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| 1 | Perception of Male Victims | Discussion | kit-kat315 | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/06/22 01:39 PM |
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| 2 | Feminists not caring a slight droplet about birth rate shows how false and harmful their ideology is.In the US, number of children people have is a U shaped distribution. Middle class has the fewest, while poor and rich are both having more. Money is definitely a factor. Middle class has the expectation to provide a high standard of living for their kids, but without the wealth of the upper class. So they have fewer kids. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/26 03:29 PM |
| 0 | Feminists not caring a slight droplet about birth rate shows how false and harmful their ideology is.Because it's all relative. A family living in a poor country is more likely to see children as a source of labor and a safety net in their old age. Children are a net economic benefit. A family living in a more prosporous country is expected to raise children to a higher standard of living, including sending them to college. Moms with higher paying jobs lose more potential earnings by stepping out of the workforce. People are expected to support their own old age with savings. Children are a net… | /r/MensRights | 19/04/26 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Feminists not caring a slight droplet about birth rate shows how false and harmful their ideology is.I think you misunderstood me. I never said raising an only child was "minimal parenting." It's that people are choosing to spend the resources they do have (time, attention, and money) on one child instead of splitting between multiple kids. The number of families with single children has doubled in the last several decades as more people take this approach. My husband and I raised an only child and were the super involved parents. There for every concert/competition, playing chauffer, chairpeop… | /r/MensRights | 19/04/26 02:25 PM |
| -1 | Feminists not caring a slight droplet about birth rate shows how false and harmful their ideology is.It's much more complicated than just "feminists bad." The demographic in the US with the biggest drop in birth rates is teenagers. Basically, sex ed and easily available contraceptives have tanked the teen birth rate. Which is a good thing! And then, people are waiting until later to start families- once they've finished college and gotten established in a career. So the window of time to have children is smaller. And the opportunity cost of pregnancy/motherhood is higher for working women than … | /r/MensRights | 19/04/26 01:44 PM |
| 0 | Feminists not caring a slight droplet about birth rate shows how false and harmful their ideology is.You can still meet that "biological desire" for children with just one. Wait until you're established to marry, have one child, then pour all your care and resources into giving them the best possible future. I'm seeing that become much more common over the past several decades. But it's still less than replacement birth rate. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/26 01:29 PM |
| 2 | We need a draft for women, and it needs to be one of our main talking points.Ok? I never said one was worse. Literally just trying to guess which 2 dirty jobs the previous poster was referring to. | /r/MensRights | 15/04/26 01:16 PM |
| 2 | We need a draft for women, and it needs to be one of our main talking points.They already do 2 of the top dirtiest jobs I was replying to this. As in, which of the two dirtiest jobs were they referring to, that women already do. Just curious if we had the same two in mind. Being in contact with feces, vomit, blood and pathogens seems pretty dirty to me. | /r/MensRights | 15/04/26 12:55 PM |
| -1 | We need a draft for women, and it needs to be one of our main talking points.Healthcare and childcare? | /r/MensRights | 15/04/26 10:49 AM |
| 1 | If men aren't owed sex, women aren't owed protection 😊If men aren't owed sex, women aren't owed protection How could this be in reference to anything except personal relationships? Who could women possibly "owe" sex to,if not their partners? It just seems like you're stretching to make a post about couples be a broad commentary of society. I re-read the posts you linked, and really don't see what's sexist about them. Women should be choosy about partners- everyone should. Pick the right partner and you only have to do it once. And that calculator i… | /r/MensRights | 01/04/26 09:58 PM |
| 1 | If men aren't owed sex, women aren't owed protection 😊Because it entirely ignores the many, many ways men protect you daily and which you take for granted. Because that wasn't the topic of the original post. OP was talking about personal relationships. Why would I go off on a tangent about whst jobs people do? My previous post criticizing the "Female Delusion Calculator"? Oh, the horror. | /r/MensRights | 01/04/26 09:30 PM |
| 1 | If men aren't owed sex, women aren't owed protection 😊I'm honestly not even sure why you think my original comment was sexist. A little tongue in cheek, but the logical conclusion to OP's post. Given: women not giving sex = men not giving protection A trade is implied, so it follows that: women giving sex = men giving protection Therefore, any woman who gave sex but did not receive protection got shorted. That's not misandry, it's taking a silly intial premise to a funny, but logical, conclusion. | /r/MensRights | 01/04/26 08:54 PM |
| 1 | If men aren't owed sex, women aren't owed protection 😊Men working the jobs that cause them to be some 80% of serious workplace injuries could be considered to be protecting you Were we supposed to be paying them with sex? I thought they received salaries? Obviously the OP was talking about romantic relationships if lack of sex = lack of protection. Since you took the time to scroll sooooo far back, you saw that I've been married for 25 years. As I said, I've had plenty of sex with my husband, but never needed his protection. Did it never occur to y… | /r/MensRights | 01/04/26 08:13 PM |
| -1 | If men aren't owed sex, women aren't owed protection 😊Good question. I have literally never needed a man to physically protect me. But I've had a lot of sex- can I get a voucher or something, to make up for all the protection I didn't need? | /r/MensRights | 01/04/26 07:17 PM |
| 18 | Why can single women have children for free, but not couples???They aren't. I'm married and used Medicaid for prenatal and delivery medical coverage when my daughter was born. Also qualified for WIC. It's based on household income, not relationship status. | /r/MensRights | 08/03/26 09:04 PM |
| 2 | Men are expected to take the fall for womens' executive dysfunction (workload) AND accountability (narrative)Honestly, this reminds me of a couple I know. The overhead light in their bathroom broke and the husband insisted on fixing it himself, but kept putting it off. Whenever the wife brought it up, she was "nagging," and he was insulted at the suggestion of hiring an electrician (I can do it!). They used a desk lamp as their bathroom light for 6 months, and it only got fixed when they were putting the house up for sale. Neither gender has a monopoly on this kind of nonsense. | /r/MensRights | 04/03/26 11:55 AM |
| 2 | Ever noticed you never see woman saying "always a man" under something good that only man do? Construction jobs sewage systems etc,helping strangers.The majority of EMTs are male also. Where I live, EMT is a volunteer position. So,I'd be more impressed by someone doing that position vs a mechanic or factory worker. But still, EMTs are 70% men. | /r/MensRights | 15/02/26 04:02 PM |
| 5 | Say, how about this. Instead of "raging at your spouse about chores", let's not get married instead. That way can can go shove off if you don't like it. Sound good to you?If one spouse is raging at the other about anything, they're not compatible. Move on. Honestly, this really boils down to people not being able to have adult conversations with their partner. My spouse and I hashed this out by about year 2 of marriage (out of 25 years). Add up each person's hours spent on: commute, paid work, childcare, household work and errands. Adjust until equal. Accept that there will be times one partner or the other does more, but it shouldn't be the norm. | /r/MensRights | 08/02/26 02:05 PM |
| 2 | Men's coverage in the Olympics?Streaming on Peacock. | /r/MensRights | 08/02/26 02:16 AM |
| 7 | Men's coverage in the Olympics?Men's figure skating was on today. You could have played a drinking game with how many times they called Ilia Malinin the "quad god." I loved the enthusiasm. | /r/MensRights | 08/02/26 02:14 AM |
| 1 | But in the West, isn't the image of anime otaku males bad?It seems like no one cares if you watch anime in the US anymore. it's so mainstream now. I have a couple of nendoroid figurines on my desk at work and have met some other anime fans that way. Including two who share the double geek-dom of anime and musicals (hello Deathnote!). Even people I know who don't watch anime have heard of big ones like Demon Slayer and Apothecary Diaries. | /r/MensRights | 06/02/26 04:45 AM |
| 1 | Pro choiceAll 50 states. In theory. The news out of Texas shows otherwise. But why are you making the distinction? OP is clearly talking about on-demand abortions, which are not accessible for a good portion of the country. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/26 04:15 PM |
| 4 | Pro choiceNot all states. Women have the right to on demand abortion in about 2/3 of US states. | /r/MensRights | 27/01/26 12:16 PM |
| -2 | Men who had both positive and negative experiences on Marriage, is it worth it in the end?That doesn't match what I see in real relationships. If someone has a surgery or an injury that causes mobility issues- the spouse takes leave to help them with recovery. I know a half dozen people who have used FMLA to help their spouse. And one was a guy with the same kind of cancer as my husband, oddly enough. Seriously though, it would be stupid to run out on a partner who will recover in a few months. Even from a financial standpoint. We're much better now, thanks. Chemo and radiation have … | /r/MensRights | 09/01/26 10:56 AM |
| -5 | Men who had both positive and negative experiences on Marriage, is it worth it in the end?FMLA leave is very useful. If one spouse becomes ill, the other can take up to 12 weeks leave from their job, per year, to act as caregiver. Here in NY, the leave is paid. I took leave a few years ago when my husband had cancer. He received the benefit of full time care without having to hire someone, and the state paid $12k to cover part of my wages while I did it. It was a huge financial help. Also, being able to use a spouse's health insurance plan. Being able to pick between 2 employer optio… | /r/MensRights | 09/01/26 09:56 AM |
| 1 | If they are forcing companies to hire and promote more women into their workforce and balance the gender ratio why don't they force schools and daycare centers to hire more men? And why haven't I heard about any lawsuits being filed for this kind of anti-male discrimination?Dont NP required additional schooling on top of RN? Yes. NP requires a master's. Nurses and RNs can have either associates or bachelor's, with a requirement to complete a bachelor's in 10 years to keep the license (at least in my state). Most of the increased education in nursing is at the NP level. Regular nurses can start work after attending community college. | /r/MensRights | 02/01/26 11:47 AM |
| 1 | If they are forcing companies to hire and promote more women into their workforce and balance the gender ratio why don't they force schools and daycare centers to hire more men? And why haven't I heard about any lawsuits being filed for this kind of anti-male discrimination?Ok, I see what you're saying. Yeah, I could see that getting more male applicants for hs positions, where your bachelor's is the subject you teach. For elementary school, though, the bachelor's is elementary education. What are the chances there's a bunch of people with that degree who are just being held back by certification? Like I said before, I think the issue needs to be tackled further up the pipeline. As in, programs to get more men into the right degree programs for early education. | /r/MensRights | 02/01/26 10:55 AM |
| 1 | If they are forcing companies to hire and promote more women into their workforce and balance the gender ratio why don't they force schools and daycare centers to hire more men? And why haven't I heard about any lawsuits being filed for this kind of anti-male discrimination?In the US, nurses are often serving in roles that used to be filled by doctors. As in, you "go to the doctor" but you're seen by a nurse practitioner, not a doctor. My primary care provider is a nurse practitioner, as well as about half the providers at the family doctor's office I use. If I go to an urgent care center, it's always a NP. It's common to be seen by a NP for routine care, and only be escalated to a doctor for more complicated issues. A big part of the change is there are not enough… | /r/MensRights | 02/01/26 10:18 AM |
| 1 | If they are forcing companies to hire and promote more women into their workforce and balance the gender ratio why don't they force schools and daycare centers to hire more men? And why haven't I heard about any lawsuits being filed for this kind of anti-male discrimination?So you think less accreditation would result in more male teaching applicants (as a proportion)? Why? I can see nurses having higher education/certification requirements than in the past, since RNs and NPs often take the place of doctors (another shortage issue). | /r/MensRights | 02/01/26 03:29 AM |
| 5 | If they are forcing companies to hire and promote more women into their workforce and balance the gender ratio why don't they force schools and daycare centers to hire more men? And why haven't I heard about any lawsuits being filed for this kind of anti-male discrimination?Here in NY, there's a teacher shortage, and it's getting worse as boomers retire. There aren't enough qualified people, of any gender, to fill the positions. It's similar with daycare- centers struggle to fill positions because of low wages and poor benefits. So the problem needs to be tackled further up the pipeline. How can we get more male applicants to these jobs? Or, failing that, enough applicants to fill the need. | /r/MensRights | 01/01/26 10:05 PM |
| 1 | I dont care if women dont "feel" safe.It sounds like your friend group is extraordinarily unlucky to all experience such an uncommon event. I'm not going to worry about an event with such a small chance of happening. I'll save that worry for actually dangerous animals- like deer. That's the most dangerous animal in the US, according to the CDC. | /r/MensRights | 23/12/25 04:02 PM |
| 1 | I dont care if women dont "feel" safe.There's like 800k black bears in the US and there's an average of one death by black bear every other year. Getting hurt by them isn't something I ever worry about. Grizzly and polar bears don't live where I do. But the difference is kind of the point to my post. If I encounter a bear in the woods, it doesn't pose much risk to me. Someone in Alaska would be talking about a very different kind of bear. | /r/MensRights | 23/12/25 02:47 PM |
| 2 | I dont care if women dont "feel" safe.I've always wondered "which kind of bear" when people talk about the man vs bear thing. I mean, there's grizzly bears, which are huge and aggressive. But black bears are relatively small and avoid humans. I've seen black bears while out in the woods. They ran away. | /r/MensRights | 23/12/25 11:44 AM |
| 2 | U.S: Massive collapse in male applicants and enrollment to Medical and Law school. Men go from 51.4% to 42.2% of Medical school applicants in the last 10 years. A world-wide decline with huge ramifications.That is interesting- especially how the differences in scores close a lot for matriculated students. Looks like more women are applying when it's a long shot. And, like you said, men have higher scores overall. Of course, there's a lot of factors in a med school applications that are tough to measure. Like volunteer work, leadership positions, research and publications, being from a medically underserved area, etc. | /r/MensRights | 15/12/25 06:41 PM |
| 3 | U.S: Massive collapse in male applicants and enrollment to Medical and Law school. Men go from 51.4% to 42.2% of Medical school applicants in the last 10 years. A world-wide decline with huge ramifications.Looks like about 45% of matriculated med school students are men. So, just a touch higher % than applicants. U.S. medical schools enroll record number of students in 2025 | AAMC https://share.google/OMcDNWVwlI40hyXyc | /r/MensRights | 15/12/25 06:02 PM |
| 4 | The thankless task of pondering whether "The Female Gaze" is any less embarrassing at the Box Office than an actual movie about arm wrestlingSounds like someone got dragged along to see Wicked. Eta- Wicked isn't really new anyway. I mean, the musical has been playing on Broadway for over 20 years. And the book came out in the 90s. So, more early 2000s culture than anything. | /r/MensRights | 05/12/25 11:57 AM |
| 1 | If a woman doesn't do this...That answers the question that I asked whether you fantasized about someone at some point without getting to know them. I already answered that question...multiple times. No. if you're really really into someone, you're gonna want to have sex with them as soon as possible and wil be thinking about it You keep acting like your experience is universal. The first several dates are still "getting to know you." At that point, I don't know them well enough to be really really into them. | /r/MensRights | 01/12/25 10:04 PM |
| 1 | If a woman doesn't do this...I'm not sure why this is so puzzling. I don't like the thought of sex with strangers. People don't fantasize about things they don't like. Therefore, I do not fantasize about sex with strangers. To be honest, fantasizing about a person I know IRL but am not in a relationship with feels a little disrespectful. So I generally stick to romantic partners or erotic fiction. You're proving my original point, though. Everyone's different. There's no one timeline for intimacy that will suit everybody. | /r/MensRights | 01/12/25 09:39 PM |
| 1 | If a woman doesn't do this...Eventually, after I got to know them. | /r/MensRights | 01/12/25 08:48 PM |
| 1 | If a woman doesn't do this...Not really. I mean, I've certainly been attracted to people right off the bat. But the thought of hooking up with someone I just met is off putting. | /r/MensRights | 01/12/25 08:44 PM |
| 1 | If a woman doesn't do this...Arbitrary rules are just silly in general. Everyone's going to have a different comfort level for intimacy. I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable sleeping with someone I barely know. I knew each of my partners for months before dating, so 3 dates sounds way too short. But you're right about feelings. Sometimes the feeling is "I don't know you well enough yet." | /r/MensRights | 01/12/25 07:01 PM |
| 2 | Do divorces have to happen in the state where the couple married?Divorces are filed based on residency. So, whichever state a couple currently resides in. Or a choice of states if the spouses live separately in two different states. | /r/MensRights | 23/11/25 08:47 AM |
| 2 | Am I a horrible man for being paranoid about marriage. I 32M, She is 24F and pregnant.That's what everyone's doing, isn't it? Deciding whether the rewards of a particular arrangement outweigh the risks. It's a personal choice. I will say, being married (instead of cohabitating) meant $14k in paid caregiver leave while my husband had cancer, and roughly $15k in health insurance savings ($600/year x 24 years). So, nearly $30k so far by leveraging the legal benefits of marriage. It's worked out well for my spouse and me. | /r/MensRights | 11/11/25 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Am I a horrible man for being paranoid about marriage. I 32M, She is 24F and pregnant.I can't speak to you- I don't know your local laws. Here, it's all the things I described. Protections if your spouse becomes ill or dies, and a well defined and predictable division of property if the marriage is dissolved. | /r/MensRights | 11/11/25 12:26 PM |
| 1 | Am I a horrible man for being paranoid about marriage. I 32M, She is 24F and pregnant.You asked for the benefits of marriage, from a woman. I listed several that are factual and easy to verify. Why some people choose not to take advantage of those benefits is a whole other discussion. Also, birthrates in the US are higher than EU- 1.7 vs 1.5, respectively. | /r/MensRights | 11/11/25 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Am I a horrible man for being paranoid about marriage. I 32M, She is 24F and pregnant.I really don't understand how these marriage laws benefit women? Any woman can clarify it to me? I'm in the US, so obviously, some legal benefits are going to differ from yours. Being married provides a secure framework for building a family. For example, when our daughter was small, I worked fewer hours and at a lower paying job to have the flexibility to be the "on-call" parent. That allowed my husband to focus on advancing in his career. But there's a lot of risk in this scenario for the part… | /r/MensRights | 11/11/25 11:46 AM |
| 12 | Discrimination Against Single MenWhy? Pay should be based on how valuable the employee's work is to the company, not belonging to a particular demographic group. | /r/MensRights | 19/09/25 10:28 AM |
| 2 | It's far more expensive to be a man than a womanNOT having a sales tax on tampons would be sexist and incredibly unfair to all the male tax payers who would then be subsidizing the products. Hard disagree. Generally sales tax doesn't apply to medical items. Prior to 2016, my state had a sales tax on pads, but not bandaids, or adult diapers. How does that make any kind of sense? if women weren't willing to happily pay more for products that marketed towards them, or designed for them, then they simply wouldn't So, clothes that fit properly. Ye… | /r/MensRights | 12/09/25 10:08 AM |
| 3 | It's far more expensive to be a man than a womanIt's not always as simple as "just use the men's option. "Tampon tax" (sales tax on menstrual products) is a form of pink tax. Still happening in 18 states. Women's clothing tends to be more expensive for similar items like t shirts or jeans. My husband and I both wear Levis, but mine cost about $15 more (501s, Levis website: $80 for men's, $98 for women's). Also holds true for kids clothing- the girls dept is more expensive. Cheaper "unisex" clothing is really cut for men- the women's version i… | /r/MensRights | 12/09/25 08:31 AM |
| 1 | Second wave feminism turned women into 'wage slaves with nightmare lives', PETER HITCHENS tells SARAH VINE in podcast clash over declining birthratesWell, there's Sandra Day O'Connor. Graduated with high marks from Stanford in 1952, but struggled to find a job at a law firm because of discrimination- she was only offered legal secretary work. Had to work for free to secure a job as a deputy county attorney. And she was the first women appointed as a US Supreme Court Justice- in 1980. As a member of the court, she ruled on several pivotal cases regarding gender discrimination | /r/MensRights | 09/09/25 12:03 AM |
| 1 | Second wave feminism turned women into 'wage slaves with nightmare lives', PETER HITCHENS tells SARAH VINE in podcast clash over declining birthratesHarvard, Dartmouth, and Georgetown didn't even admit women into their medical colleges until the 1940s. Jefferson Medical College didn't allow women until the 1960s. In 1900, 40% of US medical schools didn't admit women. And just the med schools. In the first half of the 20th century, women were also denied residencies, admittance to medical organizations and employment in hospitals because of their gender. Women couldn't serve as military doctors until 1943 (but have served as military nurses s… | /r/MensRights | 08/09/25 11:44 PM |
| 0 | Second wave feminism turned women into 'wage slaves with nightmare lives', PETER HITCHENS tells SARAH VINE in podcast clash over declining birthrates1950 is the era I was already speaking of- ie using my grandparents as examples. But I agree with you, women had even fewer opportunities in earlier time periods. I'm curious, are you honestly saying that, all other factors being equal (race, class, familial wealth), a woman and a man attempting to become a doctor in 1950 would have equal opportunities? Bear in mind that women were still being excluded from medical schools, medical associations and hospital internships for the first half of the … | /r/MensRights | 06/09/25 06:34 PM |
| 0 | Second wave feminism turned women into 'wage slaves with nightmare lives', PETER HITCHENS tells SARAH VINE in podcast clash over declining birthratesWomen didn't have the same opportunities as their generational male counterparts either. My point is that, in the 1950s, a man would be easily accepted as a manager in a factory, or a doctor. A woman would not be. It's not a question of whether women were allowed to work at all. It's whether they had the same occupational opportunities available to them as men. And, for most of history, they didn't. To go back to my grandparents example, one grandfather was an electrician and the other was a del… | /r/MensRights | 05/09/25 03:07 PM |
| 0 | Second wave feminism turned women into 'wage slaves with nightmare lives', PETER HITCHENS tells SARAH VINE in podcast clash over declining birthratesWomen didn't have the same job opportunities they do now, though. Yes, it was common for women to work, but only in certain occupations, and generally not those with higher salaries. For example, I work as a mid level manager for a manufacturing company, and my daughter is in medical school.. But that type of work wouldn't have been available to my grandmothers. One was a factory worker for a shoe manufacturer, and the other was a lunch lady at a school. | /r/MensRights | 05/09/25 11:08 AM |
| 7 | USA: Almost 10% decline in male share of medical school applicants and Law School enrollment share down by about 6% in last 9 years. Decline of men in high paying fields, long term ramifications.The decline in men attending 4 year colleges is a huge factor here. I attended my daughter's college graduation last year (she starts med school this year) and there were noticeably more women graduating with degrees in bio or biochem- two of the main BS degrees for med school applicants. Also, the preparation for med school really begins in high school. Not just grades, but building the foundations for research, leadership roles and community service that med schools want to see. For example, H… | /r/MensRights | 12/06/25 05:48 PM |
| 1 | How do men benefit from women in relationships?"Not a good romantic partner = worthless" is a wild take. It says a lot that you don't realize this. | /r/MensRights | 11/06/25 07:10 PM |
| 9 | Researchers back The Dad Shift protest calling for paternity leave reformThere is likely some good reason for some additional leave to recover from the very physically taxing and sometimes injuring process of giving birth It's the entire reason maternity leave is paid more often than paternity leave in the US. Maternity leave is technically a short term disability and is paid by disability insurance (not the employer). Here in NY, the state runs a leave insurance program that everyone pays into. Anyone taking an FMLA leave (including parental) gets paid. | /r/MensRights | 10/06/25 07:55 PM |
| 18 | Some positivity, courtesy of a random woman on LinkedInI thought that too. It's normalizing (even praising) husbands sacrificing and suffering silently. It just doesn't sit right with me. Absolutely women should value their partners. But not by continuing to enforce harmful expectations. | /r/MensRights | 09/06/25 04:25 PM |
| 5 | Planning for divorce?Re: marriage rates https://www.brookings.edu/articles/the-most-educated-women-are-the-most-likely-to-be-married/ https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2017/09/14/as-u-s-marriage-rate-hovers-at-50-education-gap-in-marital-status-widens/ https://www.axios.com/2025/01/31/marriage-gap-women Re: divorce rates https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8980992/ https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2015/12/04/education-and-marriage/ https://divorce-education.com/divorce-rate-by-education-level/#chap… | /r/MensRights | 09/06/25 01:54 AM |
| 5 | Planning for divorce?Women with higher levels of education are more likely to marry and less likely to divorce. So, no. The evidence does not support the idea that attaining education = planning to divorce. | /r/MensRights | 09/06/25 01:32 AM |
| 0 | When will someone do something!What do you want someone to do? They're both well established at this point, with a logical reason to happen in June. Pride Month started out in the 70s as a series of marches to commemorate the Stonewall riots, since that was such a turning point for gay rights. The events gained in popularity over time, becoming less protest and more celebration. Pride became a recognized month in the US in 1999 by presidential declaration. Men's Mental Health Month started as Men's Health Week by an act of Co… | /r/MensRights | 08/06/25 10:03 AM |
| 2 | Living apart together with small childrenSplitting the rent, lol With the kids? This doesn't make any sense. You've said again and again that you're happy being a part time parent and don't want to live with your kids. That's not being a good parent. Kids need a father who's present for the day to day- nursing them through sickness, helping with homework, teaching life skills, demonstrating good behavior and morals. I can't respect someone who's ok with just showing up sometimes. My BIL and SIL don't live together, and have two childre… | /r/MensRights | 23/05/25 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Living apart together with small childrenLiving apart together with small children I can only see benefits of this. It's not cherry picking when it's the entire point of your post. Why are you expecting small children to make decisions about living arrangements? You are the parent- what have you done to get additional custody? I'm going to guess nothing, since you said (repeatedly) that you prefer not living with them. they are welcome to stay in my apartment for free As opposed to what? Charging them rent? | /r/MensRights | 23/05/25 12:50 PM |
| 2 | Living apart together with small childrenYou literally listed your "fatherly" activities as playing and taking them out to dinner, and said being a part time father is perfect. And you don't want to live with your kids because it would interfere with: sleep, relax time, exercise and eating what you want. I am 100% judging you for not choosing to be an active parent to your children. As a parent, I could not imagine not wanting to see my child every day. | /r/MensRights | 23/05/25 12:10 PM |
| 2 | Living apart together with small childrenIt's perfect for you- not for them. You just want to swoop in for the fun parts. It's just playing at bring a parent. A good parent is there for the difficult parts as well as the fun ones. You sound very selfish, and immature. | /r/MensRights | 23/05/25 11:43 AM |
| 2 | Living apart together with small childrenSo you just want to be a part time dad and partner? I mean, if you visit your fiancee and kids a few days a week, but don't eat there (point 10) or sleep there (point 8), that's a couple of hours a week. That's not being a family- it's playing house. I would not need to work full-time and take on a mortgage to satisfy her materialistic desires. This one doesn't even make sense. How could it be cheaper to have two separate households? | /r/MensRights | 23/05/25 11:15 AM |
| 0 | How to Bleed Men DryIt's a tongue in cheek way of acknowledging that people were going to throw their daughters at wealthy men. And, again, that's the POV of the parents- not the young women. A main theme of Austen novels is how limited women's financial options were because of their dependence on male relatives. So, clearly, the men aren't really property. I'm really just here to talk lit today. Austen in general and P&P particularly are poor examples of the women are gold diggers narrative. | /r/MensRights | 16/05/25 01:08 PM |
| 1 | How to Bleed Men DryThat line isn't even about the expectations of women. It continues: "...this truth is so well fixed in the minds of the surrounding families, that he is considered as the rightful property of some one or other of their daughters." In other words, it's about parents securing a good future for their daughters. Familial expectations to marry wealth or rank (for both men and women) feature in every Austen novel. What about the dudes who are not in possession of a 'good fortune'? Jane Austen only wro… | /r/MensRights | 16/05/25 10:59 AM |
| 2 | How to Bleed Men DryYou know what, I like the way you think. We should just use two historical classifications for authors- "already dead" and "not dead yet.' Seriously though- I'm not sure how you can look at an author writing about the Napoleanic Wars (Austen) and one writing about the US Civil War (Alcott and contemporaries) and say they're basically the same. They lived in very different worlds. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/25 09:10 PM |
| 1 | How to Bleed Men DryThe writing styles from the Regency era aren’t that different than the Victorian era. They are, though. There were huge changes in science, technology and society that affected the tone of the Victorian Era. An Austen novel is very different from one by a Bronte, or Louisa May Alcott. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/25 07:36 PM |
| 2 | How to Bleed Men Dry“Does this writing sound Victorian & Bitchy?” Regency. Jane Austen wasn't even alive in the Victorian era. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/25 07:19 PM |
| 1 | If Men Were HonestIt sounds like he doesn't even like her. This video reminded me of a family member who busts out with something mean and follows up with "I'm just being honest" when they're called out on it. You can be honest and also kind. | /r/MensRights | 01/05/25 07:44 PM |
| -4 | Why Do Women in Relationships Expect Single Men to Date Fat People?Could it be that they're just recommending "average" people? In the US, 70% of people are overweight or obese (men and women both). Chances are that any random friend of a friend will be overweight. | /r/MensRights | 28/04/25 05:20 PM |
| 4 | New US bill will stop men behind on child support from votingTo be fair, there are millions of disabled and retired people who don't drive or buy alcohol. It seems like this is the population that would be most harmed by eliminating mail in voting. My county requires you to sign an affidavit that you'll be out of the county on election day to receive a mail in ballot- I like that method. My husband has used it when traveling for work, and my daughter voted remotely all 4 years of college. | /r/MensRights | 13/04/25 09:36 PM |
| 2 | New US bill will stop men behind on child support from votingThe problem is that married women bridge the ID gap from birth certificate to current name with a marriage certificate, and the bill doesn't list this as an acceptable option to proving citizenship. The options listed are a Real ID that indicates citizenship (not all states do) or a passport. My state's Real ID wouldn't qualify, so the only stated option for married women would be a passport, which costs $130. Or not be allowed to vote. The kicker is, this was brought up before the bill went to … | /r/MensRights | 13/04/25 03:34 PM |
| 1 | New US bill will stop men behind on child support from votingDon't get me wrong, I'm totally against the bill. I just don't understand how this creates an extra barrier for people behind on child support. If you don't already have a passport, you're not getting one without a birth certificate. If you do already have one- just use that to vote. | /r/MensRights | 13/04/25 03:15 PM |
| 100 | New US bill will stop men behind on child support from votingI think I'm missing something here. You need a birth certificate to get a passport. So, people without birth certificates won't be able to vote and also won't be able to get passports, regardless of child support payment status. Right? | /r/MensRights | 13/04/25 02:37 PM |
| 2 | Texas Approves Law Mandating Fathers Pay Child Support Before Baby Is BornI'm not even going to touch the "when does a fetus become a person debate. I'm just pointing out that strengthening abortion bans is the purpose of the bill. For anyone who does consider a fetus to be the same as a child, there should be no objection to paying child support from conception. There are medical expenses associated with fetal care. | /r/MensRights | 12/04/25 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Texas Approves Law Mandating Fathers Pay Child Support Before Baby Is BornThe "why" is: to strengthen the argument for an abortion ban. Child support before birth --> A fetus is a child --> a fetus should have the same rights as a child who has been born No one who is pro choice should support a law like this. | /r/MensRights | 12/04/25 11:31 AM |
| -10 | 95% of people shopping in Whole Foods during working hours are women.My dude, do you really think the person I replied to is upset about unequal levels of marketing? Seriously? It's like you didn't even read the post. Regardless, the solution to your problem is simple. If men want the market to cater to them, they can take over half of the shopping and errands. But they don't, because it's work, and they're happy to hand it off to their partners. | /r/MensRights | 28/03/25 10:31 PM |
| -22 | 95% of people shopping in Whole Foods during working hours are women.You'd still need to spend the same if you were earning that money, yeah? Why do you assume I'm not earning? My husband and I make within a few percentage points of each other. Like, assume you're the sole income earner, but had the same family, assets, interests, etc. Would you be making approximately the same purchase decisions? Let's try this. Assume my spouse did half of the household shopping, child errands and home renovation decisions. Then our spending would be 50/50, but the total purcha… | /r/MensRights | 28/03/25 09:07 PM |
| 12 | 95% of people shopping in Whole Foods during working hours are women.they are responsible for 85% of the consumer purchases That doesn't mean they're spending it on themselves. Women tend to do household shopping and shopping for dependents. Consider my family. I'm married, and do the lion's share of shopping for groceries, cleaning, prescriptions, and pet supplies. When our daughter was younger, I also handled most of her shopping, doctor's appointments, haircuts, school expenses, and music lessons. And I mostly make the final decision on home furnishings, appli… | /r/MensRights | 28/03/25 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Women feel entitled on Valentine's DayOk, so start that if you want it? My daughter and about 15 friends do Lord of the Rings Christmas every year where they have a potluck feast and drink all day while watching the director's cuts. As a family, we call the whole of October "spooky month" and visit haunted houses (with actors) and haunted houses (the "real" kind). And there is a "Star Wars Day"- it's May (the) 4th. Celebrate what you want-there's no holiday police. Galentines is only mainstream because it was on a popular TV show an… | /r/MensRights | 14/02/25 10:31 PM |
| 6 | Women feel entitled on Valentine's DayIt seems like Galentine's events are more like "stuff your husband wouldn't want to do." There's a local venue that does a Parisian themed night with charcuterie, petits fours and pink cocktails. Another place has a Galentine's high tea with all the fancy trimmings. My husband wouldn't want to go to those, but I've taken female friends or relatives and had a great time. | /r/MensRights | 14/02/25 09:34 PM |
| 22 | Women feel entitled on Valentine's DayYeah, it's not right to demand something for Valentine's Day. And it cheapens the "gift" if you had to ask for it. My husband and I usually go out to a nice dinner and he sends flowers, while I get him chocolates and a card. Rarely, one of us will buy a present for the other. And, that's all delightful, but I can't imagine telling him he had to do any of those things, or vice versa. It's not a test of our relationship- it's just an enjoyable day. | /r/MensRights | 14/02/25 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.I strongly disagree. Paternity tests should only require one parent's approval. Then dad can have his (infant) children discretely tested if he wants with no damage to family harmony. I really don't get where you're coming from about resentment. If a man chooses to wait literal decades to seek a paternity test, the fallout is on him. Asking grown kids to be tested is guaranteed to cause irreparable harm to the parent-child relationship. | /r/MensRights | 11/02/25 09:56 AM |
| 1 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.If he was struggling so much with self doubt, he should have had the test done sooner. A man wanting grown kids to get paternity tested is already going to hurt them and tank the parent-child relationship. No need for mom to help with that. I agree that tests should be easy for fathers to obtain, but they should be done before the kid is old enough to realize what's going on. Anything else is just cruel. | /r/MensRights | 10/02/25 06:30 PM |
| 3 | Paternity tests shouldn’t just be normalized—they should be mandatory at birth.Whether the kid is 40 or 40 weeks. Well, if the kid's over 18, dad will have to get permission from them for a paternity test, not the mom. | /r/MensRights | 10/02/25 06:04 PM |
| 6 | Quote: "I’m looking for a man in finance, trust fund, 6’5, blue eyes."I think we're in agreement about each other. I can't see it working out well for you to be so reckless with your future. I guess just close your eyes, tie the knot and hope it all works out, eh? I'm just so confused why you are actively against finding out of your potential partner is actually compatible. One of my exes wanted a traditional marriage with a stay at home wife. Another had champagne tastes but beer ambitions. Both were sweet men, and we got on well, but our overall goals in life ju… | /r/MensRights | 15/12/24 05:18 PM |
| 0 | Quote: "I’m looking for a man in finance, trust fund, 6’5, blue eyes."I've been happily married for 23 years. My partner and I knew we are very compatible because we talked about difficult topics together before marrying. Like adults. | /r/MensRights | 15/12/24 04:46 PM |
| 0 | Quote: "I’m looking for a man in finance, trust fund, 6’5, blue eyes."You can talk about finances directly when it actually matters, as in you share a life together. That seems kind of late in the game to me. I wouldn't want to be moving in with someone and then find out they have a huge amount of debt, or a very different expectation about style of living, how to fund a family, or how much to save/invest. | /r/MensRights | 15/12/24 04:33 PM |
| -7 | Quote: "I’m looking for a man in finance, trust fund, 6’5, blue eyes."Your comment has me curious. At what stage would you consider it appropriate for a woman to bring up finances? Why is that the right time? | /r/MensRights | 15/12/24 03:14 PM |
| 0 | Quote: "I’m looking for a man in finance, trust fund, 6’5, blue eyes."It's not romantic, but talking about finances early saves a lot of headaches later on. Not for a casual thing, obviously. But if you're looking for long term, it's important to find someone you're financially compatible with. And that means talking about income, expenses, debts, future financial and lifestyle plans, spending and saving habits and how you would handle finances in a marriage/cohabitation. It doesn't have to be third date, like mentioned in the article, but if you've left it until … | /r/MensRights | 15/12/24 03:02 PM |
| -1 | Spain: Trainee firefighter who failed exam 'became a woman because the pass mark was lower' - and was successfulIt’s not practical to lower standards when lives are on the line. Only if the standard for women is lower than what is necessary to perform the job. There's no indication that's what's happening. Set the minimum standard as the requirement for women and make the men's requirement higher. Then everyone is qualified for the job, but the gender ratio for dangerous jobs is more equal. | /r/MensRights | 12/12/24 05:24 PM |
| -24 | Spain: Trainee firefighter who failed exam 'became a woman because the pass mark was lower' - and was successfulThis is such a tricky situation for physically demanding jobs. Overall, I think having different standards for women in physical jobs is a good thing. It's a practical way to get more women into those dirty and dangerous jobs and shift some of the burden off of men. | /r/MensRights | 12/12/24 12:12 PM |
| 1 | Artificial Wombs: A Technological (Partial) Solution To Gender Injustice and Global Fertility Collapse?So only male babies, then? | /r/MensRights | 11/12/24 07:54 PM |
| 1 | I think we should put an end to this.I can't imagine women would be waiting too long past the average age for having a first child (27, like you said), unless they are waiting find a partner. And if they're starting that late (ie around 40), they're going to need IVF whether they finally find Mr Right or go it solo. A relative of mine used a donor. It took 3 samples and they were $500 each. Nowhere near the cost of IVF. And IVF and other fertility treatments are covered by health insurance in the state I live in. | /r/MensRights | 08/12/24 11:33 PM |
| 1 | I think we should put an end to this.Sure they would rather pay to play the expensive IVF gotcha game. Women only need to use IVF if they have a fertility issue. Those women would also need IVF to become pregnant from a partner. Otherwise, a woman can just buy donor sperm for a couple hundred a vial and insert it at home. | /r/MensRights | 08/12/24 11:06 PM |
| 1 | Work-life balance isn't working for women. Why?According to feminism Sorry, I thought we were talking about reality, not ideology. In the real world, it takes two incomes to make ends meet. Having a career instead of a job is to have more money and financial security. Plain and simple. Attempts to create offspring through effectively cloning women instead of needing sperm from men is just another step down that path. Oh, you're actually not talking about reality. Child care cost is going through the roof, meaning it's not worth women working… | /r/MensRights | 06/12/24 06:56 PM |
| 0 | Work-life balance isn't working for women. Why?Taxpayers using tax funded services aren't leeches. And every kid has two parents. Childcare assistance also helps men, and children, half of whom are boys. This seems like such a strange hill to die on when you consider all the programs that receive government funding. Assistance for the poor, unemployed and disabled, sure. But also money to support schools (and school lunches), colleges, hospitals, parks, museums, zoos, community centers, small businesses, failing corporations, theaters, libra… | /r/MensRights | 06/12/24 12:47 PM |
| 1 | Work-life balance isn't working for women. Why?completely ignoring the reality it takes 2 parents to raise a child unless you are an outlier I think you're ignoring the reality that it takes two incomes to raise a child. The driving force for women working is needing to pay bills. In the US, 73% of married mothers work. https://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/famee.pdf (table 5- employment status by sex, marital status and presence and age of children) | /r/MensRights | 06/12/24 10:21 AM |
| 0 | Work-life balance isn't working for women. Why?I'm not sure why you think I shouldn't use a service that I: a) pay taxes to support, for far more years than my child was enrolled b) paid the full (as in undiscounted) rate as per the sliding income scale For the rest, I guess we just have different opinions on the role of government funded services. I fully support (and vote for) social programs, whether it's tax funded college tuition in my state or a subsidized grocery store for an underserved community in my county. And at this point, my f… | /r/MensRights | 05/12/24 08:26 PM |
| 3 | Work-life balance isn't working for women. Why?Oh, are you not represented in government? That's a whole different problem. | /r/MensRights | 05/12/24 07:53 PM |
| 3 | Work-life balance isn't working for women. Why?But addressing the exhorbitant cost of childcare helps men as well. Most my friends are middle class married couples. Even with two incomes, childcare is a struggle. It's upwards of $1200/month for an infant- that's more than my mortgage in an upscale neighborhood. | /r/MensRights | 05/12/24 07:27 PM |
| -7 | Work-life balance isn't working for women. Why?Government paying for childcare would just promote more single mothers, which is a huge mistake. Government paying for childcare will help working families. FIFY The local school district has subsidized after school care on a sliding, income based scale. All kinds of families use it, not just single women. My kid went, and I'm married and make enough to pay at the top of the scale. It's a great service to the community because it's educational, reliable childcare provided by well trained individ… | /r/MensRights | 05/12/24 06:51 PM |
| -6 | Work-life balance isn't working for women. Why?Because that's how taxes work. Everyone pools their resources so we can, collectively, provide services to difficult or expensive for the individual to obtain alone. Just like the many services already provided through taxes. Because it's in the best interest of the country for people to have children to grow the economy and continue society. And also, more people working (the parents now and the child later) increases tax revenue. Because making sure children are properly taken care of is a ben… | /r/MensRights | 05/12/24 06:36 PM |
| 17 | Work-life balance isn't working for women. Why?That's what stuck out to me. It's nearly as many dissatisfied men as women. | /r/MensRights | 05/12/24 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Work-life balance isn't working for women. Why?is the employer supposed to pay childcare costs? It seemed like they're looking for a government solution, like subsidizing childcare costs. Which makes a lot of sense when you consider that childcare can't be scaled up to be affordable because you need a certain amount if workers per child. So, it's astronomical for pre-school aged children. Corporate culture really does make a difference in work-life balance. My company allows salaried employees work from home or flex their time to meet person… | /r/MensRights | 05/12/24 06:20 PM |
| 0 | "all girls should learn self defence"Cute story, but it's irrelevant It's a metaphor. Teaching people how to act in an emergency does not increase the chance of an emergency happening. It does help them keep their wits and not panic. Not if they aren't actually capable of handling the situation, it isn't. To be clear, the "situation" they're talking about is walking home from school. I'm curious what you think the solution is, if we shouldn't be teaching people how to defend themselves. Tell them to stay inside out of fear? Leave t… | /r/MensRights | 02/12/24 03:04 PM |
| 4 | "all girls should learn self defence"Yes, I read it. The girls they quoted said they felt more confident about what to do in a potentially risky situation. That's a good thing. You can't avoid all risk from other people. It's just not possible. So, teaching people how to handle an emergency situation (or keep it from escalating to an emergency) helps them know what to do when it's the real thing. And "taking unnecessary risks" isn't on the curriculum of any self defense class I've heard of. Think of it like kitchen safety. I taught… | /r/MensRights | 02/12/24 02:19 PM |
| 2 | "all girls should learn self defence"It will help more than doing nothing. You don't need to beat the guy's ass, you only need to fight long enough to create a window for escape. Self defense classes teach people how to do that. | /r/MensRights | 02/12/24 01:53 PM |
| 2 | "all girls should learn self defence"I've taken several self defense classes- elementary and middle school PE, in college and as an adult. The driving message is always about avoiding risk through situational awareness, de-escalation, etc. And if that doesn't work, creating a window for escape. I don't see how this would lead to riskier behavior. | /r/MensRights | 02/12/24 01:45 PM |
| 52 | "all girls should learn self defence"I agree 100%- all girls should learn self defense. And so should the boys. Although they're a lot less interested in self defense classes, in my experience. | /r/MensRights | 02/12/24 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Women just want to blame men and never do anything to change their situation or improveFighting an aggressor is much riskier than removing yourself from the situation. This is why self defense classes focus on de-escalating aggression, avoiding vulnerable situations, and escape. Fighting should really only be a last resort, meant to distract or disable enough to get away. I agree, confidence is important. Self defence classes are great for that, because you can practice scenarios in a safe setting. | /r/MensRights | 01/12/24 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Women just want to blame men and never do anything to change their situation or improveInterestingly, the men I've invited to self defense class scoffed at the idea. Like it's unmanly. Idk, maybe it's a blow to their pride to be taught how to run away, or to assume that they might not win a fight against an aggressor. | /r/MensRights | 01/12/24 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Women just want to blame men and never do anything to change their situation or improveThe counter argument I always hear is why they should have to. Both things can be true simultaneously. It's messed up to need to be on the alert against the threat of strange men, and I'll loudly complain about it. But I've also taken self defense classes and encouraged my daughter to do the same. | /r/MensRights | 01/12/24 06:18 PM |
| 10 | Women just want to blame men and never do anything to change their situation or improveHonestly, I agree. Martial arts doesn't seem that useful in this situation. Women should really take a self defense course. One that teaches situational awareness, verbal de-escalation, escape techniques and fighting dirty (go for the eyes). These classes are easy to find at colleges and community centers and are often free. When I was in college we'd round up a group of girlfriends and go together. Carrying a weapon is another option. Pepper spray is very effective with a little training, and g… | /r/MensRights | 01/12/24 08:47 AM |
| 1 | Some Thoughts on 4B.I’ll be honest, not sure how accurate/unbiased them failure rates are Those rates are released by the US government's Center for Disease Control (https://www.cdc.gov/contraception/about/index.html). You do understand what contraceptive failure rate is measuring, right? It's the percent of women who will become pregnant during year of using that contraceptive method. So, out of every 100 women using condoms for birth control for a year, 13 will become pregnant. a lot of the pro abortion lot never… | /r/MensRights | 24/11/24 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Some Thoughts on 4B.All contraceptives have a failure rate. Tracking cycles and pulling out- about 20%. Condoms- 13% The pill- 7% (I got pregnant on this one) Plan B- only effective at certain points in a cycle Loving partners- doesn't prevent pregnancy? Tubes tied- is permanent. Definitely not for everyone. To be honest, I would be scared to have regular sex if I lived in some parts of the US right now (like Texas). Women's reproductive healthcare is abysmal there. That's one of the reasons I live in a liberal sta… | /r/MensRights | 24/11/24 02:35 PM |
| -6 | Some Thoughts on 4B.I wouldn't say carelessness is the same as using abortion as contraceptives. For starters, most women having an abortion in the US, it's their first one. And, the number of abortions annually are half what they were in the 80's- because of the rise in contraceptive education and accessibility. Besides, the majority of women having abortions are low income- upwards of 70%. They're not thinking, in the heat of the moment, that it's ok to skip a condom because they can miss work and shell out a cou… | /r/MensRights | 24/11/24 02:09 PM |
| 2 | Some Thoughts on 4B.Not in the same way. WWII was one worldwide catalyst where the effects faded away as other countries rebuilt. Modern catalysts for societal change (like birth control, or the internet) are not going to go away. The results are more permanent shift than anamolous blip. | /r/MensRights | 24/11/24 02:03 PM |
| 0 | Some Thoughts on 4B.a working man could pay a mortgage/rent on a single income. Only some, and mostly in the anomalous period of prosperity after WWII. There have always been women working to support themselves/their families. The real difference is that now women have access to higher wage jobs. One of my grandmothers did part time factory work while the other was a foodservice worker at the local school. In contrast, I'm a purchasing manager for a large mfg company. Just better opportunities. | /r/MensRights | 24/11/24 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Some Thoughts on 4B.Yeah, who would do that? Abortions are expensive, time consuming and painful. They aren't contraception- abortions are the backup plan when contraception fails. | /r/MensRights | 24/11/24 01:15 PM |
| 3 | Student loan bailouts disproportionately benefit women because they borrow more and accept lower-paying jobs. The website suggests the 20% gender pay gap is to blame. Here are the stats.With 200k in debt a family practitioner will likely have lifetime earnings no higher than a plumber (and worse hours too; nobody pays you double to work on Sunday). Our education system is so out of whack when it comes to med school cost vs typical doctor salaries. State med schools average $150k for 4 years, and that's on top of any debt from the bachelor's degree. My daughter will be starting med school next year and we've been looking into tuition costs and financing options. It's been eye op… | /r/MensRights | 23/11/24 09:01 AM |
| 2 | Student loan bailouts disproportionately benefit women because they borrow more and accept lower-paying jobs. The website suggests the 20% gender pay gap is to blame. Here are the stats.A higher percentage of women borrow federal student loans than men, borrow higher amounts, and pay them back at a lower amount per month than men as well. And it's taking longer to pay back the loan that made a lot of people eligible for loan forgiveness. That's certainly the case for me. I went on an extended repayment plan right after college for lower payments and decided not to increase the monthly amount as my salary increased. My remaining loan was forgiven this year because I've been payi… | /r/MensRights | 23/11/24 08:53 AM |
| -18 | There's a Common Theme Here....After the US Presidential elections of 2024, there soon followed feminist calls for women to deny men sex, to hold a sex strike. Until what...? Until the threat to reproductive rights and reproductive healthcare is removed. I don't see how anyone was surprised by this. It seems obvious that, if having sex becomes more risky (especially physical risk), fewer women will choose to have it. It will ease up (at least in pro-choice states) as long as Trump doesn't try to enforce the Comstock Act to re… | /r/MensRights | 19/11/24 02:32 PM |
| 62 | Dads, vaccinate your sons against HPV - for their own protectionThere's no excuse for that level of ignorance in a medical professional. I mean, gardisil's current TV ad encourages everyone younger than 45 to be vaccinated, and lists all the cancers caused by HPV. My family members are all being recommended the vaccine by their boy's doctors. And it's much more common to know a man with HPV related throat cancer (I know two). Knowing that HPV is a risk for men seems like pretty common knowledge at this point. | /r/MensRights | 13/11/24 06:41 PM |
| 4 | "Your body my choice"Not sure why you're getting down voted. Nevaeh Crain has been all over the news after she died from sepsis after being denied treatment for a miscarriage in Texas. She was only 18. There's been dozens of women in Texas speaking out about injuries they suffered from being denied medically necessary abortions or treatment for miscarriage. It's barbaric. And the frightening thing is, miscarriages aren't even rare. It's nearly 1 in 4 pregnancies. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/24 10:36 PM |
| 1 | The correct counter to the 4B movementThat doesn't seem to be the case, though. Women are scared of what will happen to reproductive rights next. Just look at Texas. They're setting a terrifying example of where we could end up, as a country. Deciding to hold off until the dust settles isn't a bad idea. The women swearing off sex will come back around when they feel secure in access to reproductive care. | /r/MensRights | 10/11/24 04:33 PM |
| 0 | The correct counter to the 4B movementWell, I did not say that's all of it. You did, but ok, maybe you misspoke. Anyone who works or pays taxes is contributing to society. Which most women do. Not to mention all the other ways that people (any gender) contribute: volunteering, charitable donations, involvement in politics and local government, helping neighbors and family. | /r/MensRights | 10/11/24 03:25 PM |
| -1 | The correct counter to the 4B movementNot having sex because your access to reproductive care is threatened is self preservation. It's a sensible response. | /r/MensRights | 10/11/24 03:17 PM |
| -18 | The correct counter to the 4B movementIf some women are organizing to stop their contributions to society Did you just reduce women's contribution to society to sexual/romantic partners? Yikes. | /r/MensRights | 10/11/24 02:12 PM |
| -4 | r/4bmovement is blatant misandry. No exaggeration.Good thing abortion doesn't murder babies. Pregnancy and childbirth are damaging to the body- every time. Terminating a pregnancy is caring for the health of the woman in the most literal way. Besides, abortion bans aren't just about abortion. Look at TX, where women are dying because they're being denied care for miscarriages. Or Louisiana, where mifepristone access is being restricted. Again, that blocks women from treatment for miscarriage. And obgyns are moving out of states with bans becaus… | /r/MensRights | 09/11/24 04:18 PM |
| -1 | r/4bmovement is blatant misandry. No exaggeration.The posts I'm seeing are more: "I'm going 4B/not having sex until my reproductive rights are secure" Why is up to interpretation. The most likely case is both protest and self preservation. But it's a smart thing to do until things settle down. | /r/MensRights | 09/11/24 02:34 PM |
| -7 | r/4bmovement is blatant misandry. No exaggeration.My husband and I each own one. He recently had a vasectomy, so I'm not too worried for myself. But it would be a much different story if we could still have an unplanned pregnancy. It's perfectly logical for women to abstain from sex when they're worried about access to proper reproductive healthcare. | /r/MensRights | 09/11/24 02:25 PM |
| -14 | r/4bmovement is blatant misandry. No exaggeration.You're assuming that 4B is only meant to punish men. But it's also a great way for a woman to protect herself from the effects of threats to reproductive rights. No sex = no need to worry about abortion bans, access to contraceptives, whether you can get proper medical care during a miscarriage, etc. It certainly makes things simpler. | /r/MensRights | 09/11/24 02:13 PM |
| -5 | Feminist see themselves as sex objects when they don’t get what they want.It seems more like self preservation to me. Women I've talked to are scared of the possibility of a national abortion ban and how it will affect their healthcare. | /r/MensRights | 08/11/24 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Feminist see themselves as sex objects when they don’t get what they want.I'm seeing a lot of posts from women who would like to get pregnant but are afraid to be with the current political situation. Can't say I blame them, when you see stories like Nevaeh Crain. | /r/MensRights | 08/11/24 02:03 PM |
| 4 | Feminist see themselves as sex objects when they don’t get what they want.Of course, that's why they're saying they won't have sex if they don't have access to abortions. But most people don't want to go back to sex only for procreation. And it wouldn't eliminate abortions altogether. | /r/MensRights | 08/11/24 02:03 PM |
| 56 | Feminist see themselves as sex objects when they don’t get what they want.From the article: "As a woman, my bodily autonomy matters and this is my way to exercise sovereignty over that,” Isn't that true, though? The best protection against the effects of an abortion ban are making absolutely certain you don't get pregnant. | /r/MensRights | 08/11/24 12:47 PM |
| -7 | This came up on my Facebook feedThere's a trend of men posting "your body, my choice" on women's social media since the election. It's pretty gross, and rapey. | /r/MensRights | 08/11/24 11:42 AM |
| 1 | All this crap about “WoMeN’s RiGhTs” but Kamala+Liz Cheney will get all our sons, brothers, fathers etc…involved in endless warsTrump would need all 3 executive branches to pass an abortion law...which he is not going to have. Not necessarily. The Comstock Act already makes it illegal to ship abortion materials by mail or common carrier (such as UPS). Back in the 30s, the Supreme Court ruled that only applies to materials meant for illegal purposes. If the Supreme Court changes their ruling, suddenly the executive branch can enforce the law. Then, you can't ship mifepristone and other supplies used for abortion. This is … | /r/MensRights | 05/11/24 06:13 PM |
| 10 | Young women are starting to leave men behindVasectomy & hysterectomy are the permanent birth control options. Vasectomy and tubal ligation. Hysterectomy is not for sterilization. It's quite invasive and a last option treatment for things like cancer or uterine prolapse. | /r/MensRights | 04/11/24 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Wtf is this adYou're reading things into the ad that aren't there. First- she didn't lie. Not offering up who you voted for isn't lying and it isn't wrong. Second- there's nothing here that indicates she's afraid of her husband or that he's threatening her. Wanting to avoid uncomfortable conversations is a perfectly normal response. There doesn't have to be a threat of violence. Besides, the campaign put out a nearly identical ad where a man doesn't tell his friends who he voted for (with George Clooney). Are… | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 03:54 PM |
| -8 | Wtf is this adI've been married (to the same person) for 22 years. | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 03:08 PM |
| -14 | Wtf is this adWhat, that knowing when to hold your tongue can avoid unnecessary disagreements with your spouse? Seems like good advice to me. | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 02:37 PM |
| 0 | Are you tired of being told vasectomy is the right way because of safety?But it’s not reasonable for YOU to do something about it? I already have. We've been together for 25 years (I'm 44) and my husband had a vasectomy this year. I was taking birth control the entire time, excepting the year I was pregnant. Why should the entire reproductive responsibility fall on me for decisions we make as a couple? | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 12:31 PM |
| 0 | Are you tired of being told vasectomy is the right way because of safety?Ok? I'm not married to you. My husband was fine with taking over contraceptive responsibility. Just goes to show how important it is to pick the right partner. | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 12:10 PM |
| -1 | Are you tired of being told vasectomy is the right way because of safety?If you don’t want to get pregnant, do the right thing for YOU I did. The right thing for me was to go off birth control and let my husband be responsible for contraceptives. He also doesn't want more kids, so it's reasonable to expect him to do something about it. | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 12:10 PM |
| -24 | Wtf is this adWhy do you jump right to evil husbands beating women? The realistic scenario is that the husband will be pissed about who she voted for and grumble about it for a while. Still a perfectly valid reason for keeping a vote private. | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 11:42 AM |
| 0 | Wtf is this adDo you not know what a "bro" is? I explained exactly what the video is. The ads are clearly a pair, reminding people that their votes are secret. | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 11:23 AM |
| 9 | Wtf is this adSome Trump supporter's wives will vote single issue on abortion. The ad is clearly referencing voting for abortion rights. | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 11:21 AM |
| 0 | Are you tired of being told vasectomy is the right way because of safety?No more entitled than someone expecting their partner to handle contraception (and the side effects) indefinitely. Like I said- I would have settled on condoms. He's the one that doesn't like them, not me. It's easy to see how this turns into a point of contention between couples. There's not many options for compromise. | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 11:00 AM |
| 6 | Wtf is this adThere's one for men sneaking their votes behind their bro's backs, too. https://youtu.be/PDOLkGV4-Ls?si=5464EqQkfVmBnToe Before every election there are trending Google searches about whether someone can find out who you voted for. So it doesn't seem too out there to release ads reminding people that their votes are secret. | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 10:54 AM |
| 0 | Are you tired of being told vasectomy is the right way because of safety?But I would have been pretty upset if he didn't. I've been solely responsible for contraceptives our entire marriage. I wouldn't force him into it, though. I was done with birth control regardless. If he didn't want a vasectomy, I would have agreed to condoms. It's a tough situation because both partners make the decision to not have any more kids, but contraceptive use usually still falls on the woman. | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 10:46 AM |
| -2 | Are you tired of being told vasectomy is the right way because of safety?Whoever wants to be sterilised does it. That's the problem though, isn't it? The conflict is if a couple is done having kids but neither one wants to be sterilized. Expecting the woman to continue being responsible for contraception forever isn't fair. Forcing another person into sterilization isn't right. So, persuasion it is. Or going back to using condoms, I guess. I'm really glad I didn't have to have that argument. When I told my husband I didn't want to take birth control any more, he was … | /r/MensRights | 03/11/24 10:32 AM |
| -4 | Are you tired of being told vasectomy is the right way because of safety?More often, I've seen men told that it's their turn. As in, the woman has been using an IUD or hormonal birth control for years, so now that it's time for permanent birth control the man should get the procedure. Another common factor is that vasectomy is much less expensive than tubal ligation. And, yes, safer. As another poster mentioned, hysteroscopic tubal sterilization is no longer available. No one should be guilted into a medical procedure. But, I've seen it cause some serious resentment … | /r/MensRights | 02/11/24 10:31 PM |
| 1 | Are MEN to blame for the UK fertility crisis? Women want children but are forced into freezing their eggs due to the 'mating gap' - where they can't find a partner to commit OP: More male hate!Don't get me wrong- I know insurers will always try to weasel out of paying for stuff. Health insurers are mandated by NY state law to cover infertility treatments. Including IVF, hormone therapy and medically necessary freezing of eggs and sperm. Relationship status and sexual orientation don't affect coverage. | /r/MensRights | 31/10/24 01:08 AM |
| 17 | Are MEN to blame for the UK fertility crisis? Women want children but are forced into freezing their eggs due to the 'mating gap' - where they can't find a partner to commit OP: More male hate!True. It's a lot easier to find a desirable partner before everyone starts getting married. Pick an ambitious man with potential and help him along the way, and you've got the financial angle covered too. I've been happily married over twenty years (since I was 21) and we've gone from poverty to upper middle class in that time. | /r/MensRights | 30/10/24 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Are MEN to blame for the UK fertility crisis? Women want children but are forced into freezing their eggs due to the 'mating gap' - where they can't find a partner to commit OP: More male hate!is this a precursor for demanding that the govt pays for more IVF( single women)? No need for the government to pay. It's a health issue, require health insurance to cover it. That's how it is in my state. | /r/MensRights | 30/10/24 11:17 AM |
| 0 | are house chores/being a stay att home parent/wife/husband really that much harder then working away form home like feminists say it is?It’s not a gender inherent thing, it’s a conditioning thing, based on exposure. You're making some big assumptions here about what most men (and women) have been taught. My husband doesn't know anything about fixing cars, neither do most of our male friends and family. The few who do, it's because it's a hobby. And my step-dad was fixing cars for his whole extended family/friend group because they didn't know how to do it themselves. And tons of people do work on their cars right there on the si… | /r/MensRights | 29/10/24 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Why does male entertainment have to be inclusive to women while female entertainment just gets to exist as is?A hobby is just an activity you do in your leisure time. Everyone has hobbies, whether they label them that way or not. | /r/MensRights | 29/10/24 05:16 PM |
| 1 | are house chores/being a stay att home parent/wife/husband really that much harder then working away form home like feminists say it is?When I was poor, I lived in dinky apartments with street parking. There was nowhere to fix a car even if I wanted to. When I got a flat, I put on the spare and drove to the discount tire place, while expensive repairs went on my credit card. That's a pretty typical poor person experience. Dented cars is what insurance is for. I'll admit, there was one time I kept the $2k insurance payout after my neighbor hit mine, but I didn't fix the car. The whole car wasn't worth $2k anyway, and I traded it … | /r/MensRights | 28/10/24 07:18 PM |
| 1 | are house chores/being a stay att home parent/wife/husband really that much harder then working away form home like feminists say it is?I'm not sure where the confusion lies. The main work with contractors is getting quotes and nailing down the scope of work and timeframe. Which both partners generally want a say on, so they're both present. New windows or doors? Have to go to the showroom to consider costs and options. Redo a patio? Meet with the contractors for material and color choices. Renovate a kitchen? Go to the granite yard and cabinet and flooring showrooms, pick appliances and lighting, meet with designers | /r/MensRights | 28/10/24 03:10 PM |
| 1 | are house chores/being a stay att home parent/wife/husband really that much harder then working away form home like feminists say it is?Not that way with women. I'm a woman. Contractors are a bit trickier, but that's not usually something one partner would decide on alone. Our costliest home improvement project was a kitchen remodel and I ended up doing more meetings simply because so many things needed to be picked out. It seems pretty common to hand those choices over to the wife. | /r/MensRights | 28/10/24 02:33 PM |
| 1 | are house chores/being a stay att home parent/wife/husband really that much harder then working away form home like feminists say it is?I've never found it to be that difficult. Drop off the car after hours, have a 5-10 minute call with the mechanic and pick it up (usually) the next day. And pick up and drop off are two person jobs anyway. You really only have to go through the "finding a mechanic" process once, and it can be as easy as getting a recommendation from a friend or family member. Even easier for cars under warranty- use the dealership. | /r/MensRights | 28/10/24 01:34 PM |
| 1 | are house chores/being a stay att home parent/wife/husband really that much harder then working away form home like feminists say it is?i fail to understand what you mean by this, mind explaining it to me? If being a parent is all that you do, it's easy to lose your sense of self. You spend all your time with children, talking to children or about children. People who work outside the home have their work role as an additional identity, but SAHP need to be careful to maintain hobbies and friendships outside their kids to keep a healthy balance. It's not just stay at homes, either. When our daughter went to college, my husband an… | /r/MensRights | 27/10/24 09:34 PM |
| 2 | are house chores/being a stay att home parent/wife/husband really that much harder then working away form home like feminists say it is?A lot of poor people just suck it up and pay the mechanic- I did when I was poor. You need tools and a place to work to diy car repairs. Not everyone has that. As for the rest, it seems like middle class and up pay others for all but the most basic home and auto repairs. Like, I'll paint a room, but plumbing, heating, renovations, replacing doors and windows, etc- done by professionals. | /r/MensRights | 27/10/24 06:49 PM |
| 10 | are house chores/being a stay att home parent/wife/husband really that much harder then working away form home like feminists say it is?Yeah. A lot of families use contractors, repair shops, lawn services, etc. In those cases, no one can count those tasks in their "bucket." | /r/MensRights | 27/10/24 04:29 PM |
| 7 | are house chores/being a stay att home parent/wife/husband really that much harder then working away form home like feminists say it is?Having done each of these, I'd rank it like this: 1) SAHP- a lot of physical labor, few real breaks, more hands on time than a typical workweek. Assuming you're doing the lion's share of childcare for small children, and housework 2) work outside the home- I've always had an office job with 40-50 hours per week, so more mentally tiring and less physical. YMMV 3) house spouse- with kids in school, only 25ish hours per week. Main issue is the loneliness | /r/MensRights | 27/10/24 04:26 PM |
| -2 | Do we have the right to watch porn?Yes, Project 2025 lists banning porn as a goal (quote below). It definitely seems like an angle to attack open discussion of LGBTQ people and themes. And, like most of Project 2025, it's likely too extreme of an idea to get real traction. "Pornography, manifested today in the omnipresent propagation of transgender ideology and sexualization of children, for instance, is not a political Gordian knot inextricably binding up disparate claims about free speech, property rights, sexual liberation, an… | /r/MensRights | 08/10/24 10:35 PM |
| 1 | "Dutch feminists campaign for national monument to ‘witches’"... No, really...!Wow, thanks for proving my point. Nothing of substance. Anyway. You may not have realized it, but some people on reddit like to go through people's post histories to dig up irrelevant shit. You can thwart these "snoopers" by going back afterwards and deleting any posts with a hint of controversy. Then, when they go digging, they'll find posts about which Olympic sport is best, how partners who don't do chores suck, and a pic of a cute otter at the zoo. Give it a week, and I'll delete this one to… | /r/MensRights | 05/10/24 05:18 PM |
| 1 | "Dutch feminists campaign for national monument to ‘witches’"... No, really...!She turned me into a newt! | /r/MensRights | 05/10/24 10:01 AM |
| 1 | "Dutch feminists campaign for national monument to ‘witches’"... No, really...!The fact that you're only focused on my post history tells me you have nothing of real substance to say. | /r/MensRights | 05/10/24 09:21 AM |
| 0 | "Dutch feminists campaign for national monument to ‘witches’"... No, really...!Those men are memorialized at Salem. The names of all the victims are carved into the monument. There's not some conspriracy to hide the fact. | /r/MensRights | 05/10/24 09:19 AM |
| 7 | "Dutch feminists campaign for national monument to ‘witches’"... No, really...!Yet you only object to one of these...? True. I have absolutely no reason to object to memorials for victims of witch hunts. I just don't understand this mindset that you can either recognize past tragedy or care about current problems, but not both. I was in a city last week with multiple monuments to victims of religious persecution and another memorializing victims of communist regime. It would never have occurred to me to be upset about such a thing, or see them as taking focus away from peo… | /r/MensRights | 04/10/24 10:25 PM |
| 33 | "Dutch feminists campaign for national monument to ‘witches’"... No, really...!So? Salem has a memorial to victims of their witch hunt, and there were only 20 dead there. Memorializing victims of persecution seems unobjectionable. | /r/MensRights | 04/10/24 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Do you believe that most lesbians hate men?And also hetero women who hate men. Some people are just like that. | /r/MensRights | 05/09/24 11:30 AM |
| 0 | Am I the only one that thinks the Pink Tax is dumb.If it fits in our pockets it doesn't even register. I guess I can't relate. | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 03:14 PM |
| -2 | Am I the only one that thinks the Pink Tax is dumb.You shouldn't have to Google to find brands with decent sized pockets. It should be the norm, like it is for men.. My husband and I both wear Levi's jeans. My pocket is smaller than my hand. My husband has enough room for 2 cellphones per pocket. Like this weekend, when we went to a concert and he had his phone, mine, and our daughter's, since our pockets were too small. Tbh, I'm surprised more men aren't concerned with the pocket issue, since they keep carrying stuff for women. | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 02:38 PM |
| 4 | Am I the only one that thinks the Pink Tax is dumb.Tax on period products (ie the literal pink tax) is dumb. Doubly so if other medical items are tax exempt. Twenty US states are still doing that nonsense. Otherwise, I just find it annoying. It's good to know it exists for things like grooming products. At least now I know to check the men's aisle for cheaper options. It stinks when it's something I can't avoid, like higher dry cleaning and tailoring costs for women's garments. Or when my daughter was little and the "girl version" of things (clo… | /r/MensRights | 04/09/24 10:52 AM |
| 2 | Americans see men as the financial providers, even as women’s contributions growInteresting to see how the responses differ by education level, race and sex. I'm curious what's causing the difference between men's and women's responses. 39% of women thought it's important for a woman to be able to support a family, but only 25% of men thought so. That's a pretty big difference. | /r/MensRights | 15/08/24 10:39 AM |
| 3 | Affirmative action/quota are so sexistNot sex-related, but my daughter's been applying to med schools, and it's a similar situation with what they're looking for re: applicants. Particularly: are you part of a minority group under represented among physicians? And do you live in a medically under serviced area? Needless to say, she's written a lot of essays about being LGBTQ and living in a poorer, mostly rural area. I can even see why med schools would want to encourage more students in these groups. That is, minority parients tend… | /r/MensRights | 14/08/24 03:47 PM |
| 11 | Guys apparently we are now abusive if we give them a diamond ring on a special day...It's not abusive to propose during your partner's achievement- it's just inconsiderate. Common sense says if there's already a celebration in progress, you don't do something that will take the focus off the person/achievements being celebrated. Including (but not limited to) proposals. The one exception is if your partner has previously said they'd like to be proposed to in this specific way. | /r/MensRights | 11/08/24 11:55 AM |
| 3 | Feminism = Running BackwardsEven women who have kids don't want to stay home all day. Especially when two incomes = better standard of living. For my family, one person working means keeping a budget and a reasonably nice apartment. Two incomes is a large house and international vacations every other year. I've tried the housewife thing (unemployed, not by choice) and was bored and lonely two weeks in. And I was still getting paid full wage. If not for that, I'd have been worried about the precariousness of just one income… | /r/MensRights | 08/08/24 11:59 AM |
| 0 | Imagine marrying and then you can't ever follow your dreams againif we hadn’t communicated and doled out chores properly, I would’ve ended up having to do probably 90% of the housework Good for you, sticking up for yourself. No reason why you should pick up the slack for his hobby! Most of my time-consuming hobbies have been shared with my husband. It's nice to still spend that time together, and there's no danger of one doing all the unpaid labor while the other's gone. But, there was a time or two I had to turn down something I really would have enjoyed bec… | /r/MensRights | 01/08/24 11:09 PM |
| 3 | Imagine marrying and then you can't ever follow your dreams againSame. We try to make sure we each have the same total of: work + commute + housework. Seems fair | /r/MensRights | 01/08/24 05:38 PM |
| 9 | Imagine marrying and then you can't ever follow your dreams againI just think there's a lot of factors when one partner in a relationship has a very time-consuming hobby. The big ones are: Did they know about that hobby before getting together? Marrying someone and expecting them to change is a terrible idea, and you knew what you were signing up for. But if one partner decides to start a new time-consuming hobby, especially with kids involved, that's a different story. I wouldn't blame them for being upset. Is the household labor still fairly split? It's not… | /r/MensRights | 01/08/24 02:51 PM |
| 32 | Imagine marrying and then you can't ever follow your dreams againThat's why my mother always advised me to marry someone with same ambition Smart. Same goals is key to a happy marriage. I know a guy who runs marathons and trains hours upon hours, plus flying to races. He married a woman who is also passionate about running. They cheer each other on and take the kids to races. Problem solved. | /r/MensRights | 01/08/24 11:19 AM |
| 1 | EqualitySo have we all, and phthalates have reproductive effects for both sexes. I just don't think you can compare exposure to an environmental pollutant to forcing an entire population of men and women to undergo hormone therapy that's not medically necessary. At the very least, the ethics of the two situations are widely different. | /r/MensRights | 26/07/24 02:56 PM |
| 2 | EqualityBe honest, do you think most men and women would be interested in taking hormones to adjust their sex drives to some "equal" level? The woman in this article had a hormone disorder- she had a medical reason to take testosterone. Most women don't. | /r/MensRights | 26/07/24 11:34 AM |
| 2 | EqualityMany are only 'infertile' because they do not have a man in their life. Surely they could just buy sperm if it's lack of a man that's the problem? You can just insert it. IVF involves rounds of hormones, egg extraction, fertilization of eggs in a lab and insertion of the zygote(s). It's only for people with a medical barrier to conception. Again, medical issues should be covered by health insurance. Full stop. | /r/MensRights | 26/07/24 11:30 AM |
| 3 | EqualityFrom a practical standpoint, I can't see many people wanting to use hormones or similar to try and change their sex drive. Seems like too much risk for the reward. | /r/MensRights | 26/07/24 11:11 AM |
| 2 | EqualityIt's bizarre to me that relationship status would have any bearing on whether fertility treatments are covered. I mean, infertility is a medical condition. Either you have it or you don't. Being married doesn't change the fact. I'm in NY and health insurance is required to cover up to three rounds of IVF for anyone struggling to conceive. Also, medically necessary storage of sperm or eggs, sterilization, contraception and abortions. It's all part of reproductive health care. | /r/MensRights | 26/07/24 11:07 AM |
| -6 | Proof that American family courts are biased against fathersThe previous poster presented 4% of men not being biological fathers as a reason why men don't seek custody of their children. It's not whether paternity fraud is an issue. It's whether it makes sense for men to not try for custody of their children (who they've been raising until this point) because of a 4% chance the child isn't theirs. That doesn't make sense. | /r/MensRights | 07/07/24 07:15 PM |
| 9 | The real division of labour problem Men 23 times more likely to die in the workplace than women.I would love to see more companies in these male dominated fields putting in an effort to attract female job applicants. At my last job, there was a company initiative to increase the number of women in general, but particularly on the manufacturing floor. There was a committee tasked with % increase goals over 2 years, 5 years and 10 years. As part of the initiative, they interviewed current female employees about all sorts of factors that could affect recruitment. The important thing is, it wo… | /r/MensRights | 07/07/24 06:11 PM |
| -13 | The real division of labour problem Men 23 times more likely to die in the workplace than women.The argument falls apart at the individual level though. My husband and I both work office jobs. He can't use other people's contributions as an excuse for not doing the dishes. | /r/MensRights | 07/07/24 06:03 PM |
| -17 | Proof that American family courts are biased against fathersAccording to various Internet articles involving DNA, one in 25 fathers may not be the biological parent of the child they believe to be theirs. 4% where the kid isn't theirs means the vast majority of fathers are their child's biological parent. I couldn't see not fighting for a child I had previously accepted and raised on such a small chance. Surely some other factor is driving men to not seek custody. | /r/MensRights | 07/07/24 01:52 PM |
| 0 | Gender segregated educationThe number of classes would only be unchanged if a college was already offering at least two different sessions of each class in a given semester. That's definitely not the case- having just one option per semester (or per year) for classes is the norm. For example, intro to biology is one of the largest classes (maybe the largest) at the local university and there's still only one lecture session per semester, in a 450 person lecture hall. If you're taking intro bio, you're doing it at 8:30 MWF… | /r/MensRights | 06/07/24 09:01 PM |
| -5 | Gender segregated educationI guess disagreeing with you = condescension? I thought you wanted to have a discussion about same sex education, but it seems like you just wanted to vent and have others agree. My mistake. I don't invite segregationists to my parties, so it has never been a problem. I've had a similar experience to yours, but in hs. Had a stalker- I was harassed, threatened, and had to take legal action. I agree with you, that's terrible. But I didn't equate the actions of a few messed up individuals with an e… | /r/MensRights | 06/07/24 03:13 PM |
| -1 | Gender segregated educationOk...you didn't really answer my comment, though. Let's take an example. The local state university here has 18k students (52% women, 48% men) spread across 130 majors. To gender segregate would mean doubling the number of classes so each has an option for men and one for women. That would require a huge increase in staff and construction of many new buildings for extra classrooms. So, who pays for that? It doesn't seem right to push the extra expense to people who don't care about same sex clas… | /r/MensRights | 06/07/24 12:47 PM |
| 0 | Gender segregated educationSo is it women you don't want to take classes with, or people who support feminism? There's overlap, but the two groups aren't the same. From a practical standpoint, this would make college much more expensive than it already is. Having to double the number of classes offered means more professors, more TAs and more classrooms. Who's going to pay for all that? And, even if all the students are male, the professor and TAs might be female, or feminist, or both. | /r/MensRights | 06/07/24 12:24 PM |
| 1 | A shortage of young men in the workforce could weigh on housing, Social Security, and growth for years to comeHow about putting more women in factory jobs? Companies are making an effort to get more women into manufacturing. At my last employer, there were specific company goals to increase the number of female factory workers- x% by 2 years, 5 years, etc. There was an upper management team tasked with improving recruiting efforts to get more women to apply, and I was interviewed for ideas, along with other women recently hired into the company. | /r/MensRights | 28/06/24 10:31 AM |
| 53 | Ozempic is Over Prescribed to WomenAnything to avoid addressing the systemic issues that cause 75% of a society's population to be overweight. | /r/MensRights | 26/06/24 03:41 PM |
| 1 | This is what other men have to say about benefits of getting married as a man. What do you think?Ang again nearly every one of those can be done without being married No they can't. Bereavement leave and health insurance is based on who your employer considers family. You don't get to choose. Auto insurance is cheaper for married people because they file fewer claims, and are therefore less risk. Your rate is calculated on the information provided, including marital status. And you can't will away remaining SS benefits or decide who can inherit tax free. These are privileges reserved for sp… | /r/MensRights | 25/06/24 03:14 PM |
| 1 | This is what other men have to say about benefits of getting married as a man. What do you think?It was an example, not an exhaustive list. True, you could designate someone "power of attorney" and "healthcare proxy" so they can manage your medical care and bills. But that's just replacing one set of legal contracts for another. Some of the other benefits I've been able to use include: taking paid bereavement leave when my spouse's relatives have died, and vice versa saving on health insurance (roughly $2K/year) because we can use a family plan and can pick from either of our employer's off… | /r/MensRights | 25/06/24 03:01 PM |
| -1 | This is what other men have to say about benefits of getting married as a man. What do you think?and if you’re paying thousands on your car insurance, there’s probably a gecko you could chat with). Oh no, I save thousands a year in health insurance. That's the expensive one. The car insurance isn't cheap either with three cars (two new) and a relatively inexperienced driver. Moving on from that, the legal benefits of marriage in the bulk of the western world don’t outweigh the risk of marriage failing - for men at least That's your opinion, and that's fine. It doesn't negate the fact that t… | /r/MensRights | 25/06/24 03:05 AM |
| 0 | This is what other men have to say about benefits of getting married as a man. What do you think?I find it hard to believe that the whole rest of the world doesn't have any legal benefits to marriage. I imagine they're different in each country, just like how every other law varies between countries. | /r/MensRights | 25/06/24 02:52 AM |
| 1 | This is what other men have to say about benefits of getting married as a man. What do you think?No surprise that legal benefits vary from region to region. Since I am in the US, there's some very concrete advantages to being married. Like cheaper health insurance and auto insurance (a few thousand $ per year in savings). And there's a good amount dealing with inheritance and survivor benefits that will be useful at some point in the (hopefully distant) future. But, hey, everyone's situation is different. I’m also still waiting a source on your comment about women being worse off in the eve… | /r/MensRights | 25/06/24 02:42 AM |
| 1 | This is what other men have to say about benefits of getting married as a man. What do you think?But, for an actual discussion here, tell me, if a couple are happy in their relationship, what benefits does marriage provide that aren’t already part of the relationship? Legal benefits are pretty big. For example, FMLA leave. When my spouse had cancer, I was able to take a 12 week leave from my job to care for him, and the state of NY paid me $14k to help compensate for my lost wages. And my employer was legally obligated to hold my job while I was gone. This type of leave is only available to… | /r/MensRights | 25/06/24 01:04 AM |
| 1 | What is weaponised incompetence and how does it affect sharing the load in the home?You agreed that wearing clothes, using the bathroom, preparing food, and sleeping in bed dirtied those things, which would then need to be cleaned. So, why would I argue with you? Dirty is subjective Not when it comes to food safety and hygienic living conditions. Leaving food residue on a plate to collect bacteria and dust, then eating from it again is against safe food handling practices. Mildew or pink mold in a shower, food scum in a kitchen sink, an unclean toilet- these aren't "subjective,… | /r/MensRights | 17/06/24 02:45 PM |
| -2 | What is weaponised incompetence and how does it affect sharing the load in the home?I love that your solution to dirty dishes is to just eat chips out of a bag. We don't even keep chips (or any junk food) in our house. Eating off a dirty plate is just gross. You're quibbling over whether people who work make more or less mess, but there's no denying they do make a mess. Otherwise, I would literally never have to clean house, since everyone living here works. Since this is reality, we average 10+ hours a week cleaning and about 10 more cooking. And it's not even spotless. | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 04:09 PM |
| -3 | What is weaponised incompetence and how does it affect sharing the load in the home?Standards like...having clean dishes and bathrooms? I work 40 hrs/wk and use things in my house all the time.Such as: Clothes- for exercise, work, casual and sleeping Dishes- preparing and eating 3 meals a day plus snacks Bathroom- shower, sink, toilet Kitchen: stove, microwave,counters, sink Bedroom- sheets and other bedding All these things need cleaning, as well as the general dust that accumulates whether anyone is home or not | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 01:07 PM |
| -4 | What is weaponised incompetence and how does it affect sharing the load in the home?If guy is working he doesn't make house dirty. Haha- good one. Does he not cook/eat food, wear clothes, sleep in a bed, use a bathroom? There are three working adults in my house. Negligible difference in amount of cleaning for days off vs working days. | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 11:05 AM |
| 7 | What is weaponised incompetence and how does it affect sharing the load in the home?Not to mention that most people who live alone live in smaller spaces This is a point that's often overlooked - how big is your space? When we were engaged, my partner and I shared a tiny apartment - it was so quick to clean. Now we live in a large house, and there's just a lot more space to keep tidy. More bathrooms to scrub, more floors to mop, more counters and backsplash to wipe, etc. Plus a yard, window boxes/planters, and flower beds. Add in two cats and a daughter, and we spend a lot more… | /r/MensRights | 05/06/24 02:15 AM |
| -2 | Women have significant advantages compared to men when it comes to getting modern resources.Then what are you saying? You're the one who said the two things are the same. | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 11:55 PM |
| -8 | Women have significant advantages compared to men when it comes to getting modern resources.So you're saying contributions on this sub are on par with "man vs. bear?" | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 11:50 PM |
| 1 | 100+ Million Leftover Women In China Realize Their Degrees Mean Nothing To Men.Ok, i will trust what you say is fact. Dude, you don't have to trust me. You have a computer in your hand. A brain surgeon could have $150,000 in debt, but a forestry major better not have more than $20,000. But that's only true if the person with the degree is going to keep working and contributing to bills. I thought you said not to expect a wife to contribute financially. If she's just going to let you support her...$20k < $150k | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 11:47 PM |
| 1 | 100+ Million Leftover Women In China Realize Their Degrees Mean Nothing To Men.Her money is irrelevant as that's not how lasting relationships work. Then it makes bo difference what her degree is. Why would you care if it's a profitable field or not? If you're banking on your wife's income to support you or even supplement the family income in a major way you're doomed to fail, IMO. Don't worry, I'm not. I'm a woman. I seriously doubt Forestry and zoology are considered apart of STEM. Forestry and zoology are both branches of biology. Since when is biology not science? Yes… | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 10:44 PM |
| 0 | Women have significant advantages compared to men when it comes to getting modern resources.Most women don't get the privileges you are talking about. OF, for example, is a highly competitive market where very few women out of the whole actually strike it rich. This is true of most of your examples. Finding a high value man to support you is likewise a big competition. Bingo. Apex fallacy at work. | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Women have significant advantages compared to men when it comes to getting modern resources.The OnlyFans obsession on this sub is ridiculous. It's kind of funny. There are only 2 million content creators on OF. Even if they were all women (they're not) and all from the US (they're not), that would be less than 1.5% of adult US women. Acting like this tiiiiny outlier somehow represents most women is crazy. | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 08:31 PM |
| 0 | 100+ Million Leftover Women In China Realize Their Degrees Mean Nothing To Men.Wouldn't it be more practical to consider your partner's actual income and debt before combining finances? I mean, some STEM degrees result in relatively low paying jobs (forestry, zoology), while some non-STEM degrees lead to very lucrative careers (nursing, law). Drawing a line in the sand at "STEM" seems a little silly. | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 07:30 PM |
| -3 | 100+ Million Leftover Women In China Realize Their Degrees Mean Nothing To Men.He didn't say that at all. He did, though. What was the point of bringing up his wife and her experience if not to provide an example of how a woman should be? He's praising his wife for giving up her own dreams so she could be a mother and support his success. That's very different from a woman pursuing motherhood and being a SAHM because that's what she wants. Yeah that's a pretty prevalent Catholic belief where I just agree to disagree. No it isn't. Catholics are against hormonal birth contro… | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 02:33 PM |
| -2 | 100+ Million Leftover Women In China Realize Their Degrees Mean Nothing To Men.but what Butker said is right, some of them will be more fulfilled by being a mother and wife, even if they do work as well This isn't all he said, though. He started by saying women had been lied to. Then, he talked about his wife as an example of womanhood. She converted to his faith, her life didn't start until she married and had kids, and she gave up her own dreams to support his. Also, he spoke against women planning how many kids they have, condemming both natural family planning and IVF.… | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 11:12 AM |
| 3 | 100+ Million Leftover Women In China Realize Their Degrees Mean Nothing To Men.Remember lads if it's not STEM or accounting, it's bullshit and you are going to have to pick up the slack. Not when so many companies require a degree just to check a box on the application. There's so many jobs with "degree required" but they couldn't care less which one. A degree is the new diploma. I'm a purchasing manager for an electronics manufacturer (bachelor's required), and I have a BS psychology. Degrees are required for buyers, too, and the folks on my team have them in art history,… | /r/MensRights | 04/06/24 10:41 AM |
| 2 | Why are men still signing up for the military?And only a tiny fraction of women are OF content creators. The idea that droves of women are getting rich from OF is laughable. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/24 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Why are men still signing up for the military?I agree. And not just boys- teens in general. We had so many texts and calls from recruiters trying to get my daughter to join, even after repeatedly asking them to stop (she graduated 2020). And they kept trying to sell the "pay for college" angle, but we live in NY. The state offers full tuition scholarships for students from families making less than 125k. We make more than that, but my kid already had a full state scholarship through the STEM Incentive program. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/24 06:47 PM |
| 1 | The "women do all the work" narrative has to be one of the biggest social gaslighting campaigns of all time...Do you cohabitate? I'm going to guess not if you don't discuss finances. That's a very different dynamic than a couple who lives together and splits household expenses and housework. Yea exactly thats what im saying But what you actually said is that men don't care what a woman makes. Which is nonsense- most men are practical. Middle-class men aren't marrying part-time minimum wage workers. They're choosing partners who will be able to contribute to maintaining that middle-class lifestyle but al… | /r/MensRights | 03/06/24 09:36 AM |
| 1 | The "women do all the work" narrative has to be one of the biggest social gaslighting campaigns of all time...The experience you described of a woman earning more? You know that still doesn't make sense, right? If the woman earning more = relationship problems, men should be actively looking for women that make less than them. That still =/= men not caring what their partner makes. You're really not making a good argument for men being rational. In all seriousness, 45% of married couples in the US either have roughly equal pay, or the wife earns more. So I really doubt men are as blind to their partner'… | /r/MensRights | 02/06/24 08:53 AM |
| 2 | The "women do all the work" narrative has to be one of the biggest social gaslighting campaigns of all time...Most men literally care zero how much their partner makes. That's foolishness on their part. Unless a man is planning to support his partner/family solo (and most can't afford to), the partner's income will directly affect his lifestyle and that of any future children. Caring about what your partner will be able to contribute to the household is just practical. Plus, a bunch of the traits that make someone a desirable employee also make them a desirable long-term partner. Things like dependabili… | /r/MensRights | 02/06/24 07:55 AM |
| 3 | The "women do all the work" narrative has to be one of the biggest social gaslighting campaigns of all time...I agree, we haven't reached the point of fully eliminating gender roles yet. US society is still in a flux state between traditional and modern, but there's definite progress being made. Like income. The more women make, the closer they come to earning the same or more than their spouses. I have a job that probably wouldn't have been held by a woman in my mom's day, and definitely not in my grandma's. But having that opportunity means that I outearn my husband. I will say, I've had women try to … | /r/MensRights | 01/06/24 03:17 PM |
| 1 | The "women do all the work" narrative has to be one of the biggest social gaslighting campaigns of all time...I do feel like, including for myself, if there was just a division of labour in the sense one brings in the money and then you chill out that's a far better arrangement than you both work, you both clean Obviously, different people are going to prefer different arrangements. That's why it's so important to choose a partner who wants the same kind of lifestyle as you and openly communicate about expectations. My husband and I both prefer having a two income family for the added financial security… | /r/MensRights | 01/06/24 02:19 PM |
| 4 | The "women do all the work" narrative has to be one of the biggest social gaslighting campaigns of all time...the problem was that life was so much better when we had clear division of labour. There's no reason you can't still have this. It's just that now partners decide among themselves who does what instead of expected gender roles. For example, I cook, and my spouse cleans up after. He mows the lawn, and I tend the flowers and shrubs. Our daughter cleans bathrooms. Everyone has set chores on a regular schedule, divided in a way that we all agreed is fair | /r/MensRights | 01/06/24 12:53 PM |
| 24 | The "women do all the work" narrative has to be one of the biggest social gaslighting campaigns of all time...Either one works and the other is at home, or you both work and hire a maid. This is probably the best solution to the problem- she should hire a house cleaner. Whether they can afford it is another issue. Rants like these make me so grateful for a spouse who actually does split the housework 50/50. | /r/MensRights | 01/06/24 10:53 AM |
| 1 | Woman are the problem when it comes to divorce and relationshipsThe extra steps should say... hey, maybe this isn't so good that the parents that provided the good example to my future life partner didn't value things the way they should and cut out at the first opportunity How could you possibly get to the verge of marriage and not already know about your fiance's relationship with their parents? Lack of communication with your partner is the real red flag. I just don't think it helps anyone to solicit an opinion which is: a) unwanted and b) going to be ign… | /r/MensRights | 31/05/24 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Woman are the problem when it comes to divorce and relationshipsBut you should still have to ask and hear their opinion. Why? If you value your parents' opinion, you'll ask on your own. If you don't value it, what's the point of asking? Besides, how would you provide proof that you asked your parents? This just seems problematic all around. I realize that some people are assholes who won’t ever give a blessing because nobody’s good enough for their kid. Let's just stop at "some people are assholes." As in, bad parents, or uninvolved, or bigoted against those… | /r/MensRights | 31/05/24 09:46 AM |
| 9 | Woman are the problem when it comes to divorce and relationshipsNo legal adult should need their parents' permission to get married. (And the 38 US states that allow minors to marry can get bent- that's shameful) | /r/MensRights | 31/05/24 01:33 AM |
| 2 | Woman are the problem when it comes to divorce and relationshipsIf we're just talking finances, there's still more incentive for women to stay married than not. 100% access to a man's assets and income > a percentage in the form of child support and/or alimony. | /r/MensRights | 31/05/24 01:10 AM |
| 30 | Woman are the problem when it comes to divorce and relationshipsMore like, women are more likely to pull the plug on the relationship. But that doesn't mean that either partner was happy before divorce papers were filed. I've never met a divorced couple who weren't both thoroughly miserable before the split. | /r/MensRights | 30/05/24 07:41 PM |
| 0 | Privileges of Men, as listed by our feminist neighbours.They can get a job or promotion without people assuming they were just a diversity hire rather than actually qualified. Honestly, this is still better than the "because you're pretty" varient. As in, "you only got that position/promotion/opportunity because you're pretty." Interestingly, I've mostly gotten this comment from other women who were less qualified and less experienced than me. It's just a petty way to make others feel small. Fathers are not asked if they plan to continue to work afte… | /r/MensRights | 25/05/24 10:50 AM |
| 23 | The problem is lonelinessWhat you're describing is a "third place." It's a public space separate from work/school and the home. And it's where a lot of socialization used to happen, but such spaces are becoming less common with the rise of suburbs, dependence on cars, social media and online shopping. Also, many of these types of places closed during covid and never reopened. I've been seeing a lot of articles the past few years about loss of third places and the negative impact on people's lives. | /r/MensRights | 19/05/24 10:23 PM |
| 3 | Harrison Butker ControversyHe did say that "her life truly started when she began living her vocation as a wife and as a mother" regarding his wife. I interpreted it the same- that life didn't have meaning before marriage and kids. | /r/MensRights | 18/05/24 08:03 AM |
| -3 | Harrison Butker ControversyIt's controversial because It's not an appropriate venue. If this were a church sermon, no one would bat an eye. But, it's a college graduation, addressing a group of people who just spent years of hard work and a truckload of money on a degree. He specifically said that women had been told "diabolical lies." It seems clear he's referring to having a career. Then he praised his wife's choice of giving up her own dream for a career to support his. He also stated that her life had not really start… | /r/MensRights | 18/05/24 07:51 AM |
| 3 | Programmed by Media: NPR Host Suggests Women's Freely Made Choices Are from the PatriarchyTo be fair, there's a lot of tradwife content going around lately that's.. less than genuine. Very cottage-core aesthetic, with women fully made up, wearing cotton dresses and baking sourdough or walking in a field. And the posts are all about being homemakers instead of career women, but the women posting are clearly working to sell content. It all seems so fake and LARP-y. Really tending a house and raising kids isn't anything like that. And actually traditional wives are doing a lot more work… | /r/MensRights | 17/05/24 03:00 AM |
| -1 | Not sure what to name thisThat's not really a rights issue, is it? Those men are choosing to stay with a partner who is incompatible (for the sex) and mean (for the shaming). | /r/MensRights | 15/05/24 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Not sure what to name thisTo me, a major change in my partner's behavior would be a huge red flag. As in, 1) is my partner ok? And 2) is our relationship OK? After all, loss of interest in sex is a symptom of the problem. To fix the sex, address the root cause. It's not abusive to stop having sex unless it's done with an intent to harm your partner. If one partner is just not interested in sex, that's a compatibility problem- not abuse. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/24 07:11 PM |
| 9 | Not sure what to name this"Why doesn't my partner want sex?" is the million dollar question, isn't it? Libido can easily affected by physical, mental, or relationship issues. I once had a low sex drive because of a vitamin deficiency, my spouse lost his libido for months from treatment for another illness. Both of us have had issues because of stress. Ideally, couples could talk about this together. A full physical with blood work-up is a good place to Starr, followed by counseling- individual or couples, depending on th… | /r/MensRights | 15/05/24 01:51 PM |
| 32 | Not sure what to name thisIt's always acceptable to leave a relationship where you're unhappy. Why is that even in question? | /r/MensRights | 15/05/24 10:17 AM |
| 8 | Mothers' Day disappointments for feminists.Did you know, Mother's Day is the busiest restaurant day of the year? So yeah, it's pretty celebrated. I used to work in foodservice distribution and my boss would always say "Mother's Day is for brunch and Father's Day is for BBQ." Sales trends really do back that up. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/24 10:14 AM |
| 2 | Women desire to marry or date men who are more successful then they complain that the same man is keeping them down. They're attracted to someone who knows a lot and is capable then get mad about mansplaining or privellage. If they really believed in their strength wouldn't they marry an equal?That's pretty crappy behavior. A good partner should provide encouragement, not belittle you. My husband made quite a bit more than me early in our marriage, but always supported my efforts to advance and recognized my contributions to the household. Like taking a lower paying job with flexible hours so I could be the "on call" parent for school and sports. Now, the tables have turned and I'm the breadwinner. But I would never look down on my husband for making less than me. Though I think it bo… | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 08:57 PM |
| 2 | Honest advice:Be careful about women that have no desire to cultivate male friendships and acquaintances(especially outside of romantic contexts).Not gonna lie, my husband doesn't have female friends, so we're the same in that regard. He has relationships with female relatives (mom, sister, SIL), just like I spend time with my brother and BIL. And we occasionally hang out with other couples. I get what you're saying- it's strange to actively avoid the other gender. But, it's not like people choose their families, and couples are often a package deal when it comes to socializing. | /r/MensRights | 14/05/24 12:10 AM |
| 5 | Honest advice:Be careful about women that have no desire to cultivate male friendships and acquaintances(especially outside of romantic contexts).I've always had difficulty making friends with men, because the ones that want to socialize with me are usually interested in a romantic/sexual relationship. And, that often ends in awkwardness, or worse. I have good relationships with male relatives, and I'm on friendly terms with some boyfriends/husbands of friends. But I don't go out of my way to make male friends anymore. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/24 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Men don’t do less housework, we are just more realistic about what needs to be doneCan confirm. Does the hardwood feel clean under my feet? Does the counter have spots or film I can feel when I run my hand across it? Do the bedsheets feel crisp and fresh? It's all about the feels. In my house, if it looks, smells or feels dirty/messy, it's not done. Keep cleaning. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/24 03:43 AM |
| 1 | Men don’t do less housework, we are just more realistic about what needs to be doneThat's a big generalization. My husband is right there with me "deep cleaning" for company. By that I mean things like scrubbing cabinet fronts and cleaning all the fridge shelves and drawers. It might turn into a mess after our friends and family show up, but we're both determined it'll be spotless when they arrive. But, we split all the housework evenly anyway. I cook and he cleans up the kitchen. He mows and I weed and tend all the flower beds and planters. We take turns with laundry, etc. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/24 01:49 AM |
| 2 | Men don’t do less housework, we are just more realistic about what needs to be doneI'm going to assume you're doing quite a bit of work you aren't counting. Surely you're cleaning bathrooms, wiping down sink/counters/stovetop/cabinet fronts in the kitchen, changing sheets, mopping floors, dusting, vacuuming upholstery, sweeping stairs, putting away those clothes and dishes, etc. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/24 01:37 AM |
| -1 | Man vs bear and facts... the facts hurt and yes 5% is 5% to manyRight, of course. One should never post pertinent experiences in replies to comments if someone who had a worse experience might read it. | /r/MensRights | 09/05/24 05:29 AM |
| 2 | Man vs bear and facts... the facts hurt and yes 5% is 5% to manyOf course- that's a terrible thing. All victims should be able to turn to authorities for protection and redress. | /r/MensRights | 09/05/24 04:06 AM |
| -8 | Man vs bear and facts... the facts hurt and yes 5% is 5% to manyI can see why women would be reluctant to report an assault. I had to file a police report against a guy for stalking and threatening me when I was a teen. And the officer was so condescending and dismissive- just a terrible experience. I'm lucky my mom was there to go mama bear,or nothing would have been done about it. I can imagine how much worse it would be for someone who was SA'd. Especially knowing how unlikely it is that your attacker will be brought to justice. | /r/MensRights | 09/05/24 12:48 AM |
| 18 | Am I the only one annoyed every single time a man wears a tank top it’s called a ‘wife beater’?Calling a white tank top a "wife beater" has been around as long as I can remember, and I was born in '80. I only really hear the term when they're undershirt style shirts. It's not much different than calling a lower back tattoo a "tramp stamp" or underwear peeking above pants a "whale tail." Or referring to platform heels as "stripper heels." | /r/MensRights | 08/05/24 01:38 PM |
| 51 | Rising number of men don't want to workYeah. Once companies raise the pay, they can suddenly fill those vacant positions. Who would have thought? | /r/MensRights | 07/05/24 12:06 AM |
| 2 | Humour: Never realized how many women have encounter a bear.True, I was bit by a squirrel once. But, never bothered by any animals I've encountered hiking (deer, elk, snakes, porcupines...and bear). Around here, the most dangerous thing in the woods is reckless hunters. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/24 10:30 PM |
| -6 | Humour: Never realized how many women have encounter a bear.You should have started with that, instead of saying people must be lying about seeing bears. Instead, you countered one silly argument with another. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/24 10:25 PM |
| -7 | Humour: Never realized how many women have encounter a bear.It's still enough for many thousands of people to have actually encountered a bear face-to-face. It doesn't seem improbable that some of them would post about it online. Just consider Adirondack Park in NY. 4,000 bears live there, and roughly 10 million people visit every year for hiking, camping, fishing, etc. That's a lot of potential for sightings. And that's just one geographic area. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/24 07:45 PM |
| -6 | Humour: Never realized how many women have encounter a bear.Have you really never seen a bear in person? They're pretty common. Around here (upstate NY), black bears will sometimes knock over garbage cans or eat out of gardens at houses on the edge of town. Campers are advised to keep food in their cars overnight and trashcans in state parks are bear-proof. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/24 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Bear vs Man is Actually Perpetrating False AccusationsWait, what? We have black bears here and they love eating out of garbage cans at houses or parks (you know, in town) Sadly, they do sometimes have to be relocated or put down if they become too much of a nuisance. The real answer to man or bear in the forest is that both are generally harmless. | /r/MensRights | 01/05/24 08:34 PM |
| 0 | Do men need women?You can't be serious. The Civil Rights Act wasn't even passed until 1964. If women really weren't being discriminated against, there would have been no need for a law to prevent it. Seems pretty obvious. And the fact you listed just a half dozen jobs women could do speaks volumes about what economic opportunities were really available. | /r/MensRights | 28/04/24 12:19 AM |
| 2 | why is the orgasm gap (whether real or not) part of the cultural discussion about gender and relationships?Here's the quote I'm talking about- it's further down the thread: "I’ve been with men who were like, idk intimidated by me wanting to rub my own clit, them rub it or use a vibrator? But it’s really hard for me to orgasm without it (which is true for a lot of women)" That's exactly what I said in my comment. For most women, clitoral stimulation is the "being active during PIV" that's going to get them off- regardless of position. For the rest, I've been commenting in this sub a lot longer than yo… | /r/MensRights | 28/04/24 12:10 AM |
| 2 | why is the orgasm gap (whether real or not) part of the cultural discussion about gender and relationships?Believe what you want. I'm just happy to finally be having excellent sex. This is something women discuss amongst themselves, and it doesn't seem to be an uncommon occurance. I'm not even the only woman in this thread who shared this experience with men being unhappy if women touch themselves during sex. Great for you if you're fine with your partner stimulating herself during the deed. But do you really think all men think like you? Isn't that the same thing you're accusing me of? | /r/MensRights | 27/04/24 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Now for something more light-hearted, is anyone else annoyed that feminism ruined unnaturally colored hair in women?20 years ago, unnaturally colored hair was for high schoolers and college students. Even the guys used Manic Panic. Then it was natural colors when you get a real job. Now, bright colored hair is ok for even professional jobs, so it could really be anyone. My 65 year old co-worker has purple tips, and I see some moms (30s and 40s) with colored highlights or colors underneath, so you see it when the hair is up. And, of course, the high schoolers are still doing it. My daughter had silver hair tha… | /r/MensRights | 27/04/24 04:39 PM |
| 2 | Kentucky Senate passes bill to grant the right to collect child support for unborn childrenDepends what state you live in. In Alabama, a frozen fertilized egg is considered a child and destroying one can result in a wrongful death charge. In NY, a fetus has no rights and women can abort on demand. This is KY, and this new law is consistent with the state's abortion ban. I'd bet money that this legislation is meant to add weight to the ban. | /r/MensRights | 27/04/24 02:55 AM |
| 13 | Kentucky Senate passes bill to grant the right to collect child support for unborn childrenIt could potentially be backdated before conception. Doctors count the beginning of pregnancy from the end date of the last period. That's about two weeks before the sex even happened. | /r/MensRights | 26/04/24 10:56 PM |
| 3 | Do men need women?You're deliberately twisting my words to suit your own narrative. And making a bunch of assumptions, to boot. This is a very simple concept. There's no service or tangible item I get from my husband that I couldn't get elsewhere, if I chose. I don't need him to pay my bills or protect me, or fix my car, or any other "traditional" male roles. I can either do those things myself or pay someone to do them. But, I want to continue enjoying his company. Every day for the past 20+ years, and every day… | /r/MensRights | 26/04/24 06:05 PM |
| 3 | Do men need women?Then if it would be possible then she would leave? My grandma? She wouldn't have been able to support herself in any comfortable way with the limited economic options available to her. Yes, I could leave my husband at any moment, and so could he. But we don't because we genuinely value each other's company over any other person. Knowing that we both have other options but keep actively choosing each other is a wonderful feeling. | /r/MensRights | 26/04/24 01:51 PM |
| 2 | Do men need women?My grandma was forced to marry, by economic necessity. She had a good factory job during WWII and she lost it when the soldiers came back from war. That left just low wage options- nothing she could live on independently. So the options were to marry or live dependently with her parents. My spouse and I have been married for over twenty years, through unemployment and illness. We've bought two houses, traveled the world and raised a child. It's what I consider an ideal romantic relationship, but… | /r/MensRights | 26/04/24 11:54 AM |
| 4 | Do men need women?When you desire that one person then you need them. That's not really the same thing. My grandparents needed each other. Grandpa couldn't cook a bit, and grandma couldn't get a well paying job. They both needed a spouse to live a comfortable life. And they stayed together, but there was no other choice. My mom and her sisters have stories of their parents drunkenly arguing in the street until the neighbors called the police. If divorce was a feasible option,they probably would have (and should h… | /r/MensRights | 26/04/24 10:55 AM |
| 37 | Do men need women?In a healthy relationship, neither person really "needs" the other. That is, both should be well adjusted, self sufficient adults. The beauty is in constantly choosing to stay together without needing to. Just because you desire each other's company. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/24 10:30 PM |
| 4 | why is the orgasm gap (whether real or not) part of the cultural discussion about gender and relationships?In my experience, men tend to take it personally when a woman takes matters into her own hands (so to speak). Like it's an insult if she uses hands or toys for clitoral stimulation. It was a definite problem with my previous partner. He took it as a personal slight that straight PIV didn't get the job done. Definitely part of the reason he's an ex. | /r/MensRights | 25/04/24 03:21 PM |
| 1 | The “pink tax” is so stupidIn my experience, unscented grooming products are the more expensive brands already. For example, my husband uses Barbasol shave cream, which smells like "men" (or old men, for the original scent)- it costs .27/oz at the local drug store. The least expensive "women" scented version (store brand) is .44/oz and cheapest unscented is .75/oz. I just want the cheap one to be unscented, or unisex. I buy duplicate versions of several grooming products for this reason because my daughter and I don't wan… | /r/MensRights | 06/04/24 02:13 PM |
| 0 | The “pink tax” is so stupidThe main problem with the cheaper "male" versions of grooming products is the scents. You have to pay extra if you don't want to smell like a guy. It would be great if stuff like shaving cream, hair products, and deodorant had a basic unscented version. Not just for the price difference- it also eliminates the problem of clashing scents from different products. And then there's areas where there isn't really an alternative. My husband and I both wear Levi's, but the women's options cost more. An… | /r/MensRights | 05/04/24 07:38 PM |
| 71 | Feminists are starting a gender war by not having children or marrying, so why cant we as well?I think people who don't want to marry shouldn't. And people who don't want to have children really shouldn't. Regardless of gender. | /r/MensRights | 01/04/24 02:23 PM |
| 1 | What meaningful media shows women admiring men's sexuality in a 'poetic' way?No, I think I'm going to keep letting him decide what his own preferences and desires are. We're very open to trying things the other partner wants, but I draw the line at telling someone else how to experience their own sexuality. It's incredibly presumptuous for me to decide, on my own, that he has a problem and try to "fix" him. would know better that his pleasure response isn't limited to ejaculation. You're the one who's saying it is. I only pointed out a difference in qty of orgasms. Anyth… | /r/MensRights | 02/03/24 03:09 PM |
| 1 | What meaningful media shows women admiring men's sexuality in a 'poetic' way?I don't question it because I also take pride in pleasuring my partner. That seems like a very natural and healthy attitude to take. In this case, you're trying to fix something that isn't broken. My partner is getting plenty of sex, in the way he enjoys. And I should, what? Tell him he's doing it wrong and needs to seek pleasure differently? | /r/MensRights | 02/03/24 01:48 PM |
| 1 | What meaningful media shows women admiring men's sexuality in a 'poetic' way?Wow, that's a lot. I think most men see it as a feature if their partner gets off multiple times during sex, not a burden. In my experience, it's generally a point of pride. If men aren't actually bothered by their partners having more orgasms, they aren't going to go looking for a solution. To be clear, I'm not talking about people who have sexual problems or trouble orgasming. We're strictly speaking about couples having mutually satisfying sex, where both orgasm. Also, it doesn't really matte… | /r/MensRights | 02/03/24 01:31 PM |
| 1 | What meaningful media shows women admiring men's sexuality in a 'poetic' way?So you're saying women don't have shorter refractory periods? I mean, I only made two statements- that I have multiple orgasms during sex (definitely true) and about the refractory period. | /r/MensRights | 02/03/24 01:00 PM |
| 1 | What meaningful media shows women admiring men's sexuality in a 'poetic' way?Is it really gloating to point out an anatomical difference? Women have very short refractory periods, making multiple orgasms easier. When I have PIV sex, I'm almost always going to come several times by the time my partner comes once. And when he does, he's usually done with sex and ready for cuddles. Fair or not, that's a big difference between male and female bodies. | /r/MensRights | 02/03/24 12:12 PM |
| 6 | The (not too subtle) Woke messages of Dune Part Two [SPOILERS]But...did you get the popcorn bucket? | /r/MensRights | 27/02/24 11:06 PM |
| 4 | Men should start boycotting feminist businesses and peopleSo women, in fact, should have jobs to support themselves? Suggesting anyone should get a partner just for financial support is complete bullshit. We shouldn't be encouraging anyone to do that. I'm in the US, and there's not much financial support for able bodied young people without children (of any gender). You're not going to get food stamps. Maybe you could get assistance paying rent or heating your home, but it wouldn't be enough to live on. A childless woman wouldn't be able to support her… | /r/MensRights | 24/02/24 11:44 AM |
| 6 | Men should start boycotting feminist businesses and peoplethrough her parters income So we're just ignoring that single women and lesbians exist? Besides, I'm a married woman, and we needed two incomes to support our family for the greater part of our marriage. Like most US families. | /r/MensRights | 24/02/24 11:22 AM |
| 2 | Menopause warriors can sue you if they don't get what they "need".There's no getting rid of maternity leave, at least here in the US, because recovering from birth is considered a temporary disability. On the upside, employers aren't actually the ones footing the bill- it's disability insurance. Just like any other medical event that keeps a person from working. Really, the best thing for society is for paid parental leave to be expanded to include men. My state has a program to cover paid parental leave for men and also those who adopt or foster kids. Basical… | /r/MensRights | 23/02/24 10:07 PM |
| 1 | Woman voting leads to communismIts about making sure folks have each others backs via governments. Including having the backs of the middle class. | /r/MensRights | 23/02/24 02:21 PM |
| 3 | Woman voting leads to communismFirst off, my household income is $180k, so I'm paying quite a lot of taxes myself. Why shouldn't I receive services for money paid? Besides, one of the main purposes of government is to pool resources to provide services too expensive or difficult for the individual to access alone. Education is a prime example. There's no logical reason for government funding of education to stop at grade 12 when most employers are now requiring a college degree. Eta- I'd like to point out that I've already pa… | /r/MensRights | 23/02/24 01:12 PM |
| 4 | Woman voting leads to communismWorkers and families also support the welfare state. From my perspective, Democrat driven legislation helps me and my family in ways Conservatives don't. For example: Forgiveness of my student loans (fed govt) Tax funded college tuition for my child (state govt) Paid FMLA leave to care for a sick spouse (state govt) and a cap on how much I paid out of pocket for spouse's medical care (fed govt) Insurers required to pay for fertility treatments and medically necessary storage of sperm or eggs (st… | /r/MensRights | 23/02/24 12:54 PM |
| 2 | How to find good women that aren’t feminists/misandrists in the west?Ask her if she's dated any men shorter than her... This made me laugh. I'm 5'2". Where would I even find a man that short? Even an average height woman (5'4") is only taller than about 4% of men. | /r/MensRights | 22/02/24 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Children need a Father in their home.Wouldn't that result in people being jailed for unplanned pregnancies? There's an estimated 3 million unplanned pregnancies in the US every year. And, nearly 30% of US states have banned abortions, so women in those places have to carry to term. Surely not all the couples involved in those births would pass some parenting test. So they just serve jail time for getting pregnant/getting someone pregnant? Besides, where would we find enough foster parents for all those children? There aren't enough… | /r/MensRights | 22/02/24 12:20 PM |
| 20 | An honest look at the 'gender pay gap'.Asking for raises is a huge factor. Other women I've worked with are reluctant to ask for more money or negotiate for higher salaries. I take every opportunity to ask for more, whether it's countering a job offer, pushing for a higher annual increase, or asking for more with every increase in responsibility. I make the most in my department (though I'm not the most experienced) and $25k more than a coworker with the same title as me. I try to encourage my work friends to ask for raises and help … | /r/MensRights | 19/02/24 12:19 PM |
| 3 | Interesting post I saw, feel free to delete if not allowed just thought how when a woman is wealthier than a man, it is always "her money"Why ask to split 50/50 if he doesn't mean it? Better to be honest and admit he wants someone to treat him. | /r/MensRights | 17/02/24 04:31 PM |
| 3 | Male sexuality = badIt has been tried. Talking Cock was quite popular and had runs in several countries. There's also The Penis Responds (had an off-broadway run), Penis Dialogues, and Men Talking. It's just that none of them have been quite as popular as the Vagina Monologues. Of course, a ton of community and college groups performing V Monologues every spring as a charity fundraiser really helps the popularity. I know so many people who saw it as part of a fundraiser. | /r/MensRights | 16/02/24 12:29 PM |
| 1 | Accidental Incest is a real danger because of fertility fraud and paternity fraud. We need to standardize paternity tests at birth.whoever signs the birth certificate must first do a paternity test. No test, no parental right That's a lot different from everyone knowing for sure who their dad is. It's more like- you can confirm who your dad is if he wants to sign the birth certificate and agrees to a DNA test. No info for kids whose dad's opt out of testing. | /r/MensRights | 14/02/24 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Accidental Incest is a real danger because of fertility fraud and paternity fraud. We need to standardize paternity tests at birth.Require proof of paternity to sign the birth certificate That doesn't establish paternity for all kids, though. I'm not sure it would even prevent incest, like the other poster was concerned about. Sure, it will prevent men from signing for kids who aren't theirs. But it doesn't give the kids any clarity on who their dad actually is. | /r/MensRights | 14/02/24 08:20 PM |
| 1 | Accidental Incest is a real danger because of fertility fraud and paternity fraud. We need to standardize paternity tests at birth.So, how do you propose we get that information without a database? I mean, a woman could list off any man who could potentially be the father, but how would we compel those men to show up for a DNA test? What if the woman refuses to say who the father is, or he can't be found for testing? This doesn't seem practical for real life. | /r/MensRights | 14/02/24 07:43 PM |
| 1 | According to a former racist turned liberal "acquaintance" of mine- The ways of liberals are more inclusive and don't keep others oppressed so "men" who are conservative must not be allowed to hold positions of power. Opinions? (Full story of his actions below)Obviously, your acquaintance is to blame. But so is the employer, for not stopping the harassment. In my state, any acts of discrimination, and you're out the door so fast it'll make your head spin. | /r/MensRights | 14/02/24 06:21 PM |
| 0 | According to a former racist turned liberal "acquaintance" of mine- The ways of liberals are more inclusive and don't keep others oppressed so "men" who are conservative must not be allowed to hold positions of power. Opinions? (Full story of his actions below)This isn't a liberal vs conservative thing. Your acquaintance and his friends are just terrible people. Assholes are all across the political spectrum. | /r/MensRights | 14/02/24 11:11 AM |
| 2 | Are feminists actually smarter than men?No, I got it. But you have to think about what the source of the message is and the intended purpose. Women being more capable than men in ads isn't a ploy by feminists to change societal views. Rather, it's marketing aimed at women to get them to buy a product. It's just run of the mill salespeople kissing the booty of the consumers. | /r/MensRights | 11/02/24 02:02 PM |
| 5 | Are feminists actually smarter than men?I wouldn't take commercials too seriously. Marketers make ads to appeal to their target audience, and women make most purchasing decisions for couples and families (as well as themselves). So, commercials are pandering to women for sales. In reality, men and women shake out about the same in terms of intelligence. | /r/MensRights | 10/02/24 11:34 AM |
| -2 | Healthcare women receive vs men.Yes, it's simpler to make assumptions than to extrapolate from data. It's well understood that married men engage in certain healthy behaviors more often than unmarried men. Such as: eating better, going to the doctor's more often, and avoiding risky behavior. "Why" that difference exists hasn't been proven. But, from a practical perspective, understanding why exactly these habits correlate with marriage doesn't really matter. Unmarried men can (and should) act like married men in this regard to… | /r/MensRights | 06/02/24 08:16 PM |
| -6 | Healthcare women receive vs men.In this case, there is a clear and measurable behavioral difference between married and unmarried men. The why is, as yet, not well researched, so we're both just speculating. I'd guess it's an interplay of personality traits of married people, relative economic status, and the impact of the marriage/family relationship (both emotional and legal). Also, a strict socioeconomic view doesn't account for why married men engage in fewer risky behaviors. Or why widowed men who remain single have worse… | /r/MensRights | 06/02/24 06:54 PM |
| -5 | Healthcare women receive vs men.I think the real takeaway here is that married men are getting better results because of different behavior. Those positive habits would be a good idea for anyone to adopt. I haven't seen much research into why that behavior differs, like you said. But I know I, and my acquaintances, behaved differently after I got married (and had a kid). It's not a huge stretch of logic to think other people are the same. | /r/MensRights | 06/02/24 06:07 PM |
| -4 | Healthcare women receive vs men.There's definitely some truth to that. Overall, married men tend to eat healthier, engage in less risky behavior, and visit doctors more often. And, they live longer, on average, than single men. https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health Having another person invested in your health to nag you into better habits does improve the outcome. | /r/MensRights | 06/02/24 02:59 PM |
| -4 | Not wanting to eat other person's vagina is some how an offense now?Sounds like boyfriend has some hangups about women's genitals. We're all talking how he doesn't like the taste and smell, but he also thinks it looks gross and will only touch her outside of clothes- except with his penis. That's not a typical reaction of a heterosexual man, and it would be pretty much impossible to satisfy a partner with only penetration. Definitely, the OP shouldn't have faked orgasm. But if he's grossed out by her body, there's no salvaging the relationship. | /r/MensRights | 04/02/24 12:25 PM |
| 1 | Women have so many opportunities and resources and so much privilege it's just unfairI think any student with the same accomplishments and work ethic would have similar opportunities. It seems a little funny to suggest that letters of recommendation are somehow just for women. Teachers and coaches will write one for pretty much anyone who asks- it's part of their job. Of course, the letters will have more to recommend for better students. The real advantage here is two involved, college educated parents and an upper middle class upbringing. The rest was hard work on her part. Ot… | /r/MensRights | 01/02/24 12:07 AM |
| 2 | Women have so many opportunities and resources and so much privilege it's just unfairNot all scholarship granting organizations want to just help the highest scoring student, though. They want to encourage kids who do specific activities or embody certain traits. Which is a good thing, as it gives more kids a chance for scholarships. Some examples of scholarships my kid was awarded (in addition to those based on class rank/GPA/major) include: advocacy for LGBTQ community- awarded by local chapter of Pride exemplary member of marching band- awarded by Band Boosters student leader… | /r/MensRights | 31/01/24 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Women have so many opportunities and resources and so much privilege it's just unfairThat would certainly add a new challenge to writing the personal essays. | /r/MensRights | 30/01/24 11:32 PM |
| 1 | Women have so many opportunities and resources and so much privilege it's just unfairHow would you be able to tell? There's a lot of subjectivity in scholarship awards. My daughter (college senior) received some scholarships based on measurable criteria (class rank, grades, pursuing a STEM degree), but others were at the whim of the award committee. You can't really measure which student has been the best example of an LGBTQ advocate or student leader or positive influence in the community. It's subjective, so you can't really prove or disprove biases. | /r/MensRights | 30/01/24 09:12 PM |
| 12 | Women have so many opportunities and resources and so much privilege it's just unfairIf it's any comfort, most women in college aren't receiving sex specific scholarships either. As pointed out in this article, 90% of sex specific scholarships are for women. But, there were only 1100 women only scholarships for the 24 states studied. Even if that number is doubled, it's a fraction of a percent of the women entering college each year in the US. This tracks with what I've seen with my own college age daughter and her classmates. None of the college students I know have received wo… | /r/MensRights | 30/01/24 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Marriage...On the other hand, there are some very useful legal benefits to being married. I'm in the US, and paid FMLA leave to care for a sick spouse is huge. I took 3 months paid leave when my spouse had cancer. Also, you can pick and choose which health insurance to use, and can file taxes jointly. If one partner dies, the other can claim social security benefits and inherit tax free. The way I see it, if you already jointly own property and have kids, you've already assumed much of the same risks as be… | /r/MensRights | 27/01/24 05:59 PM |
| 17 | Gen Z and trad wivesAre gen Z really pushing the "trad wife" thing? I see some women LARPing on social media, but it's clearly a shtick. After all, the women in that content clearly have jobs as content creators. I know more Millenial women have been choosing to be SAHMs the last few years because of exorbitant childcare costs. The pandemic really highlighted how precarious the childcare situation is for a lot of families. Several couples I know decided to stick with one income after a pandemic layoff because so mu… | /r/MensRights | 26/01/24 04:07 PM |
| 6 | Women are now video recording their male partner's cleaning up skills, as a test and critiquing it on Tik Tok. Imagine what would happen if men tested their wives and girlfriends cleaning skill and critiquing it online?I'm concerned you think wiping a counter is noteworthy. | /r/MensRights | 25/01/24 12:28 PM |
| -7 | Women are now video recording their male partner's cleaning up skills, as a test and critiquing it on Tik Tok. Imagine what would happen if men tested their wives and girlfriends cleaning skill and critiquing it online?Idk, a lot of men wouldn't know how to change oil either. Only 20% of people DIY it. But cleaning up basic messes happens several times a day- to everyone. Even kids. That said, these videos are clearly played up for views. No way these guys are actually that incompetent. | /r/MensRights | 25/01/24 12:14 PM |
| 2 | What are your thoughts on paternity leave?True, but it's unpaid. Maternity leave is generally paid out by the employer's temporary disability insurance, but paternity leave is left to the employer to pay, if at all. | /r/MensRights | 25/01/24 12:12 AM |
| 0 | Abortion and Men’s RightsDid you know that most women who abort in the US already have children? And the main reason given is not having the resources for a (or another) child. Abortion is based on situation, not genetic predisposition. Best way to reduce abortions is to focus efforts on preventing unwanted pregnancies. | /r/MensRights | 24/01/24 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Men please account for the unpaid labor you are owed. This includes anything related to the automobiles, repair and maintenance of the home and outdoor work.The main discussion around unpaid labor is whether it's evenly distributed, not if it should be paid. And it should be even. As in, partners should spend roughly equal time on paid work + commute + unpaid labor. | /r/MensRights | 23/01/24 12:23 PM |
| 1 | Men please account for the unpaid labor you are owed. This includes anything related to the automobiles, repair and maintenance of the home and outdoor work.So you're saying women are claiming credit for housework they didn't do? That's not how I read the post at all. It seems to be about men wanting credit for work they actually did. Like yardwork or home improvements. Not bs like "I existed around my partner in public." | /r/MensRights | 23/01/24 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Men please account for the unpaid labor you are owed. This includes anything related to the automobiles, repair and maintenance of the home and outdoor work.Yes, because that's how jobs work. You get paid for your time whether you're doing anything or not. That's not how relationships work. You don't get credit for work you didn't do. By this logic, I could say any time I spend at home counts as unpaid labor because I'm watching for a house fire and am ready to act. The only difference from your argument is that I actually have put out a fire in my house before. | /r/MensRights | 23/01/24 12:04 PM |
| 0 | Men please account for the unpaid labor you are owed. This includes anything related to the automobiles, repair and maintenance of the home and outdoor work.I'm not married to those men, so it has no impact on what my spouse can count as unpaid labor. He doesn't get credit for what other people do. Besides, that is very much paid labor, as law enforcement and military are careers. Therefore, not really relevant to this discussion. | /r/MensRights | 23/01/24 10:39 AM |
| 1 | Men please account for the unpaid labor you are owed. This includes anything related to the automobiles, repair and maintenance of the home and outdoor work.If he never had to actually do anything to protect me, it doesn't count as unpaid labor. There was no labor performed. He doesn't get brownie points for just existing. Sure, if someone is constantly having to fight people on his gf/wife's behalf, he should get credit for it (and rethink his life choices). But that's not a typical man's experience. | /r/MensRights | 23/01/24 10:34 AM |
| 1 | Men please account for the unpaid labor you are owed. This includes anything related to the automobiles, repair and maintenance of the home and outdoor work.In the past, we've done a chore list and estimated how long each task took. Then, each of us was responsible for our list of chores for the week. That worked well to divvy things up, and having a routine takes the guesswork out of it. Now, we tend to do housework at the same time. For example, after work, we both do 45-60 minutes. I make dinner and tidy the kitchen while my husband cleans. Similar with yardwork- he mows and I tend the flower beds. Also, flexibility is really important. For a whi… | /r/MensRights | 23/01/24 10:30 AM |
| 4 | Men please account for the unpaid labor you are owed. This includes anything related to the automobiles, repair and maintenance of the home and outdoor work.We're honest about it- like adults. Running a family is a team effort. It doesn't work if one partner is trying to get one over on the other. | /r/MensRights | 23/01/24 12:51 AM |
| -8 | Men please account for the unpaid labor you are owed. This includes anything related to the automobiles, repair and maintenance of the home and outdoor work.That's very specific. Most women don't need to be protected by their SO every time they go out. I've been married 22 years and haven't needed my husband to protect me yet. | /r/MensRights | 22/01/24 09:09 PM |
| 5 | Men please account for the unpaid labor you are owed. This includes anything related to the automobiles, repair and maintenance of the home and outdoor work.Agreed, couples should account for all labor when dividing up household chores. My spouse and I make sure we each have an equal load of paid work + commute + unpaid work. And everything counts- cleaning and cooking, but also running errands, home repairs, lawn work, filing taxes, shopping for the household, etc. | /r/MensRights | 22/01/24 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Why are men's music choices judged more?Really? My daughter graduated high school 3 years ago, and students weren't allowed to play anything with profanity on personal devices, let alone for a school-sponsored event. Also, isn't rap more popular among men? If your school was playing rap, how can it be a gendered issue? | /r/MensRights | 21/01/24 01:22 AM |
| -1 | Why are men's music choices judged more?Metal is deliberately controversial (both language and topic) while pop isn't. It's as simple as that. Add to that, a lot of metal uses profanity, so it isn't as easy to play for a younger audience in movies, schools, etc. It's the same with punk. Green Day got called out recently because their song made a direct political statement. When was the last time you heard a straight pop song with any political message at all? | /r/MensRights | 21/01/24 12:51 AM |
| -4 | Is it true that women initiates most divorce because it is men's fault ?As a child of divorced parents, having them split was so much better than staying together when they couldn't stand each other. Two calm, happy households > one that's tense and miserable. Staying together for the kids is usually a bad idea. | /r/MensRights | 20/01/24 06:51 PM |
| 5 | The vast majority of men should NOT be performing oral sexHere's one example- women who reported as lesbian had fewer STIs than those who reported as bisexual or straight. Also, CDC information regarding HPV, noting that vaginal and anal sex are the most common forms of transmission. Basically, PIV sex is more likely than some other types of sex to a) cause microtears in the skin and b) allow for a transfer of fluids into those tears, allowing virus to pass between people. I found that out (and a lot more) when I was asking my gyn for safe sex informat… | /r/MensRights | 17/01/24 06:25 AM |
| 1 | The vast majority of men should NOT be performing oral sexIt's differences in anatomy. Lesbians in general have fewer STIs because the types of sex they have are less likely to transmit disease. Most women get HPV from penis in vagina sex, which has a higher transmission rate. | /r/MensRights | 17/01/24 04:43 AM |
| 2 | Medical errors kill scores each year in the U.S., especially women and minorities, is this another baloney?Several of the studies cited mention an increased maternal mortality rate among women of color. That's definitely a well-documented phenomenon. And certainly contributes to the US having the highest maternal mortality rate among developed countries. Just skimming through the studies linked in the article (over 20!) it seems to be mostly support for the race differences in medical treatment. | /r/MensRights | 16/01/24 11:55 AM |
| 1 | Eliminating factors for dating?Yeah, I get it. I also put effort into my appearance for work to cultivate my professional image. I want to project competence and status to upper management (mostly men). My professional clothes are also fashionable and pretty because that's what I like, and it's a good way to fit in with other women (mostly peers). Otherwise, it's very occasion specific. Date night? Pretty and sexy. Girl's night out? Fun but not flashy. Shopping for a car or other big ticket items? Casually wealthy. Tailor the… | /r/MensRights | 14/01/24 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Eliminating factors for dating?One thing I've noticed about makeup and fashion is that men never care the way that women do. A man might notice that you look different and make a comment about "looking nice." But a woman will be interested in the minutiae of the outfit (where it's from, does it have pockets), ask how you did your hair, and talk about the new Anastasia eye palette. Like all things, it's never just one reason. Fashion (including makeup) is fun, it boosts self-confidence, it signals membership in certain groups,… | /r/MensRights | 14/01/24 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Eliminating factors for dating?I don't really think we can use the experiences of people with rare medical conditions to generalize that men are held to higher physical standards. Those are outliers. Also, I'm shaking my head at your alopecia example. You're basically saying you're less likely to be made fun of for a disability if no one can tell you have it. Do you think a woman with a shaved head (due to alopecia) would be more or less criticized for her looks than a man with a shaved head (due to baldness)? Keep in mind th… | /r/MensRights | 14/01/24 07:21 AM |
| 1 | Eliminating factors for dating?The nice thing is, makeup isn't the necessity it used to be, especially compared to my mom's generation (or my grandma's). Most women I know wear minimal or no makeup for everyday. I usually can't be bothered- with good skincare I don't really need it. I save makeup for social events, vacations, and when I need to make a good impression (like an important meeting for work). I doubt makeup use will ever go away. People like being able to change their appearance too much. As for the cost- there's … | /r/MensRights | 13/01/24 07:54 PM |
| 0 | Eliminating factors for dating?The steps needed to look well-groomed are just different for men and women. My husband and I are both attractive and take care of our appearance, but it consistently takes me more time to get ready. For starters, my routine just has more steps. Things like plucking eyebrows, exfoliating, moisturizing and deep conditioning hair. To be honest, some things he probably should do, like daily spf, but he's a grown man and I can't make him. Then, certain things just take longer for me than they do for … | /r/MensRights | 13/01/24 05:47 PM |
| 0 | Eliminating factors for dating?Forget makeup, it's hair that takes up the most grooming time. My husband washes his hair (no conditioner), then pushes it into place with a little wax and he's good to go. When I wash my hair, I have to use conditioner, detangler, and heat protectant, then spend about 30 minutes blowing it dry. Basic makeup is easy- less than 10 minutes for an everyday look. | /r/MensRights | 13/01/24 05:35 PM |
| -21 | Why do women need male spaces so badly?Video games and comics books aren't "spaces" at all- they're products. Going after the largest possible market is just smart business on the part of creators. If inclusiveness wasn't profitable, they wouldn't do it. | /r/MensRights | 12/01/24 08:39 AM |
| 5 | Why So Many Young Men Are Abandoning College Degrees40- 50k isn't going to provide financial stability for a family- at least where I live. Maybe a couple could play house in an apartment, but homeownership, savings and kids are going to be unaffordable for most people on that salary. A woman whose husband makes $40-50k is still going to have to work. | /r/MensRights | 11/01/24 08:06 PM |
| 4 | Why So Many Young Men Are Abandoning College DegreesDepends where they went to school. Most NY state residents can have their tuition paid by the state (my daughter does). And I had the last $30k of my debt forgiven (thanks Biden!). | /r/MensRights | 11/01/24 06:33 PM |
| 0 | Women as UsersHang on. If this person's friends are paying $2 more on their restaurant checks- it's not the friends using people as resources. I had to laugh at the audacity of them complaing because their friends won't let them be a mooch. | /r/MensRights | 06/01/24 01:07 PM |
| 9 | You would think with how hard society negatively obsesses over incels, we could have actually stopped so much time, energy and resources from being wasted and instead invested into some sort of mental health campaign for them and romantically-struggling men in general, instead of scapegoating themI think society, in general, doesn't think about incels at all. Outside of gender themed social media spaces, the only mention I see of incels is the occasional news article. It's not really something people talk about. Reddit doesn't reflect real life. I agree (at least in the US) that access to mental health is seriously lacking. Yes, it's technically covered under health insurance, but for most people it's still prohibitively expensive. | /r/MensRights | 05/01/24 02:49 PM |
| 1 | What have y’all done to get guaranteed paid paternity leave?Who said all reasons were covered? You listed three specific examples. Bonding with a new child (born, adopted or fostered) and caring for an immediate family member (parent, spouse, child or sibling) are eligible for paid family leave. Dealing with your own serious disease is covered as disability leave. I'm always a bit surprised when anyone in the US wants less coverage for employee time off. We're already woefully behind most of the developed world regarding what employees can take for both … | /r/MensRights | 05/01/24 01:30 AM |
| 3 | What have y’all done to get guaranteed paid paternity leave?"Why should someone who chooses to have children be entitled to more time off than someone who’s dealing with a serious disease, a dying parent, etc.? " All of these instances of leave should be covered. I'm in NY and they are covered by a state run insurance plan if they aren't already covered by disability insurance. I went on a paid 12 week leave to nurse my spouse through cancer. Interestingly, most companies don't actually pay maternity leave from theirown pocket. It's covered by disability… | /r/MensRights | 04/01/24 06:52 PM |
| 2 | What’s up with wives refusing to have children?I wouldn't say so. I know several couples who didn't really discuss kids (how many or how they would be raised) and were surprised when their partner wasn't on the same page. I think it's that idealistic attitude that love can fix any differences. That seems like the more common scenario. I have a couple of relatives who changed their minds on having kids, but they went from not wanting kids to wanting them. 2 of the three ended up divorcing because they were no longer compatible with their part… | /r/MensRights | 03/01/24 02:06 PM |
| 3 | What’s up with wives refusing to have children?I have to wonder if they talked about this before marriage. Wanting kids (or not) isn't something you can compromise on. A partner who wants the opposite is simply not compatible. It always boggles my mind when couples find out they disagree after already marrying (sometimes years after). This is stuff they should have discussed when they started getting serious. | /r/MensRights | 03/01/24 12:59 PM |
| -1 | What do you guys think about "nice guys" ?That's quite a leap. Sure, I can tell who's phony after I've wasted time interacting with them. If people wore their true nature on their sleeves it would save the effort. It probably would be better for everyone else if "nice guys" didn't bother with the act. | /r/MensRights | 31/12/23 04:36 PM |
| 0 | What do you guys think about "nice guys" ?Right, people are being nice (ie superficially pleasant) to benefit themselves. Good for them that they understand social niceties, but it's not really something to value. That's basic entry level to society On the other hand, it would make it easier to know who to avoid if "nice guys" showed their true colors up front. People who are actually kind would continue to treat others well while the superficial ones wouldn't. Then we wouldn't waste time on people who don't deserve it. | /r/MensRights | 31/12/23 04:11 PM |
| -4 | What do you guys think about "nice guys" ?No, I think the phrase is apt. "Nice guys" are superficially pleasant. But that's all they are, there's no substance. And the "niceness" is conditional- they expect sex in return. Also, "nice guys" often brag abt being nice, as if it's some kind of flex. That's where the phrase comes from. If a person had an actually good character, you'd refer to them as: kind, empathetic, loyal, sincere, generous, etc. A description that goes beyond the surface. Again, nice is the description for someone when … | /r/MensRights | 31/12/23 03:34 PM |
| 6 | What do you guys think about "nice guys" ?Nice is a nothing word when it comes to descriptors. As in, it's so overused that it doesn't convey any real meaning. I call someone "nice" when they're polite and pleasant enough but there's really nothing else to say about them. And, yeah- it's not a big deal. You would expect most people to be superficially pleasant most of the time. | /r/MensRights | 31/12/23 02:45 PM |
| 1 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.How so? I don't see how my last comment contradicts anything I said previously. | /r/MensRights | 30/12/23 08:35 PM |
| 1 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.You don't know anything about my opinion in other areas- you're just jumping to conclusions. Op asked a question, I gave a factual, verifiable answer. Simple as that. Although, at my last job I worked with a committee that gathered ideas to attract women into manufacturing jobs. The company had diversity goals to meet and the suggestions were used by recruiting and HR. What have you done to increase the number of women in dirty/dangerous jobs? | /r/MensRights | 30/12/23 05:52 PM |
| 0 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.Women shouldn't get equal representation in government because they don't take enough roofing jobs? That's like comparing apples to fish. | /r/MensRights | 30/12/23 05:32 PM |
| 1 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.It seems to be generational, not split by gender. Social change happens slowly. The number of women in Congress has only picked up in the past few decades. Since 1990 the number of female Congresspeople has more than doubled, but before that, increases were very slow. And the first female Supreme Court Justice was sworn in 1981. Like I said in other posts, the trend is likely to continue as younger generations take over as the majority voters. | /r/MensRights | 30/12/23 05:30 PM |
| 2 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.Society tends to become more progressive over time, including voters. Do you really believe boomers are equally inclusive to younger generations (Gen Z, for example)? The difference in attitude between my parents' cohort and my daughter's is huge. In regards to women in politics, specifically- the number has been rising for decades and there's every reason to think it will continue to do so. | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 05:09 PM |
| 1 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.It is if someone refuses to vote for female candidates. I definitely know people (mostly boomers) who won't vote for women, POC, Muslims, and/or LGBTQ folks. Textbook bigotry. | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 04:54 PM |
| -2 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.You're not wrong. But people exercising their democratic rights still make choices that are bigoted, closed minded and morally repugnant. I'm not obligated to value those opinions. | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 04:32 PM |
| -7 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.I think govt should pretty closely match the mix of people it's supposed to represent. That increases the likelihood that what those politicians do lines up with the needs of their constituents. Needs and concerns for different demographics are different. An elderly Baptist person from the Bible belt is going to have different concerns from a young, urban LGBTQ man, or a single mother, or a Muslim family, or POC. Having a good mix of different kinds of people in government helps keep the interes… | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 03:46 PM |
| -4 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.If I had to point a finger, I'd say old people too stuck in their ways- all genders. It's the largest voting demographic. Societal change happens slowly and usually takes multiple generational turnovers. | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 02:18 PM |
| -1 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.Honestly, I think it's that general attitudes are changing but older people vote most. People in my parent's generation (aka boomers) are a lot less likely to support women in political positions (or POC, LGBTQ folks, religious minorities, etc). As those older folks continue to drop out of the voting pool, the mix of candidates will continue to change. Lately, I'm more likely to see women discussing politics since reproductive rights are in the news daily. Before, it was a pretty even split. Exc… | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 01:56 PM |
| 4 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.I want competent female politicians. That's really not so much to ask. I think we'll get to equal representation eventually, as public opinion shifts and younger, more inclusive voters make up a greater percentage of voters. I'm not totally convinced it will be in my lifetime. I'm not sure what typical hours worked by gender and affirmative action has to do with it, since politicians are elected and judges are appointed. Normal hiring practices don't apply. | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 12:29 PM |
| -9 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.Glad we can agree that unequal government representation is an issue that needs to be addressed. I agree with you on HR as well. It would be best to have a more even split. | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 11:58 AM |
| -3 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.I participated in one clinical trial, and I do encourage my family to participate as well. Partly because it's easy money. But also, good citizenship. Cpr performed by untrained people, unfortunately, is basically useless. But there are a lot if people who get cpr certification for their jobs or roles in community and sports groups. That training should be optimized to be as effective as possible. | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 11:37 AM |
| 3 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.It's definitely not like kidnapping. Medical researchers advertise for and pay participants (I made $600 once on a vaccine trial). If they aren't getting the right mix of participants, they need to change their recruitment techniques. | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 11:26 AM |
| -1 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.So we shouldn't correct a problem that exists now because of a misguided approach in the past? I don't really see what other point you're trying to make here. | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 11:22 AM |
| -5 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.Where do you think "bystanders" learn cpr? They take classes. Here, they're given at the same local college that offers EMT certification. The one that got boobs for their dummies. Nice deflection. This is regarding medical knowledge about women, not educational opportunities. I'm curious, why not require research to include proportional numbers by gender (or ethnic group)? It improves medical results overall, so why not do it? | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 11:16 AM |
| -3 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.You don't think knowledge is a resource? Smh Drugs metabolize differently for women vs men. Diseases present differently in women vs men. Having that information is key to proper medical treatment. Also, women are less likely to be administered cpr in an emergency. Experience with female cpr dummies can help close the gap. | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 10:34 AM |
| -13 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.Something men get disproportionately more of: government representation Women make up 50% of US population, but only 25% each of congress and the supreme court. It's been getting closer to representative, but there's still a lot of room for improvement. I'm not a lurker or a feminist, but as a woman, that's a pretty glaring discrepancy. | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 10:27 AM |
| 2 | To all feminists lurkers, please explain what women need more of in resources in the Western Countries? Something that men get disproportionately more of.Agree with you on medical studies (at least here in the US). Researchers are required to include women in any research where the findings would be applied to the general population, but there's still a disproportionate number of male participants in research. The law should be expanded, requiring researchers to use proportionate numbers of male and female participants. Same goes for ethnic minorities, who are also underrepresented in medical research. My daughter TAs for an EMT class at the loca… | /r/MensRights | 29/12/23 10:19 AM |
| 1 | Women didn't want the right to vote | Prof. Nancy PearceyWomen have certainly warmed up to the idea since. | /r/MensRights | 28/12/23 04:53 PM |
| 9 | what feminists say the "bare minimum" for men is, is just sexist as hell.Agreed. Cleaning your own house and washing your own dishes is bare minimum. Adults should clean up after themselves. No one deserves a reward for that. | /r/MensRights | 24/12/23 10:50 AM |
| 0 | Gen Z and millennial women are waking up to the lies feminists fed themYeah, it seems pretty stupid when it's put like that. Most women are going to work for both, so the smart thing is to make the best of it. | /r/MensRights | 23/12/23 12:05 PM |
| 23 | Are gen z men not becoming step dads?Yep, most gen z aren't even getting married yet. Too young to be stepdads. | /r/MensRights | 22/12/23 08:01 PM |
| 7 | Diaz Thinks Couples Sleeping In Separate Bedrooms Should Be “Normalized”.Seems like a decision for each couple to make on their own. Who cares how other people choose to use their bedrooms. | /r/MensRights | 21/12/23 04:33 PM |
| 1 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresIt sounds like the discrepancy is you're not counting a lot of things as work that actually are. I mean, I like cooking, but it still takes 40+ minutes a day to make dinner, and someone has to cook food for lunches and portion it out. That counts as work. I think you misunderstood me about occasional chores. We pick a different one to do each week. This week it might be scrubbing the fridge, next week it's light fixtures, or organizing the pantry, or moving furniture to vacuum. But it's somethin… | /r/MensRights | 21/12/23 12:35 PM |
| 1 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresWe're not doing anything crazy. There's 3 adults and two cats in my family and we live in an average size house (2000 sq ft). It's just that everything adds up. I don't know how anyone can manage on just 6.5 hours of housework- I spend that much just cooking. Every day it's cooking dinner, packing lunches, wiping down kitchen counters/sink, 1-2 loads laundry, 1-2 loads dishes, scooping catboxes and generally picking up. Weekly- dusting, vacuuming, mopping, scrubbing bathrooms, scrubbing the kitc… | /r/MensRights | 21/12/23 11:45 AM |
| 4 | If the law stood by the baby over any parent, and treated parents equally, it would be able to take many children away from mothers even without the need for social servicesWell, that's the main objection to paper abortions, isn't it? That it costs the taxpayer money by shifting financial responsibility from the parent to the government. If we had good social support systems to begin with, the expense becomes kind of a moot point. | /r/MensRights | 20/12/23 08:54 PM |
| 4 | If the law stood by the baby over any parent, and treated parents equally, it would be able to take many children away from mothers even without the need for social servicesWho would care for all the children taken from parents who are too poor? There's already kids languishing in foster care because there aren't enough people interested in adoption. If parents are willing and able to fulfill their parental responsibilities without funds, subsidizing those families will generally be the less expensive option (to the state), as well as being healthier for both children and parents. | /r/MensRights | 20/12/23 07:42 PM |
| 1 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresThey spend 90% of their time waiting for a woman to do what? I've been married over 20 years and I socialize with a bunch of other married couples in their 30s and 40s. It's not normal for a spouse to treat their partner like shit unless they're on the verge of divorce. | /r/MensRights | 18/12/23 06:23 PM |
| 1 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresThat sounds like relationship problem, not a gender issue. Why would you marry someone who doesn't value your time? | /r/MensRights | 18/12/23 06:00 PM |
| 1 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresIt's a trade off between time and money. I'd much rather spend the money to keep my time. Especially for things that require tools and some expertise (like car repair). I'll gladly do uncomplicated and moderately enjoyable tasks, like digging a garden bed or painting a room. Also, I'm afraid of heights. I don't go on tall ladders or let my husband, if I can help it. | /r/MensRights | 18/12/23 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresI was thinking the same thing. If childcare is such a joy, shouldn't men be glad to take over when they're home from work? Or don't they love their children? I'm lucky that my husband doesn't mind pulling his weight around the house. We both come home from work and do about an hour of housework, and a bit more than that on the weekend. When our daughter was little, we shared childcare tasks, or, more often, did them together. That's what I consider "equal." | /r/MensRights | 18/12/23 02:20 PM |
| 0 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresMaybe because it's common to pay someone to fix the car and clean the gutters? I also wouldn't mention those tasks, because no one in my house does them. | /r/MensRights | 18/12/23 02:10 PM |
| 5 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresIf mom's the only one getting up to care for crying kids at 2am, I expect dad will be the one getting thrown out the window. "Women are better at it" is a lazy cop out. Men make excellent parents. They're more than capable of being patient and comforting to children. | /r/MensRights | 17/12/23 04:20 PM |
| 2 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresNo! It's my husband and I, our 21 year old daughter and 2 cats. We live in an average size house (2000 square feet). | /r/MensRights | 17/12/23 02:04 PM |
| 11 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresThe same holds true for paid work. Sure, men might spend more time in the office, but are they actually doing more work? There's a definite brag among older salaried employees (mostly men) about how much time they spend in the office, how little PTO they take, etc. I see it all the time in my office. Our purchasing team has four male buyers, 2 female buyers and 2 female team leads (ie supervisors). Three of the men consistently work more than 45 hours per week, the other buyers and leads work be… | /r/MensRights | 17/12/23 02:02 PM |
| 5 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresThere is some truth in that. I definitely get bothered by things being dirty more than my husband does. For example, if he loads the dishwasher and they don't all fit, he leaves the extras in the sink for the next load. I hand wash the extras so I can scrub out the sink. Although, he does more of the cleaning overall, since I cook more. I think couples should agree upon a level of cleanliness and have well defined expectations of who should do which chores, and how often. Then revisit the divisi… | /r/MensRights | 17/12/23 12:39 PM |
| 7 | Real sick of hearing feminists decry that they work and also do more house duties/choresI want to know who these people are spending only 6.5 hours a week on housework. Between cooking, cleaning and grocery shopping my family does about 20 hours a week. More lately, in the run up to Christmas. And in nice weather there's lawn work too. | /r/MensRights | 17/12/23 12:34 PM |
| 3 | I'm female. These are the only times I've faced any form of sexism or gender based inappropriate behavior.Agreed on not having that many sexist interactions, as a woman. And it's usually annoying, but easy to brush off. Like salespeople automatically talking to my husband, and then I have to point out that I'm the one making the decision. But that's easy enough to deal with, and I'll take the business elsewhere for the worst offenders. Or at work where suppliers assume the man in the meeting is in charge, when they're actually my subordinate. But, again, that's mostly annoying. And a little funny to… | /r/MensRights | 16/12/23 01:21 PM |
| -1 | Why are women freaking out over abortion post roe v Wade?The ban also allows an exception if continuing the pregnancy poses a risk of impairment to bodily function. Which it did. Her doctor testified carrying to term and delivering (via c-section) seriously reduced her chances of bearing another child. Any reasonable person would consider that an impairment of bodily function. But the AG of Texas was literally threatening anyone who helped Kate Cox get an abortion. Also, 20 women are currently suing the state under Zurawski v Texas because their acces… | /r/MensRights | 15/12/23 01:50 PM |
| 1 | Why are women freaking out over abortion post roe v Wade?Kate Cox should have been able to get an abortion in Texas based on the law, since carrying the pregnancy would pose a "serious risk of impairment of a bodily function." The fact that she had to leave the state to get one shows that the exemptions to the abortion ban are just lip service. | /r/MensRights | 15/12/23 12:23 PM |
| 1 | Why are women freaking out over abortion post roe v Wade?Zurawski v State of Texas says otherwise. https://reproductiverights.org/case/zurawski-v-texas-abortion-emergency-exceptions/zurawski-v-texas/ The law not being clear is exactly the problem. Doctors aren't going to risk life imprisonment if a judge disagrees with their decision on whether an abortion was medically necessary. | /r/MensRights | 15/12/23 12:15 PM |
| 0 | Why are women freaking out over abortion post roe v Wade?But 14 states don't allow abortion at any stage of pregnancy. Nearly 30% of states isn't most but it's a lot. | /r/MensRights | 15/12/23 10:16 AM |
| 3 | Why are women freaking out over abortion post roe v Wade?Banning abortion causes more men to be forced into paying to support children they don't want. Seems like a step in the wrong direction to me. I do support the idea of financial abortions, but I think trying to hold actual abortion rights hostage to financial abortion rights will sour most people on the idea. | /r/MensRights | 15/12/23 10:13 AM |
| 2 | Why are women freaking out over abortion post roe v Wade?One of the reasons is that women are receiving worse obstetrical care in states with abortion bans, and the difference will become greater over time. Take Texas, for example. Doctors can face steep fines and up to lifetime imprisonment for performing an abortion. There is an exemption in the ban allowing abortion to save a woman's life or prevent a serious loss of bodily function. But, since the law is vaguely written, doctors are unwilling to take the risk, and women's access to medically neces… | /r/MensRights | 15/12/23 09:57 AM |
| 4 | Why are women freaking out over abortion post roe v Wade?Even though it hurts more men, overall? I'm not sure we should be cheering an equality that makes things worse for both men and women. | /r/MensRights | 15/12/23 09:50 AM |
| 1 | An Analogy for "Having sex can lead to a child therefore you made your decision when you decided to have sex"I got the count on how many states had which bans by consulting several reputable sources and seeing that the data agreed. Here are a few, but feel free to fact check yourself. https://www.usnews.com/news/best-states/articles/a-guide-to-abortion-laws-by-state https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2022/us/abortion-laws-roe-v-wade.html https://www.cnn.com/us/abortion-access-restrictions-bans-us-dg/index.html Honestly, can't take you seriously if you're going to use Texas as your example of a state w… | /r/MensRights | 14/12/23 11:06 AM |
| 1 | Unpopular opinion: Muslim family law is betterBefore the industrial revolution, a lot of the work people did was at home. As in, cottage industry and agriculture. Women absolutely did piecework, mending, laundry, agricultural work and helped with the family business to supplement income. The idea of a "housewife" who only cooks, cleans and watches kids is modern- circa 1950s. And, it was possible during the 50's because the US was in a period of unprecedented prosperity. Wages have kept stagnant since then while costs increased. For many co… | /r/MensRights | 13/12/23 11:47 AM |
| 0 | An Analogy for "Having sex can lead to a child therefore you made your decision when you decided to have sex"14 states currently have a ban on abortion from conception and 2 states have a ban after 6 weeks. There is a very real assault on women's reproductive rights going on in the US. Pregnancy is counted from the first day of a woman's last period- technically about 2 weeks before conception. Most women aren't going to take a pregnancy test until their period is a couple of days late. With an average cycle, that's right around 5 weeks. Which is why a 6 week ban is basically a total ban. 1 week is not… | /r/MensRights | 13/12/23 08:57 AM |
| 1 | Unpopular opinion: Muslim family law is betterIt's not even about men letting you down. Life happens. The person who can provide today could be unemployed, disabled or deceased tomorrow. Having just one breadwinner is a level of risk I would not be comfortable with. | /r/MensRights | 13/12/23 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Unpopular opinion: Muslim family law is betterIt's not even all that traditional. Most women worked for most of history. Only the upper classes had the privilege of a SAHM. | /r/MensRights | 13/12/23 12:29 AM |
| 0 | An Analogy for "Having sex can lead to a child therefore you made your decision when you decided to have sex"For most contraceptives, by the time you know that it's failed, it's too late for plan B. It's only effective in the first 72 hours after sex. Most women don't know they're pregnant until about 5 weeks in. I'm on the pill, but I was also on the pill when I got pregnant with my daughter. I switched to a different prescription, but no contraceptives are 100% effective. That's why we need access to abortion | /r/MensRights | 13/12/23 12:26 AM |
| 2 | Women have started blaming everything on menWe definitely put things together from thrift shops, craft stores and similar. I haven't sewn a full costume since she was little, but usually do alterations. Last year she went as Dionysus to a Greek gods themed party. She wore a purple velvet skirt from the thrift store, a white sarong stitched into a toga style top, gladiator sandals she already had and a wreath wired together from vines and grapes from the craft store. This year it was Howl (from Howl's Moving Castle) with diamond pattern ca… | /r/MensRights | 09/12/23 03:24 PM |
| 2 | Women have started blaming everything on menI already have a job, I don't need another. The best I can do is support the few companies that do make what I want and have things tailored or custom made where practical. For example, I have several skirts that I bought directly from a designer so they would a) be the perfect length for me and b) have deep pockets. | /r/MensRights | 09/12/23 03:06 PM |
| 4 | Women have started blaming everything on menBoycotting sexy Halloween costumes is just making your own, or buying the men's version instead and tailoring it. That's a good option for crafty individuals, but it doesn't really solve the problem of the whole Spirit women's section being "sexy (fill in the blank)." I help my daughter (21) with costumes every year because I can sew. But that's never going to register with a costume company as demand for not-sexy costumes. | /r/MensRights | 09/12/23 02:42 PM |
| -3 | Women have started blaming everything on menBut if sexy options are the only ones available, the choice is to buy sexy costumes or don't buy one at all. Similarly, it's a struggle to find women's shorts in a length between "shorty-shorts" and "bermuda." So I often end up buying ones shorter than I'd like because that's all there is. And the clothing companies keep making short shorts because they sold. But my purchase doesn't reflect what I, as a consumer, actually wanted. | /r/MensRights | 09/12/23 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Women have started blaming everything on menIt's not men's fault, but there's definitely a weird feedback loop going on here. Nearly every Halloween costume for sale for women is some variation of sexy, so even if you didn't really want a sexy costume, that's what there is to choose from. Then companies make more sexy costumes because they sold, and the cycle continues. I help my daughter (21) make her own costumes to get a non-sexy version. It's the same with other clothing complaints, like short shorts and non-functional pockets. You ca… | /r/MensRights | 09/12/23 01:02 PM |
| 1 | An Analogy for "Having sex can lead to a child therefore you made your decision when you decided to have sex"That's affecting his money not his body. He's going to have to work whether we have another kid or not. It's kind of a moot point for married couples anyway. It wouldn't take a pregnancy for one of us to have a decades long effect on the other's finances. Everything I spend or save affects him and vice versa. In a perfect world, women and men would share the choice and the risk equally. Realistically, you can't legislate totally equality because biology isn't fair. | /r/MensRights | 07/12/23 08:40 PM |
| 0 | An Analogy for "Having sex can lead to a child therefore you made your decision when you decided to have sex"I don't want anything from you. You asked why women fight for abortions and I provided some examples. You think I'm wrong, I think you're worng-, neither of us will convince the other. It doesn't really bother me. | /r/MensRights | 06/12/23 10:23 PM |
| 0 | An Analogy for "Having sex can lead to a child therefore you made your decision when you decided to have sex"I already answered that- because it's my body experiencing the pregnancy. My husband doesn't get to make medical decisions about my body and I don't get to make medical decisions about his. In that, we're perfectly equal. I actually support the idea of a "paper abortion" where men have a period of time to sign away responsibility. But in the US, we need much stronger social networks for low income kids to make it feasible. | /r/MensRights | 06/12/23 10:16 PM |
| -4 | An Analogy for "Having sex can lead to a child therefore you made your decision when you decided to have sex""By having sex you agree to have baby. This is what post was about." Modern medicine and the state of NY say otherwise. I'll defend your right to follow your own moral code, but you don't get to impose it on me. | /r/MensRights | 06/12/23 09:57 PM |
| -1 | An Analogy for "Having sex can lead to a child therefore you made your decision when you decided to have sex"My husband wouldn't have to force me to have an abortion, because I'd already want one. Did you not understand my first comment? As it is, he agrees that I should have an abortion if contraceptives fail. In the end, it's my right to decide because it's my body being used as life support and I'm the one who would suffer injury for a pregnancy/birth. Talking about my neighbor isn't really comparable unless they're using my body for life support. If that were the case, I'd feel perfectly justified … | /r/MensRights | 06/12/23 09:48 PM |
| 0 | An Analogy for "Having sex can lead to a child therefore you made your decision when you decided to have sex"There's so many reasons why women want access to abortions. Ask 10 women and you'll get 10 answers. For myself, I want abortion as a back up in case my birth control fails. For my daughter, I want abortion to be easily available in case she ever has a pregnancy go wrong. I would never want her being forced to carry a nonviable fetus or risk her health on a pregnancy. | /r/MensRights | 06/12/23 09:27 PM |
| 6 | Millennial moms dread parentingAgreed. By the time I was 18 my boomer parents complained bitterly about how difficult it was to raise me and my brother. Ironically, they weren't nearly as involved parents as my spouse and I are with our own daughter. | /r/MensRights | 06/12/23 02:27 PM |
| 2 | Men have less to lose...?It's not like parenting is ever really easy though. Yes, toddlers need more hands on care. But that focus just shifts to other areas as they grow, and an involved parent is going to be pretty busy well into high school. I'd say when they can drive themselves is the major turning point. But then college comes and their needs shift again- mostly it's $$$ and an ear for anxious ramblings. Parenting is definitely not for the faint of heart. Or those who enjoy having their own time and money. | /r/MensRights | 06/12/23 01:04 PM |
| 2 | S1E01 Clip | Power-hungry New York WomenThat's basically the same thing. A phrase used for everything loses all meaning and power as a critique. | /r/MensRights | 05/12/23 05:08 PM |
| 0 | S1E01 Clip | Power-hungry New York WomenI think most people don't have a problem with "cat lady" because it's an insult without teeth. Staying single, as a woman, doesn't have the same stigma it used to. Besides, people use it as an insult for any women they don't like. I've been called a cat lady online plenty of times but I'm married, with a daughter. | /r/MensRights | 04/12/23 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Having a job sucks; much rather be a stay at home dadThe simple answer- they need the second income to be middle class. And kids are hella expensive. A house in the suburbs, family vacations, extracurricular activities and college savings add up fast. I'd rather be financially stable with two incomes than scraping by on one. | /r/MensRights | 02/12/23 08:33 PM |
| 2 | At my workplace, women have massive whisper networks and it is a detriment to the organisationI kind of lump all rumors, secrets and unofficial news under "gossip." It's certainly possible for things to be secret, but not mean. Like finding out other coworkers' salaries or that someone is going to change departments, or take a job elsewhere. Or that a certain project is likely to be canned. I'd much rather be ahead of the tide when it comes to information at work. | /r/MensRights | 30/11/23 11:07 PM |
| 5 | At my workplace, women have massive whisper networks and it is a detriment to the organisationGossip might be detrimental to the organization, but it can be very beneficial to the individual. Yeah, gossip can be catty, but it can also be a good source of information that hasn't made it through the official channels yet. Especially things like changes in personnel, job openings and new projects/initiatives. Used right, you can make sure you're the right person, in the right place, to benefit. And, women might be more inclined, but they're certainly not alone. A couple of upper management … | /r/MensRights | 30/11/23 10:08 PM |
| 1 | Gender gap in reading closing but i won't be celebratingWhat's there to celebrate? Reading in the lowest performing group of boys declined, and reading in the lowest performing group of girls declined more. None of that is good news. | /r/MensRights | 30/11/23 12:38 PM |
| 1 | Women can travel for almost freeWhat would you call trading sex for goods or services, then? It doesn't change because the hooker's horny. | /r/MensRights | 28/11/23 11:42 PM |
| 1 | Women can travel for almost freeThat sounds like prostitution with extra steps. | /r/MensRights | 28/11/23 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Women can travel for almost freeAnd they accept them? I've never been interested in sleeping with men unless I know them very well. I always assumed that disinterested attitude in clubs/bars is why guys weren't buying me drinks. I've been asked out and hit on plenty by men in my social circle, and had some marriage proposals, so I figure I can't be actually unattractive. | /r/MensRights | 28/11/23 06:19 PM |
| 2 | Women can travel for almost freeNot being promiscuous is more likely to be the problem. Someone who doesn't sleep around is going to be less comfortable offering sex (or the suggestion of sex) for freebies. I also didn't get free stuff from randos. In relationships, sure. But I've never had a stranger buy me a drink at a bar or ask me to dinner out of the blue. | /r/MensRights | 28/11/23 02:33 PM |
| 4 | Women can travel for almost freeFrance, Italy and Turkey were the problem children. It's a little funny, since I go to NYC pretty often and never had an issue there. | /r/MensRights | 28/11/23 02:14 AM |
| 11 | Women can travel for almost freeI've had people try to rob me on a public street/subway (in Europe) and had several people try the local scams. Thanks but no thanks. I think I'll pass on any risky situations with strangers. | /r/MensRights | 27/11/23 11:43 PM |
| 51 | Women can travel for almost freeThis all sounds extremely dangerous. | /r/MensRights | 27/11/23 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Why do women hush their voices when saying something a tiny bit more risky or gossipy?Dramatic effect. Stories told with greater flair are more interesting. | /r/MensRights | 25/11/23 12:02 PM |
| 2 | Why do "Feminist Fundamentalists" claim they are in favour of "women having the freedom to make their own decisions", yet they simultaneously shame and judge stay at home mothers?Staying home isn't all it's cracked up to be, either. I usually work, but did the stay at home thing for 9 months during an unemployment. It's incredibly lonely to be home alone all day, every day, and I went a little overboard filling that space with projects. I'd much rather work from a mental health perspective. And the extra $$$ doesn't hurt either. Different situations work better for different people. | /r/MensRights | 20/11/23 03:35 PM |
| 1 | If there is forced gender equality on corporate boards why isn’t there forced gender equality in the same industries, most of which are unglamorous, dirty and dangerous.I get what you're saying about quotas in other fields, but that doesn't really answer my question about quotas in this field. Say x number of women apply to be sanitation workers each year. Whether there's a quota or not, you can't hire more than x female sanitation workers. Unless there are women applying for these types of jobs and they're getting passed over for male applicants. That's the only situation I can see where a quota would help. Unless I'm missing something. I'm genuinely curious h… | /r/MensRights | 20/11/23 12:25 PM |
| 1 | If there is forced gender equality on corporate boards why isn’t there forced gender equality in the same industries, most of which are unglamorous, dirty and dangerous.And how exactly will a quota help in this situation? Having a quota doesn't mean more women will apply to those undesirable jobs. You can't hire from a pool of candidates that doesn't exist. | /r/MensRights | 19/11/23 11:52 PM |
| 1 | If there is forced gender equality on corporate boards why isn’t there forced gender equality in the same industries, most of which are unglamorous, dirty and dangerous.I'm not really for quotas in general, but even more so when it's impossible to enforce. If women aren't applying to those dirty/dangerous jobs, how will a quota fix things? Companies can't hire people who didn't apply. It seems like the real solution is to a) make those jobs cleaner and safer to begin with (or automate them out of existence) and b) find a way to make those jobs more appealing to women, in particular. | /r/MensRights | 19/11/23 11:50 PM |
| 1 | If there is forced gender equality on corporate boards why isn’t there forced gender equality in the same industries, most of which are unglamorous, dirty and dangerous.I agree, but there's an additional difficulty in meeting a quota for an undesirable job. If women don't apply to those jobs, it's impossible to enforce the quota. At my last job there was a diversity focus group that was tasked with getting more qualified women and/or minority applicants and they interviewed me after I was hired. They wanted to know everything about why I chose their company, like how I heard about the job, community perception of the company and whether I would recommend the jo… | /r/MensRights | 19/11/23 04:58 PM |
| 9 | If there is forced gender equality on corporate boards why isn’t there forced gender equality in the same industries, most of which are unglamorous, dirty and dangerous.How would you enforce it? Those industries can try to attract more female candidates like the corporate jobs do. But, at the end of the day, you can't force people into certain jobs to meet a quota. | /r/MensRights | 19/11/23 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Please tell us. CEOs explain why single women in the US own more homes than single men — even though they “still earn less.”I guess I'm not sure why it matters if you or I (or anyone) thinks certain jobs deserve more pay than others. That's not how wages are determined. If some aspect of a job makes it undesirable, employers should pay whatever is needed to convince someone to take it. Most of the more dangerous jobs here in the US aren't high paying, but it's decent for someone without a degree. But there's much more profitable careers out there. | /r/MensRights | 19/11/23 11:14 AM |
| 1 | Women in the workforce, stories from rescue workersI'm kind of amazed that ambulance crews get paid. Here, there's paid paramedics that go on more involved calls (no more than one per crew), but all the EMTs are volunteer. If you're certified and willing to work for free- you've got the job. It's mostly nursing and premed students from the local college who want experience for their resumes. | /r/MensRights | 18/11/23 03:02 PM |
| 0 | Please tell us. CEOs explain why single women in the US own more homes than single men — even though they “still earn less.”Like I said, supply and demand. Employers should pay however much they need to for someone with the necessary skills to be willing to take the job. That does usually mean extra for dangerous jobs. Not so much for manual labor. | /r/MensRights | 18/11/23 04:05 AM |
| 2 | Please tell us. CEOs explain why single women in the US own more homes than single men — even though they “still earn less.”It's not like construction workers make a ton of money either. Median for construction is $45k here, but minimum wage for salaried employees is $55k. I'm in purchasing, and that's basically an entry level buyer. In other words, a college degree and a couple years supply chain experience. I'd argue that the fact men are more likely to excel at physical jobs is a pretty good argument for women not to enter those fields. I'm 5'2 with noodle arms, I was never going to cut it in manual labor. So, a c… | /r/MensRights | 17/11/23 08:31 PM |
| 10 | Please tell us. CEOs explain why single women in the US own more homes than single men — even though they “still earn less.”Salary is all supply and demand, though. I make more sitting at a desk than construction workers do. But there are fewer people with my skill set than those who can do construction. | /r/MensRights | 17/11/23 07:45 PM |
| 1 | Too many women try to justify misandrist double-standarding of being "good"We are definitely going to have to disagree on the "most people are selfish" idea. I've been both the giver and receiver of charity, as well as participating in (or organizing) many fundraisers, walks, donation drives, etc. Most people are what I'd call a moderate amount of selfless. They'll give of their time and money as long as it's not too inconvenient. It seems to me that lack of resources (time,money or energy) is what limits people's generosity the most, not indifference. And that's for s… | /r/MensRights | 15/11/23 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Too many women try to justify misandrist double-standarding of being "good"Well, bare minimum to get by in society =/= bare minimum to be in a relationship. Not breaking the the law or doing drugs are bare minimum for society. You're allowed to be morally neutral if you want. But, I'd consider what I described as a "good person" to be bare minimum for a relationship. Otherwise, they'd be pretty selfish- not a very desirable partner. Honestly, it seems strange to me that you'd describe those things as something a man would have to go out of his way to do. I kind of cons… | /r/MensRights | 15/11/23 11:36 AM |
| 2 | Too many women try to justify misandrist double-standarding of being "good"I don't think most people would agree with your definition of "good." Being normal and not weird is superficial. It just means you have good social skills and can fit in well with others. To most people, being a good person means showing a sense of morality and virtuous character. | /r/MensRights | 15/11/23 11:21 AM |
| 2 | Too many women try to justify misandrist double-standarding of being "good"So, what do you consider a "good" person? You mention no drugs, no criminal record, proper hygiene, a sense of humor, and being normal, but those traits are morally neutral. And the baseline of what's expected in society. To really be good, a person has to do good acts. Like being a kind and compassionate friend, a dependable family member and an involved participant in their community. And the character traits that prompt someone to do those kinds of acts (empathy, generosity, loyalty, humblene… | /r/MensRights | 14/11/23 12:10 PM |
| 0 | Women's "Sports Clothes" reveal a double StandardTight clothes are more practical when you have to check the lines of your body. Things like dance- style workouts or yoga. I also take figure skating lessons in the winter. Workout leggings are perfect for that. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/23 04:15 PM |
| 1 | Women's "Sports Clothes" reveal a double StandardThis touches on a common gripe for me- there aren't a lot of inseam options for women's shorts. I can think of only one store in my area that carries options between "short shorts" and "bermuda." It's very frustrating, especially because thise short shorts rise up so bad. I usually end up wearing a sundress unless I'm doing something active, or it's windy out. Interestingly, I get more rude comments/catcalls wearing dresses than shorty shorts, even though it's less revealing. Go figure. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/23 04:11 PM |
| 2 | Women's "Sports Clothes" reveal a double StandardSame. I see plenty of men out and about in exercise tights and shorts- just like women. No one bats an eye at it. | /r/MensRights | 12/11/23 04:06 PM |
| 0 | Single moms / lack of father figureSounds like he's telling on himself if he needs to financially strong-arm a woman to stay with him. | /r/MensRights | 10/11/23 10:31 PM |
| 9 | Single moms / lack of father figureCouldn't disagree more. I'm so glad my parents stopped trying to "stay together for the kids." It's miserable being a child in a house where the adults can't stand each other. Tension at every meal, constant arguments and having to walk on eggshells is not a healthy home environment. Better to leave no fault divorce and, instead, work on fixing the court system so dads can get equal custody. | /r/MensRights | 10/11/23 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Why do think women typically look better than men?That link sums it up. More US men than women are overweight and obese, but more women are severely obese. Bottom line- most Anericans are overweight, regardless of gender. | /r/MensRights | 18/10/23 10:24 AM |
| 1 | One scenario where gender balance is arguably most important is in parenting. Feminists often push for “gender balance”, but generally only when they think it will help women. But in this scenario [raising children], many rarely promote the value of both parents being involved to a similar extentIn the US, pregnant women can sometimes receive partial payment for parental leave by filing a claim with disability insurance (if they have it). But that leaves men and people adopting or fostering kids taking unpaid leave. 11 state governments have programs to cover paid leave, but the other 39 don't. Some mployers here will keep employee hours just low enough to not be considered full-time so they don't have to cover benefits such as health insurance. Anything to save a buck, ya know. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/23 11:58 AM |
| 2 | One scenario where gender balance is arguably most important is in parenting. Feminists often push for “gender balance”, but generally only when they think it will help women. But in this scenario [raising children], many rarely promote the value of both parents being involved to a similar extentBut I know of a woman who was made redundant by her employer when she was about take her leave. Wow, that sounds like the grounds for a very successful lawsuit. Lack of parental leave is just one example- the US is just generally bad when it comes to protecting workers. Like, you can take up to three months for disability, parental leave or to care for an ill family member, but it's unpaid. And employers aren't required to provide sick time or other PTO. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/23 10:06 AM |
| 1 | One scenario where gender balance is arguably most important is in parenting. Feminists often push for “gender balance”, but generally only when they think it will help women. But in this scenario [raising children], many rarely promote the value of both parents being involved to a similar extentDamn, where do you live where parental leave is 6-12 months? Here in the US, it's 6-12 weeks. I'm seriously jealous of people who live in countries where workers are prioritized. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/23 08:49 AM |
| 1 | Why do think women typically look better than men?And frankly, they don’t do it for men anyway, they do it for themselves and to show up other women. A lot of men don't realize how much women are dressing for each other. Women are constantly forming opinions based on how other women present themselves. Stuff like social status and personality. Besides, compliments from women are the best. A man might say a dress looks nice, but only a woman will appreciate that it has pockets and have a discussion about the brand. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/23 08:13 AM |
| 1 | Why do think women typically look better than men?Women put in more effort, mostly. They tend to pay more attention to skincare, haircare, and grooming in general. Also, women have a lot more options when it comes to fashion. Anyone can dress in a way that flatters her figure if she tries. | /r/MensRights | 17/10/23 08:02 AM |
| 6 | One scenario where gender balance is arguably most important is in parenting. Feminists often push for “gender balance”, but generally only when they think it will help women. But in this scenario [raising children], many rarely promote the value of both parents being involved to a similar extentHonestly, involved dads deserve all the praise. Kudos to all the men out there coaching youth sports, running booster clubs, homework helping, playing chauffeur, and showing up for every game/concert/PTA night. Gold star for them | /r/MensRights | 16/10/23 09:34 PM |
| 0 | Nobel Economics Prize 2023 awarded for pointing out the wage gap is due to personal choice and availability due to having children😂No. That's giving employers carte blanche to take advantage of workers. Government mandates are needed to protect the interests and well-being of individuals. | /r/MensRights | 13/10/23 12:36 PM |
| 3 | Day Of The GirlBut it goes without saying if one group gets special celebratory days then others should too There is an International Day of the Boy. It's May 16th. | /r/MensRights | 12/10/23 09:38 PM |
| 0 | Nobel Economics Prize 2023 awarded for pointing out the wage gap is due to personal choice and availability due to having children😂If women does not like the fact that the potential of she can be pregnant results in lower salary either sign a contract or don't do men's jobs It's so hard to tell which is which, you know? I guess purchasing manager must be a woman's job, I'll just stick with that. I really can't say if I would have gotten a different salary as a man, but I'm sure I wouldn't have had a boss ask if I intended to get pregnant. Of course, that boss had been managed out of his position by the time I left that comp… | /r/MensRights | 12/10/23 06:27 AM |
| 1 | Nobel Economics Prize 2023 awarded for pointing out the wage gap is due to personal choice and availability due to having children😂You think women lying about their medical history is a better solution than improving family leave access for men? Please make it make sense. I do think it's funny that the paid 3 month leave I actually took wasn't for pregnancy, but as a caregiver for a family member. I guess my boss was right to worry about me being married, but for the wrong reason. Oh well. | /r/MensRights | 11/10/23 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Nobel Economics Prize 2023 awarded for pointing out the wage gap is due to personal choice and availability due to having children😂People generally reject anything they perceive as someone else getting a "freebie." Making a policy broad enough to apply to more people activates their self-interest. I seriously doubt most companies would cover maternity leave either if it weren't being paid out as short-term disability by insurance. They're not required to cover it, and many don't. That's not to say there isn't a stigma against men taking the leave they're entitled to. There definitely is, and, as a society, we need to push b… | /r/MensRights | 11/10/23 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Nobel Economics Prize 2023 awarded for pointing out the wage gap is due to personal choice and availability due to having children😂The real obstacle is that the US is so pro-corporation at the expense of workers. Even here in NY, it's pretty clear that legislation requiring employers to pay for FMLA leave wasn't going to pass. It had to be set up as a state-managed insurance plan instead, with all workers contributing a very small fee (I pay 1.50/paycheck. The beauty of using FMLA leave as the base is that a) you're building on what already exists, and b) it isn't gender specific. You can use it for parental leave, but also… | /r/MensRights | 11/10/23 09:41 AM |
| 10 | Nobel Economics Prize 2023 awarded for pointing out the wage gap is due to personal choice and availability due to having children😂Look at it this way, a young 22 year old comes in, gets hired, then gets married/has kids and now is entitled to the employer paying maternity leave with the potential of the women leaving for good. And that's a big problem. I'm a woman and had my only child at 22, before starting my career. Why should I be treated differently based on the potential to take maternity leave which never actualized? The real solution is to normalize men taking paternity leave. Men get to bond more with their new ch… | /r/MensRights | 10/10/23 07:15 PM |
| 13 | Women who complain that they're poor because they're singleI thought this was a men’s only sub? It's not. Women post here often, too. | /r/MensRights | 09/10/23 09:58 PM |
| 18 | Women who complain that they're poor because they're singleIn my experience, married people of both genders readily admit that it's easier to build wealth together. It only makes sense when you've got two incomes but not twice the expenses. And it's easier for marrieds to save money on things like health insurance and auto insurance. A young woman at my work recently asked a male coworker and I (F) how we managed to buy houses by our mid twenties and we both gave the same answer- we have another income! | /r/MensRights | 09/10/23 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Women less likely to receive CPR for fear of inappropriate touchingHow can one know if it was done normally, especially if they had it only once? It's hard to explain the difference until you've seen a few different doctors. A good doctor will go in nice and easy with the speculum and adjust to the tilt of your body. A bad doctor will force it. Also, good docs have all their tools prepped and are in and out scraping for cells, so you're not sitting there with a cranked open speculum up your bits. It helps a lot, too, if you can relax your pelvic and vaginal mus… | /r/MensRights | 08/10/23 07:08 PM |
| 14 | Women less likely to receive CPR for fear of inappropriate touchingThere are regularly posts of women being traumatized when they get a pap smear which involves spreading their vagina and taking a swab sample from inside. To be fair, it's a pretty unpleasant experience. Done right, it's uncomfortable. Done wrong, it can be quite painful. Especially for a first Pap, since the instinct is to clench the muscle, which makes it all worse. I'll immediately switch gyns if they aren't good at giving a Pap test. No point putting up with that. | /r/MensRights | 08/10/23 05:08 PM |
| 4 | Body preference, honesty and double standardsIt's not even about whether you say something negative - it's how you say it. For example, my husband grew a beard a while back. I'm not a fan of beards, but it's his face, and he was pretty excited about it. When asked, I told him truthfully that I prefer him clean shaven, but (also truthfully) that he was still very handsome. And I found an honest complement I could give about the beard (I liked petting it). Generally healthy couples work it out pretty quickly is one makes the occasional bone … | /r/MensRights | 08/10/23 04:12 PM |
| 10 | Women less likely to receive CPR for fear of inappropriate touchingI think the solution is simple, more women should train their CPR skill or other survival skills so that they won't need to force random men to help them or other women in an emergency situation. Random men like...paramedics? According to the article, they are also less likely to give CPR to women vs men. I can't see how different quality of medical treatment based on gender of the patient could be a good thing. Truly, more people in general should be trained in CPR and ready to perform it. CPR … | /r/MensRights | 08/10/23 02:50 PM |
| -1 | Body preference, honesty and double standardsBut using relationship logic, you should take care not to hurt your partner needlessly. It's ok to be offended if your partner chooses to say something unkind. The worst are the "I'm just being honest" types. 99.9% of the time It's just an excuse for saying something cruel. | /r/MensRights | 08/10/23 12:44 PM |
| 1 | Why aren't more men marrying in western countries? Reason #58746-23This sounds like a pretty poor example for someone trying to eat healthy. Why not eat balanced meals every day instead of weird extremes? | /r/MensRights | 07/10/23 09:11 PM |
| 9 | Why aren't more men marrying in western countries? Reason #58746-23And checking those portion sizes now and then with a kitchen scale or measuring cup. Portion inflation by restaurants and food manufacturers gives us a skewed idea of the right amount to eat. | /r/MensRights | 07/10/23 03:56 PM |
| 15 | Why aren't more men marrying in western countries? Reason #58746-23I know, right? No protein, no whole grains, no veggies, not enough calories. Just yikes all around. | /r/MensRights | 07/10/23 03:47 PM |
| 20 | Why aren't more men marrying in western countries? Reason #58746-23Of course. Everyone can be underweight if they just don't eat enough calories. You realize this is an unhealthy diet too, right? | /r/MensRights | 07/10/23 03:13 PM |
| 1 | If it's considered OK for women to wear make up to give a fake appearance {which men are usually most attracted to} should it be considered OK for men to lie about their wealth {which women are usually most attracted to}?Then men are fools. Someone with terrible credit, or unable to hold down steady work should be a serious red flag. People don't change that much after getting in a relationship. If she's bad with money, not dependable or just coasting through life now, she's not likely to change for the better. On the upside, at least you already know what your future fights will be about. | /r/MensRights | 01/10/23 12:11 PM |
| 1 | If it's considered OK for women to wear make up to give a fake appearance {which men are usually most attracted to} should it be considered OK for men to lie about their wealth {which women are usually most attracted to}?The "why" is so important here. Someone living paycheck to paycheck because they can't budget or working a minimum wage job because of a poor work ethic isn't going to make a good partner. Same if they ran up a pile of debt getting an unprofitable degree from an overpriced college. Financial situation is another way to get a read on someone's character. | /r/MensRights | 01/10/23 12:05 PM |
| 1 | Damned if you do and damned if you don'tState law is often more stringent than federal, though. In my state, it's enough for the discriminatory activity to cause a "hostile work environment" that employer failed to correct. That being said, just one handshake wouldn't create a hostile environment. It would have to be a pattern of behavior. | /r/MensRights | 26/09/23 10:12 PM |
| 6 | Damned if you do and damned if you don'tIt's an interesting situation- basically the intersection of religious discrimination and gender discrimination in the workplace. Not shaking hands doesn't seem like a big deal as long as the person is respectful. And, it goes both ways. Women of those same religions are not allowed to shake hands with men. | /r/MensRights | 26/09/23 11:00 AM |
| 0 | bad fathersI never claimed it was gender specific. You said that any bad fathers are punished by family court. That's obviously not true, since it's not actually illegal to be a shitty dad. And the OP was asking what MRAs think should be done about bad fathers- not saying that only dads can be bad parents. That seems like a valid question to me. I see a lot of outrage on this thread about men being kept from their children, but not so much for men who are choosing not to be there for their kids. Surely hav… | /r/MensRights | 23/09/23 04:21 PM |
| 1 | bad fathersFamily court doesn't punish men for being absent, though. Or just shitty parents in general, unless they're actually abusive. For example, my parents divorced, and family court didn't do a thing when dad was too caught up with his new wife and kids to visit his "old" kids. What would the court even do? Dad called me 6 months ago (after a 2 year silence) to apologize for being such a bad father and reconnect. Hasn't called since and probably won't for another two years. Some people are just bad p… | /r/MensRights | 23/09/23 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Have you seen the Female Delusion Calculator?Why would any of the 10 engineers, in this case, pick one woman and settle down with her? Spoken like someone who sees people as numbers instead of individuals. It's very simple- people like having a partner. They enjoy being with one person and building that relationship. Wealthier people are actually more likely to get married and less likely to divorce. And since people tend to marry partners with similar socioeconomic status, wealthy people tend to marry each other. the top 10 or 20 percent … | /r/MensRights | 14/09/23 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Have you seen the Female Delusion Calculator?It's why some estimates have suggested that around 85% of women will be single and childless by 2040. Which estimates? I've seen this study suggesting 45% of women may be single by 2030, but it doesn't say anything about children. And it includes women who were married and are now divorced or widowed. Over 40% of women in the US are already single, so this isn't even much of a change. There's 100 million adult men in the US, 8% is still a lot of people. That means 1 in 12 men is standard issue b… | /r/MensRights | 14/09/23 11:11 AM |
| 1 | Have you seen the Female Delusion Calculator?If you want someone who's over 6 feet tall, makes well over the average salary for a man in the U.S., isn't obese, etc., yeah, most men like that are going to be already taken, more often than not, because there's a not a lot of men like that out there. I know. I took one. Seriously though, I think you missed a major point of my previous post. Entering even a pretty low set of standards into the calculator (20s,, single, white, not obese, working at least full time (min $30k here) and just above… | /r/MensRights | 13/09/23 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Have you seen the Female Delusion Calculator?So expecting men to be single is "standards too high?" Previous poster isn't wrong- that's the main limiting factor. I can practically throw a rock at random and hit an above average height white guy my age with a full time job. They aren't rare. All the guys I dated fit that profile, and three of those were interested in marriage. I am lucky in my husband, though. He's so much more than a set of stats. Truly one of a kind. | /r/MensRights | 13/09/23 04:34 PM |
| 1 | The Truth about "STEM"Why do think the NY (a literal feminist hellhole) won't choose feminist definition of STEM? Because that doesn't make sense. The state uses those criteria to award full tuition scholarships to students who a) pursue STEM majors and b) take STEM jobs in the state. Deciding which students receive a $30k award based on what will win brownie points with feminists sounds pretty far-fetched. Especially when it's students in female dominated majors not getting scholarships. It's far more logical to thi… | /r/MensRights | 04/09/23 11:33 AM |
| 1 | The Truth about "STEM"My "anecdote" is what my state's higher education department considers a STEM major or career to be encouraged via scholarship. I don't think the state of NY is basing their criteria on what feminists think STEM should be. Rather, they're encouraging the fields that drive scientific and technological innovation. Which is the whole point of calling certain fields "STEM" in the first place. | /r/MensRights | 03/09/23 02:34 PM |
| 2 | The Truth about "STEM"Medical researchers drive innovation. Clinicians, not so much. | /r/MensRights | 03/09/23 02:27 PM |
| 0 | The Truth about "STEM"It makes sense if you think about why STEM is even a thing. Those fields, specifically, are promoted to encourage scientific and technological innovation. Clinical physicians don't really fill that niche. I'd say most people would consider doctors as being in healthcare rather than STEM. | /r/MensRights | 02/09/23 08:47 PM |
| 8 | "I ask men to show me their bank balance on the first date because I only want to go out with wealthy guys - I need to know if I'm wasting my time"Or braces. I had them for a couple of years as an adult, and my husband called me his little cheese grater. | /r/MensRights | 02/09/23 06:04 PM |
| 17 | "I ask men to show me their bank balance on the first date because I only want to go out with wealthy guys - I need to know if I'm wasting my time"How many women have you known or do you currently know that employed this tactic AND ended up with a wealthy guy? I'll make it even easier- I don't know any women married to a wealthy guy. I'm upper middle class, and all the married people I know are middle or upper middle class. Nobody's got a wealthy spouse. People are looking for someone in a similar place as far as education, career, and having your life figured out. Not this nonsense. | /r/MensRights | 02/09/23 03:39 PM |
| 2 | The Truth about "STEM"I've never heard someone claim biology isn't part of STEM. A quick Google search returns a resounding "yes" to the question "is biology STEM?" The major criteria for what constitutes STEM tend to be "hard science" plus "research." Social sciences are soft sciences and medical fields focused on clinical applications aren't involved in research. Biology, obviously, fits both criteria, so it's STEM. Back to the STEM scholarship example, my daughter's a biochem major, but straight biology is also an… | /r/MensRights | 02/09/23 03:13 PM |
| 6 | The Truth about "STEM"Excluding social sciences and medicine from STEM seems to be the norm, even when sex isn't part of the discussion. For example, my kid has tuition paid by the NYS "STEM Incentive" scholarship, which is sex neutral. It specifically does not cover medical/dental/veterinary studies or social sciences as they are not considered "STEM." | /r/MensRights | 02/09/23 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Culture check - Is there something in any culture out there today that celebrates the occasion of someone finally becoming a man (ex. An equivalent of quinceanera for girls)Coming of age rituals, ceremonies, or celebrations | /r/MensRights | 31/08/23 08:48 PM |
| 4 | I personally havent watched the barbie movie, so I might not be the right person to point this out but do you guys believe the barbie movie is fair towards both genders?1) barbie is a parody Yes. "Barbieland" is a tongue in cheek take on how girls play with their dolls. Barbie is clearly the main character at playtime. Ken is an accessory and doesn't come out of the toy box until he's needed to be Barbie's date/back up singer/coworker/etc. And that's why Barbie doesn't know where Ken lives. Mattel doesn't make a house for Ken Just like how Barbie doesn't walk down stairs, cook or care for her house. It just happens by "play" logic. | /r/MensRights | 31/08/23 03:37 PM |
| 2 | Strong Independent Women Still Won't Make The First MoveYeah, it's kind of funny that you get a can of sealant instead of a spare in so many new cars now. Especially small, high fuel efficiency cars. But it gets the job done. It was interesting when car manufacturers started doing it, but I didn't think much of it till my daughter was learning to drive. Neither of the cars she drives is equipped with a jack or spare, so teaching her how to change a tire was purely theoretical, via youtube. | /r/MensRights | 30/08/23 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Strong Independent Women Still Won't Make The First MoveWait, y'all have spare tires? The last three (new) cars I bought had run-flat tires and a can of fix-a-flat. | /r/MensRights | 30/08/23 11:09 AM |
| 33 | Women who "train" their husbands.Well, context matters. My husband likes to joke that I domesticated him (from fratboy to husband), so sometimes I say it too. Similarly, we both kid that he's the only thing standing between me and too many cats. It's clearly in good fun. It's different if partners are being mean spirited about it. | /r/MensRights | 28/08/23 10:14 PM |
| 3 | We should normalize spoiling our men.Agreed, spoiling should go both ways. I do think a lot of women in happy relationships are spoiling their men, but it flies under the radar. Romantic gifts for women tend to fall into a few categories- flowers, chocolates, and jewelery. But there isn't really a stereotypical gift for men. So far this year, I've done nice dinners and sex for my husband (of course). But I've also given him a circular saw, taken road trips for hiking, escape rooms and double features at his favorite drive in theate… | /r/MensRights | 28/08/23 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Dating isn't worth itI was thinking more along the lines of what you have in your house. For example, when I met my husband, he had a bunch of fraternity swag around his apartment. Everything about the place screamed "bachelor pad." It was fine for an early 20s man just starting to think about settling down. But some of his frat brothers decorated like that into their 30s. That's a red flag for a woman looking for a serious relationship. Maybe have a married friend or female relative take a look at your place to be … | /r/MensRights | 27/08/23 01:24 PM |
| 12 | Dating isn't worth itIs there something in your place that would be a common red flag? My first thought is that she saw something there that prompted the "different places in life" comment. | /r/MensRights | 27/08/23 11:18 AM |
| 1 | ConflictedSide note: how the fuck could they tell he's have Down syndrome while embryo Screening for Down syndrome (and other potential health problems) is done by testing the mother's blood and looking for certain identifiers in the ultrasound image. If Down syndrome is suspected after screening, a sample of amniotic fluid or placental cells is tested. Down syndrome is genetic, but not usually hereditary. | /r/MensRights | 26/08/23 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Is it possible to have a symbolic wedding ceremony without it being legally binding?You can get legal documents for some of those benefits, but not all of them. A few years ago, my husband had cancer, and I took a 12 week FMLA leave to care for him. Federal law protected my job, and state law made sure I got paid. Those programs are only available to care for a spouse, child, or parent. Similarly, I've been on my husband's health insurance for 10 years (it's cheaper). Only available to spouses and dependent children. Weddings are as cheap or expensive as you choose. We were mar… | /r/MensRights | 24/08/23 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Unpaid labour is Unpaid labourI bought a mini rice cooker so I have fresh rice every day for bento lunches. Total game changer! I like to prep and/or roast a bunch of veggies on the weekend. Mains and sides I'd rather cook fresh. I can't stand reheated meat. And when I'm feeling fancy- French cuisine. But that's a weekend thing. | /r/MensRights | 24/08/23 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Unpaid labour is Unpaid labourCooking is fun, I would do that for leisure. Cleaning is just something that has to be done. I'll admit, I make sure I'm on chef duty 95% of the time. My husband does dishes and kitchen clean up. | /r/MensRights | 24/08/23 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Unpaid labour is Unpaid labourGood for you? My daughter's faster than me with laundry too, but she also leaves it in the basket until she's ready to wear it. Faster/slower doesn't mean much out of context. | /r/MensRights | 24/08/23 04:39 PM |
| 27 | Is it possible to have a symbolic wedding ceremony without it being legally binding?Your wife is the person you are going to do some VERY hard things with. Just wanted to point out that many of the legal benefits of marriage apply when things go bad (at least in the US). It's what lets you add your spouse to your health insurance plan and protects your job if one of you needs leave to care for the other (FMLA). Being married allows you to make medical decisions when your partner is unable and guarantees hospital/hospice visitation. And, if the worst happens, a spouse gets to ma… | /r/MensRights | 24/08/23 02:25 PM |
| 1 | Unpaid labour is Unpaid labourI think it's funny that you're fixated on the easiest load of laundry and not the ones where we're stripping beds or hanging clothes. Just for giggles, I asked my husband how long he thought a load of clothes takes and he said 20 minutes. If he's right, it's still 4 hours a week. I have 3 adults in my house. There's work clothes 5 days a week, with extras like undershirts, camis, cardigans and tights. Also 2-3 sets of pjs and exercise clothes each and my daughter's EMT uniform washed 1-2 times p… | /r/MensRights | 23/08/23 01:36 PM |
| 4 | Unpaid labour is Unpaid labourI'm not sure what other criteria you would use unless one partner has a particularly strenuous job. I'd say you should make allowances for that. And it can change from week to week. I traveled for work last week so my husband did more at home. He put in extra hours for an audit this week, so I picked up more chores. In my own house, we work (paid) at about the same time and do housework at about the same time. Then our free time is in sync so we can do things together. That works great. | /r/MensRights | 23/08/23 01:29 PM |
| 0 | Unpaid labour is Unpaid labourFor one load: sort out from hamper take to laundry room and start washer go back and move to dryer go back and get towels empty lint trap fold towels and put away put away laundry basket in laundry room All of those steps take a couple of minutes and they includes 4 trips to the basement. Every person in my house takes a turn at laundry- it takes about the same amount of time for everyone. Also, clothes sometimes take more than 30 minutes because you have to empty pockets, separate undershirts/s… | /r/MensRights | 23/08/23 10:19 AM |
| 4 | Unpaid labour is Unpaid labourWhy should both partners contribute the same amount of time to maintaining the household? It's a fair distribution of labor and helps prevent partners from resenting each other. Why wouldn't the work be split evenly? | /r/MensRights | 23/08/23 09:55 AM |
| 1 | Unpaid labour is Unpaid labourLaundry is one of those things that seems like no big deal- until I think about how much there is. For my family, per week, it's 7 loads clothes, 2 loads bathroom towels, 1 load kitchen towels, and 2 loads bed linens. At roughly 30 minutes hands-on per load, that's 6 hours a week. | /r/MensRights | 23/08/23 12:49 AM |
| 15 | Unpaid labour is Unpaid labourTaking unpaid labor into consideration is pretty important to having a happy marriage/relationship. To be fair, each partner should spend an equal number of hours paid work plus unpaid work. But, it's tough to make sweeping generalizations about who does more since there's endless variability in family arrangements. My spouse and I both spend about 45 hours at work and 15 hours on unpaid work per week. But we divided unpaid labor differently when one of us had a longer commute or wasn't working. | /r/MensRights | 22/08/23 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Spain to launch app to highlight the housework gender gapIs it harder for young people to establish their own households and families while also paying back their parents? Absolutely. How could there be any question? Everyone is free to help their parents if they want to, but I certainly won't be helping mine- mom is dead, and dad calls once every year or two. As a parent myself, the only "repayment" I expect from my daughter is for her to live a happy life, successful in whatever endeavors she chooses to pursue. The financial responsibility only flow… | /r/MensRights | 22/08/23 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Spain to launch app to highlight the housework gender gapthen the resources expended on the child are tracked and the child is expected to pay the parents back with interest when they are old enough to do so That's pretty hard on the kids. They didn't ask to be born or have any say in what kind of upbringing they received. I'd say the parents have a responsibility to provide their kid's upbringing, with no expectation of being compensated. | /r/MensRights | 22/08/23 05:26 PM |
| 2 | Australia "NSW Ambulance has become the first NSW emergency service to reach gender parity in its ranks, with women now making up more than 50% of the NSW Ambulance workforce."I'm amazed they have paid EMT crews. Around here, each ambulance has a paramedic (paid) and 1-2 crew members (usually unpaid). You basically need EMT certification, a reasonable amount of physical fitness, and a desire to work for nothing. Mostly nursing and premed students from the local college. My daughter does it to pad out her med school resume. | /r/MensRights | 21/08/23 05:45 PM |
| 6 | Woman proposes business that sells books written by women to women only - "to promote equality"As a woman, this feels a little patronizing. Books by female authors are great. Packing them in pink boxes with beauty products- not so much. | /r/MensRights | 17/08/23 11:12 PM |
| 1 | "women only" scholarshipsSince you're asking, the problem with college funding isn't who's giving private scholarships for what. I have no problem with people specifying who they want to give their money to, even when it excludes me. No point making that more complicated than it needs to be. The real issue is that college tuition at state schools should be covered by taxes, for all students in good standing. My kid's entire tuition is covered by the state of NY (STEM Incentive). Back in the day, my tuition was covered i… | /r/MensRights | 12/08/23 05:25 PM |
| 0 | "women only" scholarshipsI have never seen a sex specific scholarship that was tax funded (I'm in NY). I absolutely agree that those shouldn't exist. But privately funded programs and scholarships are a different thing altogether. | /r/MensRights | 12/08/23 03:11 PM |
| 1 | "women only" scholarshipsI'm not sure what the point is of having applicants submit blind essays, not knowing what the scholarship grant committee is looking for. It seems super frustrating and won't put students in their best light My daughter's in college now, and the scholarships she was awarded were for very different achievements. Such as: volunteer work, student leadership, membership in a particular marching band, academics, intent to enter a STEM major (and high academics), and activism in the LGBTQ community as… | /r/MensRights | 12/08/23 03:07 PM |
| 1 | "women only" scholarshipsFrom a practical standpoint, donations for scholarships will probably dry up if scholarships were open to everyone and anonymous. Think about how private scholarships get set up in the first place. Usually, someone has a pet cause, and they want to promote it. So they set up a scholarship to benefit people in their in-group of choice. Sons of Italy only want to support Italians, Pride coalitions want to help LGBTQ kids, and the Jewish community center is focused on assisting Jews. Tell all those… | /r/MensRights | 12/08/23 02:32 PM |
| 2 | "women only" scholarshipsWomen only scholarships are privately funded too (at least in the US), because those are exempt from Title IX. Any educational institution that receives federal funding can't discriminate based on sex. So, a Women's Business Association can grant women only scholarships, but the college that group is affiliated with cannot. Same thing applies to groups granting men only scholarships- like fraternities, for example. | /r/MensRights | 12/08/23 02:18 PM |
| 3 | "women only" scholarshipsThere already are scholarships that are only for men. For example: https://scholarships360.org/scholarships/scholarships-for-men/#:~:text=Scholarships%20for%20men%20are%20less,top%20college%20scholarships%20for%20men! https://www.scholarships.com/financial-aid/college-scholarships/scholarships-by-type/scholarships-for-men/ There are more scholarships for women,but both kinds exist. | /r/MensRights | 12/08/23 12:34 PM |
| -2 | "women only" scholarshipsWhen the criteria is just "women or nothing", that's not specific at all. It doesn't have to be specific, though. The main take away is that scholarship granting groups/individuals can pick absolutely any group they want to promote. Are there people out there who want to encourage women, in particular, to go to college? Sure. Just like there are those giving scholarships just to Catholics, or people of Italian descent, or wrestlers. That being said, we reviewed hundreds of scholarship opportunit… | /r/MensRights | 12/08/23 11:54 AM |
| -4 | "women only" scholarshipsHere in the US, women only scholarships are private scholarships. Private scholarships are basically a donation by a group or individual to whatever type of student they prefer. Disadvantage doesn't have to figure into the equation at all. I helped my daughter search scholarship databases recently, and there were so many niche criteria for different scholarships. Things like race, religion, and ethnic heritage- but also playing a particular sport or instrument. Among those my daughter received w… | /r/MensRights | 12/08/23 10:11 AM |
| 1 | Victoria’s SecretIs it what they want to see? I'd say so. Women have been saying for years that they want models who look more like average women. As in, a wide variety of sizes, body shapes and looks- without photo retouching. Other lingerie brands using more inclusive models have been very well received. Like Aerie, who feature models of varying sizes and ages, as well as some with visible disabilities. Savage x Fenty takes it even farther with trans models, models with prosthetic limbs, and plus sized male mo… | /r/MensRights | 11/08/23 10:59 AM |
| 1 | Victoria’s SecretHope the ESG scoring is adequate for their investors to counter the declining customer base - but probably not. Yeah, it probably won't turn things around for VS- they've been losing market share for years. Going inclusive now just seems desperate. I mean, jumping on the body positive bandwagon only after they were called out in a top 40s song feels a bit...insincere. | /r/MensRights | 10/08/23 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Victoria’s SecretI'd need good luck to find an actual VS store. They used to be in every mall, but not anymore. It's no great loss, though. It's not good quality for the price anyway. There's much better options out there. | /r/MensRights | 10/08/23 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Victoria’s SecretHow large are we talking? VS's largest panty size is XXL/20. | /r/MensRights | 10/08/23 01:37 PM |
| 3 | Victoria’s SecretMost of Victoria's Secrets customers are women. Basing the website/catalog on what they want to see is just good marketing. | /r/MensRights | 10/08/23 11:17 AM |
| -3 | Women now make up exactly 50% of the US workforce — only the third time in history to have been this highWhat I'm hearing is that you agree that relative income isn't the best way to determine how to split up work at home. | /r/MensRights | 05/08/23 01:39 PM |
| 0 | Women now make up exactly 50% of the US workforce — only the third time in history to have been this highThat kind of inflexibility isn't very conducive to a happy marriage. And it ignores the fact that most couples enjoy both having free time so they can spend it together. Besides, by the same logic, one partner shouldn't shoulder any more of the household responsibilities when the other has to take on more hours, but not more pay. For example, my husband had a nine month stint where he was being sent out of town M-F every week and was only home on weekends. Another time, he had to take a job with… | /r/MensRights | 05/08/23 12:09 PM |
| -11 | I [M24] got blamed very bad by my girlfriend [F21] for telling her that I do not want her to initiate sex with me if she is turned on from someone else, why is my stance considered bad?I was just going to say this. I couldn't care less what dirty thoughts got my SO riled up if I'm the one reaping the benefits. | /r/MensRights | 04/08/23 02:46 PM |
| 1 | Dangerous jobs-why male dominated?What I'm saying is that skills fewer people have are in higher demand- that's it. Yes, I've got over a decade of experience and a truckload of training to do what I do. Not everyone is interested in or has the opportunity to pursue those skills, which makes them less common. For example, I'm currently working on a certification that will open doors for advancement. I know I'm lucky to have the time for months of classes and an employee tuition assistance program to foot the $5k bill. But those l… | /r/MensRights | 27/07/23 10:21 AM |
| 1 | Dangerous jobs-why male dominated?Good for him? It's not a contest, they can both be gross Working hotel laundry was my summer job when I was 17. I learned quickly that it wasn't for me. On the other hand, my daughter spent last summer shadowing a (female) pathologist through a series of autopsies as a prep for med school. She loved it. It takes all types to make the world go round. | /r/MensRights | 26/07/23 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Dangerous jobs-why male dominated?But there's still a lot of people who can move a fridge, so the relative demand for that skill is low. As a supply chain professional, I do tasks that receivers at my company can't do, and they do things I can't (such as lifting heavy objects). One of those skill sets is less common than the other and earns a much higher salary. | /r/MensRights | 26/07/23 01:04 PM |
| -2 | Dangerous jobs-why male dominated?Ok, so what point do you think I missed here? I never said oil rig workers (or anyone) were sissies. The previous poster just jumped to conclusions. Op asked why more women weren't working dangerous jobs, and I provided one possible answer. | /r/MensRights | 25/07/23 06:56 PM |
| -5 | Dangerous jobs-why male dominated?When did I say that? I'm not expecting any kind of special treatment. I've been more than willing to compete with men for every position I've had. Every candidate should be evaluated solely on their merits. Op asked why women aren't as likely to work dangerous jobs, and I offered my experience as a woman. I'm just not qualified. It's not like every woman works a desirable job either. There's plenty of thankless, manual labor work in women dominated fields, such as health aides, housekeepers, and… | /r/MensRights | 25/07/23 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Dangerous jobs-why male dominated?It depends on the task. The rarer the skill, the more you can charge. | /r/MensRights | 25/07/23 05:11 PM |
| 1 | Dangerous jobs-why male dominated?It's all relative, I guess. I thought it was pretty gross washing linens with strangers' blood, urine and semen- others may disagree. It's definitely dirtier than my current job. | /r/MensRights | 25/07/23 05:09 PM |
| -7 | Dangerous jobs-why male dominated?People in general aren't interchangeable, regardless of sex. Everyone has different skills and abilities. Mine just happen to be better suited to management than manual labor. Some women are just fine with heavy lifting, just like some men aren't. But there's no denying that men on average are stronger than women. Gender is a social construct. Biological sex is the part that's fixed | /r/MensRights | 25/07/23 03:57 PM |
| -7 | Dangerous jobs-why male dominated?Congratulations on missing my entire point. If I struggled to lift a 30 lb bag at a home improvement store, do you think I'd have a promising career as an oil rig worker? I'm just being realistic about what my abilities are.. | /r/MensRights | 25/07/23 12:19 PM |
| -6 | Dangerous jobs-why male dominated?As a woman, here's my take on it. Dangerous jobs are generally physical jobs. And I've never considered a career that involved physical labor for two reasons. Like a lot of kids, I was taught that going to college and getting a white collar job is the path to success. I was never going to be able to be competitive in a job that required physical strength. So, it made a lot more sense for me to go for a job that emphasizes my strengths. I went to college and got a white-collar mid level managemen… | /r/MensRights | 25/07/23 10:08 AM |
| 3 | How feminism affecting women in the workplace. A taste of their own medicineIt's always been the case that people with small kids get more leeway with flexible hours, work from home, and time off. My husband and I certainly did when our daughter was pre-school/school age. Now that she's in college- not so much. But, the requested vacation in the article had nothing to do with her coworkers being moms. They just submitted their time earlier. Simple as that. | /r/MensRights | 24/07/23 11:54 AM |
| 8 | How feminism affecting women in the workplace. A taste of their own medicineYeah, it's not about kids. Nothing is stopping OP from putting her requests in way in advance in the future. PTO is generally approved first come, first serve. | /r/MensRights | 24/07/23 11:46 AM |
| 10 | A Womens "free time" is a must, a men's "free time" a luxurityI could see that. I live in the kind of suburb where the women's garden club maintains a flower garden in the local park, so flowers are kind of a big deal. People definitely talk behind their hands if you don't have landscaping beyond just grass. | /r/MensRights | 23/07/23 04:31 PM |
| 13 | A Womens "free time" is a must, a men's "free time" a luxuritybut the only way they got to that figure is ignoring cutting the grass, cleaning the gutters, fixing the drain I have to ask- are wives not doing yard work other places? Around here, the norm is for men to mow and women to take care of flower beds and planters/baskets. In my experience, planting, weeding, pruning, mulching, and watering is roughly equal to mowing, in terms of hours worked. I see yard work brought up as something men do so often that I'm wondering if the normal chore split here i… | /r/MensRights | 23/07/23 04:20 PM |
| 86 | A Womens "free time" is a must, a men's "free time" a luxurityIt is interesting how the "women's spaces" you mentioned are named after the purpose of the room, while a "man cave" is all about gender. We should call a space by what it's for. The men I know have game rooms, home theaters, workshops, and greenhouses. Not man caves. | /r/MensRights | 23/07/23 01:38 PM |
| 16 | Barbie (2023) is Pro Feminist Propaganda MovieI'm pretty sure the pregnant doll was one of Barbie's friends, rather than Barbie herself. (Midge, maybe?) | /r/MensRights | 19/07/23 04:18 PM |
| 31 | Barbie (2023) is Pro Feminist Propaganda MovieWhen I was a kid, Mattel accidentally made a gay Ken. They wanted him to wear current club fashions to appeal to girls, but missed the mark. Best selling Ken they've ever made. Yes, Ken sometimes has careers to complement Barbie's. But he's had 40 different jobs and she's had 200. Barbie has always been the main character, and Ken is the attractive boyfriend/sidekick. Which makes perfect sense for a toy marketed to little girls. No one was clambering to play Ken when the Barbies came out. | /r/MensRights | 19/07/23 01:14 PM |
| 89 | Barbie (2023) is Pro Feminist Propaganda MovieWell, Ken has always been "Barbie's boyfriend." That's his whole identity. It seems like the movie is setting up a character arc for him to come out of Barbie's shadow- at least a little. | /r/MensRights | 19/07/23 10:46 AM |
| 113 | Barbie (2023) is Pro Feminist Propaganda MovieThat seems pretty on brand for Barbie. I mean, she's the poster child for being a career girl. There's a "wedding Barbie" but she's never actually a wife or mother. And Ken is an accessory. It seems like the movie is leaning into all those tropes, but poking fun at the plastic fantastic ideal. | /r/MensRights | 19/07/23 10:26 AM |
| 7 | More bias in media. Headline “Husbands create an extra seven hours of housework” ignores extra hours at work and other household responsibilities.Honestly, I can totally relate to the woman. When I'm stressed, having to figure anything out is just an extra burden. The real issue here is ranting about it online instead of talking to her fiance like an adult. If I have a rough day and don't want to be bothered with dinner, I ask my husband to figure it out. Nicely, and explaining that I'm too wiped out to care what we eat. Nobody's the villain. Communication is key. | /r/MensRights | 16/07/23 06:03 PM |
| 17 | What’s Your Opinion on Dress CodesDress codes still have a purpose. They communicate what the expectation is for a company (or school) image and make it easy to resolve any question of whether a particular item of clothing is acceptable. I've consulted my handbook from time to time to confirm which shoes/clothes are allowed at my job. Women definitely have a larger range of what's acceptable, but that has more to do with differences in fashion than sexism. For example, it's been 80° here the past week, and I've been wearing shor… | /r/MensRights | 13/07/23 09:33 AM |
| 5 | Opinions on if major movements like Feminism, LGBTQ++ and Redpill should be given a +18 tag or some form of age controlThat in and of itself begs the question of whether sexuality should be a topic in schools let alone non-heterosexuality Are you honestly arguing against sex ed in schools? A populace that knows how to prevent the spread of STIs is in everyone's best interest. If the purpose of schools is to raise adults prepared for the real world, comprehensive sex ed is essential. children are primitive, which is why they seem so much more cruel (read: indifferent) Bingo. Children are indifferent to things suc… | /r/MensRights | 08/07/23 01:42 PM |
| 8 | Opinions on if major movements like Feminism, LGBTQ++ and Redpill should be given a +18 tag or some form of age controlLGBTQ is only an adult topic if you're just focused on the sex. There's a whole lot more there to talk about, from self-expression to civil rights. It seems like you're talking more about a school setting, and I absolutely think LGBTQ topics have a place there. Kids should be taught from an early age that not everybody is the same - and that's ok. That's how we reduce bigotry in future generations. Like a kindergarten class reading "And Tango Makes Three" and discussing all the different types o… | /r/MensRights | 08/07/23 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Men's survival guide to MarriageOk, but that's still $13k in lost wages and expenses... Though the US is pretty poor when it comes to worker or family protections. No wonder people don't want to have kids. | /r/MensRights | 03/07/23 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Men's survival guide to MarriageTwo of my uncles are Baptist ministers- religion runs in my family. It's mostly my aunts and cousins who are SAHMs among my acquaintances. It's all very traditional. Also, why would you not have financial security just because one parent stayed at home? We wouldn't have had the extra income to save. If I stop working, that's half the household income. Now, he makes $75k, and I make $80k. But when our daughter was school age, one income wouldn't have been enough for us to comfortably own a house.… | /r/MensRights | 03/07/23 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Men's survival guide to MarriageIn addition, who do you know in this day and age where the breadwinner is the head of household and makes the major decisions? All the families I know with a stay at home parent are religious and very into traditional family roles. So...all of them. There's no way I would accept that kind of dynamic. I absolutely could not hand my child over to a daycare Neither could I. My spouse and I worked different shifts and got grandma and grandma to help when our daughter was preschool age. Both of us ha… | /r/MensRights | 03/07/23 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Men's survival guide to MarriageAre you seriously saying a SAHM is not an equal partner? No offense, but I don't consider SAH an equal partner. SAH and breadwinner is more of a complementary relationship. As in, each partner is responsible for different areas of household management. And generally, the income earner acts as "head of the household," making the major decisions. That works for some people, but it's not my cup of tea. To me, an equal partner is someone you can split decision making and each household responsibilit… | /r/MensRights | 03/07/23 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Share of 40-year-old Americans who have never been married hits record high"Only putting up with it for so long" is usually years, even a decade. But there's no denying that cohabitation is much more popular than just a few decades ago. For starters, it gives people the flexibility to have a long term live in relationship without the commitment of marriage. And even those that eventually marry usually do a trial period and live together for a couple of years first. It just seems logical that the changing role of marriage would result in fewer people deciding to actuall… | /r/MensRights | 02/07/23 02:08 PM |
| 2 | Share of 40-year-old Americans who have never been married hits record highBut how many of those unmarried 40 year olds are, or have been, cohabitating? Not married =/= single. Previously, getting married was the socially acceptable way to access sex, children, and living together. Of course the number of people opting out of marriage will increase if you can have those things without tying the knot. | /r/MensRights | 02/07/23 11:59 AM |
| 1 | Men's survival guide to MarriageI get it- it can be tough to build up that discipline to not overextended yourself with credit. When I was younger, I ran up a few thousand on a high interest card and learned a painful lesson. But, a cc can be a great financial tool. I use mine for absolutely every expense that's feasible, then pay promptly and use the points for travel. It's enough to cover airfare for a trip every other year. And there's other perks, like legal protections for disputed purchases (all cards) as well as trip in… | /r/MensRights | 30/06/23 02:21 PM |
| 4 | Men's survival guide to MarriageCredit card is not technically good for your financial stability as one mistake and you are screwed with predatory interest rates. That's all on whether you use it wisely. Having a good credit history/score affects all sorts of things, like loans, insurance rates, and job applications. A few cards, open several years, with high available balance, really help drive up that score. Also, a quickly available line of open credit eases a lot of the stress of "what if there's an emergency?" Knowing you… | /r/MensRights | 30/06/23 01:03 PM |
| 33 | Men's survival guide to MarriageReally, this is good advice for just living a happy life. In broader terms: Find an equal partner (no SAHM) Work-life balance (take all available leave) Spend quality time with family (childcare) Take care of your health (stay fit) Establish financial stability (have a credit card) Live a virtuous life (don't cheat) Have a strong social support system (get male friends) Overall, these will increase your well-being and your chance of being in one of the marriages that do succeed. | /r/MensRights | 30/06/23 12:41 PM |
| -1 | Why does the left support feminism?can you not travel a short distance out of state to a haven state to have it done? Only if you're lucky enough to be near a state with abortion protections. But states with similar political ideals are often near each other. This map does a good job of demonstrating that. If you live in Louisiana (middle of the southeastern "restrictive" area), you'd have to drive 12 hours to the nearest state with widespread abortion access (Illinois). So thats travel costs, missing work and the cost of the abo… | /r/MensRights | 25/06/23 04:10 PM |
| 0 | Deja Vu all over again: The sexual revolution in Russia in the 1920's presages the sexual revolution in the West in the 1960's-70'sYou can work, while still raising kids. You just need to alternate hours with your husband. For sure. I did this when my daughter was pre-k. There was always a parent home. | /r/MensRights | 23/06/23 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Women’s only scholarships, awards and even gym hours are being eliminated or canceled by universities because they discriminate against men.We regulate who they can hire so why is giving money any different? For starters, because rights of individuals trump rights of companies in the US. Under federal law, individuals and small businesses (less than 15 employees) can discriminate in hiring to their heart's content (Civil Rights Act Title VII). Also, the Supreme Court has ruled repeatedly that donations are protected as a form of free speech. And, from a practical standpoint, people only donate to groups they care about. People will … | /r/MensRights | 21/06/23 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Women’s only scholarships, awards and even gym hours are being eliminated or canceled by universities because they discriminate against men.I'm all for college tuition being paid for by taxes. I'm in NY state, and since 2018 most kids middle income or below qualify for full tuition scholarships at state schools (Excelsior scholarship). My kid's tuition is paid by the state's STEM Initiative program and she applied for scholarships to cover fees and books. | /r/MensRights | 21/06/23 10:23 PM |
| 2 | Women’s only scholarships, awards and even gym hours are being eliminated or canceled by universities because they discriminate against men.The right to not be discriminated against is in the constitution. Not in the US. It's in the Civil Rights Act. Which protects against discrimination in very specific areas- employment, accommodations (hotels and rentals) and businesses open to the public. And colleges are covered by Title IX if they accept govt funding. Scholarships don't fall in any of those categories. Racism isn't illegal, and we can't legislate it out of people's private lives. Nor should we. If someone wants to be a bigot o… | /r/MensRights | 21/06/23 03:47 PM |
| 5 | Women’s only scholarships, awards and even gym hours are being eliminated or canceled by universities because they discriminate against men.Discrimination shouldn't be acceptable in any circumstance This is a ridiculous statement. That would mean you can't discriminate against people in your personal life based on any protected class (age, sex, religion, race, etc). Such as choosing who you associate with socially, what businesses you frequent, or what members are allowed in a private club. The right to not be discriminated against only includes the specific circumstances protected by law (title IX in the case of scholarships). And … | /r/MensRights | 21/06/23 02:15 PM |
| 5 | Women’s only scholarships, awards and even gym hours are being eliminated or canceled by universities because they discriminate against men.I don't agree. A scholarship is a donation from a group/person to a student. We don't regulate how people donate their money in other areas. For example, I've donated to the Hispanic Federation and the Trevor Project. Both are perfectly legit nonprofits that offer services only to members of certain groups. | /r/MensRights | 21/06/23 01:53 PM |
| 5 | Women’s only scholarships, awards and even gym hours are being eliminated or canceled by universities because they discriminate against men.I think it's less about who needs the scholarships and more about the donor's interests. As in, the person or group who set up the trust for a scholarship just wants to help students from a certain group. I recently went through the scholarship process with my daughter, and there were so many different special interest groups. There were definitely ones open for "women entering a certain field." But there were also scholarships for Jews, people of German decent, single parents, adult learners, m… | /r/MensRights | 21/06/23 01:51 PM |
| 39 | Women’s only scholarships, awards and even gym hours are being eliminated or canceled by universities because they discriminate against men.The irony is most of these could just open up for male students and yet these feminists would rather axe the program just to spite men. The scholarships are probably paid for by a donation/trust from an individual who specified they have to go towards certain recipients. You can't really force people to keep donating money if it's not the cause they wanted to support. Even if it's discriminatory. I suspect these women only scholarships won't really be eliminated and will switch to being private … | /r/MensRights | 21/06/23 10:32 AM |
| 1 | Only half of the women who are out-earning their husbands are taking the lead on household expenses, UBS saysGlad I'm not the only one! All these comments about women not paying their share, but that's not what the study/article were about. I make more than my husband, but he's in charge of financial responsibilities at our house. As in, he pays the bills, does banking, and researches large financial decisions. But all that money comes from one joint account. | /r/MensRights | 19/06/23 09:12 PM |
| 12 | Only half of the women who are out-earning their husbands are taking the lead on household expenses, UBS saysSo, the study found that men tend to still manage the money, regardless of who earns more? That doesn't sound like a problem to me, as long as both partners agree to it. | /r/MensRights | 19/06/23 10:25 AM |
| 2 | Trying to find a YouTube video on the actual cost of childrenFrom what he's saying in the video, the parents decreased their standard of living (not eating out, giving up extra space in their home, etc) to accommodate the extra expense of the child. But the additional expenses of raising the child still exist. He also didn't touch on some big ticket expenses, like insurance, doctor's visits, and childcare. When my daughter was school-aged, we spent $6000 a year just on after-school and summer care. Plus, those smaller expenses add up fast. Things like clo… | /r/MensRights | 14/06/23 10:20 AM |
| 6 | Workforce participationWomen are picking up the slack. Doesn't seem to be the case. Percent of women in the workforce in the US rose steadily from 1900 (19%) to 2000 (61%) and then pretty much leveled off. https://www.infoplease.com/business/labor/women-labor-force | /r/MensRights | 13/06/23 10:56 PM |
| 17 | Women Are Given Very Bad Dating Advice.If a man ever writes a book called"the power of the dick", people would have him hanged in no time. It already exists and has a three star rating on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Power-Dick-Dating-Marriage-relationship-ebook/dp/B01G7SBGHE). Doesn't seem to be as popular, but women are more likely to read self-help in general. | /r/MensRights | 12/06/23 11:55 AM |
| 11 | Men were all the test subjectsSince 1993, it's required by law for clinical medical research in the US to include women (and also minorities) as subjects when the findings would apply to both sexes. We could change that law to include equal numbers of participants of each sex. As always, the onus is on researchers to find the appropriate participants for their studies. You can get people to participate in anything if you pay enough for it. My doctor's office is constantly looking for patients to participate in studies. I did… | /r/MensRights | 11/06/23 01:30 AM |
| 6 | Anyone ever brings up "men pay less for everyday products, and that's male privilege" line...Does reading some articles really make someone a scientist now? Family spending is what pops up when you search for why women spend more. https://www.forbes.com/sites/bridgetbrennan/2013/03/06/the-real-reason-women-shop-more-than-men/?sh=247053d874b9 https://www.forbes.com/sites/cherylsnappconner/2017/04/15/most-businesses-fall-short-with-female-consumers-new-study-reveals/ https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2019/09/24/among-u-s-couples-women-do-more-cooking-and-grocery-shopping-than-men/#:… | /r/MensRights | 08/06/23 10:25 AM |
| 8 | Anyone ever brings up "men pay less for everyday products, and that's male privilege" line...the Pink brand originally (if I'm not mistaken) using breast cancer awareness to sell clothing provide funding for research. I think you're confusing the brand "Pink" with the companies slapping breast cancer pink on everything and making a vague promise of a donation to boost their sales. Pink, the brand, was Victoria's Secret's way of extending their market into the teen/preteen range and building brand loyalty young. There was never a link with breast cancer. | /r/MensRights | 08/06/23 09:47 AM |
| 15 | Anyone ever brings up "men pay less for everyday products, and that's male privilege" line...Women drive 70-80% of the consumer market, in essence keeping capitalism alive and well. Because women tend to do the shopping for families. Like grocery shopping, household furnishings and supplies, and buying for children. Also, wives often have the final say on big ticket purchases like houses, cars, and vacations. | /r/MensRights | 08/06/23 09:33 AM |
| 0 | the solution for creepy guys hitting on womenyou put effort to pick nice one I picked dresses that I actually own and wear often. Because I can say with confidence that you don't have to have a lot of skin on display to get creepy comments. As you said, creepers will be gross regardless of what women are wearing. For some reason, men are more likely to make comments when I wear a sundress like this (or any skirt) than shorts and tank top. Even though the second is more revealing. My point about previous poster's links is that they're extre… | /r/MensRights | 04/06/23 12:41 PM |
| -2 | the solution for creepy guys hitting on womenSummer dresses, yes. Maxi dresses and baggy dresses, definitely no. Fitted waists and skirts mid thigh to just below the knee are the best-looking, by far. Like this or this. You know, classy without screaming "Mormon." Although, I've gotten crass comments from guys in both of those. So...shrug. | /r/MensRights | 04/06/23 12:14 AM |
| -1 | the solution for creepy guys hitting on womenNgl, all those clothing options are ugly. Is there nothing between "potato sack" and "stripper"? | /r/MensRights | 03/06/23 09:29 PM |
| -6 | Women in the USA/CANADA treating husbands as second option during birthTo be fair, you never said anything about men being excluded either. You only mentioned men being the "second option." My point is: who cares if a women picks someone else as her primary support person and the husband is secondary? Post covid restrictions, both are still in the room. | /r/MensRights | 03/06/23 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Women in the USA/CANADA treating husbands as second option during birthIs this really an issue now that laboring women can have multiple support people in the delivery room again? Why does it matter, as long as the husband isn't being excluded from the birth? The women I know who had another support person picked their own mothers. Maternal comfort and the experience of having been through it seems like a good choice for such a stressful event. And, their husbands were still there. To be honest, I would have rather not been present for my child's birth, and I'm the… | /r/MensRights | 03/06/23 12:07 PM |
| 4 | "Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provide something"Have you ever loved a man unconditionally? Nope. Loving a romantic partner unconditionally is unhealthy. It's good to have boundaries beyond which you lose regard for a partner. Things like abuse, neglect, disrespect, and disregard for the other person's needs. Although, I have nursed my husband through cancer and was the breadwinner through periods of unemployment. So, make what you will of that. Eta- this post prompted an agreement that my husband and I would help cover it up if the other murd… | /r/MensRights | 03/06/23 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Study Finds Women Who Embrace Marriage And Motherhood Are The Happiest Female Demographicno economic incentive to maintain a relationship with a difficult partner. Not true. The economic incentive would be the rest of the husband's income that she loses out on by getting divorced. Is that enough incentive to stay? Well, that's all down to personal variables. I'll consider my own marriage as a real world example. There's 21 years left on our mortgage and I'd have to buy out my spouse's half of the equity if I kept the house. Then I'd probably have to sell it to pay off the mortgage a… | /r/MensRights | 02/06/23 11:21 AM |
| 0 | Study Finds Women Who Embrace Marriage And Motherhood Are The Happiest Female DemographicWhy would a woman stay married to a man if she can get him to pay her the same as a part time job? Financially, it makes more sense for her to stay married. A couple years of alimony and/or a percentage of the man's income as child support is less than access to his full income and assets. And, there are fewer expenses for a couple vs. two single people. This reminds me of one time my husband jokingly said I was going to leave him and take half his stuff. So I pointed out that if I stayed with h… | /r/MensRights | 31/05/23 10:37 AM |
| 5 | Challenge: Find a situation where being a woman puts you in a disadvantage (impossible)they have to buy sanitary hygiene products and men don't, which is a tax on women, ... The ridiculous part is that 22 US states still impose a sales tax on menstrual products. It doesn't make a lot of sense when things like healthcare items, diapers, clothing, and food are exempt from taxes. Before my state changed the law recently, condoms weren't taxed, but pads were. Just nonsensical. | /r/MensRights | 29/05/23 10:56 PM |
| 0 | JustPearlyThings: "AVERAGE MEN AREN'T ENOUGH"Have I gone mad, or did it used to be "stay at home mother"... The term used to be "housewife." Generally, the wife handles the errands, cleaning and cooking in those situations. Not too common though, since most couples want the security of a second income. I lost my job during covid and did the SAH thing for a while- would not recommend. It's super lonely, and I ended up creating redecorating/organization projects to deal with the solitude. The one nice thing is that we weren't scrambling to f… | /r/MensRights | 28/05/23 04:53 PM |
| 13 | Louisiana advances bill to make fathers share costs of pregnancythat reasoning completely falls apart when it comes to child support for born children, who only the mother can choose to create (carrying a pregnancy to term) Louisiana has a total abortion ban, though. The only allowed exception is to save the life of the mother. I'd expect to see more laws like this in places where abortion is illegal. Pre-birth child support strengthens the argument that life begins at conception, not birth. | /r/MensRights | 21/05/23 05:29 AM |
| 6 | Cervical screeningThe simple answer- there is no clinically approved HPV screening test for men. So far, all tests that have been developed for men give inconsistent results. Typically, doctors identify HPV related cancers in men by looking for lesions. Then, a biopsy is taken to test for HPV. If you haven't already, get the vaccine. Roughly 80% of people will have an HPV infection in their lifetime, and condoms don't fully protect against transmission. My husband had HPV related throat cancer a couple of years a… | /r/MensRights | 16/05/23 11:30 AM |
| 30 | As an academic, I wish more people would be aware that the 60% majority of women in academia is entirely coming from adding to universities political departments and calling them "research departments" - gender studies, women's studies, sexuality studies.Not surprising when biology isn't a required course for the major. I have a BS Psychology and took chem as my science elective. But anthropology, physics, astronomy, environmental science and geography were some of the other options. | /r/MensRights | 15/05/23 11:24 AM |
| 6 | Why are days celebrating females regarded as much more important than days celebrating males?There's no right or wrong answer, it's all about preferences. I want someone else to cook my meal, and enjoy a little day drinking (mimosas) with my MIL and SIL. My husband, on the other hand, likes to smoke some meat and have a bunch of people over. Both are a lot of fun. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/23 12:29 PM |
| 10 | Why are days celebrating females regarded as much more important than days celebrating males?It's interesting how differently we celebrate Mother's Day vs. Father's Day. Everyone takes their mom to brunch - it's literally the busiest restaurant day of the year. But Father's Day is for BBQs. I would think at least part of the spending disparity is based on cookouts being cheaper than eating out. | /r/MensRights | 13/05/23 10:11 AM |
| 2 | Grim reminder that many women would trade the life of an innocent man for their own.It's not like there's a DNA database of every man in the US. If a woman said she didn't know who the attacker was, how would law enforcement know which men to test for a match? And how would they justify the huge invasion of privacy if men are forced to be tested for paternity against their will without being accused of any crime? Or even being named as a potential father? | /r/MensRights | 12/05/23 12:18 PM |
| 4 | Grim reminder that many women would trade the life of an innocent man for their own.This argument is clearly nonsense. You don't have to throw someone under the bus to make a false accusation. Just describe the most average looking guy in existence and claim that it was dark and hard to see. From a purely practical standpoint, a fictitious attacker is less risky anyway because they won't refute the story or have an alibi. | /r/MensRights | 12/05/23 09:47 AM |
| 27 | Gender pay gap origin: Women less willing to wait for better job offers | Yet more research confirming the "gender pay gap" is a myth. It is an earnings gap 100% caused by personal choices.The women I know are less likely to apply to jobs where they don't meet all the requirements- hence, fewer applications. I stopped doing that when my husband was helping me find work after my previous employer folded during covid lockdowns. My husband pointed out that companies would overlook even hard requirements if there wasn't a more qualified candidate. And he was right - I was offered several jobs where I didn't have all the "required" skills/experience. Now, I apply when I meet 60-70% of … | /r/MensRights | 07/05/23 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Have you seen the Female Delusion Calculator?the whole point is that there is a range you would accept Sort of. If I enter my preferences in my 20s (ie. who I actually dated), it's pretty close, % wise. Similar age, single, white, not obese, working at least full time (min $30k here) and above average height. Apparently, that makes me a "cat enthusiast." Also that is because many men aren't single, not that 80% of men earn below minimum wage Doesn't that go against the "women's standards are too high" argument? If the main thing weeding me… | /r/MensRights | 06/05/23 05:59 AM |
| 2 | Have you seen the Female Delusion Calculator?For giggles, I put my spouse's information in. Just 1% chance of meeting a guy with those characteristics. Lucky me. Although, I also tried just single men my age earning as much as a min wage full-time job (any height, weight, or race)- just 20%. That's a lot lower than I would have expected. | /r/MensRights | 06/05/23 04:19 AM |
| 15 | Handman's TaleInterestingly enough, the original book "The Handmaid's Tale" was never intended to be feminist. The author, Margaret Atwood, has stated she set out to write dystopian fiction from the female perspective and that it's anti-totalitarian. She said the idea sprang from the backlash in the 80s that women belonged in the kitchen and what would be needed to put them back there. In the author's own words: "The Handmaid’s Tale has often been called a “feminist dystopia,” but that term is not strictly ac… | /r/MensRights | 23/04/23 01:21 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend's cancer was ruining my mental health so I left him1/4 of Marriages with a Sick Spouse Will End in a Divorce I wonder how many of those are medical divorces, where a couple divorces for financial reasons but doesn't actually split up. Being treated for a life-threatening illness is ridiculously expensive in the US. And income caps on Medicaid incentivizes elderly couples to legally split so one partner qualifies for aid while the other holds the assets. I'm curious how much that type of divorce is inflating the numbers. When my husband was diagn… | /r/MensRights | 22/04/23 08:13 AM |
| 27 | The rising epidemic of sexless men in feminist societyIMO, maintaining a strong relationship with your spouse should take priority. It gives a good foundation to build a family and ensures your spouse will still be there after the kids are grown. I've been married 22 years, with a 21 year old daughter. She'll be moving away for grad school next year, but my marriage is likely to last another 30 years. | /r/MensRights | 19/04/23 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Is there any putting an end to the buy your girl jewelry stereotype? “Your girl won’t know you love her unless you buy her this $1,000 diamond neckless from Jared” (financing available)True, jewelry can be a pretty impersonal gift. Unless it's a piece your SO is really into, or has an additional meaning, it won't be as treasured as something tailored to their interests. It's been years since I've wanted jewelry that wasn't a trip souvenir. But those pieces always bring back happy family or couple memories. And they weren't all that expensive. | /r/MensRights | 18/04/23 05:05 PM |
| 18 | Is there any putting an end to the buy your girl jewelry stereotype? “Your girl won’t know you love her unless you buy her this $1,000 diamond neckless from Jared” (financing available)The true solution is to date/marry women who aren't that into jewelry. There's plenty of people out there who would prefer something else as a gift. You can't stop the ads- they have to sell the romantic angle to sell the jewelry. Or the "gift for mom," which dad usually pays for anyway. | /r/MensRights | 18/04/23 01:31 AM |
| 1 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.I buy mine from a pharmacy (as does pretty much everyone else whose condom buying habits I know) so they would also be affected by something like this. Around here, drug stores (like CVS, Walgreens, Rite Aid) are a combo of a retail store and a prescription pharmacy. Only the prescription side is considered a "healthcare provider." Retail stores are not covered under this bill. Condoms are also available at gas stations, grocery stores, and general purpose retailers like Wal-Mart. It's an electi… | /r/MensRights | 16/04/23 12:47 PM |
| 1 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.I see, that's Christian Scientist with a capital C and S That wasn't a trick- Christian Scientists are a religious sect. They make national news occasionally when their kids die from not receiving proper medical treatment. You can read more about this religion here Is the employer forced to provide part of the insurance payment? Yes, federal law requires employers with a certain number of employees to provide subsidized health insurance. The employer is free to pick any healthcare plan that prov… | /r/MensRights | 16/04/23 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.Female contraceptives are women specific, Female contraceptives are the only ones you have to see a doctor to get. Condoms can be bought freely- you don't need a prescription or healthcare provider for that. Why should the 1 in 3 be forced to provide services that they do not wish to provide when the other 2 in 3 will provide them willingly? So, I live in a state other than Florida (thank god). Here, no one is forcing medical providers to perform services they are morally opposed to. But, provid… | /r/MensRights | 16/04/23 11:40 AM |
| 1 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.IVF is a procedure performed on a woman and contraceptives are prescribed to or inserted into women. I'm not sure how you'd say they aren't women specific. Concerning LGBTQ rights, conservative employers have been pushing back on insurance covering gender affirming treatment and drugs to prevent transmission of HIV. This bill would allow them to do that Do they make up any significant portion of the healthcare industry or insurance providers? Actually, they do. Roughly 1 in 7 hospital beds in th… | /r/MensRights | 16/04/23 02:34 AM |
| 1 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.Yes, other people hold beliefs that I disagree with, what is the problem here? The problem is when one person's beliefs infringe upon another person's right to healthcare. My employer, insurer, or the pharmacist at the local drug store shouldn't be allowed to block my access to healthcare based on their beliefs. I'm no doctor or nothing, but I think if you need a heart transplant... you're probably not going to be doing so well without one, same for transfusions, Some people wait years for a hea… | /r/MensRights | 16/04/23 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.Contraceptives, sterilization, and IVF are the first ones that come to mind. Strict Catholics have strong objections. Also, screening for and treatment of STDs- though that overlaps with other affected groups (particularly gay men). Basically any health issues related to sex would be an easy target. | /r/MensRights | 16/04/23 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.I'm assuming this "medical treatment" for women is abortion? You are assuming incorrectly. Any healthcare service that is not considered "life saving" can be denied by the provider (doctor, pharmacy, lab tech, etc) or the payer (insurance company or employer) if they have a sincerely held moral or religious objection. From the bill text: "Health care service" means medical procedures, medical care, or medical services provided to a patient at any time over the entire course of treatment, or medi… | /r/MensRights | 16/04/23 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.Why should I get involved? Because this bill creates a dangerous precedent for insurers to deny payment for medical services that should be covered. Religious, moral, and ethical beliefs covers an awful lot of ground. For example, Jehovah's Witnesses are against blood transfusion, Amish don't get heart transplants, Catholics are against contraceptives, and Christian Scientists oppose medicine altogether. Based on the wording of this bill you could be refused any of those treatments if you weren'… | /r/MensRights | 16/04/23 12:37 AM |
| -1 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.No, "Florida Man" is a meme: "Florida Man is an Internet meme first popularized in 2013,[1] referring to an alleged prevalence of men performing irrational, maniacal, illogical, delusional, insane, and absurd actions in the U.S. state of Florida. " "Florida Man" has become common slang for anyone acting in a way that's bizarre and/or dangerous.That pretty much sums up DeSantis. He's completely off the rails. It's gotten to the point I expect something absurd whenever I see Florida in the news. A… | /r/MensRights | 15/04/23 12:25 PM |
| 0 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.It doesn't really matter. Ron DeSantis is Florida Man at this point. The only thing that could tempt me into the state now is a Disney vacation. Luckily, they also can't stand Florida Man. | /r/MensRights | 15/04/23 11:47 AM |
| -2 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.Do you honestly think this bill is not intended to target gender affirming treatment? When Florida Man is constantly on the news targeting LGBTQ people, it's pretty easy to see the bill's intent. And contraceptives, as well as treatment for miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy, are another easy target for this bill. Overall, the bill is just a terrible idea- even if you set the bigotry aside. It gives insurers a nice loophole to refuse payment for expensive procedures. It will start by affecting LG… | /r/MensRights | 15/04/23 11:31 AM |
| 3 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.Stop and think about this bill in practice. Which treatments are providers/insurers likely to object to on moral or religious grounds? The bill doesn't have to specifically mention certain groups to be intentionally targeting them. | /r/MensRights | 15/04/23 11:06 AM |
| 6 | Headline says "Florida bill gives doctors the right to refuse treatment to women", but conveniently leaves out the fact that doctors can refuse treatment to men as well.Agreed. The biggest targets for this bill are gender affirming care and birth control. Florida lawmakers are making no secret of it. So, yeah, LGBTQ folks and women would definitely be denied care if it passes. | /r/MensRights | 15/04/23 10:48 AM |
| 6 | What caused women to go into the workforce en masse? Technology or feminism?the workforce had to admit women. Not only that, but there was a huge push to encourage women to join the workforce. Just look at all the war propaganda telling women that filling those empty jobs was their patriotic duty. | /r/MensRights | 13/04/23 10:38 AM |
| 2 | What are your views on abortion?So, you just want everyone to use the contraceptive method you prefer instead of the one that works best for them. That sounds pretty self-centered. Also, regarding "affording children"- one of the best ways to prevent children being born into poverty is giving people control over when they have them, and how many they have. | /r/MensRights | 13/04/23 10:22 AM |
| 14 | What caused women to go into the workforce en masse? Technology or feminism?It's a combination of factors. There was a cultural shift during WWII when women took on a lot of jobs previously done by men. This carried over to future generations, so working outside the home became accepted, then commonplace. At the same time, changes in technology created more clerical jobs, which were considered more suitable for women (particularly married women). And, rates of high school and college graduation among women increased significantly throughout the 20th century, making it e… | /r/MensRights | 13/04/23 03:06 AM |
| 4 | What are your views on abortion?Yeah, there's no way I would trust the "pull and pray" method. That's how you end up with unwanted kids. Contraceptives for men is not desirable Even condoms? They're not the most reliable, but still better than nothing. I'm a woman (43), and I've been on the pill 24 years out of 25 with my husband. And for any periods of time when we couldn't rely on the pill (missed dose, drug interactions, etc), there was absolutely no penetrative sex going on. That's what we all have to look forward to if co… | /r/MensRights | 12/04/23 11:09 AM |
| 5 | What are your views on abortion?This raises an interesting point. In 12 US states it's not a separate crime to harm/kill a fetus. It's simply assault or murder of the woman. In other words, there is no "line." | /r/MensRights | 12/04/23 10:53 AM |
| 1 | What are your views on abortion?Just ban contraceptives, remove child support and any economical support from the government to mothers and you will see casual sex rates go down. And also the rates of sex in marriages and committed relationships. Is that really a desirable outcome? Most couples only want 1-2 kids. Should they just have a headache the rest of their lives? | /r/MensRights | 12/04/23 10:24 AM |
| -22 | I'm sick of the casual misandry in society, putting men into categories like "alpha", "beta", telling us we're not "real men", can you imagine the outrage if this happened with women?I think most people want to sleep with their fiance before marriage, but you do you. | /r/MensRights | 10/04/23 01:02 AM |
| -21 | I'm sick of the casual misandry in society, putting men into categories like "alpha", "beta", telling us we're not "real men", can you imagine the outrage if this happened with women?I'm not triggered. It's just the opposite of what most "real woman" comments are. It's usually along the lines of "a real woman is traditional wife/mother." Therefore: odd. | /r/MensRights | 10/04/23 12:51 AM |
| -2 | I'm sick of the casual misandry in society, putting men into categories like "alpha", "beta", telling us we're not "real men", can you imagine the outrage if this happened with women?It's pretty contradictory to the traditional view of what women should do/be. Which is to marry and have children. I think calling someone a "real man" is nonsense (every man is a real man), but it's usually in praise of traits traditionally considered masculine. | /r/MensRights | 10/04/23 12:48 AM |
| -38 | I'm sick of the casual misandry in society, putting men into categories like "alpha", "beta", telling us we're not "real men", can you imagine the outrage if this happened with women?So all wives and mothers are...not real women? That's an odd take. | /r/MensRights | 10/04/23 12:31 AM |
| 5 | Political correctness has gone too farI don't agree that the sides are equal here. If I were uncomfortable using gender neutral pronouns in conversations, I could simply avoid using pronouns. For example, I can refer to my friend Jayce by name if I don't want to say they/them. I don't have to be hurtful and use a pronoun that makes that person uncomfortable. In that light, knowingly choosing to use a pronoun that makes a person feel bad is, in my opinion, a deliberate attempt to stir something up. | /r/MensRights | 08/04/23 11:28 PM |
| 2 | Political correctness has gone too farI think the studies on trans vs cis brains are really interesting. There's not a huge body of work yet, but the data suggests trans people's brains are more similar to the gender they associate with. Like in this study | /r/MensRights | 08/04/23 11:17 PM |
| 3 | Political correctness has gone too farAll the non-binary people I've actually met seem ok with just they/them for neutral pronouns. I agree, it would be confusing trying to remember a whole bunch of different ones. I've never had someone get upset if I slip up on their pronouns- they just appreciate the effort. The wailing and nashing are reserved for those who want to argue the point. The world is rough enough that I couldn't care less how people choose to label (or not label) themselves. It's already tough for people to find their… | /r/MensRights | 08/04/23 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Political correctness has gone too farThe practical solution would be to just use the person's name and avoid pronouns altogether, if it bothers someone that much. However, I don't understand why using they/them is upsetting to some people. I know a few non-binary folks, and it's very little effort for me to use their preferred pronouns, but it makes a big difference to them. Insisting on addressing them with the wrong pronouns would be like continuing to use a nickname that I knew the person hated. Pretty inconsiderate. | /r/MensRights | 08/04/23 11:04 PM |
| -2 | Political correctness has gone too farI don't understand what the objection is to neutral pronouns. Using them costs an individual nothing but makes the other person more comfortable. I guess I don't see what the harm is. On a personal note, I loved that my previous job used preferred pronouns in our professional signatures. I have a gender neutral name and often get misgendered when communicating over email. Problem solved. | /r/MensRights | 08/04/23 03:29 PM |
| -2 | Gender-Based Pricing in Consumer Packaged Goods: A Pink Tax?I didn't misunderstand you. I don't agree with tampons being free either. But I strongly disagree with paying sales tax on them, which happens in nearly half of the US. And that's clear duscrimination. It's a literal "pink tax." As in, a tax being applied to an item only women need and use. | /r/MensRights | 07/04/23 12:03 PM |
| -4 | Gender-Based Pricing in Consumer Packaged Goods: A Pink Tax?Are you saying we should tax all healthcare supplies that not everyone uses? That would be nearly all of them. Not everyone needs glasses, or diabetic supplies, condoms, or a prosthetic limb. But these are tax-free in most states. When there's a tax exemption on medical/healthcare items, it should apply to everything in that category - including pads and tampons. I'm in NY and they finally did away with sales tax on period products in 2016. | /r/MensRights | 07/04/23 11:45 AM |
| -9 | Gender-Based Pricing in Consumer Packaged Goods: A Pink Tax?Paying sales tax on tampons is discrimination, though. When other healthcare items like medicine and bandaids are tax-exempt, there's really no excuse. | /r/MensRights | 07/04/23 11:32 AM |
| 4 | Is AI Trustworthy? ChatGPT Falsely Accused Jonathan Turley of Sexual HarassmentIs AI trustworthy? Absolutely not. John Oliver did a good job covering the problems with AI in this clip. It's definitely worth a watch. Basically, he explains how AI programs have been shown to have unexpected biases based on the source data given. Also, that AI programs create fictional responses and present them as facts. Also, because of the way AI is created, developers aren't always sure why the system gives the responses it does. | /r/MensRights | 06/04/23 10:54 AM |
| 89 | Dear women reading this: you're not competing against other women.Honestly, this is good advice for everyone. A partner you're unhappy to be around is worse than no partner at all. | /r/MensRights | 01/04/23 06:33 PM |
| 1 | I legally changed my sex to womanAround here (NY state), anyone can get free condoms at Planned Parenthood or health clinics. Is that not the case in other places? Also, vasectomies are covered by insurance at no cost by state mandate- but I know only a handful of states do that. | /r/MensRights | 30/03/23 10:09 PM |
| 1 | Lottery win leads women to divorceThere's this study: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm | /r/MensRights | 30/03/23 12:07 AM |
| 2 | Showing interest is an affront?Hopefully, you understand that your preference (of not being approached romantically) is unrealistic. Yes, but a girl can dream. I try to be standoffish if I see it coming. Not everyone takes the hint... Also, IMO, it's quite a stretch to compare wariness of men in a narrowly defined social situation to interactions with a whole race of people. Why? Because the men who come on to me self select into a certain group by their behavior. Even more so the ones who see and disregard the ring. I'd say … | /r/MensRights | 21/03/23 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Showing interest is an affront?You don't have to know that. I'll still be polite to men who ask politely (or who I'll still have to deal with later). I'll just also be looking for the least confrontational way out of the interaction. Think of it like missionaries. You answer the door once and you're stuck talking to them. So next time, you don't answer the door, or you make an excuse to leave. I wouldn't even say that I'm traumatized by men being jerks- I just don't want to repeat the experience Again, someone asked why women… | /r/MensRights | 21/03/23 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Showing interest is an affront?I can't speak for anyone else, but I've only dated guys I already know socially. College classmates, friends of friends, or coworkers. That's my comfort level. I also don't stop to help people with broken down cars and cross the street if I see a stranger walking alone at night. Those people are probably perfectly nice, but I'd rather be cautious. | /r/MensRights | 21/03/23 06:41 PM |
| 2 | Showing interest is an affront?what are Men supposed to do? Be respectful. That's really all there is to it. I don't really mind if someone asks me out and doesn't push the issue. Since I've had my fair share of pushy types, I'm planning a strategic exit every time a guy tries to shoot his shot. | /r/MensRights | 21/03/23 06:34 PM |
| -2 | Showing interest is an affront?So, what do you expect me to do about it? I don't want to be approached romantically. I've had bad experiences being approached in the past. By men- since the two women who've tried flirting with me were fine with "no thanks." What exactly do you think I should do? Not be cautious of my surroundings and situation? Not worry about a possible negative outcome? Also, IMO, it's quite a stretch to compare wariness of men in a narrowly defined social situation to interactions with a whole race of peop… | /r/MensRights | 21/03/23 03:17 PM |
| -11 | Showing interest is an affront?I'm not sure why you assumed it's a disagreement. I was simply answering the question. Op asked why women act like men approaching them is a threat. I pointed out it could be because they feel threatened. Since I don't know which guys approaching me are going to get aggressive, pushy, or angry, I have to treat them all as potential threats. That is, assess the relative risk of the situation and what I can do to avoid confrontation. | /r/MensRights | 21/03/23 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Showing interest is an affront?Have you tried asking your friends why they feel that way? As in, what makes them feel threatened by men's attention? For me, it's the men who won't take no for an answer or become angry when rejected. It's not all, or even most, but it's enough to be wary of any men approaching me romantically. When I was younger, I had to file a restraining order when a rejection turned into stalking and threats. But that's not the only instance where "not interested" or even "I'm married" wasn't enough to get… | /r/MensRights | 21/03/23 11:10 AM |
| 6 | The idea of female Sex Strike is relatively common - yet society still pretends sex is not a commodity controlled by womenThe problem with sex strikes is that most women aren't sleeping with the men in a position to make the desired change. So, not very effective. Take the Roe v Wade ruling, for example. There were some calls for a sex strike, but most pro choice women already don't sleep with pro life men. It doesn't have any impact for them to deny sex to their boyfriends/husbands with the same political views. | /r/MensRights | 20/03/23 10:50 AM |
| 2 | It has been illegal to pay women less for the same job since 1963. If it is so prevalent why aren’t more people fined, sued and companies shut down.Oh, I just meant you could use the tactic whether you have another offer or not.. When I was offered my current job, I wanted to see if I could get more, so I said I was really interested in their company but had another offer. They came back with an extra 5k. I already had a good job at the time. | /r/MensRights | 19/03/23 01:33 AM |
| 1 | It has been illegal to pay women less for the same job since 1963. If it is so prevalent why aren’t more people fined, sued and companies shut down.Also even without a secondary offer Or just say you do have a second offer- they don't know. And if you're polite and professional, employers won't rescind the original offer. They'll just hold firm on the salary. | /r/MensRights | 18/03/23 11:17 PM |
| 2 | It has been illegal to pay women less for the same job since 1963. If it is so prevalent why aren’t more people fined, sued and companies shut down.Great, but then they can't complain about earning less. Do they earn less? I make more than the folks doing manual labor at my company, by a lot. That's actually true for every distribution/manufacturing place I've worked. Most office staff make more than warehouse/production/receiving workers for sure, because the skills are in higher demand. The people who make more than me are upper management. Those are the positions white collar workers are gunning for. Yeah, they're predominantly men now, … | /r/MensRights | 18/03/23 10:17 PM |
| 3 | It has been illegal to pay women less for the same job since 1963. If it is so prevalent why aren’t more people fined, sued and companies shut down.The smart approach to work is to be as efficient as possible while appearing to be chained to the job. Like making sure you're either first in or last out of the office (just by a few minutes) and auto scheduling strategic emails to send outside normal business hours. Perception is just as (if not more) important than reality. | /r/MensRights | 18/03/23 09:12 PM |
| 5 | It has been illegal to pay women less for the same job since 1963. If it is so prevalent why aren’t more people fined, sued and companies shut down.So why should someone that can lift more be told that isn't fair because it is sexist? I never said that it was. But I do see a lot of guys criticizing women as being lazy for taking white collar jobs instead of physical labor. It seems to me those women are just being realistic about their capabilities and utilizing their strengths. | /r/MensRights | 18/03/23 07:49 PM |
| 1 | It has been illegal to pay women less for the same job since 1963. If it is so prevalent why aren’t more people fined, sued and companies shut down.Women never took the 30 lb lifting, 25-50 times per hour. That was all men. Are you sure it wasn't that they just couldn't do it? I can lift 30 lbs a handful of times, but that's about it. At my old job, I sometimes needed 30 lb cases moved around and usually had to get a cart or have someone from inventory control do it. There's a reason I picked a job where the heaviest thing I lift is a laptop. | /r/MensRights | 18/03/23 06:53 PM |
| 3 | It has been illegal to pay women less for the same job since 1963. If it is so prevalent why aren’t more people fined, sued and companies shut down.How do you know you are not being advantaged solely by your gender? There's no way to know for sure, but the evidence is against it. Partly because I changed my behavior and got a different result, but my sex stayed the same. And partly because I can compare my position to other women buyers in my company, who all have significantly lower rank/salary than I do. Although, I've been helping one of them with her negotiation skills to "pass it on." Also, re: resumes, I have a gender neutral name. No… | /r/MensRights | 18/03/23 06:33 PM |
| 5 | It has been illegal to pay women less for the same job since 1963. If it is so prevalent why aren’t more people fined, sued and companies shut down.Yeah, but it should be a competition based on skills and experience, when in reality it's who can market themselves better. The things I did to get a higher salary had nothing to do with hours worked or competence for the job. I demanded extra money and refused to take on extra work without more pay. Then, I paid for someone to create my resume/cover letter and did extensive interview training. When I took my current job, I got an extra 5k by claiming to have a competing offer. It's kind of a sh… | /r/MensRights | 18/03/23 05:48 PM |
| 3 | It has been illegal to pay women less for the same job since 1963. If it is so prevalent why aren’t more people fined, sued and companies shut down.Yeah, keeping salaries secret really hamstrings employees from negotiating for fair wages. | /r/MensRights | 18/03/23 05:24 PM |
| 17 | It has been illegal to pay women less for the same job since 1963. If it is so prevalent why aren’t more people fined, sued and companies shut down.Well, I've always seen wage issues as less "men vs. women" and more "employees vs. corporations." Companies are always going to try to exploit their workers by squeezing out maximum work for minimum compensation. That affects everyone, regardless of sex. Not to say there aren't still some sexist bosses around (my company's new VP is a prime example), but they're mostly part of the "old boys club" and are on the verge of retirement. Not nearly as much of a threat to my livlihood as corporate gree… | /r/MensRights | 18/03/23 05:21 PM |
| 96 | It has been illegal to pay women less for the same job since 1963. If it is so prevalent why aren’t more people fined, sued and companies shut down.When there's so many variables being used to determine salary, it's difficult to say with certainty whether sex was a deciding factor or not. I'm a buyer for a large manufacturer, and the set salary range for buyers has a 35k spread. But there's tons of factors that go into the decision- education, experience, hard skills (software and technical knowledge), soft skills (negotiation and communication), and the job market at the time the person was hired. That being said, women, in my experience, … | /r/MensRights | 18/03/23 01:34 PM |
| 9 | Why do feminists act like there's a huge stigma against women being even remotely sexual? Unless she has a super big number of partners, there isn't.it in humanity's best interests for women to guard their sexuality and keep their number of partners lower than men, By the same argument, it's also in our best interest to keep men from having many partners. If a woman has only a few partners, but they slept around, that's still a considerable risk. | /r/MensRights | 17/03/23 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Freeing women from their forced biological roles involved freeing them from their reliance on men in all aspects, and their biological clock. Freeing men from their forced biological roles means doing the same.Keep that optimism, I guess. Medical costs, in general, tend to rise over time. Especially in the US with for-profit care. It doesn't seem likely for that trend to change anytime soon. As much as I'd love for technology to make it easier to extract eggs (especially for infertility treatment), you're still manipulating a biological function and surgically removing the eggs from inside the body. Tech can only do so much to simplify the process. I'm not sure why you're so convinced that women will … | /r/MensRights | 15/03/23 08:55 AM |
| 1 | Freeing women from their forced biological roles involved freeing them from their reliance on men in all aspects, and their biological clock. Freeing men from their forced biological roles means doing the same.OP was talking about artificial wombs available for men to use free of cost. If you still have to pay for eggs, it doesn't really change the situation from what it is now. Rich single men can be dads and poor men can't. Egg extraction can run up to $5k just for medical costs. It's expensive even before you pay the woman providing the eggs. Let's be honest, would you undergo hormonal treatment and risk harming your own body so someone else could have a child? With no compensation or close relatio… | /r/MensRights | 14/03/23 05:00 PM |
| 9 | Burnout is on the rise worldwide—and Gen Z, young millennials and women are the most stressedI say to my wife all the time that it's not how hard you worked. It's about how much work you produced. A lot of the time, it's not even about how much work you actually did so much as how much you appeared to do. A less efficient employee working extra hours, working from home, and complaining loudly about their workload is often perceived as a harder worker. The smart approach to work is to be as efficient as possible while appearing to be chained to the job. Like making sure you're either fir… | /r/MensRights | 14/03/23 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Freeing women from their forced biological roles involved freeing them from their reliance on men in all aspects, and their biological clock. Freeing men from their forced biological roles means doing the same.Surrogate mothers get paid. A lot. The only women doing it for free have a personal connection to the infertile person/people. | /r/MensRights | 14/03/23 04:34 PM |
| 4 | The ACA covers tubal ligation for women at 100% but not vasectomies for men. What other health insurance disparities exist?It's not just misdiagnosis when there are different symptoms. Women and men also metabolize medicines differently. So a study using only one sex can't accurately predict how a drug will work for the other sex. It leads to wrong dosages and less effective treatment. | /r/MensRights | 12/03/23 11:04 PM |
| 7 | Anecdote from a recent cold-flashI think part of it too is that many men feel uncomfortable watching a woman do physical labor. That happens to me all the time where men will want to help with any strenuous physical task. Because of that, some women who would be fine doing chores like shoveling, don't. My husband will often insist on shoveling, or take over if he sees me doing it. Partly because he knows he's stronger and partly because he doesn't want the neighbors to think he's lazy. My neighbor will also come over with his s… | /r/MensRights | 12/03/23 12:04 PM |
| 2 | I hate that there is little to no body-positivity for menIt sucks that it's taking so long for body positivity for men to catch up to what women have, but there's definitely progress being made. For example, IMG (one of the world's top modeling companies) has a plus sized male model division since 2016. Their models are featured in mainstream and high fashion ads. Retailers are starting to use bigger figured male mannequins, and I've seen Cosmo and Vogue run articles and photo spreads on which plus sized male models are popular. Even runway shows are … | /r/MensRights | 11/03/23 11:55 PM |
| 0 | Declaration of Sentiments - it was only today when I learned that it is essentially plagiarized from the Declaration of Independence. Anyone able to counter most of the bullet points? 😀Just to be clear- you're disagreeing with the following statement that women should be subject to the same laws as men? "He has made her morally, an irresponsible being, as she can commit many crimes with impunity, provided they be done in the presence of her husband" And you also disagree that women should have the rights to vote, have well paying jobs, work in and attend college, and own their own property after marriage? Since you're saying there's no merit to the document. The Declaration of… | /r/MensRights | 10/03/23 04:11 AM |
| -2 | Declaration of Sentiments - it was only today when I learned that it is essentially plagiarized from the Declaration of Independence. Anyone able to counter most of the bullet points? 😀Of course women would be keen to marry if it's the most viable/socially acceptable source of income available. Plus, it was the only respectable way to access sex and children. Prior to mid 1800s, coverture was the norm in the US. A married woman's property and wages were legally her husband's to use as he saw fit. That's exactly what is being referenced in the Sentiments. Interestingly, another point made in the document was that women weren't being held to the same legal standard as men. Isn't… | /r/MensRights | 10/03/23 03:10 AM |
| -1 | Declaration of Sentiments - it was only today when I learned that it is essentially plagiarized from the Declaration of Independence. Anyone able to counter most of the bullet points? 😀I'm not sure how you would counter them- they're pretty straightforward. As in, you can argue with the conclusions drawn about patriarchy and oppression, but the sentiments themselves are facts that can be pretty easily checked. Women couldn't vote and were mainly excluded from government office, religious leadership, college attendance and prestigious and/or well paying professions. Women were judged differently than men in both legal and social situations. Married women gave up autonomy and ow… | /r/MensRights | 10/03/23 02:39 AM |
| 1 | Freeing women from their forced biological roles involved freeing them from their reliance on men in all aspects, and their biological clock. Freeing men from their forced biological roles means doing the same.You'd still need women for eggs, though. Egg extraction is expensive and involves risk, hormone treatment, and a medical procedure. I can't imagine many people would go through all that for a stranger. | /r/MensRights | 08/03/23 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Can Men Become the Victims of Sexual Harassment at Work?I'm not sure what you mean by female bosses. Men can be harassed at work by all the same people as women- any coworker, customer, vendor, etc. And the harasser can be male or female. | /r/MensRights | 04/03/23 12:30 PM |
| 0 | Can Men Become the Victims of Sexual Harassment at Work?Of course men can be the victims of sexual harassment at work. Even the state mandated yearly training video agrees. Actually, the only person I know who was fired for harassment was accused of touching another guy's butt. The company had a zero tolerance policy, so that was that. | /r/MensRights | 04/03/23 02:51 AM |
| 0 | It seems like many people misuse the words incel and misogynist online.I'd say that the core meaning of the term has changed, because those associations are what most people perceive "incels" to mean. Just think about how most people encounter the term. They see an article about violence or potential violence, or see an unhinged rant from some radical incel forum. Then they google the term, where the top definitions and articles are more of the same. So the meaning changes to become more extreme. Regardless, if someone is using "incel" as an insult, they definitely… | /r/MensRights | 03/03/23 12:58 PM |
| 5 | It seems like many people misuse the words incel and misogynist online.Using the word incel is akin to slut shaming. It isn't the same though, it's much worse. Calling someone a slut is only about sexual activity. But calling someone an incel is saying they can't get sex and also are hostile towards women/society/sexually active men, with violent thoughts or tendencies. Basically, the kind of self identified incel radical you read about on the news. | /r/MensRights | 03/03/23 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Men, have you had the conversation about 'your fair share of chores'?Well, I'm not really surprised. It's human nature to downplay other people's efforts and overestimate your own, if you're just thinking off the cuff. | /r/MensRights | 01/03/23 01:42 PM |
| 0 | Men, have you had the conversation about 'your fair share of chores'?Other people can split their finances however they want- that's a decision between spouses. But, married couples that do this generally end up bickering over who's turn it is to pay for things. And it seems like a significantly higher earning partner would get frustrated living a lifestyle to match the lower income budget- smaller house, cheaper vacations, fewer perks for kids, etc. Someone who keeps score like this wouldn't be a good partner, IMO. Believing that your free time is more valuable … | /r/MensRights | 01/03/23 11:33 AM |
| -1 | Men, have you had the conversation about 'your fair share of chores'?if you are both putting equal time into things like childcare and chores then the man is going to have put more into the family If both spouses work 40 hours a week and split housework/childcare, they have contributed equally to the household, regardless of their respective incomes. Experiencing that variance is what happens when you have an equal partner and work as a team. Sometimes one partner gets laid off, or suffers a disability, or has to take a lower paying job. It's just how life goes. … | /r/MensRights | 28/02/23 08:51 PM |
| -4 | Men, have you had the conversation about 'your fair share of chores'?Nope, I can't agree with that. Time is more valuable than money. If both partners are investing equal time and effort into a marriage, it's a fair distribution. This kind of nickle and diming transactionality sounds like a recipe for disaster. It's just so antithetical to the teamwork needed to make a marriage work. And I'm saying this as someone who's been married more than 20 years and experienced: having the higher income, having the lower income, being unemployed, and being the sole breadwin… | /r/MensRights | 28/02/23 08:33 PM |
| -4 | Men, have you had the conversation about 'your fair share of chores'?It should be based on the relative number of hours worked, not whether one partner earns more. So that number of hours paid work + chores + childcare is roughly the same for each partner. That's equitable. Not to say that earning more than your partner doesn't have its perks. For example, my W2 shows I made $300 more this year, so I can refer to my spouse as "fancy-pants sugar baby" until the situation's reversed. | /r/MensRights | 28/02/23 07:53 PM |
| 9 | Men, have you had the conversation about 'your fair share of chores'?That's our regular weekly cleaning. I went through the chore list and just added everything up. This includes: daily picking up, laundry (and change sheets), bathrooms scrubbed, kitchen scrubbed, whole house dusted and vacuumed and kitchen and bathrooms mopped. I'll admit I have a decent sized house, but it's not huge. All the deep clean, under the bed stuff is just twice a year- before Christmas and late spring. Generally, my husband and I split the household tasks, but I did them all for nearl… | /r/MensRights | 28/02/23 05:43 PM |
| 44 | Men, have you had the conversation about 'your fair share of chores'?Honestly it's quite silly to count the time the machine is running as "time worked". Yep. The only instance "waiting" should count is if you're sitting around a laundromat. | /r/MensRights | 28/02/23 05:27 PM |
| -3 | Men, have you had the conversation about 'your fair share of chores'?doing laundry does actually take longer than 1h30 per week in nost cases I was thinking that too. It takes me (or my spouse) roughly 30 hands-on minutes per load (sorting, loading washer/dryer, folding or hanging up). It's a load a day of clothes or towels and 2 sets of bed linens per week. So, 4.5 hours for a couple and just bedding/towels for our daughter. | /r/MensRights | 28/02/23 04:23 PM |
| 41 | Men, have you had the conversation about 'your fair share of chores'?Yeah, 40 hours sounds really high for a family with no small kids. As someone who's done the whole SAH thing, it's more like 10-12 hours cleaning and 13-14 hours of cooking/dishes/getting groceries. | /r/MensRights | 28/02/23 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Male into Female BrandsCompanies mostly do the same thing for international men's day as international women's day- change their social media page for a day. It's like he said earlier in the video, be performative but don't actually accomplish anything. I don't know anyone who acknowledges either day IRL. I kind of thought that's what the joke was. | /r/MensRights | 27/02/23 11:39 AM |
| 3 | Binky dad super bowl commercialI rewatched that ad and thought it portrayed the dad in a very positive light. Protagonist-style music, people cheering him on and calling him a hero. He comes across as a very dedicated father. I really don't think the ad creators were going for a "dumb dad" message. As a parent, it's funny because kids are so fickle. Today's favorite binky/toy/whatever is tomorrow's old news. And because constantly forgetting things is part of being a new parent. Surprisingly, women make up 46% of Superbowl vi… | /r/MensRights | 27/02/23 11:17 AM |
| 2 | Male into Female BrandsIt's funny how he flipped the (actually female) mascots to male only to switch them "back" for wokeness. Very clever. | /r/MensRights | 26/02/23 10:58 PM |
| 5 | Male into Female BrandsWendy's mascot has always been female...along with nearly all the other mascots in the video. It was satirical. | /r/MensRights | 26/02/23 10:56 PM |
| 1 | Fat acceptance is feminist baloney.It's a joint responsibility- the individual as well as society. That's the only way to truly make a difference in the % of people overweight. Obesity is a public health issue- like smoking. The rate of smokers in the US didn't drop just because people took responsibility and quit. It was also the result of a massive national education campaign, strict government regulations and subsidized support for those wanting to help themselves. Same approach is needed for obesity. Also, I'm self-aware enou… | /r/MensRights | 26/02/23 02:20 PM |
| 2 | Fat acceptance is feminist baloney.This post kind of misses the big picture because it doesn't address the root causes of obesity. I mean, we're talking about a society where 3 out of 4 are overweight, not giving advice to one heavy friend. Everyone already knows that exercising and eating nutritious foods in proper amounts leads to healthy weight. So why aren't people doing it? The answer to that question is the root cause, the issues that really need to be solved to combat the obesity epidemic. And there's a lot of things we, a… | /r/MensRights | 26/02/23 01:57 PM |
| 5 | Fat acceptance is feminist baloney.You've got to think about cause and effect here. An increasingly overweight population caused the body positivity movement, not the other way around. It makes sense if you think about it. Body positivity in advertising and media is primarily focused towards women, but there's a greater percentage of overweight men in the US (77% men vs 69% women). If body positivity were causing people to be overweight, women would be more likely to be overweight, by a large degree. But they aren't. Also, averag… | /r/MensRights | 26/02/23 11:21 AM |
| 5 | To a woman there’s such thing as a man that’s too short but there’s no such thing as a man that’s too tallYeah, there's no way kissing someone much taller than yourself would be uncomfortable /s I'm 5'2 and my ex is 6'4- it was a literal pain in the neck. I never dated anyone taller than 6' after that. My husband is 6 even- just right. Short enough to kiss comfortably but tall enough to tuck me under his chin when we hug. The idea that there's no upper limit on height preference is just absurd. | /r/MensRights | 26/02/23 12:02 AM |
| 3 | To a woman there’s such thing as a man that’s too short but there’s no such thing as a man that’s too tallAs a short woman, I can confirm. If you get a crick in your neck from looking up at/kissing your SO...too tall. | /r/MensRights | 25/02/23 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Women need to be called out on their hypocritical use of sexuality in the workplaceIt can, but that depends on which blush someone wears and how it's applied. Blush can also put the natural color back in your cheeks since foundation gives a "flat" look. Or it can be used for a sun kissed look, or to make the wearer look more cutesy. Makeup is like clothes. Some is overtly sexual (cough, "Nars blushes"), most isn't. | /r/MensRights | 25/02/23 01:10 AM |
| 5 | Millions of men are leaving the workforce. Here's the lasting impact that has on the economy.On the bright side, the labor shortage has been good for workers because it's giving them leverage to negotiate better compensation. I make 40% more than I did just two years ago- by switching companies and taking advantage of the lack of workers with my skillset (procurement). It's a similar story with a bunch of my friends and coworkers. | /r/MensRights | 24/02/23 11:27 AM |
| 3 | Men’s clumsy romantic behavior could get them fired. Was this inappropriate? Yes. Did he deserve to lose his job? No. Also, read the comments.Who wouldn't enjoy cats? They're great. But if you mean "enjoy being alone" you missed the mark (again). I'm married, with a kid. | /r/MensRights | 24/02/23 09:45 AM |
| 3 | Men’s clumsy romantic behavior could get them fired. Was this inappropriate? Yes. Did he deserve to lose his job? No. Also, read the comments.Have you never had a customer service job? Or even been a customer? The customer complains about what in their opinion is a bad experience with a business or it's employees. Simple as that. It's up to the manager to determine whether the complaint has merit, and in this case they did. I'm not sure what consequences you mean. People who complain about a bad experience usually have their problems fixed. So, I guess that's a consequence. It's the employee's responsibility to represent the company w… | /r/MensRights | 24/02/23 03:10 AM |
| 6 | Men’s clumsy romantic behavior could get them fired. Was this inappropriate? Yes. Did he deserve to lose his job? No. Also, read the comments.It took like 20 seconds to find out this lady is married (from post history). I wonder how many of your other assumptions/interpretations were also incorrect. If someone is being unprofessional or giving poor customer service, there's absolutely nothing wrong with making a complaint. And it's not up to the customer what disciplinary action the employer takes. Nor is it the customer's problem to worry about. | /r/MensRights | 24/02/23 02:13 AM |
| 40 | Most young men are single. Most young women are not.They could be dating each other. 7% of Americans identify as LGBTQ, which would be 9 million women by the numbers above. | /r/MensRights | 22/02/23 06:08 PM |
| 4 | Anyone wanna bet the "punishment" from no makeup is about other women occasionally making snide comments?Honestly, finding 10% of men attractive seems too high. At least, if you mean "attractive enough to date." Speaking for myself, it's closer to 5%. But, they aren't going to be the same group for every woman. For example, I'd hard pass on redheads or facial hair but other women like those traits. | /r/AntiFeminists | 16/02/23 12:54 PM |
| 5 | Anyone wanna bet the "punishment" from no makeup is about other women occasionally making snide comments?Attractiveness is power for everyone, really. It's a pretty well studied phenomenon that attractive people are treated better, regardless of gender. Also, others tend to perceive attractive people as having all sorts of positive characteristics, like intelligence and competence at work. Anyone who wants to get ahead would be wise to increase their attractiveness as much as possible- through clothes, grooming, healthy weight and, yes, makeup. | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/02/23 11:18 AM |
| 29 | Anyone wanna bet the "punishment" from no makeup is about other women occasionally making snide comments?They're referencing previous studies showing women wearing makeup are viewed more favorably. Basically, study participants are shown pictures of women with different levels of makeup, from none to heavy glam. Then they're asked to rate the women on different characteristics. Women wearing makeup are seen as friendlier, more competent and more trustworthy than those without. However, there's evidence that women wearing heavy makeup are viewed as less trustworthy and more frivolous than those with… | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/02/23 04:55 AM |
| 1 | Have you noticed feminism has made it practically impossible to vent about how difficult dating has become for men?Yes, God forbid I use the term being discussed 🙄 You have to know that the term doesn't mean what it used to. I mean, just Google "incel." Even the literal dictionary definitions include hatred of women, society and sexually active people. That's just how average people use the term. Eta- I'm laughing at undesirable and unattractive. The bouquet of purple roses I received today addressed to "my greatest love" would certainly suggest otherwise. | /r/AntiFeminists | 14/02/23 01:02 AM |
| 6 | Have you noticed feminism has made it practically impossible to vent about how difficult dating has become for men?There certainly were far more different topics before. | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/02/23 10:47 PM |
| -4 | Have you noticed feminism has made it practically impossible to vent about how difficult dating has become for men?Radical incels are the ones who changed the meaning of "incel" to what it is now. Average Joe/Jane hears about incels from news reports of violence or screenshots of crazy posts from incels.is. Those are what changed incel from meaning "involuntary celibate" to "bitter, misogynistic involuntary celibate with violent ideation." | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/02/23 10:22 PM |
| 1 | Why do feminists get so hostile and defensive whenever you suggest men are way hornier than women?Agreed. Or the idea that women don't want sex. | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/02/23 02:04 PM |
| 20 | What exactly is the deal with the people in here who feel there is some major distinction to be made between “feminism” and modern women in the west, and lambast anyone who dares conflate the two as if there is no positive correlation or overlap between them?The answer's in the first rule of the sub: "Feminism isn't synonymous with women." Of course you're going to get your wrist slapped for violating it. What did you expect? As far as modern women, most people just can't be bothered with being any kind of "ist." They're just living their lives in the society that exists. Personally, I've only got the bandwidth to really care about a couple of issues at a time. Too busy to be an activist. | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/02/23 08:05 PM |
| 1 | "Masculinity is toxic because grown men don't cuddle."I'm not saying women can't be nasty. I'm just surprised people are still using gay as an insult. First, because it doesn't have any teeth- there's nothing wrong with being gay. And second, someone using gay in a derogatory way is likely to be labeled anti- LGBTQ and get a reputation for being intolerant. | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/02/23 10:09 AM |
| -2 | "Masculinity is toxic because grown men don't cuddle."Do they? I don't really hear "gay" used as an insult anymore. Mostly because there's no insult in it- being gay is fine. I live in a very liberal state, though. It probably varies by region. | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/02/23 12:56 AM |
| 85 | "Masculinity is toxic because grown men don't cuddle."Shaming men for cuddling their family members does seem pretty toxic though. Regardless of whether you call it toxic masculinity or something else. | /r/AntiFeminists | 10/02/23 10:59 PM |
| 2 | Do you ever get sick of how in our gynocentric society every girl thinks she is a 10?Puerto Ricans are Americans. How I'd that not "western"? | /r/AntiFeminists | 08/02/23 04:31 PM |
| -2 | Do you ever get sick of how in our gynocentric society every girl thinks she is a 10?They're certainly doing a lot of complaining about overweight women, though. | /r/AntiFeminists | 08/02/23 04:14 PM |
| 0 | Do you ever get sick of how in our gynocentric society every girl thinks she is a 10?But most US men are overweight too (77%). Overweight is the new "average" size. | /r/AntiFeminists | 08/02/23 03:59 PM |
| 5 | Has feminism fostered a culture where women are praised for mediocrity but men are ignored for greatness? I’ve noticed every average looking girl is “beautiful” and most good looking men are “average.”I think you're underestimating how much effort women put into looking put together. As a woman, a typical morning involves: healthy low cal breakfast, 30-60 min workout, shaving legs and underarms, multi step skincare routine, picking an outfit, styling hair, and applying makeup. It can be two hours plus, and that's all before work. Plus there's a bunch of beauty maintenance- hair treatments, face masks, exfoliating, plucking eyebrows (and elsewhere). Sure, some people roll out of bed looking fa… | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/02/23 05:18 AM |
| 1 | Why do feminists constantly talk about how men are abusive assholes when the vast majority of men are not only harmless but would treat women like queens?There have always been a small minority of women that act this way. Social media makes the minority look like the majority. | /r/AntiFeminists | 05/02/23 10:59 AM |
| 0 | Why do feminists say “ah now I see, it’s your personality” or “maybe if you were nice women would like you” when most women are attracted to assholes and turned off by genuinely nice men?Why do you care who women date when it's painfully clear that you can't stand women? Seriously, multiple posts a day about all the terrible things women do. Not just feminists either- you always make sure to clarify it's most women. Maybe get a hobby instead. | /r/AntiFeminists | 05/02/23 10:56 AM |
| 5 | Shouldn’t it be obvious by now to feminists that the reason so many men are getting frustrated and lashing out at rejection is because women have incredibly inflated self images and disproportionate standards?So are the men. At least in the US- 70% of adults of both sexes are overweight. | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/02/23 03:03 AM |
| 38 | Why do feminists constantly talk about how men are abusive assholes when the vast majority of men are not only harmless but would treat women like queens?Because there's a negativity bias on social media. People are more likely to post about their bad relationships. It's basically the same as how people will review negative experiences more often than positive ones. You're seeing a vocal minority and missing all the people in healthy relationships. "Had a regular, drama free day with my boo" doesn't make for a very interesting read, after all. | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/02/23 02:33 AM |
| 5 | "The witch trials came from brewers."A lot of people forget that, traditionally, wives supplemented the family income by working inside the home. Things like laundry, mending, piecework sewing, candle and soap making, pin making and agricultural work. Those female jobs became male jobs when the work shifted from cottage industry (in the home) to factories (outside the home). | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/02/23 08:20 PM |
| 5 | "The witch trials came from brewers."There really were groups of women hired to do complex math problems from late 1800s to mid 1900s. Basically, they were cheaper to hire than men. Notably NASA hired human "computers" as well as the US military- for both world wars. https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/history-human-computers-180972202/ | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/02/23 08:16 PM |
| 10 | "The witch trials came from brewers."To be fair, they're talking about medieval European witch trials, not the ones in Salem. | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/02/23 08:09 PM |
| 4 | Shouldn’t it be obvious by now to feminists that the reason so many men are getting frustrated and lashing out at rejection is because women have incredibly inflated self images and disproportionate standards?What's the point in lashing out? Having delusional high standards is a self- correcting problem. If someone can't find a partner who meets their standards they'll either lower their standards or remain single. If they can find a partner who meets their standards, they aren't delusional. Either way, going off on someone for being rejected doesn't change the situation. It just adds to the rejected person's embarrassment. | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/02/23 04:24 PM |
| 2 | What’s Wrong With Western Society from an Anti-Feminist Perspective?Apex fallacy is definitely annoying. The worst part is that it distracts from the more pervasive inequalities that affect average people. You don't need to look to the top of the pyramid to see inequalities among genders (or races, sexual orientations, etc). It's less sensational to work on those issues than it is to rail against those at the top of the food chain. So, nothing gets done. | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/02/23 02:16 PM |
| 3 | Have you noticed with the erosion of gender roles by feminism, traditional femininity has sort of become out of style and that women are behaving more and more like men with their brash, arrogant attitudes, general lack of compassion and the obnoxious overuse of AAVE calling you “dude” and “bruh?”American dialects (and how they evolved) is actually really interesting. I liked this video of a dialect coach breaking down the differences. https://youtu.be/H1KP4ztKK0A | /r/AntiFeminists | 02/02/23 07:30 PM |
| 5 | Have you noticed with the erosion of gender roles by feminism, traditional femininity has sort of become out of style and that women are behaving more and more like men with their brash, arrogant attitudes, general lack of compassion and the obnoxious overuse of AAVE calling you “dude” and “bruh?”I've never really understood why someone would prefer a submissive partner to an equal. It sounds exhausting to be responsible for a whole other adult, and it's more stressful for the head of household to shoulder responsibility alone. What would you say are the benefits of having one partner "wear the pants," so to speak? For perspective, I have an egalitarian marriage. We both work, split tasks equally but not by gender and we've each been the sole breadwinner at times. | /r/AntiFeminists | 02/02/23 07:18 PM |
| 4 | Have you noticed with the erosion of gender roles by feminism, traditional femininity has sort of become out of style and that women are behaving more and more like men with their brash, arrogant attitudes, general lack of compassion and the obnoxious overuse of AAVE calling you “dude” and “bruh?”Tbh, I wouldn't complain if men did want to dance like whores. | /r/AntiFeminists | 02/02/23 03:16 PM |
| 5 | Have you noticed with the erosion of gender roles by feminism, traditional femininity has sort of become out of style and that women are behaving more and more like men with their brash, arrogant attitudes, general lack of compassion and the obnoxious overuse of AAVE calling you “dude” and “bruh?”AAVE is basically a dialect of American English that developed in African American communities. Pronunciation and sentence structure are different from Standard American English. A lot of new slang starts as part of AAVE then spread throughout the country as a whole. | /r/AntiFeminists | 02/02/23 12:19 PM |
| 2 | What’s Wrong With Western Society from an Anti-Feminist Perspective?I think you kind of missed my point. I agree with most of what you said, but which days are the good old days is very much a function of the question "better for who?" For black people or LGBTQ (for example), things are better now. Societal and legislative changes 1950-present benefited them more than economic stagnation hurt them. Like you said- things have never been more inclusive at this point in time. Making the American dream more accesible than it's ever been for non-mainstream folks. Not… | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/02/23 08:31 PM |
| 3 | What’s Wrong With Western Society from an Anti-Feminist Perspective?You made some great points, with one little caveat. Things were better for some people post WWII. Not so much for people of color, ethnic or religious minorities, single women and LGBTQ folks. I think a lot of people nostalgiacizing forget how hard it was for anyone who didn't fit the mainstream mold. | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/02/23 07:13 PM |
| 3 | Do you have any women in your family who have contributed to your impression of western women and their toxic behavior/entitlement?My stepmom is completely toxic and entitled- just theworst kind of manipulator. When she met my dad she had already had an affair with a married man, been excommunicated from her church for it, and gotten divorced. All while paying no child support for her six kids. After she married my dad she did her best to monopolize his time and money towards her own children. She egged Dad on to constant family court cases in an attempt to reduce child support to his kids. And, she got her lawyer ex bf (ie… | /r/AntiFeminists | 31/01/23 07:28 PM |
| -2 | Is anyone else sick of the whole “grooming” narrative of feminists trying to label men as predatory for being more attracted to younger women (18-25?)I'm not sure I'd agree with the "no-one cares." Maybe it's because most my friend group are parents, which makes them extra protective of young adults. Dating someone much younger definitely gets the stink eye. There's one guy I know (34 at the time) who isn't allowed to coach teen sports anymore b/c he was dating an 18 year old and so many parents complained. Personally, all the couples I've met with large age gaps and a very young partner are odd. Like, if you met them, you'd think they were k… | /r/AntiFeminists | 31/01/23 03:11 PM |
| -4 | Is anyone else sick of the whole “grooming” narrative of feminists trying to label men as predatory for being more attracted to younger women (18-25?)That's not what I see IRL. For example, an 18 year old guy I know was dating a 26 year old woman. His friends wouldn't hang out with the couple and everyone I heard discussing it (twenty - forty year olds, male and female) agreed it was a red flag for her to date someone with an 8 year age gap. | /r/AntiFeminists | 31/01/23 02:48 PM |
| 6 | Is anyone else sick of the whole “grooming” narrative of feminists trying to label men as predatory for being more attracted to younger women (18-25?)Why wouldn't there be? The sub is "antifeminists" not "only men." | /r/AntiFeminists | 31/01/23 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Have you noticed that feminists constantly assert that men are unfaithful by nature but that women are consistently drawn to and chase taken/married men and base their attraction almost entirely on what other women think?I wish men didn't hit on married women- it's super awkward. I've had someone notice the ring, mention it, then ask me out anyway. Another guy offered himself if I ever wanted to cheat on my husband. | /r/AntiFeminists | 31/01/23 01:42 PM |
| -3 | Is anyone else sick of the whole “grooming” narrative of feminists trying to label men as predatory for being more attracted to younger women (18-25?)In my experience, people make the same comments if it's a same sex relationship, or the woman is the older partner. So I don't think it's jealousy at play. | /r/AntiFeminists | 31/01/23 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Let’s try this again - has anyone here become extremely frustrated with how unnecessarily shitty and difficult dating has become for men and how inflated women’s egos are now due to social media, OLD and feminism/female empowerment?Well, and the whole function of marriage has changed. It used to be an economic arrangement and the only socially acceptable way to get sex and children. Birth control, women in the workforce and destigmitization of single parents changed all that. Now there's a lot less incentive to pair up, so it just makes sense that more people will stay single. | /r/AntiFeminists | 30/01/23 04:10 PM |
| 7 | Anyone here become extremely frustrated with how unnecessarily shitty and difficult dating has become for men and how inflated women’s egos are now due to social media, OLD and feminism/female empowerment?Finding dating partners in your social group is the way. Someone with mutual friends or involved in an activity you're into (clubs, volunteering, work or church) is more likely to be a good match, personality wise. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/01/23 07:24 PM |
| 1 | Anyone here become extremely frustrated with how unnecessarily shitty and difficult dating has become for men and how inflated women’s egos are now due to social media, OLD and feminism/female empowerment?The fat friend makes me think of Stephen Lynch's song: She Got a Smile (https://youtu.be/It2ZXxERBFs). Maybe try his solution, lol. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/01/23 07:02 PM |
| -4 | Ah yes, a mysandrist bag. Why tho?I get ad companies marketing to women. I know I make most of the purchasing decisions in my house. I guess I just don't see why doing the shopping for other people = more likely to buy a feminist bag. | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/12/22 08:50 PM |
| 3 | egalitarianism will go into history as a spectacular failed social experimentThis stupid idea that women should have a career and not have many kids But it works out great for the individual, in my experience. I had one kid, lavish her with time and resources and spend the extra money from my career on an excellent standard of living. | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/12/22 08:48 PM |
| -3 | Ah yes, a mysandrist bag. Why tho?Because women make up the majority of consumer spending. I think it’s around 75-80%. Why does that matter? I see this statistic thrown around, but married women do most the shopping for household and children. So, wouldn't we expect women to be the primary spenders? | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/12/22 07:19 PM |
| 0 | Most reasonable feminist: "I just want my pay to be entirely decoupled from the marginal value of my skills, experience, hours worked, level of physical risk, and ability to negotiate. What do you mean women already account for 85% of consumer spending in the US? How is that possible?"Also you are moving the goal posts towards race. No, I'm just curious how far your antipathy goes. Race just came to mind because it's another underrepresented group in research. Do you specifically not care about women? Or does it extend to any group you aren't a member of? Anyone who doesn't care that other people are being treated unfairly because of gender, or belonging to any other social group, is just a garbage human being. Full stop. It doesn't matter if you're male or female. You're lit… | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/12/22 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Nothing worse than a male feministGreek mythology has nothing to do with political theory. It's 50% Zeus turning into some animal or weather phenomenon to boink someone. An amusing read but not exactly essential to understanding history. Yet it's commonly covered in high school curriculums. Also, I'm talking global history here. You know, when you learn about cultures other than your own to broaden your horizons. Doesn't it make more sense to focus on countries that are markedly different from the historical roots of the US? Bes… | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/12/22 01:33 PM |
| 0 | Most reasonable feminist: "I just want my pay to be entirely decoupled from the marginal value of my skills, experience, hours worked, level of physical risk, and ability to negotiate. What do you mean women already account for 85% of consumer spending in the US? How is that possible?"I also have no problem in subscribing to that idea. I've got mine so screw you is a pretty shitty way to go through life. Do you feel the same way about people of different races, too? The mind boggling thing is: increasing the number of women in research studies has no ill effect on men. So you're against equal representation because of what? Spite? | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/12/22 12:59 PM |
| 0 | Most reasonable feminist: "I just want my pay to be entirely decoupled from the marginal value of my skills, experience, hours worked, level of physical risk, and ability to negotiate. What do you mean women already account for 85% of consumer spending in the US? How is that possible?"Ok, I get it. You're fine with other people suffering and being treated unfairly as long as it benefits you. | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/12/22 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Nothing worse than a male feministBut I'm in the US. That doesn't explain why even the global history we learn is also predominantly about white people- aka Europeans. Why teach Greek mythology, for example, instead of African or Asian folklore? Or a sampling of many cultures? Heck, we could even try studying the myths of people indigenous to the US. | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/12/22 11:17 AM |
| 1 | Most reasonable feminist: "I just want my pay to be entirely decoupled from the marginal value of my skills, experience, hours worked, level of physical risk, and ability to negotiate. What do you mean women already account for 85% of consumer spending in the US? How is that possible?"Gender is a social construct, but biological sex isn't. Male and female cells aren't the same. For example, there are sex based differences in how diseases affect the body and how effective medications are. Using male medical research participants can make it easier to collect data because they have less hormone fluctuation and no chance of pregnancy. So medical studies primarily used men as research participants and assumed the results would be the same for women. Problem is, they aren't the sa… | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/12/22 11:03 AM |
| 1 | Most reasonable feminist: "I just want my pay to be entirely decoupled from the marginal value of my skills, experience, hours worked, level of physical risk, and ability to negotiate. What do you mean women already account for 85% of consumer spending in the US? How is that possible?"Testing on animals is only the first stage of new drug testing. To gain FDA approval a drug must first be tested on animals for safety, then on increasingly larger groups of people. https://www.fda.gov/patients/learn-about-drug-and-device-approvals/drug-development-process I actually participated in a vaccine trial a couple of years ago. It was in the last phase of testing before FDA approval. Not all medical testing is on new drugs, either. There are often studies comparing effectiveness of dif… | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/12/22 10:21 AM |
| 3 | Most reasonable feminist: "I just want my pay to be entirely decoupled from the marginal value of my skills, experience, hours worked, level of physical risk, and ability to negotiate. What do you mean women already account for 85% of consumer spending in the US? How is that possible?"People underestimate just how crucial negotiating skills are, but hard work just doesn't cut it. Have a professional write your resume and cover letter. Brag about, even overstate, your accomplishments. Provide hard data. Look up and practice interview questions. Pretend to be interested in the company you're applying to. Inflate your current pay in your salary ask, then say you've got another offer and ask for more when they offer the job. And never stick around too long at a company where you … | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/12/22 03:34 AM |
| 3 | Most reasonable feminist: "I just want my pay to be entirely decoupled from the marginal value of my skills, experience, hours worked, level of physical risk, and ability to negotiate. What do you mean women already account for 85% of consumer spending in the US? How is that possible?"Maybe, if they get demanding and kick up a fuss. Acting in a traditional feminine way (modest, soft spoken, accommodating) gets women a whole lot of nothing. | /r/AntiFeminists | 30/11/22 11:20 PM |
| 7 | Most reasonable feminist: "I just want my pay to be entirely decoupled from the marginal value of my skills, experience, hours worked, level of physical risk, and ability to negotiate. What do you mean women already account for 85% of consumer spending in the US? How is that possible?"most medication is tested on male subjects, How are we in 2022 and companies/govt agencies aren't required to use equal numbers of men and women in medical testing? It boggles the mind. If we could also get all the states on board with comprehensive sex ed and dropping the sales tax on pads and tampons, that would be pretty great. And equal(ish) representation in govt. But that last one is more likely in my daughter's lifetime than mine. | /r/AntiFeminists | 30/11/22 08:52 PM |
| 6 | Had this line of thought and, honestly, it applies to many different groups of this day and age, including feminism.True, but we don't want to go too far in the other direction either. Events from the past still affect us, and they help us understand why different groups face different challenges. For example, decendents of slaves are more likely to be low income because of systemic racism and a lack of generational wealth. To help correct the problem we can support programs to make sure low income families have access to good K-12 schools and adequate financial aid for college. Or, consider how women have be… | /r/AntiFeminists | 30/11/22 07:12 PM |
| -3 | Nothing worse than a male feministI wasn't just talking about US history, though. Our schools teach a very white, Eurocentric history curriculum even when it comes to global history. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/11/22 07:53 PM |
| -2 | Nothing worse than a male feministWouldn't we all be sad, though, if white history coverage was cut down to just one month? After all, westop talking about black history when their month is over, until next year. I can be honest enough to admit, as a white person,that I'm spoiled when it comes to historic representation. Just off the top of my head I can name about 50 white historic figures from hs/college classes (probably more) and maybe 5-6 black ones. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/11/22 07:45 PM |
| 3 | The Incel-InsultThe insult they really mean to say is virgin Honestly, I think they mean exactly what you said- men who can't get laid and are misogynistic. That's the common meaning of incel now and seems to be the gist of "incel" insults I see on reddit and similar. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/11/22 02:20 PM |
| 7 | The Incel-InsultIsn't that assuming they're using the original meaning of incel? Most "average" people think incels are what they see on the news- violent, women hating radicals. I mean, if I asked my MIL or my husband to define an incel, that's what they'd say. I'd bet money that definition is what people mean when they call you an "incel" onlne. To be clear, I'm definitely not condoning insults like that. But that's what I think they mean. I firmly believe truly involuntary celibate people need to coin a new … | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/11/22 10:08 PM |
| 4 | Feminists can never take a joke, only offenseI know, right? They aren't labeled with genders, so it must be a "choose your own adventure" situation. | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/11/22 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Feminists can never take a joke, only offenseI wonder how many people use the wrong one. I could see a lot of "accidentally" going in the wrong one, but probably quite a few honest mistakes too. | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/11/22 08:25 PM |
| 5 | Facts about what men endureNo...it really doesn't. All the data in that article is about graduation rates by race. Are you sure this is the link you meant to post? https://worldpopulationreview.com/state-rankings/high-school-graduation-rates-by-race | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/11/22 06:07 PM |
| 0 | Facts about what men endureThat link makes no mention of gender differences. I did notice that the data from your link doesn't include those who got their GED as "graduated", while the link I provided does include them. I'm sure that accounts for a lot of the difference in total % graduated. | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/11/22 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Facts about what men endureI'd be very interested in seeing your sources for that. The first two links are from the US Depts of Labor and Education. | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/11/22 03:22 PM |
| 2 | Are you pro-life or pro-choice?the pill is up to 99% if you take it the way you are supposed to. Just think about that for a minute. Failure rate for contraceptives is what percent of women become pregnant each year using that method. There are 46 million women in the US on the pill. At 1% failure rate, that's 460k unplanned pregnancies, per year. And that's with perfect usage. Typical use failure rate with human error, drug interactions, etc., is 7% The average woman getting an abortion isn't some young party girl, either. I… | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/11/22 01:42 PM |
| -4 | Facts about what men endureI think some of your data is off, if you're in the US anyway. For example: Minimum wage workers are predominantly women- roughly 60% (https://www.bls.gov/opub/reports/minimum-wage/2021/home.htm). Percent high school completion is 91% for males and 94% for females (https://nces.ed.gov/pubs2019/2019117.pdf). Bankruptcies are filed nearly evenly between men and women (https://www.fool.com/the-ascent/research/personal-bankruptcy-statistics/). I'm definitely not saying men don't face gender specific … | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/11/22 11:51 AM |
| 1 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualI honestly have no idea what you're talking about. You're so far from the original topic it might as well be in another country. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 07:55 PM |
| 3 | Are you pro-life or pro-choice?come next morning or like within a week go see your doc and get to know whether she is pregnant or not!!! What do you mean? A pregnancy test won't show results until weeks after conception. Most women test after a missed period and on average find out when they're 5-6 weeks pregnant. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Onlyfans is ok but this is not? I thought consent was keyThese shirts were a dad joke when I was a kid, and I'm 42! | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Onlyfans is ok but this is not? I thought consent was keyI'm not angry or offended. This is a very old, very tired joke. Something 14 year olds and edgy grandpas wesr. It immediately makes me think of those cheap tourist shops on the beach. Again, please wear this shirt if it's up your alley.. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Onlyfans is ok but this is not? I thought consent was keyIf you don't think this shirt is tacky AF, please wear it in public. You'll be doing everyone a favor. Just like poison dart frogs and their bright colors. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 06:30 PM |
| 0 | Are you pro-life or pro-choice?50% of women getting abortions report having used contraceptives. That's a lot of failed contraceptives. Also, the pill is 99% in clinical trials. That is, taken perfectly and no interactions with other substances that reduce effectiveness. With real life usage drops to around 93% effective. This CDC link does a good job explaining failure rate with typical use for common contraceptives. I got pregnant while on the pill and it's a guessing game what caused it to fail. The most likely culprit is … | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 05:21 PM |
| -1 | Feminism is actually harming this poor young brainwashed womanI think you missed the point about twins. If one twin is gay, there's a 20-50% chance of the other twin also being gay. Wheras a gay person's sibling (not twins) has about a 5% chance of being gay. In this case the environment is the same, but twins share more DNA than other siblings. Twin studies are a common way to establish whether something is nature (genetics), nurture (environment) or a blend of both. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 02:17 PM |
| -3 | Feminism is actually harming this poor young brainwashed womani don't think your personal experience or what you personally seen is enough to dismiss the point in its entirety. I was providing an example, not a comprehensive body of proof. While we don't know the exact reason for homosexuality, there's a lot of evidence for a strong genetic component. For example, the much higher occurance of a gay person's sibling also being gay if they are twins. And certain genetic markers being more prevelant among homosexual people. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 01:55 PM |
| 2 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualIn my lifetime there have been several times, I've had to intervene to protect my sister, my cousins, and ex girlfriends from violent situations Then I'm genuinely sorry for your misfortune. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 01:46 PM |
| 2 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My Equaldo you think 297,544 people reporting getting robbed is a small issue? I think it has such a small chance of happening that my husband will never have to protect me from it. And neither will the significant others of the vast majority of women. Which is the point. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 01:42 PM |
| -5 | Feminism is actually harming this poor young brainwashed womanThis is just not true. My daughter is a lesbian with a bunch of LGBTQ friends who mostly have good relationships with their parents. My husband and I are happily married and our daughter has an excellent relationship with her father. She's just never had a romantic or sexual interest in men. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 09:41 AM |
| 1 | Repost - blames men (obviously), but doesn't show much empowerment either....You're right that women have worked for all of human history, Which brings me back to my original post. For most women it's not (and never was) childcare or work. It's childcare and work. If I'm going to work either way I want the salaried job and the upper middle class lifestyle. Patients are killed through incompetency and laziness on a regular basis and there is no liability for this. I know many cases of this myself, such as my Great Grandmother being prescribed a medication at multiple time… | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 09:33 AM |
| 3 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualConsider yourself very lucky that you have MEN as your protection and that the majority of them still give a fuck about you. Pray to God every day that the number of fucks men still give to women doesn't get lower. And that's why soldiers and first responders do their jobs? Because of the fucks they give about women? And why they protect men and children too? Here I thought it was because they were getting paid for it. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 09:02 AM |
| 3 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualHere's the thing, OP was specifically talking about women wanting to be in a relationship with a traditional man who will protect them. And it's not uncommon for people to say being a protector is a man's role in a relationship like cooking is a woman's role. Most women aren't married to a soldier, police officer or firefighter. When I call 911 for help, it's not my spouse who shows up. That's not his job, he's a quality manager at a plasma bank. So, what are people talking about when they say h… | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 08:42 AM |
| 3 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualHere's your original comment: You want a traditional man who will protect you at times of danger, yet you are not a traditional woman yourself. So a women want to be in a relationship with a "traditional man" who will protect them. But then you said this: men have built a society safe enough for women that they don't have to witness dangers anymore If I'm reading what you're saying correctly, modern society has reached a point that people are no longer exposed to danger. If that's the case, what… | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 08:34 AM |
| 3 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualOk, let's talk about that. 89 out of 100,000 people are robbed in the US each year (https://ucr.fbi.gov/crime-in-the-u.s/2019/crime-in-the-u.s.-2019/topic-pages/robbery) That's .06% of the population. Murders are 7.5 per 100,000, or .008% (https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/homicide.htm). These things are newsworthy because they're rare. How many times have you had to protect your SO from robbery or murder? How many times do you expect to in your lifetime? | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/11/22 08:20 AM |
| 2 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualI've never had someone take a swing at me...ever. In my experience, that's not a problem most people have. | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/11/22 03:32 PM |
| 2 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualI just didn't care about the rest of your comment. I was looking for an answer to a specific question. But, a nonanswer is also an answer, I guess. YOU are a receiver of those benefits, whether you admit it or not. But so are all the men. Most people aren't police officers or firemen- they're office workers. | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/11/22 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualIf I live in a bubble, it extends to many cities, states and countries. And it's the same one my husband lives in. I'm sorry, but calling a dangerous neighborhood a ghetto is about as mild as it gets. | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/11/22 03:21 PM |
| 0 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualWe've been married 20 years and it hasn't happened yet. Seems like a non-issue. Maybe it's a bigger problem if you hang out in the ghetto? | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/11/22 02:30 PM |
| 0 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualBut we were talking about traditional roles "in relationships." People will claim "protecting" as a role for men like "childrearing" is for women. Looks like most men are protecting their women from a whole lot of nothing. You don't get relationship points for that. | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/11/22 02:29 PM |
| -5 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualSo modern men get props for something their ancestors did? I don't call myself a "housewife" by proxy because my great great gran was. That's silly. | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/11/22 02:07 PM |
| -16 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualAnd for all that, you still didn't answer my question- what are men supposed to be protecting women from? It's 2022- most people aren't facing danger on the regular. | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/11/22 02:04 PM |
| -9 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualYeah, let's talk about how using men as the default for research has caused worse medical outcomes for women. It's almost as if having inequal representation among research participants caused inequal outcomes. | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/11/22 01:21 PM |
| -4 | Why I'll Never Be Treating A Woman As My EqualYou want a traditional man who will protect you at times of danger, yet you are not a traditional woman yourself. Can someone please explain this? I see this brought up all the time in these kinds of convos but, what exactly are men supposed to be protecting women from? Should my husband be in trouble for shirking some unknown duty? | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/11/22 01:16 PM |
| 1 | Repost - blames men (obviously), but doesn't show much empowerment either....It is, but what you bring up is a symptom of itself. It's not like women weren't supplementing the family income before, though. The 1950's housewife gig wasn't available to most women, only a portion of the middle and upper classes. In my own family, mom worked as a bank teller, grandma did part time factory shifts, great grandma co-ran a small store and great great grandma helped on a farm. The difference feminism makes isn't that women are working, it's that we have greater choice in the work… | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/11/22 11:56 AM |
| 1 | Repost - blames men (obviously), but doesn't show much empowerment either....Over 70% of moms in the US work in addition to raising kids. From a purely numbers perspective, single and childless is less work. | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/11/22 06:13 PM |
| 6 | Repost - blames men (obviously), but doesn't show much empowerment either....but those not working are most likely retired, studying, or already married Right. Of course the percentage of single women will be higher among working women- they've gotta support themselves. But that's not the same thing as 45% of women bring single by a long shot (off by 16% apparently). Even 45% of working women being single is a LOT still, Not so much when you realize that's the percentage of working women who are single at one time- they're not single their entire lives. If you look at th… | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/11/22 10:57 AM |
| 8 | Repost - blames men (obviously), but doesn't show much empowerment either....That's not even what the original report said- that caption is total clickbait. 45% of working women are expected to be single by 2030 and the referenced report said nothing about childlessness. For context, currently 41% of working women are single in the US, while only 31% of all women are. Also, LGBTQ folks are more likely to be single- among straight women it's actually 29%. And the ones who are single skew strongly to 18-29 and 65+ age groups. Basically those below the average marriage age … | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/11/22 01:32 AM |
| 4 | why are modern woman so Entitled and cant take accountabiltyCorrect punctuation is sexy. | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/11/22 12:13 AM |
| 2 | Anti hoe shaming is so fucking stupidEvery music genre has its cliches, but there's certainly rap that's not like that too. Like Macklemore and Lizzo. "Thrift Shop" is basically my black Friday anthem, lol. And Lin Manuel Miranda pretty much turned rap into an art form. His lyrics are "chef's kiss." I do kind of wish they'd stop playing "Super Freaky Girl" non-stop on the radio, though. My husband's so into it he used it as his ring tone for me. I've gotta find something else so he'll switch... | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/11/22 03:53 AM |
| 3 | Anti hoe shaming is so fucking stupidSome people are going to outright ignore the law, and they should be punished for it when caught. Yes? No one said otherwise. Also if a person openly talks about body their count people are going to judge them Judging happens inside your head. Shaming is a deliberate action to harm and humiliate another person. Not the same at all. However, I will definitely judge anyone I see shaming others. | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/11/22 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Anti hoe shaming is so fucking stupidI wouldn't go out of my way to shame someone, Then don't, it's as simple as that. No one is forcing you to shame people- you're choosing to do it. Tbh, I disagree with pretty much everything you said. But I guess I got an answer to my question. Your moral code and mine are so different, we might as well be speaking different languages. | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/11/22 10:02 PM |
| 2 | Anti hoe shaming is so fucking stupidSo? | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/11/22 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Anti hoe shaming is so fucking stupidSo you feel shamed by society and want to pass it on to someone else? Shaming is a deliberate attempt to hurt and humiliate someone else. I guess I don't understand what a woman with many past sexual partners has done, to you, that you'd want to hurt her. Do you shame everyone you aren't compatible with? I wouldn't call you a misogynist, but that seems like pretty shitty behavior. | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/11/22 06:42 PM |
| 1 | Anti hoe shaming is so fucking stupidI don't really understand this perspective. Why do you want to shame people for being "slutty"? I mean, what benefit do you get from it? Wouldn't it be simpler to just not date people whose values don't align with yours? There already are public decency laws that set the minimum for how much of your body can be shown in public. As long as people aren't breaking the law, what's the problem? I've always been very "live and let live" so I don't quite get the appeal of shaming others- especially str… | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/11/22 04:24 PM |
| 4 | It's all about equality.... Sure it is.Is it, though? A lot of cultures would argue that multigenerational extended family under one roof is best, because of the experience and wisdom of older members. Others advocate for a tight knit community- 'it takes a village to raise a child." The thing is, there's a lot if ways to organize society and the nuclear family system is far from perfect. We shouldn't stop questioning if there's a better way to do things. | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/11/22 03:05 PM |
| 1 | It's all about equality.... Sure it is.It's not like questioning the nuclear family is a feminist thing, though. People have been suggesting other options way before feminism existed. And for lots of different reasons- anti-consumptuon, anti-capitalism, greater social support systems, stronger sense of community. This is just an old idea given a new spin. | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/11/22 02:39 PM |
| 3 | im having a debate on "traditional roles are replaced by the moderns ones" do you guys have any opinions/arguments. Might not be the best subFair point- if someone's doing a bunch of home improvements, they should definitely take on fewer house chores. A good way to do it to make sure each partner has about the same number of hours of work. If I'm talking about my own house (and my acquaintance group), all the major improvements are done by professionals, so there's not a lot of power tool usage. And while my husband does do most of the power tool work, I do a lot of the complementary by-hand stuff. For example, we just had flooring … | /r/AntiFeminists | 20/11/22 03:44 PM |
| 4 | im having a debate on "traditional roles are replaced by the moderns ones" do you guys have any opinions/arguments. Might not be the best subWhat non-paid labor would you like to see women do that are traditionally male roles? If I'm honest, I'm having trouble coming up with many, since the main part of the traditional husband role is "make money." | /r/AntiFeminists | 20/11/22 02:23 PM |
| 4 | im having a debate on "traditional roles are replaced by the moderns ones" do you guys have any opinions/arguments. Might not be the best subI'd agree. From a jobs perspective we've moved from mostly agricultural work ----> manufacturing work ----> office work. So, people's roles in society have changed drastically, with both good and bad effects. For example, standard of living has gone up, but we're experiencing health problems from being more sedentary If you mean gender roles, the two huge catalysts for change were accessible birth control and women entering the workforce en masse. Because of this, more women are choosing to avoi… | /r/AntiFeminists | 20/11/22 01:25 PM |
| 3 | More Twitter stupidityBy who? I'd wager most feminists would be all for women being more assertive in the workplace, claiming credit for their achievements and demanding to be paid their full worth. I mean, isn't that a criticism people have about feminists- that they want women to act more like men? | /r/AntiFeminists | 20/11/22 09:21 AM |
| 3 | TIL men are afraid of getting old, and use getting old as an insult. Also, I thought women's age was supposed to be a part of beauty standards. Fuck consistency then.People who wear makeup know it doesn't make you look younger. It actually makes fine lines and wrinkles more noticible. Part of the reason women tend to wear less makeup the older they get. Fair point on the skincare. My daily routine includes sunscreen, serum, undereye cream, moisturizer, and a different sunscreen for touch ups during the day. Not specifically anti aging products, but they do keep my skin looking young. My husband, on the other hand, washes his face with soap and calls it a day… | /r/AntiFeminists | 20/11/22 08:41 AM |
| 6 | More Twitter stupidityKind of a tangent, but I've never understood why "maternity leave" is given as a reason for the wage gap. I mean, 6-12 weeks of leave over a 40+ year career shouldn't make any noticeable difference in pay. It certainly didn't change anything for my husband and I when we both took a 3 month leave a few years ago. And it's not like people talk the same way about other FMLA qualified leaves. What's so special about maternity leave? The thing about raises is kind of true. Stereotypical "feminine" be… | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/11/22 09:35 PM |
| 3 | The latest Nike world cup commercial includes female players!I don't see the problem. It's a fun take on a fantasy mash-up. Plus, I'm sure Nike wants to sell clothes to women too. | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/11/22 10:38 AM |
| 4 | talking about equality….I didn't think thst was even in question. Most people (men or women) wouldn't want to stare at someone's crotch. The only reason to do that is to deliberately make the other person uncomfortable. | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/11/22 10:10 AM |
| 2 | How do you feel about trans 'women' students in women's bathrooms?There was that time Fox's lawyers were defending one of their show hosts in a slander suit and argued what he said shouldn't be taken as factual. Imo, that's a huge hit to credibility. And there's a slew of other controversial stuff: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fox_News_controversies Don't get me wrong, other news stations are biased too, but it's not as blatant. If I want more even handed coverage I usually check what BBC is saying. | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/11/22 01:09 AM |
| 3 | How do you feel about trans 'women' students in women's bathrooms?I'm a woman and I couldn't care less who else is in the bathroom with me as long as they stay in their own lane. It would be even less of an issue if the US didn't insist on using those half sized stall doors. We should have full length stall doors/walls like other countries and switch to unisex restrooms. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/22 11:52 PM |
| 1 | Feminist FactsCan you really fault people for being glad to get some of their money back when the govt's constantly digging in their pocket? I never see people say "no" when they qualify for grants, credits or stimulus payments. I'm no different from everyone else. As for the cost, maybe the US could just cut back on our obscene military spending to balance it out. Or any of a million other ways the govt wastes our money. The main problem with the debt relief plan is that it addresses the symptom (student deb… | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/22 08:50 PM |
| 0 | Feminist FactsOr if I pay for it. My husband and I pay 20k per year just in income taxes. It's not much different from getting a tax refund, IMO. Only this one's for student loan debt instead of one of the many, many other things you can get a credit for (like owning an unprofitable business, buying an electric car, setting up a home office or paying for childcare). | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/22 06:04 PM |
| -1 | Feminist FactsThe fact that I could pay the last 20k of student loans doesn't change the fact that I'd rather not. And it can make up for my younger years when I hadn't made it in my career and those payments were a much bigger burden. The way I see it, I pay a lot in taxes helping out less fortunate people- it's only fair if I get some of that back. I'm firmly of the opinion that state colleges should be 100% tuition funded by taxes. That's the case here in NY now for most middle class families, but not when… | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/22 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Feminist FactsJust because you took on student loans doesn't make it a bad choice. A college degree and years of hard work took me from poverty to upper middle class. And my daughter's preparing to take the MCAT to pursue a career in forensic pathology. Definitely a large debt/large reward situation. Both of us would qualify for the loan forgiveness program if it doesn't get struck down. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/22 03:11 PM |
| 3 | Feminist FactsI'm not a legistator, so I'm not sure why you think I'd be passing anything. We'll just have to wait and see what happens, since legality in this case is up for interpretation. But it would be nice to see some govt programs that help the middle class- the ones paying the taxes. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/22 02:49 PM |
| 5 | Feminist FactsMore of a class justice issue than a gender justice issue, IMO. Rising college expenses disproportionately hurt the poor, regardless of gender. And college is almost a requirement when companies want a degree for even entry level positions. I'm pretty stoked about the student loan forgiveness. It'll wipe out 20k out of the 25k I still owe and my college student kid will have her entire 10k loan erased. It's nice to get something back for all the taxes my family pays. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/22 02:34 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone know what they're talking about? I'm confusedWell, it's an issue if she's doing all the cooking, cleaning, errands and childcare. Even stay at home wives need time off from their jobs and husbands should want to make sure the work is divided equally. But most families with kids are dual income and it's a huge problem when both are working but one partner is doing more at home. I had to put my foot down pretty early in my marriage to make things equal. My husband didn't realize how much more time I spent working when we divided things along… | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/22 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone know what they're talking about? I'm confusedIn my experience, taking care of a toddler full time while cooking and cleaning was a lot more draining than the 9-5 office work I do now. Of course, having a very physical job would be a whole different thing. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/22 12:37 PM |
| 0 | Does anyone know what they're talking about? I'm confusedMost families with kids, both parents work. Working women also do a heck of a lot of unpaid labor. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/22 12:20 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone know what they're talking about? I'm confusedAll that home related stuff is very socioeconomic class dependent though. I'm upper middle class and the common thing is to pay someone for any car maintenance and home maintenance. If we're hiring someone to do all that "fix-it" of course I'm going to expect my husband to do 50% of the housework and cooking. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/11/22 12:16 PM |
| 1 | Feminists Think It's Easy To Replicate MenThey knew they were privileged to be taken care of and most importantly, they didn't complain like feminist women today do. But, women were complaining about being financially dependent on men since basically forever. It's a pretty common theme in literature written by women. The Brontes, Louisa May Alcott and Edith Wharton wrote about it. Jane Austin used the issues arising from financial dependence in all of her novels. Mirasaki Shikibu wrote about it in the first novel ever written (roughly 1… | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/11/22 11:44 AM |
| 4 | The Word "Incel" Is Becoming More And More Meta and MisusedAny community supporting men without sex, no matter how well-intentioned or even feminist it may be, is doomed to be used for all sorts of malicious mockery. I don't think mockery is the problem here. Most people who aren't on gender based discussion boards only hear about incels in the news. And incels that make the news are violent, extraordinarily bitter towards woman/society/sexually active people, post rants about overthrowing society, feel they are entitled to sex, and are talked about by … | /r/AntiFeminists | 31/10/22 10:31 AM |
| 1 | "Wife material is sexist."Also in my experience, “marriage material” is not a complement given to women by men, it is a way men describe a woman to each other Honestly, I've only ever heard the term from an older relative/family friend to a young woman about what she should/shouldn't do to be good wife material. And it's basically shorthand for "trad wife." It's been 15 years at least since I heard the expression irl. And I can still picture the way my mom rolled her eyes when grandma said it. Eta- I used to get the "wif… | /r/AntiFeminists | 31/10/22 02:43 AM |
| 2 | "Wife material is sexist."Well, good job being cryptic. Keep up the good work. | /r/AntiFeminists | 31/10/22 02:31 AM |
| 2 | "Wife material is sexist."I'm not sure why you think that. | /r/AntiFeminists | 31/10/22 02:25 AM |
| 4 | The Word "Incel" Is Becoming More And More Meta and MisusedI think the definition of "incel" in public opinion has changed so much from the original meaning that actual "involuntary celibates" would be better off coining a new term. Search for "incel definition" and all the top entries include hatred towards women and sexually active people as well as extreme views. I think it's fair to say that's what most people think an incel is. | /r/AntiFeminists | 31/10/22 01:23 AM |
| 0 | "Wife material is sexist."Did you not see the many times I mentioned being married? Sure, marriage exists, but the way we talk about it changes. We also don't use the terms "ball and chain", "marriage market" or "getting your Mrs. degree" anymore. | /r/AntiFeminists | 30/10/22 09:46 PM |
| 1 | "Wife material is sexist."Yeah, you kind of missed my point. I don't care if you use the phrase "wife material." I'll just think you sound like my grandma when you do. People my generation and younger don't say that, in my experience. It's not a value judgement, just a personal observation. | /r/AntiFeminists | 30/10/22 11:09 AM |
| 0 | "Wife material is sexist."Can't say I agree, there's a lot more room for variations in taste when you'll be with the other person 24/7. Regardless, I only hear older generations using the term "wife material," so it makes me think of old people. 🤷♀️ The last time I heard it IRL was after my grandma gave me a lecture about the importance of being a frugal homemaker. Maybe 15 years ago? | /r/AntiFeminists | 30/10/22 02:26 AM |
| -3 | "Wife material is sexist."What makes a great spouse is very personal, though. Much more so than "CEO material"- that's a phrase I do hear used, or "manager material." But a good spouse is going to be different for everyone. My husband is perfect for me. But his specific set of personality traits, skills and interests wouldn't be everyone's cup of tea. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/10/22 10:05 PM |
| -10 | "Wife material is sexist."If the topic comes up, it's better to describe the characteristics you think makes a desirable partner, or better yet, the individual possessing them (ie your significant other). There's no one size fits all checklist of what makes a "good wife" so a little description avoids confusion. Personally, I often refer to my husband as just "a keeper." Works for either gender and doesn't sound all 1950s. Tbh, I've never had a man I was in a romantic relationship with refer to me as "wife material" but … | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/10/22 09:18 PM |
| -13 | "Wife material is sexist.""Wife material" always seemed like such a weird complement to me- it feels too dated to use sincerely. It's just the sort of thing my grandparents or old aunts would say. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/10/22 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Women don't have each other's backsI have- 2 years at a women's college. It was great. Just a really friendly and welcoming atmosphere. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/10/22 10:43 AM |
| 2 | Men, Feminist Women Are Unworthy To Protect & Die ForTake some responsibility if you're told you will be drafted don't have children. By that logic no one should have children if everyone's registered for the draft. Since anyone could be called at any time. Wouldn't it make more sense for one of the parents to be exempted? Either one- could be picked randomly. Or have mom and dad serve one after the other rather than simultaneously? It seems really unlikely the govt would draft both parents at the same time anyway because of the logistical headach… | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/10/22 10:15 AM |
| 3 | Women don't have each other's backsThat's awesome! I've noticed a lot more prom/formal dresses have pockets now too. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/10/22 09:43 AM |
| 1 | Women don't have each other's backsThat's great, I love it! | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/10/22 09:40 AM |
| -1 | Men, Feminist Women Are Unworthy To Protect & Die ForAs a woman, I'd rather have help with the housework. Dishes need to be done every day. But in over 20 years of marriage my husband has never needed to protect me. I'm not even sure what he's supposed be protecting me from. | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/10/22 09:33 PM |
| 6 | Women don't have each other's backsDepends on whether the dress has pockets. If it does, they'll just talk about how great the pockets are. Other than prom or their wedding, women don't really mind if someone else wears the same dress. | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/10/22 09:19 PM |
| 1 | 45% Of Women Will Be Single & Childless By 2030it doesn't negate the general message No, it really does. Blatantly misrepresenting studies to fit a narrative hurts whatever point someone's trying to make by casting doubt on their integrity. This isn't an oopsie where statistics are a bit off. The video creator straight up pulled "information" out of her butt to be sensationalist, knowing most people wouldn't bother to check sources. | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/10/22 12:02 PM |
| 3 | 45% Of Women Will Be Single & Childless By 2030All the same barriers to parenthood still exist with adoption, plus the expense of the adoption itself. The US just isn't family friendly, economically speaking. | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/10/22 11:08 AM |
| 7 | 45% Of Women Will Be Single & Childless By 2030The current economic situation in the US really disincentivizes people from having children. There's no paid parental leave for a lot of people (it's at your employer's discretion). Healthcare is expensive, with poor coverage. There's a shortage of childcare providers, making it expensive and difficult to find. And wages have been stagnant for awhile. People are more likely to put off having kids and have fewer of them because they just can't afford it. | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/10/22 10:50 AM |
| 10 | 45% Of Women Will Be Single & Childless By 2030The video title is kind of clickbait- that's not what that study found at all. First off, this is a projected increase from 41% single (2018) to 45% single (2030). Yes, it's a shift, but you have to put that in perspective. Second, the study mentioned doesn't make any claim about childlessness. That group of "single women" includes single moms and divorcees. Of course some of those people will have kids. Third, the study doesn't claim that 45% of all women will be single by 2030. What it actuall… | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/10/22 10:18 AM |
| 7 | What are your thoughts on the Passport Bros?They do socialize with just their friends...right? Separate from their husbands? I may be misreading what you meant, but it kind of sounds like they don't. That's not a great situation to be in, especially for someone who's a transplant. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/10/22 07:34 PM |
| 1 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?Also required them to be faithful, and that is a sacrifice Wow, that's a pretty gross way of looking at it. The idea that you're missing out on something by being faithful, that is. I know I'd be deeply hurt to find out my partner felt that way. Overall, your characterization of "western women" doesn't describe the experiences of the large portion of the population that a) work and b) stay married. It's a pretty insulting generalization for those who do. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/10/22 03:26 PM |
| 3 | female privilege rantthe stereotypes associated with being a white woman are almost entirely good It's kind of a mixed bag, honestly. There's quite a bit of positive stereotypes, but being seen as weak, helpless, ditzy or a Karen are negative. Or the idea that white women are nonthreatening- it can be negative or positive depending on the situation. However, all of these preconceptions are part of why white woman privilege exists. So even the negative ones are useful. | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/10/22 09:56 AM |
| 9 | female privilege rantNot quite what you wrote, but I do sometimes feel like I have "white woman privilege." Kind of the opposite of how POC are more likely to be followed in stores and stopped by police. As an upper middle class white woman, no one suspects me of doing anything wrong...ever. Not that I'm breaking any major laws, but no one ever stops me for stuff that should probably be questioned, like opening packages in stores or being in technically off limits areas. I also never get pulled over for traffic viol… | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/10/22 04:22 PM |
| -1 | I’ll just leave this hereThere's a roughly equal number of overweight men vs women in both the UK and US though. So those fit men are choosing to be with overweight women. I mean, it's not like there's a huge surplus of fit men so they had no other options. But the narrative in The US/UK etc is that it's offensive to not desire fat women. This statement has always confused me. I see men say this online, but don't see it in real life. There's the body positive movement, but that seems to be more about destigmatizing bein… | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/10/22 02:11 PM |
| 0 | I’ll just leave this hereUmmm- the link actually doesn't open for me either. Eta- geez, I thought you'd want to know... | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/10/22 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?You asked how to get on the gravy train, I answered the question. Marry and divorce again and again to steal their belongings. Well, thanks for answering my question. I guess there's no way I can ever be "supported by a man my whole life" then, since I haven't been repeatedly divorced. Seems like that'd have to be true for the rest of the women in the 50% of marriages that don't end in divorce, too. OP must have been mistaken after all. | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/10/22 12:00 AM |
| -6 | I’ll just leave this hereHonestly, I don't think the women's ads are bad at all. There's one slim model, one older model (60s?) in typical shape for that age group, and a plus sized woman modeling briefs and shape wear. It seems like a product mostly marketed to plus sized women should be modeled by women of representative size, but maybe it's just me? The men's ads are ridiculous, IMO. I would like to see more average shape male models too, but is that what men want? I can't really tell from the comments on pics like t… | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 11:11 PM |
| 10 | I’ll just leave this herewill live longer than those women. They'll definitely live longer than the grandma aged one. | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 10:56 PM |
| 2 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?You don't actually talk to any faithful wives with successful kids. So, I'm going to stop you right there. I am the faithful wife with a successful kid. My child is a college student with full tuition STEM scholarship from the state and is studying for her MCAT. Everything else you wrote is clearly also pulled directly from your ass. I've had a job since I was 17 and was kicked out by my parents at 18, when I was a legal adult. When my husband and I married, we had nothing but student debt and a… | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 06:00 PM |
| 3 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?But again, as explained, anecdotal evidence is irrelevant. Not when you're slinging personal barbs... Statistically it's simply wrong. It's not, though. 62% of families with children in the US are dual income according to the Bureau of Labor (https://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/famee.pdf). Also, still unclear what you think I should "work more" on. You know, since I was insulted by OPs statement. Where have I said that? It's implied. When I ask how to be fully supported by a man and you suggest… | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 05:03 PM |
| 3 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?Are you saying that the "rule" is that women are on govt assistance? And that men don't use social programs at all? Or male children? No welfare, food stamps, FMLA leave, govt sponsored heath insurance or SSDI? The US Census Bureau seems to think benefits recipients are nearly evenly split by sex (51% female and 48% male). https://www.census.gov/library/stories/2022/05/who-is-receiving-social-safety-net-benefits.html Did you not see the OP this comment's on? The one about western women bring sup… | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 01:44 PM |
| 3 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?Oh, I don't mind the taxes, or the social programs- I certainly voted for them. It's just ludicrous to suggest women aren't also paying for them. I don't get it- why are y'all so eager to defend a post that's pretty insulting to any women who do earn their own way? Why should women even bother if they're getting dragged through the mud either way? | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 01:10 PM |
| 3 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?It's not even most women getting public assistance, and it generally lasts only a few years, not for life. But we're pretty far down the garden path on this. OP stated western women were being supported by men all their lives. Even if more women do receive govt assistance, it doesn't translate to "all women" or even "most women." I don't get it- why are y'all so eager to defend a post that's pretty insulting to any women who do earn their own way? Why should women even bother if they're getting … | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 01:08 PM |
| 5 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?But so am I. The only government money I ever received was for college tuition, but I pay a heck of a lot in taxes. Therefore, I'm also paying child support by proxy. | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 01:03 PM |
| 2 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?I am sure you believe you and your ladies work hard, but in the end its just that. A belief Maybe you're right. But as long as my employer keeps paying my 75k salary, I'm gonna keep believing it. but in most instances where the man bought it before ever meeting you and paid for it himself entirely Interestingly enough, single women are more likely to own homes than single men, but the largest chunk of homebuyers by far is couples. https://www.nar.realtor/blogs/economists-outlook/single-women-buy… | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 12:08 PM |
| 3 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?And commonly, the work women does is a fraction of what the man does, I don't know who you hang around with, but the wives I know all work full time. You've gotta have those two incomes to support a family. When most couples can't afford to have one parent SAH, it's silly to think a woman and multiple children could live off just half the marital assets and a percentage of the father's income. The math just doesn't work. Whatever he earned before you met you can take too, his house? Oh good, I c… | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 11:29 AM |
| 1 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?Marry or live with a man for a little bit and you can take half his stuff and demand he pays for you lazing about for the rest of your life "to support the lifestyle you are accustomed to But it's only "half his stuff" if the woman doesn't have a job. I work (like all the married women/moms I know) so if we divorced and I got half the stuff it would just be...my stuff. It seems like the only way for this to work is to marry a very rich man to begin with. So you should probably list that as step … | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 11:01 AM |
| 2 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?Well, the Supreme Court case granting the right to buy and use contraceptives without govt restrictions (Griswold v. Connecticut) is based on the same "right to privacy" argument as Roe. Justice Thomas has said it's time for the court to reexamine this one on the same grounds. But the main problem with contraceptives depends on when you think conception happens. An increasingly vocal group of pro lifers claim it's at fertilization, even though obgyns would say it's at implantation. Plan B works … | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 06:24 AM |
| 1 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?That wouldn't be "supported their entire lives by men" though. It's being supported by taxpayers. Women also work and pay taxes. | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 06:02 AM |
| -2 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?How do I get on that gravy train? I'm a Western woman and raised a kid all the way to 20 (so far). I still had to work the whole time unless I wanted to always be just scraping by. | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 01:17 AM |
| 2 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?Wow, the original thread really blew up. | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 01:12 AM |
| -1 | Are they just making up hypothetical scenarios to be upset by now?Not just abortions. GOP lawmakers have made it clear that birth control is next on the chopping block. | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/10/22 12:34 AM |
| 1 | How could you find out of a woman is feminist and what are her actual beliefs?What answer are you looking for here? If I'm honest, I couldn't be bothered to follow the whole thing, and it's not something I hear many people talking about irl. I see some mentions on reddit, but that's about it. | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/10/22 03:29 AM |
| 2 | How could you find out of a woman is feminist and what are her actual beliefs?But you notice that you acknowledge the same, lesser concern about the other person. Who said it's a lesser concern? I never wanted a ride on the village bicycle, no matter how charming he may be. but you take it for granted that you can assume most guys who talk to who look fairly competent and have put together are not on the extreme end of the spectrum, Not quite. I'm married now, but when I dated it was always someone I already knew at least somewhat, usually in my friend group. And I take a… | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/10/22 08:38 PM |
| 1 | How could you find out of a woman is feminist and what are her actual beliefs?I might ask sort jokingly, and say, "as long it's not, like, a hundred, or anything..." As a person who's had very few partners, this would make me worried about your history. As in, a guy asking this too early on, with too large a number, is kinda red flag. You should definitely proceed with caution on this topic. | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/10/22 05:16 PM |
| 5 | How could you find out of a woman is feminist and what are her actual beliefs?But basically every other woman will talk about it too. Everyone's fired up, whether they're for or against. But the only people I hear admitting to being glad Roe was overturned are the very religious. Like my cousin. She'll go on about how happy she is that Roe was overturned, but she also "adopted" unused frozen fertilized eggs leftover from a stranger's IVF- to have a "snowflake baby". So I take any opinions of hers with a huge grain of salt. | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/10/22 04:31 PM |
| -1 | What the hell do feminists think using their keys as weapons are effective at all? They are better off using their fists.No one's saying you should stand and fight. The keys are to gouge at your attacker if you're grabbed or cornered- to try to get loose so you can run. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/10/22 01:13 PM |
| 3 | What the hell do feminists think using their keys as weapons are effective at all? They are better off using their fists.I could see that- you'd have to be in just the right position for that to work. If I remember correctly you should only try it if you're facing the attacker has ahold of both your hands. The basic gist of every self defense class I've been to is just cause enough pain and surprise to break the attacker's hold and escape. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/10/22 12:47 PM |
| 28 | What the hell do feminists think using their keys as weapons are effective at all? They are better off using their fists.A lot of kids come home to an empty house after school because their parents work. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/10/22 12:21 PM |
| 3 | What the hell do feminists think using their keys as weapons are effective at all? They are better off using their fists.Why do women think using their keys as weapons is effective? Because that's one of the things taught in self defense classes- gouge at the face/eyes with keys. Also making a lot of noise, breaking a finger, biting or kicking in the crotch. And as soon as you have an opening, run like hell. I know nearly any man could overpower me, and that makes me on the alert for any advantages in potentially risky situations. Using my fists definitely isn't one of them. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/10/22 11:47 AM |
| 2 | Cuz fuck men amirite fellas, they don’t need to eatWIC eligibility is based on the parent's income and age of children (under 5). Doesn't matter the gender of the parent. Even some married couples qualify for the program. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/10/22 11:09 AM |
| 25 | Cuz fuck men amirite fellas, they don’t need to eatI think you're upset about the wrong program. WIC is a supplemental program for children. Some key foods (like dairy) are included for women while pregnant and breastfeeding because the infant is getting it's nutrition from the mother's body. SNAP is the US program for feeding adults. That's where we should be correcting inequalities between sexes. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/10/22 03:42 AM |
| 0 | SHOCKING: Liberal women are the least happy in the USANo, I think I heard you loud and clear. You've got this idea that liberals (30% of US population!) are miserable and can't sleep because of their 1st world privilege. And then you doubled down on it. You have to admit it sounds kind of silly. I'm also a bit puzzled that caring about the environment, working families, reproductive rights and LGBTQ rights apparently makes me "radical." Those are pretty basic concerns, especially for people with kids. I'm not sure what's wrong with admitting that t… | /r/AntiFeminists | 20/10/22 12:14 PM |
| 0 | Girls dont' know wuat it's like to be under attackAre you sure you want to set that precedent? Next you'll have people wanting 20 years of women/african american only voting to make up for all the years they were disenfranchised. That's equality too, right? | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/10/22 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Girls dont' know wuat it's like to be under attackIf the US runs out of 20 and 30 year olds to draft, being called to serve is the last thing men my age have to worry about. I'm not sure why you think ending the draft is so preposterous- it's happened before. We have an obscenely large volunteer military now. And ending the draft has been introduced as a bill in congress. It's only a matter of time before it's gone. | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/10/22 02:10 PM |
| 0 | Girls dont' know wuat it's like to be under attackSo what you really want is punishment, not equality. I have no problem registering for a draft- I know I won't be called anyway. But I have a strong moral objection to enrolling unwilling people in the military, regardless of gender. | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/10/22 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Girls dont' know wuat it's like to be under attackI'm not sure what you want here. I'm all for equality, but apparently not the flavor you prefer. 🤷♀️ | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/10/22 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Girls dont' know wuat it's like to be under attackI'll gladly demand the equality of eliminating the draft. I'm strongly against forcing people into being soldiers. And I have signed petitions and written congresspeople about it a few times back when there was a chance (albeit miniscule) my male cohorts could be drafted. | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/10/22 11:28 AM |
| 3 | Girls dont' know wuat it's like to be under attackPersonally, I think no one should do that- timr to eliminate the draft. But I wouldn't care at all if I had to register because I know I won't be called. And neither will men my age (40), so what are they still complaining about? It's been 50 years since the draft was enforced and it's very unpopular. I really don't see anyone being at risk of being called up. | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/10/22 11:16 AM |
| -2 | Girls dont' know wuat it's like to be under attackI have all the respect in the world for men who were drafted to serve- both my grandfathers were. But no one from my generation onward has been drafted in the US (even my father was just too young for Vietnam). So when men my age complain about the inequality, it rings hollow. They weren't called to serve and were never in any danger. However, it's well past time to eliminate the draft altogether. All volunteer military is the way to go. | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/10/22 10:59 AM |
| 0 | SHOCKING: Liberal women are the least happy in the USAfor a lot of Liberals, there is this belief that there are too many bad things in the world. Like for example pollution. There is too much of and no clear solution to fixing it. World Hunger, there's starving people in 3rd world nations and yet here we are behind computer screens talking about them instead of fixing them. I don't think this is a fair representation of liberals in general. Most realize there actually is quite a lot that can be done to fix these problems but are frustrated when ou… | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/10/22 09:34 AM |
| 1 | SHOCKING: Liberal women are the least happy in the USADo you mean insurance purchased from the state? Most people get insurance through their employers, not the state. I have a high deductible insurance plan and it doesn't cover any of the cost of doctor's visits until I reach the $5k deductible for the year. My daughter saw a psychologist for 8 months and the copay was $100 per weekly visit. I have generalized anxiety and just can't justify spending that much on myself, so I get pills for $5/month from my gp. Not exactly the best course of treatme… | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/10/22 09:12 AM |
| 1 | SHOCKING: Liberal women are the least happy in the USABut...hippies aren't still a thing, are they? It's all hipsters going to bougie farmer's markets and drinking fair trade coffee now. | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/10/22 04:22 PM |
| 1 | SHOCKING: Liberal women are the least happy in the USATo be fair, most people can't afford #5. Universal healthcare would certainly help. US healthcare really is a joke. I'm curious why you think liberals don't groom themselves. I live in NY, most the people I meet are pretty liberal. They look just like everyone else. | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/10/22 02:29 PM |
| 1 | TRADCON Laundry A short little video about what men want from a woman. enjoy Part 2I'm a little jelly. How do I get my husband to stop hoarding clothes so they actually fit in his closet? He thinks the solution is to renovate to make a walk-in. No, love- you just need to purge all the ratty t-shirts and things you haven't worn in 3 years. Also- nice closet! | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/10/22 10:47 AM |
| 7 | 'Sad, unfulfilled, broken woman': Woke writer rants about horrors of marriage for straight womenI read the author's original post (https://mobile.twitter.com/iproposethis/status/1580760545656913921) and I definitely didn't get the feeling she disliked marriage, her life, or her husband. Also, all but a few of the points could be read as gender neutral. She just happens to be writing it from a woman's perspective. There's certainly a good amount of truth here for anyone considering marriage. Love isn't enough to keep a marriage strong- it takes a lot of hard work. It's difficult to balance … | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/10/22 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseMy mistake. I was under the impression you only needed a custodial parent to sign. I'm all for making paternity tests easily accessible. But mandating them is just too far. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/10/22 10:11 PM |
| 2 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseThere's already a huge backlog of DNA tests in the US waiting to be processed and we haven't automated yet. It's almost offensive to think we'd put the resources into getting paternity tests cleared but not criminal cases. But if we're going to go that route, what would be really helpful to society is mandating DNA testing for cancer risk and other diseases. And the most important bit- mandating insurance companies to pay for them. That's a real benefit to society. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/10/22 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseTechnically, driving, going to school and inoculations aren't mandatory. It's perfectly legal to take public transport, teach your kids at home and not vaccinate. And those things have way more of an impact on society. If someone chooses not to do a paternity test, that affects him and his direct family. I just don't think the benefit to society at large (and I'm not convinced there is one) justifies infringing upon the individual's rights. You don't have to be a cheater to be against unnecessar… | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/10/22 10:07 PM |
| 0 | This femnist argument has annoyed me the most...To be honest, I don't hear this complaint as much now that there's such a broad content range in anime/video games. There's something for every interest, so it's easy to avoid the ones you don't like. As far as sexualized men, I always think of Victor and his pole dancing friends from Yuri on Ice. Pure thirst from that group. https://images.app.goo.gl/c65JeBuTEhzaZ57X7 https://images.app.goo.gl/keKqJuBdMmPZ9wwp7 Or the twincest boys from High School Host Club: https://images.app.goo.gl/gCiWzphpu… | /r/AntiFeminists | 16/10/22 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseFirst off, I'm no more combatative than you. Secondly, I don't like people who try to force others to live the way they think is correct. It's arrogance to assume you need to protect other people from their own decisions. I can think of several reasons why people wouldn't want mandatory testing, but the most important is that it's morally wrong to force people to undergo medical testing they don't want. You shouldn't need any more of an argument than that. | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/10/22 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseBut what gives you the right to make that decision for someone else? You're trying to force your beliefs on everyone else. If I grab a father off the street and asks if he wants a paternity test on his child(ren)- shouldn't his opinion mean something? Doubly so if the cost of that test will be billed to him. If he's not worried about it, there's no reason we should be. Men who are worried about the possibility of fraud are still free to test to their heart's content. Also, no other genetic testi… | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/10/22 07:20 PM |
| 1 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseWho are these men ? Regular men irl who don't even know what the "manosphere" is, apparently. I have literally never had a man say he was in support of mandatory paternity testing, and my social circle is almost exclusively married people with kids. I had never heard such a thing suggested until I saw it on this subreddit and my husband laughed when I asked what he thought about it. And that's not even considering how people lose their shit at the idea of government mandate in medical issues. Pe… | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/10/22 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseI don't think this statement should make anyone happy. It should be somewhat comforting to know that 17% of paternity tests negative =/= 17% of total kids are not their father's biological child. It's a meaningless statistic because it's pulled from a heavily self selected group. Mandatory testing will likely hurt people's pocketbooks, which hurts both men and women. And it could pull workers off other DNA testing- criminal cases are already badly backlogged. Look, I'm all for testing being avai… | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/10/22 04:37 PM |
| 0 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseI saw a stat that stated that more than 17% of tests for couples who obtained paternity testing in the US were negative Keep in mind, that's not a random sampling of parents. People who get paternity tests already have a reason to think their spouse is cheating. All the happily married couples didn't bother to get one, so it will be a much higher rate of "not his kid" than the general population. What that stat really says is "out of men who thought their spouse got pregnant by another man, 83% … | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/10/22 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseThe test...most people don't care about having a paternity test. I know a lot of parents and not one has ever said they wished they had or could get a paternity test. That's something people ask for if they think their partner is unfaithful. Sure, test if you have concerns. The sell kits right at the drugstore. But tests for everyone, whether they want them or not, is a lot of expense and resources. | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/10/22 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseI think the issue hinges on there being conflicting rights once the baby is born. When a woman is pregnant, her own right to bodily autonomy absolutely trumps any claim a developing fetus may have on it. It's well established legally that a person cannot be required to use (and especially risk harm to) their body to save another person's life. But once the baby is born that child also has rights, including a minimum standard of living. And if the father isn't paying child support, the expense fo… | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/10/22 12:09 PM |
| 4 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseIf there's any political issue you're passionate about, make sure you're emailing candidates to let them know why you are (or aren't) considering voting for them. That's how politicians get information about what their constituents care about. | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/10/22 09:03 AM |
| 1 | Your Support For Pro-Choice Politicians Must Hinge On Whether Or Not They Actively Support A Male Right To ChooseWhenever people bring up mandatory paternity tests, I wonder what the plan is for making this happen. Who would pay for them? And who would process them? There's already a shortage of services in the US doing DNA testing. This would require a huge amount of resources for something many people don't even care about having. | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/10/22 08:59 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the post in the middle? Had to repost again, sorry.For sure. | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/10/22 08:02 PM |
| 0 | Anyone thoughts on this particular post?How could you call this equal? Pharmacists are refusing to fill prescriptions for women of childbearing age because those drugs could be used to induce an abortion. But the women being denied aren't pregnant and the drugs are prescribed for other conditions. Men can still get the same medications with no issue. Equal would be banning any drug that could possibly be used as an abortifacient, regardless of the patient's gender. What's happening now is straight up discrimination. | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/10/22 02:44 PM |
| 1 | A short little video about what men want from a woman. enjoy.It always boggles my mind when SAH hire cleaners. Like, how can they afford it? Together we make upwards of 150k, but it still doesn't seem like enough for cleaners or lawn service. Equal relationships aren't as rare as all that, but you don't really hear about it as much. When you're settled into well functioning marriage, there's really not much to say about it, you know? Among people I know, it's more likely for couples to work fine as roomies/partners but lose the romance. I'm lucky enough t… | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/10/22 04:28 PM |
| 1 | "Geeks weren't bullied because they bullied women."I agree. In the 80s it was the popular kids (boys and girls) laughing at the "nerds." But now all that nerdy stuff is popular. It's not a feminism thing...what's "in" has changed. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/10/22 10:12 AM |
| 1 | "Geeks weren't bullied because they bullied women."Girls absolutely get bullied at school. For being shy, or not in the popular group, or wearing the wrong clothes, or being poor. Maybe you missed it because the bullys are usually also girls? My daughter had the extra fun of being harassed by some asshats for being LGBTQ and founder of the Gay Straight Alliance at her high school. And the school blew off the complaints until my husband called the principal and used the magic word- "discrimination." Bullying is definitely an issue we all need to … | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/10/22 10:09 AM |
| 1 | A short little video about what men want from a woman. enjoy.It matters because by day 5 the meal tastes like microwaved fridge sweat haha and its probably the same fing thing every day that week. Just PSA, it doesn't have to be like that. The trick is to cook a bunch of different things and mix and match them with whatever leftovers there are during the week. On Sunday I made a batch of chicken korma, sautéed chicken strips, roasted veggies and garlic cloves and cut up cheese and salad veggies. During the week we'll take turns having korma, salads, bento… | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/10/22 01:15 AM |
| 2 | A short little video about what men want from a woman. enjoy.First off, it's eggs and bacon, not haute cuisine. It's a 5-10 minute meal, tops. Second, I'm not sure how batch cooking "doesn't count." Why would it matter if I cook 5 lunches in one day or 1 each day? It's the same number of meals. Finally, if we order in, the kitchen didn't get dirty, so his part of the deal is already done. How is that unfair? | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/10/22 11:26 PM |
| 1 | A short little video about what men want from a woman. enjoy.If my husband made 75k+ when we were first together, I would probably have stayed home while our daughter was pre-k. It certainly would have been easier for both of us, since we worked opposite shifts at the time. My husband doesn't really eat breakfast (and definitely not that one), but I'd make his other meals. I already do, mostly. I batch cook lunches every Sunday and make dinner nightly unless we get delivery. And my husband cleans up, so we're 50-50. I actually tried the whole SAH thing fo… | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/10/22 11:02 PM |
| 2 | A short little video about what men want from a woman. enjoy.Rich is relative, of course. Where I live it would take $75k min to support a family in financial stability. That is, to raise children, own a home and save for college/retirement. It's over 70th percentile for income and not many young men fit the bill. Definitely none of the men who asked me made that much. Because of this, most women just can't be SAH. It'snot realistic. Which is why I'm always s ranching my head over "what men want." Irl, men usually pick a woman who works to help support th… | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/10/22 08:12 PM |
| 5 | A short little video about what men want from a woman. enjoy.I guess I wasn't hanging out where the rich guys are. None of the men who wanted to marry me could afford to support a family on one income. I mean, my husband can afford it now, but our daughter's already in college so it's kind of silly to stay home at this point. | /r/AntiFeminists | 11/10/22 07:07 PM |
| 3 | How Andrew Tate Destroyed FeminismTheir’s also research “proving” that aliens are real, do you believe that as well? Are you saying you can't tell the difference between empirical studies and whackadoos peddling ufo theories? Geez... No one's saying people should "just accept" depression. They should get therapy from a licensed healthcare professional and maybe try antidepressants. You know, the treatments with proven results. Telling people with mental illnesses to just think positive is supremely unhelpful. | /r/AntiFeminists | 10/10/22 10:44 PM |
| 4 | How Andrew Tate Destroyed FeminismJust because you got better without medical intervention doesn't mean depression isn't real. That's like saying broken bones aren't real because they sometimes heal on their own. There's decades of research providing evidence for depression, including physical changes in the brain. https://www.webmd.com/depression/depression-physical-effects-brain Treating mental illness as a weakness people should just get over does a real disservice to people who are suffering. They need better access to thera… | /r/AntiFeminists | 10/10/22 09:21 PM |
| 7 | How Andrew Tate Destroyed FeminismIsn't he that guy that said depression isn't real during suicide prevention month? | /r/AntiFeminists | 10/10/22 12:55 AM |
| 4 | Does anybody actually believe the “root cause” of 2x posts is anything other than entitled idiocy?B/c some rando on reddit is more reliable? | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/10/22 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Does anybody actually believe the “root cause” of 2x posts is anything other than entitled idiocy?Evidence? It's a discussion, not a trial, lol. I was just giving an example. I figured you also followed the news on Reddit. Here's just a couple of articles discussing the danger. The first time I even heard of an incel was in a report of a violent crime. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2021/mar/03/incel-movement-terror-threat-canada https://www.reuters.com/world/us/us-report-identifies-misogynist-incels-violence-threat-2022-03-15/ https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2022/09/22/i… | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/10/22 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Does anybody actually believe the “root cause” of 2x posts is anything other than entitled idiocy?Incels are demonized because of the increasing reports of irl violence. My husband just mentioned the other day how someone he went to high school with shot up a yoga studio and left a manifesto blaming some girl who rejected him as a teen. I really don't know if there are female incels committing these kinds of crimes and they aren't reported for some reason. But I'm not hearing about them and I can only be concerned about the things I know about. | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/10/22 04:04 PM |
| -1 | Does anybody actually believe the “root cause” of 2x posts is anything other than entitled idiocy?Who said I'm ok with that? Anyone threatening violence against others needs a good psych evaluation and less access to weapons. The existence of extremists in other groups doesn't excuse the behavior of the toxic incel community. | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/10/22 03:35 PM |
| 4 | Does anybody actually believe the “root cause” of 2x posts is anything other than entitled idiocy?Agreed. You can only read so many distopian fantasies about reassigning women as commodities before you lose compassion. Self proclaimed incels are frightening. You know, the ones living in those toxic echo chambers online, writing incel manifestos and harming women. | /r/AntiFeminists | 07/10/22 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Toxic Feminism Ruined DatingThat's only a bit more than 258 million, by around 74 million Yes, there are 74 million children. I really hope theyre not on OF. And there are roughly 258 million adults in the US, as I said previously. There's always going to be jobs where people get paid far more than seems fair for the amount of work they do, that's supply and demand. I sit in an office and make $80k/year while a warehouse worker at my company makes $15/hr. Fair? Doesn't matter. What I'm selling is in higher demand. In a cap… | /r/AntiFeminists | 05/10/22 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Toxic Feminism Ruined DatingMy point was that OF is still sex work Ngl, that's not how your original comment reads. It sounds like you're saying most women are making money on OF, when that's clearly impossible. Sex work has never bothered me- it's just another way of peddling vice. It's not something I'm interested in, but what consenting adults do together is really none of my business. 1.5 million content creators is from Only Fans own website (https://onlyfans.com/about). Compared to the 258 million adults in the US, t… | /r/AntiFeminists | 05/10/22 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Toxic Feminism Ruined DatingWhen OnlyFans is the rule rather than exception in terms of a "job," Ok, this is beyond ridiculous. Why make statements that are so obviously BS? OF has 1.5 million content creators. Even if they were all female, all doing sex work and all in the US (they're not) that would be 1% of women. Barely a blip on the statistical radar. | /r/AntiFeminists | 05/10/22 03:06 PM |
| 0 | Opinion on Maternity Paid Leave?It was oppressive when women didn't really have a choice, of course. "Wife" was just the expected career path. And that's pretty shitty for women that didn't fit the housewife mold. Most people can't afford to raise a family solo anyway, so it's kind of a moot point. At least that's how it is in the US. | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/10/22 09:53 PM |
| 1 | Opinion on Maternity Paid Leave?Well, sort of. Both my grandmothers took jobs for a couple years at a time to supplement the household income and one great grandma helped run the family farm. The main difference is that it was temporary work- they didn't have careers. The 1950s housewife image is a very idealized version of things. Putting that aside, needing two steady incomes to survive has been the norm since before I was born. I (and other moms) have to live in the world as it exists now. | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/10/22 10:51 AM |
| 3 | Opinion on Maternity Paid Leave?In my experience the main reason women don't stay home with their kids is money. I can't tell you how many female friends and coworkers wished they could stay home while their kids were 0-5 but just couldn't swing living on one income. When my daughter was little there was just no way to support the three of us on my husband's salary. Funny enough, I was sometimes criticized for being a working mom, but no one ever gave my husband heat over it. For a decision we made together, smh. | /r/AntiFeminists | 04/10/22 08:59 AM |
| 2 | Opinion on Maternity Paid Leave?What kind of antiworker nonsense is this? Paid paternal leave should exist for both parents. It benefits the parents, the child and society as a whole. As a worker, you shouldn't be so beholden to your job that you can't live your life. Here in NY the state will pay for any FMLA leave not covered by your employer. That includes up to 12 weeks parental leave (for biological or adopted children), leave to serve as caretaker for a seriously ill family member or time off to assist a family member in… | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/10/22 09:16 PM |
| 0 | I am going to debate some feminist what are your best talking pointsIn what way? | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/10/22 08:25 PM |
| 0 | I am going to debate some feminist what are your best talking pointsWhy does it matter why you call out? Where I live everyone at a company gets the same amount of sick time/PTO regardless of gender. Who cares if it's because of period pain, illness or just not feeling like going in? However, US companies are notoriously stingy with PTO. We really need a govt mandated paid leave min with a reasonable number of days off. | /r/AntiFeminists | 03/10/22 11:43 AM |
| – | How can I become a good tradwife?From a practical standpoint, you'll want to work on your SAH skillset. Cooking, cleaning, budgeting, household diy and classes in early childhood education/development. Honestly, most people would benefit from learning these skills. Even if you change your mind down the road, it won't be time wasted. When you're older, you need to be very careful choosing a partner to make sure their goals and values align with yours. Also, that you have compatible personalities. Choosing the right person to beg… | /r/AntiFeminists | 02/10/22 02:46 PM |
| 2 | what do you guys think about the gender wage gap I don’t believe it’s realIn my experience, women are less likely to ask for raises and accept "no" more easily than their male counterparts. Also, they seem more willing to stick it out with a company when they're underpaid and less likely to negotiate higher salary when offered a job. It stands to reason their relative income would be affected. As a woman, it took me a while to be able to demand fair pay at work and I try to help me coworkers out with negotiating advice. I really think these skills should be more widel… | /r/AntiFeminists | 01/10/22 06:38 PM |
| 3 | So apparently I’m “policing” women by saying that wearing revealing clothes isn’t always a good idea.I sincerely hope you called the police when you saw women being assaulted. I've been harassed by men (never full on assaulted) and it was always in an isolated area. Criminals don't usually want a witness. There's been a bunch of different exhibits done showing what women were wearing when they were raped. You should check them out- it's very enlightening. https://dovecenter.org/what-were-you-wearing-exhibit/ | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/09/22 09:15 PM |
| 2 | So apparently I’m “policing” women by saying that wearing revealing clothes isn’t always a good idea.No worries! | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/09/22 08:14 PM |
| 3 | So apparently I’m “policing” women by saying that wearing revealing clothes isn’t always a good idea.You're making a big assumption that women wearing revealing clothing are more likely to be assaulted. The evidence doesn't support that. Everyone from HS health teachers to self defense instructors reiterates that rape is about violence and that attackers choose their victims based on opportunity and a desire to hurt- not on sexual desire. So, why on earth would women worry about wearing revealing clothes when it doesn't make a bit of difference to their safety? If you really want to know if wom… | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/09/22 08:10 PM |
| 2 | So apparently I’m “policing” women by saying that wearing revealing clothes isn’t always a good idea.You're absolutely right- no one should be shamed for being a victim. My point was that there are some actions women can take to increase their safety, but changing their clothes isn't one of them. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/09/22 07:50 PM |
| 2 | So apparently I’m “policing” women by saying that wearing revealing clothes isn’t always a good idea.Actually, the way I took your comment is a pretty accurate representation of the situation. Predatory men target women who are alone, regardless of what they're wearing. The solution isn't to change your clothes, it's to be vigilant of your situation. Or, to put it another way, wearing revealing clothes in a mall (or busy street, or crowded club) is perfectly safe. But stay out of that dark alley no matter what you're wearing. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/09/22 05:28 PM |
| 5 | So apparently I’m “policing” women by saying that wearing revealing clothes isn’t always a good idea.But it's being in the ghetto that's a problem in that analogy. You can wear a Rolex nearly anywhere with no ill effects. Life lesson: stay out of the ghetto. | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/09/22 05:04 PM |
| 4 | So apparently I’m “policing” women by saying that wearing revealing clothes isn’t always a good idea.I'm not sure it really matters what a woman wears in terms of likelihood of SA. The "What Were They Wearing" exhibit is pretty eye opening in terms of clothing choices and assault. https://dovecenter.org/what-were-you-wearing-exhibit/ Personally, if I wear skimpy, sexy clothes it's to a club or party, and I always go with a date or friends. I've rarely been harassed in a situation like that. When I have been harassed it's opportunistic, ie. when I'm alone. Regardless of what I was wearing. And o… | /r/AntiFeminists | 29/09/22 03:44 PM |
| 1 | I trolled the trolls (with predictable results)in a way, she was right to dupe them. But, in another way, she also thought it was right to dupe them. I don't see how it's duping someone if they make an assumption that's incorrect. If someone assumes she's male and acts accordingly, it's not her problem. And it's not like there's a good way to slip your gender into a professional email. | /r/AntiFeminists | 26/09/22 01:00 AM |
| -3 | I trolled the trolls (with predictable results)Well, yes. It's anecdotal. But people tend to default to thinking I'm male and the differences are interesting. | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/09/22 09:42 PM |
| -3 | I trolled the trolls (with predictable results)She's got a point though- some people change their behavior based on your perceived gender. I have a gender neutral name and I've had a lot of business contacts assume I'm a "Mr." Then they're surprised and act differently when we meet in person. I also look young so get talked down to sometimes when I meet people face to face first as opposed to email. On the other hand, I've had a couple frustrating conversations convincing people I'm myself because they were expecting a guy based on the name.… | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/09/22 08:18 PM |
| 1 | Modern Women Are DirtyOr French nobility a la Marie Antoinette. Baths were considered unhealthy, dresses weren't washed and everyone wore perfume to cover up their BO. Talk about dirty! | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/09/22 12:11 PM |
| 2 | Modern Women Are DirtyWell, congratulations on missing my point. I was pointing out the most likely reason why women skip these steps- that's it. A "time suck" is an unproductive activity- something that burns a lot of time for little reward. Sure, work burns a lot of time, but I get plenty of reward ($$$) for it. If you don't, maybe a change of career is in order. We all only have so much time in our days, so we've got to pick and choose how to spend it. Applying makeup takes at least 20 minutes, full shaving 15 min… | /r/AntiFeminists | 19/09/22 10:45 AM |
| 14 | Modern Women Are DirtyI think this guy has the wrong idea about women's grooming habits. Shaving, hairstyling and makeup are kind of a time suck. Far more women skip those steps because of the energy/time involved than because of some statement about feminism. Personally, I wear makeup for dates and nights out but skip it for everyday. I shave every couple days in summer but go longer in winter since legs and arms are covered. And I only blowout my hair on special occasions when it's not too hot out. Otherwise it's j… | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/09/22 09:18 PM |
| 9 | Modern Women Are DirtyGood point! It's rare to see a guy with clean shaven pits. | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/09/22 08:15 PM |
| 4 | Half Of All Women Will Be Honjoks by 2030In any country where feminism has any sort of real political power, the birthrate of that country has plummeted. But those countries also have widespread access to contraceptives. That's the far more likely culprit. Not saying that declining birthrates are a bad thing. It's better for us all to get down to an ecologically sustainable population. | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/09/22 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Why are feminists so shameless?Don't have time to reply to your whole post, but a few things stuck out. We probably do have different definitions of "shaming." I'm thinking along the line of Websters: "the act or activity of subjecting someone to shame, disgrace, humiliation, or disrepute especially by public exposure or criticism" Shaming is supposed to hurt the individual, and I refuse to participate in that. This is absolutely not the same thing as providing advice, assistance or good example. the old bitty may have knowle… | /r/AntiFeminists | 16/09/22 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Why are feminists so shameless?Do you genuinely think someone shaming others is trying to provide useful life information? In my experience that's never the case, and I'm struggling to tell if you're missing the nuance on purpose... Up until maybe mid-twenties I was shamed often-ish for being poor. And after that for driving an old car (paid off) and living in a dinky house. It's not like people were offering any usable help getting out of poverty. I was just supposed to stop being poor, and stop acting poor once I had money … | /r/AntiFeminists | 15/09/22 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Why are feminists so shameless?It's hard to discuss this with you because you can't seem to differentiate between shaming strangers and well meaning advice between friends. I would never know what a stranger, or even acquaintance, is doing in their marriage without a massive invasion of privacy. I don't know what they're doing and don't care. If I found that a friend or relative was cheating I probably still wouldn't "shame" them, because that's not usually effective. I'd likely have a concerned conversation between friends i… | /r/AntiFeminists | 14/09/22 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Why are feminists so shameless?I guess we're just going to have to disagree. As I already mentioned, I firmly believe the "mind your own business" rule should be followed always unless a person's behavior will harm others (including animals- forgot to mention them). Otherwise, how you spend your time, dress/groom yourself, what you weigh, who you sleep with, etc- does not concern me. Likewise, I'm pretty much going to ignore all unsolicited advice from strangers who should be busy minding their own business. I wasn't referrin… | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/09/22 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Why are feminists so shameless?There's a vast difference between shaming people and providing constructive guidance to loved ones- surely you can see that. Op was talking about how society should shame feminists into behaving the way he thinks is appropriate. That's just wrong. First, there's not usually a consensus on what "right" behavior is. I've been criticized and praised for the same behavior from different people because of opposing value systems. If I listened to all the conflicting opinions of how I should behave, I'… | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/09/22 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Why are feminists so shameless?Wow, that's quite a take. Do you really enjoy having strangers scrutinize and judge your actions? I find it pretty annoying and I bet most other people do as well. There's a reason the saying "good fences make good neighbors" exists. I could poll a group of people about what's "right behavior" and get a huge range of answers because of different religions/political beliefs/ages/demographics/etc. But at the end of the only moral code that matters to each of us is our own. And if your actions aren… | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/09/22 06:57 PM |
| 1 | Why are feminists so shameless?But most everyone else wants a " mind your own business" approach too, so how is this any different? Busy bodies and judgemental Karens (and Kens) are a scourge. | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/09/22 05:35 PM |
| 9 | Why are feminists so shameless?Yeah, some people just need to be shamed. Like ones that treat other people like trash. They deserve all the shame society can heap on them. Everyone else- as long as they mind their business, I'll mind mine. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/09/22 05:57 PM |
| 1 | REAL 2022 Calvin Klein ads - fucking ridiculous! 1st pic is of 1992 vs 2022! I prefer 1992!!What are you talking about? You're the one letting corporations decide what's attractive for you. After all, they're the ones setting the beauty ideals, right? At the end of the day, these are just pictures of people in underwear. It's only "putting them on a pedestal" or "glorifying" if you consider these companies the be-all end-all of beauty ideals. It is kind of funny watching people get their feathers ruffled over CK having overweight models when they've always been deliberately shocking. L… | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/09/22 02:16 AM |
| 0 | REAL 2022 Calvin Klein ads - fucking ridiculous! 1st pic is of 1992 vs 2022! I prefer 1992!!People who turn to ads to determine ideals are naive. Sure, it's not healthy now with obese models, but heroin chic like 90s Kate Moss wasn't healthy either. Ads have just switched from one extreme to the other. The only sensible approach is to acknowledge that corporations don't care about our wellbeing and take any ads with a huge grain of salt. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/09/22 02:10 AM |
| 3 | REAL 2022 Calvin Klein ads - fucking ridiculous! 1st pic is of 1992 vs 2022! I prefer 1992!!To be fair, when the first ad was out experts were warning parents how super thin models were damaging their kids, causing eating disorders and self esteem issues. Maybe we could all just acknowledge that all advertising is crap? | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/09/22 01:29 AM |
| 1 | REAL 2022 Calvin Klein ads - fucking ridiculous! 1st pic is of 1992 vs 2022! I prefer 1992!!Dude, ads were never about who you should strive to be. The only thing Calvin Klein cares about is which image will manipulate people into buying more underwear. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/09/22 01:24 AM |
| 1 | REAL 2022 Calvin Klein ads - fucking ridiculous! 1st pic is of 1992 vs 2022! I prefer 1992!!I don't understand the outrage, tbh. Most people in the US are overweight now. It makes sense that models are heavier than they used to be, that's just keeping up with the societal trend. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/09/22 01:06 AM |
| 1 | REAL 2022 Calvin Klein ads - fucking ridiculous! 1st pic is of 1992 vs 2022! I prefer 1992!!Did you not realize that's a trans man? Working out won't get rid of boobs. That one's from the 2022 pride collection. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/09/22 01:02 AM |
| -17 | posted this on askfeminists, all the answers were no's and some even accused me of wanting to violence womenHow often are people hitting you that this is a legit concern? I can honestly say I have never had even the potential to be hit in my adult life. Most people aren't worried about this. | /r/AntiFeminists | 28/07/22 01:16 AM |
| 1 | Grey divorce is real… make sure you plan for the worse - and keep some money aside. She is divorcing a perfectly good husband because she can…watch out fellas! You don’t want to be homeless or living in a basement when you hit 50If she spent 19 years living with this guy just to do a long con, she deserves every penny. Haha. | /r/AntiFeminists | 27/07/22 09:58 PM |
| 3 | Grey divorce is real… make sure you plan for the worse - and keep some money aside. She is divorcing a perfectly good husband because she can…watch out fellas! You don’t want to be homeless or living in a basement when you hit 50They're already divorced, what more would there be to say? | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/07/22 11:04 AM |
| 9 | Grey divorce is real… make sure you plan for the worse - and keep some money aside. She is divorcing a perfectly good husband because she can…watch out fellas! You don’t want to be homeless or living in a basement when you hit 50Yes? Life is too short to be in an unhappy marriage. Better to split so both partners can find fulfilling relationships. | /r/AntiFeminists | 25/07/22 11:00 AM |
| 6 | nationally syndicated radio host Rush Limbaugh stated that “feminism was established so as to allow unattractive women easier access to the mainstream of society.” Another example of Limbaugh's “undeniable truths” is No. 16: “Women should not be allowed on juries where the accused is a stud.”More like "being a piece of shit happens" in Limbaugh's case. | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/07/22 04:05 PM |
| 1 | Sorry Sir, women and children first. “ Titanic 1997 ”Well, yes. Femininity taken to an unhealthy extreme is also toxic. "Toxic femininity" has been a phrase for at least a decade to describe things like preoccupation with appearance, feigned helplessness and passivity. I'm not a fan of the term "toxic masculinity" either because it's kind of an attack. It puts people on the defensive and shuts down thoughtful discussion. I would rather see society encourage men to express emotion, for example, than label them as bad for not expressing emotion. Ove… | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/07/22 11:21 AM |
| 19 | nationally syndicated radio host Rush Limbaugh stated that “feminism was established so as to allow unattractive women easier access to the mainstream of society.” Another example of Limbaugh's “undeniable truths” is No. 16: “Women should not be allowed on juries where the accused is a stud.”But Limbaugh also has a long history of saying things that are racist, anti LBGT and insulting to people with disabilities or illnesses, in addition to being disdainful of women. Holding him up as an example of anything hurts your message. | /r/AntiFeminists | 24/07/22 11:14 AM |
| -2 | Sorry Sir, women and children first. “ Titanic 1997 ”Examples of positive masculinity: protecting those weaker than oneself being a good leader being a caring father/mentor providing for a family/loved ones showing strength by weathering difficult emotions, instead of bottling them up Basically, positive masculinity is using any traditional "masculine" traits (strength, leadership, ambition, protectiveness, etc) in the service of being a good person. Intent matters. A man who uses strength to enhance his life or lives of others= positive masculini… | /r/AntiFeminists | 23/07/22 11:50 AM |
| 0 | We should all get vasectomies in solidarity!!You're welcome. My husband and I looked into the options a couple years ago, and learned quite a bit about it. We ended up not going with either. | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/07/22 09:13 PM |
| 0 | We should all get vasectomies in solidarity!!Tubal ligation is a closer equivalent to vasectomy. It usually makes more sense for the man to get snipped because it's cheaper and less invasive. Also, doctors will often refuse to perform a tubal on women who are in their 20s or don't already have several kids. | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/07/22 08:24 PM |
| -2 | We should all get vasectomies in solidarity!!I already live in NY- it doesn't get any safer than that for abortion rights in the US. And, honestly, I'm wealthy enough to travel if I really had to. But that doesn't stop me from being horrified about what's happening to other people, or worried about where our country is heading. I understand what you're saying about financial abortions, but the solution to an inequality isn't to pull everyone down to rock bottom, risking people's health and lives and causing more men to pay unwanted child s… | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/07/22 01:43 PM |
| -9 | We should all get vasectomies in solidarity!!That's not an unreasonable thing to ask her husband, especially since they have daughters.There's a lot of scary stuff going on in abortion ban states. I mean, there's that 10 year old in Ohio that couldn't get an abortion after being raped. There's several reports from Texas where hospitals are delaying or denying care for miscarriages and ectopic pregnancies for fear of legal repercussions. In addition, the state is suing the federal govt because they don't believe healthcare providers should … | /r/AntiFeminists | 22/07/22 11:24 AM |
| 1 | Are men more trusting than women or is it something else?Who would want to shake hands with a stranger on the street? Nothing to do with gender, it's just kind of sketch. You don't know what's on their hand, and several pickpocket schemes and scams start this way. So do sales pitches, religious spiels and requests for donations. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/07/22 05:52 PM |
| 1 | Unpopular opinion: OnlyFans is horrible, and not for religious reasons.Yeah, that's really not how your post read. Though, if you're only talking about what people on OF will do for money, I'm not sure what you'regetting at. It's a statistically tiny part if the population. If you look hard enough you'll be able to find a few people willing to do anything, no matter how nonsensical. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/07/22 12:29 PM |
| 2 | Unpopular opinion: OnlyFans is horrible, and not for religious reasons.OF doesn't seem any worse than bars, pot dispensaries or casinos- basically anywhere that peddles vice. People like to indulge a little, and it's harmless for most folks. Yes, there are some people who can't enjoy those things in moderation, but we shouldn't limit what everyone does because of the minority. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/07/22 02:00 AM |
| 5 | Unpopular opinion: OnlyFans is horrible, and not for religious reasons.Women don't like porn because it is better sex than them. Nah, it's just too much from the man's POV and some of those guys are butterfaces. But some woman directed porn and good looking men, maybe a couple of beautiful bi guys- chef's kiss | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/07/22 01:51 AM |
| 1 | Unpopular opinion: OnlyFans is horrible, and not for religious reasons.90% of women are willing to sell their souls and nudes for to the whole world 90% of the tiny fraction of women who are on OF. Even if all those creators were female (they aren't) you're generalizing based on what .03% of all women are doing. | /r/AntiFeminists | 21/07/22 12:47 AM |
| 1 | These are older women talking about teenagers.Both comments are just talking about how they felt nice after getting complimented, which is pretty normal. I agree. I've had my daughter's female friends compliment me and the reaction is the same as these ladies described. It's just nice to be complimented. | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/07/22 01:29 PM |
| 4 | These are older women talking about teenagers.We wear our personalities But, what people wear changes from day to day, while their personalities don't. The woman dressing sexy today very well may be the one looking polished and professional all week at work. Like most people. I've got all sorts of clothes in my closet to fit different moods- sultry, preppy, professional, nerdy, sporty, ingenue. Any given outfit is just a snapshot in time. The women who chose to dress provocatively don't do it just because of feeling empowered or capable of … | /r/AntiFeminists | 18/07/22 01:21 PM |
| 0 | Sign that times are changing…this is in the Mens toiletIt's not about whether it's hard or not. It's risky to overtly ask for help in front of the person who's making an unsafe environment. You don't know how impaired they are, if they're armed, if they're mentally unstable. It's far safer to get unobtrusive help and slip quietly out of the building. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/07/22 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Good law proposed by the UK government, however would this include female-dominated OnlyFans and related nudes? If so expect the feminists to come out of the woodworks talking about hurting "sex workers" lolFrom the article: anyone who sends a photo or film of a person’s genitals, for the purpose of their own sexual gratification or to cause the victim humiliation, alarm or distress may face up to two years in prison. Sounds like it's gender neutral. | /r/AntiFeminists | 17/07/22 09:15 AM |
| 1 | Sign that times are changing…this is in the Mens toiletAvoiding potentially dangerous situations is what keeps you from becoming a victim. I've had someone not accept "not interested" and get threatening and aggressive, when I was a teen. I don't begrudge anyone worried about escalating a situation where they already don't feel safe. | /r/AntiFeminists | 16/07/22 10:47 PM |
| 11 | Sign that times are changing…this is in the Mens toiletWhen dealing with drunk and aggressive people, I'd much rather take the nonconfrontational approach. Having a subtle way to ask for a taxi or escort to your car seems like a good way to get out of the situation without escalating it. I've never personally used these services, but always appreciated bars that offer them. | /r/AntiFeminists | 16/07/22 03:01 PM |
| 21 | Sign that times are changing…this is in the Mens toiletGreat gesture, but why give the drink such a conspicuous name? The point of these is to get help without alerting the person you're at the bar with, because you feel unsafe. | /r/AntiFeminists | 16/07/22 10:13 AM |
| 6 | Ah yes, a cheating wife lied that he is the father and the father is still a posYou're the one who said we should be thankful the man didn't turn on the kid. There's no interpretation, whether physical or verbal, where "turning on him" wouldn't make the man a monster. There's no need to thank people for not bring terrible human beings. It's expected. | /r/AntiFeminists | 14/07/22 01:58 PM |
| 57 | Ah yes, a cheating wife lied that he is the father and the father is still a posThat poor kid. That's got to be devastating for him and he's too little to really understand. | /r/AntiFeminists | 14/07/22 01:48 PM |
| -1 | Ah yes, a cheating wife lied that he is the father and the father is still a posbe thankful he didn't turn on em Ummm, no. You don't have to be thankful to someone for not acting like a complete monster. Anyone who would mistreat a child is irredeemable. | /r/AntiFeminists | 14/07/22 01:43 PM |
| 1 | Wife threatening divorce when asked for a paternity test; posLike I said before, there's nothing wrong with a routinely administered test. I certainly wouldn't object. But if my husband accused me of cheating, paternity test request or otherwise? Well, there's the door. I've got no desire to be married to someone who doesn't trust me. | /r/AntiFeminists | 14/07/22 12:56 AM |
| – | Being a “nice guy” gets you…. nowhereOk, so your definition of a "nice guy" includes being introverted, non aggressive, quiet...and having anxiety. Let's say we all agree on that definition- the mental disorder is still the obvious priority issue to address. | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/07/22 08:26 PM |
| – | Being a “nice guy” gets you…. nowherePoor guy- hopefully he can see a professional to treat that anxiety. | /r/AntiFeminists | 13/07/22 02:32 PM |
| 0 | Woman angry because now has to take responsibility for her own actions goes into the HOV lane, gets pulled over by a cop and.. you guess it! refuses to take responsibility for her own actions.Embryo from conception through week 10, fetus from then until birth, biologically speaking. But, there are tons of instances where a fetus is not yet considered a person, so there's definitely room for debate. You can't insure a fetus, claim them for taxes or collect child support, and they don't count towards calculations of govt aid, just to give a few examples. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/07/22 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Liberal feminist men are getting vasectomy’s.My urologist did it in his office Yeah, that probably makes a difference. Neither of the urologists my husband contacted would perform the procedure in office- hospital surgery only. It's not that big a deal- I still take the pill and he's likely infertile at this point. And abortion's still on the table for us as an absolute last option. But my husband would have already had a vasectomy if it didn't cost so much. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/07/22 01:09 PM |
| 1 | Liberal feminist men are getting vasectomy’s.Where did you get one so cheap? My husband got two quotes several years ago- roughly $2700. Outpatient, but at the hispital, so $$$. And we have high deductible insurance, so yeah, not covered unless we met the $5k deductible first. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/07/22 11:50 AM |
| 2 | Liberal feminist men are getting vasectomy’s.This is the thought process behind the "quiverfull" movement- outbreed the competition. Kind of creepy, tbh. But it's not like prolifers aren't having kids. Plenty of people are prolife without ever having an abortion (I know I am). 6/10 women getting abortions already have kids and I'd bet those men having vasectomies either already had kids or never wanted them. So it's not really changing the birth rate. | /r/AntiFeminists | 12/07/22 11:19 AM |
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