM
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I confused you with redpillray who just posted a doozy in askMRP today. Robby, Ray, Ronald... whatever. So I'll take that one back. My bad. Even without that being yours, this post is low effort. If this place is dead then I'm truly autistic because I can barely keep up with all the posts because I'm busy as fuck IRL. Look, just lurk here for a while if you're serious. It's a different vibe than TRP.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 02:46 AM
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You just posted the thing in AskMRP about the weekday "almost 3some" and your wife disrespecting you right? You need to read the side bar and just observe here for at least a month. No more posts. I can just tell you're not ready for this sub yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 01:33 AM
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In addition to everything already said, it brings men back to their more primal role. Men are meant to do physical activity, to fight to wage war and to build shit. In our modern, way-to-easy world we live in, lifting helps us recapture our intended masculinity
/r/askMRP10/08/17 01:29 AM
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RP preaches not letting others be the judge of you. WISNIFG is your friend.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 01:26 AM
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Holy disrespect Bateman! Yes, you fucked up but obviously she's had no boundaries for a long time... or ever. Slow your roll, improve your value and begin setting and enforcing boundaries over the next couple of months. If she doesn't get it, next her.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 12:27 AM
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Good analysis. Said better than my terse comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:56 PM
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You didn't count all these manually did you? Did you????
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:19 PM
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I challenge anyone to penetrate [deleted]'s frame and FOGGING.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 06:19 PM
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Ha! I don't want that at all. It was tongue in cheek These butthurt SJWs wouldn't be so concerned about some guy merely voicing his unpopular opinion as they would be with where their next meal was coming from if life wasn't so easy. I recently read The Way of Men.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 04:49 PM
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Not that I'm hoping for it or anything like it, but a zombie apocalypse or N Korea induced nuclear war would fix all this nonsense most ricky-tick.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 02:37 PM
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One month is nothing
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:42 PM
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Your problem is that you're associating/entangling your personal improvement with your woman. And if things with your girl are already pretty good (and they sound like they are) you don't need to adjust much in regards to your behavior towards her. Just improve yourself; physically, intellectually and however else you want. That shit has zero to do with a woman anyway. Don't overthink this.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:36 PM
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You either ignore it or simply tell her you're busy right now and then ignore it.
/r/askMRP08/08/17 12:51 AM
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I'm sure there's been many. I bet she won something in that suit too. Funny how we never hear about the lawsuit filed by the career beta who blew his prime years being "nice", "doing the right thing" and worshiping women who banged the alphas until she was used up.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 11:36 PM
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This is the way to start. All you're doing is NOT being a pushover beta. The best way to start being a better man is to STOP being a pussy. Also your frame is the aluminum or titanium. Don't think of it as a shield.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 10:02 PM
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"wait for me, give me ten years and we'll get married." This is essentially the male version of "betas in waiting." You get her sexual investment for none of your commitment. If you are able to get her to agree to this you've essentially flipped the female imperative on its head. I hope she doesn't have any feminist friends. Good on you if you can pull this off.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 09:51 PM
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do alphas cuddle with no sex? Do what you want. If you get something out of it then do it.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 12:54 PM
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I was going to write some shit that mostly mirrors what's already been said, then I stopped. Your title says it all. Now fix it. Edit: ok, I guess I care too much. regarding your wife getting in shape, that may take time. Or it may not happen at all. I've been crushing it in the gym for a solid two years now and my wife started working out religiously only about 4 months ago. Asks me what to do and how she can lose more fat. Two weeks ago she started altering her diet too. It takes time. 1,000 f…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/17 12:40 PM
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Depends what he wants out of that relationship
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/17 08:52 PM
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That's the place all men should strive for. It's part of my MAP to be prepared for all outcomes (everything from getting rejected for sex to getting divorced) and it all starts with knowing you don't need her.
/r/askMRP06/08/17 02:08 PM
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no wife who cooks and cleans, having to do all my own shit This is almost literally what we talk about when we say OYS. If you can't be comfortable with at least the thought of not needing anyone (especially a woman) you aren't red pill and never will be. Sure it's nice to have a woman who does these things, but it isn't necessary. Fix this One way to dread your wife is to show her that while you appreciate it, you don't need her. You don't have to live the PUA lifestyle until you die, but you h…
/r/askMRP05/08/17 12:56 PM
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The only downside is even with that, our income split is about 70/30% Me/her so I know I'd probably owe something. I'm not opposed to paying a reasonable amount of alimony for a reasonable amount of time. It's the court's ability to be reasonable that worries me. My state recently changed the child support rules which make it so joint, shared custody will severely decrease the amount of child support paid. And it should, if parenting is 50/50, it doesn't make sense for one parent to fork over a …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 05:13 PM
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This is crucial to being prepared for the worst case. My wife works 3 days a week. She will be going to 4 days a week later this year ( youngest is out of daycare ). We also pay for annual continuing education courses for her profession and contribute monthly to her personal 401k plan from our joint bank account. It's no guarantee but all these things make it less likely I'll get cleaned out should the Big D happen.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 04:09 PM
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Gonna lay a few things out that need tweaking. Some shortsightedness in my dealing with the wife's poor behavior while visiting her parents was called out by some flaired guys and mods. I recently made this post about a boundaries and enforcing them with the optic of valuing your time (a re-reading of WISNIFG inspired this). While I still stand by the main drive of what I was doing and why I shared it here, I now see ways that I could have lead the interaction and ultimately my frame, to a bette…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 01:41 PM
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As /u/man_in_the_world pointed out already; This Wife - Not change from last week. I wonder how long it will take for her to notice I’m losing weight? ...is because you still need to do this Killing The Nice Guy Inside- Fucked up in some ways; got the job ..... You realize that though, I think.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 12:17 PM
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My real question is why is she a cunt when you are around her family? Why when you are added to the mix does she treat you like shit? It's only when we are visiting her parents. She's fine when parents or sister visit us. My only guess is that her family has been stressing her out lately. There's been drama between her parents and aunts/uncles. As I stated to w&s, I'm always trying to be her oak in these situations (if she seeks me out.). Otherwise, I stay out of it. In all that interaction what…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/17 03:26 AM
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Maybe you need more interesting/ funny/ varied friends in your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 03:48 PM
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I don't ever want to drop below 180, and would rather give up a sixpack to keep it This is the crux of the decision. As fall begins im going to focus on bulking, six pack or no and see if there's a difference in attention as your describe.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 03:47 PM
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Dogs know best
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 03:43 PM
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It's all in the delivery. If you deliver it like an insufferable douche, then ya.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 01:45 PM
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I can attest. I already notice a difference. It sucks... but it's effective
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 01:44 PM
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Daaaaang, that's discipline. I've decided the scale isn't as important is how I look/feel. I'm in the same boat as you... not sure if I should be cutting or bulking. I've always been more of a lanky dude. I'm 5'11" about 172-175. I'd like to be between 180-185 but every time I start tipping the scales that way I get that extra padding on my stomach I don't like and immediately cut back on calories. An old friend of mine I saw last weekend said, "lookin good JD...(then to wife) how does it feel b…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 01:43 PM
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I thought I had "arrived" after 6 months of working out (SL5x5 mostly). Oh man was I wrong. I'm 18 months or so into serious lifting and HIIT and that 6 month guy is nothing to me now
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 01:02 PM
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Goes for weighing yourself too. But weekly or every two weeks
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 12:53 PM
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I just started doing it again after about a year and a half of just lifting. Lifting burned a lot of fat off me but I decided some HIIT was in order to lose the extra fat to look better. I do 30 seconds of sprints on the treadmill or bike. 30 on 30 off for about 10 sets. Way better than only doing steady state cardio.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 12:45 PM
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I was thinking the same
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/17 12:13 PM
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Good take on being in your own frame. The key is to not get riled or butt hurt and to not be afraid of whatever emotions you pull out of her.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 11:39 PM
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I always do the Han Solo, "I know". She loves/hates it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 05:18 PM
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Rule 1 is be attractive. What is Rule 2? You're not there to fix her feeling. 10-4. In this case I decided that continuing to let her unpleasant behavior go on was unattractive of me. Could I have been ignoring the underlying reasons for it? sure, and I can admit that and you've made me think about the "why" in all this. I may come back to my original conclusion but I'm not so obtuse as to not think about it in a different way. On the other hand, I don't believe that every time my wife gets bitc…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 04:00 PM
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I was wondering when you were going to show up. Obviously it does matter - otherwise why even point it out? If you can't figure out why she's being cold either directly or implicitly - what does that say about your social awareness and your ability to add value? I don't always see it as my job to understand or fix her feelings, even when I've caused them by making a decision she doesn't like. If anything, I'm probably too aware of her mood swings. Being less affected by them, not more, would hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/08/17 03:18 AM
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Wouldn't have dreamed of pulling such a "dick move" 18 months ago.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/17 07:30 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. I'll admit this was an experiment of sorts that I was fully conscious of. I wanted to play with the balance of being assertive about my time and her behavior vs just STFU and being endlessly OI about her behavior, which I think gets over recommended sometimes. Either way, I'm getting good feedback that shows a few ways my thinking was off. You have a lot of back and forth and breaking of frame going on here. Ya, I'll concede that. I made the conscious decision to make an…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/17 06:54 PM
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Good for you, man. I do better with a wing man
/r/MarriedRedPill31/07/17 02:12 AM
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will it be because she desires to not be a cunt, or because she is obligated to not be a cunt. My answer to this would be; "that's up to her." I only control myself. The scenario I wrote about depicts how to remove your positive presence for bad behavior, not how to compel her to do something I want her to do or be (i.e. Better sex). If we were talking about rationalizing to her about why she should fuck me more, then I'm 100% in agreement with you. That would be a faggoty thing to do for certai…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/17 06:10 PM
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Not letting her rile you up over small things is the key.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/17 02:30 PM
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See my reply to GargantuaBlarg. I do this, sometimes I've done it in front of her family, but when it doesn't get any results, one has to go to other measures. What happened to acta non verba?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/17 04:01 AM
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say your wife didn't exist, and you had the chance to go for a weekend and do whatever it is you do there. Would you? Yes, but with women or people that I enjoy. Like I said, these trips are sort of extra time spent with her family. I don't always go, even when things between us are good. Because it seems to me the reason you arent going is because of her attitude. In other words you are deciding how to spend your weekend based on her. Yes, you are correct here but I frame it differently. I spen…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/07/17 02:27 AM
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I have made similar comments for "one off" displays of cuntyness and disrespect and for a lot of situations, I think your suggestion is appropriate. In this instance, it was a long term pattern of bad behavior that I decided to employ a long term solution for.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/17 10:24 PM
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I may have a slightly different take on this than /u/man_in_the_world does. Or we have the same view, just from different angles. I don't see it as removing availability to punish, rather I see it as committing your time and energy to others who actually appreciate and value it or to activities you find rewarding. That is my frame. Remember, your time is a gift and with each passing year it's value increases. Don't repeatedly reward people with the gift of your time when they shit on it, don't a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 03:40 PM
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Just make sure that positive frame is just you being you. Don't direct it AT her if she doesn't deserve it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/17 02:42 AM
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Sounds like you did more to improve your situation than just being Ok with divorce. Good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 03:59 PM
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Right to dread level 10 and back. Do you think she's doing it out of obligation though? As opposed to genuine desire?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 03:27 PM
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Men are visual, women are feelz
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 01:23 PM
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Yep, I should have clarified that. Even though the risk of getting sick is low, it's a risk. I buy the stuff in the mil-carton looking containers
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 01:21 PM
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solipsism never ceases to surprise me.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 01:13 PM
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Absolutely, my comment assumed something worth responding to. Edit: autocorrect correction
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 01:10 PM
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Sounds like his wife got the explanation/lesson of why he's fuckable.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:51 PM
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I pour liquid egg whites into my protein/bkfst shake. No cooking, saves times.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:49 PM
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I'm increasingly amazed at how women are surprised their husbands cheat when they won't put out. Unless this guy isn't worth fucking, of course.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/17 12:24 PM
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Nobody said anything about cheating
/r/askMRP25/07/17 12:22 AM
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nah, my actions are "no thanks and step off" and my subcomication "somebody out there WANTS to suck my dick". subtle difference, but fuck the starfish and seahorse she rode in on. I agree with this. Both are a response to her unavailability, which we can only do so much to influence. You're absolutely right though that sexual compliance out of obligation is not the goal. Your addition completes what the sub communications need to be. And thanks for compelling me to google the meaning of a word f…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 02:21 AM
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nah, my actions are "no thanks and step off" and my subcomication "somebody out there WANTS to suck my dick". subtle difference, but fuck the starfish and seahorse she rode in on. I agree with this. Both are a response to her unavailability, which we can only do so much to influence. You're absolutely right though that sexual compliance out of obligation is not the goal. Your addition completes what the sub communications need to be. And thanks for compelling me to google the meaning of a word f…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 02:21 AM
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I wrote it as someone who has had a lot of experience with DL4 ( meaning I had a lot of trial and error, which inspired this post). It is also where I struggled the most so I wanted to impart my thoughts for those who are just starting to dabble here. For me, proper implementation of DL4 does two things that enable you to develop true NGAF: it forces you to get good at OI and it allows you to understand, if you are ready, that you don't need her. Second, it makes you realize she doesn't owe you …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 01:10 AM
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Do more than pushups. Start a compound lifting program. I'm surprised you haven't yet considering how long you say you've been unplugged
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 05:20 PM
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Making sure I don't suck
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/17 02:55 AM
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Should my sarcasm meeter be spiking here?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 04:56 PM
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That's the idea. Spoiler alert... she probably won't make the correlation right away. I have another post in the works that discusses this removal of presence and time for general unpleasantness. Stay tuned.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 04:55 PM
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Trial and error and adjusting course is a key to success. That's basically my point. Some women will require varying levels and speed of change
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 04:52 PM
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Training wheels for the bike that our culture likes to hide from men.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 02:52 PM
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Good distinction
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/17 02:12 AM
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If you are truly becoming a high value man and she still isn't responding well, it may be she never will. It's a reality we all have to consider and be prepared for. Re-examine the mistakes you reference, fix them, calibrate accordingly and stay in your frame. I'm always finding new little unattractive behaviors and trying to correct them. Even after 1.5 years RP aware.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/17 04:48 PM
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Yep. It really should be that levels 1-3 (passive dread through bettering yourself) take as long as necessary before thinking about anything else.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/07/17 04:03 PM
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Something never sit right with me about smiling unnaturally. Just doesn't come off as genuine. Good analysis.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/17 12:19 PM
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Probably need some professional help first. Second, come back here. Third.... you're lucky you're wife is being as cool as you describe.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 01:08 PM
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This is where your WISNIFG skills come in. You have the assertive right to be ... (fill in the blank). In this case you have the right to be with a woman who enjoys sex and happily gives it up. This is of course after you are approaching the best version of yourself that is possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 06:38 PM
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She immediately started in on me about how my pillow was too close to "her side of the bed," You: "It might be, yes. I'm sure the guest room or couch is free." As you continue reading. After that I just STFU, to which she said, "I'm serious!" and I just nodded and left the room. Don't leave your own room. Just Broken Record your chosen AA or AM comment. Turn it playful and if she chooses to get angry....her emotions, her problem. What a petty fucking thing to get annoyed at, Jesus women can be c…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 04:32 PM
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we eventually get into the kid discussion, which is pretty laughable right now. She would probably liked to start having kids about a year ago. I know it's an awful idea right now. Eventually? Yeah, ...is not compatible with... Sex still non-existent, Not letting you off the hook of improving, becoming attractive and owning your shit but, holy fuck, does she not see the problem here? Both relationship health-wise and actual human reproduction-wise. Some may disagree but I think this calls for so…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 04:12 PM
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Sounds like you don't want this very bad. Improvement followed by 35lbs of bad weight gain?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/07/17 03:33 PM
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We had actually just fucked when this happened. Otherwise you're spot on. She was doing the chris Farley bit from Tommy Boy.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/17 01:25 PM
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You've identified the main problem.... attractiveness. You already know what you have to do for yourself so that's a good fucking start. Keep up with the lifting and cardio at that weight. At some point you can dial the cardio back or switch to just HIIT stuff a few times a week. Never stop lifting. Yesterday my wife mockingly made fun of the way I walk/look now. She puffed her chest up, straightened her back and neck and swaggered around in an exaggerated fashion and said, "hey, I'm JDRoedell..…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/17 04:20 PM
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Ya, I think bench is the second best way to hurt a shoulder. Too many ways to have impure form
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 01:16 PM
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After hurting my shoulder (I suspect OHP was the culprit) I modified SL5x5 to a hypertrophic based plan for a while. Made it 5x10 and 5x8 for DL. Lowered weight accordingly but at the end of the workout, the overall volume lifted was more than 5x5. Also, a few PTs d doctors have told me that OHP is a shoulder injury waiting to happen as you get older . Switch to dumbbells for overhead. Better for rotator and AC joint.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/17 12:28 PM
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Those are the memes I'm referring to and yes, they can be used on her with success
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 04:55 PM
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A. This belongs in askMRP sub. Why don't you see how things are for a while when you aren't a daily drug using loser. Give that at least a couple weeks before you feel any right to feel sad about a celebrity crush. My wife has a crush on Ryan Gosling. When she talks about it or posts memes on social media I'll say, "that Gosling... what a dream" or something to that effect.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/17 02:55 PM
1

This just seems like dread to me. It's a good problem. Look into comfort Tess and how to pass them
/r/askMRP30/06/17 01:28 PM
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At this point where she's persisting and becoming overt in her feelings of dread there's nothing wrong with setting a boundary overtly yourself. Example: "No I won't tell you I'll stop talking to other women because that would be a lie. I don't want to lie to you." Also, read this: verbal intercourse is optional
/r/askMRP30/06/17 12:13 PM
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What /u/GargantuaBlarg29 said. You have to judge each woman differently on how much kino you should lay down. Mine is on the other end of the spectrum of OPs. I've learned to dial it way back. I wait for small comfort tests/comments that imply I'm ignoring her to know when I'm overdoing it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 05:53 PM
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I love that episode
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 05:50 PM
1

The calendar is key. We have and use one. You've laid out good, concrete actions for new guys to take in the quest to regain control of the helm.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/17 03:22 AM
1

Well done my friend
/r/MarriedRedPill28/06/17 01:19 AM
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Also, I don't know if you're through NMMNG yet, but I believe it's right on the chapter header "I am allowed to make irrational decisions" Stop hedging it with the pre apology I'm not sure I'm sharp enough today to follow you on these two comments but it seems like an important point. Can you elaborate?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 11:33 PM
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could be; but i have doubts. if she does believe it then her actions state she doesn't mind sharing. I think she knows where I stand but the hamster is powerful with this one. So you're right... she hears it but doesn't want to believe it. actions state she doesn't mind sharing This will be part of my DL10 delivery of it comes to that. It also reminded me of prarrot's recent update. I told him to make this ideal part of the next encounter he has with the wife. Broken record to the grave. With al…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 12:55 PM
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the stated fact that you have disconnected validation just makes your situation even harder to understand. seeking validation for sex is at the root of so much unattractive behaviour. It's like after a delicious meal. I think, well that was good, I'm glad I ate that. But it doesn't make me feel like more of a man or better about myself in general. Sex is like that, I don't get validation from it. It's just enjoyable (obviously) and I'd like it more frequently. not sure if what is intentional or …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 12:20 PM
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Chad or Nunnery...? While I never say never, I've been very observant and cognizant of any signs of cheating. In the very beginning I was paranoid from reading too much manosphere and even searched for evidence/checked up on her. Pretty beta of me actually. Ive seen, heard and sensed nothing that would suggest cheating. My vote is for nunnery, or even worse... smart phone addiction. The reminder to always be running inventory on my attractive vs unattractive behaviors is noted. I'm personally sa…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/06/17 02:47 AM
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Tough situation. It's not when you wanted this to happen but it did. If I were you, when she initiates the next conversation you need to communicate the sentiment that BPP lays out in his response. It's your assertive right as a human (WISNIFG). Read his reply several times, internalize it and be ready to assert this to her and broken record and FOG until blue in the face. Don't apologize or DEER. Don't address irrelevant attacks or hamstering from her. Just broken record that you expect a certa…
/r/askMRP25/06/17 08:14 PM
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Her emotions... her problem to figure out. They resent you if you try to "fix" their problems or bad emotions.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/17 03:26 PM
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This is an important distinction indeed. Yes, we all need to own our shit and improve once we know the reality of the situation like Rollo has so aptly laid out for us. Calling a guy a faggot while not at least acknowledging in some level that we have been dealt a less than stellar hand is not helping. It's the guys who are unplugged and still won't help themselves with their new found knowledge that deserve the moniker. I liken it to starting any kind of competitive sports with your team a man …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/17 02:05 PM
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Your number three is hard for a lot of guys here to swallow, and understandably so. I have one particular member in mind who has been struggling with it in OYS and askMRP a lot recently. I've only recently started to be at peace with this one as part of my "be prepared for worst case" mission statement. The way I realized money isn't that important is by picturing a 70 year old version of myself with a full retirement, lots of money and things that are nice but not vital. This version, however, …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/17 01:46 PM
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Tell me you ignored that text...
/r/askMRP24/06/17 10:33 PM
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I tried this for about 6 weeks a year ago. Total waste of time. It doesn't improve YOU.
/r/askMRP24/06/17 10:02 PM
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When you say you don't push through low interest, what do you mean? I mean that if I initiate, she agrees but I can see the starfish or bad attitude coming a mile away, I say, "on second thought, this isn't doing it for me," zip up and go on my merry way. Personally, it's hard for me to desire to initiate unless I want to fuck. Then don't. The worst thing you can do is initiate just because you think it's what you should be doing. Some flaired guys here fuck their wives every day, some every oth…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 05:41 PM
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Yes, if it's in a "let's get this over" type of tone or she acts like a prostitute or like she's doing you a favor then yes. It's weak. I'm to the point where I don't push through low interest. I rarely ever accept starfish anymore. I don't know if you're there yet. You also said yourself you are being a cunt related to initiating. Fix that
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 03:07 PM
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Don't turn her down when she initiates. FFS, don't do that.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/17 01:01 PM
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It IS your right to have those needs met. If you don't believe that to your core then, in the words of the little green guy, "That is why you fail." She needs to know you won't put up with this shit situation forever. She has to at least think you are willing to walk, whether you are or aren't.
/r/askMRP23/06/17 03:17 AM
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You were alpha to HER. She didn't know your history and hadn't seen it from your wife's eyes. You probably had some abundance wafting off you as well because all your eggs weren't in this basket, like so many men mistakenly do in marriage.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 01:32 PM
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Not going to rehash all the usual stuff but have a few areas I'm focused on lately. The kids are away this week at grandma and grandpa's. They go every year for a week. Even a year ago I would have had a covert contract built upon blue pill fantasies in my head of the wife wanting to spend the time together and fucking more and I would have gotten pissed when that didn't pan out. This time I know better and have made myself my focal point to the point of barely giving any attention, affection or…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/17 02:31 AM
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Don't confuse Father's Day with your birthday or Valentine's Day and even then... don't make covert contracts about bdays or Valentine's Day. If my wife complains about a perceived lack of effort on Mother's Day I just tell her, "you're not my mom."
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 11:06 PM
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Thanks for mentioning. They did give me he beep test and I had detectable loss from that.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 12:20 PM
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Whiskey dick. Always helps me go longer . But in all seriousness, this could explain the butt clenching thing. Hear me out... when you drink you tend to relax and your muscles relax. Ever hear that drunk drivers sometimes walk away from bad wrecks while sober people are broken all over? A doctor friend once hypothesized to me that it's because the drunk is over relaxed and doesn't tense up prior to impact. Ergo... drinking probably keeps your butt cheeks from clenching up as much. Find a way to …
/r/askMRP16/06/17 01:28 PM
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Time under tension is what builds muscle so that makes a lot of sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/17 04:36 AM
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Easy. You lift and get hawt like your life depends on it. Give six months of honest effort with an honest mirror check at the end of it. If she's still putting up this kind of resistance after you're fit, you walk. Holy fuck you're lucky to have found this place at this stage of your ltr.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 01:30 PM
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If I ever "marry" again it will be paperless. We can even get rings, have a wedding and shared bank account. Just no paper from the state. It's funny that getting married takes so little legal and financial investment but getting out of it takes so much.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 01:05 PM
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I have the same hearing problem. Had a test done related to my employment and was told I have high frequency hearing loss. Too many years playing the drums with no ear protection and shit like that. I can't hear SHIT people say in loud restaurants or bars .
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 12:46 PM
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Yep, hypertrophic gains come in the 8-12 rep zone. I did this with 5x5 for a while. Reps went up, weight for each set went down but overall volume lifted at end of session was higher.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 12:38 PM
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... enter white-bearded man into dirt lot full of beta males in ground looking sad... "for just 12 cents a day you can make a difference in these betas lives. Call today."
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 11:56 AM
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Well then your new goal is to work towards a place where you can be financially flexible to walk away. Could mean saving more, selling stuff, or getting a better paying job. Does she work? If you are barely scraping by then it's your job to lead her to realize she has to contribute for all the nice things you all have. This also sets you up better to walk. For some reason I thought you'd been at this longer, so ya, you are correct that it's too early to blow it all up. Next time she tells you ov…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 12:47 AM
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At the stage you're at, I don't think there is anything wrong with a little verbal assertiveness regarding what you expect out of your marriage. I've done it. I'm going to beat W&S to the punch here and say that at this point, you have essentially been given a solid reason (by your wife) to outsource the girlfriend/sex life role. If she's telling you that she's "not interested in that," where "that" is a real sex life, then maybe you need to tell her you're not interested in remaining faithful o…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 05:11 PM
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Definitely work in some warmup sets. It will lower your odds of pulling or straining something. Good work on getting back to pre-injury stats. The lack of enthusiasm thing is a tough one. I struggle with this too. Or rather, I struggle with my own frustration with her inability to display it. At the end of the day that's a "me problem". We have to be ok with the possibility that the wife either "just isn't like that" (and PFP provides for this) or we aren't the one to bring it out in her for wha…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 12:17 PM
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First, what you are looking for just doesn't exist. Not the way you "just want..." Got that? It will take a while to fully internalize so don't dwell on it too much. Second, don't go Monk Mode hoping that you'll come out the other side as a man that good women want to finally put effort into and submit to. Rather you should press on with your goals, hobbies and improvements whilst also interacting with and enjoying women. Your ever improving masculine frame, if it's solid and true, will act as a…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 03:04 AM
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I see what you did there... giggity
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 02:45 AM
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Meant to add that it's worth it if you're considering doing something similar.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 01:30 PM
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I did this about 10 years ago. Took a decent pay cut to "start over" in a new field. One I thoroughly enjoyed and fought hard to get. Took me a while to get back to where I was, status and salary wise, but I'm a much better and happier man now because of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/17 07:45 PM
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We are here to fix us, as men. Whether the relationship gets fixed.... that's up to the woman. Don't forget that
/r/askMRP08/06/17 11:54 AM
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Read Rollo Tomassi and know that EVERY word is true. That should do the trick. If that doesn't unplug you, nothing will.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 09:13 PM
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Would love to see the future post you speak of. Nice work.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 07:46 PM
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Do you even know what this sub is about? Do some research before you come here with your virtue trolling.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 07:42 PM
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Fu?
/r/askMRP02/06/17 03:30 PM
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You're kind of swinging a "semi-RP-hard on" around recklessly. Other guys have pointed out the good in your post already so I won't duplicate but this all needs to be more covert and under the radar. Don't talk to yet about your expectations.
/r/askMRP02/06/17 01:36 PM
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I think W&S has the same point but I pretty much don't share any hobbies with my wife beyond the normal shit like seeing movies, going out to dinner, taking walks or occasional hikes. I like live music, sailing, fishing, outdoors shit, etc but I don't need her in those activities with me. I have male friends for that. I guess it's equivalent to those of us struggling to get the slut to come out in our wives (which you have done). We have to be OI. Maybe she will, maybe she won't. Same with her w…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 11:57 AM
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As /u/Persaeus said, don't shy away from owning that you have sexual needs. Don't tell her it's all ok when it isn't. Don't be butthurt but don't cede your sexual frame. After repeated episodes of this I don't think it hurts to have some overt verbal communication if this frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/05/17 01:22 PM
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I second this. If muscle building is mostly the goal, I would recommend OP do HIIT focused cardio on off days
/r/askMRP28/05/17 01:07 PM
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Me either. Mostly because if I don't lift In the morning, work gets on the way. Gotta take care of yourself first.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/17 01:13 AM
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I'm sure it is. Hell, I'm pretty much done with the starfish and don't have any plates. I've lost count of how many times I put my dick away before it even went in or even a minute into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 04:52 PM
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I lift at 7am. Last time I tried IF and lifted at 7am, I felt like my lifts were suffering.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 04:51 PM
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I haven't read rollos new post yet but now I'm going to put it at the top of the reading priority here. Regarding the butthurt flip she does, I think it's coming more from a place of being annoyed or angry when I don't take her first "soft no" as a full stop. That, and she feels some actual guilt when she shuts it down, doesn't like feeling that way and then gets angry because I "caused" the guilt.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 01:47 PM
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Do you lift during the fasted window?
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/17 01:41 PM
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To clarify, I meant squatting every day that I did SL5x5, so approx 3x a week. Now I squat once a week, bench once a week, bent over row once a week and deadlift once a week. I'm doing the Bodybuilding.com 'Total Package' workout which is a modified version of the PHUL split. So far i'm seeing good aesthetic gains so I'm going to stick to it for a while. Have you tried IF? I did it for a while last year and found it was hurting my lifts but it did help me burn fat faster. I'm going to start doin…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 10:56 PM
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Thanks for taking a stab at this. time to go full diet nazi and break the 12% barrier Yep, you're right. I do pretty well cutting sugar and excess carbs. Slowly making changes that are becoming habits. Also added cardio that is moving me in the right direction too. I just wasn't doing much cardio before. Got so laser focused on compound lifting. kill the annoyance and bringing bad shit home, nothing but rainbows and unicorns This should be easy compared to everything else. I've almost got this o…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 10:52 PM
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There will always be progress and setbacks. It's been rougher than usual around my house the last couple of weeks so it's either a big setback or the main event brewing. It's interesting, now if I initiate, get a Hard No and walk away whistling a happy tune, she still gets angry. This happened last night. Was escalating and kinoing all day after work, tried to fuck her, which she denied. I rolled over to read and wouldn't you know she's texting me today angry because she doesn't like "being the …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 03:24 AM
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SQ - 190, BP - 185, Row - 150, DL - 220. I had to stop OHP due to the AC joint issue. Replaced with dumb bell presses. Im doing more of a total body workout that starts with the major compound lifts and works on a lot of accessories. So I'm not squatting every day anymore. I think my body was getting used to SL 5x5 after a year and about 3 months of it. Had to change it up
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/17 03:08 AM
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This is a hard thing to kill for certain. I still struggle with it myself. Remember, she will come around and be the woman you will EVENTUALLY deserve or she won't. If she won't, it's your move....
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 05:45 PM
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Yes, yes that does help.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 04:12 PM
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Playing with my band at least once a week. Increasing our "playing out" time as well. I'm also actively looking for a new cover band to join. Modern country is hot right now. Knock it all you want, but chicks love it and it's fairly easy to learn and get into. To some degree, you have to go with what's popular if you want gigging opportunities. Happy hour with work friends. A few are actually good friends and an even smaller number are guys I would consider masculine and in control of their live…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 03:28 PM
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Only one friend survived my divorce and he lives in another city. This, and losing time with my kids are the only two reasons I fear divorce anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 03:13 PM
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Getting drunk and rolling around on the ground seems to to solve most problems for us. And this is why female-female friendships don't last. Unless they are lesbians, I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 03:11 PM
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Ya, that's pretty much a given to the unplugged man
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 03:10 PM
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I've come to this conclusion as well. It's why women have very few, if ANY, long term girlfriends. They just aren't built for loyalty. It's only about the utility. Seriously, I could probably count on one hand the amount of women I know who have deep, long lasting friendships with other women that have stood the test of time.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/17 01:00 PM
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This is good advice. Sexualize everything and tease the wife. Show the others you aren't afraid to, nor are you afraid of her reaction to your teasing and gaming
/r/askMRP19/05/17 10:06 PM
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And women wonder why husbands cheat. Always be sex positive. I experience this sentiment with my wife's friend's and their husbands too. This is where frame and not being butthurt are important. Your wife relays to you a conversation about how her friend only puts out once a month... you say, "that sucks for THEM" or "I wonder how long he'll stick around for that." Or my favorite, "good thing for you, you've got a real man."
/r/askMRP19/05/17 10:02 PM
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"His name is Robert Paulson"
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 09:28 PM
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Nothin' gets past you
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 09:27 PM
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Is SPTs Coming to Jesus speech in his blog or here on MRP?
/r/askMRP19/05/17 01:15 PM
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No... just no. None of this is fixable. Walk away
/r/askMRP19/05/17 01:09 PM
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Tone does matter. For this type of negging it better be a lighthearted joking tone or now everyone at the table (not just the gf) knows you're insecure. If the fed keeps bringing it up then ya, now HE is the insecure one. I'll bite my tongue on the "all government work is shit" comment. Some is, yes. Everyone has their motivations and it's not always money
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 12:48 PM
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This isn't AMOGing or tactful negging. It's just a lesser degree of faggoty insecurity displayed by the OP. I've had people do this kind of shit to me about my job and afterwards my wife was like, "I think he was just jealous of your career."
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/17 12:12 PM
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Man I used to hit the taco bell at least once a month or more. Such deliciousness but so toxic.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/05/17 02:05 PM
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Her saying she likes you chubby is a shit test. She doesn't want to have to put in the effort to keep up. So give her a challenge
/r/askMRP17/05/17 09:47 PM
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There's nothing selfish about it. You have a right to be fulfilled and happy too.
/r/askMRP17/05/17 09:12 PM
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ideally you should be able to subcommunicate that she's not you're only option You're absolutely right. I've struggled with this. I can walk away without butthurt but my larger subcommunication is off. EDIT: Faking it has always been hard for me. I feed off genuine interactions and experiences, not imagined plates or women.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/05/17 11:17 AM
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I'm sure the court system would see to it that she has money... yours.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 11:10 PM
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Ya, that all makes sense. I'm also trying to hold off on any talks like this until I know I am good and ready to walk. How did she respond to you saying she'll eventually be replaced?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 08:11 PM
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I would tell her the truth, and “you declined the role so I filled it”. ya, but... Sex is whenever I want it with her now soft-initiating the majority of the time. Cannot remember the last hard no; and maybe one soft no a month. Blowjobs every day or two. Just messing with you mostly, but are you sure know why you have the plates?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 06:20 PM
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Your conversation with the wife regarding the beard is almost verbatim the dialogue we have about it every couple weeks. She claims to really not like it... and she may actually be sincere on that
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 04:56 PM
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Check out my post above yours re: sexual innuendo and negative reactions. Must be in the air
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 03:46 PM
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MY COMMITMENT: Reddjive's recent comment in an AskMRP thread on the inverse of "commitment for sex" really resonated with me. That being that women hold all the cards when it comes to sex and men all the cards when it comes to commitment so it must be true that it's on us to be a man worth giving the pussy up to and they must be a woman worth our commitment. If I'm being honest, she isn't meeting that criteria for me. Will she ever? Don't know yet, but I know there are still a few things about m…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 03:38 PM
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OYS 5/16/17 Mission: Be a man that women want to put effort into. Prepare myself for, and be comfortable with, the "worst case" outcome of all aspects of my life. LIFTING/HEALTH: I've continued my modified upper-lower split workout with good success. I think I'm melting more fat than I was with SL5x5 alone. Weight has gone down 2-4 pounds but still crushing the heavy weights so it must be the fat, right? I estimate my bf at between 13-15%. PT sessions for my AC shoulder joint continue. Doc think…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 03:37 PM
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This could work too. Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 03:33 PM
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This is the mental space I'm in now. Weighing the good against the bad and deciding if I should allow for more time for things to come around as /u/alphabeta49 has done. I'm at peace with the "MRP fixes the man" and "it's her job to fix the relationship" tropes. Given the choice, I want to stay married but not at the cost of my happiness. If it doesn't work out, I won't waste time worrying about the why.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 01:11 PM
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True
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 12:28 PM
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You and I have similarly stubborn wives I think. As you told me in a PM once, "sounds like she's made up her mind." The way you describe your wife's idealized marriage and how it doesn't jive with yours is all too familiar to me. Just last weekend she tried to shame me and got angry for making a sexual innuendo/joke when she wasn't in the mood. I no longer DEER or try to make her see my way. I'll just say, "well that's too bad" and walk away.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 12:15 PM
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You nailed it here. Before I end it, I NEED to know I did everything in my power to be the best man. Whether she deserves it or not
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 12:10 PM
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I'm having similar thoughts when reading this. About every 2 or 3 months I comb through my life/behavior/actions or lack of actions and ask, "is this faggoty? Is that weak?" Im also at the point where I'm pretty happy with my improvement and the man I've become physically and mentally. Sure there are things to tweak still but for he most part, the wife's behavior has remained static. One measurable difference is we don't fight as much. But that's probably more just because i don't get sucked int…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/17 12:08 PM
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Lot of good advice here but the most important thing is to have a plan. in the words of Harvey Keitel (sp?) to McConaghey's character in U-571, I'm paraphrasing but it was "The captain always knows. Don't ever say again those words you just said in front of them....those three words (I don't know) will kill a crew." I was jobless for a longer than ideal time after college. About 15 years ago now. My girlfriend (now wife) tested me relentlessly. Sometimes with really vitriolic, mean shit like yel…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 12:47 PM
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Very nice. I'm balding too and last week went to a new barber at one of those "manly themed old fashioned but modern" barber shops. I wanted an unbiased opinion from someone who didn't know me. Told the guy I'm thinning and asked if I should just buzz it or if had any ideas. He gave me a very short cut that looks much better. It should do for a while but eventually I'm going to be buzzing it. My wife threw a similar shit test at me years ago about my beard/goatee and I was dumb and bluepill enou…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/05/17 12:28 PM
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You're off to better start than many who wander in here. Keep your foot on the gas and make your plan a reality. You've already come to terms that she may or may not want on board. That's a key mentality.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/05/17 02:35 PM
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Nice post and depiction of how to dial down commitment and investment. I'm always having to calibrate this. And honestly, my calibrations are directly correlated to the sexual value she provides (not much now) and the pleasantness of her general presence in a given week.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/17 09:48 PM
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Great depiction of how a man's commitment looks like from a woman's perspective. I've often struggled to grasp this dynamic
/r/askMRP13/05/17 04:34 AM
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This OP. ^
/r/askMRP12/05/17 01:10 PM
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None of this is cool. Not for a married woman. Set a hard boundary, now. Then become a man a woman wouldn't think she can get away with this with.(make this your OYS mission statement)
/r/askMRP12/05/17 12:52 PM
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Your answer..... ...Only when I know what I want. As man_in_the_world points out, you just need to find your personal character from which to say it .
/r/askMRP12/05/17 12:32 PM
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Guilty.... but I think mine was like two weeks or so.
/r/askMRP11/05/17 10:24 PM
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It's a long slow process my friend. I see positives and negatives with this situation. Leading her to a place where she doesn't always need it is the goal obviously. Whether she wants to? That's another thing and may be out of your control no matter how well you lead her and improve.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 04:29 PM
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I don't know, drty. This seems that it would fall into the "her orgasm is her responsibility" realm. And she's taking responsibility. Would you rather she never cums? I can understand how if it's all the time you need to work in some variety but making her give it up by talking seems very contrary to RP. My wife has one and she pulls it out a lot of the time during actual sex. Some have a harder time cumming from piv alone. I know, I know... but if Chad blah blah blah. Maybe, maybe not. She can …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/05/17 01:40 PM
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My wife once got mad at me because I left the seat up and she went in to use it at night, sat down and fell in. I laughed when she told me this. One other time she tried to argue about whose responsibility it is to put the seat up or down. "I'm a big boy... I put it up if I need it up. You're a big girl... you put it down if you need it down." FOG and repeat
/r/askMRP09/05/17 12:46 AM
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Thanks for the offer. I'll keep it filed away for if it comes to that. At this point, I'm considering doing a few consultations with attorneys just to get an idea of what I'd be looking at, worst case. Not because I'm on the verge of dropping the DL10 on her but because if things head that way quicker than i expect or out of my control, I want to be ready. I make about 70% of our income. She works 3 days a week but could work full time (imputed salary is higher). 2 kids 7 and under. Own a house …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/17 12:13 PM
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Thanks. This clarified for me what it started to realize over the past several months. I'm more scared of losing the life I have with my kids and half my paycheck... not her so much.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/17 01:13 PM
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Yes, I agree with you. There's many examples of men here who did the work, add value and their wives just don't feel the need to add value back. Some have divorced and some are considering it. Not every woman will come around. Not every woman will crawl through broken glass for the right Chad. PFP lays this out well.
/r/askMRP06/05/17 02:34 AM
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That was my same thought as I read that FI propaganda. I agree with her that women don't owe men sex, especially if that man is weak and valueless. I don't want sex from my wife to come from a place of obligation. But if the sex isn't coming naturally when that man is of any gradation of high value, then the woman shouldn't be surprised when he gets it elsewhere or drops/divorces her ass. OP has to figure out where I his limit is after he's done improving.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 09:20 PM
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I got snipped about a year ago. Took a few months for a mild soreness to completely disappear but other than that, I've noticed no change. I think I actually feel hornier. Could be the lifting causing that too.
/r/askMRP04/05/17 09:04 PM
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Ya man, sounds like you've got things dialed in well. The point is do what makes you happy. If that's running and lifting, be the best running-lifter out there.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/17 02:13 AM
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Re: your bench plateau... I do wonder if your marathons and cardio are holding back your bench progress. I'm lighter (175lbs) and higher BF than you and at the height of my SL work I was 5x5ing 190 on bench. Not saying you should stop running because obviously you enjoy it and it's a part of your mission but just rendering an opinion that it could be holding back your lifts. It's my experience that heavy cardio and lifting gains are actually pretty opposed to each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 12:29 PM
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I used to be happy when my wife initiates (and still am to a degree) but now when she does it, I realize it's because I haven't been gaming and initiating enough myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/17 12:24 PM
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Probably a subconscious mistake because... hoping my spouse will follow ...is not something to hang your hat on and it's not an MRP strategy. It's that covert contract trying rise up again.
/r/askMRP03/05/17 01:56 AM
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Holy shit get out of this. Now. She cheated on you and is carrying someone else's baby? Are you fucking kidding? Grab what's left of your Balls, get a good lawyer to protect yourself and your kids. Do it last week. Fuck, should have done it last year.
/r/askMRP03/05/17 12:08 AM
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First, you can't control her behavior, only yours. If she wants to talk to her girlfriend about their fee-fees and isn't in the mood to fuck because of it, you damn well have something better to do with your time and be able to realize women aren't always DTF. Even when you are an attractive man with his shot together. Now, if it's the 17th excuse in a row and it's been two weeks with no sex you need to look at why. Are you owning your shit, being attractive, removing time and attention and bein…
/r/askMRP27/04/17 12:14 PM
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Id probably laugh at my own kid. I earned that right. I'd at least try to muffle a laugh at someone else's kid.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:37 PM
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Your last paragraph here is maybe the best explanation of "kill the ego" I've seen in a while. I've struggled with how to internalize this idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 12:32 PM
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Your neighbor sounds like a dick
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 02:51 AM
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My favorite emoji
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/17 02:27 AM
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Nice dark jeans are a good look if they fit right. Don't nix them altogether. Especially in a casual/social setting
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 12:40 PM
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Excellent guide. Worthy of being pinned. I thought I was one of the only people that thinks flip flops on guys look terrible. The ONLY place I like to wear them is if I'm literally on the beach or lakeside or a pool. I wear [these](OluKai Mens Nohea Moku Sneaker (11 - Fog/Charcoal) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0187Y207G/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_wb0.ybNJ8CX0D) when other guys wear flip flops. Now I want a cafe racer jacket. Will look in sale racks as summer is approaching
/r/MarriedRedPill25/04/17 12:31 PM
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+1 on the Asian woman thing. Funny. For the jawline, you are correct. Fat and bald is not an option. Bald and ripped... we can work with
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 09:01 PM
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I'm on my way to balding so I subscribe to this. Been cutting it shorter and shorter every year. Can't quite bring myself to do the full cue ball yet. You need a good jawline and a facial hair plan to pull that off well
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 07:27 PM
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Yep. Hopefully the difference is obvious though.
/r/askMRP24/04/17 12:53 PM
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Lucky you. You're free from this bitch. But not so fast.... I cringed at almost everything you did/said in this story. Be more than a lurker. Actually read the sidebar and start implementing it. It's obvious you haven't.
/r/askMRP24/04/17 12:10 PM
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