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kellyleaklives/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 08:41 PM
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kellyleaklives/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 10:10 PM
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"If divorce won't leave you miserable a lot of women wouldn't leave." Bulls-eye.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 11:05 PM
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Not only should you be there, you should have 2 or 3 trusted friends present. You can't be upstairs, downstairs and in the basement all at the same time.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 10:56 PM
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Is there another woman alive who benefitted more and showed less gratitude to her husband? Which is of course the reason she's held up as some kind of secular saint by mainstream culture.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 10:54 PM
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Right: it's the law that's creating this situation. Throughout human history, the choice was: either remain my wife or leave: without my money, my home, my children. But when women today say they want to "leave," that means engaging the state (i.e. men with guns and prisons) to remove the husband from his life, which is an insane amount of power to give one person over another.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 10:47 PM
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I think you're dead on. It's precisely an example of moral hazard: if, for women, the option to staying married were actually leaving (alone, without hijacking the children) and going out in the world to fend for themselves, divorce would drop dramatically.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 10:42 PM
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Great points. I agree completely. I think the dynamic of the conversation will change when life gets harder again. I think since WWII we have lived in a kind of stability and comfort that will not last forever. It took tremendous sacrifice to create the postwar infrastructure (cultural, financial, economic, social) that makes you-go-girl possible. We've been living on that cultural capital like an irresponsible trust fund kid, and the bill will eventually come due. As America gets more fractured…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 09:14 PM
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That's a very even-handed assessment. There are two questions here: feeling disrespect and expressing it. Regarding the latter, you're right: men keep things under wraps out of masculine pride, so as not to appear weak, henpecked, ineffectual. But as to feeling those negative feelings in the first place (and it's very hard to approach scientifically) in my life I don't feel my friends, brothers, colleagues, etc. having that impulse to criticize, judge and deride their wives. Whereas the wives I …
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 09:12 PM
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This man knows what he’s talking about.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/22 01:15 PM
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Apparently I put up what you find to be an ambiguous post, and it confused you. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men27/06/22 04:04 PM
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https://www.boston25news.com/news/-islam-is-right-about-women-odd-signs-spark-confusion-in-local-town/987837653/?outputType=amp
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 03:47 PM
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If you don’t want kids, there’s an easy answer: don’t get married. If you do, I have no idea how you truly protect yourself and your kids from the Divorce Machine. If there is a way, I’m not aware of it. I will say that it was an extremely pleasant surprise to learn that my state defaults to joint physical and legal. You will still be stripped of much of your property, and I don’t want to minimize that. But for me, the fact that my kids are with me under my roof half the time (and when they beco…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 03:44 PM
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“Due to past trauma, she gauged every action on what effect it would have on her.” Great insight. This is the one I never saw coming. Her father was a wreck (booze/drugs, abandoned family, emotionally unstable) and any display of what she saw as weakness on my part (treatable depression, normal struggles at work, raised voice in an argument 2-3x per year) meant I was careening off the rails and was about to blow up her life. Her unregulated instinct for self-preservation distorted her mind to th…
/r/Divorce_Men26/06/22 01:57 PM
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My God, man, don’t blow this lead. Be systematic and emotionless and you can make this a reality. The very best of luck!
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/22 07:25 PM
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Yes! As soon as we tie our sense of self-worth to another person’s idea of “happiness,” we’re fucked. It’s a recipe for slavery and ultimately, some kind of mental breakdown.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 10:16 PM
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So many good responses here, but this struck a chord with me: forgetting who the fuck I am anymore. I look back at all my apologizing, crying, promising to change and I wonder who the fuck that was and how that happened to me.
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/22 10:12 PM
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Sounds like fish stew.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/22 10:56 PM
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Oh brother, I hear you.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/22 10:50 PM
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I think the reason this sub is so helpful is because, as contemporary fathers (in the U.S. at least), we become totally isolated from any kind of situation in which we can communicate with anyone constructive or sympathetic. Family has always been my priority, so I’ve fallen out of touch with most of my friends. My wife never really wanted to hear anything about my inner life, at least nothing that involved sadness, fear, vulnerability or anger. And I also think Big Tech has moved so decisively …
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/22 04:49 PM
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Thanks guy. I’ll keep that in mind.
/r/Divorce_Men25/05/22 12:41 AM
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Please stop talking about yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 11:44 PM
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Oh my God. Just please be quiet. Please. Stop it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 11:43 PM
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That’s what’s so liberating: not to have to beg her, or live under the threat of her power. The word “visitation” used to freak me out, that I would be just a visitor in my son’s life, serving at the whim of the woman (and directly behind her, all the power of the State). It’s like for the first time in my marriage: truly equal partnership!
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 11:33 PM
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This is so helpful. I think I jumped to conclusions based on the divorces of my friends' parents in the 70s and 80s, when the father was pretty much airbrushed out of the picture like a Soviet politician fallen into disfavor.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 10:37 PM
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This is a great point. I understand that it's bad for parents to run each other down in front of the children, no argument there. But as they grow, your kids are going to come to you at some point for the truth.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 10:33 PM
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"Parenting time FIRST, always. Nothing else can be agreed on until that is decided." I'm burning this into my brain. Thank you!
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 10:30 PM
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This seems dangerous to me. Only you know the woman you work with, but my advice would be to maintain that separation between business and personal. You work from home -- do you use Slack or similar? Make sure you're aware of your companies information policies and remember: those communications are all discoverable in a lawsuit.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 10:25 PM
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He is 8 years old. It's great to hear that 50/50 is working for you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 10:21 PM
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Oh my God. Jump a freight train. Join the French Foreign Legion. Ask Elon Musk to send you to Mars. Anything, just don't marry this woman.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 09:45 PM
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It took me a long long time to realize that apologizing to a woman is asking for more abuse.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 09:36 PM
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My brain is exploding at how similar my experience is to you guys'. The female tendency you're talking about here almost killed my identity entirely. I hated myself and couldn't figure out why I just wasn't good enough. I was lucky to find a brilliant (female!) therapist who just wasn't having my wife's bullshit and shined a light on everything that was going on. I consider myself a reasonably smart, strong person but my wife had me tied up in knots.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/22 09:33 PM
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“The therapist is taking your side” = I’m no longer able to keep us trapped in a closed loop in which I am the sole arbiter of truth and I can use your good faith to make you doubt the evidence of your eyes and ears.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/22 08:48 PM
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This is so great. Thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 06:20 PM
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Hey man, thanks for the info. Really really helpful for me. Glad to hear you're on an upward path.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 11:37 PM
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Solid choice. My wife fell for all the same things: little older, good job, wears a suit, functional understanding of how to navigate the world — and married that. She was horrified to find out that I’m actually a human being as well: with vulnerabilities, fears, and the rest of it. Now I’m trying to extricate myself from a hellish situation. Don’t be like me.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 09:46 PM
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I would love to know how your kids took it. I know you’re not supposed to stay together for the kids, but thats why I haven’t filed. Were yours devastated? How old are they? Thanks if you can provide any color on this.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 08:27 PM
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There's a lot of wisdom in this ^
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 02:42 PM
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Stay off the bridge. For me, the most important relationship in my life is with my kids, and that's all I really need. Life is too random to say that being socially isolated indicates that a guy is a defective human being.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 02:40 PM
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