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5

You are paying for her to bang her new boyfriend.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/22 12:17 PM
1

What "commitments" do you have until 9 pm exactly?
/r/askMRP10/03/22 10:53 PM
1

Quit the porn and video games.
/r/askMRP10/03/22 10:53 PM
1

The man always drives.
/r/askMRP04/02/22 11:25 PM
1

I would be more mad about the lying than the drunk driving.
/r/askMRP31/01/22 08:50 PM
5

Sounds like your wife needs to have a discussion with her job. That doesn't sound reasonable to work 12 hours a day. Is her compensation based on 40 hours a week?
/r/askMRP29/01/22 07:52 PM
8

You seem like a good gut but you are acting like a pussy. She knows this and hates you for it. A real man wouldn't randomly quit a high paying job due to stress, especially when he has a family to take care of. You need to get that job back or another high paying job back asap. Lay down the law with your wife and clearly explain what you expect of her. Get the kids in daycare or have the grandma watch then. Or tell your wife to watch them while she's working at home. Are you telling me two women…
/r/askMRP29/01/22 07:40 PM
9

You have become the woman in the relationship and she has become the man. This causes resentment from her and eventually cheating.
/r/askMRP29/01/22 07:08 PM
1

I would have said no from the beginning. These kind of problems are way harder to fix when they are living with you.
/r/askMRP21/11/21 07:46 PM
3

This.
/r/askMRP15/09/21 03:08 PM
3

I put women who won't change their last name in the same category as men who drive mini vans.
/r/askMRP15/09/21 03:06 PM
1

I was never in a sexless situation marriage but it goes without saying that all of us were in bad situations or we wouldn't be in this forum.
/r/askMRP06/04/21 12:39 AM
2

It sounds like she got the IUD so Chad could raw-dog her.
/r/askMRP05/04/21 09:33 PM
1

Holy shit 20 months. I'd leave someone if I went sexless for 20 days.
/r/askMRP05/04/21 09:27 PM
2

Why get a new place to live? If she wants to leave SHE can get a new place to live! Whoever stays in the house always has the upper hand with assets and custody.
/r/askMRP05/04/21 09:25 PM
2

I was in this exact situation. Likely there's no going back. Proceed as if you'll be single soon. Get your shit together. Move on. Don't do what I did and waste a year trying to fix things and 'get her back.' It's over.
/r/askMRP05/04/21 09:22 PM
2

It's worse than that. You walk through the mall and all the stores are selling men's clothing that looks unisex or feminine. AlphaM on youtube isn't bad. Esquire is still holding on. When it doubt, dress like James Bond. He never looks bad.
/r/askMRP05/04/21 09:07 PM
1

https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-road-to-infidelity-passes-through-multiple-sexual-partners For people in this survey who reported four or fewer lifetime sexual partners, the rate of infidelity in the current marriage dropped to 11%, while for those who had five or more sexual partners the number was nearly double (21%). The break between the 54% of people who had five or more lifetime sexual partners vs. the 46% who had four or fewer total partners illustrates the lessons from the study. This bre…
/r/askMRP05/04/21 09:03 PM
4

Agreed.
/r/askMRP05/04/21 09:01 PM
1

I've read other places its more like 5.
/r/askMRP05/04/21 09:01 PM
1

Dude what the fuck is your problem? Help your wife out with her problem. Otherwise what are you good for?
/r/askMRP22/12/20 07:26 PM
1

What if this makes your partner mad instead of wet?
/r/askMRP10/12/20 06:26 PM
1

Date younger women.
/r/askMRP04/12/20 07:25 PM
-1

Fuck her brains out and then hold her for comfort. Look up d/s aftercare.
/r/askMRP18/08/20 06:44 PM
3

It sounds like your wife is just plain lazy. But also, there are good moms and there are bad moms.
/r/askMRP22/07/20 07:12 PM
1

In America women like married men more due to pre-selection.
/r/askMRP22/07/20 07:09 PM
1

I agree. And for the most part I see very little difference between 21, 35, and 45 year olds I have dated. AWALT? The main difference is that woman in their 30s and 40s tend to be crazier and have more baggage. I think this is more related to all the decent women have been taken in their 20s and the ones left single in their 30s and 40s have issues and are single for a reason. This video posted yesterday is very insightful on the subject too: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sd2O3ENg1Q4
/r/askMRP22/07/20 06:43 PM
0

I'm not considering cohabitation because she has a kid and I'm not even remotely considering getting into another marriage. I have read The Rational Male and I'll pick up a copy of The Ultimate Younger Woman Manual, thank you. Your comment about woman wanting kids struct a nerve with me and has been something I've been thinking about. Most, if not all, women on the market today have a kid, want kids, or don't want kids and don't want to date a guy with a kid. I feel like most of the women who sa…
/r/askMRP22/07/20 06:32 PM
0

I'm not looking for opinions. I'm looking for specific challenges faced by large age gaps. The sidebar and all the books don't touch on it much.
/r/askMRP22/07/20 02:28 AM
1

I'm not asking if it is bad, I'm just curious what specific challenges people have faced with larger age gaps compared to same age or similar age relationships.
/r/askMRP22/07/20 02:26 AM
1

Can you explain this a bit more? Why her age is the problem? A 41 year younger woman is very impressive, congratulations. While I'm sure the sugardaddy lifestyle is fun that's not what I'm looking for.
/r/askMRP21/07/20 05:34 PM
2

Your math is a little wrong here...if she was 42 I'd be 57.
/r/askMRP21/07/20 12:14 AM
0

I will never trust a woman 100%. On this subject I believe what she told me because she's never giving me a reason not to believe her yet and she's told me other things that would be way worse than a higher N number and based on circumstantial evidence. I overheard her tell her best friend that her N number was 3 before her and I fucked. She lost her virginity at 15 with one guy, then dated another guy for a year, and then dated another guy for 4 years. At the end of the day it doesn't even matt…
/r/askMRP21/07/20 12:14 AM
-2

There's so such thing.
/r/askMRP21/07/20 12:09 AM
-8

Kink/BSDM/fetish clubs are different that swinger clubs. Also, it was her first time. I invited her to go with me and some co-workers.
/r/askMRP20/07/20 10:32 PM
-8

I already asked her that. She says the *thought* of us having a threesome turns her on incredibly but she'd be too jealous seeing me kissing, touching, or fucking another girl. She said ask again when she's 30. With that said we are both kinky as hell and she's down for just about anything and I get as much fucking, blowjobs, and anal as I want. I'm a dom and she's a bratty sub. Our first kiss/date/fuck was at and after a kink club event. Her n count is 4.
/r/askMRP20/07/20 10:21 PM
4

I'm not sure what you are asking here exactly but the frame in my marriage was poor. I made a lot of mistakes from the beginning. I became a beta buck and never established frame, boundaries, or mission. I let her lead for the first 1/2 or 2/3 of our relationship. If I had known then what I know now it probably would have ended up better but in all honesty I would have never married her because there were too many red flags. Just about everyone i know, including my daughter at parents, now admit…
/r/askMRP20/07/20 09:34 PM
7

I tend to agree here solely based on personal experiences. A lot of the woman I've dated or talked to in their 30s and 40s had lots of issues and baggage and/or were just batshit crazy.
/r/askMRP20/07/20 09:31 PM
2

How old were both of you when you met?
/r/askMRP20/07/20 09:30 PM
1

I should clarify that what I called my parents is my mom and my step-dad. They both were previously married and had kids separate. They married when I was 16 so they've been together 20 years and it is honestly the best, happiest, healthiest relationship I've seen. I didn't go looking for someone quite this young. I had my age ranges set to 25 - 33 in online apps and looked for this same age range offline. This particular girl I met offline...a friend of a friend...and we just hit it off well.
/r/askMRP20/07/20 09:29 PM
0

In the 10 months I've been single I've matched and chatted with ~50 women, gone on dates with ~15 , slept with 6 and just 1 of them was a one-nighter. When I first became single I reflected and came up with a list of 10-15 things I'm looking for in a woman. Politically conservative, drama free, mentally stable, highly sexual, trustworthly, etc. So far this girl checks all the boxes but I'm not here asking whether or not to LTR her. I can figure that out on my own in due time. I'm just here to as…
/r/askMRP20/07/20 09:16 PM
0

I will likely never get married again. I would only even consider if it I vetted someone for a number of years, she added a huge amount of value to my life, had no red flags, and would sign a strong pre-nup.
/r/askMRP20/07/20 09:07 PM
-2

Get a pre-nup. You could also get engaged but tell her the wedding can't be until 2022 or 2023 because of COVID. Then you have some more time to vet and see if you truly want to go through with it.
/r/askMRP20/07/20 06:35 PM
6

The girl I'm seeing is young and had a lot of orbiters when we first started dating. Two or three of them she talked to all day long. One day she saw me snapchatting another girl and said "I don't like you talking to other girls, I want to be the only one and I want ALL of your attention. I said, "You talk to other guys so I don't think that would be fair" and left it at that. She promptly quit talking to all of them.
/r/askMRP20/07/20 06:20 PM
1

In this situation it was too little too late and the risks far exceeded any possible reward. If I kept at it for another 2-3 years and we still ended up getting divorced I would likely have owed alimony and taken a significant hit to my assets. I did learn a lot from this community and throughout the process of ending the marriage. I know what I did right and what I did wrong and hope to not repeat those same mistakes. For now I'm focused on reading, lifting, my daughter, and my business.
/r/askMRP12/05/20 05:58 PM
6

Yes I got two PMs asking if I took her back yet.
/r/askMRP08/05/20 08:31 PM
2

I did.
/r/askMRP08/05/20 08:31 PM
3

Heck no. We got divorced two days ago. :)
/r/askMRP22/04/20 06:34 PM
2

I did not take her back.
/r/askMRP06/02/20 06:51 PM
3

I like to swipe right on liberals and then show up with my MAGA hat. Now there's a real test.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/20 04:59 PM
1

Stats: 35, 5' 10", 165 lbs, 17.5% BF Physical and Health: I have always lifted but I started SL 5X5 3 times a week a month ago. I let the app decide what to start with and it started lower than what I was doing previously but I've worked back up to SQ 195, BP 140, DL 185, OHP 90, BP 140. I add 5 lbs per workout. Relationships: After acting like a giant faggot for almost 3 months while being separated I finally filed for divorce mid December. At the end of Dec I was able to get a favorable divorc…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/01/20 08:45 PM
2

NEXT! Even the fact that she needs to see a therapist twice a week is a huge red flag on its own.
/r/askMRP18/01/20 05:29 PM
1

Stats: 35, 5' 10", 160 lbs, 17% BF Physical and Health: Going strong three days a week doing SL 5X5. Keto diet has been good, my goal is to get it down to 15%. I'd also like to hit the SL 5X5 12 week goals. I can already see changes in the mirror since a month or two ago. Relationships: I've been separated almost 3 months from my wife who's a single mother w/ two kids. I finally filed for divorce yesterday and served my STBXW with the papers. I'm a little worried because her financial statement …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/12/19 09:46 PM
2

Best post yet. Thank you.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 09:59 PM
1

What's the best place to get a T test without a doctors order? I've always wanted to know my levels.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 09:01 PM
-1

Yes I was being a faggot trying to save a hoe.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 08:59 PM
1

The hope and fear is gone. I'm letting go and moving on. There's no turning back. I did have oneitis for a long time but then I realized something. It's not about her. It was more a fear of being alone and not finding someone better...the same fear that got me into the relationship. I know I can, and I know I won't be alone. I know I can find someone hotter, younger, and nicer with similar interests. I already started attracting some.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 08:58 PM
1

The hope is gone.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 08:53 PM
0

I do lift and have been for several years 2-3 times a week. I've read the sidebar and 20+ books now. I felt like I was making progress in the relationship but it was too little, too late. I have my life and mission in order and in a few months I'll no longer have a divorce weighing me down. Filing the papers today was a huge relief and a new beginning. I was holding on to hope and fear. In the interim I'm continuing to lift, read, and hook up with other girls. I know I'm leaving nothing of value…
/r/askMRP16/12/19 08:51 PM
1

No, definitely not. Apparently I wasn't nice enough, didn't validate her feelings, and I didn't want to be last priority. I also think starting out as a faggot and acting that way for 8 years and then suddenly trying to right the ship was a big factor. My biggest mistake was picking the wrong woman and not seeing the red flags. Single mother, BPD, daddy issues, serial cheater, not trustworthy, relationship issues, financial problems, insecure, short fuse, violent/abusing, vindictive, etc. Only a…
/r/askMRP16/12/19 07:13 PM
0

I promise you guys I WILL NEVER TAKE HER BACK. But I agree with you, men rarely leave their wives.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 06:39 PM
2

I will not take her back. I set a boundary that if she ever slept with someone we'd be done.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 06:36 PM
1

This is very wise and good information.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 06:34 PM
1

She actually complained that I was too social and wanted to do too many things. This other guy is a stick in the mud homebody. Maybe she just wants the opposite?
/r/askMRP16/12/19 06:33 PM
7

I was a big pushover faggot the first 8 years of our relationship. When I started being more assertive shit hit the fan. I think she wants a beta provider who doesn't push back and does everything she says.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 05:42 PM
3

She doesn't know I know yet.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 05:40 PM
3

Text messages still syncing to an old device left behind. It could be fun to watch but here are some thoughts. Due to the nature of their jobs and ethics if his wife goes crazy and gets the workplace involved my wife and this dude would probably get fired. Her being unemployed would be bad for my divorce proceeding. I may be able to use this information to get a better divorce deal, if it comes to that.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 05:40 PM
1

I agree with you. I was clinging to hope and fear. Hope that she'd become a nicer person and fear that I couldn't find someone better.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 05:33 PM
-7

His SMV is lower not higher.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 05:32 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 04:47 PM
-3

I doubt she'll beg for forgiveness but we'll see.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 04:45 PM
-1

I think I went with a damaged girl because I thought I could save her. In the end she was just taking advantage of my niceness, resources, and protection.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 04:44 PM
-2

I know I'm better off for a lot of reasons.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 03:51 PM
-8

Not sure how a guy with a wife and kids is going to provide. Maybe she thinks he'll leave them?
/r/askMRP16/12/19 03:43 PM
1

Stats: 35, 5' 10", 165 lbs, 18% BF Physical and Health: I had been working out twice a week but I started SL 5X5 two weeks ago with a set 3 day a week schedule. I've been fairly strict on keto so my BF has gone down this year. My goal is to get it down to 15%. I'd also like to hit the SL 5X5 12 week goals. Relationships: Been separated 2.5 miles. We were still occasionally hanging out and hooking up until a week ago when she said 'we're over'. I went no contact this past weekend and I hope to ne…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/19 07:45 PM
2

What happened in the end? Right now she's willing to pretty much walk away from my house, business, and just split the bank accounts.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 07:25 PM
1

I did set a boundary that if she slept with someone I would never take her back.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 05:00 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 04:57 PM
1

That's a good one.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 04:56 PM
1

Could be true. Her dad is a true asshole too.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 01:57 PM
1

5' 3"
/r/askMRP11/12/19 01:56 PM
1

Im not gonna offer her everything is what I'm saying. I'd like to offer her nothing!
/r/askMRP11/12/19 01:55 PM
1

This is very true. The more women I hook up with the less I think about the STBXW.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 01:55 PM
1

Interesting but I'm definitely not going to risk that!
/r/askMRP11/12/19 03:54 AM
1

She has always been very good at getting me into lose-lose scenarios.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 01:17 AM
1

At the beginning of this journey 10 months ago my goal was to unfuck everything and continue the life we had. It may have just been too little too late. I'm glad you were able to.
/r/askMRP11/12/19 01:16 AM
2

There were certainly relationship issues, no doubt about that.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 11:31 PM
1

This shitty thing is that before the separation things were turning around. Lots more sex. Lots more respect. She was very submission. But something snapped and she wanted to move out. It is hard to turn around 9 years of faggotry.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:55 PM
1

LOL
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:52 PM
-3

I love the rest of my life. It's fucking awesome. The only thing missing is someone to share it with. When I'm honest with myself I don't even think I have oneitis. I just don't want to be alone. I'm a very social person and I enjoy spending time with women and I love living with a woman. If someone younger, hotter, nicer with similar interests came my way I know I'd never look back.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:50 PM
15

I could get herpes like the other idiot.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:43 PM
1

Still together?
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:34 PM
1

Yes I do find it interesting she wants me to file. I previously said, if you feel like filing go ahead...but she won't.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:28 PM
-5

I've read the sidebar and most of the books. My problem is holding on to one person/relationship/life.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:16 PM
4

pounds
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:13 PM
2

I know. I'm working on my OYS for today.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:08 PM
1

I fairly certain she hasn't been with anyone but I do think she may use 'papers are filed' as an excuse to start, so that is part of the hesitation.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 09:57 PM
2

I will say, she is very pretty and highly sexual. She lost some weight and got down to 145.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 09:55 PM
2

In this case she's been diagnosed but that's not the real problem here, I agree.
/r/askMRP10/12/19 09:24 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/19 06:59 PM
1

Stats: 35, 5' 10", 165 lbs, 18% BF Physical and Health: I had been working out twice a week but I started SL 5X5 a week ago with a set 3 day a week schedule. I've been fairly strict on keto so my BF has gone down this year. My goal is to get it down to 15%. I'd also like to hit the SL 5X5 12 week goals. Relationships: My wife decided she wanted space and moved out (with her two kids) a little over two months ago. It was pretty rough emotionally but I'm making progress. We were still occasionally…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/19 10:19 PM
2

How does one bench more than they squat?
/r/askMRP05/12/19 09:38 PM
2

Post a pic so we can see what we're dealing with here.
/r/askMRP05/12/19 09:37 PM
4

Do not hire your wife. The way she nags you at home she'll do in the office, in front of your employees. There are so many reasons to just say NO.
/r/askMRP29/11/19 05:05 PM
1

If my STBXW didn't fuck me for 11 days I probably would have left her.
/r/askMRP11/11/19 03:05 PM
4

Sounds like a normal woman to me. What's the problem?
/r/askMRP04/11/19 05:49 PM
-1

You could have put a donut on your dick like a cock ring.
/r/askMRP03/11/19 04:55 PM
1

Feeling raped, used, or a sex slave is just a shaming tactic women use.
/r/askMRP03/11/19 01:26 AM
-4

When you have three one is always left out.
/r/askMRP30/10/19 03:37 AM
2

The insurance company cut me a check for 2.5k. I went and attempted to buy a used car with it yesterday and felt like a giant indecisive. I couldn’t make a fucking decision to save my life because I was so far up my wife’s frame that I “NEEDED” her to help me buy my own car. I couldn’t handle it to the point of hyperventilating and panicking. I was needing her as a life preserver and it was fucking terrible. I hadn’t felt that bad since before I started TRT. If you can't even buy a car on your o…
/r/askMRP29/10/19 07:24 PM
1

Pretty Woman
/r/askMRP25/10/19 01:43 PM
3

You're wife is literally a whore. Now she probably has STDs. Why would you ever want such a woman back? Every time you think about taking her back just think about all the dirty dicks she sucked and fucked for money. Also, get a new girl or three. It helps immensely.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 01:59 PM
2

The money belongs to whoever makes it. But you also shouldn't have to financially support your parents. What's the situation there? How old are they? Why don't they have any money? Why can't they work or make income other ways?
/r/askMRP24/10/19 01:52 PM
2

Couples counseling never, ever works. Individual counseling can be helpful for a variety of reasons including building your sense of self? Have you ever seen Billions?
/r/askMRP24/10/19 01:49 PM
1

That's quite funny.
/r/askMRP24/10/19 04:31 AM
1

Playing with dynamite is not a place I'd like to be.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 08:08 PM
2

Probably not.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 08:07 PM
3

She was dead set against kids and even said if she got pregnant she'd have an abortion but I see your point.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 08:05 PM
1

I don't feel guilty about it. I only allowed it for the sex. But I do question whether it is a good idea to keep her around. Some people here do it successfully and some people here swear against it. The pussy is good and convenience. I do have an attorney retained, documents prepared, but not filed yet.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 06:56 PM
-1

I obviously have not forgotten about her but the point is getting out there and seeing and experiencing what else is available is eye opening. If this happened one year ago I know I'd be sitting home every night crying like a little bitch and begging her to come back.
/r/askMRP23/10/19 06:50 PM
1

Try a plug-in wand massager. That'll make any woman cum.
/r/askMRP14/10/19 05:06 PM
1

?
/r/askMRP11/10/19 12:49 PM
1

Getting on it asap.
/r/askMRP11/10/19 12:46 PM
0

Ouch harsh!
/r/askMRP10/10/19 09:36 PM
1

You cum in her repeatedly.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 08:27 PM
3

This is very true.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 06:11 PM
2

At this point I dont want to think about her fucking other people but I know that will pass in time.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:40 PM
1

Haha, 15 minutes.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:34 PM
3

I sent you a PM.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:34 PM
1

Great advice here.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:33 PM
2

I seriously considered buying a new house and renting out the current one but buying another house during a divorce is frowned upon.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:32 PM
2

Apparently oneitis.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:10 PM
2

I completely cut her off financially the moment she left. When she asks for money the answer will be no.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:10 PM
2

Noted. :)
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:06 PM
2

I don't think I want to be her bucket. I would often say things like "why can't you just be normal?" Which of course which make her blow her top. I would also say things like "no one else I've ever been with has acted this way" and she obviously did not like that either. She did call me her emotional rock because I was the only person in the world who was unphased by her. To a certain extent I've always been a bit RP because I never reacted to her craziness. I was very good at being stoic and no…
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:06 PM
3

She is hot but there's something men do. We look at our partners the way we first met them. So in my mind she's still the 27 year old hottie I remember.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 12:56 PM
3

Where do you have the best luck meeting women while traveling?
/r/askMRP10/10/19 02:58 AM
4

Yes! I have a trip next week and another one in Nov.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 02:57 AM
1

Just about everything said so far has been inspiring.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:35 AM
3

I'm a big believe in that which doesn't kill me makes me stronger.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:34 AM
3

You are right it is grief. And not even grieving the person so much as the time wasted and the life we had. If i could waive a magic wand and replace her with someone else I would in a heartbeat.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:33 AM
4

I can sure as hell try!
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:33 AM
2

This is it exactly. I pretty much felt used the whole time. I paid for everything and just got shit on in the end.
/r/askMRP10/10/19 01:32 AM
2

I kind of want her to live her whole life wishing she wouldn't have left while I'm banging my new 25 hear old hottie.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 11:13 PM
-3

I'm not going to live in limbo. I'm going to move forward with or without her. At this point almost surely without her.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 11:11 PM
4

I have and it is working well.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:58 PM
3

I don't care anymore.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:54 PM
18

Locks - Check Gym - Check Tinder/Bumble - Check Balls deep in a new girl - Check
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:53 PM
1

I do agree that all women are BPD to a certain extend but not like this. She hit me, threw shit so hard it stuck in the wall, ran around the house with a knife, jumped out of the car while I was driving, smashed things, etc.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:24 PM
2

No.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:23 PM
2

Yes oneitis does suck bad. I will follow your path!
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:22 PM
-2

She's still in the excited phase. I think reality will sink in within a couple weeks. Meanwhile I'll be soldiering on. Next week I have a business trip to vegas where there will be a lot of hotties.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:21 PM
2

That's the plan.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:20 PM
5

Once you get a consultation with them they can't represent your spouse...EVER!
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:19 PM
2

I did my initial searches on Avvo and Superlawyers. I also asked my business lawyer who he thought were the best divorce lawyers. I met with the top 5 I thought I might hire and then I also met the top 5 I thought she'd be likely to hire (mainly women).
/r/askMRP09/10/19 10:19 PM
3

Well it's my house and I like it. I've already started buying and building new furniture. She stopped by to get some more of her shit and was like "i wish you would have built all this cool stuff while I was there."
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:44 PM
2

I probably wouldn't take her back anyways but I would absolutely never take her back if she fucked someone.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:42 PM
2

You are right. The foundation is crumbling.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:39 PM
2

I do think deep down I have an irrational fear that I can't find someone as hot, smart, and nice. I know that is wrong but I still believe it. I guess time and tinder will fix that.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:37 PM
3

Find a new chick and tell the ex to fuck off.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:35 PM
2

I'm 19% BF.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:33 PM
5

Edit: Tell her you will not wait. Tell her she's blown it. If anything she will be more attracted to you as a result for standing up for yourself. Good call here. When I take my branch away she'll likely fall straight to the ground. Did I mention her mom has BPD too and has done this to a couple guys? Now she's in her 50s, alone, and miserable. Nobody wants to touch a crazy lady with a 10 foot pole.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:32 PM
2

If I had known then what I know now I would not have wifed up an older single mother with two kids, BPD, doesn't want to work, and a crazy ex-husband.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:27 PM
2

I'm not I'm just articulating how a BPD person can take their own actions and try to flip them on their partner in an instant.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:25 PM
2

True.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:23 PM
2

I'm pretty sure she's going to flip when she gets the divorce papers. A key element of her BPD is fear of abandonment. She already went nuts when I told her I saw no future if she left.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:22 PM
3

What better way to get over a woman than getting on top of another one?
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:21 PM
2

This is what I'm hoping for. The beginning sucks.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:20 PM
4

Shooting, hunting, camping, building shit, snowmobiling, motorcycling...tons of stuff I can spend more time on now.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:20 PM
3

Someone in another post mentioned BPD women can be tricky because when they're good, they're really good. I just have to keep in mind that I can find someone who's always really good.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:18 PM
2

That's not going to happen. I already know the plate will only ever just be a plate.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:18 PM
5

Good point on the complaints. We have no kids in common. I had a daughter from a girlfriend prior to this marriage. You are right she doesn't care...or she wouldn't have done this. I keep saying it over to myself. Why would I want to take back such a person? I hit the gym to lift 2-3 times a week but I'll probably increase it now that I have more times. I like the sound of fun, refreshing, submissive, and hot!
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:16 PM
3

This is what I want but it is still hard. One step at a time.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:13 PM
4

I've already met with the 10 best in the area and have paperwork filled out for the one I picked.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:12 PM
0

In her mind I made the decision, which is interesting, and truly BPD.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:10 PM
8

She was diagnosed by a therapist. Who she quit after a few sessions because they "weren't clicking."
/r/askMRP09/10/19 09:09 PM
-4

In her BPD mind I forced her to move out because I said the $10,000 apartment cancellation fee was complete bullshit and she should have consequences for her actions.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 06:24 PM
2

I'm not doing it. I already have a plate since she first told me she was moving out.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 06:22 PM
5

She already seems to think we can live apart for 6-12 months while we 'work on things' and then she'll come back and we can live happily ever after. Hah.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 06:13 PM
3

All very true. I do feel a 37 year old post-wall BPD single mother will have a hard time finding someone better than me and will come crawling back. At which point it will probably be too late.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 06:10 PM
8

I have to agree with you on this. One of my requirements it to be actually living with my fucking wife.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 06:08 PM
3

I have consulted lawyers and have a plan of action in that regard.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 06:01 PM
-8

I do actually believe her on this, at least right now. She has major self-confidence issues and doesn't want anyone to see her naked because of stretch-marks and surgery scars. Her two kids did a number on her.
/r/askMRP09/10/19 06:00 PM
5

I love when women call me daddy. It is completely normal if they are totally subbed out to you. It is a good sign. "Fuck me daddy."
/r/askMRP08/10/19 05:33 PM
11

That would be called a co-habitation agreement. It may or may not be necessary depending on the laws in your state. If you were married that'd be another story. If your woman is in line you can be an Alpha Provider. "He brings home enough bacon to provide his woman the kind of lifestyle that gives her validation and comfort, as well as providing for their offspring. Keeping himself in optimal physical condition assures his woman of good, masculine genes making her willing to bear as many of his …
/r/askMRP07/10/19 04:40 PM
3

UPDATE: I told her since she's already on the hook for the apartment for at least 6 months she might as well move out. She rented a moving truck and has people coming to help her tomorrow. I do feel sad. When she's not being a BPD cunt I enjoy our life together.
/r/askMRP04/10/19 11:35 PM
1

It is going to cost 10 grand to get her out of the lease so I don't know about that.
/r/askMRP04/10/19 04:22 PM
-1

So handed in the signed lease earlier this week and put down the deposit. The lease started 10/1. Now she's changing her mind and wants me to call the apartment company and see how to get out of her lease.
/r/askMRP02/10/19 11:53 PM
2

Thank you. I have both books and plan to read them ASAP.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 11:32 PM
0

She had an emotion affair two years ago. At this point any type of affair would be a deal breaker.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 10:19 PM
0

If I had and evidence or inclination of an affair I would end the relationship immediately. That is a deal breaker for me. I suspect a lot of people here aren't actually married. No matter the circumstances divorce is difficult.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 09:24 PM
-1

A companion and warm body in my bed.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 09:08 PM
1

She's freaking out because at the end of the day the fear of loss is much greater than the desire to gain. This is 100% true and she admits it.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 09:07 PM
2

In other words, you look pathetic and you are in her frame still. Use gym bag routine with her and whether you go to see your plate or lift plates that particular time is up to you, but you can give her first shot your time and sex if you want to All of the posts. For books I've read NMMNG and I hate you, dont leave me.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 09:06 PM
2

It is under my name only and I had it before the marriage.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 09:04 PM
1

Her idea of sex issues is that i'm a sex addict because I want to have sex 2-3 times a week.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 02:48 AM
6

Oh I does make a dude angry.
/r/askMRP01/10/19 12:24 AM
2

This is what im hoping for.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 09:36 PM
5

I'm a little worried about that. What happened?
/r/askMRP30/09/19 09:34 PM
-4

When I think about it I feel I care more about our shared history and our past than our current status and future. I also get hung up on the fact that she's very beautiful and very smart and if I'll be able to find someone as hot and as smart. Notice I did not say nice. My side plate is not as pretty, not as smart, but extremely nice and very giving. She wants to suck my dick and give me a back massage every night.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 08:44 PM
3

I'm honestly having a difficult time deciding if I want her to stay or not. A month ago I would have done every beta thing possible to make her stay. Now after a month of counseling, thinking about things, preparing my plans, I don't know anymore. I could go either way.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 08:36 PM
1

Is that other man's wife hot? If so, try for a wife swap.
/r/askMRP30/09/19 04:01 PM
1

That's the plan.
/r/askMRP25/09/19 10:35 PM
1

The wife continues to pack her things and is moving out next weekend. She claims she wants 'space' to work on herself. IDGIF anymore. I picked up a skinny blonde side plate who wants to fuck like no tomorrow.
/r/askMRP25/09/19 06:45 PM
12

Then your extended family are weirdos too.
/r/askMRP23/09/19 08:49 PM
4

"Hey girls I have an idea. You'll be the bread and I'll be the meat."
/r/askMRP23/09/19 08:48 PM
41

Dude, don't be a weirdo and insecure. It is completely normal for sisters and even friends to sleep in the same bed. Are you worried there's some kind of lesbian incest going? If there was I'd angle for an epic threesome, just saying.
/r/askMRP23/09/19 02:56 PM
0

Never make less money than your wife. That's the kiss of death. Maybe she's pissed that she's doing all the parenting AND providing the primary income. What's your purpose really?
/r/askMRP23/09/19 02:50 PM
2

Abort the mission.
/r/askMRP20/09/19 09:09 PM
1

But before you leave try to get a sister-sister threesome.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 09:27 PM
3

Couples counseling never works. Not even once.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 09:26 PM
6

I don't know how you could still care about a woman who has another man balls deep on the regular.
/r/askMRP14/09/19 11:48 PM
1

Just an update: A therapist I saw said she very likely has borderline personality disorder.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 03:39 PM
1

Marriage counseling didn't work at all.
/r/askMRP06/09/19 09:41 PM
1

Yes I agree it is way more her loss.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 07:24 PM
1

'But we're just not clicking.'
/r/askMRP04/09/19 07:24 PM
1

There's some girlfriends who tell her to do what makes her happy.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 08:50 PM
3

Probably true.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 05:40 PM
2

How does helping her move help?
/r/askMRP28/08/19 05:38 PM
1

Thank you.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 04:09 PM
0

Exactly.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 04:08 PM
3

True, true.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 04:08 PM
2

Good advice here.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 04:07 PM
0

I made it clear years ago that I have a zero tolerance policy for cheating. Even if she moved out and then slept with someone I would not take her back.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 04:07 PM
1

done.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 04:06 PM
2

When I take a step back I think I'm just sad and don't want to be alone. I truly enjoy having someone to share my life with. I just need to accept that's there is almost certainly someone even better for me out there.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 04:05 PM
1

I truly think she is so stubborn that she has convinced herself I'm not a nice guy and she needs to leave for her mental well-being. Meanwhile I've given her everything she's ever wanted and never seriously yelled at her.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 04:02 PM
1

She could be but she's never 'out' for long. Just work, home, and kids stuff.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 04:00 PM
0

Right.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 03:57 PM
2

Interesting relationship. Do you both date other people too?
/r/askMRP28/08/19 03:49 PM
0

She does have it good with me. Her deadbeat babby daddy is a grade a pyschopath and doesn't pay for anything. I've had to pretty much support her and her kids for the last 8 years.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 03:48 PM
1

I have it.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 03:45 PM
5

Luckily my state doesn't have child support for step children and no alimony if you've been married less than 10 years. I'm working on protecting assets now.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 03:45 PM
1

Yeah good luck w/ that. She is quite pretty but she is a little chubby(5' 3" and 160 lbs). Her body was wrecked from the two kids too. SMV probably down to a 5 or 6 now. I accepted it because I loved her but I think it'll be tough in the marketplace for her.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 01:57 AM
2

The attorney I retained said they are enforceable in my state if properly drafted and executed. Ie, wife has to have plenty of time to read it, has option to seek counsel, can't be coerced, etc.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 01:50 AM
15

Go plan is the same as the stay plan.
/r/askMRP28/08/19 01:44 AM
1

I do think she has BPD or at least is a HCP.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 11:50 PM
2

Good idea on the pictures. I could not believe the level at which she was freaking out regarding that, but now she's stone cold.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 11:47 PM
8

Thanks.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 11:45 PM
0

I have also decided that if she stays there will be a post-nup. I'm not going to continue building wealth just to get divorce raped later.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 11:44 PM
3

I agree I need to post on OYS weekly!
/r/askMRP27/08/19 11:40 PM
8

Keep calm and carry on.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 11:38 PM
-5

If I want to make an effort to salvage the relationship what's the best course of action over the next month?
/r/askMRP27/08/19 09:52 PM
4

I should have but I thought she might show up and cause a scene.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 09:47 PM
4

I already met with the top 5 divorce attorneys in the area just in case. I am interested in saving the relationship but I'm not sure what more I could to do fight for it. Honestly when I think about it rationally with a RP lense there's not much value she's bringing...especially when I read some of the posts in rpwomen and rpwives. True story, at the wedding a cute girl gave me her number.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 09:45 PM
2

Thank you. The hardest part is just being sad. I really do love my wife and the shred life we have built.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 09:37 PM
21

That is absolutely nuts. I would have cut her loose way sooner. I've already made up my mind. If she actually moves out I'm not letting her come back.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 09:34 PM
10

Meanwhile she's also going around telling all her friends, family, and colleagues that she's leaving mean and she's trying to create negative advocates out of them.
/r/askMRP27/08/19 09:19 PM
1

Is she asexual? Does she masturbate?
/r/askMRP11/06/19 02:17 AM
3

I maintain my point that issues always seem to happen when a man has an older woman.
/r/askMRP11/06/19 02:13 AM
1

This guy is screwed unfortunately. He should sell the house, cut his losses, and move on.
/r/TheRedPill25/05/19 03:54 PM
1

I'm noticing a trend of men with older women having all the issues here. I rarely see a man with a 5 or so year younger wife post.
/r/askMRP23/05/19 01:09 AM
1

Maybe she's not into you and wanted to masturbate instead.
/r/askTRP18/05/19 08:32 PM
1

This kind a drama is not good after only 5 months of marriage.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 01:13 AM
0

Recently I did tell her the female figure is a beautiful work of art and I enjoy looking at great art.
/r/askMRP04/05/19 04:46 PM
-4

I may say this.
/r/askMRP04/05/19 01:34 AM
2

Thought about trying something like this. More STFU less DEER.
/r/askMRP04/05/19 01:33 AM
1

At this point a don't give a fuck anymore. I don't even know what would happen if I compared features but I'm guessing it wouldn't be pretty.
/r/askMRP04/05/19 01:33 AM
1

This is a tough one. If I'm honest with myself I know these girls catch my attention because I'd love to fuck them. My wife has gotten less attractive and she's less interested in fucking me for a variety of reasons. Thus far I've only DEERed in these situations. When she says, "oh look at that girl over there. you'd totally do her" I'd say something like "nah, she's not my type" or otherwise deny it. ​ I think maintaining frame and not DEERing is critical to overcoming these situations.
/r/askMRP04/05/19 01:32 AM
2

You have hit on something here. She is very insecure but also she doesn't want to work on herself or fuck me as often and I'd like. How does she reconcile that, I dont know. ​ She often mentions threesomes but then goes back on it and says she'd only consider a threesome if the other girl is fatter and/or uglier.
/r/askMRP04/05/19 01:25 AM
2

If you say yes she'll definitely get fat.
/r/askMRP02/05/19 07:55 PM
3

Nope!
/r/askMRP02/05/19 01:03 PM
1

Thank you for the advice. She went on her own maybe 6 months back but quit after 3 sessions. Noted on the goals. I see the difference. NMMNG arrived yesterday so I'm reading that. 1/3 through already.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 12:54 AM
1

Very true.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/05/19 12:52 AM
1

I'm new here and I'm jumping right in with my first OYS. Stats: 34, 5' 10", 165 pounds. 19% BF. Physical: I have been lifting twice a week for awhile now but I need to get it to 3 times a week reliably. I'm keto but I need to be more strict to get my BF down. Current Situation: Married a single mother 6 years ago. Been together for 8 years. She has two daughters and I have one daughter. Marriage: Not good right now. Can't do anything right in her eyes. She loses her shit over every tiny thing. T…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 10:44 PM
1

I'm new here and I'm jumping right in with my first OYS. ​ Stats: 34, 5' 10", 165 pounds. 19% BF. ​ Physical: I have been lifting twice a week for awhile now but I need to get it to 3 times a week reliably. I'm keto but I need to be more strict to get my BF down. ​ Current Situation: Married a single mother 6 years ago. Been together for 8 years. She has two daughters and I have one daughter. ​ Marriage: Not good right now. Can't do anything right in her eyes. She loses her shit over every tiny …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/19 02:36 PM
3

I control the finances 100% and have not seen that but I will keep an eye out. A few months back I got some separate bank accounts and started putting my money there. I found her a new job so she doesnt work for my company anymore. I took out $1M in business loans so now I have a lot more liabilities than assets on my balance sheet. I had the house before we got married and have paid it down a lot so I got a HELOC to tie up all the extra equity. I also have liquidated some stocks and funds and p…
/r/askMRP30/04/19 02:43 AM
1

As Roger Stone says it's better to be infamous than unknown.
/r/askMRP30/04/19 02:23 AM
1

Not yet.
/r/askMRP30/04/19 01:13 AM
2

Good advice here.
/r/askMRP30/04/19 01:13 AM
12

This is some of the best advice yet. Thank you.
/r/askMRP30/04/19 12:05 AM
1

Yes I lift.
/r/askMRP30/04/19 12:05 AM
5

Ordered it.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 08:51 PM
1

Very true. Shoring up my frame and STFU has shown some improvement in the last week or two.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 08:49 PM
1

I'm interested in hearing more about your thoughts on this.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 08:47 PM
2

That is one thing I am worried about.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 08:46 PM
1

Glad to hear you had some success in the end!
/r/askMRP29/04/19 08:44 PM
1

Well played.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 07:58 PM
1

I don't believe in keeping someone around who isn't bringing anything to the table.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 07:57 PM
0

She cries and says shit like "i want to be in love." I'm not sure she even knows what she wants.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 07:31 PM
1

Definitely not a corporate drone. I should have specified that I'm the CEO of my own successful company I started 15 years ago. Being the CEO I can do whatever I want, whenever I want. Every day is something new and exciting. I just bought a building for our new headquarters. Every year we have significant revenue growth. I very much have a mission and passion for my business and my life.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 06:10 PM
0

How often do you have sex with her? Because if she's not fucking you she's definitely fucking someone else.
/r/askMRP29/04/19 04:53 PM
3

I've told her that and she knows it. She's not an idiot. But I guess I am!
/r/askMRP29/04/19 01:26 AM
4

No I do not have kids with her thank god. She's been a real cunt to my daughter lately too. She makes her feel unwelcome in her own home. Her kids are starting to be little bitches like her too. They repeat a lot of the same shit their mom does. I agree on younger. Another issue we have is she's an old soul...she'd rather hang out with 50 or 60 year olds than people our age. Her best friend is like 65. Just in case I did talk with a lawyer and I'm taking some steps to protect my business and oth…
/r/askMRP29/04/19 12:36 AM
3

Create post Good advice. ​ I do not play video games, never did. ​ She does work now after I found her a FT job a month ago. Getting her to work FT was like pulling teeth. She'd say shit like "well if I have to get a full time job what do I need you for?" ​ She doesn't say anything when I buy toys or other things. It's my money. ​ Regarding lifting, I started @ 150 lbs. ​ I know there's a lot of work to do. I've been working down the sidebar for a few months. ​ I'm already getting a lot more fem…
/r/askMRP28/04/19 05:34 PM
3

I should add she does work full time now. I had to find her a job and make her apply for it.
/r/askMRP28/04/19 05:13 PM
2

Is there any recovery?
/r/askMRP28/04/19 04:24 PM
3

Part of the problem is she's embracing the body positivity movement. She also says things like I want a fat husband so I can be fat too and not be self-conscious. What do I say to that?
/r/askMRP28/04/19 02:57 PM
3

Just a few more details here. I don't game or watch porn frequently. I'm 5' 10" and 165 lbs. I've been lifting for 3 years and have been getting good results. So much so that my wife's cutest friend was like damn...you got muscles. She also joked about wanting to give me a BJ and my wife was seemingly cool about it but promptly befriended her...we haven't seen her since. In our home life I lead, handle all the finances, and make all the important decisions. I bought a brand new truck and she did…
/r/askMRP28/04/19 02:01 PM
1

Maybe try cumming on her face next time?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/04/19 11:41 PM
1

I've encountered versions of this many times.
/r/askMRP27/04/19 07:22 PM
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