kennotheking Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	[FR] AA is bitching me around		kennotheking	/r/seduction	09/02/18 06:13 PM

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1	How to behave in bed Why are you sleeping together? If this is like some group trip, just genuinely have fun. Literally, just be the guy that brings fun to the group. Even when she's not around. I've seen guys flirt with like every single girl in these social circle things and it just looks desperate - fun does not mean being flirty...that comes off as validation seeking. Also, believe me, just as you are asking about this, she is probably talking to her friends about how an unwanted advance is absolutely on her min…	/r/seduction	31/12/18 10:57 PM
–	How to look beyond someone's appearance and into who they really are? Are you practicing cold approach? What's the context here?	/r/seduction	31/12/18 10:26 PM
2	Me[18m] have sexual performance anxiety with my gf [18f] Just focus on the sensations. Don't even worry about "performance." Maybe even try having a few drinks before hand. Also, stop all porn/ejaculation until you're issue solves itself - cuz that's exactly what's gonna happen. It will take a few times so don't fret.	/r/seduction	31/12/18 10:18 PM
1	Last week at the club I danced with 10+ girls that turned into long conversations with most of them, but this week I got rejected every single time. What did I do wrong? Of course you did better with an attractive female friend and are simply having a good time. If you didn't drink anything and were there to "practice pickup" with another guy, scanning the room for meat, no girl's gonna open up - even with the smoothest opens. Work on your vibe - something about the way you and your friend were acting, what you wore, not providing fun, etc. turned them off.	/r/seduction	31/12/18 09:58 PM
–	NYE field report - Absolute shitshow 🤦‍♂️think I was being groomed for a threesome with another guy I can relate to the desperation for some action lol. I've met up a couple times with girls who invited their friends or had friends joining and it was always a cockblock scenario. The last time a dude joined me on a date, I dipped in like half an hour. If she was going to invite a friend, I'd just be like "umm, maybe we can meet another time then" - be willing to walk away if they don't meet under favorable terms (ie a scenario where logistics allow for a smooth pull). Understand that, if you st…	/r/seduction	31/12/18 06:53 PM
1	24 y/o and never had a girlfriend. Never even gave a tiny kiss. Fed up with it. I wanna become the greatest pick up guy of history. These are very nice words and thoughts. What actions are you committing to? By when?	/r/seduction	18/12/18 03:45 AM
1	Social media SUCKS if you're not a conformist Agreed. Also, she’s a club girl with everyone vying for her attention...even if you had a stout social media page I doubt she’d respond. When the fires hot, it’s time to cook!	/r/seduction	25/11/18 05:53 PM
7	Stop FAKING confidence, stop lying and stop trying to impress people. Stop trying to 'be alpha' - this doesn't just fail, it actively undoes your real confidence. This is the single biggest mistake there is. The right way is a lot harder, but works. That’s a good article. I like how you define confidence and think you made some good points. I think it reinforces the prescription of just going out and putting yourself in situations that make you uncomfortable. I relate to what you say from my own experience where I still feel anxious before an approach but still act despite of it.	/r/seduction	07/09/18 07:32 PM
2	How do I respond to this? For content, her bip says shes an independent bad bitch and 1% of the time likes to be little spoon Probably a dude	/r/seduction	07/08/18 02:45 AM
1	I don't know what to do anymore That’s ok. You’re not supposed to be a dancing monkey. Be the vacuum. Strong eye contact and allow a girl to open up and connect. Your frame should be “what can I learn about this girl that I’d connect with?” Shit you can probably open with that. “Hey I thought you were elegant and wanted to see if we have similar interests” When you invite a person connect, and they reciprocate, you’ll naturally open up as well.	/r/seduction	06/07/18 09:25 PM
–	I don't know what to do anymore Practice showing your interest. Like AA, every guy struggles with this. Simple things like “you’re cute” “you look elegant” “I like your style” It’s super gradual. Touch to tease - never touch to cop a feel.	/r/seduction	06/07/18 06:38 PM
–	I don't know what to do anymore Try cold approaching girls. Perhaps its not you that's strange - perhaps its the weirdos you're finding on tinder. I don't think a girl with high value/self worth will invite you over or come straight to your place before seeing you in person.	/r/seduction	06/07/18 06:09 PM
–	Sense of self worth tied to relationship status. How do I fix this? I hope I'm not just wasting my time on this comment. Too many people here complain and don't do shit or half-ass things and give up. I jumped into 2 relationships because of that issue. My advice is to scratch that itch - you'll learn a bit about women, working as a team, practicing sex, saying "i love you," etc. But don't be in a relationship just to be in one - only commit to a girl who you really like (you'll realize what I mean after about 3 months with someone). The point I was trying to ma…	/r/seduction	06/07/18 05:56 PM
–	Sense of self worth tied to relationship status. How do I fix this? Are you asking for pity or advice?	/r/seduction	06/07/18 05:12 PM
2	Sense of self worth tied to relationship status. How do I fix this? You’ll never get anywhere with that mindset. How many nights per week do you go out to bars?	/r/seduction	06/07/18 05:01 PM
1	Middle eastern seduction ?! Go to western bars?	/r/seduction	06/07/18 04:39 PM
–	I want to get laid. I'm starting out. Have a solid interaction before getting her number. Text for logistics of the date and maybe a couple chit chatty things.	/r/seduction	06/07/18 04:36 PM
2	Sense of self worth tied to relationship status. How do I fix this? Never stop seducing other women. When you have choice, your self worth will click into place.	/r/seduction	06/07/18 04:30 PM
2	How you even get a date after college? Go to bars	/r/seduction	06/07/18 04:27 PM
1	SFV,Santa Monica, and around LA area hit me up	/r/seduction	13/06/18 05:49 PM
1	Creating stronger investment in night/bar game Nice! I heard that that kind of immersion can really fast-forward your progress. Have you gone back to other less party-centric cities (LA, NY, Miami, etc) to see if your skills are transferable?	/r/TheRedPill	21/03/18 06:28 AM
1	[FR] AA is bitching me around You were talking about Approach Optimism and "Buyer" frame and I agree that I need to focus on it as well. With that one set that went well, I did not expect that set to go well - my target was much cuter that what I'm used to. It struck me when she let her friend go to the bathroom by herself to stay in set with me that she was somewhat interested. I was in awe of it while, at the same time, trying to figure out what to do next...so I did subtle SOI's before ultimately pulling out the OG PUA sp…	/r/seduction	09/02/18 11:47 PM
1	[FR] Trying To Approach From A Better Frame Got it. Tonight's gonna be legit. We'll get a lot of sets in and get you at least a glimpse of your "buying" frame, which should help a lot.	/r/seduction	09/02/18 11:34 PM
–	[FR] Trying To Approach From A Better Frame Good shit man. That's funny how that dude dissed you on the first set. Dudes be getting feisty recently. I think you're quite proficient with opening and getting over AA.	/r/seduction	09/02/18 05:53 PM
–	Follow up on my last FR, a meta Q I envy you. I'm struggling but you're REALLY struggling. The times when we grow the most are when we go through these really tough struggles. This can take a little time but its going to be worth it and you're gonna come out far superior. Can you guess where we're going tonight? The same fucking bar where you met this chick. You're facing the beast and going to work on touching/escalating.	/r/seduction	21/11/17 11:51 PM
–	[FR] A Painful Lesson. Well, more pain than "lesson". Hey man - that was some good reflecting. What you're feeling is just a growing pain. You're no longer just trying to approach and plow...now you're actually trying to seduce. I know its uncomfortable and there's risk in losing the set by acting out your man-to-woman intentions but its necessary as that's ultimately what's expected from us as men (unless this girl is very sexually liberated which is rare). I used to be so scared of losing a set by expressing my intent but now I realize, I need to…	/r/seduction	19/11/17 05:35 PM
3	[FR] Notes on a Seated Set Yes. These are basically my thoughts as well. That said, we are in a position now where having fun and enjoying our conversations is a natural and default state for us. It seems like a lotta people struggle with this and it severely hinders their ability to progress/makes them jaded. But yes, I'm tired of engaging sets really well just for it to end with "nice meeting you." Note to self: grab your fucking balls and pepper in those statements of intent to move things forward. I feel like there's …	/r/seduction	19/01/17 09:56 AM
1	If anyone cares, I'm doing an iama. I'm Tony D. They really hate dating coaches. So it seems. Kinda depressing how negative people are. Regardless, you could inspire some lurkers to better themselves and that would be worth it.	/r/seduction	01/11/13 04:25 PM
1	Did a lot of self-improvement over the years, no real noteworthy results. What am I doing wrong? I don't know what you want man. You talk about the external factors being conducive to getting laid and stroking your ego. Then you mention how its resulted in everything but those two things. If all your buddies are getting laid and you're not, I'll venture a guess that you're playing it too cool and too safe with girls around you. So yes, man the fuck up. If you're scared that its going to upset the homeostasis of the group, then so be it. Youre not here to work a professional job and play mat…	/r/seduction	29/10/13 09:25 PM
6	Hawaii Comparison for PUAs I've visited oahu a few times. Went to Dave n busters on locals night and saw only mixed sets and lots of dudes. Tried the malls and every girl looks too young and/or is pushing a stroller. Tried the bars near Waikiki at night and it seemed like a lotta military guys (complete assholes BTW) and military groupies. Aside from tourists at waikiki and other touristy beaches, I'm not sure where to find approachable women out there. I was actually a quite baffled because it is nothing like any metropo…	/r/seduction	29/10/13 08:55 AM
1	What The Fuck Is Happening To Me? Reminds me of my first few day game approaches after months of night time approaches and self improvement. I'd say what you're experiencing is perfectly normal. I remember opening some chick at Target and it was probably the most awkward 30 seconds of my life. Even my friend who was standing 10 ft told me never to do that again because he was so uncomfortable witnessing the bundle of nerves that I had. On the ride home, I felt amazing. Why? Because I realized that hearing the phrase "sorry I hav…	/r/seduction	29/10/13 02:17 AM
1	What about those "sexy independent, princess-like, womanly" type girls? I talked to and boinked a girl like that for a couple weeks (yes predicated by oral sex and all). There are people who are reasonable and and seek a mutually beneficial relationship of some sort, and then there's these uncompromising dictator types. And I'm sorry to say but there is no external shell with these types and it felt like a constant power struggle - what you see is what you get. She acknowledged that she was selfish and I refused to talk to her unless she sought to change her behavio…	/r/seduction	29/10/13 01:00 AM
1	When is it best to go to a bar solo? Thats is what I'm talking bout! Go on a Monday at 9pm...you're 22 - explore.	/r/seduction	29/10/13 12:18 AM
1	Turning a one night stand to a consistent hookup Try bringing them back, escalating and then NOT having sex. Escalate and then, out of no where express something to the effect of "you know what, I hate one night stands...I'm looking for someone who I can really connect with sexually." Almost every girl will empathize (if they don't it wasn't gonna work anyway). Get a little philosophical - explain that you want to be overcome by desire and for that too happen, it needs to be a challenge. At this point, turn on the intellectual foreplay - start…	/r/seduction	28/10/13 11:28 PM
1	Did a lot of self-improvement over the years, no real noteworthy results. What am I doing wrong? See this is it. You know you make bad decisions when drunk and yet you still drink and justify it because everyone else does it. You know being 30 and out of college means you should grow up, but you don't because others influence you. Either be a depressed manchild and ask for sympathy through these recurring posts or man the fuck up. If you made it this far (getting fit, eating well, being social), I don't see why you can't eliminate the shitty habits and people from your life and start making…	/r/seduction	28/10/13 09:37 PM
6	A quest of a boy to a man I don't see anything wrong with your list. In fact, I like that you're putting in the time to assess your overall progress. That said, the most effective use of time would be approaching girls. If you're not comfortable leaving tracks at your school, try approaching at the local junior college or state school. But ya, you're not gonna be a man until you can walk up to any woman, introduce yourself and kino escalate. Fixing your teeth, getting buff, dressing nice, while good, are all immaterial.	/r/seduction	28/10/13 09:01 PM
1	[FR] Oslo f-close My first thought, haha.	/r/seduction	28/10/13 08:32 PM
1	Workaholics: How do you maintain a balanced and attractive lifestyle? I typically achieve it when I'm not working so much. Sorry man. I found it very difficult to work, eat, workout and successfully sarge on a weeknight if I did more than a 10hr day. 60-80 hour weeks? You better hope that leads to some cushy exit ops or an opportunity to work for yourself because you're going to be unsuccessful at having any semblance of a life.	/r/seduction	16/10/13 07:35 AM
1	My Journey. What I Learned. And mini FR. Not my smoothest. Keep up that attitude and you'll be quite fulfilled. Its okay that you didn't kiss her...its not always necessary. With some girls, I found that I could gauge pretty well how comfortable they were if I asked them what makes a perfect kiss. If they're all about it and looking at my lips, I know I can lead them to a balcony for a romantic close...but I usually take the opportunity to build some tension (Eskimo kiss or almost-kiss routines, asking if they like having their hair played with and hold…	/r/seduction	25/09/13 03:48 AM
1	[FR] Overcoming AA by walking around the city and high-fiving as many people as I can. Number close on two women. Good stuff man. Never feel beta about being different (not drinking). By you faking them out when they gave you that drink, you were actually being quite alpha. Anyway, If I were you, I'd continue the convo with the brunette. Bring up an inside joke you guys had, ask some questions to qualify her (i.e. ask if she enjoys whatever it is ur good at...basketball? Lol) and then ask her out by saying. "Dang...don't tell your friend but I had a feeling I'd like you...let's go (insert aforementioned mut…	/r/seduction	11/08/13 08:43 PM
9	I'm feeling torn between my studies and pick up Dude, you know what you need to do. I've been more or less out of the game for about a year to focus on furthering my career. Its part of being a man who doesn't shy away from handling business. Trust me, you want to be a fucking man who's ready to make the kind of money that facilitates the fun lifestyle he wants (i.e. paying to rent/buy your own pad where girls can come every night of the week, traveling to target rich events, a reliable car, etc). Hell ya its hard...seeing AFC friends get lai…	/r/seduction	11/07/13 08:38 AM
2	What is the general opinion of facebook? Agreed!	/r/seduction	28/05/13 02:58 AM
5	[FR] First date after 150+ day game approaches...Makeout close... could have gone further? Jesus Christ, you're completely missing the point. Just because she knows you do pickup, doesn't mean she's DTF if she says yes to a date. She was probably curious and found your determination and persistence (in general, not necessarily with regards to pickup) as a DHV. As for confidence - confidence is when you take a chance as an opportunity arises. If she's not groping you or making out hard and putting her arms around you, she's not presenting the opportunity to start grabbing her tits or h…	/r/seduction	28/05/13 02:48 AM
2	Paradox of casual sex and not hurting her Yup I completely agree with this. Keep in mind that there may be a time where you actually meet a girl you want and as soon as you express desire to be exclusive, she may very well lose interest. Always remember that it goes both ways and the girl in question is capable of breaking your heart too. In the mean time, understand that you are a man and need to lead in the relationship (whatever terms it may be) and if a girl is getting hopelessly attached and emotional (and you feel guilty about not…	/r/seduction	13/08/12 07:15 AM
1	[FR] Two nights, two back-to-back F-closes Well done sir. I'll see you in SoCal!	/r/seduction	06/08/12 01:02 AM
1	[FR] Solid Night with Orange County Seddit - 1 HIMYM Opener Achieved. totally dig it	/r/seduction	15/07/12 08:55 AM
1	[FR] Blonde, long legs, almost exactly my height in heels and a sexy accent. [with Orange County Seddit] I find the drama a bit interesting. Its good to note that taking her through all these emotions made her invest a lot of energy into you (think abusive loser bf that a girl can't walk away from). Good stuff.	/r/seduction	25/04/12 06:08 PM
2	[FR] TofuTofu & TheEngDude pick up two 20 year olds in Pizzeria -> f-closed 'em both like bosses My thoughts exactly. That's level 8 game right there.	/r/seduction	15/03/12 08:52 PM