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PARENTINGkekerae/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 08:02 PM
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I love hair scrunchies with a bow attached. A little bow at the top of your high ponytail or bun looks really cute.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/19 05:23 PM
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I think I was on Micronor for a bit prior to trying to conceive my first child but I'd been off of it for some time. I got pregnant the first cycle we tried. Second child I hadn't been on any birth control at all and it took us 4 cycles. We were very grateful to have no issues conceiving our girls.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/18 11:05 PM
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7 months PP with my 1st child and 4 months postpartum with my 2nd.
/r/RedPillWives24/09/18 05:56 PM
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I really liked reading about the different marriages and relationships in How Green Was My Valley by Richard Llewellyn. I've yet to watch the movie but my brother in law (who recommended the book) says it's great.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/18 09:15 PM
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I started around 11. I went to private school and was wearing a skirt every day and my mom agreed that it was okay to shave my legs because of this.
/r/RedPillWives07/07/18 01:49 AM
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Yes. We did what is called a 60/40 class where it was 60% childbirth preparation and 40% child care (swaddling, breastfeeding, bathing). It was put on by a local group of Doula's and then I hired the particular doula that taught our class to support me during the births of both of my daughters. Very helpful and empowering. I made sure I was aware of the local La Leche League group and did attend a couple of meetings after my baby was born. My doula and midwives were very well trained in supporti…
/r/RedPillWives07/07/18 01:47 AM
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Lately, I've only been cooking supper every other night and just cooking a larger quantity so we eat leftovers the next evening. My husband and I don't mind eating leftovers at all and this means less time cooking, more time with the kids, and less kitchen clean up. This week I'm making: 1) salmon patties, brown rice, and steamed broccoli 2) bbq chicken breasts and a cold pasta salad 3) spicy shrimp salad with avocado and mango
/r/RedPillWives02/07/18 07:04 PM
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I went to my now husband's house for a home cooked supper on our 3rd date. We watched a movie and kissed and cuddled and then I went home.
/r/RedPillWives21/06/18 04:26 PM
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I had my 1st child at 26 and my second at 28 and we might be finished our family. I feel awesome about the fact that I may have had all my babies before I was even 30 and that they can have some of my healthiest years. Parenting is exhausting and sleep can be scarce. I don't want to have to struggle through my 40's with pregnancy and toddlers, etc. My husband is also older than me so me waiting until my late 30's or beyond to have kids would have really put him in that "old dad" territory.
/r/RedPillWives03/02/18 11:25 PM
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I don't force my children to give affection, even to myself or their father. Why do I need a hug? My own ego? I know my children love me and my eldest isn't very affectionate despite having received lots of affection so far in her life.
/r/RedPillWives12/01/18 07:08 PM
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Thank you! A hard but amazing experience, for sure.
/r/RedPillWives30/10/17 09:25 PM
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I had my second baby! She came early by about 2.5 weeks and I had a fantastic labour and delivery experience. Hard work and painful but fantastic. She came in 6 hours from start to finish and I had no interventions or pain medication. Husband missed it since she came early and he was out of town working but I had my midwife and doula there and we were a perfect team. She is 2.5 weeks old now and is a great addition to our family. Big sister is doing a great job telling the baby she loves her and…
/r/RedPillWives28/10/17 02:52 PM
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I may be almost 35 weeks pregnant (with a toddler to boot) and wearing athleisure type clothing today but my makeup is fully done, I got my nails done and my eyebrows threaded yesterday, my hoody is totally cute and the colour looks great on me. After all, my agenda today included Kindergym time in a crowded gymnasium in the morning and going to the beach this afternoon in the rain and flipping over rocks so my toddler could chase around crabs. I can't exactly wear heels for that, but I think I …
/r/RedPillWives20/09/17 12:33 AM
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I really like the system. I have been using it fairly consistently the last 6 months, or so, and my home was looking really lovely and clutter free. Now I'm living with my inlaws for several months and a system like this doesn't really apply to my current life. They have a housekeeper in every week to do bathrooms, floors, kitchen deep cleaning, etc. so all I'm really responsible for is cleaning up my own messes in the kitchen and bathroom that I use and keeping my bedroom tidy and sheets change…
/r/RedPillWives08/09/17 02:45 PM
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My husband was really awesome during our first labour and delivery. We had a midwife and doula who were rocks also and I think my husband was really able to model his behaviour after the doula in so far as where to stand, when to give me space, etc. He said that having her there was really valuable to him. In the post-partum phase was his real shining moment. Every breastfeeding session in the very early days he was up with me, spoon feeding me yogurt and encouraging me to guzzle ice water. And,…
/r/RedPillWives08/09/17 02:39 PM
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I have a really hard time allowing myself to enjoy oral sex. I have had one experience with my husband where it was amazing and I was so excited to see what I'd been missing, but unfortunately we haven't been able to replicate that again. I think a lot goes into play psychologically to sex where only one person is "receiving" pleasure. You have to really believe you deserve to enjoy yourself and that your partner is not just doing it because he wants reciprocation right afterwards. It also reall…
/r/RedPillWives05/09/17 06:49 PM
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My husband is about to embark on an 800+ kilometre cycling tour to raise money for pediatric cancer. We are living in separate cities right now and we've both had our challenges from being apart but I'm so proud of him for staying behind and working to support us and training for this event at the same time. Aaand I received a romantic card in the mail from him saying he's counting the days until we can all be back together next month. It instantly made me cry. Very sweet.
/r/RedPillWives04/09/17 01:52 PM
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I'm really active there on another account but it's totally weighing on me how PC I have to keep my comments, most the time. There is also an immense amount of hate for their mother in laws and husband's family in general which I find really sad and gross.
/r/RedPillWives02/09/17 07:17 PM
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Clearly if you hate being a parent you are doing it wrong. I actually love this. On the days where I do find parenting really challenging and I'm at my wits end it is usually because I've made an error somewhere. Usually it means I failed to take time for myself, I didn't plan anything that week and we are going stir crazy, my nutrition has been poor and I'm hangry and not feeling strong, my parenting has been lazy and my daughter isn't getting the stimulation she needs, etc.
/r/RedPillWives31/07/17 11:06 PM
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Ugh, whatever you do, don't visit the childfree subreddit. It is absolutely awful. People talking about how children shouldn't be allowed on airplanes or out to any restaurants other than fast food/chain restaurants, and that their kids would never misbehave, and so on. Reminds me of that little quote/meme you see floating around: "Parenting was a lot easier when I was raising my non-existent kids hypothetically." Bahahah
/r/RedPillWives31/07/17 03:10 AM
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I'm feeling real pregnant as I reached the 3rd trimester with this pregnancy yesterday! I head down to my hometown next week with my toddler and I have to pack a million new baby items and it's just getting very real that we will have two little ladies in our lives soon.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 10:17 PM
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Books or stationary type supplies for my planner! Way to go on your accomplishment.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 10:16 PM
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Congratulations to you! Take a million photos and let photos be taken of you also. I was feeling kind of self conscious at this time but you need those photos for later. Happiest Baby on the Block is a fabulous book that my husband and I both found relevant and effective.
/r/RedPillWives28/07/17 10:14 PM
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Happy belated birthday! Sounds like an awesome decade of your life that you built some great things upon and as though you learned a lot to use going forward. I'll be 30 in about a year and a quarter. Since I was 20 I: Broke up with my high school boyfriend Met my now husband Was fired from a job I liked (such a low point) Travelled (Europe, Alaska, Nevada, Hawaii, etc.) Started and completed a Bachelor's Degree Became engaged Was married! Bought my first home Got pregnant and had a baby girl Mo…
/r/RedPillWives22/07/17 09:31 PM
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I certainly don't want a "high powered" career because that reads to me as high stress and poor work/life balance, but I do want to return to the workplace later on. I was pregnant with my first child at 25 (delivered at 26) and will have this second child right before or after my 29th birthday. I earned my degree when I was 33 weeks pregnant with my first and I do have several years of good work experience on my resume so hopefully returning to the workplace won't be too challenging for me when…
/r/RedPillWives20/07/17 11:16 PM
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Classical ballet students and gymnasts are often selected for rigorous training based on body types at a very young age to gain admission into selective training institutions. They can look at the arch of the foot, length of neck, size of head, leg length, hip rotation, etc. and get a good idea of which children will automatically have more difficulties and weed them out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 04:23 PM
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I'm a fan of keeping an acrylic bin in the fridge with all the fixings in it to make sandwiches/wraps. Keep a couple different types of deli meat and cheeses, some lettuce leafs and tomatoes, and then bread and tortillas somewhere with ample condiments like mayo and mustards. Keep the fruit bowl overflowing and people will always be able to grab themselves a quick meal.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 11:10 PM
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That's so cool! Thanks for trying!
/r/RedPillWives01/07/17 04:50 PM
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I was so tiny when I met my husband but I was also only 20 years old. I definitely underwent a second puberty around that time where my hips widened and my breasts grew and I gained about 10-15 pounds while still looking very petite. Now I'm on my 2nd pregnancy and I'm pretty pleased with how I've kept up my body. I'm working very hard in this pregnancy to reduce excessive weight gain and keep strength up for an easier recovery and better retention of muscle mass. So far I'm on track to gain les…
/r/RedPillWives30/06/17 07:07 PM
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She looked at the vehicle and hesitated to approach it, as though confused.
/r/RedPillWives30/06/17 07:00 PM
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Sooo many American flags! Don't cha know it's Canada Day first tomorrow! :P Love - your friendly Canadian
/r/RedPillWives30/06/17 06:59 PM
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That is certainly a fast period of time to move in with each other already. I had been seeing my now husband for 8 months when we decided to cohabitate. We had already had serious conversations regarding the future of our relationship meaning we decided that barring any massive issues going forward that we would plan to be engaged within the next couple years. We did stick to that timeline and were engaged around 3 years of being together. We also met online and I think that it can cut out a lot…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/17 05:39 PM
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With teenagers I kind of caution people to not do anything you wouldn't want your whole high school talking about because while it shouldn't be anyone's business what you do behind closed doors the rumour mill is strong in high school. Also, when it comes to intercourse, I really don't suggest it unless you are ready to deal with all the repercussions of that including an unplanned pregnancy. I had a high school boyfriend at the same age (we started dating at 17) and we waited to have intercours…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/17 05:37 PM
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Paleo style eating is definitely supposed to be omnivorous. I think you often see people eating copious amounts of bacon and steaks and cooking a dozen eggs in coconut oil but if done correctly paleo should incorporate a very healthy dose of veggies and even low sugar fruits.
/r/RedPillWives25/06/17 05:29 PM
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My husband's arrival time at home is very unpredictable due to the nature of his work so I love a text that lets me know when he's coming home. If the house looks beautiful when he comes home he usually compliments me on that and if it doesn't then he knows I had a hard day and will usually pitch in without me asking so that we can start the next morning without a big mess. I'm home with a toddler and am pregnant so there are some days where it's just not gonna look as good as others depending u…
/r/RedPillWives08/06/17 02:57 AM
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Can you physically do both? Yes. Can you do both very well and maintain your sanity...I think that's much harder. I'm currently a SAHM and I'm doing it like it's my career. It's a rare day when I'm shirking the housework or using a screen to entertain my child. I research and read book on parenting, I learn ways to more effectively manage my home, I help my husband with aspects of his career that I'm able to help with (I have a business degree and am his go to person for help with resumes and in…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 02:09 AM
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But James Talks Really Alpha! GOFDT
/r/RedPillWives05/06/17 07:19 PM
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You can be the most RPW ever but it's not going to incite anything in him because he's depressed and a functional alcoholic. He falls under the category of a man unable to lead.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 02:01 PM
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Nokian Hakkapelitta tires are some of the best winter tires you can get. How do I know this: my husband delegated the task of getting winter tires to me when he was too consumed with work to handle this detail of our lives. Being a leader in a relationship doesn't mean making every decision or having the final say. It often means delegating tasks to others so you don't get buried in details.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 02:15 AM
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Communicating over long distance can be really tricky, I'll give you that. How long have you been in this relationship? You mentioned he is your fiance but you'd be willing to cancel the engagement because of the way he communicates over the telephone? If you find him to be cold and distant and this bothers you why are you in this relationship? It sounds like he feels awkward having phone calls with you while his family listens or like he'd really rather enjoy his limited time with his relatives…
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/17 01:38 AM
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I enjoy gardening. There is some cost associated with getting started but certain things are very inexpensive to grow and if it's an item like an herb or vegetable then it's something you don't have to pay for at the store. It gives you something to research and read about, something to spend some time on each day, and can spill over into other areas of your life like cooking.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 08:02 PM
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This is a really good point. I'm sure lots of men who are the sole income earners for their families wish they could spend more time with their wives and children. My husband can go 2 whole days without seeing our daughter sometimes, that is very hard on him! Balancing priorities in life is hard no matter what they are.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 08:00 PM
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My husband significantly changed his career path after our marriage. I think many women would easily feel resentful over this or have a "this is not what I signed up for" attitude. I am incredibly proud of my husband for pursuing a career that he felt would make him happier and give his life more meaning. I think that he did choose this career as a challenge to himself, in a way. It was a long hiring process with many opportunities to be weeded out and yet he excelled at each level, it was very …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 07:42 PM
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Ugh, this was shared on a parenting group I'm a part of. I love their practical tips in that group for positive parenting (communication with kids at age appropriate levels, not resorting to yelling, discipline techniques, play idea, etc.) but their constant need to discuss this type of stuff and gender stereotypes is exhausting.
/r/RedPillWives02/06/17 09:40 PM
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I personally wouldn't. What type of steps is he taking to get his life in order? Has he been in trouble with the law for his heroin use? The only way I would even consider seeing him more would be if he's been sober for years, takes his addiction very seriously, actively attends NA meetings, has a sponsor, is very successful in other areas of his life (career, health, social and family relationships). I don't really have any experience with addicts in real life but I do know Laura Doyle in The S…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 01:16 PM
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Lights out by 9:30 for me to accommodate toddlers early wake ups. I'll set an alarm at 9:00 to remind me to start removing makeup, brush teeth, stop drinking water, have a small snack, etc. (may alter bedtime on vacation, see below) We have a family road trip/vacation for 13 days. I am looking to be the best co-pilot I can be for this trip. This is the longest trip we will have done with our daughter and I'm pregnant also. Specific goals are to keep my family eating reasonably healthy, keep my d…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 01:06 PM
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Her flair states she is 22.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/17 03:43 AM
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"You make me feel safe." I wouldn't just use this one randomly but maybe once you've walked through a rougher neighbourhood together or he's done something that you feel was protective in nature towards you or your family.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 10:31 PM
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From a really logistic point of view I would not feel comfortable becoming pregnant if my significant other did not work to provide income to the family or have any type of medical benefits through work. Depending on where you are in the world and what your work benefits are like you may very well have to pay a lot out of pocket for pregnancy and delivery related expenses. There is also the possibility you could face complications during the pregnancy which may leave you either unable to work or…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/17 10:26 PM
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Grateful for my healthy pregnancy and for all the little baby kicks and flip flops I've been feeling more consistently this week. Grateful for my husband for his hard work taking OT shifts on his days off in order to help us out financially. Grateful that we can go on our family vacation in a week and a half. I am so excited to explore new places together and unplug a bit and get active.
/r/RedPillWives31/05/17 02:28 PM
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I think you've been beyond patient and given him a lot of opportunity to come clean on his own with the full story. Whatever he's done is one thing but the continuous lying, even after he knows he's been "caught", is really infuriating and immature. I'd tell him the jig is up and the only shot he has at reconciliation would be to start talking. I think your request for the new phone and more transparency in a good one. Trust has been breached and he is going to have to take steps in order to ear…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 09:12 PM
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Knitting isn't supposed to arouse anyone. It's a practical skill which people find enjoyable. If young women don't take up knitting, sewing, baking, etc. then these things will literally become lost arts.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 12:24 AM
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Some things would be highly dependent on the commitment level of the relationship. If you've been together for a couple months and you find that there are little to no benefits from being in the relationship then I would go separate ways with no issues. This is why vetting is such an important process because you don't want to find out you truly aren't interested after investing time in them and potentially after becoming sexually involved with them. If you're married or common law or have child…
/r/RedPillWives29/05/17 12:20 AM
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A lot of those physical things you mentioned aren't worth you stressing about because you cannot change them. As someone who is 5'2" myself, I actually have found that many men like petite women. I don't know a ton of men who are looking for a tall girl unless they are very tall themselves. You mentioned you could stand to lose 10 pounds, put your energy into that then because it's something you can change and that will possibly enhance your looks and health. I don't see why your height has anyt…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 07:04 PM
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I have done some light cleaning in a boyfriends home at the beginning of a relationship. I came over in the evening and definitely helped contribute to the mess in the kitchen and the bed. He worked really early in the morning and told me to please stay and sleep in. When I got up I started the dishwasher and stripped the sheets and tossed them in the washing machine. I got a call the minute he got home from work thanking me, telling me it wasn't necessary, but that it was nice to come home to.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 06:55 PM
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I just wanted to say that I'm sorry you're struggling with this. I also want to reassure you that you aren't the only woman experiencing this. Primary or secondary infertility or miscarriages, even, are more common than people care to admit or discuss. My mother, MIL, and step-mother all had a miscarriage during their child bearing years. My mother was only 23 and it was not a symptom of her waiting too long. I hope the next time is the time for you both. :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 06:30 PM
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That's good that you have exacting standards for film! My husband gets really incensed when fights scenes involving firearms aren't accurate: never reloading, people running around without cover and miraculously not getting hit, walking around with a finger on the trigger, etc.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/17 02:19 AM
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I discussed unexpected pregnancy also. It was a tricky subject but it's a HECK of a lot trickier after you're already pregnant.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 02:02 AM
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I'm super glad to hear you say this! I was excited for it but admit I was turned off by the criticism. I really like Charlie Hunnam's acting and I heard this role was crazy difficult to learn how to do all the swordplay accurately.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/17 01:34 AM
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Awesome, what a great age you are at to be able to take your life in many different directions. Of course marriage isn't going to happen while you're still a teen but is that what you are looking towards having at some point in your twenties? Making sure you only date men that you could realistically picture spending a lot of your life with and who's major life philosophies line up with yours is very important. I met my now husband at 20 so it could be less far off then you think. :)
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 01:31 AM
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I feel as though your age matters here. How old are you and how old are the men you are dating or looking to date? If you are say, 18, not every 18 year old young man is going to expect sex within a short time frame. I was still a virgin at that age, even though I was in a long term relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 11:05 PM
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Like I said, there are plenty of ways to receive sexual satisfaction that are lower risk than intercourse.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 11:04 PM
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No, but if a kid starts choking on their supper before bed or something else happens it gonna feel scary if you don't know what to do. It's also a way to get more jobs or perhaps get a higher rate of pay. For many jobs having first aid can look great on a resume.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 08:35 PM
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If you have experience with children and a first aid certificate you could babysit in the evenings or on weekends. A lot of parents are just looking for someone to sit with a baby monitor while the sitter watches television or reads a book. You could be doing some of the same stuff you'd do at home in the evening but while earning money.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 07:38 PM
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Wearing pajamas in public or just not caring at all for your appearance when out and about. This seems very pervasive in my city. Men and women alike wearing over-sized and too long flannel pants just walking down the street or out for coffee or breakfast, no thanks. The Daily Connoisseur on YouTube is a huge champion for bringing back looking presentable, both in and out of the home. It really only takes 10 minutes to put clothes on, comb your hair, and put on minimal makeup as a woman. You nev…
/r/RedPillWives26/05/17 07:33 PM
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I personally waited close to 4 weeks from meeting/first date with my now husband. By that time we committed to an exclusive relationship with each other and had had a couple of important talks surrounding birth control and sexual history. Let's just say that it's not as though we never laid a hand on each other in those 4 weeks. There are a lot of ways to keep a man's interest without going "all the way".
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 07:22 PM
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On the other hand for women who want to be stay at home mothers, you may not be able to find a wealthy man, but perhaps you and your partner have to accept a different standard of living for when your children are young. My husband works in a career where a lot of us wives are stay at home mothers and we certainly aren't wealthy. We just accept that we won't be doing anything extravagant during this season of life.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/17 12:48 PM
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I think things that benefit women would be the same things that benefit everyone, or at least most people. I think there are some things that could be better incorporated into urban planning that would benefit men, women, and children. I think washroom facilities are generally woefully scarce and we are all aware of how there is always long lines for women's washrooms and rarely for men's. It would be neat to see more women's washrooms as this also benefits children. Women are much more likely t…
/r/RedPillWives24/05/17 08:14 PM
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The part that really stood out to me was the sex with underage girls. He could end up with a criminal record and on a sex offenders list any day now and that type of man is a far cry from a captain.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 07:48 PM
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I think that you are categorizing a LTR by how long it lasts (at least one year you said) but I think of it more by the intentions that the people have in the relationship. If I'm dating someone exclusively and we've met each other's families and went on a trip together and talk almost daily and have discussed the future but we've only been together for 3 months it's still a long term relationship, in my opinion. You are devoting yourselves to each other and your only intention is to keep develo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 12:00 AM
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I can absolutely relate to your post. I had only slept with one person before meeting my now husband so sex after just a couple of dates wasn't something I was willing to give up until I was sure that we were exclusive and on the same page. I knew from the kiss at the end of our 2nd date and the "cuddling" on our 3rd date watching a movie that sparks were flying, the sex later definitely lived up to our expectations!
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 11:57 PM
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Definitely a decision that should be made between the two of you depending upon your future goals. Since you really enjoy the job and make good money why not continue to work and earn experience and really try to save away as much money for your future as possible. Weddings needn't be outlandish but it's going to cost something so wouldn't it be nice to have that all taken care of? Same goes for a down payment on a house!
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 11:51 PM
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My husband has a mental load from his career, for sure. Sometimes he even has trouble sleeping the night before his first shift back because he's thinking about files he needs to work on in the morning, where he'll fit in a workout, that money is tight so he should take an OT shift, that he may work late each day so barely see our daughter, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 01:18 AM
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Thanks for your response because, honestly, answering your question was hard for me and my answer didn't really sound on the mark but I thought I'd give it a go.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 12:51 AM
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I thought about having little family meetings as a couple where we could talk about the things we want to achieve that week/month, etc. Whether that's getting a list of things done or making time for a date, I think it would help us focus instead of realizing a month went by and that we totally forgot about the things we meant to do. I think that if I'm probably encouraged by his dedication to fitness then it stands to reason he may be encouraged by mine? I'm just trying to keep up my health and…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 09:54 PM
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Reasons I got a Bachelor's degree: So I can have higher earning power. My mom works at a grocery store, which is fine, but she works for a low wage doing very physical work and is very worn out. I'd rather work smarter, not harder. So I could open doors for myself to a greater number of jobs. You can always take a job you're a bit overqualified for but it will suck if you find a dream job and you chose to not finish the degree. To have pride that I'm the first person on either side of my family …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 09:48 PM
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I am already married to a great guy but these are some traits I'd love him to adopt: A bit more "get up and go" attitude when it comes to getting things done like the gym or a home project. He has just purchased a journal and wants to try laying out his weeks and writing out goals so I'm stoked to see if he finds this helpful. Consistency in fitness. Having a fit partner really motivates me to also be fit. He is really talented in a lot of types of fitness but he tends to get sidetracked and tak…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 02:06 AM
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Aww, maaaan. Guys, I'm a loser!
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 06:52 PM
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Before we had our daughter my husband and I went to the gym together 2 or 3 nights a week and one of those was an Olympic weight lifting class we took with an instructor. When we weren't in the class we did our own separate workouts at the gym. Other than that we didn't really have big hobbies aside from him playing on a rec hockey team. Currently we have a small child and one on the way, I'm a SAHM and he work full time shift work. We spend most our free time together on his days off aside from…
/r/RedPillWives21/05/17 05:36 PM
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Thanks for the link, I watched the video which led me to watch others with her on the subject. It was incredibly eye opening and went well beyond the scope of what I knew when I made this post!
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 02:29 AM
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I, personally, would not be sexually active with someone who is currently sexually active with other people.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 02:20 AM
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If it's important to you to achieve your Bachelor's degree then you should absolutely complete it. You're so close! It will open many doors for you either now or down the road. I earned my Bachelor's degree from the ages 22-26 and while there were certainly some younger people in my course there were also MUCH older men and women and lots of people my own age. Is it really common in your area for everyone to go to school immediately after college and earn a 4 year degree? I really doubt the majo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 02:16 AM
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You don't need to be equal to them in terms of education or career in order to be a good partner to them.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 02:14 AM
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I think if she received such backlash from family and that some of the things they were checking for were a soiled diaper and burping it's safe to say they were talking about a child well below the age of 1.
/r/RedPillWives21/05/17 02:00 AM
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Yes, if you can believe it. I see moms use the word to describe certain behaviours in their children that seem to bother them more than others or situations where they experience high stress. Someone might present one of these particular issues to the group and they may receive guidance on ways to handle it better, prevent it in the first place, care about it less, and so on. "I'm really triggered when my kids make a mess with art supplies. How can I contain the mess better or learn to live with…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 08:57 PM
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I would imagine it's even less. I waited 1 month with my now husband (we were both in our 20's at the time) and I think that was highly unusual.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 08:38 PM
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I have a great article for you. Definitely can't agree with that just because it assumes that babies (who are just young humans) only cry for physical needs like discomfort. I'm sure you could agree that as humans we have higher level needs like companionship. We've all felt lonely or afraid before so now imagine feeling that as a child with no reasoning skills or means to work through those feelings. When a baby learns to "cry it out" it usually just means, and this is sad, that they've learned…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/17 07:00 PM
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There are some periods of infant and toddler development where separation anxiety is really present for them. I bed shared with my daughter until she was 7 months but knew that I needed some space at that point. She was exclusively breastfed also and loved to be babyworn so I understand the touched out feelings, I really do. Can you schedule some time for yourself in the day away from your child a couple days a week? Maybe having a relative watch them while you just grab a coffee or do a workout…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/17 05:52 PM
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I personally would not expose my daughter to someone speaking to their child like that. It's not okay and a sign that she needs to educate herself on the damage she could be causing and alternative techniques she could use to handle difficult behaviours in children. It's really too bad that she was the victim of abuse but it's up to her to seek counselling to handle those hurts and not continue a cycle of abuse. I haven't really lost any friendships over parenting styles yet as my daughter is on…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/17 05:40 PM
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My first child was the first grandchild on both sides as well. Nobody even asked or mentioned coming to the hospital. My midwives also said they are pretty good at going out and telling people to take a hike and that they aren't helping if there are loiterers, haha.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/17 05:34 PM
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First off, for the family, tell them you do not support them coming to the hospital during labour. They could definitely be waiting way more than 10 hours and you may not be interested in taking visitors until the next day or more anyhow so them being there is pointless. You could also consider not telling anyone you are in labour until the later stages. I had my daughter in the end at 7:50 pm and by the time I was cleaned up and baby got her first feed and we got into a recovery room visitors h…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/17 03:14 PM
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Yes, of course! Breastfeeding and Alcohol.
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 11:37 PM
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It is actually alright to drink some when breastfeeding. Unless you are too inebriated to operate a motor vehicle legally the baby isn't getting any alcohol. The old advice of a mom having to "pump and dump" the milk she produced during the time she went out with her husband and had 2 glasses of wine before she feeds the baby in the middle of the night has been disproved. :)
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 10:01 PM
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7 year age gap for me too! DH has watched a ton of movies and television, especially as a youth, and we have very few shows in common from childhood. He loves to rewatch movies with me that I haven't seen which is nice.
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 09:33 PM
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I can't really think of a recent argument. I still struggle with nagging/micromanaging so it was probably me trying to control something that isn't important and him getting ticked off with me about it.
/r/RedPillWives19/05/17 09:26 PM
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We need help with budgeting, big time. Our food costs are crazy.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 01:25 AM
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Thanks! I'm glad. I think it has been a pretty eventful near decade so far. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 04:20 PM
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Met my now husband when I was 20 (he was 27) Canada Met on E-Harmony Met and began dating at 20. Moved in together at 21 (I was laid off and he encouraged me to go to university so we began living together and he took care of many living expenses so I was able to complete school debt free). We were engaged when I was 23, married at 24 after a 7 month engagement. I became pregnant on our first cycle of trying at 25, baby #1 born at 26 just a couple months after completing my Bachelor's Degree. I'…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 03:03 PM
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This is so phenomenal. It can be so hard to just shut up (or to phrase something completely different than you want to) when something doesn't go the way you think it ought to...especially if it's a recurring event. Massive kudos to you for pulling those long shifts with a little one around, that must be incredibly hard. I recently weaned my daughter from breastfeeding (and she therefore no long nurses to sleep for bed and naps) which means my husband can be a much more active participant in sle…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/17 09:36 PM
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You won't be able to control how things go when you are out of the home so I would prepare ahead of time the best you are able and work on accepting that things are going to be chaotic while you recover. Get a couple freezer meals in the freezer that can be thrown in a slow cooker or baked in the oven and make sure you do a grocery shop for fresh food items ahead of your c-section so that you know everyone (including yourself upon your discharge) will be fed. So, just to make my point clear, the…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/17 08:06 PM
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Our first kiss was at the completion of our second date. Second date was supper out and a walk and he kissed me at my car. We actually didn't have intercourse for about 3 or 4 weeks until we had discussed that we were exclusive. I'd only slept with one person prior to him so sex was a pretty big deal to me.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/17 12:12 AM
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Awesome! Can't wait to learn and maybe contribute also. :)
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 07:41 PM
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Happy to have other pregnant ladies on here. :)
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 07:19 PM
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I'll reassure you by saying the article is being dramatic for a funny effect. Never in my life have I went more than 2 days without a shower nor have I been up the entire time between 11pm-6am. :) I had a largely positive breastfeeding experience (breast fed my daughter past her 2nd birthday), avoided post partum depression, lost every pound of baby weight buy the 10 month mark. It was either not that terrible or I forgot because I'm pregnant again, haha.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 07:19 PM
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Maybe. I had some surprise ones on my tummy that I literally didn't even see until after my post birth shower. I have them all over my thighs and bum but they have faded a lot. Hoping to avoid new ones this pregnancy.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 07:13 PM
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I absolutely agree with you on that.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 07:12 PM
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I think I know what you mean. I'm like my father in that I have the gift of the gab and I can be incredibly charming. I can easily maintain eye contact, smile, make jokes that get people laughing. It's not really an "act" because it's something that comes pretty natural to me but it's certainly not my day to day personality. It comes out in certain interview settings, dinner parties, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 12:13 AM
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My last first date was the day I met my now husband but I was so ridiculously nervous before that date that I would say I probably wouldn't have enjoyed going on a lot of dates. I certainly enjoyed the process once we had been on a couple dates and the nerves were gone, though. That's a really fun getting to know you, butterfly's in the tummy, crazy sexual tension phase, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 12:11 AM
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I got to go to a really fun ball the other night and was so happy to get that time with DH and be all gussied up and he in his dress uniform. drool Happy that we had my inlaws come and stay with us and for all the help they provided me with our toddler. Grateful that my husband noticed the hard work I'm putting into our home (following the FlyLady system) but told me to please take it easy since I'm pregnant and things don't have to be perfect to please him. :) If I was really tired I would say …
/r/RedPillWives10/05/17 12:07 AM
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Not all people are beautiful and not all people will be able to attract an extremely high value mate. Her husband may have some beta traits but he certainly has an alpha job of a police sergeant in what is a rough neighbourhood. I'd say for a woman with her looks she has attracted probably the best value mate she could without waiting around forever as she ages.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 11:58 PM
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"Women are bad at putting themselves first." Yep, that's what maternity and parental leave was for me. Just putting myself first all the time. Long bubble baths and glasses of wine over candlelit suppers with my husband. /s HA! Maternity and parental leave isn't a "perk", it's biology. By biology I mean physically and emotionally recovering and then bonding with a little person. I spent the first 6-8 weeks of leave bleeding and handling the glamours of hemmorhoids and leaking painful breasts. Th…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 07:13 PM
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I know this is a fictional character but for some reason I thought of Nurse Noakes "Chummy" from Call the Midwife (actress Miranda Hart). She is certainly not a traditionally feminine woman at first glance (very tall at 6'2", quite statuesque in build, not very feminine facial features) and yet I find her character to be developed in a feminine way. She is quite posh and always speaks very eloquently, she is well traveled and intelligent and can hold a conversation, she has immense knowledge for…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 07:00 PM
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Speaking as a married person with a young child (and one on the way) our love certainly doesn't look anything like lavish dates or copious amounts of time spent together. We get maybe 1-2 hours each evening together on work days once he's home from work and our child is in bed. We discuss our days, share a meal, talk about upcoming events or current news events. It's not glamorous, really. My husband's job in law enforcement is long hours and sometimes seeing terrible stuff so for me the main wa…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/17 02:59 AM
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I consider myself to be happy yet am living a different life than I thought I might in some regards. When I met my husband we had no idea he would follow the career path he did. It wasn't on his radar at the time. Now that he did, it involved us moving and the location is extremely different from where we were both born and raised. Not only are the population and amenities vastly reduced but the overall culture is much different with largely different political views, different entertainment, et…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 10:52 PM
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I thought it was so interesting to see all of the packaged food items with no nutritional information aside from perhaps an ingredient list and description. I did see portion sizes, though.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 12:12 AM
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My husband adores really simple stuff like pulled pork, chili, burgers with all the fixings, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 05:46 PM
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I have done a decent amount of travelling for my age. I've been to Hawaii, on an Alaskan cruise, driven through several US states and Canadian provinces, done lots of camping in different areas, have done a whirlwind visit of France, Italy, and Spain. I feel well travelled. That being said, once our children are not so reliant on us DH and I will definitely be doing more travelling with just the two of us. He's never been to Europe, we never really had a honeymoon, it's on our future bucket list…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 05:45 PM
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I'm currently a SAHM and don't work outside the home at all. I have a Bachelor's degree that I earned at 33 weeks pregnant with my first child and I've yet to work in the field related to my education, but am super grateful I have that completed for when I AM ready to go into the workforce. I am pregnant with my second child currently and we are fairly certain that we will have no more than 2-3 kids. I'm interested in returning to work when the kids are all settled into school. I think years 0-3…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 05:43 PM
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Just wanted to chime in and offer solidarity. I too am grateful to be a SAHM to our toddler and am pregnant with another child due this fall. This is a very challenging season of life. I could use a whole lot more sleep, way more time alone, way more date nights, it's very taxing to have a busy toddler underfoot, I find my weeks go much better when we have 1-2 commitments to go to. A morning at home from 6-12 (naptime) is horrendous but when we have to be at the swimming pool at 10 am for a less…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/17 05:39 PM
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I did not slice it. I rubbed it, seared it, and cooked it whole for 60 minutes. Thanks! Will try again. :)
/r/RedPillWives04/05/17 01:55 PM
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Can you talk to me about your pulled pork in the Instant Pot because I tried to make it the night before last and was very unimpressed the meat didn't become a shredable texture at all!
/r/RedPillWives04/05/17 03:33 AM
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Continue following the FlyLady cleaning system. I've really been nailing my morning, afternoon, and evening routines and have recently been getting Zone Cleaning under my belt. My house is looking better than ever with less marathon cleaning days. Increase physical activity. I am pregnant so I am not setting any specific weight or calorie type goals but am just trying to get some physical activity in several days a week like prenatal yoga at home, a walk with my toddler, upper body weights, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 08:35 PM
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My parents split when I was 3. I believe my father was unfaithful to my mother. He was in the Navy and was away for several chunks of my parents early marriage and my babyhood. My parents did a great job of co-parenting for a couple years until my dad met my step-mother. I do have some very fond memories of her but I also have some godawful ones of her stirring the pot, acting like a child towards me, forcing my Dad to put her ahead of me, etc. I remember one time she told me that, "I hate your …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 08:32 PM
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My husband had a working mom and two younger siblings and was mostly a latch key kid. His mother has admitted on several occasions that she probably wasn't as involved in her sons lives as she should have been. For example, just taking her teens words for it when they said they didn't have homework and then finding out come report card time that they were extremely behind and their grades suffering, etc. My DH is pretty independent in that he is fully capable in a kitchen or doing housework. I a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 08:20 PM
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Great tips! I use flour sack towels for cloth diapering. I tossed my microfibre inserts because they are prone to stink and are terribly drying on my hands during stuffing. I wonder if I could find coloured ones for the kitchen to prevent any mix ups! I run my dishwasher every day after I clean up from supper and it's unloaded before breakfast gets made in the morning. This keeps me from ever having dishes on my counter or in my sink.
/r/RedPillWives03/05/17 04:43 PM
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I am a stay at home mother to a 2 year old and am pregnant again and my husband is a law enforcement officer.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 04:08 PM
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I was pretty skinny, braces, never stopped talking but was also seen as a friend to everyone, very outgoing and positive, feminine and athletic because I did ballet. I attended a small Catholic school. I had 3-4 relationships of varying lengths from grades 9-12 so I'd say I had enough male attention. I knew how to flirt and had crushes on boys from a young age.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 11:16 PM
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You have to work on your body dysmorphia, first and foremost. I found myself weighing myself too often and getting emotional over the number on the scale so my scale is now vacationing with my friend for a little while. I haven't weighed myself in almost a month but have been keeping up with workouts, trying to keep sugar intake down, and have been working on some positive body affirmations in the mirror before showering instead of stepping on a scale and criticizing myself. When I met my DH I w…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/16 07:35 PM
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You'd probably see better results by trying to gain some muscle and recompositioning a bit! If you have little muscle you may look soft and less lean than you want. Getting any lower weight won't probably enhance the way you look. I'm 5'2" and think I look pretty healthy at 125ish. I actually looked a bit better at 130 before having a child because I had more muscle mass. I just got back into lifting now and trying to just reduce body fat and increase muscle, I'm not too concerned about the scal…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/16 09:45 PM
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I immediately thought of the book too. I was going to say put the ball in his court by saying, "I'd love to go out for supper soon!" and then letting him choose a time that works with payday/work, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/16 06:00 PM
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Goals: Meal plan dinners for each week and shop from a list made from the plan. Lift at the gym 3x per week. (squats, deadlifts, OH press, bench, etc.) Finish reading the novel I'm currently reading (The Raven Boys by Maggie Stiefvater) + 1 more.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/16 04:27 PM
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E-Harmony is where I met my now husband.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/16 06:50 AM
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Last week we made a big baron of beef roast together covered in garlic and with mashed potatoes, steamed veggies, and gravy on the side. The roast really stretched and lasted us each several meals. Trying to use the Crock-Pot more as I've been feeling a bit overwhelmed by cooking and cleaning lately. Simplify, simplify.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/16 06:36 PM
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I totally get your excitement. My husband lived 6 months away from us last year for work. A great test of our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/16 06:34 PM
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Husband is starting days off today so is sleeping from night shift. We all went on a quick walk to a coffee shop this morning before he went to bed which was a nice way to start the "weekend". Feeling a bit exhausted today due to starting that time of the month. Gave the kitchen a great clean this a.m. and the oven just finished the cleaning cycle so it'll be spotless by the end of the day.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/16 06:33 PM
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My bag is a navy blue backpack that is our diaper bag/purse. If I go out alone (rare) I do transfer essentials to a purse. But, on a daily basis by bag is crammed full of toddler necessities. Packing cube with a change of clothes for daughter and a clean top for me, just in case. Change pad, 1-2 cloth diapers, wipes, wet bag. Multi-purpose ointment for diaper cream, scrapes, bites. Hand sanitizer Wallet, keys, phone Notebook and small box of crayons Water bottles for daughter and I Snacks for da…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/16 12:42 PM
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Well said. My husband works the kind of job that can become your identity and he was taught by his mentor, "Wife first, kids second, job last."
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 02:50 AM
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I would just look up the correct sign for the word and maybe watch a video and then I'd try to use the sign every time I said the word. I got more consistent around 8 or 9 months. Now at 1.5 she can consistently sign for milk, eat, more, all done, cracker, bath, thank you, and wait. :)
/r/RedPillWives10/09/16 10:20 PM
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My daughter at 19 months probably has about 3 good nutritive nursing sessions per day. I am working on night weaning her right now. Occasionally due to illness or upset we may have an extra late afternoon nurse or upon request. She eats 3 small meals plus snacks. I enjoy breastfeeding a toddler because when they are inevitably picky with food on bad days I know she's still getting fed and hydrated. Her go to foods are avocadoes, yogurt and berries, toast, cheeses, etc. She's a pretty varied eate…
/r/RedPillWives10/09/16 06:46 PM
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My husband was actually living away from us from the time my daughter was 3 months-9.5 months while he trained for work. I bed shared and then co-slept during that time. When he came home for a visit I made sure to get her into her own bed by that time and when he came home for good she was in her own room. Barring illness or upset, I will choose to keep kids out of the family bed. Like all things, though, I'm not at that stage yet where my daughter can make her own way into my room so we will s…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/16 08:30 PM
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I am currently breastfeeding a toddler if you have any questions surrounding that. I've never received a negative comment, if that helps! :)
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 06:29 PM
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I left my infant with Daddy around 2 months for a quick tea by myself or to the pool to swim some slow laps. I breastfed my daughter on demand and she never did take a bottle so I didn't stray too far from home lest she become hungry and inconsolable.
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 06:28 PM
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Yes, on the hair!!! I recently moved from Southern to Northern Canada and my hair can stay curled for days here during the dry winter days!
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/16 12:35 AM
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I think because they don't understand complex punishments and reason just sort of helps me feel even more sure of my stance against spanking. If my child can't understand a time out or a chat then they sure as heck aren't going to comprehend why their mother or father just hit them. I'm stronger and smarter and faster than my toddler and just don't see how it's okay when she upsets me to hurt her. Just read a thread on /r/parenting about how a posters 18 month old runs from her and hits her own …
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 12:07 AM
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I'm not quite sure I understand your reply. Are you saying that because of your future children's ethnicity you will have to apply punishments differently than that of, say, an Asian family? So sorry if I have that totally wrong. Help me understand! :)
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 11:14 PM
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Re: baby proofing. You're right in that little ones are quite clever and can often learn about danger really quickly. We don't have every single cupboard locked or corner padded in our home. But you better bet we have baby gates at the tops of stairs and furniture properly secured to walls, etc. It takes one second for a child to be killed by a bookshelf and it happens more often than you think. A lot of the baby proofing was done in my home because you literally cannot watch and correct them al…
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 08:53 PM
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She is my only child so far! You have that right, when bedtime rolls around the last thing you want to do is rock the boat, haha. So I chose to start this night weaning after a vacation when I knew we'd be in our normal routine for a length of time and when my husband was off for a couple days and could support me. I'm in full agreeance on older children needing firm bedtimes for everyone's well-being. I detest seeing 8 year old kids out at the mall on a Tuesday night at 8:30 pm. Kids and teens …
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 08:42 PM
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Good article that sums up recent research on spanking. Basically, it doesn't work to correct behaviour short or long term and makes children more aggressive than they were in the first place.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 08:35 PM
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Addressing your first point about sleep being a strict and no fuss experience. So, in the beginning newborn phase you are obviously exhausted, baby doesn't have a clue about day or night so of course anything goes during this phase of life. The 4th trimester, as they call it, is the 1st 3 months post partum and there isn't really any type of schedule you can impose upon a newborn. In the months following people often create what they call "sleep crutches" for babies like nursing to sleep, rockin…
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 08:18 PM
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I met my husband when I was 20 and at that time I wouldn't have dated a man any younger than me. I knew I was looking for a long term relationship and I thought the odds of a 19 year old or younger male who wanted that were slimmer. My DH is 7 years older than myself. At age 20 when we met I probably wouldn't have went on a date with a man much older than that. That age gap as it is really seemed to weird out some of friends. We are now 27 and 34 and the age gap isn't noticeable. The main thing …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/16 07:43 PM
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Well, the World Health Organization actually recommends 2 years of breastfeeding! The actual act of breastfeeding helps to create the type of milk the child needs. Examples being that the saliva of a sick child communicates with the mothers body through the nipple and the mother can make antibodies! Amazing, hey? Breastfeeding can also be an amazing comfort tool. I have stopped tears from some pretty big owies with my boobs, it's magic. :)
/r/RedPillWives03/09/16 10:57 PM
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I'm one of the no pain meds ladies. Would try it again. Pain is temporary and in terms of labour it's pain that I knew was normal. I knew I was safe. I was handling the pain okay but I didn't want to test out a needle in my back and risk a spinal headache or worse complication. Not sure what mt breastfeeding answer was now but I'm currently still nursing a 19 month old 4-5 times every 24 hours. It's a tool that's working great for our family that my husband is fully is support of. Not sure how l…
/r/RedPillWives03/09/16 10:47 PM
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LTR's are super challenging. My DH went away for 6 months in our second year of marriage for work training and it was our greatest challenge. His time was severely limited and communication naturally suffered when text or short phone calls were the only option. Thankfully we had a hard end date to look forward to and we managed about 3-4 short but good quality visits during that time.
/r/RedPillWives29/08/16 12:54 AM
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Nursing in a k'tan would likely not be possible because you can't adjust it to be looser or lower. A ring sling works nicely for nursing. I nurse in my woven wrap in a FWCC just loosened and lowered a bit.
/r/RedPillWives28/08/16 11:02 PM
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Exercising and losing the baby weight after birth is not impossible. I gained way too much with my pregnancy (think 40+ pounds on 5'2" frame) and I managed to get down below pre pregnancy weight by 12 months postpartum. After the initial recovery is over and you're mobile and once all the comfort food casseroles everyone dropped off are gone, cook healthy meals in big batches. You aren't going to have time to prepare food 3+ times a day but anyone can reheat a plate with a newborn attached to th…
/r/RedPillWives27/08/16 04:27 PM
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We actually met on E-Harmony. I had recently exited a LTR with a boyfriend I'd met in highschool and I wasn't sure where to meet people. On a whim decided to join the site and do a really truthful questionnaire. I spoke to just a few duds and only went on one date which ended up becoming my now husband! Our first date was coffee where we spoke effortlessly for 3 hours. :)
/r/RedPillWives24/08/16 11:58 PM
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Wow! What a whirlwind right at the beginning of your parenting journey. So happy things are looking up for you. I have an 18 month daughter. Hope things are great soon. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/16 12:20 AM
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Costco sells them in 2 packs with their underwear/socks!
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/16 05:41 PM
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I live in Northern Canada (not uncommon to reach -30 Celsius) and I wore a lot of fleece lined leggings with long tunic tops for a dress type look with cute boots and a slimmer down coat. My hair really holds a curl well in the dry winter air so I curled it often and this style could last several days. I have a good pair of long underwear that I can fit under my jeans for days where leggings feel too casual and I pair that with nice coloured knit sweater and necklaces.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/16 05:40 PM
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All finished! Hopefully it only went through once as I struggled with it in an area with little service. :)
/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 08:55 PM
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Last week was SO hard. I definitely made improvements in the STFU category but, as I mentioned, we just road tripped 16 hours and tent camped with an 18 month old so we were all under stress. High points included being really supportive to him during the aftermath of a car accident on a highway 2 hours into our trip by thanking him for staying calm and keeping us safe. Lows included freaking out on him when he couldn't find a place to pull over during a bathroom and baby puke emergency. We are n…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/16 05:39 PM
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I'm in! DH has two more work shifts and were off on a road trip and holiday in our home town. All the packing and travelling with a toddler will be a big challenge but I know it will be more smoothe without nagging and being passive aggressive.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/16 01:39 AM
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I'm was really pleased with the result of serving a surprise dessert on a regular work night supper. Made a black bean chocolate cake with chocolate drizzle and some chocolate dipped strawberries. He said, "I wasn't expecting dessert! Did you make this?!". Felt great to go beyond his expectations. I also learned to make a Caesar the other night and had one ready for him after work. I don't drink so I often forget about the enjoyment he can get from a nice drink after a long day.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/16 04:15 AM
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Love her, "Le No Makeup Look". :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/16 02:37 AM
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I have my in-laws visiting us this week from 16 hours away so our schedule and meals are going to be a bit different. I did a bit of baking before they arrived (a lemon loaf that was a flop and some Blueberry Muffins that totally rocked from Looneyspoons) to have snacks on hand. I had a tomato meat sauce with spaghetti squash prepared before their arrival yesterday but since then everyone has just been making their own meals for breakfast and lunch today.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/16 08:55 PM
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I used to comment on this subreddit and be more active on Reddit in general and am looking to get back to improving myself and RPW ways. About me: I am 27 years old, been married for 3 years and am mother to a 1.5 year old daughter. Currently I am a stay at home mom and wife. My husband works shift work and lots of overtime so running our household and taking care of the 3 of us is a full time job! DH recently undertook a huge career change and that resulted in a move 16 hours from nearest famil…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/16 02:18 AM
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I'm 7.5 months pregnant and living in Canada so I'm wearing a comfy t-shirt and some really stretchy warm pajama pants. When I'm up and about in mornings and before bed I wear a couple of nicer robes and slippers which, I hope, makes me look a bit more put together. Husband is pretty understanding that I haven't bought a whole maternity lingerie wardrobe, lol. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/14 05:46 PM
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I think that depends on the area you live in, what type of job you get, and the level of entrepreneurial know-how you have. I have many family members in the trades and my FIL has a very small but successful trades business. He and his wife own two homes outright and want for nothing.
/r/TheRedPill08/11/14 09:57 PM
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To say you won't have an HR department is quite shortsighted. HR is not just hiring and firing and sexual harassment claims. It's using correct recruitment and selection techniques in order to choose candidates that will do the job well that you will be able to retain for a long period of time (this saves you a lot of money, hiring and training is very expensive for an employer). HR is also key when ensuring dismissing employees is done correctly. You had best make sure you gave the correct amou…
/r/TheRedPill17/10/14 12:52 AM
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I love being bare-foot, pregnant, and in the kitchen these days. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 05:15 PM
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Acts of Service is one of my husbands love languages. I do a great act for him like making a thoughtful supper and washing his hockey gear in time for the game and he gives me the words of affirmation I crave. Win-win! :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 05:14 PM
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I do ribs where they cooked in a can of beer first in the oven covered by tinfoil. Here is the recipe I always use for Hoisin Chili Spare Ribs
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 05:10 PM
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Sexual activity doesn't always have to lead to intercourse. I'm a married woman and just because my husband and I get sexual doesn't mean it leads to intercourse every single time. Sometimes it's mutual masturbation or oral sex or just making out and cuddling over dinner and a drink at home. Not every feeling of sexual attraction has to result in intercourse.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 05:06 PM
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There is a long list of activities one can participate in before penis in vagina sex occurs. I didn't have intercourse with my now husband until we had been dating for about 4-5 weeks and were exclusive. We kissed on the second date, made out on the third, and progressed to other activities from there. Before I committed to having sex with him I wanted to be close enough to him for us to be able to talk about our sexual histories (partners, STD's, thoughts on birth control) and to know he wasn't…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 05:04 PM
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We were engaged about 2.5 years after dating and married 7 months after that. We did a super small wedding/elopement with 15 guests (parents, siblings, and 4 close friends) in a resort town a few hours away from our home. This made the wedding planning process short and low stress and the cost of the wedding more affordable. We could have done it even cheaper but wanted to have a really nice experience for our guests and ourselves (amazing food, high end accommodations, etc.). We didn't do a hon…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 02:03 AM
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I'd love to strive to do this. Husband works at 7 each weekday morning and is often out the door by 6:15. This is pretty early for me as I have evening classes for college a couple days a week and don't get home until 9:00. I think the days where I don't have a late night I should give it a try.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 12:36 AM
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My now husband and I had schedules where he would often leave for work much earlier than I would need to be up the next day. This meant I would get up and maybe fold some laundry and leave it on the bed, change the sheets if we'd gotten them dirty, or put our dinner dishes away. He was always really appreciative of this and would let me know. I was staying over a couple nights a week and was generating mess so it made sense I helped clean up.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 12:33 AM
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Too faint for what? A faint line still indicates a positive because it is picking up pregnancy hormones. Not saying that means this is a real test she took, just that line faintness doesn't mean a woman isn't pregnant.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/14 12:25 AM
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My husband and I tried for one cycle and I am now pregnant at 25 with our first. I was so grateful and I knew that having a child now, even though there are times that would be more convenient, was the right decision. I have many friends who struggle either with infertility problems or just with not being knowledgeable enough to know about when they are ovulating, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/14 01:09 PM
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I'm 25 and pregnant with my first.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/14 01:05 PM
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I semi-eloped in a winter wedding and wore a knee length dress. I wore my hair completely back in a beautiful chignon with a side part. I recently saw a friend get married who opted for hair down with loose waves. By the end of the night her hair was oily, frizzy, not at all wavy, and I'd seen her push it off her face and out of her lipgloss at least a dozen times. I knew having a professional up-do would mean that it looked more or less exactly the same all night and in photos and would look mu…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/14 02:23 AM
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Husband and I both work 37.5 hours work weeks and I also take 6 hours of college classes per week while I take a compressed summer course. Because of this, he has been helping me out with the chores I most often do because two nights a week I'm going almost directly from work to school and have homework at least one other evening. We enjoy cleaning house together with some good music on weekends so this isn't too big of a deal. :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/14 07:16 PM
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I'm not sure what skill sets you have but taking a beginner bookkeeping course, or similar, would allow you to assist him in some aspects of his future business and save your family money by not having to hire someone right away to take care of those tasks.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/14 01:57 PM
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This YouTuber and author is always impeccably dressed. She recommends a high quality 10 item wardrobe where you have key pieces in your closet and then supplement those with simpler basics to make different looks. She has some amazing videos. I don't think I've been dressing very well these days. Summer is just not my season. I love the look of well structured coats and leather boots and hand knitted scarves and gloves and I can never pull off the same level of togetherness with just a few piece…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 10:19 PM
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I met my now husband online. We hugged on the first date, kissed on the second, made out and cuddled on the third. I think I got my period at that point and that kept things out of my pants for a good week but we still got nice and close on dates. It was when we planned a weekend camping trip and he referred to me as his girlfriend that I told him I was ready to do it that weekend. It was nearly a month from the time we first met in person until that camping trip. I think I waited so long becaus…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/14 10:15 PM
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Muscles take dedication to obtain and maintain and so if I see a man with an athletic physique I know he has discipline.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 03:38 AM
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Ugh, no. Finances are a weak area for us, even though we make decent money. My husband handles it fairly well but I'm not sure how I can improve the situation without making him feel like I'm criticizing him or that I don't trust him to keep up with the money. We have debt and I wish we were free of that. We both work full time right now, he earns more than me, and we also do a part-time job together for supplemental income. We have enough coming in, we just need to curb it going out!
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/14 03:34 AM
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If you haven't already visited r/rabrathatfits you should do that and measure yourself. How about Bravissimo for cute lingerie?
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/14 03:10 PM
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It's possible. Do exercise that helps you build muscle but eat more calories. Your body doesn't defy the laws of thermodynamics so if you eat more you will not lose as much weight.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/14 11:59 PM
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I always feel negative about my body in shorts and then I switch to a skirt and feel so much more confident. With shorts I am really aware of every bit of thigh skin and when I get a skirt on it draws the attention more towards my excellent waist to hip ratio and I feel more feminine and modest.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/14 11:54 PM
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At night: Oil cleansing to remove makeup and clean face. I rub about a quarter size amount of the oil in my hands and massage all over face for 1-2 minutes. I use the recipe for Balanced Skin found here for my oil. Use a soft cloth that's been run under hot water to remove the oil and makeup. If I have time I repeat the hot cloth step several time s and let the cloth sit on my skin for a while which feels really relaxing at the end of the night. Apply 1-2 pumps of Clinique's Dramatically Differe…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/14 12:42 AM
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I am terribly sorry for your loss. My family has experienced a sudden death and it is awful and we miss them but with time we have had many new and good experiences despite wishing they were here with us to enjoy them. Do not hesitate to seek out grief counseling in your area, group or alone. Again, I'm so sorry you are hurting.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/14 02:03 PM
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Met my husband on E-Harmony! You are clearly not alone here! :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/14 03:51 PM
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We both enjoy cooking and are not picky eaters which means we have a lot of variety in our meals and that we don't at all mind eating healthily. We have slightly different interests in snack food so when we have treats he goes for the sweet chocolate things and I go for salty pickled flavours. Because of this I've learned to make pudding and pie and other things he loves.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/14 07:48 PM
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Their website tells me it's great for grout and hard water stains.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/14 03:21 AM
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The bathroom is one room I really enjoy cleaning. I think it's because mine are tiny and it goes quickly but has a nice impact from the hallway, haha. I'm not sure what is in them, but I use Mr. Clean Magic Erasers for my bathroom. I give the sink a wipe down with one a few times a week and give the tub a serious scrub with one when it needs it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/14 02:33 AM
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Wow, a lot of her other submissions are really amazing also!
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/14 08:55 PM
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If my husband was to drop dead today I would hope to have the opportunity to fall in love and have another excellent relationship. I am 25 years old and have had no children yet so I think that having to spend the next 60 or so of my years "alone" and thinking about all the things I didn't get to do sounds pretty terrible. I'm certain my husband wouldn't be interested in me never remarrying as he knows I very much would like to be a mother and would like for me to not be lonely. I would want him…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/14 03:42 AM
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I'm out of town right now but I'd be willing to PM you the program if you remind me in a couple days! :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/14 02:11 AM
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Things like high intensity interval training over steady state cardio. I can't really speak to the efficacy. I just enjoy the program and it's a mix of exercises I like and that challenge me. My favourite trainer at the gym made the program for me so she knows what I like and knows a bit about my injuries I've had so it was really convenient.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/14 11:53 PM
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I do a 4 day a week push/pull weight training routine that includes since Olympic lifts, some dumbbell exercises, some bodyweight exercises, etc. I try to do a bit of metabolic conditioning during the week and probably walk the 30 minutes to work 1 to 2 times in the morning. Currently trying to cut a few pounds so attempting for around consuming 1500 calories.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/14 06:07 PM
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I used to insert my opinions about what my husband wore but I have ceased to do that unless he asks me or unless it's something I could imagine myself wanting to know (Did you know there's a hole in that? Oh, there's a stain on those!). He has recently been more interested in dressing well and he likes to take me shopping for an extra set of eyes for fit, colours, and good bargains. He loves when I lay out work clothes for him. A pair of Carhartts, t shirt, socks, undershirt, underwear on the ba…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/14 11:23 PM
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You can be controlling in many other ways. You can withdraw affection and sex which is very commonly used as a control tactic for people to get their way, you can revoke privileges or gifts, you can control someone through exploiting their weaknesses which you should be pretty familiar with in a relationship. Being controlling doesn't have to mean being a violent domineering individual. Question for you, what does a controlling woman look like in a relationship? Does that also only mean violence…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/14 03:20 PM
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Something beyond general small talk. I'd been dating a young man my own age a few months prior and I always found the conversations superficial.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 12:27 PM
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Had my first date with my now husband when I was 20 and I was 27. That seemed very old and established and mature to me. I noticed adult conversation, confidence, interesting job, home owner, zero friend drama, strong traditional with his family, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/14 05:55 AM
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I have to wonder why your friend would do this. It seems like she was looking to stir up some sort of reaction from you or your boyfriend and therefore create drama for her entertainment.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/14 10:59 PM
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I wouldn't want to have children outside of marriage so if a man didn't want to get married then I wouldn't bother my time having an LTR with him because I definitely want children.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/14 10:34 PM
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This isn't so helpful in a physical way, but this seems to help my husband mentally. Whenever he is working on a task that I don't have much expertise in I will ask him to explain some simple aspect of it to me. He lights up when I ask him to teach me something because it shows I respect his knowledge in that subject and he has an opportunity to show off in that aspect.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/14 07:24 PM
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Totally. I'm in Western Canada and it is gorgeously sunny and hot today but by the weekend it will be raining and cloudy again. :(
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 11:54 PM
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Right now I'm having a hard time transitioning into summer. I had a winter wardrobe I really liked last season and getting dressed was enjoyable and simple. Now I feel like my clothes are cheap and not flattering. I'm planning on wearing more skirts and dresses with cardigans and denim jackets and flats or wedge sandals.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/14 03:46 PM
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That's so cool. I look forward to the day we have a yard and garage for my husband to explore these types of things.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 09:07 PM
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When he is able to pop out of bed at 2:00 am and head to work because he got called out with zero complaints never ceases to amaze me. He even sometimes gets called out just a couple hours after he got home from work and goes without any bitching. I support him for these eventualities by making sure he has clean work clothes all the time and by shoving a water bottle and a granola bar and a piece of fruit into his bag because I know he'll get hungry and thirsty but won't stop work to fix that. H…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/14 07:55 PM
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A cottage pie is actually the correct term for a shepherd's pie made with beef where a traditional shepherd's pie would be made with lamb. So, it's just browned ground beef with simple veggies like onion, carrots, and peas topped with mashed potatoes (yam or sweet potato) and I top it with cheese. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/14 03:44 AM
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We didn't ask. We just made the meals and then said we had some food for them.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 07:09 PM
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My friend had a preemie and I cooked them cottage pies and lasagnas in disposable aluminum containers and stocked their deep freezer for them. They are still cooking them on nights when they are busy. Whenever I'm visiting I fold the baskets of tiny baby clothes and millions of receiving blankets and I've taken her preschooler for the day so she can sleep.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/14 05:33 PM
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I finished my second to last semester of my degree which was a big accomplishment as I took too many classes! I'll never have to take that many courses at once again but I learned some great skills from being that busy. My tips for students are to find a couple of great study buddies that know the subject a bit better than you. This really helped me increase my grades in more challenging classes. My goals for this week are to get caught up around the house and to start putting away some of my wi…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/14 05:59 PM
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You must not spend much time around children. Babies can need that hour long process 8 times a day. Then if the baby is having a bad day and cries whenever you put him down you have your hands literally full. And toddlers and preschoolers don't just let you clean up in the morning and then keep it tidy for you. They will create constant mess and require someone to keep an eye on them to make sure they don't hurt themselves or get in to trouble. Older babies also demand constant snacks and entert…
/r/TheRedPill16/04/14 02:17 PM
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I love how the brunette girl that was there chose to wear a skin tight mini skirt to etiquette class. Not.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/14 02:41 AM
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I'm constantly overwhelmed by the sheer amount of "stuff" we have accumulated. My husband owned a condo before we ever met and I think we are starting to outgrow it. I really feel that organization will become more simple when I have rooms designated for certain activities instead of combo rooms like living room/dining room and office/storage/craft room.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/14 12:28 AM
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I use these phrases and I haven't had any complaints: "I'd love it if you would..." "I'd appreciate it if you would you please do xyz." "I'm was unable to do x, would you please help?"
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/14 12:25 AM
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I have much younger siblings too. It was really nice to be able to have that experience with young children. Now that I'm an adult I'm not intimidated by newborns, babies, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/14 09:33 PM
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The point I'm trying to make is that none of those very thin women are 34B and 34C's. They are probably in the range of 26-30 DD-F. Edit: Not looking to be argumentative. :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/14 03:23 AM
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Ack, incorrect bra information! To /r/abrathatfits, with you! Ie: DD is not that big at all, true B cup breasts are very uncommon.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/14 12:29 AM
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I really enjoy the Fallout franchise and I love The Sims and playing Civilization 5.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/14 06:15 PM
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I'll complete a Bachelor of Business Administration in December. I have no student debt because I have worked the whole way through my degree. The lifestyle that my husband wants for us requires us both to work at this time and me having a degree means I can work smarter, not harder. He wants to own a vacation property and nice vehicles and have the ability to travel a lot later on in life and that is very hard to do with only one income.
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/14 04:01 PM
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Katy Perry is quite the party girl and Russell Brand has recovered from serious drug addictions. He was interested in settling down and staying sober and I don't think she was.
/r/TheRedPill27/03/14 05:16 AM
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My husband LOVES when I dress in an athletic/cute/sporty look. He really likes me in a pair of leggings, bright sneakers, a cute head band, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/14 08:52 PM
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I really love wearing skirts and dresses and I've successfully done so more often in the last 6 months. Something that really helped me incorporate wearing more skirts and dresses in the cooler months was purchasing a pair of tall leather boots and pair of heeled leather booties. When paired with tights, this made most skirts acceptable attire in the the fall and winter so long as I was wearing good outerwear, etc. Almost without fail, if I wear a skirt to work, I receive compliments. There is o…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/14 02:31 AM
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Just eat the meat sauce or put it on zucchini or spaghetti squash.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/14 10:00 PM
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I will graduate with a useful degree (Business) in December and I'm completely motivated to finish even though it has been a long haul and I've had some really crappy semesters. Some of mine and my husbands long-term goals require us to make a significant amount of money so me having more earning power means that will be entirely more possible. He is really supportive of me earning a degree to the point where he would be angry if I dropped out as we have invested a lot of time and money in to th…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/14 09:59 PM
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Thanks! I am 25, husband is 32. :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/14 05:18 PM
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Was ballet dancer, can already do splits. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/14 02:53 PM
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I would be reproducing by being aware of my cycle and having sex more frequently during my fertile days. I'm not on any birth control so there isn't much preparation needed. Husband and I just need to say go. I will be having and raising children with my husband. I will soon have a degree and would like to work in a field related to that at certain points in my life. I'm just going to have to see when I have children what I feel my capacity for work is and what opportunities are available to me.…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/14 01:07 AM
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So, am I right in my understanding that you want children and your partner does not?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/14 12:57 AM
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They don't have to be activities held by the school. What about dance classes, sports teams, swimming lessons, summer camp, and the interaction they'd have from siblings, cousins, etc.?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/14 12:56 AM
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I'm in a condo right now so no gardening for me. I think we may be in a house or in a position to think about that in a year or so.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/14 05:37 PM
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Road trips and camping and visiting out of town friends! I'm really looking forward to a few long weekend trips and then maybe one longer vacation. I've also started some bigger spring cleaning projects like completely wiping down and sanitizing the fridge and cleaning windows and blinds, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/14 05:33 PM
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"That's fine." "If that's what you want." "I'm not mad.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/14 05:01 PM
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Yummy and healthy cooking Cleaning Travel companion (packing, keeping us on time) Gym partner Canning Holiday planning (decorate the house and make it festive) Knitting Book reading (we read many of the same ones and discuss) Youth (younger by 7 years) Social planner Lover Earning potential (useful degree) Good communication skills De-stressor Dance partner
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/14 05:32 AM
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I would recommend ballet classes as a great source of culture for women. While learning ballet you can: exercise listen to and learn about classical music, maybe even with live accompaniment learn about the history of a very old art form become more graceful learn to take critiques learn about some very classic love stories depicted in ballets learn to express yourself using your body and face Source: I am a person who did a lot of ballet as a teenager/young lady. I try to do drop-ins a few time…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/14 05:11 AM
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One of the main tenets of most religions is to not judge others because you are not fit to judge them. Don't blame religion on you just being judgemental.
/r/askTRP08/03/14 06:44 AM
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Miranda Kerr, Victoria's Secret model, said the following in an article: “I think it is really important not to feel as a woman that you have to do and be everything. I am quite dominant in my career, so what really works for me when I come home is to relax more into my feminine side. If you’re really an alpha female, you don’t allow [your partner] to have the space to feel like the man in the relationship. Maybe I am too traditional, but men feel important when you ask for their help, instead o…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/14 08:54 PM
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I felt really feminine yesterday in a knee length dress with black tights and black leather boots with a white fitted cardigan with a belt around the waist and a nice coat. I also wore a brightly colourful knitted hat and scarf set from my mother in law that I felt looked young and feminine.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/14 07:25 PM
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If you have any root veggies on hand make sure to put those under and around the chicken. The flavours will mix together nicely and you'll have an instant side with no extra dishes made. Onions, carrots, parsnips, yam, and sweet potato are my favourite veggies with chicken.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/14 01:52 AM
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I met my husband's parents for the first time at their lake house which really took the pressure off because it was casual. I believe I wore a sun dress and a denim jacket. While your SO likes leggings in not sure most of the middle aged crowd considers them pants. I'd wear a pair of nice jeans (no big tears and no really low rise) and a t shirt and cardigan with flats.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/14 05:19 PM
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I had a Facebook "friend" post this article. The photo on her Newsfeed right below the article is a "boudoir" pic where she is pretty much lying seductively wearing panties and not much else...that oughta attract the long term mates.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/14 12:09 AM
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A female co-worker of mine is an INFJ and we get along swimmingly (I'm an ENFJ).
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/14 05:36 AM
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What if she engages him after he does those things and he just tries to humiliate her again or teases her about going back on her word or not being able to last 90 days? How can she trust him to act civilly when he hasn't built any trust that he can do so? This sounds like such an awful experience.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/14 03:45 PM
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I'm not sure how she could say that he doesn't seem depressed. Some of the main indicators for depression are not getting things done at work or school, not feeling like getting out of bed, not doing usual enjoyable activities, laziness, tiredness, and so on. This would be a deal breaker in a relationship for me. Not only is he ruining his own life but he is now encouraging her to do the same and to stop activities that she enjoys and make her money? This is a bizarre situation, indeed.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/14 07:25 PM
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My husband calls this "cultivating" relationships and he often encourages me to call people and make plans and put myself out there. He has some very tight knit friendships with men he's known since kindergarten. I don't really have those relationships and it's challenging. Most of his friends have awesome wives and over the past 5 years I've come to know them a lot better. I think those are the women who I should foster relationships with.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/14 07:17 PM
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I'm in my second to last semester. It can be a real struggle to prioritize things. :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/14 07:09 PM
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I'm 7 years younger. Currently in my mid twenties and he's early thirties.
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/14 05:46 PM
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Great. We're about 11 months in. :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 01:56 AM
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How long have you been married...I didn't consider that with the ages, haha.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 01:48 AM
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We had a great Superbowl weekend by going out of town a few hours to spend the weekend with another couple and their baby and watch the game on Sunday. The guys did a couple hikes and moved around some furniture and the ladies tended the baby and did trips to the grocery store to plan yummy meals. We made the most amazing shish kebabs and the guys grilled some big steaks. We all watched the game and cheered and laughed and had a great weekend.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 01:47 AM
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I'm another EHarmony-er and we're the same ages pretty much, ourselves and spouses.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/14 01:37 AM
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We met online through a dating site, the first thing I noticed was that he had a lot of interesting things to say and that conversation came easily for us and physically how fair he was (so blonde with blue eyes). We were together almost 4 years at marriage and were 24 and 31 when we said our vows.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/14 12:03 AM
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I'm looking forward to: Completing weeks 3-12 of the Jamie Eason Live Fit Trainer program from Bodybuilding.com (weeks 1-2 have been great) Finishing my last 2 semesters of my Bachelor of Business Admin. degree! Maybe start trying for our first little one (very end of year) Supporting my husband as he goes through some potential career changes This next year is going to be really big for us if my husbands career changes happen. It would mean being separated for a while and then doing a move! I'm…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/14 12:32 AM
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I began a new workout program last Monday so I'm onto Week 2 this evening. I chose the Jamie Eason LiveFit Trainer from Bodybuilding.com. I also did some good food prep yesterday so we have lots of turkey spaghetti sauce and quinoa in the fridge! Nothing else to report on, lol.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/14 01:14 AM
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I'm having a hard time following along because I chose an audio book version so there obviously aren't page numbers, etc. sigh I'll have to re listen.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/14 06:26 AM
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My first was a boyfriend I started dating towards the end on high school and continued to date for 4 years. We waited about 2 years to have sex so it wasn't a decision we made lightly and my next partner after him was my husband. I knew him well, we still bump into each other and have lots of mutual friends so I'd say he's on my mind from time to time but I don't still have feelings for him. I just have good memories because we did a lot of growing up together through the ages of 17-20.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/14 04:58 AM
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I've been trying to ask myself before I say or do things, "What purpose does this serve?". If I go ahead and complain or demand something or interrogate my husband I know the situation is going to become inflamed and that the day/evening will be ruined. Am I complaining just for the sake of getting something off my chest or to make him feel grumpy like I might be feeling? If so, it's not worth saying and I need to clear my head and look at the bigger picture.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/14 12:45 AM
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If you join in with the upcoming book club (The Surrendered Wife) the book has a short section on what to do/say when your partner says something you feel was hurtful/upsetting, etc. I won't spoil it for everyone else but it's a really short book so might be worth a scan.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/14 12:41 AM
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I'm super excited for this! I started listening on my audio book version while on a walk yesterday! Ultimate productivity!
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/14 02:21 AM
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When I woke up my husband was playing Skyrim on the computer so I got up and brought him a coffee. I wasn't quite ready for eating breakfast so I started doing some chores and got quite a lot done: changed cat litter, cleaned bathrooms, unloaded dishwasher and made kitchen look lovely, made bed, threw in laundry. He actually came out of the office and complimented all the work I'd done and said thank you. I'm a words of affirmation girl so this made my day. :) Loved waking up to this thread.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/14 07:15 PM
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Well, I met my husband online. We moved in together after only 8 months. Seems short but it worked for us at the time and we had no issues. We were engaged about 3 years after starting to date but had been talking about our future together for a very long time before that. In fact, while a bit drunk one day, he told me he'd marry me one day. :) We had a 7 month engagement before our small wedding. We only had about 15 guests. This made a lot of people angry but a big party wasn't what we wanted …
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/14 11:25 PM
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Haven't really considered that. I've known my friend for 13 years and my husband for 5 so it's not like he's never had an opportunity with other guys out of the picture. I just don't think we're attracted to each other that way.
/r/askTRP04/01/14 04:37 PM
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Holy smokes, it's just a term of endearment I have for the man I love. We have lots for each other. We're newlyweds, give me a break.
/r/askTRP04/01/14 04:34 PM
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Perhaps. I've known him for a long time and there have been long periods where we've both been single and he's never tried to put moves on me or asked me out.
/r/askTRP04/01/14 03:37 AM
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I am a married woman and have a male friend whom I've known since we were about 13. We went to school together and were both very successful in the dance world in our cities, sometimes performing together. He is probably the most genuine, consistent friend I have left from school. We get together a few times a year, my hubby and I maybe have dinner with his parents and family, we'll go Christmas shopping, talk about our careers, etc. He's not in a relationship and I don't believe he is gay.
/r/askTRP03/01/14 11:58 PM
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What about something like this? Great jeans/pants, button up blouse, cardigan or other sweater on top depending on the season. Or what about a tunic and leggings look like so? This can span a lot of seasons by wearing flats or wedges or tall warm boots and switching the top for a sweater dress.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/14 07:54 PM
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I mean, you haven't said how much the offer was, but I'm guessing the offer is decent. I've been let go from a job before after 1.5 years with the basic ESA requirements and it really stings, but it's the way it works. This could be a lot worse, so long as you can get a basic letter of recommendation or at least something that confirms your dates of employment and job duties I'd say you aren't in that bad of a position. Try to learn from the experience and apply that to your next job.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/13 07:36 PM
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So, you have been employed by them for how long total? I'm not sure what province or territory you are in but in BC, for example, section 63 of the ESA states that an employee who has been employed for 3 months but less than 2 years service is only entitled to a minimum 2 weeks of pay in lieu of notice. There is also a common law component when determining how much notice or pay is reasonable and that takes in to consideration your length of service, your level of compensation, availability of s…
/r/TheRedPill19/12/13 03:52 PM
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It seems as though they've fulfilled their obligations under the Employment Standards Act by providing severance in lieu of notice. I think that you're going to be hard pressed to get those demands now that you've signed off on their offer, except maybe for the letter of reference, which would depend on the relationship you have.
/r/TheRedPill19/12/13 02:48 AM
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Not only is my dad a plumber, but I married into a family where my FIL owns a plumbing business and where my BIL's are set to take over the business. I'm set for all my plumbing needs!
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/13 08:28 PM
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What makes a job important? Do you have to save lives or make tons of money to be proud of your career? I think people have a skewed idea of what HR is supposed to be and I hope this next next generation of HR professionals can really change that. HR may not make money in and of itself, but preventing litigation and employee turnover and training people efficiently and trying to give them greater job satisfaction sure saves the company money in the big picture. I don't have a career in HR. I'm a…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/13 05:53 PM
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HR also handles compensation and benefits, the hiring and firing of employees in a legal manner, labour relations in unionized environments, health and safety, performance reviews, organizational change and behaviour, job evaluation and training, disciplinary actions, and so on. HR goes way beyond the scope of sexual harassment claims.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/13 04:20 AM
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Why do you refer to a career in HR as "makework"?
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/13 12:28 AM
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Just reheat a plate of whatever was for dinner or have a crockpot meal.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/13 02:11 AM
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Carpentry. Much more useful for projects all over the house.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/13 05:06 AM
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I listened to it on audiobook and really enjoyed it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/13 12:52 AM
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Did you mean saturated fat? That's the type found in meats, dairy, coconut oil, etc. where unsaturated is prevalent in lots of cooking oils. Good advice about the weights, I love my Olympic lifting.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/13 01:56 PM
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What I like about E-Harmony is that you can't just go hunting through profiles to find people. You fill out a detailed profile and then the site matches you with groups of people who meet those parameters. You can set importance levels so that while you may prefer a guy who is over 6 feet and one who has a strong faith...you can choose which of these you prefer to be more important in the search. It also guided you through a communication process which includes exchanging 10 must-have and can't-…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/13 12:53 AM
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I'm 24 and I met my husband (married for a few months) when I was 20 and he was 27. I met my husband online through E-Harmony. I thought I'd give it a try, I filled out my profile thoroughly and made it clear that I'd indicated I was looking for a relationship that would lead to marriage and children. I used nice photos, one right after a haircut and one photo of me doing ballet. I talked about my interests: cooking, being active, camping, spending time with family, etc. Before that I had one lo…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/13 09:59 PM
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My first date with my now husband was a cup of tea and a walk and he insisted on paying. I had my wallet at the ready, though. :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/13 02:51 AM
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My parents were divorced when I was 3 years old so I didn't really have much of an opportunity to see how a two-parent household operated, whether it be red or blue pill. I did, however, see my mom go through a series of crappy relationships with men (not great men) where she would shit-test and nag and play other mind games only to have the relationships end dramatically. My mom tells me every single relationship she has ever been in has ended with a man cheating on her. I knew from a young age…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/13 10:37 PM
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I moved in with my boyfriend after about 8 months together. We were practically spending every evening together anyway. We had talked about the future ahead of time and that if all goes well that we were interested in marrying each other. 2.5 years later, or so, we were engaged and we were married 7 months later. I moved in at age 21, he was 28. The engagament took so long probably because of my age and financial aspects of me being a student and him mostly supporting me.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/13 03:09 PM
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